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My boyfriend is more of a centrist on the political spectrum and he looks like a twink which is 100% what I'm into. I am not into "dad bods" aka overweight men or super muscular dudes. I love that he looks boyish at 27, and I actually prefer more submissive/feminine men. He works in IT and loves gaming, Pokemon, DND, LOTR, Star Wars and badminton. He doesn't think watching Twilight makes him any less of a man, unlike other men. I even put some make-up on him and we did face masks once and we had…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:10 AM
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The dead bedroom sub is about 50/50 on the male to female ratio by the way, or very close to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:44 PM
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Even for the ones who can (I can) it doesn't happen very often or consistently.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:08 PM
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I don't believe my parents bickered because of money, they simply had opposite views on how to raise me. However they're still together so 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:34 PM
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I work a physical job and to be frank sex allows me to unwind after a long day at work. Being intimate with my partner is both calming and energizing. To me anywhere between 3-5 times a week is ideal and I wouldn't want to be with someone who would rather only have sex once a week or less. Lots of women have high libidos, sometimes higher than their partners. I speak of experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:27 AM
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My parents have admitted this to me. I was the reason they were bickering like... 80% of the time. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:15 AM
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Sex with the same partner is way more convenient and I'd say it's one of the reasons I want a LTR though not the primary one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:28 PM
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I must not represent most women then because I have a high libido and once a day (or 5 times a week if we're busy, more if we're on vacation) is my normal. I don't understand not wanting to fuck your partner unless asexuality or trauma are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:23 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:47 AM
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I found an equal partner and before him I didn't want to get married at all, but now I do. I would never permanently tie myself to a man-child, which is what you're describing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:48 AM
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Same it's actually illegal where I live lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:46 AM
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Taking your husband's name is illegal in Quebec so even if I wanted to I couldn't. I am not a fan of most wedding traditions and couldn't care less about most of them despite the fact that I intend on getting married. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 11:16 PM
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Hell to the no, I am a very sexual person and want to share those amazing moments with my partner. Eventually when I hit 60+ I may not have the same libido and will be fine with unfrequent/no sex, but as a 26 year old woman I enjoy having sex at least 4 times a week if not more. Additionnally, sex to me is not just the act of penetration, it's the teasing, the giggles, the cuddling, the kisses, the affection, the soft touches, the tension, the intimacy... all of that is part of a healthy sex lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 01:03 AM
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I do agree that some of those require particular skills but they're nothing exceptional imo. And as for the postcards apart from learning about different cultures from talking to people all over the world there aren't many "facts" about them. I like that I have some very rare vintage pieces and there are some famous postcards that have been found to be sent from the Titanic (or before its departure anyway) but they're just pieces of paper that I like to collect lol I also like stamps and anythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:35 AM
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Is D&D supposed to be a loser hobby? I guess I'm a nerd then. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:32 PM
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My main hobby is collecting postcards and writing/sending postcards. It doesn't require any particular skill. Other hobbies include : painting vinyls, swimming (only during summer time), kayaking (only during summer time), true crime podcasts, thrifting/collecting vintage items, video games, vintage Polaroids and other instant cameras, LEGOs and dancing. I also like reading and writing. I have a lot of hobbies but none of them except for the postcards really stands out as being my main one. From…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:01 PM
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I don't do hookups anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 04:46 PM
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Yeah pretty much. A lot of women are deceitful too. We'll let him figure this one out on his own I guess. A lot of guys forgo condoms and take the woman's word that she's on birth control then go "pikachu face" when she ends up preggo. That's also on you champ... it makes me think of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:05 AM
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Not always, I mean especially not if you're having casual sex for the first time after one or two dates. That's nothing. Women can lie too you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:02 AM
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I mean how can you know how she will act after you've had sex with her? Do you see the future? 😂 Sorry this is getting a bit funny over here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:50 AM
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What if they only acted like that AFTER you two would have been intimate? That's the whole point of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:47 AM
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I don't want to be treated badly by anyone regardless of if I find them attractive or not. Would you like to be insulted or belittled by a woman simply because she's hot? Maybe you have some weird kink going on if so.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:44 AM
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My boyfriend is a programmer and I respect him a lot - obviously. He loves his job which is the most important to me, and he makes a good amount of money too (nothing crazy, we make about the same) which allows us to split everything 50/50. He works remotely 2 days a week only. Meanwhile I am quite dissatisfied with my job and going back to school in the fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 08:18 PM
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Why? lol By the way I just Googled it and the average time for showers for most people seems to be around 10-15 minutes. If you're always shaving yourself, washing your hair, doing XYZ long-ass routine then yeah it might take more time but I'm talking about a daily in-and-out quick shower to wash your body. Washing your hair everyday is not good for it anyway. I assure you that I have plenty of time to scrub myself everywhere in 10 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 11:13 AM
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I absolutely agree, but if you do that literally everyday is where it becomes a problem in my mind regarding wasting water. If you don't care then nothing I say will change your mind, so whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 11:11 AM
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Er wtf no it's not that's wasting water big time. I can successfully shower in 10 minutes, 15 if I wash my hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 10:30 AM
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There are a few very mild things, but one of the worst is that he cuts his nails and will leave them literally everywhere, like on the table or on the floor. I used to do this too a while ago but I think it's gross as heck now. Apart from that he is very clean, on top of his hygiene, helps a lot around the house, etc etc. We've never really had a fight about it because if I notice it I just remove them and toss them away. I did talk to him about it once but I don't let small things become huge d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 02:28 AM
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I mean in this economy people in general need a good salary to get by. Inflation is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:23 AM
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Having sex doesn't count as moving on to me lmfao I DON'T KNOW. This will be my last answer to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:10 PM
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The answer is truly that I don't know. I would wait until I feel stable again, mentally healthy again. I have no clue how long that would take. This is like asking parents how long until they try for another child when they lose their only child (if they're still physically able to have children obviously)... you don't know until you've lived it. I'd probably wait less to have sex, but I don't see sex as tied to love necessarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:04 PM
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I don't think I could ever move on from the death of a loved one that is so precious to me like my boyfriend. The only other person whose death would affect me as much would be my mom, and she came close to die when I was a child due to cancer. So far the only people I've lost haven't been very close to me, like my aunt, all my grandparents, etc. so I can't say for sure how I would react to the death of someone that close. Realistically, based upon my understanding of myself, this is what would …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:57 PM
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Same here sis. I have dated men who don't care about sexual boundaries at all, and most other ones. I don't think that's the majority of men however.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:09 AM
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I mean to be frank I would never willingly be with a cheating piece of shit... I'd rather be the wife than the mistress in any scenario. If I'm mistreated by my husband I'll divorce and won't cheat either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:50 AM
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My man does things for me too, he buys me flowers, gifts, plans dinner dates... it's called reciprocation. That's what usually happens in healthy relationships. I'm the one who writes little notes though and who plans activities other than dinners cause that's more my thing. He has plans to propose within 2 years of dating, and before him I never wanted to get married but he does. He is more traditional than me, very family oriented. To be frank I have no idea who looks better between us I'd say…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 04:32 PM
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Are you into very high maintenance "buy me my make-up and nails" type of women or what? Most average women are perfectly happy spoiling their men. It just seems like you're going after the type of woman who expects the princess treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 11:59 AM
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I personally love to spoil my boyfriend too and bought him flowers, made him a personalized card and I'm actually the one who plans most dates as well. Get yourself a woman who reciprocates and it'll feel less like a chore maybe? Or just a woman who doesn't care about that? I assure you they exist, a lot of my friends are like this. No gifts, no Valentine's day, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 09:05 AM
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The partners I've been with (mostly men) have all wanted to be the ones tied up or such. I'm generally more dominant in bed and men can sort of sense it I think. It definitely goes both ways from my point of view. Also erotic fanfiction and novels are quite popular among young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:54 PM
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Well then they should date autistic women. I know a few couples like that. My boyfriend and I both have ADHD, it naturally helps us understand the other one better. I just looked it up and that's 1:31 autistic kids, which is around 3%. Unless they are low functioning (or whatever they're calling it these days), they should still have some chances with ladies although they'll need to be willing to settle for someone who will understand them. Since there is a genetic component to autism, at some p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:32 PM
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If you're average you'll end up with an average woman. A lot of men in my circles are quite average (overweight, some are balding, etc) and they all have girlfriends and wives except for one or two. My boyfriend has his first relationship with me at 26 and now we are in a long term relationship and bought a house. He's a super skinny dude, but I'm hella into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:44 PM
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I'm gonna go against the grain and say that in this day and age I strongly prefer to be approached on dating sites only. I meet in person very quickly when I'm interested so there are no "games". My other boyfriends/lovers I met at school, work and at a party.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:36 AM
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I see below average couples all the time lol... most ugly men date ugly women it's not complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:30 PM
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I mean nearly 50% non-monogamous couples is a LOT.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:53 PM
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My boyfriend wants roughly the same amount of dates and vacations as I do, maybe slightly less. He goes out once every two weeks for DND and goes out on walks regularly during winter time and then goes out almost daily during summer time for various acrivities. This is all despite being an avid gamer. We spent Valentine's day entirely together, we spent two days at a hotel and spa for Christmas, we are going to another hotel and spa experience this March and then we were suposed to go to Italy t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:30 AM
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I was at a restaurant last Friday with a bunch of friends and we all thought our waitress was 21-22, but turns out she was actually 16 going on 17 and she told us as we asked her opinion on an alcoholic drink. She pulled up a picture of her next to her mom and they legit looked like close in age sisters. The mom had her kid at 17. I work at a university and some of our first year students are underage while others are young adults (18-21). I barely see any difference to be frank. It's hard to re…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:20 AM
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It's disgusting how they try to erase history. I doubt 13 and 14 year olds actually wanted to be married off to older men, but stay delusional I guess - child marriage is a thing that males want, not the other way around I promise. I am not surprised anymore by the sheer quantity of pedophile-aligning people, both men and women, as it seems that our very own society is built upon it. As someone who has lived through actual pedophile incidents (not as bad as SA, but still bad) this makes me want …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:09 AM
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I mean my boyfriend fits that aesthetic and he's also pretty small like 5'11" and barely 140 lbs, not a big guy by all means. He has barely any facial hair or hair anywhere except on his head (and asscrack hahaha). He is not "buff" but lean, athletic, small in frame but with broad shoulders. I'd post a pic but that'd be weird. He is like 27 but I swear he looks 20 years old and regularly gets told he looks very young. No signs of baldness, no fat, some acne sometimes... lol I mean if that is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:13 PM
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I am sorry. Are you like native Dutch?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:42 PM
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Most men are taller than me, I'm 5'5". Average height where I live is around 5'9"-5'10" (not America).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 11:38 AM
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I'm bisexual and I often feel like I just like hot people in general. What I like about men specifically is this : veiny hands strong shoulders and backs forearms lean body with muscle a nice round ass that I will slap!!!!! having a nice ass is such an underrated feature in men. Please do squats at the gym. 😂 an erect penis, especially one that is not circumcised them being taller than me and their hugs feeling protective and very warm (if I'm attracted to them obviously) the smell of their swea…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:55 AM
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For your partner's sake I truly hope you never have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 04:49 AM
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I wouldn't say my boyfriend fits the bill. He has an average career for his age as a programmer. We make roughly the same salary. He is an aggressive saver with like 130k saved though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:27 AM
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He was a virgin when we met. I guided him through everything (and I loved that part). He had trouble just slapping my ass at first... 😅 He had a hard time putting a condom on too. The first time was very, very awkward but it went from that to the best sex I've ever had because he's extremely receptive, loves feedback and does not mind spending a lot of time down there. He has a kink for getting his ears sucked on, like I could go at it for almost hours, and this is how we start foreplay for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:17 AM
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I am a dominant woman in bed who prefers sub men in bed, and I know I am in the minority for sure. My boyfriend is not a very dominant person in general and he follows my lead on most important decisions. In bed he enjoys having things done to his ass but he is 0% gay, and he generally likes when I "take charge". I love it exactly like that. Our relationship works well this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:34 AM
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How likely is it that a 10/10 woman with a high libido would have ONE partner in her life... like please be realistic. If you are high quality enough to attract such a woman you're probably not a virgin yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 06:43 PM
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Men apparently want a virgin who acts like a porn star with them only. I'm sorry fellas, if she has a high libido and enjoys being adventurous in the bedroom she's probably not a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:54 PM
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My boyfriend has blonde hair and blue eyes... but I just like it when men dress in all black. I can't say why I just like it. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:52 AM
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I don't really care. I care more about general appearance and being well-groomed and smelling nice than specific accessories. If he's well-dressed it's a plus too but not a requirement. Jeans a t-shirts are just fine. Just dress in all black and I'll be twice as attracted already.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:40 AM
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That's exactly what I said... re-read my comment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:43 PM
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I am very much hoping for something around average, perhaps a little bit under or a little bit over. Why? Very under average means a lot of positions are out the table, and very above average means I'll be in pain when we fuck. It's very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:10 AM
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I'm a woman from Quebec and the only reason I could see for wanting to change my last name is if I were named something negative like Ratté or Couillard. Thankfully my name is a nice quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:44 PM
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I have definitely noticed that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 12:37 PM
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I'm very interested in this account of yours if you'd like to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:04 PM
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I'm a huge MTG fan and I don't really care that it's mostly men playing. Whatever. Most men in the community have nothing but respect for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:04 PM
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I don't care about ''Ivy league'' since I'm from Quebec and our education costs pretty much nothing. I graduated with 10k (CAD) in debt, mostly from eating out and paying rent. All I care about really is if you have the right mindset for saving a big % of your income and if you manage your money fairly well. Thankfully I landed a guy that has those qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:17 PM
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Yep exactly. I am bi and dating a guy, almost exclusively watching solo-female content haha I've already got a man who satisfies me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:26 PM
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As in a lesbian only dates women... maybe they want to explore other dynamics in their porn such as M/F, M/M, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:12 PM
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The same way I can read about two non-human monsters fucking and be turned on. Also some people need an element of non-familiarity to enjoy their porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 01:51 PM
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K
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:39 PM
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Our assets are separate but if we get married everyrhing will be ours. I will have an inheritance sooner than him so... technically I'll be better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:06 PM
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Soooo unless we make exactly the same salary there is prostitution involved? Uh... okay buddy. Right now we make roughly the same salary, in fact I make a little more because of overtime.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 01:32 PM
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I am not attracted to the savings themselves, I am attracted to the qualities that would make someone a good saver. If someone has a huge debt, usually there are negative character traits attached to that (i.e. impulaivity, carelessness, etc). The opposite would be true for someone who has the dedication to save a decent amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 01:26 PM
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You would be incorrect. I come from a family of a single mom who made 20k per year. My mom has nothing to her name at 62. I have the equivalent of an associate's degree and I am just extremely frugal and have landed a good paying job and live in a very cheap apartment and have paid my car cash ~5 years ago. My family sent me to school with money they collected by returning their soda cans to the store (10-20 cents each). So honestly I wouldn't call that all that priviledged. I have money because…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:12 AM
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The people I associate with are like me but I know there are high maintenance women yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:34 AM
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I've dated a lot (I mean most of those were literally a couple of dates, I was in 3 serious relationships) of not so good men before finding my perfect match. It's extremely rare to find the one right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:49 PM
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Yeah I mean I was 19 and he was my first relationship. I didn't have the best judgement back then I admit, but I also made a lifelong friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 09:42 PM
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I am literally in a relationship with this type of guy lmao. Together we have around 160k in savings and we live very modestly in a 1 bedroom apartment. We are both very modest, drive old cars, have thrifted clothes, etc. I don't give a fuck about jewlery or nice clothes or whatever. I want one nice vacation per year and some cool activities throughout the year and to have a modest house in an affordable part of town. I'm a very simple woman. The most lavish thing I do is going to the spa once e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:23 PM
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I mean someone who is chronically broke is broke due to reasons often pertaining to their character. Yes there are outliers but I'm frankly not interested in going on about all the possible variations of circumstances. If you take my ex (and good friend) as an example, he's 30 with no savings, had 12k of debt our whole relationship and struggles to keep a job because he's an alcoholic. That's not the type of guy who is "relationship material", but he's funny as fuck and we vibe purely as friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:42 PM
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Most relationships fail yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:33 PM
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This is not about "having sex", this is about building a long-term committed relationship which is vastly different. If you believe that broke unstable irrational men make good partners, then I don't know what to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:31 PM
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To be frank I'd never want to live in a van down by the river with anyone for more than a few weeks. I'd rather not be homeless at all and it is honestly not something very likely considering I have living family that have housing available, and my boyfriend does as well and he has like 30+ friends. If you always live life wondering about the worst 'what ifs' have you considered that you may just have an anxiety disorder?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:21 PM
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I'm attracted to responsible adults who have a healthy amount of savings. I also bring that to the table myself, so I don't see how it would be ''prostitution'' if we're on equal footing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:33 PM
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I don't really care if my boyfriend flirts with other women, but he doesn't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 02:02 PM
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If you're on Tinder and not trying to score you're a weirdo. Like why ELSE would you be on a dating/hook-up website? In any case my boyfriend doesn't do that and loves that I dress in a sexy way so honestly whatever floats your boat. If you wanna act like a controlling ass in your relationships, go ahead. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 01:28 PM
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How is that the same? In one scenario you're communicating with women with the goal of scoring, in the other scenario she dresses in a sexy way in public. One is active and the other one is passive. Despite dressing very classy/sexy, I typically don't get guys' numbers and if I get approached I just shut them down. The man in your scenario goes out of his way to get numbers and willingly accepts them and basically intends to cheat. A better comparison would be if the man kept going to the gym an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 01:12 PM
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I'm bisexual and a lot of lesbians don't want to date me because of it... I've learned to just not care about that though, and focus on the people that do want to date me. It more often than not ends up being straight and bi men though. Do I think it's biphobic? Yeah a little, but we're entitled to have all the dealbreakers we want in dating, even if they're not politically correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:33 PM
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So basically less than 10% of women should bear sons... in fact let's just stop having kids altogether while we're at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:54 AM
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This is extremely funny but as someone who probably only wants to have a girl anyway I feel weirdly validated right now. Thanks for the laughs. Also... most women (like 90+%) are below 5'8'' so this is doubly funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:37 AM
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And yet they would rejoice if THEY were having a lot of casual sex 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 03:08 PM
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I honestly cannot relate to this at all and I've been roommates with a girl who's queer (I am also queer)... to me nothing tops the intimacy you have with a partner, no matter their gender. Maybe the only thing that I could compare it to would be my relationship with my mom, to whom I am quite close.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 06:09 AM
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Yeah I mean to be frank it completely put me off. I was in a relationship at the time he asked me out anyway...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 10:20 PM
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Hey honestly, that's fine. I'm a very casual gamer that games maybe 4 hours a week at most usually (more when I'm on vacation like right now), so I don't have high stakes in this conversation either. I'm like that with most of my addictive behavior, like I enjoy 2/3 drinks here and there and I go to the casino maybe twice a year with my mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:11 PM
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Aight, happy new year to you too!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:09 PM
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A lot of people are binge watching entire seasons in one sitting or scrolling on their phones for hours on end... I don't think it's any better (or worse), just more of the same problem honestly. I just think we shouldn't solely focus on gaming when talking about technology addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:02 PM
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I mean I'm not JUST a gamer, I do a lot of other things like building LEGOs, playing Magic the Gathering, I have plants that I take care of, I do painting on vinyls, I go swimming and kayaking and I collect postcards... I also go to the spa, meet up with friends and my parents plus partner's parents, and obviously I work 5 days a week. There's only 24 hours in a day and sometimes I like just relaxing and doing something low-key. Your perspective comes off as very superior for no good reason to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:54 PM
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Since when do our hobbies need to be ''productive''? Can we just... exist in peace and do whatever we want with our free time? At the end of my work day, I like relaxing, and that includes more ''passive'' hobbies. In Canada our weather is pretty bad at least 5 months out of 12 so it's not like I can practise my favorite sport all year long (kayaking + swimming outside). I agree that addictions to anything are bad, but gaming isn't any worse than watching TV shows or reading, in my opinion. Some…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:45 PM
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I assume you're a casual gamer and you'd be fine dating another casual gamer but you don't want someone whose only hobby is gaming and who's obsessed with one or two games he plays non-stop. Or maybe I'm wrong and I'm making assumptions lol I'm a casual gamer, my boyfriend is more of a typical gamer but we enjoy a lot of quality non-gaming time together. I don't really care what he does with his free time as long as we can enjoy at least 3 nights a week together and one day per weekend (more if …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:39 PM
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I play a lot of video games like Hogwarts Legacy, Stray, Astrobot, Little Big Planet, It Takes Two, all the Fable, Minecraft, Soul Calibur, a lot of classic Nintendo games, Magic Arena (my only PC game). Just because it's not first person shooting games doesn't mean it's not video games lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:09 PM
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If a man I DON'T KNOW knows where I live that's weird as fuck, and I frankly don't care what he looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 04:42 PM
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One guy who tried to hit on me at one point mentioned that he knew where I live... despite being kind in his approach it was extremely creepy to say. It's hard to make a list of all creepy behaviors but anything that would suggest stalker-like tendencies is for sure creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 02:36 PM
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I have a cousin who realized she was a lesbian after being married to a man and having two kids with him... they divorced and she married a woman instead. I only know the reverse story.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:09 PM
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Dude I'm a bi dominant woman you don't need to lecture me about any of this. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:03 AM
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I mean most straight men are more on the dominant side, let's not kid ourselves. And there's a lot of casual homophobia among straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:41 PM
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I'm surprised that you bring up pegging... of all my male partners only one (my current boyfriend) was actually open to the idea of it. It's not very popular among men either, for the same reasons ("it's gaaaay"). Also to be frank most men are very average at sex as well, but I haven't been impressed with the women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:27 PM
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Personally I can't argue with that, you're absolutely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:17 PM
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Notice how young women are typically attracted to older men who are above average and not Bob who makes minimum wage, who is balding and has a beer gut? I'm 26 and I have dated a 41 year old dude for around a year. We ended things because I didn't want to be a step-mom to his two kids (and other reasons). He was slim, still had hair, relatively attractive though to be frank nothing special. I think men my age are way more attractive on average, but sometimes an older guy will be an exception for…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:07 PM
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If the cost of living is lower I imagine it takes a lesser amount to "impress" someone, right? Personally I've cared about finances as soon as I started working and have gathered a fair amount of savings for my age and I expect my partner to have similar goals. He doesn't need to have as much saved as I do, but he needs the same mindset otherwise we wouldn't be compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 12:30 PM
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With my ex that I met in college, I sat next to him, began talking to him and then after a few days asked if he needed extra help with the subject (I knew he was struggling). I suggested I could come over to his place after class. No actual lesson took place and we just watched a movie, made out and I spent the night there. We dated for 3 years and are still friends roughly 5 years after our breakup. He was a nice guy but had a lot of problems (substance abuse, chronic pain, debt). With my curre…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 12:15 PM
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I would say that it becomes relevant when you start to envision future goals regardless of children. If you want to travel the world at 50 and retire early, you'll need someone who makes more than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 12:02 PM
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Well maybe it has to do with your age? Most men in their 40s are already married or divorced and don't want a second marriage which is quite understandable. My boyfriend who is 27 brought up marriage first with me. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:57 PM
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The soft-spoken man has to be ugly for this to work. If they're both equally appealing then option A sounds better especially for a long-term companionship and option B sounds exhausting. Dealing with what sounds like a teenager isn't cool. IDGAF attitude is hip when you're a teen, not so much when you're an adult with responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 04:14 PM
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And OP, that's the point lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:57 AM
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I mean I'm not consuming porn everyday or addicted to it at all and I am very very into my partner... however I do enjoy having some fantasies just for myself. Luckily my boyfriend is not insecure about that at all. Also I am bisexual and fantasize a lot about women when I'm in a relationship with a man, it's not like he could exactly fulfill that... but I am not cheating on him since these are THOUGHTS in my HEAD. If people were cheaters simply because of that then pretty much 99% of the popula…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 10:08 PM
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My boyfriend goons to hentai. He actually can't really act on it. Porn is a FANTASY. I like jerking it to actors and fictional characters myself, and I wouldn't cheat with them because I don't care about them other than as a vehicle for my fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:44 PM
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If you include ''jerking off to porn'' in cheating, then of course 95% of men are cheaters. Most men watch porn at least once in a while if not regularly, this ain't news.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:37 PM
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A lot of men don't care about women's pleasure, we already know. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 05:55 PM
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Not really I mean I really enjoy eating his ass out and giving blowjobs and I technically "get nothing" from that I'm mostly a giver with men and almost exclusively a giver with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 06:11 PM
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My preferred category for male porn is audio porn of men jacking off and making hot sounds/moaning. We're not all the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:20 PM
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Because you enjoy pleasuring your partner and seeing them orgasm? I could just masturbate and finish in two minutes but having sex is way more exciting especially if it's with someone you love. I'm glad I'm with a man that loves giving me multiple orgasms every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 03:03 PM
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I think everything has been said here. Go to therapy, heal yourself and you'll have better luck out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:08 AM
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To be honest you're not at all pleasant to debate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 10:55 AM
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Uhhhhhhh respectfully what the fuck. I can understand the pimple popping (which imo is more of a woman thing), the farting and the burping (within reason and not like purposely doing it on you/near you - everyone does it) and the nose picking (best done when alone tbh) but there are no excuses for peeing in the sink or blowing your nose with a pillowcase. Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 08:19 PM
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I'm curious which habits are you talking about here?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:52 PM
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Yes, he is actually better than I am with household chores. He does everything unprompted, randomly decides he wants to vacuum the living-room and almost always does the laundry (the task I hate the most)... I can't complain at all. We cook together and one of us does the dishes. I have lower standards than him, but not by much. If something bothers him he'll do it himself. If something bothers me I'll do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:38 PM
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I have, my ex was like this and he was abusive. I 100% believe it could be true, however to act as if ALL women (or men) behave like this is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:07 PM
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Dude I replied elsewhere that this is abuse, I know it and I've lived it myself and got out of it thankfully. You seem to be drawn to abusive types unfortunately, which can happen with men and women, and because you've been subjected to it for so long you conflate all women together and think they must all act the same. You need therapy, and a break from dating. Some women and men are abusive, but not all of them. I promise you there are some good women out there. I hope you find a good one afte…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:19 PM
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That's abuse territory. Get out now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:02 PM
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Personally I wouldn't date someone who had a vastly different schedule from me. It would annoy me and build resentment and this is not something I would want in a relationship. I have always avoided men who work night shifts or "two weeks in, two weeks out" as I work a very typical 7-3 schedule, Monday to Friday and I like spending time with my partner. These women shouldn't be dating you and you shouldn't be dating them. You're incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:01 PM
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He is welcome to have sex with other women if he wants but he doesn't want to. We've had that conversation a lot of times. I am willing to give him a pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:11 PM
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Hookups are boring to be quite frank. Most men don't give a fuck about my pleasure unless they're emotionally invested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:01 PM
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I mean my boyfriend was a virgin before me and I had multiple partners, but we found each other and love each other. He doesn't care about my body count and I don't care about his.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:46 PM
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Priorities change as we age. A lot of people want to settle down, marry and have kids when they approach 30 years old, regardless of previous behavior - this goes for men and women. I know because I'm 26 and I was dating in that exact age bracket just about a year ago. If you're dating with intention, a hookup is the last thing on your to-do list no matter how hawt the guy is (at some point hot only goes so far, that's no longer what gets me going). A small subset of women are still wanting to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:54 AM
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Vive le Québec libre!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 11:49 PM
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I will never date someone who's a practicing religious person so it removes a lot of options already.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:19 PM
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Yeah exactly. Most Muslims date other Muslims, most Asians date other Asians, most whites date whites, that's just the way it's always been. I'm French Canadian and like dating French Canadians. I would sleep with anyone and have slept with people of different ethnic backgrounds but prefer if someone comes from the same culture as me. I briefly dated a girl who is part French Canadian part Dominican so it's not about color/race - or even gender for me - it's really about culture. Go to any homog…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:08 PM
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Maybe because I'm leaning heavily childfree... I feel like everyone should get to choose if they become a parent or not. At the same time, men PLEASE take care of your own sexual health and protect yourself. Don't believe rando women that they are on birth control, use condoms. Use common sense. If that's your wife or long-term girlfriend that's another story but you never know the true intentions of a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:08 PM
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Yeah and as a woman I think that's fucked up for the record. Y'all should have the option to opt out too. Then maybe there would be less single moms out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:41 PM
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If both parties have been tested and are STD-free and both agree on what happens if there's a pregnancy I see nothing wrong with going raw.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:33 PM
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Maybe because those women actually want casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:29 AM
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Outside of very young women they're fooling nobody with these lines, I don't get why they'd bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:55 PM
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Yeah but we're not talking hypotheticals, we're talking about what's really happening in this day and age which is not your happy go lucky scenario where the woman stays home to tend to the kids and has nothing else to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 02:13 AM
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I mean if you have perfectly healthy, not difficult kids then maybe it's not a burden, but I can assure you it's not always the case. You're entitled to your opinion but raising kids WELL is pretty damn hard and every parent will agree. If they think it's so easy they're probably neglecting their kid(s) in some way. Also keep in mind the woman in this scenario works full-time and does most of the parenting, which is more than the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:41 AM
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Very sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 07:37 PM
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I mean honestly I'm extremely frugal and come from a poor family. I would never pay for that shit. My kids, if I have them, will live frugally. I will gift them with some money I put in the equivalent of the S&P500 when they turn 18. A lot of parents invent new "needs" for nothing imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:11 PM
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The economy. Back then women could easily have children and be a SAHM, but nowadays they need a good job to support themselves and a family. Having kids while working full-time and doing most of the parenting is honestly not something a lot of women desire. So either they choose low-stress work with less hours or they don't have kids or have less kids (1 or 2). Pursuing higher education goes hand in hand with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:44 PM
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The burden of childcare often falls on women even in 2025, not to mention the fact that they are the ones sacrificing their bodies during pregnancy and childbirth. There are a lot of complications that can happen during both. If I were a man I would probably want kids. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:12 PM
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This is part of why I plan on remaining childfree to be frank.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:51 PM
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I'm a woman and I would say physical touch (including sex) is my love language. My boyfriend and I are glued together, always touching when we're on the couch, kissing, holding hands, cuddling, hugging. I love these moments more than anything. It's better than spending time doing an activity although I enjoy it a lot too (obviously).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:26 PM
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I don't really wanna talk about the abusive relationship. I'll just say I'm very lucky I got out. And I'm still friends with the other guy, he just wasn't ambitious at all (like rn he's 30, was unemployed for a year, no savings, alcoholic, etc etc). He's a really good friend, terrible partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:08 PM
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I had two other relationships, one of them was fine and the other abusive. I liked him because we had interests in common and he's cute. I think just one day. I don't fuck around when I know I'm interested. I mean I actually liked that he was a virgin, I liked that I would be his first.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:47 PM
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I was 25 (now 26). I mean it came up naturally, we talked about our past experiences and he told me he had none. I was okay with it, thrilled to be his first honestly!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:31 PM
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He messaged me on Facebook. We had a friend in common and I messaged her separately to see if he was a good dating prospect (she said yes he's an amazing friend). According to him he saw me on FB dating and decided to message me despite not matching... and I'm so glad he took the plunge! He said it was because I liked LEGOs and Star Wars (two of his biggest interests). He told me pretty much right away he was a virgin and then I said no problem let's do a video chat. Then we had our first date t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:23 PM
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Absolutely, I just wanted to put it out there that men like my boyfriend exist. I actually really liked that he had no experience!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:46 PM
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He has had 2 women interested in him when he wasn't interested. He went on 7 dates before meeting me, and every time he ended up not interested in them. But I don't think he would be the type to have dozens of women after him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:19 PM
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My boyfriend lost his virginity to me at 26. He's attractive (5'11", skinny with muscle, blue eyes and blonde hair) and funny, maybe a bit nerdy but not too much. He's a programmer. AMA I guess 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:48 PM
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We build the adult sets which can take multiple hours and then display them. There's very complex sets that have thousands upon thousands of pieces. People of all ages enjoy LEGOs, his dad (58) is into it too. It's no more childish than grown ass men who buy little figurines to display them. 🤷‍♀️ Like seriously why would you be "worried" about adults enjoying LEGOs? I have other interests like postcard collecting, Magic the Gathering, swimming, plants, thrifting, art... but LEGOs are really nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:13 AM
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My boyfriend is a guy in tech whose main hobby is Pokémon and then LEGOs. 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:28 PM
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I'm not someone who's opposed to age gaps relationships lol I dated a 41 year old for about a year last year at 25. In my experience most of those relationships don't last that long and most older men have a lot of baggage that us younger women don't care about (divorce, multiple kids sometimes with different women, etc etc). Going for a single divorced dad would be settling for me and I'm glad I put an end to this relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 10:39 AM
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I tried dating a man who was 41-42 at 25 and in the end we separated after a year because he was goimg through divorce (already separated) and had two kids and I just wasn't ready for all the baggage. If he didn't have any baggage I would have probably stayed, otherwise divorced with kids ain't for me. I found a man my age instead, and he has a higher libido which can keep up with mine. 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 10:34 AM
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Those elderly men are probably very happy that they get to have sex with or even spend time with young women in a significant way... sure some of them are true victims but I think they 100% know what's going on in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 10:23 AM
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Well flashing your boobs to random people is generally viewed as exhibitionism and not something you should do to people who haven't consented to it. Also... if the couple are both into exhibitionism and go to nude beaches TOGETHER, that's their thing. Why do you care if other people have different boundaries than yours ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:22 PM
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Dude we were literally in an open relationship at the beginning and he never actually cared to explore. I am not the most monogamous person and not jealous sexually. He knows this. He just has no desire to "sow wild oats" or whatever. He was the one who wanted commitment actually. Yeah I know, crazy how a man can want commitment and settling down.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:10 PM
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I have told him he can explore if he wants to and he doesn't. I'm not gonna force the guy to fuck other women if he doesn't want to. 😂 I've offered threesomes too and he doesn't care about those either. He repeatedly told me he only wants me. He has a folder of videos and pics of me that he masturbates to. Like... idk man the guy is smitten. I cater to all his kinks, we sext a lot, I do everything he likes, we have sex multiple times a day when we can... realistically not a lot of women do this.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:48 PM
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I have told him several times that he can have all the fun he wants. We could always be swingers later in life as well. He really seems to have no interest though and I won't try to force it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 03:44 PM
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Yeah cause at the time I wanted sex not a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:50 PM
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The same beta male that makes me cum multiple times when we have sex when all supposed ''Alpha'' males have never once made me cum... yeah right. HAHAHA None of the men I slept with casually were better than him in bed, not even close. And they had a long list of red flags outside the bedroom, so not good for anything more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:31 PM
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You're taking this way too seriously dude, I just wanted to emphasize that I've got way more experience than him that's all. ''lol'' is used as punctuation nowadays and not like it was originally meant to be used.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:24 PM
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Nope a lot of those experiences included women. I've also had three female partners, all casual. I dated a woman but we never got to the sex part. My boyfriend is the only guy I dated with visible abs. He is blonde with blue eyes, 5'11". Pretty conventionally attractive except he's not the bulkiest (which I love). The guys I had casual sex with ranged from average to above average... however to be frank none of them were exceptionally good looking/out of this world except maybe one who was a mil…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:59 AM
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My boyfriend was a virgin when we met and I had several casual partners (plus threesomes and one foursome lol) and two other serious relationships before him. He is the very best partner I've had in every way. He's a good communicator, generous, kind, not jealous at all, funny, good-looking, a good cook, family-oriented... and on top of that we have lots of things in common including life goals and values. Sexually he checks all my boxes and more. The sex with him - someone who was a virgin unti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:28 AM
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That says way more about men than it does about women. Also I seriously doubt Chad is going after 2s and 3s. He's probably at least going after average women, which isn't that weird at all. Most of the guys fucking multiple women aren't 10s. They're above average sure, but not perfect models either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:17 PM
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Men don't find women who have a lot of casual sex attractive, yet they want women to give THEM (and only them) casual sex. Make it make sense please. I love sex when I'm attracted to the man physically and emotionally. I was once on a week long trip with my boyfriend and I think we banged 3 times a day on average, sometimes more. I've never had a high libido like that with anyone else, and the reason my libido is so high is because my boyfriend cares about giving me lots of orgasms and he knows …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 12:11 PM
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I mean it's what FWB are for no? If I score a very good lay I want a second experience usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:30 PM
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Usually everything that is "above average" tends to be considered better - like bigger boobs, or bigger asses. I'm gonna be frank. As a bi woman I don't like tiny boobs (A cups and below), flat asses on either gender and tiny dicks (like below 3"). It's a preference like any other. I like my women voluptuous and I like feeling something during sex. A lot of small penises cannot do some positions also, or they would always slip out... I think it's pretty obvious why women don't like micropenises.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:53 AM
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Exactly. The number of men who fetishize feet is way higher than women who do the same, for example. Personally I like certain body parts on a man (forearms especially) but it's nowhere near the level of a fetish for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:34 AM
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And also I don't know a lot of my ex's body counts except for the ones that were virgins cause it was obvious. I think no man has ever asked me for a number in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 02:02 PM
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I know I'm an outlier but I'm bisexual, dominant and into pegging and feminization on men so... hell yeah I'm into bi men, whether they're feminine, bottoms, whatever I don't care. A lot more men are bi than y'all probably realize too, or at least have had encounters with men. Some of them have admitted it to me after I said I'm ok with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 04:12 AM
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Honestly none of the bi men I know are particularly masculine, not super fem either but not that masculine definitely. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 04:02 AM
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Hook-ups are mostly a college-age thing for the vast majority of women. I don't know many women who are hooking up in their 50s.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:42 AM
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Because I want a best friend I can have sex with regularly who will always be there for me whether it's 2 AM and I need to go to the hospital or it's 6 PM on a Sunday while watching a TV show together. I've had my fair share of meaningless sex and it's frankly boring. I've had threesomes, hell even a foursome... and yet nothing compares to someone you love making love to you and then cuddling with them afterwards. That is absolutely S-tier shit. I also want to do boring shit like own a house wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:06 PM
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I'm bisexual and I'm attracted to a wide range of women, including sometimes women who are overweight though I will admit it really depends on how the weight is distributed. Everyone's definition of attractive will be different. Frankly I don't get why she is offended that he finds her friends unattractive that's a bonus in my POV since he doesn't think about her friends that way. I would say that most of my friends are average, some are stunning (one is a part time actual model so y'know) and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 10:05 PM
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Happy marriage and easy children seem like a hard combo to get from everyone I see around me. People with one or no children seem to fare better...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:04 PM
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I've told one of my friends that he should go to the gym to lose weight if he wants to get with a non-obese woman, but then again I'm not someone who typically sugarcoats things. Most women due to their upbringing are the opposite and will sugarcoat and avoid talking about looks due to the fear of being mean or being perceived as shallow. I frankly don't care about either. My advice typically is this : - Hit the gym if you're overweight/underweight, get to a normal weight with optional ab defini…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:43 AM
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I certainly believe that but there's no way I believe women with children are happier. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 09:01 PM
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I am personally seeking marriage but 100% unsure about children currently... I feel like children can really change a couple for the worse unfortunately (from my experience observing people having children in my peers).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 06:16 PM
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Honestly married without children would probably be the happiest in my opinion. Dunno if that was concluded though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 05:22 PM
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This says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 04:58 PM
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If he feels good about himself good for him but yeah not my type. Love me some skinny ass dudes!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 11:29 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 11:33 AM
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I'm a woman and the reverse scenario where a man never wants sex with me sounds pretty bad too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:24 PM
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In my experience I was lukewarm about a LOT of my boyfriends at first. In fact I am very rarely 100% smitten at first and if I am it typically involves lovebombing and partners who promise a lot but don't deliver, which sets unrealistic expectations. Real love is way quieter than what we'd like to believe. I am not talking about pure sexual attraction of course that's a bit different.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:36 PM
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He was the one who wanted to wait more than me but it's understandable. He is also my best sexual partner by far and frankly I'm glad I didn't underestimate his lack of experience hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:29 PM
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In an ideal scenario, both people would need to win their partner over, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:03 PM
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I used to sleep with men early, and that got me fuckboys. So I stopped. 😂 Damned if you do damned if you don't I guess. I'm glad my boyfriend doesn't care one bit about my n-count. I don't care about his either. He is glad I have more experience and I am glad he doesn't have more. Works for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:01 PM
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I'm trying to piece out what would be an appropriate timeline for you guys because in a lot of my serious relationships we were friends first and thus didn't involve sex until much later in the relationship. I think I waited 4 dates to have sex with my current boyfriend but he was a virgin before me so in no rush. I think waiting 4-5, maybe 6 dates with a stranger is normal and also quite fast. Most dates last between 2 to 4 hours meaning after 4 dates you have known that person for a maximum of…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:42 PM
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Ya like wtf Margot Robbie is mid. I need to see what the men saying that look like. 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:34 PM
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I wouldn't say I'm only attracted to 5 or 10 percent of men in my age range. I'm passively attracted to most men who have hair, are in decent shape and are well-groomed. I do have a preference for skinny men though. It's not my fault that a lot of men are obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 02:07 PM
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Who would be not mid then? My favorite actress is probably Keira Knightley (Elizabeth Swann in Pirates of the Caribbean). I also really like Sophie Turner. I feel like it's very subjective at this point, they're obviously all gorgeous women and above average by multiple metrics. Some women prefer Thor (who's objectively very attractive), and others prefer Loki (by a large margin in fact lol). Both of these men are gorgeous for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:44 PM
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Pedro Pascal ain't mid to me this is very subjective. Some men say Margot Robbie is mid so I would take those statements with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:30 AM
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20 year olds are still in school in the vast majority of cases, which doesn't appeal to me. I want someone in the workforce. I would say I find a lot of men my age physically attractive, but not a lot of them share my values or want the same things I do. Lots of fuckboys and ''I don't know what I want''/''I want to find myself'' types in their mid twenties. lol This excludes a huge chunk of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 08:34 PM
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I'm 25, I already exclude most men from my attraction pool solely based on age. Any man below, say, 23, is out, and any man above 50 is out. For serious relationships, I would only consider men within my age range so 25-30. That already doesn't leave me with a lot of men. Don't tell me men don't discriminate based on age, because they sure DO.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 08:04 PM
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Good for him!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:36 PM
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Yeah that has always utterly baffled me. Men want women who want sex, but no not like THAT. Your average woman enjoying a threesome probably has a high n-count lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:19 PM
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I didn't know Montreal was known for hot people :]
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:14 PM
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Men typically don't talk about it and don't report it as much as women. A lot of so-called hetero men have privately admitted to homosexual tendencies when they knew they could trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 02:03 PM
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If you were bi you would have less problem dating men, I assure you. Let's compare apples together, hm?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 12:38 PM
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That's also partly because sleeping with women is hard while sleeping with men is the easiest thing ever as a woman. I literally just have to log onto any dating app and say I'm horny. With women it takes WAY more effort. I believe you would be inclined to agree with me here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:18 AM
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As a bi woman, the pool of women I attract is considerably uglier and older (that's not necessarily a bad thing but I'm 25 and would like to date people around my age) than the pool of men I attract, for both long term and short term relationships. I get ghosted a LOT by women, and a lot of them don't even want to consider me because I'm bi. No wonder I'm in a relationship with a man. Online dating women has been a terrible experience all around for me, and has made my self-esteem tank. I'd love…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:12 AM
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I never said anything against that. If men's sole goal is to fuck, then sure. Go ahead and "date" 18 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 01:34 PM
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You're completely ignoring the context. Most people who are dating with the intention of building something long term won't want to sleep with the person ASAP, including men. At 18 she was probably not looking for something serious and thus slept with the dude on the first date. That has been my experience at least. Men who are desperate to sleep with you super fast, regardless of what they look like, often only want to fuck. And that's not what we want, so yeah we wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 01:07 PM
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Maybe when she was 18 and didn't want a LTR she said fuck it and had sex on the first date, which she probably regretted if she's anything like me. At 25 she knows what she wants, and she knows she'll likely get used for sex if she has sex that fast, so she doesn't. Admittedly three months is way too long to wait for me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 10:21 AM
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I've had one in which I was almost certain the guy (who I later learned had a girlfriend) was flirting with me. Here were the signs: purposely forgot stuff at my office so he could stay to talk to me longer (he did it four times and admitted to doing it on purpose) invited me to lunch one on one complimented me on my appearance, my tattoo and what I'm wearing, more than once asked me if I wanted to go bird watching with him one on one was always EXTRA friendly with me in a way that most non-inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:33 AM
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I also think most good men/fathers think like you. Unfortunately pieces of shit have children more often than we would like them to, some of them being worse than others. My own dad was barely there for me, he only paid shit sometimes and never spent time with me as a kid. He barely stays 5 mins at my place now that I'm an adult and we see each other maybe once every few months. It's cool that you're a good dad, good for you. Not all dads are the same. Not all moms either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:39 AM
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So parents should be accountable for their children. I know women who pay child support because they make more than their exes. It's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:05 AM
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I don't care about prostitution unless someone is being exploited or mistreated in some way. More power to these women, sincerely! I know some women who have done milder versions of sex work (aka OnlyFans, stripping) and it was 100% their choice and they liked their work, so I believe it can be fulfilling for all parties involved. Some women also do it part time or to pay for their studies and such. I have also known some sugar babies, and I'd say that they are treated quite well! Lots of sugar …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:13 AM
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Come on girl, this one is actually true lol If I say I'm looking for a hook-up on any dating app, I will get tons of offers from men who'll want to come to my place ASAP. The opposite isn't usually true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:06 AM
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Well lots of people are exhibitionists, men and women. Why not monetize something you already do for free?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:00 AM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:34 AM
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I am now intrigued to see your profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:08 AM
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If you came across a 2 year old unsupervised on the streets you wouldn't care at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:17 AM
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I sincerely don't find it weird unless it's an extreme age gap of like 30+ years or they're specifically going after 18 year olds. I have dated men in their 40s as a 25 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:27 PM
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I don't care about them, they're not the men I'm trying to attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:35 PM
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To be quite honest as a bi woman I've always dreamed of being in a throuple with a man and a woman where all three of us are involved, but I know full well it's more of a fantasy than anything and not a lot of women would be open to it. However the benefits of combining three incomes + having someone else to watch the kids/tend to the house are insane imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:19 PM
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A woman would have to work probably 4x as hard as a man to get anywhere near the same amount of muscle (if possible for her)... so yeah of course. I thought this was so obvious I didn't specify.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 11:58 AM
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On some levels I would say yes, as in bodybuilding women will probably date men in the same scene. Gym rats want to date other gym rats typically, whether they're bodybuilders or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 09:58 AM
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I like dating but it's extremely exhausting. Most people (men and women) are either stringing you along, will ghost or just aren't a match at all in multiple ways despite being good-looking. This means I might go on 10 dates before I get one good one, and for women it's even worse because they end up ghosting me way sooner before we can even arrange to see each other in person. I have almost given up on dating women and just have sex with them when it aligns... so I can understand the men who fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:32 PM
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My boyfriend is the whole package. A family man, kind, generous, attentive, intelligent, supportive, with similar values... and freaking hot too, good at sex, always reciprocates, wants to go for round 2 all the time. I would not have wanted to be FWB with him because I wanna marry him and have lots of amazing sex lol I've literally never met a man that matches my libido and my kinks like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:42 PM
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I have a friend who taught me the basics to fix my car but to be quite frank I just point at the tools and say 'pass me that thing' haha
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:39 PM
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I listen to Johnny Cash and disco music, does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:00 PM
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Q4Everyone : What hobbies are considered cool/interesting for people of the opposite gender to have? My most interesting hobby is postcard collecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 08:49 PM
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A lot of average dudes only want to fuck, the difference is they don't fuck multiple 10s, they fuck multiple average to below average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:00 PM
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How did he play you, and for how long? Was he in a relationship while with you? I'm honestly quite curious because typically cheaters have some form of sketchiness going on as in they don't want to be seen with you in public, have no social media, don't let you meet their family, don't make any future plans, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:43 PM
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That's quite true, but mostly applies to young inexperienced women. However, a lot of men are obvious to the point where their first few messages are "wanna come over?" or they'll straight up send dick pics and explicit stuff. At this point girl if you can't see this one you're blind. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:35 PM
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In my opinion, still doesn't work. Actions are way more telling than words. If he shows up all the time, listens to you, meets your friends and introduces you to his (plus family eventually) and you go on high-effort dates that don't end with sex, then I think you can truly say he's in it for something else. In my experience the fuckboys are very obvious though, and they have a hard time pretending to like you if they don't actually like you. They'll make excuses to cancel all the time, they'll …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 10:20 AM
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It's more like make her want you/desire you. A lot of men unfortunately still send random dick pics and don't know how to properly flirt/escalate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:18 PM
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I almost did not swipe right on a guy I saw for a few months because his profile was just bad selfies and it said ''I'm a goofy guy, love to laugh.'' with a bunch of emojis of things he likes. But he superliked me... so I swiped right to see what's up. Then he sent me three super long messages and lots of gifs. He wasn't ugly or anything but I thought it was extremely low effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:00 PM
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Most men are totally fine with it. I'm looking for something meaningful, not FWB. I want my man, I wanna build a family, have a husband, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:32 PM
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Are you in it only for sexy times though? Cause that's the exact vibe it would give me. Personally I do one phone or Face Time call, then I have an in person date (can be very lowkey like coffee) in a public place and after that we can start going to each other's place. Typically I kiss on the first date and have sex by the 3rd/4th date depending on the vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:03 PM
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The women who want one-night stands probably didn't like fucking you. 😂 Also ass eating is totally cool but that means I get to eat your ass too. And if you want anal better get prepared to be pegged too cause I'm a domme. Most men don't like it but the very few who do are compatible with me. 😌 A lot of women don't want someone they barely know eating their ass and I totally understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:57 PM
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Unfortunately some men are dangerous so I would never agree to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:46 PM
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Why is that a weird thing to say? I legit don't understand. I also understand that you can love your kid even if they aren't the one you first envisioned - it's not black and white. Saying that parents whose kid has cancer (for example) don't "have it worse" is just being blind to reality. Most parents who have children who are severely ill face unique challenges that other parents cannot relate to. I don't understand how any of what I said is controversial, or why illnesses should be compared t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:27 PM
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Idk man, I'm bipolar and I would be disappointed if I had a bipolar kid as in, it sucks to be bipolar. I'm pretty sure no one likes to be mentally ill or handicapped in some form...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:55 PM
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I mean of course, but imo people are allowed to be disappointed that their children didn't turn out like what they hoped for. I bet most people would not be overjoyed to find out that their child has Down Syndrome or that they are missing a leg. It's human nature. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 04:03 PM
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From my POV yes. High maintenance men exist too and I don't want that. I'm a simple gal looking for a simple guy. I already found him so 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:46 PM
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Step 1 : Be Chad. Step 2 : Be very good at sex and a generous lover. Eat pussy. Make her come a lot. No but seriously, most women prefer FWB arrangements to one night stands. Don't lie about your intentions of casual, and invite her out on dates and such, then have sex. No sleepovers. I promise you some women out there are after that, however most casual sex sucks for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:02 PM
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Untrue. This is what young men think they want, and then they get dates, sex, rinse and repeat... and eventually most want something more meaningful. Very few men I spoke with have never been in love or never wanted a family at least one day. The men who are perpetual bachelors aren't very desirable outside of their looks honestly. I feel like the "I only exist to fuck the most women" types of men are utterly boring. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:56 PM
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She most likely just wants something casual, yes. Same thing applies basically. There are hoes from both genders, and I say this without any judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:50 PM
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They are desirable for casual relationships yes, you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:02 PM
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What does that change if ultimately he gets rejected ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:55 PM
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It's very easy to tell. Most fuckboys aren't masterminds who will wait 3+ months to "deceive" you. Fuckboys typically don't care much about you and want to have sex as soon as possible. If a man wants to have the first date at his place : fuckboy. If a man does very little effort for dates or cancels last minute for no good reason : probably a fuckboy. If a man only messages you after 10 PM : fuckboy. If a man turns the conversation sexual all the time and leads with sex : fuckboy. If a man stra…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:52 PM
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Absolutely no one I know irl reads any of my stories, erotica or not, so... I just tell him it's a personal boundary of mine. I have also invented a writing system that only I know and that's just the way I operate. 🤷‍♀️ I like my privacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:55 AM
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As long as it stays in the fantasy realm, what he does with his alone time is personal. I write erotica and he doesn't get to read it, so I am not expecting him to show me his porn history. I'm bisexual and I constantly see hot women out there so I would be extremely hypocritical if I told him to ''not notice'' them. I draw the line at flirting with those women, adding them on socials, etc. Weirdly enough my current boyfriend is way more monogamous than I am and he told me he doesn't see the poi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:23 AM
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My mom is the type of woman who was extremely fulfilled by parenthood because she's just not a career-oriented woman and frankly doesn't have many hobbies besides biking and bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 07:32 PM
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If you marry a competent man you can leave the child with him pretty much anytime guilt free. Some dads are stay at home dads and they are good at it. I know some men like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 06:54 PM
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Not playing with your child at all times is not neglect. If they can play independently from a young age it will benefit them more than harm them. I was an only child to a single mom. Sometimes she told me to go to my room so she could get things done. I had plenty of stuff to do there so I would not bother her. Never did I feel neglected by her. (Sure it's gonna be harder below 3, but after that... kids should be able to play by themselves just fine)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:48 PM
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You're taking the worst of the bunch and painting them all with the same brush. Instead of being mad at regretful parents maybe we could strive to better inform women (and men, but let's be real mostly women) about the realities of childcare and the level of sacrifice needed to be a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:16 PM
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Meh. I met one at work, then another one was a match on Tinder, and another one was someone who randomly messaged me that had friends in common with me on Facebook. For the one I met at work I was the one who originally pursued him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:36 PM
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I managed to find some men who fit my standards. The key is to adhere to those standards myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:13 PM
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Yeah. People need to have standards man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:59 PM
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Those are all valid reasons to regret having children. Maybe two things can be true at once: you can love your children and want the best for them while still regretting your choice overall. People regret things all the time. Why is this any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:37 PM
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Most men who want children want them in a passive way, whereas women who want kids want them in a very active way. This might be why men think we want children more. Childfree women are also typically more vocal about it than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:30 PM
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I am not overworked, nor underpaid. I have about 50k in savings, live comfortably and go on trips. I wanna keep doing that, while owning a house. And I want to do whatever I want with my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:27 PM
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Life is way more complicated than that holy shit. A lot of people there are in abusive relationships or relationships where the man does fuckall. Or they have high needs children with autism or other developmental disorders/mental health problems. A lot of women also develop postpartum depression, or postpartum anxiety or even psychosis. Have a little empathy please. This was very sad to read from another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:21 PM
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I'm not like that... so maybe you should find better women? 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:18 PM
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Precisely.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:28 AM
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I already work full time. Why would I want another full time job (parenting) on top of that? Also y'all should check out r/regretfulparents... it's way worse when you regret HAVING them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:26 AM
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Not OP, but travel, eat at restaurants, go for walks, get a dog, and maybe even reitre in another country!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:26 AM
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It's a matter of logistics. A woman making minimum wage can probably not survive on her own in 2025 in most developed countries. She's probably already living with roommates. If she chooses to be in a relationship, it would benefit her most if the man she's seeing makes more than her and can elevate her standards of living. Honestly I see nothing wrong with that from an outsider's point of view. The woman might contribute something else to the household while the male partner pays for most expen…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:19 AM
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Men, stop dating broke ass women. If she makes minimum wage and you make triple what she does, yeah chances are she'll want you to foot the bill most times. It's typically not a problem when she makes roughly the same amount as you, which happens quite frequently nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:11 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 05:20 PM
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That has not been my experience with gay men... some of them are the most "metrosexual" I have met. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:55 PM
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Gay men also take care of themselves more and tend to be more in shape. Maybe this might explain why.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:23 PM
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I look at couples around me all the time and I see looksmatches everywhere, with very few exceptions. Don't forget that for all female flaws, there exists a male equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:30 AM
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Honestly what differentiates a 6 from a 7 ? I feel like at this point it's so subjective that one person's 6 might be another person's 7 or 8 and vice versa. I will concede that typically you can tell if someone's very high on the scale or at the very bottom, but I believe the differences between one point are mostly a matter of personal preference and cultural bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:58 AM
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Ah, I mean I believe I did one or two activities like those for free yes, mainly swimming and dancing, and they were done when I was a bit older. Maybe it's because English is not my first language but to me that sort of activity where you're driving your kids to practise all the time is very expensive (like hockey for example, which is super popular in Canada).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:30 AM
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I still prefer the experiences I get as an adult over those I got as a child. The amount of time I spend thinking about my childhood is extremely minimal, and I am simply grateful I had a loving mom, friends, some cake at my birthday and lotsssss of wonderful sleepovers, bike rides and trips to the lake. My family sent me to college by collecting cans (worth 10 cents each) and putting all the money in a fund. IMO there's something to be said about simplicity, minimalism, trying to be content wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:01 AM
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I responded to a comment that said that parents that don't do extracurriculars are shitty, and you're butthurt because you think I'm attacking you for being rich? At the end of the day, do whatever you want with your kids and I'll do whatever I want with mine (or with my plants most likely).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:59 PM
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I always feel like an outlier on these threads because when I'm truly attracted to a man, I often have a higher drive than him. I want sex everyday, multiple times a day (if we have the time of course). I want to cuddle with him all the time, hold hands, kiss him, bite him, just be with him at most times doing whatever. I very easily get obsessed though, but if I like you I REALLY like you. You'll get gifts, little notes, texts, baked brownies... and lots of sex. Some of the replies here are hon…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:53 PM
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Some men don't like post-birth bodies period, no matter if the woman remains resonably thin or not. Also the same percentage of men are obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:40 PM
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Where in the world can you do this? Here in Canada with our housing crisis it's almost unheard of for women to not be working, however we get paid maternity leave for a year. Childless women staying at home is something reserved for the extremely rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:22 PM
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I think situationships can be a happy middle road when both people fully understand what it entails.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:07 PM
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Yeah that would explain it... I am from Quebec. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:06 PM
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IDK man, my mom was poor and instead of her paying thousands to put me into sports I biked around, went to the pool and on canoe trips with friends and had a BLAST. I love the fact that my mom taught me to be happy with less & live frugally. As an adult I have plenty of cool hobbies, friends and a decent career. Not getting into extracurriculars wasn't the end of the world, and I feel like it's an extremely priviledged position to hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 08:28 PM
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I mean I was poor, raised by a single mom. I learned early in life that I couldn't get everything I wanted and I think it left me with way better values in the end. Now I am 25, very responsible with money, have no debt, lots of savings and I am strongly thinking of not having kids and if I do I will raise them how I was raised : with the minimum. Because kids need LOVE, a decent place to live, and food on the table. And yes they need to be entertained but not 24/7, and they do NOT need to be to…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:39 PM
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I have found an incredible man on all fronts... it's going well and it's been almost three months now. Met his mom, grandma and I will meet his friends this weekend. He's super sweet and offers to wash the dishes when he comes to my place, gives A1 oral sex and will watch Mulan AND Star Wars with me. We have very niche interests in common, similar values and goals... and he's hot. And he wants sex super often which is something important to me. He's the only guy to ever request a round 2 right a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:16 PM
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Idk, I grew up poor and "back in my day", I took my bike to go to the park or to see my friends. My mom's car didn't work half of the time, or she was too busy with work. I think driving your kids everywhere is a privilege and it shouldn't be an expectation. There is public transportation available for kids, they can take their bikes around the neighborhood, etc. When they're under 5 they don't need much more than a couple of activities outside and something creative to do (like drawing/painting…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 04:41 PM
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A lot of men lie and say they want something long term when in reality they want sex only. It happened to me. I have at least two men I slept with that have acted weird right after they got what they wanted, but they technically said they wanted something more. We waited, although at some point I'm not about to wait three months either. If their intentions were clear I would not have had sex with them. Actually both of them were quite average in bed, nothing special, so I would not have slept wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:14 AM
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I'm a woman with two boyfriends. It works for us, for multiple reasons. I know that eventually I'll have to choose between one of them, but for now I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 10:02 PM
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Polyandry is where women date multiple men...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:40 PM
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I'm gonna be honest, I prefer having sex with women rather than LTRs because a lot of them have extremely high standards and I end up only matching with women I'm not attracted to. A lot of the lesbians ditch me once they know I like men and that I'm poly. I'm seen as a red flag by like 90% of bi/lesbian women. However I have dated a girl, it was just a 2 month situationship thing, and I was in love with a girl when I was younger (15). It's not all black and white. I've had surprisingly more luc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 04:19 PM
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This is a normal thing that happens to men and women, not just women. When the honeymoon period is over sex decreases UNLESS both people make an effort to keep the flame alive!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:03 PM
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Yeah, well I'm a woman and my ex (a man) was more like what you describe. He was constantly on my case because I didn't clean "properly". 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:59 PM
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I hire a cleaning lady because I hate cleaning. I get my groceries delivered. I cook very simple meals. If everyone did that there would be way less arguments because of chores. The secret is to not be an absolute slob.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 11:54 AM
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I mean men LIE about being with multiple women all the time. This is how it goes. Most women are often not consciously dating men who are dating multiple women at once and they would ditch the men once they know he was lying about being exclusive with them. Most women don't like meaningless hook-ups so "Chad" has to lie in order to get what he wants 9 times out of 10. I don't have this problem because I'm poly, but it's pretty bad in the """monogamous""" world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:33 AM
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The guys are usually already posting their names, city and profession plus pictures on dating apps, which are public already. I don't really get your point if the guys are already sharing that info with thousands of users on Tinder, FB dating, Hinge, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:51 PM
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This is absolutely disgusting and I don't condone that. It's against the rules in the one group I am subscribed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:52 PM
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Poly and I typically cap out at 3, 2 is the best scenario though which is what I currently have right now. Everyone is aware of everyone and it simplifies everything that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:04 PM
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To be quite frank I work 35 hours a week and I would never entertain dating someone who doesn't share a similar schedule as time is more important to me than money will ever be, MD or not. People who do shift work on rotation seem to have it just as bad. I personally couldn't deal with it, however I don't think it means that nobody could, or should. I suspect that the people residents attract are other residents or high achievers of some sort, so they would probably understand the struggles bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 03:38 AM
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9 inches would actually hurt me too much, I've tried it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:58 AM
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I make an above average salary for my age and have my own place, my own car, no debt, etc. With all that said, considering the state of the economy, life is simply better on two incomes and I would love to be with someone who shares my view of finances and who wants to invest with me and own property with me. From my experience, a lot of men insist very firmly to pay in the courting phase. I've been on maybe 10 dates during the time I was single and none of them wanted to go 50/50 even when I pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:20 AM
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They'll probably lie about it let's be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:04 PM
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He's at the very least in his early 20s and physically fit, so just with that - above average since the average male in the West is chubby/fat. A ''feminine face'' implies soft features which are harmonious. I'd give him at least a 6 based on that description alone, but it's entirely possible that he has other features that make him uglier.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 02:14 AM
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Oh I mean that's technically what I'm doing (ENM), I just wanted to say that most bisexual people are monogamous and implying they're not by default is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:46 AM
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I'm very feminine and also a domme... it has nothing to do with being masculine. But anyways. You'd probably be my type is what I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:44 AM
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I'm honestly puzzled as to why you need to hire escorts. I mean you do you and I don't judge you for that but you seem attractive enough to have ''normal'' women desire you, and you seem like you enjoy being more submissive than dominant, and domme women love your type of physique usually. Just sayin'.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:33 AM
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Should I then just date two people at the same time? You're pretty much implying that bi people ''need to fuck both sexes'' at all times to be entirely satisfied which is honestly, not how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:29 AM
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I'm a woman. I write erotica and watch porn. It's purely a fantasy thing that I do for myself to satisfy kinks or desires that my SO cannot satisfy (i.e. I'm bi and mostly watch porn with women in it). My SO satisfies maybe 90% of my sexuality and the other 10% is something I'd rather do all on my own. Sometimes I read erotica between two monsters or robots fucking (because why not), it's not real and it's not something that I wish would happen to me irl necessarily... it's fake, it's pretend, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:02 AM
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It's probably English-majority speaking countries let's be real.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:59 PM
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Yeah but they're not dating 10s so it doesn't count!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:57 PM
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I absolutely agree that this is bonkers, and a slippery slope to much worse in the future. Is it all anime porn or the pedo-adjacent shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:47 PM
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I'm genuinely worried for some people here 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:45 PM
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Only very hardcore feminists are against sexy booby characters in video games and hentai, unless we're talking lolicon/shotacon (ew).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:19 AM
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Objectification would be solely seeing a woman in a sexual light with an emphasis on her body parts. The male equivalent exists, and sometimes some women will treat men as (basically) walking dildoes or ATMs. Men usually like that (well the dildo part), or pretend to, whereas women generally don't. If a man treats me as a whole human being and wants to get to know me outside of the fact that I have boobs and a vagina then he's not objectifying me, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:15 AM
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Nice coming out post OP, I'm proud of you. No but is this really for real? Sometimes the takes on this sub are so wild I can't believe someone actually sat down and wrote them seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:51 AM
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Most women want relationships and would see the non-commitment as a red flag was my point. It's not really a nice thing to view you as a slut but hey if YOU happen to like it - or not mind it - more power to you (I say this sincerely). I don't think wanting sex only is a bad thing, so long as you make your intentions crystal clear. Ultimately you are right, most men do suck at sex, mostly because they only prioritize their pleasure. I wouldn't say most men have "hard" red flags (i.e. abusive, ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:04 AM
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If a random person comes up to you and says ''fuck off you piece of shit'' you would probably find this at the very least unusual, no? I'm not talking about someone being slightly passive-agressive or forgetting to say ''please'' and ''thank you'' here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 07:15 PM
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Sex between two individuals requires both people's consent, and can't be applied in a context of two random strangers like basic decency can. I feel like offering basic human decency is just common sense. It's an unwritten social practise that's fairly universal. I have never seen any civilized society that actively promotes rude behavior in public. I bet you already treat the vast majority of people with basic human decency because you're not a degenerate loser, however you don't expect everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:53 PM
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Wait this is an actual question? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:25 PM
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It would be perceived as being negative by some women there. And I know about ghosting I'm quoting some verbatim shit I've read there lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:52 AM
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K.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:12 PM
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Huh, most people work 8-4 where I'm from, this is the norm. Date nights would be dinner dates and would make us skip the cooking and dishes so it's overall a win-win. Also a date night could be literally watching a movie cuddled up at home while eating some snacks. It doesn't have to be expensive, and nor do gifts. Personally my boyfriend gave me a 3D printed sword and candy and I was over the moon!!! ''A human being with his own time to spend''... well then don't be in a relationship living wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:58 PM
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What else is asked?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:47 PM
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It really depends. Some reviews are ''A bit arrogant, not that interesting, but a good lay. Ghosted me for a week. If you want a good time go ahead, no true red flags''. So I guess it depends what they're looking for. Judging by your flair you wouldn't mind this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:34 PM
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I've never had a problem with reciprocation myself. I make handmade cards for the birthdays, when they're sick I make a 'survival kit' with things they like and medicine, I write them letters, I give little papers in a box with compliments on them as gifts, etc... y'all should raise your standards too, you know? I don't think I'm that special.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:27 PM
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I don't know if I've just been extremely lucky, but most men I have dated have been the typical 'gentleman' type who take me out to dinners, give me gifts, offer me massages, open the door for me, etc etc. My first boyfriend was ''bad with gifts'' but still gifted me stuff on my birthday and at Christmas, because I asked him to and he never complained. It's really, really not as hard as it might seem. When you like someone, you listen to them and what they want and it just becomes a second natur…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:18 PM
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I'm a fanfic writer and 100% agree with you. However, the things she's asking for (i.e. more date nights, little gifts, words of affirmation) aren't that out there or difficult to do, they're pretty much the bare minimum in a long term relationship although of course gifts could be replaced with little notes or drawings or whatever works best for both partners. This is what keeps the romance alive, just like regularly having sex keeps the sexual spark alive!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:00 PM
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You're assuming most women have ridiculously high body counts because you would probably take advantage of sleeping with many women if you could do it without any effort, but this is statistically improbable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 07:01 PM
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And plenty of men have raped, abused and cheated on women. This will continue to happen, whether apps exist or not. There are crazy people of both sexes, I'm well aware. Y'all can make the same apps if you want to, but I just know you will share nudes on it instead of warning your bros to stay away from the crazies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:59 PM
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I really doubt someone I've seen/dated would have much to say about me that the people I care about don't already know. My ex already turned some people against me irl and, well, I'm thriving more than ever right now. It doesn't matter in the end. Petty bullshit like that can't make me lose my job or lose any meaningful relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:33 PM
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I'm aware that some people abuse it, just like people abuse every system ever, it's a risk of using social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:23 PM
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My own dad has probably called me worse shit than anyone on the Internet, so at some point you just... don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:21 PM
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Hell yeah I would be okay with that. As a bi woman there are bad women out there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:15 PM
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If you put your whole ass name next to your picture and the name of your job on social media you're doxxing yourself already.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:11 PM
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This ain't surveillance, they're posting on a public platform. If you are worried about surveillance I suggest you cut your credit cards and delete/limit all social media and other online presence, and also dump your smartphone and get a flip phone instead. I could just as easily warn all my girl friends of my abusive ex by showing them a picture I kept on my phone and it would accomplish something similar if they then passed that information on. We just have more tools to do it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:09 PM
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Well yeah obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:05 PM
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Well you don't seem to be getting mine either it seems, so oh well. I said ''less dates'' not ''no dates'', and you can be attracted to someone while refusing to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:19 PM
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It's not meant to change them, it's meant as a warning for other women, for those like myself who wish to avoid those types of behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:40 PM
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If she's having sex on the first dates she's going about it in a weird way in my opinion. Yes of course there are exceptions, but usually you will find better results if you wait a bit before getting sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:30 PM
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There's a lot of posts that are posted with proof too, and a lot of posts about exposing cheaters, it's not all just rape allegations you know? Those are actually a very tiny percentage of what gets posted there. On the groups I've seen, 70% is just about classic fuckboy/lovebombing behavior, which is a mild red flag compared to other shit. 25% is about cheaters and maybe 5% is about actual dangerous men that stalk, abuse and rape, or who have a history of being a convict (you can google their n…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:04 PM
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I never denied it happens. It's unfortunate that false accusations exist, 100%. They would still exist without those apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 12:56 PM
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Usually there aren't as many benefits to falsely accusing your average Joe of such offenses I believe. In any case we're probably never gonna see eye to eye on this issue. When multiple women comment non-anonymously I'm usually more inclined to believe it vs when it's just people anonymously commenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 12:49 PM
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Which tyranny are you speaking of exactly? The only thing it's going to cause is less dates for fuckboys probably. Boohoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 12:40 PM
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Genuinely good and honest men have nothing to fear from these websites in the vast majority of cases. Lots of cheaters were exposed, though, and the taken women were warned. That's a good thing. I would be okay with a platform like that warning about crazy women and cheaters (they're definitely out there don't worry, I know, I'm bi and am fully aware that both sexes can be dangerous in their own ways) so of course I am okay with the reverse. Some women posted about being violently assaulted or h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:23 AM
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Not a lot of virgins to choose from at 26, not where I'm from at the very least. It's not a religious place. In any case I'm glad we found each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:13 AM
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You're probably not gonna believe me but here goes... the guy I'm seeing right now was a virgin before me and he's literally the best I've had. Why ? Because he LISTENS and follows my lead 100%, and he takes my pleasure into account and makes sure I orgasm at least once every time. I can't say the same for most men I've been with unfortunately. So if a virgin can be that good, anyone with experience certainly can. You can learn most sex acts with the right guidance, it's a skill like another.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:05 AM
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Maybe you're the best of them all and she will want to stay with you long term whereas she ended it early with the other men because they didn't know what they were doing. Been there done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 07:22 PM
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I've had casual sex, and to be frank it's not all that great. Most of the time the men don't care much about my pleasure. I prefer having sex with someone I've known for a while, be it with a friend (FWB) or in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:41 PM
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Some women, such as myself, prefer submissive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:14 PM
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I'm a woman who regularly gives out compliments to basically everyone regardless of whether I'm attracted to them or not and I've only ever had positive feedback. I encourage women to do it as well, but be prepared to have some men assume you're into them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:35 PM
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That has to be incredibly rare though, I hope you realize that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:15 PM
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7,5% Let's face it, the score went down because I ticked 'exclude obese'.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:35 AM
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