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| 29 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things? | SEEKING ADVICE | CannonEyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Proud of myself for ending my relationship but still sad. | #HeAin'tTheOne2021 | CannonEyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Interesting how plenty of women manage to work and keep their place clean | CannonEyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 06:35 PM |
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| 2 | High-value actions that stood out to youI've been with my bf for a year and have every reason to believe he's HV. We just finished isolating together after catching covid. He had it first and my symptoms were 4 days behind him. His first few days were horrible and I was taking care of him. He was down and out in bed for days, yet still managed to have flowers delivered with a very sweet card thanking me for everything. There are countless other actions I could write about and I have never felt confused on what his feelings are or have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 08:34 PM |
| 37 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceI'm not Asian but dated an Asian guy and the pressure of his family on female relatives to get married (to a nice Asian man) was a lot heavier than the pressure I've ever experienced from my family | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 09:16 PM |
| 32 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceIn the special where she's pregnant she goes on and on about how he's so much hotter than her. Obviously it's a comedy show and it's a joke, but that stands out to me because it gave "I'm not worthy of this man vibes" 🤢Girl you are stunning, hilarious and successful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 09:14 PM |
| 19 | How soon should men make it official?4-6 weeks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 08:16 PM |
| 12 | Pickme women in the workplaceWe have a potential pick me in her 40s in my office. The signs have been there but I really noticed when her and I were talking about a new female manager coming in (currently completely male dominated management). She told me she wasn't sure how she felt about it because "I'm used to working with men, I'm used to being around men, I grew up with four brothers... I just prefer men" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 03:58 AM |
| 8 | Lol, all these winners.My friend recently said to me about her boyfriend "he's been really nice to me recently." I laughed out loud thinking it was a joke but she was genuinely bragging on his behalf about being checks notes 'nice' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:12 AM |
| 14 | And I guarantee you men still won’t take the initiative for birth control, and put the onus on us.I just went off the combination pill after 10 years and my anxiety and depression virtually disappeared. I never connected the two since I had been on it for so long, and now I can't help but wonder how much happier I could have been for the last ten years if I didn't take BC, but it genuinely didn't feel like I had other options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:10 AM |
| 3 | Happy Exploitation DayThe last company I worked at posted an international women's Day post on LinkedIn featuring a photo of three men and zero women... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 03:43 AM |
| 6 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?I was livid at the time but now all I can do is laugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:29 PM |
| 113 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?An ex told me he only sent the random girl who messaged him on Facebook calling him hot a spicy photo in order to "get rid of her" 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 11:26 PM |
| 27 | Visited an interior design subreddit dedicated for men, and the results were atrocious.The only time any sub with "amateur" and "porn" in the title will be recommended in this sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:13 AM |
| 37 | Visited an interior design subreddit dedicated for men, and the results were atrocious.They hate that the HV men prove that men can have nice spaces and prefer to live in their lv delusion that all "real men" live like they do. Side note: what are your go to interior design subreddits? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:27 AM |
| 13 | Husband suggests she stop buying formula rather than get a job and cancel his $80+ a month subscriptions.Why does "fakeup" bother me so much omg what a loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:14 PM |
| 130 | Here’s What Women Say About Their [Male] Partners In TherapyBless that therapist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 03:42 AM |
| 17 | PSA: For the love of God, STOP faking your orgasms ladies!It's never occurred to me to fake it, but guys can get so offended or pissed when you say "hey it's not happening for me today." The first person I ever slept with and was with for 2 years was unable to ever do it yet I still had sex with him whenever he wanted to. He would get all pouty afterwards. Somehow I ended up feeling guilty for his inability to make me cum? And was left to hype him up...Pick me flash backs are strange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 07:52 PM |
| 28 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.An old co-worker of mine had a friend who slept with a ton of NHL players. And oh god some of the stories. So many of them are cheaters if they're in relationships or treat girls as disposable if they're single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:29 PM |
| 6 | Do you believe that men are only as faithful as their options?All 🤢 Trash 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:39 PM |
| 113 | Pick me-ism is a hell of a drugMy ex was cheating for 6 months and had another girlfriend. When I found out about the cheating I messaged her to let her know and she didn't respond so I figured she knew he had a gf all along and they deserved each other. Six months down the road she messaged me to ask for advice on her relationship with him and was wondering how he treated me. I again reiterated that he cheated on me with her and sent photos of us together with dates where our relationship overlapped (she actually didn't know… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:13 PM |
| 43 | Do you believe that men are only as faithful as their options?When I was younger I was pretty insecure and so I typically went for less conventionally attractive men because I figured they were less likely to cheat. Although I admit I was very attracted to my LVM ex, I was doing charity work and he still cheated on me, a HVW. Now i figure may as well date hot guys since my "ugly guys don't cheat" theory was wrong 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:20 AM |
| 27 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatThe fact that she tells this story in a "positive" light.. it must have been bad. Hope she dumps him soon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:53 AM |
| 80 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatI watched all her update videos and she keeps saying how glad she is that she gave him another chance because he's WoNdErFuL. She also defended him going to the bathroom at that moment because "he really had to go" and was "mortified that she paid" - he couldn't have left his card and then went to the bathroom? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:03 PM |
| 38 | Since breaking up…Broke up with my cheating LVM a year and a half ago but since then I have a new job that pays very well, my own apartment in a HCOL city that I love, am in the best physical shape of my life and I'm in a relationship with a HVM while although I'm still vetting, he is leagues above the loser I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:00 PM |
| 9 | Aren't Y'all Tired?Out of curiosity how did you know it was them if it's fake? Or just a feeling? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:51 PM |
| 871 | This is how you savagely troll an insecure egoYou can tell his entire personality is having abs 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 11:34 PM |
| 12 | This should be engraved in the stoneOr they straight up blame you for their disrespectful behaviour | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:50 PM |
| 19 | How much debt are you in as a direct result of a LVM ex?I started a tab of all the money I spent on my LVM ex during the six months he was cheating on me (I keep meticulous records of my spending) as I obviously wouldn't have spent that money if I knew he was cheating. I got to over $1500 (his birthday, Christmas and several weddings we attended were in that time period) and stopped counting because I was so angry. I never sent him the bill but we did put a deposit down for a trip (while he was cheating) that got cancelled due to covid and so I kept … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:49 PM |
| 1 | A woman I know shared this...😬I'm glad you are going to therapy and I hope you find success in it 🤗 wait didn't you know FDS is a hate subreddit though? How could there possibly be women supporting women?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 01:40 PM |
| 5 | A woman I know shared this...😬Hey, are you ok? That's a lot to deal with :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 10:12 PM |
| 9 | Make them call you MASTER 🎓 I finally did it, ladies! 😀😁Congrats! 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:30 PM |
| 11 | I've made a new friendI'm glad you got out of it! I think in general if we ever find ourselves debating or actually reaching out to a man's ex - then it is time to walk away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 5 | 🥳My mum just dumped her NVM ex!! 🥳The aggressive voice reminds me of my LV ex. We would be having a normal disagreement and I would be remaining calm, not attacking, and he would slip into this tone that made me feel 2 inches tall and everytime he did this I told him we were not continuing the conversation if he was going to talk to me like that. His "normal" voice was kind and sweet (a facade). Didn't realize how big of a red flag this was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:19 PM |
| 4 | Only 31% of men wash their hands after using a public restroomI have a HVM best friend and he is the one who brought this to my attention around the time when covid started. He said most guys in public bathrooms don't wash their hands, even if they come out of a stall 🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 04:12 AM |
| 2 | My heart is getting really heavy as I'm preparing to leave my boyfriend. Any support appreciated.You are making the right decision! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 10:03 PM |
| 8 | This trend where women are showing how happy they are single, is everythingEspecially with things looking up in terms of the vaccines/covid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:39 PM |
| 9 | On a post about a woman saying she doesn't want to get married and be reduced to a "wife" and a "mother". I wish more men would call out the mysoginy of other menOne of my best friends is married to a HVM. He is a mechanic, so it's mostly men that he works with, but there was one woman at the shop that he was friends with. I was visiting her once and her and her husband had some friends over for a fire, and it was the first time my friend was meeting this woman from his work (in case it matters.. she was a lesbian and brought her partner as well). When she met my friend she said "it's so great to meet you, your husband speaks so highly of you, and we wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 04:30 AM |
| 69 | This trend where women are showing how happy they are single, is everythingThis will be my first single summer since 2014. God I'm looking forward to it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 04:22 AM |
| 12 | INCELS and guys with anger issues need to read this. Your inceldom is not an excuse to unleash your abuse while calling it "the red pill rage"The best way I've seen it put is "mental health isn't your fault but it is your responsibility" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 03:41 AM |
| 3 | 1 wife + 2 Fiancé’s + 17 Girlfriends= 100 reasons why men ain’t shitThat's what I assumed but I reached out and told her anyways once I found out. Initially she didn't respond so I was like ok she definitely knew and they deserve each other. Then months later she messaged me to ask what he was like during our relationship. I brought up again the cheating and this time sent photo proof. Still together 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 07:54 PM |
| 25 | 1 wife + 2 Fiancé’s + 17 Girlfriends= 100 reasons why men ain’t shitSeriously! My ex cheated on me for the last 6 months of our relationship. Full on relationship with the other girl. I had no clue because we lived an hour apart and had different work schedules (he randomly starting "picking up extra shifts" which explained him disappearing for hours at a time - I just thought he was being ambitious and we were saving for a house). And in the times he was cheating he did all the HVM stuff - random gifts/flowers, etc. What I don't understand is how she didn't cat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:41 AM |
| 65 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.What a fucking loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 12:09 AM |
| 16 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.From 18-20 I dated a LVM but he was hot and I was young and it took me a while to figure that one out. Anyways! His birthday was ten days before mine. The first birthday we were together, I made him cookies and bought him a hoodie I thought he would like. We'd only been dating a few months at this point. For my birthday (literally right after his) he said he didn't know what to buy me and just took me to a store to pick something out. I told him politely that I would prefer he just plan a nice d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 12:07 AM |
| 6 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.His love language is physical touch but the type of physical touch he "needs" doesn't feel like love 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:19 PM |
| 8 | This PostSecret shook me, I think most women can relate to this.I'm so sorry you had to deal with such a horrible man, it makes me angry to hear about how many of us queens have had these experiences... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:14 PM |
| 72 | This PostSecret shook me, I think most women can relate to this.Also I feel like a lot of men can do terrible things by blaming them on somebody else. Rape: she was giving me signals all night and I was sure she wanted it Cheating: if she wouldn't have been crazy I wouldn't have had to cheat I think men are good at lying to themselves and genuinely being convinced that they are not in the wrong meanwhile they have ruined somebody's life. A man not being able to take responsibility for when he messes up, even over small things, is a GIANT red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 04:10 AM |
| 15 | I called myself hot and a man said I was being conceitedLol I remember seeing a post in here earlier this year that encouraged women to respond with "thank you for noticing" when men on dating apps complimented them. Men reacted the same way - called them conceited. You can only be pretty if they say so but you also can't acknowledge it 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 12:20 AM |
| 4 | The fact that she feels the need to ask if she's an asshole...Even if you think something is hilarious,the moment somebody tells you to stop... You stop. My (super LVM) ex and I were once at a party and when I was talking to our friend in the kitchen he grabbed a cupcake and shoved it in my face. First of all, I had spent a lot of time doing my makeup and I was feeling myself and he just smushed food in my face ruining it. Second of all, he knew I had an eating disorder and desserts were super triggering for me (I know it seems silly but I legit panicked n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:21 PM |
| 12 | Has anyone else ever tried to warn their ex’s new partner?When I found out my ex had been cheating on me for months and had an entire second girlfriend, I reached out to her to let her know because I assumed she didn't know. She didn't respond to me but months later she reached out to ask me for advice on their relationship 🤡 I told her to run and that he is a horrible person. I also asked her why she didn't respond to my original message and she said he had told her we had just broken up when they first met and that I was crazy, and when she sent him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 4 | Little boys man.... like what???He must be so much smarter than her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 12:33 PM |
| 23 | Little boys man.... like what???Ugh I hate when guys think that's a compliment.. I absolutely hate being called "thicc" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 02:36 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?No he can definitely afford it and he's always the one suggesting we go places too and suggesting drinks and apps too. And he does cook for me too. Honestly I know I am in a very fortunate situation and just need to become more comfortable with it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:46 PM |
| 2 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?I guess it is something I need to "get used to" since I was not used to it in my last relationship which wasted the last four years of my life. My family is also similar where my dad always picks the bill up even know that I am in an established career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:45 PM |
| 3 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?I definitely am always very thankful of everything he does for me/spends on me and make sure to show my appreciation. And I definitely want him to be in my life and am certainly not using him so you're right, shouldn't feel guilty for his kindness and generosity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:42 PM |
| 3 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?Thank you, you are right and good point on the different types of "gifts" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:41 PM |
| 3 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?I am going to therapy so I think this is something I should bring up for sure. It might be a "feel like I don't deserve it" thing deep down. I have absurd amounts of guilt in almost every area of my life so it's not exclusive to this and definitely something I need to work on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:40 PM |
| 2 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?You are right and I am working on shifting my mindset 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:38 PM |
| 11 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?Very good point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:35 PM |
| 11 | Proving their point: Guy feels attacked on thread lamenting men's hygiene, says it is 'unfair' to claim that never washing one's hands is unhygienic. O.oI dated a guy a few years ago who was smart and came from a wealthy family. He lived at home. The first time I went over there wasn't any soap in the dispenser in the bathroom and I pointed it out and he looked like a deer caught in headlights/embarrassed. The next time I went over to his house a few months later his family had moved and again there was no soap in the bathroom (of a literal $3 million home) and I pointed it out. He said "my family actually doesn't believe in soap it improves you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 12:59 AM |
| 30 | My heart breaks for this young girl, I tried to be as tactful as possible letting her know she should leave that man who’s definitely taking advantage of herEven at age 27 men under 25 look like children to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 09:33 PM |
| 39 | 1 sign he's a LVM = he's a LVM. Don't have doubts about it.I thought my ex was a HVM so when he occasionally exhibited some LVM traits I gave him a pass because "he was so wonderful in every other way." He ended up cheating on me with an entire second girlfriend for the last six months of our relationship and blaming his behaviour on me. Never again will I ignore even one red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:07 PM |
| 16 | Too good to be true. Great boydriend until I find out he doesn't just watch porn; he is more into live sex cams.That's cheating. Dump him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:02 AM |
| 3 | Am I being oversensitive if I dont find stuff like this funny?This would literally destroy me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:36 PM |
| 1 | My ex made me feel sooo crazy for not wanting his female “bestie” to constantly touch him and say ily to him. It’s good to know I wasn’t crazy and my boundaries are valid.I don't think that's fair. I have a male best friend and he is definitely a HVM. There has never been any feelings between us and I am always sure to be respectful of his relationships and make his girlfriend feel included and show I'm not a threat. If his female friends are respectful of boundaries I don't see the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 09:12 PM |
| 6 | RED FLAG ALERT! Never let a guy "playfully" insult you by calling you a bitch or a whore. I've had more than a few guys do this and it's veiled negging. It feels wrong, because it's wrong. (The show is Fleabag as well, and it's a must watch!)My ex and I would always playfully call each other names whilst playing board games, but I drew the line at "bitch" even in this playful way. The reason for this was we once had a horrible fight (both drunk) where he told me I was a "fucking bitch" and then refused to apologize for it the next day because "that's how he felt at the time." One time towards the end of our relationship he slipped up and accidentally called me a bitch when we were playing a game and I told him he knows I don't like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Tinder LVM strike again with their terrible pick-up linesYup, I made my bio something funny and every single guy opens with some variation of the same line and thinks they're so clever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:59 PM |
| 15 | Take notes male lurkers 💅🏻Or woman.. the post doesn't specify | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 10:58 PM |
| 16 | Take notes male lurkers 💅🏻What a wonderful and sweet man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 10:58 PM |
| 4 | What would you say if you Matched an old acquaintance on tinder"Well look who it is" ? | /r/seduction | 14/02/18 04:29 AM |
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