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COMoparfan392/r/askMRP11/07/23 07:36 AM
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Just remember you have the right to set whatever boundaries you want, regardless of if they make sense to anyone else or not. This includes looking "insecure" by enforcing them. The flip side is that boundaries are only as good as they are enforced. So if you waffled after the fact shes going to walk all over you. What actions did you take after you learned she went on a run with her crush?
/r/askMRP17/04/26 08:51 AM
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The fact she denied it until you rubbed her nose in the evidence tells you what kind of person she is. Stop thinking with your dick and cut her loose.
/r/askMRP09/06/25 06:07 AM
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Keep in mind you're arguing with an AI bot. Go back into his post history, its all spergian slop.
/r/RPChristians19/05/25 08:13 AM
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Following this is what solved mine: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/l23n9p/timeline_escaping_sex_for_validation_and_quitting/
/r/RPChristians26/03/25 04:45 PM
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If you can't mentally let it go or she gives you legit reasons to suspect she's still in contact with the dude I'd drop her immediately, otherwise let it go.
/r/askMRP25/01/25 01:42 PM
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Yelling, making vows you don't agree to under pressure from her, "disciplining her" as a punishment that was clearly after she turned you down, and hand waving away that she lied multiple times? You don't have frame, and worse yet are still a dancing monkey.
/r/RPChristians06/01/25 01:08 PM
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These troll posts have really gone down in quaility, big sad.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/24 08:26 AM
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So you were a dancing monkey for 9 years, didn't adapt any of the mental models, and now want help after your larp failed? What's different this time that you'll actually implement any of the sidebar? She needs to cheat on you first, then this might be a genuine desire to change.
/r/askMRP25/12/24 11:02 PM
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First off, how in the fuck are you not financially free with a supposed $2M net worth?? I smell bullshit. Second, you need hobbies, and trying to making your wife the pinnacle of your porn fantasy is a shitty one. Half your post is about getting her to do your bidding sexually. As for the quality of sex, you can only use dread so far. If you actually go get real hobbies, that is still not a guarantee she will go that last inch you want her to go. If she doesn't, are you willing to step out for a…
/r/askMRP15/12/24 07:30 AM
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Unrelated, but does your son look like you at all?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 01:08 PM
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You missed the sarcasm lol. I agree it's not sinful so long as you weren't lusting after that chick.
/r/RPChristians02/12/24 09:59 PM
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yOu AreNt A rEaL cHrIsTiAn If YoU tExT oThEr WoMeN
/r/RPChristians02/12/24 09:41 PM
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For me it was performance anxiety. I was wanting validation because if I "didnt" cum or make her cum fast enough I thought I had "failed". As soon as I let it go and just banged her when I wanted to I stopped caring how she thought about it. Horns post on escaping validation from sex was incredibly helpful. It did take about a month for my dick to work properly again.
/r/askMRP01/12/24 09:45 PM
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From your own description you literally weren't around for at least a year. If you were actually red pilled you can't be surprised she latched on to the first guy (or two) that gave her the feelz.
/r/askMRP30/11/24 12:50 PM
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Early this morning. I see it's still gone too lol, but looks like I have access otherwise
/r/RPChristians27/11/24 07:56 PM
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If you want people to join the discord, you probably should discourage whoever runs it from deleting introductions of people who are trying to join. Very counterproductive lmao.
/r/RPChristians27/11/24 11:47 AM
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/r/RPChristians27/11/24 11:16 AM
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She needs to cheat on you so you actually have the motivation to take the sidebar seriously instead of larping. Nothing you wrote here gives me the confidence you're not just going to "do MRP" as a covert contract to "keep her".
/r/askMRP26/11/24 01:04 PM
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Yeah this is an awful lot of DEERing for someone who's supposedly not blinded by their ego.
/r/RPChristians16/11/24 09:01 AM
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Both can be and are true. Your ego not being able to see and learn from mistakes is equally a bad thing. You already admitted you married an egalitarian, which you blew off as if it's not a huge contradiction to your values. Clearly that turned out so well....many lessons to be learned.
/r/RPChristians15/11/24 09:48 PM
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You need to kill this puppy of oneitis. Either you do or you will find her cheating and it will be much worse. This marriage is over and you know it, stop allowing your ego to keep you in misery.
/r/RPChristians15/11/24 10:12 AM
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Sure, perhaps a distinction is needed. But point being he didn't then nor really does he now have the frame to keep a boundary when he should have.
/r/askMRP10/11/24 12:24 PM
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The time to address this properly was before you even seriously dated, let alone got married. At this point all you can do is as others said focus on yourself, trust your gut, and collect evidence IF there becomes any. If she wants to fuck around she gets to find out with a divorce agreement.
/r/askMRP09/11/24 11:05 AM
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Deleted lol. People come here for "tips and tricks" but God forbid they change their outlook when confronted with the harsh truth.
/r/RPChristians24/10/24 04:32 AM
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Here you are a "RP veteran" and you didn't internalize anything you've read. You have oneitis with a chick you've been dating for a month. The best thing for you is if she cheats then leaves. That's the only thing that will incentivize you to build frame.
/r/RPChristians23/10/24 10:33 PM
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And why didn't you? Your friends a bunch of switched on guys with frame? Or a bunch of of beta losers with crippling oneitis? Going against your gut rarely turns out well.
/r/RPChristians23/10/24 08:49 PM
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Get to lifting, not for her, but for you. What are you going to do if she crosses these boundaries?
/r/RPChristians23/10/24 07:54 PM
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Trust your gut. But the fact you're leaving out your height/weight/lift stats tells me you aren't in great condition. Her being the most godly Christian woman in the world is not going to change the fact that her eyes will wander if you're not in shape. Cut this one loose if you're really that concerned, being afraid of losing her puts you in her frame, this is backwards. Don't get into a relationship again until you've developed your frame.
/r/RPChristians23/10/24 07:40 PM
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Mental point of origin/enlightened self interest, killing or preventing oneitis, outcome independence would be the three keys imo.
/r/RPChristians06/10/24 11:33 AM
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You clearly didnt learn anything. Read it again. You also need to finish your English class because I spoke clearly the first time.
/r/askMRP24/08/24 06:24 PM
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You're conflating displaying an external emotional reaction with having an internal emotional reaction. If you spend any significant amount of time with a woman, she's going to piss you off at some point, we're all human. If you have a frame, you can keep your emotions in check and won't display them externally and will deal with those emotions without her. A man without frame displays those emotions infront of her, being butthurt, angry, crying, complaining, etc. You're new to this so for now S…
/r/askMRP24/08/24 05:22 PM
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I was about to ask the same. Sex once a week is entering dead bedroom territory.
/r/RPChristians13/08/24 01:37 AM
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I used to have a policy of doing a phone check every 6 months to a year. The more time goes on the less I care (as should you) for two reasons: Even if my wife did act out of pocket I would find out eventually AND the moment she gets physical with another guy I will be able to replace her with a younger hotter version. Lift, stfu, keep reading and implementing the sidebar, and the rest will fall into place over time.
/r/askMRP11/08/24 10:39 PM
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"Before anyone calls me a beta pussy, I have no issue with the sex life". One minute later: " I can barely touch her without feeling disgust. I dont want to touch her and I dont want to fuck her". Your ego is going to keep you in misery if you don't wake the fuck up. Do you need to see her getting fucked on your bed before you talk to a lawyer? Lift, sidebar, STFU, and look up the "better beta divorce strategy" post.
/r/askMRP27/07/24 02:36 PM
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But but muh cake tits...she's genuinely trad reeeeee
/r/RPChristians15/07/24 07:45 PM
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I wouldnt personally turn down interest from women despite still dealing with porn and nice guy traits. I still catch myself DEERing here and there and I'm two years into the MRP. You can't unlearn 25+ years (or more) of nice guys stuff then get rid of it overnight. The porn issue boils down to getting off social media and draining your eyes of the sexual gratification, at least for me it did. That will come with time and dedication. Do what you want, but I'd use interest from chicks as practice…
/r/RPChristians28/06/24 04:51 AM
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Keep it up, shutting up will never dig you deeper, never a bad option. Good FR.
/r/askMRP28/06/24 03:56 AM
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This is what happens when you don't tell her no or cave if she wines enough. Time to stfu, lift and hit the sidebar to get out of mommies frame and take your balls back.
/r/askMRP11/06/24 12:24 PM
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It's sad this post is basically required but well written. The good news that single men can take heart in is that the bar has never been lower.
/r/RPChristians03/06/24 02:56 AM
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Based on your stats you've been skinny fat for quite some time. You're making progress but it will continue to be a struggle for your wife to see you've become attractive. Takes 1 month of hard work for every year you've been a beta pleb in your relationship. Also sounds like you're seeking her validation/getting validation from sex. As someone who struggled with this myself, please read through and internalize the following MRP post: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/l23n9p/timel…
/r/RPChristians03/06/24 02:50 AM
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Looks like you used Athols book to patch things up instead of internalizing any of the mental models. The sidebar has changed quite a bit since you were last here. Read it until you actually embody it, lift, and stop being a boring sap.
/r/askMRP02/06/24 12:26 AM
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You would have figured out after the first call it wasn't an emergency, had you asked any questions. After that it's on you to ignore her. After the second time I would have ignored her, Ive got things to do.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 02:39 PM
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Clearly you haven't read much if any of the side bar. Much of this is basic 101 boundary enforcement. In When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, you learn different ways of reinforcing boundaries, start there. This post screams that you have zero frame. Also if she crosses a boundary, you remove your attention, affection, and commitment, commensurate with the boundary violated. If my wife kept calling me and it wasn't an emergency, I'd block her number and ignore her until she learned otherwise.
/r/askMRP27/05/24 06:30 PM
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Contrary to some answers I've seen here and in other posts, your boundaries can be whatever you want, regardless of if they're a double standard or not. But you clearly havent read WISNIFG, nor do you have the frame for enforcing boundaries. Stfu and lift until you're done with the sidebar and put it all into practice.
/r/askMRP20/04/24 08:31 AM
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You haven't been kicked in the nuts enough to take any of these tools to heart. Stop taking her so seriously, you're giving her as much verbal intercourse as if she's your wife of 20 years and mother to your kids. She stopped adding value to your life and its just an ltr, big deal. Move on bro.
/r/askMRP01/04/24 09:51 AM
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Personally I would tell my wife only once if she's not meeting expectations assuming they are reasonable. If she respects me she will change. If she doesn't then I know I need to withdraw and begin to move on.
/r/askMRP28/03/24 09:48 PM
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‭Proverbs 10:19 NLT‬ Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.
/r/RPChristians20/03/24 10:49 AM
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Why are you commenting on here less than a day after asking for advice yourself? If you think a random person's boundaries are controling then you clearly haven't been through the sidebar. Stfu and get to it.
/r/askMRP19/03/24 10:01 AM
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Shocked no one's added this but do NOT confront her until you are ready for the most likely outcome, which is divorce. Speak to a divorce attorney, get your ducks in a row. If this is going to be resolved without divorce, you need to approach this from a position of power.This is all assuming she's not done anything physical, if so, eject. For now, stfu, get in the gym, put on a happy face, collect evidence that you need. If it were me, once I was ready I'd give her two options: She ends all con…
/r/askMRP14/03/24 07:54 PM
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I was under the impression that you post here or in MRP to add value, not to make mental masturbation stores about principles we discover week one of the RP. Yes, most guys don't find the red pill until being zeroed out. AI's got a long ways to go lol.
/r/RPChristians10/03/24 10:57 AM
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I dont think you post enough. Please, more larping examples sir.
/r/RPChristians05/03/24 11:50 AM
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Lol could be both.
/r/RPChristians04/03/24 10:13 AM
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I'm convinced this is just a troll using AI to post at this point. That or a sperg who larps.
/r/RPChristians01/03/24 06:45 PM
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I would say these are obvious observations of women's nature but we have people in this sub who think the woman they're married to is "their woman" simply because she's "Christian", so maybe not.
/r/RPChristians24/02/24 10:01 AM
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The most you post, the more you come off as a larping autist.
/r/RPChristians22/02/24 11:28 AM
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Huh thats weird, coulda swore this was the red pill Christian subreddit, not blue pill Christian. "She's not yours, it's just your turn" applies to Christians too.
/r/RPChristians14/02/24 11:37 PM
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No. No its not. That's a giant covert contract. I live in 2024 where women have agency and they get to decide if they want to be married to me or not. Divorce for me is a question if she decides to cheat, abandons the faith and/or me. That being said I hope she continues to be a great helper in my life but she has to make that decision, not me.
/r/RPChristians07/02/24 10:53 AM
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Hold up... are you saying if you just "truly live for christ" you won't get divorced? Or am I misreading a grammar error?
/r/RPChristians07/02/24 10:17 AM
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Honestly not a bad guess.
/r/RPChristians01/02/24 11:32 AM
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Don't see how this adds value, let alone half your posts. You uncomfortable with silence or something?
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 11:35 AM
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If I'm selling you a course on how to rebuild your car engine but I've never rebuilt one myself, is that not a grift? How is promotion of "tradwife" marriage via a dating course coming from a man who's not married any different?
/r/RPChristians29/01/24 12:07 PM
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Probably because he's a grifter and a hypocrite lol
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 07:55 PM
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Didn't it come out that Chase (sovereignbrah) is banging his gf? While spending months on end morally finger wagging at those hoes on Whatever? To top it off he has a dating course to find your "tradwife" when he himself is not married. Hats off to the hustle, 1000% a grift. Take him seriously at your own peril. Mike Pantile, knew that sounded familiar. He was on the iron disciples a few months back where he verbatim said "a Christian man has no use for spinning of plates, dread game". He clearl…
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 10:52 AM
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Like others have said he has to be the one to kill his oneitis, you can't do it for him. I had to kill mine after year 6 of marriage because it was causing a host of the normal issues. Took about 4 weeks of diving into stories of Christian women cheating/divorcing solid Christian men, on top of hitting the gym nonstop, reinforcing my identity in christ, then myself as a man, and reminding myself of what I was working towards in my vision.
/r/RPChristians17/01/24 12:40 PM
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There is a kernel of truth to this idea of her seeing beta men in comparison to you. I didnt even realize it for some time, but I stand far and above all of my wife's friend's husbands/bfs. For example, one is a dude who refuses to learn skills/ get a decent paying job despite a monthly budget deficit and pushes his wife to work, 3 kids together. Willfully drunk captain. My wife's best friend of 15+ years is dating is a jobless bum who gets an allowance from his grandma...wife hates him and I do…
/r/askMRP17/01/24 12:15 PM
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Push-ups are great but no where did I see anything about lifting. If you aren't lifting weights you can't have a masculine frame, hence why most women will pass you by. Unless you're a billionaire focusing on cardio wont help. Lifting also gives you a great sense of confidence, you carry yourself differently when you build muscles mass. It also kills stress and anxiety (which you are clearly feeling by this extreme level of analysis paralysis and inability to decide where to go), on top of many …
/r/RPChristians04/01/24 02:46 AM
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I was addicted to porn from ages 14-24, this includes after getting married at age 21. I have been sober since Easter of 2020. A large chunk of our sexual drive comes from what we feed ourselves visually. Once I got off ALL social media, Facebook, snap chat, reddit, especially Instagram, youtube, etc. my struggle became exponentially easier. Only use any platforms if you have the self control to not wander with your eyes, reddit included. This should massively help as it did with my desires. ‭Fo…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 12:05 PM
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Killing my oneitis. It wasn't a small task though. Took about 4 weeks to completely get that bs out of my system but once I did I was so freed mentally to focus on myself instead of my wife. But also stfu as others have said.
/r/askMRP31/12/23 08:28 AM
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Great post, much to think about. For me, I used to have so much of my identity tied up in what I did. Now, I've accepted my job as a means to an end. I work about 60 hours per week and take-home around 100k after taxes. It will provide the stability to pay for the land that I will build my house on. It will provide funds to then buy what I need to go off grid, tools that I may need, and then go on adventures with my wife and kids. But most importantly, it has quickly supplied a mini "fuck you" f…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/23 10:07 AM
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This. I allow my wife to talk to me about stuff I don't care about/forget in 5 minutes as a reward. She adds huge value to my life in multiple ways so I tolerate chit chat 95% of the time. But, sometimes I apply the lesson found here and say not today, verbal intercourse is optional.
/r/askMRP09/11/23 05:16 AM
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Well said. I think it's very easy to idealize "genuine desire" as nothing but blowjobs, sex in the bar bathroom, and hand jobs under the table while at family dinner, etc. 24/7. While these types of things should happen, and frequently as you continue to climb, 24/7 is a fantasy. Just as women fantasizing about every waking moment being this cliff hanger of adventure, feelz, and other romanticism. As a general theme she should be a huge value add to your life but she's still human just as you ar…
/r/askMRP08/11/23 05:50 AM
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So long as you can live with the possible consequences and you're okay with that it's still frame. I'd be curious if you played the field at all to know if you'd get more value elsewhere. Otherwise great field report, thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 09:46 PM
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STFU is the best practice until you can master other techniques such as fogging, negative inquiry, or even amused mastery, all in the sidebar. This will come to a head at the main event. Give that a search in here if you're confused. My wife used to have a problem with yelling at my kids as well, mostly solved now. Most of her yelling came from me being a drunk captain, not leading by example and just telling the kids to go to their rooms or the basement if they wanted to loose their mind in a t…
/r/askMRP14/10/23 12:09 PM
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Go through the sidebar, lift, stfu. Go through rians stones midwatches on YT.
/r/askMRP11/10/23 09:21 PM
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Until you try it don't doubt it. About the worse thing you can do to a woman besides bore her is deny her sex, that kills their ego. Women seek validation from you because that is how they were made and operate, within a man's frame. Dont like it? Become a monk. Man up and fuck your wife. If she walks out go lift and find a better use of your time. Stop taking her so seriously and look at her actions.
/r/askMRP11/10/23 09:08 PM
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You could try to stop taking her words so seriously (just as I used to) and look at her actions. She wants to fuck. Women don't grind on a man without the intention of being fucked. Pick her up, throw her on the bed, and go town, caveman. Or become a monk and divorce her if you don't like sex.
/r/askMRP11/10/23 08:59 PM
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Maybe I didn't add enough here. I enjoyed the variety myself, and as a consideration to her comment I will keep it in mind for future ideas. I'm honestly not sure where me being considerate of her feedback gets blurred into her having the frame of the situation. Point out what I'm missing...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/23 01:17 AM
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OYS #3 27year old male, 198lbs 6'0", wife is 28. Been married just over 6.5 years, have 2 kids together, 5 and 3. Vision: Become truly outcome independent and continue to develop my frame as the oak and kill my drunken captain tendencies of the past. Reading: WISNIFG, NMMNG, SGM Work: No significant changes, slow and steady grind. Social life: Bought a membership to a local gun range, and am going out shooting this morning by myself. Always good to get me time since I have sucked at doing so the…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 04:49 PM
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Fair enough lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/23 08:01 PM
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Thanks for the feedback and ideas. Personally, these being the first times i've ever struggled cumming in the nearly 7 years we've been married, I'd like to avoid it but either way you're right. Not a big deal. That being said I do realize part of this is just a normal drop in libido from dropping the validation seeking sex. I naively ssumed dropping my ego on it would be easier than it is lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 12:42 PM
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Gotcha. Thanks for the feedback and explanation!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 12:32 PM
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You're absolutely right. As I mentioned in my above reply, that fear mainly comes from my wife's comments. At the end of the day it doesn't matter or not if I finish, although I can't think of any cocky/funny agree/amplify lines that would work for this scenario, next best I guess is STFU which I will do from now on.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 01:16 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. You're correct, shouldn't count family outings as social. I think my social life is honestly my weakest point and I need to get out by myself or make more guy friends. Some background as to why I've felt performance anxiety: after the 3rd time a few weeks ago of burning out/losing my errection mid session, my wife said "I think we need to take a few days break, and I know it's not me but it still makes me feel bad that you're not going off regularly". At the end of the d…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 01:13 AM
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OYS #2 27year old male, 200lbs 6'0", wife is 28. Been married just over 6.5 years, have 2 kids together, 5 and 3. Vision: Become truly outcome independent and continue to develop my frame as the oak. Reading: WISNIFG, NMMNG Work: No significant changes other than my days off switching from mon/tues to thurs/friday, slow and steady grind. Social life: We decided to go camping as a family last Thursday and it was great up until my son got a bug bite and swelled up so my wife took him to the hospit…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 10:28 AM
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OYS #1 27year old male, 200lbs 6'0", wife is 28. Been married just over 6.5 years, have 2 kids together, 5 and 3. About a year into my red pill journey, discovered this place about 3 months ago and have just been lurking. Today that ends, I need to write down my goals, track my progress and keep myself accountable to meeting them. Vision: Become truly outcome independent and continue to develop my frame as the oak. Reading: WISNIFG, NMMNG Work: -Currently: Started a new job about 6 weeks ago, st…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 08:37 AM
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Fair enough thanks couch!
/r/askMRP13/07/23 07:02 PM
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Overall it's a good relationship, we smash at least every other day, she cooks, cleans, and is a good stay at home mom. But last night I got a hard no so I got me to thinking on how withdrawing could or couldn't be a covert contract. Thinking back on it with a rested head, it was late (midnight) and our son has a tendency to wake her up before 6. So could just be a logistical issue and I'll try earlier again today.
/r/askMRP11/07/23 05:52 PM
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Good point thanks for the reminder.
/r/askMRP11/07/23 05:39 PM
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Fair enough thanks for the response.
/r/askMRP11/07/23 05:37 PM
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This is a great way to look at it. Just trying to avoid covert contracts, thanks for the response!
/r/askMRP11/07/23 05:35 PM
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