Bread_Pilled Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
41	Married with Children		Bread_Pilled	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/09/16 02:31 PM

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5	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2017 I'm overdue. It's been months since my last OWS comment. It's not like I've forgotten. Life got in the way. I got busy. I've been going about this for nearly a year and a half. Like many people, my quest began after I noticed a change. My spouse gave birth to our second child. Sex was non existent during the entire pregnancy and six months thereafter. Then, it became a monthly occurrence (if I was lucky). I noticed a change in her demeanor towards me. The respect. The admiration. The love. The a…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/02/17 02:17 PM
–	Is it all worth it? Yes. I will not do your homework for you. Read more posts.	/r/askMRP	14/02/17 01:44 PM
4	Help needed in being married to a feminazi snowflake who can't communicate effectively. This entire post was about a man's spouse. We learn more about her than him. Thus, He misses the point. This journey is HIS to take. HE must find his own path outside of her frame.	/r/askMRP	13/02/17 03:59 PM
3	Covert Comtract or Fucking Do Better Is this a covert contract? Well that depends. Was something expected out of the extreme effort put forth in setting up a date, a sitter, chocolates and so forth? Was there some unsaid promise that she would engage sexually with you as a result? If so (and I suspect this is the case), then yes. Yes this was a covert contract. That said, there was a failure to game - as many other gentlemen have pointed out. We make some small talk. I sit and drink my wine and after about 10 minutes while she taps…	/r/askMRP	13/02/17 01:11 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 22, 2016 Reflection on past behavior via a "red pill" lens revealed an abhorrent rationale for my actions. Prior to "taking the red pill" over a year ago, I was guided by fear: fear that my wife no longer respected me, fear that she wouldn't have sex with me, fear that she would leave me. This led to timid behavior on my part. I walked on eggshells. I was careful not to say or do anything offensive. I was motivated by her validation. I was the quintessential "nice guy." My fear of fucking up was my fuck …	/r/MarriedRedPill	22/11/16 07:41 PM
1	Is it alpha to eyeball other women in front of your wife? Can it be that this subreddit had degraded down to one in which men are asking if it is OK to check out women. WAKE UP! Are you a man? Are you not attracted to other women? If so, why would you not look? Is it because you fear what your spouse thinks? The question is not "alpha" or "beta." Instead, do as you choose, not what others choose for you. Of course there may be consequences. But if your confident in your nature, you should give no credence to them. If you are given shit about this, OWN …	/r/askMRP	20/11/16 03:34 AM
3	Coming after trip Absence has two consequences: First, scarcity allows the spouse to learn what value you add to her life in very real terms. Second, that scarcity can add stress to the spouse as she is now responsible for doing the work of two people. Leaders anticipate issues and address them before they become problems. The spouse was unable to adequately address the needs of the house in your absence. You've known this was the case. Hence, the short term solution should have to tackle the issue upfront before…	/r/askMRP	18/11/16 04:57 PM
1	If AWALT when can one reasonably expect to see a different sexual attitude from her. Men find this subreddit, devour the sidebar, lift, eat correctly, and develop a social life outside of their marriage. These are all good qualities. Yet, in 1.5 months the information has not yet had time to truly sink in. Yes, improvements have been made, yet the sex isn't occurring. Why? The issue comes down to covert contracts, a topic covered in the first book listed in the side bar - No More Mister Nice Guy. Improvements have been made with the covert expectation that you will be rewarded w…	/r/askMRP	18/11/16 02:15 PM
1	How to deal with competition from other guys? What reasons are there for this pathetic lack of confidence? Have you not lifted? Have you not made great strides to improve yourself? Have you not adhered to any of the guidance listed on these subreddits? If you have done the above, then what have you to worry about? If you are improving yourself, there is no reason to concern yourself with other men. There is no reason to devalue yourself, to say "this man is stronger than I," "this man is smarter than I," "this man is more social than I!" Yo…	/r/askMRP	18/11/16 01:54 PM
1	Trying to be Alpha, having some issues and seeking some guidance. This is spot on: A woman is a reflection of the man she is fucking.	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/11/16 06:59 PM
1	Trying to be Alpha, having some issues and seeking some guidance. Relationships often start as fun and exciting quests. The parties are learning about each other. They are actively engaged in impressing each other. It is new. It is unexplored. It is fresh. As the relationship develops, each party will begin to become comfortable. The excitement transforms into monotony. The relationship becomes akin to that amazing television show that was on years ago, but that people grow tired of after watching repeats of it on syndication. It's not fresh. It's not fun. It …	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/11/16 06:28 PM
3	Drunk Captain Getting Silent Treatment Frame is exceedingly important. That said, it appears that you have yet to develop the frame that you desire to. Keep trying. Keep leading. Keep pushing. Eventually, you're frame will be that of the man you wish to be. Now, an analysis: Recently on wife's bday, she was fixing dinner and asked me if I wanted anything else (because she knew she didn't make enough and Mac and Cheese plus reheated soup hardly count) and I said pokechops, which take only a minute to fry. She got all fussy and put out…	/r/askMRP	17/11/16 04:43 PM
1	Advice needed: Building a sense of self-worth Valuing yourself is essential to becoming the man you would like to be. Two major areas of conflict in our marriage have been sex and finances. I have taken considerable steps on both fronts but I have also understood there is a deeper problem that affects all my thinking and actions: a strong sense of not being entitled to my own wants and wishes. Of course there is no entitlement. Rather, one must earn what he wants - whether it be financial success or sex. This is done through hard work. Do n…	/r/askMRP	09/11/16 02:29 PM
2	Well Fuck, that Contact didn't work out. It's amazing how much the dichotomy changes once children enter into the mix. A spouse that previously may have suffered from minor headaches and stressors, suddenly finds herself debilitated with headaches and nausea on account of the stressors the children (and her husband) have placed on her. Meanwhile,a husband who previously believed the world orbited around him on his birthday comes across as disappointed. There are two issues at play here: (1) The first is that, somehow, you have found yo…	/r/askMRP	11/10/16 01:06 PM
6	Help with fetch quests When men start taking their lives back, one of the quandaries they encounter is how to handle compliance tests. The goggles have come off and now the realization sets in that the men have become a servant for their spouse. Yet, after become conditioned for so long to "help" their loved one, how are these men supposed to handle the next time they are asked for a "favor"? Some fine gentlemen outright refuse these requests. They have reached the stage in their relationship where they can do so, and…	/r/askMRP	11/10/16 12:40 PM
1	A tough situation, need advice Confidence is one of the most attractive traits. Unfortunately, the neighbor has created an earthquake that shaken this confidence to its core and unearthed the insecurity that was hiding beneath the surface. It's become fairly clear to me that she has attraction for a neighbor of ours. His kids and my kids are best friends. . .Anyway, I can tell there is something there, to my detriment I've mentioned it to her and she denies any wrongdoing (but won't admit attraction). Being threatened by a ne…	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/10/16 05:44 PM
8	"Do it for your kids" Here, Men are encouraged to lead. Unfortunately, many men lost that drive. Instead, they have become mere bystanders, observing their life pass by, day after day, as if it were a television show wherein they have no say-so in the outcome. ...But someone has to take the reigns of the family. Someone must chart that path. For these men, that someone has become their wife. And now these men wonder, why? Why am I allowing my life to be dictated to me? When did I become a mere employee of my spouse? …	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/10/16 04:24 PM
5	Simple question for the group. But more importantly thefamilyalpha Most men in this subreddit have had difficulties at one time or another, whether it be a cheating girlfriend/spouse, a lack of sex, the threat of divorce, or simple disrespect. It is clear that no one's background is perfect. There was a failure at some point and the men coming here strive to rectify, or at a minimum, come to terms with that failure. And while everyone's situation is different, there is value in having a space where men can come and seek advice from others who may have legitimat…	/r/askMRP	29/09/16 12:57 PM
2	D- On a shit test, I think It's all too common for men to take the mantra STFU literally. Of course, it does have its appropriate times and places; however, it should not substitute effective communication with ones spouse. Leading and respect and boundaries are my current focus Analyze this. Did the communication (or lack thereof) effectively establish the ability to lead, to garner respect, or to enforce boundaries? I think not. Consider the following examples: I said I'd be home late Tuesday, did not text on way back w…	/r/askMRP	28/09/16 07:52 PM
1	Girlfriend Lately listening to break up "miss him songs" Beware: The sweet siren songs have pulled the captain into his spouse's frame. Why? Why have these songs moved you so? Would it not have been better to simply ignore them? Would it not have been better to simply heed Homer's advice and leave the residence while the spouse engages in this most passive aggressive behavior?	/r/askMRP	24/09/16 11:55 AM
1	So much to learn from this short video This is a low-value, low-effort post. In addition, YouTube required me to watch a political ad before watching the clip. So, thanks a lot for that.	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 07:42 PM
1	Are these comfort tests? There would have been nothing wrong with OP simply being straight forward about his desire for sex with his wife. She could say "yes," or she could say "no." Unfortunately, his courage left him, his testicles shriveled up, and the best response he could muster to his spouse's cold shoulder was a lie.	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 07:36 PM
1	[FR] I'm such a beta twit Step out of your spouse's frame. She would blame me for keeping her awake for various reasons. So??? Can't you handle being blamed for something? I now sleep better too because I don't have to fear waking her Why do you "fear" her? If I want to get up an go to the gym, I don't have to worry about waking her At 500 every morning an alarm rings. This is my signal that it's time to hit the gym. I begin every day improving. Yes, I have been shit-tested about this: "You wake up the kids," "The alarm …	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 07:17 PM
2	[FR] I'm such a beta twit The lack of communication is astounding. Yet here he is, wondering where is life turned South and what he has done wrong.	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 07:03 PM
2	[FR] I'm such a beta twit However, texting has been her go to way of communicating her feelz for such a long time. That doesn't require it to be YOUR go to way of communication.	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 05:16 PM
2	[FR] I'm such a beta twit Texting about emotions and feelings is ill-advised. It's passive aggressive. It takes body language out of the conversation. The importance of what you are trying to convey is reduced to a small bubble on the screen of a smartphone. Finally, texting provides an immediate mechanism for response, which may not be the best approach to a conversation which requires careful thought and reflection. As such, the typical advice is for unplugging leave texting for logistics. While this may seem extreme, …	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 03:32 PM
3	[FR] I'm such a beta twit A thought: This subreddit is about self improvement. So, why do individuals make posts referring to themselves as a "beta-twit" and "beta-fag" and asking Internet strangers to "unload on [them]" because they "need to be slapped"? In most cases, these individuals realize the err of their ways. So what is it: Is it a form of ego protection (I've already insulted myself, no need for you to)? Do these individuals truly believe they are "beta-twits" or "beta-fags"? More importantly, what are we Inter…	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 03:10 PM
2	Wife is an emotional mess Lifting, dressing well, reading, focusing on his career and finances - these are all good qualities. They help develop a frame. They increase confidence. While it is important to put oneself first, it is not advised that a married man solely focus on himself, and ignore his spouse. To maintain a healthy relationship, one cannot be purely alpha. Consider that there is more to a marriage than just you. Displaying care for your loved ones is significant, for reassurance can go a long way It is impo…	/r/askMRP	22/09/16 02:48 PM
5	Break The Mold Your frame is for you to decide. I couldn't agree with this more. A common issue I have observed on here is that, rather than incorporating the advice on this subreddit into their own frame, many men allow MRP's advised conduct to become the personification of their frame in-of-itself. These individuals typically quickly digest the reading, and take immediate action rather than going slow and internalizing whether particular conduct is in line with the men they would like to become. The sudden c…	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/09/16 02:58 PM
1	Amused Mastery, Comfort Test, Update Laundry, a task that has typically been left to your spouse, is no longer tasked to her because of the following: Screw that. I'm a man. I should at least take care of my own shit Yet your wife translates it as "yet another separation of [you] from the family." When pressed about it, there is a thin attempt to fog, and a vague assertion of the covert contract that you have developed: That is, I don't talk much. My main point of argument is close to broken record - "gee, it seems like you want me…	/r/askMRP	21/09/16 02:29 PM
0	Are these comfort tests? Shame! What reason was there for this dishonestly! I started talking dirty to her while touching her privates. She didn't resist, but told me she just wants to have a power nap cuddling me. I got butthurt and asked her to move herself so that I can get comfortable for the power nap with her. Shit testing ensued: "You always do this when I am not in the mood for sex. I cannot be in the mood for sex all the time. Why can't we just cuddle some times?" Rather than going A&A I lost my temper(Failure …	/r/askMRP	21/09/16 01:58 PM
4	LTR got mad at me for interrupting her There is no marriage, no children, and it appears only negativity. I must ask, why do you stay? What makes you beholden to her? Would you be happier without her?	/r/askMRP	20/09/16 01:24 PM
4	LTR got mad at me for interrupting her The resentment appears to go deep. The anger is not simply because of the interruption. But how is this your problem? Her mood is just that: hers Moreover, it is a fallacy to assume that the implementation of dread will automatically lead to affection from a loved one. Have you learned nothing: this is a covert contract. And it only works if one's LTR actually "dreads" the other leaving her. Hence, men are advised to improve themselves, to lift, to implement a map, to become the social beings th…	/r/askMRP	20/09/16 12:28 PM
1	Wife wants separation You've found your way here. That is the first step. Do I need legal advice ASAP? I've read on here that it's not real until I see papers. That's all well and good, unless by waiting I impair counsel's ability to help. This is no passing comment. Your spouse has written you indicating she will leave and take your children. Legal advice would be appropriate at this juncture. Stay the course? My basic plan is to STFU - not be the one to bring it up after I return home, just continue being positive …	/r/askMRP	20/09/16 11:56 AM
1	Mindset before A&A : Am I in the right direction? because I come across as a dick if I do not. ...and this is a problem because? Do not worry about coming across as a dick. That leads to timid behavior and you operating within your spouse's frame. Rather, be yourself instead of overthinking the matter. If you happen to be a dick, so be it. That is the man she wants, not a person who needs assistance from Internet strangers on how to properly address her. Should we as men not work on our communication skills? Can that not be a part of MAP? It ca…	/r/askMRP	19/09/16 04:21 PM
3	Explaining MRP to the plugged-in There comes a point in time when some men cease to be blind and begin to see clearly for the first time. The faults in their prior behavior become obvious. Their previous life becomes detestable. They have been living a lie, a sham, a life outside of who they truly are. They can finally see and are capable of finding their way here on their own. Other men are not so lucky. They have been force-fed the mindset of placing women on a pedestal their entire life. It is all they know. These men have a…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/09/16 03:14 PM
2	Mindset before A&A : Am I in the right direction? It is common for newly unplugged men to overthink. This is a natural. They have gone along with putting their spouses needs before their own for so long, that they have forgotten about what makes them happy. The mantra was "happy wife, happy life." Now they are learning to invert the words: the mantra is now becoming: "Happy life, happy wife." Observe: This post represents an example of a male hamster in overdrive. Your spouse has made a remark: good, bad, innocuous, whatever - it matters not. I…	/r/askMRP	19/09/16 01:47 PM
6	Question About Compliance Tests Not all requests for assistance are shit tests. Rather, at times, a shit test can be more easily identified by the tone of a request, instead of the actual verbiage of the request itself. There is a difference between: "Would you please get a bowl of Cheerios for me while you are in the kitchen" As opposed to: "Get me Cheerios." Was the request polite? Was the word please used? Or did it come across more as an order?	/r/askMRP	19/09/16 01:32 PM
1	Wife complains about her weight The dreaded anger phase has reared its ugly head. Do not let it cloud your judgment. If one wants a healthy wife, he must be willing to lead her on that direction. Helping a woman does not necessarily put a man in her frame. In fact, it potentially does the opposite. It provides an added opportunity to bring her into his frame. Consider, if you will, what occurs when you bring her to your Temple of Iron - a place that is familiar and comfortable to you. That cute girl doing squats, she knows you…	/r/askMRP	16/09/16 01:57 PM
1	Wife complains about her weight This stage is a common one. You believe improvements have been made in your part, and the spouse is not following suit. Yet you ask why? If a man would like for his spouse to follow him and improve, he must lead her. For a woman is a reflection of the man that is fucking her. So, as far as the question at hand goes: She has been talking to me in distress or texting me in distress about how she has gained weight. I have been ignoring it and changing the subject because i dont know how to respond …	/r/askMRP	16/09/16 01:34 PM
5	Basic Question: Definitions Reading is important. Within 40 minutes you should have been able to determine the following: DEER - Defend, Explain, Evade, Rationalize - don't do this. AA - Agree and Amplify - a proper response to a shit test AM - Amused Mastery - yet another response to shit test. Perhaps you should revisit some of the materials on the side bar.	/r/askMRP	16/09/16 01:19 PM
6	Me, Wife and Plate, how to play it ? The predicament is simple. The story is the same for millions of men who have sought (emotional) affairs with other women: The marriage is lacking something, and they have gone elsewhere to find fulfillment. You allude to this when you say: Marriage got slightly better. Sex is good if still not as often as I would like and Wife occasionally admits I look really good now, but she ain't jumping on me A void had formed. The married female coworker fills this void. You have become smitten with her -…	/r/askMRP	13/09/16 02:36 PM
5	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 13, 2016 Sex: I stopped initiating. Yes, I know, it is the man's responsibility. But I got tired of climbing all the hurdles to have mediocre sex. I also thought it would be interesting to see what happens if I stop initiating. I have been much calmer. Some men see sex as a form of validation. They desperately want approval from their spouse, who has been placed atop a golden pedestal. Sex with this golden goddess is viewed as the ultimate form of approval. Men, particularly those that fall into the abov…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 01:01 PM
0	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 13, 2016 Yes, yes, yes: I've been lifting, I've been reading, I've been engaging in hobbies and going out socially. I've been initiating and this week there was no sex. But that is not why I post in here anymore. I post because I am still a flawed individual. I post because there are things that I still must own. It occurred Sunday. For the briefest of moments, I failed. I literally a "drunk captain." You see, there was a cause for celebration on Saturday evening. A dear friend of mine was meeting at a b…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 12:46 PM
2	The Titan Fields Well said.	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 12:23 PM
1	She's checking out - have I gone too far? Why, it's done all the time in the OYS threads. It's not that complicated.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/09/16 07:11 PM
3	She's checking out - have I gone too far? If the effort expended on this post is indicative of the effort spent in your relationship, one cannot blame her for wanting to check out.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/09/16 06:48 PM
1	Main event - happening now? Would not accept this from anyone else. Then why accept it from your wife? Being "very new" is not a reason. Your wife should be held to a higher standard.	/r/askMRP	09/09/16 03:04 PM
0	Bros, Dogs, & Beer Another well written and timely post. There's been a plethora of men posting on MRP's sister subreddit that fail to understand this. These men are on opposite sides of the spectrum. Some can't help themselves from whining to their spouses about feeling sad, angry, and hurt. While others mistakenly remain silent robots in the face of situations which would evoke an emotional response from any normal human being. This post strikes a happy medium between the two. There's nothing wrong with showing …	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/09/16 02:26 PM
3	Main event - happening now? The IDNGAF card has been played. Your spouse's response is to act out in increasingly unacceptable behavior: throwing items, breaking your belongings, threatening to leave. This is because she wants you to give a fuck. Yet you have remained steadfast in your resolve. Perhaps it is for the sake of holding frame. Perhaps because you are new to this and do not know what to do other than STFU. Perhaps you are scared. However, why should this unacceptable behavior be tolerated? Is it because it is co…	/r/askMRP	09/09/16 12:05 PM
0	Talking - why you shouldn't do it and why you sometimes should Consider: which one of the below men would a woman be more troubled by losing: A man who has not put the requisite effort into improving himself. Someone who is out of shape, lacks confidence, and is reliant on her, or A man who has lifted, both physically and mentally, and who has a proven record of establishing value. Skipping to dread level 10 early on places the woman in the situation where she must think about losing a lower value man. A man will hold more leverage by putting in the work, s…	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/09/16 05:40 PM
2	Married with Children Cleanliness is next to Godliness. As such, maintaining a clean house is something every man should be capable of. Having a lazy spouse that does not clean does not necessarily equate to the husband become Mr. Maid. Rather, a proper division of labor is preferred. If cleaning up is not a virtue that one's wife has, perhaps there are other qualities that make up for it: cooking, childcare, errands and so forth. The husband will clean while his spouse provides value in other areas (which are clearl…	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/09/16 04:14 PM
1	Talking - why you shouldn't do it and why you sometimes should I won't go into a long detailed list of my talk, but I implied that I was at a point to where we can "call it quits," if things do not turn around. The reply does not state how you "implied" that you would call it quits if things did not turn around. However, if your communication was clear, would that not just be a jump to Dread Level 10? You may have just skipped a few steps in between.	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/09/16 03:26 PM
3	Waste No More Time Most important of all.....Do what you want. Find your own way. When buying a suit, most men simply go to their local department store and pick out a generic size that fits. These off-the-rack suits are acceptable. They are an improvement over typical gentlemen's attire. The sizes fit most men. As is such with the concepts preached in this subreddit. After a while, however, men observe that the off-the-rack suits could fit a little better. Perhaps they are too boxy, or the lapels are too large. M…	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/09/16 01:34 PM
1	Dominance application question She's upset because I have not been consulting her on the decisions. Delving deeper may provide further insight. Consider, if you will, the possibility that she's upset because she doesn't trust you to make decisions yet. The paradigm is shifting. The fog of the drunk captain's hangover is lifting, and the first mate is asking herself: "Can it be? Is he really taking over? Can I trust this man to navigate our ship effectively?" For too long the answer has been a resounding NO!. But now your eyes…	/r/askMRP	08/09/16 12:46 PM
8	Talking - why you shouldn't do it and why you sometimes should Fantastic post. The mantras of "acta non verba" and "STFU" are so often repeated, they are prone to misinterpretation by newly unplugging men who have not put in the requisite time reading and improving themselves. In turn, these men incorrectly mold themselves into silent brooding creatures. Alas, this is no way to lead a household. Verbal communication is necessary between the captain and his first mate. So, too, should it be between husband and wife. The difference is subtle. Men are advised …	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/09/16 12:21 PM
6	How Do You Guys Keep It Straight With All The Information Absorbing a vast amount of information in a short period of time could lead to overload. To avoid this, take your time. Internalize the concepts. Continue to read, lift, conduct yourself as well as you can manage, and observe the outcomes of your behavior. The blinders will slowly come off. Overtime, you internalize the information and habits will develop. No longer will you worry about memorizing all of the information, it will become ingrained in your mind.	/r/askMRP	07/09/16 04:08 PM
1	Opening op the marriage, I think the point was missed One of these days, I'll learn to count correctly.	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/09/16 03:59 PM
1	Opening op the marriage, I think the point was missed This man's willingness tolerate his spouse's behavior is troubling. After being hitched to her spouse, Scott Mansfield, for 18 years, she made the critical decision to enter into a year-long open marriage so that she could experience life (and by life we mean sex) with other people. I broke the news to Scott that I wanted an open marriage in early 2008, a few months after his vasectomy. “I won’t go to my grave with no children and four lovers,” I told him repeatedly. “I refuse.” She made this de…	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/09/16 03:13 PM
2	How to keep face after a mess up The advice is to "own your shit." Admit to your mistake, learn from it, then do what you can to not repeat it. how would I go about it as to not appear weak or unfit or unworthy to my LTR An added suggestion: Do not be concerned about your LTR's perception of you. Improve, not for the sake of her, but for the sake of yourself.	/r/askMRP	07/09/16 12:05 PM
1	FR: The Infallible Fallacy I am constantly trying to find value and attraction within our relationship and she constantly reminds me that, it's a motherfucker of a job to be with her Your attempts to find value and attraction in your relationship are commendable. Instead of going "gloves up all the time," many men simply give up. That said, when the bowl is empty, you will not find any food in it, no matter how hard you look. If there is no value in her, and if you are not attracted to her, why do you think she will chang…	/r/askMRP	06/09/16 07:20 PM
1	FR: The Infallible Fallacy Men are indeed fallible. We are capable of mistakes, poor judgment, and wrong decisions. For to err is human. That is why the mantra "own your shit" rings true. Although we make mistakes, we should not be afraid to admit to them. Indeed, one can best correct and learn from their behavior only after they face the truth of it. I'm not crying or making a scene but, I am off and most people that know me can tell. Not trying to share all this with my wife While crying and making a scene are not advis…	/r/askMRP	06/09/16 06:55 PM
7	Married with Children Marcus Aurelias writes: So much more respect have we to what our neighbors shall think of us than to what we shall think of ourselves. If men still placed value on themselves, instead of obtaining their value based on the perception of others, some of the lessons taught in here would not be necessary.	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/09/16 04:19 PM
3	Married with Children The independence was a demonstration of strength. Think about it, in life all we really have is our independence - a freedom to make choices. These choices make make us who we are. Many men who marry forfeit their independence to choose. After that, what's left of them? Who have they become?	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/09/16 04:08 PM
2	Stressed about her period and says she doesn't want kids So you have a choice. You can focus on your studies or on her period. Which will it be?	/r/askMRP	04/09/16 08:17 PM
3	Stressed about her period and says she doesn't want kids Picture, if you will, a photograph of you and your spouse. It's hanging in the hallway of your house. In it, you are both smiling. It represents a happier time. A fun time. A simpler time. This is where we start. Over the course of your relationship, the frame in which this photograph appears has changed. It's now pink. There are purple flowers in the lower corners. In the top right corner, there's a brilliant yellow butterfly. This is you living in your spouse's frame. Two weeks you say? This d…	/r/askMRP	04/09/16 08:02 PM
4	Crawling out of a deep hole I agree. In all respects, this marriage is over and only exists as a formality. There is no love, trust, respect, etc. - - just OP's diminishing sense of oneitis. OP's focus should be on salvaging himself, not his already dead marriage.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/09/16 05:24 PM
2	Crawling out of a deep hole THE SECOND you realize internally that you can do better than this cheating, whore, harridan, is the SAME second she realizes that you are actually attractive after all! They have impeccable timing, don't they?	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/09/16 04:12 PM
2	My wife has no interest in sex anymore and its driving us apart. There is no context to your post. So, one must assume you are new here and are starting from the beginning. The first recommendation for new men is to read the books listed in the side bar and to begin lifting heavy weights. Also, read the top rated posts both here and on the other subreddit. Finally, while doing all this, take your wife off of her pedestal. This is a time to focus on making yourself a better man for a change. If, after doing some of this work, you still have questions, come bac…	/r/askMRP	02/09/16 03:48 PM
5	FR: Silent Treatment Applause is in order - You have not let a silent treatment manipulate you! For, silent treatments are nothing but an attempt at manipulation. One spouse believes that, by not speaking to the other, the other will realize their error. While certain (beta) men may either acquiesce to demands, or apologize for any transgressions as a result, the silent treatment technique is a failure. It, by its very nature, is a failure of communication. It is the adult equivalent of a little girl pouting on the …	/r/askMRP	02/09/16 03:19 PM
12	Crawling out of a deep hole Looking in the mirror is rehabilitative. Fallacies in thinking, poor judgment, and ill-advised decisions become clearer. This is especially true if one is completely honest with himself. And, as much of a victim puke this is, you have yet to face the truth. Take the following and add them up: her revelation of an emotional affair and the subsequent ILYBNILWY speech. a regular guest at the hotel she worked at She was so obsessed with this guy that she would openly talk about moving with the kids …	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/09/16 02:17 PM
-1	[Emergency911] How to transform my life into something better that I know is out there? ( Long Post ) Losing your son is tragic enough. Do not compound it any further by staying in an unhealthy relationship. It's getting to the point to where I cannot even stand to go home to her and her kids. It's stressful, and I just can't stand it You cannot stand to come home to her and her kids. So why do stay? There is no requirement for you to tolerate this. I'm still just not happy in this relationship If you are unhappy in this relationship, why do you stay? Perhaps you would be happier alone or with s…	/r/askMRP	01/09/16 05:39 PM
2	Never Turn Down Sex? Instead of "rule," perhaps "guideline" for newly unplugging men would a more appropriate term. Many men come here from r/deadbedrooms. Their spouses have stopped viewing them sexually. This aspect of their lives is missing (for a very long time for many of them.). Hence they are advised to initiate, stay OI when rejected, and never say no. Their frame slowly develops into that of a sexual man. That being said, there's nothing inherently wrong with saying "no" from time to time. If have developed…	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/09/16 05:23 PM
6	[FR] Lessons from a Flywheel Excellent post. When you first start it spinning, it’s hard. You need a great effort to push through its momentum. In the case of starting it, you need to move it from rest to motion. Slowly but surely you push hard at first, then as it gets faster and faster you need to put less effort into it. Eventually it gets to a point where small inputs will keep it going with relatively little effort on your part Many men implement lessons found on this subreddit expecting overnight results (I was guilty…	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/08/16 05:24 PM
2	girlfriend refuses to do give me blowjobs but she admitted she has done it for her ex. For all that is good and holy in this world, edit this blasphemous statement! Improve myself to earn her respect For salvation lies within! Also, not being married gives you the freedom to leave without financial reprocussions. If you cannot stand the unfortunate circumstance you have found yourself in, walk away.	/r/askMRP	31/08/16 02:11 PM
1	girlfriend refuses to do give me blowjobs but she admitted she has done it for her ex. OP take heed. This is extremely sound advice.	/r/askMRP	31/08/16 12:49 PM
1	Wife against guns in the house A simplistic post calls for a simplistic answer What are my options? 1.) You can procure a firearm, and deal with whatever consequences may follow, or 2.) You do not purchase a firearm, and deal with whatever consequences may follow. No one here is in your shoes. I cannot answer what the consequences of your action (or inaction) would be. No one knows if you live in a crime ridden area where a gun is necessary to safeguard your family, we do not know if you're spouse's threat of divorce is legit…	/r/askMRP	31/08/16 12:37 PM
8	Wife went nuclear, struggling with my options. A tree does not grow in a day. It takes time. It needs a proper amount of sunlight, water, fertilizer. With a sufficient amount of components, the tree will grow large and strong. It will be an oak that will not be blown over by the slightest breeze. This takes time. A man is the same way. He cannot become a strong oak in a mere three weeks. He to lift, to read, to implement his MAP and develop strong roots. So why should one believe everything will change for in a mere three weeks? This is not …	/r/askMRP	31/08/16 12:23 PM
2	LTR disobeying dominance in sex and blocking affection Rejoice, for enlightenment is just the first step! There is no need for the trivialities of validation and approval. Walk your own path.	/r/askMRP	30/08/16 07:34 PM
3	6 year ltr - 2 months of Mrp implementation Your S/O has a point. Observe: we had a huge fight that led her to go to parents home for 2 weeks. The fights revolved around our communication A problem has been discovered! There is dissatisfaction with your communication! Is this a cause for alarm? When I picked her up she was on her phone with her friend talking about logistics for upcoming trip. Tbh this kind of upset me so I was acting cold to her. I was spending my time to pick her up and she couldn't even get off the phone when seeing me…	/r/askMRP	30/08/16 06:19 PM
1	LTR disobeying dominance in sex and blocking affection I feel like she doesn't respect me and isn't attracted to me anymore Coming to terms with reality is a humbling experience. However, knowing where one stands is rewarding. Instead of wandering around the track without direction, you have finally found the starting line. Now it is time to enjoy the journey. I'm improving myself but I don't feel like the relationship is improving at all. The first part of this sentence is what is important. Be happy with this improvement - it is wonderful news. No…	/r/askMRP	30/08/16 05:27 PM
1	Massage table that we have is unused Is applying your newfound awareness troubling you? Do not worry. The diabolical culprit in your way thinking has been discovered. Typically I used the covert agenda (when I didn't know that's what they were) of the massage/backrub/fullbody massage leading to a brush of the pussy, we fuck, etc It is possible for a massage to be just that, and not an invitation for sexual intercourse. Approach it as so. If you would like to provide your loved one with a massage, then provide her with one. If you a…	/r/askMRP	30/08/16 02:40 PM
2	How to respond to this shit test? That could very well be the case. OP take note - your approach / tone / frame would dictate whether you come across as butthurt or not. Saying "What about a real kiss?" in a sniveling, whiny, or needy manner completely differs from just mentioning it in passing with a smirk, and without a care in the world whether you get it or not.	/r/askMRP	29/08/16 06:47 PM
8	How to respond to this shit test? I got pushed away after about two seconds. I said how about areal kiss. To which she responded in a passive aggressive tone, "I don't see you making lunch for the kids." Men can be romantic, even when they are acting in accordance with what a book has told them to do. At times it doesn't work. Here, a kiss was attempted and rejected, then attempted again and met with a shit-test. Apparently, the timing of the kiss was off as your spouse was devoting her attention to her child at the time. By not…	/r/askMRP	29/08/16 03:34 PM
8	Anger/Fear/Comfort Test Why do some men do things that are contrary to their self-interest? wife got mad and asked me to leave the house when she got home. So I did. When the seas are rough, a captain does not abandon ship. So why would you do so at the suggestion of your first mate? She is likely planning a mutiny (and for good reason). Her drunk captain will soon be ousted. Is it too late to show her that you're capable of navigating this ship successfully?. Also, ask yourself: Did you want to leave the house? Do you…	/r/askMRP	29/08/16 02:28 PM
1	Do I need to lose weight before initiating more sex? Would you like to have sex with your spouse? If the answer is yes, then go forth and attempt to have sex with her. Of course she may turn you down. Do not be alarmed by this. For you have already come to the realization that she is "repulsed." This is now being internalized. If sex is to be had, it will be because you asked for it. If it is not, the reason for the denial is already known. So do not let it bother you. Come to terms with the fact that action is necessary and take it. Finally, conc…	/r/askMRP	29/08/16 01:19 PM
3	Lift and STFU...how much should I STFU? Adhering to MRP principals without using common sense or reading the sidebar materials can often result in disaster for new men seeking to improve themselves. How much should I STFU? What is considered too much talking? What are things that it is OK to talk about? Should I ask about her day at work? Should I initiate conversation at all? New men embarking on this journey are cautioned to STFU because their frame is not developed enough. Hence, they do not respond to shit-tests in an effective ma…	/r/askMRP	29/08/16 12:54 PM
2	anniversary shit test Consider what you have said: Being with others has allowed us to communicate better. ... but ... Still learning how to best respond to shit tests. Right now, space between us seems to be the most effective. It completely shuts her down. She doesn't know what to do when her target has moved. She craves drama. Is sleeping with others really helping you? Does communicating better mean to simply leave when being shit-tested? If you haven't already, read WISNIFG in order to help you navigate the wate…	/r/askMRP	28/08/16 05:17 PM
2	anniversary shit test Your spouse is openly having sexual intercourse with other men. You have consented to this arrangement, presumably because she is "allowing" you to have sex with other women. Yet your post history shows that the polyamorous nature of the relationship has brought you anguish. So why do you agree to it? What would happen if you would draw a boundary and say "no more?" Would your spouse accept this and devote herself solely to you? Or does she value you so little that she would walk away? Is your o…	/r/askMRP	28/08/16 01:05 PM
2	More dog piss on the floor! Without the proper training, a dog will urinate on the floor. Do not be shaken by this, it is nothing new. For a dog knows not where to relieve itself without the proper guidance from its master. Assess your failure to train your dog. What have you done wrong here? What is the cause of your distress? By not obtaining a dog door, have you not provided your pet with the means to do that which you wish it to? Are you not rewarding it for good behavior? Providing your canine with attention, praise, …	/r/askMRP	27/08/16 03:14 AM
1	Getting bashed for not "thinking ahead" The answer you are seeking is found directly in your post. You inquired: ...what would be the best way to deal with it? Yet your post explains, usually these expectations are not expressed clearly. Based on nothing other than your post, it appears communication is an issue for you. So, instead of looking outward at other people's failure to express their expectations to you, look within. Consider whether you have effectively communicated your expectations to them clearly from the outset. Have yo…	/r/askMRP	26/08/16 06:55 PM
5	Wife nosing in on man raising In NMMNG, Glover discusses how "the job of turning boys into men was left to mothers and a school system dominated by women. As a result, men became comfortable being defined by women and became dependent on the approval of women." The post does not state whether your wife is responsible for your son's home schooling. However, if this is the case, it is possible that he has become more dependent on her approval, instead of yours. His current way of life is acceptable to her, and therefore he is …	/r/askMRP	26/08/16 05:35 PM
1	Giving gifts (birthday, anniversary, Xmas) Not purchasing a gift for your wife because you have been unhappy with her is extremely passive aggressive. Do you suppose that, by not buying a gift, she will infer that she is not making you happy? Or is it the opposite - would she believe you didn't purchase her a gift because you are low quality. Your initial proposed response "I know what that feels like. That was nice of her" was also passive aggressive and comes across as butthurt. Instead of punishing her in this passive way, you could h…	/r/askMRP	26/08/16 10:16 AM
5	NMMNG "express your feelings" versus MRP "stoicism" - contradictory? As an attorney, I understand how using the said word can enrage you. I'm curious - is your inability to "stand this" a situation where you are in control of your emotions?	/r/askMRP	26/08/16 01:24 AM
3	NMMNG "express your feelings" versus MRP "stoicism" - contradictory? An added thought: Read through the posts on this subreddit and in r/marriedredpill. The posts from some of the most experienced men oftentimes reference a wide range of emotions: anger, pride, sadness, disgust, humor, etc. The key is these men attempt to control when their emotions are on display (and if they do not, they recognize it and own it.)	/r/askMRP	26/08/16 12:47 AM
5	NMMNG "express your feelings" versus MRP "stoicism" - contradictory? The contradiction lies with respect to to the NMMMG's recommendation you should share what you are doing with your spouse, as opposed to the MRP 1st rule of Fight Club. On this subject, the MRPers are correct. You are going through this change for yourself, and you have no obligation to explain yourself to your spouse. Stoicism comes into play when you stop letting your spouse's shit tests, or other things beyond your control, bother you. You remain an oak. Stable. Unflinching. A rocky island th…	/r/askMRP	26/08/16 12:20 AM
2	More Death on the Horizon My sympathies for all that you are going through. This is a difficult time for you. It would be for many people. So why should you be ashamed of acting like it is so? It is natural to show grief when a loved one dies. Act in accordance with your nature, but be mindful that you have a duty to captain your family. Therefore, do not let this debilitate you.	/r/askMRP	25/08/16 08:40 PM
1	Wife pushing me to say I Love You back. Are you truly vexed by how to respond when your wife says "I love you?" Some commenters have characterized this as a shit test. Most recommend amused mastery, which is an appropriate response to a shit test. Let's look deeper. She may view her relationship with you as tenuous. Perhaps she is seeking validation that you two are on good footing. She believes she will get this validation if you say "I love you too," even if it is coerced by her. U/blackthorn8 correctly characterized it as a comfort…	/r/askMRP	25/08/16 07:49 PM
11	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 23, 2016 Today is an anniversary - three hundred and sixty five days ago I started down this path. At the time I first went down the rabbit hole, I was a thin everywhere except my belly: I was thin physically: physical exertion consisted solely of running a few miles three times a week. Dessert every night was normal. Drinking every night was normal. I was skinny-fat. My frame was thin as well: My photograph should have been in the dictionary next to the definition of "Nice guy." I sought validation from…	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/08/16 07:00 PM
5	Log: 15 Year Anniversary tonight Hope I am not overthinking shit and rationalizing myself into BP behaviors Oh, but you are my friend. You have just written paragraphs upon paragraphs on what you are planning on doing for your wife's anniversary. What gifts you have purchased for her. Where you plan on taking her to dinner. And how you hope to have sex because of what you have done for her. Then you have hamstered. You are thinking too hard about this. Realize that marriage involves two people and that you are one of them. YOU …	/r/askMRP	25/08/16 04:10 PM
4	Is every MRPer rich as fuck? "Rich" is a relative term. Ask yourself: Is a man who earns $100k, but has $200k in debt, more content? How about a man with no debt, who earns $40k and is able to save half of that? The real question you should be asking is whether you are financially secure. That, my friend, is the goal. For debt can create lasting distress, yet being financially secure enough to be able to weather both those expected and unexpected expenses should be what one aspires to.	/r/askMRP	25/08/16 03:53 PM
1	LTR getting angry over me going to the gym? What should I take from this? Nothing. Be concerned with your own feelings towards lifting. Do not be distressed by hers. Is she feeling the dread? You lift for you. You do not lift for her. Her feelings towards this should not concern you. Do I go to the gym knowing there will be shitstorm brewing? A masculine man will be able to weather this storm. Ask yourself - are you willing to improve yourself despite your S/O's misgivings?	/r/askMRP	25/08/16 03:42 PM