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Beauty is truly more than just youthful good looks. Yes, it's important for us to take care of our bodies and presentation, but cultivating kindness, integrity, humor, wisdom, compassion, are all just as much and even more important. I just turned 42, and I can tell you that nothing I do at this point is going to make me look 22. But that's okay! I nourish my body, mind, soul, and heart. I am pleasant and often even playful with my husband. This morning he was teasing me about something and I ju…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 08:43 PM
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I love that he helps you because even though you can do it yourself, he doesn't want you to have to go through that. Relate 100%
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 01:23 AM
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It's the silly small things that really add up though, isn't it? Very sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 01:22 AM
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The food line struggle is real! Love it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 01:21 AM
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That's really sweet to put in that much effort!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 11:36 PM
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That's so sweet. I bet it's much easier to fall asleep knowing that you are secure and cared for.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 10:54 PM
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That's so cute!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 09:55 PM
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I love that he is paying attention to how you feel and is protecting and comforting you! So sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 09:40 PM
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Awww, I love that!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 09:34 PM
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Haha, this is literally my make up routine to a T, plus mascara. My make up is done in like 5 min tops. And to be honest, I rarely do much with my hair. I have long, naturally very straight fine hair that won't hold a curl for longer than about an hour without insane amounts of product (like, it has to be stiff to hold a curl, which I find gross) so I make sure it is nicely trimmed and cut in a flattering style, and just dry it and then add a smoother so it doesn't frizz. Easy peasy. OP, as far …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 08:33 PM
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I totally agree with this. It won't solve everything, but it's something and may well reduce your stress and increase your respect for him. For the first few years we were married, I insisted on managing all of the finances and paying all the bills. And I constantly stressed about money, probably because I grew up very poor. To me, every dollar we had was possibly our last, and even grocery shopping could give me anxiety which would then make me angry and I would start fights. Some many years ag…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 10:20 PM
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I may be a dissenting opinion here, but I don't think that "rating" yourself is actually all that helpful. Here is why: 1) Looks. Look, to a certain extent, barring plastic surgery, you're going to look like you. The important thing in my mind is looking like the best you you can. For example, I'm thin and I work out. I do my best with wardrobe and hair and makeup and whatnot, but there is always going to be a prettier (and now younger) girl out there somewhere. That's just the truth. My face is…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 07:03 AM
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I'm making red beans and rice. Husband's mom came from Iowa and she has a lot of different recipes that he likes, but he does like my Southern cooking and now asks for it on the reg.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 12:39 AM
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Personally, I don't respect a man that is uncaring or worse towards his wife/partner/children. My personal and religious values dictate that women are very centered on their families. But men are too, and men that don't care about their wives and children get no love from me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 12:36 AM
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I think you've gotten some wonderful advice so far. These girls are ON IT. Lol I guess if I had to add any other advice, it is this, and others have touched on it but I want to make it explicit. Pay attention to the way he treats everyone, not just you. In the short term, he may want to impress you or make a good impression. That's fine, but you need to pay attention to the way he treats people he isn't trying to impress, and more importantly, people that he may have temporary "power" over (such…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 01:12 AM
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I think feminism is an interesting concept, in the gatekeeping that goes into it. I come from a strongly religious and conservative background that I assume most feminists would call oppressive. Women typically devote themselves to their home and families more so than a career. And yet. There is a very strong women's culture here. We get together to talk and bitch and laugh a lot more than I've seen from a lot of feminists that seem to divorce themselves from a culture of women. And the prevaili…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 03:36 AM
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I legit snorted at the "Oh thank you daddy!" comment. Then I went downstairs and strolled past his office. I said "What's up daddy? Can I bring you anything daddy?" in my best Marilyn Monroe voice. His face went 😬. I lol'ed.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 03:53 PM
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I'm sorry, I guess I just find this language very dismissive, and maybe it isn't meant to be. But the way I took it is telling my husband that I'm grateful for his acts of service with hugs and kisses is "throwing him a parade" or "treating him like a puppy." You may well do things differently and that's totally fine; but I don't think that kissing my husband and telling him thank you is really worthy of being called "treating him like a puppy" lol
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 04:54 AM
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First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't talk about this a lot, but I had two miscarriages in a row in between my youngest two sons and it was absolutely heart wrenching. I don't know if you need this or it helps, but after that I went on to have my now 6 year old. And what I think about when I need to is how I'm relatively certain that if I hadn't had those miscarriages, I wouldn't have ended up with this amazing little boy who loves books about nature and science and who loves our two…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 04:22 AM
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Congratulations and sincere wishes for a lifetime of joy and love! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 02:50 AM
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Great insight, and so reminds me of my own father who I am still super close to as an adult. My dad and I send jokey texts to each other most days because we have the same goofy sense of humor. But at the same time, I know 100% that he would give me a hard truth if I needed it or be my champion and defender if I needed that. Honestly my dad is one of my best friends. And I married a guy who is a lot like him. They are even both very successful engineers who came from hard family lives. I definit…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 02:45 AM
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Thank you! I was raised in a very conservative Christian community and I have heard over and over again how sexist it is. But I think that people who say that may not have a full understanding of the philosophy. I am not some "barefoot and pregnant" stereotype. I did have 4 boys, but we decided at that point we were done. I have shoes LMAO. We are not uneducated. I have a bachelor's degree and he had a Master's degree, all from accredited Universities. I worked until I was about 5 months pregnan…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 11:50 PM
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Love the idea of emails! I have occasionally written my Hubby a love letter and later I found them in his coat pocket which melted me because he wanted to keep that close. But you're absolutely right that people have different love languages and it's important to dial in on your partner's.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 07:01 PM
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This is so insightful! People do have different love languages and it's so important to try to understand their love languages. My husband seems to have a love language that is very based around language and touch but there are others for sure! Great comment!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 06:59 PM
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This is 100% spot on. RPW don't submit to a captain simply because he's a man. That is a recipe for disaster. We should be submitting to men who are vetted and known to be good captains, and a good captain understands that he bears the most responsibility for making sure everyone under his care is healthy and happy to the best of his ability. This guy is not that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 06:27 PM
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I would also say that a healthy relationship understands when things are just not sexy. My husband's birthday was last week, and like, it's not like we only have sex on his birthday or he has ever demanded sex on his birthday or anything like that (he doesn't have to demand sex if you know what I mean lol) but on his birthday I personally do kind of expect that we are going to have some fun. But this birthday I was coughing and running a fever and aching (don't ask, I didn't get tested so I have…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 02:35 AM
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I sat up and took notice when you said that your guy is highly disagreeable and difficult and you think that's how most alpha's are. I hate to say it, but I think your guy is just highly disagreeable and difficult. I would never describe my captain that way. Not because OMG I WOULDN'T DARE but because he's not. He is clearly the alpha in both our family and in his work and relationships with other people, but he isn't nasty or mean or difficult. He leads with clear strength and intelligence and …
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 02:00 AM
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This is a lot to unpack. And I admit that I'm not qualified to do most of that unpacking, so I hope you are able to see a therapist to help you through a lot of this. I'm not a therapist and can only wish you luck on that front. I sincerely hope that you are able to work with someone and get to a point where you are happier or at least more accepting of your childhood and ready to move forward and give yourself more kindness. Genuinely. I can see that you're in a lot of pain, but I also know thi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 04:28 AM
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I love that story. I have a real life one of my own that is kind of the same. I tend to be a very slow eater. I have gotten crap about it from friends and family my whole life. I don't mean to be, I just am. Anyway, I was recently at a dinner party hosted by an older lady who is, in fact, a complete lady. As per usual, everyone had finished their main course while I was still eating my meal, and as per usual I felt the need to hurry up so I wouldn't be making people late. I caught the lady, who …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 05:24 AM
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I love mine! It's not great for every recipe but basically anything you might slow cook is great but faster. Highly recommend. EDIT: OH, and I realized this was not clear. Hobo Steaks and red beans and rice were not cooked in the instant pot. You might be able to do it, but I didn't and that is by no means a recipe lmao. Hobo Steaks were baked in the oven at 375 and red beans and rice are cooked on the stove top. I'm not sure if that was clear but do NOT want someone to blame me for instant pott…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 04:05 AM
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Great insights. Another thing I would say is important for keeping your house is learning how to use quick or low effort but still home-cooked meals. So for example, I love my instant pot. Last night I made a pot roast using the instant pot and the thing was even frozen because I forgot to pull anything out! A 2.7 lb pot roast bought on sale and pulled from the freezer. Added some beef broth, seasonings, V8, and cooked on high for an hour while I did absolutely nothing with it. While it naturall…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 03:49 AM
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I would also say that keeping a clean and comfy house and cooking is a part of it, ASSUMING other men have a legit reason to see that side of you. My husband's best friend from high school is a high-ish ranking member in the Armed Forces (he was a Marine, I think he still is -not that I know much about the Marines - but he is a higher up now after 20 years in the service.) Whenever he is in town we have him over for dinner, and I don't know that he's "attracted to me" per se (thank goodness that…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 04:40 AM
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Thank you, we will try that next time!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/20 06:59 AM
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So after trying it, here are my thoughts. The broth was ah-mazing. So good. I also loved the veggies and meat. The smell of the cilantro when I poured hot water on it was so good as well. The particular noodles we got though...eh. Even after soaking them, they were still kind of hard. Even after microwaving them. Hubby and I were both like "the noodles were okay but not great, yeah?" But we also thought that pre-cooking the noodles would result in a goopy mess. So, we are going to look for noodl…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 07:48 AM
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I hear you! My 11 year old son is the same way. I cook pretty much every day, but about once a week the leftovers are piled up and I'm like "okay, everyone has their choice of these dishes..." My 11 year old is like "yeah, can I make myself a sandwich/bowl of cereal instead?" I'm like "Dude, you liked it fine the first time, it's probably better now after a day or two to marinate the flavors in the fridge." Nope. He does not want leftovers. Suit yourself, bud.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 07:42 AM
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Eeee! I put dry rice noodles in, so I'll let you know how it turns out!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 01:22 PM
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Well, I have boys (4 of them!) So makeup hasn't been a thing. But hygiene is something that we have taught from an early age. The boys bathe every other day (we live in a really dry climate, so bathing every day is really hard on your skin) or if stinky or dirty (meaning that even if you bathed yesterday, if you're stinky or dirty you bathe again today.) As of about middle school, skincare and deodorant also becomes an issue. Although I actually don't encourage them to use harsh chemicals (such …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 05:21 AM
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Personally, we eloped in Jamaica. Lol. Probably not the traditional wedding that a lot of gals dream of, but we both wanted to travel somewhere new for the honeymoon, and we also wanted to save (*some) money for the house we knew we wanted. So we looked a lot at the options, and finally decided on a combined wedding/honeymoon in Jamaica, and then a big BBQ for our friends and family once we got back. Definitely not for everyone, but I think it cost us about $4k for a barefoot wedding on the beac…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 04:59 AM
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What did you do that was "bratty" at first?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 04:49 AM
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Without seeing your body, it's hard to tell you which cuts will flatter it. Having said that, I'm curvy and I really like wrap dresses. I like that the neck shows a tiny bit of my cleavage while also accentuating my waist. As to the coloring, I'm legit sad to think of you dying your black hair. Again, I haven't seen it, so I could be wrong, but from your description I see you dressed in deep, Royal colors. A true red. Royal blue with gold accents. But I don't actually know your "type." Try this …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 06:31 AM
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Last night we ate dinner with my parents. My mom is adorbs and always makes this coney dog thing in the slow cooker. I don't know, I don't have the recipe. She just loves to make it. Lol Tonight I knew I was going to be home late, so I made Zatarains Red Beans and Rice with sausage and salad. Hubby and the kids like it well enough and it's so easy. I legit just throw the sliced sausage in the (double batch) of Zatarains while it's cooking. Not like my proudest moment of cooking lol, but also an …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 06:06 AM
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Agreed! I think that doctors seeing that we are healthy and our babies are healthy will be the norm eventually. It's totally fine for women to gain some weight. It's also totally fine for weight to "redistribute." Lol As long as we and our babies are healthy, it's FINE.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 03:51 AM
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Yeah, Here is me 9 months pregnant with my second chikd We were fine.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 03:26 AM
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This is what I was eating for bread.Hometown Whole Wheat
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 02:38 AM
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I hear you. I gained a total of 17 lbs for my first pregnancy and actually lost about 6 lbs for my second. My gyno was a little concerned about the second but I was like "look dude, I am eating what the nuitritionist you sent me to told me to eat and I'm walking about total 60 minutes per day because it's that or go on medication so..." Both of my kids were born full term and healthy. I think the bread I ate was Home Time Whole Wheat but let me Google. I know that it was 11 grams carbs per slice…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 02:36 AM
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No problem, but I'm also not sure if I can be helpful and I'm sorry for that. :) My diet was that I needed at least 15 grams protein and no more than 45 grams carbs for each meal, and at least 15 grams protein plus 15 grams carbs for each snack. For my second pregnancy, I also had to do about 20 min of walking after each meal to keep my blood sugar under control. So this, may not be helpful for you, but my breakfast most mornings was an egg scrambled with some cheese and a couple of egg whites o…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 02:17 AM
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To clarify, it sounds like you are vegetarian? I also had Gestational Diabetes with my pregnancies, but I'm not vegetarian and I admit my meals were prob meat heavy so I may not be able to help.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 12:21 AM
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Today was a cooking day for me! First of all, I wanted to make something that was easy to freeze and reheat for Hubby to take for breakfast. I like egg muffins, and Hubby has liked them in the past, but he asked me to incorporate some bread as he felt it would be more filling. So I experimented. Lol Each batch I tried something different, but the one that we agree turned out the best was taking frozen bread dough (allowed to thaw about 12 hours in the fridge and then rise at room temp for about …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 12:13 AM
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First of all, congrats to him on his new job! Exciting! I like your banana bread idea. My husband and sons love banana bread, especially with chocolate chips. As a funny side note, am I the only one that throws browning bananas in a plastic bag in the freezer to make banana bread. Husband: "Why are there 6 brown bananas in a bag in our freezer?!?" Me: "Banana bread." Him: "Soon?" Anyway, I also love the idea that others have suggested to give him something to share with his new coworkers. Person…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/20 11:54 PM
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Girl, whaaaaat??? You don't give yourself any credit. Women are a blessing to men. We keep their homes, raise their children, provide them with a happy place to come home to. Granted, they are a blessing to us too, but if your man is treating you like a thing to have sex with...that's not a good man that you should tie yourself too. You need to work on seeing your value outside of an object to have sex with. You're worth so much more than that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 07:40 PM
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Well. Sometimes things work out with someone you've known only a short while. I have to laugh at the story of my husband's grandparents. His grandma came home and announced to her family that she was getting married, and her mother reportedly said "to which one???" because she had been casually dating around. They were married for legit 75+ years before he died, and she went soon after. BUT I think that story is both adorable and not super common. I think for most people today, you have to vet p…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 06:23 PM
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Haha, I feel you so much in this comment. I am a total devotee to my robe in the mornings while I get ready. My best friend makes fun of me for it ("who under the age of 60 even wears a robe???") But I do. And the robe goes on at night once I get into my nightgown (which hubby seems to like better than boxers or flannel pajama pants or whatever...and I do too!) And then in the morning after my shower while I get my clothes laid out and brush my teeth and do my hair and make up. It's super comfy …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 06:00 PM
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Honestly, and I'm not trying to be mean, I wouldn't work on always wanting his attention. I've been married to my Captain for close to 20 years now, so take me with a grain of salt because I'm not in those first months/years of basking in his attention. But I would say over the course of our relationship, I have rarely gotten the basking attention I wanted by demanding it. I can get his attention by stomping my foot and asking for it, but it's not the same as him giving me his attention because …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 02:02 AM
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That sounds so gooood! I will have to give it a try!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 01:52 AM
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Yum! Love the idea of this...I just don't know how to rice cauliflower. Next on my Google list lmao
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 11:46 PM
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Hmmm, chicken and rice automatically made me think of Arroz con pollo, although it's not traditionally a super spicy dish. https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/melissa-darabian/arroz-con-pollo-recipe-2121998 Having said that, if I were trying to make it spicier, I would either add more cayenne and/or add a Fresno or two. Not spicy, but a chicken and rice recipe that has been in my family for 3 generations and always feels like home is basically this: https://www.dinneratthezoo.com/chicken-rice-ca…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 11:30 PM
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Oooh girl, I had gestational diabetes for both of mine. My sympathies!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 10:41 PM
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That sounds soooo good!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 10:39 PM
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Haha, what kind of recipe are you looking for with chicken? I got lots.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 10:35 PM
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Oh girl. I love cooking. What do you want to know how to cook? Here is my chili recipe that everyone loves.The problem is, I don't measure anything, so you have to cook from muscle memory and taste. Chili: 1 lb chili cut ground beef (sub reg ground beef if needed) 1 lb ground pork 1 diced raw onion 4 cloves garlic (minced) 1 small can diced green chili's 4 cans Italian style stewed tomatoes 1 TBSP cocoa powder Salt (to taste) Pepper (to taste) Chili powder (to taste but I mean, a lot) Paprika (f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 08:23 PM
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Agree that this varies by skin type and whatnot. I have naturally fine and oily hair, and I used to wash it every day religiously. My hair was flat and oily by the end of the night like clockwork. I started washing my hair every 2-3 days, using a bit of dry shampoo in between as needed, and brushing my hair with a natural bristle brush and my hair has been so much less oily and shinier and healthier looking as a result. Point being, it's really important to find what works for you, and I fully e…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 06:18 PM
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For Christmas, we had family over, and we did rob roast (DH actually cooked! He insisted that he wanted to try making it. And it was lovely.) Plus I made a bunch of apps, and then mashed potatoes, gravy, Brussels sprouts with bacon, salad, and rolls. We also took a friend (who keeps kosher and only eats vegetarian when she eats food not cooked in a kosher kitchen) some take out on Thursday. And I made a huge lasagna on Wednesday. So we've been eating up our leftovers since then, but tonight I ma…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 04:35 AM
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Your meal sounds delicious! Can you give me the recipe?
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 01:44 AM
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Oh my gosh, these all sound sooo good! Can you link me to recipes?
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 01:43 AM
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Yum! What makes the chicken sandwiches "fake?"
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 11:09 AM
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I agree that "feminine" does NOT equal "weak." I admit that my husband has different strengths and talents that I do not have or do not have as strongly. I also have different strengths and talents that he doesn't have or doesn't have as strongly. That doesn't make either of us weak, it just means that we are better together, as a team. A recent example: About a week and a half ago I severely hurt my hand. ER, stitches, huge horsepill antibiotics, the works. I'm not weak; I'm actually kind of pr…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:35 AM
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Thank you for your understanding!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 01:42 AM
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Firsf of all (but not most importantly) your looks. So I would recommend you go to a dermatologist. I was lucky in my teens; my mom was a secretary for a dermatologist and got me in to see him for free. I am NOT saying this is true for anyone but me, but he taught me to use a very mild cleanser (Cetaphil) and just be very....eh....not use a lot of stuff on my skin other than an extremely mild moisturiser/sun screen. I'm in my late 30's now and haven't had any problem with my skin since I was abo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 08:26 PM
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NOT PREGNANT per Clear Blue. Not sure why my periods suddenly took a turn for the unpredictable, but I'm apparently not pregnant. This makes me happy. Also, sweet Hubs has agreed to get re-tested just for my peace of mind. He's so good.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 07:55 PM
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Here is the thing I can't emphasize enough. Men are tough, and strong, and above all, willing. But they are still just human, and as humans they need love and sweetness and understanding,just like we do. My husband is (on the outside) the toughest guy I know. I have no doubt he would kill someone to protect me. BUT. I also have no doubt that he loves it when I throw my arms around him and tell him how much I love him. I smile at him and kiss him and tell him how much he means to me, and he likes…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 07:11 PM
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Thank you for the hugs and support! Hubby is out doing his shopping now, so hopefully I will know soon.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 06:46 PM
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Yes, it is definitely my husband's. He's literally the only person I've ever been with like that. The problem is that babies are so much work and so expensive. I don't know how we'll make it work and I also don't really want to "start over" with an infant.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 05:57 PM
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Okay, take a deep breath here. You say you're very young, and I believe that because you sound very young. I don't mean any offense by that; just that some of the things you're saying seem like a young person's game. ;) 1) You were with a guy (extremely briefly) that you thought already thought was "the one." It had to have been very brief because you only broke up with your ex two weeks ago, and now you're already not speaking to the other guy. That's a quick turn around! So my first piece of a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 01:09 AM
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She would never eat a slice a cake or let her daughter at such a young age eat something so unhealthy. The women in my family with young babies would still be considered hot and never frumpy, even wearing heels to family parties and dancing. That was the part I was responding to. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 12:20 PM
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Sounds adorable! I love the "cowboy boots and wedding dress" look!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 02:59 AM
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Leggings are totally pants. Fight me! (Totally kidding, I only wear leggings very rarely under skirts/dresses when it looks cute, and probably haven't for a couple of years now since that trend has faded. I'm just feeling silly at the moment.)
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 02:44 AM
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Love this! When I read that, I was like "wait, is eating a small slice of cake and sharing it with your kids wrong? My four year old helped me make brownies yesterday and yes, we ate some. How is that a bad thing? Hubs ate more brownies than either of us and seemed happy to do so...." I agree with you that most moms fall somewhere among a continuum, and if "never eating a slice of cake" is the gold standard, I'm doing it wrong. ;) All things in moderation. We are very active, so we can eat a sli…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 02:35 AM
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That's a wonderful idea! I should do the same. My mom did that for me as well. My oldest (14) and one of our middle boys (9) both love to help me cook or even cook small things themselves, so I think they will be especially receptive to it, but I really should be doing it for all of them so they will have some basics. Thanks for the great idea!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 06:24 PM
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The reason why everyone is telling you to leave is because he's shown you who he is. When someone shows you who they are, for the love of god, believe them!!! He "failed to mention" a child. A child!!! That is a huge breach of trust. That is the kind of thing he needs to tell any prospective partners right up front, so they can make an educated decision about whether they want to potentially be a step parent someday. To not do so is unbelievably disrespectful to you, and it's also unbelievably d…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:45 PM
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I'm probably the wrong person to ask, but I don't know how performing a useful skill would be considered "demeaning" or sexist. For the record, my very RP husband can and will sew a button back on - his mom taught him how. I'm happy to sew buttons back on for him, but sometimes it's quicker and easier just to do it himself, and I doubt he feels "demeaned" by the experience. Note to self: I need to teach our sons to sew on buttons. Not as a political statement, but because useful life skills are …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:12 PM
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Apologizing NEVER costs you self-respect because an honest apology is always worthy of respect. I just wanted to chime in to say how much I love this. It's so true. There is an inherent dignity in being able to admit that you made a mistake and to sincerely apologize for it, no matter who you are. I have trouble respecting anyone who doesn't have the insight and integrity to see when they've made a mistake, own up to it, and sincerely apologize I thought all of your advice on this thread was gre…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 03:02 PM
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I talked about disagreements a little in my post below to CapNGrind. Let me know if you would like to hear more. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 05:02 PM
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Yes! This is exactly it!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 05:01 PM
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You're right! When I was writing the post, I meant to convey that a traditional relationship is a life of mutual service to each other, but I was focusing on what women should be looking for in a man! I was remiss in not touching on what women can do to hold up their end of the bargain! D'oh! (Trying this double spacing thing, hope it works to make the post more easily readable.) In trying to gather my thoughts on this, the first word that comes to mind is "safety." He should be your "safety", b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 05:00 PM
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Thank you! That is much better!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 01:33 PM
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Thanks for the constructive criticism! I tried to break it up with "returns" but found (as you did!) that it was a wall of text. Is there a good way to break it up? Anyway, thanks for your comments! I agree that a man who expects respect without earning it is rather useless.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 05:33 AM
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Look love, I'm from a background that is probably as old school as it gets, but nothing you've said here should be a red flag for a confident man (which is the only kind of man worth submitting to.) He has a problem with you working out and teaching women and CHILDREN? No. Sorry, but no. Unless they are taking away from your duties at home, (which is not described here) your interests would be nothing for a real captain to concern himself with. This man sounds insecure and abusive. You are not r…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 03:06 AM
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Who are we talking about, and in what scenarios? If you're talking about men (it seems like you are) unless it's one of my husband's friends who I know and trust (I can be jokingly tart with them, not too much, but a little when I smile to show I'm joking) I just use a sort of bland friendliness. For example, from an example you have given, if a guy commented that he thinks I'm at the gym all the time, I would smile and say "best place to be!" And then move on with my workout. Why? It's not that…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 02:43 AM
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This may sound dumb, but I really love all of the Amish romance novels that are out there. I doubt they were written by actual Amish women, but they are very sweet and innocent.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:52 AM
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Not until we were married, at 1.5 years in. Sorry, I know that's super old fashioned but that's also my religious upbringing. He respected that (if he hadn't I wouldn't have married him.) A sweet story (I think) from my grandmother: she let my grandpa hold her hand the night before they were married. Then she stayed up the whole night worried that he wouldn't marry her because she was "a loose woman." So cute. I wasn't that strict. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:29 AM
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This is one of the things that I truly value about my husband. It hasn't necessarily been about my weight (I'm a healthy weight for my 5'7) but if he thinks I'm wrong about something...he tells me he thinks I'm wrong. He's not unkind about it, but he gives me his honest thoughts and perspective even when they contradict mine. The thing is, we have built up a foundation of trust, where I have an honest belief that he has my best interests at heart. I think that's really important. I believe that …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:18 AM
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I try to focus on a saying my mother (a red pill woman if ever ther was one!) always said to me when I was growing up: "It doesn't cost anything to be kind." This is not just in our words and actions, but also in our thoughts. People come from different places than we do, and they might judge us just as harshly. Of course I think I am living "the right" moral life (or else I wouldn't be living it!) but as long as we are able to stay true to our moral values at the same time, it doesn't hurt us t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 03:58 AM
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