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I live with a man and the only thing I really really miss is having a bed for myself. He's gone for a week and damn I sleep so much better with SO MUCH SPACE in the bed. I feel I can't really sleep well when I need to worry unconsciously about rolling into someone all the time. We plan to get two separate large beds in our next apartment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:24 AM
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My job got so much more relaxed and easier when I stopped caring about the people (coincidentally men) in my team who don't pull their weight. I used to be proactive with sharing infos and ways to help them do the work, but most never reciprocate. Some actively keep solutions to themselves, excluding parts of the team (not only me). At this point I'm even grey rocking some of them. I don't mind if they drown. One got fired for incompetence when we stopped babysitting him. He's twice my age and o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 01:18 PM
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Nothing. You get out of such friendship/relationship. I've been interested in a guy who showed his true colours very early on - commenting like this on my make up, eating habits etc - I blocked and deleted. But not because of FDS, didn't exist back then, but because I very well recognized the pattern and had sworn to myself to never subject myself to that ever again. Previously I had ended a friendship with a guy who was an expert in this kind of negging. He was fat and sported a neckbeard but m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 11:02 PM
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He meant depth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 10:56 PM
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Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:01 PM
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It's a mix. It's partially inescapable, as you say, and hard to shake off. On the other hand, what helps is this: I've been alone for the majority of my life and I was fine. I did what I wanted when I wanted. I managed to do things, like moving on my own, finding good deals on my own, changing gas provider and comparing prices on my own, sue an employer, do repairs in my apartment, go grocery shopping without car like a mule and carry it all home alone, find my way through the big city, write co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 11:50 PM
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it's not only this. it's rating them on a scale and thinking, really really believing, their whole value was tied to how "bangable" they are. there's no room for personality, interests, quirks, like some people do look rather average but absolutely have something about them, often it's confidence, character, stuff you can't simply measure. it's beyond me how you can go through life rating human beings on scales from 1 to 10, but I do pity it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 12:24 AM
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knowing this was quite liberating in a sad way. i used to be so worried about my appearance, now I know i could be a walking glove filled with minced meat and some guy would want to bang it. which means I can stop caring what guys think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 12:22 AM
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it is so boring. if someone offered it to me ("you can have sex with all the hot guys you see", i'd say nah, thanks. I'm good. A) not so many hot guys around b) I'd rather do something fun or meaningful with my time, like trying to kill an Elden Ring boss 28378273 times, sleep, or stare at the wall for an hour, still more fun, that one crinkle in the wallpaper really does look like a dragon. no seriously, it is so sad. ​ not even halfway reading through his pamphlet my brain shut down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 12:20 AM
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Yup, way to blow something out of proportion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:11 PM
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I also had something like this happen, it was a dating platform and he first thing asked for my name and what/where I work. I ignored it first but when he asked again if I won't tell him my name, I simply said "nope :)" Wow what followed was him literally EXPLODING in text over a full page, paragraphs about how I'm one of those vulgar women of this city, unfriendly, rude, won't even tell my name.. wtf. After seeing this I was happy I never gave him anything. To him, too, I wish he heals.. but I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:19 PM
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It implies that he thinks her service should be free or is not worth anything because he thinks with paying for it he's mainly "supporting" her. Maybe he was never interested in the transaction at all and it was all just a ploy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:14 PM
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Maybe he wanted to check her intelligence 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:11 PM
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Guess he has money. Not to excuse it, just to explain.. when I look at pictures of him I wonder how the lower half of his face can even be real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:38 AM
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LOL juggalo is what came to my mind as well, he looks like an evil clown caricature... And behaves like one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:32 AM
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I know why I never eat at McDonald's
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:31 AM
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When I saw the sleeve & tattoo I knew we would be in for something. When I saw his face I almost puked. Lovely how he aims the camera at her chest so subtly. I feel sorry for women who fall for these clowns, I'd rather be single and live with 5436 cats than being tested by a guy like this (or anyone)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:29 AM
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Fellow sweet summer child here. I would have thought the ...activity? ;) was related to saying "active activity" which sounds quite stupid, because an activity is active. I also would not have seen nerdy activity as neg because some activities are seen as nerdy and still widely enjoyed. I comfort myself over the thought that if it were me and I had let that go, I'm sure he would have outed himself more blatantly shortly after anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 12:40 AM
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Your last paragraphs had me think of anime girls and their stupid faces
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:21 AM
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Going to the place of an ex at this hour unannounced and because of 2 shirts.. and then being angry and accusatory. Just wow, it's like stepping all over every thinkable boundary. I would not even go to the place of a friend unannounced with a cake at 11 pm. I wonder if he was high or drunk when he started driving but then he should have realized midway that this is a stupid idea, turned around and drove home,ashamedly. He didn't. Sounds like a real psycho if he considered all of this a good ide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:06 AM
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It's always the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:55 AM
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Wish I had never seen it as well. Then I could still watch it for the first time <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:48 AM
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The only beard I think is okay is the one on the bottom left, all others already cross the weird Jesus/otherwise religious figure stereotype/Santa Clause/Dumbledore/wood gnome/garden gnome territory that I find SO unattractive and unmanly. Having such beards equals old men for me. Grandfatherly guys. Possibly wearing a robe and under it scrawny hairy legs in compression stockings + sandals. Nothing I want to make out with. Maybe when I'm 80. But I think not even then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:32 AM
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Sounds nice, unfortunately not in my country(yet) but I'll keep my eyes open next time I go shopping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 01:20 AM
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What's weird is that I consider bad breath a serious problem. Don't they smell/taste themselves? Don't they care to be repulsive? It's terrible. I've read on other subs sentences like it's impossible to floss every day. No it's not? It's a habit, just like brushing, makes this whole thing take 2 minutes longer but improves everything so much. What also bothers me are people who never brush their tongue. When I accidentally see someone's, usually a man's, tongue and it has this brown gunk on it, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:21 PM
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Does it really make such a difference? I'm considering getting one every now and then, I floss every day but I heard waterpik is more thorough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:17 PM
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Even imagining it reversed is cruel. If my boyfriend without expensive makeup or hair and maybe wearing some rather generic suit made it a point he does NOT want cake in his face and I shove him headfirst into the cake, the hurt and shocked look in his face would break my heart, plus everybody laughing, making him the butt of the joke.. I could never do this to someone I love. This guy has no empathy. Love your last sentence lol also edit: genetic suit.. I meant GENERIC. Not that he would be nak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:25 AM
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Even the "they never noticed" - for sure they did. But maybe like me immediately knew it was due to his ego and didn't press it to not hurt him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:32 AM
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I'm 176 cm (which roughly translates to 5'9) and I'm used to men when they say they're 180 cm that were kinda the same height or no noticeable difference. Usually those guys act confused and try to shift it on me, telling me then I must be taller, but nope, I know for sure I am 176. Always thought it's because they can't accept the fact they're not at least 1,80, that's why they make it out of being only 1,76-1,79. 1,80 sounds nicer, so I think they just round up. So whenever a guy tells me he's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:30 AM
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I was wondering about this, like if they make such a difference, wouldn't his shoes need to be weirdly large.. clumps? Like 10 cm Plateau soles INSIDE the shoe? From 5'8 to 6.. but even 3cm would be a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:15 AM
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Ok, was guessing this but I thought maybe there could be something else behind something like that. It seems strangely familiar somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:33 AM
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Urrghhhhhggg the dried spit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:54 PM
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What is behind that refusal to say your name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:53 PM
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My favourite part is this low-key STEM is better and maybe it's an academia thing because I'm preparing to work in an industry .. what a prick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:53 AM
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In my family it was common to be scolded for stuff like this, like using too much paper tissue when wiping things. I'm kind of a fan of using such tissue (or tp but it dissolves) for disgusting stuff that I do not want in a rag like disgusting messes the cats create especially or anything with the floor involved, especially where the cats are (they go outside and hunt and despite precautions I don't want any parasites or germs in our good kitchen towels), or also anything with dust and hair invo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 09:44 AM
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Same here, even though I know they don't care for anyone cancelling since it's their daily business. Since I hate phone calls and they stop me from doing things, I usually find doctors where I can schedule appointments online, and who reply to e-mails. I don't mind if I have to drive a bit farther to get to them if everything else is fine and they are friendly, it saves me a lot of stress in dealing with them. I guess what I want to say is, even if you have an issue like this, you find ways to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:25 AM
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This is a factor but I simply hate the look of it and how many men think having a beard equals having a personality. A while ago my supervisor showed his new unkempt bum beard on webcam and all guys where like ahh and ohh and I almost chimed in with eww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:52 AM
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Man I hate beards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:46 AM
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For me it's mostly the maturity or lack of which is the deal-breaker. What would I talk about with some 20 yr old dude? Everything I have learned and experienced and formed opinions about is something most likely not even known to him. And even if he's not some dudebro but has a beautiful mind, is kind etc., It would feel weird and abusive. Couldn't take a declaration of love seriously because I know how easily influenced you are that age. Not gonna say I would have motherly feelings but for sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:08 AM
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but on the other hand there was this dude in my dad's company who suddenly lost his peanut allergy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 11:10 PM
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yup, really weird. also that you can suddenly develop something. I've read our bodies change all 7 years, no idea if it's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:08 PM
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Same here. He's allergic to cats but not very bad, I really wanted cats, so he got pills and we picked cats that are allergy friendly. Of course I did not want to compromise his health or get cats and then give them away shortly after, so I would have been open to get a dog instead but he said he has lived with cats before and always got used to them quickly, so we gave it a try. The first months we didn't have them in the bedroom and he sometimes had very mild allergy symptoms, now he's symptom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:49 AM
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It's something that "normal" people (I don't know how to call it) will never understand. If I were in a relationship with a guy who has a dog and I see him in company with the dog, the dog is a non-issue automatically like he wasn't there. Don't get me wrong, I love animals. What I mean is, if I had the feeling this guy was becoming distant and aloof towards me and starts going for walks alone with his dog more often and sits in the living room without me, reading and petting the dog - hm, what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:34 AM
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Maybe so "the two (2) cheesecakes" become a similar keyword/inside joke like "the nest".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:22 AM
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The cheesecake is still the best part of this story lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:21 AM
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Right? Her past was one extreme, now this is the other extreme. And even if her husband is doing it to make up for her past and overdoing it, shouldn't it occur to him that his behaviour is weird af?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:20 AM
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Two slices of cake. The two whole cakes are probably another level, maybe if she attracts the attention of some low level VIP? What is weird to me - imagine it reversed. You're with a guy you say you love and find attractive. Then he tells you some super hot woman in his office flirted with him. How weird to congratulate then like it was very unlikely to happen, and to CELEBRATE it like that. Like, congrats, you're actually not that ugly, someone else than me noticed you? It seems, with this ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:15 AM
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I've never lived in an apartment so far where I was sure "that's it! Here I'm gonna stay!" I always knew I would move out sooner or later and the less furniture I'd have to take with me, the better. Money was always tight. So I was not willing to spend a lot on furniture as well. Guess what. There's this Swedish furniture discounter.. it's not exactly high class in the lower price range but they have decent looking stuff that is affordable and it's possible with what they provide to have at leas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:55 AM
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hm yes gaslit in a way that he said he has no idea what I mean, he didn't look at anyone. once we went to some japanese festival, his previous gf was asian, he used to be into japanese women, japanese culture, manga, anime (ikr) and on the train to the festival he kept staring at this pretty girl with red contact lenses (some anime cosplay I guess). I looked at him, staring at her. I looked at her, staring back at him, and felt like I'm a spectator in this. Like, cool, you 2 are discovering each…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 07:19 AM
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Classical was when I still worked in a small shop in a mall to see a couple (different ones, not always the same) where the woman was often pushing a baby carriage and the guy would walk behind her, sometimes with a small child, and ogle me. It's super degrading for the woman, especially when she pushes around his child. These days when we come across other couples going for a walk I never look at the guy but always smile at the woman. It feels so stupid to get mad about it when your partner sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:15 AM
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fits his whole narrative of him somehow being better than women, especially the ones who.. you know what 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 02:06 PM
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same here 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 02:05 PM
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I wonder if it is because women are more aware of their feelings, can more easily take different perspectives, have more tools and techniques to deal with things and are not as emotionally stunted. I don't want to make excuses for men. The tools are out there. The other example is kinda the whole whining and complaining and women hating when they are singles. Instead of bettering themselves. When I think of single mothers alone and what they pull off sometimes with a job, children, household, fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:04 PM
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Same. I would hate it as main gift because I do not care for it. The other way around it always seemed to be the same for me, I'd like to see him in certain clothes but he is not interested in wearing any of it because it's not his general style. Never would I gift him an outfit as main present, well knowing it's not what he cares for. What is your opinion on this though? Do you think men should "doll themselves up" sometimes? To me it seems only fair, but my man is well groomed and wears high q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:17 PM
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I really can't with the smell. Teeth brushing, flossing, tongue brushing is sure boring and I'd also rather not do it, but what truly baffles me is how all these people have zero issues inflicting their disgusting selves on others. It happened so often that some guy yawned in the train in the morning, or in the checkout queue; or some coworker talked to me in the morning, and it just STANK TO HEAVEN. Like how can they not notice and feel comfortable this way?? It's beyond me. I could never deman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:03 PM
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seeing the smile like this had me laugh out loud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 10:50 AM
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I'd also suggest "Teeth"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:22 PM
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Thank you! 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:36 PM
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when you open up to the love of the open range and the wildlife and the stars!! I love this :D Sounds pretty cool with the women of all ages going for their first rides. Wish we had something like this here. When I started riding first it was some uni course and really terrible, especially for beginners, but the second teacher was great. Guess I'll start to actively search here. There is a nice opportunity here with Icelandic horses, the people seem nice, think I'll try there. "While I was at th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:39 AM
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Wow. Thanks for this. With over 40? My riding teacher said with adults it's hard because as children we're flexible physically and mentally and not prone to injury but as adults we're often scared and therefore like at my age it's a lost cause. I do not think I did terribly though. Anyway, this is very encouraging. Maybe there's hope then after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:32 AM
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Ugh reading this made me angry. My parents were the same, despite horse lessons were not out of the budget, my mom just didn't want me to be one of those girls. She was afraid of horses and thought it would be too dangerous, so I had to pick up my mom's hobbies which I never liked while my friends would go horseback riding and vaulting. We had a huge garden and in the end managed to pester our parents who hated the obligation enough to have a bunny and a guinea pig. They had no empathy with anim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:47 PM
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The guys look like the same guy mirrored when it comes to style
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:29 PM
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sometimes it's downright absurd. like a youtube video with older scientists explaining scientific facts that are not even remotely related to anything sexual (and even if, it is not about the scientists at all), one of the scientists female, and some dudes in the comments going on about how they would not do her and she's unattractive. Like WTF it's some older lady doing her job, how did that even cross their mind? oh right, everything and everybody female in this world is ranked by how much the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:22 AM
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Same here with the slurs. I never use them, not even jokingly, and I think a friendship is over as well as one person says "Fuck you" or something along those lines. Had a friend who said she enjoys when in a bad mood to call each other names (with other friends) to "let it out", I said no thanks, without me, I do not need to call you stupid b*tch to feel better and don't think it's funny or harmless banter either. Always got the impression people like these do it to test the waters and as you s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:20 AM
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the tip of an iceberg of horror
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:24 PM
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I agree but those guys often have their own weird logic. I was together with 2 picky/weird eaters (during my time when I still dated gamers, and it felt like they had never grown up with their food habits). One always had to have stewed fruit with EVERYTHING like a baby and the other one would not eat vegetables or fruit and go: "Eeewwwwww tastes like garden" whenever I made him try something. Would only eat corn and meat, fried rice, ready made chicken nuggets, stuff like that. So I lived with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:35 AM
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even if God in person guaranteed me it will always be "only" a kink and he never acts on it (even though I do think this is questionable) - it's everybody's right not to date someone with such fetish. I would not date someone being into this kind of thing because I think it is disgusting and not understandable for anyone with empathy, and I think even if someone accidentally realized they are into this (which I kinda doubt, I think it's just porn gotten worse and worse and borders gotten lower a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:34 AM
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I don't understand what her problem is. Like if she rather wants to eat pizza and chill, she can still do it AFTER the fancy restaurant. It's not like anyone is taking anything from her by taking her to a fancy restaurant. But it sure would suck the other way around - expecting the fancy restaurant and only getting dickpizza. It's like saying: Sob sob he got me the diamond ring but I wanted the necklace from the cheap toy vending machine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:45 AM
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her facial expressions for sure match those animations, it's hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:48 PM
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What is so weird to me - when you write about the "pee dust", which is quite amusing btw if you're not in the situation because I know exactly what you mean - I used to argue about EXACTLY this kind of stuff with exes and they always acted like I was making it up to pressure them or to nag them for fun when I felt genuinely disgusted and annoyed. But it had me question myself and if my mom indoctrinated me with her ideas of cleanliness to an unreasonable degree that borders on craziness. ​ For e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:01 AM
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Sounds like my mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:07 PM
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This but at the same time I can't be offended because just look at him. Can't take him seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:18 PM
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Right? This story is amazing because it shows how things can work out if you just dare to go for them. Very inspiring. The dude though? Not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:23 AM
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Happy birthday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:38 AM
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When applying for jobs I always wonder if they hold back the baby question very hard or just don't consider it. Many women in my company roughly my age are on maternal leave right now and sometimes I wonder if some employer's assumptions about biological clock + my age hinders my success when applying for jobs because they just assume I will get pregnant soon. But so far no employer seemed to care, at least something. I also wonder what I'd say in reply if such question ever came. First, I am no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:27 AM
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Eats only junk food, doesn't cook. Dislikes vegetables and advanced tastes. No skin care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:45 AM
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I'm 175 and men usually said they're 180 - 185 and then we met and they looked the same height or smaller and I said: funny, how can you be 183 if we're the same height and I'm 175? The common response was: maybe you're taller than 175. Maybe you've grown. And my confused response: no? I've measured my height a while ago. Maybe you got smaller. Icy silence. I didn't even say it to make fun, I was genuinely confused how someone can be kinda off about their own height. It didn't even occur to me t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:07 PM
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I had no fun and wasn't and am not sexually attracted, also got so frustrated I posted on Reddit about it? Sure, let's do it again!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:54 PM
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It's so weird to me, like you're on a date, you have never met, you want to be your best self and get to know the other person, and then you throw contempt at them and lowkey anger. Just why. I know what a neg is but I still couldn't do it. Just seems rude and unnecessary. Also lol I've read that contempt + eye rolling is the first sign that a relationship is doomed so if a guy shows it at a date already there is no way to continue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:34 AM
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I don't get it. When I lived in a mess and did not work out and felt tired, I knew I had to change. Not even in my dreams I would have got the idea to blame it on men. When actually women can blame much more on men since they get abused, groomed and their careers fcked. Often by dudes supposed to be collegial or even mentors and managers. He doesn't need the threat at the end of the vid, it's already happening and not just since yesterday. No idea how he can sit there so super serious like he ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:51 AM
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Thanks for the tip. I have nice and fitting for an adult bedsheets since I'm 18 or so, I just noticed many men don't and many also don't care. They usually own 1 or 2 sets of old, outdated stuff with ugly patterns and old fashioned fabrics that don't fit together. Probably inherited from Grandma and childhood. Like orange brown flower patterns blanket with pink and light blue cars (the animated movie) pillows. Both greyish washed out. The best set of sheets I bought was a tad more than $100 (bac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:50 AM
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"smashed with his head" killed me, wtf, did he literally head desk it to shit?? plus the posts by naturopathicfantasti. I'm sorry this happened to you but reading it really is gold. I once moved in with some dick and stuff started breaking. I was gone when it happened but stuff was broken that had never been before. It dawned on me only later that he might have done it on purpose in a fit of rage. According to him it were accidents. Okay, I might believe the first shattered glass, but the second…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:51 AM
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Oh funny you view it that way. I thought the boy was incredibly creepy with his constant filming without her consent, her name in the garden, the peeping etc.. but maybe it's because of his mad stare that he comes across as predatory to me. Like he is exploiting her lack of experience and that she's desperate for attention. Then asking her to run away with him. Just came all across as weird to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:40 PM
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Dw, I got you. It's weird though. So many movies I really liked as teenager I now think have sexist and annoying undertones. Same with American Beauty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:24 PM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:09 AM
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Hm watching the movie I always got the impression that Fiona enjoyed behaving like an ogre but was insecure about actually being one because she had been sold the story that she was supposed to be a pretty princess and marry a perfect prince (who was not so perfect after all either but with whom she could never have been herself), when actually she wanted to burp, fart, eat insects and make little birds explode to eat their eggs. To me this displayed this "fun in a gruesome and unapologetically …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:31 AM
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I love how she sparkles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:46 AM
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I learned it from girl's magazines. Puberty was ugly, wild and depressing, exciting, disgusting, funny. Yet in those girl magazines all girls were so perfect with crystal clear skin and cute outfits and worried about things I didn't give a crap about. Like how to get perfectly white teeth. At 11 I wanted to know how to wrestle down my rapidly growing brother, not how to get the perfect bubble butt or whiten my teeth with strawberries. i wasn't even aware of the existence of my butt before or tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:37 AM
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Lol reminds me of when I brought my laptop to service to fix it, the laptop had issues with the power adapter and went out randomly and wasn't chargeable. I had wiped everything on the laptop anyway and reinstalled Windows with a password which I did not remove because why, there's no need to access it for fixing it. I even had them confirm that to exchange this part they did not need to access Windows. When I went to fetch the laptop, the dude booted it up and showed me that the charging worked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:21 AM
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Then vroom vroom and 1000 emojis happened
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:42 PM
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Lol you're hilarious and also this is disgusting but worded perfectly to make it even worse ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:50 AM
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This weird cult with productivity and bullet proof coffee and self help books about productivity and making videos about making money and productivity and bullet proof coffee and I'm wondering all the time: productive for what? Money with what? What are you actually doing and making?? They also tend to glorify work and discipline. And beards. Weirdly aggressive when you aren't impressed or agree to martyrdom. Luckily this trash often takes itself out when you don't respond to their tries to conv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:20 PM
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Knowing that many of these products are made by huge companies for profit, I usually do not believe them one word of their promises, I even suspect that the anti aging stuff actually ages me faster so they can keep selling me their artificial bs. Maybe that's paranoid but I think the less I put on my face and body, the better. The best skin I ever had was while using a home made sea salt soap from a small seller who creates and sells soaps with natural ingredients as side business. Didn't even n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:20 PM
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This would have driven me crazy. One of my exes would not let me escape the bedroom at night. I could not sleep (night owl and he the opposite) and wanted to spend some time with my cat who hated him and ran away from him, so I could not do so when the ex was around. I would wait until he was asleep and then silently sneak downstairs. Wouldn't even take 20 minutes until he appeared on the door, whiney, gna gna why aren't you in bed, I can't sleep when you aren't there. Which I found weird becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:46 AM
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Same here. Did he say something when you pointed it out? It's not that I was walking THAT fast or never stopped to let him catch up, he's also technically faster than me and also a fast walker, but I often felt like dragging him behind me and it drove me crazy, like jeez dude, CATCH UP. Sometimes I would walk away from somewhere quickly and expected him to catch up quickly because I was talking to him but he was soooo slooooow and would also be 1 or 2 steps behind me diagonally. When I became sl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:57 PM
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https://miro.medium.com/max/300/1*nbmCTeRoYgyNmMBRYq0VOw.jpeg here you go. Dennis Harvey. He apologized for what he wrote but the review is still up afaik
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:48 PM
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It's about weight loss lol but has become a safe space for many over the years where many personal things are shared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:32 AM
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I know a forum full of witty, intelligent and fascinating women. Advice, ideas and feedbacks I got there are the best I've ever got. Several times some guys tried to establish themselves there, it was fascinating to watch. The forum is not specifically for women but a general topic. Dude would look around, feel overly confident, set up camp. Soon what he wrote would show the first signs of misogyny and then it was like those women with the stones in Life of Brian. One guy was a bit older, self p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:39 AM
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It also says that besides not mattering to her because this isn't a competition, it's not the point in general what that guy thinks about her hobbies or if he can keep up. He made it about himself. I'm so bored and annoyed by people always being sceptical even about the tiniest things, not saying hobbies are not important but they are hobbies and interests, if OP wishes she can have and explore thousands because it floats her boat, others only have one or two. So what. Why chime in only to be lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:22 AM
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So am I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:03 AM
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Lol came here just to write that with the eyes as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:03 PM
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Friend of mine (she's female) occasionally refers to random animals and even people as "she". Not people she knows are definitely male but in situations where she is speaking in general about certain professions e.g., in my language all of them are male per default. Can be hilarious, especially when it's about professions with a higher male to female ratio. It used to confuse me and once I asked why she does when it came to a hedgehog she had seen in her garden. lol. I was like: How did you know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:21 AM
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I usually eat leaves to my meals for health reasons and for added satiety, it became a habit to just wash some salad (like arugula, corn salad, or just leaves of kohlrabi) and put it under/in my food (rice bowls) or eat it on the side, I don't even add dressing. Smoothies and fancy salads don't work for me on a regular basis but wash a handful of greens? I sure got time for that. I like how it adds volume and fiber :) so only leaves? Nah. But I love them as add-on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:53 PM
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It's just some bullshit narrative, as you say, with the petite, and then this whole cliché stuff that women don't like to eat or want to eat salad all the time and little portions. I like to eat a lot and figured out a while ago, if I am very active, like walking around a lot (not in my apartment, like 10km outside) and going to the gym, lifting and all, I can eat 2200-2400 as well. Used some spreadsheet where you can track your calories and it calculates your TDEE based on that and your weight.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:02 AM
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And one day he takes an arrow to the knee.. Or slightly above :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:03 PM
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I think they like the idea that a guy who is a terrible person towards others will be different to them. It would confirm for them that they are better, so this illusion is a self worth boost ("i am special" or "I can help, nobody else could") Or it's probably to fix some childhood issues. My dad treated me like shit, maybe if someone I am similarly afraid of is nice to me, I can feel finally worthy. Just speculating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:52 PM
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I hate ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:47 PM
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I was watching this without sound and by his gesticulating and reading his lips I already know it sucks and I don't need to hear it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:45 PM
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I want to retch reading that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:33 PM
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it is allowed to happen but you're not allowed to bring it up. hate how people try to silence others and act like bringing up bad treatment is the bad treatment itself. shoot the messenger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:32 PM
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Yupp, one of the most important lessons in it for me was to never waste energy to try to make people stop something. I can't control what my abusive ex does. It sucks and I want to forbid him to write to me but I can't and by doing so, I only fuel the conflict. It's better to walk away and direct all unwanted communication and attention into a void. I see it often that people demand a certain behaviour or even respect, they want to be respected, want their borders to be respected. But you argue …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:29 PM
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For me it's always like they say: This particular woman (they rate a 4 or 5) is not my taste. I mean, judging by photos and films, Hugh Jackman is not my taste. Not interested. Wouldn't look at him twice. Do I go about touting how he is just a 4 and is not attractive and like everybody else is deluded? Do you see me hating on Hugh Jackman for even existing and having screentime in MY PRECIOUS LIVING ROOM HOW DARE HE???? No. Because I'm not insane and under the impression every male lives to cate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:50 AM
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my first contact with this rating system was when one of my - then - close male friends talked about it. like "this woman is a 9, this woman, ew, is a 5" and so on. I was 21 that time, he was 33, nuff said. He was the biggest loser I have ever known, but back then I didn't see it immediately. He was ugly, out of shape, not well educated, a total victim and celebrating this, poor, brought his dirty laundry to his mom, never cleaned anything in his disgusting apartment, not even his dishes, argued…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:55 PM
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I know he's negging but I always wonder when those fucks seriously rate gorgeous women "maybe a 7.5" how a 10 is supposed to look. I also always wonder if they think their rating is something universal and not just their personal taste. Do they think if they rate a woman a 7.5 that she IS that? For everybody, including herself? The audacity.. I hate those ratings btw, the lowest of scum uses them and tries to measure humans with those scales.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:27 AM
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Same here with those communities. I despise them now, stopped seeing being from a subculture as the ultimate, now rather a disadvantage, like a flaw in character, like defining yourself as gamer and that is then your identity. There also was going on lots of everybody has been with everyone at one point.. no thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:11 PM
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So I met this dude once, he was into metal and not exactly of bad hygiene at all, didn't smell or something, it was this kind of laid back band dude who dates over beer and wears band shirts and bulk orders black cargo pants and just ties his hair back and has a ridiculous little pubic hair like beard that is too little to style but too much to not notice. Dumb me was into him and during the evening (our beer date) he said something like: I like girls like you, you're so natural, you don't wear …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:23 AM
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Soooo what class do you actually main? :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:38 AM
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BuT wHaT aBoUt ThAt ViDeO gAmE pRoGrEsS??? SHe uNDiD HOURS!!!! Of WoRk!!!!!! Ugh. If my partner was so upset he would pull such move my stupid video game progress was the least I'd care about. I understand unwinding. And I play games myself. But I've also been with gamers who escaped into games for hours and hours on end and also would not tolerate me being a part of it. It sucked and never worked out. It's too much. I understand that if you're working a full time job and come home you need to u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:42 PM
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This is what I get out of this as well - someone who doesn't value his health surely doesn't value any other aspect connected to it as well. It needs massive suppressing skills to ignore you're in MASSIVE PAIN for so long, Jesus Christ. I'm no fan of doctors and also not a total health nut, I got stomach pain a couple of years ago, so bad that I couldn't even breathe without pain. After 2 days of this I went to all doctors who I thought could help, even a gyn, and I had never been to a gyn befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:57 PM
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Same and it's weird how this works. I used to look at the photos of my ex with love and thinking he looked good but now I only think "Ewwww". Like his face, while looking exactly as before, became fully ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:49 PM
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This. And usually the issue is our own bad image of ourselves. In one of my uni courses there was this guy whom I had a massive crush on but never dared to let it show because I thought I'm too old (5 years older), too ugly and he could never be interested in my type. He recently married a woman even older than me, and while it's not all about looks and I don't want to be an ass, I say I at least do not look worse than her, maybe we are even a similar type. I COULD have been his type, I'm sure. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:46 PM
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I've exactly the same doubts as you, it's crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:01 AM
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my favorite insult is "soyboy" because the REAL man eats all the meat in the world and smells like rotten corpse most of the time because floss? what is that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:39 PM
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I agree. If you communicate, usually you communicate into a void if you try to. It doesn't help. You can't teach someone who is not willing to learn. And you can't give therapy to someone, or at least should not do this to your partner. I mean what else? Send out sealed invitations with instruction manual? A man wanting to be good in bed would be good in bed already, there would be no need to cater to his whimsical needs and tiny ego. If you need to start teaching and communicating more than jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:30 PM
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LOL Mr Potatohead explains how to be a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:09 PM
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To him. It all feels like he doesn't do it with purpose but because it happened. So there is no reflection, no goals, and if something goes awry, it can't be talked about and fixed. It would be less confusing if he was a slob who never does anything, or does bad stuff, but that's not the case. The only bad thing he might be doing is pretending to not be aware of issues, but even here I doubt there is malicious intent behind it, it's rather that he thinks if he ignores a problem, it goes away. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:21 AM
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My bf does a lot. Basic stuff I think, so I don't want to rave about him doing laundry or taking out the trash. He also seems more sure of us, I'm always full of doubt and 100% sure he would never propose, which is okay for me because how am I to ever leave if trapped in marriage? On the other hand it angers me to know this will go nowhere. It's a paradox. His lack of commitment would make marriage seem like a trap but also marriage will never happen this way anyway. It all feels fake and confus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:25 PM
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The audacity..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:35 PM
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I'm so tired of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:05 AM
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I don't care much about all of this either but it never crossed my mind to see this as an advantage over other women. Like right, I can't be bothered to put much make-up on and I like slacking in pyjamas, but I spend my time with other things that might seem like bullshit to others. Everybody has different interests. Some women enjoy painting their face and nails, I enjoy shooting some Cacodemons. Whatever. No need to get hateful or feel superior about it. Guess this comes from pickmeishas feeli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:43 PM
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I'd name him ferengi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:56 PM
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We have this problem right now. Boyfriend is allergic, I want a cat. He has been to the doctor who said the allergy is not bad enough to treat it the way you described. There's a chance my bf will get used to it and it has happened before when he lived with a family member who had cats, but there's also a chance he develops asthma. I value his health but I also want a cat :D in case of doubt I choose my bf but it sucks. He's even more allergic to horses. Really a dream <3 I picked up horse ridin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:56 AM
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Even gay dudes had the audacity to approach me and preach to me that I should dress "hotter", dudes I did not even KNOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:15 AM
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I quit the "friendship" with a much older guy who groomed me to be his personal therapist and used me to vent and be an asshole when someone told me: When you tell me about your best friend, you don't sound like friends, you sound like his hostage. That cut deep. And off I went..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:28 AM
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lol same! I used to be into taller guys even though it never was a clear preference, I just liked the idea of feeling protected or something. Then I was with a tall and very thin and muscle-less dude, I could have lifted him over my head, lol. So much to feeling protected. When dating taller guys it was annoying having to look up all the time. Realized that dating someone on the same eye level was much more convenient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 12:17 PM
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I feel you. I am experiencing the same. Oh wow, he brings me coffee and occasionally does a thing to clean up here, he's such a good catch! I mean, not saying he isn't, but my standards were so low even he noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 10:11 AM
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I don't know. Maybe it's just me, but what you list there sounds to me like being a normal, responsible human being with an own life and a backbone, not really being dominant. Usually when guys complain that women want assholes, I think: No. They want confident men with a life. The stuff you list there is exactly what I mean, but I never thought of it as being alpha. Just a normal guy.
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