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what youre describing about your approaches is normal, and is what most pua i know experience. what hapend with your friend is highly unusual
/r/seduction24/08/24 04:12 PM
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he usually goes up to them and says youre beautiful. most of them just ignore him, but ive seen him talking to females for upwards of 1hr. alot of the conversations look good from an outsiders point of view, but as he said, they dont call him back despite how the approach looks on a surface level
/r/seduction24/08/24 04:05 PM
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this is not how dating goes, however, it is how cold approach goes. i know a guy who did 40k approaches. he said he gets lots of phone numbers but no calls back
/r/seduction24/08/24 06:20 AM
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you are my source
/r/seduction23/08/24 04:41 PM
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i am but couldnt i be aging AND also aware (not in denial) that females like men in their prime? just as perhaps men like females in THEIR prime. hey man, we programed to reproduce, and old guys are just not a good bet
/r/seduction23/08/24 05:43 AM
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they do indeed
/r/seduction23/08/24 05:41 AM
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how old was your dad when he had u
/r/seduction23/08/24 05:41 AM
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time is not on your side
/r/seduction23/08/24 05:40 AM
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or dead
/r/seduction22/08/24 08:23 PM
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would be nice just to have hair
/r/seduction22/08/24 08:22 PM
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40yr old virgin is a good one, and one that certainly most pua can resonate with
/r/seduction22/08/24 07:57 PM
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first of all. dont talk about your weight. the men l know who say, "should l lose weight first" are just making excuses not to approach any females. i know a guy who said ima lose weight first. he ended up never losing weight, even getting fatter, and just never approached anyone. it should be worth noting though that he did actually approach for 2 months in the begining. got rejected every single time, and it hurt his self esteem. thats why he stopped. if there are 40yr old guys out there appro…
/r/seduction22/08/24 05:38 PM
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im sure u have, but thats like a niche audience. im sure theres chics who still find bald guys, or excons, midgets unattractive, but you can bet that most dont. cold approach is already a low returns game, when u factor in middle age, it becomes even lower. depends on how much time ur willing to spend to get a hook up
/r/seduction22/08/24 05:17 PM
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lol u just mad cause your choices are limited. welcome to middle age
/r/seduction22/08/24 05:11 PM
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not healthy ones
/r/seduction22/08/24 05:09 PM
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heres what you wont be bringing. kids
/r/seduction22/08/24 04:55 AM
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few yrs, not decades
/r/seduction22/08/24 04:55 AM
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this is what you tell them. you got any hispanic in you? would you like some?
/r/seduction20/08/24 04:13 PM
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problem with cold approach is youre seeking instant gratification. there are other grey areas that are neither cold approach nor social circle. so for example, if you see someone at the gym who is friendly you can try to build something off of that. problem with cold approach is, a pua would try to dump 15 minutes worth of conversation on her in hopes of winning her over instantly, or even going on an instadate as the pua would put it, but this method will yield low, if not bad results. the "nor…
/r/seduction19/08/24 11:30 PM
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thats not a pua though. you have to be what the pua books tell you to be
/r/seduction19/08/24 06:44 PM
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basics of pick up is dont be yourself. when a female says no, it just means you have to try harder at convincing her. cold approach is bravery, not desperation. always go in with scripted material. also dont read body language. even when theres nothing to talk about, you still keep talking. think of it as giving a speech. one thing they will however tell you in pick up is to approach from the front rather than the back. dont operate in the same place as to avoid being noticed due to the nature o…
/r/seduction19/08/24 05:43 PM
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even when both parties are looking for interactions, only about 5% of the interactions will be good. in a cold approach, only 1 side is seeking interactions, bringing the numbers even lower. there are many men who have great conversations during cold approach but no calls back. great conversation never guarantees a date. thats why most men dont do cold approach
/r/seduction19/08/24 05:36 PM
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try going to a bar with a long line. wait for hot chic to get on line then go in right behind her. dont go inside the bars. this way, you dont have to buy any drinks. when you are finished. get off the line, and wait for another. also try sporting events. go before a big game. part of the problem with cold approach is how awkward and forced it is. if you position yourself correctly, then it will be more coincidental.
/r/seduction19/08/24 05:33 PM
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alot of females are nice about it when men cold approach. that dont mean they want to date you though. l know a guy who did over 40k approaches. he said he gets lots of numbers but no one calls him back
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:00 PM
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l would probably compare cold approach to when hari krishnas ask you for money, or when random christians make small talk with you only to get you to join their church
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:59 PM
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ive done this before. after l asked for directions, l think she asked me if l was a freshman, and l said yes. then l asked her if she was tamil cause she looked tamil, then l just started talking about tamil stuff, and what she thought about the college. she ended up asking me for my socials. l also did this with another white female. she also ended up asking me if l was new here, and went on to talk about herself, how she was a phd student, etc. l got lucky with both of them in that they were b…
/r/seduction17/08/24 06:43 PM
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l dont think reading books, or youtube really matters. l know alot of guys who do that and get no dates. big city is also hit or miss. so even though there are more people, the people are more defensive, and often times stuck up. so although there are more people, this negates the advantages, so youre kind of at the same level of a small town because the people are less defensive, more friendly, and down to earth, giving you a better quality person. being on vacation also isnt a good idea becaus…
/r/seduction17/08/24 06:38 PM
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another thing to note about guys who do cold approach is that the majority of them were bullied as children, and are generally social outcasts, and misfits. by being social outcasts, and misfits, it forces them to do cold approaches because the people who know them have shunned them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 06:17 PM
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there arent really too many options, and thats why men are doing cold approach. most of the men i know who do cold approach have failed at online dating, and social circles. theyre normally not upstanding members of the community, so they wont get any introductions. theyre awkward, so females will not approach them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 06:14 PM
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it happens because men are growing increasingly desprate, not because it;s effective or efficient
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 06:10 PM
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actually l have a friend who has a criminal record who was recently accepted to work as a cop. he had been trying to get in for the past 10yrs but couldnt. due to the worker shortage, the police dept lowered its standards and let him in, and he says it pays well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 06:12 AM
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well heres the thing. you bring up jobs. imagine me walking into office buildings and asking if i can work there. you see, im probably going to get turned down because thats not the way jobs are traditionally obtained. same thing with dating. it just simply isnt the traditional way to get a date by running up to random females in a park to express interest. also, theres a worker shortage, so you could very well get a job before you get a date. however, there is definitely no shortage of single m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:15 AM
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most guys who cold approach are just looking to get a number, or as they call it a "number close". the thing is, most pick up artists never usually get beyond the number, so it wouldnt even matter what their ultimate goal is. alot of them will also try to get an "instadate", but the success rate is so low, they;re lucky if the female even stops to listen to their pitch. when l observe pick up artists, many of the females just keep walking. most of the time, it's a confused look on their face. i …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:09 AM
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99% of men dont do it, and ones who do probably stop after the first few attempts. it has the possiblity of working, but the returns are so low on the investment that most men choose not to, in addition to the risk of being labeled a creep. cutting your own hair also works but how many people are willing to?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:02 AM
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actually alot of pua warn against approaches in gyms, so people do care otherwise, there wouldnt be so many warnings of it. you dont care, but all it takes is for a few people to make a big deal out of it, and you;ll get that reputation. also, if u do one approach, it's difrent. however, the majority of men who do cold approach will try to do many in the same area
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 04:59 AM
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whys that dating apps fault? the leadership sets society up in a way that is not conducive to dating, and thats not done by accident
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 04:49 AM
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he probably sets a goal each day on how many females hes gonna approach. alot of pua do that. then at night they reflect on what they did wrong. alot of pua look at cold approaching like a homework assignment. they;ll take notes to try to figure out what they did wrong. they;ll also take notes of reactions they got, and even the race and nationality of the females they approach. i dont know if this is part of the autism, or mental illness, but they pay close attention to things that don't really…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 04:47 AM
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if youre making a delivery to someones house and start making small talk, people will think youre friendly. if you walk up to someone in a mall and say, hey lets go out for some ice cream, people are going to say youre a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:28 PM
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you dont get a bad reputation from talking to women. what you do get a bad reputation for cold approach. most autistic guys cant figure this out, but theres a huge difrence between a cold approach, and warm approach. asking a cashier how her day was is not a cold approach, but nonetheless, youre talking to women. walking up to a random female in a park and saying "hey, i saw you from over there, and think youre cute" is a cold approach which will be perceived very difrently by most people who ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:27 PM
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most men dont cold approach at all (whether popular or not), and for good reason. and you have to ask yourself why? the ones who do though, whether theyre actually harasing anyone or not, can easily get a reputation for doing so. you dont actually have to be harasing anyone for someone to perceive it as such. this is why most pua will try to operate on a low profile
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:21 PM
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it is. thats kind of where the puahate community rose out of. it is basically a bunch of guys who did cold approach, got rejected, failed miserably, made fools of themselves, and got no results. thing with cold approach is, most of the guys doing it are mentally ill to begin with, so theyre unable to see how it has harmed them. furthermore, alot of them never had any dignity. alot of them have serious problems with their head. i had some pua actually say that a female saying no doesnt mean she i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 07:47 PM
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yea you do. l know a bunch of pick up artists and they do get a bad reputation. more than likely, the ones spreading the rumors are those who want to believe guys are creepy in the first place. the female being approached can also facilitate the rumors, saying that she was approached by a creepy guy. the guy doesnt have to be creepy. all she has to do is perceive him to be creepy. and most people will take her word for it. when people are spreading rumors about you, your side of the story usuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 07:16 PM
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to anyone willing to listen, and people do care. people love having a chance to criticise others, and if youre seen as harasing females, thats the perfect opportunity for them to jump all over you. from what ive observed. all it takes is 1 or 2 people do bring attention to a pua, and dozens of people will turn against the pua. the pua themselves know this, and that is why most pua will operate in areas that are away from their homes, and will operate in diferent areas as opposed to doing the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 07:12 PM
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why would they need apps for validation when they get will get the validation in real life. you can just as easily get the validation on instagram, tiktok. even if alot of women use sites for validation, you still get way more people on apps looking for mate as compared to a park. so it's flawed to equate apps to cold approach
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:58 PM
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l talk to alot of couples, and the vast majority of them have known each other for years. either from the community, class, work, gym, parties, getting high, etc. out of all the people l ever talked to, none of them met through cold approach. yes we're all strangers, but with a cold approach, you trying to get someone to date you in 5 minutes as compared to the "normal" way where people have known each other for years first, then dated
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:48 PM
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you do actually lose alot if youre a normal guy. you get a bad reputation, and your self esteem goes down from the rejection. if you are a loser to begin with, then your reputation was already bad, and self esteem already low, so youre not going to see much of a difrence, and in all honesty, you have nothing to lose
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:44 PM
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actual stats. 70% of young men are single while only about 32% of young females are single. this includes ugly females. with attractive females the rate could be as low as 10%. roughly 30% of young men are actively dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:42 PM
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facts right there. people love bashing other people, and if you do cold approach, that gives them a reason to jump all over you. ive seen lots of guys be completely shunned by all their peers. and ive also seen people post stories on instagram complaining about specific pick up artists with name, pictures, and even neighborhood. people love shaming other people. this is why the majority of pick up artists are guys with no friends to begin with. when you cold approach and have the entire communit…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:36 PM
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i was just reading about a guys post on another forum who said he had 800/800 rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:34 PM
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i know an avg looking 17 yr old guy. he said that females regularly slide into his dm;s. he said he's banging a 25 yr old now
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:32 PM
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post college, i had a tour guide come on to me. my landlord set me up on 3 dates in 2 months
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:30 PM
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im not attractive, and just the other day, i was sitting in the car. l look up and see a cute girl in a scooter standing in front of me. she smiles, waves at me, and rides away
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:29 PM
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actually it isnt, because 100% of the females on old are looking for a mate. people walking in a park are not looking for mates. you might be lucky if 1% of the females in a park is looking for a mate
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:26 PM
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i dont think saying hi at a gym is a bad idea. the problem with cold approach is when the man tries to dump 10 minutes worth of a pick up artist script on the female. whats even worse is when these pick up artists try to do "instadates"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:24 PM
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want to look at statistics. look at all the couples you know. then ask yourself how many of them met from cold approach
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:22 PM
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it's legal however, alot of people overlook how the comunity will respond. as a matter of fact, if people notice you doing cold approach, they will spread rumors about you, and pretty soon you will be seen as a pariah amongst both males and females. as much as nerdy guys like to think that pick up artists are brave, there will be more people who are much more vocal who will label you as a creep
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:21 PM
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problem with most guys who do cold approach is, they usually have personalities that are not likable. i personally know a guy whos been going to community college for the past 9yrs yet has no friends from there. he works at an amazon warehouse and has no friends from there. because of his empty social circle, he is forced to do cold approach, and when he does, he has to go to a part of town where no one knows him, because all the people who do know him, dont like him. people who do cold approach…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:18 PM
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l agree with that. i know guys who do cold approach, and i see their mental health get worse. in addition, they will have negative views of females in general due to the rejection. the pick up artist's self esteem will go down. ive also seen another side to this, which is, the men try to desensitize themselves in order to take the rejection better, and they just carry themselves like sociopaths, and come off as inconsiderate which ends up making them misfits and outcasts to both men and females
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:16 PM
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ive heard alot of pua say that a female may say no, but it's because she's "shy", or that all they need is a little "convincing". alot of these guys are just delusional and have no idea whats going on. and indeed ive had pua's say that they convince themselves that even though a female says no, it means theyre interested. they give them this self talk to motivate themselves. of course this motivation, and approach just wastes everyones time
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:12 PM
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if it works for plenty of men, then wouldnt everyone be doing it? ask yourself this. look at the guys you know who date, then ask yourself how many of them cold approach. now ask yourself how many men do you know who do cold approach, and how many dates did they get
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:09 PM
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im tempted to say alot of women will respond with hostility. lve seen it myself. l saw this pua go up to a female. all he said was hi, and she cussed him out. lve also seen females talk to him for 15 minutes on the spot, but none of them ever contacted him ever again
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:08 PM
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the success rate is lower on cold approach which is why alot more guys do the apps rather than cold approach
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:06 PM
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ive seen it, and alot of the guys who do it will be doing it in the same place over and over. what i gather from that is, if it works, he wouldnt be out there time and time again, because he wouldve gotten a taker, but he didnt. furthermore, if cold approaching works, then there would be no pick up artists left because everyone would be paired off. once you find someone, you wouldnt need to cold approach anymore. now cold approach is difrent from warm approach. there is much more success with wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:36 PM
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a few reasons. the first is obviously based on the guys i know who do cold approaches. none of them get dates. if you want to know if a method works or not, you study the people who use this method, then look at their results. ive also observed random men in public spaces who do cold approach, and ive never seen them be embraced by their targets. ive seen both men who cold approach females looking for dates, and men cold approaching just to have conversations, and neither of them are accepted. a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:27 PM
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cold approach is usually a last resort, and most guys will not attempt this unless they have not been getting results through normal methods such as introductions, coworkers, classmates, neighbors, etc. one of the reasons why people are unable to match with their peers is due to the inability to read social cues. if you are able to read social cues, under most circumstances, you will match with a peer, or colleague. if youre able to match with peers through normal methods, no man in his right mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:14 PM
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yea and heres another problem with the guy i talked about. since no females call him back. he ends up being angry at females and it creates additional mental health problems for him
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:08 PM
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well the alcohol also works against you because as you said, the females are not in their right mind, so once she sobers up, she wont necesarily be into you anymore, whereas if u meet a female under sober circumstances (as a student, mailman, delivery guy, cashier, security guard), it's a much more accurate measurement of whether there is chemistry between you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:05 PM
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heck l have hundreds of people on my snap, and ig who l never talked to again after adding them. many of them l talk to for hours the first time only to never talk to them again. 95% of them l couldnt even tell u who they are after a while
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:02 AM
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i wouldnt listen to the men either. it just doesnt add up with what ive seen or heard in real life. l know 10 pick up artists in real life, and all of them fail miserably and have never succeeded. alot of the guys are here say it works, but l call cap
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:59 AM
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if ur an expert in social cues, you wouldnt be cold approaching, because you wouldve picked up on social cues from classmates, coworkers, neighbors, etc, and woulda had a date without having to cold approach. cold approach is usually for guys who have no clue what a social cue is. thats why they go up to females uninvited
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:55 AM
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and if u ask me, i'd say that getting a phone number & no date is worse than getting no phone number at all, cause youre wasting your time talking to someone that has no intention of takin things to the next level. it's like a salesman explaining a product to someone who has no intention of buying the product. a good salesman knows exactly who is, or isnt going to buy something. that way he only spends his time talking to serious customers. even car salesmen arent going to offer you a price unle…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:53 AM
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all you are seeing is people exchanging information but you cant say that anything ever comes of it. l know a guy who has done 20k approaches, and he gets lots of phone numbers, but says that no one ever calls him back. ive seen him at work, and saw him talk to females, sometimes for 1hr at a time. they all seem to enjoy their conversation with him, but as i said, just because a female gives you a number doesnt mean shes going to date you, or ever see you again
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:51 AM
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not when it comes to pua who just approach when no signal is given, and there are still guys who believe in "shooting their shot" which also involves no signals being given. of course that usually leads to nowhere. also, just because a female gives a signal doesnt mean the man picks up on it. as l fucking said, the many males dont pick up on the signals, which also leads to nothing like the pua and shoot your shot guys. this is, why so many people are single
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:39 AM
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l think the vast majority of ATTRACTIVE females are not open to meeting random people in a park, and i would say that the majority of females are not open to meeting random poepole in a park
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:37 AM
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your position in life matters alot. this is why when youre a student at a college, female students will react to you very difrently as compared with a random female at a park where neither side is a student. even if ur cold approaching a fellow student at college, it's very difrent when youre a non student approaching a student at a college
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:34 AM
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there are a bunch of guys who go around the mall asking "do you know god loves you", and it always creates an awkwardness, and you dont know how to respond to them. you dont really think to yourself, he looks cool, let me have a conversation with him. im sure thats how females feel when theyre approached by a pua
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:33 AM
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when it comes to pua, females never initiate the approach because 99% of pua are not looking for signals, and probably dont know what a signal looks like. even alot of men who arent pua can be ignorant to signals. in fact, alot of guys who just live regular lives who meet their girlfriends from a class really doesnt need to hone in on his abilities to read females
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:30 AM
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i dont know if its a cowardly thing. l think that females have too much pride. if she approaches the man, it makes her look desprate. even amongst men it makes them look desprate when they cold approach, let alone an attractive female who probably thinks she has the world in her hands due to the preferential treatment shes received her whole life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:28 AM
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lve never known an attractive female to approach any men. avg females maybe, but not the attractive ones. lve seen attractive females walk towards a male and expect him to say something, but never like a pua "hey i saw you from over there and thought you were cute"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:27 AM
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l thought incels were former pua who began to hate females after being turned down by them so many times
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:25 AM
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females would probably open up more to even a mail man than avg pick up artist. security guard too. l know a bunch of security guards at a mall who get tons of attention from female shoppers. the idea is that they know what position you are, and what role you play in society, even if its a trivial role. with pua, you dont know them from a bum down the street
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:18 AM
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u can meet women through cold approach. dont mean any of them are going to date you. l know a bunch of guys who get lots of phone numbers on cold approach and no one calls them back
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:17 AM
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you saying youre not a shil, and this ISNT your job?
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 05:36 PM
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more worrying than shils engaged in topic dilution psyops?
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 05:22 PM
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u able to find it
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 04:36 PM
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im tempted to say that he was cold approaching this female, because she does look good by conventional standards (even though as you can see from the vid, shes not a good person at all), and ended up getting punked
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 04:27 PM
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ok. he was bullied as a child. is in his mid 30s. just got out of jail, but even before jail, he wasnt getting results. he lives in the projects. usually commutes about 45 minutes to do the cold approaches in rich white neighborhoods. he is mulato himself. he is tall, and skinny. he dresses up in suits from the 1920s in order to peacock. often feels sorry for himself. doesnt really let go of females who have rejected him, and keeps trying to holla at them. actually he developed a reputation for …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 04:18 PM
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what do u say to those guys who have done 20,000 approaches, gotten phone numbers, but no calls back
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 03:57 PM
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how have you seen pu raise someone's chances. you got any real examples?
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 03:36 PM
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u make an interesting point. yes, females do have the advantage in having men come to them, but at the same time, people have for thousands of years existed without learning social game, or pick up. while people were not diagnosed, they still got married. as a matter of fact, much more than now. people are the lonliest now than ever before, even with pick up. as a matter of fact, the average american in 1800 had 8 kids. today it's under 2.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 03:29 PM
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l know a couple of guys who took the courses, and none of them got any females. when l asked them about it, they said that it takes time. the other guy said, l will make a come back. but both of them still believe in it despite being cheated
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 03:58 AM
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oh ok. here l was thinking l can close the deal in 5 minutes. l never see the same female regularly at any shop. thats why lm thinking 5 minutes
/r/seduction20/02/24 03:46 PM
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notice he just makes general statements like dating in 30s is better. doesnt say anything about who he surrounds himself with or where he met them
/r/seduction18/02/24 02:40 PM
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oh ok. how many minutes do you give it
/r/seduction18/02/24 02:37 PM
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l dont think social life in ny was ever great. l think that you always needed a good social circle to get a good social life, and it seemed like people needed to get keyed into things. alot of people utilized their roomates, or alumni as a way to get into social circles. l think thats the way its always been. ny has always been very exclusive. l dont think that its really changed that much since the pandemic. l mean obviously alot of people left. that definitely changed, but it really sounds lik…
/r/seduction18/02/24 05:31 AM
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l thought day game was just going up to females during the day whether theyre interested or not
/r/seduction18/02/24 01:46 AM
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no. he wanted to know the difrernce between dating in your 20s compared to your 30s
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:55 PM
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its probably just you
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:45 PM
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it's definitely the age thing. l think people are alot more ageist than we want to admit. lf anything l think the pandemic would make people even more lonley and give people a chance. obviously if you walk up coughing then theyre going to run away. the pandemic has definitely made me reach out to more people, not indiscriminantly though
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:43 PM
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lf youre able to spot females who are interested, you wouldnt need to take any class, and in fact, can just walk into a super market and find someone.
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:39 PM
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im thinking the same. l know guys who lie about stupid things like their nationality. one guy l know tiago is columbian, but tells people he's brazilian. another, syed, tells people he's persian when he's really pakistani. neither one of them are cool people, and neither one of them attract males, or females. syed actually gets alot of 1 night stands, but he never has any long term male, or girlfriends. people usually hang out with him 1 or 2 times, and just avoid him. tiago just never gets date…
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:36 PM
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its too early to say whether was actually a win for you. come back in 5yrs and tell us if youre still together
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:30 PM
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dudes who say that younger females are into older males are out of their mind. just like males are trained to look for younger females, younger females will also look for young males. its programed into us for maximum fertility. people originally only lived to about 38, so why would you want to date a guy who will only live another 8yrs? as much as females age rapidly from 20-30, so do men. balding, fattening will all come into play even though these guys dont want to admit it. dating after 30, …
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:29 PM
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the age gap should be considered because you asked whats the difrence between dating 20 vs 30. the difrence is you have access to a larger pool of single females at age 20, and the reason is age gap. some guys will make the argument that youre more confident, and have more money at 30, and thats great, but the amount of females you have access to will be far fewer. so for example, you're being left out of the 18, 19 yr old market, and there are far greater single 18-19 yr olds than there are sin…
/r/seduction16/02/24 02:19 AM
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what do you mean you havent had any problems? you just said you werent getting any dates
/r/seduction16/02/24 02:15 AM
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alot of guys say, "it worked out better for me", but the reality of it is, generally speaking, you will have access to far fewer females in your 30s as you will in your 20s. as one genius expressed it, i went from an ocean in my 20s to a desert in my 30s. thats the general trend, and one should not come to a conclusion based on a few successful stories.
/r/seduction15/02/24 06:45 PM
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as much as you dont see the receding hairline, fatness, and wrinkles because you look at yourself everyday, when a young female looks at you, she will see it right away
/r/seduction15/02/24 06:39 PM
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dont listen to these guys who says it gets easier in your 30s, it doesnt. more of your peers are getting married, and when people get married, they end up doing couple/family events. l talk to alot of single young females, and for the most part, are not attracted to older men as much as older men like to claim. l remember talking to this one guy, and thought he was good looking. he was chatting with some females in their 20s, and things seemed to be going well. as soon as he said he was 35, that…
/r/seduction15/02/24 06:34 PM
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when youre in your 20s, it's not uncommon for a sorority girl to tell you about a party. when youre in your 30s, thats almost impossible
/r/seduction15/02/24 06:21 PM
1

l remember talking to a guy a few days ago, and l asked him how he met his girlfriend, and he said they met over getting high
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:58 PM
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thats why u gotta choose ur friends wisely. l know some pua, and all they know are other men who dont know any females. needless to say, they get nowhere. alot of people spend alot of effort creating social circles. l know a female who looked for outgoing roomates in order to widen her social circle
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:46 PM
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thats why the gym will always be better than a street, or bar, because you have a longer period of time to assess a person. if the person is giving good vibes over a period of a month, then chances are they wont reject you or spread rumors that youre a creep. i remember when i was going to school, and this girl came out of her dorm room to say hi to me cause she saw me from her window. i mean its those kind of gestures you know its safe to ask her out. problem with alot of pua is that they just …
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:34 PM
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thats why its so important to take advantage of opportunities when youre in your 20s. once youre in your 30s, its alot harder regarding social circles. alot of times, it takes being invited to the right parties
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:30 PM
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well thats the general pattern. you get 2 sets of people. people who date and find the ones they want, and stick with that. then you have people who had bad dating experiences, and they decide to withdraw from the dating scene. some people get more attention in their 30s, but its not the norm, just like athletes who continue to compete after 30. nobodies really going to say that jordan, or shaq was better at 30 than 20
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:27 PM
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if you have social intelligence, you will know if a female is interested or not, therefore will not ask out a female who wasnt interested, therefore will not get rejected
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:16 PM
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quick is key. alot of pua will just keep talking even though females obviously are not interested. if you dont know when to back away, cold approach will ultimately fail
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:13 PM
1

gym is an exelent place. way better than bars, or clubs, which many people are recomending. approaching at the gym is good as long as you know when to back away. thing with the gym is, you see a female, you smile, she smile back. then the next time you see her, you can say hi. with the bar, you only get one chance. another mistake that pick up artists make is that they try to dump everything on a female all at once cause they only get one try on the street. with the gym, you get many tries, so y…
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:10 PM
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lol hey be glad men are not asking
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:03 PM
1

thats wrong. most indians went for arranged marriage, and even then, they married within their cast
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:02 PM
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reading body language is most important. most guys doing cold approach dont even attempt to read body language, and ultimately walk away empty handed
/r/seduction15/02/24 05:00 PM
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you really need to find your interest, and focus on that. if you are a sports fan, then go to sporting events and chat to random females about the game. alot of autistic guys just walk up to random females they have nothing in common with and that will lead to nothing
/r/seduction15/02/24 04:59 PM
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l like that ocean to desert analogy. and it really is like teleporting, because while 10 yrs sounds like a long time, it goes by alot faster than we think. think about it, the pandemics already been around for 5yrs. thats really why u gotta do your thing when youre young. lts foolish how alot of young people think they have all the time in the world. they dont. by the time they realize it, theyre in the desert with the rest of us
/r/seduction15/02/24 04:35 PM
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the thing with getting old is, you got to try harder. you have to use gimicks where as you didnt have to in your 20s. one thing you can try is, standing outside a club. wait for a hot chic to get on line, then get in right after her, and ask her what she thinks about the club scene
/r/seduction15/02/24 04:32 PM
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im not saying that 30yr olds will not get positive feedback, they will, but in general, it will be less than when you were 20. i mean just look at johnny depp when he was 25 compared to 35. his looks noticably went down. your experience is a bit unusual. if you look at most men, they are balding by 30, and fatter, so theyre unlikely to be as confident, and comfortable as they were at 20. another thing is also our health, and that starts declining at 30. youre no longer as healthy, and you cant e…
/r/seduction15/02/24 04:25 PM
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the thing is, most guys aproach females theyve never seen with no eye contact. your situation is quite difrent from the street approach. most guys do not focus on green lights. being able to recognize those green lights takes a long time, and alot of effort to acquire. most guys are looking for short cuts which is why they dont succeed. you see these guys going up to random females with no green lights, they get turned down a bunch of times, and then end up hating females, and these guys end up …
/r/seduction15/02/24 04:11 PM
1

they probably glad it wasnt them. kind of like when l see those donation guys, or kids selling candy for their basketball team, approaching other people, so l know they wont be approaching me. the feeling is relief
/r/seduction15/02/24 03:54 PM
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you will have much fewer choices in your 30s compared to 20s. once you hit 30, alot of females will consider you old, and rule you out. chances are, you will also look worse as you age, and still attract fewer females. and in all honesty, people become less interested in dating after 30, so you wont be as motivated anymore. thats why i always tell young people to date as much as possible, because there will come a day when you just will give up. as a matter of fact, i know alot of people, both m…
/r/seduction15/02/24 03:40 PM
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the best place ive seen is a busy restraunt at lunch time. you get a lot of foot traffic. you can do 10 approaches easily in 1/2hr
/r/seduction13/02/24 04:56 PM
1

model agent
/r/seduction12/02/24 04:33 AM
0

well, you got any better ideas?
/r/seduction12/02/24 01:49 AM
0

arrange marriage isnt necesarily about money. poor people have been doing it for thousands of years. and arrange marriages are usually between people of the same caste, socio economic level
/r/seduction12/02/24 01:35 AM
1

l know about 10-15 guys who do cold approaches, and none of them get anywhere
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:53 AM
1

at least a kiss
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:46 AM
0

why dont you opt for arrange marriage
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:45 AM
1

4% actually sounds good. i know a guy who did 20k approaches and 0 dates
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:43 AM
1

50 more free meals later, and $2500 poorer
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:42 AM
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25% from cold approach. sound like a fantasy
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:39 AM
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i know alot of guys where 0% of the females who gave numbers ended up dating them
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:38 AM
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i know a few pua who get lots of numbers, but no calls back. getting a number and no call back is actually worse than getting no number cause you probably wasted your time talking to her, whereas if she just said no, you could've saved yourself 5 minutes
/r/seduction12/02/24 12:36 AM
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