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That’s a whole a** roommate. I’d suggest she either ask to be added to the deed or bounce. Like you said, I’d assume that she’s already doing the majority of the homemaking. Ugh. I can’t believe women put up with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:47 AM
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What in tarnation did I just read 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:31 PM
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I love this! I see a lot of posts on here mainly encompassing bad male behavior or wanting/recognizing higher qualities for dating (which is fair because it’s a dating subreddit). But I think we all need to remind ourselves that our own self-esteem/self-worth plays such a huge role in our approach to dating. Of course we all deserve great healthy relationships, but it’s hard to really believe that deep down if we don’t feel confident and content about ourselves. Thank you for sharing ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:14 PM
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Tale as old as time. I never understood why people (especially women) get upset at the mistress/other person when their partners infidelity is exposed. Like....your boyfriend/husband is the one who is obligated to be faithful to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:40 PM
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I’ve been in this situation, I found a friends boyfriend on tinder because he super liked me (is he stupid? lol) and I sent her the screenshots. She told me that he had deleted the app on his phone, but not his profile so it must’ve been showing up when I swipe. The thing is they had been dating ~6 months and my tinder profile was only a month or two old. They have a baby together now 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:32 PM
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Agreeeeeed, this is the FIRST anniversary. What OP accepts in the beginning will dictate how the rest of the relationship will go. A leaf blower is a practical gift, but that would not be something I’d expect to get for a one year anniversary. OPs says he’s tight on money (which I personally wouldn’t date) and trying to save but it doesn’t cost a ton of money to be romantic and thoughtful. He could’ve gotten an AirBnB or camping (even for one evening) decorated it with candles and rose petals. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:45 PM
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Loyalty is not a bonus in a relationship. It is the expected standard. I’m always under the impression that when someone says they’re loyal, they think it’s suppose to impress me. God, I can’t believe some people think offering loyalty is some amazing quality. FOH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:44 PM
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Did you not just read what you just wrote? “I cried myself to sleep a lot” - Guuuuuurrrrlllll that is not normal. No one great does that. I’ve dated someone where for every great moment, there was 10 bad ones. You can’t keep holding out for those great moments. Make a list of every terrible thing he did or his bad qualities. Every time you start missing him I want you to look at that list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:36 PM
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“Hello 911?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:31 PM
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One of my favorite sayings: “No ring on finger, you must not linger”. Your mom is right (rightfully so since she’s probably had more dating experience). You need to shift your mindset. The only person you’re hurting by staying/dwelling on him is you. Right now - you’re not losing a great guy, you’re missing out on the opportunity on meeting a more compatible match. You can take some time to mourn a relationship, it’s normal and healthy. But at a certain point, don’t you want to shift that energy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:28 PM
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Reminds me of a guy I saw on a dating app who had a 3 week old baby....like bro go help your family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:21 PM
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So I would recommend (from bigger to smaller cities): Tampa/St. Pete, Jacksonville/St. Augustine (the beach isn’t as nice IMO, the sand is not as soft but gorgeous sunsets), West Palm Beach, Panama City Beach, Pensacola. If you have any more questions PM me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:16 AM
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That depends - are you looking for a smaller beach town, somewhere more lively, or big city?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:45 AM
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Yup, there are youtubers who’s whole CAREER is menswear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:22 AM
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It’s 30A/Destin....so basically yes! Super gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:10 AM
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Yes!!! It’s so important to do things to help you de-stress (even the little things). Let’s not let the stress caused by these jabronis give us pre-mature aging 😌 This entire picnic (which included two bottles of wine) costs ~$60. No excuses why a man couldn’t do this except that he didn’t want to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:08 AM
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Omg yes I’m visiting the 30A area! The sunsets here are INSANE. How did you know?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:02 AM
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You took the words out of my mouth! I just love how open and supportive women can be with each other. I think of all the times I’ve been at my most vulnerable and needed help and I’ve always confided/gotten majority of my support from my girl friends (and only two boyfriends to be exact). Even now as a post-grad, I’ve struggled a bit with making new girlfriends when I moved to a new city, but I managed and we even took a girls trip to New Orleans and NYC (pre-pandemic). And it brings me so much …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:20 AM
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He said the average male watches 50 porn clips a week by the time he’s 21. That’s a little over 7 a day 😳😳😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:23 PM
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I think LVM have realized that women are now too smart to agree to something casual. Most men who say they want a “Friends with Benefits” or something casual can’t even be bothered to put in the effort to be an actual friend. I literally just saw a post in r/dating or something where a man was asking about how to ask to be a FWB and a sizeable amount of the comments called him out because he was asking for basically free prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:05 PM
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I love this. I make reservations for brunches and dinners for girlfriends all the time and I use an app called ‘Open Table’ - you don’t even have to call the restaurant, it’s literally that easy. Literally that’s the bare minimum that men can do lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:36 PM
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Girl I have used them all, Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, The League, OKCupid, PlentyOfFish, Coffee Meets Bagel. Honestly they’re all the same. I’ve deleted all but Tinder and Hinge, but I’m not actively swiping on either at the moment. I can’t remember which app, it had to be tinder or hinge but I matched with him in South Beach, Miami - definitely had more to do with the location I was in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:47 AM
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If I had to ballpark??? I would say high eight figures. But I didn’t find this out until I went on several dates with him. I could tell he was probably well off initially but I would’ve never been able to guess how much until I got to know him. We also met via OLD and I’m not sure we would’ve ever met in person, my family is not THAT rich. He fit the bill of a Jewish trust fund baby who spent summers in the Hamptons if that helps. I realize that I would never be able to make that type of money, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:30 AM
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Hahaha I just replied to u/lacyvulture but it sounds like maybe you guys want specifics...honestly anywhere in the nice area in a city or town. Just look for a Whole Foods 🤪Your future husband needs to get groceries too. Or pick up his dry cleaning. Or go out with his friends. There’s opportunities anywhere and everywhere. I always like to think that I give out the vibe/impression that I’m nice and approachable. Or if you’re religious then I recommend a church/synagogue/place of worship. I was t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:46 AM
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I would say I meet of men in general 60% online and 40% in person (pre-COVID). This was also in a larger city with a high cost of living. There really isn’t a way to screen somebody for being a millionaire, and I wouldn’t suggest that anyway. I usually just filter out for someone who looks like they come from a good background (when looking at OLD profiles) and I’ll judge them based on where they take me on a date and it’s usually on that date or the next that you can kind of deduce their financ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:18 AM
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For this guy it was mainly inherited wealth and investing. He’s semi-retired in his 30s but used to practice corporate law (from what he told me). Most millionaires I’ve dated I would say fall into 2 camps: 1) They inherited their wealth. Don’t get me wrong - they’re all highly educated and have great established jobs but most of that is due to the fact that they were born into it. Any business/properties/assets they acquire just kind of grow on its own and they’re set for life. 2) The other is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:57 AM
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I’m glad you got out! Always remember: Rich men are abundant. Rich men who are generous, caring, selfless, and would never hold money over your head? That’s definitely a lot more rare and what I think every woman should strive for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:34 PM
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Mark Zuckerberg drives a Prius - lots of wealthy guys are not flashy. I’d argue that these are probably better partners to be honest. I’ve gone on dates with guys who drove high end cars while they lived in a studio with a mattress and one love seat...like no thanks, I’m good luv but enjoy xx. Funny enough if those same guys took the money and invested it in something then maybe one day they could buy that luxury car without having to forgo everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:26 PM
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He definitely thinks he can use being rich as leverage in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:15 PM
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Just like the “G” in Lasagna 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:13 PM
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I thought about saying “Maybe you should take some of those millions and hire a dating coach since you seem to be struggling” 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:08 PM
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Glad you dodged that bullet. And my date thought he could neg me back and then try and spin it around to dump me....uhhhh sir that’s not how this works. I’ve definitely dated a few rich guys where they thought that all they had to do was be rich when in actuality (for me at least) that’s just the minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:49 PM
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Honestly if I really wanted to I could have feigned interest and have gotten him to buy me shoes, purses, and other useless shit but I didn’t. He should’ve thanked me for not wasting his time 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:41 PM
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Exactly, real wealth is quiet. A few months ago I went on a date with a different guy - it was at a mid-tier seafood bar/restaurant on the water. The place ended closing up a bit early (due to COVID curfew) so we decided to go to another place to grab a nightcap since we were having a nice time and he suggested driving since we’re in a large city and parking could be difficult. I walked out and no joke he drove a Rolls Royce phantom. Never once did he explicitly say anything regarding his wealth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:32 PM
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Yup exactly. I know there’s that saying “I’d rather cry in a Rolls Royce than a Toyota” (or some variation of it) but what if.....now hear me out.......you can sit in a Rolls Royce and not cry at all? Also, most of the wealthier men I’ve dated are never bragging about their income. That’s how it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:14 PM
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So he was actually polite on the date, but there was NO chemistry whatsoever like physical, emotional, and I knew probably about 30 minutes into our date that there would be no second. At the end of our date I politely thanked him and left. When he reached out to me, I told him a standard message about not being interested and this was his response. Honestly I have no idea what the thought process behind his messages because if I wasn’t interested then I’m definitely not interested now hahaha. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:05 PM
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Edit: In reference to the diet comment he made, we had dinner at Ruth Chris and he said he wanted to lose some weight. I told him I lost over 20 pounds this year and this was my cheat meal. I mean that’s the tip of the ice berg since there’s a lot to unpack here LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:48 PM
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What do you do if I may ask? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:40 PM
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Am I the only one who sees gaming as a huge red flag/potential deal breaker? I had an ex who was into gaming (all consoles). I used to get him gift cards for games too 🤢 I think it’d be okay if they play it in moderation but any guy I’ve dated who liked gaming was always obsessed with it. With another ex, I remember one Saturday night I had planned this fun at home pizza night, I made homemade dough and prepped all the ingredients for DIY pizzas. Afterwards I thought we were going to watch a mov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:38 PM
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Also, there’s paparazzi photos of him out with two other women in like the past month. Double standard much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 03:52 AM
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I definitely feel you on this. I was starting to think it was me, because I would always date men that were great on paper -great career, finances, always paid the tab, chivalrous, yada yada - so why wasn’t it working out. We would go on great dates, enjoy each others company, so why could I never get to the “girlfriend/boyfriend” part. My perspective now is that these men who I thought were “HVM” were really not after all. Since I’ve taken a break from dating and reflected on my experiences, I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:21 PM
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“Yes....this Sunday with the Lord” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 12:49 AM
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Looool no idea, it’s Twitter hahaha 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:47 PM
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It just means like “caption this”....I had to google the first time I saw it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:40 PM
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What?!....throw the whole man away 🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:19 PM
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I was in a situationship for 1.5 years (I know, I know). Looking back, there were many red flags I ignored. But I thought he was “soOooO nice” - he always paid the tab, opened car doors and chairs, carried my bags for me - very chivalrous things. It was like half dating a person because I could never be emotionally vulnerable with him. About 6 months into it, I asked him if this was going anywhere and he said “Of course, you’re beautiful, well educated, so bubbly, etc”. I waited.....a whole year…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:46 PM
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Haaaa, I love sending them the link to google! If a man can be on his phone while on the toilet, he can google restaurants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:28 PM
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Girl I’ve been there, back when I was a pickmeisha and in a LTR, I remember telling my boyfriend at the time that I wanted to go to this nice place for Valentine’s Day. Mind you it was like early January, but I specifically said “They’re going to fill up fast for Valentine’s Day so please make it ASAP”, I even reminded him twice afterwards. V Day comes and guess what? No reservation 🤡We ended up eating at Bonefish Grill (while not bad, is a place I’d go on a regular night or with friends). I rem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:19 PM
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Time will tell, but it all sounds good so far! Good luck!!! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:07 PM
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I have tinder and hinge. I find most men stop reading after 2-3 sentences, if they even bother to read (most don’t). I like to keep it short and sweet. My tinder bio: Looking for someone who makes me laugh, enjoys a good cocktail, and eats the olives on my charcuteries. Thats also an answer to one of the prompts on hinge. The others are 1) Ideal First Date: You, me, and a nice bottle of red. 2) Give me travel tips for: Côte d'Azur. I think you should tailor your bio to what you’re like and what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:04 PM
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I wouldn’t want the same ring either. At the very minimum, he could’ve gone to get the diamond reset in a new band or something if he couldn’t afford an entirely new ring. IDK but if I ever got married I’d hope my husband would know not to try and pull that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:17 PM
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Upscale sunset dinner overlooking the water (preferably ocean). It’d be early evening so we could watch the sunset. We both have a few cocktails (I’m a big drinker but I wouldn’t do more than 3 drinks max). Great chemistry and conversation - he’d be well dressed, charming, genuine. I’d end with a quick kiss but that’s as far as I’d go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:15 AM
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I just thought of that Nene Leakes meme....”Whew Chile.......the ghetto” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:59 AM
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Easy, you don’t. If he invited you on the date, he should not be asking to split end of question. I’ve never been asked to split, in fact even when the waiter/waitress brings the check they always give it to my date or place it on his end of the table. So I’d imagine it being extremely awkward for the guy to even try to bring it up. That being said, IF I were to ever be asked on the spot about splitting I’d probably say something along the lines of “This is the way I was raised, my father always…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:54 AM
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“Thank God because I really health insurance” I’ve used that when I’m feeling sarcastic and want to screw around. But if you’re not looking for any casual I wouldn’t even bother responding - his response is a 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:35 AM
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