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This 100%. I don't think they change their spots, so I silently thank them for showing me their true colours early on and just move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:11 PM
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Yep exactly. Many women on FDS who have suffered domestic and childhood abuse and how many of them behaved like Amber Heard? Same thing with the Anna Sorokin case. Yes, it sucks that men get less punishment, but must we seriously go around glorifying female sociopaths then? They take advantage of anyone they can - anyone who has less power or who is kinder. Most of the time, that's other women. Stick them back in jail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:59 PM
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You just dump him. He showed his true colous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:50 PM
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There have been allegations of her being violent towards an ex gf and a female relative though, way before she met Depp. Sure, the ex gf went on record to claim it was a misunderstanding but hey Depp's ex lovers claimed he never laid a finger on them, for decades, so... He's a gross old scrote who essentially cheated on the lovely woman that he made his forever gf bangmaid, but Heard doesn't deserve much (if any) sympathy either. Or vigils, etc Save that for women who genuinely have been in a do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:40 PM
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Not to mention that she allegedly assaulted people close her (a former girlfriend and apparently also a relative) way before she met Johnny Depp (who, interestingly enough, had his ex lovers defending him, including Winona Ryder who presumably doesn't get or need maintenance money from him) I have zero sympathy for Depp that he married a woman who only wanted him for money and fame (duh, he was old enough to be her dad, what else did he expect). Not only that, he basically strung along the mothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:33 PM
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y'know, the things is these bottomfeeders will screech this but then in the same breath screech about being entitled to free sex and labour from women. if they truly did not wish to date and marry women with standards, they would. They just want to take our shit for free and not keep their side of the bargain. bloody freeloaders and diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:06 PM
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If you're in an even semi "professional" type job, most people are very careful about dating within the company. Including men. There's always a pervert who tries to prey on more junior women, but other than that they're very careful. It doesn't mean they don't talk about your looks or body behind your back in their little males clubs, but it means they'd hesitate to make an approach. Also men like that tend to try making an informal approach, NOT what you want from a HVM. It means instead of as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:44 PM
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yep it's just "massage" in two areas and a few quick squeezes before he tries to go in dry or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 08:01 AM
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the biggest thing I have with this is that most LVM and NVM want the freedom to do this without even providing for their wives. this LVM isn't great, but he at least knows that what he's doing is wrong to some level. he doesn't care enough to change. scrotes see it as some sort of birthright
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 07:45 AM
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The destroyer of relationship equity often being this: on average--men are greedier, less prosocial, less generous, have less empathy, and more likely to lie and deceive for self-benefit’s sake than women. 100% The moment you get just as nasty as them, they're shook. Cue "but just because I do it doesn't mean you should!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 04:11 PM
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the audacity of asking a woman to take a chance on them and then not even trying to make sure that she has a comfortable, stress free and great time. then they start trying to shame women to ask them out because unsurprisingly no woman wants to date stingy losers like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:45 PM
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Amen to that /s 100% on board with religions, especially the abrahamic ones, being the root of much of the problem or at least some support. Doesn't matter if now he chooses to believe in scriptures that tell him to treat you well. The problem is that he doesn't fundamentally believe that it's what you deserve as a human being. There can and probably will come a time when the scriptures he decides are "true" now will change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:33 PM
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If we are all female first during conception The default template for fetal development is female. In male fetuses, testosterone kicks in to steer the development differently So in males with complete androgen insensitivity syndrome, they are born with female bodies and usually identify and are raised as female. I think there might be finer details to this that escape me, but biologists feel free to comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:28 PM
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wtf is this attempt to label anything men impose on themselves "inequality". Sex is not a fucking human right. Even if they don't have hands, they can just buy one of those new age toys for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:25 PM
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Sis... were you me? Didn't even matter that he had a high paying job and paid for everything and definitely would have gotten a nanny. I really disliked being the thought of being used for my womb and genetics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:22 PM
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men cheating other men and as usual, women pay the price that is none of our business or doing? what's new!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:06 PM
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well, everyone in the comments were saying HE dodged a bullet because she should have gone and that this is a once in a lifetime man If something wiped out every other man on earth and prevented baby boys from being born again then, yes. Anything short of a mass extinction event, no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:44 PM
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she looks good objectively and she also looks waaaaay better than many 18 year old male basement dwellers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 03:46 PM
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the weddings I've attended so far have the dad saying "my wife and I", so it's a step up though still not great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 03:33 PM
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In fairly progressive countries like mine, I think it still exists because it's related to religion, which in turn is very related to the whole submission thing (though I laugh because the husband knows he has generally has to submit for a happy marriage to work), and the problematic virginity thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 03:31 PM
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While I agree, Bridgerton >>> absolute trash like Game of Thrones for the lack of r*pe, at least showing that women's pleasure matters (it seems? not too sure since I skipped most parts) Still not great values with the perpetual themes of madonna vs. whore for women, while the men sleep around till they get married (take note lurkers: they're rich, they're handsome, and you're neither), but a step up from literally almost every other fantasy, period drama or sci-fi / hero-type show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 03:27 PM
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If he sounds good for most part and you think that the root issue is emotional intimacy, then maybe make your decision on that? I skimmed through your post (sorry it's pretty long) and there doesn't seem to be any glaring red flags, more that you guys can't connect. Probably not getting the full picture Truth it nobody is perfect but some people don't think it's worthwhile to date a man who hasn't figured himself out yet, for very valid reasons. Others think couples counselling worked and I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 10:14 AM
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I know it's not worth escalating, but have you tried reversing it on him like: "white middle class males think that their ability to speak makes them important" "white middle class males have everything on a platter but still get fat, bald and ugly by their late 20s" "white middle class males have everything yet still blame others for being relatively unsuccessful when it's just their incompetence" If I'm forced to debate somebody who was never planning to argue in good faith, I take the same ap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 05:27 AM
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Then when they can't yell at you (ie. you blocked their calls), it turns into verbal diarrhea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 05:23 AM
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I don't even understand how most women are okay with birthing a child because the dad donated a little bit of sperm. See, if we go back to bIoLoGy that LVM like to ignore, only they fittest men are supposed to breed. The Masai supposedly made men hunt a freaking male lion as proof. They don't have guns. I'm pretty against hunting animals minding their own business, but until men have to do something similarly life threatening with not much more than a spear before they're allowed to have sex, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:20 PM
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ALWAYS jump straight to how great it's going to be to watch their kid play sports also the reason they quote for wanting boys. When you ask them why they're fixated on boys, its so that they have "things to do with the kids". Then you know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 01:54 AM
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Because they don't want to be realistic and stop harassing women out of their league. They all think they'll be the next Musk or Buffett (rmb when Buffett was the idol of all these manlets) or crypto billionaire. Physical attraction is important to me. If he's filthy rich, but I have no physical attraction to him, that is definitely a deal breaker. Same. They rage even more at this because their world falls apart at the thought that, even if they were to miraculously get billions, they can't pur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:23 PM
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I've learnt to aggressively defend my boundaries and just give a completely cold stare until they stop trying to gaslight me and start feeling ashamed for looking a creep in public (which they are). The alternative? Heard from a female acquaintance that one of the creeps whom I successfully defended my boundaries against, actually crept up behind her while she was waiting for a cab and tried to plant his gross lips on her. YUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:20 PM
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Yes but I acknowledge that I'm picky af in just the looks department alone (have probably met ~5 men in my entire life whom I thought were good-looking, I'm literally not attracted even to the typical "Chad") and I'm okay with that. It doesn't mean I'll always be happy, but I'm happier this way than being married to a HVM who loves me but I don't love back. I also don't want to make someone else unhappy by causing them to be married to someone who doesn't love them FWIW, alot of marriages seem t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:10 PM
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Lol was this some (very bad) attempt at triangulating you? They really think our minds work like ours and that we must beat his supposed previous sex marathon to prove something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:09 PM
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Then she could have unmatched waayyyy earlier 😂 Too true! I'm just glad she didn't have anymore of her time wasted on him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:07 PM
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Exactly! she's attractive, so chances are, decent men probably take her to waaaay more expensive places on a first date. A $30-$70 place is probably polite because she doesn't know what his budget is like and she's giving him a chance after that (first mistake). Glad she wised up and got out of there fast. Joke's on him for claiming that he doesn't have to deal with that anymore. Same dude is already complaining about how he can't get any dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:26 PM
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Tip #3 Be super thirsty! Follow the profiles of good looking guys, make sure to ‘like’ their pics too..boost their confidence and get them to notice you. Men love to do this, even in relationships. Clearly we need to emulate this practice Don't forget to tell them how you'd like to tie them down and peg them till they scream! If they get outraged, tell them to chill out or they'll age faster and hit the wall and no one will want them. Followup with "manslut" because clearly being this attractive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:23 PM
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Imagine if women bothered to turn it around. "are you sure you don't like being pegged? what about if she lubes you up real good first? Or if she gets this particular toy. You haven't even tried it? How about we ask that guy to do it? Oh c'mon now, don't be so sensitive, I'm just playing the devils advocate, you don't know what you're missing out on"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:20 PM
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"what do you mean I don't know how to make you cum? I've banged 50 women" "yeah, and disappointed every single one of them probably" F*ckbois are actually the worst. Even if they're not pornsick, they don't do anything except masturbate into you. Uncomfortably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:18 PM
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I think you should shoot back, since it seems that this is an internship or at least only a part time job. Save all evidence and even if you don't have that, just give your statement to your university. You don't have to put it on your CV in the future and if anyone ever finds out and asks why, you can say that he was unprofessional and bullied you after you rejected him and you filed a complaint with your university. It's just leaving a paper trail to back you up. The good (or rather, bad news)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:12 PM
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so... his next date is going to be in another 10 years? Since he didn't learn to save up the first time and thought $30-$70 was expensive, maybe he can learn to save up over the next 10 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:09 PM
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on top of that, if he hates relationships and just wants to live under a rock, he could... why get married? other than being a hobosexual / unwilling to cook and clean for himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:28 AM
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There is an understood reputation that Asian women will accept worthless men if they’re white. I don’t know how fair this is generally, but I do know that one of my best friends wants, in her words, “mixed babies because they’re the cutest,” It depends. It held true 30 years ago when most of Asia was poor. A passport to the West was a golden ticket, even if it came attached to an ugly dude. Now it'll probably only hold true in rural parts of Asia. In any wealthy / cosmopolitan city, undesirable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:37 AM
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Exactly. I can't rmb breaking skin as a kid. Even animals know how to control their bites (they learn as puppies). Not to mention all the gaslighting around her starting it when he was annoying her first. A baby brother (toddler) ran around biting people at random when he was teething. He never drew blood. This 27 yo manlet did it on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:54 AM
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bites that break skin can cause life threatening infections, not sure why these bozos don't get that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:52 AM
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good men also know how spell? what on earth is this "kno"? baby talk because he has a baby that he's proudly acknowledged but clearly not going to take responsiblity for? Also "no secret family" is not a standard for "good men". The bar, as always, is in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 02:32 PM
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It's cruel to mock anyone for an immutable characteristic - especially diseases since no one chooses to get inflicted with that. Didn't even know who Chris Rock was before this but glad he got socked in the jaw. Sounds like the kind of guy who won't be able to take a similar joke about himself (ie. if he had ED or something).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:56 PM
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honestly I think this is basic decency and most socially adept LV people will know not to pry so obviously, but still happily dig into your personal information if they know think they won't get caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:25 PM
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If this isn't a male troll (which I strongly suspect it is by the last few sentences... basically an incel confession), this is the mentality that pickmes who harm other women have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:23 PM
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they have two hands, don't they. so what's the outlet for disabled women going to be? free shopping and spa trips? Can't cost more than the males' porno addictions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:14 PM
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Just curious, has this "bigger person" stuff ever been pushed on men? No, but they get their asses wiped even professionally when they do something because they were "emotional". "Emotional" is a free pass for men and a default label and negative trait for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:09 PM
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literally natural selection, no? The very thing they try to (wrongly) justify being pedophiles on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:51 AM
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that's so disgusting and typical of the attitude these NVM show. Be nice to them out of civility and pity and they try to take advantage of you. bet that old geezer thinks that he's finally at the age where no one can call him out - only says what kind of person he was for much of his life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:47 AM
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I posted about this happening on FLUS and another FDS-er got triggered and said it must be my fault. Call it what it is - these women are LVW. It's fine. Move on and make other friends in the same group. Is it because she thinks I’m a threat in some way?... They talk to you first to see how they can use you and how much of a threat you might pose to their identity / role within the group. In my case, the other men and women in the group are from wealthy / connected families. Only myself and this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:53 PM
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When an ex used to try and shame me over my bodycount (we were the same, btw) and say that it didn't matter for men but it mattered for women, I suggested that he do an OnlyFans. Afterall, if it doesn't matter for men, go earn some money from it? he shut up thereafter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 06:21 PM
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"She works in a very high profile position and it will harm her professionally if it comes out" I fear for this poor woman. He's 100% going to use it against her as revenge in the future so long as she doesn't jump when he gives an order
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 06:18 PM
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I read another article where a man was apparently "stressed out" by his autistic son who needed food prepared in exactly the same way or he wouldn't eat it. He was buying food from a low cost store where the workers are lowly paid. The old lady working there accidentally prepared it in the wrong way (who knows how good his communication is anyway), he threw the hot soup at her and yes, she got scalded. These man babies apparently breaking down when being forced to parent the kids they chose to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 06:12 PM
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It's not just American males. It's loser males of every culture. The rural Asian ones just don't know how to use social media yet. To these creatures, they can't be losers because THEY.ARE.MALE. They have a penis! They might even have a bit of money in the bank or occasionally a six-pack. Therefore the world is bad because how dare they not get handed everything on a silver platter. But the only people they dare to take their anger out on are women, not the "Chads" good looking or successful men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:50 PM
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Ikr. I tend not to confront them because (1) the likelihood of them being unstable is quite high, (2) I have a bit of sympathy for drivers as I imagine it's really boring, but then they can always play their own music or even podcasts so.... jeez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:45 PM
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I don't keep any male or female friends who do that so thankfully anyone like that that I meet is a distant memory. However, when I'm trapped (like in an uber / plane or something), men just talk. and talk. and talk. Once I announced that I was going to listen to my music and put on my headphones. When I paused it midway to check something, I realised that he hadn't stopped talking, the whole damn time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:58 PM
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also let's be realistic. if toddlers had really played with it, the plastic covers would be chipped and dented / half off and broken because they throw shit around. so... 100% done by the adult male infant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:54 PM
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"who wants to decorate daddy's new car with keys?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:51 PM
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I would venture for most part that it's the latter. Add in sexual assault and the trauma that it leaves you with. Even women who tell me they have high libido by nature and don't care, and have never been assaulted, will tell me about how they were led on by predatory men who want the girlfriend experience without any effort or commitment on their part. If there's really a full blown lib fem hippie who wants to bang a new man every day, good for them but I don't think that's a majority of the po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:30 AM
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but his lEgAcY. He needs to be cloned for free and have his clones raised for free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:28 AM
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I follow one such influencer (he has good luxury content) and he's always posting about "Daddy bought me [insert expensive jewelry / bags / stilettos etc]", power more to him. But surprise surprise, NO screams of "gold digger" on his page, even though he's openly flaunting that he's being valued for his sex appeal to another male. He works out, has makeup game, taste, while most hobosexuals apparently won't even wipe their bum so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:24 AM
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angels belong with angels, and devils deserve devils. That's it, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 04:09 PM
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oh yes. Was repeatedly harassed by a group of low-life scrotes and tried to file a police report. The reply was.... "but they haven't done anything yet". Sir, when a group of randos starts following you around but they haven't done anything yet, maybe you'll take action. police - mostly men and mostly disappointing in every (even developed) country
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 05:10 PM
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oh yep, these UN "peacekeepers". Or US troops in Afghanistan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:53 PM
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The victims of the Japanese were other Asians. Not Westerners. The US needed an ally because they wanted to control China. So Japan basically got off easy. It's funny when the US gets onto the moral podium and starts cussing at China or even whatever country that isn't bowing to them. Asia ex-China generally welcomes the US to counterbalance China, but no one in Asia actually thinks much of the US. It's hardly a surprise that in the countries that they do have bases, the locals protest. And no s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:52 PM
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2 years after I dumped him for wanting to go on a dick liberation fest, he came back begging for a coffee catchup. At the coffee place, announced that he would like to try again. With a handful of chocolates. Asked if he could give me a kiss ("of course not"), tried anyway, and was pikachu surprised that I dodged. When we broke up he insisted there were alot of hot women he wanted to fuck, even though he admitted I was out of his league. He complained about my family being poor because he though…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:31 PM
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This sounds exactly like my first serious relationship where we were also each others' "firsts". Down to the motivation, the parents (who were really really upset), and complete clown fuckery. He did not like it when he was dumped and 2 years later was still crying because no one else wanted to date him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:23 PM
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Not to mention that Shah Jahan actually had a harem, and by most accounts did not use it much (some marriages were diplomatic / politics) and fathered most of his children with Mumtaz / Arjumand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:21 PM
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He couldn't keep his own kidney, he cannot keep her. Also bIoLoGy. Law of natural selection -> he has unfit genes, shouldn't be passed on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:15 PM
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Yes, if they apparently have the audacity to try and ask for the ring back and for date money back when they don't get sex, they should fucking return a kidney and life energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:11 PM
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I think most women automatically do this? Even pre-FDS women, if you've a single shred of self respect, you'd shut down emotionally when you realise how your partner is deliberately not meeting your needs. Cue dead bedrooms and partners literally walking up behind you to try and stick their unwanted dicks in, hoping that somehow if they surprise an unwilling women, it's not rape and she'll like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:10 PM
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Shame the fuck out of him publicly and ruin his career and he'll definitely drop the daughter. The daughter can hate her now but at least in a few decades she might grow up and mend the relationship. Rather than have the daughter groomed, raped, likely also pimped out, impregnated and left with STDs and no future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:05 PM
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When I didn't know better I would get my purse out and offer to pay but no man ever took me up on it. Yes, exactly. None but a cheapo uni bf ever took me up on a 50-50 (pre FDS and depressed). And that was because I didn't even think it was a date, just schoolmates catching up. I used to use it to emphasize that "I don't expect friends to pay for me" when I wasn't sure if I wanted to date them. The men still paid. Because they started out as a date and they were keen on keeping the context that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:44 PM
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quelle pathetic. in reality he was probably just hoping for free sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:38 PM
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So I often wonder if I'm missing out and should make more friends by giving people the benefit of doubt. It's posts like this that make me think, nada, I'm fine having less so-called friends. The last time I've heard something like this from a "friend" was thankfully at least 4 years ago. That was such an NVM friend (plus several more) who sucked up so much resources unreciprocated, that to this day, when I sense a single whiff of something off (insecurity, jealousy, faking a deeper friendship w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:31 PM
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Just World Bias This should be higher. Didn't happen to them because they "behaved" better! So they deserve what they got and you deserve what they got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:19 PM
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Hope she's keen to work 3 jobs and keep remitting that money now that he's realised she still has no boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:16 PM
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this is too scarily accurate. except this: 6 missed calls the minute you wake up if you sleep at a friends or get a cab home more like 16
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:09 PM
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if you're in different teams and / or different positions (far apart that both of you know there will never be a threat to each other), yes. otherwise no. ideally you also serve different bosses. re: the throw you under the bus for a raise thing
/r/askFDS14/03/22 11:29 AM
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I think they see the standards that their fathers don't have to deal with. Shit fathers tend to make for shit sons. The mothers are busy enough holding up the entire family doing more than her fair share of labour to start with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 08:48 AM
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it's not called a dick measuring contest for nothing. It's the most important thing in the world to scrotes. And they don't understand that no one else is interested in theirs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:14 PM
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it's not a black and white thing, and I don't think the West understands anything that isn't black and white very well. For example, in East Asia, while it's sort of tolerated that rich and wealthy men have affairs, it's not publicly condoned. So if you're a politician or prominent businessman with political ties, you can't be seen to do that. The whole "family values" shit. Of course it makes it worse for battered women to leaving their cheating / abusive husbands, but increasingly it's also a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:02 PM
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Same. I'd also require them to provide trust fund accounts for each kid they want to have so that at least I'm also financially protected for that in the case of an affair / divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:55 PM
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Oh wow, his stupid 7 months of salary (probably pretty low to start with) is apparently worth another human's life and agency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:53 PM
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traditional also isn't ideal to start with, since women didn't have a choice. It was what kept societies functioning with the sexism, that's all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:51 PM
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I don't think it's worth your time to try and understand these beings, except to better identify and avoid them. It's not worth trying to understand why someone wants to manipulate you, just that they want to manipulate you. It's a them problem. If you let it stay rent free in your head then it's taking up your valuable time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:37 PM
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"Please don't group me with these" Then do your part and call them out? Stop defending "bros"? Stop gaslighting and discrediting women? Stop hanging out with pedophiles aka men looking for teenage girls to groom? They'll only look for younger and younger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:28 PM
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he included HIS share of the money spent to inflate the number to his advantage. (100% every single time he claims X money spent on "her") actually, you're right. An ex used to pull this shit on me because he claimed that "if not for me, he wouldn't go to expensive places at all". Of course ignoring the fact that he knew I was expensive before he decided to date me (and I did warn him about my tastebuds). Fine, I went to expensive places with friends instead and he got upset and jealous. Literal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:59 PM
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I just googled this show and wtf? Deepti is attractive, Shake is NOT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:32 AM
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I always find comments like these interesting because the preferred type doesn't "win," so to speak. In this example, he fully intends on walking all over the white woman and taking advantage of her unpaid labor, yet many white women will think this is good because she was "chosen." bingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:30 AM
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same man be crying that he gets no dates though. "where is the free sex with women out of my league that third wave feminism promised me!" Also, idgi. No woman would go to a date with someone who made her feel uncomfortable for $200, let alone $20 (which is what I'm assuming a guy who has to "keep investments low" is going to offer)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:24 AM
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Jeez. Hot men still chase women. If anything, they seem disinterested in women who throw themselves at them, unless they're fuckbois who want a string of casual hookups, which does damage their reputation over time if the community is small enough. Also this is just like someone complaining like they're not a trust fund baby. The lottery of genetics and the lottery of birth are precisely that - lotteries. Live with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:08 AM
42

idgi, she wanted to be with him forever... for what? The next 10 years?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:52 PM
26

she's devastated because she invested so much, sacrificed so much, for him. stop investing in men, ladies they invest in you first. To the point that it's really painful for them if they dare cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:47 PM
22

he's alot older than her. men suffer a similar decline in fertility but won't admit it. dick literally isn't worth much to begin with and actually declines over time. Whereas for most women, carrying the child for 9 months is exhausting and dangerous and just the beginning. Childcare is decades, and older women, are still able and willing to do this, often even better due to maturity. Which also means that unless a man is similarly HVM in taking care of his offspring (which would have to start f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:43 PM
20

That also takes being willing to wipe their own asses, so we know they never will until they find bangmaid 2.0 who is willing to do so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:32 AM
47

The worst part is - she's usually out of his league. That's the only reason why she got the ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:30 AM
58

Also you if someone is going to fuck you over they will. Pin this and note that it applies to almost every other situation in life. It's not that everyone is a terrible person but giving someone the benefit of doubt is a measured thing - there are boundaries that can't be crossed. Women are socialised into always being nice and mentally explaining away others' bad behaviours when to a large proportion of 50% of the population (men), you're walking around with a "PREY" sign on your forehead. They…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:22 AM
9

The difference between the types of women and men on that app... another ploy to get women to lower standards for men who are way below their league
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 11:23 PM
10

Honestly just glad that women are leveling up in general - explaining his low success rate (although lets face it, if the women did fall for him, he'd just be bragging about it) OLD looks horrendous. I'd have to be invited to a really amazing date to even be tempted. Higher risk requires higher returns, ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 11:07 PM
8

"Why aren't women out of my league attracted to me, as is my right and entitlement!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:45 AM
113

Isn't that a legit crime? Or is that only for HIV?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:42 AM
89

That's a very elaborate story to explain why he's cheating. Poor woman, glad she got out of there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:30 AM
18

Do these people not have jobs? Or hobbies? Or friends? likely not. But I guess they can all make friends when they join the FDS Superfans club lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:27 AM
4

A scrote who has barely any interaction with women that he's not related to, trying to mansplain femininity. Great credentials there, brofessor /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:17 PM
6

Better yet, Elon can build them self cleaning sex bots, therapy bots, maid bots. Clone them mini-mes (with nanny bots) for their lEgAcY. Get that spaceship launched already! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:15 PM
3

I think he's financially controlling. he started all this theory how he's in a period where he's having anxieties because of money (even if he has enough savings to live without working for 2 years) Look, for me and a few of my other friends who deal with numbers alot, calculating yield is an occupational hazard. I once laughed at a friend who was calculating unit costs on pasta at the grocery store but we're both happy to blow $100 pp at an improptu dinner. What's different though, and a red fl…
/r/askFDS23/02/22 03:00 PM
10

I think you're right. It's a sign that they don't really see you as an individual. It could have been like "you're about the same height as Hannah, she has problems getting on this bike too" and like "I have this friend Kate who has the same interests as you"
/r/askFDS23/02/22 02:46 PM
11

Yes, exactly. Netflix was pretty biased in that movie against that woman - even in the casting you could see her being painted in a negative life. As a rule, I personally do actually assume that there's a payback eventually, so I don't take accept really expensive gifts. But lying about an "all expenses paid trip" is that - lying. I like the actress, but I don't think Neff is a great person either, and I don't get why she's such an apologist for Anna. Contrary to what the show depicts, where Nef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:37 PM
22

Curious who sees her as worse? The loser LVM? Anna preyed on greed, Simon preyed on kindness. Big difference. That being said, she's no idol or role model - except perhaps in self confidence and NGAF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:29 PM
6

spot on lmao. Only time they have something nice to say about a lady boss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:21 PM
23

I thought it was a way they tried to shortcut relationship building and make you trust them / establish a connection
/r/askFDS23/02/22 02:14 PM
11

I try to only introduce FDS to women who already have an FDS lifestyle and high self esteem. I'd take a bit of a gamble on those who are largely FDS in the way they let other people treat them, except in their dating lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:22 AM
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And we're supposed to be sad that we might be single because we have standards? This is also why we don't date low achieving men and hobosexuals - there's very little for them to lose if they get a criminal charge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:15 AM
3

her comics instagram account does! I think the handle is blogicomics There was a recent, possibly vday related post which was encouraging women to reach out and ask guys out... I think there were other, much smaller red flag items in the past None of it is malicious or overtly pickme; don't think she's a MRA apologist or a conscious pickme. If anything she probably represents the mainstream view and her content is usually wholesome. It's just awful to see a content creator you like posting this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:12 AM
109

Somehow (or deliberately?), retail associated the rising spending power with women the stupid sex posi movement. You'll see these hipster insta brands (I think it was Realisation), or some fitness / illustrator blogger like blogilates (hate to say this because I really like her other content), push this stupid "take the first move / ask him out, blah blah blah" to look radical or hip or whatever. Like, I'm really glad that in this era, I don't have to marry a man to have enough to eat, but how o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:02 AM
27

no one wants to be his bangmaid + life assistant so he frames it as a job? "lifelong commitment" LOL. what's next? fucking him? the red flags too: "dealing with my crazy ass aside" nice try. also [potential] 70k when you're about 30 years old, working a 24/7 job is BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:48 AM
4

Really? That's a bit sad for people who are transgendered, guessing this backlash is from all the sexual predators wrapping their penises in a skirt and pretending that they belong in the women's bathroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:55 PM
10

Just a finger? Try some of the stuff they use. Do it suddenly too - if he can't say no in time, he wanted it anyway, why is his butthole exposed? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:37 PM
59

If he was a real HVM, I'm pretty sure he'd either break up with her or suggest therapy. In addition to not sleeping with her friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:31 PM
15

A man mansplaining a complex and important decision that women make? Yawn... moving on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:18 PM
6

oh the denial that is men male foetuses "going their own way". they literally can't accept that they're desperate for women and try to spin that into dehumanizing women into body parts along with claiming that they're celibate... by choice? the self delusion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:10 PM
12

I mean, they're parasites, period. They look like parasites and the world's only fair to them when they get to parasite off a supermodel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:07 PM
11

kids shouldn't be allowed to have kids. every man I know who watches football, from the spectrum of NVM to HVM, hasn't broken anything over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:05 PM
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Can't really rmb but think it was when I doing one of those searches for hOw To CoMmUnIcAtE with a NVM doing NVM things. The FDS answer made so much sense and just confirmed that he was being manipulative. I've also realised that different subs hate on FDS for different reasons. The incel ones are obsessed with us, sure, but in the other subs the male commenters tend to cry at 50:50 / "dIvOrCe RaPe" bullshit and the female commenters tend to get offended by the no liberal sex and think that we m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:55 PM
3

do block him if he does! Honestly nothing good can come out of further interaction as you know that he'll just be trying to hurt you back + the best revenge is silence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:04 PM
8

"pair bond" is killing me lol. What happened to "marriage"? Is this one of the other sex posi words lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:02 PM
6

Yep, you know that he'd pretend to be the good guy and say that he was genuinely interested in her and not sex!!! Except... he clearly never asked her to be his gf because he didn't want to commit and did just want sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:02 PM
2

I think it's actually a lot more than just your looks. Ask yourself why your appearance contributes so much to your self esteem? Yes, we take care of ourselves and our looks, but what about you as a person? Do you feel good about yourself? How do you see yourself outside of your looks? Is there anything? Can you compliment yourself on something else? (and not compliments predicated on being nice to other people) Or is your self identity centered around your looks and how other people view you? I…
/r/askFDS13/02/22 05:32 PM
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I told an ex to have a few million per kid in a trust fund for each kid he wanted ready, then I'd have the kids. That money wasn't to be used in raising them, it was for their future. Cut his football team expectations down dramatically, especially when I clarified that winning the lottery & inheritance don't count.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:18 PM
3

I feel bad if I don’t move in with him. Why is that? Social conditioning? My independence is very important to me and moving in with a man feels restrictive. Yup, yup and yup. Even if he's paying for the entire flat (doubt it), you don't want to be at his mercy. And he’s 29! He’s getting his PhD and I’m an undergrad. Certain older individuals in my life have advised me to stay with him as he has a certain future; he will be very successful. Sorry hun, but he's just getting a PhD, he's not invent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:15 PM
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Your attitude is <3333 Him: so these are my reason to break up, what do you think, do you think otherwise? Me: Nah, you've made up your mind and I'm cool with it, thanks for letting me know, bye! I'd be curious for an update in the coming weeks / months - I bet he's still dying inside from your refusal to try and "reason" it out with him or chase him in any way. Wouldn't be surprised if he tries to re-enter your life at some point I didn't have the confidence to break it off. And HE broke it off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:00 PM
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I thought they did it on purpose actually, for the same reasons - to not get emotionally attached. Then at 35, they have a meltdown about how their normal friends are married with kids and they aren't, start "trying to date seriously" but wonder why they can't feel anything anymore. Yeah no dude, can't reverse that easily. By contrast, single women at 35 are in touch with reality (that no man >>> LVM / NVM) and perfectly content with their lives, no meltdowns from there lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:54 PM
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now that you mention it, it's really funny that these scrotes try to claim this I mean, if women can't pairbond... who tf raised these scrotes then? Wiped their baby asses (and probably still wipe their grown asses today), woke up multiple times during the night to comfort and feed them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:47 PM
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Don't wanna reveal too much because I imagine it's a pretty specific incident and easy to ID, but there are some holiday regions in the world where plate tectonics and thus volcanos are very active. Plate tectonics + ocean = high risk of tsunami. would you go to a place that had a high risk of earthquakes + large volcanic eruptions (the volcano was on high alert and we were maybe 12-13 km from it) + tsunami? cuz I wouldn't and after I found out where we were going, I was willing to forgo my part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:31 AM
6

"cOmPrOmIsE" when he's not behaving like a normal human being (sleeping at night)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:09 AM
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Remember ladies, even if he means well, his own ignorance can put you into very dangerous situations. Yep, faced the prospect of being in the zone of not just one or two but THREE natural disasters at the same time all because of his ignorance. We nearly died and there were high death tolls in a neighbouring region (spared by geography). "It's okay, I'd hold on to you and protect you" "No, seriously, go die by yourself if you want to that badly"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:06 AM
3

I think it's because it's religious?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:24 PM
5

I am a tiny woman and when travelling I used to wear glasses and hoodies and baggy clothes that made me look like a young kid / teenager. Once I struggled with multiple extremely heavy luggages on the many stairs on London's tube (not a good decision, multiple interchanges too). Tons of tall, broad shouldered men walked past not helping. Only two separate people stopped to help me. Both were equally tiny women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:17 PM
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I just googled this and it's horrific. The pickmeisha mother of one of the rapists was all about her lil baby boy getting locked up and not the fact that he was a f*cking monster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:07 PM
115

I have had one male friend actually protect me. Others who are now mere acquaintances have given out my number to strangers who asked without my permission after being bribed with a few rounds of drinks for the table (I left before that dude went over). And these dudes are wealthy and from wealthy families
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:03 PM
3

Legit saw this being tried. I suppose on their bios you'll see "crypto engineer | Next generation cutting edge innovative thought leader| successful entrepreneur of the future" basically a modern day deepak chopra of nonsensical buzzwords
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:41 PM
2

He lost me at the first two rows of text. Would've just replied "TL;DR, pls see therapist" and blocked. That friend's still too nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:35 PM
7

But what I'm getting at is, why the toxic positivity around looks? It's a cop out to avoid addressing a more real issue that conventional beauty still very much matters - in good ways and bad. "Instead of addressing the fact that society treats (mostly women) people who aren't conventionally good looking quite badly, let's just call everybody beautiful so all's made fair! Stop the complaining". A second thing was that it was probably in response to literally all beauty-related industries showing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:24 PM
25

iT's ThE tHoUgHt ThAt CoUnTs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:11 PM
46

In a nutshell they talk about how you should just never divulge your sexual history, or what you've "tried" cause men will get disgustingly jealous and pushy if they found out you experimented with a previous partner but do not want to do those acts with them. Omg yes. However if the previous partner happened to be really good at oral, suddenly the comparison stops. Also, even if you share it as coercion or sexual assault (which is it in almost all cases), all their disgusting little brains will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:33 AM
3

Yes it's hilarious when they out themselves; they know the threat of not having to date them makes us celebrate and it freaking kills this kind of miserable LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:21 AM
3

Good on you! Likewise didn't have an easy time growing up and can't stand all these people who act like being born with a good support system is a personal achievement rather than a massive stroke of luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:14 AM
1

Poor bastard pulled a muscle with that reach. His mental muscles are pretty weak... probably from all that porn use
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:12 AM
1

Oh he always wanted Jane (and still does) and Jane's probably aiming higher because she's 5 years older than this poor girl and knows what kind of scrote this man is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:39 PM
1

Can we have a template response for idiots like this? Just copy and paste instead before blocking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:36 PM
4

lol so now even our self esteem is gonna be mansplained? this is one of the most useless studies ever funded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:21 PM
3

no no no, how bout we troll 2 in the same town (or better yet, even more), and ask them to wear smth super specific like an orange ties or smth. then take a picture of all the orange ties at the rendezvous point like a cafe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:15 PM
2

Q1: what if there's a way to impose seemingly necessary conditions for visitations, but in reality these are boundary settings that we know he can't be assed to do? Q2: anything that the courts really frown upon, that you can silently aggravate an ex into doing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:09 PM
21

"great support system" is now a flex? Massive red flag means that the women in his life are pickmeishas who wait on him and he has a gang of "bros" who are probably the only people he actually treats with respect, aka loves, all while 100% being a homophobe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:00 PM
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Except... there's no gotcha because we don't want to date them to start with. Happy for them to keep calling us naggy / bitchy / whatever as long this type of male actually leaves us alone. Except that you know they won't because they keep thinking FDS women must be unattractive when in reality we're only here because we're sick of male harassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:52 PM
66

The only appropriate response to this is "promise please?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:49 PM
9

Like literally, I will copy and paste their texts back to them as a response instead of typing what I would say This is gold. Saving this but hoping I'll never be in a situation to have to use it again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:30 AM
5

Block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:03 AM
27

"I'm not a fan of misogyny, are you?" They think that setting up a strawman makes it easier to attack and condemn you, so set one back up. Responding with tricky words is the only way to deal with someone who will only converse in tricky words. They started by asking a question in bad faith, because we all know what's the answer they want. I think it's a bit hard for most women because we don't interact with others in bad faith. OTOH men often interact with others in bad faith to manipulate a re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:32 AM
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the mental gymnastics are strong with this one. she should definitely sue his pants off for child support and send his words to his employer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:27 PM
8

The cop said neck tattoos are a sign of problems with authority and never date any man who has them. I've also heard it's a sign of extreme stupidity because they're just really helping the cops ID themselves RIP to this poor woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:43 PM
0

tongue punching omg I cannot hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:39 PM
17

First of all, it is rape. Secondly, I think the issue is more around evidence at this point and protecting yourself if he were to try and retaliate. Can't advise on that part and you need a lawyer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:36 PM
3

put 'em all in a room since they're all on the same page, away from people who aren't. problem solved, ain't it? except that they won't like that very much at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:30 PM
12

Asians praising another Asian with large eyes with double eyelids for "having beautiful Cacasianish eyes" and Asian women with large breasts for "having a nice body resembling that of white women" I'm not sure where you're located but I genuinely haven't heard this kind of talk (where any compliment is made with a reference to Caucasian features) for decades. The cultures I've been exposed to are Singaporean, Hong Kong, Japanese and Indonesian Chinese and I've never heard such a comparison. A lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 04:13 PM
1

I just used public figures because I don't know of anyone else who would consent to their photos being posted lol. I mean, ditto celebrities in the West too right? My point is, I really don't think East Asian societies' standards of beauty are white washed at all. Conventional beauty standards are incredibly homogenized nowadays: petite / slim, big boobs, large eyes, small noses, delicate bone structure (for most part), good skin. I don't even think East Asia even white worships anymore (China, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:54 PM
12

Also, East Asians do not all have monolids FYI. A very significant proportion of the populations have double eyelids au naturel. Ditto eye shapes and sizes and chest sizes and nose sizes as well. There's a range for every ethnicity including Caucasians. It's pretty much just as offensive to class all or majority East Asians as being small breasted, having small eyes and being monolid or flat nosed. I'm also based in Asia and I'm East Asian and I have supposedly "eurocentric" features that I see …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:09 PM
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You’ll never be enough for somebody who’s empty on the inside ladies. Stop wasting your energy And more than that, someone who likes you entirely for your features is 100% going to treat you like a piece of meat to fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:27 PM
20

double eyelids, large eyes, pale skin, a tall nose bridge, and big breasts. Other than the fixation on double eyelids, most globalized cultures these days basically have the same "conventional" beauty standards for women. Without going into the whole pseudo-science possibility of these being evolutionary standards or whatever (which is the favourite topic of bIoLoGy incels), the problem isn't that beauty standards exist insomuch as far too much importance (financial, social, emotional) being pla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:25 PM
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I've done that back to them (the reports) and holy sh*t it does fan the flames. But even then in general, other than literal spam, they can't take the same energy for as long as they dish out. They all cry and run away eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:38 PM
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at least she left him in a place where he could shelter from the cold. he made her freeze for literally nothing and he has to audacity to try call her petty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:20 PM
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block and delete. You already know. oh on how to kick him out of your mom's house... might be a bit tricky but don't hesitate to call the cops if he's violent. I wouldn't go into length about why you're kicking him out, just emphasize the property is under your mum's name (emphasizing that it's her right) and he is not a renter, he just stays with you sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:02 AM
6

someone link her here before it's too late... her mindset's right and the LVM brother is trying to turn her into a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:16 PM
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I don't believe she "accidentally" purchased those counterfeit items since it's not like she doesn't know luxury brands and it's incredibly easy to buy reps or knock offs. I also think that reps and knock offs are a personal choice... and luxury brands don't make one look good. Still comes down to self care and taste. However if she did indeed use a dior bag counterfeit in a dior ad, it's a poor business decision that's biting her in the ass now. All the ripping apart of her character is just th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:58 PM
30

Honestly most of them aren't actually sorry or taking responsibility. Look at #9 - plays women around for fun, tries to excuse that by saying that he let alcohol control his life, as if it wasn't a decision in his own control, claims that he doesn't know he was hurting them. Then he got hurt once by someone in the same way (likely nowhere as bad, the woman probably just had self respect and walked out on him or smth), and suddenly he has fee fees and a bleeding heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:17 AM
43

something I learned early on - always followup a dodgy meeting / superior with an email summarizing the key things discussed and deliverables. they may not acknowledge it, but then the ball is in their court to explain why they didn't correct a misunderstanding. if someone asks you to do a really dodgy thing, do the above and then print out the email and take it home. That's your insurance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:02 AM
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they still firmly believe these fake posts are real and all 3.5 billion women on Earth collectively have this mentality Yknow, I don't think it's a bad thing. About the only way that they'd collectively raise their standards as the bar is in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:27 PM
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until the day we start uploading humiliating videos of men when they're at their lowest and laugh and spit at them the way men do to women just because they feel like it. but you know the outrage when men just get a hair hurt (or god forbid, their porn history leaked), so unfortunately no. The only thing that might work is to boycott every single person involved in the production and distribution of the firm, including cinemas which screen it. Might work if there are enough people. Edit: just ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:07 PM
3

not too late to abort this scrote's legacy if she so chooses...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 12:47 PM
27

isn't this... illegal by now? So they're abetting crimes and fully admitting to doing so. Yeah the media would make a shitfest out of this when it picks up steam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 12:46 PM
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d'accord, unfortunately this is the only space on reddit where pointing this out doesn't result in the mods trying to ban you for being "sexist"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:29 PM
45

The MRAs of today will jump on that to say that men were also tortured, that men also had sexual violence visited upon them. That's true and not right but they some how act as if women aren't the biggest sufferers of that during a war just because some men also got raped. And completely ignore the fact that sexual violence is a daily, plausible threat to a woman in peacetime from the day she is born till the day she dies. What does it say when the worst that happens to a small percentage of men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:21 PM
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meanwhile if a male said "women tend to get [dramatic/ insert some other negative adjective]" and not even talking about a personal choice...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:14 PM
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the mod line made me laugh. the mods in most other subs are invariably men or the pickmes they allow to show diversity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:12 PM
61

that they also believe their own grandmothers and mothers and sisters and daughters and nieces and girlfriends and wives are not human? you mean those appliances? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:07 PM
29

the last line kinda says it all. He still doesn't see women as humans, it's just a performance to get closer to "one". 100% ugly inside out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:05 PM
1

LVM overvalue themselves so much. It's like a penny stock fancying itself a blue chip. I fear you are too generous. Penny stocks can be good investments. They're more like ponzi schemes thinking they're the latest unicorn. It's definitely gonna cost the investors later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:03 PM
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This could literally not be more timely with the amount of new age sensi MRAs infecting every possible topic online. A post on another sub was complaining / claiming that criticism of male genital mutilation was "not allowed" whereas criticism of FGM wasn't. His source? some tiktok video where a jewish woman was trying to defend circumcision. Cue major male whining about "unfairness"... A scrote actually started linking MGM - which is in most cases referring to circumcision of infants, to kidnap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:57 PM
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I have seen advice on this sub encouraging people to judge a man based on his relationship with his family and it concerns me for this reason. While it makes sense to observe how a man interacts with his family, it’s important to judge those interactions (or lack thereof) based on his relationship with his family and the reasons for it. I agree with you, but I think the comments are also coming from experience that men with bad childhoods / families rarely mature past that experience. Domestic v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 08:28 AM
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I feel like these are the same people who are like "fAmIlY iS tHe MoSt ImPoRtAnT" and "blood is thicker than water". Usually these people think everybody in their family has a role to play. A role set by them. Family is usually where the original hurt comes from. Some are better left behind. I have dated people with classic families who I’ve overheard behind my back say I should « leave the kid with them if I accidentally get pregnant Anyone who takes pride in having a "classic" family is basica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:35 PM
6

Sorry I don't think men are capable of self reflection at all until they've reached their lowest low. Like life has to kick and punch them about unfairly and then for once it might open their eyes to the fact that other people who aren't born with penises go through worse their entire life. Then and only then... na jk even then many still remain scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:39 PM
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On one hand I feel like perhaps it’s not a big deal, Nope, your instincts are right. It is a big deal, don't (let him) underplay it. There is no if. The only question he should be asking at all is what would you like for your birthday. And even then it should be more targeted along your interests / actual needs. He was probably hoping to get out of it by asking just a few days before your birthday (oh, let her realise that she shouldn't expect anything), realised that he had fucked up by your re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:57 PM
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this + scrotes of this type tend to be unable to look after themselves, and, at least for the earlier half of their live, won't be able to afford help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 03:09 PM
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honestly I just feel bad for Megan. She was sexualised as an extremely young woman and then sort of blacklisted when she called out the transformers director? producer? for being an asshole. then the whole age gap relationship with her NVM ex whom she met when she was 18 and he was 30...yuck. She seemed to have been his mommy bangmaid, earning the dough and popping out 3 of his babies all that shit must have really messed with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:06 PM
3

I don't like either of them and Markle is not entirely innocent in that she actually does want media attention... but only the way she scripts it. Ditto the royal status, looked like she wanted to franchise it her way and the franchise owner disagreed - business opportunity didn't quite work out the way she wanted to, so now she's on an anti-royal brand instead of the royal brand she planned. But, yes, it's because Harry is their precious prince and maybe they're getting Wallis Simpson vibes (th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:33 PM
14

When I was in my very early 20s, a lot of (even slightly) older women used to hate on younger women, even if they didn't exhibit pickme behaviours harmful to themselves. They would literally throw younger women to the wolves and then try to slut shame us as well. I went through a lot of shit and I made up my mind never to do that to another woman who'd done nothing to me. I attended a now ex male friend's birthday where he seemed to be triangulating a slightly younger girl and me. She got dead d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:04 PM
15

"sex work is linked to trafficking and other heinous crimes, what's your defense?" scrote: "you're gross!" his tiny brain can't even do the usual mental gymnastics they pull to try and wriggle out of that one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:55 PM
11

story of all the "networking" approaches men have made to me in my career. And they're all unsolicited to boot. work with a dude on a project & agree to catch up for networking (which is actually super impt in my industry). During lunch - share that I'm going for a holiday with a bf and *poof* he disappears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:29 PM
57

Louder for all the pickmes. If a man needs your help, he will resent you for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:27 PM
41

yet they feel abused by the memory of the high school hottie who didn't want to touch pp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:01 PM
2

I know people say don't waste your energy (and they're usually right), but once in a while I too like to taunt the shit out of some LVM / NVM who's spouting shit online. They really cannot take it when you match their negative energy, and that's also when you realise that women are not the weaker sex, just too nice and letting men of lesser intellect walk over them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 02:59 PM
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lol can confirm. usually they're still using the ex as a backup option in case you decide not to get together with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 02:57 PM
14

another amazing mansplanation for when they can't do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 02:23 PM
2

idk though, would you even want that sort of ick in your life? Post FDS I totally got Cher's "ewww" face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:38 PM
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they're also in the business of quantity and that's how they end up with the dog shit. The ads are just to convince the dog shit that they have a chance with well, their dog shit level of effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:36 PM
6

exactly, even f*ckbois with a shred of decency left will offer to legitimize the child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:08 PM
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modern women ain't signing up to be in a relationship with scrotes like him and they still won't leave us alone. they can f-off and die hugging their unwashed blow up dolls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 03:10 PM
11

love your energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 03:07 PM
10

I saw on another site a guy who was genuinely confessing his mental health issues + terrible WLB + becoming obese + not being able to make any friends, and then also, like it's another thing going wrong for him, how he can't get a girlfriend in years because everyone he swipes on apps is just trying to promote their OF. like where is his girlfriend-therapist-weight loss & life coach appliance!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:34 PM
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"Ha, You're lucky you're beautiful" Also when they find out that you have standards and won't fuck them: "you won't look like this forever", "your looks won't last", yada yada Back in my emotionally damaged days I had NSA relationships with really, really hot dudes. My male "friends" probably thought it was a golden opportunity but got offended that I had standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:28 PM
2

honestly its any forum dominated by men. have you seen finance non-reddit career forums? they're still only somewhat useful because some of the men there are actually financially successful when they're older and sick of the BS, and they go in to spank the younger ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 03:45 PM
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He has a prostate, I thought he'd like it! Exactly. What happened to the bIoLoGy apologists? All silent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 03:39 PM
1

Just my 2 c, having finished the show: yes and no - Ji A is actually very heavily made up (That's quite a lot of effort), whereas Yeawon isn't, and doesn't care. So yes beauty standards count, but so does effort. Yeawon is probably already more attractive than the average person but she wasn't even trying to look her best against other beautiful women. Could say that she's being natural and herself, but hey, this is a dating game. If someone doesn't put it in their all, no surprises if they're n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 03:10 PM
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The 3rd screenshot: Believe it or not most guys are very decisive about the kind of woman they want. And most guys know whether there is any potential within the first meeting. Um hello, women too. both genders have certain physical standards, period. That's really all you take away from the first meeting because everyone puts their best foot forward. Only women are expected to lower theirs. When I was younger, guys would often ask in social gatherings "what my type was", and they got big mad wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 11:21 AM
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same guy going to be really upset if you don't reply him in 2 minutes. we're on demand services, apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 03:13 PM
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I'd approach all men, even those outside a dating context like that. Nothing beats hearing a co-worker confess that about that time they could see the size of your breasts through your top + sweater. He then fully admitted to beating to it. I noticed that he kept staring but I was young and NAM (/s) right? Dating context -> guilty until proven otherwise, but can always be guilty in an instant. The probability of sexual assault is way too high to assume the reverse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:21 PM
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Was the respondent the author of the article. If so, bet he wishes someone would offer the same to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:19 AM
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no. Even if he is genuine, his lack of ability to plan for his own life will stress you out to no end. And while all seems nice now, this lack of foresight will show in other areas. He wants our finances to remain seperate until he becomes the main provider. He wants me to protect my assets through a prenup (but share his if/when they’re accumulated). He has set himself goals to save for a ring, wedding and kids so I can take maternity leave without pay (ie he can cover my car and house repaymen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:36 PM
1

Had a genius of an ex wake me up in the middle of the night because he couldn't sleep. Apparently he felt it was absolutely necessary to tell me. Same idiot would fly into a screaming rage if he got woken up by environmental noise during a nap. So I let it fly as well. OTOH when I was sick and in pain I left the bedroom to sit in the living room so that I wouldn't wake him up too much with the constant groaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:26 PM
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if a man is being awfully handsy on a first date, block and delete If he's being handsy even once, not asking for permission, it's a big no. I've had the same tactic used on me by two absolute creeps (possibly 3, but the third was so awful I've tried to block out any memory of the brief instance where he forced a lunch), one of whom turned out to be a rapist. It's a very quick in and out hard squeeze on the shoulder. Quick: they break your boundaries before you can protest. They're trying to nor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:14 PM
21

Do men understand the difference between flirting and being friendly? No - they will read it however you want and will always blame it on you anyway. I wouldn't even bother being friendly to start with. Can you buy a cheap deadbolt for your door and have it installed for the remaining few days (I hope) you have to spend there? Or ask a friend to stayover with you. Also let your co-workers know if you're friendly with them - and that if you don't turn up, they should call the police and tell the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:00 PM
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he needs to go back to spelling class first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:43 PM
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you never financially entangle yourself with him to your detriment, and you up and leave the moment he tries to do 50:50. A HVM will feel shit about making his wife / gf go 50:50, even if he earns less or is in financial difficulties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:42 PM
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Make it make sense. Can't! Won't! Shan't! /s Also China likely doesn't want them either - they've got an oversupply of men and the women there can't wait to get out. They're definitely not taking bottom barrel imports
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:21 PM
21

you raised two grown ass someone else's sons!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:58 PM
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and got mad that she wasn't going to be his free therapist. Seems like no other woman wants to be either so he came to reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:36 PM
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"Me an aspiring, motivated and clear thinker" + "I just somehow always manage to attract the wrong girls it seems"... ded. Women see through his stupidity and don't even bother to stick around. Also his trying to invoke "human decency" because someone he doesn't even see as human doesn't want to be inconvenienced by him. I also love her "my dad" excuse. It seems like the reminder that there is another man in her life makes him respect her boundaries. Otherwise I'm pretty sure he would have dragg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:29 PM
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The scrote stops typing. Deep cheeto breaths, angry tears "But I'm perfect. Whore" ​ ^ this is what I guess any male who is addicted to coming here to lurk and rage is probably like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 01:53 AM
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you'll never please them. I'm very slim with a D and my NVX both loved it and pouted that I should get a boob reduction to reduce the staring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 07:17 PM
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He was a little shocked when I called him out, started to feel a little guilty, then of course yelled and got angry at me This really do be how their little brains work. They can't process any situation where they're guilty. He also had a problem with touching me when I said no and would act offended because we are in a relationship so of course he could touch me! Omg this. Like, you're busy now? Why don't you like me coming over to squeeze your breasts randomly and then start trying to initiate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 07:14 PM
10

idk if Damian Lewis counts, but at least he has publicly said that he'll take a break from acting and focus on raising his kids after his wife's death. Let's see if he lives up to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:53 PM
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He’s going there to cheat, period. ding ding ding Plus, "he has vacationed there before". He knows the lay of the land, who he can get there or who he can convince to go with him there. Edit: actually when I re-read it, it gets worse. That the scrote's plan if he gets offered a "new, much higher paying job". Betting my money that he's trying to leave his family and "upgrade" to someone else that he thinks he deserves now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:30 PM
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But if women were allowed to do the choosing, many men would have to face elimination from the next generations gene pool. We can do gene editing now, as a species we don't need men at all anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:47 PM
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the only lie is the third paragraph. I hope this meme? post? gets viral - it's going to backfire because anyone with half a brain and an honest bone is going to do a huge double take
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:46 PM
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Yeah I mean why did you go to jail in the first place if you didn't want to get raped? The irony is that most of them actually had a choice on whether to do the action for which they are actually going to jail! OTOH, we're just trying to exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:43 PM
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we should make this a thing. Except that women aren't crude and shameless enough to paste this on jail rape survivor articles and testimonies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:42 PM
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someone should do a study on mortality rates of extreme sports vs. chances of a woman being killed by a romantic partner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:24 PM
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And it will likely be based on how he got shoved in the sandbox when he was 5 or a woman rightly defended herself when he was being inappropriate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:23 PM
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I mean, if the survey were: which genders get killed by their dates? Women would look like massive risk takers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:19 AM
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I'm with you... and it's a tempting thought. Then I rmb an NVX who pretended to be that and then dropped the mask after he thought I was emotionally hooked, and the ex before that whom I simply wasn't sexually attracted to and I like waking up alone in bed again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:32 PM
4

instead of telling horrible men (who are a large and significant % of the population) to go for therapy, we should just tell them that they are horrible people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:25 PM
1

General scrote immaturity and incapability? Or was it some form of manipulation/abuse? yes and yes. massive externalizing. there is only one response to "you make me feel like a horrible person", which is "you are a horrible person"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:22 PM
1

Sigh. block and delete. The issue here isn't (just) that he lied. It's that she still wants to be in a rs with this pedo scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:00 PM
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yep! not to mention holding dead beat dads to account, making sure that the legal system punishes abusive men and provides fairly for SAHMs / women who sacrificed their career for their family etc. But no, it's sex work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:53 PM
2

The FL’s boyfriend thinks she’s the one but hasn’t dated a lot so he wants to f-ck around to make sure. He comes back to her and - I almost cried, in a bad way, when I read this - says he wants to marry her, she’s the one Feel like we've all played this part before. When they figure out that they were already hitting out of their league they come back weeping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:27 PM
7

Had a really, really attractive guy who was 3 whole years younger than me chase me and I noped out of that situation. He was 23 and I was 26, but already it felt like I'd be dating my kid brother. It was weird as hell - probably because guys have a lower mental maturity in general
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:22 PM
9

yep Tom and hello JGL - they're hot in a lanky, but still well muscled way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 02:37 AM
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I was being teased the other day for only liking f*ckboys when I said my NVX used to be a male model. Another woman good naturedly said "nah the good looking ones are always f*ckboys". To which I said, "looks still matter. There are tons of ugly f*ckboys anyway". Suddenly all the women at the table sat up and started agreeing (incl. the first woman) and it was mutually agreed upon that men are in general disappointments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:00 AM
5

"helps" with his own house - nuff said about this scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:17 AM
13

pretty obvious why she needs antidepressants - not having an orgasm even once in a 3 year relationship and a whiny man baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:10 AM
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that's still considerate. What about a shopping game or cooking game (actually those are fun) or dating game (from a female perspective, not the p*rno stuff)? Maybe if they played Princess Barbie Vacation Shopping Island for a bit they'd get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 09:23 AM
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Meanwhile these 🤏🏻 dick manlets are writing their letters to Santa asking for a "natural" 90 lb 5'10" blonde supermodel to be their mommy bangmaid. Nah they didn't ask for a blonde lingerie supermodel with F cup boobs, so they're still reasonable. /S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:10 PM
17

Another asked: "Can you really tell the difference between 5.9 and 6 inches?" A third questioned: "Right. Is she gonna pull out the tape measure to make sure?" Don't have to with all the unsolicited nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:09 PM
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ikr. They'll get a reply from us of: "promise??" (the only adult response) and then they go into full screeching incel mode like "we will nuke the earth and take all females as bangmaid slaves"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:59 PM
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I don't really get what the poster meant by the random-hook up option treatment She's making him feel like that. There are NVMs who will pretend to be genuine and kind to chase a woman and get into her pants, and then effectively tell that woman that she's a hook up option for multiple reasons. That's what that guy did here and she reverse uno-ed him, it drove him nuts. Basically he can't stand that she suddenly doesn't think that he's the shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:49 PM
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The thing is I also have no problem with the LV apartments because I've been there as a broke college student with nothing exactly. I was a broke college student who, instead of spending money on a PS whatever + big TV screen (and there are female equivalents of that), I spent mine on an on sale high TC bed set + extra bed pillows. Sourced separately, but colour and theme matched. Got pretty high quality paper (which is cheap bcos, paper) to pin to my university standard corkboard to serve as a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 02:30 AM
17

A white, male “friend” of mine returned from Morocco and laughed that I could never go there alone because I’d easily be sold into slavery. It's often pretended that this is a joke, but I always hear of someone getting a serious "offer" being made for them to whichever male is in their travel party. I went with a few other ladies and fortunately our tour guide was a good man, which meant that he actually took pains to find trusted friends to leave us with whenever he went to the loo. Even that d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:07 PM
2

I'm not sure that scrotes even make it to the first level since many can't feed or hydrate themselves and can't be without a mommy bangmaid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:25 PM
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and following their ideas of wear and tear, shouldn't the penis get grounded down to a tiny nib after years of extreme (cough p*rn addiction / community dick behaviour) wear? definitely explains alot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:19 PM
2

Does anyone have any tips for getting fit that aren’t all based around hating yourself? FR, go to therapy and start loving yourself. Act it out too. Pick out healthier foods that you enjoy (ie. if you hate apples, don't eat apples), drink healthier drinks that you enjoy (ie. if you like tea, get the finest grade tea). Don't tell yourself that you are "banned" from having any foods. Just remind yourself that you are making a choice not to have any of something today, or to have a limited amount o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:48 AM
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There is no might, he is lol. I've seen ex colleagues (who get paid a few hundred k minimum yearly), go early instead to buy a coffee first, so that they don't have to buy one for some eager undergrad student who has asked them on a networking meet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:44 AM
2

but but but... I really don't respect infantile hobosexuals lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 12:00 PM
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there's are typos in "woman" and the "man". More like "doormat" and "simp" (as much as LVM / NVM scream simp at any man who dares to love his wife, these losers' sole purpose for existing is to have other men praise them for being balls deep in porn stars)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:59 AM
6

Given that men routinely circulate ill-gotten photos and videos of women (often being assaulted or teenagers being exploited), it should be perfectly legal to have a wall of shame for unsolicited dick pics. There's just no demand for them and no woman in existence likes dick pics, let alone want to collect them. If anything this proves how depraved men are in general compared to women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:53 AM
5

When I got home that day, I started getting texts from him, “why did you leave so fast? I wanted to kiss you but I was scared.” Wait - so he was too scared to try and kiss me, but he wasn’t too scared to fucking choke me?! The texts came streaming in again. This time, “I can’t help being attracted to you. You are so dramatic, punishing me for wanting you” At this point I couldn’t take it anymore and finally blocked him. All I can think is: insurance in case you reported him to the police
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:49 AM
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She absolutely should contact his employer. Why place nice with losers? Agreed but the sad truth is that women are still expected to put up with BS in traditional industries like law and finance, no matter what corporates might say. Else they're "difficult". It's not changed because these industries are still male dominated, and males dislike "troublesome" women who have all these unpleasant encounters that they can't relate to or understand. So, while in an ideal world, she should call him out,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 09:46 AM
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LVM: "since no one wants us because we're physically and financially undesirable, let's show that our personality is undesirable as well"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 09:41 AM
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Men don’t know how to deal with grief Frankly I wouldn't give them the benefit of doubt. Just call it what it is - they're selfish pricks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 12:30 PM
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I only ever liked (Forget You) when it was sung by Gwyneth Paltrow. Hated hotline bling instantly so I guess I smelled the LVM bullshit there even before FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 12:14 PM
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I blame Henry’s abusive ass, not them. 100% and fair enough, but I was making that comment thinking more of Anne. There's another post here on how most of the dramatic allegations and other crap like having a 6th finger is false and I completely agree, but Anne B. wasn't nice to Catherine or Mary, and that's what I'm referring to. OTOH Jane and Catherine Parr tried to help Mary and Elizabeth One could possibly argue that Anne B. had to treat Catherine or Mary that way because of the king, but I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:23 AM
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yeah Catherine was definitely capable - possibly more so than Henry Catherine actually did give birth to a few sons (at least one iirc), but none of them survived very long. Even with the high infant mortality rate of those days, it does look very much like something's wrong with Henry rather than her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:11 AM
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Mary Stuart had a better claim to the throne than Elizabeth. Speaking of which, Henry really did his first wife dirty. The rest fought for his attention and were pickme-ish to some degree (Anne wasn't a nice person by most accounts), but Catherine of Aragon actually had a stronger claim to the throne than Henry himself. She was legitimately descended from the same King of England, whereas Henry was of an illegitimate line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:56 PM
121

Zelda Fitzgerald's story particularly irks me. Scott plagiarized her extensively - her words often became the most memorable ones of his novels, and in his NVM insecurity he tore down the only novel that she dared to write. Zelda was from a wealthy family, Scott was nobody when he met her and she could have gone off to marry another wealthy dude like Ginerva King, but no, she gave the poor earnest boy a chance. Look what she got in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:53 PM
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the same men don't have any inner value anyway, so... stick to the hunks ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:44 PM
15

where's the counter movement to throw baby daddies in jail and force them to labour in prison until their child support debts are paid off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:29 PM
11

pretty sure my NVMx would have done this to me if not for the fact that he knew I would drag him to court and litigate the shit out of him. Always happy that I started our relationship telling him how familiar I was with the small claims court
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 01:06 PM
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It's ok. We know DM is just drumming this up for traffic as usual. What could be more outrageous to a misogynistic earth than women not wanting to be doormats waiting to be used and abused?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:59 PM
2

And? If I were still in my pick-me days I might find myself shaking my head at the first 3 points but the 4th point is so commonsensical that I'd immediately question what's so wrong with that. DM really be claiming that it's okay to expose yourself to harm and poverty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:58 PM
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"Ladies these guys aren't all douchebags sometimes they just don't know what ladies want" ahahahahahhahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:48 PM
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So... I was an ex that 2 exes definitely thought they treated better. They were assholes anyway, I just forced them to do better than their bare minimum. I didn't "break" them, on the contrary I was extremely patient and understanding. TL;DR: it's absolute bullshit. I've met approximately one dude who truly was broken by his ex. Guess what, he treats his next GF, now wife, extremely well. She's very much FDS and anytime she's pointed out a stupid action of his (usually because he was too nice an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:27 AM
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From the article: ``A lot of times people say this or that crime was just too complicated of a plan to be anything other than a sign of pure wickedness,″ said Kaye, of Wilmington, Del. ``But science would say otherwise, that this man was delusional and you have to wonder about his overall mental state, his mental capacity,″ said Kaye. Men making excuses for other men, as usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:14 AM
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I think everyone's giving you the right answers but want to add on that this isn't the type of guy that would react well to being told the truth. If you don't feel comfortable / you run in similar social circles, I would break up with him but just say that it was a lovely two months but you think you two are incompatible. Sounds like the kind of guy who will begin a needless campaign to try and ruin your life if you call him out on his BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 02:51 AM
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"men's rights" are really just codename for "extra subsidies for underachieving men who can't make it but are angry that someone without a penis did"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:33 PM
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this. treat it or don't have kids, real simple. having kids isn't a right. also really sick of the cop out "[they] did the best they could!". No they did not. They could have seen a therapist instead of hiding their issues under some veneer of respectability ie. religion (I really hate religions that promote the "you are made whole in our god" nonsense - you still need therapy, go)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:24 PM
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tough luck :/ might just be the mix of guys in your locale.
/r/askFDS19/11/21 01:33 PM
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The fact that mothers have to go through agony to birth kids just to have people believe women are a man's rib? religion tends to not like science historically, because although science is another field dominated by men and still does discriminate against women, science doesn't hide things like how the template for every embryo is female. if the male hormones don't kick in enough or at all (ie. androgen insensitivity), an XY embryo develops female characteristics to some degree (depending on the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:51 PM
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The thing is it was likely extremely common during his era. Not to say it wasn't wrong, but we know how horrific conditions were for women even 100 years back, let alone more than a millenia ago. The old testament makes plenty of allowances to take sex slaves from female captives of war (with some funny stuff around shaving her head first. and apparently once they shaved her head and decided they didn't want to rape her, they had to free her - silver lining?) The problem is that this technically…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:47 PM
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something I find hilarious about men from abrahamic religions trying to "prove" that it's fine is that sometimes there's one "sin" they won't touch. like they'd fornicate outside of marriage, drink, and smoke, but they don't eat pork. or, they'd fornicate outside of marriage, drink, and smoke but don't do drugs. like what a hero right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:41 PM
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I'm quite against all abrahamic religions (I was forced into following one until I moved out and went NC with my parents a bit). Safe to say as a kid they liked me reading their holy book until I found the violent parts and they couldn't answer "hey why'd god do that nasty thing?" There are lots of "new age" preachers in all the 3 main types that try to recast each religion as feminist and remove traces of misogyny and xenophobia and racism. But it's not gonna work. My disagreement with all the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:38 PM
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both my parents had issues but my dad was keenly aware of this stuff. He used to walk behind my sister and I so that he could glare at any pervert staring our way. He would also point out the men who were openly perving & gawking which normalised not feeling obliged to randos on the street at the very least. I've never felt bad for not giving a rando my number or walking away with a "no, not interested" while they're in mid sentence. No woman shouldn't, frankly. We all know they'll rather have b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:15 PM
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I think you just described my LVX who pretended to be a HVM and turned out to be a controlling nut job a few months into the relationship lol. They pass the first few tests and then when they know they're in the clear they change. Never give them the clear and be ready to run!! In my new role I watch my male bosses constantly play mindgames with counterparties whom they have to maintain long-term relationships with. It's a balancing act but there is no such thing as trust. Trust is for people wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:46 PM
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there are plenty of ugly ass men obsessively following teenage girls who are complete strangers (idk why they allow this but I guess validation?), negging them on anything they can see in the photos/ videos, out of some playground bully fantasy that she will miraculously want to sleep with them. srsly scrote lurkers, even if you manage to lower her self esteem, she's still not going to sleep with someone as pathetic as you, it'll be an asshole but an asshole her age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:31 PM
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Men of color want women of color to be exclusive to them only so they can have unfettered access to them when/if they fail to obtain the non WOC they want. Spot on. Not trying to hijack this from black / brown ladies, but some East Asian men do this as well. They have this inferiority complex to white men, and then they translate that into thinking that white women have more "status" value or whatever, and that's what they aim for. But they never stop complaining about how unfair it is that EA w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:24 PM
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no worries, sorry that you had to go through that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:16 PM
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was in WA (private banking) for a while, can confirm that 99% of it is bullshit. Our "investment specialists" were just sales people parroting whatever the actual Investment team in HQ sent down that day. There are a lot of female WAs there, and they were toxic women who like to put others down especially young and pretty new entrants (threat, you see). I feel like the value is more in getting access to the platform, to invest in hedge funds / private equity funds that the general public won't g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:56 PM
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If it isn't too painful or personal, could you explain how he emptied out your bank account? Was he a hobosexual and didn't contribute or did he do some shady stuff / use some legal loopholes. Just want to be aware of what can happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:07 PM
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He has no clue where his salary goes because I'm responsible for bills, savings, and giving him pocket money for emergencies This rule is inviolate for SAHMs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:06 PM
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And if you really want to, get trusts set up in your kids names, so that it won't disappear post divorce when he has babies with a new woman, and be a Japanese housewife. Control the money. Saw a lady deposit her own pay into her own account and her husband's goes into a joint account. The mortgage and household expenses come out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:05 PM
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the dog doesn't look well groomed because he's using it to pick up women. I do fall for a cute dog in the wild too and every time I'm with a male acquaintance they always steer me away and call out what the dude is doing - standing in the centre of a public place with a dog to get attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:03 PM
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Am I leaving anything out? you covered the ground well but I'm sure there's more. There literally isn't any area of life that women aren't serving some purpose for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:53 PM
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we ain't visual but they're the ones who can't see any colours beyond those on the primary wheel. sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:17 PM
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My friend and mom recently lectured me on unimportance of looks when I explained why I didn’t like this guy that took an interest in me. I really hate this. It's also preached as, "just because you're pretty, it doesn't mean anything. Beauty is only external". Absolute BS. Beauty also makes you a target. Any asset is a target, if you don't know the value of your asset, predators will take you for a fool. Also, if looks weren't important no man would ask a woman out on the street. He figured she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:11 PM
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I was socially acquainted with a guy who was an extreme fuckboi until he settled down. He sends his wife flowers every month and they've been married for years now. If an ex-fuckboi can do it, yes, they know whether they want to or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 06:06 PM
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It's not even that hard. Even reaching down and very gently stimulating the clit (not the urethra, some guys can't even tell the difference) during penetration is a totally different sensation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 04:15 PM
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this is a bit late, but I wonder if you're not following the rule that they have to chase you. When they chase you and invest time and resources, they have to invest in you. When they are invested, they value you more. LVM looking for a rebound / placeholder do not have the patience and resources to do that, so it's an automatic filter out. It means never waiting for them to ask you out, planning your own stuff first (ie. other dates) if they don't. It means dropping dudes who don't try to impre…
/r/askFDS13/11/21 03:35 PM
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A friend (Asian) who married a white man said "if he has Buddha statues or tons of other Asian artefacts, run". Also if he has had multiple Asian exes. She wasn't referring to her husband and in fact she repeatedly subjected him to interrogation about a possible fetish and he let her check everything to her satisfaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 03:12 PM
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sounds fair the day men get genetically engineered to have swollen balls and bleed out of their dick every month, and give birth out of their ass or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:21 PM
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Everyone in my family knows that one of my grandmas has tried to divorce the grandad multiple times. They're from an era where the woman was beaten to death by her family if she wasn't a virgin on her wedding night, so that's how bad he is. We all know that he refused, and all know why. Who else would put up with his BS, feed him, pay his outstanding bills at brothels (in the past at least). Not to mention that my grandma was actually hot. I still do wish that she divorced him because she deserv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:00 PM
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'More power to him for shooting his shot" - what a deranged way to feel about other humans. " they only get it when it's someone doing the same thing to them. 100% agree that they should be in cages... with each other only. They'll get it in a while
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:57 PM
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ikr. hopefully he's too dumb to realise and does the LVM mistake of thinking that it means he leveled up and goes off in pursuit in supermodels instead of smartly tying her down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:31 PM
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I used to do the same but you're right, it never stopped them from trying to take advantage of you. I've never had a date actually let me pay, except the first NVX whom I dated while I had depression, who asked to go 50-50 (and then threw a fit when a good looking male friend took me out for dinner at an expensive restaurant later). Many LVMs and NVMs have still had the decency or dignity to offer to pay for the first few dates. It's only bottom feeders who will ask to go 50-50
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:29 PM
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no it's not hard to understand. When they've endured decades of abuse under the guise of "tolerance" and "virtue" and other BS, to admit that it was abuse is to admit that all that was for naught. There is no special prize, no respect that they've earned. So they have to maintain the lie, and they do so by attacking anyone whose existence proves them wrong. That's why people who are oppressed don't actually treat other better. That's why in cultures where women are treated badly as new brides, M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 04:52 PM
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the only woman who owes him unconditional acceptance is his mum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:57 PM
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exactly, these bitches should be lucky he didn't! He's a nice guy at heart /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:56 PM
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they can get cramps if you (even gently) flip their balls. It doesn't harm them, they just feel what it's like to get cramps. Imagine if women started going around doing that the way men act like they own our bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:53 PM
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and yet there are whole accounts making "jokes" about violence to women. It's okay if women get hurt but not okay if their pee pee feels sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:50 PM
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This. Unless she marries a billionaire, and almost all of them are old and ugly or young but some tech bro with his head in his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:47 PM
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Actually true. Most men would rather walk around in circles for hours (towing their wife / gf along) than ask for directions. And god forbid they ask a woman, unless they're trying to pick her up. Don't forget all those who want to be treated by a "real" doctor, not a female one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:42 PM
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It is very odd and it's massive red flag on FDS. They can't be alone for multiple reasons - some are hobosexuals, some are so emotionally damaged that they cannot not survive without being in a relationship. It's a sign that's often missed because fuckbois are less socially acceptable so a man who "wants" to commit looks good, but it's actually worse to have been in 14 failed relationships than have a bodycount of 14, in my book. Especially since the bar for men is in hell and there's always a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:36 PM
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Glad that you're running! Having worked in 2 firms that pay below market and heard stories from others, I think it's a trifecta that comes together. They keep their employees miserable and doubting their value so that they can continue to pay them lower. It really is like being in a relationship with a shitty gas lighting man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:32 PM
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ikr. I love telling it to their faces and watch them just explode with rage. Occasionally I decide to fight and I pick an MRA comment to answer and invariably end it with this. They combust and all that is left is angry gibberish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:39 PM
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aww... lost your free slave and the ability to cruise off the efforts of others because 50% of the population could be discriminated against despite being just as, if not more capable? boohoohoo. The funniest thing is seeing guys in competitive fields like banking and law lose it over "diversity hires stealing their jobs". They have more competition now? Not their fault! The only nice thing about how toxic those industries are, are that the guys who actually did make it in will just be brutal an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:36 PM
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just relationship subs? nah, it's the whole of society. Someone (a woman, no less) from a WOMEN'S organisation in my country was crying over male toxicity and how "women need to do better or we're failing our boys" on the national newspaper a while back. I prefer anonymity so I wasn't going to make an account on a newspaper to comment but ffs, turning criminals into victims?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:32 PM
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and Stoicism. Don't forget Stoicism. Every man big on Stoicism is not stoic in anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:22 PM
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"I did, I did, no I did not". Logic fail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:19 PM
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lmao at the guy who tried to blame his rejection on online dating. He wouldn't even had a chance to slide her anything on online dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:17 PM
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oof too true. Men actually know this too "some day that one's going to snap and I don't want it to be me", shame they can't apply it to themselves more often
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:07 PM
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"If you dare to ask about my height, prepare to tell me your weight" = I'm under 5'10 Ain't no one angrier with life than a insecure short man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:50 PM
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I used to wonder why they tell on themselves but realised that they're all narcissists, they need an audience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:44 PM
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Well there are NVM and there are also hobosexuals, so you're right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:42 PM
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They aren't capable of understanding trauma, they only understand their trauma in finding out that - *gasp* - someone else got to sleep with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:29 PM
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Yes, I've seen an article where a young chap being interviewed said he's lucky to get out but "worries about his wife back home". Much worry clearly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:27 PM
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Interview 3 - they seemed like lovely people and were very impressed with me. They didn't state the actual salary in the advertisement. Turns out it was 5 grand less than what I'm currently getting. SIGH. maybe not the right forum but I think you can negotiate for more. Take the market benchmarks for your yrs of experience & actual responsibilities (I'm guessing that you might have been handling things above your pay grade because of the useless boss) and just mention it to them, then try to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:23 PM
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That's why being hypergamous is the only strategy with any sort of real fallback. Men trapped themselves into being expected to out-earn and be perpetually generous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:13 PM
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Reminds me of an ex who's never been single for longer than a few months (and that's when it's involuntary, like when the girl / woman dumps him) since he was 14. Smart asshole though, when he met me he claimed that he had broken up months prior and he did a whole lotta soul searching. After we got together turns out he was still living in her house. All the damn time. I'm convinced he only moved out because we were a few months "official" into the relationship and he wanted to start banging and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:09 PM
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yep read the first screenshot and thought ugh, she needs FDS. Then it just kept getting worse and worse. I hope the other woman exposed him to the schoolmates - college referees matter years on into life and he's been a scumbag to everyone in the picture, including the colleagues / schoolmates that he lied about being pissed with his wife - no one (except typical bro apologists, I guess) will ever want to work with someone as shifty as him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:59 PM
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He did not want to invest that much into the relationship. It doesn't make him great, but it is your boundary and you need to trust why you set that boundary. He failed this test of comfort that you set. It doesn't make him LVM either, but he's just not the right guy for you if he can't meet this standard FWIW a male acquaintance admitted that if a girlfriend he was seeing hadn't moved to his country, he wouldn't have bothered going exclusive. I doubt she knew at any point but it would have save…
/r/askFDS10/10/21 06:30 PM
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I'd been seeing some very odd usernames and pretty irrelevant, karma-farming comments and guess that others must also have, but no one was calling those out to be polite. Guess the trust-your-gut-feel still works online!
/r/askFDS10/10/21 06:22 PM
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They are not your friends. Leave the workplace. The most beautiful woman I've physically seen in my life, a senior ex-colleague, was also bullied to hell. She was extremely kind and gracious and hardworking, but we were in an industry where looks mattered, and they intuitively realised that she was competition. The chief bully was basically the second best looking girl for that cohort, who wasn't that smart (albeit street smart), and wasn't that good looking and she knew it. Some of the guys act…
/r/askFDS10/10/21 06:12 PM
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I think it applies to both men and women lol. I saw an acquaintance publicly post about being invited to some very prestigious world / social issues summit and blazing a trail for women and what not. The only problem? She's the only type of women worst than a pickme. That is, she practices FDS practices for her own life, but befriends NVM / LVM and helps to shame the women that they gaslight. She keeps enough female friends around but you'll realise that she doesn't have anything good to say abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:23 PM
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I'm almost willing to bet that this is an AI chatbot in learning mode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:40 PM
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Anyway, I find that laughter and disgust / contempt are two expressions that work remarkably well with getting idiotic men to f off. Neither have to look like very extreme reactions as contempt can be done with as little as curling your lip or lifting and eyebrow and treating the offender like he's intellectually challenged Both humiliate them and either teach them a lesson not to f with you again, or cause them to explode with rage which basically exposes them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:28 PM
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They really do not like it when you play their mindgames back though. When they can't get you angry / to react, they get mad violent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:24 PM
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did he grab your ass? I said no, he pinched my arm, but it doesn’t matter where he touched me. 100%. The pinch is to test and try to break your boundaries. All the creepiest shit LVM / NVM have done this awkward, idiotic weird shoulder pinch to test how far they could go. They also move in and out real fast because they already know it's unwanted lmao. "Don't fucking touch me" saved me from an even creepier sneak-up-the-back kiss that one of them forced on a female acquaintance who told me about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:22 PM
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since the bar is in hell he's already one leg up all the scrotes who comp themselves to supermodels when they look like dumpster divers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:19 PM
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This man wanted you to have variety so he could shoot his shot Oof this is so on point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:08 PM
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Tbh on this one I really don't think there is a straight answer. The closest "HVM" I've ever dated who is considered a HVM by most of my community (because the bar is that low), could not accept that he was just... not good in bed. And therefore never really tried to improve. It's not that hard to google how to do cunnilingus properly instead of just trying to slobber all over. In the end I just enforced a sexless relationship. Most LVM & NVM suck, because they're selfish, unwashed pricks. But 2…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:51 AM
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This is why all women need to be hypergamous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:41 AM
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yes, I swear that is the hallmark of someone who is mentally off and not just an LVM / NVM. I troll LVM / NVM back on other subs when they try and you can usually tell when they're still somewhat sane. They recognize that they've lost at the sarcasm game and just vanish with a poof. OTOH the absolute nutcases will contradict themselves and try to assert that they're not doing so and throw out "hate crime" cries, as if all that projecting makes them right. I usually waste a few more minutes of my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:08 AM
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Joke's on them because I'm pretty sure a significant proportion of this sub are women whom they'll think are the pretty, sweet, submissive stereotype irl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:04 AM
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It's not you, it's them. You'll always be attracting low-level men simply because these men have no self-awareness. It's what you choose to let into your life. When I was a "bitch" in my late teens (read: cold and simply not easily impressed), I would get flowers, chocolates, michelin-restaurant meals from guys my age who were good looking and wealthy (albeit Mommy & Daddy's money) simply because I didn't want to date them. Sure, I also got alot of low value attention but I did not, at any point…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:56 AM
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That's the best outcome. But unfortunately we've also seen how these predatory age gap relationships play out. Well, 20 years later when age gaps matter less, I'm sure this lady is going to look better than whichever poor young lady this NVM marries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:00 PM
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As cool as a cucumber Shaming buzzwords My my, the projection is strong with this one. He's so chill he had to write an essay in response to it. What I find with these losers is that they absolutely cannot take a woman trolling them back and using very hurtful, sarcastic language. No woman bothers with doing that irl because we're all aware of how fast men escalate to violence their pp feels threatened, but online, nah fair game asshole. It figures that he loves the 90s because men automatically…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:48 PM
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over two hundred thousand hate comments directed at her. let's speak their language: "over 200,000 subhumans still breathing oxygen" Although some of these probably belong to the very long winded ranting types
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:34 PM
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This is why your only interaction with women is by repeatedly trying to break in on a woman-only forum that giggles at you. You're literally humiliating yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:28 PM
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Still doesn't change anything. It's not that he respects these women as people and appreciates their decision to accept a date with him. He just think's it's easier to get sex / bangmaid / whatever he needs out of them. The way he says it tells. He's looking for what is effective because it makes getting to his aims more efficient
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:56 PM
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sadly alot of this list is just how to be an independent and mature adult which so many men expect to outsource for free to a female something - relative / wife / gf / bangmaid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:27 PM
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because then they would be a "simp" and apparently simps don't get girls, according to the PUAs that they throw tons of money at only to learn how to be even more repulsive to girls. in reality most of these little sociopaths won't ever have the empathy, awareness and maturity to become a simp. It requires caring about someone other than themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:25 PM
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make him breakfast? oh the bloody audacity. told him I don't "hang out" and I don't cook for any man I'm guessing that even here you spared his feelings by pretending you don't do that for any man, when the real point is that he, personally, is one extremely repulsive individual Seriously 5 years of this, how do you take it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:22 PM
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lol I did this verbally with my most recent ex and he tried to turn around and twist his way out of it the moment he thought I was too loved up to leave him. my clown moment was that despite him being very attractive, I had seen red flags in his personality and didn't want to date him till then because of that. A contract / agreement doesn't changed that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:28 PM
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Is it unethical and cruel to push pickme’s that are bonded to you especially considering they have no one else because their parental figures were trash. OTOH, you didn't have that baby. yes, I feel sorry for them, but at some point, you need to take care of yourself first. If it drains you, it's got to stop. I had a coworker who was like that. Jesus, I was her unofficial consultant, lawyer (I'm not actually a lawyer), financier, idk. And I had to listen to an inevitable cycle of the self delusi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:24 PM
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lmao if they were true stoics they would accept that they can either choose to upgrade themselves and have a better chance of finding a compatible life partner, or keep going the way they are and self select out of the gene pool. the number of thin skinned "stoic" men are incredible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:04 PM
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Also high chance that to get a woman really out of his league to give him a chance, he had to fake maturity, generosity, and a lot of HVM traits that he really never meant to keep up past 3 dates and boink. so here "rotten personality" is just not accepting a bait and switch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:02 PM
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Seriously. They're just asking to be shot or pepper sprayed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:00 PM
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Seriously baby nieces are the most overused prop, even offline. I'd politely reply "she's very cute" (not her fault after all and usually quite cute), and wait for the "like me right". "No, must be your SIL's genes"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:52 PM
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He probably already sent her one along with that under the pretense of the tattoo question and is just leaving that out of the story. So he feels very validated now although none of the pickmes validating him online probably want to see his dick either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:53 AM
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I'm sure he'll have the same reaction if a big burly guy poses the same question to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:52 AM
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That is one disturbing image
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:05 PM
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Even so... it's not like we owe them anything or any explanation. We bang the hot ones that we want to bang, period. It's only the not-hot ones that nobody wants who are complaining. Getting committed is a whole other game. Just being hot isn't good enough for a man. TL;DR if men want to be good enough for just existing, they should have just been born as dogs instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:50 PM
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how bout the law? they'd have to fire him then to remove any association
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:43 PM
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Yeah, and once they realised they could get the same smarts (or better) for less wages, no brainer about letting these women hold two jobs: one in the workforce, underpaid, one in the home, unpaid. RIP all my poor working mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:32 PM
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the tumour sounds like the best thing ever. Unless he has debts or is spending on the 24 yo pickmeisha nutcase, don't see the reason for her to get divorced right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:25 PM
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we really need to stick men like that in another reality separate from this. Wonder who they will find to blame for their existence then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:18 PM
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but he has "rights" yknow... I'm sorry, but something the West doesn't understand is that rights aren't free, it's always a zero sum game that takes away another's rights. Historically they were mostly accorded to men, with women having some "tag along" rights as a daughter / sister / wife / mother This monster shouldn't even be breathing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:17 PM
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Hun the bad news is that you'll continue to be sexualized - harassed, judged, picked upon etc - for the rest of your life because, men. Look for better friends, and just take this as a warning as to what kind of people exist in the world. These guys are dumb enough to openly gawk / sexualize you. When you enter the workforce the ones you meet there won't show it, they'll just gain your trust over time pretending to be your best friend and then brag about seeing your cleavage or worse behind your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:01 PM
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that and validation. sometimes the most abused are the ones who seek to impose their model on the rest of the world. case in point would be patriarchal societies where mothers in law abuse their daughters in law in turn, you get it... it's pretty horrifying to realise that your suffering is pointless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:57 PM
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Well not anymore. Her husband is both younger and better looking than Leo (then again I never understood his appeal even when young), so much for hitting the wall at... whenever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:24 PM
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Extreme wealth and generosity (and even then, only works for some folks). 100% of the men who have that aren't the losers tweeting that old men are more attractive. The ones who do are the ones who make money off other men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:39 AM
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The subtext is that a man who's actually desirable needn't go about trying to preach to women that he is and that they aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:38 AM
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the one and only time any guy had the audacity to ask me to pay for a date was my first (LVM) bf. I was sorta lib fem and too naive to know better anyway, even though I had been wined and dined sumptuously before. I thought he was being "real". Anyway, he brought me home to introduce to his parents and his mum very courteously greeted me before dragging him into a kitchen. He emerged with some money that she apparently gave him along with instructions to take me on dates so that he wouldn't lose…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:35 AM
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and if they pretend to be something that they're not, you have legal recourse for the bill...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:28 AM
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From my country, this is why we don't Build With Him: https://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/boon-tat-street-death-man-admits-to-stabbing-son-in-law-to-death-13037000 It might not be all covered but basically the POS NVM (the accused is his FIL): - Leeched off his wife's family. He moved his mother in to be taken care by them. He got to head up his FIL's company and ultimately tried to cheat them of the company altogether - He cheated on his wife and maintained a mistress - He made his w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:21 AM
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On the common denominator shit, imagine holding a mirror back up to them when they complain about their "ungrateful", "crazy" exes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:15 AM
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she'll break out when (if) she realises. You really can't help pickmes other than being not like them so they can see the counterfactual to their life. The ones worth being friends with after they get their heads cleared are the ones who don't lash out at you for having everything that the patriarchy promised them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:12 AM
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If you’re in college, don’t underestimate how many rapists you will come across And outside of college. Apparently if you so much as had a drink, or if you agree to hang out at his home which he supposedly shares with his family (what could go wrong right?), you just consented to being raped, by LVM logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:03 AM
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congrats on the PhD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:00 AM
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Realise that most criticism directed specifically at you is just projection. Let the haters hate and just do your thing. Also most people are insecure, even when objectively they have no reason to be, and that's why they hate Financial freedom is underrated. Aim for the best jobs / careers, always negotiate your pay, and remember that your money is your own. Not your parents', not your brothers', not your friends' or your boyfriends'. You can be generous if you want to be, but they're not entitl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:35 PM
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Another was a coworker who thought I was aiming for a promotion (I wasn't). She smeared my reputation and ruined my relationships with colleagues and eventually did get promoted to a minor role. However, after a few months later, she got demoted. I can't help but laugh and I feel like a winner even though I wasn't 'in the game' to begin with. In my first job, a mid level woman was bitchy as hell and went out of her way to be nasty to me (we were on the same large team but I didn't even work with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:49 PM
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oh god, there was an incident in my country (which is usually very safe), about a deranged stalker who frequently waited outside his victim's house. Like right outside her doorstep. When the police came to chase him off, he shouted that he was on public property and did not have to leave. It took almost 2 years for him to be charged and sentenced in court, I think. And then they always use the mental health / depression card. After all the executive function they showed in planning out their har…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:39 PM
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- Intelligent & perceptive - Handsome & over 6 ft tall (there are no extra prizes for dating ugly men) - Wealthy (duh) - Kind and good natured - Loyal and faithful - Ages well - Good in bed (hardware + software) ​ On a side note, there is this thing called the impossible trinity, which states that a man can never (hyperbole) be all 3 of: rich / successful, handsome, faithful I was told that lie in my pickme days. The truth is that they can, but the vast majority of them don't want to be. Men wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:05 PM
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We should seriously start a web-based wall of shame. Men already share around illegally obtained pictures and details of women who are guilty of nothing. We're just making public service announcements here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:51 PM
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I like Ologies by Allie Ward. I just like learning about new things in general and most of the podcasts have always surprised me. There is a good mix of male and female interviewees (rare if you're just listening to news / finance / science podcasts), and every single person is incredibly passionate about what they're doing, even if it's something you didn't even know existed before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:39 PM
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Totally agree that they give themselves away like that, but LVM can also say all the things you want to hear too. That you're kind, beautiful, intelligent. They can openly admit that their friends told them you're out of their league. Words cost nothing to LVM, because they lack honesty and integrity. All the LVM I met knew what to say. Their actions are more telling, since they derive a direct benefit from putting you in a support role for their life, and have to put in effort to support you wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:37 PM
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she has a song called "thank u, next", which I love listening to after breakups
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:27 PM
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add nurses, teacher and social workers to that mix. All predominantly women-occupied positions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:25 PM
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physical danger aside (not trivialising it), we're also gaslit into thinking that we HAVE to be attached and married at all costs. else, we face open ridicule and discrimination. so we need the existence of a man - because really, society accords them value for their mere existences to protect us from that as well the number of older men (wistfully) warning me "settle down now when you're still young and beautiful, or else...." or else what? miss out on a miserable life that always comes with be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:22 PM
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we're literally the foundation for any economic growth. The big drivers of economic growth are demographics (see how many rich nations are screaming at their women to have more children - no thanks! I'm living for myself, like men always have), stable and developed social infrastructure (teachers, nurses, social workers, etc) - also careers that are underpaid and majority female. silicon valley bros like to act as though their latest tech invention is solely responsible for economic growth, igno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:20 PM
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spot on with obsession. love and hate are just extremes of the same scale. also, forbidding / banning something actually increases any normal human's desire for it. you'd think all these supposedly wise religious elders would have figured it out over a few millennia, but no, they're not dumb either. It's deliberate because they found out that they can abuse and assault all they like and still blame victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:13 PM
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Yes, a major mama’s boy when shit hits the fan otherwise very dismissive of her. lol... this describes most mama's boys I know. they tell on themselves immediately on how they'll treat you if you sacrifice your life for theirs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:08 PM
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when I did…he was like, next! on that note, spin it around with Ariana Grande!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:04 PM
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yes, and then they hit you with "cOmMuNiCaTiNg" or, they become a professional tightrope walker who strives to find the bare minimum where they do just enough so that you give them the benefit of doubt. when you cut their BS later and point out that the needle hasn't really moved, they then rely on that to say that technically, they changed, so you crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:02 PM
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I'm in a similar situation and I'm really just focusing on what I can control. I lost a lot of my ambition after being burned out by my previous jobs and I think the "nice family life" thing was escapism, for me at least. I also realised that I had co-dependent tendencies and that helped a lot in understanding why I felt that way and which thoughts were not helpful to me. Then I tried to re route most of my day dreaming / thinking into stuff about myself and what I wanted to do for myself, even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:35 PM
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Thank you again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:12 PM
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I've dated men who were 10 years older. They looked at most 5 years older than me at that time, aka, just under 30, but were in actual fact pushing mid 30s to 40. I only found out after a few dates with them. They basically fit your story to a T, down to their reasoning why they wouldn't date women of the same age ("her eggs"). One got so desperate that I heard that he literally took to asking women out at the airport - from what I heard, no eligible woman in our city would date him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:04 PM
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You're 100% right but we all know that crazy won't listen... here's where they can get their fix by forcing an interaction on women and getting to hear what we have to say since no woman's going to talk to them offline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:55 AM
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it's really hard to maintain friendships with other women as we get older because of the emphasis on the nuclear family, like you said. And since we already know that most women are basically the backbone of their family, they don't have time for themselves, let alone their friends. Add in controlling LVM / NVM who want to isolate their partners, add in women in their pickmeisha period and the number of close available female friends you have dwindles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:40 AM
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Thank you for teaching me something new today! It explains a lot lol. I don't have a biology background so just curious what "kicks in" means - does it mean that the gene on that chromosome gets expressed? Sorry if it's a dumb question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:31 AM
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Highly doubtful but in select cases the association can be mutually beneficial. One of the very few male friends who I think truly did not want to take advantage of me was basically the most honest in what he wanted: attractive female friends for social status on nights out. So, sort of sexualizing me but he was completely honest about it. pre-COVID, he and other groups of friends would often be opening bottles at expensive clubs. When you live in one of the main global financial hubs, a lot of …
/r/askFDS13/06/21 05:07 PM
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This is why I tended to go to classes like pop pilates, barre, not only were the workouts fun, most LVM / NVM can't risk their masculinity enough to go alone for the sole purpose of checking out women (at least in my experience). The number of women also greatly outnumbers men and I think it makes a key difference in how they behave
/r/askFDS13/06/21 04:52 PM
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he broke up with me because I was his first girlfriend/first everything and he basically wanted to live that college life and sleep around. I was an amazing girlfriend to him Hi lol! My first - LVM - bf wouldn't commit to me and said the same thing, so I broke up with him. I thank him silently everyday for not committing, he was so out below my league that my friends and family actually celebrated. Anyways, ignore him. He adds zero value to your life and is probably going to be a taker. once a t…
/r/askFDS13/06/21 04:50 PM
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I hope someone has actual advice but all I can say is set your boundaries and walk away. You have to enforce boundaries if you want them to be taken seriously. He / other people may try to guilt trip you but so long as you are civil throughout, and know why you did it, you can explain "he doesn't respect me, etc". Trust your gut and explain how it feels. This does risk becoming a big family fallout, but if family isn't respectful to you and putting you down (whether or not deliberately or becaus…
/r/askFDS13/06/21 04:43 PM
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I know of a dude whose wife put the house in their name, the mortgage in his, and his salary empties into their joint account. Her salary goes into hers. He got a vasectomy after they had their kids. Initially I thought that was extreme but no, this is what I'm going to do lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:37 PM
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Never date a finance bro (colleagues) either. If you do, whip him from day one - literally the only way I've seen one respect his wife is when she puts herself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:32 PM
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lol agreed. Ladies, aim for jobs that pay you six figures out of uni, not the men who do. The former is contractually and legally guaranteed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:31 PM
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but but but... how will governments get their demographic dividend if we stop shaming unmarried women as a society? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:27 PM
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off tangent, but on that note about chronic disease, I had discussed getting critical illness and life insurance policies for both of us with 2 exes. One was a possible HVM and the other a clear LVM. my purpose in getting these was to make sure that my family wouldn't be impacted financially, in terms of lack of income. My possible HVM ex had the same motivations. The LVM? "I just want to get a huge amount and be a baller living in luxury if I know I'm going to die soon". He clearly had zero int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:23 PM
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eek I LOVED her in this series. And also how they didn't try to make her "perfect and having it all", but a woman who wanted what she wanted and how the rest of her society cussed at her for that. She's also right on a biological level - the basic template for any human fetus is female. Male fetuses will eventually start developing differently due to testosterone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:12 PM
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sorry for the delay ladies, here it is: "...he mumbled unconvincingly that the rates had changed a few days ago but there hadn't been time to correct the display" Which sounds a lot like "yes, I was going to take you out somewhere nice / step up in household chores [insert any LVM failing here], but you didn't give me time to do it..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:43 PM
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sorry for the late reply, I got super busy with work, but glad that you enjoyed it! This voice from our heart-to-hearts- would that be similar to our intuition? Women's intuition is obviously much stronger than men's. yes! I believe it's the same thing as our intuition. Men like to say that we are illogical when we use our intuition, but looks it's really just protecting us from being manipulated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:38 PM
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Arab nations' laws are based on sharia law. Sharia law literally says that the testimony of a women is worth less than a man, for starters. But “Islamic laws” do not grant the right to rape and abuse But oh yes they do, under certain circumstances. You can't rape an unmarried woman because she's not your wife, she's someone else's daughter or wife and their property. You can rape a captive woman taken in war, because she is again a possession. Obviously some (though not all) practitioners recogn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:30 PM
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Well, there are bright spots everywhere. I've had male schoolmates who had 3 or 4 brothers! My culture traditionally has a massive preference for boys and some people in my generation would have experienced their grandparents / parents treating them like second class citizens for being girls. My gramps OTOH, completely ignore this. I'm the eldest of all my cousins and the next boy came ~6 months later. We fought once as children and our grandparents came down HARD on him for "not taking care of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:42 AM
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She will hate you for just not validating her life choices by being who you are and having standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:33 AM
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Poor girl with an LVM dad as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:27 AM
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Just because you don't like facts doesn't mean that it's inaccurate. Just because you may practice a version of islam that condemns these things, doesn't mean that millions of others do. In fact, no one - yourself included - owns islam or any of these religions and can say that these historically recorded passages are not part of it. The abrahamic religions have passages on passages justifying rape of women, rape of children, rape of captives. Just because you've cherry picked the better ones to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:02 AM
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even dead bodies have more body autonomy than women these days yes, thankfully even LVM and NVM can't argue that the corpse "wanted it" or consented through its actions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:43 PM
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My ex used to be a male model and I really didn't have eyes for anyone else while dating him, but he was insecure af and controlled every aspect of my appearance. If I scrutinized my own appearance in the mirror -> who was I primping for? If I wore anything that wasn't loungewear (circuit breaker so we were all WFH) -> who was I dressing up for? If I went for facials -> who was I trying to look good for? I finally snapped at this and told him never to stick his nose into my skincare ritual again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:41 PM
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Given the islamic laws there (and this is why I'm against all abrahamic religions, but especially those which still insist on practicing law from a book written thousands of years ago), she'll be dead without a fair trial. He's literally within his rights to rape and abuse her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:32 PM
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I know you say that you love yourself, but I don't think you really do. This is not a jab at you - in fact I struggle with a lot of the same things that you mentioned; some days I do a good job at loving myself and somedays I want to scream "why am I like this". Here are some observations: You're not accounting for the fact that your circumstances and you will change. In fact, everyone's circumstances can change at a moment's notice. When we're in a bad funk, we think that who we are and where w…
/r/askFDS04/06/21 01:49 PM
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This is exactly why it looks like all men: the police, the judicial system, companies like Virgin Media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:53 PM
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"I'll be single, rich and loving life": #1 he's only achieved the first thing #2 no, meme-stock trading will not make him rich #3 he hates himself now. No one wants him now, no one will want him then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:49 PM
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Not surprising that they don't get very far in life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:50 PM
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I'm no lawyer, but if he lied / misrepresented himself to be a woman, then he didn't obtain that footage of you on consensual terms - maybe check with a lawyer whether this means you have more straightforward legal remedies. Like someone else said, he sounds like a kiddy hacker going on a power trip by "giving you advice". They'd wilt in the face of a genuine police investigation
/r/askFDS03/06/21 04:42 PM
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absolutely. I always suggest FMM in reply and say that they don't have to touch him but it gets a no, wonder why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:32 PM
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they're terrified. They're parasites. If their hosts walked out en masse, they'll have to evolve into functional, useful members of society or not get paid by the people running it (the patriarchy doesn't give a shit about its lowest members) and let's face it, they're not capable of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:23 AM
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Don't tell them that you're a virgin unless you really think you have an iron will. Don't even tell people whom you don't trust (aka acquaintances). It's okay to let potential partners know that you won't put out. You don't have to answer questions about whether you're a virgin or not. But saying that you're saving your virginity is going to attract exactly the wrong kind of guy. If and only if you think it will become a serious relationship, then you can tell him that you don't want penetrative…
/r/askFDS02/06/21 07:41 AM
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ain't that how most dick liberation stories play out lol. I do feel like these LVM also tend to not be the most generous, so it's a double whammy because their bangmaid realises that there are men who aren't at the floor, and the LVM realises that all the women he wants to bang actually have standards, and would probably still be unattainable anyway. LVM have ridiculously inflated opinions of themselves. They assume that if they are 6 ft tall and fit, it makes up for having the face of a monkey …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:13 AM
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I go dutch with guys I am not sexually attracted to and I’m going to ghost on so they don’t have hard feelings same! However LVM will often still have hard feelings because they feel entitled to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:00 AM
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she's not a trainer, but Thekla Hutyrova is pretty badass. she did some of the stunts for Battle Angel Alita
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:03 PM
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Physical attributes aside, check his high school creds too. Are his friends from high school basically only the cool kids and pretty girls who were kind enough to not tell him to fuck off? Does he tell you that someone is his best friend but that dude doesn't think the same? All red flags that he grew up with massive insecurity, never worked on himself, didn't want to befriend people in his own league, and clung on like a barnacle to people out of his league who were nice enough not to scrape hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:00 PM
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they get paid more too. for doing the same or less. and if times are hard, "oh no, we can't fire Harry, he has a wife and three kids to feed. Let's sack this woman instead, she's been worked to the bone by Harry's ineptitude so clearly she has a lot of time and thus no family and no one to support"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:23 PM
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yeah there's nothing in his post about what he can do to make up for it or help her. it's "[can we] recover from this?" Because if he thinks they can't, then he's got to find a another woman to groom and prey on. He doesn't give a damn about how she's feeling. I say groom because even if a woman is sort of into rough sex, men take it to a whole new level to convince them that they like it rough. You can just not complain about roughness once, and therefore you "like" it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:20 PM
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Ikr. They don't like to hear it for what it really is, aka: Let's put women at physical risk of horrific physical and emotional trauma, so that some male who apparently can't decide whether he wants to be male or female (which is different from sexual orientation) doesn't suffer self-imposed mental anguish from not being able to walk into the ladies at will. also intersex people are extremely rare and it's usually diagnosed at birth / early childhood now. I don't think any psychologically normal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:14 PM
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woman will never take over a space about male illness, over run it, destroy it and hurt the members Women won't bother doing that. It's not in our nature. Even when we feel shit about ourselves, we don't hunt down men OTOH when LVM and NVM feel the need to dominate women-only space and women-online, because no one gives a flying f*ck about them in the real world. And they target women because they feel some sort of entitlement to controlling our existence in various ways. Most if not all of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:02 PM
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ah but then they would ban us. No brigading unless the offenders are male, is what Reddit lives by
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:57 PM
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so he wants her to take care of everything except when it involves going into his office, aka his personal man cave space does he give her half his total comp? For doing basically all the chores. No, it's very clearly going to be "his money" he wants a divorce over that? oh god, someone get his wife over here and make sure that that lady gets the divorce she deserves. he'll have to do everything himself and probably still have to pay alimony
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:50 PM
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Sadly too true. If you pay for yourself to have a nice tea / lunch / dinner, men will still feel entitled to your space, time and attention. Presence of a female friend isn't always a deterrent. If it's not a date, don't talk to him ladies. LVM who try to say that you're missing out are lying; no true HVM is going to bother a woman whom he's a stranger to in public. There are no "networks" to be gained either. People doing well in their lives generally do not bother strangers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:43 PM
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scrotes thinking they're entitled to free things and subsidies, but also their pride
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:40 PM
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They want expensive women to pay them. I'd rather blow all my money on things for me than on some scrote and his kids (including having his kids)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:25 PM
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Men might not usually be catty with other men (because they're scared of other men), but they are catty with women. They gang up on successful women like they're the jealous mean girls from teen chick flicks (but with beards and pot bellies). Pettiness and catiness is not just a female trait, even though we're used to hearing that it is. I'd say that nastiness from men is a lot worse than general cattiness from women. Men tend to have way larger egos and the vindictiveness displayed when that bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:00 AM
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my pick me friend is always boasting about how he has a crush on her He probably leads her on in private 100%. Also pickmes like to gather groups of attractive friends to get more male attention (while simultaneously hating them for daring to be more attractive). Guys will keep a pickme close to access that circle of hot friends. The added bonus is that the pickme is a free wingwoman who has zero regard for the well-being of her "friends"
/r/askFDS26/05/21 08:47 AM
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it's cute that they think their unsolicited opinion matters actually, it's not cute, it's pretty pathetic. I would just use "cute" so that they can't try and flip it into the "wahmen so aggressive" card
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:42 AM
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stick them all in the same area by themselves, since they have the same mindset on consent. they can't complain about what they do to each other then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:38 AM
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Finally. I'm waiting for "guilty until proven otherwise" for cases that are by nature don't occur in the presence of honest witnesses (all sexual assault). Men will whine about supposedly being "false convicted", but as potential perpetrators, the onus has to be on them to prove it. How are women minding their own business supposed to anticipate when they get attacked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:36 AM
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the only time #notallmen applies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:19 PM
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I saw "Texas" and it all made sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:04 PM
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"sarcastic" and "dark humor" are also overused excuses for men who like to be cruel and pretend that it was funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:54 PM
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I like both but I strongly prefer - and would probably only keep - cats. They have self respect and are somewhat independent. If you pissed off a cat deliberately it would not think twice about sinking its teeth into you. Hating cats is also different from not wanting to keep one. Both types usually cite cats' aloofness and independence as a reason, but hatred is a new level. They dislike that cats don't need humans and don't pander to our every whim. Think about what that means in a relationshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:52 PM
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the older people get, the more aware of their actions they are Their perceived entitlement to young, hot women stays the same. The older they get, the more they can't have access to these things (unless they're super wealthy), and resort to more desperate measures. They really don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:42 PM
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My ex got angry when I pointed out that Instagram was suggesting those types of accounts for me to follow bcuz he liked so many of their pictures and stories. LVM will call you a snooper because they can't handle social media algorithms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:14 PM
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second this. I've never had the misfortune to date an LVM with that little self respect, but I've lived with a LVW and she bothered to steal something worth only a few hundred dollars despite trying to flaunt a wealthy lifestyle on social media. That was when movers were packing my stuff, too. If they hadn't been around, lord knows she would have taken more. Later found out that she stole thousands of dollars from an ex who liked to keep cash lying around. Big red flags of psycho-level LVM / LVW…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:57 PM
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can do better. I think this sub's clear labelling of shitty men as LVM and NVM helps in conveying the concept that women are better off on their own then with these men, even if they supposedly never "find better" (hypothetical scenario where she can't move from a location populated by L/NVM). Hope your friend realises that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:44 PM
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They’ve all turned into dramatic bullies the second they realized they weren’t getting anything else from me, and showed themselves ooh yes. Actually this applies everywhere - other relationships, job, etc. You see their true colours when you tell them you're done and they realise they can't exploit you for free (or close to free) anymore, all while moaning about how you're terrible. I was so surprised - since I'm apparently so terrible, shouldn't y'all be happy that I quit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:39 PM
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If only those tactics worked. You can walk fast with headphones and still have a car of 4 strange men chasing you down the street or something. I also notice a correlation of getting approached by randos when I'm dressed down vs when I'm dressed up nicely with designer shoes / handbags, which is only supporting my belief that randos are low effort LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:22 PM
45

After I got in the Uber, the guy, who had been hiding behind a column, jumped on the back What the actual fuck. adding the suit gives me major patrick bateman vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:18 PM
16

There are very, very few women who exploit men the way a large number of men exploit women. They do exist but they're incredibly few, and the blowback when it becomes public is way more than when a guy does the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:00 PM
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Sorry when I said "spiky" I mean one with a really large and strong frame and spokes sticking out (eye level for most men who quickly moved out of the way). Would totally buy an umbrella with real spikes though. I bet they get surprised when you actually call them out - women are otherwise invisible to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:02 AM
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I am happy that I made him “waste” $200-300. I’ve also saved a lot of women from coffee dates and now he can’t spend that money on trying to trick a different woman. Shit I used to know a girl who did that to confirmed predators who were wealthier lol. She never lied (unlike them) but basically had a heart of stone and it drove them craaaaazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:58 AM
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Well for starters, she's a lot younger yet more famous and wealthy than he will ever be close to being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:52 AM
24

It's their equivalent of getting a gold star in grade school lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:50 AM
24

for #2: it's really hard as a petite girl to not have to give way. the only time I didn't have to was in the London rain. I got myself a massive, spiky umbrella and watched as perturbed men had to walk around someone for once in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:36 AM
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I would argue that it might be true in the case of demand and supply - especially since I believe that HV women greatly outnumber HV men. The HVM do get picked up by a HVW tend to settle down and get happily married. I am doubtful af about a guy over 35 and unmarried, LVM / NVM almost never change, and I don't have that much interest in younger men (who are more likely to be immature anyway) I'm still in my 20s but have decided that unless I meet someone who adds value to my life in all aspects,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:37 PM
4

"but...but... it's not fair! It's an outrage!" says the Boomer whenever they have to give up anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:30 PM
26

I got to orgasm more often though. Also never had to suck a dick or let one in me unless I liked it, other than a few occasions where I was coerced / assaulted. And I still got gifts and nice dates, and oftentimes didn't have suck or touch anything. It's sad, really. I don't look down on them but I certainly don't envy their lives and I don't know why they think anyone would. If they genuinely love what they're doing (ha. ha. ha), great. But let's face it, if you were really living off your body…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:09 PM
7

"Im simply not that attractive" 8 years, ladies. That's how long it takes an LVM to deduce that in the face of repeated failed endeavors (if they realise that at all instead of going "wah wah insurrection so the government gives me a hot teen bangmaid") And even then his fixation on the "wall" and looks show that he thinks it's a 100% looks thing instead of his awful character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:57 PM
3

we video chat using the app feature first that's a smart move. I've never been on OLD much and haven't been on it for years because of what I heard about it being such a cesspit lol. But if I ever do dip my toes there again I'm going to use this. Once he sees how you look, he should have no problem offering a real date if interested, not some cheap coffee or drinks bullshit. 100%. Either that or he shouldn't be dating at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:45 PM
3

Monica Belluci at any age is still going to be infinitely more attractive than Rudiger Sturm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:48 PM
3

couldn't figure out why something always felt off about her. And then I realised that she basically always plays to be the neutral person unless something is clearly going to be public enemy #1. aka, nobody's real friend. it's worse than just shutting up and not saying anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:32 PM
2

I've suffered through every movie of his that I've had to watch - foisted on me by a male date or friend, even pre-FDS. I just didn't understand why anyone would make a movie about such unlikeable, untalented and disgustingly self serving characters redeemed by a "sorry" speech at the end, which is basically every single character he plays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:23 PM
1

There was one whom I blocked, then changed my phone number and forgot about. He found me anyway. He's actually ridiculously wealthy - billionaire baby - and also decades older so I figured that he really ran out of young women in our city of millions to hit on which is amazing. This was pre-pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:18 PM
3

I think Mary of Guise said something similar. Basically no actual princess would marry him after that. Anne of Cleves was comparatively poorer and it was a jump up for her and her family. After that he had to marry domestic noblewomen pushed forward by their self serving uncles, fathers and brothers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:13 PM
3

well, Anne of Cleves (#4) effectively wasn't really married to him and she had happiest, longest life lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:10 PM
18

a guy (friend of a friend, so he was honest) told me it was because it was a faster and easier timeline to bed. ever since then I've always refused drinks - these usually come from broke, sketchy men anyway, can't remember the last time someone tried to ask me out on drinks. Even if they're LVM, if they want to impress you, they won't even dare to suggest drinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:50 PM
8

I told an ex that he had to sock away at least a million per kid in a trust fund for them. And tons more for me, of course. That got him rethinking the football team he thought he was going to produce on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:43 PM
3

Plot twist: there IS something going on between him and his cousin - at least in his head. Men do actually get sexually attracted to their cousins. They assault their daughters, sisters, nieces, and some even have the depravity to assault their mothers and grandmothers so yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:28 PM
21

thumbs up for Studio Ghibli. They pass the Bechdel test. Once I learned about it I realised why by my late teens I was disinterested in most tv shows. They aren't really made for women since they just exist as a love interest / some other tool for the main guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:26 PM
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Hey society, does boys being boys equate to women being allowed to shoot the heads off these pests and other dangerous male creeps? You've already charged us with being the "emotional" gender so why can't we use the mental health / distraught card that ever male molester, rapist, and murderer uses? Especially when we're in fucking physical danger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:19 PM
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this. they shut up when you ask them why they can't grow a baby in their testes though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:05 PM
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no we are breeding machines and then they let us become economic machines (double your workforce for less because of the salary gap!), and now they angry that we won't be both breeding and economic machines. we should really just have a separate earth, men will run theirs into ground in record time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:04 PM
10

you never know, that might turn him on somemore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:52 PM
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even those are lower standards for men tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:16 PM
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TBH I think men are very bad at guessing our ages from our faces, in a certain age band. They guess it from the way we dress and carry ourselves. The older I get, the more "no BS" my tone, outfits and general demeanour gets. "Unapproachable" is an insult men like to fling at us but it's a magical shield that wards off lowlife NVM. They don't have permission to approach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:21 PM
10

He didn't change in one month. He figured after one month that he can't get any better (it's really that way, not the other way around), and gave you verbal assurances to actions that he will never take. Block now. Don't meet him, don't talk to him, and tell him that you'll report him as a stalker if he tries to contact you further. As for how to stop missing him - there was a really good piece in the handbook about how uncontrollable feelings of need for someone are often related to feelings of…
/r/askFDS24/04/21 10:30 AM
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sexist men can become so angry when you break up with them or, if you so much as dare exist and have a boyfriend, because somehow they feel entitled to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:24 PM
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Thank you :) I will try that and I agree that the best revenge is by being sucessful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:23 PM
10

How do you harness it after you're out of an abusive relationship? I have residual anger that I wasn't allowed to express after several bad incidents with men (including an assault), not just an ex. I usually just tamp it down when it rises in public / work, but like you said, it makes you straightjacketed and has negative consequences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:21 AM
3

A variation of it from a "nice guy" friend is "what is your outfit today?", "how does that swimsuit look on you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:17 AM
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The family member route is hilarious. I rejected one and he called up my dad (who he was rude to when we were dating anyway), and tried to persuade my dad to "talk to me about it". Probably the happiest my dad had ever been to say "well, I have a headstrong daughter".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:02 AM
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but but but all the adam sandler (God knows what the tween and teen version of that is because I never watched that trash) and other shitty tv shows say that I can be the lowest level of human and still score a hot chick with a heart of gold and PhD in math / law. Where IS she? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:52 AM
15

yes lmao. He obviously doesn't have his own place so he's trying to get some hanky panky done in the car.
/r/askFDS17/04/21 06:49 AM
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That's why they keep shouting that we need to be attached to a man to be worth something. It's way too dangerous for them once we realise that being single is the best thing possible when most men are shit and the good ones are taken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:07 PM
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yeah. It's like, let's raise the burden of proof on the accused so that the party with greater potential to prevent the situation (100% rapists), actually takes steps to watch themselves. What's the most that will happen? They can't daterape? They can't take intoxicated women home? Boo friggin hoo. So apparently we have control over being raped through our conduct / dress sense / location / audacity to exist, but men, the masters of the universe [/s] are such helpless little things that the thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:29 PM
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I used to struggle with it in my early twenties and now in my late twenties I don't give a shit First of, I realised that you don't actually fall off a cliff. It's more of your lifestyle. Once I quit a horrid 100 hours / week job, everything looked so much better. Secondly, the men who try to call you old will still try really hard to get into your pants. Young men, old men, middle aged men, whatever. If they don't, yippie for less harassment lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:07 PM
8

"Not like you need kids anymore, Dad. Time for yours to go too. They've outlived their purpose"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:34 AM
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"Don't turn your husband down repeatedly if he wants sex every night even if you're a morning person, and don't force sex on a man who wants to watch Larry King or read a book after dinner" Be a slavish, eager to please doormat. Who wrote this trash?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:33 AM
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I hated that show as a teenager and never understood why. It made sense after FDS. I always liked the female "villains" actually and some of them were a lot more logical. Also their backstory is often violently sexualized and then these male producers and scriptwriters want us to give surprised pikachu face that they want revenge. Burn at the hands of Artemisia, Greece (fyi 300 is completely fictional on that part. A female sex slave for most of human history would just be abused horrifically to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:28 AM
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Agreed. Also the Nice Guy orbiters are really fantastically delusional because they will waste your time, always spilt hairs on the bill, and wonder why you'll never give them a chance when another guy has looks / manners / charm / wallet and they're showing you that they have none. I let the orbiters hang peripherally if they have networking value, else they are worse than useless, they're a waste of time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:25 AM
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I was assaulted by someone who literally said, 5 minutes before that to my protests about going to his house and cuddling with him "Please, I'm not going to rape you". Repeatedly When I confronted him about it a few days later (which is also when I realised that the judiciary - basically male - view of evidence is warped, because the victim is usually in shock and not calm enough to pull out their phone and make a police report), he had the audacity to feign ignorance. I forced him to admit othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:19 AM
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no worries! They were called the figlie del coro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:13 AM
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Agreed! I'm 100% on team ruin his entire life (although we know that men get forgiven by society in like 10 seconds and their victims are shamed forever), but just didn't know if OP could track him down when I made that post. It will be fun to hold this over his head with a reverse threat that can be probably be legally justified in self defense "Just in case you think that by harming me in anyway will erase the existence of these texts, there are now 10 other people who have the evidence and kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:12 AM
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This is literally why we need to shame age-gap relationships. I don't know about M-F relationships where the woman is a lot older, but it's usually the man and that has never been for a good reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:09 AM
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So he probably doesn't even have stable income but wants to threaten you? In the unlikely case he signs on to any record label / band, email them this shit straightaway. He just ruined his own (barely existent) career
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:01 AM
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He'll look like a fucking dickhead telling any contacts you know that he got rejected on a dating app hahahah wah wah 100% agree that he's a fuckhead and lacks brain cells for threatening her (on the record, at that), but low intelligence men often are very crafty. They won't say that they got rejected on a dating app (their frail egos can't admit that), they'll say like, oh, I met her at a bar or this or that and man she was psychotic / total slut / money grabber / super unprofessional / slept …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:57 AM
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Seconding this. OP, keep these posts FOREVER, even for fun. In the highly unlikely chance that this scrote ever does make it to something even halfway important, pull this out for the media and torpedo his career and life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:51 AM
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As is blackmail and attempted coercion. I hope this idiotic fool was also hopeful enough to try adding some sort of "unless you come over tonight, of course" Not legally trained but that would seem like a shoo-in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:50 AM
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throw the whole man into the trash compactor already. he's literally a waste of oxygen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:47 AM
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"You better hope we don't share any professional contacts in KC" Dude literally giving OP fodder for blackmailing him while trying to blackmail. This is the stupidest f*cking scrote I've ever heard of. I'd report the hell out of him to the police, employer, bumble, professional networks (if he even belongs to any, being a "entrepreneurial" scrounger doesn't count as having a living)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:44 AM
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Everyone knows Vivaldi but most don't know the troupe of women (mostly abandoned as babies to orphanages) whose virtuosity with musical instruments let him do his composition. Oh, and they helped run the orphanages they grew up in at the same time. Even when they were famous for pushing the boundaries of music during their day, some men took offence with them playing instruments that were thought to be unfeminine - there's always going to be some scrote unhappy with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:41 AM
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Using his son as a prop on dating apps probably didn't work out as well as he thought it would! He needs mombot and he's going to court for that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:18 PM
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She's paying the support. 125% at that. Hard to find a LVM / NVM who does that. Some might even have a negative figure by coming back to the mother of their child to ask for money. The audacity of him to call her a deadbeat parent and ask for legal remedies. The court gave it and she's adding another 25% more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:16 PM
9

Oh the nerve of that old man especially. He was probably hitting on you. I hope you told him that he was there to stave off disease and should work his muscles instead of his mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:53 PM
23

Threesome is always FFM in their minds and never FMM. Told my LVM exes that I was happy to do a FFM if we would do an FMM with hot dude as well, they didn't have to touch him. Always got a no for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:24 AM
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They somehow miss the whole point of being lesbian - those ladies aren't interested in men at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:21 AM
1

"Why this brand will make your life easier. Choose brand X, outperforms all other brands by a large margin" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:21 AM
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I got "you exercise wrong" ALOT because apparently if you can't grunt and lift weights like them, you're exercising wrong. I'm more of the yoga / pilates kind of person, and exercise to relax and destress. OTOH bring them to said yoga / pilates classes and watch them die because they're as inflexible in body as they are in mind. Or barre. it always makes me smile when "macho" dudes come to barre and their thighs start wobbling like everyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:13 AM
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"Your music sucks" Agree with everything on your list, but this particular one usually stands out to me as someone substituting a niche music genre for personality and character to be different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:05 AM
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ikr. instead of just identifying those nut jobs earlier on and sticking them in a mental health facility. they always whine about feeling "ignored", so how about 24/7 supervision lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:40 PM
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I have stared some one down before and unfortunately the real pervs enjoy it. They'll meet your gaze and continue smirking. The only thing that's worked for me is to publicly embarrass a harasser (that doesn't know where I live, or at least, can't do anything about it). But ofc it doesn't work in every situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:25 PM
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I agree. It's give and take but somehow they always say "nice of you to give this, but y'know, it doesn't really matter."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:57 AM
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I mean, so long as he's getting what he wants, she must be happy with whatever she's getting right? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:49 PM
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They throw it out as a precautionary insult to try and shame women into not even bringing up the idea of them contributing. As for LVM / NVM that are as bad as you described, I wonder if it's also a cultural thing? Where I'm from (Asia), a guy that extreme / bad, while not always uncommon, but he would be shamed in broader society - other men would generally also call him a loser for not having a job and living off a woman (I doubt they care about the cheating, but they tie masculinity to earnin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 06:10 PM
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Actually, in a sugar baby situation I see a willing seller and a willing buyer so there's nothing wrong lol. Not to mention that there is usually also a power imbalance because the buyer tends to be older and established in life - they can hardly claim to be taken advantage of, and usually it's the reverse where they exploit the younger woman. OTOH, the real gold diggers nowadays are people that I'd call social climbers that explicitly use and dump people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:33 PM
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I'd usually say this but I had a slightly smarter ex who said "no no, I won't touch her, I just want to watch the two of you going at it". You can still reverse uno it though. After all, why shouldn't you get to watch him making out with another guy naked. Or see another guy naked then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:07 AM
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Bcuz that's the only way they can get laid. Else the closest thing they'll get to human interaction during sexual acts is OnlyFans (which they'll sooner pay for than a date)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:57 AM
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They don't, but they sure do get awfully angsty when you call them out on it! There really is no gold to dig
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:56 AM
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The thing is, law is mostly made by old men. Rather than seek to prevent assault and attacks on women, they just seek to find some sort of "justifiable" punishment (also a joke), if the policemen and courts are competent enough to convict them. OTOH, they can very much imagine pepper spray being used on themselves, so, yup, panic button.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:49 AM
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just remembered laws in Canada say that any item used to hurt another person is illegal and you can be charged so this won’t work. Why are men still walking around with their dicks attached then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:47 AM
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The only "baby trapped" argument that should be allowed is if a woman tied a man down and extracted his semen from his ball sacks with him screaming, and then used that to artificially inseminate herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:18 AM
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All the arguments that men have against it are that "it's a human life!" (because there is no cost to them for carrying it to term), which can then be extrapolated to say, well, then in the first place, sex without the intention of creating life is wrong (the catholic mindset), because think of those wasted human lives. I'd love to say, well then it's abstinence chaps, put on your chastity belts. Suddenly they shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:15 AM
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They just twist the narrative to suit them. Afterall, how dare we have expectations of them? Poor eeney weeney boy who is apparently capable of being an adult when there is money to be made, how can we ask him to be an adult when there's no benefit to him? I'm a woman who has lived with a female psychopath before. As much as she deserved the reputational fallout from her behaviour, so many men get away with the same (or worse). Men were very quick to call out her behaviour because it hurt other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:04 AM
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I kind of just say: "no, you didn't, because you didn't consider my feelings at all. You just did what you wanted to do, without giving a shit about me." At least that makes them jump next to the "I'm sorry, I won't do that again" stage (also a lie), instead of trying to continue doing mental gymnastics to worm their way into the infinitesimally tiny space of "not aware, not my fault"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:53 PM
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I might be misunderstanding your last statement, but I feel like the problem and solution are both there: If a woman wants to be hugged by a man, then it's not assault. She'll probably express it in many ways. Men are so good at picking up on the slightest insecurity / opening to exploit us, they can't miss this and claim that they have bad EQ. The problem is also mirrored there: why do men think they are entitled to hug us at all? Also, they have ears. And other senses. If someone says "no", or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:41 PM
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Or just tell the complainers to let their wives go on a mobile-free holiday without them for a month. No cheat sheet, if they're such great parents, they will know, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:34 PM
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"unconditional love" only applies in incredibly limited circumstances: wrt immutable characteristics (ie. race & other ethnic features, gender), health issues and capabilities (latter two only for parent-child relationships). anyway, the same guy who claims that all he wants from you is "unconditional love" is also the same guy cheating on you because the other woman was a virgin who also gives blowjobs, ykwim. It's just all about them. They never think about any "unconditional love" that they s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:20 PM
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So... what by the logic of these scrotes, we should go storm and brigade TRP, MGTOW and every PUA / nutjob sub on Reddit? Go in there to insist that we are right and report hate speech on every resident opinion that differs from ours? Even if you have a semi-logical scrote who says "YES", we don't give a flying fuck. And that's one of the key differences between most men and women. Most women will simply ignore and move on with their own lives. Most men try to actively destroy someone who disagr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:11 PM
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+ Different scenarios: sometimes we will put the man in a trapped room with a deadly snake and spray them with snake pheromones / the scent of their favourite prey. Some snakes can't help themselves, yknow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:13 PM
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It is true. Sperm is cheap and abundant and eggs are far more precious. Theories of sexual competition are pretty interesting (I don't keep a list so I cannot provide links). But logically the producer of the sperm basically freerides off the producer of the egg, because the egg costs far more resources, but half of both their genes get passed on. Not to mention that the egg producer is naturally thus more invested in nurturing the offspring because their initial investment is more. The term "le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:14 PM
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Have you seen a male lion look after the cubs? Most of them are absolute shit at it, but they're still better than LVM and NVM fathers. It's hilarious because cubs are super cute and excited and they basically chase their dad around - he can't run too far or he can't come to their aid, but he tries to keep a distance so they can't jump onto him and swing from his tail and mane. They're forced to when the females go and hunt, because most of them are too lazy to help hunt, so they gotta watch the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:09 PM
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The Queen bee is the mother of all of them, so momma kicked the male bees out too ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:05 PM
4

There's a book about bees (written from an anthropomorphic perspective), by Laline Paull. The drones there are literal LVMs / NVMs, and they get massacred by their pissed off sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:59 PM
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The incel phenomenon is a homogenous mass of angry MRAs, wtf. That's literally all they are. If they put more effort into finding an appropriate job for their skill level, being a good bf / husband to a girl who will actually love them, instead of hankering after a girl way out of their league, they'd be a lot happier. But no, woman bad bcuz pee pee sad. Hot woman bad because she no touch pee pee. Women literally don't go around to men and tell them that they're not "idealised masculinity", they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:55 PM
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oh please, women made contributions too, even when they weren't being educated or given the same chances. Plenty of women still get credit taken for their ideas nowadays, so back then? Even more so. Also nowhere on this site do I see any definitions of LVF / HVF as physical descriptions - if anything those definitions are only repeated on the scrote subreddits. This lil shit literally cannot see women in any other way than valuable / non valuable to him and this is fully reflected here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:49 PM
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If you make them all drive together that might also cure them in record time. Nothing like being exposed to danger to be cognizant of the danger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:44 PM
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Which blog! Sounds like gold. The police in most countries are mostly male, so not surprised. Their peens probably got hurt too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:39 PM
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I'm of the opinion that women just need to get off OLD until something better for us is set up. The risk reward ratio for us is not worth it. OLD will crumble without women (see how Whitney Wolfe first set up Tinder).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:08 PM
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It's like defunding public toilets because they don't accept both genders. There was indeed some insane BS about this going on in the UK awhile back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:05 PM
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WE HAD THE EXACT SAME ILLNESS. Men are weak. Btw when you say that, then they throw their supposed Dariwnian idealogy out the window (not like they were the fittest anyway, since they freeride off women's labour), and start demanding to be coddled, because again "poor men and their self inflicted wounds"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:17 AM
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I mean, stoicism is practically forced on us since we get told explicitly and subliminally, like you said, to suck it up. OTOH, when guys decide to practice stoicism, ie. idk, maybe stop blaming something else for their lives, they self promote like "omg look at me, the enlightened renaissance man. I know philosophy! My pp is even more worthy now; it carries the weight of the world"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:14 AM
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Another commenter - probably not on this thread, was saying that they only start crying "what about men" because they want to silence women from speaking out about the crap that happens to them. That's exactly what it is. MRAs don't actually give a shit about other people's rights, just themselves. Additionally on volunteering, and other careers that are more related to caring like social work, nursing, teaching, guess who are the ones looking down on people who choose these careers for not maki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:07 AM
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I'm getting to a point where I think men should just STFU about their "complaints" in general. Sure, you do have some few genuine cases where they're being mistreated, but since they are okay with treating the much larger proportion of women being wronged as a statistic, this smaller statistic should by their logic be easier to ignore. Edit: I actually do have male friends / acquaintances who are decent and very nice people. The guys in my immediate family are also HVM. But I'm just so jaded by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:51 PM
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Clearly, the potential hurt that these men might supposedly have from thinking that they are a potential predator outweighs the potential for women to be tortured, raped and murdered. Who is this idiot? How the hell is she turning the issue of women's violence into "poor men" again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:47 PM
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And I wonder who raped those men (99.99% of the time at least)... Actually it doesn't matter how, they'll abstract it out to the nth order until they find a woman to blame, probably a mother. Cue the Khaled Hosseini quote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:26 PM
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I disagree only on the reverse, a really senior executive in my industry once came up to me in a club (I wasn't talking to him, but I was mingling with some of his juniors), gave his name card to me and told me that I should really call him. I did not even bother introducing myself to him prior to that. When I didn't he added me on Linkedin (since he knew where I worked). I sincerely doubt that he wanted to make a professional connection with an intern that he tried to hit on in a club.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:21 PM
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They get threatened by the existence of women who don't accept the scrote lies that they perpetuate to live off and abuse women. Even worse, we warn other women about them. Must. Burn. These. Knowing. Females. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:14 PM
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Legit, they think you will have sex with them if you just exist: - Being nice / friendly to them: oh she waved hi / smiled at me, she must want to fuck me - Being mean / curt to them: oh she's trying to get my attention somehow / playing hard to get, she must really want to fuck me - Ignoring them entirely: oh she thinks playing the ice queen card will get to me, she must really really want to fuck me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:11 PM
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I really like this statement of yours, because it is exactly what it is: men would rather women collectively accomodate the attitudes of dangerous men than actually hold men accountable we're just a statistic for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:13 AM
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The thing is, by FDS principles, we don't care. As said many times, we're simply shutting our front door to anyone who doesn't meet our standards. Go ahead and complain that we want dates with effort and that they won't date us. All G because we never wanted to date them in the first place But then they have the audacity to come screaming to our front door, trying to kick it down, because?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:00 AM
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Exactly, I'm a newbie, but I'm just going to say that FDS does not coddle people. It is, as many people have repeated, tough love. If someone puts out a post arguing about why they should stay in a shitty situation bcuz "lOvE" and "cOmMuNiCaTiOn", they're going to get downvoted. period. I've also gotten downvoted before when a comment was misinterpreted and it's NBD. As for being mean and rude, this is probably one of the few relationship subs where people can criticize an OP's decisions without…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:56 AM
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Nah, you see, they don't have a life, they don't have any education or career goals or accomplishments, they have no money (very likely), but what do they have? A whole host of reddit troll friends and lots of karma from MGTOW posts! They think about that when they hug themselves to sleep with unbrushed teeth and unwiped asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:49 AM
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Exactly sis. I participate in *career related* forums (I work in a very male dominated industry) Yeah exactly. If you give a hint that you are a girl in certain forums (including those not on reddit), they literally attack you purely based on that. OTOH I really have not seen many women going out of their way to DM hatemail to men in general. They are such whiner babies (with all the crazy ex stories) that there is no way they wouldn't post receipts if they had them. No legit user from this foru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:47 AM
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wrt #2, they have thicker skin layers (who would have thought, judging from the sensitivity of the trolls lmao), but they f themselves over by considering personal grooming "gay". Also, as women hit menopause, the changes in hormonal levels does make skincare maintenance more difficult. However, I have seen way more women aging gracefully than I have seen silver foxes. Most hollywood men have wrinkles, lines etc and are seen as hot whereas if women had it they'd be seen as an old hag. I beg to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:33 AM
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off tangent but this is also what it means to be high maintenance, imo. You have high standards, and you can maintain them yourself. It then becomes a lot harder for men's BS to impress you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:27 AM
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idk if this will help entirely, but a screen might also be useful. it does take up space and is limited in what it will cover, but I think if the peeping spots are below you, it should block out almost the entire view of you. It could be some sort of compromise between you and your grandpa, as you can set the screen up in your room / where you work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:20 AM
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Thank you for sharing. I've only really paid a lot of attention to who I will be working for recently. I am about to start a new job and I believe that this time, the bosses that I will work with genuinely care about employee development. Always hold your head up, and you know your worth. These men WILL try and “bring you down a peg” and they will be so sneaky about it too. Yes, this shocked me so much when I was fresh out of university. I didn't see myself as different then, but to the men I in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:10 AM
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Agreed! I meant in reference to your point that you would watch how they react to a minor illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:03 AM
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I know you mean well, but I'm tired of having to do things just to protect myself from men, tbh. I am all for having smart cannon turrets to automatically fire at approaching intruders without a pre-approved HVM stamp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:53 PM
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Almost-HV ex: I broke my foot and this guy accompanied me to the hospital, everything. I had complications mid way through the healing process and he left work to go with me to the hospital. Drove me everywhere on weekends, there was once I fell and started crying because I was so frustrated with being unable to walk and working horrible hours. He picked me up and cleaned my scrapes. LVM ex: Had chronic UTIs because of him. He never helped, not once, even though he didn't have to work. Had minor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:44 PM
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They say they hate mind games but then decide to pretend and play mind games, so we gotta play mind games back And conversely if he quickly tries to find an excuse why he can't make it, - then he's a "Block & delete" for me. Most men don't pass this test, I will tell you Yup, they definitely don't. It's like, oh bummer, she can't come over to have sex? Alright, "hope you feel better soon" and then they get on with their day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:40 PM
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One load of laundry destroyed. Yayyyyy. He pays for a new wardrobe. My sweater would be worth more than his ass. Yup! I am pretty litigious in other areas of my life when people deliberately wrong me and think they can get away with it. None of the LVMs I dated ever tried this shit on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:50 PM
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The only way this would work is (1) if you come from a well-off family that provided you with a padded trust fund, (2) you are highly educated in a lucrative, easily employable career (doctor, orthodontist, optometrist, etc), and (3) your husband gives you half of every paycheck. 100%. And also, I don't see why this is so hard that men complain that they're getting bled dry. Some paraphrasing: (1) Okay maybe not a trust fund for you (we can't help what circumstances that we're born into), but wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:41 PM
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Idk if this is helpful, but human brains generally don't process probability well. When your doctor said 3% chance to you, you (and him) thought you would most likely be cured, and hence he said you didn't need to test. Likewise, when your bf hears 3%, he probably thinks, practically zero chance that the meds didn't work. 3% chance is more like, 3 out of 100 people, to put it in context. That simple framing can change our perspective of an event. It's not as unlikely as the probably makes it out…
/r/askFDS11/03/21 01:35 PM
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Can I ask how you dealt with them? I'm in an industry where it's always very competitive. Being the (usually) only woman makes them single you out as a target sometimes. I had an ex colleague who didn't just badmouth me (after I regularly helped him out on things that he couldn't figure out on his own), but also blatantly took credit for my work - and then was embarrassed when he was exposed by his own lack of knowledge about the project. Frankly idk how / what I could have done when no one both…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:27 PM
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and then they need to share their discovery with the world. Who knew?! This must be why no women wanted to touch my pee pee for the longest time. Someone give him the prize for male education
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:22 PM
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Yet somehow, we're still apparently a toxic sub on reddit. Where are the pitchforks from Vice on this? Posts like this are convincing me that it's better to just never date rather than even bother going out on one date. The "friend of a friend" thing irritates me especially because I hate how guys praise their LVM friends as a "great guy" who you ought to date. Then this happens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:18 PM
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None. Every colleague / boss I have had either disrespects his wife or worships the ground she walks on and is whipped. It's not the women btw, it's them. Most of them have the mindset that they either dominate or be dominated, for most part. Therefore they end up with that sort of partner. There are a few that are genuinely sweet guys, but those usually marry early to their high school / university sweetheart (smart women!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:51 AM
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We're vilified for having periods lol. Like "you are feeling tired and moody from being in fucking pain every month? you must be psycho!!" Everytime I see a meme about how a girl is "going crazy" at her "poor bf" because she's on her period, I just want to barf. Please men, your worries in life are so non-existent that you have to complain about biology? Grow a baby in your testes then Meanwhile actual fucking psychos are given a gold star for being "such a nice guy" while serving time for the 1…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:34 AM
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I love you mods and I'm so sorry that you have to put up with trolls all day, and there comes along a dishonest and incompetent journalist. Idk / idc if Pickminique genuinely believes what she wrote. I think it's more likely that she just wants to boost her profile / numbers with a controversial topic, but align herself with the mainstream internet POV (male, duh), so that she doesn't get castigated by her editors (most owners of media are male, so yeah), or attacked by trolls. Lie #3: The core …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:21 AM
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"The ability to speak does not make you intelligent" Well, in this case, tweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:34 PM
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Trust your gut. And yeah, make an exit plan. He has shown that he will not treat you with basic respect, let alone as a peer. I'd also completely blindside him while finding a new job, if I were you, as I don't think someone like that can be trusted. Also, in the meantime, while he is your boss, there are other people at work, colleagues, people from other department, and even his boss. Build relationships with them, show them that you have confidence, smarts, gravitas, poise. Do it quietly and …
/r/askFDS10/03/21 05:02 PM
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Same. I don't think have a high opinion of her but his behaviour is not classy and he's just embarassing himself. Also I don't think she would have considered any meeting between them as a "date" - networking maybe, but date? hard no. It's just his fantasy Anyway, wrt to the wider royal family drama, everyone's entitled to their own opinion and I don't think anyone involved is an ingenue. They went in with their eyes wide open and for a reason (except the ones that are born into it, less of a ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:55 PM
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I hope his pp shrivels up and falls off. He'll find someway to blame her for that too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:08 AM
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LVM / NVM: "If it's not mean to me, it must something that I can use." "If it's not something that I can use (use / abuse / expect things from), holy fuck it is a mean thing :((((( ... me destroy >:(((((("
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:59 PM
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Mess with a cat and you might end up needing stitches. I respect cats for that, given that they're 10x smaller than any fully grown human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:52 PM
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This (and all the other comments) is actually really good in putting LVM / NVM behaviour in a quick analogy. I would also like to note that the alpha dog is supposed to provide food and security for the rest of the pack. LVM / NVM can barely take care of themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:32 PM
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A company pays you. And promotes you. Otherwise you don't stay at home either. Would you work for someone for free or underpaid? JFC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:57 PM
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Therapy is one half of change and the other part is actually taking ownership. Plenty of LVMs / NVMs can take ownership for things like their career, some personal hygiene, feeding themselves, but they can't take ownership of what should be the easiest thing in life: how they treat other people. Which is the only thing that is 100% in everyone's control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:02 AM
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Urgh yes, blame movies for that also. it's always "so young... so beautiful" everytime some villian is crooning over some female victim. Even pre-FDS days I think most of us were catching on to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:50 AM
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I really don't understand how western countries are getting more and more backwards in this respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:29 AM
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lOwEr YoUr StAnDaRdS literally being played out right here. And they say we can't make decisions on what to eat lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:24 AM
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I'm definitely not where you are and the violent crime is very low where I am, but a lot of cops are male, so they have that attitude. When I was 17 /18, I made a complaint at my local police branch about some labourers who worked right below where I lived. Everyday when my sister and I walked past, they would harass us with cat calls, coming up super close to us, behind us, etc. The cops' response "oh, well if they haven't done anything yet, we can't do anything" That's the problem with the law…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:14 AM
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If it is not self cleaning it won't work. Most can't even clean up after themselves. Okay it still might work but you'll get a massive strain on the healthcare system with all the infections they'll get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:47 AM
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One of the recent school shooters specifically targeted a female classmate who committed the sin of rejecting him I don't care how young he is, he needs to be charged with murder and given capital punishment. Actual sins need to be highlighted. Males tend to grow up facing no consequences for their actions because someone else always wipes their ass. Their peen is another useless, biological organ that no one else wants unless they have the requisite character and socioeconomic traits that may m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:08 AM
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Yup, they're always screaming about something that they don't even have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:01 AM
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yes... unfortunately that's how their minds work. Even if they've known you for a while. You need to get all the bases checked before putting out. Especially if you can't read people well. It's for your own protection. Ie. Years ago, I went out with a guy (let's call him guy A) who seemed to do everything right - he even picked me up after work when he was allowed to use the car, just to hang out, and didn't expect sex. I met his closest friends, who were a really sweet couple that had gotten ma…
/r/askFDS04/03/21 04:42 AM
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The older I get, the more I realise that not being able to leave mentally is because of something internal (a belief inside), rather than external. In any case, when it comes to commitment, you cannot force it, you can only implement your standards. Which means: if you're out actively dating (ie. searching for someone & on dating apps), you should date many appropriate men at the same time, and never commit to any one of them, even if you are really attracted to a particular one. ideally, FDS re…
/r/askFDS04/03/21 04:08 AM
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From the looks of it, it should be hers anyways because she supported this loser for most of their time together. He's there happily boasting about he was coasting in a low effort job because of her high earning one. He probably still owes her money if we're counting it this way. I hope she gives him an IOU for all of that + compensation for the pain and suffering he put her through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:45 AM
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I thought that he at least had some level of self awareness before realising that a large part of it is due to his "suffering" in having to actually work hard to feed himself, now that he almost killed the golden goose. Even in their previous arrangement this spoiled scrote was just living off his wife. If he's crying because he has to work 12+ hour days and some weekends, he needs to get a reality check, plenty of people work 80-100 hours on a normal basis to feed just themselves. Idiot should …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:41 AM
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It’s such a failure of humanity. I can’t help but be reminded by those fake animals that farmers use to collect semen.... only it’s for the reject animals so they don’t feel left out Battery farming is horrid for female animals, but the sub-par males don't even get to live. Literally only the chads are spared, for their sperm. Wake up, scrotes, even in a dystopia, you won't be in charge and still no one wants your genetic material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:18 AM
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I just want to throw holy water at him This cracked me up ahhaha. If he does start harassing you, I'm all for you throwing water at him and saying "begone, satan!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:15 AM
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Guarantee you that they still want to sleep with you, even if they're intimidated. Hold on to your beliefs girl, don't let some LVM / NVM get to you in a moment of weakness (because they will swarm over the moment they sense one!) Most guys are LVM / NVM. And LVM / NVM will not go for a girl whom they know is immune to their tactics. It's too much effort for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:09 AM
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I think it's also probably important to understand that most people who engage in these behaviors aren't consciously doing so.. Most LV types aren't sitting there plotting different ways to gaslight you - they usually just have unresolved issues they haven't addressed and poor coping mechanisms so they take it out on other people. Yup! Which is actually makes it harder to let go sometimes. I think most people can smell a sociopath after several months. OTOH, someone with these behaviours might l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:05 AM
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That's really awful, I'm glad you got away from him. It definitely sounds like he enjoyed traumatizing you. My situation wasn't as bad - the sex was intimate and enjoyable at first, as my ex took a lot of pride in whether or not I orgasmed (note: pride that he made me orgasm, not necessarily because he wanted me to enjoy it). I ended the relationship for other reasons but the sex was started to drift towards being used as a sex doll and I hated that. He was actually the only man I'd ever enjoyed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:20 AM
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I'm gonna be my own dreamgirl thats for sure. That's the goal :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:03 AM
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The first paragraph you wrote is more familiar to me than I would have liked, unfortunately. It wasn't as bad, but my LVMx got a kick out of pushing my boundaries, down to simply wetting his dick and pushing it into me. He wasn't porn sick but was insanely possessive, and that was reflected in our sex life. It only dawned on me that something might not be right in his head when he repeatedly "joked" about getting me drunk so that he could rape me. Or asking me if I wanted to "play a rape game" (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:59 AM
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Don't forget the fridging (almost every superhero movie, it seems). Also, all the scrotes that enjoy these movies think of themselves as a hero, but would they even sacrifice / risk their life to rescue their gf / wife, let alone innocent bystanders? No. So they can retreat back to their single man burrows and f-off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 01:36 AM
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written by narrators who might possess not a shred of physical beauty themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:05 PM
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Like everyone said, marry him only if it's to your advantage. One way is through hypergamy and forcing them to invest resources into you (although you should not put up disrespect or other bad behaviours in any other form just because they do so) - simply because it costs them to slip up. Men generally make money the most important thing in their life. A rich guy may buy you nice presents, but he will still feel it if he cheats and you walk away with half of his assets in a divorce. Commitment w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:55 PM
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They love the that you would even listen to them; it's the validation they get from having an attractive woman pay any attention to them. They might also drop hints of your existence to the wife while wildly exaggerating the level of your attention just to triangulate and keep her insecure. I personally wouldn't be in contact with any married men (unless they were friends I knew through school / work or had extensively vetted as a friend) unless they had some use to me: ie. genuinely funny / sma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:51 AM
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I feel like it takes effort to actually write like that at 26 years old. Even notes scribbled in a hurry by teenagers exhibit better penmanship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:18 AM
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I work in a male dominated industry and there are absolute losers who still get brownie points and have their firing rescinded when they go into the boss's office to cry. Yes, a mid 30s man crying because he was not only lazy and incompetent but impossible to work with and had been singled out by the global boss for being a shithead. Local boss still promoted him and I fled that sinking ship (which has lost money every year that it was set up). Also, as you guessed, he was an LVM on the side wrt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:39 AM
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This is why I don't do OLD. Their mentality shifts - they think that it's just a numbers game. And it's also sort of true that it's easier for them to find women who are traumatized / insecure that they will fall for that shit (then they use her and dump her and then wonder why they're single). Just focus on yourself and wait for the dates that come irl. Make female friends or join a group. Even the LVMs who ask you out through a social channel are afraid of getting a reputation for being cheap …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:05 AM
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they would absolutely have sex with you if given the opportunity. Yup. If there were no consequences, most men wouldn't think twice about having sex with most of their female friends and colleagues. You could be in your mid thirties and in great shape viewing your young male non-incel intern with a motherly gaze and he could be thinking about banging you, even when he has a girlfriend...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:00 AM
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Good for you girl! You have a keeper. An almost HVM-ex of mine used to feel guilty when he couldn't drive me home (which he did almost all of the time), and always wanted to get me a cab home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:38 AM
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He's beyond disgusting. 52 and preying on a girl who is actually half his age. Lying to her and then trapping her into a pregnancy, and then turning around to beg his soon-to-be ex wife when she gets a divorce (likely because he realised how much it's going to cost him). Oh, and the 12 year age gap between him and existing wife is another red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:06 AM
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Real HVMs will offer to drive you and your family / friends everywhere. Even if it's more than 20 minutes and they aren't going the same way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:40 AM
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I can volunteer two men that I know of (future BIL & a friend's fiance), but that was only after they f*cked up. And okay, another future relative who is an unusually mature guy. LVMs won't take on the logistical labor even after they've f*cked up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:37 AM
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"meant to that next week" (after it was done terrorizing and eating every body else) "was going to do it" (several weeks later)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:33 AM
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He's so butt hurt at your "verbiage" (clap for him for learning discovering the existence of a new word), that he actually bothered to create actual verbiage. He doesn't even know what verbiage stands for and just thinks it's meant to "signify verbal garbage" or "trash", when it actually just means excessively length expressions. Your statement is concise and to the point. I'm really sad that your genes are not getting reproduced while his have already been
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:29 AM
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bro, she's a management consultant with an MBA and makes 3x your salary. Pretty sure she's smarter than you! Damn I feel so sorry for that poor woman. I hope she rescues herself eventually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:16 AM
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also, she's significantly younger than him, apparently. What was he doing at her age? Probably just playing computer games that don't even have the EQ that reality TV has. Any one who lists their interests as "economics and other intellectual pursuits" is probably an incredibly narrow-minded person. He thinks he is a renaissance man when in reality he's only interested in things that make him sound smart. She might be a friggin environmentalist / sociologist actually making a difference in the w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:07 AM
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"my hot, intelligent wife makes me feel unwanted and not good enough, because other men constantly fall for her, and she treats my jealous tantrums with kindness and understanding. How do I make myself feel better about cheating on her and emotionally abusing her? How do I convince her to wear a burka while at the same time wanting my buddies and other men to clap me on the back for having a stunner (but! I don't want them to look at her though)? - Yours sincerely, Male victim"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:03 AM
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Important takeaways... "In a village, no girl would marry a man once he is past the age of 40"... Also, I love how these women are openly hypergamous and have high expectations. If a guy has nothing to offer her, she just moves to the city. The reality is that in a lot of these places the treatment of women can be horrifically backward, so I think women (and their parents) are just protecting themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:39 AM
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LOTR has alot of women marrying down though. Melian (basically a deity) marrying an elven king. Her daughter, Luthien, marrying a human. Arwen marrying Aragon. The reverse is less true. And not just marrying, damnit, Luthien and Arwen waited / did a lot of shit for their human partners. Granted, as immortal beings they had forever, but still LOTR also associates physical beauty with power / goodness a LOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:35 AM
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Yeah, I mean the diamond could be substituted for anything - some women prefer other types of gemstones - ethical and practical are two different things, and it is possible to source diamonds (at least) that fits the buyer's ethical requirements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:38 AM
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the explanations for "realist" can apply to "practical" as well. aka, I won't buy you flowers cuz they die. I won't spend on a diamond ring because it's a marketing campaign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:04 AM
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Printing this and sticking it on my wall. This is extremely accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:58 AM
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a boss 100% this as well. This goes for all relationships in your life. If you are compromising because you feel like you don't have a better option, make plans to get out, and also don't feel sorry for taking what you deserve on your way out. Even things like not saying negative (true) things about an ex-employer need to be reframed with the idea of prioritising your own reputation (ie. not being a negative / complaining person) in mind, rather than theirs. You don't owe such people anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:13 AM
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Agreed, it can be really hard to disengage from a good one. Especially if they're also narc and know how to calibrate their nastiness to stay just within your limits. Raising your standards all around helps with viewing everything with a new lens, requires them to put in more effort as the bars just get higher, and results in them slipping up more when they haven't realised that the standards have been recalibrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:09 AM
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women who share the same fantasy feeding men dangerous content The thing is, even the vast majority of women in this category probably have fantasies about their rapists being nothing like the type of men who are into the same content. Am pretty damn sure they would be horrified to be assaulted by men from that subreddit. Sorry incels, the chads still win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:04 AM
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I just can't ever be a fucking housewife Not without his salary going to an account in your control. If they want to treat you like a Japanese housewife then they're going to have to act like the Japanese husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:21 AM
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I have lucked out into very good dick most of the time and it is still not worth it if it's attached to a guy with any LVM qualities. Even when the good dick comes with commitment and him paying for valentine's day and dates and stuff, an LVM mentality is still an LVM mentality (disrespect, lack of responsibility for actions, selfishness). You'll still suffer in the long run and the propensity for the suffering to increase is higher than the propensity for it to abate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:17 AM
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Scrotes really can't fathom being offered sex let alone refusing it. You hit the nail on the head. I was speaking recently to an old friend whom I believe is a HVM. I was telling him about why I broke up with my most recent ex, including (but not limited to) him slut shaming me (This same dude also got upset that I wouldn't sleep with him till we were official 3 months later). My friend didn't even need to know the details, he just straight up pointed out that there was no such thing as a female…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:13 AM
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This should be higher haha. Either: (1) Patriarchy is the only thing that they've known and therefore they think that this is "normal" and any deviation from that is bad. Your garden variety male (aka most of the male population) is here (2) They're actually smart enough to recognize that society is highly patriarchal but why would they want to change a system that benefits them? (3) Your rare few HVM who are both intelligent enough to see the difference and moral enough to acknowledge that it's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:53 AM
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You have to make everything either an analogy to cars or sports for the idiot low value men to understand Sadly that's ALOT of men. It doesn't matter what industry they work in, how much they earn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:44 AM
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I'd say kudos to those "hoopties" for not letting a guy's definition of themselves get in the way of what they wanted. To them it's probably a great car until the relationship doesn't work out and then she becomes a "hooptie". If they stopped sticking labels on us that refer to us as objects (that they mostly can't afford lol!), maybe they would feel less "cheated"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:43 AM
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Yes this got me too. I get where he's generally trying to go, but I don't think that comparison was good. Most guys only care about physical attributes like looks, virginity, whatever It encourages guys who are average / below average looking to keep dreaming that they are entitled to harassing and irritating above average looking women (who might / might not be HVW), thinking all they have to do is put in more effort. And continue treating women that they don't find attractive as sub human or s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:40 AM
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Men will quite literally cheat because their wife / gf is so beautiful that it makes them insecure. I have never heard of a woman cheating for the same reason, and I've met female sociopaths before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:32 PM
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It's always been this way... Eve, Pandora...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:17 PM
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He hit the nail on taking equal responsibility as project manager of the house. My dad's a HVM, he did everything that my mum told him to, AND he grew up actually having to cook and clean for his siblings (NVM of a grandad meant that grandma was working 3 jobs), but even in my teen years, if my mum was away for a few days, the men suddenly reverted into not being able to mobilize themselves well (though they were capable of feeding and cleaning themselves) However she never let up on pointing ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 07:59 AM
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Make them invest in you. Time, effort, money. He doesn't earn a lot? Fine. He can still help you run errands, accompany you to places, help you move shit, help your friends and family. While taking you on dates that he can afford. Anyone who whines about that obviously doesn't genuinely want to be with you, and they can leave. He doesn't have time OR money? Unless he is working 80 hours at below the minimum wage, sending money to his parents back home and volunteering in his community, this is j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:00 AM
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and to leave at the first sign of a red flag. Also block and delete. It may seem ruthless, but men are very good at talking. They will try to argue and con you into staying. It's not worth it, don't waste time. Oh yes. They'll say that they'll change. But when you trace the motivation back to the root, and find the principle behind their actions, you realise that they don't have the right principles. And principles can't be changed easily. Most people never acknowledge or change theirs. Principl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:55 AM
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I already gave him chances before. All he did after was keep doing what he did. You got this right :) At the very least, someone who knows this will admit that they are trying to change but are struggling, which will at least open up the discussion of them going to therapy.
/r/askFDS26/02/21 10:22 AM
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So long as they do leave us alone - we know they won't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:47 AM
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I couldn't imagine the physics of it. Lmao yes I don't understand this! Your story reminds me of a time when I roomed with 2 other girls. 1 of them had a male friend bunk with her for a few months and suddenly the whole apartment was disgusting - skid marks, random half eaten food getting stuffed on another person's shelf, food getting stolen from our shelves, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:13 AM
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I'm going through the same thing as you now. Thankfully my ex blocked me on almost everything after I broke up with him, but I whilst I do know how to access his profiles anyway, I've avoided doing so for this very reason. I assumed and tried to mentally prep myself that he would try and move on asap, based on his history (never been single for more than a few months for 15 years of his life), and how he behaved previously when he thought that we were done for good (immediately downloading tinde…
/r/askFDS25/02/21 04:08 AM
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She's appealing it apparently, and good for her! There are also Chinese netizens who are furious at the sum and concluding that it's definitely better for women to not get married if that's all they're going to get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 02:01 AM
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Studies have shown that men are a lot less successful in distinguishing reality from fiction. But they are the lOgIcAl SeX. They have that surprised pikachu face every time they get told that they don't have some skill / positive attribute just because they were born male. They have a very slightly faster reaction time, I'd give them that, which is supposed to help in day trading pre-algo days and maybe gaming - obviously not here, since skill plays a part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:47 AM
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Yup, at least as a single woman I don't have to deal with skid marks on the toilet bowl (HOW do they always manage to leave these?) + the farting at night. How dare scrotes threaten us with not having that! nb. I always made him clean up after himself but it's nasty to go into the toilet, see that, and then holler at him to get over here and deal with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:36 AM
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What the actual f*ck. This is fully someone who would have assaulted her if she had been just a little timid and without a dog probably. Give her the artery opening rights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:33 AM
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May Hera help her Another long suffering literal queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:26 AM
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She can't quit her job. Who else is going to pay 50/50 with him? Maybe even 100% for the pregnancy and baby bills because it's her body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:24 AM
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Yup trust your gut. And ask him for more information like where you guys will be going. A public place - like a restaurant in a decent neighbourhood is fine imo. If he's evasive in any way, I'd say explain that you're not comfortable and then cancel. Even if they are planning some sort of mass date, they should be providing you information on that when they ask you out.
/r/askFDS24/02/21 04:09 AM
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Then they complain a week later about how no woman wants them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:43 AM
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This. They love bomb you (usually with words / anything that is cheap for them) when they're not abusing you to keep you there. Worth checking out signs of abuse from a narc to see if there is anything that fits your experience
/r/askFDS23/02/21 03:12 PM
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Sounds like you dodged a real bullet right there! Why are they so stupid though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:59 PM
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Yes lol, idk how their brains work, but it's like alright, let me step out of the way so I don't get trampled by the non-existent stampede of women running towards them... Also, I agree with him that idk how I was ever interested in him sexually. In my defense, I had mental health issues at that time, resulting in very low self esteem at that point, and was all alone in a foreign country when I met someone from the same high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:37 PM
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It is very shitty and it's also a reminder that the internet, including reddit, isn't neutral towards women. I just take comfort in seeing the sub's numbers grow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:34 PM
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It honestly sounds like a male writing that. It sounds like a slur, the kind of phrase a blatant racist or a misogynist (bingo!) would use. Spot on. They can't even fight with logic (because it's not in their favour) so it's basically categorize OP as an "other"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:32 PM
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So thankful I'm single when I see things like that. I've heard of men criticizing their wives' post partum bodies in front of other people + the wife. She birthed his friggin child, like what did you do LVM, drink a 6 pack instead of exercising for one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:06 AM
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MGTOW Going their own way but still can't live without us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:03 AM
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Also, when women date "out of their league" looks-wise, all else equal, they think that they lucked out. Men otoh tend to upgrade themselves in their heads - they think they're in a new league now. My first (LVM) bf was the high school dork, and I was one of the high school pretty girls. According to him, we literally had an encounter where he tried and failed to talk to me in school. I don't remember it and I didn't remember him at all. When I dated him in university, I was that virginal fantas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:59 AM
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The thing, is, men have never been expected to have basic standards for the vast millennia of human history. Now you understand why arranged marriages were necessary and the woman was usually weeping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:32 AM
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Only 18-22 year olds with DD+ breasts Weigh under 100 lbs. Don't forget "and she must be natural"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:29 AM
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Sigh... it's only women who go through so much lengths to make up for someone else's inadequacy, but it's also because there are more dangerous possible repercussions for us. Idk if the email idea might work, but yes, so many of them only take it seriously when they think a man is talking.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 09:14 AM
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It sounds like you know what to do but you're (rightly) afraid of his response. Do you have close friends / family near your area? Let them know, and maybe have one of them accompany you on your walks - regularly first, then randomly so that (if he's really persistent) he can't predict a pattern. If he gets aggressive, file a police report straightaway. I know police aren't the most helpful, but leaving a report also makes them aware that they can have liability (sad that some of them resort to …
/r/askFDS23/02/21 07:14 AM
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Everything they said. Also the corollary isn't you being "allowed" to follow other men (if that's what he's going to try arguing), it would be you putting yourself out there to get attention from other men, and I highly doubt that he would like that (if he does, then you guys aren't in a relationship)
/r/askFDS23/02/21 05:16 AM
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Actions, not words. Ignore what they tell you and follow the time and money - that's what matters to them.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 03:53 AM
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Do not accommodate. Just don't. Women are brought up to accommodate and most men are brought up just to take. Their entitlement will not recognize most of the sacrifices you make for them anyway. Accommodation is for things that don't affect basic standards. Literally like he has an allergy to something so you don't eat certain foods when with him. Not in the way he treats you.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 03:52 AM
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We've even introduced our respective parents and families to each other Sis, this should occur at the beginning of any serious relationship (that is, every relationship, according to FDS), as far as logistically possible. I'm a little old fashioned, but he should take your parents (and possibly family) out for a nice meal to introduce himself. That is the bare minimum that any guy interested in being with you should do. Also, you are 24 and you have a LONG way ahead of you. He's using you as an …
/r/askFDS23/02/21 03:50 AM
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It's easier to "pick right" when there are better apples. Takes more effort to have standards when you just see bad apple after bad apple, and are constantly told that you need to lower your standards and have an apple and deal with the stomachache afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:46 AM
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Actually, even when women were seen as the sole producer of the new child, we weren't exactly treated well. Anything to do with the child or even just its gender was blamed on mother. Not to mention women who were blamed for their husbands' infertility / poor sperm quality (*cough* Henry VIII *cough*)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:14 AM
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Why is this picture and most of the comments sadly so accurate? Saving it down as a reminder to instantly trust my gut when someone says this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:11 AM
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yes - not necessarily for malicious but simply selfish intent. That's my view. I think she just wanted someone to validate her at that point. Maybe to feel better about herself or to spy on you so that she could track whether you were getting back with your ex, who knows? But more importantly, who cares? But you're angry with this woman who is adding no value to your life and whom you would not want as a friend. Try to move on and ignore her existence in your head, because it has no meaning. If …
/r/askFDS19/02/21 02:34 PM
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hahaha literally "Let's not fight babe, I missed you so much" while grinding you from the behind and groping your chest. Who they talking to lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:36 PM
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Don't forget when they suddenly reach out and give your shoulder or arm a squeeze and laugh it off as being "friendly" or "playful". They're not, they're testing physical boundaries. Those turn out to be the worst creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:35 PM
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Ouch the scrote genes were just too strong huh. God do I not want a son ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:25 PM
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I felt like everything that I wanted with my ex he's now giving to her. I was about to reply "so she thinks. And it's only for now only." then I saw your update that it did indeed happen that way. There are always people of every gender who will use other people to their own ends, whether in relationships, friendships, or in the workplace. I agree that the ones who build on the "gender factor" feel like the worst betrayal. I think it never hurts to be too careful of someone who tries to shortcut…
/r/askFDS19/02/21 01:21 PM
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Yup! There's a recent post on the relationship sub about a lady who's just realised this about her husband... with a newborn. I would be the same age as her with a newborn too, if I stayed on for a few more years. You can tell she's absolutely torn though she made the right decision. My heart aches for her. It's terrifying because the verbal abuse and gaslighting sound so similar. It would have just escalated eventually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:06 PM
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Any attempt at meeting them, is a manipulative tactic 100% right on this sis! I think we women still give them too much credit, because don't we love that bird with the broken wing? Attempts at meeting them look like genuine improvement, but you should never have to teach someone to love or respect you. I'm slowly realising that my most recent ex is probably an undiagnosed narc. He just learnt to model certain behaviours over time so that the girlfriends don't leave as fast. But to him, he was j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:46 PM
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Step up or step out I kind of see it as step out only. Sadly it's a lot more than a bunch of behaviours. It's an entirely new mentality. It involves acknowledging that they were wrong, and it involves tearing off some of the b/s beliefs that they use to protect their fragile egos and look tough. Now when's the last time we saw a man capable of any that? True scrotes are gonna remain scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:59 AM
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They can't love back that way though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:32 AM
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yep you get raped once when drunk and you're a "whore". sadly I don't think that many guys genuinely change - they just fool a nice girl into staying with them and revert to LVM behaviour soon after. Or they never technically cheat but are happy to check out other women when their wives aren't around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:56 AM
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His intent is there but ultimately efforts not words. So, say, he doesn't get a few opportunities and he gets downcast, you can encourage him. But if he dusts his hands off because "he tried", then you know to drop him. OTOH, if he double up his efforts and starts cold calling, upskilling in his spare time, etc, learning about investments, learning how to save, then you know that he is taking this seriously. If you're better than him in certain financial aspects, ie. budgeting, I don't think it …
/r/askFDS19/02/21 08:41 AM
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Yup, and such people will get red in the face when you ask them how they can empathize with such a monster. One has to empathize with him to feel the pain of his "ruined life" while completely discounting the actual victim's existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:36 AM
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Big Swinging Dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:56 AM
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then when some 21 yo dude is a rapist / molester -> oh no, he's just a young boy, why ruin his life /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:38 PM
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He claims that he and his wife agree that he can use porn. I'm sure this is a technicality. More likely there have been a lot of tears shed over this, a lot of gaslighting on his end and "male logic" forced down her throat. He KNOWS that she's not 100% okay with his porn knowledge, that's literally the only reason why he's hesitating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:33 PM
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He's only unsure because he doesn't want to out himself while confronting her. Going to be a matter of time before his last remaining braincells work and he says "so a buddy sent this to me..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:54 PM
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Same. The smartest ones are actually often the quietest ones and the least likely to have BSD syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:49 PM
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a cheap plastic/silicone Made-in-China-special with batteries is more appealing and fulfilling to women than you. Hate speech!!! /s Honestly that's going to be their only response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:27 AM
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He doesn't want emotional intimacy and that's his boundary. Yes, he's being ridiculous because then he shouldn't be dating if he's not ready for it, but some people can't be reasoned with. It's good that you're taking steps to limit the use of your valuable time and space in your head. Be proud of yourself for seeing it for what it is instead of trying to chase the push and pull! Despite your title, you actually did date him... you guys went on dates, you made an emotional investment based on go…
/r/askFDS18/02/21 04:01 AM
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Except that he could have planned earlier tbh... if he wanted to. It's on the 14th of Feb every year, it's not a moving target. I personally always insist that we go on another date, because I don't like markups, but even then, on that day itself, something - get some flowers, chocolate, ham, cheese, fruit & wine for a nice evening together is better than what this guy did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:24 PM
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Is he my latest ex? Could he be two-timing us lol I said flowers just twice a year (vday, birthday) and he didn't think I was serious BOTH TIMES. The argument was that he spent money - and yeah he spent $200 to $300. But he can't spend on flowers? Because he doesn't like to. And he wondered why I kept screaming during our fights that it wasn't about him. Eventually he promised to buy them by the year end, but I got tired of it and let him off. This vday, I decided that I would be happier without…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:19 PM
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Line the whining scrotes up - if they can kill the lion (I think it has to be a fully grown male lion) with a spear and bare hands, then they can whine about how they're entitled to a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:11 PM
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The majority of both serial and one-time rapists committed a felony-level crime before committing sexual assault — and then committed another afterward It was consensual, not a crime /s On one episode of Elementary (I think), Holmes says that searching for a potential killer for hire can be done by just searching for sexual offenders. The mentality is already the same - no respect for others as humans. I think this just proved the show right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:32 PM
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do males in the animal kingdom complain that they have to compete with other males to get the ability to mate with a female? No, they just fight it out or slink away with their tail between their legs. Hell, even in humans, the Masai have to hunt a lion or something before he can get a wife. Supposedly Jewish boys had to memorise the Torah. Maybe they would like to do either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:29 PM
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This guy would have died without reproducing before the advent of online dating, when men were actually limited by the number women that they physically came into contact with. With online dating, they can so easily speak to so many women and yet still think that life is unfair to them. 100% sure he's on dating apps. Why does he have to put in all this effort just to get sex. Why does he even need to date to have sex and a gf. He deserves sex and a gf! Poor scrote /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:23 PM
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sperm is so gross that guys don't even want to touch their own. If you swallow and then kiss them, there's always this fleeting expression of "eeeek" on their faces
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:35 PM
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Would you also be including book recommendations that are just good for self improvement overall as well? Maybe written by female authors only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:24 PM
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the government has been useless for years This seems to be case for more and more Western European countries... despite the safety nets you guys supposedly enjoy relative to the rest of the world. I guess it is just easier for them to focus on political issues, rather than reforming and cleaning up education and job markets practices... too many entrenched interests and dubious contract awards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:36 AM
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Where is the self-reflection or mindfulness I swear, this is the last thing guys mean when they're working on themselves after a breakup. It's always gym to get fit again so that they can hit on new women. Eat clean and be healthy. Self-improvement is get abs and a new chick. For a few, maybe they'll pick up a new hobby or skill that they think adds value to their life (ie. earning potential / can pick up more chicks / be more productive or sucessful) Looking at where they went wrong? None of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:45 AM
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Oh but it is to them ahahah. It's their privacy! Their right! Their account. But no, you can't wear the same things these girls are wearing (or not wearing, to be precise) in public, let alone post a similar photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:00 AM
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Yes haha! Actually I realised that Adam Taylor Johnson & Samantha Taylor Wood are another couple like that, but I don't think they're that well known. They have 2 kids together too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:57 AM
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Let him know I looked for his Wiki page and found NADA. Ask him who asked for his Simp Daddy opinion. Same hahaha. Also these are the kind of guys who then create their own wiki page when they get 5 mins of fame somewhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:53 AM
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yep but he's sTrAiGhT. These guys are so in love with other men, who definitely aren't in love with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:51 AM
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That's disappointing. I'm sorry - I'm not from France or Europe and did not know about that. I guess all the virtue signaling he did earlier about equality and championing women's rights is exactly that. Any idea on how France became / why France is like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:50 AM
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Nice, I did not know. And they've been married for a real long time too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:37 AM
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Ikr. Not just a decent human but the head of a state. Idk what all those mockers lead but probably not even themselves. I know people have their opinions on him but I also give him credit for not backing down against terrorists and common sense, instead of cowering before "religious rights".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:26 PM
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She won't even need to be older. Same age or slightly younger will do. The only example of that not happening is Macron, I think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:19 PM
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Random loser: Russell look here! No why would you look at Ciara when I can clearly give you more. MORE Russell: ye gods someone call security
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:15 PM
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Everytime I see one of these losers telling an actually famous or successful guy (whether said guy is LVM or HVM) that he can do better aka basically trying to be a "bro" and give him life advice, I just crack up. These dudes be thinking a successful guy wants their advice. Or even want to breathe the same air as them. Or even want to be aware of their existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:12 PM
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I'm sorry, is this dude supposed to be somebody? I recognize Wilson's face, and I ofc know who Ciara is, but this random person commenting on their relationship? Nada.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:09 PM
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Girl on the train Thanks, I'll check this out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:53 PM
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I'm not a big fan of TV, but I've seen at least 2 detective tv shows across different cultures where this is part of the plot, and the bereaved LVM husband goes "boohoohoo how could you have done that to her, I loved her not you", and the murdering mistress goes to jail. I really hated that because again the man gets to become the victim and is conveniently absolved from cheating by having the woman he cheated on murdered, and the other woman whose heart he broke sent to jail. Idk if this dude g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:46 PM
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Needed mommy, resented mommy, and now want mommy to hug again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:29 PM
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I feel like what really made him NVM / LVM for me isn't what he actually does (he looks like he's at least feeding himself and exercising, and there isn't that much info on the fiancee leaving). Some people just want and do have a chill life, and so long as they're not sponging on anyone I think it's okay. It's how he says that he thought he was better than most people AND he feels that way literally because he has gaming instead of watching tv shows... I can start understanding why the fiancee …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:25 PM
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fr On another forum (not reddit - iykyk), there are banker babies who have to be reminded by the more senior guys that no girl is after their year end bonus lol. apparently gold digger these days just means not doing 50/50 while putting up with all the shit that some guy might put you through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:31 AM
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for another 15 min?? For another $30, he couldn't. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:28 AM
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I feel like lawyers are just as bad as doctors And bankers haha. I think they can be found anywhere, but when they know they have "status" in society, doesn't even need to be for financial reasons, they're so up their own ass about value. feel kinda bad for the pickme that thought she bagged a hunk I feel like we don't know enough about how much they knew about each other before that, but the fact that she had a screaming match with him means that she wasn't okay with it and confronted him (good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:26 AM
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You're dead on it's the attitude. Eventually they blow up because they think that they've already "given" so much because the attitude doesn't change so they don't realise it's what they should have been doing in the first place. Poor men! It's abuse to have to do right by your gf / wife in the first place (/s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:57 AM
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100%. I think we tend to get less of the type that are bums and don't have basic hygiene, because thankfully parents and society still pushes them over that, but plenty of selfish man children running around with their dicks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:36 AM
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Ikr... just think of all the men running to hide themselves from all these predatory women scheming to get their dick. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:28 PM
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I don't disagree with you and I think you read my comment the wrong way. My personal preference is to usually point out the florists / gifts that I actually like to the guy I'm dating so that I get what I want, instead of them choosing something that I might not like. My comment just reflects my thought process that way. I've also met women who get very angry at gifts that they don't like and prefer cash instead from their husbands / bfs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:25 PM
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yes please, thank you! :) Love seeing other SG queens on here too, good to know that we're all out here with each other even if we don't recognise each other in real life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:55 AM
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It does take something to be called out by other men - since a lot of them have terrible standards. He probably needed that affirmation from you so that he could take it back to them and say that he did alright by you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:07 AM
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Man, divorce is looking nicer and more realistic by the day. Am kind of curious, I know all breakup decisions take time, but what are you waiting for? Are there some logistical / financial issues that you need to set in order for yourself first? I hope this story ends with him being "blindsided" by the divorce papers and then getting reminded that he was a shit husband for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:05 AM
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If you've gone as far as to at least point him to the website of a preferred florist, or shown him what gift you want, he can at least spend the 1-2 hours to choose it and pick it up to surprise you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:56 AM
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Yeah, including their friends' daughters. I hated it when some person (usually a parent's church "friend") whom I didn't know and had never done anything for me personally in my life threw their infant or snotty nose brat at me and said "here, look after him/her", just because I was a young girl. Like if I wanted to play with your spawn I would do so. I don't like them so keep them away from me. Somehow it becomes a socially-imposed "responsibility". If there's a woman (or even young girl) in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:45 AM
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That's 100% not a friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:34 AM
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The need to add the last line just screams of his own insecurity at being judged for being a cheapo. He knows it and is trying to do a pre-emptive strike with that line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:32 AM
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I did the same! Ended a one year relationship, it wasn't worth the nice dinner and flowers that he was going to take me to / get me. He picked fight #1000 over some non-issue and I got tired of it and decided to end it. He changed tack and started swearing he would change but wouldn't do any actual steps to. I had to pry his hands off my leg by literally taking off the gloves and calling him out on every thing that was wrong with him until he got so enraged he agreed to end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:19 AM
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hi from SG too haha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:56 AM
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Let's create a group on how to manipulate, lie to and force men into having sex - said no woman ever. Then they whine and say that we do that for money and they do that for sex because it's in both our natures. Somehow they flip it around when discussing money and 50/50 or 100%-fund-the-overgrown-manchild is the way to go, or sexist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:41 AM
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Gonna point out that every HVM or close to that I know of can actually cook and clean well, has good social skills, and is hygienic. Father, brother and a few in-laws are all like that. HVM can also be on their own. It's LVMs who jump from relationship to relationship looking for someone to drain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:39 AM
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What an insecure prick. Either way, an LVM can't be happy because they're not happy with themselves in the first place. Even if they get an amazing wife, they'll be unhappy knowing that other people think they hit out of their league, instead of thinking that they're lucky. I was reading an interview with Amal Alamuddin (I adore this woman) that featured her husband as well. He said of his wife that "[he] picked right" which rubbed me the wrong way. Like no, George, you did not pick. You got luc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:34 AM
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Love that he got downvoted to hell on his low effort outdoor "date" comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:15 AM
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Wanna bet that when he says the prices are equal, he's talking about retail prices? He might have gotten them on clearance etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:13 AM
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Oh yeah, I didn't catch this but it seems like it was carefully worded to not out himself. Another big tip for male lurkers: if your friends (especially female ones) are decent people in healthy relationships, and they like your gf / wife, it's not her, it's you. The inverse isn't always true, but if your sister is best mates with your gf, well... it's really looking like you're the problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:11 AM
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Chore work = major red flag. He's lucky she let's him cook. I reserved that one for myself because I'm not touching dishes and the trash. Pretty much also shown that he only cooks what he likes and does a half assed job cleaning. Gift Basket: In no world have I ever heard of a man getting a woman clothes, skincare and shoes without fucking up. Like never. Unless they've asked their friends etc. Even as female friends you'd be wary of getting those things unless you were 100% sure. Books & art su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:08 AM
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Yeah the last part was so gross but I'm glad she stood up for herself here as well and told them off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:37 AM
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Ah yes, ex and I were in the same line of work, except that I worked about 1-2 years more than him. Guess who does not have wrinkles and skin laxity? Not him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:09 AM
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Quite a few of the women mentioned actually out-earned and provided for their loser husbands actually. Not 100% sure about all of them, but Britney Spears and Megan Fox did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:55 AM
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I have sighted (but cannot remember) studies that showed that a very significant proportion of men being surveyed admittedly anonymously that they would if they can get away with it. Men aren't shamed as much as they should be, aren't shamed for stupid shit like women are (we're shamed for being the victims even), so is it any surprise that they don't develop morality and instead just base it on the likelihood of repercussions? Now they can also hide behind "I was drunk / I was angry / I had (su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:42 AM
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There are plenty of properly raised men who end up LV I think the definition of "properly raised" isn't just about having a stable, non-dysfunctional family. Imo the "properly raised men" who do end up LV, were entitled and spoiled growing up. Add in some insecurity about not getting kissed by the high school beauty (even though they're mommy's most handsome little prince!!!) and you have some misogyny as well. Nothing worse then seeing a 6 foot 20 yo complaining about carrying stuff for his mot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:37 AM
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Mathematically, that's also when you know that a relationship is adding no value to your life. Also, I guess for them it's dividing and shafting half of the life effort to their unlucky partners. Except that they get to decide what effort gets divided and what they don't have to do, so you end up with negative value to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:21 AM
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People like to steal from vending machines too, and I think that's become more common in the recent decades. They don't wanna pay, they just bang the machine to try and get candy for free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:15 AM
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Or tell them to calm their testes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:12 AM
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A child grows out of it eventually... or they just become men I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:10 AM
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The tragedy is what he did, not what he made of himself. Disgusting to see the judge completely miss that. They always deserve a second chance apparently, even when they fucked up. The more shit they had going for them (intelligence, wealth, etc), the more society goes "oh, what a waste, we should rehabilitate this one" OTOH, we're fucked immediately even for things that happened to us - "asking" for rape and other shit. So much for logical. When someone who had everything going for them decides…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:46 AM
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Even if he only does 20, that's 10 hours. And it's not like he didn't want to get her fresh roses in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:38 AM
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Girl he is a stray dog, leave him out on the street and let a rescue organization find him LOL. Someone else said this - you can't date potential. That applies in terms of basic hygiene factors like taking care of themselves and their character. A real stray dog is more problematic but at least you know that at the end of the day, you're its entire world. Can't say the same thing about men. Edit: we really have to get the lurkers out. Some of them are so butt hurt that they're reporting comments…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:35 AM
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Exactly and if someone can't understand that, dump them, they're selfish af and they very clearly put themselves first without any consideration as to the sacrifices that a woman has to give up to be in a relationship and to marry them and raise their kids. My sister is actually one of those girls who didn't want an expensive ring, or a ring at all, because her fiance has always been extremely generous not just to her but our family. He insisted. It's a matter of his own pride as his ability to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:54 AM
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I stopped being interested in most shows and movies years ago because of this. Same plot, same thing. There's been a recent trend of having feminist and LGBTQ main characters, but I feel like most of them still gloss over the real challenges that women face (female lead is nice, sweet, perfect, a doormat tbh but everything works out for her in the end). And she's also always very attractive and smart and a high achiever. I really love the female villainesses (unless the cast her backstory that s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:38 AM
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Can't thank you enough for this as true networking is also a huge problem for me. You should be getting more upvotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:31 PM
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Yes unfortunately it was the same. Every year lost to an LVM irritates me now because of the opportunity cost of something else I could have developed. Not just relationships but career, skills, mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:42 PM
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What Women Are Good For recently Was it banned? After all, if the small dicks get butthurt by our comments...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:37 PM
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Actually, often other women don't help and actually hurt. I've seen women who practise FDS in their lives (although I don't think they know of this community or FDS specifically), and marry HVM. But they're nasty pieces of work in private and that only comes out when they're dealing with people who don't have any leverage over them. So while they close their legs and emphasize that sex is for marriage only, they maintain friendships with LVM if the LVM are useful to them, and deliberately sink t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:09 PM
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I’ve been paranoid that they’ve taken photos when I’m turned around or not looking. This is true. I had a male acquaintance who warned me about this. He showed me a video where a mutual acquaintance (a really disgusting LVM who tried to hit on me a few times) had picked up a girl in the club and was livestreaming proof to the "boys" that she was in his bed while she was completely knocked out. He's also not the only one. The sad but funniest scenario I've heard of were 2 LVMs who had been doing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:00 PM
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Ikr! Not sure how she's "spoiled", it's just him being unable to find a logical retort. And him just not liking that she's known other men who are wealthier / spent more on her But if you ask a man to unfollow his instamodels, all fucking hell breaks loose Yes. Why are they following them (and actually tbh, random girls who are not friends that they know in real life), other than because they are getting some heterosexual male pleasure out of it? By deliberately focusing their sexual attention o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:21 PM
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Said it's because of women like her, men have killed themselves over their penis size And yet... it's us women who are insecure over our looks and emotional lol... It's also probably just all the small dicks replying. I love how your second paragraph basically used all the BS they do to justify men cheating. Sounds so different when roles are reversed, huh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:56 AM
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Jesus this is so true. Even the most polished looking guys you meet can turn out to have disgusting habits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:49 AM
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Sadly she didn't believe me. Didn't believe that her son could ever do such a thing. But at least she stopped badgering me to get back together with him. Dodged a massive bullet with that one; he asked me for a meetup a few years ago (about 2 to 3 years after things had ended), and showed me that he was still a selfish manchild. Told me that HE decided that we should "try again". I was like, you can decide all you want, I'm not interested so go away. The fucking audacity hahaha. He couldn't admi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:18 AM
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Thank you for explaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:13 AM
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Interesting and thank you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:13 AM
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Women everywhere are still being handled a raw deal - even in developed economies. I don't hate men per se, but I'm atheist with a pet interest in biology. When I found out that females technically don't need males to reproduce because of parthenogenesis (sadly not available in mammals), and the key advantage of sexual differentiation was just to increase gene diversity (and in every other animal but humans, fitness), I cackled. A lot of scrotes also don't know, but the default template for a hu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:48 PM
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Ye gods that is really nasty >.< This ex got into anal because of anal porn too. Glad you didn't do it because a single occasion would f up my bowels for days. Funny how the medical community is pretty silent on this. I only told her because she wouldn't give up the idea of me getting back together with her son. I feel really sorry for the mothers of these LVM, their sons are often not good sons too, it's like all the effort and sacrifices they put into raising these dicks down the drain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:23 PM
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When it comes to men not getting sex, it's abusive because it's a need and they can't help it. When it comes to women having sex (with anyone else except the incel commenting), we're stupid because don't we know that men will say anything to get into our pants? Our fault for believing these tricksters who turned out to be LVM. Or even, our fault for believing some guy was "nice" and getting raped Male "logic"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:17 PM
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triangulation Just curious what this meant? Does it mean that they (LVM) target you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:10 PM
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Oh yes... not mentioned in the original post, but even if he hasn't hit you (yet), violence in any form is a tell tale sign of a LVM, because they cannot regulate their emotions like a grown up. No one else but toddlers and smaller children do this. If they can take out their anger on an inanimate object (that is literally incapable of doing anything to "make" them feel angry), the next target is you. To be very honest, it's a general sign of emotional immaturity and no respect for anyone other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:08 PM
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He's on the verge of being a HVM (going to therapy to correct himself) I'm quite curious about this, if you don't mind sharing more (via DM or here). I am in the process of breaking up with my LVM ex: I'm trying to end things but he is claiming that he can change and suddenly claimed that he is open to therapy (if it's free, he's cheap). He isn't the worst of the lot that I've seen here, but he's not meeting my standards. Inherently I believe that the roots of his multiple issues (lack of respec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:32 AM
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Omg I saw this. So many mothers do much more than that. The scrotes in the comments sections also conveniently ignore women who point out that the roles are reversed and more extreme in the vast majority of families. Like, who raised you? Who changed your diapers and picked you up from school and did the chores? AND held a full time job? Most of them are probably disrespecting their mothers. Ungrateful shite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:05 AM
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In countries that have falling birthrates like Singapore and Japan, the default (patriarchal) response is to try and encourage people to get married more and have more children. There were literally efforts to increase dating and to increase the frequency of sexual intercourse. It has been pointed out that women don't want to have NVM / LVM seeded babies. And if they wanted to make a difference in this, perhaps they should uproot workplace discrimination AND make men carry at least their fair sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:55 AM
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He will move on to a new to woman, hoping that she will be “the right one” and having done ZERO work to improve himself This is the most universal trait of all LVM / NVM. Complete inability to change, because they have a complete inability to accept that they can be wrong. Even when it's pointed out, black and white to them, and they simply cannot dodge it, they will simply show their true colours and minimize what they did. Like, oh okay, nbd, or that they did this because they're "suffering" t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:49 AM
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This is reinforced by the whole "don't be left on the shelf thing" and that women must all naturally want to be mothers. I didn't want kids when I was younger, later decided that I did, but haven't found someone that I'm willing to have kids with. Breaking up with my LVM bf, I STILL get comments about my biological clock and declining market value and how it is good to have somebody taking care of me, when in reality I've been taking care of myself from day one dudes. Other than a HVM relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:36 AM
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My LVM of a first bf pulled this shit on me. He told me it was "normal" although I let him try it a few times and hated it. And the nonsense about how if I loved him I would let him do it more often - depressed as I was at that time (had clinical depression), I could at least see that was utter BS and reversed that argument on him. The only bonus was telling his mother (a genuinely nice lady) that after we broke up. For context, she and I had been very close, and she was badgering me about how h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:21 AM
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