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CasinoRoyale4455/r/askMRP17/01/19 06:46 PM
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OYS 22 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 182.4lb, 12-13% body fat Bench 275lb; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb; OHP 145 x5 Reading: Completed: NMMNG x3-4, WISNIFG, RM book 1 & 3, MMSLP, MAP, Sidebar posts, Steel’s Guide. 60 DOD posts. Redpill sidebar. 90% completed Leonard Piekoff’s ‘Objectivism: The Philosophy of Ayn Rand’ (OPAR). Lifting/Health: I’m grinding through the last 2-3% body fat to get to 10%. Then I will bulk. Goal is to get to 195-200lb 10-12% body fat. My cutting …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 05:01 AM
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It tells me I can’t control what others think anything about me and others can’t cannot control what I think about myself. My self-esteem/self-image is created and earned by me for me. I cannot control how others decide to value me or how they perceive me. I need to break free from giving too many fucks about things I have no control over. In regards to stating I have dramatically overvalued myself, I mean I have overestimated my SMV dramatically. I still, at minimum subconsciously, think things…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/20 03:57 PM
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I think you're right. I'll have to think a lot about objective feelings what that means. I think I have some objective feelings about myself, but I've not valued these feelings as much as I valued the subjective feelings. I've depended on other's feelings and validation for my identify and self-esteem, which would be completely subjective. -Did my mom use a lot of shame on you when you were a kid? Did she shame you unexpectedly when you thought you were being good? Because of the way I am this m…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 05:18 PM
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OYS 21 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 182.5lb, 13-14% body fat Bench 275lb; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb; OHP 145 x5 Reading: Leonard Piekoff’s ‘Objectivism: The Philosophy of Ayn Rand’ (OPAR). Completed: NMMNG x3-4, WISNIFG, RM book 1 & 3, MMSLP, MAP, Sidebar posts, Steel’s Guide. 60 DOD posts. Redpill sidebar. Lifting: Focusing more on kettlebell get ups and swings 16kg and 24kg per Simple protocol by Pavel. I also do dead lift, squat and bench press 1x week 75-80% of my…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 03:02 PM
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I would be pretty pissed off at the unfairness of these scenarios. People hate me because of lies and acts I consider moral. I would want to say fuck them. I would also struggle to hold frame and stick to my values, assuming I had formed them. If the reality is I did nothing wrong and I acted morally, then the underlying feeling should be a good feeling about myself. The opinions of others shouldn’t change what I think is right and affect my actions. The opinions of others shouldn’t affect how I…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 02:56 AM
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2050 per day. Approx 600 calorie deficit. At least 1 gm of protein per pound.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:40 PM
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OYS 20 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 185lb, 14% body fat Bench 275lb; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb; OHP 145 x5 Lifting: I decided to start doing kettlebell training per Pavel Tsatsouline after listening to him on Joe Rogan’s podcast. I got his 2019 Simple and Sinister book and started working on 16kg and 24kg single arm swings and get ups. I’m still working in squats, deadlifts, bench press and pull-ups, just not as often and not as heavy. My low back was getting sore and…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:13 PM
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I suppose it’s possible 140mg is too high. I’ll keep trying to figure out the right dose but will get labs again before I change anything else and see what e2 is after lowering dose to 140mg.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/19 05:48 PM
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SHBG 48, high normal. I think some of the extra T is converting. Thyroid numbers are wnl. Free T3 low normal and low for what some HRT docs say but I haven’t researched it enough. Plan with my trt doc is to stay with the 20mg daily injections and see how I feel, he said 2 weeks I should notice a difference. If not we’ll run labs again, see what E2 is then. I have read a lot about not treating high e2 from some of the trt docs. But I need to study it more. Iron and prolactin wnl. Thing is T serum…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 03:45 PM
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E2 was 11.1 and free T at 3.7 when I started trt early sept. Checked labs about 1 month ago. E2 84 free T 29. Dose change from 60mg 3xweek to 20mg daily injections 1 weeks ago. So reduced total weekly dose from 180mg to 140mg. Feel no real difference yet. Main problem is fatigue. I’m truly 13-14% body fat right now. I have been researching androgen resistance due to continued fatigue.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 10:20 PM
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Will do. I'll work on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 06:30 PM
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SorcererKing is right. I've been looking for validation/approval from MRP. I need to be brutally honest with myself to move forward. I don't have a lot to be proud of even though I am working at it. It's not been productive work.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 06:29 PM
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I don't think anyone should be as big as a faggot as I am. Fact is, I am and I may be finally admitting it. Probably more bullshit to own and admit to myself. Changed TRT dose to get estrogen down about a week ago. No real change in fatigue so far. Free T when I started TRT was 3.7, checked a month ago and it was 29. Estrogen was 84.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 06:23 PM
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Good point and advice. I appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 06:22 PM
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Yes. My goal is to cut to 10%, as best as I can tell, About 6 more pounds for me. Then bulk. Goal 195-200lb 10-12% body fat. At 180lbs 10% I'm just skinny. I'm set on this taking at least 12-18 more months.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 06:09 PM
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I've read at least half of it. You're correct. I need to basically rewrite my inner game from the ground up. None of book of book sticks. I can read it and understand the concepts but not internalize them to change my behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 02:45 PM
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OYS 19 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 186lb, 13-15% body fat Bench 275lb; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb; OHP 145 x5 Reading: Reading Leonard Piekoff’s ‘Objectivism: The Philosophy of Ayn Rand’ (OPAR). Completed: NMMNG x3-4, WISNIFG, RM book 1 & 3, MMSLP, MAP, Sidebar posts, Steel’s Guide.Journey: u/SorcererKing pointed out to me I’m mostly parroting. No independent thoughts. None of this is authentic. I still want someone to tell me what I need to do to fix me and then I’ll…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 02:43 PM
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Lester's key was when he realized he was, "just and ordinary guy with nothing to lose." Great point. What have I got to lose by changing? Absolutely nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 03:30 PM
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I'm afraid and have anxiety about being wrong and making mistakes. Why? Being wrong and failing is bad and my goal is to be good. My definition of good is the blue pill. I have not changed this definition so I continue to evade reality and fail. I'm anxious and want safety. There may be a deeper fear that I just haven't identified yet. Because I'm anxious and afraid of being wrong/failure I'm afraid of taking responsibility for my life. Like you deduced, I'm afraid of fucking it up, while being …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 02:28 AM
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Goals: Work: 1. Complete my masters degree: I need to set up two more semester rotations and pass my courses. Then pass board/license exam. 2. Learn biochemistry, diagnosis, and treatment methods and to become an expert in my chosen healthcare field. This will require daily work for masters degree and then separate work for my chosen specialty. I will need to get a job in my chosen field after masters degree and study and work for at least 3-5 years until expert level is achieved. 3. Current wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 07:03 PM
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I've not heard of DIMM. I'll look into it. I don't feel sad at all. I'm tired and fatigued with some days worse than others. I felt tired and fatigued with low E2 before TRT and only mild improvement with TRT and high E2.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 05:33 PM
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I am failing because I am still deep in my wife’s frame. My emotions are very much controlled by her. When she doesn’t put her dishes away I feel disrespected. When she shit tests me and challenges my attempts at leadership I feel slighted and disrespected. I expect her to give a shit about my feelings and me, so I’m frustrated that she doesn’t. I have to get out of her frame and I’m fucking struggling with this. I have to get over my neediness of validation for approval. There is something deep…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 05:27 PM
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You’re right, these goals are parroting mrp basics. I haven’t come up with a concrete strategy. The end goal is to be a high value man with options. My strategy needs to accomplish that goal. I’m working on the plan and will post a more concrete strategy ASAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 02:22 AM
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Estradiol was 84.4. Higher than I thought. So maybe that’s the problem. I’ve seen a lot of TRT docs don’t block estrogen no matter the number. What was your experience?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 10:02 PM
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Estrogen was a little above high normal but from my research it’s not necessary to treat estrogen. I just spoke to my doctor and he wants to decrease my trt dose for 2 weeks to lower the estrogen and see how I feel. I will try it. If it doesn’t work I’ll check thyroid and estrogen again and discuss my options.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 05:01 PM
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OYS 18: 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 187lb, 14-15% body fat Bench 235lb x5; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb; OHP 145lb 2x5 Reading: Reading Leonard Piekoff’s ‘Objectivism: The Philosophy of Ayn Rand’ (OPAR). Completed: NMMNG x3-4, WISNIFG, RM book 1 & 3, MMSLP, MAP, Sidebar posts, Steel’s Guide. Journey: Got called me out on my paralysis by analysis/procrastination/fear last week. I ee now I have been saying basically the same thing in my posts for a while. It’s time for mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 03:46 PM
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I’m going to stop basing my actions and on what others, especially my wife, may or may not think. I’m going to base my actions on what I think is best.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 06:22 PM
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I’m committing to change right now. I don’t know what that looks like but I’m going to fix myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 03:42 PM
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That’s true. I over analyze due to fear and not wanting to take responsibility for my actions. I evade. I see this now and I’m seeing what to do about it. After replying to your comment and thinking some more about it I see how even my comment was evading. Reality requires me to figure this out and I’m trying to take no action until I’m finally ‘ready’. I think I have to take the action and make decisions to learn how to do it better.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:04 PM
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I agree. I should be able to articulate preferences for everything. A goal for me is to be able to do that, right now I can’t. You’re correct, I do not know what I want to be doing. I will take your advice and analyze what I am doing and why and work to figure that out. I don’t honestly believe I am able to make any important decisions yet so deciding what goes and what stays is risky for me. I agree I didn’t make much progress this week other than reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 03:03 AM
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OYS 17: 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 188lb Bench 235lb x5; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb Lifting/health: Strength improving more slowly now while cutting, but still improving. I’m down about 10 pounds in 7 weeks, cutting to get to 10-11% body fat before I bulk. Goal is to get to 195-200lb with 10-12% body fat. If my calculations are correct I’ll be around 180lb when I’m done with this cut. Reading: Reading Leonard Piekoff’s ‘Objectivism: The Philosophy of Ayn Rand’ (OPAR)…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:27 PM
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Good point. It’s telling where my thinking needs to change. I do still think in ‘should’ most of the time and am not aware of it. I value being a ‘good’ dad and think I should be coming up with more fun stuff to do with my kids. I haven’t defined what a good dad is so I think in ‘should’ or I won’t be a good dad or my wife will be upset or my kids won’t like me or I’ll damage them, etc. I didn’t decide. I just go with what I think is expected of me or what others think or may think. This is beta…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/19 03:31 PM
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In place of STFU: once I have developed principles to live by, and know my hierarchy of values: have a frame. I have to live that frame consistently. Then I can act out those values in my life. I would say after stfu is mainly taking action and having boundaries. In regards to how this is acted out verbally I am not sure. DEERing and negotiating is low value and ineffective so I would not do that. If I have to be verbal I would be clear and direct with my speech, always being consistent. Yes, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 11:15 PM
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OYS 16: 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 189.4lb Bench 225lb 3x5; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb Lifting/health: Lifting 3-4xweek. Adding in some HIT cardio now. Going to take a few days off of cutting around Thanksgiving but not over my 2650 estimated caloric needs. Started daily TRT shots vs 3xweek shots, after talking with my dr. I still have some bad days of fatigue and I’m seeing if that will help. I’m around 15% body fat now, down 8 pounds in 6 weeks. Goal to get to 10% …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:29 PM
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I think NMMNG showcases the extreme errors of trying to practice altruism. I think at his core the nice guy believes deeply in the philosophy of altruism. The nice guy sacrifices his values, the values he is unaware he has chosen. Intrinsic in his sacrifices is the trade mentality, which is the covert contract. He expects to be liked, to get his needs met, for sacrificing. The nice guy values sacrifice, because he believes it is good and will accomplish his goal of being liked, of being a good b…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 02:01 AM
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OYS 15: 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 193lb Bench 235lb x3; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb; Overhead press 135lb 4x6 Lifting/health: Lifting 3-4xweek. Maintaining strength while cutting. 4 pack visible now. From my calculations I probably need to cut 10 pounds more of fat to get to 10% body fat. Should take until the end of January. Will probably hang out at 10% for a bit and then start bulking. Reading: Reading Leonard Piekoff’s ‘Objectivism: The Philosophy of Ayn Rand’. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 03:46 PM
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I can imagine a free profit incentivized businessman developing a road system that was far cheaper to build and far cheaper to maintain. The principle, as far as I can tell, from Ayn Rand’s work is that man’s only means of survival is to use his mind, to think. Using your mind requires choice. If you don’t have choice, e.g. pay taxes or go to jail, then you are not free to think, not free to use the only means of survival you have. No one owes a price for where they were born. Is it an advantage…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/19 03:24 PM
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Read Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand and you will learn all the errors in this statement. There is no such thing as society, society is only made up of individuals. Some of these individuals produced the standard of living and some didn’t. Every value has to be produced by some individual. Society produces nothing. Capitalism by definition implies freedom, no capitalist is ok with his earnings being stolen from him at the point of a gun. You are not guilty for being born and don’t owe anyone anything…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/19 01:30 PM
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Goals: - I think the big steps I need to make right now are STFU for real and start building a frame. I am on a good routine in the gym that is working and I'm going to keep doing that. 1. STFU unless I know I have something valuable to add. I can journal at the end of each day to track how I did and be accountable. Have to be honest with myself. 2. Read for 1 hour every day, 'Virtue of Selfishness' and listen to 'Objectivism the Philosophy of Ayn Rand' (have hard copy book on order, easier for …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 04:47 AM
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OYS 14: 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 4 6’ 2” 193lb Bench 235lb x3; Squat 305lb; Dead lift 405lb Lifting/health: Lifting 3-4xweek. Cutting weight, down 6 pounds in 4 weeks with strength gains at the gym. PR’d squat this week, first time ever over 300lb. I got the caliper Mike Mathews reviewed and said was pretty accurate for $10. It says I’m around 16% body fat. 10-11 more weeks of cutting to get to 10%. Took kids to an indoor waterpark this past week and wife made lots of positi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 11:58 PM
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Thanks. It will be interesting to see what life is like with a normal to higher range T level. My free T was 3.7 when I started which is very low so only improvement from here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 05:20 PM
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2 months in to trt. Sleep back to normal after the first month. My brother had a similar experience with sleep after starting trt. I can work much harder in the gym and recover more quickly, less soreness. Overall trt has solved my chronic mild/moderate fatigue. Wish I would have started years ago. I tried just about everything else instead and nothing helped.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 03:22 PM
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2 months in to trt. Sleep back to normal after the first month. My brother had a similar experience with sleep after starting trt. Overall, trt has solved my 10-12 years of fatigue and not feeling as good as I should. I tried damn near everything to feel better. Libido still poor but that’s more complicated for my career beta faggot self that just low T.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 03:18 PM
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I had worse sleep for about 4 weeks when I first started trt. 2nd month sleep was better but felt a little worse than the first month.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 03:37 AM
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OYS 13: 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 195.2lb Bench 235lb x3; Squat 295lb; Dead lift 405lb Lifting/health: Lifting 3-4xweek. Still feel mostly good while cutting. Tracking calories and measuring food, hitting my 2050-2100 calories every day. My free T was 3.7 when I started and the doc has me on 60mg 3xweek injections. I feel better than I have in a while. Have a FU apt in the next week to go over blood work and talk about the dose. Reading: Started reading Ayn Rand ‘The …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 06:38 PM
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Ok, I’ll remember that. I’m committed to the process now. I’m not going to live the rest of my life how I’ve lived the previous 38 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 11:54 PM
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Yes, that is exactly true and hurts my ego, which I haven’t dealt with like I need to. As you pointed out my cognitive dissonance is strong. I appreciate the advice. You and everyone else has given me a lot to think about and work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 11:19 PM
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My SMV is shit. So I’m not saying I’m a high value guy and I deserve anything. I don’t.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 11:06 PM
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150-155lb, she put on 20lb in the 5 months before we got married. Slim 135lb when we met and started dating.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 11:04 PM
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5’ 7, 175, about 30-40lbs overweight
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:58 PM
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5’ 7, 175, about 30-40lbs overweight.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:57 PM
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I'm sure you and everyone else are correct. I'm sure I haven't accepted how big a faggot I am and have been. I suppose that's what's meant by me protecting my ego, meaning I don't want to believe it. I want to feel better about myself than accept the truth and start building myself up from scratch. As I right this I know you and everyone else are correct. I'm not owning my shit like I need to and I don't even know how to own it correctly. I'm glad I brought this up in my OYS post so I could see …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:06 PM
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I’m not trying to make excuses. I’m trying to take responsibility for my shit. I’m a career beta, always been that way and trying to improve and kill the beta. It’s not my intention to be reactive, ego-protecting, resentful, etc., but I’m probably still doing all of that. Im not sure how I’m doing all of those things or why. It just feels like no attraction and not wanting to be around her. I’m trying to work through it, I appreciate any help moving forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 04:53 PM
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Important point. I will remember it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 12:56 AM
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That is a good way to think about it. I appreciate the comment. Act more and get out of my own head is something I need to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 11:13 PM
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You may be right and I need to figure all that out in regards to resentment and fear. I've been working on getting out of her frame and working on my worldview to build my own frame upon. I'm using your post on frame as my guide, since I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. In regards to the second comment. I'm not intending to negotiate, and don't want to. I'm trying to understand more about frame and I'm working to get out or her frame. How does this read to you to make you comment 'get out of …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 05:26 PM
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I suppose I can just tell her I’m not into sex right now when it comes up. When she pushes me, and she will push, I could tell her that’s I don’t have anything more to say about it. I don’t have to disclose anything I don’t want to. Overtly telling her she is fat and not attractive wouldn’t be helpful to me right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 04:19 PM
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I agree with you, the weight loss is something I have to lead covertly. Her hamster is starting to sort it out. She knows what she needs to do but just doesn’t have the motivation. I understand why and I’m working to improve myself. Losing weight isn’t complicated, especially for a healthy person. It comes down to discipline and motivation. She doesn’t have either. Some of that is due to me and some is up to her. Bottom line I’d rather have no sex right now than sex with her and be disgusted wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 04:11 PM
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No, I don’t like her very much. If she lost the weight It is a real possibility I may still not find her attractive, but I don’t know. In regards to staying married to her I don’t think I do but I have a lot of work to do on myself and want to do the work first before making any big decisions.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 03:59 PM
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Lose 30lbs would help a lot. Be more submissive. I’m not high value enough to instill the dread for her to work her ass to lose the weight and be submissive to yet. I get that. I can’t tell her she’s fat and unattractive but I also can’t lie and avoid like a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 03:35 PM
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OYS 12: 38yr old, wife 43, married 6 years Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 198lb Bench 235lb x3; Squat 275lb; Dead lift 405lb Lifting/health: I did 405lb on dead lift this week. 1 year ago I had never performed a single rep of dead lift. I’m pleased with that and it feels like an accomplishment. I’ll be cutting for the next 2 months at least, trying to get to around 12% body fat. Reading: Re-reading WISNIFG. Book of Pook. Completed: NMMNG x3-4, RM book 1 & 3, MMSLP, MAP, Sidebar posts, Steel’s Guide. Subtle …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 02:50 PM
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Fair enough, snoring is a major indicator for sleep apnea and if you snore you should consider getting checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 12:11 PM
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Correct my actions, not hers or anyone else’s. I’m frustrated by my actions and how hard they are for me to change. Yes fear of fucking up and failing is part of it. Fear of being responsible and in control is part of it. Fear of not being liked. Fear of confrontation. Basic shit that is talked about all the time on MRP. I’m trying to own that I’m not facing the fear as I know I need to and want to. Intellectually I know what to do but I don’t always do it. Maybe I’m frustrated I’m not perfect a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 11:43 PM
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Deal with the sleep apnea. If you snore you have it. Sleep apnea is correlated with heart disease. CPAP's suck. There are mouth guards and other possible products you could look into that may work for you. Bottom line is you're nowhere near 100% if your 02 is dropping low for significant periods of time every night and you're at higher risk of heart disease.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 04:39 PM
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OYS 11: 38yr old, wife 43 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 198lb Bench 225lb x3; Squat 275lb; Dead lift 335lb x5 Lifting/health: I decided to cut down to 12-13% body fat from 19-20% and see how I look/feel. Should take about 12 more weeks to get there. Lifting doesn’t seem to be affected but I expect small or no gains during the cut. Wife has been making comments that I look good. These comments make me realize I still have some anger and acceptance of red pill truths to work on as they make me feel like tell…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 04:33 PM
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Thanks. I’m starting to see how it works in my own life. I can’t simply read all the posts and integrate it right away. The reading is a good guide but each of us may have to find their own path.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 07:27 PM
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Are you using food to sooth your emotions or as a reward? It would be good for you to introspect on your relationship with food. It sounds like you are either rewarding yourself or managing your emotions with eating. I found that I do this and that I needed to look at food as more of a way of supplying my body with nutrition and energy rather than using it to manage my emotions. Food has been my drug of choice and it might be yours. Knowing want you want to accomplish with your diet will help yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 04:11 AM
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I did a rotation with a pediatrician who specializes in ADHD. I asked him what was his protocol to decide when to start a patient on ADHD medication. He said when the ADHD became an impairment, as in the patient was impaired at school, work, etc. If your ADHD is an impairment to your work or life, then consider the medication. Maybe you do need the medication to be your best self and that’s fine. I’m not sure but it sounds like you have some issues with needing/benefitting from medications. Part…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:22 AM
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OYS 9: 38yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 198lb Bench 225lb x2; Squat 275lb; Dead lift 315lb x5 Lifting/health: I’ve gained about 20 pounds since I started lifting about 1 year ago. Since starting TRT 6 weeks ago I’ve gained 12lbs and my strength improves each week. I still deal with bouts of significant fatigue but it’s better. I don’t know my exact body fat percentage but after reading the MRP post this week about body fat percentage and reading Mike Mathews’ blog, I am probably 18-20%. I ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 03:28 PM
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That's a good way to look at it and I think the idea of what would I do if no one knew about it will be helpful sorting through a lot of my bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 02:21 PM
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I got the book and read a blog about fuck yeses from the author. I like the concept. I have some fuck yeses in my life. More fuck nos. It would be better for me to spend more time and energy working with or doing things with my fuck yeses and less time and energy, or no time and energy with my fuck nos. It's clear I give way to many fucks about stupid shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 09:17 PM
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OYS 9: 38yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 195lb Bench 225lb x2; Squat 275lb; Dead lift 315lb x5 Lifting: 3-4x week. Getting stronger, bigger and able to lift with more intensity. TRT for 1 month has helped in the gym. Reading: 90% through MAP: re-reading displaying higher value part as I need work here. MMSLP, Read/audiobook NMMNG 3-4x, WISNIFG, sidebar posts, Steel’s guide. RM book 1 and 3. Book of Pook, 16 commandments and Roissey blog. u/man_in_the_world told me a while ago I am a dancing m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:07 PM
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Exactly, exogenous T has helped me in 1 month think more clearly and be more decisive.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/19 10:29 PM
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OYS 8: 38yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 195lb Bench 225lb x2; Squat 255lb; Dead lift 315lb x4 Reading: 80% through MAP. Finished MMSLP. Read/audiobook NMMNG 3-4x, WISNIFG, sidebar posts, Steel’s guide. RM book 1 and 3. Book of Pook, 16 commandments and Roissey blog. Health: Almost 1 month in with TRT. I can work harder and longer in the gym. I have less soreness and better recovery. I’m getting stronger every workout and gaining weight. What I’ve found on TRT that is most impressive is the i…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 02:58 PM
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Works for some people, especially people who are becoming insulin resistance and intolerant of carbohydrates. May work better for people who are more endomorphic body type (my opinion). There is an adaption phase that some people do faster than others. Look up Dr. Stephen Phinney’s book, The Art and Science of Low Carb Living. He pioneered a lot of the keto research. A really good podcast is on Joe Rogans show with Dr. Layne Norton and Dom DiAgostino episode 1176. They go through weight loss wit…
/r/askMRP29/09/19 03:51 PM
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Sleep apnea is bad. Get your doctor to order a sleep study if you haven’t already. Then deal with the results. If you need a cpap then fine but sleep apnea will fuck up your health over the long term. They can do sleep studies in your own home now.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 02:10 PM
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You know what you need to do, now do it. I use my fitness pal to track my calories and macros and it’s pretty easy. Don’t eat like shit when your healing from a significant surgery. Focus on getting through this. You probably still have a while before you’re doing any heavy lifting.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 02:25 AM
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Can you get in a pool after the surgery? If you can then swim, very low spine load in the pool. Weights are on hold until surgeon says you are cleared. Can’t lift weights without loading the spine. Do not fuck up the surgery. Spine fusions cause enough problems afterward. Do not be the guy who gets 3-4 more surgeries if you can help it. Watch what you eat and get your calories dialed in and you shouldn’t get fat.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 02:03 AM
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Yes, good point. I need to consider my reasons for not acting on this so far. I’ve been avoiding it and hiding behind the anger and resentment. No BC was an excuse for me to not deal with the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 12:22 AM
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Yes, it does and no reason for me not too. I need to look into it. TRT lowers sperm count significantly as well, just not sure of time frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 06:47 PM
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Some spines aren't good at tolerating flexion loads. A rule in the musculoskeletal pain and rehab world is to not exercise through sharp pain or 'back exploding' pain. Your brain cannot activate the correct loading pattern or the correct stabilizing muscles for good technique because of the pain. It would be best to go down to a weight that is not painful and stay there until you can lift heavier pain free. You need to figure out what is causing the problem. Your 34, don't injure a disc doing de…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 03:09 PM
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OYS 7: 38yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 189lb Bench 155lb 3x10; Squat 225lb x3; Dead lift 255lb x10 Lifting: Lifted 4x last week. Feel better energy in the gym and less sore since starting TRT about 10 days ago. Killed a workout yesterday, best I've felt since I got back in the gym 10 months ago. Reading: Finished reading WISNIFG. Finished MMSLP. Read/audiobook NMMNG 3-4x, sidebar posts, Steel’s guide, The Rational Male book 1 and 3. Starting MAP today. Health: Was noticing I was gaining sub…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 02:54 PM
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OYS 6: 38yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 184lb Bench 155lb 3x10 - Squat 205lb x5 - Dead lift 235lb 3x10 Lifting: Lifting 3xweek. I felt better in the gym yesterday and much less sore today after starting TRT last week. May be placebo but either way I felt better. Reading: Finished reading WISNIFG. 43% through MMSLP. Read/audiobook NMMNG 3-4x, sidebar posts, Steel’s guide. WISNIFG broke me down pretty good at the end. I’m not assertive and I use childish coping mechanisms, especially withdrawi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 02:32 PM
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Did they check free T? I am low normal total T but have free T lower than a 90 year old man. I have similar symptoms as you. From what I have studied, mostly from Dr. Neal Rouzier, free T is the important number and the total T number is not relevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 03:48 AM
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I’ve read TRM and will read again. Good point about not making any important decisions unless I have to or I’ve fixed myself a lot more and am more capable of making wise decisions. I have a long way to go before I’m that man.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 12:41 AM
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I’ve got it and I’ll read it next.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 12:35 AM
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OYS 5: 38yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 186lb Bench 155lb 3x10 / Squat 205lb x5 / Dead lift 235lb 3x10 Lifting: 3x week. Will do 4xweek as schedule allows. Reading: WISNIFG 70% completed. Read/audiobook NMMNG 3-4x, sidebar posts, Steel’s guide. Will continue to read and study WISNIFG until I am finished and have put the principles into action. Health: Start TRT on Thursday. Journey: This week I have mostly been a faggot all week. I often don’t see how much of a faggot I am until after the fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 03:59 AM
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Important point and no I don’t know what is best for me yet. I think this is because, until recently, I’ve never considered I have to decide what is best for me. No one can tell me and I’ve been looking for someone to tell me.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 02:58 AM
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OYS 4: 38yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 183lb Bench 155lb 3x10 Squat 185lb 3x8 Dead lift 235lb 3x10 Will do 1 rep max in the next couple weeks. Lifting: 3x week every Tues, Wed, Thurs. Will try and get in another day with work and school, not likely. Focusing on eating adequate protein for muscle building, 180-200gm per day. Achieve this most days. Reading: Started WISNIFG from beginning again. 48% through this past week and this is what I need to work on. Read/audiobook NMMNG 3-4x, MRP post…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 04:38 PM
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In my experience assessing squat technique restricted ankle dorsiflexion is the number one problem. If your squat improves by putting a 1 inch lift of some kind under your heels then you have an ankle dorsiflexion problem. If you have mobility issues you cannot load optimally. Gray Cook’s big line is mobility before stability. Don’t cheat on mobility or you are risking injury.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 01:26 AM
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I have been symptomatic for 12 years and no diet, clean eating, lifting, exercise has helped with the fatigue. I won’t claim to have tried everything but I’ve tried most things with no symptom relief.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 10:35 PM
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The situation sucks, glad to hear yours is moving in a positive direction. I haven’t had the balls or skills or work ethic to make it better. I appreciate the advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 02:05 AM
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I needed to hear this.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 01:52 AM
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Thanks for the guidance. I'll finish WISNIFG and get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 04:32 PM
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I need to learn how to enforce this type of boundary as was pointed out in u/man_in_the_world's comments and links. Essentially, it seems, if I want to see my children I deal with her as she is.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 04:23 PM
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OYS 3: first OYS was back in February I think. Career Beta 37yr old, wife 42 Kids 5 and 3 6’ 2” 185lb Bench 225lb, in April Squat 250lb, in April Dead lift 365lb, in June I posted earlier this year 2 times, then stopped when I thought what I needed to do was make due with my life the best I could until I finished my masters degree. I’m not sure I can pay for it on my own income if divorce occurred. Also, I work 50-60 hours a week and am doing a full time masters degree with 1-2 clinical days a w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 03:19 AM
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In regards to TRT look up Dr. Neal Rouzier’s work. He has a really good book where he discusses the scientific literature of the past 40 years with testosterone therapy. Reference list and sources are at the end of the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 12:09 AM
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Also, someone good with soft tissue treatment/manual therapy. If no structural damage to bone/tendon/ligament then surgery probably won't be required. If you don't have weakness then it's probably not nerve compression, compressed nerves usually cause muscle weakness/numbness/tingling as well as pain. That leaves you with soft tissue: muscle/connective tissue/fascia problem. I'm not making a diagnosis over reddit, just trying to give you something to research. ART is a soft tissue treatment that…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 10:31 PM
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I am angry and I’m working through it, it’s going slower than I want. This is all my fault and I’m trying to accept that to, but you’re right I’m not there yet, and honestly I’m farther away from acceptance than I want to be. I’m also not owning my shit well enough. You’re comment about controlling the narrative is great and would have been a way better response to the situation I was in. I have a lot to learn to get there. I can please and get along with my wife and other people that way but en…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 05:33 AM
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OYS #3 Career beta 37 years old (wife 42) 2 kids (boy 4, girl 3) 6’2”, 185lb (down 2lbs) Lifts: BP: 185lb x4, DL 225x7, SQ: 205lb x 7 Lifts: Lifts basically the same the past 2 weeks. Doing straight bar dead lifts now, harder than hex bar. Had a cold the past 10 days, lifted 3x, kids had a cold too so sleep was bad. Haven’t gotten T checked, I’m sure it’s low, will make this a higher priority. Goal to get to 195lb, BP 225, Squat 250lb, DL 300lb all by end of June. Sidebar: Read a lot of the old …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 04:26 PM
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I've been thinking a lot about your comment a lot over the past week, it was very helpful. I am bit by bit trying to find the real me and who that person is. I find my mind looking for answers from an external source, for someone or some book to have the answer for me and tell me where to start or how to figure it out. I think the point of all this is for me to search internally. I may not have much internally but may need to do the work of building myself internally and creating the real me, if…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/19 06:10 AM
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That is interesting. Once I stopped picking up after her and resenting doing it she started picking up after herself better.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/19 05:58 AM
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I need to get over the needing people to like me bullshit. I think it comes from me not liking me. As I thought about your comment today I realized this. I don't like who I am and at this event I let my self-conscious fear/anxiety bullshit to keep me from practicing to be better. I was weak and rightfully feel weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/19 05:57 AM
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Good plan. I think I need to go through the process of finding what I actually want and once I do that I can actually ‘give’ without a covert contract or expecting something in return. I’m seeing I have no idea what I want as I’m sorting through my mess of a life.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 12:18 AM
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OYS week 2: Career beta faggot 37 years old (wife 42) 2 kids (boy 4, girl 3) 6’2”, 187lb (up 2lbs) Lifts: BP: 185lb x3, DL 205x7, SQ: 205lb x 5 Lift: Goal to get to 195lb, BP 225, Squat 250lb, DL 300lb all by end of June. Lifts were stagnant this week. I felt less energy this week than last but pushed myself. After 2 months of lifting I feel the easy gains are over. Every gain now will be earned with hard work. I’ve increased sets and reps to get more total load with the lifts. Did straight bar …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 08:50 PM
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I had not read the anger post you linked, it is good, thank you. Fuck no I’m going to love this way anymore. It’s going to be a long road to unfuck myself but I’m going to figure it out. I’m recognizing my whole life and belief system has been a big covert contract, ‘be a good boy and you’ll get what you want, and people will be good to you too’, something like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/19 11:39 PM
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After reading the post you linked, yes it I seek sex more for validation. I’m learning that I most things I’ve done in my life have been for validation not for desire or because I wanted to. I’m trying to understand what desire actually is since my understanding of desire was probably closer to validation than desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/19 11:32 PM
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OYS first post: Found red pill in May-June 2018. I fit the description of a career beta perfectly. Blue pill faggot my whole life. 37 years old (wife 42) 2 kids (boy 4, girl 3) 6’2”, 185lb Lifts: BP: 185lb x3, DL (hex bar): 255x7, SQ: 205lb x 5 Lift: Started lifting 2 months ago, added calories in diet and have gained 10lbs, mostly muscle but I haven’t checked my body fat %. Goal to get to 195lb, BP 225, Squat 250lb, DL 300lb all by end of June. Sidebar: NMMNG x2, The Rationale Male, Started WIS…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 06:25 AM
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This is true. I’m working on shifting my mind to think about me, me being my mental point of origin. It’s an extremely difficult concept for me to understand and act out.
/r/askMRP20/01/19 03:08 AM
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Thanks
/r/askMRP20/01/19 03:03 AM
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You're right. I am disgusted with myself. I hadn't thought of sex being a symbol of my failures but that makes sense. I feel a lot of shame after we basically have 'duty sex' on my part.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 03:23 PM
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Yes, I'm butthurt and pissed off about my past and that's probably more of the problem right now. I don't think my wife is hot enough. As one person already pointed out my SMV isn't very high either, I have no game, etc. I got what I got in the sexual market place prior to marriage because of looks, never creating real desire with anyone past them liking the way I looked.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 03:21 PM
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Fair enough, thanks.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 03:07 AM
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I do have a lot of resentment and I need to own my shit much better. Yes it's my fault she wasn't attracted to me. I don't know that I was ever in love with her because I was such a beta I just had no idea what I was doing and married the first women who would accept me and was attractive enough to me. Fucking pathetic.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 03:06 AM
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No I don't want to fuck her and when I do I feel shame for doing so. She initiated last night and I said no, I didn't want to. Felt better about myself this morning for not doing what I didn't want to do but frustrated that I put myself in this situation.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 02:47 AM
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Ok, thanks.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 02:43 AM
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Yes, you described my dynamic and feelings well. It's pathetic but true. To answer your question, I would say no but I'm not very good at determining healthy bases of attraction. I don't even know or understand what healthy attraction is. I am working through the sidebar, learning a lot, often too much of a pussy and too scared to implement it in a positive way. I don't have a good plan but I'm going to figure it out. What other option is there? I'm not going to to continue to live this way.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 02:43 AM
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The career beta post describes me and my situation very well. It says to start with rejecting altruism, which is incredibly hard for me. As sad as that is I learned somewhere that it’s ‘bad’ to put myself first. I’m working to restructure my patterns of thinking. I just have to put in the work to change myself and see if she comes along or not.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 01:47 AM
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I just signed up and I got the email to confirm. Seemed to have worked.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/18 02:47 AM
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