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PICKME CULTUREfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:32 PM
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STAY WOKEfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:49 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:51 PM
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STRATEGYfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:44 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:05 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨frustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:53 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:41 PM
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STAY WOKEfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:17 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:34 PM
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PICKME CULTUREfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:57 PM
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DISCUSSIONfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:40 AM
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STAY WOKEfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:34 AM
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DISCUSSIONfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:24 PM
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RANTfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:16 PM
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#JustLVMThingsfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:49 PM
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LIES MEN TELLfrustratedmarxistfem/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:31 PM
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What I find strange, as well, is the way men use "science" to pretend that pre baby is the most attractive for "biological" reasons. Its absurd, if we're gonna use evopsych here than technically stretch marks and sagging breasts should be most attractive because a woman whos successfully given birth is much more likely to produce a healthy offspring. Fertility this, Fertility that, nothing proves fertility more than being a mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:22 PM
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To be fair I think people actually mean "you'll live through your elder years alone" when they say this, but thats still reality for the majority of women whether they married or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 08:49 AM
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Exactly this. I straight up quit an organization I was working with as a contractor because I'd suggested an idea several times to crickets and then at our next meeting a man suggested it as if no one had ever heard it before and they immediately loved the idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 05:12 PM
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You didn't say useless mamas boys, you said sons of single mothers, and they're disproportionately black. No one is shaming your standards, you can date who you want, but your post was offensive to women more so than men. You essentially said that women can't raise sons alone. Thats why women are offended. I'd revise to "mamas boys are a red flag"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:04 PM
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You went off the deep end with this post, I think you need to re evaluate. Its also culturally insensitive though I'm sure you didn't make the connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:08 AM
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This guy is not high value and he doesn't "know his worth", he just thinks of women as sex toys and is deranged by watching too much porn. Men defend eachother in order to defend the status quo, every single man commenting is thinking (yes women will read this example and let us do more depraved sex acts in fear that we'll leave them. Perfect!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:28 PM
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And both are inflated for opposite reasons. There are more real men because many are actually taken or married. There are less women than reported because many are bots, clout chasers, and sex workers not actually looking for a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:52 PM
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Delusions of grandiosity. All those men are preparing to fight boars in the wilderness when what society will actually need in the case of collapse will be good communication skills, relationship building, and community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:59 PM
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Ugh I am so annoyed by her. She is possibly one of the prettiest women I've ever seen, talented, rich, and yet still acts like a dumb high school aged pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:46 PM
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submissive Synonyms for submissive: meek, passive, OBEDIENT, compliant Synonyms for "be submissive": surrender, defer Any man who uses the phrase has already told on himself. He said women should make their man's plate first to show that they're obedient and should surrender their whole selves to him. And men say these things with no penalty in our supposed liberal feminist utopia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:09 PM
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Imagine willfully putting duct tape on your mouth and posting this for all your friends and family to see lmao my sisters would be at my house in an hour with a rescue crew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:28 PM
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I'm gonna be honest, I actually don't think this is a positive female trait. For some, its definitely fear of strange men around the kids. But for many its also social conditioning that taught us that "bad mothers" are women who date a lot. Its classic Madonna whore. The question isn't supposed to be how much you date but how much you let it affect your children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:21 PM
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This is mine too. I always get these and it pisses me off. I just wanna say to them: I don't wear fake lashes, nails, or hair because I don't want to. Not for you or your approval and I don't give a shit if you don't like them. I like them on other women, I'm just lazy and don't like maintenance. Its just the way it sends them on this hyper misogynist rant every time that kills me. They literally point out every single thing in that list and make a huge deal out of how much they hate it when wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:45 AM
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This is a borderline personality trait. With my abuser I was convinced it was the weed. "Oh I don't know what to do, normally he's lovely but if he runs out of weed he's a monster" he'd get into these moods and always find something to criticize me for, no matter how ridiculous. Once it started over macaroni and cheese. Another time it was the wrong brand of hot dogs. Anything to give him something to start, and then it would turn into beratement. I blamed it on his weed addiction. In reality he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:00 AM
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Did we date the same man? My LVX has started his every 6 month assault on my senses by calling me repeatedly every single day and night to try to talk to me. The few times I've answered(he will use different numbers if I don't answer) he was the same greedy, selfish, tell me all about him and never ask a single question ass man he's always been
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 07:54 PM
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Laughing because my ex husband has ran through 100 women trying to force them to be his babysitter even with only half time custody. I have introduced my kids to exactly one man their entire lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 07:33 PM
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I also questioned the choice of using Miranda as their Karen to make points about. She's by far the least likely person to be in that position. I also find her being nervous about school to be completely out of character. However, I think they're setting her character up for an "awakening" from the narrative so I do think the goal here is to say that Miranda is unhappy being married and that her family life has stunted who she is in some ways. Maybe I'm being generous but it seems they want her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 07:30 PM
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You put this beautifully. Decor to me is about bringing joy into your home. You don't need a fancy home to make it beautiful to you. One of my fave decorating groups regularly features homes in the global south, decorated mostly with pretty fabrics and plants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:54 AM
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I've found the feet thing to be true but only in one direction. If he's tall and his feet are big it doesn't seem to correlate. If he's 5'9 and a size 13, hes packing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 03:00 AM
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Exactly. They don't mind because they weren't gonna cum either way and the small penis at least doesn't hurt. Also women tend to be overly generous to men on body issues because we believe that we'll receive that energy back. "I'd want a man to say he likes my tummy so I'll say I like his". Spoiler! The energy never comes back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 02:58 AM
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The original show was a pickme mess. I like that they put 55 year old women on screen, theyre integrating woc, and they killed you know who, so we'll see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 02:53 AM
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The insults they choose are more revealing than anything. It always proves our point. When a man is angry at a woman he doesn't even have to know her because he can default to misogyny, revealing what men actually think about women: You're ugly - being beautiful is all that matters for women, this is supposed to devastate you because it translates to "worthless" Youre gonna be single forever - a woman without a man is worthless. Your purpose in life is to be with a man. Again, think about why th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 11:31 PM
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I like "divas" personally. Also I think the cause is reverse. Any word or name used to describe women will become derogatory because society hates women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 11:24 PM
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Tbf there have been studies that show single mothers actually do significantly less work than married mothers, not just because of the added work men create but because of his constant gaze
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:47 AM
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I try to sell them something. Or act like I'm in their neighborhood with a petition. Just cut them off and talk right over them, "Oh, hi! I'm here with Fight Back Atlanta, were a non profit organization that funds treatment for at risk youths and I'm looking for- " It has never failed to make them literally change characters and slump away embarrassed. Half the time they even thank me lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:00 AM
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Exactly. Feminists should never say that is a personal choice to stay home, it is never a wise choice to depend completely on a man. Ever. I don't care if you married Jesus christ, himself. The only way I'd be okay with it would be with severely strengthened social safety nets that guarantee every housewife will be taken care of the rest of her life should he decide to replace her, abuse her, or turn out to be a shitbag. In today's world? Too big a risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:31 PM
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I mean, this line of thinking makes it clear why. In their minds they are doing us a favor by allowing us to choose, therefore we should comply and pick a man with absolutely no standards on who it is....or else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:27 PM
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Yep, I always check the bathroom. I was seeing a guy for months before I realized his shower was full of womens products, there was no evidence in the rest of the house. I've also been on the other end and some women just don't care. I found earrings in my bed in the house my children lived in with baby stuff and pictures of us literally everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:06 PM
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Of course it's fine to want a healthy relationship, thats why we're all here. What I mean is that reframing singleness into a positive is whats helpful to me. There are far worse possibilities than ending up alone. Accepting this truth that marriage and kids can be great but not necessary only makes you a better future partner, not worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:14 PM
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I started reframing my life and expectations. Notice how you said "everything but the husband and kids". Thats conditioning. Were expected to go down the correct path by getting an education, finding a career, then settling down with a husband and kids. But why? Who's narrative do we have stuck in our heads? Start picturing a different life for yourself. Start asking questions about why you picture this one. I'm not a loser for not being married, I'm wise. I'm the legacy of thousands of years of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 07:20 PM
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Happened to me when I was like 19, I invited him to a teen party because he pretended to also be a teen and he proceeded to hit on every girl and guy there after I dismissed him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:25 AM
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Also the reverse. I no longer talk about my abusive ex, however, when I did I noticed that lvm always took his side at the first opportunity. They didn't even know him and instead of listening and empathizing with me they were listening to find some way to prove I was wrong. This also works for any other man. If he stands up for men he doesn't know when they're accused of hurting women in some way, hes a misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:13 AM
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Absolutely true. And let's not ignore the racial trauma as I'm sure this man is white or non black for him to think her hair just grows like that without any maintenance on her part. Insulting her towel made for curly hair is a micro aggression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 06:35 PM
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I assumed the towel was microfiber, theyre better for your hair. Very noticeable to me that he doesn't know what the towels for. Hes clearly obsessed/preoccupied with it but has never taken the time to find out what is or why she does it? A halfway ok man would've bought one himself. In fact I know several actual scrotes who use silk pillows because they know why women like them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:16 AM
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Nobody else caught "i do 50% of childcare" how? How is that possible? You have guests for dinner so clearly work a 9 to 5 which means shes with them all day, spend several hours with friends, then get in your time machine and go back to spend half the time with them? That just tells me he has so little regard for her that he refuses to admit she does anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:25 AM
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I use court records as my first vet. They're usually available online by looking for your county courts. This eliminates probably 1/3 men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:29 AM
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Is he stupid? She's gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:55 PM
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Definitely going to read this. I was just pondering over the way that men always mention submissiveness as a desirable trait or as a trait that women have lost, or a reason to be with one type of woman over another. Its an obsession, really, and its not normal. Why would anyone admire or need submissiveness in a partner? Submit to what, exactly? This is clarifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:39 AM
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He was truly one of the most pathetic people I've ever met
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:55 AM
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I knew a king scote who only pursued successful badass women and then did everything in his power to make them feel small
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:13 AM
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I know what you mean and I'm not saying there's no truth to it, but that these new men are not going to age like Morris chestnut did because they don't care of themselves. Even my dark skin ex has deep forehead wrinkles because he works outside without sun protection and the only thing he puts on his skin is bleach. I went on a date last weekend with a bm who was 30 and looked 50. It is shocking to me because I did not grow up seeing this. Also I'm mostly talking about men and whether they're st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 05:34 PM
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I don't think thats true anymore, tbh. I've seen quite a few haggard(usually lighter skin) black men. I think its because black people were using oils and moisturizers long before white people discovered their importance and now many men are too lazy to even manage that basic staple of skincare. Its not enough to have the uv protection and thick skin if you're staying dehydrated 24/7 But yes, you are right that the issue is not who ages best but in the fact that men are allowed to age like shit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 05:07 AM
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I would argue that I think most men become attractive when they start caring about it. When I'm looking on tinder, I find overweight men still cute if they dress well and have nice hair and skin. I also see men who clearly would be attractive(nice face) that look like shit because their beard is out of control, their hair is a mess, and they're dressed like an idiot. That said, more black men than white men care about their clothes and hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:15 PM
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😂😂😂😂 sis, I am on the FLOOR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 01:27 AM
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Yeah I think most bi women have opted to stop identifying as bi sadly, due to predatory couples and men. I also stopped identifying this way and am afraid to even date women again because people will know and begin their predatory antics. Id go full lesbian but even that is scary now with all the men pretending to be lesbians
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:29 AM
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I think it highlights just how much they don't view the actual prostitutes themselves as women for "increase sexual value" to be listed as a reason. To even come up with that theory you have to first separate the group into women vs prostitutes. In reality men view prostitutes as non women and women view prostitutes as women, which is exactly where the inherent shift begins. Because we view them as women and people, we view their degradation entirely differently. Were aware they don't want to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:29 PM
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I would hold off and just give them a smile and a vague response or tell them that your father is very progressive. They don't need to know everything and like you said, they can't be trusted with that information before being vetted. I can attest to the difference between men who know my dad will show up and men who don't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:06 PM
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I love telling men that my dad is like my best friend(he is). You can immediately tell the bad ones by their visible disappointment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:37 PM
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It doesn't necessarily matter but in some situations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:15 AM
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Weirdest aspect to me is his mama is white. Like hes trying to come off as some savior heavily implying that hell settle down with a black woman after hes ran through all the white ones but hes really coming off like Michael meyers taking his weird issues with mommy out on women with his actual dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 10:13 PM
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Honestly its not entirely men's fault. It is in large part their fault for not making an effort but his 10+ exes, women online everywhere, porn, and the entire media own some blame. Because like you said, almost all women fake it. They fake it with their man and often fake it in conversations online and to other women who then feel too embarrassed to admit its not happening for them, so the cycle continues. And men see and read all this and believe its true. They think women cum from the same mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:52 PM
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Reminds me of a mixed race man who said, and please try to hold your vomit at the audacity, that he "only fucks white women because he's going to dog them out and doesn't want to do that to black women". I feel like he thought he was winning a "least racist man" award for it 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:44 PM
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Its weird because we know that men will fuck anyone but if that man is partnered we act like he suddenly has standards lmao its all cope to deal with the fact that we can't get these low life men to behave any better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 01:36 AM
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Yes and thats because of a phenomenon that lundy bancroft was one of the few to state honestly, "the patients lie". She says it in the video, they learned this by studying cases of married couples in therapy, which means they're getting the data from what men have self admitted in therapy, which means its actually worthless and unproven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:53 PM
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I actually think you hit the nail on the head I'm not interested in changing When I've gotten pushback on any of my requests, I shut the other person down immediately by saying "I'm not saying I'm going to force a man to do this. I'm saying I will reject a man who doesn't do this" There is an expectation that womens standards are not real, that what you're saying is that you'll settle for any man and then give him a hard time for not living up to it. Its strange and shows how much women settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:10 PM
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Let me add to this, if it becomes physical abuse your circumstances will not change. Even if with physical abuse involved the system will treat you the same way and the judge will treat you like a liar. They just have no or inadequate training on the signs of DV. And worse, CPS WILL believe you while the judge continues to disbelieve you and they will have opposing interests. The judge will want to see you making an effort to include your ex and cps will want to see you making an effort to keep …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:44 PM
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Thank you for number one. I find it weird when men in their 30s are bragging about "never married, no kids". I also find the concept of being a "single mom"(in the manosphere sense) odd past 30. A normal 35 year old has likely been married, has had serious relationships, or kids. We're not 22 anymore where the lack of kids means you're a good person acting right. Its low key a red flag by 38.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:50 AM
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I sometimes wonder if men love us for anything. All I ever wanted in a man was someone who loved me for being smart, for being funny, maybe for my passions and my work. I just wanted to be loved for something that made me me. But I'm single because I haven't found that, I only find men who treat me like an accessory or a listening machine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:57 AM
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Excellent point. Also a good opportunity to remind everyone that women were routinely lobotomized in the recent past for "hysteria". Lobotomy is when a sharp object is stabbed into the brain to render the person a living shell of a human with no ability to form coherent sentences or think. I find it odd its never discussed, even amidst this current period where we're all more willing to confront historic oppression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:55 AM
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I was a mature kid due to unfortunate life circumstances and something I noticed was that older men were always into me until they realized I was not naive. The youth itself is not the prize, its a madonna/whore fantasy. The innocence and naivete itself is what turns them on. How many times have men sought these fantasies in other ways? Schoolgirl skirts on strippers, a fetish for glasses, the big eyes waifu, bdsm, "the girl next door". Men are sexually attracted to the idea of "ruining" or "dir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:15 AM
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If you're set on a male friend, I'd actually suggest a gay male friend or gay couple. This could give you the dynamic you want while also eliminating the potential concerns over a single male. There would still be someone else with rights over your child though, so that could be a concern, but if you share custody with a gay man/couple that would also alleviate some of the burden. Being a single mom is very hard. I would highly highly suggest you not do it unless you are strongly sure that you h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:22 PM
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I met a couple like this once with my ex husband. We found them amusing and we were drunk so we hung out with them at the club for awhile. (They were nerdy white people who used to be fat and got skinny, way older than us) We made a comment that we were not poly or interested at some point and the woman laughed it off saying she wasn't hitting on us because her husband's one rule was no black men. Like...girl, what? I'm glad they're not wrapping black men up in their lunacy(black women though?) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:27 AM
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I had a similar experience so this might be helpful. I dumped dude at the first red flag. I was sad at first, even though I knew I was right, because the pickme inside still felt like maybe he was HV and he just didn't want me specifically. I tried to accept that and move on. He wanted to hang out as friends and I did because I did for some reason genuinely believe he was a good dude and we just weren't working. Listen. When I got to know this dude a lot more I realized he was a walking ball of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:56 AM
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Honestly white men don't fetishize for any other reason and isn't that so telling? They either want a "fiery Latina who cooks tacos and cleans" or "quiet passive Asian who cooks and cleans". Everything is about finding a better bang maid. And black men too, they often say they prefer white women for being "quiet and she cooks and cleans". These men just project their perfect mommybangmaid fantasies on anyone who looks different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:48 AM
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Personally I don't like the idea that single mothers shouldn't date at all. I think there is a misogynist undertone to suggesting mothers should turn into celibate nuns in order to properly do their jobs. I have a daughter so of course I am also a fan of not introducing the kids to a new man, no moving in with random men, etc. But it's perfectly fine to date on days your ex spouse has them or when you have a babysitter. Youre an adult and allowed to have needs. You should be cautious of men who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:41 PM
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Honestly you can tell a man's dick size by whether or not he engages in this conversation. I've never ever met a big dick man who complained about "loose pussy", its always little dick men who feel intimidated by the idea that you probably have had a much bigger dick before and know hes little. The problem is your ability to perceive, not your vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:32 PM
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Its because they still view it as a gift to women. It doesn't matter if he wanted it more, it doesn't matter that he's the one receiving the majority, if not all, the benefits of marriage. In the male mind, committing to a woman alone is the greatest gift a woman can receive and therefore he is entitled to a little cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:26 PM
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Red flag. Men obsessed with "equality" do it to spite modern women. "Oh you want equality, I'll show you equality"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:35 AM
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I am the crazy ex girl and I think its actually simple, they come crying to the women they know are overly forgiving and have poor boundaries. Men come back to me because they know I'm waiting for them with open arms, not because of anything about me in particular, except that I'm a pushover
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:41 AM
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Oh man, the airport. I have never been hit on by so many service workers in my life, and then the other passengers. Like wtf, I'm dressed like shit and uncomfortable. I think they just like vulnerability i.e. a woman with a bunch of bags by herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:34 AM
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Men act like just being with a woman at all is such a gift. "Thats how you keep a man." Who cares? What do you need him for if he can't even wash his own laundry?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:43 PM
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Don't meet everyone. Dont meet everyone you meet twice. Remember its a numbers game and throwing a match back is perfectly fine because there's many many more. OLD is the perfect place to practice vetting because you can easily reject 100 men a month if you had that kind of time. Just keep your eyes and ears open and reject quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:35 PM
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Exactly. I was literally her once and made the mistake to stay. We've been broken up for 5 or 6 years now and while out at a bar(I stayed friends with him) he showed me his folder that was full of my nudes and videos. So yes, a man who has his exes nudes is going to hold onto yours forever too and anyone else. Literally collecting them 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:14 PM
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Dummies don't realize how easy it is to just pretend the girls are there legally when its legal. They can kidnap girls, put them out in public, and no one will know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:51 PM
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I get it, sis. Not a lot of people want to hear it. If a woman complains about being attractive she's over confident, narcissistic, etc. It doesn't matter that you're literally saying STOP. I wasn't blessed with large breasts/ass, I was cursed with them like the rest of my family. Every one of us feels the same. I wasn't allowed to be a child. I had to start defending myself from sexualization in 8th grade. I never had real friends. Both male and female friends would just try to fuck me. Even wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:23 AM
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The response "who is this?" is the best way to swat away the flies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:15 AM
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Not only do we care but women everywhere are terrified by the displays of power and abuse in the middle east and should not be afraid to say it. It is, of course, terrifying to see fundamentalist men win anywhere when they exist everywhere and have the same views on women in every country. Men love the middle east in the same way they love violent abusers at home, it gives them somewhere to point and say "see? Look how good Iam for not doing that to you even though I could"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:27 AM
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I was just sitting there, starving, with absolutely no way to feed myself because my internalized belief that my woman should mommy me is more important than my life. No seriously though I've heard many many men say this bullshit that a woman should "fix her man's plate" and I can tell you right now I'd rather drop dead. Why is a "woman's job" and a "woman's place" always coincidentally in the role of degraded domestic servant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 09:18 PM
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And women don't want our lives to be solely about our husband's happiness. What is difficult to understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:20 PM
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I love it but sometimes I worry that we will slide into fascism because of it. Not because of us but because men prefer violence to learning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:38 AM
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Why are there still people who believe they can emotionally harm someone they can't see, smell, or hear with words on the screen? What could you ever say? Oh he called you fat and ugly, boohoo, he can't even see you. Its just impotent rage flung at a random wall sticking to nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:29 AM
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Any woman willing and excited to fuck someone's husband is a stage 5 pickme and it should be assumed that she would do anything for a crumb of male validation. Now that validation comes from your husband, congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:19 AM
14

Yes though it's important to remember that black men get away with domestic violence the same way white men do. It is completely incorrect to assume that it is different, especially since many/most of the victims are black women. Its even harder to be taken seriously, as well, as the black community believes that if he had done it, he'd definitely be in jail, so you must be lying. When black men abuse women they do something that white men condone, white men extend their privilege to them(in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 09:05 PM
20

Came here to say that. Notice women collectively never become a problem for a society unless that "problem" is us asking for more rights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 07:49 PM
55

Yes that's exactly why. I had good reason to be as the end of our relationship didn't make him leave me alone. He found me no matter where I went and he assaulted me several times after I left him. It was learn or die. I also got a legal gun, which not everyone is comfortable with but I highly suggest it if you're vulnerable. Those little pieces of paper saying to "stay away" only do so much. I never want to be in that position again, scared and vulnerable with no one to protect me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:40 PM
118

Krab maga and jiu jitsu are the best for women. Its about using their body weight against them. I also highly suggest weightlifting and a kettlebell program designed for mobility. I started self defense after my ex abused me physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:17 PM
159

Ugh I hate sex now. I don't hate sex itself, I used to enjoy it, but being single today all the men are engaging in the same weird sex that isn't appealing. Its like a porn trend or something 🤮🤮 Women are not meant to be abused during sex. I enjoy soft touches and kissing and caressing and I'm not going to apologize for that because those things are intended to give pleasure! And pickmes are partially at fault. They keep telling men everywhere that women like being slapped and bit and having the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:03 PM
285

Exactly. No fucking tears from me except for all the people who died because this stain on humanity thought his dick was the center of the universe. These incels weren't created by women, they were created by the patriarchy that promised them we'd be given to them as toys. Eat shit. A loaded gun still won't give you your promised utopia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:18 PM
45

Its either a tattoo or a unibrow that doesn't connect but you're not imagining it. Its just irritating, do you know how much women go through over their hair, especially black women? Guarantee he would criticize her if she had shown up with her hair that fucked up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:03 AM
72

Typical response to criticism honestly. "Oh wow, you don't like what he did? I guess we should all die then"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:00 AM
369

She said "they'd have to be crazy to date you" 😂😂 mf go date one of your baby mamas and leave the rest of us ALONE. Also, what is happening with his hair? I'm sorry but it looks like he just rolled out of bed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:39 PM
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Most of the time they're not nice, family men. We just believe that every white man who isn't literally shaving his head and tattooing it with a swatztika deserves the benefit of the doubt. I guarantee he said many concerning things before this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:17 PM
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The fact that he wrote so many words and not one of them was condemning the men who made the original post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:25 PM
57

Good. The admins are trash too for leaving it up and not issuing an apology. Women deserve space too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:56 PM
39

The irony of this though is that the original photo was praising the short nails girl, though in the same context "madonna/whore"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:00 PM
15

She is so gorgeous too, she almost looks ridiculous next to him. Why would she do this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:56 PM
149

And they think this shit is funny, preying on grieving women 🤮🤮🤦🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:39 PM
1

They used the whole world?? 😂😂 globally you're most likely to marry an Asian or African man who earns less than American minimum wage but does that seem likely if you live in Kansas??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:23 PM
82

Lmao $15 an hour? Okay, gold digger, nobody makes that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:34 AM
161

I tried the calculator and it told me that finding a man over 5'7 who makes 30k a year was delusional, I'm guessing its not very accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:24 AM
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Exactly. Definitely demonstrates how society thinks literally any man is good enough. They assume you would be happy to end up with any of the men who wanted you so if you're alone no one wanted you. I'm proud of the fact that I've left all my past relationships, I had strength where many do not. Then again, maybe thats what they hate. They don't want a woman who's willing and able to leave 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:19 AM
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Right? I'm not "still" single. I'm single again. After being repeatedly disappointed in the alternative. Pretty sure the majority of singles in their 30s were in relationships previously, people act like breakups don't exist or cant/won't happen to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 11:27 PM
132

I'm so tired of men wasting our lives knowing they don't want a future with us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:38 PM
189

I think I'm past feeling any jealousy. No, its something different now. Disgust. Notice how the first guy chose to explain it? beautiful paintings. In other words, objects to be looked at. The second guy could barely contain his erection just imagining some fantasy where he could fuck every single woman. Its grotesque. You should dump a man who does this for no other reason than that he views women as sexual objects, which means he is a misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:43 AM
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I think it depends on your experiences. Big can be subjective. Like my ex had a dick 10 inches long with the width of a coke can, after seeing/feeling that I adjusted my opinion to "some dicks are too big"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:11 PM
118

I am dead 😂😂 this is so accurate, poly dudes are always swamp creatures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:59 PM
220

I hate that women feel the need to pretend were so interested in dick. Let's be real, a hard dick is 9/10 not going to make you cum so what is it you really want? Some pizza and a guy sweating on you for 45 seconds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:35 AM
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I should not be shocked at this point but I was also shocked to see tory lanez temporarily cancelled just to pop back up on the scene 3 months later. You can apparently shoot Meghan thee stallion as well but don't you dare hurt mens feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:58 PM
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Shes on point. They tell on themselves with these comments, "you're not good enough to demand a dinner." So you admit the only reason you're not taking a woman to dinner is because you don't want her that much? The most important realization I had is that men will fuck anyone. They will put in some bit of effort to fuck a woman they don't want at all. Thats why we test them to be sure they really want us. Listen to what men say, they'll tell you exactly how it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:46 PM
81

Exactly. Anti sex work. Pro sex worker. That's how I describe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:32 PM
11

I'm so glad you're okay, your friend is horrible and doesn't deserve a spot in your life. She would rather you be killed than single, my God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:43 AM
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Men are so annoying with this. On the internet or with women theyre not fucking: no man is your friend. Don't trust them. Men only want sex. With you, his gf: no, not me. My friends are really friends 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:30 AM
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Guy on a date felt a compulsion to show me that his ex was "crazy" and called him 84 times. This is, of course, crazy. But why did he show me and why is she doing this? What did he do for this to occur? There isn't a crazed pickme in existence that wasn't made that way by a man. And why show me? So I'd know someone desperately wants him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:57 AM
5

Absolutely. Expectations are normal, not having them is what's weird. Why even interact with someone romantically if you expect nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:37 AM
44

Imagine how much he uses reddit to think to do this lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:21 PM
88

Lmao first of all if a man told me he was on reddit I would dump him immediately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:07 PM
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I'm glad you've figured it out and found your way here. Your ex is an asshole, yes, but your first step is to examine what you did. This story is sending me pickme all the way throughout. You called him 7 times? You knew what was up and asked for his phone, then stayed anyways? You only saw him once a week? You felt this pain over and over again and kept asking him to recommit? I'm seeing a lot of begging, attempts to persuade him to stay. He is LV so I'm not saying if you had done things differ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:37 PM
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Because they look up to men like Leo. They see him doing what they dream of doing(treating women like disposable trash) and want to believe they can too. In reality the majority of women probably find Leo repulsive because he's both ugly and has a trash personality but young women fuck him BECAUSE HES RICH. Therefore ole broke reddit boys will never get what he has because they are ugly AND broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:54 PM
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Wtf? Why would he say that immediately after asking why women don't do it anymore? 😂😂 the Clownery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:54 PM
1

I'm convinced it has no real use outside the eyebrows. Putting it on your 11s actually does help relax a common tension spot and relieve headaches. Your cheeks? Girl you need to use those muscles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:53 PM
13

I think its the result of an individualistic and competitive culture, which has been accelerated by providing us all digital walls to showcase our lives within the neoliberal hellscape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:46 PM
12

Mhmm have you ever watched a female centric show with a man? Besides the fact that they won't do it they will spend the whole time shitting on their looks because they can't stand watching TV where the girl isn't there to be hot. (Had this happen watching handmaids tale and I was like...is she supposed to be hot? She's being fucking tortured)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:08 PM
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Ugly men approach everyone, even women way out of their league. They have nothing to lose cause they have no dignity after being rejected a million times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:59 PM
8

You should've said, "imagine? Why? Hes right here in front of me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:57 PM
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Oh my bad, I thought you meant the movie baby boy. Though the movie is basically about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:24 PM
5

Lmao I love that you said baby boy. "Baby boy you know what your problem is, you got shit all twisted. You want your mama to be your woman"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:14 PM
12

Yes, you're right. I only mean this particular line in current culture. There was no need back then to pretend women liked it, they didn't get a choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:51 PM
71

This sounds like something from the manosphere reworded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:04 PM
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I think it started in the early 2000s actually when men started to extrapolate the attractiveness of Denzel and George Clooney. There were several attractive movie stars who were older men and that seeped into their collective brain dead consciousness. "Women all want Denzel. Denzel is 50. Therefore women like 50 year old men." Instead of "Denzel is surprisingly attractive for his age so women still want him. That is unlikely to happen for most people."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:53 PM
34

They're better with child abuse and neglect. They are very bad with domestic violence and don't consider it a real threat to the children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:24 AM
189

Men use the internet to pretend they have standards. Who actually cares what men "want" when most men get no pussy at all. They'll post some shit like this then beg any woman in their vicinity to touch their sad little peanut because they know their ideals are not attainable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:33 AM
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I always thought my grandmother was the most beautiful woman in the world. She was genetically blessed in every way. I have pictures from when she dated famous men in the 60s. And guess where all her pain and trauma came from? Men. Men. Men. Men. They exploited, used, and abused her every day of her life. Beauty has nothing to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:19 AM
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I've always been on your side on this. I mean even on the very surface we are talking about a business model where rich(and often white) women are paying poor(and often woc) women to use their bodies in the most invasive way possible. Thats just surface level. Once you dig deeper you learn more and more disturbing things about the business. Like womb tourism, for example, where rich Americans literally go to third world countries to rent a cheaper womb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:06 AM
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Stop having sex. Seriously. I went celibate for over a year and then mostly celibate(resumed celibacy after a 6 week fling) and its been the most freeing thing I've ever done. You can still date but not having sex really accelerates the work of desexualizing yourself. I used to get off to men getting off to me. Their orgasms felt like validation. Their sexual attention was way too valuable to me. Removing sex from my life has allowed me to view myself as a whole person instead of a sex object, v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:14 AM
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They refuse to let go of this delusion. Oh, you're 3 friends? Statistics say you're full of shit 65% of married couples have an age gap of 1-3 years Only 6 percent have a gap over 9 years. At 15- 20 years its literally 1% or less
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:35 AM
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Hahahaha so funny so cool bro, you spend your time staring at people and touching yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:10 PM
213

Imagine being 23 and already being held back by a fucking man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:46 PM
95

Essentially they don't want a woman at all, they want a slave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:58 PM
14

Yes, I've seen so much sentiment on dating subs that the women these men sought out and want to date are ridiculous because obviously no woman the same age as them is a trophy or prize. Sir, you're the guy trying to date her. Clearly you just don't want her to think highly of herself because that doesn't suit you. Also something I realized recently, many of the actors we grew up watching "live out their 20s" onscreen were actually 30. For example, the majority of the cast of friends. Courtney co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:52 PM
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Yes like literally everything else men complain about, they are only referring to the women they want to date. They're mad that women who are under 5'5 still date tall men. When men get mad about interracial dating, they only mean hot women. When men complain that women won't date ugly/fat/broke men, they do not mean ugly/fat/broke women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:27 PM
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Why does she feel like she needs a backstory and disorder to be offended by an obviously incredibly rude statement? This is exactly what's wrong with us, we've been trained to sell ourselves short to the point that we think we're mentally damaged if it hurts our feelings when a dude is a complete asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:43 AM
4

Despite believing every woman who looks like anything less than a photoshopped image of a celebrity on Instagram is ugly or average, they somehow delude themselves into believing women are never settling for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:16 AM
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These men are always like this. It has nothing to do with your body. I have ass and tits. I have "the body". And you know what? Men will still find something. They will cheat with women who don't have as much body. They will cheat with bigger girls. They will downplay my body while also guarding me from other men because they know its a lie. Hes not a coward. Hes controlling you. Men don't have a type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:24 PM
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This is so revealing and there's a huge lack of self awareness here. The reason its 18 is because men think like this. Its the line in the sand because its lower than whats actually appropriate. No you shouldn't want to fuck someone who turns 16 next week because truthfully its weird that even want to fuck someone who's 16.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:20 PM
10

I've actually had this happen to me. Only in my case my very mean rejection was still in our messages and I told her to scroll her clown ass up and read it. I was so embarrassed for her, trying to check other women over her man and realizing he actually just creeps us out :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:49 AM
22

Right? A Virgin still after college? Yeah, hes ugly or something for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:44 AM
46

And who is sacrificed? Mostly poor women and single mothers. So men create tragedy with poverty(either by leaving their pregnant girlfriends or leaving their daughter) than they get to exploit it otherwise they'll rape the "good girls"? Is that what it is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:06 AM
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Exactly. What are we gold digging for? I could grubhub the same meal and stay home. And I'm not saying this is the date we should settle for but thats the ones they're talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:11 PM
28

Exactly. Men want feminism to be about them so bad but at no point was it ever about our sexual/romantic relationships with men. It simply is not. Its about our right to leave men. Our right to own our own property. Our right to have a bank account. Our right to vote. Our right to have child custody(before the tenderness doctrine only men got custody), and so on. Notice the theme here. It is all about our right to independence from men. Yet all men hear is "if you wanna be equal I should get to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:39 AM
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Exactly. Thats what really pisses me off is that we are not talking about a lot of money here. I think the lowest possible bar is for him to pay for a dinner she could buy herself 100 times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:31 AM
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I would like to remind everyone again that all it takes to get "you view men as a walking atm" is a $30 - $40 dinner. Some of my makeup costs more than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:40 AM
36

I was talking to this guy for a week. Great conversation. He was funny, smart, I was really excited for our date. Until he said that he and his ex(who was 8 years younger) broke up because he cheated with his other ex to prove that he could. Yuck. Believe it or not I would have ignored this in the past because of our connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:22 PM
2

Yes, ugly men are a dumpster fire. They don't appreciate you lowering your standards, they hate you for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:02 PM
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You know what? I am so tired of this pathetic shit being told to us to like a tragic, romantic story. Nothing tragic about it. You let men walk all over you, you have no standards, you entertain foolishness and refuse to let go when its time. Thats on you, sis. I understand where it comes from but its time to wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:47 PM
8

Yes baby! Congratulations queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:40 PM
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Agreed. Its very male language. It still centers the man as some kind of prize. oh guess he could just do better than you., oh guess you're just not the right one. The majority of men are not prizes and are lucky to get any female attention at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:52 PM
143

Oh you didn't know? Black americans only means black men, the black women he abused don't count.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:18 PM
19

men who fulfill the criteria lowered her standards What? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:50 PM
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Oh no, I made a post about him. I believe this man didn't cheat and I believe it was 100% because no one wanted him and not in any way due to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:37 AM
67

This is the age gap with me and my father too 🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:25 PM
183

Men don't just have standards. Men invent standards that intentionally make no fucking sense. You want naturally huge tits but also don't like tits that hang? Make that make sense. You like naturally thick women but don't like cellulite? You like curves and hate stretch marks? You like little waists but don't like skinny women? They hate on every woman for something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:20 PM
17

He...showed you...pictures?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:24 PM
20

Sorry I mean after 60 you are generally considered elderly so its the last decade of youthfulness that sets in the panic. This is for LVM who have low self esteem and are narcissist, not a statement of what people are actually worth at 60.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:10 PM
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Its the age right before becoming elderly so I think self centered men lose their minds from the fear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:32 PM
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In reality most men are not able to get a "younger, hotter" woman but that doesn't mean they won't discard her to try. Personally I think its less about the woman and more about men trying to parasite youth from women like its contagious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:39 PM
53

Yes men often mistake loyalty with a lack of options
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:36 PM
16

Same but it was my ex telling me how great he was, "I never even cheated on you and everyone else I know does" Wow, what a hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:54 AM
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Its the lack of standards for men. Our media and culture doesn't place any standards on them so they have nowhere to look to understand what women want and find attractive. Combined with the way we cater to their egos they just assume its them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:18 PM
84

The majority of men don't deserve any pussy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:55 AM
52

"She did agree to go 50/50". You make a 100k a year you absolute clown, loosen the purse strings a little. I can't even imagine him just watching her struggle and not even buying her a meal on vacation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 02:31 AM
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Great post. I realized a while back how I had been a bad friend by being a pickme. I was in the industry so my girlfriends were all beautiful women who I slowly lost touch with because my creepy LVXs all would try something and I didn't have the confidence to travel in groups of such gorgeous women. And if you're taking time alone it should be to work on you. Avoiding men isn't enough. You gotta come out of that solitude better than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:39 PM
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Best thing I've learned here is to never text first or pursue. Its saving me so much time. No more "should I say something?" "Is he gonna text me?" Just don't text first and let them pursue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:50 PM
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Its always ugly men saying this. They're so entitled and narcissistic that they will claim to know the internal lives of attractive men at every opportunity. "Chad doesn't want you" etc etc. No honey, attractive men have actually been the best men on the apps for me. Having choices doesn't make men meaner, it makes them more secure and emotionally available because they're matching/dating who they want and not just whoever will take them. Its the ones I hesitated on matching who can't wait to tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:43 PM
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I think the best advice I've heard that really sums up both what you're saying and the responses here is: be someone you would want to be with, cause you're gonna be with you for a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:14 AM
10

Right? Take the time you spent making this video and use it to do push ups, learn a recipe, take a class, do literally anything to become better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 02:57 AM
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I come from the lower class and I have met both HVM and LVM from the upper class. The HV men didn't care about our differences, they asked questions and genuinely found it interesting to hear about. The LV ones constantly brought it up to be demeaning. My ex actually called me ghetto numerous times to hurt me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:44 PM
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Dear God half these men show up looking like they just rolled out of bed. I can't stand it. I'm always dressed nice, it takes a long time to get my hair right, makeup, skin, nails, shoes, etc. to stand next to a guy in sweatpants and a beanie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:35 PM
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Yeah and women buying into this crap only hurts the rest of us, too. Even if you don't participate, you're dating men who have been participating or at least existing in the dating world where women are all easy and boundary less and living for your approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:30 PM
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Young Men are eager and have stamina for days. I also love how easy they are to arouse, its kind of fun. Older men need you to perform the cirque du soilel on their dick just to get hard and then they're gonna lay there like lazy animals cause they have no upper body strength and their dick barely works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:05 PM
11

Sick that we've reached a point where "I'm not giving my whole body to every man who looks at me" is now viewed as transactional. You wait for sex for your comfort not to exchange it like its an item to be given
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:42 PM
37

That was some of the sickest shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:49 PM
15

We need a post about how OLD basically proves that were all being conditioned to live backwards and thats why men can't shut up about it. They are shocked to get online and find out that every woman can have 3000 men and they can have maybe 3 women. and why? People should know this if they understood men and women at all, but we don't because society is lying to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:20 PM
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I think the weirdest part is that women admit in large numbers to never experiencing orgasm through sex(most surveys land around 70% saying this) but then try to convince themselves and everyone else that they're having sex with men who hate them because they just want to have sex. Like, investigate why you want to have sex sis cause I know its not the sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:33 PM
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This is actually what changed me and brought me here. I finally hit a point where, of all the shit things I've dealt with with men, I realized I never wanted to waste another minute explaining to some fuccboi why I had feelings. I'm done. I've had several long relationships where I was constantly having to teach them to care. I'm not doing it, I'm done begging men to show me a tiny bit of empathy. They know what they're doing. They don't care. I'm not spending another moment begging for what I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:12 PM
19

Uggggh I've had so many men and women say this and it makes me want to puke. "Hes coming home to you, sis" yeah with his nasty dick and bad attitude, what a win. What makes men so special they think that we want some broke cheater coming to sleep in our beds? These are nice sheets. Not to mention all the drama. If you stay with a man like this your life will be all drama. You'll have to fight him, them, everyone. There will always be some bullshit going on distracting you from reaching your full…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:52 PM
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Omg I'm crying. I've read a few books on custody and family court while I was in it and it is true that parental alienation is a highly contested subject, primarily used by male judges, and many advocate groups have been calling it out for decades. Its a made up term with no evidentiary support, there is no one in psychology who will agree that it's real. Yet these old male judges keep trotting it out to defend men from what are often accurate accusations. "Shes the abuser by telling on him!" Ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:43 PM
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Oh yes, I can't tell you how much crap I had to sit through for "putting a black man through court" as if the courts didn't treat me like shit through the whole process and then give him everything he wanted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:17 PM
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Its the entitlement. Women don't fuck men they don't like. Husband, boyfriend, friend, doesn't matter. If she doesn't like you, she's not gonna fuck you. Men cannot comprehend this because they would fuck a piece of cake if it was left out long enough and our societal gaslighting has convinced them that its their "needs" and "rights" and that women should be bending over backwards to please them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:27 PM
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Oh yes. My ex, the devil, started our relationship telling me we were gonna get married and have kids. I mean within a week he was making "jokes" about proposing to me. I didn't actually believe him in the beginning but it should have been a clue to me later on that he wasn't gonna mean it a year from then either. And it would be hard for him to mean it since he was already secretly engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:07 PM
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Women who like small dicks have never cum. They "like" them because feeling close to nothing is better than being in pain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:12 PM
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I don't really think its ghosting if you've never met. You just decided not to meet a complete stranger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:19 AM
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Haha I have both(a blessing and a curse) so LVM will start flirting with/eyeing petite little things with neither. If I ever act like I know I got body, because I own a mirror, they will start negging me by saying how I could be "perfect" if I just did this or this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:17 AM
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Hes just not right for you. I kept having those feelings with the last man. I felt like he was bugging me, he wanted too much, I had nothing to prove to him, and that I was wasting valuable time. Even if nothing is outwardly wrong, your intuition is telling you something is. Believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:59 PM
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My dad is HV and I regret ignoring him for so much of my life. My parents divorced and my mother was a pickme but my dad frequently has been the one behind me begging me to aim higher, to not depend on a man, to learn to love myself, to find happiness outside of men. I'm blessed to have him but even with my father always showing me how I deserved to be treated I still grew up to be a pickme like my mother. He has been happy to see my growth lately though and even commented the other day that he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:32 PM
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Realistically I think this is where the "sex work is just a job" "you're selling your labor the same as a cashier", "redistribute the pussy" etc mentality comes from. They don't actually see the human being attached to the pussy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:24 PM
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I thought the same thing. Yes, it makes relationships more difficult. But more importantly, how relevant is it to womens status as a whole? I find it scary to think were living alongside men who don't view us as totally human and that this is being driven by an industry that shows no signs of slowing down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:38 PM
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I'm sure it is now, this was written a decade ago or more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:25 PM
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Exactly. Eerily enough the most common response is anger. They don't actually expect a sw to be in the room and they think so lowly of them in reality that the idea of one disagreeing with them infuriates them. They want to speak for us, not to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:33 AM
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Just look at how she writes, she is a child. Imagine dating a teenager as you near 30. Disgusting, this girl is a teenager, acts like a teenager, and he's ruining her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:16 PM
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Right? I once dated a guy who in the beginning would wake up before me to run and get coffee because he didn't drink it and didn't have a coffee maker and a month later he was telling me "its not my fault, why should I help" when my birth control failed and I needed an abortion. Obviously these are two very different things but the little things he did in the beginning gave the impression of a generous and thoughtful man which he was not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:22 PM
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He wants her to see how generous and forgiving he is for not agreeing with what the typical view of women is. "Aren't you so lucky? The whole world hates you but not me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:01 PM
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Thats one but I think its mostly useful for white men. Don't overlook things like "I really love women in glasses"(nerd porn, they want you to play teacher/student/librarian) or responses to outfits that look like schoolgirls. These are also fetishes. Also for black women, black men tend to like booties in the same way white men like petit women but you should measure how much. It absolutely can cross into fetish territory where hes always looking for the absolute thickest woman he can find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:54 PM
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Yeah my favorite thing is men who worry relentlessly about gold diggers while being ass poor. "These new women just want a free meal" nah, honey. They just don't like you, thats why they don't want a second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:09 PM
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Well you should know the majority of men would try to buy sex. You'd have the older men who came in looking for sex, the obvious creeps, the international travelers, but you'd also have a whole lot of sweet little normal boys that would start off saying they weren't that kind of dude but then obviously expect sex when they're coaxed into a backroom. The only thing I can think of maybe is that a lot of them were really into women who fit into porn categories and would latch onto whichever woman t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:04 AM
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A lot of lawyers visit strip clubs. I don't know if that's true everywhere, I was in a big metro at the time, but I met a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:26 AM
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Absolutely. I am 100% anti sex work and 100% pro sex worker, if that makes sense. These days no one wants to hear my stories, I've been in many a room full of progressives(especially men) who never experienced sex work who will literally argue with me while I tell them what I actually saw and experienced. There are very few or zero healthy women in sex work. Every woman I met came from severe poverty, majority were single mothers, many had drug addictions, most were assault victims, some were di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:51 AM
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Thank you queen! It is a lot of pressure. People made me feel like I was crazy for years, they were really invested in dragging me down with them, but I always knew I couldn't. I hope your friend gets free and finds herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:43 AM
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You nailed it. I'm an ex dancer and the reason I quit is that it's difficult to stay a dancer without also being a prostitute. All the women are doing it so when you hold out due to morals or whatever(like I did) you either starve or get reeeeally creative. For me that meant a lot of lying and exhausting manipulation along with lots of fights with both dancers and owners who thought I'd sell them all out if I never did it. NEVER believe the lie that strip clubs are just boys laughing and throwin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:11 AM
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Second this. One of the best books I ever read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:38 PM
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The fact that millennials are resurrecting polygamy and calling it a new name 🤮 you're not marrying multiple people but you're essentially practicing the same concept and like most things, its not progressive but deeply misogynist and disguising itself as progressive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:13 PM
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I remember a late teen said "you look good for your age" to me when I was 25 😂😂 the way all the adults stared at him like he was mentally damaged is how I still feel at 30
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:39 AM
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Beautiful letter. I wish you so much healing and happiness, you are a queen too 👑 look at all that growth, thats a beautiful thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:02 PM
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Its exactly opposite for women. The majority of the time we will not cum but will feel required to pretend to validate his dumb ego and avoid the many conversations about how "he's always made women cum, whats wrong with you" cause they have no idea what an orgasm looks like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:23 PM
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Male "jokes" are all about degrading women, I don't see why they should be funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:21 PM
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I'm so glad you used this example. I said this almost verbatim to an ex(he was a pretty good one) and I remember the look on his face! Immediately was like holy shit, youre right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:37 AM
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because they weren't 'chosen Isn't it bizarre? Men spend so much time thinking about women. They ibsess over techniques, they try to teach eachother how to get one, they aggressively pursue us, they hit on us no matter what were doing. When you're single there are always men pursuing you from everywhere, but they still hold this mentality that men pick women. Where are they getting it??? Where??? So many men I could literally tell that they thought they were in control of where it went when I wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:35 AM
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Find it weird that she's "frugal" but also throwing money away on gifts. That doesn't sound frugal, that sounds like she'd rather guy his love than give herself anything. She doesn't think she's worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:31 PM
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No were supposed to believe that ny coincidence all men just have a "preference" for the exact idealized body we see in the media and that women who have a "preference" for buff, tall men are broken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:25 PM
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Girl my mother in law will literally text me shit like "I hope he enjoys his sloppy seconds" when I'm dating or stand behind her dusty son and say its actually womens fault that he hits them because they don't know how to behave. 100% he would not be this way if she wasn't a massive pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:51 PM
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This really deserves more attention and its sad that it will never happen. Men think that not getting to fuck pretty women is the biggest obstacle being unattractive, women who are unattractive are treated as barely human. I remember being at an outdoors event with my wonderful friend, truly an amazing and kind soul, and she didn't look good. Shes a larger woman, it was a hot day, but I didn't think anything of it. Neither of us had dressed up. This gross toxic white man felt the need to walk by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:47 PM
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And his hygiene probably too, men can give you infections if they're not keeping it clean enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:27 PM
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Reminds me of jhene aiko: don't take it personal but you ain't shit and you weren't special until I made you so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:33 PM
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I swear to God, and the hair! You ever dated a man so bad your hair started falling out? Sis when I tell you I legit lost my baby hairs 😂😂 theyre back now, thank God
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:30 PM
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Exactly! Nothing worse for you as a partner than a guy who's too proud that he "tells it like it is", hes missing the point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:18 PM
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This is a great example, though. They're just like fuckbois, the only difference is that women won't actually f them, which makes it almost worse. Imagine being ignored and mistreated for a woman who don't even like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:13 AM
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On God, men will be single and begging for a crumb of pussy for a year but as soon as they got a girl she's got 3 days to put out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:18 AM
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I've gotten this on dating subs. Once for telling a woman that its not just goofy but actually dangerous to move in with a man you just met. I'm an abuse survivor and advocate. They banned me. Lmao Fuck that noise, those subs all pander to men and treat them as if they're "just like women and want the same things"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:51 PM
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Right, its porn dick. They hold it too tight when they jerk it all day and night. I once dated a man who legit didn't like porn and he thought it felt better slow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:10 PM
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You ain't never lied. I have never understood why men think we desire this. Spend 40 minutes licking my clit? Amazing. 40 minutes just stroking in one weird position that does nothing for me because its the only way you can cum anymore? Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:05 PM
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Okay, can we talk about how it took him THREE days to want to fjck another woman? Wtf? Jesus lord. This just reminded me of the aspect I hate most about dating men which is feeling that immense pressure to "satisfy him" at all times and having them force you through all kinds of clown shit for it. She sounds like she's internalized herself as some kind of sex object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:58 PM
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Nah, its not because you won't do them. Its because men are entitled. And I don't necessarily mind them but I won't do it if they don't reciprocate and so far most don't want to so that's on them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:36 PM
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Ew. My ex "fiance" got this bad at the end. He was just lazy as fuck, he'd always been lazy and wanted me to mostly be on top but after a year he pretty much demanded BJs every day. I havent given one since because let's be real, its a lot of fucking work for a man too lazy to make you cum. And I've noticed that men hold this standard very tightly. They think receiving BJs is a relationship must. Its an expectation while on the other hand rarely ever giving oral or even working to make you cum d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:06 PM
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I couldn't agree more. Though for me I think its the best part of the sub. Of course it sucks but I think it sucked more when I thought it was just me. I used to wonder why I was only finding men who treated me like crap and worse I was often convinced that I wasnt being treated like crap and that I was too high maintenance. My whole life I have had an fds mentality inwardly and been taught over and over to squash it down. I have never felt comfortable being disrespected, ignored, or used. I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:09 PM
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I just posted about this actually but just came out of a dating situation with one of these. Dont do it. Very rarely, very very rarely, is a man ever friends with a woman he doesn't want to fuck. They tell us all the time. The friend zone. The "orbiters". Men know they do this and tell on themselves. Think about it. Men don't waste time just for the company of women, they don't like us that much. They always want something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:34 PM
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Block him everywhere, do not let him find out where you are, and like others have said - leave secretly and with help. Good job! This is the hardest part, freedom lies on the other side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:36 PM
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Yes. I told exes that I was abused my ex and several of them reacted by not believing me. They literally sided with an unknown male over me. One ex frequently denied it and said I was hiding an affair with my baby daddy despite being told numerous time that the man had broken my jaw and I was terrified of him. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:17 PM
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I thought it was weird. He asked for exclusivity too early and then constantly felt the need to reiterate that we are "dating exclusively, not in a relationship". Ugh, I did a slide back. But at least I recognized the behavior and noped out before it was too late. Exclusive does not mean anything, its not a commitment, only a man who knows you can do better than him trying to prevent you from doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:25 PM
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Yeah I find it impossible to believe and I clearly need to keep reading and working on myself if I felt the need to believe such a ridiculous story. If a man is doing something weird, its highly unlikely that there's a good reason behind it, its always going to be some fuckboy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:13 PM
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Yes sis. My ex is about to give himself cirrhosis and when I met him I thought he was just fun. Definitely avoid men who are drinking every time you see them, they could just be drinking all the time period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:57 AM
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They even share this view in court where a father who just "wants" his kids pretty much will never lose them as long hes willing to keep showing up in court and saying he loves them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:18 AM
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Yeah there's an obvious disconnect between what women like in bed and what men like and I think that can only be attributed to porn. The more you watch, the more likely you are to develop a fetish as you become desensitized. A man who likes something weird is undoubtedly a porn addict. I like vanilla sex. I have sex to feel good, not to get my ass beat. I'm also an abuse survivor and I will quickly tell a man how I feel about him wanting to relive my trauma for his sexual pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:21 PM
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Absolutely. My kid creates messes that used to scare me because I had no idea how I was gonna get it out 😂 vinegar and dawn, every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:12 AM
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Even that isn't common anymore. These days men expect women to do all five jobs and pay half the rent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:11 AM
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Also could be a physical abuser lovebombing their victim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:01 AM
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You need the rust off products and a good brush, also white vinegar is a god tier cleaner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:48 PM
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Its also sad there are women so desperate for validation that they would do what this girl is doing. Like what do you get out of this situationship? I find women often lie about their sexual desire to make it seem like they're in it for the sex but I highly doubt any dick is good enough to carry on pretending to be friends for some loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:49 PM
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How do I tell partners I don't care about anything but my dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:40 PM
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Don't forget she also lowered her standards immensely and gave "the ugly but super sweet" guy a chance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:25 AM
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The best advice I can give you is to have a celibate phase. Its not a modesty thing, its for you. Regain control of your body. Let it be just yours for awhile. Pamper it. Enjoy it. Take care of it. Not having sex can be incredibly powerful. Focus inward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:47 AM
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I remember telling my mom that my bf always took a million years to run simple errands in a very "oh my God what a funny quirk" way(I was an idiot) and she looked at me in silence for a minute straight and said "girl he is not out there running errands". She never gave me advice or spoke to me like that so I was taken aback, but older women know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:04 AM
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Thanks! I usually don't reply further if men say they thought I didn't like them but Ive been told that on occasion. I know most people don't "double text" and I often find myself noticing someone texted me like a week later. If I get anymore aloof I might as well throw my phone out a window.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:10 AM
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I got the stitch too, can you really have it repaired?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:09 AM
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How do you ladies avoid becoming too distant? I'm naturally someone who doesn't reply to texts like I should and barely answers the phone. I then get men who say they thought I didn't like them, so I overthink it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:40 AM
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People just don't understand statistics. That blurb makes it seem like women of all ages are courting the men in their 50s but the actual reason its skewed is that there are more women available in their 50s than men. Men do get an upper hand with age in the dating market, do to their frequent deaths, but only if they're dating women their own age. Women in their 20s and 30 live in the opposite dating world where there are more single men and thus old men diving into their pool will have to comp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:42 AM
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Interesting that there are no stories of women searching for men in dire circumstances to exploit with a green card. Its almost like women don't need men the way men need us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:55 PM
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Was just thinking that. I actually find ugly men to be the meanest mfs I ever met
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:10 AM
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Those Playstations are lvm removers. There's something about buying a grown man a $500 toy that really changes womens perspective. Thats an expensive gift and once you buy it you start to ask why you're not allowed to receive expensive gifts. Imagine asking for nothing but a $500 necklace? We've been taught our whole lives that this is gold digging and doing so would make us uncool, then these men all became gold diggers for video games and shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:20 PM
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I hope she got a screenshot of this for custody court
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:08 AM
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She needs to be rescued ASAP. Right in the beginning you can tell from her phrasing that she is very vulnerable to abuse. All this " I said I did I'm sorry" about her action as if it any way justifies being physically hit. In front of the children! No. This is how it starts. You blame yourself over and over again. Its not him. He's stressed, this isn't his usual behavior. He feels so bad! I was such a bitch! Until you wake up inside an MRI machine. Run, baby, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:32 AM
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He feels so cool and all I see is a bum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:00 AM
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sigh narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths have no problem admitting they don't have empathy. This is not a win, to him, hes simply stronger and better than you for it. Theyre also unfixable. Therapy does not work on dark triads, it makes them worse. People don't like to hear this because they're subconsciously afraid that they fit this category but even asking yourself whether you need therapy is a positive sign that you're not a dark triad, as you would see nothing wrong with it if you were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:55 PM
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That's cause they won't say what they mean. They think women shouldn't be allowed to leave men. If he leaves her I guess she's supposed to just die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:46 PM
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How can she be a feminist? You're the one calling your boyfriends ex and yelling at her instead of dumping him, you clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:01 PM
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Lmao my ex did this. It didn't bother me none but it made me sad for her, its like making it out of tornado and you turn around and see someone headed straight for it but its too late to stop them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:28 AM
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Yes yes yes, this is it. I have gone through this and seen it so many times. One man I dated, who I refer to as Satan, kept calling me for YEARS trying to cheat on all these women and every time I look at his page, there they are. The same 5 perfectly curated pictures, new girl. When she finally dumps him he deletes them and starts over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:26 AM
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Or my personal all time favorite "if she's not lighter than my mama I don't want her"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:08 AM
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Yep and you know who does that? All those men who told me not to buy it. There aren't any men in my house so I didn't feel any need to listen but I had to hear it from everyone how I was "turning my son gay" like I was maliciously plotting to change him into a woman with a single kitchenette
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:52 AM
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Lundy also saved my life, I genuinely believed if I hadn't found his book(and cried for hours!) I would've stayed until he killed me. That said, I consider it of utmost importance to show my son how strong and whole women are without men, and how he can contribute to a loving household. I highly suggest dolls, kitchens, and cleaning toys right from the start. Empathy lessons, mood boards, etc. Boys are not born cold and hateful, that's something they're taught. You have to teach your sons to fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:32 PM
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On God, Ive never met a man who thought he was ugly and never met a woman who thought she was beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:01 AM
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Men: women are so entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:38 AM
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I used to be soooo nice and men just took that as a weakness and never stopped harassing me. I finally snapped when my ex boss put porn on in the office and now I just tell them immediately to fuck off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:10 PM
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I cant imagine dating white men, this is just a whole other set of problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:07 PM
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Yep I did the same thing. He pretended to be hot shit right up until I left him and then suddenly I'm shallow for picking a good looking man over him. I certainly wasnt gonna spend another 3 years being torn down by a bridge troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:48 AM
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They probably sense the loser in him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:30 PM
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And women are universally hated when they begin to age, like we cant even tolerate the sight of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:15 PM
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Its mostly videos of teenage girls so you should be turned off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:24 PM
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I'm a leftist and I will never date a leftist man because they are always weird and completely full of themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:16 PM
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All on point but it's not being mentioned enough that ge took her away from her children against everyone's will. I mean it's a low blow having your husband abandon you at the end but to separate you from your children? This man is the devil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:27 AM
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I'm not your ex - said by a man who recognizes himself in your ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:57 PM
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mil thinks it's my job to clean the house because I have a vagina I'm a neurosurgeon You cant make this shit up. Women can be literal brain surgeons and people still look at us and wonder if we have the "skills" to mop a floor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:53 PM
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I dont know. I have been attracted to men a lot and they dont always have to be like movie star hot to feel that way, I'd actually wonder if you may be into women? But also, vaginas are not like dicks. You can find a guy attractive and still not be sexually aroused, you could be uncomfortable, nervous, defeated into believing you'll never cum, anxious, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:47 AM
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More and more I think women are taking it on ourselves to treat men how we wish to be treated, either because we think we can teach them or so we can at least experience it in some way. But men, it seems, dont view it like we do. When a woman pampers them they think she must be desperate and that they're too good for that woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:30 AM
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That vibes with experiences I've had. People forget that in the moment when you're thinking about how to survive and not get raped, "play it cool until he calms down" is the number one go to for women. We cant fight men most of the time, theres a real fear if that if you appear aggressive or try to run immediately they'll attack you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:26 AM
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He doesn't care who the women are in this scenario lmao like do men believe there are untold numbers of women who really want to be prostitutes and the only thing in their way is the law? Prostitution is the last option for 99.9% of prostitutes. In order to create a world where it was easy for men to all have a monthly prostitute you would have to destroy womens livelihoods, kidnap them, abuse them, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:51 AM
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Neither is an accurate portrayal though. Most single moms had kids intentionally with men who portrayed themselves as wanting to have a family. The old trope of women having kids on accident isnt very accurate in today's world. Teenage pregnancy is at an all time low and cohabitation non married families are at an all time high. So men create single mothers intentionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:13 PM
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Nurture. They're raised in an environment that teaches them women are toys for their pleasure, that's why some men are high value, they're men who were raised right and worked on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:53 PM
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"No wonder you're still single" Hahaha dad knows what's up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:24 PM
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I bought my baby father a ps4 when they came out. He bought me a knock off chanel purse someone was selling on the corner. 🙄 Bought my other ex something silly for valentine's day. Some shot glasses with a favorite tv show on them that were really hard to find(old, not popular show) just to be thoughtful. He handed me some old candy from his room. Whenever you think you didnt try hard enough, they still do even worse 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:09 PM
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A turning point in my life came when my ex, perhaps accidentally, used the phrase "in house pussy" around me. Not only is it disgusting on multiple levels but he basically admitted that men will keep one woman around just for sexual access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:09 PM
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Should I stop using snap? I like it for keeping men in one place. I dont add anyone else so I always know who's messaging and why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:26 AM
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They're usually very young women trying to be the cool girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:18 AM
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Yep. Everything they do is for women. They dont even want money, they only want money to catch more women lmao if they were to stop objectifying women and basing their life around acquiring us like objects than I'm sure they'd find real happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:44 PM
63

Thank you! It is so bizarre that the single mother stereotype survives in a society where divorce is more common than long term marriage. Second marriages, divorce, cohabitation with children, etc are all extremely prevalent. Far more so then the old school marriage + kids + stay together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:24 PM
201

Mens lives revolve around women entirely. I think a lot of misogyny is simply projection. They cant survive without women. Even the men who are "going their own way" or alone by choice are slaves to women still because they cant survive without looking at women and masturbating. What makes a man cool? What type of women he can get. What makes a man a loser? When women dont want him. They are at our mercy their entire lives, desperate for female attention, sexually obsessed with us, and dependent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:11 PM
301

24 is an interesting choice. Most consider that the age one becomes an adult, wonder what that means for this guy 🤔🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:40 PM
93

Sounds like she is a danger to children if her whole attitude is to immediately be defensive and assume her perfect man is being insulted instead of recognizing the dangers posed to girls everyday. I knew a woman who was married for 15 years before she found out her husband was molesting the children in the house with her inside it. You can imagine what type of woman she was, desperate for male validation, blind, clueless, trusting, just like OP. Maybe sis sees something she doesnt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:27 AM
250

Nice kid. Parents take him in when he had nowhere to go and he repays them with a lawsuit. No wonder hes divorced
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:05 AM
29

causes no harm to anyone Because women arent anyone, right ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:30 PM
12

Whew the way the jealousy and bitterness just jumped off the page
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 11:21 PM
115

You know, I'm a complimenter. I cant help it, they flow from me freely. So every man I've dated I tell him lots of specific things that I like (you're really funny, I love your waistline, your smile is so cute, etc) and every one of them ended up with a giant fucking ego. They're not like women. Women take a compliment and feel good because they understand the intent was to make them feel good, men take compliments to mean they're hotter than they thought and they finally have proof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:58 PM
10

That's disgusting, men are so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:54 PM
11

Either he doesnt have any and is too lazy and incompetent to buy dishes or he has dishes and is too lazy and incompetent to wash them. That is an ice cream tub by the way for anyone who couldnt tell. a used, washed out, ice cream tub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:47 AM
19

Agreed. Still have to make time for actual quality time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:33 AM
68

I think this is fine for married couples. If you're really sharing a life you can both do your own thing, if you're coming to his house to spend time with him and hes not spending time with you then he doesnt care about you. I mean, would you do that to your visiting mother? Would you invite your new friends over to do this? Would you go to work and ask your colleagues to come over and watch you game in silence? Get real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:31 PM
8

Yeah we got stuck with men who dropped the male role only to not pick up any part of the female role
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:38 PM
20

Eww hes 50 years old. Besides being a cheater he's also having sex with little girls, is that a man you can face? His wife is already almost a decade younger(red flag) and hes gonna cheat with a woman who could be his child? Secondly, dont he know his wife's schedule? That's awfully bold to cheat "the first time" at the end of the day in his own home knowing she'd be home soon. No way was this the first time, he got relaxed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:35 PM
21

See I usually go to the bathroom and dont come back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:42 AM
91

I'm not a nurse or a doctor, I dont heal people 😂😂😂 put this on a shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:02 AM
16

Yes the only two women who exist: city girls and pickmeishas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:17 AM
19

Damn good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:10 PM
55

Is it just me or were men just better in our mothers generation? I see a lot more of these then I see young men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:50 PM
37

Saying this with love but why are you arguing with him? No man who is actively pursuing you would forget to say "good morning" after sex or "have a great day, headed to church" etc. Is this the first time you had sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:49 PM
4

She claims to be a sub and enjoy bdsm but her post is screaming that she doesnt. I hope she gets away from these rapists in training and realizes her worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:26 PM
2

Isnt that some bullshit? Only one woman can be in the rap game at one time and shes gotta be replaced with a younger woman every 10 years? Why cant we like women for their music? it's all about appealing to the men with their sex appeal. I'd love to see a bunch of female artists come up but the industry wont allow it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:06 PM
10

My ex used to get mad at me for listening to "hoodrat" music or "hoe" music. It wasnt what he listened to really, but his reaction to what I listened to. He used to say things like, "you're not this type of girl, are you? Do you relate to this?" It should be noted he was also a rap fan, he just had a problem with me liking female rappers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:00 PM
14

Oh god if I had a nickel for every "I'm not your ex" excuse to perfectly reasonable arguments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:53 PM
4

Sorry that happened to you, that was definitely not my intent, but you're right that never is a strong word. I think this is more common with young people or if you find a particularly LVM. I hope you're doing better now, he was obviously trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:35 PM
55

I'm not even sure if men do it with any goal of actually getting with younger women to manipulate. I think it functions in two ways: 1) make women under 30 fearful. Make them feel rushed, make them feel like they're constantly creeping towards the no man zone and have to settle as quickly as possible or miss out. 2)make women over 30 feel bad. Again, they're rushed, they have to lower their standards. The more women feel used up, the lower theyll accept. You ever notice men mostly complain about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:08 AM
21

I havent heard the phrase "pumped and dumped" since like 2007, what is even going on here? Besides it's something that never happens. Men don't usually get the goods and move on, that's a tv trope. Men want to maintain access to anyone who will have sex with them for as long as possible so they engage in disgusting manipulative behaviors to keep those women on the hook without getting involved with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:04 AM
2

my baby daddy was also a woman beater. I don't tell this to men anymore until we're actually in a relationship(one thing fds taught me, I haven't tried it yet) but in the past I definitely felt it was a filter. Men who see past the abuse or just obviously don't believe you(if they're suggesting he help, they don't believe you) are potential abusers themselves. The only acceptable answer is "thank god you got away, don't let that monster near your children"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:50 AM
32

I'm noticing more and more that you cant trust anything men say about relationships because the majority of the time they couch it in soft words like "attention" and "love" but what they mean is sex. It's easy for women to get sex, it's hard for men to have sex. That is all they care about, having sex with lots of different women is what they want and no matter what language they put it in they're looking for advice on how to fuck and leave women or looking for pity because they cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:27 PM
68

Does anyone else think it's weird that women are so conditioned to be accessories to men their whole life that a 17 year old girl would be looking for ways to "make it work". Good lord you arent even an adult yet and already worried about keeping a relationship together. Let him go, who cares? You're not going to marry him in any universe so why even spend the time doing this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 10:56 PM
171

Gross. That man is at deaths door and is still a manipulative dick on legs, viagra was a mistake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:12 PM
33

Beauty standards are meant to control women. Look at us, beauty is stupid important to getting ahead in life. Society doesnt even deem a woman valuable as a person unless shes beautiful so constantly moving the goal post keeps us under their control and can effectively be used as punishment. There will never be a time when we can honestly say all women are beautiful because beauty is meant to be exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:06 PM
21

I stop talking at 'do you cook?'. Boy I'm not auditioning to be your nanny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:49 AM
12

Oh lord, my child once pooped at night and didnt wake up. No idea what time it happened because he never made a sound(sometimes little babies prefer the warmth, gross but true), even when I woke up and changed/fed him, and he had the worst rash I'd ever seen. I cried for days while applying the ointments because I felt like the worst mother in the world, started getting up in the middle of the night to check his diapers, did the no diaper hours my dr suggested, it was not a pretty situation. To …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:41 PM
24

Women are too kind to men, we dont do shit like this and let them get their big ass heads inflated walking around having no idea they're ugly. Have you seen Twista? Hes walking around looking like someones alcoholic uncle thinking he can criticize women, the man draws his jawline on, he hasn't seen the bottom of his face since 2003.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:30 PM
34

See this pisses me off. Not only do men lean into racist/misogynist stereotypes when it suits them but even to his own daughter. It's more important to him that black women know their place than that his daughter learns how to stand up for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:23 PM
22

I've never encountered this in the wild tbh, I used to think this was a white guy thing but the internet has showed me its definitely a redpill/incel thing and you should be suspicious of any man who has a hang up over "single moms". Especially when the single mom in question is a divorcee, of an appropriate parent age, or is financially stable. If you have an issue with women getting divorced after they have kids or having children in their 30s/40s you're a weird creep and definitely have been …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:58 PM
3

Lol I love how ugly virgins believe they know the internal lives of good looking people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:06 PM
21

scientific reason Men died at like 30. Cave women probably fucked younger men if they wanted a guarantee that the man would still be there to provide but cave obsessed pseudo science is only interested in proving whatever helps men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:45 PM
4

Oh god, no. That's like something out of a nightmare. Why is everyone talking about Europe? Are you in europe? I'm pretty sure even in places where nudity is the norm(and if you're in America this is irrelevant because we have our own cultural understanding of nudity which shouldnt be dismissed because he also was socialized this way) touching naked people is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:53 PM
7

Eww those people are trying to convince her that a topless teenage girl cuddling her dad is normal. Wtf? My dad would die instantly of humiliation if I walked out of my room topless, let alone actually touch me 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:11 PM
69

Exactly. I learned too late that you should never tell a man or theyll just pornify you or worse think it's now acceptable to speak grossly about women to you. I'm not attracted to women like you are, bro, I still think they're people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:56 PM
52

It's a big red flag if a mans favorite book type is "self improvement". Yes, I realize on its face that sounds counterproductive but from my experience men who read self improvement books are looking less for life tips like how to change a tire or pick a career and more often for tips on manipulation and power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:52 PM
45

Ugh the only thing worse than a guy who cums in 2 minutes is a guy who takes 2 hours every single time. You'll be daydreaming about being alone by the end of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:47 PM
83

A guy did this to me. I turned around and saw the light and kicked him out of my house but I've never been so fucking angry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:37 AM
12

It reminds me of mens need to constantly ask "what are you?" to women. Over time I realized this is just a way to objectify women. They want to talk about you like a sportscar to other men, "oh yeah I got this Cuban mami" (not my ethnicity, picking at random). I've asked women of all types and they all get this question from men who are sexually interested but not from the general public, even when they're clearly not ambiguous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:13 PM
52

It's a threat. They believe they have the power to take "feminism" meaning equal rights away from us so they toss it out whenever they're unhappy with having to do anything for a woman. Her equal rights in politics and career have absolutely nothing to do with him, but he wants women to think "I better be willing to pay or the menfolk wont tolerate all this freedom anymore" It just goes to show a lot of men dont like that women are free unless they can see some benefit for themselves.(like not h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:09 AM
51

They're usually posting so that whatever lvm they're pining after sees it and has a miraculous aha! moment where he suddenly denounces his low value behavior to be with his perfect girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:19 PM
255

I guess dad hit the wall. What does he expect letting his son be around knowing hes at his peak? Women are visual creatures!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:15 PM
173

It's a trick, they put this in the universe to convince women to put out. In reality this man dont take no one out cause hes lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:31 PM
30

Divorce him, hes only getting worse from here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:30 PM
8

White men ain't shit either, they're all like this now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:32 AM
51

Not just disgusting, delusional. lmao if women wont fuck you as a 20 year old loser with all of his hair they're sure as hell not gonna fuck you when you're a 40 bald loser either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:09 AM
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Exactly. Theres nothing women can do to make men ready, they either or they arent. They usually are later on and dont care if you're divorced, have kids, etc. because that was never really the issue. I feel like women need to learn to take the men on reddit with a grain of salt, dont internalize the opinions of terminally online ugly young white men if that's not who you plan to date. What insight can they give you? They're sexually inept losers, are you planning to date a socially inept loser?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:23 PM
37

I think this is a joke, the memoji is too over the top
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:52 PM
2

Why did the producers put a bunch of super young men there? Lol most women dont date younger guys, if I showed up and everyone was 20 I'd leave too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:22 AM
3

They're really not very common. They're over represented online in my opinion because a lot of socially inept people and very young people are active on the internet. Just block. I recently was writing a post on this subject actually because the internet version of reality is so far from actual reality. In real life, 30% of all men are stepfathers and half the kids in this country live with a stepparent. Men very obviously do not hate single mothers since they keep marrying them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:15 AM
3

Its difficult for me otherwise because I work in a job where everyone is moving around all the time. I've met men at work, I dated a man I'd call a HVM for a while who was solid(adore him, we're still friends because our breakup was very pleasant and respectable) but he of course got a job on the other side of the country and neither of us could give up those opportunities. Youd have to give up your career to stop moving in my job. So I dont know where else, my hobbies aren't exactly rolling in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:05 AM
5

Yes I think when looking for a mate you should get your advice from men no one will fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:50 AM
16

I love when angry people claim they're the prize. Honey if you had all these better options you wouldnt be here in her messages yelling about being left on read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:45 AM
42

The rented car 😂😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:40 AM
15

You shouldn't. It's all media bullshit, the vast majority of people marry someone their own age and I don't know any older women who's option dried up in the least. My grandma was a babe in her 50s, my friends were in high school crushing on her. But that's the thing, the reason incels and such exist is because they overly absorbed media and had little social experience so they actually believe this is how life is. It isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:00 AM
5

I have a vivid memory of walking to the park at 13. I was meeting a boy so I put a skirt on to be cute, I had just gotten some body for the first time and felt like I was poppin, but I was also naive and childlike, I had grown up in a small town and moved to the city. I got SO MANY catcalls from grown men who were older than my very young dad. Men pulling up and stopping to talk to me. Men following me. Grown ups. Adults that I had always trusted to be authorities were saying sexual things to me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:13 AM
24

I'll reward you by doing something that I want to do which provides almost no value to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:04 AM
2

I've had to because of work that requires travel and now I love it because it reminds me of those work trips where it was just me in a new city, its such a stress free feeling of being anonymous, I love work trips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:44 AM
82

Ugh I met satan, the worst man in the world, the epitome of fuckboys, King Low Value on OLD and it never occurred to me that only going to eachothers houses right from the beginning was a bad sign. I thought I was so chill and casual and instead I was being played like a fuckin clown. We dated for a year. He was married 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:33 AM
58

That's a common misconception with therapy. You dont have to need therapy in the sense that something should be truly wrong, therapy would actually be the perfect place to examine your love style and work on developing secure attachment. Lots of people keep therapists their whole lives even when nothing is particularly wrong and they're especially beneficial(in my opinion) to people who've struggled with relationships. I have anxious attachment with boyfriends and avoidant behavior with everyone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:04 AM
23

My dad was a single parent. I can't judge how he treats women but I consider him high value because of the way he put his kids first. He raised 3 girls by himself and never dated because he just didnt feel he had the ability to extend himself further. My dad never stops thinking about what his children need. He was a day laborer for decades, when we got to our late teens he became concerned that we were settling for less because we didnt have good enough examples. He wanted us to go to college, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:23 AM
3

Thank you! I feel like it's easy for me to be picky, I've always treated matches like nobody because I don't think they count until you meet but I'm struggling with identifying who's worth meeting absent any glaring red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:45 PM
24

Hes likely dating to find women who will provide for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:30 PM
7

How do you decide to meet someone from OLD? Are there any green flags or is it just too hard to know without actual interaction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:10 PM
18

I hope this is satire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:06 PM
16

Never trust a man who says this. I worked with a guy who was adamant that women make false rape accusations, especially against black men, and he ended up sexually harassing me in the most horrifying way. He got fired(yay women in HR)but he genuinely scared me first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:20 PM
23

Funny how women asking for equality immediately means being threatened with violence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:17 PM
2

I hear you and you could be right, but my experience has been that every man I thought was actually a good guy and blamed myself for losing was actually cheating. But you're right that it's more important to accept that closure may never come and to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:23 PM
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To be honest, I misread and thought she said he turned cold and ended things. Edit: wait no, he did end things. I stand by my comment. Men dont randomly turn cold and dump their girlfriends for no reason, she shouldn't spend anymore time debating if it was her. It probably wasnt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:02 PM
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If he turned literally cold after 2 years, I'm willing to bet he cheated already. Often when people cheat they have to create a cognitive dissonance in order to forgive themselves, they retcon the relationship and speak/think negatively of you despite never having those feelings before in order to justify their decision. You also may be viewing the relationship through rose tinted glasses. Are you sure there were never any signs that he was LV?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:14 PM
60

They're actually angry that women exist. They dont see the purpose of any woman being alive unless it's to be a fuckdoll for them specifically so they fly into a blind rage over a woman just existing while not being pleasing to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:45 PM
17

It's true though, men think women have it easy because they're easy but they're not people that even they, themselves, would date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:40 PM
90

True. I remember when I met this man he would tell me he had insecurity issues because his fiance cheated on him. Slowly over time more and more truth trickled out until eventually it became clear that he cheated on her and then became an obsessive stalker who thought she was cheating on him with everyone else until she left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:22 PM
48

It absolutely is offensive to assume about someone. "I'm not a crack addict living on the streets, I'm sure that's not your thing." I wanted to be like, "oh no! I thought you were a piece of shit, that's why I matched you. You look like a crack addict in your pictures. My disappointment right now :(" but I blocked him instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:18 PM
11

Absolutely. The only picky eater I've dated was my psycho ex and his mommy would make him plain rice every night so he didnt have to eat her dinner. He had an unusual relationship with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:56 PM
188

Lmao girl I had just added him and he says this, that's the fastest I've ever blocked someone in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:13 AM
62

I would tell myself that I am barely older than a literal child. That's not meant to be an insult but to remember that there is no rush, in fact, at this age setting down too soon would be far worse than waiting for the right one. You have so much time to do everything! Society tells girls to prepare for marriage as soon as they can and it's so damaging. I'm 30 and I look the same, feel the same, date the same, what the hell was I rushing for? Enjoy your life, build your career, think about buyi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:54 AM
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I thought she was latina at first but I'm not positive. Looking through the sub they never rate anyone higher than 7 and it's an extremely toxic sub. The white women do seem to be rated a little higher but overall they rate everyone low and are abusive to them. The mantra seems to be that everyone attractive is a 6, wouldnt it be easier to say attractive or not attractive at that point? Just silly, abusive nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:05 PM
73

That makes sense. I was sitting here staring at her like, this woman is a 12, okay? Shes stunning. That guy is like a 6, attractive enough but not hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:50 AM
1

Yeah you should just tell her the truth that you think hes a piece of shit and you cant sit by and watch her do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:39 PM
4

Boundaries are good. You may not realize it now but being firm with her could change/save her life. The biggest difference for me in letting go of my pickmeisha ways was when my friends wouldnt stand for it. You probably cant see the other 5 or 6 pickmeisha friends telling her this is fine, be the one who says it's not. I'll never forget my best friend standing up and saying "you are not staying here another day. You told me your whole life you would not be your mother and who are you? Who do yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:24 PM
17

As someone who was strangled by a man and had to sit by and do nothing so he could go on to strangle another woman, this put me in tears. It's good to know that this woman got justice and she was saved. If every state was like this no man would ever dare
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:11 PM
35

Lmao the kid is better, at least I can teach him things and he listens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:21 AM
36

Hated that movie. She was clearly right to dump him and right to be upset but it seemed like the writers were trying to imply it was her fault for not sticking it out just a little longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:31 AM
20

If he was hot he'd have options, someone is grossly overvaluing himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:38 AM
77

Listen, if that man had any self respect he wouldve never texted her again and disappeared in his rightful shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:57 AM
53

Exactly! He cant even accept that that's who he is, he needs to both do the disgusting deed and then be validated as a nice guy at the same time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:30 PM
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How do you get through 4 whole dates and sex before "realizing" you dont want a relationship? He never wanted one, he wanted to sleep with her, and now he needs people to make him feel like hes not a gross user for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:44 PM
8

Damn that's a good point. What do these men think of us that they would accuse a woman of gold digging for applebees
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:11 PM
12

Easy. I used to say this to my lvm ex(I shouldve just been leaving!) And nothing made him more mad, "I didnt say anything about you having to be that guy. I told you what I want, it doesnt have to come from you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:33 AM
58

Every woman I know married to an ugly ass man is married to a man child, ugly men do not have good personalities because their ugliness comes from laziness. Sometimes people gain a little weight, that's not a biggie. But if a guy is obese, dresses like shit, has bad skin, an ugly haircut, and facial hair that doesnt work for him then he is a lazy slob. That means he actually is single and entered the dating scene without putting in even a tiny bit of effort, how do you think he is in the other a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:56 PM
12

Yes it definitely does. I remember him once saying, "everybody has a type" in response to a man who said I was "perfect". Dude was complimenting him(which is also pretty icky misogyny) and he basically told him he was wrong lmao I shouldve left that second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:13 AM
24

I'm starting to feel like I've had every version of LVM. My first long relationship was with a gamer. For almost 4 years this man did nothing but play call of duty and ignore me. He never complimented me, acknowledged me, fucked me, spent time with me. He thought other people were weird for saying how hot I was. His own friends were sniffing around trying to get to me while he wasnt even looking. I would say that all of my pickmeisha traits started here. After being completely deprived of love a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:05 PM
20

A guy I dated for a year ghosted me after agreeing to move in together. Turns out he already had a fiance. Anyways, I moved on and his friends started seeing me with other men in public so they would tell these men I had a boyfriend and then send pictures of me with them to the ghost. The ghost suddenly pops back into the picture to yell at me for dating when obviously I'm still his and he just needed a break. He then periodically checked in with me to make sure I was not having sex with other m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:24 PM
66

I swear every man who says "I can cook" right up front is the worst cook in the world. Theyll be cooking but they're gonna serve you a burnt egg on rice and then leave forty pans for you to clean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:11 PM
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Men believe that the women they see on Instagram really look like that naturally then get upset when they find out its makeup and editing, women knew this already because we know what human beings look like. It's so ridiculous, how are men so inept at everything? You really cant tell the difference between what's naturally possible and what's not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:51 PM
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I remember one occasion I was working an event outdoors and a man said this to me just to be an asshole. Part of our job was approaching people so they would get irritated with us, which is fine, I was used to it. We insulted people who were rude often because it drummed up attention, the same way a stand up might poke at people, nothing serious but light hearted fun. (Its a party tourist event) Anyways I replied instinctively with "and you're a liar" and the male crew with me cheered and starte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:56 PM
76

You sound like me. I used to be very into casual sex and I reasoned that it was fine to sleep with men I didnt like because I had no expectations. That was a lie lol I always ended up feeling some kind of way and suddenly I'd be hooked on a guy I'd already written off as not right for me. And what did I get for it? Like you said, no actual orgasms, so what was even the point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:37 PM
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I went about 8 months without sex and it was the best decision I ever made. It sounds like weird puritan nonsense in this libfem sex positive world but not having sex has allowed me to feel in control of my own body. I broke my streak right before finding fds because I didnt want some asshole to think I didn't like him. And what did he do? Started acting different so I immediately felt like an object again. No thank you. I'm not going to be in any mans roster, I don't exist to please men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:19 PM
5

I wanna know who raised this boy because they did good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:00 PM
28

Pure entitlement. They act like its womens job to be enticing and never mens job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:17 AM
84

These deadbedrooms would be so much easier for men to understand if we didnt create this weird culture where all women know that 98% of men dont make women cum, that most women cannot cum from piv, and yet 100% of men believe they're making their partners cum through piv. She isnt cumming. Period. End of dilemma. Your wife doesnt wanna have sex because it doesnt give her pleasure. Why cant we ever just say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:42 PM
12

That's the surest sign of a cheater. Men who cheat are extremely paranoid that their women are also cheating, it's just projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:33 PM
162

I knew automatically this was a lie, and as you can see it is in my blocked box already. No man is losing his phone for 5 days at a time, ever, that's a ludicrous thing to believe. However, I wanted to go the extra lengths to show it was a lie because his brand of the "I lost my phone" game is actually pretty good. Ordinarily men would say they lost their phone and apologize, he instead set this up to demand an apology from me and his pretend disappointment really sells the lie. A younger me wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:22 AM
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I was an exotic dancer for years and literally everyone pressured me to get work done. What's crazy is I'm a natural hourglass, I literally look like what they're telling me to look like but it's not enough because it looks normal and not like a doll. I remember seeing a woman with a flat chest, big butt and thighs. I thought she was the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen naked. She was slender and long, and her ribs and waist were both tiny compared to her legs which were thick. I was entranced…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:16 PM
20

He sounds like absolute scum. What kind of weirdo does that? I would absolutely block and delete. Also, internet safety is important. Go into your settings and make your username un searchable and in the future remember that you can remain anonymous by using different usernames for different apps. You never know who might be a creep enough to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:27 PM
13

Am I irrationally attached to text messages? I feel like a man who isnt texting me every day doesnt deserve my attention. If I dont get a text from someone I'm seeing I get extremely upset. I dont want to, I want to remain aloof and not care but someone is being consistent with texting and talking to me and then they just dont one day it just feels like the biggest fuck you to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:52 AM
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