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I don't see women supporting and lifting eachother up in good ways, it almost always seems to just be an echo chamber, feeding into their bad instincts. I do see a lot of the misogynistic red pill crap, and that needs to be pushed aside, it doesnt help us at all. The patriarchal bs that reinforces is not good for us either. I really do think you need to keep trying when you see other guys, especially friends, struggling with anything. Offer to help, offer some advice, remind them that we need to…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:09 PM
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Start changing that. Make sure you're emotionally available for your friends. It might feel weird at first, but it's so much better all around. And when you finally have fostered that vibe in a group of friends, men are so much more capable and generous than women are... Need to remodel your kitchen? Your bros are all over getting it done and making it perfect. Cars? A party just to change your breaks. If you're there for them, they will be for you too. Women don't seem to function that way and …
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 05:32 PM
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I always found this so defeating: I ALWAYS had to initiate, I had asked her so many times to find a way to initiate. I told her how much it bothered me that she refused to initiate. Our counselor suggested that she set an alarm on her phone, since she couldnt be assed. I watched her phone alarm go off multiple times, knowing that an alarm at 10pm on a Friday night meant one thing. She would swipe the alarm away and act like nothing happened. That probably happened 5-6 times. That was my last str…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 09:54 PM
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What do/did you use to log this all? I have a temper that I feel is intentionally needled at every day until I explode. It will be so easy to label me as the bad guy. I work full time, the only one who does work, in the trades yet somehow get the kids ready every morning, cook dinner almost every night and deep clean the house every weekend. I need to start documenting it all and taking pictures and such.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 05:58 PM
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Do you get less horny from going to the gym? I feel like the stronger and healthier I get the higher my libido... If I paid an escort for the amount of sex I want/need I'd quickly be dead broke (more than I am already).
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 04:29 PM
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I was already done when we started seeing a therapist and she just wanted someone to validate her intense emotions and help her blame me for everything. I wouldnt just roll over and allow myself to take all of the blame for everything and she refused to acknowledge her part in our toxic bs.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 08:31 PM
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I can't tell you what to do exactly, but speaking from experience; once your partner is at that level they're done. I was her and it was from years of feeling neglected and having my needs put on the back burner. As soon as an attractive woman started giving me some of that attention I craved so badly I couldn't help myself. I was already done before any emotional/physical affair even started. I was lying to myself, stbxw was lying to herself, when we started going to counseling. It just got wor…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 08:17 PM
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That is a bleak take. I feel like marriage is the false construct here, marriage is a contract forced on us because some ancient fairy tale tells us that its the only way were allowed to get laid. Im sorry, im not staying in a jobless marriage because soneone else's religion says I have to. I dont want to live in the theocracy youre describing. Thats bonkers. The western world has secularized and were better off for it. According to you we should all be bottled up, dealing with being unhappy bec…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 06:16 PM
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I mean, custody orders and the like. Dont have to get married to do that. Tie yourself to your children, not a partner.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 08:29 PM
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You dont think people should be allowed to get divorced because theyre unhappy? Wtf? If no fault divorce wasnt a thing i wouldnt be able to get out of my horrible, toxic codependent situation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 09:24 PM
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Reddit is the only social media I use. The anonymity and, honestly, the viciousness, make it a lot different.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 06:06 PM
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I agree on getting your levels checked, but dont jump on trt homone therapy without trying to get those levels up with diet. My levels were low, but im averse to just taking pills to fix everything (my STBXW refuses to do anything the hard way and just takes pills to try and fix her problems and it just makes them worse, long term), so I started eating a diet geared towards testosterone and my levels are up where I should be. Lifting, eating right, not smoking weed anymore has all made me feel s…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 06:04 PM
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It's social media, it's ruined all of our lives. It makes these impossible comparisons that nobody can live upto; only the best version of everyone's life (some people post the bad stuff, but we all see them as hopeless wrecks, you know im right). As far as the advice of not getting married in this generation? Dont get married at all; shack up with someone, fall in love, have kids, do all of that, its all great. Dont sign a contract with someone forcing you to stay in a relationship no matter wh…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 05:55 PM
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Ugh...
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 07:16 PM
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We've been married for 14 years, together for 20. Were 39. She doesnt have any professional skills beyond an expert knowledge of her niche retail job she had for 15 years before being laid off for covid. Ive tried so hard to get her to go to school, bit there's always some excuse to why she cant. I know that im going to get raked over the coals as far as money goes, but id rather be poor and free and happy than stuck like this anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 07:03 PM
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Lol. I really dont want to be aggressive like that. Why is it that I would be considered a deadbeat but she gets endless carve outs and everyone's so understanding?
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 06:52 PM
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Thank you for the suggestions, ive been down that road already. Im not at the "fix things" point anymore. She has shown me time and time again that she wants to blame me for our issues and deflect any problems she has.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 06:38 PM
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We own our home. I have a sizeable 401k that ive built over the last 12 years. I could have a room at my parents house, but... ugh. I dont know if Oregon is the same as far as her working or not, im sure shed need to find a job and not just rely on spousal support (ive calculated it and its a lot!)
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 06:35 PM
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I have been trying to fix things, but its not working. I expect a few things from my partner and she is unwilling to do any of it. I have to admit, ive given up, I dont want to try anymore. It sucks, I got married because I wanted to be a team, but we seem to want such drastically different things. I know that divorce/separation is not the best move financially, but I cant keep living in misery because its easy. Its making me a quiet, angry person and I dont want to be. Ive had friends ask what …
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 06:31 PM
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Covid broke her. Shes stayed isolated and blames me and wont do anything to fix the problem. It has created a lot of problems in our life and im maxed out. She was a lot of fun, creative and surrounded herself with creative people, but almost 6 years of staying at home brought out some emotional issues. Other things have piled on top too. I have tried being supportive and tolerant, but im maxed out, jave been for over a year and its come to a head. Ive been seeing a therapist for a year and we s…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 06:23 PM
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What does that have to do with anything?
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 06:12 PM
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I cant afford an appartment and mortgage. She doesnt have a freaking job... I wish it could be so easy. Ive been looking at apartments in my area and theyre all about the same as the mortgage.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 07:27 PM
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I dont think so, not always. I would keel over and die if my wife were overtly sexual, ever. She has stopped having sex with me because I stopped accepting "ugh, fine" sex. I wish she were fucking someone else! She knows id be fine with it, hell, id be thrilled! If she had any emotion other than resentment and annoyance id be happy!
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 03:46 PM
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Youd have to find someone to do dinner and bedtime and all that. Thats rough.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 07:28 PM
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I could swing doing just 9-5 every other week, but id still need to find a way to have the kids be picked up and watched after school.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 07:04 PM
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Right? I make 130k a year and am going to be living like a 20 yearold on minimum wage...
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 06:25 PM
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The extra drama just doesnt seem worth it to me. You should sleep on it for a while.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 05:57 PM
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I would worry about the drama haunting me for a long time. You never know how people will react to that kind of thing.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 03:31 AM
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I wouldnt mire yourself in it. They will get their comeuppance... You should try to move on, not poison yourself any more with drama.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 03:07 AM
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My wife being SAHM has ruined our relationship. She feels obligated to be doing that, but hates it. I have never once asked her to do it nor do I really want her to (if she worked we'd have a lot more money and shed be more satisfied). Its lead to resentment fon both ends.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:35 PM
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I have just started trying to work out again. Im the only person who works in our house, im in the trades and work 50+ a week to support the 4 of us. Makes it hard to find the time. Oh, and i do most of the cooking and cleaning for the household...
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 06:18 PM
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See, this is what I was curious about. Didn't know that was a thing. I mostly want it to not turn nasty. My wife is super depressed and anxious, I dont hate her, I just hate being with her as a husband.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 05:16 PM
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Sorry for the delay, life... Her housekeeping isnt "unhygenic" in a dangerous way other than her being a clutter-bug almost hitting hoarder status. She does things that i find disgusting, like leaving food stacked invetween plates in the sink, where they get wet and slimy. Over the years ive tried to clean house and get rid of garbage and useless stuff, but shes emotionally attached to it all, all of it. My two girls are learning this behavior too, which worries me a lot! She smokes weed all day…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/25 06:44 PM
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