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7

Get a lawyer and protect your self and your children. Your primary focus is your children and yourself. I wouldn’t bail her out. Contact a lawyer now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 03:58 AM
3

I would say this says more about her than you. If she’s so fearful of picking a terrible man, she needs therapy to figure out why she keeps picking terrible men. If she can’t trust someone then she shouldn’t be saying. I believe everyone should google people before dates. Make sure there no serious arrest or charges. Men and women should do this. I understand your hurt… I would let the next person you date that you’ve had dates in the past reach out to exes and cyber stock you due to their insec…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 07:26 AM
4

I’d recommend a therapist. Also some type of physical exercise to get it out. You’re not okay right now but you will be…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:33 AM
4

What does his attorney say?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 09:53 PM
5

What has your attorney recommend you do?
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 10:23 PM
1

I’d recommend therapy. Your daughters will learn the truth one day and hopefully don’t regret it. Be there for them, right now take care of you. ♥️
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 06:34 AM
4

Therapy would be helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 08:28 AM
3

Contact an attorney about the correction.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 12:09 AM
3

Right. You know how much it cost (time & money) to change your name.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 06:34 PM
3

People have to want to improve themselves and you can’t make anyone change. They have to want to change.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 01:59 AM
1

I love country music. As a BW, sometimes I wonder if there are others like me who do. But then again I’m in Cali so it will be hard to really know. I guess east of the Rockies I would probably fair better.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 11:30 PM
2

🤭 start a whole country music career. j/k okay in all seriousness. That’s a great idea.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 08:51 PM
1

Right now it feels like that. But revisit it in the future.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 08:49 PM
2

Still get an attorney and you file first.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 07:43 PM
2

Why not hire a nanny or house keeper? These woman that want to be SAHM’s don’t understand you are working just as hard as your husband. If she wanted to sit in her ass hire a cleaner and then look at her daughter. Your STBXW is delusional. You deserve someone who appreciates and loves you. Good for you for protecting your daughter and yourself. I’m glad you have a therapist, this will be helpful. ♥️
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 07:37 PM
3

This is the answer u/lepetitpoissant
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 07:24 AM
6

Get a new lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 08:53 PM
2

A lot of divorce laws are still based on women not being able to work or get jobs. I really believe it needs to be overhauled.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 05:16 PM
1

Talk to your Dr. they can help. Maybe give you something to help you sleep.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 01:26 PM
3

😔
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 10:48 PM
15

There’s a lot of psychological shit going on here. I’m glad you kept with your boundary. She will regret this later. Social media will have you blowing up your life for fiction you see. I’m sorry she didnt see the value is what you two had.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 12:00 AM
10

Don’t entertain anything with her. Communicate via text with her and let her know you are not interested. You need to move on. Therapy to get over the hurt but don’t go back.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 11:51 PM
3

♥️
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 02:34 AM
3

Find out recording in your state and put up cameras. You will need it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 06:55 PM
3

♥️ You’re not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 12:08 AM
4

Divorce. Therapy. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 01:47 PM
1

Don’t skip the therapy that’s really important.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 01:07 AM
6

Therapy and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 10:05 PM
2

♥️
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 07:51 AM
3

I’d wait for the decree
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:21 PM
1

What does it attorney say?
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 11:52 AM
8

You need to talk to your children about secrecy. She is setting a bad tone that could hurt them later in life.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 03:51 PM
3

Therapy then dating. You’ll thank yourself later.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 10:17 AM
5

Contact the courts about this
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 11:38 PM
2

This is good to know.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 08:16 PM
6

I had something else typed and deleted it. The answer to your question is a psychological one. Involving insecurities and trauma bonding. Unhealthy people attract whatever their trauma is in partners. So folks who weren’t loved and abandoned will attract partners who shower them in attention — regardless if it’s from a toxic/mentally unhealthy partner. Hence why it’s important we all show up mentally healthy and no emotional baggage for our partners.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 01:00 PM
6

The state you’re in matters. Sign the papers and get therapy and address your emotions later.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 08:45 AM
5

Wow.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 06:06 PM
6

Get an attorney to draft up something to cover your ass and don’t cheat, also make sure it covers if she cheats too. I’d honestly have a clause about cheating and how no one gets nothing. Just CYA
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 07:13 PM
3

😂🤣😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 08:02 PM
3

Did she want another baby and didn’t?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 09:26 PM
3

Therapy and a support group. That’s what my therapist has recommended. You’re not alone and I know how you feel. I don’t know what the answer is. I’m told time will help. You can only take ownership of your actions. That’s what I remind myself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 04:31 PM
10

Therapy and don’t miss the red flags next time. Make sure your daughter has at least one healthy parent. You’ll realize later you’ll be happier that she left.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 04:10 PM
1

I think her being healthy for her husband is important. Based on what OP shared it seems as if he was trying. We only have what OP shared.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 04:27 AM
1

Okay.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 04:25 AM
-4

You’re correct it isn’t. Where did I say it was?
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 09:17 PM
-1

I see it as him making hurtful malicious comments. However, I understand you’re wanting to take it literally. I will say we both agree OPs wife is terrible for saying that to him.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 08:46 PM
-11

I ask because my husband refuses oral from me but I am happy to take care of him whenever. I’ve since stopped when all his reasons for why he wouldn’t do it were my fault. He’s never tried and why should I continue to please him when he doesnt take care of me. No gymnastics. Just curious if the same logic is being applied. If he can divorce her over her insensitive malicious comment then a woman (in a position like my own) could too.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 08:33 PM
-13

Is this the same as a man not eating his wife pussy because she smells? But she smells because his jizz keeps throwing her pH off. She’s okay to divorce him too? u/Kingcyprus1 she said that to hurt you. Married couples fight, but should fight fair. What she did was malicious. Have you been looking to divorce? If you already have, moving forward with the divorce makes sense.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 08:11 PM
2

You’re right it does. If both parties are trying and communicating it should work.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 06:58 PM
2

Right
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 04:00 PM
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I think what’s important is when your wife comes to you with problems and issues that husbands listen. The issue is that in the beginning of the marriage men didn’t know how to be partners and husbands so wife’s just stop trying. They then see other women who said no more and left. They attempt again to talk to their husbands and because it seems all of a sudden husbands brush it off. The root cause is communication and to not stop dating your wife. u/Helpful-Paramedic463 I can’t speak to you ab…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 03:57 PM
1

♥️
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 03:59 PM
15

The issue here is her. Divorce and find a woman who wants to be with you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 11:23 AM
3

👆🏾 This is the answer
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 10:54 AM
1

My STBXH is like this. It’s annoying when you think you’re working hard as a partnership but he can buy all the BS toys he wants but can’t contribute to the household. I tell you what had he even give me cunnilingus have assed maybe did be willing to deal with it — but being 100% selfish to a devoted partner is not the way to go. Then booohooing when I say I’m leaving. YOU DIDNT CARE SIR!!! 🤦🏾‍♀️ sorry…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 04:19 PM
5

You’re not a dumbass to trust your partner.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 12:41 PM
3

Just recently learned the term hobosexual — a guy who’s homeless and shacks up with women.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 12:40 PM
9

Can you take her back to court? And get your son more?
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:10 PM
1

That sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 11:50 AM
1

It was so fucking close. And then I talked to my husband and it got a little better and then again yesterday. I know he’s torn up. And I know I’m supposed to be a bitch asshole (that’s what all my friends are saying - but I can’t be an asshole to him) that’s what they say woman should do. His behavior is the issue, be smudging his character wont make me feel better. But I can no longer allow abusive behavior. I love my husband dearly, I just don’t like the person he is right now. I wish the best…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 03:08 PM
-1

Make sure you amend the agreement you have around this. It will need to be followed by both parties.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 10:50 AM
7

It really is. I thought I’d be okay but haven’t been.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 11:37 PM
2

This is the answer 👆🏾
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 12:30 PM
0

Then fight for your marriage so the fucking work and take accountability for your actions. You can only control you. I don’t know what you have or haven’t done in your marriage but you need to step up and be there for your wife. She is your priority. You talk about optimism — you have to change your mindset. No one else can do that but you. Everyday you should write one positive goal you have and then at the end of the day write down one positive thing that happened — in a journal. I’ve heard of…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 09:35 PM
3

Therapy. Individual and couples. If you don’t have good communication skills your next relationship will be just as bad.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 09:01 PM
2

🫵🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 04:36 AM
4

So keep living in the house. If neither of you can afford to buy the other out — hat recourse do you have?
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 06:18 PM
8

Don’t start dating you need therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 12:43 PM
2

Make sure you don’t have baggage. Therapy. Then make sure you’re physically healthy. Taking care of you will help you find someone who is healthy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 01:14 PM
1

Nanny cams
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:49 PM
7

Evict her. Like a landlord. But I’d talk with an attorney about how to go about doing that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 09:31 AM
1

Contact an attorney right now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:20 AM
5

You can’t make another grown person do anything. Therapy and get divorced. You will be okay.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:00 AM
2

This!!
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:03 PM
1

You need to leave this woman. Dead serious. My husband stole my passport. Get an apt and move. If she doesn’t work. Send her on a trip spa day make it seem like you forgive her. And then leave. Also file as well. Get away from her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 03:17 PM
1

What happened… you gotta finish. What happened?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 12:26 PM
3

Talk to an actual attorney in TX.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 07:26 AM
3

As you should. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 08:38 PM
1

Okay because based on what you’ve said that seemed to come out of left field. Well she sounds terrible and I know you’ll find someone whose great.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 09:57 PM
1

Based on this comment, maybe you should now work on letting go of the anger and hurt from your ex. Not all women are like that just like not all men are terrible. How did you meet this woman who was a walking red flag?
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 09:41 PM
1

Then leave your wife. And find a woman who appreciates you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 03:22 PM
2

Don’t leave your home. Contact an attorney right now. Tomorrow. Regardless of her reason — think about you and your son.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 01:45 PM
4

I believe because of her age she never learned to be single. She went from having her parents take care of her to you. Therapy for you both and be honest with her about how you feel. Talk to an attorney about options and what that looks like.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 11:54 AM
2

Talk to your attorney. She talked to someone and they changed her mind.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 03:15 PM
4

What does your attorney say?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 09:53 AM
3

I understand folks think ‘I’m broke and don’t have anything why would I need a prenup’ because you’re intelligent and won’t always be broke. The cost of a prenup is way cheaper than the other side. Chris Rock had a prenup with an expiration date. His ex wife waited out that date 20yrs. I am not ragging on you. This sucks how much you have to pay, but you got out so clean. You’ll be okay. ♥️
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 03:08 PM
6

I wish someone would have told you to get a prenup. This will suck for one year and at your age you can bounce back quickly. If you can swing it, therapy. Focus on your children and your ex sounds like she’s going to be someone else’s problem. ♥️
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 02:41 PM
3

Talk to an attorney now and make your long game plan.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 10:49 PM
6

She had more time to mourn this loss than you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 10:44 PM
2

I’m not being nasty, he’s been divorced longer than he was married and still hung up on his ex. He also said he’s dated a number of women who wanted to commit and he didnt. All of this says he hasn’t healed and not loved on. He deserves to be freed from the prison he’s in. He can’t until he seeks professional help.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/25 05:17 PM
0

He doesnt but based on his post that’s where my comment came from.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/25 06:32 AM
1

🤣😂🤣
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 08:35 PM
5

Therapy
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 03:20 PM
1

I wouldn’t recommend it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 02:46 PM
4

😳😮‍💨
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 02:42 PM
4

Because instead of you going to therapy to deal With your shit you ran. And your ex has ‘healed’ and moved on while you haven’t. Go to therapy and find a woman to be with.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 02:41 PM
2

What does your attorney say?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 04:05 AM
1

Good
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 11:38 PM
0

What does your attorney say?
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 04:10 PM
1

No the blackmail is your STBXW trying to withhold the children. I really hate when people get vindictive like that. My mom did that shit to my dad. I’m leaving my husband and I’m trying damn hard to be respectful. Everyone’s calling me stupid and wanting me to dog him out. I can see why, but it’s not in my nature/character to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 01:56 AM
2

Your attorney will help with addressing your blackmail.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 04:48 PM
1

I’m sorry you didnt feel you could.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 06:43 PM
2

You called cops and pressed charges right?
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 12:32 PM
0

Yes
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 08:18 PM
4

This
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 08:17 PM
4

Well I would say an hour before it’s time to swap the children make sure you’re not home with them and be at the police station. I’d consult an attorney on how to proceed. If she is violating the court order, call the police.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 05:33 PM
8

Red flag. Leave that relationship. Also sounds like you live with her. Unless you’ve given her the impression of something else, move on. Based on your other comments you’ be created this mess. You need to be healthy (not wanting to be alone) your energy has sought out another co-dependent person. Therapy to work through your blind-spotted issues. This ‘gf’ will be packaged differently until you do. Live alone work on you. Be healthy for your children.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 04:01 PM
1

What do you think get in writing means… lol of course he’ll need to do that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 01:55 PM
3

Since she doesnt need your money do the account. Get it all in writing.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 01:57 AM
4

🤣😂🤣😂 thank you. I needed to be reminded of that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 04:52 PM
3

😳
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 12:11 AM
2

Contact your attorney and let them deal with this. Do not text her anything.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 10:59 PM
3

Right.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 01:16 PM
6

The type of woman who would be okay dating you while you’re still living with your ex wouldn’t be a woman you should be dating while you’re living with your ex. The fact you’re asking means you know. Unless you have your own locked entry and space I wouldn’t do it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 12:16 AM
4

Contact an attorney and defend yourself right now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 04:04 PM
10

You can be angry at your ex but understand not all women are your ex. Empathy can be given to others while you hurt. You will over come.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 12:29 AM
30

So you don’t understand psychology. The woman, Cassie, is married and has two children and currently pregnant with her third. She loved him, he used fear/drugs/manipulation with anyone in his sphere of influence. It’s more concerning how you’re looking at this than how you feel this woman responded to this man.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 07:23 PM
3

Take a deep breath. 😮‍💨 Okay… now you will. Heal go to therapy and find the woman who is healthy (as you will be - mentally physically blah blah blah); and start a family. You’re fine. Just make sure you have a prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 03:43 PM
11

That’s fucked up. She’d rather get back at you than celebrate her son.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 02:00 AM
2

Remember facts and actions not feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 06:24 AM
1

Therapy. You’ll be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 01:33 AM
1

🤣😂🤣
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 01:32 AM
2

48-62
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 01:32 AM
11

Yes on full custody. Follow advice of lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:11 AM
4

The reason I ask that question is because whoever you paid didn’t protect you. I’m honestly pissed for men, you are taken to the cleaners by their then ex wife’s because of non aggressive attorneys.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 01:05 PM
-2

Why didnt you have a lawyer? Go get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 11:18 PM
3

If you don’t feel like your lawyer has your best interest get a new one.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 11:24 PM
3

Have your attorney address this. Say NOTHING!! Edit: DELETE THIS POST
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 03:20 AM
4

This!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 04:08 PM
4

Ask your attorney how to address this.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 07:51 PM
3

Do it. Have your attorney get it all addressed.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 03:13 PM
0

How old is she? If she’s near or at menopause it could be that. Try therapy and see if that helps. Maybe offer her to still live in house. Or you move out of the bedroom and move to another room. Fight if you can… but remember you can’t make a grown person do anything.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 02:54 PM
3

Therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 01:09 PM
2

This is a post I needed to read. As a woman in her 40s I always wondered what mattered to men. Thank you for sharing this. The only follow up question I have is how do I ask questions to verify he’s of the same caliber as I?
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 12:41 AM
4

If you don’t have children yes
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 02:24 AM
7

You’ll need to evict her. Put up cameras. Talk to an attorney who can help.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 07:49 PM
5

Contact a lawyer anyway and tell them what happened.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 01:34 PM
7

Your focus is your son. Block her and communicate via text. Who cares. She’s doing this to prove a point to herself.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 04:12 AM
8

Therapy to deal with your emotions.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 12:43 PM
4

Block her. You’ll stop seeing it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 12:43 PM
5

This!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 05:51 AM
9

Talk to an attorney just to fully know your rights. Start communication via text only if you could. Cover your ass.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 05:48 AM
1

You bet 👍🏾
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/25 10:04 PM
2

Yes — ask this sub of attorneys they know of in your area. The bar association for your state. Yelp. Google.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/25 08:53 PM
6

File. Listen to your attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 03:28 PM
1

Talk to your attorney and do what they say.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 02:22 PM
3

If your battery is dead on your car, will putting more gas in it start the car? Your focus should be your daughter and yourself. Go talk to a divorce attorney and understand your rights and what that looks like and protect your daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 03:54 AM
3

Go talk to a divorce attorney so you know the best way to do this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 11:41 PM
9

Therapy for yourself. Let her go.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 02:17 PM
2

What does your attorney say? If you can afford no extra shifts don’t get extra.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 04:07 PM
2

What does your attorney say?
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 12:57 AM
6

Make sure you don’t damage the items. Even better if you have someone record you doing and it and include the vid on a thumb drive and save a copy yourself (maybe even your attorney). Those plastic totes work well.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 12:56 AM
3

What does your attorney say?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/25 09:26 PM
4

Therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 05:28 PM
1

Take the money and put it in a HYSA or investment account. It’s your pride that won’t let you take it. Get over yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 03:28 PM
4

Therapy. For you and the children. But def for you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 06:52 PM
10

Fuck they take your daughter to Europe and don’t listen to the ex. She is still jealous of you and did that to spite you. It’s a shame your children will know the truth soon enough.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 04:37 PM
2

If you get married again PRENUP
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/25 03:05 AM
5

Honestly I feel like she should end the relationship. I got a feeling he’s still married and having fun. I don’t want to see her hurt. Yet this is her life she will do what she feels is right.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/25 01:15 AM
4

Something sounds like a red flag to me. Don’t live with him and proceed with caution. Unless you’re about to marry him limit his interactions with your daughter. It will be hard for her to have this relationship and then it ends. Trust your gut. You’re allowed to be happy… but your daughter is your priority. Have you looked up their divorce in public records? The age gap is giving me real pause.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/25 12:41 AM
6

The examples you listed it sounds like a win for the husband. The wife wanted a ‘father’ not a husband. I believe a lot of folks get married as a solution to a problem. They don’t show up as a whole healthy person. Also remember if you’re in a sub about tacos it will seem like the whole world only eats tacos.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 02:15 PM
3

u/DirtyBirdNJ check out this sub.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 03:26 PM
10

Talk to your attorney about this and how to move forward. Don’t allow her to remove you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 05:38 PM
2

Take a gamble that she might not come back but I are still being there and trying. She might come back after she sees you changed.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 02:48 PM
5

Help her move out and your focus is on you and your children. She needs time because your behavior fucked her up. You’ve owned that, but she needs time. She still loves you — based on what you’ve said. Help her move and help her when she needs it but don’t date. You need to take a gamble like she has done. I’d say put all your eggs in one basket if she changes her mind that’s a risk you have to take. You love her then take that risk. If she never comes back that’s okay. Your children are old eno…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 01:39 PM
5

I’d recommend therapy for your daughter to understand. And for you too. I’m happy and sad for you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 01:13 AM
10

Find a new guy. Don’t deal with this.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 01:25 AM
7

With the right person marriage is worth it. You have to make sure you show up healthy in all aspects for your spouse. You want to make sure your spouse is healthy too. With the wrong person it’s hell on earth. If something is bothering you, you should be able to be open and honest with your spouse. I would say grow and experience the world single then get married.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 08:22 PM
2

If you wanted to divorce and she is nice now be prepared her to maybe reverse uno. You love your children start being a presence in their life like their teachers knowing you. Knowing who their drs are, and when next appts are. But you’re probably already doing that. Talk to a divorce attorney so you’re prepared. I’d get a separate bank account too. But be there for your children. Just remember if you’re not 100% you can’t be 100% for your children.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 05:01 PM
0

Therapy is the next step if she’s serious.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 03:49 PM
13

Contact an attorney just to cover yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/25 12:55 PM
1

This 👆🏾👆🏾👆🏾
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 01:22 PM
4

Therapy and I’m glad she was arrested. Your children don’t need that in their lives. Therapy for all will, help in the divorce and you getting full time custody. Get an attorney if you don’t have one. Move quickly. You’ll be great.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 01:22 PM
1

😂🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 01:05 PM
11

Everyone who wants to divorce, women included, have terrible spouses (based on your premise). So even though YOU ARE a great husband, doesnt mean there are men out there who are great. We could woman bash, but at some point you want sex again (or even companionship)… so you are switch teams? Or realizing your ex was awful and not all women are like that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 01:01 PM
2

File online if you need to. And if I can get cameras setup in the house and only text her. Find any attorney who can help and then fire and hire someone else. NOW
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/25 01:03 AM
5

Change attorneys
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 09:24 AM
3

Have a conversation with her… or therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 05:15 PM
1

First off she would have gotten CS and that guy is fucking awful. He’s the reason people think about men and their children the way they do during divorce. I hope she gets an attorney and fights back. As far as you, 75/25 would have been best. What did end up happening?
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 04:08 PM
5

What does your attorney suggest you do? I’d put up cameras. Also keep copies of the police incidents to speak to.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 12:54 PM
3

It is. It’s crazy scary.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 12:27 AM
3

Can getting her help, help?
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 12:27 AM
1

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥳🥳🥳🥳
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 04:37 PM
0

That’s sad. The husband should be 2nd.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 09:05 PM
7

How wouldn’t he suspect. 😂🤣😂 they went to counseling and she shared she needs help. And nothings changed. What I see here is he is lacking in emotional intelligence. She loves him but the household workload is unbalanced. Hiring a helper I think would be best. But I don’t know… there seems to be more to this issue than the food she is making for him. Hopefully they can work it out. He seems like a verify mathematical kind of guy and is missing the romance to his wife. He also might have adhd and…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 09:01 PM
18

Before you do anything contact a divorce attorney and plan your exit with their advice.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 12:24 PM
2

That was nice of her?
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 11:40 PM
1

♥️
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 07:54 PM
2

Start therapy just for you. But this will be celebrated in the future. You won’t have to worry about feeling how you feel. It’s hard now but will be okay.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 11:59 AM
5

Go see her say your good byes.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 12:53 PM
2

Leave her sir.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 02:39 AM
2

Ok guess not then.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 05:35 PM
2

Maybe your children might want it for when they get married.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 04:39 PM
7

Get a lawyer and therapist and alimony. And fight for your son. Don’t leave until your lawyer says so.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 07:31 PM
2

You should make a comment the next time you’re at the group about the comments and let them know you’re going through a divorce and you understand if they want to take her side but you’ve done nothing wrong. I feel bad for your children. I’m glad you’re in the house too. Also document this, all of this for your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 05:33 PM
3

This
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 04:39 PM
36

Don’t say anything to her at all. Let your lawyer do all the talking. I’m so sorry. Protect yourself and your child.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 08:38 PM
1

I’m sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 03:40 AM
5

Hire a cleaner to help around the house. Pay to give back time. Sit down and share this post it at least these words with your wife. Fight for your marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 08:14 PM
1

You can’t make another grown person do anything. Move on give her the divorce. Plus if she ever came around you’d always wonder if she really loved you and wanted to stay.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 02:57 AM
7

Look if you’re mentally healthily you’ll be turned off by these type of women.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 05:38 PM
5

I’m going to say how you feel is normal. But remember she removed herself from your life and she’s not your problem anymore. She won’t changed and at some point your child will not want to see her anymore. Get some therapy to process your feelings. It sounds like you’ve repressed them. Move on with your life. Allow her to keep being “rude” so she’ll lose more. I’m so sorry. But you’re better off. You can’t control her and be happy you found out about her when you did.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 04:41 PM
2

Contact a divorce attorney to find out what your opinions are; and go to couples counseling to find out what your wife needs. Postpartum and hormones are a bitch for some women. Fight if that’s what you want.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 07:06 PM
-4

She wants to hurt you because she’s hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 02:32 AM
3

That’s good. She sounds lovely and I’d love for you two to really work out. Seems like she’s making sure to be mentally healthy. Congrats again.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 10:40 PM
8

Make sure you recommend therapy to her. You didn’t mention it. But she could be having things to work through and using you. Use caution and congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 04:49 PM
0

Therapy for both of you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 03:53 PM
3

Talk to an attorney about the best plan of action.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 09:32 PM
2

Contact an attorney. They will guide you. Don’t leave.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 02:50 PM
7

I would t have replied to the text.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 02:32 PM
2

It’s not your business at the end of the day. Support her but it’s not your business.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 03:00 PM
3

It’s mental. Therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 02:40 AM
7

Therapy for you and divorce for her. She has to be the victim. And however that needs to happen it will.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 06:36 AM
4

Email to yourself and get an attorney and email him. Also divorce your wife. LEAVE & FILE A POLICE REPORT (give the photos as evidence).
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 07:58 PM
4

No!
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 02:45 PM
3

Contact a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 01:21 AM
1

They might be off base. He didnt say. But I’m assuming because AP isn’t military. Said he had a plan to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 12:51 AM
1

This. But he’s in the military. So he can’t or something.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 12:12 AM
2

Get a lawyer and fight for this.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 10:54 PM
8

Ummmm file for divorce and leave her. WTF did I just read.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 10:48 PM
2

The thing is you can get another high paying job and if you have to deal with her again (maybe) go on FMLA to protect your job. Therapy will also help you too. Glad you fought for your daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 07:52 PM
9

Let her go. Take care of your child and let her go.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 02:01 PM
5

Don’t be feel like a fool. You should not change your morals over her. You should have gone to the police and not been nice. People don’t change their behavior unless the consequences are applied.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 05:41 PM
1

If she is committed to you, you have given her a sense of those things. Anyone you “bang” either wants something from you or to give you something. Those you’ve “banged” if they didn’t need ‘love/safety/being heard/protected’ wanted something from you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 04:50 PM
1

We don’t know when she created the account either. Was it before they met? While they were dating? No context is given for either of our assumptions.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 04:47 PM
-1

How you fix this is to fix you. Your actions solely (I’m sure there are things she brought) are the only thing you can control. To fix this you need to work on you. But only work on you if you see the value in fundamentally changing for you. Not for her or the marriage. You need to remember all the things she has said — you should ask yourself why you never listen to her? Try to ask for couples therapy and individual therapy for you. But again, all changes shouldn’t be for her or the marriage bu…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 03:49 PM
5

Intimacy with women happens before the clothes come off. Women need to feel loved/safe/heard/protected. She created an account and never did anything with it. Why did that upset you? Calling her names and attacking what are probably pain points for her then she really stopped thought and tried to work things out… you went no contact for 10days. She probably thought maybe if I try once more he will come around — you helped confirmed her assumptions. Married people when hurt can fight unfair. You …
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 02:48 PM
3

Talk to an attorney about how you can buy the house. And buy it without telling her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 03:28 PM
-1

I hear you, it can get messy when you inject yourself in other people’s relationships. If OP helps his friend go ham and stays with his wife… then what? That would be awkward. I’ve been down voted but I’m guessing folks havent been on the other end of that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 04:32 PM
6

Go through with the divorce. Do you want a partner who can’t communicate. Move forward and find someone who wouldn’t treat you like this. Do not back down.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 03:26 PM
0

My advice stay out of that man’s marriage and business. Be an ear for him. I see you give him advice and it blows up either way you could be blamed.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 03:20 PM
2

I understand. I like to know before dealing with surprises. I just don’t want you to feel Ike you have to be reactionary — finding out ahead of time whether you’ll need to use that information is valuable. You know best…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:36 AM
0

Well is paying him cheaper than the extra child support? I understand you don’t want to pay him but an attorney is the one who can fully answer your question.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 03:32 AM
1

Talk to your attorney about this. Protect yourself and the children.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 01:08 AM
1

If it’s done correctly it won’t. Both parties need their own counsel. And it’s not done under duress.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 06:20 PM
1

No let her go.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 08:44 AM
33

Give her the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 03:45 AM
3

This.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/25 04:41 AM
8

Meet your attorney and they will tell you what to do. Before you tell her get your ducks in a row.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/25 04:41 AM
3

The answer is prenup. Lay it all out. If she won’t sign don’t marry her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 11:01 PM
3

Thank you for sharing this.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 09:08 PM
1

If you’re not married and this is a hypothetical — get a prenup. If you really are married go talk to a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 12:43 PM
1

Contact an attorney on what options you have legally.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 12:24 PM
6

Ask him why… talk to him. No you’re allowed to have hurt feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 05:59 PM
2

Tell her you’re thinking about it because you really wanted to sell.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 04:58 PM
5

Ask a divorce attorney for advice.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 04:37 PM
7

His life is being destroyed by his mother. He sees what she does. You’re teaching him bring with a woman like that hurts and that it’s acceptable. Instead of leaving. You being selfish and taking care of you helps your son. Talk to a divorce attorney on what your options are. Setup a lot of meaningful times with your son.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 11:26 AM
2

Tell her in time. Meanwhile good for you on doing therapy and for your daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 10:48 AM
3

Contact a divorce lawyer and find out how much it will cost you. What your options are. And what you should do.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 01:16 AM
2

Talk to an attorney asap
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 01:02 AM
3

Therapy for you & your daughter. Your teaching her that her mother’s behavior is acceptable and normal. It is not. Call it out.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 01:02 AM
-3

I would hope your daughters have a well enough relationship with you that if their marriage was bad they’d talk to you about it. If you were a well enough example of a man they won’t need to cheat to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 01:00 AM
4

Therapy to process all your emotions. Are you sure the wife didnt have the car stolen? You’ll be okay. One day at a time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 09:58 AM
4

Therapy and stop caring about her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 05:51 PM
3

It will. The hormonal changes women go through are harder than I realized. When you’re young and getting your period — people dismiss it for you as a growing person. But when you’re older it’s hard because you don’t realize you’re different. Either way OP needs a therapist to help process all of this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 05:25 PM
4

This is the answer. Therapy def.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 03:55 PM
6

Get an attorney now and do whatever they say.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 04:27 PM
3

🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 06:22 PM
2

I don’t understand if women hate men so much why do they have sex with them?
/r/EverydayMisandry11/01/25 09:30 PM
4

I understand fundamentally what their point is but that delivery. Yikes. More respect needs to be had for all children — period. This behavior needs to be called out. Protecting people does nothing but harm.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/01/25 09:29 PM
3

😮‍💨🥳🥳🥳👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 10:26 AM
9

Contact an attorney now. Worry about your children and your feelings after the dust settles and get therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 07:44 PM
3

This is the answer!!
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 12:16 PM
9

Get an attorney now.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 12:15 PM
3

Yes be excited you no longer have to be subjected to behavior like that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 08:30 AM
3

Get a lawyer now!! Protect yourself and children.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 01:15 PM
-3

If she was a house wife for 40years she didnt get time to herself, learn, and grow. She can now. Not everyone is cheating. u/ghostiewm has the best comment.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 11:00 AM
1

Yes this is it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 10:57 AM
2

I understand. Therapy heal then decide later.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 12:14 PM
5

You didnt say your age, I know it hurts. But it’s important direct dialog is had with future partners to understand their desires. Life happens we learn. Focus on your children.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 03:44 PM
3

But you knew this about her before you married her, right? Why did you marry her? I get being upset with her about you she didn’t communicate this. It’s possible she didnt know how to speak up. It’s sucks but at least it’s happening sooner than later.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 03:22 PM
5

I’d talk to an attorney and see what your options are and how to achieve this.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 12:52 PM
2

You already know the answer to your question. Something happened along the way and she stopped communicating. If she wants to know every time the children ask about where she is then tell her. But keep a routine with the children and be honest with them “where’s mommy?” “Mommy’s at work.”
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 09:47 AM
6

Get an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 02:49 PM
12

Nope move forward. Don’t fall for it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 03:18 AM
5

Call the police and tell them if she’s bluffing you called if she’s not you saved him.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 03:21 PM
2

What has your attorney said you should do? I wouldn’t leave.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 10:41 PM
8

Tell them the truth
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 02:27 AM
1

They have been together a long time and it’s comfort. People don’t like change.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 09:04 PM
4

At least she is leaving instead of cheating. It’s going to hurt but move on.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 10:07 PM
5

File now and think of your children first. Let her go. You can’t control another grown person.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 02:49 PM
2

Therapy and it will. Feel your feelings but don’t stop keep moving.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 08:28 PM
1

Therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 05:19 PM
14

Get an attorney and get what’s yours. Don’t be sad be glad.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 11:57 PM
2

Be honest when your child ask, but don’t speak ill of her mother. Show her through your actions you love her and are a safe space for her.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 11:00 PM
3

You can’t make another grown person do anything. It’s hard but let her go.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 09:20 PM
2

Yeah I hear you. I agree. Well sending you love brother.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 10:46 PM
3

Well don’t talk about anything and get an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 06:07 PM
3

You should have sued her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 03:39 AM
1

I tell you what, knowing options is cheaper than finding out later.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 02:50 AM
1

I hear you but don’t be ignorant to understanding what hormones do to a woman’s body and how they impact every aspect of her body including her brain. This woman has resolved trauma and she is still in contact with her source. I’m assuming she wanted a baby (thinking that would fix the issue) and OP loving his wife had a baby when they should have. This issue is multifaceted and a lot of variables.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 02:49 AM
3

Yeah. I get there it’s probably both especially with those in-laws. Get an attorney and protect your daughter and get therapy. Unfortunately if you have to use her mental state against her it’s going to be hard but do it. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 04:58 PM
4

I’m so sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 04:54 PM
2

Is she dealing with PPD?
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 04:18 PM
1

I’m sorry. Loving someone sometimes isn’t enough. Personal accountability comes into play. ❤️
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:52 AM
1

❤️
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:39 AM
2

This is the best answer. Keep moving feel the feelings but don’t stop.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 02:50 AM
-2

Okay… 😉
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:11 PM
0

Generalities is what my comment was based on. Society teaches young children this. Based on OPs title… no I don’t expect men to fix things for women. In a partnership folks work together, making a generalized statement it loses its message and power.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:11 PM
-2

Think I’m making this up… okay. Most healthy women want men to listen to them and be there emotionally. But men (again massive generalization) want to fix things so instead of being available emotionally they try fix the situation. It’s okay if you disagree. I honestly think it comes down to communication and try honest ask of needs. Put people can’t do that. Men nor women for varies reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 02:55 PM
-10

No men do. Women want men to listen to them. Men don’t want to listen, so men figure by fixing the problem they’ll shut up talking about said problem. So men create this thing in women where men are expected to fix things.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 12:30 PM
7

Contact your attorney about this.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 03:36 AM
1

Therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:58 AM
5

She never once said anything about being unhappy nothing?! Damn. You do really good woodworking stuff. That takes time and patients. Go to therapy. You will be fine. Focus on your children and yourself. My condolences.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:39 AM
6

Save offline somewhere else. Have a back up. Glad you have that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 05:37 PM
4

Take the books and sell them…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 05:33 PM
-5

Prior to this job, did she take care of everything around the house? Sounds like you could hire domestic help and work on your marriage. See if she’ll go to counseling with you? You might be able to save this. Talk to an attorney just to be prepared but fight/save this I think you can.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 01:11 PM
12

If you have a phone conversation follow it up with a text message. And talk to your attorney about what they recommend you do. Protect yourself and your children at all turns.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 12:46 AM
5

Nope. Talk to your lawyer about this.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 10:46 AM
7

Talk to an attorney first before you do anything.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 10:20 AM
3

How did they not get gap insurance? Damn. I’m surprised you don’t try to ask for full custody since she’s running into all these issues and get CS from her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 03:52 AM
6

No. Don’t share and don’t say nothing else.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 12:36 PM
2

Congrats on the job!! 🥳🥳
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:05 AM
1

Without all the details I can only answer based on what you shared. Is there no way to go back and have your CS adjusted based on your current income? That’s not fair for you to pay based on an income you no longer have. I’m not in your country to answer that for you. Have you tried? It sucks the position you’re in, the upside is you know when it will end.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 08:13 PM
0

You’re so wrong. There is something wrong with the system for divorced me. In this case I think if he wants a partner he has to take ownership of what allowed him to kiss the red flags and move forward. Therapy will allow him to learn his voice what he wants doesnt and what that looks like. Not everyone has the tools in their toolbox. I’m letting him know he’s empowered to get those tools so he doesnt need to be alone. But that’s up to him. Sounds like you need therapy too. Not all women a leech…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 08:11 PM
-1

That’s a choice you can make. If you want to have a partner do the work on you to get there. I’d recommend therapy to work through everything.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 02:12 PM
3

Have a conversation. You don’t want to divorce you want to fight for this marriage. If she says no then you can’t make another grown person do anything. Focus on your children and making sure you protect yourself. Get an attorney so you know your options.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:54 PM
2

Talk to your wife about protection and talk to a divorce attorney about protection. Protect yourself. If you get life insurance make your children the beneficiary.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 08:18 PM
3

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I am in the same place. I’m so excited in your relationship with Him. That’s awesome. ❤️
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 05:09 PM
2

Get an attorney and something should be filed that she lied. Communicate via text only.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:39 AM
1

So he has a yr. Okay. Well at his age he doesnt need to go to his moms. You could go to court to petition he say with you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 10:10 PM
1

When does your son turn 18?
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:07 PM
5

Be careful… it could have legal ramifications. I wouldn’t do it. It won’t have the intended result you think.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:05 PM
9

I know this is hard but think of your children and yourself. You can’t make another grown person do anything. I know it’s hard but keep at it with school and you can always get remarried — it’s strategy now and you make less than her. Move forward with the divorce. You can’t save it. Not right now.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 10:25 PM
3

I was going to say this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:28 PM
1

Make sure to talk to an attorney before you pull the trigger.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:41 PM
0

Has anyone taken into account menopause?
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:24 PM
1

Talk to an attorney they can help you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 06:16 AM
2

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 08:31 PM
2

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 08:31 PM
2

Communicate via text only if I can but she needs to not be in the home. If you’re violent why is she coming back there.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 09:37 PM
2

Break up with her. And run.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 08:29 PM
2

It’s about your child not your ex.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 07:32 PM
5

If it’s a lie sue her for defamation.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 04:38 PM
4

I’m not lost — I came here thinking I could see this situation from a male perspective and maybe understand my husband differently and try to be a better wife. But I’m realizing it’s really him. A lot of guys that post here seem decent and their wife’s aren’t appreciating them. There are always two sides to a story… but it’s hard to see how a wife banging someone else repeatedly after being forgiven and counseling, is in the right.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 12:11 PM
-3

I’m not banging someone else he’s just a terrible person.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 11:27 AM
2

Before you do this talk to an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 11:01 AM
8

Get an attorney and focus on your children
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 05:12 AM
13

Document and have your attorney look into this now!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 04:21 PM
2

Get an attorney and make sure your voice is heard. Moving bf forward only text message communication. Get everything documented.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 10:26 PM
8

Whatever you want is where you should go. If you listen and get back with her you’ll be back here in five years or less.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 12:07 AM
4

Get. An. Attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 01:11 PM
1

I’d recommend getting one.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 02:46 PM
1

Hard. But allow your attorney to do the talking. All facts no emotion.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 08:25 AM
19

Therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 03:18 PM
0

Proceed with caution. Contact and attitude thank you and do the long game if you have to. You don’t want to lose your son or access to him. With the sheriff guy that could cause a lot of problems. Be smart about this lot emotional.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 11:54 AM
0

❤️
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 06:10 PM
7

It’s a combo of you and the women. Right partner wrong time will lead to divorce, wrong partner right time will lead to divorce. Don’t look at this as how is the gf better than my ex, what did you contribute to your divorce, why did you pick your ex, how have you grown as a person, why do you think your gf is better than your ex, how is she the same as your ex…? Until you stop comparing the new woman to the old one… I believe you’re not ready for whatever the next step is.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 03:55 PM
2

Therapy and get a lawyer now to help enforce what’s been called to happen. Take action. Now. You’re only a victim if you allow yourself to be one.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 12:45 PM
5

Have rules and provisions in your custody agreement that would prevent her from moving without mutual agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 12:24 AM
2

This man is a coward and deserves that horrible life. Fuck no!!
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 09:39 PM
2

🤣😂🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 09:39 PM
1

Therapy will help you process this last little bit. Congrats on the work you’ve done thus far.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 09:47 AM
2

Therapy you have to let this go if you want a healthy relationship. To work through that therapy. All these other comments are talking about how women aren’t to be trusted blah blah blah — there will always be someone focusing on the wrong thing. There are men who have dogged women out and don’t trust men. You be upfront with yourself and honest with that partner. But do the work and get therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 10:57 AM
5

Hire a lawyer. She has one.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 05:19 PM
7

Save this information and keep it offline somewhere else.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 05:05 PM
2

Clearly the person he is paying isn’t working for him. So he needs to get someone who will work for him.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 03:33 PM
1

Get an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 10:47 AM
4

Get a trust.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 08:40 AM
5

Go to a group and individual therapy. Stop with the pity party. You fucked up and need to move on. You holding on to a victim mentality still, is slightly narcissistic. We all fuck up and what that may cost us varies. Don’t make the mistake again. Life your life and appreciate the relationships you have. You will be fine. I’d tell your ex wife you’re sorry and move on — tell your son you’re sorry and move on. Forgive yourself and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 06:40 AM
0

Prenup/postnup takes care of that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 02:25 PM
8

This without your wife knowing. Contact an attorney so you can be stealth about it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 07:08 PM
2

This is a great point men and women forget. And a lot of times things are ignored before it’s too late.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 08:12 AM
3

Ask your attorney what to do.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:21 PM
1

This.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 11:00 PM
3

All the things you noted mention to the attorney. Also make sure you think of yourself and the children only.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 03:55 AM
1

When you get married if you and your spouse don’t get a prenup, the state has one for you. As far as a SAHP I think if a prenup is signed that they’ve talked about the parameters within the prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 07:22 PM
0

If you don’t get a prenup this happens.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 07:08 PM
1

Get a prenup if you want to protect yourself financially. And if you feel this strongly about it you shouldn’t get married. But she wants to get married. You might not be ready and that’s okay. Leave her and work on yourself. Or be honest with her work on yourself and then get married. Either way, get a prenup and get therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 09:35 PM
2

If both parties agree I don’t see why not. I’m not an attorney nor work in the courts nor do I know all the states laws. But u/Sinukus needs to protect his children.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 05:06 PM
4

You can include that the children can’t be around new partners unless you’ve been with said partner and year and both parents have met said partner. Protect your children. That’s your job at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 12:50 PM
1

You get to a place where that’s not enough. I hear what you’are saying, but you get to a point where sheer will and love are not enough. Again, we only have what he shared.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 11:10 PM
1

Maybe leave her and pay alimony and have 50/50 of your children. Talk to a solicitor about your options and execute a plan to protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:43 PM
0

You’re right. But we also don’t know what other stressors have been going on in the home. If she’s been carrying the financial load and then he starts a business it’s all a lot and she’s probably done. But, his post read as if he wants to save his marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:29 PM
6

Yes there are signs before and I ignored it. Never again!!
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 02:49 PM
4

Get another job that your skills are transferable. If you want to keep your wife and marriage stop with the excuses and bring money home. Otherwise, divorce her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 11:49 AM
5

Press charges
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