I love interior design subreddits because they give me ideas and keep me motivated to upgrade my own apartment. I got a suggestion to join a subreddit for male living spaces and was interested. I didn't know it existed and was excited to see some good flats designed by men (hoping it'd give me hope). So there were some good pictures and some starter flats, which I equally enjoyed. It wasn't until I got to the comments that I realized how disturbing this sub was.

There are some posts with super expensive apartments with great interior design (probably professionally done, but who knows). These I would say are HV flats. Oh my god the amount of man babies hating on the comments is ridiculous. And it wasn't pure hateraid going on too. These guys would legitimately STALK these posters. Through the photos and title (they often post city/neighborhood in title) they would find he EXACT ADDRESSES of some flats and the EXACT PRICE of flat or monthly rent. It was so disturbing. And then there would be comments of pure jealousy on how NO ONE COULD EVER AFFORD THIS, I WISH I WAS RICH, blahblahblah. Literally I joined this sub for about 20 minutes and was so disturbed. Also, the mods wouldn't even take down the very clear STALKING and privacy violation that was happening.

And the kicker was that there actually were some posts with HORRIBLE conditions. Like a naked mattress, basic chair, and tv on floor type of situation. And the top commenters would say that THIS is what the sub should be like! THEY LITERALLY SAY THAT THIS IS WHAT THEY EXPECT FROM THE SUB BECAUSE IT IS "MALE". They know exactly how LV most men are and legit get PISSED when they see HV living spaces with thought and effort. It's completely insane.

I ended up commenting (🤡) about how they shouldn't be so defeatist and be inspired by the HV apartments which obviously had me downvoted.

The thing is I also have no problem with the LV apartments because I've been there as a broke college student with nothing. I believe everyone should start with a shit apartment and work their way up. That's how you truly appreciate a good home once you got one. I came from nothing (mattress on floor in a corner of a basement shared room) and the second I got my apartment I put in HOURS of work and research and assembly into getting it looking exactly how I wanted it to. I also put a dent in my savings and it was worth it. So many of these guys were literally lurking on this sub to complain and whine about how they'll never be as rich as certain OPs when instead they could be on subs that focus on investing, careers, or money saving.

I have been on the female counterpart of this sub and haven't come across that kind of toxicity ever.