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The most important skill you can gain is being rejected and allowing that to happen without getting emotionally knocked out or taking it personally. Then you can try again and have fun with the process. It's just as fun to be rejected and know you tried as it is to succeed. You had an interaction with another human being. Good job.
/r/seduction01/03/21 09:45 PM
2

How do you know this? Seems like this post is sheer speculation. Truth is, we don't often know why people ghost. They have their reasons. It could be almost anything.
/r/seduction20/11/20 11:10 PM
1

You've only met "hundreds" of women in 11 years? Whoa.
/r/seduction05/11/20 08:46 PM
6

Really great writing, I love how you really solidified the idea that attractive people are allowed by society to express themselves sexually. Great insight. It's why actors behave a certain way and get away with it and then are stunned to be metoo'd when their age hits and their looks fade.
/r/seduction09/08/20 09:05 PM
1

I like that a lot. Gonna try some self eye contact.
/r/seduction10/07/20 01:57 AM
1

My trick is to use snapchat's snap map. Thst shows heat points of activity in the city posted by those who set their snaps public. You can get a lot of information for what's happening on the city that way. It was crazy when all the big protests were happening. I was able to zoom all over and see these events in dozens of cities, until I realized I simply didn't have the time to comprehend how much shit was exploding all over. Fun stuff.
/r/seduction05/07/20 04:18 AM
1

Everywhere. I've been going to the park, to blm protests (you can find one every day rn), to downtown in my city. It's seriously a cool time for meeting people because everyone is desperate for social interaction.
/r/seduction04/07/20 07:57 PM
1

Every time I go out. Numbers are so easy now. Lol. I try to go for more than numbers now because numbers flake. You need more. You need them to want more than just a phone call. You need them to remember you, to be intrigued by you, and to want more more more.
/r/seduction02/07/20 01:17 AM
1

Ford? Yuck. This is the small talk model that leads to completely boring, safe, predictable snooze. It's good to know FORD so you can avoid it like the plague. Yuck. This is the conversational model they teach in church.
/r/seduction02/07/20 01:13 AM
2

Haha. Lol. I got my moves. I got the spin and the low low warrior 2. I can wow a girl for like 3.5 seconds. Not too many tricks but a couple.
/r/seduction28/05/20 04:31 AM
27

Well what looked like a joke turned out to be you asking if she wanted to commit crimes with you. You shoulda switched to a chill meetup to "plot" or something to keep it light and jokey.
/r/seduction07/01/20 04:17 PM
1

I'm more curious how many handshakes my partners have had with others. This matters only slightly more because I can't stand introverts.
/r/seduction02/01/20 08:08 PM
5

I use one on my Samsung galaxy phone called texspand plus. I basically have a bunch of canned lines that progress the conversation and such. I have like three set up for flakes so I don't even have to think or get emotionally invested when that happens.
/r/seduction05/12/19 08:05 PM
2

OMG he was soooo desperate to lower his value and put her on a pedestal. Beauty really IS wasted on the youth. But I guess that's all he's got.
/r/seduction20/11/19 02:06 AM
2

I will often tease by saying she has no time for fun since she has six husbands already. Make a silly assumption and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:13 PM
2

Well it's about practicing this stuff long enough that it becomes second nature and a part of you. Yes you have to spend a long time messing up and creeping girls out. But you get better. Soon you don't have to think about the fundamentals.
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:11 PM
0

There ARE fat, ugly studs. But there are no studs of any shape or size with awkward social skills. Game is about social mastery.
/r/seduction31/10/19 04:13 PM
1

And what are your credentials? Keep doing you is a majorly immature tell in the seduction world.
/r/seduction30/10/19 10:57 PM
6

Still, it's a mistake to go for a later date. It makes you appear far too available and back-bending for her. She's should have to make it up to you in some way, at the very least. If she doesn't offer another time and something like buying the beers, the connection is fizzled.
/r/seduction30/10/19 03:51 PM
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Hell yeah. Sex is the most fascinating thing out there. That's why I'm so into it. People are endlessly nuanced and unique and you are entering a zone of extreme vulnerability with another complex entity. It's crazy it happens at all. Sex really is the best game in town.
/r/seduction27/10/19 07:24 PM
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Classic just-so story. The truth is you don't know what the social dynamics were in those times. There are large arguments that pre-agrarian revolution, many societies were matriarchal. Look at various ape species and you'll see much diversity in their mating and sexual strategies. You are making things up without evidence here.
/r/seduction27/10/19 06:13 PM
2

You don't have any claim over this woman. Ultimately, you can't own people. You seem unable to listen to others on this thread and think this person owes you something. She doesn't. The way to have the most influence is to remain non-reactive to the guy and without a dependence on the outcome. You don't lack control because you are an option. Just like amateur chess, the key is to fuck up less than your competition.
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:56 PM
1

Alright playa playa
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:22 PM
1

Dominant is more dominant.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:13 PM
1

Yeah. You are definitely not ready to have sex.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:13 PM
3

You're only 20, lol. I didn't start meeting women til I was 19. Looks like you had quite the head start.
/r/seduction08/10/19 02:48 PM
5

Tough to bat all the sexy 22 year olds away. Exhausting really.
/r/seduction02/10/19 09:48 PM
1

Thanks for the opportunity. The tangents thing is cool. How do you find the right time to switch? Also, I noticed that you are really good at transitions, saying things like, "First, I have to tell you this." I'd love to hear more of your tangent practice simply to get a better sense of the options. I've been recording myself after looking at lists of randomly generated nouns and nesting tangents, and it's been hard to switch tangents before give away the most interesting part. I'm sure it takes…
/r/seduction29/09/19 09:27 PM
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How could that be true unless you are comparing lesbians to gay men. Other than that, every time a woman gets laid, so does a man. However, it's true that a woman has the option to sleep with more men than men have to sleep with women. Women are more choosy. Men will accept many many more potential sexual situations.
/r/seduction28/09/19 03:20 PM
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You're not just "some new guy." The skills you've gained through pickup have made you a catch. You strike all the right chords. You act like a man of their dreams. They're still not putting out for those without the skills, confidence, and ability to mentally lubricate.
/r/seduction28/09/19 03:15 PM
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Subscribed to you for sure. Amazing value.
/r/seduction27/09/19 07:13 PM
1

Incredible. I really needed this. Layering tangents. Of course. Hell yeah.
/r/seduction27/09/19 05:11 AM
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Uh, most 40 year old women are spent, dude. Men get more attractive with age whereas, sadly for them, women have a limited shelf life (for the most part.)
/r/seduction24/09/19 07:19 AM
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Society is set up for older, high status men to get with younger, hotter women. It's normal. The idea that you consider yourself old is killing your game. I'm 40, have a 24 year old gf, have another gf in her early 20s (I don't even know exactly her age because I don't care) and date a lot of other people too. I meet new girls every week. Im a scrawny nerd who loves wearing crazy clothes and most girls assume is gay. Age is just a number. Work on getting past rejection, find a job and hobbies th…
/r/seduction24/09/19 07:16 AM
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How do you find style assistants to hire? What are they advertised? I'd like to try this.
/r/seduction23/09/19 05:23 PM
1

Wow you seem toxic af. What a terrible attitude. People have given you great advise here and you start denigrating both yourself AND this girl? Wow.
/r/seduction18/09/19 11:11 PM
1

The fact you are fixating on someone from three years ago reeks of scarcity mentality. Most guys who are into this have more drama, shit tests, and 3d chess in a week than you've had over years.
/r/seduction16/09/19 08:05 PM
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Low quality? Well if you can't get with them they've determined you are even less quality than they are. All sorts of women go to clubs. They dress to the 9s because they are trying to attract quality, high status men.
/r/seduction13/09/19 06:26 PM
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The truth is that amazing sex only goes so far. I need a woman who is a challenge. When they push me away, when they make me uncertain, and when they draw me back unpredictably - that's what gets me hooked. All the girlfriends I've had for any substantial amount of time are hot/cold masters. I may tell myself I want it easy, but I lose interest quick in those girls.
/r/seduction08/09/19 02:58 AM
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Go out on the town with someone less attractive than you.
/r/seduction29/08/19 09:09 PM
2

What about picking up girls at a university you haven't yet graduated from since you gave up, but work at, and are now like ten years older?
/r/seduction28/08/19 09:00 PM
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Oh nice. Looks like that one is only for IOS but found an app for android that's not PERFECT but seems useful called "Recent Contacts." Thanks.
/r/seduction12/08/19 11:47 PM
1

Hmmm. I thought it was pretty average. I made it a goal years ago to meet at least one new person per day. Some days, on weekends or cool events throughout the week I'll meet ten or so. I definitely try to get out there and get anxious if I don't go out.
/r/seduction12/08/19 11:46 PM
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I agree. If no plans within the next few days it's basically dead. I keep them going for a few days until things work out or the connection dies out. Pretty basic. Sometimes, if I don't get very hot responses, I'd like to wait a month and hit them up again. I'd just like some way to filter my contacts by date added.
/r/seduction12/08/19 08:58 PM
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Please demonstrate the depth of your knowledge, then.
/r/seduction12/08/19 03:16 PM
1

Pussys don't actually get loose. This is a myth.
/r/seduction02/08/19 06:20 PM
0

Right. Nothing at all. I hold less knowledge than a houseplant. Well, what are you doing here, wise teacher?
/r/seduction28/07/19 12:41 AM
0

You really know very little about female attraction. Women are much more attracted to a man's social position and temperament than they are to his physical appearance.
/r/seduction27/07/19 10:48 PM
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That's awful advice. Women have a completely different set of problems than men do. They are trying to figure out how to attract quality guys that are going to actually call them back after sex. Yeah, attractive women can easily get guys into them, but only up to a point. Socially embedded guys with lots of options - which are who women want - are going to be tough to lock down. Girls don't want any old dork, especially not one who gets ecstatic when a girl simply approaches and chats them up. Q…
/r/seduction27/07/19 05:03 PM
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I've been into relationships since I was like 6. I'm sure you had childhood crushes and that. The fact you are only 20 and found this sub means you have been curious a long time, I'd guess. I only found out about this stuff three years ago. But I'd suggest having regular relationships first, before you go for ones that have the capacity to be a lot more volatile. You gotta get REALLY good at detecting red flags and nipping them in the bud. Learn from every relationship and every interaction. Eve…
/r/seduction13/06/19 11:56 PM
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39 and have two gfs right now, one 21, the other 24. I'm still out there meeting new girls, too, and they are cool with it.
/r/seduction13/06/19 02:42 PM
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Tell em you are gay? Or dress brighter? Most women assume I'm gay because I'm incredibly flamboyant and extroverted and my task is to convince them otherwise. But when they see me as gay they always want to be friends.
/r/seduction10/06/19 10:28 PM
2

Can YOU see that there might have been more interesting ways to move a conversation along? Or do you feel like you delivered the best you?
/r/seduction27/05/19 08:44 PM
2

Writing "cool" is the lamest response. You seem both thick and boring.
/r/seduction27/05/19 04:07 PM
2

Dating sims?
/r/seduction23/04/19 04:56 PM
3

She CAN treat you like that. People owe you nothing. Right here you sound like you have a rotten attitude and you're overly concerned with power. She can feel that. Move on. Be glad you had something. It's better than being bored and you can probably learn something if you think about it. Your message, however, belongs in r/niceguys
/r/seduction15/04/19 02:17 PM
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Uh. You can go after work. Maybe not for four hours, of course. I try to get out every day and I do a ton.
/r/seduction15/04/19 02:08 PM
5

I feel similar, although I go hhroygh kicks where I get laid and have gfs. But I'm definitely in a strange funk right now, which is so weird since I got Lasic and got into a much cooler place to live, a swanky art community with a hot tub and lots of resources. Yet I can't get girls over. I don't feel like I'm acting needy or braggy. It's all subtle and girjs say they are interested but never follow up and interest dies. I'm thinking of doing some Skype sessions with a good pua dating coach. I j…
/r/seduction07/04/19 01:47 PM
1

I'm really loving your site and thought process. Very entertaining and insightful. I didn't sign up for your newsletter because I don't like that stuff but added the url into my daily journaling and journaled about it a bit. Still working through your material so far. Thanks.
/r/seduction01/04/19 07:14 PM
3

Sounds fun. I love girls like this. Escalate like normal but make sure you get her to beg for it before you do anything. Literally tell her to beg for it. Tell her what to say. Every girl done this with has been down and it makes the flirtation escalation way funner. I tell HER to rake off my pants. I tell her I'm not gonna do it. When taking off clothes, take off her shirt then make her take your off. Progress slowly like that. If she doesn't it's a no go. Hold out. She's excited and will love …
/r/seduction01/04/19 04:36 AM
1

They've been flirting for months. This girl sounds incredibly naive l, confused, and has some major sexual hangups.
/r/seduction13/03/19 10:39 PM
2

Thanks for that further explanation. That cleared things up.
/r/seduction08/03/19 06:44 PM
1

Lookalike is one word. At least hyphenate as look-alike.
/r/seduction06/03/19 07:42 PM
1

I really liked this post, on how much we can learn by tapping into our own emotional reactions when we get small signs of disinterest versus interest and the rollercoaster that we go on when flirting with girls. I was confused what you meant about how, even if you are good with girls, if you lose your defense mechanisms you'll lose all your skill. Do you mean going numb is a defense mechanism or something else? Everything else flowed but I got confused at this point.
/r/seduction06/03/19 07:40 PM
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It shouldn't piss you off. It stems from biology. Women carry the baby incubator. Men don't. Women risk a lot more by having sex via pregnancy and reputation. Men don't. The way it is laid out makes perfect sense and is quite fair. Women, on average, reproduce. Many men don't. But those that figure it out can have an incredible amount of reproductive success. This is why men have to be riskier and more active and why women can sit back and be coy. They need to.
/r/seduction22/02/19 09:39 PM
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Exactly. He's expecting women to approach him. It'd be easier for him but think about how, for the girls, it'd be just if not more intimidating. I mean, it's violating cultural norms double for women to approach men.
/r/seduction22/02/19 06:26 PM
1

Use it to protect yourself? Of course it doesn't do that. But what I learned was that it's not as huge of a deal as most of society makes out. I mean, being human means that we live with thousands of different kinds of bacteria and viruses. There's a huge stigma against herpes, but it doesn't actually seem to be that horrific to them. It's not life-ending or anything. I'm not quite sure I understand your position. You say pretty much everyone has it and it's not a big deal, but also that if you …
/r/seduction13/02/19 04:20 PM
2

I don't have herpes. But I've had scares. One thing that helped was going to read the herpes subreddit. Check it out to get a sense of what their attitude is.
/r/seduction13/02/19 01:40 AM
4

Nice. Loved the read. I had a three hookups in 24 hours day about two months ago. The trick is not to cum every time, yo.
/r/seduction13/02/19 01:29 AM
1

And by being non-needy and non-controlling, that makes you more attractive. She'll want to spend more time with you. Right now you are acting in a way that makes you less attractive.
/r/seduction02/02/19 05:27 AM
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Relationships are about accepting another person completely for who they are in life at that time. Your job is to be a light for her, to give value, and build her up. Relationships are not about changing people or wishing they were different. It's about acceptance and deeper discovery. If there's something you don't like and it's a big deal, then you need to end the relationship. Those are the only two paths a healthy relationship can take. Never try to change another human being. You don't own …
/r/seduction01/02/19 11:10 PM
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Oh hell yeah. This sub is a great resource. You have to be smart in what advice to take but that's true with anything. I can't believe how much I've improved in the last year or so. I've gotten rid of insecurities like not being seen as an attractive, fuckable human. I'm much more confidant. I have fun. I can talk to almost anyone. I've been using this sub plus the challenge to meet at least one new person per day, male or female but mostly I meet females, for the last year and a half.
/r/seduction14/01/19 08:49 PM
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Yum. The famous okcupid study. Pretty amazing stuff. And it came out of actual observations of them in the wild, rating men live.
/r/seduction14/01/19 08:42 PM
1

r/lostredditors
/r/seduction10/01/19 05:03 AM
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Well yes. But that's still not a good place to start a relationship or attract women from.
/r/seduction10/01/19 01:56 AM
-1

She loved you more than you've ever loved yourself? That sounds like a petty horrid frame, imo. I wouldn't be attracted to that. Love yourself first, man. You are the best friend you'll ever have and the one you'll be able to communicate with the most effortlessly. Noone else will even come close.
/r/seduction10/01/19 01:08 AM
2

Yeah. Waiting for girls to start talking to you is not game. You won't be talking with hotter girls than you that way at all.
/r/seduction31/12/18 06:13 AM
1

You can get waaaay more makeouts on nye, just randomly to people on the street. Super easy and everyone wants to drink, go crazy, and "sin" like mad before they have to hit the gym and yoga like they've resolved to do.
/r/seduction31/12/18 06:11 AM
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I think each person offers their own perspective and spin. I'm much more interested in triangulating solutions to a complex problem rather than relying on on source. I'm curious: why, if the book provides you such a complete picture, are you on this subreddit?
/r/seduction30/12/18 04:49 PM
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I think it's good to focus on one small aspect of game at a time. Reading a whole book is good for a large overview, but I find it most helpful to focus on one or two areas of game, areas which you might recently have had trouble. I appreciate this kind of writing.
/r/seduction30/12/18 04:12 PM
1

Have you seen the textdoor neighbor subreddit? https://www.reddit.com/r/textdoor/
/r/seduction30/12/18 01:03 AM
7

I've been practicing the ocap model. O - You make an Observation on something you like about the girl. It can be her clothing, hair, walk, or accessories. For example, "excuse me, sorry, I just had to say that I really like your hat." C - make a Comment. So for the hat, you'd say something about it. You free associate about it. Maybe it's a fuzzy purple felted hat. What would you say? How about, "It looks really cozy and warm. A - make an Assumption about her character. So, for example," you loo…
/r/seduction24/12/18 12:24 AM
9

The magic of the disqualifier.
/r/seduction18/12/18 12:11 AM
1

Hope so
/r/seduction17/12/18 06:34 PM
2

She was even hinting that she was thinking suicidal thoughts and you missed that! Poor girl. Definitely the thing to make her think the world is an evil place.
/r/seduction17/12/18 05:14 PM
2

You have developed into the perfect version of yourself, the most pristine form of you, and you can't afford a couple hundred bucks? That simply doesn't sound like a very good best version of you. Try angling for more bling.
/r/seduction16/12/18 09:48 AM
2

Who cares? Good for him. You helped him meet someone and if you stay cool he'll return the favor. Keep meeting more girls. Keep approaching. Stop being so focused on missed opportunities. Every moment we are missing tens of thousands of other opportunities that are happening out there, right now. Get out there.
/r/seduction15/12/18 08:15 PM
1

No other girls? Now that's not true. Focus on flirting with and meeting new girls each and every day. There's thousands of em around you. You have an LTR to keep your energy from getting too desperate and you can use the new time you have to focus on meeting new girls and on self improvement.
/r/seduction15/12/18 08:09 PM
1

Lol. You have no idea how subtle this stuff is. And then when you think you are getting good and making progress, how quickly you can realize how much further you can go.
/r/seduction14/12/18 12:47 AM
1

Definitely a ballsy idea. I've definitely let guys hit on me irl to see how they do it and have learned some good things, like even how they plant the idea of a later make out. Im like, oh thaaaat's how intent works. The idea of a makeout actually grew in my mind. Super interesting.
/r/seduction11/12/18 07:16 PM
2

Uh yeah. That's what this sub is about.
/r/seduction07/12/18 07:15 PM
1

I love this kind of thing! Keep your brain flowing and sharp!
/r/seduction06/12/18 06:06 PM
3

Yeah but if you are a virgin you are pedastalizing sex. You need to get the mystery out of your system. There's plenty of years ahead of you for going for the challenge of attracting and winning over girl. But the unknown mystery of sexuality is a simple hurdle to get over. I'd spend at least a day researching how you could pay for it. I actually wish I knew. Even that seems difficult, but if I was stuck in virginity I'd try to put a little energy into figuring out how to pay for it.
/r/seduction04/12/18 05:11 PM
2

This. You gotta have sex to realize how absolutely absurd it is. And after that you'll realize how important it is. It's such a fucked up situation that it's both. But ya gotta get the mystery out of your system. It's so not a big deal. And it's a big deal.
/r/seduction01/12/18 01:44 PM
1

*breasteraunt waitresses? Even if that's a typo I like the happy accident.
/r/seduction01/12/18 01:38 PM
3

A large percentage of people in the club scene meet their friends and see them at clubs. They don't have to plan to go together. They see them out and about. So actually the people that are the most deeply embedded in club culture go out "alone." Why bother with logistics when all of the peoole who are your friends are are long term flirting with will be there anyway? With that in mind, go, make friends and flirt like you've been in the scene for years.
/r/seduction01/12/18 01:37 PM
3

Yeah both. I'd even have a conversation like you want to open the relationship a bit, maybe not sexually but you want to look for a massage partner or someone who can help fulfill your touch requirements while maintaining the relationship with him. You can get whatever you want if you ask for it. It might not be with him but if you can't solve it by taking charge of getting your own needs met, things won't magically get better with him.
/r/seduction28/11/18 10:30 PM
2

It sounds like he's not wonderfully invested. I'd use a little jealousy to get him more attracted. I mean let's face it, you have needs and if he's not someone who can fulfill those, you are going to move on. See if he can rise to the challenge. Become less available for him and see how he reacts. I personally think seeing each other every day is codependent and leads to the death of a relationship. Stay changing, something that's not a 100% sure thing.
/r/seduction28/11/18 06:34 PM
2

I'm not great at storytelling either, but I tried studying it a year or so ago. There's this technique called the Story Spine and you can look it up. What you do is set up a premise of normalcy first. You describe what a normal day is like and once that happens, a disruption of the routine occurs. What follows from there are logical jumps of what happens, cause and effect. This leads to a final thing in which you have learned something or the world is forever changed in some way. So the step are…
/r/seduction27/11/18 02:45 PM
1

Most game stuff works in relationships too. Read Corey Wayne how to be a 3% man.
/r/seduction26/11/18 10:52 PM
9

Not at all. It's normal socialization for someone who wants to be part of a new group. This is social circle. It's about establishing connections and networking.
/r/seduction25/11/18 06:09 AM
0

I think it's mostly about holding eye contact. Guys at that age are smart. They know the signals. Eye Contact. Play with hair a bit. They will get it. You'll have a blast, too!
/r/seduction25/11/18 05:03 AM
2

If a girl is texting, she's interested in SOMETHING.
/r/seduction24/11/18 09:57 PM
3

It's also that you don't have enough value. If you were a person giving her the winnings to the powerball, she'd definitely meet you. But that being said, I don't think it's ever healthy to blame the woman for not being a priority. Move on and keep increasing your own value and fun.
/r/seduction21/11/18 12:06 AM
2

Push pulls should happen very quickly, like within the same sentence. They should look unplanned and off the cuff. Your technique would arouse a lot of suspicion of premeditation, which it is.
/r/seduction18/11/18 06:51 PM
1

Yah gotta push for and discuss open relationships. I do that early. Seed for the idea of threesome, mention your enthusiasm for lesbianism, if they have ever kissed girls. Even tell them you might want to watch them fuck a guy. Stay open, cool, non-jealous and non-needy and you can have it all.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:04 PM
1

If you are that free in your life you need to be filling it with more things. There is more than enough to do in every place in the world. Yolo. Don't sit around waiting for other people.
/r/seduction12/11/18 02:02 PM
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You get better at figuring this stuff out. Ive definitely had my share of manipulative women. But with that experience, I think it'd be very hard for me to be blind sighted. I'm with someone manipulative it's because I know it and because it makes the relationship fun.
/r/seduction08/11/18 09:33 PM
5

The problem is different with girls though. It's easy to attract a guy bit difficult to make him stay interested. You still have to present a bit of a challenge or else you simply aren't interesting enough. Attracting men is easy though if you are reasonably attractive. Guys evaluate female looks quite fairly and evenly whereas women, if only judging on looks, see average guys as below average.
/r/seduction08/11/18 08:33 PM
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When you are qualifying, ask questions about how they resolve conflicts. I think it's a good topic. How do they interact with roommates? Do they have a lot of friends? You can also observe how they treat staff and waitresses when you go out. There are usually important indicators there. Lots of ways to find this stuff out.
/r/seduction08/11/18 06:58 PM
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I really wish there were more lesbians teaching game. They understand the female mind of being hit on all the time but also have to pursue. I have one question though. Because there are so few lesbians in society are you able to get an abundance mentality the way attractive hetero women are able to? Or do you all feel more in scarcity mode?
/r/seduction07/11/18 07:45 PM
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Incredibly written. So much wrapped up solidly.
/r/seduction04/11/18 08:07 PM
1

I really like how you were able to remember details of so many interactions. Do you write notes throughout or have a set time each day to sit, remember, and write?
/r/seduction31/10/18 07:09 PM
1

Women mark a certain level of success by the number of suitors they have. It's funny that guys think they need to stop everything and focus on only one when women of any value ensure that they are able to pick the best out of a group of admirers.
/r/seduction30/10/18 05:56 PM
1

A lot of those people, I'm sure, do not have much relationship experience and are thinking via their version of idealized relationships. My perspective comes from my own relationships but is also consistent with highly regarded relationship experts like Cory Wayne, Mark Manson, and pretty much anyone who is good with women.
/r/seduction30/10/18 03:19 PM
0

Actual threesome rarely happen. But it's important to show that you are cool with them if they do occur, and I try for them, definitely. I've had ffm and fmm ones with her, but they are rare. It's mostly just fun to flirt and see what might be possible. I treat other people, girlfriends included, as ultimately free entities. She can go with anyone if they'd treat her better than me. However, most people are jealous, and jealousy is not attractive. By simply not being jealous I am much more attra…
/r/seduction30/10/18 03:19 AM
0

I have a gf who is a dancer, flirts, and carries herself at parties. I love it. She's a social butterfly. I've had puppy dog girlfriends in the past and it always gets old. I go flirt and dance with people I want to dance with. She can do whatever she wants. And guess what? She always comes back to me in the end. It's a night out to have fun, meet people, and... maybe even seed a threesome. ;) The less needy and insecure you are the better. Jealousy kills relationships. If you can keep your cool…
/r/seduction29/10/18 05:32 PM
1

I looooove telling girls of any intelligence that they are the smart one and I am the dumb one of the duo. It gives you a wonderful excuse to make mistakes, it's kind of a joke, shows you don't take yourself too seriously, and gives a funny plotline to the interaction. Playing dumb is such an underused approach, and since so many guys are constantly trying to show how smart they are, thinking it'd get the girl, it's a breathe of fresh air for her. I tell them I'm dumb but don't act any different…
/r/seduction23/10/18 09:04 PM
2

I'm a dood and I wear earphones on public transit so I can ignore people I'm not interested in talking to. If people are interesting enough they'll break through that barrier. I don't think you can speak for all people who wear headphones. Most people out there are bored as shit most of the time, hoping someone cute and amazing will let them feel they lived, and made an actual connection every now and then.
/r/seduction23/10/18 07:17 PM
2

When combined with calling her weird and too excited, though, it seems to add even more to destroying a man to woman frame. Usually no big deal, you are right, but the layers, I felt, really killed the attraction.
/r/seduction16/10/18 09:54 PM
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You shamed her by saying she has weird fantasies and to calm down. Never ever do that. It really put a damper on her mood. (calling her a man, as well? What woman wants to be thought of as a man?) You gotta follow the joke idea hard and make her believe that calling her weird in the first place was a joke as well.
/r/seduction16/10/18 04:05 PM
6

Video games ARE normie shit and a horrible waste of time. They are addictive distractions. I've been addicted to them. Best thing you can do is to delete them and let yourself be bored for once.
/r/seduction09/10/18 01:05 AM
5

Women today? As opposed to when? When YOU were younger? I doubt all that much changes but you change and what type of person you are changes. I'm constantly amazed by the radically diverse array of things that people want, what holes they are looking to fill. You sound a little bitter. You can't change the world you can only change yourself. Women have sex for all kinds of reasons. They have sex for health, to pad their egos, to social climb, to engage in a deep connection with another, to help …
/r/seduction08/10/18 06:40 PM
2

Authenticity is key. If you can fake that you can do anything ;)
/r/seduction08/10/18 03:28 PM
4

There's a whole world of advice that women go to for seducing guys, though. They study this stuff too, only in different ways. Women were interested in boys when we were zit faced, oblivious video game addicts. Most magazines for girls are basically all dating advice, which boils down to how to catch quality guys, how to detect red flag behaviors, how to learn from the dating mistakes of others, how to have better conversations, sex, etc.
/r/seduction08/10/18 02:24 PM
1

Always be ready. Keep yourself primed. Keep this in mind to be ready for next time. And in the mea time, approach, approach, approach.
/r/seduction05/10/18 04:31 PM
1

Wear a shirt bedazzled with your prefs.
/r/seduction02/10/18 02:35 PM
1

Have more going on in your life. If you are doing so little that it's possible for you to sit around texting her all day, you don't have enough going on. Fill your day with things to make yourself better. Take a class. Learn some skills. Develop a project. Women will eventually lose their attraction for you if you are available for them all the time.
/r/seduction29/09/18 11:50 PM
2

Hah. Im all about connection, too. Also, I'm a weird one in that I've always had a ton more female friends than male. I hardly get along with guys. They bore me. I am endlessly interested in women. Connecting on a dance floor - I love finding places to take girls day-dancing or to contact improv jams - is sensual and emotionally connective. But I'll take your insight into account. Going to coffee, having an intimate, rewarding conversation can be enough. You don't always need to bring out all th…
/r/seduction28/09/18 02:03 PM
1

Of course it's a small part. But it's also about having fun and having fun experiences. I like to have fun, to do fun things and see if the girl can hang.
/r/seduction28/09/18 03:53 AM
1

? You've read the art of seduction by Robert Greene? It details how cleopatra seduced Julius Ceasar by showing him some incredible displays. "She relied above all upon her physical presence and the spell and enchantment which it could create. She came sailing up the river Cydnus in a barge with a poop of gold, while her rowers caressed the water with oars of silver which dipped in time to the music of the flute. [...] Cleopatra herself reclined beneath a canopy of cloth of gold, dressed in the c…
/r/seduction27/09/18 06:39 PM
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I disagree. Showing her an amazing time gives her a window into your life. She can see what life with you might be like. If you have an awesome life, an elaborate date like this is just including her in the kinds of things you regularly do. I personally think my life is awesome and I do tons of things with or without women. If they want to come along for the ride for a while, well, lucky them.
/r/seduction27/09/18 04:07 PM
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Just because your words strike a chord with a certain number in this sub doesn't mean it's the best perspective. Your main gripe seemed to be about physical attractiveness. If the guys approaching her wer hot, she wouldn't feel anxious, you seem to be saying. What a strange assumption. First of all, women are attracted to men for many more reasons than appearance. If you don't get this it means you are pretty new to game. An attractive creep just that. Sexy guys can be desperate, entitled losers…
/r/seduction22/09/18 11:50 PM
3

Of course they are actual people. I love people. I love women. Becoming intimate with others opens the door to their world and their reality. Sex itself if tiny. I think you are making an assumption that people here only care about sex. Sex is a window to another human being. People get more and more interesting the more layers come off - clothing, defenses, mental walls, and all. Most people here have that understanding or something similar. I love getting to know women. I love sex with them an…
/r/seduction22/09/18 11:31 PM
2

That's what it's all about - teaching empathy. :) it's really a skill that's necessary in every interaction, but just if you have romantic interests. This skill set, this sensitivity, has wide reaching effects.
/r/seduction22/09/18 10:15 PM
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Hey op. I understand your fear. However, the study of seduction means guys are training to do exactly the opposite of what makes you insecure and nervous. Seduction is about two main things. The first is getting incredibly tuned to the mood of women. This is called calibration. If we sense or notice that a woman is uncomfortable, we dial it back. We stay playful. We try to escalate, but only micron by micron. If you show slight discomfort at any escalation, we dial it back. This means we're able…
/r/seduction22/09/18 01:52 PM
1

OK another reminder that I need to just chill. Thanks.
/r/seduction21/09/18 03:50 PM
1

They are still shit tests. Every person in the world is interested in meeting people of value. If you can show you have value to them, theyll want to get to know you. Passing those tests is what shows how you aren't bothered and actually people with status and clout are constantly do it to each other just to make sure they stay sharp. Everything in life is a test and you probably test other people all the time without really even being conscious of it.
/r/seduction18/09/18 10:11 PM
1

They are incels because they are cowards, can't face rejection, and have given up.
/r/seduction18/09/18 04:42 PM
0

This is a seduction subreddit. All's fair in love and war.
/r/seduction16/09/18 11:17 PM
2

Keep it up. This is rad. It'll motivate others, too. I'm already feeling motivated to keep talking to people.
/r/seduction13/09/18 04:34 PM
3

Doesn't matter to me. It's all about our connection. The damaged goods attitude is a sign to me that the guy is, in my opinion, damaged goods himself. People are complex and have struggles. That doesn't ruin them and neither does them having previous joy. They have lived. They have enjoyed many experiences before. Just because a girl has enjoyed a thousand delicious meals before doesn't mean she and you can't enjoy a delicious meal together.
/r/seduction12/09/18 04:34 PM
6

You are not ugly and have great skin and youth. Those lips could drive ladies wild. Focus on style and confidence.
/r/seduction10/09/18 06:33 PM
1

Basically. The underlying logic is that you have sparked her curiosity. She actually wants to find out something about you, so you give her more info about who you really are beyond being entertaining, challenging, witty and all that. But if she answers questions I wouldnt say you are in c1. Answering questions doesn't mean yet that she's interested in you. She could be merely tolerating your questions. The hook point is the name for when you notice she's interested in you and wants to learn mor…
/r/seduction10/09/18 06:05 PM
2

When they hook. That's when you get solid feedback, in the form of a personal question, and so you know they are starting to get interested in learning more about you, about who you are. That's when the flashy fun and games stop and you can go intk deeper converaation. Realize that you can still go back to attraction if they lose interest. The mm3 mod doesn't have to be linear.
/r/seduction10/09/18 12:43 PM
1

This seems really tricky. I personally don't like the power dynamic of flirting with people who have to talk to you because it's their job. But I do try and chat with them in clever, fun ways simply to practice socializing. However, because they are required to talk to you, it's not a true test. I would definitely move on. In the future, simply talk to her in a fun, relaxed way. Keep approaching other people. Keep talking to strangers. Keep learning.
/r/seduction10/09/18 12:36 PM
2

Only snarky because you seem filled with self limiting beliefs that aren't doing you any good. Try dropping your ego, your defensiveness, and focus on learning / practicing. Obviously your current thinking habits aren't doing you much good. You simply don't realize how bored people are out in the world. People want to be talked to by others of value. That's the core reason being so many of our socialization rituals like bars, meetups, festivals, even at uni people want to meet that special someo…
/r/seduction08/09/18 07:05 PM
2

You've been reading this stuff for years but don't know about disqualification and other banter techniques to keep the power dynamic interesting? Flipping the script, screening them, getting them to hook? It really does sound like you haven't talked with many women. Women are starving to be approached. I say men get the better deal. Women are basically done by 35. We get to keep studying, studying, studying how to approach, get more attractive over time, and they "stay the same age."
/r/seduction08/09/18 05:21 PM
1

It's the right timing for university numbers when you are in a class together. Since you'll be in the same room an entire semester, you could look desperate going for a number first day. You also need to put more time getting them invested, to make sure they are into you, because a rejection could lead to semester long awkwardness. I've had so many horridly awkward uni experiences where I went too fast or got too excited, thinking a girl was into me when she wasn't.
/r/seduction07/09/18 01:14 PM
2

No. Disqualification is when you say something about yourself that disqualifies yourself from having a relationship with her. It would be like saying too bad I live with my parents and they don't let me talk to girls so I should probably get back to them or some other absurd thing, in order to push them away. Common disqualifies are like "I have a small penis," "I prematurely ejaculate," etc.
/r/seduction06/09/18 08:04 PM
2

Continue having a conversation. The woman will probably tell you her name. Then you can make an observation. You can use the FORD model of small talk, which is the easiest but gets a lot of people laid. It's where people not interested in adcanced seduction begin. There are many other techniques for conversation skills. Simply try. You'll probably fuck it up. That's a good thing because then you can try again with a different girl and see if you can go further in conversation.
/r/seduction06/09/18 06:07 PM
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Simply say hi, I don't think we've met before. I'm Ly. Continue from there.
/r/seduction06/09/18 03:43 PM
2

This seems like great advice. I've stopped approaching at my school because I have too many awkward people from previous semesters that I fucked up with. I've switched to events, shows, dances, etc. But I need to simply ignore that negativity, smile, and keep meeting people at my school.
/r/seduction06/09/18 03:42 PM
1

"The thing is, she is known to like sex." It's pretty much a universal for humans - as well as all of biological life - to like sex. The complications come in when you get to the who. People prefer to have sex with those they see as being above them. They'll also have sex for love, the thrill of conquest, to mitigate jealousy, out of a sense of duty, adventure, for barter and trade, for a simple ego boost, in order to manipulate or punish, or as medicine - for health. But most of the time, neste…
/r/seduction05/09/18 07:08 PM
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It's not just random though, because every time you get rejected 20 or a hundred times you get better. If you examine yourself, your timing, your neediness, you get better and better at the gamble. The better calibrated you get the more often you can get them chasing you, which is quite the opposite of a sex offense charge.
/r/seduction04/09/18 04:43 PM
0

Have the poly conversation early. I think it's the only way a real longterm relationship can work for me.
/r/seduction01/09/18 02:06 PM
1

If you only show that you care for someone by being jealous, that's an issue right there. I'm incredibly appreciative of my partners and tell them all the time, I pay attention to them, and simply say I'm glad they want to spend time with me but they are cometely free to do whatever they wish. I dont want control over people. If a woman wants to be with me, to spend time with me, I want it to be her choice and not because she feels compelled by some moral code.
/r/seduction31/08/18 06:33 PM
1

The most attractive thing in the world is being completely non-reactive. Become absent of jealousy and she'll stop with games and be the best she can for you. Jealousy is not attractive. Let her be her.
/r/seduction30/08/18 10:51 PM
3

*bored. Those spelling errors killing your game. ;)
/r/seduction23/08/18 05:37 PM
1

So you've approached five women in your entire life?
/r/seduction22/08/18 02:02 PM
1

You can be dangerous and open and honest at the same time. Really facing insecurities together can be exciting and terrifying.
/r/seduction20/08/18 07:09 PM
5

Nope. Those hot girls simply love to see how high value of a guy they can get. Dating pls give them the high of having an incredible amount of options.
/r/seduction17/08/18 03:33 AM
3

No kidding. How scared of pussy must you be if you can't even type it out.
/r/seduction07/08/18 07:08 PM
2

It's an easy test, I believe. All you do is taste your own pee. If it's sweet, you are diabetic. Your body is not absorbing sugars.
/r/seduction28/07/18 06:07 PM
1

Every day my goal is to meet at least one new person. Been at it about two years and I haven't missed many days.
/r/seduction25/07/18 11:25 PM
1

Oh that is fantastic. I can't believe I didn't think about that.
/r/seduction24/07/18 05:58 PM
1

Am I getting a bitter vibe off ya?
/r/seduction19/06/18 10:36 PM
1

This is my Instagram game, all yummy vegan foods and girls drool over it, hit me up, and ask me to make them food all the time. Definitely a good way to setup "come over for food and drinks" dates at my place.
/r/seduction19/06/18 05:21 PM
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You'd say "nope!"
/r/seduction15/06/18 04:42 PM
1

You are completely bizarre. Also, "alpha" is such a cheesy concept. There are always a multitude of sexual strategies. I've read the books and am super into biology, but you appear to be suffering from a serious lack of experience.
/r/seduction14/06/18 12:27 AM
1

How would they realize that, exactly? I have like 500 numbers but none of them would know.
/r/seduction14/06/18 12:18 AM
9

This appears to be written by a 6th grade girl.
/r/seduction08/06/18 03:05 PM
1

Wait, this girl says she's not attracted to you, then makes out with you, then says she wants to see you again, and you are bummed?
/r/seduction06/06/18 03:10 PM
1

I'm curious, as am American I can do British accents and Indian accents and Chinese accents. What happens if you try to do an American accent? Is it simply that there are subtleties you can't hit?
/r/seduction04/06/18 09:14 PM
1

If they are getting bored, that's because you are boring. Honestly, being human is fascinating and endlessly mysterious in itself. Philosophers and scientists and legions of really smart people have spent lifetimes trying to figure us out. You can be as honest and open as possible and still be a mystery. Read more. Find more angles. Being MORE honest and diving deep into your own psychology can make you even more mysterious.
/r/seduction04/06/18 07:48 PM
1

I try to put something extra identifying as their last name. I addition, at the end of the day I add all the people I've met each day (and I try to meet at least one person per day) in a file that syncs to my phone (I use Evernote). In that file I'll leave a brief description of them, the encounter, and what type of contact info we swapped (#, fb, SC, ig, etc). This way I can search and refresh my mind about who they are if I get messages after memory starts to fade or I bump into them again, wh…
/r/seduction31/05/18 03:30 PM
1

Exactly. To get a fuck buddy thing going you have to be patient and wait to see if the energy levels are similar. I'd wait for him to hit you up. BTW though, the response: "it's too late anyway" sounded like what it is: bullshit. It's obvious you were covering for the rejection. You are now the one chasing and he's the one in control.
/r/seduction31/05/18 12:36 AM
1

Most guys are creepy because they don't express intent. That makes them them confusing to women, the core of creepiness.
/r/seduction30/05/18 10:08 PM
2

You really can't use the unattractive excuse. In today's age, where most attraction is a good haircut, shave, and shoes, you're not unattractive - - you're lazy.
/r/seduction30/05/18 02:34 PM
2

This might be really dorky but early on in one relationship I texted a haiku. I said something like: How do you haiku? / Is it seven five seven / Or five seven five? And of course, that in itself is a haiku. If she's clever she'll reply with a haiku of her own. We did this for months back and forth. It was a really fun way to be smart, flirty, and sweet. Also, it's something you can always come back to.
/r/seduction28/05/18 04:33 PM
1

Aquire a girl? Very strange mentality there.
/r/seduction28/05/18 04:19 PM
1

Use this as a painful lesson to get the number next time. Even if it worked and you got a bite, it's a bad habit.
/r/seduction19/04/18 07:07 PM
3

Oh I just finished reading that book Attached, by amir levine, on attachment styles. Really useful for figuring out other people's styles as well as getting insight on my own.
/r/seduction09/04/18 07:42 PM
2

I think you appear stiff and uncomfortable in most of these. Then it goes to those group photos where you get lost in the crowd. I feel like you have something to hide, don't know yourself very well, and have some deep insecurities. And this was before I noticed all the alcohol.
/r/seduction03/04/18 07:20 PM
1

Love your I suck at texting site. I'm glad I'm not the only one. Lol
/r/seduction03/04/18 02:21 AM
1

Thanks for your well written, grounded responses as usual, banthas. I always appreciate your perspecives.
/r/seduction02/04/18 09:21 PM
1

I'd read Corey Wayne fast, his 3% book. You are basically fucked. The only way to maybe save anything is to walk away, get distracted, and at least pretend none of the behaviors faze you and then you are completely willing and happy to not be in her life. You need to put her on dead radio silence ignore for at least 30 days while you process. She is on way too high of a pedestal right now. If you fuck up and reveal that you give a shit and nd perfectly happy without her in your life, whoosh, she…
/r/seduction30/03/18 01:24 AM
2

I'm never afraid of saying I'm a very social person and make new friends every day.
/r/seduction30/03/18 01:07 AM
1

I think that was definitely a bad text. It shows that you are getting all blissed out on her, that she's becoming a huge part of your mind. After sex this is fine and cute but before, no. It's a red flag that you don't have much going on and will quickly become obsessed with her.
/r/seduction29/03/18 02:44 AM
1

Good question. I'd like to know, too and I've noticed it.
/r/seduction28/03/18 11:09 PM
3

She related a story about how someone was deceptive and manipulative. Your reaction to it revealed your moral core. She was testing to see if you were OK with people being deceptive. Hers was a good test, one which reveals a lot about the listener. Your reaction was to think in terms of jealousy plot lines when I see it more as an opportunity to connect deeper. Ie, I'd wonder how it made her feel to be deceived like that. I'd ask her how often she felt people had ulterior motives about her and i…
/r/seduction27/03/18 03:59 PM
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Hilarious that you see people's honest reactions as some sort of feminist conspiracy against your thinking. Maybe use this opportunity to re-evaluate your ideas and realize they might not be as well founded as you previously thought.
/r/seduction27/03/18 03:43 PM
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Did you watch her video? I listen to all sorts of people. It's pretty limiting to not listen to someone simply because you may not like their profession - that's the root of the ad hominem. I do mostly agree that women don't understand what it's like to be a guy, but that doesn't mean they have nothing to teach.
/r/seduction19/03/18 12:03 AM
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Tease it dood. Don't act bitter. Just say "oh that's cute that you like K-pop." be a little patronizing. Also what pua says be yourself? It's mainly called out as what it is, bullshit, and is the number one thing girls giving bad advice say to guys.
/r/seduction10/03/18 08:52 AM
3

You just totally opened my eyes to a different way of thinking about hooks - giving a little hint that makes her wonder. Super interesting. Awesome!
/r/seduction08/03/18 12:07 AM
1

Focus on your craft primarily. Work comfort. There's nothing more attractive to a woman than a man focused on his work, having a good time, being driven by their passion. They'll be intrigued and want to see the photos. They'll ask for your info. Once that happens you could say that you'd be interested in working with them again for another idea you fave brewing. Again, my problem is that I go easily to this and have a hard showing romantic intent. I end up having a bunch of attractive female fr…
/r/seduction02/03/18 02:26 PM
1

Yeah. I mean, if the club prevents you from using images you took on your own fb that's kind of a shit deal. You need some way that you can give girls your info so they can get in touch with you from the photos or else the deal sucks. Fb, the company web page, whatever.
/r/seduction02/03/18 02:31 AM
1

Tom torero kind of works this angle because he looks extremely odd and oldish, but I've heard from people that have seen him irl that's he's actually just really unphotogenic, something that is in fact an advantage when trying to argue that ugly guys can have game. But he only looks bad on cam.
/r/seduction01/03/18 10:40 PM
1

Usually THEY will ask for my fb because they want to see the photos. They'll ask. They'll message. Have an info card with your fb and number on it. Take photos of a lot of people. Eventually and actually pretty quickly you'll get a reputation for being a photographer. Girls message all the time for that. Then tell the ones thematic you remember, those that really captivated you, that you'd love to meet up and do more photos with them sometime if they are down.
/r/seduction01/03/18 02:57 PM
1

It's so easy. This was my game before I learned about pickup. You take lots of photos. Girls will approach you and ask where you are going to post them. Give em your fb. Make them look good in the photos. Cute ones you can tell that you want to do photoshoot with them. You'll have hordes messaging you shortly. My biggest issue was maintaining a romantic frame rather than her seeing you two as art buddies. I'm bored of photography right now but when I get interested again that's what I'm gonna wo…
/r/seduction27/02/18 11:46 PM
1

Thank God a lot of the male model guys are gay.
/r/seduction27/02/18 08:43 PM
2

Yeah exactly. I've had a blast with crazy girls. The challenge is a blast. Yes one ended with restraining orders but damn it was fun. It's good for learning skills on how to be more non-reactive so you can be better in other relationships.
/r/seduction25/02/18 03:51 AM
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Don't have any expectations. If the meetup goes off, have fun, slowly escalate, and calibrate. If she's into you irl you won't have any problems, but giving off the vibe that you have expectations can turn her off unless she's just as desperate as you.
/r/seduction22/02/18 08:40 PM
13

Not at all. Seduction is about flipping the script and getting girls to chase you. Studying this stuff gets you better at noticing subtle reactions and calibrating to that. I think the metoo movement is great and if less women are getting abused, it's better. It's a good thing that women now have an easier way of making uncalibrated guys suffer repercussions.
/r/seduction22/02/18 08:15 PM
1

Or short videos rather than pictures. Voice and video can transmit so much more info. It's gotta be the next thing coming.
/r/seduction21/02/18 05:01 PM
2

Don't drink don't mope don't obsess.
/r/seduction20/02/18 09:14 PM
3

Thanks for doing this. I thought it was a really good exercise and the debate surrounding has been informative, too. Maybe you could do a weekly?
/r/seduction20/02/18 08:43 PM
1

Tell her you are going to delete tinder and so if she wants to keep in touch, to text you. Leave your number. Then the ball is in her court.
/r/seduction13/02/18 03:03 PM
12

By the thick odors of desperation wafting off you in green cloudy waves, perhaps. ;)
/r/seduction13/02/18 03:12 AM
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I think I would stop, stare, make her feel like she'd asked a really stupid question, and move on. I mean, we are assuming our phone is cracked or not the latest model, is that it?
/r/seduction06/02/18 05:04 PM
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Or the boyfriend might like watching his gf fuck other guys. You never know. I was astounded when I read that he quit once she said "I'm looking for my boyfriend." I think I'm going to use that line on girls I'm making out with, though, to fuck with them, see how they respond, and spike emotions. Lol. "Kiss kiss. I'm looking for my girlfriend." I'd love to see how girls would react.
/r/seduction06/02/18 12:18 AM
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OMG I love the adorable girls at my school with hijabs. So mysterious. I totally want to get to know them but I'm unsure if there are cultural taboos against talking to boys. You've inspired me to try talking them up.
/r/seduction01/02/18 05:00 PM
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I love Ms manners! Such good advice. Really, being aware of manners and politeness is a great skill. It also has helped me open many women, because I can react in mock horror when they break small social rules. Seriously good stuff, she.
/r/seduction31/01/18 06:45 PM
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Like 4k. But also, you can put it on care credit. So really I could get it today but want to pay most of it in cash.
/r/seduction29/01/18 02:13 PM
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I'm saving up for Lasic at the moment.
/r/seduction29/01/18 04:00 AM
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Try and read the situation and give girls space BEFORE they have to say it out loud and they'll love you so much for it. When you were getting the "I wanna be alone" vibe, check your expectations and find something else to do. This is the best way to keep girls around and keep them in your life.
/r/seduction26/01/18 10:58 PM
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Sounds like the girls you've been with don't have much game. Girl-game is in figuring out how to keep a guy hooked to keep the guy addicted and coming back for more. Once you meet a girl like that, she'll give it to you but figure out a way to fuck with you, make you stay uncertain and deprived even though you "got" her. You'll realize that even in having her, you don't have her at all. Girls like this are amazing challenges. They'll cause you to go crazy in the best of ways. Girls are naturally…
/r/seduction26/01/18 09:58 PM
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I was on a date last night and, really topical for this thread, went off on a tangent about how I embraced boredom. I wasn't always like this, said I. At times in my life I would be proud of not being bored for, say, four three solid years. I started wondering about that. Why do I run from boredom? Why are we all so afraid of being bored? Why do we frantically try to escape it? So I decided to embrace boredom, to intentionally put myself in places with little to no stimulation - to face boredom …
/r/seduction24/01/18 05:03 PM
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I've always had the opposite problem, where I'm overconfident, walk like I own the place, and come off as cocky and intimidating. I think it's better to be seen as approachable and likable, something I've been trying to work on.
/r/seduction22/01/18 06:07 PM
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Lol. You answered what a hook point was and you don't seem to have grasped the concept. The hook point is early on in the interaction when you notice a girl has become attracted. Before the hook point you run pure attraction. There's a ton to do in attraction. You don't take them seriously. You demonstrate value in a bunch of different ways. You push and tease and pull. You piss em off and make em jealous. It's all about getting them attracted and the hook point is when you realize they are. Aft…
/r/seduction19/01/18 04:59 PM
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Option 6. Go poly. Have a whole harem house of partners with kids and lots of fun, love, and support.
/r/seduction18/01/18 04:27 AM
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One other thing that is important about sex is that it helps to embed preselection. Much of my game is based on creating jealousy plotlines in the scenes I'm a part of. When girls see that a lot of other girls are interested in me, that piques their interest. They wonder why Im not interested in them. Sex, for me, is more than a prize, it's a building block, it's part of the larger game, which is being involved a vibrant, creative community of playfulness, art, and sexuality.
/r/seduction17/01/18 07:21 PM
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You really got so much time. I'm jealous. I'm 33 and just discovered this stuff. Do the work now before alcohol destroys you and you'll be amazing by my age.
/r/seduction17/01/18 02:43 AM
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Definitely back off if you sense discomfort from her. Get your arm off her. That tells her that you are smart enough to detect her signals which will make her trust and like you more. Then you can try again later.
/r/seduction16/01/18 11:00 PM
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Good question. So I was I yoga today and the instructor gave some good advice. He said that meditating is about focusing on things that are real. You can focus on your breath, sounds going on in the room, scanning your body top to bottom, feeling your heart beat, locating feelings and energy in your body, things like that. I think this mindset can help in conversation because you focus on things going on at the time or what's being said in the moment. Those things are real. A lot of our thoughts…
/r/seduction16/01/18 10:19 PM
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Tell her your address. Say you aren't interested in her. Play the game harder than she's playing it on you. Then build attraction through the usual methods when she is over. If you fail at least you get practice.
/r/seduction12/01/18 06:40 AM
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You need the no contact rule hardcore. Also Corey Wayne. In the future you need more knowledge on relationship management. You gotta game your girl every day, even on your wedding day.
/r/seduction11/01/18 02:36 PM
1

What I'm gonna ask girls tonight: what does the tooth fairy do when she loses a tooth? I'm still pondering that one.
/r/seduction06/01/18 01:27 AM
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Figure out how to have after parties at your place.
/r/seduction03/01/18 09:28 PM
1

I've heard that you begin with attraction with every interaction, from the first day to your wedding day and beyond. You have to always remind women that they are attracted to you. You need to remind them that you are playful, teasing, happy, and high value. It's simply a part of life.
/r/seduction31/12/17 04:51 PM
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It's interesting thar your subject line is about your morals stopping you, then throughout your message you make no mention of morality at all. Its full of very different reasons that you have trouble with women. This tells me that on at least one level your thinking is unclear and you send mixed signals - even to yourself. I'd ask others in your life if this is something they've noticed because it could be a major sticking point that needs to be worked on.
/r/seduction31/12/17 04:17 PM
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Why are people so against this idea? One of the biggest recommendations for text game is to pepper communications with ping gifs. Seems like it would be a good idea to have a bunch of them on a thread to download. Sure, maybe the gif on the top isn't your cup of chai, but having a large collection of funny ping images would be valuable.
/r/seduction29/12/17 10:48 PM
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I guess I meant "he," the person in the video, which I suppose is you? Anyway, thanks for the distinction and the vid.
/r/seduction25/12/17 04:48 PM
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Cool. That's an awesome distinction to get.
/r/seduction25/12/17 02:28 AM
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Interesting he said the 10 minutes of foreplay does not include anything with penis or vagina. I always thought manual or oral stimulation was part of foreplay. He recommends kissing everywhere else, teasing, backing off, more teasing, making out, etc for 10 mins? Is that correct?
/r/seduction24/12/17 11:32 PM
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A large part of pua skills is about getting extremely calibrated to when girls aren't feeling comfortable and backing off, making them chase, moving on if you can tell she isn't interested, etc as a response. I think if more people learned these skills there'd be a lot less harassment. Guys harass women because they don't know how to get their needs met for female contact in any other way.
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:24 PM
1

Seddit is not a book. You are reading a subsection of a website.
/r/seduction16/12/17 07:40 PM
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Wrong. People aren't just nice. If she was repulsed by him she wouldn't have cared if he was depressed. Something about him charmed her, intrigued her.
/r/seduction13/12/17 01:18 AM
1

One of the biggest issues since I started was that I'm very recognizable and memorable. This means that people remember me a lot easier than I remember them. So often I am in the situation where the girl knows me but I haven't a clue or I'll mess up her name. I do a lot to try and get better. I write down everyone I meet every day. This has helped because I can quickly do a bit of research on someone if they feel fair. I try to focus on features, but girls remember me from over a year later afte…
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:02 PM
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Asking about your sexual and relationship history is great. I love this question. It gives you a chance to talk good about your exes, which shows that you are a normal, loving person who isn't going to turn into a demon. FIGURE OUT A WAY TO TALK WELL ABOUT YOUR EXES. I'd keep it vague, though, not too many details. The second thing it does is opens the door for you to ask her about her history, which is a great topic for insight on what kind of person she is. Further, this subject means you are …
/r/seduction06/12/17 06:36 PM
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This is a fascinating question and thanks for asking it. I'm going to do this for my writing exercise tomorrow.
/r/seduction05/12/17 03:33 AM
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Just get shandys or other kinds of drinks that are non-alcoholic. Seriously, being sober when everyone else is drunk as hell is like having a super power. It's so fun. You can do just about anything and nobody notices. I love it.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:16 PM
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I think there ARE differences and most people in this thread are ignoring it. They are saying, basically, act like a guy. Well I don't know if that works so much. I really liked this video on game for women: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDXQDpaIkQg I'd love to understand better how women try to attract men so I could get better at picking up their signals.
/r/seduction02/12/17 12:49 AM
1

What improv stuff do you watch before going out?
/r/seduction01/12/17 09:37 PM
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Seduction IS about playing games. Funny that the people responding so far think they are above it. This type of technique is how Napoleon was conquered, how nietzsche went mad, and how Ceasar became obsessed.
/r/seduction29/11/17 04:19 AM
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I had a girlfriend who told me she couldn't tell a guy's attractiveness until he opened his mouth. She seriously could not tell. This was a girl who was and is incredibly beautiful, anywhere we went the most important guys in the place would hit on her. They'd take her to islands, on yachts, and promise her everything. In other words she had a lot to choose from. (We were poly, btw.) This girl could not tell you what body type attracted her. Physical appearance meant almost nothing to her. So ye…
/r/seduction28/11/17 12:33 AM
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I do more than that. I write down everyone I meet as part of my daily writing practice. I'm only at like 70 lays though.
/r/seduction27/11/17 03:44 PM
1

Self qualifying states? What's that mean?
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:36 AM
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Go for a hike or something where you are actually out of service. It's a good test to. See if she's crazy or not. If she flips out and you have a completely valid truthful reason, she looks real bad. It should make her behave in the future.
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:35 AM
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It wasn't obvious clothes were on. You said full body flexing. I definitely thought you were nakie. Lol
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:43 PM
1

The screaming stuff can definitely poison a relationship, as it shows that you completely slipped out of your masculine frame and couldn't hold it together. Ultimately it shows that you are weak and not trustworthy. I've had relationships like that and I've never been able to recover from the poison.
/r/seduction17/11/17 04:21 PM
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I had a girlfriend who would always say this as a classic shit test to see how a guy would react. (We had an open relationship and she dated a lot and would tell me all about her strategies and that sort of thing). She didnt want to be with guys who also didn't want her as a friend. She was incredibly attractive and batted guys away like flies, and only those who could take her intense tests could last.
/r/seduction17/11/17 02:09 PM
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Ahhhhahahhhahahahahhhahahaaaa! Bullshit makes the flowers grow.
/r/seduction10/11/17 11:34 PM
1

You are a needy hypocrite, and in the world of love, the one who is less jealous is one who wins. Let girls be free and they will ultimately choose you. Realize that you can't own people.
/r/seduction10/11/17 09:25 PM
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Funny you ask. I think I actually got it from watching Road to Wellsville years ago. The idea of laughing for health and happiness has stuck in my mind ever since. Applying it to seduction, we're being magnetic and happy is part of the game, is what made me put it into practice. https://youtu.be/NWQ9iwXwEeA
/r/seduction10/11/17 06:34 PM
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I don't think you really learned seduction. You learned one technique, going cold, which made you feel in control. It seems like you are very scared to lose control. This seduction stuff, for me, is all about being a better person, being more present, being able to give more. It is not about being mean or making people feel uncomfortable. That is the opposite of what you want to be doing. You want to be a happy, fun, confidant enough person that you can give positivity to people who are closed o…
/r/seduction09/11/17 04:14 PM
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Campuses are interesting because you probably WILL see them again if you fuck up and make things weird. For this reason it's a lot riskier to go direct. Reputation is everywhere. I try to chat up a few people a day, little compliments, and get at least one new name with an attempt at a number per day. Even doing this and very casually flirting I have at least five or six girls that hate me because I was a little too forward. It's not bad but it sucks having that energy out there. But one per day…
/r/seduction08/11/17 11:13 PM
1

I agree. Yeah I'm an idiot.
/r/seduction05/11/17 01:19 AM
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Hmmm. I learned some amazing stuff from a girl I fell in love with. What she would do would be when the love in the relationship was rising, after some wonderful night she'd look at me, tell me how beautiful I was, get me really drunk on validation, and tell me she was happy and sad at the same time, sad because she knew that love doesn't last. She would tell me she had a switch in her and when it switched off, usually between 6 months to a year, she would feel nothing for me, absolutely nothing…
/r/seduction03/11/17 06:27 PM
1

Too late, but... "Bring a pencil"? Oh, like implying that she'll be taking notes of the conversation because she'll be so in awe / learning so much?
/r/seduction02/11/17 11:42 PM
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Oooh interesting. Excellent. I'll try that. Thanks!
/r/seduction02/11/17 06:46 PM
1

Just barely got: "I’m feeling pretty shitty today. Mind if we rain check?" Le sigh. Definitely kills the momentum. Anyone know a good flake template response? Lol
/r/seduction02/11/17 06:34 PM
1

Thanks so much for your listen and reply. When it's my own experience I can get way too into my own head and overthink when it should be just this simple.
/r/seduction02/11/17 04:55 PM
2

I'd add that phrase "why don't we swap details" is a good option, too. Much easier to comply rather than come up with a complex reason why not.
/r/seduction02/11/17 04:52 PM
1

I'm excited q
/r/seduction02/11/17 04:14 PM
1

It can get weird, though, depending on how unattractive the girl is. A girl came over a few weeks ago who straight up wanted to fuck, someone I knew like 8 years ago and was cute. Let's say she hasn't aged gracefully. I tried to have the "it's all for reference experience" and "stay practicing" mentality but couldn't go through with it. Definitely led to awkwardness. I'm thinking everyone needs some backup viagra for emergencies like this. I have two gfs and fuck them good and have never used th…
/r/seduction02/11/17 03:59 PM
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