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| 0 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted? | Question For Men | Brilliant-Block-8200 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:24 PM |
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| – | Can you explain why women like romance so much?It does if your partner genuinely loves you. My husband and I BOTH frequently do these things for each other because we enjoy it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/26 10:42 PM |
| – | Can you explain why women like romance so much?Same here! One of the biggest reasons I’m with my husband is because of how playful and whimsical he can be. He adores the sappy shit (ngl I’m not into that much, but it makes him SO happy so 🤷♀️). We do dumb romantic things for each other and enjoy it together. It’s honestly like a breath of fresh air | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/26 10:37 PM |
| 1 | No one is entitled to intimacy in marrige, but they are entitled to a healthy relationshipWrong comment, sorry about that! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:38 PM |
| 1 | No one is entitled to intimacy in marrige, but they are entitled to a healthy relationshipYou don’t believe men can be raped? Welp, explains a lot. Take care | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:35 PM |
| 0 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?Then would you at least agree that the criminal justice system needs a reform, ESPECIALLY for sex crimes? That’s literally the bare minimum since rape is hard to prove. Because again, how would you feel if your wife raped you one night but left no visible damage. You go to the police and they laugh in your face. There’s no evidence. You see her pursuing one of your friends. You wouldn’t warn him and would just let him get hurt? That’s not moral at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:27 PM |
| 0 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?Again, what should women do that are raped in a relationship and have no proof? It’s very telling that you refuse to see both sides of this. You only care that a few men won’t be falsely accused and don’t care at all about the women who were raped. I hope your wife knows you hold this view | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:16 PM |
| 0 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?You didn’t read what I wrote at all. I’m not for hunting down the person. They should not lose their job. If they’re fired over an accusation, they should have the right to sue for wrongful termination My point is that we need to look at nuance here. Look at my point about women who are raped by their partner. They’ll likely have no proof. What should they do in your opinion? Can they tell their friends to avoid this man so they don’t risk getting hurt? What if she stays silent and another gets … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:03 PM |
| 1 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?I’ve never said to gather pitchforks and hunt the guy down if it’s not proven lol. Personally I do not believe that should happen. But, I don’t see anything wrong with people choosing to no longer associate with a man that was accused. If I was accused of something (even if I didn’t do it) I would understand why some people wouldn’t want to be around me anymore. I’d hope those in my life would believe me, but I’m not going to force them to stay or be upset if they leave. For protection against f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 02:58 PM |
| 2 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?Because you are quite literally saying you’re ok with a woman suffering and potentially losing her life due to the trauma over a rapist’s feelings. I’m specifically talking about a case where a woman WAS raped and tells people. You just want to shut them up Innocent until proven guilty ONLY applies to the court of law. The public is allowed to have their own opinions. I’m asking you this because I want to know what you’d do. If your wife told you she was raped and was visibly distraught, but had… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 02:33 PM |
| 2 | No one is entitled to intimacy in marrige, but they are entitled to a healthy relationshipThis guy’s allegedly married so 🤷♀️ I hope his wife is taking as much advantage of him as she can ngl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 02:29 PM |
| 1 | No one is entitled to intimacy in marrige, but they are entitled to a healthy relationshipLet’s say you both change, but in different ways and are no longer compatible. You don’t enjoy spending time together. She feels ignored and unloved because you can no longer relate to her. She feels isolated and suicidal due to this. Or what if she was no longer attracted to you? Would you want to force her or shame her into staying? Would you at least try therapy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 02:28 PM |
| 1 | No one is entitled to intimacy in marrige, but they are entitled to a healthy relationshipNo, I’m asking that if she happens to develop PTSD, you would feel absolutely nothing for her? If so, you need to be honest that you don’t care about her at all so she can make an informed decision Would you be alright in a relationship where your wife secretly laughs and is happy when you’re in pain? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 02:26 PM |
| 1 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?So what’s the alternative that’s not just sweeping the victim under the rug? If this was your wife or sister, how would that make you feel? Or would you just happily watch them suffer since it doesn’t affect you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?Then sure. Not his fault and his heart’s in the right place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 04:51 AM |
| 2 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?Ok, but why is he doing this? It can’t be for financial reasons if he can cover the kid. I guess, how does he feel about magically not being able to pay for the woman? Does it bother him and would he do EVERYTHING else possible to help out? This is honestly what it would hinge on for me on whether I’d agree to this. Why is this happening and how does he feel about it/would he do everything in his power to help? If it were completely out of his control, but it distresses him that he can’t help an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 04:46 AM |
| 1 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?So you’d make a joke out of your wife’s trauma. Perfect example of someone that sees their wife as an object/toy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 04:35 AM |
| 6 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?So would he watch as both her and his own child starve and live on the streets? I’m confused how this would happen in any remotely healthy relationship. Could you elaborate Like, does he own his own place? Does he rent? Why would he not let her (someone he supposedly cares about) stay with him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 04:32 AM |
| 1 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?Yes, replied to the wrong comment 🤦♀️ Sorry about that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 04:27 AM |
| 1 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?If your wife was raped, but had no proof, would you just laugh as she suffers and deals with the trauma? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 04:03 AM |
| 0 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?Rape is notoriously hard to prove. If there’s no evidence, what should happen? The victim can never tell anyone? Say your child was raped and murdered and you saw who did it. There was no evidence nor proof except for you. You’d happily live your life and never tell anyone? If you saw that same person around your friend and their child, would you tell them? Or nah cause you don’t have proof? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 04:01 AM |
| 2 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?If someone raped your child, but you didn’t have proof, and you saw this same person hanging around another family and their child, would you say something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:54 AM |
| 1 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?If a woman is raped but has no proof, you believe she deserves to suffer in silence? Why are you wanting to protect rapists? Or what would you say should happen in this situation? Which is very common btw as rape is notoriously hard to prove (very convenient for rapists) Like if your spouse (or sister/close female friend/whatever was raped), would you care? Yes or no? What if she had no proof? Would you just laugh as they suffer from the trauma? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:51 AM |
| 2 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?What if there’s no proof tho? Rape is notoriously difficult to prove. This is very convenient for rapists to get away with it and make victims just stfu | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:49 AM |
| 2 | What would you have preferred instead of MeToo?What do you think should happen if a woman is raped by her then boyfriend, but has no ‘proof’. Is she never allowed to discuss this ever? Rape is notoriously hard to prove so this situation isn’t uncommon. So you’re saying victims that will not have evidence to go through the legal system should be forced to stay silent? Because they will have to live with that trauma every single second of every day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 03:44 AM |
| 2 | No one is entitled to intimacy in marrige, but they are entitled to a healthy relationshipAnd if she develops PTSD from the unwanted sexual acts, what then? Doesn’t matter to you even if her mental health becomes incredibly damaged and potentially tries to end her life? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 12:32 AM |
| 1 | No one is entitled to intimacy in marrige, but they are entitled to a healthy relationshipSo if your wife became miserable and was hating life and was literally suffering, you genuinely believe she should not be able to divorce? You would enjoy watching someone you care about suffer and be unhappy? A bit strange | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 12:30 AM |
| 5 | Men, would you truly be open to a truly egalitarian relationship where neither partner is expected to fulfill a certain role based on gender or traditional gender roles based relationship?Makes sense. I was thinking of a situation where a partner earns maybe half of what their partner does and how that could be ‘fair’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 11:42 PM |
| 11 | Men, would you truly be open to a truly egalitarian relationship where neither partner is expected to fulfill a certain role based on gender or traditional gender roles based relationship?What do you do if your partner has no left over money after splitting 50/50 with you? Do you never go on dates or trips together? Seems weird that you wouldn’t want to enjoy those things with your partner if they can’t afford it, but 🤷♀️ This is only healthy if you exclusively pursue women that make relatively the same. Otherwise, you’re admitting that you’re fine with them being stressed and struggling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 11:36 PM |
| 5 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?Just to be clear, do you not believe in caring for a partner? It’s just 100% transactional with no emotions or attachment? Most neurotypical people do not think this way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 07:45 PM |
| 7 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?What would happen in a situation where the woman falls suddenly ill or injured? Would the man abandon them and let them be homeless? The situation you’re presenting would not happen in a healthy relationship where both partners care about each other’s wellbeing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?I don’t think it’s a majority of men tbh. I think it’s a loud amount of men chronically online and likely neurodivergent (and not saying neurodivergent people can’t be decent people. I’m neurodivergent as well. But a lot of men’s thinking here heavily falls into black/white thinking and genuinely not being able to understand relationships and social settings) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?This. Like…aren’t relationships give and take because you care about the person? If my partner lost his job, I’d cover for him because I care about him. I’d expect the same in turn. I feel like OP is trying to make this out like women are just after money. But….you typically have to eventually use money on someone you care about because unexpected events happen. This question just isn’t being asked in good faith | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?If you’re married, what happens in a medical emergency? Would you just watch your spouse and be like ‘lol not my problem’? At that point, that’s not really a relationship where you care about each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you?Genuinely, what is the point of this question? If you were a woman that would be enduring pregnancy and birth, what would your answer to this question be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis?I don’t think a lot of those women would be freaking out if their partners still frequently desired and had sex with them tho. I’ve known a couple women who actually had to borderline beg for their partners to be intimate with them (and no, these women didn’t let themselves go and they were not ones with low drives). If you choose porn over having sex with your partner or are actively fantasizing about another person during sex (or choose to masturbate with a toy over having sex), your partner i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 04:11 AM |
| 0 | Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis?Initially, smaller (because it’s the toys I’d just had at the time). Now I literally have a mold of his dick 🤷♀️ It’s nice but it doesn’t compare to actual sex at all. It’s not comparable at all, sex with my husband is way more pleasurable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 04:05 AM |
| 2 | It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it tooYou didn’t answer my question tho. If she didn’t want to, would you still want her to say yes even if she wouldn’t enjoy it? I’d assume most people would want sex where BOTH people are enthusiastic and enjoying it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/26 08:16 PM |
| 2 | It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it tooYou would want a woman to say ‘yes’ even tho she doesn’t want to do it/or can’t do it without getting hurt? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/26 05:13 PM |
| 0 | It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it tooDo you have a source that only 10% of women don’t do hookups? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 11:39 PM |
| 0 | It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it tooNot religious, but interesting that’s your assumption | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 11:39 PM |
| 3 | It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it tooSo again, how does this apply to women that have never done hookups? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 01:32 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.You’re being purposefully dense. Do you not talk about contraception or STDs prior to having sex? If you don’t discuss what will happen if an accidental pregnancy happens (ESPECIALLY if you don’t wear a condom), you deserve anything that happens after 🤷♀️ A conversation takes 5 minutes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 01:31 PM |
| 3 | It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it tooSo how does this apply to women who don’t do hookups? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 04:52 AM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Yes? I don’t jump into bed with men I don’t know well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 04:21 AM |
| 7 | Preference to not date or marry victims of abuseThis is what I’m wondering too. Interesting he hasn’t addressed this since he’s apparently married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Preference to not date or marry victims of abuseIt really depends on how you word it tho (and yes, how you communicate matters). If you were to just say that you can’t/won’t be able to handle being with someone that’s been through major traumas, no reasonable person will be upset. If you try and make blanket statements like women that have been sexually abused are unloveable and no one wants them, that’s not only problematic, but also incredibly close-minded and ignorant. There’s not really any good reason to even say the latter either unless… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 05:28 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Sure, but let’s say that you have sex and don’t discuss what happens if an accidental pregnancy happens. You’re either in a red state or wouldn’t have an abortion yourself. The man wants nothing to do with it and would prefer you abort. What happens? When this isn’t discussed prior, this can leave A LOT of women in an extremely vulnerable position. Same with the man if he just assumes she would abort. This is EASILY something that could have been avoided with a quick chat and is the responsible … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 12:18 AM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Your choice, but it’d be weird to be upset if you later find out that their views differ from yours 🤷♀️ Do you not have conversations to get to know your partners? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 12:06 AM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Mature people? It’s how you make sure you’re compatible and on the same page. You shouldn’t be having sex with people if you can’t have a conversation with them, tho people will anyways and wonder why things turned out wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 11:16 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.And that’s fine. But don’t claim that it’s not about trust, because it is. If you even think there’s a possibility your partner would cheat, you don’t fully trust them. And that’s fine, just be honest and admit that I’m not saying YOU specifically if this doesn’t apply to you. But in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 09:28 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.It does tho. Because you can’t say it’s not about trust or thinking she cheated if that’s literally one of your reasons for requesting one. At least be honest. It IS about a lack of trust and you DO at least think there’s a possibility she cheated if you want a paternity test for a reason other than a genuine mixup at the hospital I don’t understand why it’s so bad to admit this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 09:22 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Are those your genuine concerns when asking for a paternity test? And the possibility that she cheated isn’t even considered at all, and you have COMPLETE trust in her? I’m asking for completely honestly on your perspective since I’m curious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 09:14 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Genuinely, what are the risks OTHER than the hospital potentially fucking up that do not involve her cheating? I’m not being snarky, I’m serious The ONLY way it could come back negative is if she cheated, correct? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 09:03 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Thank you for being honest. This does still seemed skewed so the woman in this situation is technically in a lose-lose either way (either she stays unhappy or she’s selfish and doesn’t care). But to each their own | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 08:52 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.So then, what should she do in that situation that ISNT selfish to you? That’s what I’m curious about. Are the options her stay and be unhappy or leave and you see her as selfish? If this was your partner, what would you prefer them to do that wouldn’t have you think they’re being selfish (I’d assume you wouldn’t want her to be unhappy either) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 08:45 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.My question goes beyond this tho. Again, say she communicates with him and wants this to work. Does everything she can, therapy, couple’s counseling, you name it. And she still feels hurt and can’t get over those feelings and can’t feel emotionally safe with him again so matter what she tries. What should happen? Not everything can be worked through and overcome with therapy or communication. So in that scenario, what can she do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 08:37 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Again, you aren’t actually answering my question. So let’s reframe-she wants to support her husband. She understands why it’s important to him. But she still feels hurt by the lack of trust. How would YOU say that she can prioritize her husband while feeling hurt and betrayed? You keep saying her leaving isn’t a problem but then immediately say that she’s being essentially selfish. So what’s the option if her staying and being unhappy and her leaving are both her being essentially selfish? She’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 08:30 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.You’ve never actually answered what I’m asking tho. I asked you specifically about the woman in that situation and you completely ignored it So again—if a woman prioritizes her husband’s request even tho it hurts her, and is unable to overcome that hurt and cannot feel emotionally safe with him again, what should she do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 08:14 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.So you want to manipulate the woman into staying? Genuinely why does it bother you SO much that a woman might leave if something crosses her boundary? You are inherently incompatible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 08:07 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.But is he being honest? That’s what matters. If the ONLY REASON you’re asking is because you suspect a hospital mixup, then you’re right. If it’s for any other reason, you should be honest and not lie by omission to your wife. It’s interesting how you avoid answering what a woman should do if she feels betrayed and just switched goals. It’s like it just doesn’t matter to you Do you think a woman is in the wrong for feeling hurt that her partner needs confirmation she didn’t cheat? I’m not compar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 08:02 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.No, I mean what would you think of a situation where a man asks, the woman agrees, it’s his, and she is hurt and cannot overcome that even with therapy and couples counseling. What can she do that would be ‘right’ in your eyes? Or is the only way she wouldn’t be ‘selfish’ would be to just stop feeling that way to not inconvenience the man? Because the options quite literally come down to either stay and continue being hurt/unhappy throughout the marriage or to divorce. Because again, she can agr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:56 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Yeah, I don’t think that kind of betrayal is something that can ever be fully mended. Cheating in general can’t. But in this case, the best we could do is prison + giving his money back. I don’t feel like this should be controversial | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:45 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I just don’t agree that a woman sticking to her boundaries means that she doesn’t care about her partner. Some hurts will NEVER go away no matter how much you love that person. Feelings cannot always be reasoned with, especially a betrayal like that. Like let’s say a man asks for a paternity test and his wife say ok. She stays. But she continuously feels hurt when the results proved that he’s the father because she never would’ve cheated. She feels betrayed that he viewed her that way or even su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:43 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, I’d still need more details. Were they toxic? Would he be at risk? Is she unstable? Are they still friends? Why haven’t I heard of them before? All of this is pretty relevant. Like, I know my husband’s personality and he would hate doing something like that. So him asking would literally mean his personality did a 180 and that’d be what’s actually alarming But as for what you are trying to get at, I trust him. I don’t immediately assume he’d cheat because I trust him. If he ever did beha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:38 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I was talking about my situation since you asked what I would do. My husband genuinely has no exes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:32 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I feel like you aren’t reading what I’m writing. Where did I say that women shouldn’t let or allow her partner to get a paternity test? Her feelings aren’t overriding you unless she tries to prevent you from getting one. I’ll say it again. I would not try and stop my husband from getting one if he felt that unsure. I would not fight it. We would do it. Get the confirmation that he’s the father and then end the marriage Also, why would you advocate for men to lie and not be honest? If you lie jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:28 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.But again, why a stranger’s home? How is that not dangerous? Why would you not stay with a trusted friend or family? He would undoubtably question me if I asked as well. How would it be safe for me to stay with a stranger? Why would I be taking that risk when we can afford a hotel? It just makes ZERO sense I just cannot understand how this would happen in my marriage, especially since we have enough money for a nice hotel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:25 PM |
| 3 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, personally I’m not saying that he can’t do the test. He can if he wants that certainty. I will not stop him. But if the reasoning isn’t just that he truly (and honestly) believes the hospital fucked up, I would have to end our marriage (we could still co-parent if he’d want and I wouldn’t ask for anything, just keep what was mine). He’s not in the wrong for asking, but I wouldn’t be compatible with someone who’s asking for any reason other than suspecting the hospital messed up Are you s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:18 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.See, situations like that I can understand and I’m 100% on the side of those men. Paternity fraud IS fucked up and I personally don’t believe that men in that situation should be on the hook for that child and that woman should be in prison and pay the (not)father back the money she took. I know I can’t speak for all women here, and I have seen what you’re talking about, but imo those are women that just want their cake and eat it too. They aren’t decent people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:16 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I’m ngl fam, this conversation was years ago lol. I do remember him saying that he’d leave if he suspected cheated and/or didn’t trust his partner. What the specific details would be if a kid was actually born weren’t really discussed or I’m not able to remember, but the core point was that if he suspected his partner of cheating to the point of asking for a paternity test, there’s no point to continue the relationship. I’ll ask him his thoughts on it again tonight lol Ah, I misunderstood. So ag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 07:12 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.We actually have, not in relation to OUR kids, but this was a topic that came up earlier in our relationship and we were talking about how we saw it. His view was similar to mine, that if he suspected his partner of cheating, he would just leave. He doesn’t see a point in getting a paternity test (talking about himself), and would only see himself asking for both of us if we suspected our baby somehow got mixed up in the hospital. If he asked, I would want an open discussion about it. Why does h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:58 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Yeah, I agree with you. A man should not be criticized if he asks for a paternity test. But I also disagree with the men here who think women are terrible if they breakup over it or are wrong for feeling hurt over the request | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:53 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, that heavily depends on context, doesn’t it? And honestly, I can’t even answer because my husband doesn’t have any exes 😂 So I’m not sure how this would even pan out. The closest is someone he’s been on a date with I guess, but honestly that alone wouldn’t have me thinking he’d automatically cheat I just can’t fathom a universe where this happens in a healthy marriage tho. We discuss EVERYTHING. He’s ALWAYS asking me for input before making any decisions, so are you asking if he asked me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:49 PM |
| 3 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Tbf, I don’t think that most women see asking for a paternity test as immoral. Having it as a dealbreaker doesn’t mean that they see it as immoral, it just means they have a different view on trust. Neither is in the wrong. So he can ask for one, get it done, and she can breakup. But this is also why discussing this ahead of time (if possible) is important to not waste time on someone incompatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:23 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.True, but people not being able to communicate are simply not mature enough to be having sex. Unfortunately, those people will keep making bad decisions and we can’t do much about that. But we can try push this so that more people actually fucking TALK to someone they’re being intimate and vulnerable with. If you can’t talk to them, there’s something seriously wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:21 PM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Yeah, you worded this a lot better than I did tbh. Trust being earned vs being given really just depends on the individual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:20 PM |
| 0 | the birth rate topic is sillyI mean, you realize this can be solved by families having ‘villages’ to help them, right? Or at least available nannies (that’s provided for the parents) when needed. Society also needs to be more geared towards families, such as employers being understanding and accommodating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:18 PM |
| 3 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Eh, I disagree. I see it as fundamentally not trusting your partner. I believe that getting into intimate relationships is inherently a risk you have to take if you want to be in one. Think of all the things that you have to trust but can’t verify. You can never know 100% that your partner still loves you. You can never know if they secretly resent you. You’ll never know if they have a side piece and hide it well. But you trust that you know them. If you suspect something or don’t trust them, yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 05:47 PM |
| 0 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Fam, I have two children with my husband. They are both his as he is the only person I’ve ever been with and want to be with. He could do a paternity test and it would confirm they are his blood. But if he did, that means that on some level he believes that I’m capable of cheating on him and he doesn’t trust me. So that’d be the end of our marriage. So no, I’m not hiding anything. But I will not be in a marriage where my husband doubts my loyalty and does not trust me. I’m not sure why this ange… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 05:43 PM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Fam, our kids are literally my husbands. I’ve never even been with another person but him. But him requesting a paternity test literally means he doesn’t trust me and that he believes I’m capable of cheating. I do not believe that he is capable of cheating, so why would he believe that I am? Luckily he trusts me so this isn’t an issue. But if he’d ask, we’d do the test, he would see the kids are his, and we’d divorce 🤷♀️ There’s no secret and I wouldn’t try to stop him I’m not staying married t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 05:40 PM |
| 5 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.You have a discussion on what their views are. Do you not try and get to know your partner on a deeper level? Asking what their views on abortion or paternity testing isn’t absurd. If you decide to frame it in a stupidly cartoonish way, then of course no one talks like that. But anyone with an oz of social skills can ask very naturally. Bring up a recent case that involves paternity testing, ask them if they’d heard of it, what they think, etc. Like, do you guys really not try and get to know yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:20 AM |
| 7 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean if you change your mind later on, then fine. But you still need to be prepared for and accept that she’ll find it a dealbreaker and you won’t be compatible. That’s why having this discussion early on is important. Both people need to be on the same page If you try and do it behind her back, you are quite literally manipulating her and not letting her make an informed decision on whether she wants to be in a relationship with someone like that. Would you also be fine if your partner was mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:15 AM |
| 9 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.That doesn’t change anything I said tho. The discussion still should be had Like genuinely, are you really just worried that it might put a woman off? Why do you not want a compatible partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:12 AM |
| 5 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.You realize you can have a discussion naturally, right? It’s the same as with abortions. While getting to know each other, you ask them what their opinions are on abortions. If you two are going to be sexually active, you ask what’s the plan if they fall pregnant by accident. You do the same thing with paternity tests. Ask them for their opinion on them. Would they be ok with getting one if an unexpected pregnancy happens. Like, do people not try and get to know their partner’s views on serious … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 06:08 AM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Do you have children? I only ask because I do. Have two. They’re both my husband’s. And you know what? If he asked for a paternity test, then sure we can do that. But it’d also be the end of our marriage since he didn’t trust me. I have no desire to be in a marriage with a man that doesn’t trust me. He’d see that our daughters were his, but we would be over. I have never once even looked at another man since we’ve gotten together. If it’s not about trust, then tell me, how else could they not be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 05:33 AM |
| -1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.It is just down to compatibility tho. There’s really no reason to NOT discuss this when filtering for a partner. What are you worried about? That they’ll walk away? That just means you were never compatible in the first place. So it’s not a loss. It doesn’t require mind reading It seems like you’r just upset that a potential partner may break things off if they disagree about a paternity test. That shouldn’t really be a problem since this is something you both need to be on the same page about. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 05:27 AM |
| 0 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Why not just engage with women that share this view tho? It comes down to compatibility. Some women will find this a dealbreaker and that’s ok. It just means you aren’t compatible with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 05:05 AM |
| 3 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, it mostly has to do with compatibility imo. Personally, I wouldn’t be ok with a partner that feels the need for a paternity test. I trust my partner with a lot, and I expect that same level of trust back. For all know he could cheat on me and give me a dangerous STI, but I trust that that won’t happen. So I expect that same trust back. I don’t fundamentally see paternity tests as a bad thing, but wouldn’t want a partner that would need one. A man who wants a paternity test shouldn’t be w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 05:02 AM |
| 3 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, feeling a certain way isn’t punishing someone. Now if a man absolutely needs a paternity test, and that’s a dealbreaker for the woman, they may split up. But that’s not really a punishment. They are simply not compatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:55 AM |
| 1 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Gotcha. Sorry I was curious 😅 But to answer your question—yes, I can see that they’re comparable in terms of risk involved. Both have trust and uncertainty involved pretty intimately | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:50 AM |
| 4 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.No one reasonable would be against a campaign for that. I certainly wouldn’t. But honestly, it’s weird. OP is just saying that men should be upfront early on if they want a paternity test. Why is that a bad idea? It’s an excellent way to screen women and make sure you’re compatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:49 AM |
| 6 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Why not bring this up early on then? If a woman has a problem with it, you are not compatible and you know you shouldn’t be having sex or getting into a relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:47 AM |
| 3 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, this is exactly why men should bring this topic up early on, and I mean before things get serious or there’s a risk of the woman getting pregnant. If you want a paternity test, you need a woman that sees it the same way. You are not compatible with women that aren’t ok with paternity tests and that’s ok. You won’t be compatible with everyone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:46 AM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, you brought up the bank accounts. Can I see how they are similar? Sure. Can I ask why you’re asking me if I see them as comparable issues? What you choose to do for finances is completely up to the couple. Some people will say to keep separate accounts and others will say a joint is better (me, for example). So it depends. A woman who insists on separate accounts needs to find a man that wants the same. Just like how a man that wants a paternity test needs a woman that also wants that as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:43 AM |
| 3 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.I mean, sure. But my point is that this is a point of compatibility. Which is why it needs to be discussed in advance before the relationship gets serious. If you want to have separate bank accounts and your partner wants only a joint, you aren’t compatible. No one’s in the wrong The same applies here. If a man knows he’s going to want a paternity test, he needs to find out the woman’s views on it. He needs a woman that sees it the same way. If he purposefully waits until she’s pregnant, then he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:36 AM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.We did initially, but we eventually settled into just the one joint account after almost a year (his idea) As for why we didn’t immediately do only a joint account, at the time neither of us had ever been in this committed of a relationship and didn’t know what we were supposed to do in terms of handling finances (didn’t have good parental figures to base off of), so we ended up just taking the advice of one of our close friends at the time lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:23 AM |
| 3 | Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners.It’s really not tho. For example, my husband and I were together for close to 6 months before we had sex and were friends for about a year before that. And guess what? I don’t have a low drive or dislike sex. Neither does he. Someone wanting to be treated as a person and not a sex object at first isn’t being ‘sex negative’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 02:54 AM |
| 5 | Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners.Not wanting to have sex early doesn’t mean that someone doesn’t like sex tho. There’s a lot of reasons someone (man or woman) is only comfortable having sex within a committed relationship even if they love sex. I was one of those people who can’t have sex early, but loves sex and has a high sex drive even well into a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 02:47 AM |
| 6 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.But then they can be with women that are ok with it. Some women don’t want to be in a relationship where their partner doesn’t trust them and there’s nothing wrong with that. So why is it an issue for men to bring this up earlier in dating? It’ll help match them with a woman that’s compatible with them. By waiting to reveal this, it comes across like they’re hoping the woman would be too invested to leave if it’s a dealbreaker for her Personally, I have never cheated and will never. But, I would… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 02:09 AM |
| 5 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.This is why so many won’t be upfront about it, which is shitty of them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 01:45 AM |
| 2 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.At that point, just break up. The trust is already gone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 01:44 AM |
| 6 | There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test.Imo this should be discussed upfront just as you should discuss contraception and what happens if that fails. These should be normal conversations between healthy adults that are sexually active | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 01:43 AM |
| 2 | the birth rate topic is sillyIf we advanced technology to allow men to become pregnant and give birth, would you do it? If not, you’re a major hypocrite. It’s very convenient to push for more births as a man since you don’t have to deal with ANY physical consequences So again, learn to be happy with declining birthrates unless you help make motherhood easier 😊 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 06:55 PM |
| 2 | the birth rate topic is sillyYou’re more than free to carry as many pregnancies and birth as many children as you want fam 🤷♀️ But less women want to be used as incubators and finally are able to make that choice without pressure or judgement. You can either accept that and focus on how to make motherhood easier or stay salty as birthrates continue to decline. Up to you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 06:45 PM |
| 1 | the birth rate topic is sillyPeople back then also had social pressures or things like religion that made them feel like they had to or should. The only way to say whether they were ‘happier’ is if they also were able to see how life could be without children and if that were a choice that would not be judged. If they’d still choose to have many kids even with that knowledge or pressure, then you’d have a point. But we’re at a point where people can finally choose to be childfree and NOT face any potential repercussions fro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 05:42 PM |
| 2 | the birth rate topic is sillyBeing able to have someone else watch the baby at a minimum several times a week so parents can sleep in Same for free time Parental leave and free day care isn’t enough unless it also provides caretakers for entire days/weekends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 05:34 PM |
| 2 | the birth rate topic is sillyBut has anything been done SPECIFICALLY to address things like sleep deprivation and the loss of freedom parenthood brings? Are there ways to pretty much guarantee no sleep deprivation or sleep interruptions AND allowing parents to have free time and time ALONE to spend with each other? That’s what a lot of childless people do not want to lose. And I don’t blame them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 05:28 PM |
| 4 | the birth rate topic is sillyBut that alone doesn’t prevent the sleep deprivation and loss of freedom that having children beings. We need a way to let people have a life similar to how it was pre-children. As in—can go on spontaneous dates, travel, sleeping in, etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 04:16 PM |
| 9 | the birth rate topic is sillyAnd this is an excellent example of why no one should ever take the male loneliness epidemic seriously. You deserve it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 12:27 AM |
| 4 | the birth rate topic is sillySo you wish to force women into essentially slavery? Very interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 12:14 AM |
| 9 | the birth rate topic is sillyThis would definitely be a good start in the right direction. Hell, even just free childcare would do absolute wonders ngl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 11:14 PM |
| 36 | the birth rate topic is sillyThen we better start actually looking into options to make motherhood more appealing. I guarantee you that if we had a way to assist parents so there was no risk of sleep deprivation or them losing freedom and their life prior to having children (having spare time and being able to have dates/trips together with their partner), more women would have kids Also more research to reduce the pain and lasting damage from birth (including body changes) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyVery true, I guess I’ve just been unlucky enough to speak to the people that don’t agree. Especially on here I’ve seen some men argue that because a woman also wants kids and because she knows what the risks are, husbands shouldn’t be required to do more while she’s pregnant and postpartum. I truly hope those men are the minority But yes, I do 100% agree with you that these are different topics (that I see overlap often). It should not be treated as a lifelong debt. That’s unfair | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyIt’s definitely not a scoreboard, but what about situations where the wife has permanent damage from the birth? Ideally, she should just do what she can without pushing her body more, right? That’s what seems fair to me since she is the only one that has to deal with that. I would also say the same if the husband somehow got a permanent injury or disability from his job or something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyNo, I’m saying that BOTH parents should get parental leave. An equal amount. But ON TOP OF THAT, women should get medical leave for the time needed to recover from the birth since it is a major medical event. Why would anyone be opposed to this? It’s not about a ‘gender war’, but that only one person has to physically heal and they need additional time for that. Parental leave and medical leave (recovering from the birth) should be separate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyWould you say that the mother should get sick time for healing then on top of parental leave? Only the mother has to physically heal from the birth and it’s literally for medical reasons. Why should parental leave for the father also include time for physical healing? Was his body also permanently damaged and ripped apart? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyOnly works if kids aren’t involved. Or men also need to take 50% of pregnancy and birth and the permanent body damage that comes with it. 50/50 applies to EVERYTHING | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 04:45 AM |
| 0 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyIf a couple both want kids, how can that be 50/50? How can the husband do 50% of the pregnancy (and feeling sick half the time), do 50% of the birth and have half of the permanent body changes and damage that come with that? It’s inherently lopsided if the husband isn’t essentially a fulltime caregiver to the wife and baby during pregnancy and postpartum | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyIf a husband cheated on his wife and moved out to live with his mistress, but refused to file for divorce and his wife filed, who ended that marriage? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 04:38 AM |
| 2 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyHonestly tho, why is pregnancy and birth NEVER considered in the 50/50 thing? It’s automatically unequal and just ignoring the fact that women are the only ones that have to endure pregnancy and birth and the damage that comes with that isn’t fair. It’s not equal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 04:36 AM |
| 3 | do you truly believe the bar is lower for men?This. I have two daughters and my husband and I let my parents watch them from time to time. My mom has literally ranted about how she doesn’t understand how my husband and I have time to do anything because you’re constantly expected nowadays to watch your kids 24/7. When I was a kid, my brother and I would go run around the neighborhood and do our own thing and no one thought twice about it. Parents are expected to do so much more now and with less help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?I understand that. But I’m asking you what the outcome of that would be. If we successfully oppose feminism, what would the world ideally look like to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?Ok, what does ‘opposing feminism’ mean to you? What is the ultimate outcome of it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?I mean, that happens in every group, fam. Pick out 100 different republicans and they’ll ALL have different ideologies on what a republican is. Same with democrats. Hell, even grab 100 different men and ask them about what they think men’s rights should be and you’ll get 100 different answers. Feminism is no different from these. You just hate it because it has to do with women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Yeah, I don’t think it’s right for men to shame or be nasty to women if they aren’t compatible. But I also don’t think breaking things off is shaming someone, right? If the guy is being gross or calling you names, you dodged a bullet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 12:27 AM |
| 0 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?Fam, I literally have only heard of men being dismissed by men FROM MEN THEMSELVES. I’ve had male victims tell me that they don’t feel safe confiding in OTHER MEN. I did not hear this from women, but from MEN. And it’s interesting, why don’t you see women as victims of the past as well? If you’re going to say that bad behavior is due to victims, then men and women are BOTH victims of the past. To argue that it’s ONLY men and women are this evil entity is ridiculous And in case you missed it in m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 11:13 PM |
| 3 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?That doesn’t really address my point tho. If you have to lie, you aren’t compatible. You automatically aren’t right for each other. There is ZERO point to lying, or you’re just manipulating the person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?For situations that can result in someone getting hurt, I’m always clear about my expectations and how I’m feeling. Because that’s the bare minimum | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Why not have a clear and open conversation about it tho? Why are you against that if it can help clear out ANY possible misunderstanding? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?You should be open about what you’re looking for tho. You should be looking for a partner that’s looking for the SAME thing as you. It’s basic communication and decency. Now if she developed feelings later on, then she should have communicated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?I’m not sure why you keep repeating this over and over. You’ve made it quite clear that you believe that people who want casual don’t have as much responsibility to be honest, and that speaks volumes. You don’t care how it hurts other people. But it is interesting that you’re now projecting. Please quote where I called you a ‘misogynist’. I’ll give you a hint—I didn’t. So take care | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:39 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Again, very interesting and telling on how you speak about women vs how you speak about men. Why do you only see women as ‘crying’ or having to grow up? Again, very telling of how you see women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?What do you mean? Slutshaming is inherently wrong anyways. Why do you feel the need to be nasty to what other people do in the bedroom? It’s just odd | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?It’s quite telling that you think this is ONLY on her. It’s on BOTH. Also quite interesting that you’re speaking down on the woman and not the man. This is a learning situation for both of them. She needs to have this conversation and it needs to be ongoing throughout the relationship. The guy should have also learned that he should also communicate that he only wants casual so this situation doesn’t again. They BOTH should have the basic decency to communicate. I’m not sure why you only think w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:30 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Nope. I’m only putting more ‘energy’ on the guy because the woman already has been covered. It’s redundant at that point. She should have spoken up. So should he. Do you believe that open and honest communication should be expected by BOTH parties regardless of whether they want something casual or serious? I believe so | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:25 PM |
| 3 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Just as you seem to have energy for what the woman did as well. How interesting. But the point is that if BOTH people can’t communicate openly and honestly, then NEITHER are mature enough to date. Casually or seriously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:20 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?It wastes their time, but it ALSO causes a ton of pain and trauma when communication doesn’t happen. That’s why it’s always important that BOTH parties always have this discussion and are 100% honest. That’s my point I literally said in my comments that BOTH needed to be honest and open about their expectations at the beginning and throughout the relationship. The onus should not be on only one party. It’s on BOTH | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:14 PM |
| 5 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Men and women ARE different. But those differences don’t make either better than the other. Both can do things the other can’t. That’s what message should be pushed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Do you believe men are inherently ‘better’ than women? And should be above them? Yes or no? Because just as men can do things women can’t, women are the ONLY ones that are able to carry and birth children. You need BOTH for a society to thrive. If you deem women as beneath you, then go make a society of only men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?I never said he wasted her time. But he could and should have been upfront about wanting purely casual just as she should have been upfront about wanting something serious. Genuinely, why do you think men shouldn’t be upfront about wanting something casual? Is it because it might hurt their chances of sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Men and women are different, but neither is better than the other or should be seen as being above the other | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:36 PM |
| 4 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?I mean, it depends on how it started, right? If it started as a casual fling and that was openly communicated and the behaviors of both people remained the same, then sure. But if you suspect that someone has deeper feelings, sitting down with them and having a ‘what are we’ conversation can help prevent a lot of hurt. Sure, maybe he genuinely didn’t know. But imo most emotionally adjusted people can tell when someone deeply cares for them and is in love with them. Yeah, she should have said som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Both people should be open about how they’re feeling. This shouldn’t be controversial and is a big reason why there’s a lot of dating issues | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:31 PM |
| 4 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?It goes both ways tho. Why didn’t he say that he’s only looking for casual? It should have been a discussion from BOTH of them. Unless he’s neurodivergent, he definitely knew she had deeper feelings for him. If you notice that, you should bring it up if you’re a decent person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Or people can stop hurting others 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:11 PM |
| 0 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?Ok, and what do you have to say to men that belittle and mock male survivors of SA and rape? Do they not need to be addressed just because they are men? Because this is VERY common for a man to be essentially humiliated by MEN if he says he was raped by a woman (especially if she was attractive) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 07:34 PM |
| 8 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?Honestly this. It reminds me of women who say that women need to lie about how many partners they’ve had. Like….why? If a man asks, you aren’t compatible and you move on. Why would you even want to be with someone like that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 07:23 PM |
| 5 | Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise?It’s not really a waste, but it can be incredibly damaging to one’s mental health if they’re getting attached and only come to learn that they basically mean nothing to their partner. That kinda of pain can genuinely traumatize some people due to the apparent betrayal and give them lifelong trust issues | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?I still don’t see how that’s fighting against feminism. It sounds like you have an issue with people (that refer to themselves as feminists) dismissing men’s issues. That’s valid and those people should be called out. Dismissing other people’s problems is not inherently ‘feminism’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?Fam, everyone including feminists shouldn’t downplay the abuse men face. So we address that. That doesn’t require attacking feminism at its core unless that’s just a cover for you to the feminism. And also if it’s just feminism, why do I hear SO many men downplay male victims of abuse? When a man is raped by a woman, why is so many men’s responses shit like ‘good for you!’ Or ‘nice!’? Why are you not pushing back against that? It’s very strange that you are ONLY focusing on women here when men A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?Do you believe that women need to lose rights? Yes or no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeDo you have any stats to back this up? You are not likely to end up convicted of a crime if you only called the police on a woman that assaulted you (assuming you didn’t touch her). That’s just not how it works | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeSo if a woman slaps you and you quietly remove yourself to call the police, you’ll get arrested? Do you have an example of this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeNope. Cause men can do something back if a woman behaves that way. There are SEVERAL options that don’t involve injuring the other person. You can escape. You can restrain them. You can hit back with appropriate force. You can call the police. You just want to be able to injure or kill someone without consequences. At least be honest and admit that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeWho takes advantage of that? If a woman hits a man, he should contact the police so she faces consequences. There is absolutely no reason to hit back unless your life is in danger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeThe expectation is there because you can literally KILL someone. And women are expected to act like adults and not go around hitting people. But getting hit is not a reason to go apeshit and injure a person if you weren’t injured. It’s inherently disproportionate. Genuinely, why do you view it as nonsense? The only explanation is if you just want the ability to retaliate and actively hurt someone. Otherwise you’d support de-escalation and escaping. Why is that unappealing to you? I’m genuinely a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeIt’s not tho. You’re saying men are being discriminated against because they’re stronger. But they aren’t. It’s HOW they choose to use that strength. If you CHOOSE to knock a woman unconscious if she slaps you, you escalated the situation and used excessive force. Are you saying that you CANNOT control your strength at all? That’s a little bizarre | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeBut you CAN choose how much force to use, can you not? Every man in my life has ALWAYS been able to control their strength easily to not cause unnecessary damage. You’re not being punished for being strong, but for HOW you use that strength | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeThat doesn’t really matter. Women also didn’t choose to be the only ones that have to deal with pregnancy and birth, but that’s just how it is That doesn’t make it discrimination | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeIf they are in genuine danger and cannot escape or de-escalate, then yes. That’s fair But regardless of gender, no one should WANT to retaliate. De-escalating and escaping the situation should be the main priority | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeEh it depends, you can easily argue that DV victims are CONSTANTLY at risk because their safety heavily depends on their abuser’s mood. A situation like that is inherently very different from a situation with a stranger. So again, unless the victim genuinely felt in danger, there is no reason to escalate or harm the other person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 07:47 PM |
| 3 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeYup, and honestly this shouldn’t even be a discussion. I’m not sure why anyone would disagree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeWhat do you mean by ‘all acts of violence should just be taken’? And I’m not saying there should be no repercussions. But if you’re only hitting back because ‘they hit me first’, that’s childish at best and not looking to de-escalate or escape the situation. Returning violence should ONLY be an option if your life is literally in danger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeAnd that’s wrong. If everything, down to the aftermaths of the crimes, are equal then the punishments also need to be equal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeIf it’s not the same force tho, it’s not the same | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeNot exactly. If a man gropes a woman or slaps her butt, her punching him and injuring him is not reasonable. It’s escalating the situation and using violence It’s not going to always EXACTLY match, but surely you can see the difference, right? Say you’re in physical danger, you try and disengage and to leave. You can’t. You have a gun and shoot the person because your life is at risk. Did you technically escalate? Yeah. But that’d reasonably be seen as self defense. But say someone slaps you and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeI don’t believe you should use excessive force unless you are literally in a life threatening situation (even then it should never cross into cruelty). Are those women in danger and have no way to escape? Then sure, I could see how self defense could result in killing if something like a gun is used. But they shouldn’t be aiming specifically to kill, just to incapacitate. The same goes for the men here. Is his life in danger or is he in a bad situation that he literally is unable to escape from?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeI have and it doesn’t exist. If the data were really there, you’d have ZERO reason to share it as it can only prove you right. So….thanks for giving me my answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:41 PM |
| 0 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeCan you link the data that specifies the crimes and injuries/damage were EXACTLY the same? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeHow so? A person (regardless of gender) should never use excessive force to retaliate. There is ABSOLUTELY NO reason to beyond just wanting to hurt that person and cause them harm Like genuine question, if a man much physically weaker than you hits you and you barely feel anything, why would you retaliate in a way that will injure or hurt them badly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeThere’s inherently more physical harm in specific situations tho, which is why I was saying that rape isn’t the same. So by your own logic here, additional harm comes with additional charges. This doesn’t mean men are discriminated against if they cause more injuries or harm. If they genuinely were getting harsher punishments despite causing no damage or injury, then you’d have a point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeIt’s not the same action if they use more force. It’s inherently different Why should only weaker people stop antagonizing? If it’s out of fear, that’s automatically corrupt and fucked up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeSo let’s get this straight. Say a man rapes a woman so brutally that she is crippled for life. A woman rapes a man and he suffers no injuries. Both abusers should get punished. But one was worse than the other so it should get a worse punishment. That’s how it works. It’d be the same if you swapped the genders too If you get slapped but have no damage from it, is it the same as being slapped and having your jaw broken? Yes or no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeAgain, where’s the discrimination? If you truly believe that stronger people should be allowed to injure or kill people in retaliation, then start protesting if the laws are so unjust 🤷♀️ You still have not addressed why the stronger person cannot control their strength. There’s no reason for them not to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:18 PM |
| 5 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believe…were you not aware that forcible penetration causes physical damage? So if it’s the same thing, then does a man’s penis usually tear and bleed too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeYou can believe that if you want. Luckily the law doesn’t | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeIt’s not what ‘they asked for’. Or are you saying that these women literally asked those men to injure them? Is this what you’re saying? If you hit someone, you are in the wrong. No excuse. But the aftermath is just as important. If someone lightly slaps you (yes this is still wrong, no excuse), if you hit them back so hard it knocks them out, that is automatically not the same thing. The literal equivalent would be lightly slapping them back. It’s also rather interesting that you seem to want t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believe🤦♀️ What counts as ‘poking the bear’? Doing anything that the person doesn’t like? Trying to find ways that you can get away with physically harming someone is what’s fucked. Why would you even want to use full strength? I’m genuinely asking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeYou’re acting like women physically stronger than men doesn’t exist, so I’m asking for proof By this logic, you should always just appease those more physically powerful? That’s fucked up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeCan you link any evidence that it is ‘vanishingly rare’? And again, people can literally CHOOSE how much strength to use. There’s absolutely never a good reason to use full force against someone much weaker than you. This is regardless of gender | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeSo what about a situation where a stronger woman hits and seriously injures a weaker man? She should get the more serious punishment because she caused more harm. It’s not discrimination And it’s not inherent. You can choose whether to use full strength or not. Men are fully aware of their strength | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeNope. I’m saying that PEOPLE who are physically stronger have a responsibility to control their strength as they can literally injure and kill people For example, a man hits a woman. And a woman hits a man. If they BOTH suffer the exact same level of injury, they should receive the same punishment regardless of gender. That’s not discrimination. If one ends up dead and the other is perfectly fine, that’s automatically not the same situation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeNope | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:37 PM |
| 4 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeThis. Both situations are abusive and never acceptable. But one can literally kill or seriously injure a person. The outcomes are inherently different and has to be considered Also like…there are physically weak men out there and very powerful women. Even if you flip the genders, it still holds true. The stronger woman is responsible for her strength | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:34 PM |
| 11 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeThe exact same crimes tho? For example, during a rape, do male victims also often suffer from internal or permanent physical injuries? This isn’t to say that women can’t rape men. Or that men can’t be traumatized. But I’m asking if it’s the EXACT same | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:29 PM |
| 6 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeThey aren’t being discriminated against for merely being stronger. But in being stronger means you have a responsibility to control your strength. ‘With great power comes great responsibility’. That’s not discrimination | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:27 PM |
| 8 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeWell there’s a very good reason the law doesn’t work that way. But you’re free to feel this way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:23 PM |
| 9 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeWould you say that a schizophrenic man killing someone while experiencing a psychotic break is the exact same as a man that kills someone for their money? There is a very good reason why there’s distinctions in the law | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:18 PM |
| 11 | Women aren't as innocent as the crime stats make you believeThis is true, but watch them completely disregard this. I won’t be surprised if your comment gets twisted somehow | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 04:56 PM |
| 4 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?I’m confused too. Are men being forced to have sex with their exes? News to me. I don’t think he understand what the word ‘rape’ means 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?Do you have a link or study showing that men are being raped (forced into a sexual activity) after being divorced? Please share | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:52 PM |
| 9 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?Exactly this. Do they think that standing up for civil rights meant you didn’t face opposition? When my dad was a kid, his parents ended up getting kicked out of their apartment for having non white people over for dinner. They still stood up for it. That’s the whole point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:49 PM |
| 0 | Women, what kind of lies are not acceptable from men, and which lies do you expect men to be okay with?Eh, there’s really no point to white lies tho and they can break trust if your partner ever finds out. The healthiest relationships are ones where both can be honest (and you can also be kind when honest). If you get upset for your partner telling the truth (assuming it’s not ‘brutal honesty), that’s a big sign of immaturity imo. If you cooked something badly, surely you’d want to know so you can improve? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce.But many women, including myself DO acknowledge that men face these things (and a good partner will support their husbands when they’re injured or struggling too, like taking on a majority of the chores so he can relax). So why can’t you just acknowledge that childbirth and pregnancy are hard on women to experience? That’s literally all we’re asking for and for extra help and support during that time. If you won’t do that, then don’t be surprised that women don’t want to have children 🤷♀️ Empat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesNo, I mean on a physical level. You have people that have very narrow views on what they find attractive, but I don’t think that’s most people. Most women I’ve spoken to about this have a very wide range of men they’d find attractive enough to date, and these men would fall in the average range (same as these women). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesGenuinely why would you wish that someone’s standards were lower? Is it just because you’re interested in them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesI agree with this. If someone is ok with being single if they can’t get what they want, it’s no problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesJust curious—would you say that people should ate those they aren’t attracted to? What good would come of that? It’ll result in a deadbedroom and resentful relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 05:02 PM |
| 8 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesAttraction is deeper than just physical appearance, but there has to be some base level attraction. Most average people will be attracted to other average people on some level | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesProbably not. But if you were ok with remaining single instead of being with someone you don’t want, then it’s perfectly fine. What would the problem be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce.That would help make things equitable, but not EQUAL. The woman isn’t just losing money, so a man just paying money isn’t inherently equal. There has to be an EQUAL physical burden if you want true 50/50. For example, if you could spare your wife from suffering pelvic floor prolapse and perineal tears, would you do that for your child? Yes or no (if it were possible)? If no, then you are literally aware that you are very lucky to never have to risk that to have a child. You never have to worry a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce.So when your wife was recovering from birth, you didn’t help at all? If she was in pain, you just shrugged because it’s natural? Very interesting and major lack of empathy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce.So you want your wife to have to do ALL the physical work of creating the child and pushing it out (and all the changes and damage that come with that). How is that equal? If you both want the child, it should be 50/50, no? Or does that conveniently not apply here because you’ll never have to worry about going though it? Always so interesting how the men here claim to want 50/50, but conveniently not for children. Perfectly happy letting the wife take ALL the sickness, pain, and damage that come… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 11:35 PM |
| 3 | Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce.If you want kids, will you also be carrying part of the pregnancy and doing part of the birth? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 11:29 PM |
| – | Do most women take the marriage and kids revelation as positive or negative realistically?Hard to say. In my own circle the women who had never wanted children still do not want children. The one who did change her mind, changed it while in a relationship with her partner But my guess is that most women who do change their minds might be realizing that single life or childfree life isn’t for them. So it’s less likely to be settling and more them maturing and having a better understanding of what they want in life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 11:26 PM |
| 11 | Q4W: What fraction of men do you think experience genuine sexual desire from a woman at least once during his life? What fraction of men do you think are capable of experiencing it?Enjoying the act of sex itself also doesn’t necessarily mean wanting sex with anyone tho. A woman can genuinely enjoy sex because of how bonding it is and because it’s fun with your partner. Sex isn’t purely physical for most people. It’s complex and different from masturbation (not just because there’s another person). It’s often incredibly intimate, pleasurable, relaxing, and increases the bond between you and your partner. That’s not having sex for some ulterior motive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 11:13 PM |
| 8 | Q4W: What fraction of men do you think experience genuine sexual desire from a woman at least once during his life? What fraction of men do you think are capable of experiencing it?Then that’s my bad for assuming that’s what you were insinuating. And is it actually rare? I can’t be one of the only women out there who actively enjoys sex and frequently seeks it out with my husband. The physical pleasure combined with the genuine connection together is something I’d imagine is pretty addicting to most people when they’re with the right partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 11:04 PM |
| 16 | Q4W: What fraction of men do you think experience genuine sexual desire from a woman at least once during his life? What fraction of men do you think are capable of experiencing it?This is what I addressed in my comment because I had a feeling this is what OP was getting at. Most men in relationships will experience genuine sexual desire from their partner. BUT genuine sexual desire does NOT necessarily mean kinky/painful/degrading sex acts. A woman loving relatively ‘vanilla’ sex can sexually desire her partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: What fraction of men do you think experience genuine sexual desire from a woman at least once during his life? What fraction of men do you think are capable of experiencing it?Every heterosexual woman that’s in love with their partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 10:42 PM |
| 12 | Q4W: What fraction of men do you think experience genuine sexual desire from a woman at least once during his life? What fraction of men do you think are capable of experiencing it?I think most men that have been in genuine relationships have. I’m sexually attracted to my husband and desire him constantly. However (adding this in because I have seen this point in this sub SO often) , I have seen so many men here equate kinky/painful sex acts with a woman sexually desiring a man. That’s not a good metric. For example, I have a high libido (husband and I have around the same drive) and am incredibly attracted to my husband but am not into painful or degrading sex acts, which… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 10:42 PM |
| 13 | Why do women so drastically change their mind about marriage?If that’s the case tho, then why stay married and be miserable? OP makes a point that it’s ‘bad’ if a woman just focuses on her own happiness, but realistically, what should happen? If your partner is genuinely miserable staying married and it’s affecting their mental health, would you want them to stay? If so, why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 02:42 PM |
| 2 | After a lot of self-reflection, I realised that men create their own problems and blaming women is counterproductive and harmfulOk. What kind of evidence or study could prove that? I’m genuinely asking How do you explain the men that do not fight for custody? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 02:10 PM |
| 2 | After a lot of self-reflection, I realised that men create their own problems and blaming women is counterproductive and harmfulGenuine question—what kind of evidence or study would actually prove this to you? What specific proof are you looking for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 01:43 PM |
| 2 | After a lot of self-reflection, I realised that men create their own problems and blaming women is counterproductive and harmfulThere was a decent study done in Massachusetts, I believe where it was found that MOST fathers who fought for custody were awarded it. Many don’t fight for it tho, which speaks volumes. I have this saved somewhere and will post it here when I find it Edit: https://www.dadsdivorcelaw.com/blog/fathers-and-mothers-child-custody-myths Sources are at the bottom | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 01:36 PM |
| 4 | What Aspects of Men's dating life do you have find yourself getting jealous of?Again, why do men struggle to merely acknowledge that women are the only ones that have to suffer the consequences of having a child? This isn’t some ‘brainwashing’ that you think it is. It’s a biological fact. I have 2 daughters, and my body isn’t the same as it was. I have some permanent damage that negatively affects my life and will for the rest of it. I’m very grateful and lucky to have a husband that understand this and does whatever he can to make things easier for me (because he’s actual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 12:59 PM |
| 1 | What Aspects of Men's dating life do you have find yourself getting jealous of?Sexual violence? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 03:17 AM |
| 2 | What Aspects of Men's dating life do you have find yourself getting jealous of?Depends on the area. Where I grew up in, single mothers were ALWAYS being insulted and I’d literally never heard anyone make a comment about the father being absent. Just about how stupid the mother was. This is very different from the city I live in now, but some areas are like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 03:15 AM |
| 3 | What Aspects of Men's dating life do you have find yourself getting jealous of?Honestly it genuinely might be area dependent. I used to live in a very conservative area and that commenter’s insight is almost spot on for how fathers (even shitty ones) are seen. Anything wrong is ALWAYS the mother’s fault (I have seen numerous times where beaten wives were blamed by their families, and the the husband was still ‘a good man’) The area I’m in now is like a 180 and that would be nearly unheard of. So it really depends on where you live and the culture there. I used to live in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 03:13 AM |
| 2 | What Aspects of Men's dating life do you have find yourself getting jealous of?What about rates of sexual violence, including being forcibly penetrated against your will (resulting in injuries)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 03:09 AM |
| 9 | What Aspects of Men's dating life do you have find yourself getting jealous of?It’s not just that tho. You have the luxury of NEVER having to go through pregnancy and birth. You can have a child just by ejaculating inside your partner. A woman’s body is the ONLY one that has to actually do the work to create the baby In case it needs to be said—no, I’m not saying that good husbands don’t help out or aren’t good fathers. But it is a fact that only a mother’s body has to go through the trauma of pregnancy and birth (which is a major medical event). It’s much easier to say yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 02:58 AM |
| 2 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himYeah, some women definitely have issues beyond a low libido and I’d bet that it’s resentment and a lack of healthy communication. But by low libido, I mostly mean women who would consider regular sex to be like once every week or so. That can be healthy if that’s their genuine natural desire. It doesn’t mean they aren’t attracted to their husbands. I think it just depends on what you’d consider ‘regularly’ to be | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 07:36 PM |
| 7 | What everyday disadvantages of feminism do you experience?Ok, but do men also not want children? I’m confused why a man wouldn’t want his wife to have time to recover from a major medical event or want to be a caretaker for her during this period. How is that not the bare minimum? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:48 PM |
| 8 | What everyday disadvantages of feminism do you experience?How is it not relevant? The time off is literally to heal and that’s why women need it. The only reason a man would need that time is if he is also healing or taking care of the newborn, correct? If you aren’t healing or at least being a caretaker, there’s not an equally valid reason for that time off. So again, do you believe that that’s what men would use that time for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himTbh I think it depends. There are levels to settling like I mentioned above. If your libidos are close, but not the same, that’s doable for a lot of people to remain happy. You don’t necessarily need perfection in a partner, just compatibility (and even that has a pretty flexible range). I’ve found a partner who’s not ‘perfect’, but he’s perfect for me and what I’m looking for in a partner. People like that exist and if I’d just settled earlier with someone I was meh about, I wouldn’t have been … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:35 PM |
| 8 | What everyday disadvantages of feminism do you experience?Why are you not addressing anything and moving the goal post? People have children for different reasons. Maybe they accidentally got pregnant and couldn’t get an abortion. Maybe they were assaulted. Maybe they agreed to have a child with their partner. That doesn’t change that it’s a sacrifice that only women have to endure. I’m not really sure why so many men seem to have trouble just acknowledging this. Why is it hard to just admit that women go through A LOT of pain, body changes, and often … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:31 PM |
| 6 | What everyday disadvantages of feminism do you experience?I didn’t compare it to a man being injured. I’m saying that the woman’s body is the one that does the ‘work’ so a couple can have a child, and that the woman’s body needs time to recover (same as someone who’s recovering from a major surgery). Having a baby is something most people are happy about, but during the weeks after birth, women need to heal and that’s what needs to be prioritized along with the newborn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:21 PM |
| 2 | What everyday disadvantages of feminism do you experience?Is the man taking care of the wife during this period? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:04 PM |
| 10 | What everyday disadvantages of feminism do you experience?It is. Are you saying that means that women do not need to physically recover from it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himI don’t think there’s a solution if there actually are so few high libido women. All I’m saying is that if men settle, there’s a high likelihood that the relationship will be unhappy and that there will be resentment and I don’t think either party should be to blame if this was communicated upfront. Even with therapy, depending on how important something is to you, you can’t just pretend like it doesn’t matter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himI don’t think it has to do with men being ‘grateful’ for what they can get. A lot of men DO settle and that creates a massive problem when the resentment starts to set in. Some may try and prevent that or pretend like it doesn’t bother them and put that energy into a hobby or something, but they’ll still be unhappy. At that point, his partner will ALSO suffer. There’s no winning in this scenario, is all I’m saying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 03:34 PM |
| 13 | What everyday disadvantages of feminism do you experience?Is the extended parental leave including the healing period for the woman’s body postpartum? If so, doesn’t that make sense because it’s essentially medical leave? If a man was also recovering from a big medical condition, then he should of course get that time off too. At your work do men not get time off for those medical situations? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himI mean, I’ll let you know if it gets removed. But I’ve made similar comments here before and have never been removed or attacked for it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:24 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himYeah, I agree with you there. Unfortunately, I think there are A LOT of women that have very low libidos or they lose attraction (things like letting resentment fester and not nipping it at the bud is pretty common due to bad communication skills on both sides), and then just expect their husbands to be ok with that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:22 AM |
| 3 | How do you explain the "Dark Romance" Boom?But it doesn’t always mean you literally want to experience it tho. There are actually a lot of people that may read or view something sexually that they like *in theory* or in their imagination, but would never want to do it in real life for whatever reason (might be straight up unrealistic, might be actually painful in real life while you can picture it as pleasurable while just reading, etc.). It really depends on the person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:13 AM |
| 2 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himSo what happens when the kids move out and she still wants frequent sex with her husband? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:05 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himI mostly agree with you except for your assumption that those women aren’t attracted to their husbands. I don’t think that’s always true. I think it’s just more that they have a different (lower) libido. There’s also the stress component. Personally, I prefer sex multiple times daily and my husband is very similar. But when stressed at a certain point, I cannot be intimate because it’s like my mind shuts down. I will not be mentally or emotionally present if we have sex, so that would essentiall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:03 AM |
| 5 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himTbf, I will acknowledge that in my case recovering from the pregnancy and birth took a MASSIVE toll on me that the sleep deprivation just made worse. I think that handling a baby when you’re not having to physically recover and have hormones going wack is a bit easier (not saying that dads don’t pull their weight, they definitely do! Just that it’s very different than caring for your child while you are trying to deal with the physical pain and exhaustion from healing and then trying to keep it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:59 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himFair enough! Definitely depends on the individual tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:53 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himNot all women have the exact same libido tho Some people naturally have low sex drives but are incredibly attracted to their partners. It’s like everyone’s ideal amount of sex varies. Some love once a week and some love 3x a day. Neither is ‘more attracted’ to their partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himWhere did I say that a man wanting anything is bad? If you read my comment, I specifically said that a man looking for the former is healthy and completely fine. A man wanting an enthusiastic sexual partner to have a great time with him is not the same as a man wanting essentially a sex slave | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:45 AM |
| 5 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himNope! My job is extremely physical (requires lifting and consistently carrying 80lb equipment) and shifts go anywhere from 10-16 hours. And almost no time to sit around. But nice try tho You’re trying to paint your own experience as universal, but it’s not. People have various temperaments and babies are all different. Not every baby is an easy baby. Some people get overstimulated very easily. Your experience isn’t everyone’s experience and your experience isn’t the only ‘right’ one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himThe problem is that an incompatibility like this will lead to resentment and an unhappy relationship. If a man has a much higher libido than his partner, his partner should never be pressured to have unwanted sex. But the man is also allowed to feel rejected/unwanted/frustrated as well. Unless sex isn’t important to BOTH people, sexual compatibility is extremely important if you want a happy relationship. Expecting a partner with a higher libido to just be happy is unrealistic and also unfair Im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himWho are those women? Because if they genuinely believe that, they are being toxic and they are incredibly immature. If a woman acts like that, you shouldn’t want to be with her unless you’re into that. (And yes, this applies in the reverse as well) In your example, you realize that proves what I was saying, right? A man that wants the former is valid and reasonable. A healthy person would want a partner with a compatible libido and who also enjoys sex together. A man who wants the latter is toxi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:32 AM |
| 9 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himThat’s just you tho. I’ve taken care of my children and have also been the breadwinner while my husband was a SAHD. Work is 100% easier than raising kids and WAY less frustrating and exhausting. Maybe this has to do with each person and their personalities, but it’s definitely not universal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:25 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himI guess it depends. Personally, all my friends have had at least one longterm partner that just had super low sex drives after a while. It’s definitely not rare, tho I think the flip side happens more often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:14 AM |
| 0 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himTwice daily is high, but would you say once a day or every other day is? Personally, I prefer once a day. Every other day CAN work, but it’s not ideal. I just don’t get why people don’t place more importance on sexual compatibility, especially in terms of frequency | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:13 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himSame here. But tbf it genuinely depends on the baby. Both of my daughters were pretty easy. But I have some friends who are like walking zombies and who I’ve literally taken over and cared for their children so they could just have a night together. It really depends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:11 AM |
| 4 | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himWomen who genuinely believe that are incredibly childish and toxic There’s a difference between a partner wanting to help you feel better and being understanding when you’re struggling (such as during your period), and expecting them to put up with abuse and be your servant. Most women will want the former and there’s nothing wrong with that. A man that doesn’t want to do those things (on his own) isn’t compatible with them. Toxic women will act like the second. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:10 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himWhat happens during periods where sex is TEMPORARILY off the table for a bit (such as postpartum or menopause)? That doesn’t mean they’re incompatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:07 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himIs it actually that high tho? My past partners and husband have been happy with either 1-2x daily or every other day. For a relatively high libido person, that seems pretty normal imo. How much sex were you assuming men would need to be satiated? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:05 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himWhat determines frequency tho? A couple that both have a low libido could be perfectly happy with like twice a month. A high libido couple might only be happy with twice a day The important part is finding a partner with a similar libido as you. And if you’re wanting a committed longterm relationship, you also have to accept that there will be periods where sex wanes (postpartum, menopause, health issues, high stress, etc). Granted these should all be temporary. If nothing changes, then it becom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 04:02 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himI mean, people have different libidos and it can fluctuate. If you are in a relationship with someone with a low libido and you have a high one, you aren’t compatible and you shouldn’t pressure them into having sex. If you’re looking for a committed longterm relationship, you also need to be ready to accept and deal with periods where sex will be infrequent (postpartum and menopause for example). A partner with a low libido still desires their partner. It’s just about finding a compatible partne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 03:59 AM |
| – | Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married himI mean, men with higher libidos should only pursue women with similar libidos, and not pressure a lower libido partner. Tho both genders need to be aware (if they’re seeking longterm committed relationships) that libido does often change due to things like kids and menopause or severe stress. If you cannot go a period of time sexless if something happens to your partner, you need to seek partners that see it the same way. Either way, it needs to be an honest conversation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 03:56 AM |
| 5 | If you could be born as a woman instead, would you?This. If it’s guaranteed to live longer while completely healthy mentally and physically and mobile, then sure. If not, no point in living longer imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 08:54 PM |
| 2 | The ideal human society is 80% female and 20% male.Sexual doesn’t mean aromantic tho nor does it necessarily mean they are sex adverse | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 01:37 AM |
| 5 | How do the conversations about women willing to do naughtier things with past partners come up?It’s not even always about skill either. Anatomy plays a HUGE role in this, and for a lot of women who would like anal with a small partner, a larger partner would be unpleasant and painful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 01:19 AM |
| 1 | How do the conversations about women willing to do naughtier things with past partners come up?Not saying I disagree with you, but this is a lot more common than you’d think. Not necessarily just talking about anal either. But I’ve had partners that either didn’t care to pay attention or didn’t mind that I was in pain during sex. And I don’t necessarily think it’s gendered either. My husband has told me how his first ex literally tore him once during sex and then got upset when he couldn’t keep going instead of checking in on him. There are A LOT of shitty and inconsiderate people out the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 01:15 AM |
| 5 | How do the conversations about women willing to do naughtier things with past partners come up?And those men should be dumped and left behind. They don’t deserve to have a partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Prediction: More and more men will opt out of pursuing LTRs with women because it's not worth it (unless you want kids and a family)For point 2., are you talking about intimacy or specifically sex? Intimacy is a wide range of behaviors between a couple. Are you saying that research shows that hugs/kissing/having deep talks/just spending time together goes down overtime? Just clarifying because sex and intimacy are not the same thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Just pick someone else is silly.That doesn’t answer my question, but thanks for contributing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Just pick someone else is silly.Why tho? What’s the problem with women leaving or rejecting men that are incompatible? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 08:01 PM |
| 1 | A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimumHonestly this. I’m not exactly sure why OP has a problem with this? Does he want to be with someone that he’s incompatible with? It’s one thing to disagree about having pineapple on a pizza or not. It’s a whole other thing to support ICE and be against abortion. That directly comes down to important values | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:48 PM |
| 1 | A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimumWhy not pursue people that you’re compatible with tho? If you lie, that’s the problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Just pick someone else is silly.Genuine question—when you say that some women would drop their lifestyle just to keep you, are you also considering her happiness and satisfaction in the relationship? If dropping that to keep you caused her to be unhappy, would you still be ok with that? I’m asking because I can’t really understand how you can say you care about your partner and be ok with them being deeply unhappy just to stay with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Just pick someone else is silly.What should happen then or what’s the solution that doesn’t involve trying to force or manipulate someone to change? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Just pick someone else is silly.Genuinely, what traits and behaviors in women were you referring to (that are in the minority or taken)? It’s hard to say whether asking for a compromise is valid or not without knowing the specifics. If it’s something like compromising on staying in more vs going out, I’d say most reasonable people would compromise. If it’s something like wanting your partner to just be ok with being hurt during sex or doing it even when they aren’t enjoying it, that’s a lot more grey | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Just pick someone else is silly.And those women are in the wrong and should absolutely not be shocked when the man doesn’t change. Trying to change someone is a shitty thing to do so I’m not sure why you’d want to be like women who act like that 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Just pick someone else is silly.And women should keep rejecting and leaving men that aren’t compatible. No complaints, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:14 PM |
| 5 | Just pick someone else is silly.What would you say the solution is for this then? Because trying to get women to change for a man and make herself unhappy isn’t good and hopefully no person would even want that If you’re incompatible with someone and you refuse to find someone else, you pretty much have to accept that it’ll likely result in resentment or one party being unhappy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Just pick someone else is silly.A healthy person won’t change things they genuinely value or do things that will hurt them tho. And a healthy person wouldn’t want someone to change (in a way that either hurts them or makes them unhappy) unless they don’t care about that person. If it’s something small, you have a point and a good partner will work with you. But you should never try and actively pressure/manipulate/or guilt a partner into something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 07:09 PM |
| 11 | CMV: Young women despise young men in the context of relationshipsWhy do men try and argue that women aren’t actually lonely because a random man is always willing to use their body for sex? To a lot of men here, someone being willing to masturbate with your body means you aren’t lonely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/26 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Antiporn is usually motivated by misandryHonestly, porn shouldn’t be ‘punishable’ imo. BUT it is something that needs to be discussed truthfully to gauge compatibility. If someone tells you that porn is a boundary and they will not be in a relationship with someone who watches porn, there is no good reason to lie pr hide it just to be in a relationship with them. You’re incompatible. This ideally should be something discussed at the beginning of dating, but if not, then later on if a partner is uncomfortable with porn in a relationship… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/26 10:00 PM |
| 16 | Being single is different for men and women.That’s still not a good excuse to lead someone on tho. If you have a partner that’s deeply in love with you and you don’t feel the same way, you really need to be honest with them. Manipulating someone just so you won’t be lonely is an awful thing to do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 03:58 AM |
| 21 | Why are there so many career driven woman that still expect a very wealthy man to provide for their lifestyle with no sacrifice whatsoever?But only women are the ones that have to actually deal with the consequences of pregnancy and birth. Usually a man’s body doesn’t go through crazy hormonal changes and permanent changes or damage. Biology is inherently unfair in this regard. Not men’s fault at all, but it should be acknowledged. Every women I know that’s had a child has some kind of permanent damage from it (something that negatively impacts their life significantly) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 03:41 AM |
| 13 | Why are there so many career driven woman that still expect a very wealthy man to provide for their lifestyle with no sacrifice whatsoever?But why care about those people and give them any attention? If they try guilt tripping, they’re manipulative. They aren’t even worth a second thought, much less worth getting annoyed over. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Most men don't understand what rape is because they think of women as less.I actually really like this take and it has a lot of nuance. I wish more people thought like this tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/26 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?Posted this in another comment—https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/ELfvj5vLCe This is just the most recent one I’ve run into | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?Damn. What if you had a shitty retail job? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?Genuine question—but how would you enjoy the ‘sex’ if your partner was hurting the whole time and essentially begging for it to be over? Personally, I care about my partner and seeing him in pain is not a turn on. Healthy sex should be mutually enjoyable (even duty sex or at the very least neutral) Another question—if your partner got physically injured due to duty sex, you wouldn’t give a shit? That brings you pleasure and joy? A decent person would not get sexual pleasure from their partner no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?I guess, let me re-phrase, would you be ok with duty sex that involves you being penetrated? Because that is a very big difference in how it feels. Being penetrated is completely different from being the penetrator. If that was already what you were referring to, then never mind. I was going off the assumption that you were doing the penetrating As for sex being physical, that really depends on the person. Some people cannot separate love from sex at all without it feeling like a violation. Sex … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?I’ll try and use this next time! Tho I’ll be honest that I have seen some men say that oral/anal penetration on a woman isn’t that bad because women are ‘made to be penetrated/used to it’, and I’ve also heard that women’s anuses are ‘made to handle it’. Probably no point arguing with them but it’s still disturbing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 02:02 PM |
| 4 | Freedom in relationshipsI think it really depends on the person. With my husband, I’ve never felt like I’ve really loss any freedom. At worst, I’ve just had to start letting him know when I’m doing something so that he’s in the loop, but it’s never been limiting to either quickly text or tell him. Imo with the right partner, it’s not a loss at all. I *want* to spend my time with my partner as they help me ‘recharge’ and relax I’ve only experienced a loss a freedom when we had kids | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?I agree with all you wrote here. The issue on your last point is that these men just argue ‘but men aren’t made to be penetrated so it’s different’. I wonder if they just enjoy harming women tbh. But it’s disturbing to know that so many men here genuinely believe that rape isn’t morally wrong or causes harm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?Then why have I specifically been told this by the men on here? They seem to 100% believe that all men think the same as they do, which is why I asked this. So they can see the truth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:41 PM |
| 8 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?Would you still be ok with duty sex if it resulted in constant pain and you get injured? I’m also wondering, would it not bother you that your partner is using your body and doesn’t care about how you’re feeling or that you’re getting hurt? I’m genuinely curious. I think if you’re a person that views sex as ‘just sex’ and something physical, that makes sense And I agree. But I’ve explicitly been told that men working a job is what’s equivalent to a woman being raped. That’s why I asked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:39 PM |
| 0 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?Then why are there men here that are saying that men do not get hurt by sexual assault and instead are incredibly traumatized by work? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:35 PM |
| 4 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?I’m sorry and I understand that and that’s kind of the point I’m trying to make. So why are so many men here saying that men feel nothing from sexual assault and that having to work for a living is traumatizing? That’s why I’m asking and trying to understand Are they lying? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?Theoretically, let’s say the rapist left money afterwards. Are they now the same? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:30 PM |
| -2 | Is working for a living more traumatizing than being sexually assaulted?I guess I should ask which you consider to be worse to have gone through This was a terrible question to ask, which proves my point that work isn’t comparable. So why are the men in this sub saying that sexual assault and rape doesn’t hurt or traumatize men and that men having to work for a living is what’s truly traumatizing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:30 PM |
| 2 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Have you ever spoken to a man that’s been raped? It affects them deeply. I don’t think you understand how psychology works I guarantee you. Make a poll for men and straight up ask them what’s more harmful and traumatizing for them—> being forced to work to live in this society or them being raped. I’d bet anything that most men would consider being raped as the worse option by miles. Still not enough? Why don’t you speak to an actual psychologist on why rape is so traumatic. Ask them if working … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 01:16 PM |
| 1 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Then why was my example ridiculous to you? If sexually abusing a child is worse than physical labor, you’re admitting that sexual abuse is different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:45 PM |
| 1 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.You’re literally trying to argue that sex is NO different from any other act. Clearly it is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 01:10 PM |
| 1 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.If a family has a child working in a cafe washing dishes, do you believe it’s the exact same as a family that is raping their child? Does this cause the exact same harm to the child mentally and physically? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:27 PM |
| 11 | If women say they want emotional honesty and vulnerability in men, why do so many still lose attraction the moment a man actually stops pretending to be emotionally invincible ?I can’t speak for other women. Some women are toxic and will abandon or throw their partner’s vulnerabilities back at them. But personally, my partner being genuinely vulnerable is attractive to me. It makes me feel more connected to him on a deeper level. And no, it doesn’t make me less sexually attracted to him. It makes me feel MORE COMFORTABLE to be intimate and vulnerable with him. I’ve never thrown anything back at his face. I’ve never bullied him for breaking down or when he feels ‘weak’.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 10:48 PM |
| 0 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Here’s the thing tho, why not pursue a woman that you won’t have to fully provide for? That would make it more equal, no? But also, say you have children and she’s postpartum. In many cases, women do not fully heal, mentally and physically, for up to 12-18 months. The 6-8 week timeframe is the absolute MINIMUM amount of time to wait, but many women are still too exhausted and literally healing. Is she ‘breaching the contract’ for not having sex while her body is healing? What if she gets sick or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 06:22 PM |
| 0 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Do you see sex as something two people enjoy together? I’m genuinely asking In a case where a couple is sexually incompatible, then sure I 100% agree they should breakup. It’s a massive incompatibility if you don’t have relatively similar libidos. But the way some men here phrase it, it’s as if sex is something only for them. Something they want women to endure instead of enjoy with them. As in they are essentially just wanting their partner to be a tool for them to masturbate with. If it’s genu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 05:45 PM |
| 3 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.True. I think it’s pretty telling how they automatically assume that the women here don’t value sex or don’t like sex when I’d bet that most women here consider sex to be incredibly important to a relationship. It’s strange | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 04:03 PM |
| 3 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.If I had to guess, he’s probably touchy about how I suggested that he may not actually be interested in marriage | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 03:43 PM |
| 2 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Try again, honey. Again, please directly quote where I stated sex was not important in a marriage or relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 03:42 PM |
| 8 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Very telling that you refuse to answer my question. Guess that goes to show how you see that sex is essentially just you using a female body to masturbate. Quite interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 02:25 PM |
| 1 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.That’s not promoting deadbedrooms, honey. It means that if you don’t want to get married, no one is forcing you to. Your comment about prenups suggests that you don’t actually want marriage. It seems highly likely that you’re just wanting sex and see marriage as a way to get that. Am I wrong? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 02:21 PM |
| 2 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Please quote where I advocated for deadbedrooms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 02:10 PM |
| 5 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Try reading my comment again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 02:06 PM |
| 6 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.No one is forcing you to be married. You can stay single and do casual sex. You can pursue open relationships. Poly relationships. If you choose to get married, that’s YOUR choice. You have options if all you care about is sex Not being able to attract women does not give you the right to rape them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:59 PM |
| 0 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.I mean, obviously there are going to be outliers. In general religious people believe women should submit to their husbands. I grew up in a religious area and this view was EXTREMELY common. If you don’t follow that, then you aren’t who I’m talking about. But it’s not uncommon for conservative and religious women to promote shit like ‘duty sex’. In general conservative women are pretty anti-women. Like, let me ask, are you anti-abortion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:43 PM |
| 8 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.You didn’t answer my question—how would you enjoy sex if your partner was obviously distressed and not enjoying it? You’re admitting that you’re fine with raping your partner if you wouldn’t be punished for it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:40 PM |
| 13 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Go for it. But if you’re trying to force women to have sex when they say no, that is wrong. It’s rape, and hopefully you can understand how that’s harmful. Like genuinely, if your partner wasn’t enjoying sex, you wouldn’t stop and check on them? How would you even still enjoy it if they’re dissociating or crying or begging you to stop? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:31 PM |
| 9 | No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest.Then you’re free to pursue conservative or religious women that also believe that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:21 PM |
| 7 | I don’t understand the big deal about going DutchYeah in my experience, whenever I’ve caved and let the man pay, it was always for your second reason. The pushing for sex almost always happened afterwards. It’s why I always went dutch no matter what when I was dating after a while | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 10:36 PM |
| 5 | Why do you think some women feel entitled to fight men without retaliation?This. It’s essentially a german shepherd being more dangerous than something like a chihuahua. Both dogs can be aggressive, but one is much more likely to cause severe harm and potentially kill someone. One is a lot more dangerous than the other even if it’s unfair. Biology is unfair, which we see with how women are the only ones who actually have to deal with pregnancy and birth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 10:33 PM |
| 4 | Why do you think some women feel entitled to fight men without retaliation?Yeah, this is my experience too. Some women genuinely believe they would be able to physically fight and stand up to a man when generally it’s not possible. They’re honestly delulu and will end up in serious danger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 10:31 PM |
| 1 | The stigma around financially-providing relationshipsAh, ok. To be completely honest, your situation is very out of reach for most people. And you seem to be wayyyy above what an average person makes. In a situation like yours where you’re pretty wealthy, it’s a lot easier than for an average person to do this sort of relationship. Neither of you is really working long and hard hours just to make sure the bills are covered and neither of you need to spend time doing chores For an average person, this arrangement isn’t likely to work because they d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 05:52 PM |
| 1 | The stigma around financially-providing relationshipsCan I ask how the relationship balances out? If one partner is working and paying for everything, what does the other partner take up so that all responsibility doesn’t fall onto one person? That can build resentment fast. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 03:51 PM |
| 2 | If you don't disclose what you want sexually before commitment, you have no one to blame but yourself if the woman doesn't like it.Not necessarily outliers. For example, TMJ is a lot more common than you’d think and it makes opening your jaw wide very painful and can cause it to literally lock up. Not going deeper or all the way doesn’t necessarily equate to laziness, like you were saying. And this kinda goes to show that it’s not just about enthusiasm. You’re proving the other commenter right that it’s about wanting sex acts a certain way. If it’s just about enthusiasm and about both enjoying it, then a woman performing or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/26 03:38 AM |
| 2 | If you don't disclose what you want sexually before commitment, you have no one to blame but yourself if the woman doesn't like it.Does this go for men too? If your woman wants to try pegging, you owe it to her at least once | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 04:29 PM |
| 3 | If you don't disclose what you want sexually before commitment, you have no one to blame but yourself if the woman doesn't like it.What about women that genuinely can’t open their mouths wide enough tho? How are they being lazy? Personally, my jaw cannot open very wide, so most bjs tend to be focused on licking or sucking the tip and using hands. Because a penis of average girth can barely fit in between my teeth. If there’s genuinely enjoyment and enthusiasm, why would that be bad or not enough? I genuinely enjoy giving. But due to how my jaw size and limited movement, I can really only focus on sucking the tip and licking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 04:10 PM |
| 9 | Most of the time, Women wont do certain things is not because of coercion, Its because of attraction. and Using extremes to answer tor the whole phenomenaGenuinely, naivety can play a huge role in this. O have several friends who used to hookup with men pretty quickly (when we were younger). And they got burned. They trusted too quickly and learned they shouldn’t do that and that’s why they vet better. It wasn’t because those men were more attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 05:55 AM |
| 3 | Most of the time, Women wont do certain things is not because of coercion, Its because of attraction. and Using extremes to answer tor the whole phenomenaGenuinely what if it’s an anatomy or size thing? I’ve had an ex who was larger and I literally could not open my mouth wide enough to perform a typical bj. It literally could not fit (sex was also painful and extremely limited, but that’s another thing). However my current partner fits perfectly and I can do so. How does this reflect attractiveness? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Most of the time, Women wont do certain things is not because of coercion, Its because of attraction. and Using extremes to answer tor the whole phenomenaWhat if she didn’t enjoy it before when she tried it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 05:50 AM |
| 4 | Most of the time, Women wont do certain things is not because of coercion, Its because of attraction. and Using extremes to answer tor the whole phenomenaAre you equating enthusiasm with being ‘kinky’ or adventurous? Because that’s already a problem as those aren’t equal. What about women who genuinely love ‘normal’ sex and are very enthusiastic and passionate but dislike ‘kinky’ sex? They aren’t lacking enthusiasm or attraction here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 05:49 AM |
| 6 | Most of the time, Women wont do certain things is not because of coercion, Its because of attraction. and Using extremes to answer tor the whole phenomenaThe thing is, what about women who are enthusiastic and love sex, but aren’t into anything ‘kinky’ and have NEVER done it or tried it once and hated it? Liking sex and being sex positive doesn’t always equal enjoying and being into ‘kinky’ or more adventurous sex Basic passionate sex can be mind blowing. If not, you need to just find a partner that’s sexually compatible with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Do you have any kinks that do not involve your partner being in discomfort or pain?I agree with this if it’s something relatively mild. It’s when it gets more extreme (like BDSM), that I don’t think people should throw around the whole ‘you should just do it for your partner’ thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 08:07 PM |
| 3 | Do you have any kinks that do not involve your partner being in discomfort or pain?Fair enough. You’re definitely not the kind of man I’m talking about. Unfortunately, I have run into some where the degrading aspect was what was appealing to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Do you have any kinks that do not involve your partner being in discomfort or pain?I personally don’t believe it is. I have however heard this from men I know on why they like it. They’ve described it as something like ‘putting her in her place?’ or like they own her I don’t see it that way tbh, and I don’t have a problem with it if the man doesn’t view it that way either. But if he did, that’s what would be offputting. It’s why kinks need to be fully discussed and both parties need to be honest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 08:05 PM |
| 5 | Do you have any kinks that do not involve your partner being in discomfort or pain?What’s the reasoning behind wanting to do it tho? If it’s anything to do with degradation, that kinda goes with discomfort unless she’s into that On the flip, would you let a partner squirt on your face? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"Gotchu. See, imo that kinda shit is pretty tame and normal and something most couples can reasonably do for their partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:40 PM |
| 8 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"Yup, most of the time it’s this. And it’s like…you guys know that’s just a tiny part of what actual kinks are out there, right? I think a lot of the men that are into those things are just sadists, not necessarily doms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"What if it’s something that genuinely is painful for them? Let’s take anal, for example. If she tries with you, and as you try and put it in, it hurts her and she wants to stop. Would you be happy with that? If so, what was the point of that other than to hurt her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:26 PM |
| 3 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"Does kinky sex involve kinks like pegging, men being on the receiving side of BDSM, etc.? Or are you only referring to ‘kinky’ meaning acts that are often painful for women (anal, being on the receiving end of BDSM, etc)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:24 PM |
| 6 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"I agree it’s not easy. There’s a lot of things that need to be compatible in order to have a healthy relationship But my point was, do you think men should pressure women to do acts that they hate or are painful for them, or that it’s ok, because it’s hard to find a sexually compatible partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:22 PM |
| 7 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"I mean, this shouldn’t be an excuse to pressure a woman to do sex acts she hates, right? How would a decent person even be able to enjoy it if their partner isn’t having a good time too and is actively hating it? Genuinely, what’s the alternative if not finding a compatible partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:19 PM |
| 8 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"This works in theory, but the problem is that a lot of ‘kinks’ men are into involve women being either hurt or very uncomfortable (not just mild). Things like anal and BDSM are things that women are usually expected to be on the receiving end of and if they aren’t into it, that’s the problem. As you’re wanting them to literally be in pain for you If it’s something milder like a foot fetish, then I agree that your partner should at least do what they can. But if it’s anything involving your partn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:16 PM |
| 8 | Kinky sex is not "treating a man better"If it’s just about enjoying kink tho, then why is it almost always acts that are uncomfortable or painful for the woman? Do you also consider ‘kinky’ sex to include being pegged, you being tied up or hit, you being spit on, you being the ‘sub’ in BDSM, etc? If not, why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:12 PM |
| 8 | Is it true that most women don't enjoy getting pounded during sex?Submissive isn’t the same as masochistic tho. They are different things. A lot of guys seem to think it’s the same. Women can enjoy being more submissive but not enjoy being hurt or rougher sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that most women don't enjoy getting pounded during sex?It really just depends on the woman tbh since women aren’t a monolith. Some women like it, some hate it, and some are ok with it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?…you’re joking, right? Like are you genuinely engaging in good faith? Look at how many countries are panicking because the birthrate is down. Look at how many are starting ti pressure women. Also, how do you think society will go if women decide to stop having children? What will happen? Once again, because women are the ones that have the deal with pregnancy and birth, it just doesn’t matter apparently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/26 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Sigh, you missed the point but ok. I literally said it wouldn’t happen overnight But back to your point—if we make it equal and draft everyone, what do you propose about pregnancy and birth to also make things genuinely equal? Or is that conveniently left out because it doesn’t affect men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/26 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?See, this is the issue. You’re just giving up and call it ‘acceptance’. You are literally just giving up because change is hard. Will it happen overnight? No. But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. 2000 years ago, I bet people thought it was impossible to communicate with someone in another town within seconds. Yet we’re here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/26 06:17 PM |
| 2 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?It’s not tho. Humanity can be better and we should be doing better. No man should have to go to war. I don’t believe that there should be a punishment for men who evade the draft anyways because it’s wrong. Why do you want to send people out to die, or become crippled, or develop severe PTSD? Why do you want this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/26 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?My response is specifically about war and drafts. Instead of pushing more people out to get hurt and killed and traumatized, we should be working so that it’s not necessary and so men (or women) DONT have to go through that. That’s the whole point. Like sure, make the draft mandatory for women too. That still doesn’t address the issue. No one should be forced to go to war, man or woman And if we really wanna just do this for whatever reason—who can actually enlist? Are pregnant women going to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/26 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Hypothetical choice of daily visitor: You can only pick one.True, but because your post didn’t specify, would non sexual affection be allowed in B? Because you only specify it as ‘no sex’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 09:53 PM |
| 3 | Are men justified in hating women?Do you have specific examples? I frequent quite a few women’s subs and I’ve occasionally seen ‘men are trash’ or ‘i hate men’, but that’s it and I think we can all agree that’s unhelpful and hateful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Are men justified in hating women?If that’s how you want to take it 🤷♀️ Personally, I believe all people should be treated with caution since we can’t tell the bad ones immediately. Better safe than sorry and I would never blame another person for being cautious of me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Hypothetical choice of daily visitor: You can only pick one.Does B have the option for romantic feelings and non sexual affection? Either way, I choose B. But I’m curious because the post is only talking about sexual and platonic feelings, not romantic. Can you hug them? Cuddle? Be affectionate? Cuddling and kissing isn’t sexual | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?It makes it different. They both did something deplorable and unforgivable. But if the first guy feels genuine remorse and works to make sure he doesn’t hurt someone again, that’s better than the latter. And just in case it’s not obvious, I’m not saying that the first guy is forgivable or that it’s ok or that he’s a good person. But he is different from the latter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Fair enough. Most people would be able to see the difference | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Ok, then let’s stick with the one time. One party deeply regrets it and takes measures so it won’t happen again. The other actively enjoyed doing it and feels no regret. Do you view them as the same? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?It explains the why. And honestly, someone who has anger issues can get that under control so they won’t do it again. The person who actively does this for fun will likely keep doing it. I’d bet you anything that most people would see the latter as a worse person. For example, say someone once hit a dog in a fit of anger but has never done it again and feels guilt (as they should) and another regularly hits dogs for fun and feels joy. Do you view these people the same way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Again, can you please point to where I said we should defend either of them? It’s quite interesting that me saying there’s a difference means that I’m defending one of them. So in case I have to make it clear—both are deplorable. And both should face the same punishment. But the reasons for it are different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Where did I say the person wouldn’t be an animal abuser? Obviously they would. However the reason why they did it is different. One did it because it makes them happy to hurt something. Another did it due to not controlling their emotions. Both are abusers, but the reasons are very different. I’m really curious why this is something you’re having a hard time understanding | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Again, to you it doesn’t matter. Why do you feel as though you have the authority to speak for everyone? I’m curious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?They are inherently different tho. If the distinction doesn’t matter to you, then cool. But there is a difference which you’ve written out. One kicked a puppy because that makes them happy and how they have fun. The other kicked one due to an emotional outburst. Are either good? Nope. But they are actions with different motives and reasons behind them. You not caring about nuance doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?The why behind things is always important. Would you say that someone who kicked a puppy by accident vs someone who kicks a puppy for fun and wants to hurt it are the exact same and will be viewed the same way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?But my point is that men that believe those things or follow Tate are a minority that social media presents like some large scale problem. If you go out in the real world, most healthy people don’t think like that. It’s like the whole gender war thing. Social media presents it like no one is able to date except for like models and influencers. But go outside and you can very clearly see that’s not reality. People are outside, on dates. You see young couples out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:21 PM |
| – | Women, what are your dating issues?That doesn’t justify manipulating someone and lying to them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:09 PM |
| – | Women, what are your dating issues?Women that only value men for those things are a part of the problem. There are genuinely good men and women that aren’t so artificial and who actually care about people. It’s never ‘justified’ to reduce someone to an object So again, if you want a transactional relationship and sex, why not pursue a relationship with a woman that also wants that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: do you find your romantic partner physically attractive?Same here. Personally, sexual attraction and desire doesn’t happen until I get close to someone, find them physically attractive, AND feel safe with them. It can’t just be one of these things. Otherwise, without physical attraction they are just friends and without the connection and safety, they are just something that’s nice to look at (similar to a sunset) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 06:27 PM |
| – | Women, what are your dating issues?I think men like that genuinely do see women as a sort of ‘sex vending machine’. It’s fucking disgusting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:59 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: do you find your romantic partner physically attractive?I’m kind of confused about your wizard scenario. Are you saying most men would want some other woman and not their wife? If so, that attraction seems much less valuable imo and surface level Would you want your partner to love how you look (in that moment and which can change due to aging or just life) but they don’t care much about you beyond that? Personally, not for me and I imagine most others would agree. I do think you should be physically attracted to your partner, but genuine attraction … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: do you find your romantic partner physically attractive?Yes. I thought he was cute when we first met and as I got to know him, the attraction has grown immensely. Personally, physical attraction is just a part of my attraction to someone. Attraction goes so much deeper than physical appearance But what a lot of people don’t understand is that what I find attractive isn’t what every other woman finds attractive. Like my friends think my husband is just an average dude. I personally think my friend’s partners are pretty unattractive 🤷♀️ Some of my fri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:45 PM |
| 9 | Are men justified in hating women?Yes and I’m asking for clarification as it’s intentionally vague | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:42 PM |
| – | Women, what are your dating issues?When I was dating, a big issue was sex. I need a strong emotional connection in order to feel safe enough to desire sex. Most men I dated either only wanted casual sex (so not actually date me or saw me as a human being) or got really pushy for sex even tho we’ve only known each other for barely a month. The number of men that actually respected that and wanted to spend time together besides just sex, I can count on one hand. It’s a big reason why I’ve only been with two men. And no, I’m not ase… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:41 PM |
| – | Women, what are your dating issues?If you see sex this way, you need to just pursue transactional relationships. Decent men don’t enjoy sex acts that their partner isn’t enjoying. Pulling out a chair is nowhere near the same effort as a blowjob. Eating a woman out is the equivalent | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:37 PM |
| 13 | Are men justified in hating women?Genuinely curious, but what are we considering ‘hate’ here? Are we talking about people just making generalizations? Or people actively being like ‘kill all men’ or ‘I hate men’? Would you consider women who are more cautious around men as ‘hating men’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:28 PM |
| 7 | Are men justified in hating women?The women who hate all men for what bad men do are no better. So that’s not really a good example as both are lacking nuance But I do wonder what you mean when you say women hate all men? If you mean genuine hatred, I agree. If you get upset that women practice more caution when out, that’s not hating men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:26 PM |
| 4 | Are men justified in hating women?Justified? Not sure. But honestly, if men hate women, they should just do what women are doing with 4B. Just create communities of men only and leave women alone. That should make them happy, right? Now if they’re hateful and still want to date or be with women, that’s a massive issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:23 PM |
| 5 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualBut a tiny minority? Not really. 20% is pretty significant compared to something like 1% | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?I can’t make you think critically fam. If you genuinely cannot tell the difference between curated online content vs life beyond the screen, then that’s that. Nothing productive can come from this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 04:03 PM |
| 3 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Because social media isn’t real life. There are numerous studies showing that always being behind a screen is detrimental and they are free for you to search and read. There’s even youtube videos that cover these if you don’t feel like reading If you’re only finding these sorts of opinions online, think critically for two seconds on why that may be | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Because it’s a big disconnect from the real world outside of social media? If you believe that social media is representative of most average people, that’s the problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?This too. I think that there’s a big disconnect between how people are in person vs online. If you go out in real life, you don’t really see the whole gender war thing. You see people dating and couples all the time. Meanwhile social media would have you believe that no average or below average person can date. It’s a massive disconnect | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:51 PM |
| 4 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?It’s not that it doesn’t matter at all. Just that if that’s the only place you’re seeing this, that’s the problem. Making provacative content is literally how people try and get views | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:38 PM |
| 4 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualI mean, there are literally studies that suggest that at least 1/5 women will experience rape or attempted rape in her lifetime. If you’re looking for studies that are only concerning rape and sexual assault when women are dating, that will have to be self-reported information. Or what kind of methodology are you looking for? Like genuinely curious, do you believe that only a tiny minority of women have experienced any of what I’ve commented above? Have you asked any close female friends on thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:37 PM |
| 4 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualThat’s fair and you aren’t really among the men that women are talking about if you do all that. The thing is that a lot of men DONT even do what you mentioned. All of my friends at some point have literally been injured during sex and I haven’t really heard of many men experiencing that. Is this something you’ve run into? And again, I’m not saying men shouldn’t enjoy sex or that they can’t experience bad sex. They definitely can. But can you at least agree that there’s a difference between not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:28 PM |
| 6 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualI do and I believe men can be raped and sexually assaulted by women. But what are you meaning by ‘bad’ here? Because there’s a big difference between bad meaning boring or not orgasming and bad meaning you weren’t respected or are physically in pain from. From my male friend’s experiences, what they consider to be ‘bad sex’ is pretty different from my female friends, and I mean that most of them haven’t experienced a physical injury or pain from sex. Granted this is only based on my own social c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:15 PM |
| 8 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualWhat do you consider rape to be? If you’re just thinking it’s someone jumping out from an alley and grabbing a woman, then yeah. That’s unrealistic. But what about having sex with a woman that’s passed out from drinking? Or a date ignoring when you say no? Or getting really pushy and not respecting the no? Or consenting to sex but telling them to stop and they don’t? These are way more common than you’d think | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:12 PM |
| 6 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualIf a woman has experienced sexual assault before, of course she’s going to be impacted by it and worry about it more. It’s happened to me and several of my close friends. It’s not some extreme rarity. Just as car crashes aren’t an extreme rarity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:08 PM |
| 5 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualMaybe, but for at least half of them I’ve literally had to go be support when something bad happened, so I know it’s not just made up stories. First time sex rarely goes amazingly, but that’s also mot really what women here (and my own friend group) mean. Being awkward or figuring each other out is very different than having a guy try and put it in without any kind of foreplay (this isn’t uncommon unfortunately) and then being annoyed at being asked, or having rougher things sprung on you withou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:05 PM |
| 10 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualPersonally, I haven’t. But all of my friends have and most of them have done it frequently. *All* of them have experienced men like this in some form (and no, they weren’t ‘chads’ like some men here would think). And running into shit like this is why most of them no longer will have sex outside a committed relationship. And before someone asks, it’s precisely the ‘most men aren’t like this!’ thought that had them keep trying casual even when things went south. Unfortunately men treating casual … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 02:54 PM |
| 23 | Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere EqualThis. Also when men have made it clear that they’re more than willing to fuck women they’re not attracted to just to get their nut off, that shows that they don’t respect those women. I’d argue that most women would not have sex with men if those men were honest about not being attracted to them. That doesn’t even count as ‘dating’ imo. If those men were genuinely interested in dating (not just casual sex, which is often just essentially masturbating with another person’s body), then OP would ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 02:29 PM |
| 5 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Why is this always the default response? You guys really support war this much? Drafts shouldn’t be a thing, not even for men. It’s immoral. But if you want to go there, how about men doing 50/50 of pregnancy and childbirth? Or are you going so say ‘but biology’ and turn your head the other way? It’s always interesting that ‘equality’ to these men always seems to conveniently leave out pregnancy and childbirth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 01:36 PM |
| 10 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?When you’ve heard these kinds of responses, have they mostly been from women you know in real life or social media? Because if it’s the latter, you have to take into account that many people literally will make provocative content to get engagement, and that’s not including people who are ranting (not being rational) because they are angry in the moment. There’s A LOT of nuance here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?If the male only spaces are genuinely about creating spaces for men to be safe or if men are genuinely fearful, there’s no issue and I imagine most women would have no problem with that. If it’s just wanting male only spaces to be able to openly talk about things (locker room talk about women), then yes that’s a problem. And yes, there’s a difference. The gendered spaces are supposed to be about legitimate safety | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 01:26 PM |
| 7 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?Yeah, this is something I agree with. You shouldn’t have to ID yourself in that situation if you’re not doing anything wrong, that’s fucked. My husband has also experienced the same thing unfortunately (we’re different races and the kids look more like me which makes it worse cause people are extra nosy) I think men do face discrimination, just in a different way than women do, like you said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 01:24 PM |
| 6 | Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit?I’m really curious how often feminism comes up in your daily/weekly conversations (in ‘real life’, not social media)? Because in my circles, with women who do call themselves feminists, it very rarely comes up. Much less misandry. But then again, they aren’t radical, so maybe that’s the difference? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 01:21 PM |
| 10 | Woman of Reddit. What is your usual response or reaction when you hear guys say "Women are too much work"?Honestly, I don’t really have much of a reaction? Just like okay 😂 Dating and being in a heathy relationship does require work, so as long as you’re chill with being single, no hate here! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 12:28 AM |
| – | Guys, if your girl goes clubbing, is that a dealbreaker?So just to clarify, are you saying that only things you personally find fun are what is *objectively* fun? Not entirely sure why you’re being hostile, but 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 07:04 PM |
| – | Guys, if your girl goes clubbing, is that a dealbreaker?What does ‘wet blanket’ mean in your comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 06:58 PM |
| – | Guys, if your girl goes clubbing, is that a dealbreaker?But then why make it seem like people are ‘boring’ if they aren’t a party person? That’s just strangely judgy. Someone’s not ‘boring’ for liking different things, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Feminists expect male "allies", but have no interest in solving male-specific issues or even recognizing themLife isn’t black and white fam. There’s nuance. For things to be equal and fair (which is incredibly important), biological differences HAVE to be addressed. I’ll never understand why some men refuse to acknowledge that women have to do most of the work to actually have a child and the physical toll it takes. Because of this, reproduction rights can never actually be 1-1 equivalent. You’re only trying to argue ‘equality’ in this case because you conveniently won’t be the one to deal with the phy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 06:55 PM |
| – | Guys, if your girl goes clubbing, is that a dealbreaker?Tbh people like different things. That doesn’t make one or the other objectively ‘boring’. I like clubbing and partying too, but staying in and having a 12 hour LOTR marathon is fun as hell too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 06:50 PM |
| – | Guys, if your girl goes clubbing, is that a dealbreaker?Ig, but I was seeing it more as a difference in how they’d like to spend time together. If your partner frequently wants to go out and you want to stay in and watch movies together, that’s going to require a lot of compromise where neither party will be fully happy. I think it’s just a matter of compatibility | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 06:49 PM |
| – | Guys, if your girl goes clubbing, is that a dealbreaker?I mean, tbh I wouldn’t think I’d be compatible with man that *didn’t* enjoy going out to club/party sometimes. It doesn’t mean he’s a bad or lesser person. We just wouldn’t be a good match and I imagine that it’s the same the other way around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Feminists expect male "allies", but have no interest in solving male-specific issues or even recognizing themYou’re basically only trying to frame ‘equality’ in a way that only benefits the man tho. Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 03:28 PM |
| 6 | Feminists expect male "allies", but have no interest in solving male-specific issues or even recognizing themExactly this. I’ve never understood men who push to not wear a condom if they don’t want kids. Sure, it’s not 100% effective, but it does have a high effectiveness rate. If you don’t want kids, there is ZERO reason to not wear a condom. If a woman pressures you, you decline sex. But honestly, contraception is a two way street. BOTH parties have to do their part. Just because a woman is on bc, that’s not a good reason to avoid condoms and avoid doing your part | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 03:14 PM |
| 9 | Feminists expect male "allies", but have no interest in solving male-specific issues or even recognizing themThat’s not equality. Does the man also have to go through all the hormonal changes and pain that comes from an abortion? Conveniently that just gets left out. True equality would be men experiencing 50% of what women experience with pregnancy, abortion, and birth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 03:13 PM |
| – | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Was she pressured into it beforehand? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 12:45 AM |
| 5 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?You think that makes it funny a woman was raped? A decent person wouldn’t find rape *in any situation* funny. A lot of decent people fall in love with abusers. Seeing the world in black and white with no nuance is so bizarre | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Sure, I can understand that. Has she ever elaborated on that tho? Is it a new aversion? Did she previously feel pressured? There’s almost always a ‘why’ involved and that ‘why’ is pretty important. If it’s truly that she just got lazy and doesn’t mind doing it, then I admit it’s a bit odd and I would feel like something is wrong as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 07:08 PM |
| 7 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Exactly! It comes across like they don’t care about their partner’s wellbeing and boundaries. Most things aren’t a boundary for no reason. My rebuttal is always, ‘how are you even able to enjoy the act if you know your partner is just gritting their teeth and praying for it to be over?’ No one’s ever responded to that and I think it speaks volumes. A decent person shouldn’t be able to enjoy sex knowing their partner isn’t also enjoying themselves Because let’s be honest—most sex acts these men l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 05:39 PM |
| 6 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Honestly, I just wonder if they are talking about just doing acts that they are neutral or don’t have strong feelings about for their partner? If so, that makes sense and I think most people do that to pleasure their partner. But there’s a massive difference between doing something you’re meh about vs doing something that you actively dislike and are uncomfortable with (a boundary) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Well adjusted and emotionally mature men will not want or enjoy sex with a partner that’s not enjoying it or is uncomfortable/in pain. Decent people will want their partner to enjoy sex as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Except that not always the case. I also agree with that commenter and I’ve only had sex with 2 partners (both committed relationships). Comparison IS the thief of joy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 05:24 PM |
| 10 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Yup, exactly! I think a lot of men (not all) consider ‘kinky’ to be a pretty limited number of things, mostly things done to women or where women are uncomfortable/in pain. Genuinely how many men are talking about being pegged, being tied up, being on the receiving side of impact play, or being the ‘pet’ in petplay, when they talk about wanting ‘kinky’ sex? It seems like most on here are just referring to relatively mainstream porn things. It’s like they consider only rougher sex and BDSM to be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 04:51 PM |
| 9 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?Even if it’s something potentially painful for him? Most men I know would likely not be okay with getting pegged (at least it’s not that common from what I hear from my kinkier friends), for example | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 04:01 PM |
| 6 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?My husband is the only partner that I consistently have sex 2-3x a day with. He’s also the only one I’ve ever given oral to precisely because he understands my limits and has always been respectful. Same with cosplay and some other light kinks, but I think that’s just because we’re both into it. Neither of us are into violence or excessive roughness He’s made it clear that he gets literally zero enjoyment if I don’t like something. As in, there were times I’ve tried things that seemed interestin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?This isn’t the same for everyone and is also dependent on size. Some people can spend months preparing and still find it painful. Some people are into it and some aren’t | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 03:54 PM |
| 10 | Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally?The thing is, depending on size it can still hurt even with prep And most of the time they will still have to be slow and incredibly gentle the whole time. You can’t usually just thrust like it’s a vagina or you can literally hurt your partner. It’s going to be nothing like porn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 03:53 PM |
| 22 | What is the average female sexual experience like?Honestly, I’ve only had sex within committed relationships with men that were respectful. But I have unfortunately heard from my friends how bad casual sex usually is. One commenter already talked about how blowjobs are expected but men won’t reciprocate or bother to help them finish, so I won’t go there Another BIG and common issue my friends had faced was having that violent porn shit sprung on them with ZERO talk about it beforehand. Every single friend of mine has at point point experienced … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 02:56 PM |
| 1 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.I’m not being hyperbolic. These are real life experiences that I’ve been through and that people I know have been through. Are you saying it doesn’t exist? The point is, if your partner tells you that they are uncomfortable with a sex act and it’s a boundary, would you still push for them to do it or would you respect that boundary? Respecting the boundary can also mean walking away if a sex act is so important to you But honestly, I’ll never understand how someone can even enjoy a sex act knowi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 02:11 PM |
| 1 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.Sometimes it can be a form of selfharm. A close friend of mine used to let men hurt her (from a bad home with terrible selfworth and self hatred). This naturally stopped once she was able to afford therapy. I’d hope that any decent man wouldn’t be upset that someone improved their mental health and weren’t selfharming anymore Other times it can be young women with no experience and have a hard time saying no. This has happened to me with my first partner. Whenever I said no, he’d get incredibly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 02:05 PM |
| 13 | When men and women say they have “no options” it means two completely different thingsThere’s always outliers, but most people seem to have at least some options. Whether they’re interested in those options or not isn’t really relevant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 10:14 PM |
| 4 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsAnd that’s your opinion. Trying to paint it as a universal truth is very narrow minded and lacks nuance Many women, including myself, do feel physical lust for their husbands and/or men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 04:01 PM |
| 4 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsThis is true, but part of being in a long term relationship is commitment through the difficult times, is it not? Say you have a child and your wife has a difficult recovery postpartum and can’t have sex for almost a year due to healing. If you leave or cheat, you’re objectively being a bad partner since there’s no real commitment there. Unless, you’re not referring to a committed monogamous relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:59 PM |
| 6 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsFair enough. But what do you mean by ‘genuinely desires’? Women typically take more time to warm up to sex due to how our bodies work. That doesn’t mean they don’t genuinely desire their husbands (unless you’re just saying that you’re looking for a woman who views desire the same way you do) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:55 PM |
| 6 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsHow edgy. But genuinely why would you purposefully pursue monogamous women just to cheat and traumatize them? Libido will ebb and flow in a long term relationship and that’s normal. If you can’t handle that, you aren’t built for monogamous relationships. It’s ok to recognize that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:51 PM |
| 8 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsYou realize libido can change over your life and has little to do with attraction, right? For many people, sex is the last thing on their mind when stressed or exhausted. That doesn’t mean they aren’t attracted to their partner or that they lied about their libido | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsWould it be alright if you were doing ‘the work’ during sex? If so, I think a lot of women would be fine with it when they’re tired (as long as their body relaxes enough so they don’t get hurt) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:48 PM |
| 6 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsI mean, would you enjoy sex if your spouse was exhausted and just laid there? Sometimes the exhaustion really is that bad, especially during the baby phase. There have been a lot of times where I wanted to be intimate with my husband, but I have zero energy so he will have to do ‘the work’ (luckily he doesn’t mind and I do the ‘work’ when he’s tired). As long as you don’t consider that as ‘bad sex’, then sure. But so many men seem to have an issue with that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsThen you need to pursue poly/open relationships or stay single | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsI mean, I agree with you to a degree. But there are also low libido men out there. I’ve been with one. The key is finding a partner that has a compatible libido. I think there are a lot more men that have a lower libido than we think. At least in the case of my ex, it was something he was actively ashamed about. I have several close friends that have higher libidos than their husbands and struggle with their sex life. This situation is just very nuanced | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 03:22 PM |
| 4 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.Did she not want to go for that icecream because it was with you? Or because she would be reminded of unpleasant memories with her ex? If it’s the latter, that makes sense. Most people don’t want to be reminded of an ex when with someone new. I don’t think this would fall under #2 if she genuinely wouldn’t have a good time. The concert one is strange tho and I agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:53 PM |
| 5 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsYou think that most people in the world believe that their parents (and other older couples) magically don’t get intimate with each other after having kids? Why do you assume everyone thinks the same way as you do? I’m genuinely curious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsFair enough. Would you say the same for when women are postpartum? That healing can take months and that’s considered normal. The 8 weeks thing is the bare minimum. If your wife wasn’t feeling back to normal, would you push for sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsGenuinely, how old are you? Your thinking is so black and white with 0 nuance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsWhere did I say it was a common occurrence? Personally, for us it’s rare to get to that point. It’s happened to me when I had a bad complication postpartum. My husband went through a short period of heavy stress when he was unexpectedly laid off. In those situations sex does NOT help. During the time my husband got laid off, he literally only wanted to cuddle and wanted affection to help his anxiety so he wouldn’t spiral. Me pushing for sex would have just put pressure on him that would’ve made … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsAgain, do you believe that it works the exact same for everyone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsWould you say that a duty of a good husband is also to please his wife on command even if it wasn’t reciprocated (you going down on her and that’s it)? What if you were sick or injured? It doesn’t matter? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsYou do realize not everyone enjoys sex in the kitchen, right? Or are we going under the assumption that everyone enjoys what you do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:32 PM |
| 4 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsI’ve already addressed this. Neither my husband nor I are naturally loud during sex. We also always have the tv or music going anyways (we did this before kids so not much changed). I mean, kids will grow up at a certain point. When you were a teenager did you really think your parents weren’t intimate with each other? At some point when they’re older, you do realize you have to teach them about sex, right? A young child, won’t realize what’s going on. You really think a 5 year old will try open… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsThat’s a you thing fam 🤷♀️ As a kid, I never minded. Might have kids go ‘ewww’ but most won’t really care as they get older True, but you aren’t constantly chained to them like you’re trying to portray. When they’re young they need constant attention. As they get older, you will have much more free time. Again, if all you care about in life is being able to fuck like a banshee wherever and whenever you want, then go for it. But that doesn’t mean everyone wants that or enjoys that. And it doesn’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsIf that’s how you want to view this, then sure. But this is just coming off like you’re purposefully being obtuse. For example, we don’t have family living with us anymore, but they are nearby (within 5 mins). So in the mornings, we typically have sex whenever we want because the kids are asleep, and we keep the doors locked. Yeah, sometimes the kids will knock if they need something, but it’s pretty rare. Then again at night we’ll usually have sex again. This isn’t some ‘scheduled’ thing for us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:23 PM |
| 5 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsWhy the fuck can’t you hold hands or kiss in front of your family?? You have to be trolling 😂 Even growing up most adult couples were always affectionate with each other. Non sexual affection isn’t going to traumatize children Maybe to you. Like lemme ask, you work, right? You can’t just have your partner come over and fuck while you’re on the job, right? You’re literally on some sort of schedule when you can have sex. You sound pretty young because your responses are so narrow minded and lack n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsSo you believe that ALL people have the exact same libido as you do? Why do you assume that your way of thinking is the only right way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsThis doesn’t apply to everyone fam. I’m someone with a high libido and prefer to have sex 3-5 times a day. My husband is very similar. However, when heavy stress comes up, I get panic attacks. Sex can NOT help with that. When my husband get put under heavy pressure, he tends to get really into his head to the point where his anxiety takes over. So no, having sex for all situations does not help. What helps in these situations is just affection. And then once we’re calm, sex is much more likely t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:15 PM |
| 6 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsYou do realize that family can take kids out, right? You also realize that couples can take vacations away, right…? And I guess this just depends on the couple. My husband and I aren’t people that naturally scream during sex, but if you are then yeah, I can see how that might be an issue. But for us, sex has never been on a schedule and we don’t really have to stress about keeping quiet. Only thing we really changed is where we have sex, but that’s not a massive sacrifice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:11 PM |
| 0 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsThen be upfront about it and there’s no issue 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:06 PM |
| 0 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsGenuinely, how would you even be able to enjoy sex if your partner was gritting their teeth or crying, waiting for it to be over? Hopefully you’d only want sex that both of you enjoy. Otherwise, how is it any different from treating your partner as a toy for you to get off with? Having sex when they aren’t into it is not about connection or intimacy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:06 PM |
| 3 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsYou’re right. Male and female bodies are different. Which means you also need to accept that women having sex when they don’t want to can literally hurt and injure them since they are the ones being penetrated. If you aren’t worried about this, you aren’t a decent partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsFor some people. For others they won’t even be able to relax enough to be penetrated without pain. You’re trying to act like every human is the exact same as you which is a bit strange. You’re also refusing to acknowledge that people have different libidos. Some naturally prefer sex 4 times a day. Others prefer it twice a month. Both are normal and there’s nothing wrong with either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsNot really. For a lot of people, you can’t enjoy sex if you’re stressed or exhausted. And decent men wouldn’t want to have sex with a partner that’s not enjoying it, right? Also, this isn’t a gendered issue. My husband gets in his head a lot and can’t enjoy sex if he’s very stressed/afraid/exhausted too. It’s completely normal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:56 PM |
| 5 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsYou don’t ever have family to help look after them or spend time with them? That’s a bit strange.do you only consider loud sex in the open as romance? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:50 PM |
| 8 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsEh, this really depends on the couple and honestly the culture. If you believe in moving away from family and only relying on yourself and your partner to take care of your kid and you both work? Yeah, not a great time. But if you have extended family that lives with you or helps put often, it’s not that hard to keep the romance alive. Both my husband and I have families where this is the norm culturally and we made sure to have time set aside for us to reconnect. You both just have to make an e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:48 PM |
| 9 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.Interesting! So the things they did with their exes they explicitly said they were into it and enjoyed the acts? I’m just trying to understand how this works. For example, would they be like ‘yeah I really love to get eaten out!’ And you’d ask to do it, and they’d just say ‘no’? Not that they previously did them but didn’t enjoy it/find it pleasurable? Cause if it’s this, they would fall under #1 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:20 AM |
| 9 | How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships?Do you think it’s bad to prioritize different things throughout your life? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 12:10 AM |
| 2 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.But if it was something that your partner was extremely uncomfortable with or something that put them in pain, how would you derive sexual pleasure from that? Sex is a mutually enjoyable activity, is it not? A decent person wouldn’t get pleasure from a their partner gritting their teeth and bearing it. If it was something mildly uncomfortable, you’d have a point. But a lot of sex acts for women go beyond that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 11:49 PM |
| 9 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.Then you shouldn’t seek to be in a relationship with a woman. That’s a really easy cop out so you can continue to act as though your view is the universal truth. There are many women out there that absolutely despise ‘kinky’ sex and you have women who want to dominate men, but I have a good feeling that you don’t consider that as ‘kinky’, right? Because you want women to engage in acts that hurt them/make them uncomfortable Like genuinely, I’m curious—if a woman you were seeing didn’t want to do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:54 PM |
| 4 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.How do you know if a woman genuinely enjoyed it tho? Are you basing it off her word? So if a woman told you she never enjoyed a specific sex act but did it because she was pressured, would you believe her and not pressure her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't careI don’t think this means it’s purely transactional. Sex is a natural thing to want when you’re in love with your partner. Like let’s say my husband got into an accident and lost his libido/couldn’t have sex for whatever reason but still wanted to. I would stay and it wouldn’t bother me. Now let’s say one day he just came up and said, we aren’t having sex anymore. That would be jarring and raise a lot of questions that are pretty relevant to a healthy relationship. I wouldn’t leave immediately, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:25 PM |
| 4 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.Genuinely, if a partner was averse to it and would be forcing themselves, would you even still be able to enjoy the sex act? It would be completely one sided at that point and essentially just using your partner like a toy. Not talking about if it’s something they’re neutral about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:15 PM |
| 7 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.Would you say the same if she always disliked oral? Personally, I don’t see how you’d even be able to enjoy a sex act knowing your partner is actively uncomfortable (not talking about something they’re neutral about) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:13 PM |
| 5 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.If you genuinely enjoyed a sex act and found it pleasurable, why wouldn’t you want to keep doing it? Because if someone is only doing sex acts because they’re afraid to lose someone, they aren’t genuinely enjoying it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:09 PM |
| 11 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.You also have to take into consideration that most ‘kinky’ sex acts men want are things that either hurt or are uncomfortable for women. Can you name popular sex acts men typically want that don’t involve the woman being on the ‘receiving’ end of uncomfortable things? Things like anal (painful for many women and can cause permanent injury), deepthroating, being bent into uncomfortable positions, being hit/tied up, etc? It’s just interesting that ‘kinky’ seems to almost always refer to the woman … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:05 PM |
| 6 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.Genuinely tho, if you really enjoyed a sex act and found it pleasurable, why would you no longer want to do it? If someone genuinely enjoys something, they will do it without being coaxed or pressured | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:00 PM |
| 25 | The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about.This is where I’m at. I see the #2 one thrown out by men here but have NEVER heard of this. And I’m in a circle of women that had or are still into the whole kink scene. The ones who aren’t anymore left because they weren’t actually into it or were initially doing it as a form of selfharm (several have admitted this unfortunately). The ones who actually enjoy it are still very much into it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Why do some feminists, especially on Reddit, so vehemently deny they don't hate men but do nothing to stop and even justify hateful comments of men in their subreddits?This is a very pessimistic take. Like, are you saying all women only want the ‘top men’? Then what about the women who are married to an average guy and adore him? Or are you only talking about ‘top women’? Most people end up and are attracted to people that are similar levels of attractiveness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Why do some feminists, especially on Reddit, so vehemently deny they don't hate men but do nothing to stop and even justify hateful comments of men in their subreddits?So what’s the solution, then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Why do some feminists, especially on Reddit, so vehemently deny they don't hate men but do nothing to stop and even justify hateful comments of men in their subreddits?Fair enough. But say someone is physically frail. Would it be a problem for them to be cautious around strangers physically stronger than they are? You can’t immediately gauge who will potentially be a threat, so it’s best to stay alert, right? Personally, I live in a major city where crime is higher than average. I keep to myself, regardless of whether a stranger is a man or woman. But when walking down streets, if someone either looks ‘off’ (think erratic behavior) or there’s a group of people… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 10:48 PM |
| 1 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedI’m not saying that women shouldn’t do what they can to protect themselves. I strongly advocate for women to at least know the essentials of selfdefense and carry small weapons if need be. However, my point is that you can’t deny that men do have a physical advantage over women, right? This is a fact due to biology. I’m just asking for you to put yourself into a woman’s shoes for a second. Imagine that the gender you’re attracted to can overpower you in a second. If they aren’t a good person, yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 10:26 PM |
| 0 | Why do some feminists, especially on Reddit, so vehemently deny they don't hate men but do nothing to stop and even justify hateful comments of men in their subreddits?Would you agree that both genders need to stop spreading hateful or hurtful rhetoric? I can’t speak on the Sabrina Carpenter example, as I’ve never heard that song. But yes, those things are harmful, I agree. Would you also agree that women do need to often be more cautious in situations because they are (on average) much weaker than men and are more likely to experience sexual assault? I’m just asking because I see this downplayed heavily in male spaces a lot and that’s what makes a lot of wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 10:15 PM |
| 10 | Why do some feminists, especially on Reddit, so vehemently deny they don't hate men but do nothing to stop and even justify hateful comments of men in their subreddits?Honestly this. I have never really seen the ‘kill all men’ comments and have literally only heard that it happens here (don’t doubt it, but personally have never seen it). I have seen ‘I hate men’, and I already call that out so 🤷♀️ I’m just like….are these men also calling out other men when they make shitty comments about women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 06:56 PM |
| 1 | When a woman a man is dating starts losing interest, the best thing he can do is detach and stop caring.Fair enough | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 03:29 PM |
| 1 | When a woman a man is dating starts losing interest, the best thing he can do is detach and stop caring.Yes, say she starts showing interest. If you weren’t playing games, you would still detach even if this happens | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 03:15 PM |
| 1 | When a woman a man is dating starts losing interest, the best thing he can do is detach and stop caring.That’s not what I mean. If she responded and wanted to keep things going, would you or would you ‘detach’ like you mentioned in the OP? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 02:53 PM |
| – | When a woman a man is dating starts losing interest, the best thing he can do is detach and stop caring.Ok. If the woman ends up reaching out to you after you pull away, would you respond? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 02:14 PM |
| – | When a woman a man is dating starts losing interest, the best thing he can do is detach and stop caring.What is your intention by stepping back? Are you hoping that she’ll reach out? If not, then whatever works for you. But if you’re secretly hoping that it’ll make her reach out, you’re playing games | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 01:55 PM |
| – | When a woman a man is dating starts losing interest, the best thing he can do is detach and stop caring.Genuinely what are you hoping for by doing this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 01:38 PM |
| – | When a woman a man is dating starts losing interest, the best thing he can do is detach and stop caring.Why play games tho? Just cut her off. Hell even ghost if communicating is too hard | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 01:36 PM |
| 3 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedI don’t. But I can’t tell who has the intention and who doesn’t, so I’m careful to stay safe. Why is that an issue? I’m not bad mouthing men or saying they’re all criminals. But I do stay careful around people (men and women) I don’t know well and who I know I have 0 chance to defend myself Like, have you ever lived in a genuinely shitty and dangerous area? Not everyone is a threat. However, you can’t always tell who’s safe. My husband grew up in a bad area of the Bronx. He’a more careful and ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 05:20 PM |
| 6 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedWould you say it’s ok for people to be cautious around strangers that are physically stronger than them and who they would likely have 0 chance to fight off? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 03:46 PM |
| 3 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedYeah this is def true. My husband actually grew up in a pretty shitty area in the Bronx. He’s A LOT more cautious around random people (especially men) than I am, even if they appear outwardly ‘normal’. So I don’t fully get why some people refuse to understand this or get upset when women are more cautious/defensive around strangers, especially when most women stand 0 chance in hell at overpowering a man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 02:35 PM |
| 3 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedWe likely need to research what makes those men different. Is it genetic? Something different? But either way, both women AND MEN need to call out those men when they see them doing something wrong (more so men imo). Men tend to listen to other men and not women in my experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 02:32 PM |
| 2 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedVery true. I’m not talking about people who go and start bad mouthing a group of people. But unfortunately, MOST women are much physically weaker than MOST men and will never be able to fight them off even with a weapon. I’m pretty sure that merely biologically men are more than twice as strong as women. So women will pretty much always have to be cautious around men. This shouldn’t be much of a problem if they don’t go bad mouthing all men, right? Like, imagine if the gender you’re attracted to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 02:11 PM |
| 2 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedThe thing is, we can’t reduce the impact of bad men. We have to work to reduce bad men from hurting people. Once that hurt and damage has already happened, you can’t really do anything about it. Unless we can severely reduce or stop bad men from hurting/attacking women, the ‘impact’ will never go down | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 02:04 PM |
| 1 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedWould you say it’s bad if someone (man or woman) is physically pretty weak and so they stay more cautious around stranger that can easily physically overpower them? How would you suggest they defend themselves if they are ever attacked? I’m not saying if someone is hating on a specific group, but that they are just staying more cautious in situations where they’re around strangers (who you have 0 idea if they are decent people or not) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 02:01 PM |
| 2 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedGenuine question—would you have a problem if someone (man or woman) was just more cautious around strangers that are physically stronger than them and who they would have 0 chance to physically fight off if a situation ever arose? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 01:57 PM |
| 3 | When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuancedGenuinely tho, if a woman is just more cautious around men (since she cannot physically ever fight off someone stronger in most cases), why would you assume that you need to ‘take responsibility’ for what bad men have done? Or let’s take away gender, would you be ok with someone (man or woman) being more careful around strangers that appear to be physically stronger than them? You can’t immediately tell who is bad usually, and being safe rather than sorry later seems like the best way to stay sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 01:54 PM |
| 4 | If men focus on compatibility, they wouldn’t have to ‘play jester’ and be ‘Dance Monkeys’ on dates.Why go for so few women tho? There are a lot of single women out there. Are you only going for the conventionally attractive ones? Are you on a similar level looks wise? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/26 02:41 PM |
| 1 | If men focus on compatibility, they wouldn’t have to ‘play jester’ and be ‘Dance Monkeys’ on dates.But are you talking about objective attractiveness? Because not everyone is conventionally attractive. So realistically, if you aren’t attracted to someone that’s around your level of your attractiveness, what happens? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/26 02:37 PM |
| 1 | If men focus on compatibility, they wouldn’t have to ‘play jester’ and be ‘Dance Monkeys’ on dates.Have you actually spoken to genuinely conventionally unattractive women? They get almost no attention, and many of their attention on apps is men matching with them is to insult them or try and straight up ask for sex. They don’t have many options for a relationship even from the less attractive men. A close friend of mine let me see her tinder and hinge accounts and the men in her messages were just atrocious. Not in looks but in how they treated her because she was less attractive. So no, not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/26 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Do you fall in quickly or slowly?For me it’s always slow. Like I’m initially interested in them as a person, but attraction and liking them comes later. My husband, for example, I was interested in as a person almost immediately. We actually were friends for like 5 months before I started developing feelings for him and we got together. I’ve never been immediately into someone romantically or sexually. It’s always taken time. And I used to work in an industry with very attractive people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONOf course there’s more to it than that. But it is part of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 10:11 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Fair enough. Tho I still think that most people (man or woman) see sex as being connected to pregnancy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 08:32 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Why would you want a partner to risk their wellbeing when it’s widely known how common birth control side effects are? Would you expect your partner to go on birth control just so you don’t have to wear a condom? Or would you do your part just as she does hers? There is absolutely no good reason to put all the responsibility on the woman. Especially if it’s your partner Men can also refrain as well, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 03:49 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?A decrease in pleasure is still not a good reason to try and get out of wearing one. Birth control is also often unpleasant for women so 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 03:25 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?That’s surprising. Most of the men on here are upset that they can’t have casual sex, and I’m sure you’ve seen those comments. So it shouldn’t be surprising that people might assume that some men on here would jump at the chance. There are literally comments all over this thread of men admitting that And I have mentioned numerous times, I don’t believe in casual sex nor have ever participated in it (I’d reckon my bodycount is lower than even yours as my only ‘body’ has been my husband so 🤷♀️) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 03:23 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?🤦♀️ Ok, let’s ask straight up then, but I have a good feeling you’ll dodge the question. If you could have casual sex, would you do it? Yes or no? As in there are attractive women right now who would be down to hookup when you’re free | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:38 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Not an ‘own’ but to see if the men here truly believe in personal responsibility. Even if a woman is on birth control, the man should do his part and wear a condom. There is zero reason to not wear one, right? So if you believe in personal responsibility, surely you also shame men that push or ask to not wear a condom, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:35 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?It’s actually very relevant to this conversation, but ok. Since we’re talking about personal responsibility—do you also believe that men that don’t want children should always wear a condom (or decline sex if the woman refuses)? I can’t think of a single reason why a man would ever ask to not wear them if he doesn’t want kids. Do you agree? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:07 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?No, I’m asking how rare you think sexual assault and rape are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 01:39 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Nice backtracking 😂 You literally don’t like women ‘whoring’ around, but you want to be able to fuck around as much as you like. Very interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 01:28 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?My comment literally was about pregnancy and you commented on it. How does pregnancy happen without sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 01:27 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Genuinely, how rare do you believe sexual assault and rape is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 01:26 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Sex is all that makes someone treated as a human? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:17 AM |
| 0 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Yeah, caring about sexual assault and rape is such a crime apparently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:16 AM |
| 3 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?But you literally were talking about how great it’d be that you can have all the casual sex. Why are women ‘harlots’ but it would apparently be ok for you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONI don’t deny that some women are like that. My main point is that it’s not all women. Do you disagree? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:00 AM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Interesting how you refuse to answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 01:26 AM |
| 2 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?As I’ve stated before, I haven’t been through those things personally. Not quite sure why you’re trying to slip that in there. And genuinely curious, you wish to be a ‘harlot’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 01:26 AM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?How can you guarantee that he wouldn’t be raped then? Or do you just assume that it doesn’t happen and women lie about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 12:04 AM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Interesting how you try and backtrack when your initial accusation was wrong lol 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 12:00 AM |
| 6 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?I’ve never had casual sex luckily! But I have unfortunately heard from many friends how shit in bed many men are and how common lying and coercion is. If you have any female friends, you’d be well aware of how common it is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 11:58 PM |
| 5 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?As long as you’re fine with being hurt most of the time and rarely orgasming! Remember how many sex acts are uncomfortable/painful for women. So as long as you’re fine with that, then neat! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 11:27 PM |
| 8 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Fam, I wouldn’t bring up a scenario if it was completely unlikely or if I hadn’t gone through it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 11:26 PM |
| 7 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?How would you prevent it if you’re raped? Remember if everything is swapped, you become physically much weaker. And plan B only works if you haven’t already ovulated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 10:20 PM |
| 6 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Yes. So men shouldn’t mind if they could be the ones to carry a pregnancy then, right? Personal responsibility and all. So why wouldn’t you accept that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 09:29 PM |
| 0 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Only for men that just care about sex. Men that genuinely see women as people and want a genuine connection would disagree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 09:08 PM |
| 1 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Even if you were the one who risks pregnancy and all that comes with it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 09:05 PM |
| 9 | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?Exactly this. Does it also put the burden of pregnancy and birth on men and do I become physically stronger than most men? If so, then HELL YEA! If not, then the dynamics aren’t fully flipped | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 09:05 PM |
| – | Why can't women just tell men when they're unattractive?Then why are you on this thread? Was the whole point of OP that women should tell men that they’re unattractive or no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 09:01 PM |
| – | Why can't women just tell men when they're unattractive?Fam, I’ve literally been physically attacked when I admitted that I just wasn’t attracted. This doesn’t even account for the times that I’ve been harassed or followed for telling the truth. So yeah, it happens And also….you do realize that personality can also be a reason to reject someone, right? I’ve rejected more men due to their views and personality than I have for their appearance. Believe it or not, most women want a partner that’s a good person and compatible. It’s strange that you think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 08:59 PM |
| – | Why can't women just tell men when they're unattractive?Telling someone it might be their personality is not gaslighting them. I’ve rejected men for how they’ve acted and their personalities before. So have all my friends. Women mentioning personality doesn’t mean they are inherently gaslighting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 08:53 PM |
| – | Why can't women just tell men when they're unattractive?Then this is why women aren’t honest. So you can’t really complain | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 08:50 PM |
| – | Why can't women just tell men when they're unattractive?It’s actually true in my case. I’ve been physically attacked before for being honest (and I wasn’t even saying he was ugly. I told him that I wasn’t attracted to him/he wasn’t my type). This doesn’t even account for the times I’ve been followed and screamed at. If you could guarantee that this would never happen, I would have no issue being honest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 08:48 PM |
| – | Why can't women just tell men when they're unattractive?Are young attractive women your ‘looksmatch’? If not, why are they your priority? They’re out of your league | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 08:46 PM |
| – | Why can't women just tell men when they're unattractive?If you could guarantee that I would not be harassed, potentially attacked, followed, or yelled at, I would be completely honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 08:44 PM |
| 1 | It seems that after the breakup, women are with a new guy almost instantly, while guys have to go through a crazy long dry spellI mean, this will depend on the woman. Personally, after my ex and I split (it was mutual), I didn’t date for close to 6 years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 07:17 PM |
| 4 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONWho’s having sex with abusive men? I sure as hell am not, and when I was dating, anyone who started showing any red flags were dropped. They certainly didn’t get sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 06:50 PM |
| 5 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONHow do you define a ‘good man’? Because a man who thinks sex is something given to him isn’t it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:55 PM |
| 5 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONThen why do you think they should ‘give’ sex to ‘good men’? If you are a good person, why don’t you want women to have sex when they feel comfortable to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:52 PM |
| 8 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONSex involves using their bodies does it not? But point is, if you see sex as something you should ‘get’ for being nice, you are not actually a good person. So no, women don’t owe you sex by your own logic. A good person wouldn’t want someone to have sex when they don’t want to, correct? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:49 PM |
| 7 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONSo just to be clear, you see women’s bodies as a ‘thing’ to be given to men? And by gatekeepers, you’re saying men can’t say no to sex? How is that not rape? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:46 PM |
| 8 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONBecause sex isn’t something women give and men ‘get’. It really shows how you actually view sex as something given to men and not something intimate and about connection between two people. Expecting to have women ‘give’ you sex shows you are not a good person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:40 PM |
| 8 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONThere’s a massive difference between something being enjoyable for two people and being rewarding and actively seeing sex as a reward you get for being ‘good’. So again, sex is not a reward or something given. It’s very toxic and unhealthy to view it that way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONIt’s both. Would you want to be with a woman that you have 0 attraction for? Probably not, right? And decent people, like actually good people, will want to be better because they want to help people. Not because they might get something in return. If you’re only doing ‘better’ to get something from people, you aren’t actually a good person. So if that’s your argument, it’s moot because they’re not actually being ‘better’ or good. You should be against abusing your partner because it’s wrong and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONDo you have any proof of this? Most of my friends are heavily liberal. My husband is more liberal and involved in politics than I am. All of my friend’s partners are liberal leaning and have similar views on major topics and are actively critical of conservatives. A close friend of mine divorced her ex when he voted for Trump | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:06 PM |
| 5 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONGenuine question—but let’s say most women genuinely just are happier single if they can’t get a compatible partner they want, what do you think should happen? Would you be ok with this? And I’m not saying women who do this to ‘get back at men’ or something, but genuinely if most women find being single as being more peaceful and what they want out of life rather than settling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 02:00 PM |
| 15 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONSeeing sex as a reward is the problem. Sex is something enjoyable for both people. If you see sex as something for yourself, you’re not a good man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 01:50 PM |
| 25 | Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATIONWhen you say women don’t care about men’s issues, what exactly do you mean? Would empathizing and recognizing that men are struggling be enough on its own? If so, I think many women already do. But most women will not date men that they aren’t interested in or push for other women to. That doesn’t mean that they don’t care | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 01:44 PM |
| – | Women have no idea what an average man isWhat do you mean by this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/26 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Red pill men: what turned you red pill?As long as you’re on the same page | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 10:58 PM |
| 0 | Red pill men: what turned you red pill?Just curious, but does your partner know you have these views and does she also share them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 09:04 PM |
| – | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexWhere did I say that’s ok? Anyone that’s even a halfway decent person would consider that immoral. Both are absolutely disgusting to do to a person. I’ve literally called out and dropped close friends who have admitted to doing those things. Do you call out men you know that lie to women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menHow so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 05:17 PM |
| -1 | A lot of men lack agency and responzibilityThere’s also plenty of people (men and women) who feel even more lonely and depressed when in a relationship. Your view doesn’t apply to everyone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 04:01 PM |
| 7 | A lot of men lack agency and responzibilityGenuine question—say you suddenly got a lot of attention from women. However all of these women are obese or objectively very unattractive, or they are verbally and potentially physically abusive, and then you have ones that are decent but aren’t compatible with you. And assume that sex for you would be you being the penetrated party and you risk pregnancy and you have to be the one to carry and give birth. Would you be happy with this? Would you genuinely count all of those women as viable opti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 03:59 PM |
| 2 | A lot of men lack agency and responzibilitySo all that matters is having a life partner to these men? Then a sexless relationship would make them happy. Or a relationship with an unattractive or obese woman would be perfectly fine, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 03:55 PM |
| 2 | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexDid she agree under specific pretenses? For example, if someone had HIV and lies about it and transmits it to their partner, you don’t believe there’s an issue? By lying, they are not allowing the person to actually make an informed decision. Their choice is literally being manipulated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 06:16 PM |
| 3 | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexFor real. Like if a man doesn’t want kids, why would you not always wear a condom? Women aren’t trustworthy, right? So wear a condom since she might be lying about bc. Don’t act like you have 0 agency. Men have no business trying to have sex without a condom | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 06:13 PM |
| 3 | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexThe thing that baffles me is that are these men always wearing a condom to protect themselves? They should be if they are genuinely worried about this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 06:12 PM |
| 8 | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexWhy lie and manipulate someone tho? If you truly believed that both sexes get equal benefit from sex, you wouldn’t have so many men admit that they will pretend to be interested and manipulate women (tell them what they want to hear) to have sex with them. Do you believe that lying and manipulating someone is wrong? Yes or no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 02:50 PM |
| 3 | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexIf a woman says that she will not have sex outside of a committed relationship, it’s wrong for a man to agree unless he genuinely sees it the same way. If someone genuinely happens to be a dealbreaker during sex for some weird reason, you should at least talk to that person. The ‘used’ part comes when a man literally pretends and lies. If you aren’t interested in a relationship with this woman, just be honest and don’t pretend that you do. I am not talking about GENUINE instances where someone m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 02:47 PM |
| 9 | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexMen also have much less risk from casual sex. They will never have to deal with getting pregnant or give birth. Men who push to not wear condoms are even worse, as they don’t care about putting the whole burden of contraception on women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 02:44 PM |
| 7 | It’s not possible to use a woman for sexIf a charity lies about fundraising money to help children with cancer, but they actually just use that money for themselves, is that ok? You consented to give that money under specific circumstances. At best, you are manipulating someone and hurting them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Refusing to work on social skills is a sign of laziness.Genuinely, are you married or in a longterm relationship? Cause if you’re single and giving out ‘advice’ on how to get a partner….might want to consider that your advice isn’t that great. There’s a reason why most of the married folk or those on longterm relationships lean towards bluepill and why the bitter and socially inept ones are redpill. I’ll let you take a guess on why The fact that you value ‘awards’ on Reddit is a bit of a strange priority, but as long as it makes you happy 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Refusing to work on social skills is a sign of laziness.Learn to socialize fam. Not my problem if reading a couple paragraphs is too ‘stressful’ for you 😂 Good luck out there ✌️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 11:12 PM |
| 0 | Refusing to work on social skills is a sign of laziness.What counts as ‘real’ neurodivergence, honey? Also, are you a psychologist? ADHD is very much not just a ‘concentrating issue’. So it sounds like you need to do your research, little man. Fam, you are literally trying to act like disabilities are the end of the world. That’s just dramatic and sad and an excuse to not try. Will it be harder? Yes. Is it unfair? Yeah. Who cares. You do what you can. If you want to just give up and cry about how it’s unfair, then you do you. But you can do something… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 10:56 PM |
| 10 | Men (and society) want tangible value from women but are mad that women want tangible value tooWill pregnancy and birth also be 50/50 then? Otherwise, how is it equal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 10:13 PM |
| 5 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menI mean, you realize sex is inherently different for men and women, right? Right off the bat, if you don’t have a vasectomy and don’t like condoms, that puts 100% of possible bad side effects on the women for contraception. That’s already a bad deal. If you happy always using condoms, then sure. But it seems like most men aren’t even tho that would help their partner out by a lot and help protect their partner’s wellbeing This doesn’t even account for if you plan on having children. In that scena… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 08:47 PM |
| 4 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menDefinitely with you on this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 07:22 PM |
| 1 | A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre.What do you mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 07:11 PM |
| 0 | A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre.Sure, you can feel repulsive. That doesn’t mean that you are. It’s the same thing as someone who grew up in a heavily abusive environment. They will feel unlovable. That doesn’t mean that’s fact. You have to work to overcome that feeling (and yes, I’m speaking from experience, and no it’s not easy). But you have to do it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 07:07 PM |
| 0 | A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre.But not having sex doesn’t inherently mean you are ‘sexually repulsive’. I’m not sure if you’re just hyperbolizing here, but women not being interested in having sex with you doesn’t mean you’re somehow ‘repulsive’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:51 PM |
| 10 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menOh, I agree. The way that men are treated as threats/or just weird if they aren’t able (or frankly just don’t want to) date is bad. We should be working to normalize being single. But being completely honest, I think social media is a big reason why there’s an increasing disconnect and a lack of empathy on both sides. Making massive generalizations on either gender does nothing but make things worse | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:49 PM |
| 2 | How does a relationship look like for you?Would she be able to confide in you when she’s unhappy/stressed/struggling or no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:46 PM |
| 4 | How does a relationship look like for you?Tbf ‘don’t cause drama’ is very vague. If a woman if unhappy and tries to communicate that with you, does that mean she’s causing drama? I’ve seen some men say that it is. If she asks for help because she’s struggling, does that mean she’s nagging? If she’s feeling neglected or unloved and tries to communicate with you, is that ‘disturbing the peace’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:45 PM |
| 20 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menHonestly, if men only want that and are fine with being single if they can’t get that, then I’m not sure what the issue is? You might have people say you’re delusional or whatever but women hear that too when they have stupid high standards 🤷♀️ Aim for the stars, just don’t make it other people’s problem if you don’t get it. You need to be willing to accept the high likelihood of remaining single The ‘obedient housewife’ part might be concerning depending on how you mean that as it can indicate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:31 PM |
| 3 | A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre.Fair enough. Hopefully you’re able to find a partner that makes you happy (not being sarcastic here). Honestly, finding a partner was something important to me too, just not something I’d be willing to sacrifice my dream for | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:24 PM |
| 0 | A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre.But for what reason? That’s what I think these people are asking. Whenever this gets asked, it’s just met with so much defensiveness or aggression and not actually answered. Like, why would you like a romantic partner? Is it mostly for sex? Is it about a deeper emotional connection? Someone to share a life with? Introspection is a good skill to have. A lot of people lack this tho and just go ‘i want this’ without any thought. That’s not helpful nor healthy. And wanting to have sex isn’t inherent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:20 PM |
| 3 | A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre.Why give up your dream life for a potential woman tho? Is it about sex in particular? A deeper connection? Romance? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:17 PM |
| 2 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menMen being willing to lower their standards just to have a partner doesn’t necessarily mean that women should tho, right? If someone only wants the best and is ok with being single due to that, what’s the problem? I’d think that most men would not enjoy being in a sexless relationship, which will happen if the woman isn’t attracted to them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:14 PM |
| 14 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menGenuinely, why tho? If women prefer to be single if they can’t get the ‘perfect’ partner, why is that a problem? That’s their choice, isn’t it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:12 PM |
| 17 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menBut those men don’t have to put up with their demands, do they? Are they being forced? If a woman refuses to hookup or date if her ‘demands’ aren’t being met, how’s that an issue? Just don’t engage with them 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:10 PM |
| 12 | Modern women overrate their value way more than menI mean, if a woman only will date a man that’s 6’5, makes 500k a year, and expects nothing from her in return, she’s more than free to stay single trying to chase that, right? It’s better than her ‘settling’ with a man she doesn’t want. If she gets bitter about it, well….she likely knew that was a possibility. I don’t see why this is a problem if some women choose to have a ‘perfect’ partner or be single if they can’t find that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 06:07 PM |
| 0 | Refusing to work on social skills is a sign of laziness.How do you know it’s ‘most’ women? I do not have tons of options like you seem to believe. I’ve only dated ~5 men over the span of 25 years (and only two of those went past 2 dates). Why? Because most men aren’t compatible and I’m not wasting time on people with different values. Any man that pushes boundaries or doesn’t match my values does not get another date, much less anything sexual. And yes, this includes very attractive men Being neurodivergent doesn’t mean you can’t learn good social sk… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 05:23 PM |
| -1 | Refusing to work on social skills is a sign of laziness.This is just not true. I’ve been on dates with men that I was incredibly attracted to, but either wouldn’t accept a ‘no’ or they started pushing/disrespected boundaries. Were they ‘hot’? Yeah. Were they also disgusting creeps that I ghosted? Also yeah. Being attractive does not give you a pass to be a piece of shit So unless you’re literally only wanting to attractive women with no self-respect, this just isn’t true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 03:56 PM |
| – | A woman’s bad experiences become boundaries and standards. Mens are insecurities and MisogynyHonestly tho, if someone wants a partner with the same or similar views on sex/sexual past, what’s wrong with that? I’m a woman that prefers to be with a man that views sex the same way I do (that sex is only an expression of love, not just an activity you do that’s fun). How is this not just compatibility? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Women Keep Bringing Up Rape to Shut Down Male ConcernsExactly this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 07:01 PM |
| 5 | Women Keep Bringing Up Rape to Shut Down Male ConcernsI was asking you to elaborate on what your comment. And also elaborating on why women sometimes go and bring up rape in response to men’s dating problems. How is it not related? The issue doesn’t exist in a vacuum. A lot of different things go into this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 06:58 PM |
| 4 | Women Keep Bringing Up Rape to Shut Down Male ConcernsDo you have an example of this (questioning habits and holding someone accountable)? Because if the issue is that a man cannot find women to date (that he’s attracted to), what’s a solution that doesn’t involve bashing women for going after ‘chads’? You might not be pushing for women to date men they don’t want, but a lot of guys on here seem to want something like that. Or they’re upset at feminism and the fact that women can now choose whether to date or not and don’t have to rely on men Like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 06:46 PM |
| 7 | Women Keep Bringing Up Rape to Shut Down Male ConcernsYou can’t ofc, but things like staying friends with men that assault or harass women goes into this too. If men just brush off things their friends do because they’re friends, that’s a big part of the problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 06:42 PM |
| 0 | As a women I'll never understand other women's obsession with marriageExactly this! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 04:00 PM |
| 0 | As a women I'll never understand other women's obsession with marriageI mean, as a married woman, none of this really applies. I’m happily married to a man that takes on more than ‘his’ share of household duties and who’s an amazing father. I didn’t take his last name and he has always had no issue with that. Marrying the wrong man will definitely cause issues and not be worth it. But with the right person, it doesn’t really feel like much work at all. If you don’t want to marry, then don’t. It’s not for everyone And completely honest, marriage wasn’t something th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 03:59 PM |
| 6 | If women are looking for a loyal man, why don’t they get together with a socially awkward guy who doesn’t know how to relate to women?I’d challenge that most men have bad social skills. Are you referring to a specific age group? Neurodivergent men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 05:43 PM |
| 0 | It seems hard for men to do some introspection.As in you value them as a person. You don’t want them to suffer, you want them to be happy and to enjoy life with you as your partner. Not just having them around to get something out of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 05:40 PM |
| 0 | It seems hard for men to do some introspection.But you didn’t answer my question. Are they genuinely into those women and care about them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 05:36 PM |
| -3 | It seems hard for men to do some introspection.Any? So most men would consider asexual women their type? Or obese women? And I don’t mean just tolerating them for sex. But genuinely loving and caring about them as people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 05:26 PM |
| 1 | It seems hard for men to do some introspection.If having a partner is important to her, then yes as it’ll limit her pool massively. If she has preferences like that but doesn’t care too much about finding a partner, then it’s fine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 05:22 PM |
| 11 | If women are looking for a loyal man, why don’t they get together with a socially awkward guy who doesn’t know how to relate to women?That’s not loyalty tho. If a person works at a company and is applying for jobs elsewhere every single day, but can’t land anything due to incompetency, is that person ‘loyal’? I’d bet that most people would say no. If given a choice, that person would leave. They aren’t actively choosing their partner. And this doesn’t even get into things like ignoring their partner to pay for OF or something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 02:38 PM |
| 17 | If women are looking for a loyal man, why don’t they get together with a socially awkward guy who doesn’t know how to relate to women?So you want women to be with men that literally are only with them because they have zero options? That’s a great way to end up with someone that doesn’t actually like you and is only with you because it’s that or nothing. Personally, I would never want a relationship like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 02:34 PM |
| -1 | Women have no idea what an average man isYou literally have no idea of how anatomy works, do you? Many women who’ve been with larger partners find it painful. Hell if you even just talk to men that are on the bigger side, they will tell you that certain sex acts and positions are completely off the table. They always have to warm up their partners so quickies are a no go, or they’ll injure their partners. It really sounds like you’re getting your information from porn or from a minority of women that would classify themselves as ‘size … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 01:57 PM |
| 0 | Women have no idea what an average man isNever said size doesn’t matter. But I’m asking you—would you be genuinely content with a sex life that’s only slow and gentle, only 1-2 positions, and absolutely no oral or anal? Yes or no? That’s what a sex life would look like for a lot of women with a partner with a larger penis. So I’m asking you, would you be genuinely satisfied with a sex life like that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 01:34 PM |
| -1 | Stop gaslighting men into TherapyDoesn’t this depend on the exact mental health issue? Some people with depression will literally need medicine to overcome it due to a chemical imbalance. People with ADHD or OCD will not suddenly be ‘fixed’ by going to the gym. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Women have no idea what an average man isFair enough | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Women have no idea what an average man isI mean, shouldn’t we be pushing for people to pursue relationships with people they genuinely want and will be happy with? What good does it do to push people to be with someone they’re neutral about? That’s just going to lead to a deadbedroom, which I assume a lot of men wouldn’t like | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Women have no idea what an average man isThen you’d also agree that men who flirt with or try and sleep with female workers should be imprisoned too, right? Whoever initiates is the one punished by law | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 04:09 AM |
| -1 | Women have no idea what an average man isYou’re joking, right? 7” is absolutely insane for most women. For most women that would mean that sex is lots of foreplay, very slow and gentle every single time, limited to like 1-2 positions, and absolutely no oral or anal. Is that the sex life most men would prefer? From what I’ve heard, it’s definitely not Even approaching 6” is fucking painful and straight up unpleasant and limiting. But just curious, do you watch porn often? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 04:07 AM |
| 0 | Women have no idea what an average man isIf you’re only dating someone due to their looks, that’s where the problem is. Almost all of my average male friends have longterm partners that are similar levels of attractiveness to them. If you’re only interested in women attractive enough to be ‘influencers’, that’s your problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 04:04 AM |
| 3 | Women have no idea what an average man isAre you pursuing women that are similar to you in facial attractiveness tho? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Women have no idea what an average man isYou only consider women attractive enough to be ‘influencers’ datable? If so, that’s your problem unless you’re also that attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 03:54 AM |
| 0 | Women have no idea what an average man isWill you also appreciate them as a person too tho? Because if you’re barely attracted to them, they’re going to feel that and that’s not really fair to them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Women have no idea what an average man isHonestly, at events or hobbies (if you have social ones). I have several friends (who are pretty average) and they’ve met their partner through things like local DnD groups, comic conventions, etc. But this also heavily depends on how you’re defining average. If you’re talking about women attractive enough to have thousands of followers on social media, that’s a bit out of touch. For example the average man and woman (in the US) is overweight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Women have no idea what an average man isI mean…that literally is what I, and the women I know, consider to be an average man. Most of my friends date men similar levels of attractiveness to them, men that definitely are not 6’ or fit, and men that make around the median income (or less). Would you not consider these men average? I only have one friend that only dates fit men and that’s because she’s literally a fitness freak (like actual bodybuilding) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 03:44 AM |
| – | The majority of women can’t make men feel as desired as women who engage in casual sex with them.Not true. When I was dating, I did not ever have casual sex. I’ve only had sex with two people, a longterm ex that I knew for years before and my husband. My husband and I still have a very active sex life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/26 10:27 PM |
| – | The majority of women can’t make men feel as desired as women who engage in casual sex with them.Why not exclusively pursue poly relationships then? That’s the obvious solution unless you’d have some problem with women also have multiple partner for some reason Some people aren’t monogamous and that’s ok. Poly people should stick to poly relationships and monogamous people can stick with similar people. These should never overlap. Just be honest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/26 10:15 PM |
| – | The majority of women can’t make men feel as desired as women who engage in casual sex with them.How so tho? I genuinely think that most marriages are people who either aren’t that into each other or they lose feelings. My husband and I have been together 14 years now and have two daughters. Our sex life is actually more frequent than when we first started dating. Aside from postpartum and brief periods of extreme work stress, it’s been consistent and frequent (typically daily/every other day at least). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/26 10:08 PM |
| 2 | How quickly does your mind go to sex when you meet an attractive guy?It happens after I get to know him well and trust him. Before then, I get ‘butterflies’ and feel giddy, but don’t really ever have sexual thoughts before getting to know him and actually developing trust. Then it’s literally all the time. Married 14 years now and libido is much higher than it was when we first met | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/26 02:24 PM |
| 4 | Is it possible for a man to move from being viewed as “long term” to “short term fun” or vice versa?I mean, women go through this exact thing. People always seem to find the opposite of what they’re looking for | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/26 02:13 PM |
| 6 | What do woman mean by when they say its good dick?You can tho. Sex isn’t only about penetration. There are women out there who hate penetration and only would prefer to have oral or other sex acts. A man in that situation would be a perfect match for women like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/26 04:02 PM |
| 6 | Yes, some women actually want to be single and childlessSo if someone can’t have kids, what then? How would that be fair? Do we then start removing everyone who can’t ‘contribute’ to society? That means every person with a disability. On the flip side, will there be better care for mothers? Actual maternal leave for up to a year so their bodies can heal? Free daycare? If their partner cheats while they’re pregnant, how about prison for them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/26 03:52 PM |
| 13 | Yes, some women actually want to be single and childlessGenuine question—if someone has significant mental illness that will make them a terrible or abusive parent, would you still push for them to have kids? Or even without mental illness, if someone would just hate their kid and resent them, should they have kids anyways? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/26 03:48 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesEh, I disagree there. Imo if I’m not struggling and lent a friend money and they will literally starve just to pay me back, I’d let it go. It’d be selfish to ask them to harm themselves when I’m not struggling. Now if they never reciprocated in some form, no matter how small (like doing a small favor), that would be an issue. But you still didn’t answer my question. What counts as ‘reasonable’ is subjective. So if someone cannot be a halfway decent parent, would it be less selfish to have a kid … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 08:46 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesFair enough. I agree that society has come a long way, but I still don’t think that means women should just shut up and make themselves miserable due to that And also—genuinely curious, if someone has a severe mental illness where they will most definitely become an abusive/terrible parent (even if they are in treatment and therapy), do you consider them selfish to not have kids? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 08:28 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesIt’s not really entitlement to acknowledge that we can do better for parents tho. We all live in a society, right? Hoarding wealth and other selfish behaviors are rarely called out….why? You’re arguing that we have a duty to upkeep society. Well we also have a duty to make society better, do we not? So to just shrug and be like, welp historically people suffered more so suck it up, is plain stupid imo. Just curious, but if you genuinely believe that women owe or have a duty to society to have ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesSure it’s a choice. If men had the option to go thru pregnancy and birth, do you believe that most would? I’m not sure why you’re so afraid of answering this. Or if you don’t want to speak on behalf of all men, would you be willing to do it if we found a way for men to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 08:03 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesThen why did your comment say that women vote for this? Men vote for this too, do they not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 07:05 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesOnly women vote for these things? Do you have a source on this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesIt’s not really a choice tho due to biology. Men physically can’t give birth. Like genuinely, do you believe that if we ever could make men give birth, that most men would willingly choose to do so? I might be wrong, but imo even if that’d give men a ‘choice’, most would still not choose to do so We shouldn’t be forcing anyone, man or woman, into the military anyways. But if we do have to, then yea, I’d agree with you that both should sign up as long as they don’t have or are planning for childr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesSo let’s get this straight, in a world where say most women enlist as mercenaries so they do the same that men do….how would that be equal if women are still the only ones that have to go through the birthing process? This would mean that merely being born a woman means you will have a harder life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesSo why are you criticizing Americans who physically cannot enlist? If a man or woman has a disability here, they will be turned away. How is that their fault? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesYou couldn’t even answer anything I asked you honey. You don’t even seem familiar with how enlisting even works in the US, but you won’t acknowledge that, will you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth rates🤦♀️ Another one that immediately jumps to insults and can’t actually engage. Kinda amusing at least tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 05:57 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesBut the thing is tho that both genders suffer different things. Just like how it’s mostly men that get dragged into war and endure terrors, it’s mostly women that get dragged into trafficking and sexual abuse by men. Just like how men typically have to do harder labor jobs because they are biologically stronger, women have to go through the traumas of pregnancy and having your body torn apart by birth because of biology. How can things truly be equal? Imo it can’t. But that’s also why if people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 05:33 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesFam, biology is my whole point. Men can never fully understand what it’s like to go through pregnancy and childbirth, right? But in your earlier comment you tried to literally say that men do. You wrote it. Also, since it’s due to biology, what can men do that makes things even since women have to give birth? If you want actual equality, pregnancy and birth must be equal too. Are you saying that not a single woman has ever fought in a war? And LOL. Are you not from the US? There absolutely are l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 05:26 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesFair enough. But my point is more like, if we keep framing this as a negative, that works to shame women for their choice. Which means that many women will become resentful and terrible mothers to unwanted children. Surely that isn’t what most people envision as a good thing, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 05:23 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesIt’s better than it was but it’s still not good. And I’m not even talking about single mothers. I have two children with my husband. We make around the median household income and are struggling. Childcare is fucking expensive. We’re very lucky that we both come from cultures where living with extended family and having their help is the norm. I didn’t work for most of my pregnancy and for 8 months postpartum due to healing. If I had to work while constantly sick and exhausted, I would never hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 05:21 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesDo you know what it means? You’re the one who tried saying that men suffer too when women get pregnant. I’m asking what they suffer from that’s comparable to what the woman goes through. Again, why won’t you answer my question? If you could would you be willing to take on pregnancy and childbirth? Yes or no? Fam, I have two kids under 5. You’re really advocating for parents to abandon their kids? My husband wouldn’t even be down for that. You also aren’t counting for the fact that certain medica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 03:58 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesSo men risk tearing and bleeding? Your pelvic floor gets permanently fucked up from watching your wife give birth? What permanent or longterm physical damage do men suffer from pregnancy or childbirth? I’m genuinely asking So you know how shitty pregnancy and birth are, which is why you wouldn’t theoretically do a tradeoff for it. You want women to do what you do on top of having to give birth. How the fuck is that fair? Why wouldn’t you be willing to carry a pregnancy and give birth (if you cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 03:39 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesIf people truly cared about this, then why not do things that would actively help women have children? Such as increasing wages or giving more time off for pregnancy and postpartum for the body to heal? Or more affordable options for childcare? There are solutions, but so many men don’t want these because they want women to have children and suffer So few will even acknowledge how hard and traumatic childbirth and pregnancy are. Not to mention the permanent damage to the body afterwards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 03:31 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesAnd men don’t have to deal with pregnancy and childbirth. They never have to risk permanent damage to have a child. Nature’s unfair 🤷♀️ If men could get pregnant instead, then I’d gladly swap places to fight and ‘pay taxes’. Would you be willing to make that tradeoff? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 03:29 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesWould you say that women should have kids even if they don’t want to? We need to stop pretending that pregnancy and childbirth are easy for women just because our bodies can do it. Many many times it results in permanent damage that we have to suffer with for the rest of our lives. On top of that, so many men seem to be against giving pregnant women time off work to reduce stress, as well as refuse to give time off to let their bodies heal postpartum. If we actually researched this more and foun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 03:27 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesWhy aren’t you including the painful and damaging parts like pregnancy, birth, postpartum, etc? Many women will have permanently damaged pelvic floors and suffer for the rest of their lives. Or does this just not matter since it’s just women who experience this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 03:22 PM |
| – | Women don’t owe it to society to raise birth ratesInstead of blaming women for this, why is there no discussion on how to make having children easier? Many more women would be willing to have children if finances or time off work weren’t a concern. But for some reason people are refusing to address this. There are solutions that don’t involve making mothers miserable, which in turn will negatively affect their children | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 03:20 PM |
| 4 | Do you understand what men mean when men say that the risk is not worth the reward, in reference to women today, and approaching women, and being in relationships with women?Agreed. Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t care about nuance, so not really sure if this will ever happen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Do you understand what men mean when men say that the risk is not worth the reward, in reference to women today, and approaching women, and being in relationships with women?If that was truly what you were referring to, then yeah, you’re right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 07:17 PM |
| 6 | Do you understand what men mean when men say that the risk is not worth the reward, in reference to women today, and approaching women, and being in relationships with women?Are those forms of sex typically acts that are pleasurable to women? Giving a bj or doing anal typically are only for the man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 07:10 PM |
| 8 | Do you understand what men mean when men say that the risk is not worth the reward, in reference to women today, and approaching women, and being in relationships with women?Which is wrong and we should be working to stop that behavior. No one should be shamed for being single. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 07:08 PM |
| 5 | Do you understand what men mean when men say that the risk is not worth the reward, in reference to women today, and approaching women, and being in relationships with women?But like…that reason has to come from them. What makes it worth it for another person won’t make it worth it for you. If it’s more trouble than you want to put in, then opt out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 07:06 PM |
| 8 | Do you understand what men mean when men say that the risk is not worth the reward, in reference to women today, and approaching women, and being in relationships with women?Honestly, it’s just like ‘okay’? Dating is a massive risk, not denying that. If someone just says this and that’s why they don’t wanna date, then cool, good on them. No one should feel forced to date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Would you enter a relationship your ideal male partner if you could never have sex again?They can make a choice tho. No one dies by not having sex. That’s my point. Like genuinely, if your spouse got into an accident and couldn’t be intimate anymore, you’d abandon or betray them? Granted, if we’re going by OP’s question, not getting into such a relationship is understandable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Would you enter a relationship your ideal male partner if you could never have sex again?Not necessarily, sex is very important to me. It’s just a difference of priorities imo. Like if my husband ever couldn’t have sex again, I’d be frustrated, sure. But would never leave or cheat It’s more ‘wouldn’t’ not ‘couldn’t’. Many people, even with high sex drives, go without and don’t die or suffer mentally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 05:20 PM |
| 7 | Would you enter a relationship your ideal male partner if you could never have sex again?Honestly, even as a woman with a very high sex drive, I’d still say ‘yes’. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?Then they should be upfront about that and find compatible partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?But they can imagine their partner doing so. Imagining someone else means that they likely wish to have sex with others, so why not pursue poly relationships? If you can’t be satisfied with one partner, you shouldn’t pursue monogamy. There’s nothing wrong with non-monogamous relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?Oh I don’t doubt most of them have. But there’s a massive difference between a thought flashing by and someone being completely disconnected and pretending you’re someone else. The latter is what I have an issue with and what’s very obvious in the moment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?Not really about policing as it is about just finding a compatible partner. Someone who prefers to imagine another person while having sex with their partner wouldn’t be compatible with me is all I’m saying. It’s essentially just using their body to masturbate if they’re pretending/imagining being with someone else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?Fair enough, I just don’t get why you’d wanna daydream about other people if you’re really into your partner but guess everyone’s different. Couldn’t imagine ever getting bored or tired of my partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?How often would this happen tho? If he has a short refractory period and would still be down for sex after, then no problem unless he’s thinking of other women. But if he can only really go once a day or something (and decides to masturbate instead of have sex), then that’d be a problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?Pretty sure most women won’t care if their partner masturbates when they aren’t in the mood or available. It does however become a problem if they ever choose to masturbate and watch porn over having sex with their partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?Yeah I agree with this. Personally, I only think and fantasize about my partner and I don’t see why it’s wrong to want the same in turn. Why do they have to think about or watch other women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?This makes sense when the partner isn’t available or wanting to have sex. But there’s often a lot of men who will literally neglect their partners and prefer porn and masturbating over having sex. That’s where I think a big issue with porn comes from, and personally where the line is for me. If I’m not available or in the mood, then whatever go for it. But I’ve also very rarely turned down a partner or can’t get in the mood so there shouldn’t be a need for porn or thinking of other women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 06:52 PM |
| 0 | Question for women who believe watching porn in a relationship is tantamount to cheating, which of these following do you also consider cheating? Why/why not?Yeah, this is how I feel about it too. Like saying he can never masturbate is crazy. But like…you don’t have to think about other people while masturbating 🤷♀️ But if a partner does watch porn, I only really care if they were to ever choose porn/masturbating over sex. Then it becomes an issues if it’s a recurring thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 06:47 PM |
| 2 | If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices?Except that this is pretty well studied by psychologists. People who grew up in an abusive environment are more likely to end up in those situations as adults. Because it’s what’s ‘normal’ to them. If you’ve never been in a ‘safe’ environment before, it can genuinely cause you to panic because you don’t understand what’s happening. Abuse has massive impacts on a person’s brain and behavior. So what’s normal and obvious to someone that hasn’t grown up in that environment isn’t the same as someone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 06:19 PM |
| 2 | If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices?Exactly this. What’s the point of having to point fingers and blame? This seems so childish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 06:13 PM |
| 1 | If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices?It’s not always obvious tho. For example my husband had a close friend that he genuinely thought was a great guy. Somewhat recently, it came out that he’s been non-stop cheating on his longterm gf on top of physically abusing her. He had no idea and was heartbroken upon learning about this. Some people are very good at lying and manipulating. I’ve also had this happen with a former friend that I genuinely thought was a great person (most people did). It’s not rare. Look how often there’s the who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 06:06 PM |
| 1 | If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices?Genuine question- if those women aren’t attracted to those ‘nicer’ men, should they still date them? Seems like that’s a great way to end up in a sexless relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 06:04 PM |
| -1 | If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices?A lot of this stuff isn’t apparent on the first date tho. For example, I have an ex that appeared like an incredibly kind person, wasn’t ever disrespectful, was never pushy, and was consistent but not overbearing. He started changing (or rather showing his real self) about 8 months in. My friends that met him had a hard time believing me at the time So yeah. Some men may be obvious at the start, but it’a not always obvious. Many of my friends have also been through something similar | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 06:02 PM |
| 0 | If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices?Genuinely what does it achieve? They aren’t the criminal. To focus on the person who got hurt instead of focusing on stopping the perpetrator from hurting more people is just….bizarre. Like sure, we can all agree it’s not smart or whatever. But why kick someone while they’re down? That’s just being sadistic and a shit person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 05:57 PM |
| 1 | If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices?It’s not an excuse, but it’s an explaination of that behavior. There’s a difference. Childhood trauma can have massive effects on the brain and what a person perceives as ‘normal’. A lot of times people who grew up in abusive environments literally have to learn that it’s not normal. Talk to a psychologist is you really can’t believe that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Is this a valid reason to care about a woman's dating/sexual history?It really depends. For example, I also care about my partner’s past. Would you also be honest about your past and who you’ve been with? If not, then no problem as it’s just about filtering for compatibility | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 11:32 PM |
| – | Personality and efforts are the biggest lie of all timeI mean, it’s the same for women. Even less attractive men aren’t tripping over themselves to date obese or ugly women no matter how good their personality is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 01:47 PM |
| 6 | Women can’t sit here and say that only men benefit in a marriage and still continue to marry them.Just because it’s an expectation, that doesn’t mean they have no agency and have to do it, right? If you don’t want marriage, you need to only pursue women who are on the same page. If a woman wants marriage and you don’t, you are fundamentally incompatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive is a valid dealbreakerPhysical affection isn’t only sex tho. If you are only talking about sex here, then just say sex. Don’t try and use physical affection or physical touch to sugar coat it. Physical affection also includes things like holding hands, hugs, cuddling, etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 01:58 AM |
| 10 | Feelings-Based Communication Is Bad Communication. Women Love It Anyway.Yeah, I was going to say. The men I’d dated before my husband were like this. If I were feeling sick and couldn’t hang out or have sex, suddenly I must not love them anymore. My father was very similar in that if anyone ever asked for help or if he was ever corrected, he’d respond with something like ‘So I can’t do anything right’. This isn’t really gendered | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/26 06:58 PM |
| 4 | “I like to take things slow” usually means she’s not that into youI mean, yeah? As long as it doesn’t result in actual harm (violence or suppressing legal rights), genuinely who cares? Random people’s opinions shouldn’t matter that much unless it’s an active threat A man saying he believes women are trash is free to do so. People should just ignore him unless he escalates 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedi mean what ‘porn’ type stuff are you referring to? A woman not wanting rougher type sex or things like anal doesn’t mean they don’t desire their partner A lot of women genuinely aren’t into being hurt or degraded during sex no matter who their partner is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 07:45 PM |
| 4 | “I like to take things slow” usually means she’s not that into youNever said I have a problem when women are called out. I’m more just confused why it matters that some women find something ‘invalid’. Some people believe that the earth is flat, but why worry about that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Age gap relationships: Most people against them are being disingenuousYeah, I agree with you here. There are definitely people who just judge and don’t actually care. People who say things like your latter example aren’t really people to listen to imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 03:28 PM |
| 14 | Age gap relationships: Most people against them are being disingenuousMy husband has said something similar to this about our daughters. It’s ultimately their choice, but we’d have a sit down to check in and make sure they’re in a healthy relationship and not being taken advantage of | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Age gap relationships: Most people against them are being disingenuousGenuine question—if an older woman (or man) sees an age gap relationship with some worrisome signs and gives the young woman advice or red flags to look out for, would you have a problem with that? At least assuming the young woman is open to the advice. As long as they aren’t harassing the woman about her choice, why would anyone not be ok with this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedI’m honestly surprised if most women aren’t into those things like switching locations, lingerie, roleplay, etc. But I see where you’re coming from now if this really isn’t standard for most relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedWhat do you consider to be variety then? I’m genuinely curious. Because if the only things that are considered ‘variety’ are acts that are painful or uncomfortable for women, then it should be understandable why most won’t want that. Most women are likely open to do more than missionary and doggy in just the bedroom. Switching up locations, dressing up, should count as ‘variety’, no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedBut why hyperbolize here? So just to be clear, are you saying that women wanting relatively ‘vanilla sex’ is what the problem is? You brought up variety and then brought up that women tend to only do sex the exact same way. But there is variety if you’re talking about the average couple that tends to switch up between positions and such | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:42 PM |
| 11 | “I like to take things slow” usually means she’s not that into youI mean, who really cares? If you feel like you’re incompatible, then leave. It shouldn’t really matter to you if women think it’s not ‘valid’. Some people believe that even cheating isn’t a valid reason to leave somebody, but that doesn’t mean it should stop you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:40 PM |
| 3 | “I like to take things slow” usually means she’s not that into youYes, but it depends on the individual. Personally, my desire for someone grows over time. My desire for my husband is much stronger now, than it was 14 years ago when we were in the ‘honeymoon’ stage. We actually have sex much more frequently compared to the beginning But I’ve also spoken to friends where the honeymoon period is when they had the most desire. It really depends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedOne position and once a week? Pretty sure most couples rotate at least between a couple positions and with foreplay like oral. Based on my experience and what I’ve heard anyways | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedI mean, most women aren’t asexual. Most women are going to want sex in their relationships. Wanting ‘vanilla’ sex acts still counts | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedThis isn’t really right tho. Many women can be with the man they desire the most, but just don’t enjoy ‘porn’ style sex, by which I’m referring to rougher sex acts that are often painful. Not being into ‘kinks’ doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy sex or that they don’t desire their partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 10:57 PM |
| 7 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedTrue, but you have to admit that many ‘kinks’ or preferences a lot of guys want are things that are actively painful for women (anal is a big example). Not so much the reverse from what I’ve seen. Most women don’t really push for sex acts that are painful for men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 10:52 PM |
| 2 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedEh it also depends on what you mean by ‘pleasing men’. Like if a man needs more ‘kinkier’ sex and his partner isn’t into that, then they just aren’t compatible. That’s not a partner being lazy or not caring about his pleasure. Same thing if genders are reversed. Now if it’s something that’s not a limit and your partner can’t be bothered, yea that’s a problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:43 PM |
| 6 | Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bedAside from someone just like laying there and not participating, ‘good’ and ‘bad’ sex are pretty subjective. Things like kissing styles and various ‘skills’ just comes down to compatibility | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:41 PM |
| 3 | I think people should lay out all their cards on the table before they enter into a relationship.It’s just about compatibility. As long as you’re upfront about this and date people with the same view on dating, there’s no issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:35 PM |
| 0 | Men are less emotionally open and more prone to bottle things up because women are not ready to see some parts of men and straight disagree with some of their feelings.Genuinely, why would it matter at all if I, or any other woman, would date someone posted there? Are you saying that he can’t breakup just because it might hurt his chances with some women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Men are less emotionally open and more prone to bottle things up because women are not ready to see some parts of men and straight disagree with some of their feelings.This doesn’t really make much sense. Why couldn’t this man breakup in this case? He could literally say they’re incompatible because they are. If she gets upset, well people get upset when they’re dumped. That’s life. I’m not really sure why he’d care so much if she believes he’s misogynistic when she’s spitting out bs at the same time. The man will only have to worry about her and other people that are delulu not liking him. So who cares | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 04:08 PM |
| 1 | To all the men that struggle with dating.If a woman told you that every man she expressed interest in wasn’t interested in her, would you think she is dating ‘in her league’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 04:01 PM |
| 0 | To all the men that struggle with dating.I mean, if they’re always being rejected by those same women, then they’re aiming too high 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 03:55 PM |
| 1 | To all the men that struggle with dating.Hmm honestly, are you located in a big city or more like, midwest/smaller cities? My area is a massive city and most men I know (even when broke and overweight) had no trouble finding women to date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 03:53 PM |
| 1 | To all the men that struggle with dating.How are their attitudes and social skills tho? There are some people who seem like they would be getting a lot of attention on paper (good looks, money, whatever) but who lack social etiquette, lack genuine kindness, can’t read body language or social queues, etc and that plays a massive role. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 03:50 PM |
| 0 | To all the men that struggle with dating.Are your average friends also going for women that are similar to them in looks? I have several male friends that are average to below average and they’ve dated/hooked up both via apps and meeting organically. The one old friend I did know who struggled, was because he was only going for women that were objectively conventionally pretty and wouldn’t even look twice at the women who did express interest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 03:42 PM |
| 2 | If your bf/husband died how would you react? How would it impact your life and how long would you wait before moving on?Tbh if my husband passed away, it would hit hard and I dunno how I’d handle it. I genuinely do not believe I would ‘move on’ or date afterwards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 05:27 PM |
| 10 | Women don't like when men have healthy boundariesOk, but not all women even advocate for this or are all emotionally mature. Some women are hypocrites. Some women are assholes. Decent people (men or women) would be accepting of boundaries, and if it doesn’t work for them, they recognize you aren’t compatible and move on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 01:06 AM |
| 5 | CMV: The “grass is greener” effect is much stronger for women in dating than menThen they aren’t truly monogamous and should pursue poly relationships. It makes no sense to hurt an innocent person by pretending to be something you’re not. If you can’t be happy and fully satisfied with one women, you shouldn’t pursue women that want that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 09:31 PM |
| 10 | Good men don't push boundariesIt really depends how you define boundaries here. For example, if a woman has a hard sexual boundary, and you try and push that, that is 100% not ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 01:57 PM |
| 5 | The courting process never ends for men.Then if a man knows a woman well, then he’ll also know if a woman truly desires him 🤷♀️ Men talk all the time about how they can’t be vulnerable and honest with women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 04:34 PM |
| 6 | The courting process never ends for men.How can a woman know if a man genuinely desires her? You see men here all the time that talk about how they’ll have sex with and get into relationships with women they aren’t attracted to and just think about porn or other women during | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 04:29 PM |
| 9 | The courting process never ends for men.I mean, you should be enjoying the dates too. If you’re not, that’s a problem. If a woman is never planning anything or contributing to the relationship, then break up with her. Why stay? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 04:27 PM |
| 3 | The courting process never ends for men.So you just value sexual compatibility the most then? From your other comment, it sounds like you’re only into ‘kinky’ sex (and I’m going to assume mainstream pretty porn). So if she doesn’t enjoy being hurt/degraded during sex at all, but enjoys regular sex with you and genuinely desires you , what then? Or if she wanted to inflict specific acts on you, would you do it to please her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 04:16 PM |
| 8 | Leonardo DiCaprio is only doing what is natural to most men for preferring women in their prime over women his own age.It’s still a reason why women shouldn’t get involved with men then, unless it’s more money. So if men want to promote this, they also need to be ok with most women not wanting anything to do with them 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 12:38 AM |
| 11 | Leonardo DiCaprio is only doing what is natural to most men for preferring women in their prime over women his own age.I mean, why should women risk getting into a relationship with a man if he’ll just leave for a younger one when he gets the chance? If most men are like this, then most women should just focus on building a community and not date men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Experience is the most important….you’ve really only ever had either rough or ‘romantic’ sex? Sex has a lot of variation, and if you’re only bouncing between rough and gentle, that’s pretty limited, but do what makes you happy ig The point literally is just that what you like isn’t what everyone likes tho. And it’s arrogant and delusional to believe so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Experience is the most importantYou really think everyone enjoys the same kind of sex? This is incredibly narrow minded. Like if you enjoy any kind of rougher sex, a lot of people hate it. They aren’t wrong for not liking what you like, and it’s very strange to think that everyone has to like what you do or you think they’re lying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 08:15 PM |
| – | Experience is the most importantI’m basing this on my own experiences with partners. ED complicates sex, that’s true. But seeing it as a ‘pass/fail’ thing is just plain unhelpful, that’s my point. If it’s a problem, your partner should work with you to help figure it out The whole point is that what makes ‘amazing sex’ isn’t universal. There are women out there who don’t enjoy piv at all and prefer other forms of sex. That would be ‘bad’ to some people, but not to her. It sounds like you’re taking what you consider to be ‘amaz… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 08:08 PM |
| – | Experience is the most importantIt’s not ‘failing’ at sex tho. That’s a very narrow way to view sex. Being ‘amazing’ at sex is incredibly subjective since people all like different things. What one woman enjoys may be something another is completely turned off by | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 07:59 PM |
| – | Experience is the most importantThat doesn’t inherently mean the sex is ‘bad’ tho. There’s quite a few workarounds that are still enjoyable. If a partner has an issue with that, then it’s just a compatibility issue ‘Good’ sex isn’t really any specific moves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 07:48 PM |
| – | Experience is the most importantBut a person that’s only had 2 partners can technically be more experienced than someone who’s slept with a new partner every week. Typically in LTRs you’re more comfortable communicating and exploring together to find what you like. Even if someone is a virgin, they literally can explore together, unless one partner just isn’t patient. Someone could have slept with a thousand different people and that still won’t mean that they’ll know how to please you. It’s just about communication | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 07:35 PM |
| 1 | average Men Don't have almost any advantagesWhat do you mean? Again, you see average couples who are similar in appearance all the time. Overweight people are often seen with another overweight person, for example. Go outside and people watch for a bit and look at couples. You don’t see a single average or unattractive man with a woman (this includes unattractive women)? You’re saying you only see average/unattractive women with men that are models? An average woman in the US will be overweight and have a plain-ish/average face, just like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Is there a way to make dating fair for men ethically - without reducing the rights of women, or challenging the autonomy of others?What do you mean? How would every single woman on the planet wake up one day and only be attracted to one race? Or am I misinterpreting? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Where Should A Man Actually Go To Meet You?I mean, I can only speak for my own region/culture which is the east coast of the US and the midwest. I don’t know Italian culture, so you’ll need to ask someone from there In the areas I’ve lived tho, yeah, it’s relatively easy as long as you have basic social skills | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 06:02 PM |
| – | Experience is the most importantExactly what I was thinking too. I can’t really think of what ‘basics’ of sex I had to learn with any of my partners. Like what ‘basics’ are they even referring to here? Being able to communicate or know basic anatomy? I feel like everyone should know this Good sex happens when you can read body language well, can communicate with your partner, and have the same or similar sexual preferences | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 05:58 PM |
| – | Experience is the most importantBut the things to learn is basically just what your partner likes tho, right? I can’t really think of any specific ‘skills’ you have to ‘learn’ to have good sex. It’s more just being able to read your partner so you both have a good time. But maybe I’m reading too much into what ‘learn’ actually means here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 05:56 PM |
| – | Experience is the most importantHonestly tho, what ‘basics’ and skills of sex are you specifically referring to? You don’t really have to ‘learn’ or be experienced to do various positions. Are you just referring to kinks? Because even for things like oral, everyone likes different things so you just need to be able to work with your current partner, and I’d hardly call reading body language and communicating a ‘skill’ I’ve had my fair share of experience before my husband and my husband has a lot more than I do, and we have a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 05:51 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: Where Should A Man Actually Go To Meet You?Nope! There’s a lot of events that people can go to depending on their interests so that makes for smaller groups to interact and chat. I’m specifically talking about comic/anime conventions, and at those you usually have a lot of ‘meetups’ that’s literally open to everyone and it’s a great way to meet all kinds of people. Based on my experience, there’s about equal amounts of men and women. Most people are open to chatting ime, and it’s extremely common for people to swap socials to stay in tou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Where Should A Man Actually Go To Meet You?Personally, conventions and parties that happen at them. It’d where I met my husband and it’s still a great way to meet people and make friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Men are entitled to sex.What’s the line for unwilling vs unable tho? Something like depression can make someone unable to, but it may look like just unwillingness. Same thing for stress or other ‘invisible’ issues that make sex just unenjoyable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 10:18 PM |
| -1 | average Men Don't have almost any advantagesIf you could have the ability to become pregnant, would you? Genuine question. Or would you happily be in women’s shoes concerning ‘consequences’ from sex (pregnancy and birth is 100% on you)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 09:36 PM |
| 5 | average Men Don't have almost any advantagesAre these average men going for women who are their looksmatch? You see average and unattractive couples outside literally all the time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 09:33 PM |
| 0 | average Men Don't have almost any advantagesIn theory, yes everyone should be equal. But genuinely how do we actually achieve this when there are distinct biological differences? Like pregnancy and childbirth are often very hard on women. Men don’t really have an equivalence to this. What could theoretically make this equal and fair? Because just saying women are made for it and they should deal with it on top of everything else isn’t actually equal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Is The "Women And Children" Narrative Misandrist?Personally, I think children should always be prioritized to be protected. Those who are able bodied and physically capable should protect and do what they can (men and women). Those that have disabilities or who cannot meaningfully contribute wouldn’t be able to help much, so I’d also throw them in with children By physically capable, we also need to keep in mind that due to biology men are generally going to always be stronger. I do think it’s a responsibility similar to how women can only get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 07:17 PM |
| 5 | Is there a way to make dating fair for men ethically - without reducing the rights of women, or challenging the autonomy of others?So would you want a woman to date a man she’s not attracted to and the relationship be a deadbedroom? Seems like most men would have a problem with that. If they’re cool with no sex, then sure. But I’m not really sure why you’d want a partner that’s not attracted to or aroused by you 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"I already told you that I won’t be engaging further, as you aren’t debating in good faith. Why are you commenting multiple times to me? You need a response from a stranger that badly? Anyways, best of luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"You’re acting as tho your view is the objective truth, when it’s not. If you don’t wish to actually answer, then no reason to reply further. Best of luck in whatever you’re trying to pursue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:52 PM |
| – | Do woman care how many Partners a Men had before?When I say ‘insecure’, I’m more referring to actions. For example, does he get jealous easily? How does he manage that? Does he need constant reassurance or is he able to self regulate? Most people are insecure about something, but healthy people don’t make it a problem in their relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Yes, but I’m asking if it’s a spectrum. Like if you could actively tell your partner wasn’t enjoying it and was unhappy, would you still want that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:48 PM |
| – | Do woman care how many Partners a Men had before?Depends on the woman, but why would that be a problem? As long as they aren’t insecure and are willing to learn, no issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Why? Just because you think your side is valid? You’re essentially just saying that you’re correct and any other views must be wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"I get this in theory. Like if it’s just mildly uncomfortable and doesn’t cause any distress, then sure. But genuinely, like if your partner is gritting their teeth to bear through something and clearly not enjoying themselves, how would that experience be enjoyable? Personally, sex being mutually enjoyable is important. So the thought of happily doing a sex act while my partner is there not having a good time, it isn’t something I’d ever be able to be aroused by. I’m not sure how someone could, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Why did she shut it down tho? Assuming it’s because she’s not attracted or whatever is the exact same thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:11 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Maybe so. But for instance, say you’ve done a MMF in your past serious relationship and it was the cause of the breakup due to jealousy or something. Surely you’d want your current partner to understand that and not push for it, right? If it’s genuinely something they need, then they can breakup, but pushing for it just because you happened to do it before, even when it previously had a bad outcome, seems insensitive Fair. But I don’t understand why men seem to want women to do things that are u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"So by your logic, no woman has ever been coerced or done a sex act that she didn’t enjoy? You truly believe that? Interesting, but you do you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Why won’t you answer the question? Do you not believe that sex should be mutually enjoyable for both parties or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 06:05 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Why do you want to do sex acts that hurt your partner? You don’t want your partner to enjoy sex with you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 06:01 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Threesomes can damage a relationship tho, so both parties need to be completely on board. It needs to be brought up early on if you aren’t actually monogamous. Doing group sex outside of committed relationships is different from doing it in a casual one. Now if she did it in a previous committed relationship and it didn’t cause issues that led to it falling apart, I agree with you. Oral sex, for the most part, I agree with you. But if it’s more extreme or one-sides, I can see how women take an i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:59 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Exactly this! Even if it were my greatest fantasy, I wouldn’t do it because I love him and don’t want him in pain or to be injured. There’s absolutely 0 pleasure in that even if he ‘consents’ because sex should be mutually enjoyable. The fact that this apparently isn’t how most men here think is scary | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:39 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"If you were injured or hated that experience, you think it’s reasonable that you go through that for the rest of your life? Interesting take | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:37 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Read it again. I said physical injury. The better question would be, why do you want to do something that actively harms the person you care about? So basically, women should just never explore sexually at all then. Just stick to plain sex and then they can’t be asked for other sex acts, correct? That way, men should not be pushing for sex acts beyond the basics, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:34 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"What counts as ‘simple sex acts’ here tho? If you’re referring to vaginal sex and oral sex, I agree. Past that, it really depends on your partner’s comfort level. Anal, for example, can be painful for some people no matter how much they prep. And a lot of men around here, when referring to ‘kinky’ sex or sex acts, seem to only be talking about anal or BDSM (where the woman is the one having pain inflicted on her) If you’re just talking about basic positions, oral, or light kinks like lingerie an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:28 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Did throwing the party cause you physical harm or result in injury? If a woman wanted to peg you with a bottle, would you let her? It’s what you should do to keep her satisfied, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Pretending that anything that goes against your view is a lie is an interesting tactic. But you do you 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Have you actually spoken to women? Because it sounds like you haven’t. Most of my friends were taught this by their own mothers at the time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 04:20 PM |
| 8 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"We don’t need to go back to the 70s lol. I’m just talking about late 90s and 2000s. Most of my friends at the time were pressured into shit they didn’t want to do. We were in a more rural area in the south, but still in the US. If you think women weren’t shamed for not ‘satisfying’ their bfs, you need to talk to more women. Or you’re referring to a very specific portion of the population. Women are constantly told that if they won’t do it, then he’ll cheat. But believe what you want ig | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 04:04 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Very true. That’s something completely different tho imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:58 PM |
| 8 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"This just isn’t true unless you’re talking about women in the US (and even then, talking about white women). Maybe it’s different for young women now, but when I was younger, we definitely weren’t taught to say no. Boundaries were something you had to learn through trial and error, and I’m in my 30s Are you really trying to claim that not a single woman has been pressured and coerced into sex acts? Women won’t be traumatized or feel afraid by genuinely consensual sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:55 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Being attracted to you doesn’t mean that she’ll be enthusiastic about hurting herself tho. That would be genuinely unhealthy. Having sexual boundaries doesn’t mean a woman isn’t attracted to you (I’m not talking about women who dangle sex on a hook or who act like sex is a chore). For example, surely there’s sex acts you aren’t willing to try, right? Even if you were incredibly attracted to your partner, would you really let them do anything to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:50 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"If a woman is genuinely bragging about enjoying it and then is now refusing to you, then sure. But I’ve seen a lot of men on here claim that even if she were pressured or hated it, she should still do it. Which is just strange to want to have sex with someone that’s not enjoying it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:44 PM |
| 8 | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"But many women are coerced or pressured into acts they don’t enjoy, and then learn that they can say no. How is this a bad thing? Is it just because she’s learning to say no to sexual acts that are unpleasant for her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:43 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Fair enough. Just genuinely doesn’t make sense imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:41 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"This is my problem too. What do these men mean by ‘kinky’? Like can their woman want to shove a bottle up their ass and peg him and that’s what he’s interested in? Or bondage but she wants to tie him up? Or are they just referring to acts that are unpleasant for most women? I have a feeling it’s the latter, but maybe I’m wrong Just bizarre, because by their own definition, they are ‘vanilla’ if they don’t want to be dominated 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:36 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Okay but look at it this way—say your partner needs to peg you and degrade you to be sexually satisfied. Would you let them? If not, that’s literally how a lot of women feel when men ask for things like anal since it’s literally unpleasant and downright painful for most women. If women pushed for that, then yeah, it’s abuse A lot of sex acts men seem to want around here are acts that are painful or degrading for women and likely things they wouldn’t dream of doing for their woman if she asked. M… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:32 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Tbh, I think if this was clearly specified as just being about consistent sex, including oral (for both parties), most women wouldn’t be up in arms. But on this sub a lot of the men here seem to believe it’s not enough. She has to be their version of ‘kinky’, willing to do anal, engage in BDSM (as the sub) etc. So not a big surprise that that’s what a lot of women are thinking here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:29 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"But people can learn and change from bad choices, right? Lots of young people do stupid shit because they don’t realize, and they don’t continue to do so after they’ve learned from it. It’s not infantilizing for young adults to make mistakes and learn to stand up for themselves and set boundaries Let’s say a young man is in his first relationship and his gf hits him and he doesn’t stop her. They eventually breakup and he learns it was abuse, and he will no longer tolerate being hit. Does this me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:20 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Genuine question because I’m having a hard time understanding their logic—what was their reasoning for not doing these things with you if they genuinely enjoyed it? Just vibes? Attraction issues? If they weren’t coerced, or if it wasn’t an issue of them being afraid of rising the relationship (due to jealousy or something), it doesn’t make much sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:18 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"I agree. It also depends what you mean by ‘worse’ tho. For example, if your partner tried a sex act one time with their ex and realized it wasn’t for them or got injured from it, not wanting to do it isn’t treating your partner worse. Wanting your parter to do a sex act that actively harms them seems a bit strange, as I imagine decent people would want to have mutually enjoyable sex. It’s like if you tried sashimi one time with an ex and hated it, should you be forced to go out and eat that with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 03:10 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"I mean, ofc past experiences play a part in how you are. That’s how life works and someone who claims to be completely unchanged is either clueless, isn’t honest with themselves, or hasn’t grown as a person. All of which are major problems Now, you should work to not bring in anything toxic to a new relationship or punish your partner for things a previous partner did. This doesn’t mean tho, that changing due to growing means you are punishing your partner. There’s a pretty big difference. Like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 02:48 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Something like anal sex can literally lead to injuries that can cause longterm or permanent damage. Would you be able to do that to your partner? If it doesn’t hurt them, then sure. But if it genuinely hurts/injured them, why would you even want that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 02:21 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"What counts as ‘worse’ tho? If a man went continuously into debt and made terrible financial decisions, he wouldn’t be treating a new partner ‘worse’ if he stopped doing so. Same with a woman who may have tried specific sex acts that either injured them or they found they didn’t enjoy. I’d imagine most decent people wouldn’t enjoy sex with a partner that’s actively in pain or not enjoying it as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 02:20 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"What I’m confused about is how or why would specific details of previous relationships ever come up? Are you specifically asking or are people bringing it up unprompted? It’s bizarre | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 02:18 PM |
| 31 | Women want a wedding, not marriage.Yeah, wondering this too. Wouldn’t a husband also be caring and be willing to have a nice meal ready if his wife worked hard? Most women aren’t able to stay at home | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:43 PM |
| 1 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentThis applies to men too. If a woman doesn’t want kids, she should take birth control. But if the man doesn’t want kids, he needs to always use a condom. BOTH parties need to practice safe sex, and it shouldn’t only be on the woman. Do you disagree? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:31 PM |
| 1 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentGenuinely, if you don’t want kids, why would you just go off of a woman saying she’s on birth control and skip wearing a condom? Both parties should be doing their part to prevent pregnancy. If she lied, yes that’s a MASSIVE fucking problem. But overall if you don’t want kids as a man, there’s zero reason to not wear a condom. Putting the responsibility only on women isn’t fair. Condoms being uncomfortable isn’t a good reason when birth control is commonly uncomfortable for women too. So ig, why… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:30 PM |
| – | It's not cheating if you are honest about itDid you inform her when you changed your mind? Honestly tho, why stay married? Like, do you even love your wife if you can watch her cry and not care? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:16 PM |
| 5 | It’s very important that men fight against paying on the first dateIt really depends what you mean here by ‘duty’? Depending on where you live, cultural norms may play a part, but there really isn’t a ‘duty’ for men to pay imo. It can lower your odds of dating specific women, but if you don’t want to, then you aren’t compatible with those women anyways I’d say it’s the same ‘duty’ that women feel when they have to spend so much money to look good on dates. Do all men expect this? No. But there’s still a lot of pressure on women to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/26 08:13 PM |
| 5 | It’s very important that men fight against paying on the first dateThis isn’t why all men do this tho. I’ve talked to my husband about this topic a couple times, and he’s genuinely seemed confused about being upset about paying. He said that in his view, he sees it as ‘treating’ someone and being kind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/26 04:56 PM |
| 10 | It’s very important that men fight against paying on the first dateI mean, if you don’t want to pay, then don’t pay. If the girl you’re seeing has a problem with it, then you just aren’t compatible and you’re not right for each other. If you’re wanting to establish that you won’t pay before the date, there’s not really a lot of options you have to not appear ‘tacky’. Like personally when I dated, I never expected men to pay for the date and always go dutch. But if they were to ever say that prior to the date, I’d decline | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/26 04:51 PM |
| 3 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentNgl, wasn’t expecting that, but appreciate this! Tbh, my experience has been nearly the completely opposite to yours. My fam grew up needing assistance due to my father becoming severely disabled due to an accident and my mom’s income wasn’t enough. I grew up with kids of single mothers, and a lot of times heard (and saw) how much they sacrificed for their kid(s). I have known several single mothers in my social circles (some widowed, some due to bad choices, and some due to their partner steppi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 10:54 PM |
| 5 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentWhy do you believe women would want to stay on assistance? Jw, but have you grown up or ever had to rely on assistance to survive? It’s not easy and is incredibly stressful. Everyone I’ve known who’ve been on it had been working their ass off to get off of it, to the point of neglecting themselves. I think the bigger problem is that there are not enough well paying jobs out there. Like genuinely curious, do you believe that there are enough high paying jobs for every parent in the US? And if so,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 10:35 PM |
| 1 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentIn comparison, yes. But overall, children tend to be much more secure with both parents Single parenthood is almost always going to be worse for a child (unless the family situation is abusive) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 10:29 PM |
| 3 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentBut does research look into the ‘why’? Are single fathers just earning more money? Are they working ‘harder’ than single moms are? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 10:28 PM |
| 5 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentWhat do you mean by ‘work more’? The median salary in the US is like 50k. I forgot the exact stat but only like 19% of workers make 6 figures. Are you saying a woman should neglect her child and work 2 jobs? How can a woman ‘work more’ and not neglect the child? Genuinely, I’m asking as there’s only 24 hours in a day and people need sleep Single fathers also tend to not fare well unless they’re lucky to be in a high paying field. The point is that single parenthood and raising children on a sing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 10:10 PM |
| 12 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentThe same goes the other way tho. Men should keep it in their pants if they don’t want a baby. If you genuinely have an issue with this, then vote for someone to make the change. Try and force child support to be illegal. You’re free to try, but again, that leaves the massive problem. What happens to babies that grow up in poverty? Would you support in increase in taxes? There has to be some sort of safety net | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 09:54 PM |
| 11 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentSo then would you say the government should pay? Or that services children need become free? I understand your point, but what’s the solution that doesn’t put the child in a bad spot? Imo, carrying a pregnancy and paying for your child aren’t remotely comparable. The only exception would be if a man were raped or had his bc (condoms) tampered with intentionally. If someone knows they don’t want children, they should take measures they can to avoid it (bc for women and condoms for men. And no, ju… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 09:48 PM |
| 12 | The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argumentThere’s not really anything that’s remotely similar to having something growing inside of you. If men could carry the pregnancy instead, then they will get the ‘right’ to abort | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Do you offer to pay for your own food and drinks in the early stages of dating?I did when I was dating. And the offer has always been genuine. Most men I’ve dated have insisted tho, so I cover whatever our next activity is I will say tho, that I’ve had several men get nasty or even threatening when I used to insist to pay. So it’s definitely something women need to consider. There are also a lot of men who take it as a sign of disinterest when it’s not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 06:30 PM |
| 0 | For Men in Relationships: Is Emotional Love or Physical Desire More Important?The other commenter explained it pretty fucking well. If you can’t understand it, no one can help, I’m sorry. Romantic feelings exist just like platonic and sexual ones do. That’s the point If you have a friend and have sex with them, are you suddenly in a committed relationship? For most people, no. Because there’s no romantic feelings for that person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/26 02:27 AM |
| 3 | For Men in Relationships: Is Emotional Love or Physical Desire More Important?I’m not entirely sure what you’re going on about tbh. Can you please point out where in my original comment that I said to have romantic feelings but never have sex? The point was that it’s not black and white as platonic vs sexual. Romantic feelings exist. If they aren’t important to you or something you’re capable of feeling, then that’s you and you should pursue someone similar It’s also rather telling that you assume everyone behaves and thinks the same way as you do. Very narrow minded | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 11:10 PM |
| 3 | For Men in Relationships: Is Emotional Love or Physical Desire More Important?It’s not that simple tho—there are also romantic feelings which are neither platonic or sexual | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 10:35 PM |
| – | If its men's fault for not being able to get a date, then its women's fault for getting "used"How would you define ‘fault’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingFair enough. I think that you shouldn’t try and manipulate someone into a relationship but to each their own | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingEh, personally, if I lied to my partner and he wanted to leave because of that, I’d understand and wouldn’t try and stop or convince him to stay. It’s a deserved outcome imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingNo, my question was more—if he found out that you lied about your body count to him and wanted to divorce, would you be upset or try to get him not to? Or would you understand? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingVery interesting! I’d imagine most people would find it offputting if a someone lied to just be with them. I see. Theoretically, if your partner found out and wanted to leave, would you believe that that is justified? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 04:06 PM |
| 7 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingVery true. I’m just kinda surprised by people that do lie for something like this. Seems like it wouldn’t lead to the best outcome | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 04:04 PM |
| 2 | What do you like about your husband/bf?I love his sense of morality and how he genuinely cares about people, how he’ll constantly go out of his way to help people in small, but impactful ways. I love his hugs and how he likes to just relax in bed and blab about nothing when we have nothing to do. I adore his playfulness when it’s just us, and how protective he is of those he cares about, and how much he adores and dotes on our kids, and I love how empathetic and how willing he is to be vulnerable with me. There’s so much I adore abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingGenuinely tho, why would you want to be with someone that would judge you anyways? And on top of that, if it would be a dealbreaker for him, you’re essentially manipulating him into a relationship with you as you’re not letting him make an informed decision. That’s kinda bizarre if you’re wanting a genuine relationship and care about the person I’m really curious, if the man you wanted had hidden things (had cosmetic surgery) or lied about his interests just so he could be with you, would you be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingIt doesn’t determine your worth, but if a partner would have a problem with it, then you are just incompatible. Why would you even want to be with someone that would judge that anyways? It doesn’t make much sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingJust wondering, but if you try and break it off or leave, those men won’t let you (like physically won’t allow you to leave)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingBut why would you want to be with someone that would judge that? It means you’re incompatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 03:35 PM |
| 9 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingI mean, genuinely tho, why lie? Why would you even want to be with a man that cares? It just means you’re incompatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 03:33 PM |
| 6 | Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when datingGenuinely, why lie tho? That’s just pushing to be in a relationship with someone you aren’t compatible with and taking away their ability to make an informed decision on the relationship. They’re essentially only in a relationship with you because they were purposefully misled. Why not seek out someone who understands or has similar values (like if a woman is a virgin or only has been with an ex partner, why pursue that if the subject is important to them)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 03:30 PM |
| 13 | What would you need to see/get from a woman in a relationship to feel certain that you were not being settled for, or used for resources or companionship?Because attraction doesn’t only refer to sexual desire? That’s fine if that’s how it is for you, but it’s not really like that for most people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/26 12:04 AM |
| 1 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?How so? All these things change your appearance. It’s a bit strange to only think it’s deceptive or wrong when a woman does it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 12:20 AM |
| 1 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?This take is so strange to me. So in your opinion, if a man has his hair cut and styled a specific way to look more attractive, is that him being dishonest? Is a man growing a beard to hide a weak chin dishonest? If he decides to get facial piercings is he being dishonest? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/26 01:04 AM |
| 1 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?True. Niceness isn’t the same as kindness, however | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/26 12:26 AM |
| 1 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?How is hair dye or makeup deception tho? How is it any different from wearing a certain style of clothing, or getting tattoos or piercings? If they’re explicitly doing certain things to try and deceive men, then sure. But most men can understand that eyeliner isn’t natural or that pink hair isn’t real | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalIf that’s what you choose to believe, then you’re right. No point in continuing this conversation if you don’t believe in nuance. Best of luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 06:22 PM |
| 2 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?But honestly, why is that a problem? Those people are still able to date and get into relationships, right? I think a big problem is that when people complain about ‘not getting attention’ or not being able to date, it’s because they’re aiming for conventionally attractive people that everyone else also wants. They’ll ignore the average or below average person that would be available for a relationship because they focus so much on physical attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 06:15 PM |
| 0 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalWhere did I invalidate the statistic? I’m point out that the statistic doesn’t tell the whole story, and that the situation is nuanced. The statistic is useful when it’s one part. The statistic alone just doesn’t fully explain something. That’s not ‘invalidating’ it. Genuinely, why is that a problem to point out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalThinking in black and white is literally a childish mentality. So lecturing someone to ‘grow up’ is a bit strange here. The ‘grown up’ world is full of nuance, and a mature adult wouldn’t ignore this. It’s interesting how you refuse to acknowledge anything here and just keep repeating that you’re right. How is that not arrogance? Please tell me, how is pointing out nuance in a debate arrogant? Also, why did you never quote where I apparently said that men were at fault in my initial comment? The… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 05:01 PM |
| 2 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?How’s it ‘virtue signaling’ tho? If you ask a woman what she’s attracted to, and she’s attracted to someone’s personality and considers that the most important to her, that’s just her being honest. These likely aren’t the same women that are actively pursuing ‘chads’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:57 PM |
| 5 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?There are literally women out there who date obese men (who aren’t rich). So yeah, there are people in the world who do date and are attracted to someone based on personality For most people, it’s a mixture of both. If you look outside, most couples are average and maybe even below average. And not all of them are going to be miserable and unhappy. Most people should date their ‘looks match’, if you’re average, why are you going for a woman that’s literally an influencer on social media | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalThe point is about how statistics on their own, without any context are pretty useless as they don’t show the whole picture, or even a decent part of it. It’s to show that if you give more grace to the study on why men abandon their kids so often, that same grace needs to be extended to the women who divorce. If you can’t acknowledge that men (or your team, so to speak) can play at least some kind of role in why divorces are so high, that’s you being biased For example, if a man leaves his wife … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalThe average young woman is still overweight tho if you do a quick search. Women aged 20-29 are on average around 170lbs, which is typically considered overweight. Even if we try and argue that it’s only the 26-29 year old that are skewing this, the average woman isn’t in shape or attractive enough to have a large following (so they’d have an average or relatively bland face). Are these the women you’re referring to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalYou didn’t answer my question, which is interesting. Very true, they did choose to leave. But again, would you say the same about the stats on men that actively want custody of their own children? They may have their reasons why, but most men do not actively want or pursue custody of their own children. This needs to be accepted as well, right? Men are deciding to not go for custody of their children at high rates, and by your own logic, the ‘why’ shouldn’t matter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalThe average woman in the US (if that’s where you’re located) is overweight. So if you’re referring to women that are relatively in shape or have any sort of following on social media, they are, by definition, above average | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalWhere in my comment did I state that men are at fault? Can you please quote me? I’m merely pointing out that statistics alone are meaningless. For example, the stat about how many men actually fight for custody, I do believe that there are valid reasons why it’s so low, such as men being told/pressured into giving it up. But do you extend women the same courtesy on that stat you provided? Actually, why is me bringing up that stat so upsetting to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:28 PM |
| 4 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalYou didn’t answer my question. Are you referring to all women or just women you fond attractive? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:11 PM |
| 6 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?Women are attracted to different things tho. Some women who answer on reddit genuinely might be attracted to someone’s personality and don’t really value physical appearance. This isn’t automatically a ‘lie’ when you see a woman in real life focus more on physical appearance. All women are not the same and that’s why you’ll get contradictory answers The women I know who really value physical attraction over other aspects are very vocal about this. I also know women who think it’s shallow and put… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalAre you referring to all women or just conventionally attractive women? Because you still see many average to unattractive couples out and about. If you aren’t conventionally attractive, then you shouldn’t really be surprised that attractive women are only interested in men that are their looks match | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 03:54 PM |
| 8 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalOnce again, have you ever thought about the ‘why’ behind those stats? Taking the numbers at face value is meaningless. There’s also a study that says that only 8% of men want custody of their children. Do you also take that stat at face value and not question it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 03:51 PM |
| 7 | Men leaving for younger women is naturalWhy bother getting married tho? Men can get into poly relationships if they aren’t monogamous or stay in casual relationships to be with many women. There’s no reason to lie to someone and hurt them when there are plenty of options for them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to.What do you define as actual desire tho? For many women, their ultimate desire in life isn’t the most ‘objectively attractive’ man they see. Are you using ‘desire’ just to describe ‘lust’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 04:17 PM |
| 6 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to.Attraction can and often does go deeper than looks tho. Physical attraction is just one aspect of being attracted to someone (unless you’re someone that only cares about physical appearance) For a lot of people, physical attraction isn’t the most important. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 04:14 PM |
| 0 | Externalizing blame is necessary and healthy for keeping your sanity as an unsuccesful man.When you’re talking about ‘women’s standards’, are you also including unattractive or overweight women? Are you also pursuing and interested in those women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 04:03 PM |
| 0 | Externalizing blame is necessary and healthy for keeping your sanity as an unsuccesful man.Genuine question—what kind of women are you pursuing? If you’re so convinced that you can’t date because of your height, are you going for unattractive women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 04:00 PM |
| 9 | Would you leave someone that you permanently lost your attraction for?I wouldn’t leave. I’m married and deeply in love with my husband. I plan to grow old with him until one of us passes, and that incudes staying even when we’re all wrinkly and maybe even fat. Attraction goes much deeper than physical appearance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.Do most women not hug/kiss/cuddle/touch men that they’re dating? That seems a bit unlikely to me. I can understand that most men don’t receive affection outside of a romantic relationship, but sex shouldn’t be the only way Just like hugging and cuddling, sex is hot and sweaty too. There’s always kissing as well. I’ve never really heard of women being so cold to men they’re actively dating, but maybe it’s a recent thing? Like just to be clear, the women you date won’t even hug or kiss you at all.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.What do you mean? I never said that men are automatically wrong or that women are always right. I’m saying that if you’re dating, you should enjoy both hanging out (outside of sex) and having sex. I’ve noticed a lot of men claim that hanging out/going on dates are ‘a waste of time’ if there’s no sex. That’s what I’m referring to If a woman has a ‘what do I get out of it’ mentality, I’d say the exact same thing to her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 08:59 PM |
| 0 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.But the thing is, if you have an issue with women like that, why not just filter them out? If you want to have sex quickly, then you just aren’t compatible with women that prefer to wait. No one’s in the wrong and you don’t have to date those women. I just don’t understand why so many men are angry that some women do this? If you ever meet one, you can walk away and find someone actually compatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.Of course. But it’s weird when some men have this mentality of ‘what do I get out of it?’ when there’s a nice date but no sex. You should have ‘gotten’ the nice time hanging out together, the same as what the woman ‘got’ out of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.I’ve only ever heard about women like that from men and from what they’ve said, it eventually comes out that those women were very promiscuous and they weren’t the exceptions. I’m sure true exceptions exist, but I’d be curious about the reason why. Someone doing something out of fear, for example, doesn’t seem like something to promote or even want | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.What about boundaries a woman has for everyone? Because breaking them would likely lead to her being hurt? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:53 PM |
| 0 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.I see. I thought you were referring to sexual boundaries a woman might have, like wanting a woman to ignore hard sexual boundaries even if it harms them physically or mentally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:48 PM |
| 4 | "I'm not going to date anyone I'm not attracted to, even if I die alone"Same here. I’ve had several men on this sub who won’t even believe that my husband and I both work and make around the same. They literally insist that I must be using him for something or that he’s suffering because I must have a low libido. I don’t think they can see outside of their narrow world view | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.Would you even be able to enjoy sex with a woman who’s only doing something sexually for you because she feels forced or pressured? Even if this traumatizes her, that would still be ideal to do to your partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.Tbf tho, if this is the case, why are there so many men complaining about not being able to date/get laid/get any interest from women? I don’t disagree with you, but it’s interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.I mean, that’s still a specific type of woman. The same way that most women have interacted with a toxic man that’s pushy for sex. It’s not all men but most women have had this experience at least once | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.You shouldn’t be going on dates for sex tho. Going on dates should be for mutual enjoyment just like sex. You should enjoy hanging out with the person you’re dating even outside of sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.Why is this so hard to fathom? Sure, some women will sleep immediately with attractive men. But there are also women who don’t have sex early on with anyone. Generalizing really isn’t helpful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.Exactly this. I do not feel safe or connected early on and have next to no interest in sex. However, once there’s a connection and I trust them, I typically have the higher libido. Been in my marriage for 10+ years now and still have the higher libido between my husband and I | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:18 PM |
| 0 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.How? Demi-sexual just means that they need to have an emotional connection before they feel sexual attraction. Once that attraction develops, they can have a high drive. Like personally, I need to have a strong emotional attachment before I want sex, but now in my marriage my preferred frequency is 1-3 a day, which is higher than my husband’s preferred amount (maybe that’s ‘low’ but from what I’ve read and heard from others, doesn’t seem to be the case) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable.Demi-sexual women do enjoy sex tho with their partners. It just takes time to build an emotional connection, but once it’s there, it doesn’t mean they have a low drive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 04:20 PM |
| 4 | Paternity fraud should have criminal liability and reverse burden of proof.It is. Do you believe it is more ‘disgusting’ than a crime like rape? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 01:21 PM |
| – | Paternity fraud should have criminal liability and reverse burden of proof.Do you believe that this line of thinking should also be applied to every other crime? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 01:14 PM |
| – | Paternity fraud should have criminal liability and reverse burden of proof.How do you prove this? I don’t disagree with you, but this just isn’t realistic. Are you wanting to change law to be guilty until proven innocent? If so, then every crime should be treated this way, including rape. Which means men will need to prove they didn’t rape their accuser. If you have an issue with that, then that’s interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 01:08 PM |
| – | Paternity fraud should have criminal liability and reverse burden of proof.What if the woman genuinely believes that the child is her partner’s, but is wrong? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 01:03 PM |
| 1 | How should women “take accountability”?Would you say the same thing to men who date terrible women and put up with abuse just because she’s attractive? That they have no right to complain? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 04:28 AM |
| 1 | How should women “take accountability”?Genuinely, what is the outcome that you’d want in this situation? If a woman wants to date men she’s actually attracted to, is that a problem? Wouldn’t dating someone you aren’t attracted to end up as a deadbedroom or resentment? I’m assuming that you’d also want to pursue a woman you’re attracted to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 01:16 AM |
| – | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?You do you, best of luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 03:31 PM |
| – | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?I have not once seen a comment wishing ill on neurodivergent people on this sub. Do you have a link to such a comment? And no, not wanting to have sex with or date an autistic man is not treating him badly. I’ve seen some comments talking about how they won’t date autistic men, but I’ve also seen comments calling obese and ugly women disgusting and pigs. Which is also bullying, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 03:27 PM |
| – | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?How do you mean? Invisible disabilities are disabilities. Do you have a specific disability you’re referring to here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?Why do you want to live in a community if you don’t care about other people? Very interesting that you seem to only care for yourself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?So you understand how they feel, and yet you want them to suffer? That’s your stance? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?So you can’t empathize with people different from yourself? Good to know! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 10:13 PM |
| 0 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?If you don’t care about other people, go live alone in the woods then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?So just to be clear, you believe that people with disabilities deserve to live in poverty and die? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?Then by all means, take it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Feminism is extremely dangerousThis is what I’m asking. This is what I’m saying that is what needs to keep being discussed. Not just blaming and pointing fingers at our current system. We need to keep discussing this and look for better systems | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?If needing to empty your balls is causing genuine pain to the point that you vomit or faint, sure. Totally fine imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:54 PM |
| 2 | Feminism is extremely dangerousSo then are you saying the best solution is for women who can’t prove it to just shut up about it and suffer in silence? The system we have is better than nothing, sure, but we should be working towards making it better. Ideally, we wouldn’t have to worry about anyone being raped by their partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?It really depends. Like personally, I can’t work through migraines because mine severely impact vision (so just because you can work through migraines, it doesn’t mean everyone can). Some people have period pains that can cause them to vomit and be bedridden. I didn’t have endometriosis, but before I had my first child, my periods were so painful on the first day that I literally could not even stand from the pain or I’d be vomiting. I’ve passed out a couple times from the pain too. So taking si… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?Yes, they should get equal time off for medical reasons such as chronic pain. If they have genuine pain every month, then they absolutely are entitled to getting that as sick time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:43 PM |
| 0 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?How would you suggest that people with disabilities survive then? If accommodations cost more, then what should happen to those with severe health issues or disabilities? How do we keep them out of poverty? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:37 PM |
| 2 | How promiscuous do you consider yourself to be?Only have sex in committed relationships and have only been with 2 men. Both times had sex after around 4 months | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:33 PM |
| 7 | For those of you who complain about men who complain about not getting sex in relationships, saying that they should just seek hookups instead, would you be fine with those men complaining about their lack of access to hookups? If not, what is the right way for a man to complain about a lack of sex?Men can complain about not having access to sex, sure. Imo it’s only a problem when it gets spun into blaming women, pushing for women to have sex they don’t want, or promoting unethical means to have sex (lying about intentions, for example) If men just are like, ‘it sucks that I’m mot having sex’, or’I wish I could have more sex’, or whatever, I don’t think most people should care. It really depends on how those men complain and talk about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 06:25 PM |
| 8 | Feminism is extremely dangerousWhy are you getting so aggressive here? I’m trying to ask you how we can do this in a way that is fair and protects the victims. And yes, we do need evidence for a crime. But I’m asking you genuinely, how would you go about proving that your partner raped you if they weren’t overtly violent and left physical damage? Do you at least understand how asking for solid proof isn’t going to be possible most of the time? This is all I’m asking here. Not saying to lock up innocent people, but we need to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 04:56 PM |
| 8 | Feminism is extremely dangerousOk, but genuine question—do you understand exactly how traumatizing rape and sexual assault can be? And you’re blaming those victims for not being able to be mentally ok after going through that? The whole point I’m trying to make is that sexual assaults are notorious for being more difficult to prove. So we need to handle them differently than other crimes (especially if it’s between intimate partners). Obviously, we don’t lock people up based on only one person’s word, but we shouldn’t let peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 04:46 PM |
| 8 | Feminism is extremely dangerousThe thing is, what if the event was so traumatizing that the victim literally shuts down/has panic attacks/or is just unable to mentally go thru this? What should happen? If someone cannot go through the process because of the trauma, do we wait and see if their mental health can recover first, and only then it goes to trial? I agree that ideally, they should go through the process. But in cases where they can’t mentally handle it, what should happen? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 04:38 PM |
| 10 | Feminism is extremely dangerousVery true. Which is why I’m curious on what kind of evidence OP is talking about. How could a woman prove that she didn’t consent to ‘rough’ sex if that’s what the man claims? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 04:18 PM |
| 14 | Feminism is extremely dangerousI get what you’re saying, but typically sexual abuse cases are harder to prove. Unless it was violent, for example, how could a woman prove that her partner forced her to have sex? Like what evidence could she provide if she had a freeze or fawn response? Or if she had vaginal trauma, how could she prove that she didn’t consent to ‘rough sex’ if that’s what her partner decided to say? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 04:14 PM |
| 4 | “Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex.That wasn’t my question. I asked if sex looked like that for most men, do you think they would still prioritize sex the same way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 02:37 AM |
| 6 | “Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex.Genuine question—do you think most men that hookup or do casual sex don’t orgasm during these encounters? Do you believe that if sex ended with you going down on a woman and her finishing, that most men would be down for that? Yes or no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 10:17 PM |
| 4 | “Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex.So you think women should have sex even when they don’t want to or aren’t comfortable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 10:11 PM |
| 4 | You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?"I was these things in my 20s. Back then I wanted a man my age, was in a similar industry (film) or at least had an active interest in it, was a healthy weight and took care of himself, and had the same values and goals | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/26 11:26 PM |
| 1 | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardFair enough. I think it may just come down to each of our lived experiences tbh And I agree with you here. I don’t think that all age gap relationships should be automatically treated as tho the man (or whoever is older) is a predator without knowing more context. Personally, if the woman was someone I know well, I would give her some advice or check in to make sure she’s ok. But if it’s all fine, then I don’t have any issue. For me, it’s more just trying to make sure someone doesn’t get hurt, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/26 12:02 AM |
| 2 | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardThe difference often is the power imbalance (difference in experience). I’ve been in a relationship with an older man and with men my age back then. Yes, men my age can be abusive too, but it didn’t include the power dynamic. Like, I’ve seen men straight up admit this too. They say they prefer younger women because ‘they’re easy to mold’, ‘you can train them’, ‘they listen to you’, etc. Essentially, they want someone who never questions them or stands up for themselves. That’s problematic, and I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 10:52 PM |
| – | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardI’d say the same thing if a woman is dating a man much younger than her. The issue is mainly that younger people have much less life experience (sure, not always). This makes them much easier to ‘mold’, manipulate, or create power dynamics with, as they often don’t know what bad behavior to look out for. Like, just curious, but have you been in a relationship with a much older person when you were a young adult? Many people who have later realize that they should have left sooner but didn’t know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 10:15 PM |
| – | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardWe aren’t talking about what’s ‘legal’. It’s about morals. If I know that someone is immature and easy to manipulate, I’m not going to take advantage of that. It’s not illegal, but no decent person would do that Like genuine question—if ‘older women’ don’t bash men who go for younger women, but only advise the younger women of red flags to look out for/look out for the woman, would you have a problem with this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 06:23 PM |
| – | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardYeah, I don’t think OP realizes that ‘older’ women were once young women too. They’ve likely experienced being manipulated by older men. Most of the time when I see an older woman bothered by this, they just try and advise the younger woman to try and help. Not all age differences are predatory but a lot are. And a lot of women experience this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 06:20 PM |
| – | Women feel free to blatantly disrespect Men they are not attracted to because of FeminismIs not wanting to date you considered disrespect? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Yup. And there are also many people who are unhappy with those arrangements and are happy in genuine loving relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Then there should be no issue with being honest and upfront about this at the start. Do you have any sources backing up that most people are happy in situationships and FWB situations and not actual relationships? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 06:53 PM |
| – | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.If you want women like that, then you’re free to pursue those women. Many people are not going to be so hyperfixated on sex, however, that they will be willing to endure a shitty or abusive relationship for it. You will be able to find women with low self confidence or women who only prioritize sex, so as long as your leave other women alone, no problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Is romantic love the only love there is to you? You don’t care about your friends? Your parents? Your siblings? Your children? All of these are important and one isn’t necessarily more important than another. They’re all important, but different. This shouldn’t be something difficult to understand if you value the people in your life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.As long as both people are on the same page about that type of relationship. But for many people, that situation isn’t what they want or what makes them happy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 06:04 PM |
| – | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Exactly this. Unfortunately, I think a lot of men here only consider ‘great sex’ to be focused on their own pleasure and see their partners as essentially sex dolls | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Where did we downplay the importance of sex? Sex is important. Just as important as the other aspects of a relationship. Why are you downplaying the significance of the non-sexual aspects? Are they not important to a relationship just as sex is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Re-read your previous comment. How is this a clear question? “Sure sure, what are aromantic love and feelings towards a friend that can make him so called close one?” Aromantic? And the grammar makes no sense. But the point is that romantic feelings is what makes it different from a friendship. Not just sex. It’s both. A lot of men on here try and argue that it’s only sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.What? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Some men on this sub have said this exact thing tho (and I highly doubt that they are the only men to ever feel this way). A while back, I asked if they would consider a friend that they exclusively have sex with (a FWB) as being the same as a loving relationship. Several men chimed in and said there was no difference between a FWB and a relationship. A lot of men really do only value sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.It’s romantic love and romantic feelings that separate a close friend from a partner. A partner is someone you have romantic and sexual feelings for. Sexual and romantic feelings can and often do intertwine, but they are not the same | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 04:33 PM |
| 8 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Yup. But there are men on here that have said there’s no difference between FWB and a relationship to them. It’s eye opening tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 04:06 PM |
| 10 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Without shared goals, emotional connection, and non sexual affection, a marriage is dead. All of it is important to maintain. If you’re just friends that have sex, but there’s no commitment or longterm goals, that’s not a relationship for most people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 03:55 PM |
| 0 | "Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature".So just to be clear, you don’t believe that things should change? That things are fine as they are? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 10:01 PM |
| 0 | "Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature".If having a plethora of options is causing more men to struggle with finding a partner, what is the solution to help those men? If women won’t lower their standards, what would you like to happen? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 09:24 PM |
| 1 | "Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature".And there’s nothing wrong with those statements. Data supports these things, so I don’t really see an issue when they are stated? As long as people aren’t trying to say that all men and women are doing those things, I don’t see what the problem is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 09:23 PM |
| 0 | "Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature".Would you prefer for people to date those that they aren’t attracted to then? What is the solution? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 08:10 PM |
| 1 | "Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature".Both can be true tho, right? A woman is more likely to be sexually abused by a man and not a woman, right? A man is more likely to be violently assaulted by another man. This doesn’t mean all men are like this. It’s strange to me on why that statement is so upsetting. It quite literally says ‘not all men’. Why is it bad to point out that women are mostly sexually abused by men? Is it wrong and women are actually being sexually assaulted by women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 08:09 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about some women being happy single and “not needing men”?But that’s the thing. What if most women would be happier to be single than to ‘settle’ for a man they don’t want. This will result in many men not finding a partner. So what would you say the solution would be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 05:56 PM |
| 6 | The constant characterization of male sexuality as something 'dirty' needs to stop.Not wanting to be hurt or degraded during sex doesn’t make someone prudish. Would you also say that a man who doesn’t want to be degraded is prudish? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 04:41 PM |
| – | For women, Does One Moment Can Matter More Than a Thousand Good/ bad ones ?If there’s no other incidents and the relationship is solid, then forgetting a birthday isn’t a big deal. It happens. The only way that would be a dealbreaker and I would end the relationship is if I felt like I wasn’t being appreciated or listened to and neglected. Then it wouldn’t even be about that incident. It’d just be the straw that broke the camel’s back | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 08:34 PM |
| 5 | Women, do you like how men walk on eggshells when talking to you?This is just a compatibility thing. You should be yourself and find a partner who likes that. Why hide it to push to be with an incompatible partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 05:31 PM |
| – | Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to meAnd they don’t even care that sperm health has a direct influence on the woman’s pregnancy. Unhealthy sperm can literally put the mother at increased risk too, but I doubt this is ever considered or cared about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:58 PM |
| – | Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to meDon’t a lot of men frequently say that single moms are ‘for recreational use only’ and shit like that? Men have made it pretty clear that they’ll have sex with women they would never actually be in a relationship with. Most women don’t want to be used for sex like that. Seeing that men would have sex with you doesn’t really mean much unless it’s from a man that sees sex as love | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:52 PM |
| – | Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to meThere are also cases where the husband wants a divorce but makes no actual plan for it so the wife ends up being the one to file. I know someone who this happened to. Husband wanted a divorce and was already living with his other woman, but never did file, just walked out. This isn’t a one off case either. There’s also cases where they might have asked for help repeatably but were ignored over a period of time. This will inevitably lead to resentment, and I see a lot of men who say that women do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:41 PM |
| – | Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to meAre you saying that women should stay with husbands who cheat, abuse, and treat them terribly? A lot of times the husband wants a divorce but the wife has to file because he won’t. The stat is just on who actually submitted the paperwork, not who is ending or wants to end the marriage | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:38 PM |
| 4 | What do you think about some women being happy single and “not needing men”?But what if those women couldn’t be happy with lowering their standards and would rather be alone? Should they be forced to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:29 PM |
| 9 | What do you think about some women being happy single and “not needing men”?What would the solution look like to you? Surely you wouldn’t advocate for women to date men they don’t want to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 08:01 AM |
| 2 | Question for Women: If I can guarantee to you that all future hookup experiences will be like the typical male hookup experience, would you sleep around more?How can you prove it’s most women tho? And I didn’t address casual sex because you’ll dismiss whatever I say. Average men can have casual sex. Many do as long as they’re likable. I have average to below average male friends and most of them have had one night stands or hookups in their life, especially while they were dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 10:03 PM |
| 5 | Question for Women: If I can guarantee to you that all future hookup experiences will be like the typical male hookup experience, would you sleep around more?You’ve interacted with most American women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 09:54 PM |
| 9 | Question for Women: If I can guarantee to you that all future hookup experiences will be like the typical male hookup experience, would you sleep around more?How do you know it’s a majority? Can you link any studies? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 09:50 PM |
| 7 | Question for Women: If I can guarantee to you that all future hookup experiences will be like the typical male hookup experience, would you sleep around more?That’s one person. Impatient people exist, but there are also plenty of patient people out there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Question for Women: If I can guarantee to you that all future hookup experiences will be like the typical male hookup experience, would you sleep around more?You can learn with them tho? I fail to see how this is a problem unless you’re just impatient | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 08:57 PM |
| 6 | Question for Women: If I can guarantee to you that all future hookup experiences will be like the typical male hookup experience, would you sleep around more?Personally, no because I don’t view sex as a casual activity. So removing the risks would be nice and I’d be happy for women who do like casual, but it would not make me want to participate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?I do hope so, and hope you continue to mature. Resorting to attacks again and again is very telling. Best of luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?That’s the thing tho, if you aren’t monogamous, why pursue that? At best, you’re just setting a relationship up for failure or to hurt your partner, which I’d assume you wouldn’t want to do You were asking questions tho. Does a question mark not indicate a question? But either way, the point is that you brought this up even tho it’s not mentioned anywhere in your OP once you felt attacked/judged. So again, why? If you can’t be honest, then best of luck to you as there’s no point in continuing if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?I didn’t judge you tho. Not being monogamous isn’t even a bad thing, so I’m not sure why you’re taking it as a negative? If you aren’t someone that can be happy with one partner, that’s fine but you need to stop pursuing monogamous relationships. And again, was porn use the topic of your post? You come across as very young here, but I’m curious—why are you asking questions about my husband? Are you asking in good faith and curiosity or are you trying to deflect. I’m asking you to be honest, if y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?I think so too 😭 He got very defensive so quickly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 01:58 PM |
| 6 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?You’re free to believe what you wish! But it’s still very interesting how you’ve decided to try so hard to move the conversation away from the actual topic. Instead of focusing on what your post was focusing on, you wanted to have a conversation about porn use? At least be honest about what you’re doing. Don’t be a coward. You’re resorting to attacks to attempt to ‘hurt’ the other person because you felt attacked. It’s why you couldn’t stay on topic, but I’m sure you’ll redirect again and deny w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 05:28 AM |
| 8 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?Do you know what incest is? Since when does incest refer to sexual relations between friends? I’m dead 😂You do realize some couples watch porn together, right? You also realize that the man isn’t always the kinkier one or the one with the higher libido, right? But you are literally projecting your behavior and view onto every other man because you can’t comprehend that people are different. It’s very telling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 05:21 AM |
| 6 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?😂😂 Are you so addicted to porn that you think everyone is? But you don’t need to worry your little head about us, I promise You’re deflecting so hard that you can’t even answer my questions anymore. Why did you get so touchy when asked about your partner’s friend? Did she reject you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 05:11 AM |
| 7 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?Ah, always turns into attacks around here. Not surprised. I just don’t get why try to push so hard to be in a monogamous relationship if you aren’t actually monogamous? If you want to be with her friends so badly, why not break up and pursue them? Is it because you’re afraid they’ll reject you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 05:03 AM |
| 5 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?Genuine question—do you care about being just presentable to your partner’s friends? Or are you wanting them actively to be attracted to you and see you as ‘an option’ if you were single? If it’s the former, not really a problem. If it’s the latter? ….your partner deserves better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:57 AM |
| 5 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?I can’t see how that’s important to any mature person. Caring about what other people think constantly just screams insecurity. Your partner should be enough. If not, you either aren’t that into them or you aren’t actually monogamous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:53 AM |
| 6 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?I feel bad for couples that don’t aim to still be attractive to their partners and can’t relate. I’ve been married for close to 13 years now, and we both make sure we put in the time/resources to stay healthy and attractive to each other. It’s the bare minimum if you genuinely care about them imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:47 AM |
| 7 | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?That’s not what you’re asking tho. Just because I don’t value other men’s opinions on my appearance doesn’t mean I don’t put a lot of effort in. I do. I stay in shape and wear clothing that I know my husband likes and work hard to stay as attractive as possible to him. I don’t do this for validation from other men, which is what it seems like you’re wanting from women other than your partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:40 AM |
| – | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?Again, why would I care? I’m not looking to be with them. I don’t need their approval. I aim to be attractive to my husband because his attention and opinion is the one I value. Why would anyone need validation from other men/women if they’re happy in their relationship? I can’t understand why you’d value other women’s opinions when you have a partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:30 AM |
| – | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?No? Why would I care? I’d care if my husband found me unattractive. But the others? Not really. Now if it were like a hygiene issue or coming across like a bum, then yeah. Because that makes not only me look bad, but my family look bad too. But caring that my friend’s partners are attracted to me? No, because the only man’s attention I care about and need is my husbands | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:21 AM |
| – | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?But why does it matter? Your partner’s attraction to you should be what’s important. I don’t even see why someone in a relationship would even be thinking about other men/women or what they think if they’re actually into their partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:11 AM |
| – | Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?I mean it really depends, right? Most of my friend’s partners I can honestly say I don’t find attractive. My friend obviously think they’re hot, but to me? Nah. Same for my husband. When I first showed them, they were like ‘oh, not my type’ and that was kinda the similar response I had to their partners. But the thought doesn’t go beyond that. If they’re happy and attracted to their partner, then that’s what matters | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:08 AM |
| – | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.If around my height (5’9) is tall to you, then yeah sure. But also like, these are friends of mine. They even admit themselves that the men aren’t attractive, but they were horny and wanted someone that specific night. It does happen. Maybe not as often as men do this, but it does happen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 02:58 PM |
| – | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.No, I mean that I’ve seen them go home with men that match the stereotypical ‘weeb’ at an anime convention (very overweight, bad style, long and sometimes greasy hair, unattractive face etc). Are all men trolls? Obviously not. Average looking men are relatively attractive too. But some women will go home with men that would be considered unattractive by most women You don’t need to be a model to not be a troll. Even if you’re a little chubby, that’s still attractive. I’m using troll very specifi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 02:52 PM |
| 0 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.Uhh, in my friend’s cases, I can only recall two that were not overweight. All of them were between the heights of 5’4-5’10 (so ig a little above average). And we don’t live in the country or in a small town. So these men are ‘chads’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 02:23 PM |
| – | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.Not all women tho. And if men want to do this without asking, I don’t want to see any complaints if they ever get reported for assault. Many women don’t like rough sex at all. Not everyone wants to be hurt and injured during sex. Not sure why you’re wanting to hurt women during sex, but ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 02:20 PM |
| – | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.Have you met any hypersexual women? I have, and when they’re horny, I’ve literally seen them go home with some absolute trolls. So yes, it happens | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.So you base your morals only on what’s legal? Both of these actions can traumatize the victim | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 02:15 PM |
| – | Women’s standards are not high in the leastLike, 2-3 a month. So maybe a little more than those men, but they definitely aren’t swimming in matches like the guys here think | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.Good luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 05:14 AM |
| 4 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.I mean that they are willing to potentially traumatize someone just so their ‘needs’ are met. If there were a way to guarantee that the sex worker they were seeing is doing it because they genuinely want to, and NOT because they desperately need the money or were somehow forced into this, then I could understand. Personally, I do not see sex as being the same as another labor job. It has more inherent risks and is way more intimate for most people. As sex work is now, I just don’t see any way it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.Just saying, shouldn’t get upset if another person lies to get what they want from you 🤷♀️ Fair is fair | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.So you believe you’re more important than everyone else? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.I’m very curious to know your opinion on false accusations. If lying to get what you want is ok, then you should have 0 issue with women lying to get what they want, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.In that case, it’s no better. They’re putting their wants first regardless of if it hurts someone. I would never willingly be with a partner like that. I would never be able to respect someone that can be that selfish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.You don’t care about treating people as people? Are you on the spectrum by any chance? Being willing to harm people isn’t a good thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.What do you mean? I’m saying that if you have to lie for a woman to have sex with you, you are taking away her ability to make an informed decision. Like if a woman had an STD, would you have sex with her? How would you feel if she hid that because she thought you would say no if you knew the truth? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.But what if a woman wouldn’t have sex unless it’s a relationship and has only ever done it that way? If you lie to her face, you’re removing her ability to make an informed decision and treating her as an object | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.Ot really depends. For how they view sex, even if they also view it as an emotional connection, I’m not compatible with someone that can separate it and treat it as only physical. Every sexual encounter for me is only about connection and love. I do not want a partner that can have sex purely for pleasure; they are not compatible with me For the gamble part, could you elaborate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:36 AM |
| 0 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.What’s the way you care about? If you have to lie, you still aren’t being validated by her. If you’re being honest, or even vague, then sure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.I mean, you also need permission to do things like spanking or anything past vanilla sex with a partner. Springing anything like hitting or choking without talking about it first is shitty | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:27 AM |
| 0 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.If you lie to have sex tho, she isn’t actually attracted to you. She’s attracted to the lie you presented and only consented to having sex with that reality. It’s extremely sketchy if you knew she wouldn’t sleep with you otherwise | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:24 AM |
| 3 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.Personally, it’s a values thing. Imo there’s almost no way to guarantee that the sex worker genuinely is doing it because they want to and not because they need the money or are being coerced. Anyone who’s willing to take that gamble would not be compatible. It also shows that they view sex as something purely physical or only about pleasure, and that’s incompatible with how I view sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Men here present all men in a terrible light and then act surprised when women call them outI really appreciate you sharing this and can see your view. Ngl after having experiences like the ones you’ve had, I’d start to lose trust in people too and don’t blame you. To be completely honest, I genuinely think that if you’re able to meet a woman who’s willing to listen and understand, that she won’t feel resentful especially if she’s been through something similar. Everyone learns and grows from their past experiences and it’s always seemed strange to judge people off of that without tryi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.So, just to be clear, an ugly/obese man can be considered a ‘chad’ as long as he’s had many sexual partners? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 08:49 PM |
| 4 | Men here present all men in a terrible light and then act surprised when women call them outTbh on your last point, I see what you mean because my husband went through this with women he dated in the past. He’s very giving and generous and it can make him an easy target for selfish people. When we started dating, we went on super lowkey or free dates and gave each other very affordable/personal gifts, which I was fine with. It wasn’t til later that he told me that he was in a lot of debt because of how he’d lavish some of his exes that took advantage of that. And honestly, this would h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 08:46 PM |
| 6 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.So then what is ‘chad’ then if it doesn’t mean a man that’s physically attractive or financially well off? Ugly fat guys are ‘chads’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 08:33 PM |
| 5 | Men here present all men in a terrible light and then act surprised when women call them outI think most women would be understanding if you were open about how spending lavishly like that was actively hurting you. Not sure if this equivalence really works. Effort and attention is equal to effort and attention. Sex is equal to sex. Or what is sex to you? Is sex not an expression of love to share with your partner? Hopefully men see sex as more than just physical and using a body | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Men here present all men in a terrible light and then act surprised when women call them outI can’t speak for everyone, but growing up, it definitely wasn’t messaging from older women lmao. They were the most prudish about sex (like the kind to actively shame women for having sex before getting married, but not shame the men) The push for casual came mostly from media like movies/tv and social circles, and primarily from men. I still remember feeling like I’d be alone forever because every guy I knew and was friends with back then made it clear that guys only wanted the most sexually o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 08:21 PM |
| 0 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastYes, younger people tend to be thinner than older. But the point is that there’s still a high number of overweight and obese young women (and men). Personally, in my circles it’s about the same, most of my friends are all in serious relationships. The only ones that aren’t are the less attractive ones, unfortunately | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastInteresting. The female friends of mine that are unattractive do not get many matches at all and they aren’t even being picky | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 08:05 PM |
| 7 | Men here present all men in a terrible light and then act surprised when women call them outIf a man used to recklessly spend his money on dates and then realized it was hurting him and stopped, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Like what? He matured and learned from previous experiences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:58 PM |
| 6 | Men here present all men in a terrible light and then act surprised when women call them outPeople do change tho? With how heavily casual sex and hooking up tends to get pushed, a lot of people think they’ll enjoy it. So they try and then find out they don’t like it. There’s nothing wrong with that, as you’re literally finding out what you actually enjoy It’s not a good sign if you haven’t changed at all since you were 18 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:55 PM |
| 0 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastSomething like 30-40% of women are overweight if we’re talking about the US. So if you filter them all out, that’s a pretty big chunk of women https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db360.htm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:46 PM |
| 7 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.But is ‘chad’ typically average looking at best, average finances, and aren’t considerate? I’ve had friends go thru this with men they were dating and most of those men were pretty unattractive or average at best. And not wealthy or had a great job. Are those men somehow ‘chads’? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastAre these friends conventionally attractive? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:35 PM |
| 0 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastThis is true. That’s why everyone needs to raise their standards and vet thoroughly for a compatible life partner and put less emphasis on shallow traits | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastIt really depends. From what I’ve seen, women that tend to be ‘hot’ or conventionally attractive have incredibly high standards (not all that I’ve know, but I can only think of 2 that don’t and those two also married their high school sweethearts so 🤷♀️). But they also can afford to. Women that are less attractive, from what I’ve seen in my social circles, are much more likely to have lower standards and be less shallow, tho I do know a couple that are a little delulu ngl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:31 PM |
| 0 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastAre those men looking to be with their looks match tho? And not treat them like a placeholder until they can get someone hotter? All the ‘incels’ I’ve known enough to try and help, have all only been interested in attractive women while they were not good looking themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:27 PM |
| 0 | Women’s standards are not high in the leastAre those less attractive men going for less attractive women tho? The men I know who I’ve seen struggle with dating were insanely picky on women’s appearance. As in, if a woman as overweight or didn’t have a pretty face, they wouldn’t even consider it. Or if they did, they made it clear they would only have sex with her. Maybe not every case is like this, but it seems like a decent amount | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:26 PM |
| – | Do you feel any empathy for men?This is what I actively try and do. But a big issue I’ve seen multiple times is that the men I know are being pressured and shamed by other men for not ‘being a man’. And this gets to them. I’m not sure how to help in those cases | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.I have tho. And then you twisted it into your version of platonic. For example, kissing. Kissing isn’t inherently sexual as you suggested. Most people don’t kiss their friends. Most people don’t make a life long commitment with their friends. Most people don’t aim to have a child with and raise it with a friend. Most people don’t feel giddy at the thought of their friends and that ‘butterflies’ feeling with friends. Having friends and helping them with kids and having your kids play together is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.If you genuinely don’t feel any different for your partner than your close friends (besides someone you can have sex with), that’s valid. But it’s NOT the same for everyone. I also would like to go on trips with my friends when we’re old and be there for them and their kids. But I’m not planning and building my life around them. They aren’t the ones I go to when things fall apart, or the ones that I would throw away absolutely everything for. For me and for a lot of people, romantic feelings are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.But you likely don’t plan to grow old with your friends, right? Or raise a family together? Or want to plan cute dates with? Kiss and cuddle? Just looking at them makes your whole world light up? You feel all this for your friends? It’s a lot more complex than just sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 11:44 PM |
| 2 | If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it?Oh, I know. I’ve been married for a while. But when men say things like this, I’m wondering what exactly they think women should be doing. Most of the time, it seems like they just want to throw out ‘vet better’ when they don’t actually have any ideas of what that means | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doRe-read my comment. If you can’t understand or use that advice, I can’t help you. Best of luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 05:44 PM |
| 9 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.Yes, they typically go hand in hand. But they are different things. Romantic feelings aren’t only sexual, that’s my point. Romantic feelings is typically present in relationships so sex isn’t the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship. Most people would probably not be satisfied in a relationship with zero non sexual affection and only having sex. Both are important to most people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.So people in relationships don’t have any feelings for their partners? You really believe this is true for most people? This might be the case for neurodivergent people, but not for everyone FWB isn’t a committed relationship for most people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:22 PM |
| 16 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.Sex isn’t the only thing that separates a romantic relationship from a friendship tho. Or would an exclusive FWB be the exact same as a committed relationship? Romantic feelings are different from platonic and sexual ones, tho it often can intertwine. And this should all be common sense, but a lot of people aren’t honest and don’t care about finding a compatible partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:05 PM |
| 10 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.As long as you’re upfront and honest about this, then go for it. If a woman wants someone who genuinely likes her as a person, then you shouldn’t lie. You’re just incompatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 03:49 PM |
| 11 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.If you’re looking at relationships this way, then you need to only pursue women who feel the same way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 03:47 PM |
| 6 | If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it?How long? And also, are you saying that no man will ever wait a long time? Even those that are desperate and have no options? How can we filter those out? I’m asking for specific advice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 03:04 PM |
| 3 | If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it?Will the ‘beta’ actually have lower odds of doing that tho? Or will he ditch as soon as the woman he actually wants shows interest? You’re trying to say that women should ‘vet better’, and I’m asking you for a detailed answer on how. Since you’re giving out advice, surely you’d have detailed information on how exactly to vet better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 02:49 PM |
| 7 | If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it?How would you vet a potential partner with a 100% success rate to not do something like this down the line? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Monogamy DiscussionTrue. But it’s only fair that if the man gets to prioritize his ‘favorite’, then the women get to prioritize theirs. Otherwise, it’s inherently unbalanced and toxic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:07 AM |
| 2 | Monogamy DiscussionHow would his partners having sex with men mean that he’s having sex with men? That makes 0 sense. Poly relationships don’t mean having sex with multiple partners all in the same room at the same time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doIf you’re just going to reject everything as ‘criticism’ then no one can help you 🤷♀️ Good luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Monogamy DiscussionBut if you’re someone who wants to have sex with multiple women, why can those women also not have sex with other men? I’m curious as to why if that’s the case | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 10:21 PM |
| 3 | Monogamy DiscussionI’ve always wondered this, but if you’re a person who’d like to have multiple partners, would you also be ok with your partners having other partners? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doTo look at yourself and how you’re coming across to other people, not just women. If ugly obese men can get invited to sex parties and hookup, looks aren’t the only issue. Looks can make it harder, but it doesn’t make it impossible. And the guys I’m talking about are anime/gaming people too. They aren’t exactly ‘chads’ Now are you finally going to answer mine? Or continue to gaslight? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doAnd here comes the gaslighting. You do know that even when a profile is hidden, people can still search and see your posts and comments, right? Why are you so ashamed? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doYou just deleted it and it was posted to the Vent subreddit 😭 Had a feeling so luckily got a screenshot if anyone doubts. But honestly, this speaks volumes and I’m not sure why you not only lied but also went thru the trouble to delete it. Doesn’t make any sense But the point is, being ugly isn’t the whole reason why. Ugly men get laid every day. If you refuse to do anything that might help, then no one else can help you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 04:39 PM |
| 3 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doYeah, if you check his post history, he says he’s afraid of being a 40 year old virgin. Which means this strategy isn’t working. And he’s also magically stopped replying when advice was given lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doWhy did you avoid my second question? When you go to these events are you social and easy going? How do you approach and talk to people? In my experience the men who get invited to shit talk to everyone, not just women, and they genuinely enjoy getting to know people. If you’re a pleasant person, it’ll happen. I’ve seen obese men invited to orgies and BSDM parties. It’s more heavily dependent on your social skills and that you don’t come across as threatening. If you are autistic or socially anx… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 04:11 PM |
| 11 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doWhy do you prefer to deceive women? And also, didn’t you make a post 4 days ago on how you’re afraid to be a 40 year old virgin? So is deceiving just a new strategy you’re now trying? Places like music festivals, conventions, clubs, etc. I’ve been to all of these and people are crazy. You don’t even have to be good looking, just social and you’ll get invited to weird shit. If you have unrealistic standards, then that’s on you tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 03:57 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵How’s this been working out so far? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 03:51 PM |
| 7 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doWhy not pay for sex? Or go to places where more sex positive people are and hookup? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Are current partners less loved than previous ones?Because they aren’t emotionally mature? Or they haven’t moved on? Either way these are things you need to filter out so you can drop them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Are current partners less loved than previous ones?How can you objectively measure if a partner is/was better for you? Someone can objectively be very conventionally attractive, wealthy, kind, etc and you still don’t love them or care about them as much as a partner that was less attractive, poor, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 04:13 PM |
| 2 | People say “demisexual” when they’re really describing the normal sexuality of a typical femaleThat still leaves at least 20% of women who aren’t like this tho even if we take this stat as the universal truth. So go for those women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel any empathy for men?I mean, would you say that if someone has been attacked by dogs before and had a fear of dogs, they should be forced to be happy around them? They aren’t allowed to be afraid? Plus, what’s wrong with being cautious around strangers in general? Personally, I’m weary and cautious of all strangers, especially if they are noticeably physically stronger than I am. It’s not about hating anyone, it’s about trying to stay as safe as possible and not put myself at risk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 07:07 PM |
| 1 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseMen still leave after this happens tho. So how can a woman guarantee it won’t. Are you saying most men will wait until marriage. Would you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 01:05 PM |
| 4 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseIn the first tho, they only ‘change’ their mind because they’re actively in danger. They’re basically being forced to either appeal to men or die and that’s not really a choice. It’s less violent than 3, sure. But it’s something that will still be harmful to women longterm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 04:10 AM |
| 1 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseWould you still make it a crime in the case of deadbedrooms? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 12:37 AM |
| 1 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseAs long as men aren’t giving their dicks out, then sure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 12:37 AM |
| 5 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseWould men still honor it and not cheat even if their wife is sexually incompatible with them for any reason? Could be mismatch in libidos, mismatch in sexual interests, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 12:14 AM |
| 5 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseFair enough, but if you want women to settle with men they aren’t attracted to, you shouldn’t expect sex outside of trying for children | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 12:12 AM |
| 10 | Q4W: In light of recent trending "men don't approach women anymore" content - do you have a problem with men approaching you? Do you want to be approached? Or to be left alone? Why?Same here. Even when I was single, I don’t like being approached by anyone. I wouldn’t make them uncomfortable if they’re polite, but I’d find a way to disengage and continue with what I’m doing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:44 PM |
| 5 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseMen do the same thing tho. How many men would be willing to wait until marriage for sex and not complain about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:43 PM |
| 7 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseThen why exactly is it a problem if women decide to chase ‘chads’? If it won’t help anything to not do it, then why should they stop? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:29 PM |
| 4 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseYou’re still not answering how this would help men that are struggling with dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:11 PM |
| 7 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseYes, that’s what would happen to those women. My question is how would this help men? They’ll be single and alone too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:10 PM |
| 7 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseOr men can keep asking out women and whoever doesn’t reject him is what his league is 🤷♀️ But a lot of men here have openly admitted that they aren’t attracted to their ‘level’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:09 PM |
| 6 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseThen a man’s level is just women that don’t reject him, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:08 PM |
| 10 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseSo you’d agree that women should make men wait while they are able to vet to guarantee that the man is good? No complaints? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:07 PM |
| 4 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseAnd the woman can’t have sex with ‘chad’ unless he consents. Both of them cause this situation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 11:07 PM |
| 4 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseHow can women make sure 100% of the time that they won’t be ‘pumped and dumped’, as you put it? Would all men be happier if women collectively decided sex was only for reproduction and nothing else? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:57 PM |
| 5 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseAgain, if women decided to either get commitment from ‘chads’ or remain forever single, how does this help men that aren’t ‘chads’? They’ll still struggle in dating and be alone. Or they’ll be settled for and have a partner that resents them. Is that a good thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:55 PM |
| 9 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseYes, but how will this help men. If most women still won’t date them, then their genes also die out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Women move on too fast and it's destroying datingLet’s say that’s theoretically true, would you really want your wife to feel forced to stay and be miserable? So you’d have a deadbedroom and a wife that’s resentful and unhappy. How is that a good thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Women move on too fast and it's destroying datingYeah, exactly. I was single for 8 years after my last relationship (including no casual sex or dating). I don’t see why that’d be any better than if I had only waited 8 days | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:50 PM |
| 4 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseThen he’s also contributing to the problem then. If ‘chads’ didn’t have sex with less attractive women, this wouldn’t happen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:42 PM |
| 7 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseOk, but what happens if those women ‘return to reality’ and decide they’d rather be single than ‘settle’? Men are still in the same situation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:40 PM |
| 5 | The Concept of “Leagues” in Dating Doesn’t Make SenseBut doesn’t this apply to men as well? If men are constantly getting rejected and getting no attention from women they’re attracted to, then those women are out of their league and they need to date less attractive women, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 10:37 PM |
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