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DISCUSSIONBria89/r/RedPillWomen26/01/18 11:04 PM
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RELATIONSHIPSBria89/r/RedPillWomen25/12/17 06:10 PM
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DISCUSSIONBria89/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 11:00 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEBria89/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 12:40 AM
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/r/RedPillWomen28/01/18 12:42 AM
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Yeah I watched her review. Definitely going to be watching more soon!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 02:06 AM
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This is good advice and a good thread. In a few years I'll also be considering moving from an earning mother to home maker. Husbands jjob will likely be demanding and he already has a protective mindset, I'm sure he'll be happy to pay all the bills if I could support our home domestically. My issue is that it just feels WEIRD. My parents were both working parents. I was raised with the feminist belief that relying on a man was BAD. And that the only way a man would be interested in you is if you…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 01:17 AM
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Adding to this. The grass isn't always greener. Just because you get a lot of attention doesn't mean that many others will step up to commit. A lot of people like to window shop now. They might rent it for a while but not everyone has it in mind to "buy" you for what your worth, marriage. Don't leave a good relationship for what "could be"
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 12:59 PM
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Ok take it day by day then. Trust your intuition about the relationship and be honest with yourself. If you think he is committed to the long term relationship with you then keep putting in the effort. Only you know your boyfriend and where his heart is at. Definitely work on your SMV, you want to keep things like your still a catch as you get older. As he gets more successful, he'll gain more SMV. I've always felt the female should always be one SMV points above the guy esp if the guy has a lot…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 05:02 PM
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What I meant by not investing is that she shouldnt be living with him until she is married to him. She should be courting/vetting. Maybe her boyfriend is different but many of the finance men I meet "keep their options open until they are in their mid-late thirties when they are financially set." Sure it was fun to live in NYC for 6 months but it doesn't guarantee he will propose and leaves little motivation to do so since she was already playing housewife. Edit: also she is in her prime years o…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 01:34 PM
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Until your married, I wouldn't invest much into it. I work with the Wall Street crowd in NYC and most of the men are shopping endlessly for their wife. They can be in a relationship and still be shopping. Keep working on your SMV and you have better luck
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 05:05 AM
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I guess we all have our reasons for choosing our partners. Lots of respect to you, long term unemployment is not something I would be able to do. And I don't know how you would be able to motivate him to be more of provider. I feel like if there's a will there's a way and men need to feel the desire/confidence to accomplish something. You prodding at him will likely feel emasculating. You can accept that you are the breadwinner and take it as is. I wouldn't plan for a child under these condition…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/18 03:00 AM
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I guess that's true, but I'm not against divorce. People make mistakes in life and that includes choosing their partner. A decision you make in your early 20s, can still be fixed. There's a quote I really like, "Don't cling to a mistake just because you spent a long time making it." Should she spend her whole life wishing her husband was someone else? Should he feel inadequate the rest of his life because his wife resents him? These are some really hard questions that I think OP needs to figure …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 06:32 PM
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This is terrible advice. She should not get pregnant. The worst situation she could get herself into is being pregnant with a man who CANNOT provide. She will end up divorcing him anyway and be lower in value due to being a single mother/post wall. Be honest about the situation with yourself. Can you see yourself having a child with this man? Has he shown work potential? Is he motivated? Are you attracted to him sexually still? From what you've provided it sounds like you are dating a BETA but w…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 02:49 PM
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This is a good post. Lots of great comments.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/18 02:57 PM
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I feel you. I'm also very flat chested as well. I looked into breast augmentation and didn't see it as worth it. You need to replace the implants every 10 years otherwise you risk them leaking later down the road. Depending on when you get them, that's a lot of surgery for your boobs. Maybe you can accentuate other parts of your body? You can also waist train in order to get more of an hourglass look.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 01:08 AM
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I straighten my hair when I can. My hair is very shiny when it's straight so it catches the eye. During the summer I'll do a Brazilian blowout treatment to tame it. My nails I'll do myself weekly. I have good manicure set and a good collection of nail polishes. I've started getting my eyelashes done every 3 weeks. The eyelash extensions are AMAZING. It's just a big time commitment. It takes an hour for refills and 2hours for a full set. My face I use a moisturizer with high SPF. I also put a wri…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 12:28 AM
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All colors work as long as they are tasteful. I like darker colors like black and blues and greys. But I also have white, pink and purples. I'm all about quality over quantity so I pick clothes that can be matched with other clothes to create a look of a fuller wardrobe. I also dryclean my nicer clothes. I have pieces that have lasted me YEARS.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 01:15 AM
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I haven't always been really feminine. I would dabble in feminine things like makeup and dressing better but was never consistent. I always noticed in high school that the most feminine girls always got the most attention. These girls ranged in terms of how pretty they were but it was the fact they put effort in being feminine that got them male attention. It was always my goal to reach a higher level of femininity but I didn't always have the means. $$$ I'd say try to fix what you can like post…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 01:01 AM
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I would say mainly how you dress, skirts, makeup, hair etc. mainly putting effort. I always get better response from people when I put effort into my look. This week I put a full face of makeup (very natural) straightened my hair, wore flattering sweaters and accessorize with my gold watch and rings. I got a lot of compliments and men generally are nicer in greeting me. I also focus on smiling when greeting people. You'd be surprised how lackluster and bored people look when meeting someone new …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 12:48 AM
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My husband is pretty dominant. I let him make all the choices and he usually leads in social events etc. other people look up to him and he is the patriarch of our family. I would say be feminine. Masculinity is attracted to femininity. Another comment mentioned having your shit together which is also a good idea. I'll also add this caveat, don't be TOO independent or dominant. Women who have all their shit together sometimes make the mistake of needing to control everything and that's how they …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/17 11:44 PM
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You need to accept that vulnerability is beautiful. It's the best quality about us as humans. I think you need to be okay with showing this side and caring for someone in order to really grasp RPW and be successful in relationships. You need to be okay with showing vulnerability and loving a partner even when they feel vulnerable. You should probably start communicating that vulnerability makes you uncomfortable and how you act when you feel this way. That way your partner can anticipate and rea…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/17 12:00 AM
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Let him meet your family get to know his family more? That's the next step to really get more intwined. Once he sees your like family, he will be less likely to wander. Otherwise looks like you're on the right track. Also be patient, if he's exclusive with you don't pressure for marriage just yet. Don't be crazy or jealous keep those feelings to yourself
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 11:46 PM
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Sorry not a high value guy. Are you sure you want this one? Sounds like he's a blue pill type of guy who got caught up with a shrew ex girlfriend and now you have to deal with all the problems the abuse brought. Why do you like this guy? Is he a leader, is he an alpha, does he provide for you in some way? Are you low or high SMV ?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/17 01:42 PM
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Just because you've got the wall or have low SMV doesn't mean you shouldn't do everything in your power to increase your SMV and turn your shit around. It's good when young women are able to catch on to RED PILL and keep from making the mistakes a lot of women fall into. But it's also good to improve even if your past your peak. Women will have some sort of SMV, low or high. It's best to improve upon your SMV to get the best partner possible or any other relationship goal you might have.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 07:18 PM
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There's a difference between PUA alphas who are looking to leverage alpha like qualities for short term sex. The problem with your approach is that you fell for the trick of "maybe." Maybe I'll be able to change him, maybe I'll be the one out of all these girls that different. Maybe isn't good enough for us RPW. We have expectation and standards we have to keep to ourselves. There were a lot of red flags here that he was not commitment material. One of the major ones he treated you like of his p…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 05:11 PM
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I would say etiquette school or something like it is several grand. Usually these kinds of courses are geared towards privileged people. Business etiquette classes are also a good substitute. You can also start with YouTube videos and self help books on etiquette and class.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 01:12 AM
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People like that are often unforgettable. They have a way of making you feel important. Do you know why he broke up with her?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 12:17 AM
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Yessss
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 01:50 AM
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You need to be their unicorn NAWALT
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 03:26 AM
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So it sounds like you like sticking to a plan and you found it inconvenient/rude that he just changed it. He sounds a little bit more spontaneous and didn't see the additional time/ detour an issue. Do you feel the communication issue can be worked through? If this is a major red flag for you maybe it's time to look for other partners.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 11:48 PM
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Need more details: What makes you feel like you are low SMV? Did he want you to join the gym with him so you guys to work out together? IMO maybe this could have been some extra time you could have spent together, bonding. Plenty of people squeeze gym into their day no matter how inconvenient. There are showers at the gym. You could have kept your going out outfit in a duffle bag and showered/changed at the gym. Maybe done a light workout? These are just suggestions, not really sure from your de…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 02:42 AM
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I went no contact for about 6 months and he kept contacting me and leaving voice messages that he was sorry. Then one night I was out at a club doing what most girls at 22 do, having fun and not caring what I was doing. Before the night was over I realized I was just really sad and wanted to make things work. So I called him and told him. It was time when our relationship was getting stale and we were both trying to see if there were other better options. We had to essentially re-choose eachothe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 11:39 PM
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I think you made a lot of assumptions from the what I provided. I was actually on my way home and my husband notified me that she was sick. It was his suggestion that I might have to put off plans. I had planned to take off the next day to clean around the house and then leave early the next day to meet my friend. I get what your trying to get at but I don't take RPW to mean complete subservience and agreement with your husband at all times. Sometimes you have to care for your own needs and make…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 08:19 PM
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Yep that's something I'm planning to change and make more time for. I'm also an introvert with a very social job so I get most of my socialization at work. To give more background, Husband is an extrovert so really needs the socialization or gets depressed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 08:11 PM
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This comment right here, makes me think you have "the grass is greener" mentality. Initially you loved the stability of your husband but are now desiring the "Fun" of an alpha. If you want more fun into the relationship, why don't you bring it vs relying on your husband. Do a surprise day trip, bring some toys into the bedroom, etc. There's a chance your husband liked you because he thought YOU were the fun and gregarious one. I don't think this as issue that your husband can resolve, it might b…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 02:56 PM
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I think there are a lot of mid to late men that are just starting to seriously mature and look for long term relationships. Generally these men are in graduate school or have been in the work force for a while and are ready for the next step. The online dating system is a very strange game. If you only respond to the men who are reaching out to you, your going to get a lot guys who are playing the numbers game for sex. You need to maybe reach out to guys that interest you and really vet through …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 02:19 PM
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Husband doesn't cry easily but I've seen him cry 1) when I was trying to break up with him during our courting phase, 2) his dog dying, 3) when he lost his job. During 1) I felt repulsed and not interested. The reasons I wanted to break up were because of him and this felt like an emotional appeal for me to change my mind. At this point he had a lot of chances and talks and opportunities to turn things around. It came across as very helpless and weak, like he was a person not in control of his o…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 02:01 PM
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I also work so it's a strain overall with the work schedule. Generally, we're really good. My daughter is just a cold with fever nothing too serious. I totally overreacted and was ready to start pointing fingers. But on my ride home I thought "I'm not gonna pick a fight, I'm doing that. We literally made up the second I got home!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 02:53 AM
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2-3 times a month is kinda low. Maybe he has some fetishes that he wants to explore but hasn't shared yet. Do you know anything about his sexual history. Maybe he's more asexual and enjoys companionship. How long has his previous relationships been
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 03:47 AM
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His response was a bit brash but I will say that OPs approach was not so great. Men like to feel like they have a choice and they choose their wife vs feeling obligated. OP says she has brought it up several times so he might be feeling like there an ultimatum around the corner. As opposed to making it about marriage and family pressure, she could have approached, "I don't see anyone else in my life other than you, I hope you feel the same way" At this point OP had made herself more like AWALT b…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 09:24 PM
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I agree 3 years is about right. But 1 and 1/2 is shorts. The good thing to do now is reflect on her relationship to determine whether it's worth continuing
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 06:38 PM
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I don't think so. 1.5 years is kind of short when you think about dating. Marriage is a lifelong commitment that requires a lot of thought. Just because it's that time in your life that most people get married doesn't mean she should rush the process of finding the right partner. I think OP should to reflect on her relationship. Does she find her and her partner share the same values. Does she feel confident in his current commitment towards her? What is her motivation to be married? Is it to ha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 06:29 PM
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Let him sleep in while I take care of breakfast and our child Iron all his shirts and pants for the week so he doesn't have to do it. (Not always, but when I can) Let him watch the shows he likes and take general interest in them.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 07:18 PM
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I think your first issue is that you are distrustful of men. You look at their lust and desire for sex as a weakness. Whoop-di-do, men want sex. That's nothing new, and that's part of the experience of being a Man. It's something you need to expect and get comfortable with. I'm not saying you should be putting out, I'm a firm believer commitment should come first. But your probably coming from a defensive place and attacking men for their natural desires. I think you just need to enjoy your date…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 06:28 PM
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Just be upfront, ask the guy is where this is going. Trust your gut instinct on his response then either decide to cut contact or proceed. At 25 you really shouldn't be having sex before vetting and securing some sort of commitment. If this doesn't work out, you would have spent 4 months in a meaningless relationship when you could have spent that time finding the right one. The fact that you've been seeing this guy for 4 months and feel like you don't really know him/haven't vetted him just sho…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/17 04:03 PM
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I have both her books. It's a good place to start but not everything will apply
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 03:50 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 07:54 PM
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I got what I wanted though. In my prime, I was a 7 or 8. I married a man who has been able to move up ranks at work with some college. One other thing I did was snag him early. When we were 18 he exhibited all these leadership qualities that I just "knew" would help him in life. He also had a lot of bad habits like smoking, drinking and gambling that I had to watch out for. He spent some time not knowing what he wanted at all. Thankfully he is not a womanizing type, I really wouldn't have been a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 12:15 PM
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Depends on what you find to be a quality man. I think a man that has a job with career growth, car, decent looks to be a quality man. I value stability. Some women value looks, physique, ability to be a father etc. Hone in on what you want in a man then try to figure out where you are most likely to meet that man. An intellectual high earning man you'll find in school or in the workplace so find a way to put yourself in the environment A physically attractive man you'll find at a gym or doing ph…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 10:07 PM
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Or they are startups where two people are starting with nothing but passion, a dream, commitment, and a solid business plan. I went the startup route. It worked for me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 08:33 PM
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If I had it my way I would be a SAHM. Two working parents are stressful. It's hard to balance family life with work culture. We have not come that far. Work is not mom friendly and corporate America only rewards workers for how much "extra" hours they are able to give to their company. They also reward single women, since single women can put in the hours without the having to share their hours with family. One day I hope to graduate to SAHM, I work hard to support my husband. Work life so far h…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 07:00 PM
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I think the key is to evaluate a mans SMV potential. I agree with another post that said young high SMV men generally are not ready to settle down. But men generally gain SMV as they get older so a real catch would be someone who is a little lower or same in status as you but has good potential. There should be some attraction. But bonding can occur over time. Potential should be something attainable for that person and maybe their goals aren't met yet but they are at the beginning or middle par…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 01:51 PM
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If a man is willing to accept a substitute over the real thing, it might be time to seek better options if possible. Women want the best possible mate, and someone who is using porn as a substitute for intimacy or is content with short term flings may not be worth investing in. As far as porn is concerned, It would be a problem for me if it was used as a substitute for sex with a partner. Like if he turned down sex with you but you find out later he jacked off to his favorite porn star. But most…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 12:51 PM
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I think as cheap as sex is, it's often not the thing that's going to keep a partner. Emotional support, loyalty, charm, social grace, and domestic skills are not something that a one night stand can bring. As women we need to raise our value beyond sex and bring more to the table.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 01:57 AM
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Men making this kind of money won't waste their money on several women. They are usually have families and wives. They tend to invest in "keeping up with the Joneses" living in the best neighborhoods, nannies, private school for their kids, and investing in their nest egg. I work on Wall Street, I meet these people
/r/TheRedPill30/09/17 01:41 AM
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Keep having sex. Show gratitude for the small things he does like picking up milk or dropping you off. A lot of women start taking these acts of kindness for granted and start expecting it. Men notice this, then will stop doing it. Then you have to start nagging which makes you look entitled. Right now I work a lot of hours, my husband does a lot around the house. I make sure he knows how appreciated it is. Make sure you look your best when your out together. Dress appropriately for the occasion…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 11:44 PM
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Yep pretty amazing advice
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