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| 1 | "All men are the same"Nice to meet you! I am a woman in construction. I went self employed 3 years ago and though currently I do have 2 men who I have recently hired (I don’t discriminate), for a good portion of those 3 years- I had all female crews- even several of my trade subs are women- including a master electrician. So for me personally, yes. And clients love it, it’s great for business. We get the majority of our business from word of mouth referrals. Last year we replaced 7 roofs on the same street within a 2… | /r/MensRights | 17/10/24 07:31 PM |
| 1 | "All men are the same"Right, we need to end the protector rhetoric all together | /r/MensRights | 09/10/24 12:29 AM |
| 0 | "All men are the same"To clarify, I didn’t mean to educate the abusers out of violence- the education is for others to prevent the violence, and it’s not just education about that topic but making conversations about reciprocal relationships- for both men and women - more common talking points to end unhelpful norms, like he pays, or that men don’t experience DV, or that women are the “primary parent”- the more these things are discussed and normalized, the better we all are. Does that make more sense? | /r/MensRights | 09/10/24 12:13 AM |
| 0 | "All men are the same"I love a lot of what you said here. I agree we need to end the draft, and honestly we really need to rethink our military approach all together but that may be a bigger discussion. Do you feel like people are advocating against the trades? My question is where is this talking point coming from? I feel like I am missing the connection? Has there been some movement I missed against construction or building infrastructure? That’s more what I am asking about. I usually hear it brought up in conversa… | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 11:57 PM |
| 1 | "All men are the same"There are lots of people who care, I definitely do, so keep sharing your story! Would you like me to send you some men friendly support groups for violence survivors? Not dating does not make you an incel or misogynist. It’s okay to take time to heal. I hope you get the help you need, please let me know if you need resources, I do a lot of dv work, for both genders and I am happy to help get you support! | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 11:47 PM |
| 1 | "All men are the same"I am really sorry you experienced violence, no one deserves that. And you should tell your story, we need more men to come forward and end those stigmas. You are definitely allowed to be cautious around anyone who doesn’t make you feel safe, including women, and I am so sorry you were made to feel otherwise. This is a big thing we as a society need to work on, ending the shame of victims so more people can tell their stories. I think no one should use their story to justify or dismiss other peop… | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 11:18 PM |
| 1 | "All men are the same"I am only going to speak from my perspective to answer your question and not a larger scale. If you are interested in dating, I would put yourself in dating spaces - apps, meet ups, dating services, etc. Essentially places where you know the women are at least open to a connection of some type- even if it’s not with you. From my perspective, turning a regular interaction into a sexual or romantic interaction when I’m just trying to live my life is “creepy” as you say. I’m still not following how… | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 10:34 PM |
| 1 | The gender wage gap is not due to gender bias, periodI think this goes to further the point, that for more equal wages, women need to adjust their choices, especially when it comes to deprioritizing family/home/partners and focusing more on career and picking better partners or no partners if they have concerns of domestic labor- and that is the education that feminism needs to be sharing with women. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 07:10 PM |
| 1 | The gender wage gap is not due to gender bias, periodI hear you and that’s why I think that wage gap conversation is more just about educating women to make choices that better align with what they want in life. We all have to make choices about what we want from our life and women should know that if they choose family, they will earn less. If that’s what they want, I agree that’s totally fine. Otherwise, they do need to be educating themselves on being more aggressive, advocating for themselves, even if they feel like someone’s going to dismiss … | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Something sad I saw.The military is so out of control and bad for our society. We need to stop the draft and tell our children to stop enlisting. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Why is that in a relationship, going 50/50 (splitting bills, chores and work) is considered bad or 'feminine'?Not all women are feminists and there are still a lot of women who advocate for old fashioned traditional/patriarchal relationships. 50/50 can be very rewarding, and more common among open minded and liberal women. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 05:51 PM |
| 0 | "All men are the same"I can add clarity to this one. The idea is that men cite “being a protector “ as a responsibility in the relationship, which means they often contribute less effort on a daily basis to the relationship in terms of things like making dinner, cleaning the kitchen, laundry, etc, in favor of tasks like mowing the lawn weekly during some seasons, but the reason men can have that claim of “being a protector “ is because women may need protecting from the bad men. But if the bad men who would hurt them… | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 05:47 PM |
| 0 | "All men are the same"Question- don’t lots of people - regardless of gender have jobs that benefit society and they get paid for? I never understand this talking point and would appreciate if you can break it down for me? Like what does that have to do with dating? | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 05:42 PM |
| 6 | I hate misandryWhy even waste time talking to someone like that? Save your breath | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 05:38 PM |
| 1 | The gender wage gap is not due to gender bias, periodI see it a little differently. I think the “gender wage gap” is more about how women fall behind- and where they need improvement- better negotiating skills for example, pursuing careers more aggressively that they aren’t fully qualified for, similarly to how men do, deprioritizing family obligations for career pursuits and minimizing time off work for things like having children, learning trades, making themselves appear as more credible so they don’t deal with slow downs at work due to perceiv… | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather be emotionally vulnerable with a woman or a tree?Two things- there are absolutely people that are emotionally unavailable and women run into that with men too. I’d be interested to see actual data on this since it’s purely our anecdotal experiences that contradict each other. You have experience with women losing attraction, I have experience each of the men I have dated sobbing and deep crying and if anything it allowed us to be closer through his vulnerability. The last thing- I’m not sure what you meant by using it against women but it soun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Would you rather be emotionally vulnerable with a woman or a tree?Like wise, since it was a very simple yes or no question requesting clarification on your beliefs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather be emotionally vulnerable with a woman or a tree?What you said was that women lose attraction to men when they are vulnerable but I just gave you an example of the how that is incorrect. I can also think of tons of examples in relationships. I’ve never lost attraction to a man for crying, and I don’t know of very many women who do lose attraction like that. In fact the only example I can think of when a woman expressed ick about a man showing feelings was on social media and other women ate her alive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather be emotionally vulnerable with a woman or a tree?https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL7Lw43h/ Where are you getting that from? Here is an example of a male tik tok creator known for appeasing the female gaze, being vulnerable and look at the comments. Nothing but love and support from women. And I see this all the time. I think the ideas of men having to be tough doesn’t come from women overall, and the exception is women who have internalized misogyny and patriarchy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Would you rather be emotionally vulnerable with a woman or a tree?Question- are you suggesting women don’t make emotional investments in men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Who said anything about him contributing 80% of the household cost, and yard work, and car maintenance and building maintenance? You added all of that. He can do 50% of the housework, they can share expenses fairly, and most people take their cars to the shop these days. Same with building maintenance, which many people don’t have because they rent or they pay the appropriate tradesman, and same applies to yard work. Women are fine with splitting the work, it’s men who aren’t. Why is it so hard … | /r/MensRights | 27/05/24 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?That’s the point. With you, her only choice is to accept it, because him doing his own housework isn’t even an option. And that’s why women leave 80% of the time. And if that’s a choice your friend made and was happy with, good for her. That is her choice. That has nothing to do with any of the women who don’t want that choice. Men being unwilling to participate on an equal amount is a deal breaker for many women. What’s worse is men often pretend they will contribute equally and later women fin… | /r/MensRights | 27/05/24 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?If you want to phrase it that way go ahead. I think it’s safe to say that some people behave poorly, and some people suffer for the behavior of others when it comes to an individual level. But when we zoom out, we have a specific culture of behaviors that overwhelmingly benefit men at the expense of women. Those behaviors are bad when either gender does it but it can impact the genders differently. Sexual assault for example is horrific no matter who experiences it, or perpetrates it. However th… | /r/MensRights | 27/05/24 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?I don’t think so. Alimony only is awarded in 10% of divorces anyways. Comparatively there are much bigger issues that have much bigger impacts. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/24 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Are you in the USA? Speaking for only USA, because I don’t know enough about what it’s like in other countries, DEI has nothing discriminatory about it. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/24 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?If she agrees to that, as payment, than there isn’t an issue. But we aren’t talking about the situations that both partners are happy with. We are talking about the majority of women who do the majority of men’s labor and aren’t happy about it. And if divorce was such a good deal, we wouldn’t see women in poverty after divorce at the high rates we do. Far higher than women who never married and were able to invest in themselves instead of their husbands. We wouldn’t see women’s health decline in… | /r/MensRights | 27/05/24 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Welfare is just as readily available to single fathers as it is single mothers, and many single mothers don’t receive assistance at all. And I don’t think its possible to compare who has it worse for sexual assault- because it’s always wrong, always has significant psychological effects. One thing we see more often in cases of women is that assault is more often accompanied by severe bodily injury and death, than in sexual assault in males. Also more women are sexually assaulted by men, more men… | /r/MensRights | 26/05/24 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?It’s not mandated by law but is still a societal norm. Just like men agreeing to do 50/50 but when it doesn’t happen what option does women have but leave( and based on statistics- it seems like she is leaving) | /r/MensRights | 26/05/24 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?I’m not understanding your point with STEM vs Clinical psychology. There is no information supporting women being hostile to men joining an industry while there is plenty of documented information supporting men being hostile towards women in a male dominated industry. I personally am in construction and yes, men can make it very hard. When I was in banking or property management which is predominantly female on lower levels at least- men weren’t treated with that same hostility. | /r/MensRights | 26/05/24 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Alimony was designed to provide support for women who sacrificed their own wellbeing to support their husbands. I would support that for either gender regardless of the percentage, but I have never seen a man make that sacrifice. I have seen men be unemployed, but not to dedicate themselves to the home and kids so that a woman can pursue her career with little distraction. That’s anecdotal and maybe there are a few of those men but I’d like to see way more, and I will gladly support alimony for … | /r/MensRights | 26/05/24 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Yeah, rapists should be in prison not raising children. And both genders should be able to opt out of responsibility for their child that was a result of rape. My question is why you only feel men should get to opt out if they were raped and not women? Both genders should get to opt out. | /r/MensRights | 26/05/24 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?There is no discrimination against men in jobs and employment. In fact men have such a leg up, to prevent discrimination against anyone not men, we have to require diversity. And the issue isn’t with men who work 60 hours while women work 32, because even when the women works more- she still does all the housework. But even then, if one partner doesn’t agree to shouldering all of the housework- and can pay their bills with 32 hours a week, why is it her fault that he picked a job that requires h… | /r/MensRights | 26/05/24 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?But isn’t that exactly what happens to women when they become single mothers or are sexually assaulted? | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 04:00 AM |
| 0 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?If we are opening it up to the world, obviously we have entire countries where women can’t drive, show their face, etc. And while you can say it’s not enforced, the fact is that if a woman decides to have a relationship, more often than not she will pick up more work as a result of gaining his domestic chores while he gains more free time and an improved quality of life when he no longer has to do those same chores. And because this is such a widespread issue, her option to pick better is really… | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?But most every study shows men commit more crime than women, even when just anonymously self reporting on delinquent activity. And when it comes to custody, many men choose to have less time with the children, or none at all. That is a choice many men make. And now that women are starting to catch up, women paying alimony is becoming more common as well, studies show it has increased 56% over the last 3 years. So is it possible, that it’s not as biased as you think and some of it is personal acc… | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?It’s not to suggest it doesn’t happen both ways, but if you do your research- the chances of being raped in war increases drastically if you are also a woman. | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?But aren’t many of the things that MRA names as signs of oppression, really just a result of life choices? Not all, the draft for example isn’t, but when we talk about men’s suicide rates, homelessness, divorce rates, custody, incarceration- aren’t many of those things exasperated by life choices? Wouldn’t many of those things be solved by different choices? Like if women are supposed to be able to tell when a man is going to abandon them in the future so she can prevent being a mom, wouldn’t me… | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 02:01 AM |
| 0 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Could women who make more leave because they are the only one contributing? If the husband was taking on everything that a woman traditionally does when he is the breadwinner, would that be different? Men who are successful also have that mindset of how they like things, even in dictating their partners appearance- that’s just a trait of successful people in general. I’m not trying to plug feminism here. But just as I can objectively hear and understand many of the men’s problems and inequalitie… | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 12:11 AM |
| 0 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?I did the flip test. If you flip the genders does it make sense? If I’m the breadwinner, would I expect my husband to give me peace when I come home, let me crack a beer and sit on the couch, while he makes dinner, washes the dishes, cleans the house? I could enjoy some chill time with my kids and when he is done cleaning the kitchen, he can get them bathed, brush hair and teeth, get Jammie’s on, and I will continue to sit on the couch watching tv and a beer. I would still mow the lawn and take … | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 11:58 PM |
| 0 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?I see. So you don’t really believe in equality- you believe in entitlement. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?I honestly believe that is exactly what happened. Don’t we hear divorces initiated by women 80% of the time? And to be clear, I support 50-50 custody agreements. I don’t really know what quote you’re talking about, but I’ve not advocated for any of that. In fact, I agree with you on almost all of your talking points, but it’s weird that you wouldn’t agree that both people in a relationship should share the responsibility of the household and the kids | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 11:29 PM |
| -3 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?There are tons of issues I didn’t address and was in no way meant to be all inclusive. But to your point - I think men should take paternity leave to bond with children and help their wives during the physical recovery from birth too. It’s incredibly challenging taking care of a new born while recovering from a major medical event. The reality is that many women don’t get any maternity leave, and if it wasn’t a recognized medical condition, none probably would. And we are saying the same thing, … | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 10:56 PM |
| -9 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Well hold on a second, the draft hasn’t been enacted since 1973, so it is less enforced that our social constructs of women taking on the responsibility for domestic work and child rearing. And there is real data to show the negative impact that has. So this is what I don’t understand, I can hear you about the draft and ending circumsicion, and mandating equal sentencing and increasing prosecution of sexual crimes for both genders, all of that but you can’t say both genders should take an equal … | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 10:37 PM |
| 0 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?I think it may have more to do with how rape and torture are used against women in war both from friendly and opposing troops. However, as a society we really need to get away from this type of combat all together. The draft is a disrespectful way for elites to demean our lives for issues they see fit, not us. And I think they teacher dynamics are taken less seriously (wrongfully) because in general women lack the physical intimidation factor that men overall have, but it’s not about basing the … | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 10:25 PM |
| -16 | Is there any moral difference between MRAs and feminists?Yeah but feminists say the exact same thing about wanting recognition and not seeking favoritism and appealing to human rights. And both sides have valid points. The MRA with the draft, and the feminists with domestic labor/child rearing splits. We live in a modern world but some of those old ideas haven’t died out yet. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 09:54 PM |
| 2 | What do you think happened with the husband of this schizophrenic lady? Looks like we need mental health awareness laws to prevent this kind of behavior towards the husband and kidsRight, just shut the door | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 06:54 PM |
| 1 | The problem is lonelinessWe also need more affordability so people can stop working so much, step out of survival mode and enjoy life. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 06:49 PM |
| -2 | UK: I'm a single, childless and alone female. Feminism has failed me and my generation.I’m sure it would help if her husband participated more in the household work, and child rearing. That’s a big thing people seem to forget about. Other than that, I totally agree, yeah life is a choice. We make the best we can of it, but ultimately it’s up to each of us to shape our own future. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 06:47 PM |
| 1 | UK: I'm a single, childless and alone female. Feminism has failed me and my generation.Represents an opportunity for men how? | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 06:38 PM |
| 1 | UK: I'm a single, childless and alone female. Feminism has failed me and my generation.I totally agree, this article was nothing but propaganda meant to further divide and distract us from real issues at hand. Life is what you make it, and plenty of single people have developed healthy friendships and bonds if they choose to invest their energy into that, while plenty of people are lonely in their relationships. But if we as a society are so worried about socializing, let’s address the affordability crisis we have so more people can let go of working 2 jobs and have time for conne… | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 06:38 PM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.Could you clarify what you mean by scale? It seems human condition to not understand fully the plight of a person in a different position- whether that be race, gender, etc. Women not understanding what it’s like to be a man and men not understanding what it’s like to be a woman. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityFor sure you can have preferences. This post really brought light to the misandry behind slut shaming though- the idea that if a woman has to much sexual contact with men, it taints her just through her contact. It may be possible that you internalized a bit of the misandry? | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 02:19 AM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.So I’ll ask a second time, because you didn’t answer. Isn’t the basis of equity for most MRA that men are not to be reduced to paychecks and women should pay their share? That would mean that women work as well, correct? So in that aspect- wouldn’t it also make sense that both partners contribute to the household? I’m not sure where the handicap or privilege is in that? And I think most people understand that equity of outcome is different than equity of opportunity. Could you give some examples… | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 02:13 AM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.So I can’t speak for other countries besides my own, because I don’t know the culture, laws, or really anything, but I would imagine there is a lot of gender equality issues to address in the world. For the USA, I would absolutely agree to expand the definition of rape to a gender neutral definition and support harsher sentences on all perpetrators of sexual violence. I think that is a cause, many people would get behind, regardless of gender or political stance ( at least based on my perception… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 08:06 PM |
| 4 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.To clarify- not blaming the husband or men that women work. And based on several MRA statements I’ve seen, it was my impression that men don’t want to be responsible for being the provider- or reduced to a paycheck, so women working as well- seems to along with MRA views overall, correct? In a more fair society, women and men would work, and in all types of fields, including the trades and other dangerous jobs, correct? And at home, both genders would contribute to the daily and periodic househo… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 07:52 PM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.Is it possible to think both? That sole parenting is hard regardless of which gender and that it is healthy for children to have access to both of their parents? And what about extending safe haven laws to both gender? And require that the other parent be first contact in those instances? And personally when it comes to child abuse- I think we need harsher punishment, regardless of gender. In my instance my dad was abusive, and removed from the picture when he got caught, but my mother was also … | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 06:23 PM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.I was simply using an example we would all be aware of. I personally don’t know of any sentencing disparity in the last week because it’s not something I follow. But if you feel having sentencing standards that are more consistent for the crime isn’t fair, and you don’t like the current system that does account for intent and culpability, what are you suggesting? | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 04:37 PM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.I can’t speak to a past I wasn’t privy to, but currently I am aware that many feminists and many MRA are pushing for 50/50 custody- which I also support. I don’t know how to get past the part where each side says it’s the other fault, but I can focus on the desired outcome of a more fair split- which benefits everyone. I’m not sure what you are referencing with abortion laws and safe haven laws- but I’d be happy to share my perspective if you can clarify a bit. I am aware that many women choose … | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 04:25 PM |
| 3 | Abusive? Anyone been through this?This is super abusive. Start documenting and prepping to leave the relationship. Also parental alienation is abuse! Your child deserves equal access to both of you. I would start doing consultations with divorce and child custody lawyers as well. Maybe even file a restraining order against her if you can get the documentation together | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 03:54 PM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.Objectively- that extends both ways. Seems to be part of the human condition. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 02:32 PM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.I think it has more to do with what women experience in marriage. Some men only go to work and leave everything else on their wives- so while her husband watches tv, she’s cooking, cleaning up and getting kids ready, despite she also works. Well that and that some men seem to get away with sexual crimes, and how some men act when women try to join the trades, and how some men opt out of parenting the children they created leaving the burden on the women, things like that. Both sides have legitim… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 02:14 PM |
| 0 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.That feminist complain about sentencing disparities- Brock Turner is one I recently saw a bunch of women complaining about because he got 6 months, despite violently mangling her insides to the point where she had to have surgery and will most likely be unable to have kids again. And I see you guys post horrific ones all the time, like some girl cutting a man’s penis off. Also horrific. And not related to gender but then you have disparities among race as well. Our whole legal system is a corrup… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 12:53 PM |
| 1 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.I think court goes hand in hand for sure. For example - you mentioned family court, 50/50 custody benefits women as well and many feminists support this. Court can do better too, but you can’t have true equality in outcome without increasing men’s accountability to their children as parents not just providers. Many men choose to walk away from their children (and some women too- it’s not to dog men) but we have to end that option and really prioritize both parents involvement in every day parent… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityBut isn’t that still slut shaming? Which we just discussed how it’s problematic and misandrist? | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 03:02 AM |
| -8 | The "Patriarchy" is the problem.It really does seem that both MRA and feminist want to end gender roles- maybe that’s why the two get intertwined so often? | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Harrison Butker ControversyYeah,I’m not suggesting it worked out but none of those things worked either but that’s not the direction I am trying to take this. I was just sharing some insight on how the upbringing of those ideas are expressed to young girls. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Harrison Butker ControversyThe meal itself isn’t supposed to be about a transaction. None of it is supposed to be a transaction. It’s supposed to be looking for personality traits. Like if he is the kind of man who will prioritize taking you to dinner- it shows he is thoughtful and that thoughtfulness is supposed to translate to being thoughtful in all areas of the relationship, like loading the dishwasher after she cooks a meal and considering her in life’s decisions. I didn’t say it was effective but that’s how it’s tau… | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 11:34 PM |
| 2 | My insurance won't cover my gynecomastia sugery, but covers trans surgeries.The medical system is bullshit. Insurance in itself is a scam and exploitive. They are not doctors and should not be allowed to practice medicine, especially with the clear conflict of interest for their bottom line. How we have allowed this to continue is beyond me. | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityClarification- because I was under the impression that the nuclear family was relatively new in culture and that during hunter days life was more of a community where the kids were all raised together | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityAre you saying sex shouldn’t be reciprocal? Or that sex in which a woman orgasms takes away from the man’s experience? Or that in order to be fair to men, only the man should enjoy sex? Can you clarify this a bit? | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityI’ve never thought about a males body count to be honest. From a female perspective, it’s not something talked about. Cheating is talked about but I’ve never heard anyone correlate that to body count before. But it makes sense what you are saying, about it being bad for relationships- I just don’t know if I would be comfortable asking someone that. It feels sort of inappropriate. | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 06:49 PM |
| -1 | Harrison Butker ControversyI thought women were told to make a man pay on the first date to prove he would invest in her and to prevent being used or in a bad relationship later? Edit: Thats what I was taught and is commonly told to women. I’m not suggesting this is the right way, because that wasn’t effective in finding a good relationship either. I was just bringing up the societal norm that’s unfair to men seems to stem from a societal norm that is unfair for women- the burden of “pick better” that results in lots of d… | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 05:40 PM |
| 0 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityI always thought it was because men prefer women with little sexual experience with other men. So if women are sleeping with women, they will never matter to men anyways. If men are sleeping with men, I don’t know I’ve never heard that one. This isn’t just a male preference? | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Self harm in boys and menI said this in another post, but it’s just another example of how feminism and MRA are really similar. When you can’t tell which one is behind the message that’s a pretty solid sign. In reading it, I originally thought it was written by feminist as well. However, if it opens the door for more access to mental health for more men, I think it’s positive and it doesn’t matter the source | /r/MensRights | 17/05/24 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Are these people capable of abstract thought and not making everything about their specific person?What was the reason? Do you have proposed solutions? | /r/MensRights | 17/05/24 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Question: If men’s issues and wellbeing are often ignored and not taken seriously, doesn’t that make them victims?I saw your response and I was reading up on several of the things you stated and I wanted to get your thoughts. I’m not touching on the draft in this item, because that is absolutely garbage and no one should be drafted ever again. But as I started researching things like men’s suicide rates, homelessness, incarceration rates, even the men are more likely to be victims of violent crimes- most of it seemed to stem from adherence to masculinity standards in our society. Like the more a man adheres… | /r/MensRights | 17/05/24 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Not sure what to name thisCongratulations on the lengthy marriage. I’m sure it does help to have a partner willing to work on improving things on your behalf. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/24 12:11 PM |
| 2 | The National Coalition for Men files complaint against the Selective Service for sex discrimination against men.The draft is wrong! It has always been wrong. How can we support removing it? | /r/MensRights | 16/05/24 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Not sure what to name thisSo you are saying it’s not possible to predict the future when it comes to partners? Isn’t it part of the men’s right movement that you have to pick the right partner or suffer the consequences for a bad choice? Isn’t that accountability? I’m pretty sure you just have to pick better. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 08:31 PM |
| -7 | Not sure what to name thisPick women you are compatible with so that doesn’t happen. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Would it be worth my time to ask my congressman to try to get a new bill passed regarding Allimony/Child Support to be tax deductible?If we do this, we should also exempt all child expenses from taxes, just like we do food. Children’s clothes, toys, extra bedrooms used for children on rent/mortgage, a portion of the utilities, maybe some kind of mileage log for gas $, lunchboxes, shoes, children’s hair cuts, entertainment like children’s tickets at movies, circus, trampoline parks, even concession stands, sports gear the list could go on. No one should have to pay taxes on the money they spend on their kids. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 05:35 PM |
| 3 | Abolish child support!!!First choice is 50/50 custody and in most cases that is best. I do know several women who were pressured into being a stay at home mother to men with high earnings and this should be a consideration before they have children. If they split, and she gave up her job prospects to support his desire to have children, that he agreed to provide for- there has to be some contingency. And the same if it was a man. I would have had to pay child support to my ex husband and I was prepared to do so when as… | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 03:51 AM |
| 3 | Abolish child support!!!What about if one parent won’t take the child 50%? | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Abolish child support!!!I would agree to this if the man was a drunk before the relationship started and made a formal declaration at the beginning of the relationship. Sort of like a prenup for dating. If he comes right out and says whatever his issues are- I’m a liar, I cheat, I am a drunk, and I have no intentions of changing, and they both sign, then sure. He can have no child support. If he pretended to be a good man, then he has to pay child support if it applies. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Woman Won’t Face Jail Time For Putting Bleach In Husband’s Coffeehttps://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/texas-attorney-poisoned-pregnant-wife-abortion-medication-sentenced-18-rcna138065 | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 03:07 AM |
| 16 | I will not fight a war on behalf of a feminist country.Don’t fight in a war period. The rich aren’t sending their children to die. You shouldn’t either. You have only one life and you don’t owe it to anyone. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Is dating worth it in modern times?No. All the women are so traumatized from bad experiences and told to “pick better” and now the bar is too high for you guys. They will want to see all kinds of investments and study your every move to make sure you don’t hurt them. A lot of them were abandoned by their fathers, so they have daddy issues now. Especially if they have been sexually assaulted in the past, which is most of them, way too much trauma. It’s not worth it! | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 12:15 AM |
| 5 | The rapid curtailment of men’s rightsI went through a similar ordeal as a child with a father who raped and beat me and a mother who poisoned me for years resulting in cancer at 19, and also beat me. I want to say from another survivor that I am also sorry you went through what you did. how do you know man is going to be abusive before it is too late ? | /r/MensRights | 12/05/24 05:11 PM |
| -10 | The rapid curtailment of men’s rightsActually, studies show that men are more likely to win custody when domestic abuse has been alleged even in cases when there is substantial evidence. Women are now regularly advised to not bring up abuse when going through divorce. This is to prevent parental alienation. | /r/MensRights | 12/05/24 05:07 PM |
| 1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."But men overall are responsible for the media. I think women also want to end the trope of the bumbling husband, but also want to end the real life experience of the bumbling husband too. And doesn’t marriage statistically increase a man’s lifespan because of the care she gives him, while marriage decreases women’s life span because of the added stress? Honestly most of these seem like policy issues you are mad at, and women don’t hold the majority of political seats. Maybe you are mad at the wr… | /r/MensRights | 12/05/24 03:54 PM |
| 1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."But men say women are incompetent all the time? I don’t feel offended when I hear that. They say we are bad drivers, they say we are dumb. All of these threads are just about how awful women are. Men have been saying that stuff about women forever. I don’t really see why that is an issue. It’s normal for people to talk about their bad experiences and frustrations. | /r/MensRights | 12/05/24 03:45 PM |
| 1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."I don’t think women were saying men were wild animals, I think they were saying they felt safer with wild animals, and I think the point was to point out how much of a problem safety is. And while I don’t think anyone believes you caused slavery, understanding how you benefit and others still suffer as a result is important because we can help those who were effected be made whole again and undo some of that injustice. And i don’t think basing just my personal experience is a fair assessment but… | /r/MensRights | 11/05/24 02:21 PM |
| 1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."That’s the point. You only consider getting beat up as a problem. The rest of it is fine? | /r/MensRights | 11/05/24 02:04 PM |
| 4 | Do We Live In a Patriarchy?I just read up on that. This is horrific. She should be in jail and I don’t know what happens to the kid- foster care? | /r/MensRights | 11/05/24 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Do We Live In a Patriarchy?We tried that. It didn’t work. | /r/MensRights | 11/05/24 01:44 PM |
| -2 | Do We Live In a Patriarchy?The biggest things that I see are these: the pervasiveness of SA/Sexual harassment and the lack of legal consequences of this. The unfair domestic labor splits The unequal parenting responsibilities, custody etc. We always say courts are skewed against men, but really it’s women who suffer poverty and mental health as the entire burden of children is placed on them, and child support doesn’t cover even half the cost. Men are able to opt out of parenting, women are not. 50/50 splits are better fo… | /r/MensRights | 11/05/24 01:33 PM |
| 1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."It’s wrong to generalize, but I don’t know how to consolidate that with my reality that most men I come across and every other woman I know comes across participates in these behaviors. I don’t know how to reconcile my personal experience with what you’re saying that it’s a small minority of men when it’s not. I’m gonna take a break tonight because I do want to approach this from an open-minded point of view , I really appreciate you participating in my questions in a respectful and open way. | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 04:21 AM |
| -1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."I get what you’re saying, but I don’t think that you get that it’s not a few and I think that is where the disconnect comes from. And the matter how many statistics we have or studies we do, it seems like there’s no way to make you guys understand that it’s not a few. And most likely most of us, have contributed in a negative way but it seems like unless it’s murder it doesn’t count to men overall. And I understand even that is a generalization, but it’s hard to say otherwise when Every man, I b… | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 04:05 AM |
| -1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."One- I am sorry that you went through that. I also went through horrific abuse by my parents, and while I would never say I can understand your pain, I can sympathize with it. Where I lack the understanding is in that instance you are saying one woman doesn’t equal all woman and I can get that, but I think what happens at least in my perspective is that we aren’t saying we had a bad experience with one man, I think the challenge is when we have bad experiences with most men, and maybe not to tha… | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 02:08 AM |
| 1 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."I’m asking to learn - specifically how I can express my truth in a way that is less harmful to others including men and to understand the other side, so that I can work towards more meaningful solutions. My end goal is to find a way that brings people together rather than apart. Especially as I begin to participate in government representation programs, I’d like my voice to be one that unites rather than divides. Obviously, it is always gonna be hard to step out of your own perspective and exper… | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 01:48 AM |
| -5 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."So to clarify, you only feel the worst cases are valid? And that’s why it feels like misandrists? What if we were to include less severe interactions? I think it would be very fair to say women are statistically child abusers if it wasn’t also true that women get stuck with primary responsibility of raising children and I personally feel like this is a issue as a society we should address and bring more men into parenting responsibility on a more equal level, but that’s not the point of this. I … | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 01:24 AM |
| -3 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."Okay but didn’t white people cause poverty and anger by slavery, segregation and racism? This is why it feels wrong to judge people for a natural response to what happened to them. This is also why the solutions to that have to be systemic rather than on an individual level. And I wasn’t trying to offend when I asked if the capitalist oppressors are mainly men? I just was under the impression they were, especially since women couldn’t legally access wealth until the last 50 years. And I didn’t w… | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 01:17 AM |
| -5 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."I have another question. I’m going to use myself as an example and in doing so I want to acknowledge that I come from several high-risk categories which I’m sure has led to more negative experiences than somebody who came from a better background. In my life, I have encountered maybe a total of 10 men who left severe damage to me. I’m talking bodily injury trauma not made me feel unsafe. And if we look at that 10 dangerous men out of all of the men would seem like a low number and I can acknowle… | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 12:59 AM |
| -8 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."I have another question. I’m going to use myself as an example and in doing so I want to acknowledge that I come from several high-risk categories which I’m sure has led to more negative experiences than somebody who came from a better background. In my life, I have encountered maybe a total of 10 men who left severe damage to me. I’m talking bodily injury trauma not made me feel unsafe. And if we look at that 10 dangerous men out of all of the men would seem like a low number and I can acknowle… | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 12:59 AM |
| 1 | A simple summary of the whole man vs bear debate.Genuine question- is it possible that it wasn’t meant for agreement or disagreement and that women were trying to explain the real experiences they have had and seen that make them feel fearful? Similar to how you wouldn’t disagree with someone if they said their favorite color is blue? | /r/MensRights | 07/05/24 11:15 PM |
| 0 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."I agree that men are exploited by richer men for sure, but could you clarify how the bear meme is misandry instead of an expression of women’s true fear of men based on their experiences? Asking to learn and from an open minded place. No disrespect intended. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/24 11:06 PM |
| -5 | "Misandry isn't a problem, it's a response."Honest question- I always wonder why when men say this, they feel it’s based on a small number of men, instead of the majority of men? I hear women say the majority of men. Is it just that you don’t believe them or how does that line up? And I don’t think anyone should hate to be clear but I do often see things that women say about their experiences with men, classified as hate. For example if a woman says men are unsafe, that would get classified as hate, rather than a reflection of what she fa… | /r/MensRights | 07/05/24 11:04 PM |
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