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LOL! Good. Get out. If you need her to say sorry because someone else couldn't have the same decency that she did, and you think that you're somehow being a big man and standing up for them and the people affected by their negligence by removing yourself from the set list in protest of her DOING THE RIGHT THING... then you're just a fucking asshole (which we all already knew about Ye anyhow).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:24 PM
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Naturally hairless?!?! Sir. What you are looking for is a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:55 PM
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I am SORRY, did I read that correctly?! It is EXPECTED of her to do a nightly walk around and turn off all of the lights HIS lazy ass left on??? Fuck him. If he's paying the bills, leave them on. He can learn to turn them off after he's done using them, or he can make it his gorram nightly routine... Or he can literally pay the price. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 12:10 AM
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I'm teaching my 14 yo and she's been putting it to practice since she and her friends are at the stage to get interested in boys. She's been spreading her high standards for behavior with her friends too. Any boys that want to spend time with her if they try to put their hands around her before she wants them to she has the conversation with them about "You don't do anything to me without asking me first, and we don't move this relationship any further until I say we can. PERIOD." I love her to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:33 AM
16

"No time to get down 'cause I'm movin' up!" 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:35 PM
14

All of the nope. Especially just an hour? Absolutely ridiculous to expect that from anyone with a life. I have sh*t to do buddy, you can bloody well wait until I'm ready to respond before you start getting all insecure (or worse, maliciously manipulative) about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:49 AM
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I did say that if it worked for OP then that was perfectly fine, I have no qualms about their own personal preference on how they choose a mate. I did also state that it would make sense when learning of that familial situation to vet harder, so perhaps to consider it an orange flag and continue to look for the reasonings that are the actual red flags stated in the post. Again, here is my issue with this: Having a single mother does not necessarily dictate the way in which you are raised and the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:46 PM
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You'll have to understand that when you invite a discussion about a topic, people are allowed to disagree with you without it being considered standards shaming. You asked for opinions, you're getting them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:22 PM
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Here's where I think your logic has faltered. It is incredibly unfair and, in my opinion, low value behavior to make snap judgements about someone based on circumstances of their childhood that they have no control over. Yes, it should perhaps make you more wary, and make your vetting process longer and more rigid because you are aware that these issues are more likely to present themselves, but to say that having a single mother itself is the red flag is naive and untrue. Your "reasons" #1 thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:43 AM
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And the kind of ads!!! "Read this article about some porn star and how they say masturbating over Xmas holiday is important". Excuse the f- out of me? Ah yes, self-gratification, the true meaning of Christmas... How could I forget?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:00 AM
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Smashing the patriarchy is my kink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:43 AM
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🎶 "Be my own boyfriend" 🎵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:08 AM
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Aka trying to claim/control her without having to marry her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:48 PM
93

That's not a relationship, it's called dating. Edit to say: though after a certain amount of time I would even expect exclusivity in dating as well so....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 12:21 PM
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A friend of mine had a bumpy relationship. Sperm donor walked out the week before the baby was due. Originally the babe was going to take his name, but after that trauma, she gave the baby her family name (and good, because they are a prominent family in the area and as mentioned above she bloody well grew the baby and birthed him, she deserves to have her name attached to him). On her post of new baby pictures it was "Welcome baby First Middle Last" On his post it was "Welcome baby First Middle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:44 PM
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I had a fella once actually sound offended when I told him that when he met my dog, if the dog didn't like him, he was out. "What? You really wouldn't give me a chance just because the dog doesn't like me?" Yes. Yes sir. I would say sorry for your time and better luck in the future, but this dog is my family and he was here first. This is his home and you will not encroach on his territory if he does not like you and does not want you here. Not to mention if my dog doesn't trust you, I believe i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:07 PM
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LOL! I saw something about this posted elsewhere related to something "cringe", because the post was referenced in a mod sub and they had basically said they they would ban anyone posting comments dissing modding as a "career" because basically they're all mods and won't have it in their discussion. I get it, it's difficult, it takes up your time and energy and it isn't easy. And especially here in this sub, goodness gracious do I ever appreciate the work that the mods do. But it is not a job, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 02:32 PM
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For real though, it's not out of the realm of possibility for women. My NVX would get upset if I tried to service myself after he finished because "it made him feel like he didn't please me. I was obviously just doing it to try to hurt his ego. Why would I purposely offend him like that when he's just trying to relax after enjoying his nut?". Like... No buddy, I'm not trying to make you feel bad about it, I'm just trying to get the job done that you failed to do. Not because you suck at it neces…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:33 PM
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Am I the Unwashed A-hole? Lol. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:55 PM
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You are so welcome. Therapy has helped me muchly and anger is an emotion I struggle to express. Lol. Other things might help too, like using art supplies in some way, nature (throwing rocks into the river when I'm angry sometimes helps), or utilizing whatever your own urges are in some creative way. I really hope you feel better soon, and can leave this yeah man and all thoughts of him where they belong. 🗑️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:06 AM
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I think it is perfectly normal to feel this way. You had your dreams and expectations ripped from you and given to someone else, of course you are angry and feeling vengeful! However, you are definitely right in blocking, deleting and ignoring, it isn't worth your time and effort to involve yourself in whatever they have going on. Let them have their day that you planned. Let him live life with YOU 2.0 because he can't have the real thing (I find it funny and kind of sad when they do that). As m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:02 AM
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I had a casual hookup ONCE in my life. Never, never again. Worst jackrabbit speed humping I've ever had in my life. I cannot imagine any woman going out and trying on multiple partners who are all also just in it to get their rocks off who would actually have A) any idea how to please a woman because they've learned everything they know from shitty p0rn, or B) any intention of putting effort into trying to please her anyways because they're really only here for themselves and their pleasure in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 04:05 PM
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I am really glad to hear that she seems to be doing better now. Ugh, I know many many men that will willingly use their children as a weapon of manipulation. It's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 10:25 PM
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Too bad she didn't get that phone call recorded. I feel like if you showed that evidence in court it would show him as an unfit parent! "I didn't feed them at all because I don't know what they like to eat." Holy cow!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:23 PM
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This one makes me pretty uncomfortable. I feel like it's almost, if not all the way crossing the line into victim blaming. There is a vast power and control imbalance in toxic and abusive relationships, and there is a reason that they are incredibly difficult to leave. There is more often than not underlying issues that the mother struggles with and that the father is taking advantage of. Yes, it is horrible and a struggle and I thank goodness every day that I managed to escape mine by the time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:13 PM
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Hard nope! My partner and I have had this discussion, it is a healthy relationship discussion, it is not a loaded question. His response is and has always been that if he ever felt the urge to cheat, then there is something going on in the relationship that needs to be addressed first, and if it needs to be ended then so be it, but it will be ended before he ever considers chasing or engaging with another woman out of respect for me and the partnership that we have. End of story. Full stop. This…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:57 PM
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I definitely still struggle with this and I'm happy that my partner, while willing to validate me from time to time, also tries to encourage me to be able to do that for myself. I don't remember what exactly we were talking about, but a few days ago I said something along the lines of "Yeah, because I'm awesome at _____!" and then looked towards him as if to say "Right?". He looked at me and told me that if I'm going to say something like that I should say it with confidence. I don't need him to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:25 PM
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Or they just go in with the heavy-handed finger pounding like that's in any way desirable. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:32 PM
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Can't wait to hear all the men picking up this story and saying "REEEEEE!!! What about my rights?!?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:54 AM
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Is he peeing? Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:50 PM
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Praise this woman! She speaks truths! 🙌 Lol. I bet the men are so mad about it. XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:36 PM
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Sir, you need to calm down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 11:59 AM
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I have four family members who work in the medical field (midwife, nurse, lab tech, medical secretary/reception), and they've all had to be cautious and respectful of the rules and regulations set in place during this pandemic, not just at work but in their daily lives because they can't risk anything because of their line of work. It's been a long, and difficult, and exhausting trial for all of them. I find it so ignorant and unfair and unsympathetic and infuriating of those people who still wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 11:40 AM
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Lol. Omfgoodness at the bleach enemas. 🤣 And I can't believe how much worse it's gotten with horse dewormer and onions??!? I just can't with these people. I barely talk to my dad any more because he's one of them. He thinks the vaccine is poison and made by the gov't to make the population sterile. Like what? 😆 Where do you pick this sh*t up from? I agree wholeheartedly. I could never consider being with or around anyone that could be this callous with the lives, or the health, or the security, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 11:21 AM
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Chef's kiss I love everything about this and I'm adding it to my toolkit. Too many times do I find myself going over conversations for days afterwards thinking of what I could have said to make them understand and behave better when this really just does all that and saves me the headache of mincing my words after the fact. Beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:41 PM
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😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:36 PM
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But why didn't you just leave her? Did you try communicating with her? What did you do to upset her so much to make her react that way? How was this whole situation actually your fault bro?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:14 PM
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I see what you're saying here. It's like (most of) the lyrics in Dolly Parton's 9 to 5 song "They just use your mind and they never give you credit", "Want to move ahead but the boss won't seem to let me, I swear sometimes that man I out to get me", "They let you dream just to watch them shatter, you're just a step on the boss man's ladder". She knew what was up. They know what is up. They think it's a man's game and they want to keep it a man's game because they like that feeling of financial p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:21 AM
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Gotta make their money out of it first... 🙄🤑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 11:50 AM
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I am so proud and happy for you. My train trip across country to get away from him was one of the scariest things I ever had to do, but it was the best decision of my life. You deserve all of the good things my dear, and now you'll have the chance to get them. I wish you the best! All my love! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 11:43 AM
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My partner and I have decided that we're both changing our surnames to something new, and if my daughters wish to change their names as well they can (or they can keep my family surname, we're leaving that decision up to them). We haven't chosen the name yet, but I'm excited to. Neither of us have strong ties to our lineage, and think the patriarchal passing of the name and the dominion over wife/removal of her identity is silly. If we're going to start a new family together, we'll do it with a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 08:21 PM
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The answer is in the title. It is a beauty pageant. Yes, over the years they have added the flavour of giving the girls personality and character and doing good around the world and scholarships and blah blah blah. In the end, it's all about "look at the slabs of pretty girl meat and tell me which you think is the prettiest so we can put a shiney crown on top and call her a winner so all the other girls in the world will see what we approve of and will try harder to be more like this pretty meat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:11 PM
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I haven't done research on it yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:44 PM
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Yeah, I'm assuming that covers the whole program of _ number of sessions... but it's certainly out of my price range for now. My mom was one of the people talking to me about it and was thinking maybe we could pull together from different family members or start a go fund me or something. Lol. Would be worth it if it worked. Apparently one of the guys (and his family, and his therapist) on the podcast said it was like years worth of therapy shortened into three months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:16 AM
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There was a podcast on CBC radio the other day (Canada) discussing new research/medical observation of ketamine in guided therapy. I haven't listened to the podcast myself yet, but two people who know me and the trauma I've been through recommended I listen to it. Apparently quite expensive ($4000-5000 or so), or alternatively the one hospital doing the free trials has a long waiting list. I would be interested to try, but I wouldn't want to without a professional on hand because I don't think I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:59 AM
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Especially during this pandemic screen time has been the way to go. I originally met my partner through OLD and we were across the country so screen time was all we had. I preferred it that way really because I had just come out of my abusive relationship and preferred any men I was dating to be at arm's length until I allowed them to be closer. Eventually it all went well and he moved here to be with me, but I think a video chat or even an old school phone call to see how they converse with you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:37 AM
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I love this so much and I am so happy for you. After years of trauma I'm still working on my healing and really figuring out who I am again, but I really hope to get to this point. I want to find that passion that I can use to go out and make a living off of and actually be a functioning member of society. Right now I just feel like a burden on my family because I'm trying to fix what men broke in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:42 AM
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"Maybe if girls didn't act like -insert derogatory term here- they wouldn't get treated like sh!t" Ladies start leveling up and not letting men get away with treating them like garbage "No, not like that!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:14 AM
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I love this so much. You deserve so much more than someone who "needs space to think about it". If it's been this long and he still hasn't figured it out, then it's his loss. And boy is he ever going to find out what he's lost. I would just love to see his reaction when you don't do the typical picked me thing and fawn all over him until he takes you back. XD Can we get updates of him tripping all over himself when he realizes he effed up? Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:06 AM
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The Least That She Deserves - Jill Barber I mean, a lot of her songs are romance in a bottle, but the main line of this one goes: "So give her all your love, and empty your reserves, for all the love you have to give, is the least that she deserves."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 06:24 PM
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Good for you! Good gracious, I cannot believe what men think they can continue to get away with. We're on to you boys... Get gud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:09 AM
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Yeah, sorry. I take care of my own mental health, not anyone else's. I didn't go to school for that, it's not my job, not in my wheelhouse, you are not my child, it is not my job to raise you into a functional adult. Thx bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 11:29 AM
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I find travelling with someone a good (later) vetting strategy regardless. Whether it's by road, bus, train, plane... How prepared are they? Do they over/under pack? Do they expect me to handle all the plans/itinerary? How do they handle the stress of organizing accommodations? How do they deal with unforseen hitches in the plans? How do they treat staff and attendants? It's all part of the bigger picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:11 AM
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Wow. Yeah, that tracks loud and clear for my NVX. To the point where he wanted the kids to be trained in "self soothing" (I called bullshit and would have none of it, I will NOT let my months old baby scream themselves to sleep) and yet would need the entire household's attention and even his mom down the road whenever he had a problem. Such an adult crybaby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 09:36 AM
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Some days I just want to set the world on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:08 PM
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The hand slinging mixed with the side to side sway is very common threatening posturing from guys who think they're "thug" "street" "gangster" what have you. Definitely a red flag for abuse to come. Mixed with him saying "do what I tell you" and his aggressive tone? Avoid this one like the plague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:14 PM
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Lmao! Angry bird. 🤣 I am ded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:10 PM
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(He secretly wants to be with a man and is angry at his internalized homophobia)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:08 PM
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RIP. 💀 Hahahahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:27 AM
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He's right, it does make him look dumb. Because while he is happy to continue not understanding what a word means you are trying to educate yourself. Being smart isn't about knowing all the things, it's about realizing you don't know something and looking for the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:54 PM
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Louder for the ones in the back! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:42 PM
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They think they're sounding generous. They know they're taking advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:31 AM
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He said he wasn't looking for a relationship. If you are enjoying the dates as fun, platonic, friend dates then have at 'er. I wouldn't have traded a kiss for a date in the first place. You gave him an in to keep getting your attention without requiring the commitment because he told you to your face that's not what he wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:52 AM
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Oh my love! I feel for you and I understand. You are certainly not alone in these feelings and thank goodness you've found us early on in your life. It took me a decade long abusive relationship to learn these lessons so hopefully you can learn from mine instead and take much less time and heartache. Therapy. It will be the first thing I recommend 'til the cows come home because even if you didn't have a particular issue to work on, having someone who is schooled in human psychology to help you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:43 AM
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I see you, and I'm there with you. I want you to know that I love the you that is inside whether you are in the light or in the dark, achieving a lot or just a little, the you that feels the feelings and sees through your eyes is worthy and beautiful without any description of outward value. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:20 AM
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This is a really important one for me, especially because I have a lot of residual insecurities left over from past abuses (I'm working hard on it). In a weaker moment, I asked my partner what would happen if he met the most perfect woman he ever could imagine. The most attractive and intelligent and funny and inspirational and kind-hearted woman ever and she wanted to be with him... What would he do? He told me that he would tell her that in an alternate universe, or another lifetime it might h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:04 AM
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I'm a little surprised at the downvotes you're getting in your comments. Just letting you know I admire your openness and honesty even though you know your type of libido may be frowned upon here. I generally have a high libido. It is starting to wane a bit in my older years (35! I'm over the hill in scrote opinion!), but even still it's higher than my partner's. Now that I'm with someone I trust it's not as much of an issue, but I agree with your sentiment, the space between my NVX and my curre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:00 PM
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Why the downvoting for honest questions? Goodness! This is how we learn the things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:06 AM
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Wow, what a read. Thank you OP. And thank you to all those sharing even more from personal experience in the comments. I can fairly say this was almost exactly my experience with my NVX to the letter. It's almost retraumatizing to see it labeled as being a "supply" but I can really understand why. I know that I probably still send off a lot of these signals, but life lessons learned and lots of therapy my whole self is getting ever stronger and I know where my boundaries are. Goodness help the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:20 PM
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I wouldn't lose all hope. It took me over a decade but I found the strength to pull through and figure it out eventually. Now it's been nearly 6 YEARS!! (in Oct) since I've been free. The best you can do is tell her you will keep being there for her for as long as it is healthy for you to be. Keep pointing out when his behaviour isn't okay and slowly it will chip away at whatever voice in her head keep making up excuses for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:56 PM
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Congratulations! 🥳 Oh how I remember that feeling. It is so good. You are doing the right thing for you and for your son by showing him how to show respect for yourself and others and it is only going to get better. We love you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:33 AM
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There was a comment on one of the pictures of a plane of mostly men leaving Afghanistan asking about the ratio of men to women escaping, and someone responded to it with something along the lines of "but imagine how guilty they must feel". Please. Imagine a world where feeling guilty and ashamed of yourself for running away is worse than the pain and suffering your women and innocent children will have to go through. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:00 AM
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I bet he came home from work to her showing him what she posted on Facebook today, so proud of herself and how much she loves him and he just shrugs and rolls his eyes at how vapid and incompetent she is. Then tells her to go make dinner and goes and puts his feet on the coffee table while he watches TV, let's his two kids scream their heads off in the next room while he texts his more interesting side chick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:41 AM
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Preach! Hard lessons and wake up calls are the only way I think. I mean a large portion of us are here because we had to learn the hard way from our pick-me ways. I spend a long time feeling "woe is me" about the abuse I allowed myself to suffer, but in the end I told myself that I wouldn't give up the lessons I learned for anything and now there's nobody that will push me down or take advantage of me again. She'll figure it out... Or she won't. Either way, it won't be your problem any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:57 AM
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Ugh, this gave me the chills. That is some dangerous thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 12:29 PM
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Women are life givers, we create it inside of us, we feed new life from our bosoms, it only makes sense that a Great Goddess would give birth to this Earth and all things on it. That she would release her waters to give all plants and animals their basic needs. I suppose they are just jealous that we get to have the power of creation, so they created a male God to live vicariously through. I always thought it to be strange that most of the human race didn't end up as a matriarchal society. It ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:09 PM
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Condoms = oppression. Dear goodness, this is the hashtag mefirst of first world problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:46 AM
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I mean, the man speaks truths. I do wonder though what we're now meant to do with this information. Vet ruthlessly always of course, but is this a biological issue or a societal one? And how do we fix it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:37 PM
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I would highly recommend if you feel the need to preface a statement with the "maybe I'm insensitive but" disclaimer, you should probably take a minute to think about why you already understand it could be insensitive, who the people that may be sensitive to it are, and why and how they might be sensitive to it. And then decide if you really want to hurt those people. Just try reading it again but imagine you were someone who has gone through or is going through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:40 PM
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As someone who deals with mental health issues and anxiety, I wouldn't have even mentioned it to anyone that my order was wrong and I was too afraid to say anything. The amount of SHAME that I would feel, asking someone I'm trying to date to handle the situation FOR ME???!?! I'd be so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. My NVX used to get me to make all his phone calls and appointments for him because he said he didn't like talking on the phone. They'll make up any excuse they can just to pass th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:08 AM
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Poor thing, he's just suffering from his internal misandry. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:59 AM
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Ugh, I'm so sorry to hear that. I had the same thing happen over a year ago where I found an old friend and it was awesome for a little while because he hid his intentions and I (naively) assumed that he wouldn't try anything because I have a BF. Nope! Surprise surprise at some point the scrote turns from regular conversation to flirting, and after a couple of times of him trying to weasel his way into my pants I just all caps said "I DON'T WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU!" and then blocked him and never…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:38 AM
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Amazing post, such good information. So many people wouldn't consider this when you bring up abuse but it's true! And a reading recommendation to boot. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 12:12 PM
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Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:40 AM
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Dodged a bullet. Good riddance. 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:03 AM
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Thank you, this made me laugh, and is what I will now imagine any time I have a flashback to lighten my own mood a bit. You have given a great gift today. <3 Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:40 PM
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I struggle with this idea so much. I have a combination of mental illnesses and even though I am working my best to sort them out, it still feels like I couldn't possibly be HV ever because they will always be holding me back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:35 AM
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👏Bravo to that last paragraph! Hit the nail on the head. 🔨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:17 PM
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"Once she tells you what her boundaries are, be sure to step back and erode them slowly, exerting more pressure until you've violated her wishes entirely."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:41 AM
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I thought I read somewhere (it could be wrong, this is the internet), that the symbol wasn't even intended to make fun of d*ck size, it's about how much women are getting paid. But of course scrotes think it's all about them, and want to make it an attack on their masculinity as opposed to it being about women getting fair pay. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:53 AM
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My fella did exactly that. Admittedly I should have waited longer after my abusive NVX before getting back into dating, but I didn't know better yet. I definitely had some "bar is in hell" moments where I would glorify sometimes the most basic things like respecting my privacy etc. simply because it wasn't what I was used to. He actually sat down with me and had a serious conversation about me putting him on a pedestal and how it wasn't how things should be, nor what he wanted from me. He's help…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:09 PM
14

Omg, I was already rolling my eyes so hard my retinas are going to detach, and then I noticed there were more slides. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:40 PM
101

Ah yes. How dare she point out that what they're saying is wildly inappropriate? Evil women always trying to show everyone how you're making yourself look bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:59 PM
27

🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:44 AM
27

"Fems". 🤮 I want to live in the same alternate universe as this guy. Where I can be my true feminine self, a creature of darkness, 1000× stronger than any man, simply fulfilling my evil agency (as is my nature) without ever feeling shame or unworthiness. Where the only negative thing I have to worry about is physical violence (obvi not an issue, because I'm 1000× stronger than them). Where feelings will ALWAYS be worse for men, and I could cut them down with words alone. I will become a differen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:31 AM
55

It's all the childbirth the men have been doing. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:19 AM
8

Much love to the mods! ❤️🥰💕 You are SO appreciated!!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:40 AM
5

Wait... You mean you didn't bring your OWN food to this dinner party??? How silly of you! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:58 AM
22

How absolutely awful. Throw out the whole man the second he makes ANY jokes a) about her deceased mother?!?! Wtf is wrong with you??? And b) about the strain your gorram wife went through to bring life to this world. Holy heck. It makes me want to burn the whole planet down. And the mum! What an enabler! Absolutely horrible!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:42 PM
18

Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:54 PM
21

Previous to my coming across FDS, but after I escaped my abuser. "I've Got Issues" drives me up the effing wall. Yeah, let's just glorify toxic and abusive relationships. It's totally okay that you punch holes in the wall because nobody's perfect. Tee hee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:18 PM
43

"I'm not crazy about reality, but it's the only place to get a decent meal." - Groucho Marx On the flip side, the sooner you find out whether or not they'll end up disappointing you, the sooner you can stop wasting your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:58 PM
24

And the amount of cleavage that it was??? Can we just talk about how in fashion these days it is difficult to get a T-shirt or tank top that doesn't show this amount of skin. Good thing this poor girl didn't have D's or she'd have a lot more to show and it would be nearly impossible to cover up without wearing a gorram turtleneck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:28 AM
63

Nevertheless, she persisted. 🙌♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:01 AM
5

Lost me at "A dashing, athletic, loveable rogue". Sir, this is not a Disney movie I expect you to be realistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:03 AM
6

My dad is definitely misogynist, as well as racist (sh-t talks immigrants even though his whole family immigrated from Serbia when he was a child), follows all of the right wing propaganda and conspiracy theories, thinks Covid is just a flu and the vaccine is poison, was an absentee or at best an every other weekend dad, I could go on. I feel like I could be a case study for how parental behavior and societal conditioning lead to abusive relationships. Add to that a genetic predisposition for ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:15 AM
2

Always the most important thing is to make sure you're taking care of yourself through this. I thank you SO much, from the bottom of my heart, for doing the work that you do. You are much much stronger than I. Taking a stand against the depravity of men takes a lot out of us. I know I personally can only reply to misogynist posts or comments every so often and it is completely draining. I know that most of the time it's not worth my time and energy, but other times it feels like I have to say so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:03 AM
1

I am all for this, it sounds amazing. I do however wonder why the creator of this TikTok has a job at Hooters if she has problems being ogled. Her choices of course, I'm not going to judge, just why would want to leave the man-free gym and go feel objectified at work???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:13 AM
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The second one is my absolute favourite. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:49 PM
89

The worst part is you know he's looking for pity because "she took all the things and left him with nothing!" Cry me a gorram river, you can bet your booty that she bought every single decorative and functional thing in that place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:53 AM
180

Gosh, this makes me so mad I can feel my heart thudding in my chest and the heat rising in my cheeks. I would genuinely punch this man in the face. How dare he at all make any effing comments about her body and make her feel the need to diet and exercise while she is busy caring for a newborn!!! And then have the gorram audacity to complain that she's now too thin! Ugh! I just can't... I can't fathom or understand the selfishness of these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:54 AM
74

🤣 It is such a strange thing to feel so frustrated & angry with, and yet feel so sorry for these women as well. Like geez girl, I hope you wake up soon and stop letting people trample through your body and treat it like garbage for their own good times. Sorry about that ignorance though. Tell me more about how pandering to male fantasies has made you grow anything but backwards sexually as a woman. I feel like real sexual empowerment for me is having my body treated with the reverence and admira…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:08 AM
224

Yeah, I suck d*ck for free, because it is only one d!ck, attached to a human that loves and values me, I don't have to be paid for it, because I only do it when I want to, and the best part is I can stop or say no at any point in time and not be forced into degrading myself just because money changed hands. I feel like this is a better deal overall. Also, wouldn't it be more sex positive to enjoy giving and receiving oral, than to do it whether you want to our not because it's your job??? Sounds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:32 AM
6

I am fluent in all of the love languages and I speak them to my lover, my family, & my friends ALL THE TIME but in different ways for each person. If a fella can't keep up, then it's about time he learns 5 new languages. In all honesty, my partner's skill at physical touch was ABYSMAL when we got together, but because he knows it's important to me (2nd love language) he's been making so many efforts throughout the day to give me hugs or pet my hair or kiss me or rub my arm or just rest his hand …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:57 AM
49

I struggle with this one, not on Facebook (good gracious, the things people will plaster in a public forum) but in my everyday life with my partner. I am aware that a lot of my apologizing and self depreciating comes from my past abusive relationship, but it's taking a lot of work for me to finally see that just me existing is not a problem and that the struggles and bad days I have are not to be "put up with" but to be shared with me. I need to be given space for that so I can heal from such a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:59 AM
11

I definitely have the same issue of self worth, and I wonder if (not making any assumptions about you) there might be something from your childhood or life experience that is triggering these feelings when you find someone you think is finally worthy of your attention. I know that my childhood trauma and past abusive relationship have trained me to be this way, and I think I just made a key breakthrough this week that is going to help me with it. Sometimes digging into the past can help us find …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:44 AM
8

Came here to ask the title & artist of the song. Found it! It's added to my playlist, thank you! ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:27 AM
7

I really hate the "attention wh*re" or "needy" label. My NVX would call me those all the time when really I was just asking for basic needs, affection, or acknowledgement. You bought tickets to the me show pal, sit down and pay attention or gtfo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:43 PM
52

One thing is to start giving that validation to yourself. When you're wearing and outfit that is 🔥 look in the mirror and tell yourself "damn I look fine in this!", when you're walking down the street think to yourself "Wow, I hold myself with such confidence, if I saw myself on the street I would want assume this chick has it all going for her", when you're looking out the window in the car, catch your reflection and think "What a beautiful face and such soulful eyes. I'm gorgeous and I don't c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:47 AM
72

Can someone find the "You exist for us" topic for another day??? XD I really want to hear more of what this woman has to say. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:28 AM
11

Well said! 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:47 AM
7

Somewhat similar feelings here, but it was just one man that took 13 years and my sense of self from me. I've been in 4 years of therapy over it, and I can tell you that it's not an easy process. One thing that kind of help me was to finally name that feeling as grief. I didn't realise that the feeling that I was struggling to get out was really mourning the death of everything I could have had and who I could have been by now. It still comes back from time to time, and I let myself have a good …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:13 PM
2

I... I just can't. What kind of a$$ backwards brain do you have to have to think that being a personal maid constitutes as a date. I can just imagine the guy in his own head thinking about how he didn't even have to give her mediocre s* x first to convince her to be his kitchen b*tch (or bathroom, what have you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:28 AM
43

That is genuinely terrifying. It's no wonder they're capable of such horrendous acts against us. I wonder if whatever experiment concluded this was around back in the day (or even now for some people, let's be honest.) if white men would see black people as objects as well. I would happily bet every penny in my bank account the result would be the same. How are they such heartless monsters?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:08 AM
14

It's already on my empowerment playlist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:15 AM
24

This is so important!! Learning to no longer stifle my anger has been a HUGE part of my therapy and healing journey. I'm so much happier now that I can allow my voice to be heard. It's not even just the abusive men... Society has trained women that anger is an unseemly emotion for her to have. Anger serves a purpose, anger lets you know that your boundaries are being crossed, anger is your animal instinct protecting you from danger. LISTEN TO IT. Live it. Let that anger drive you to defend yours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:25 AM
1

Interesting... Because between my partner and I, I happen to have the higher libido and I seem to be able to refrain from cheating or obsessive daily porn use. Hmmmmm.... Head scratcher. It's almost like my choices are my own and not his fault for not "putting out" for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:41 AM
12

It's a whole aura, I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:58 PM
28

I love that you brought up the inner child. Get back to who you used to be, and what you used to love before the patriarchy got its claws into you!! ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:56 PM
6

I struggled with that a lot when I was still in my relationship, especially because my abuser would trash talk therapy and would convince me I didn't want to go see a therapist and they are all quacks that just want to make money off of me. Even once he did allow me to go, he would villify the therapist and say they would try to blame him for everything (surprise, they'd be right), and basically gave me scripts of what was "appropriate" to tell them, as well as threatening me after every abuse e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:51 AM
11

The moment he said her morning sickness is lasting "way longer than it should" I could discredit any opinion he had after that. There is no effing SHOULD when it comes to pregnancy. Your wife is having an immensely difficult time and all you can think about is how it makes you feel?! I agree with OP and simply cannot believe the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:46 PM
9

It took me over a decade to figure this out on my own with regards to my ex. Boy oh boy do I ever wish I'd had FDS to lay it out for me so simply back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:08 PM
26

AaaaaAAAaaaaAAAAaaargh!!!! What the actual EFF??!? But they'll send girls home to change.for wearing spaghetti straps?!!??! I cannot contain my indignant rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:29 AM
35

Make sure to be cautious of wearing it out in extreme weather (cold or hot). Quick temp fluctuations will make an opal crack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:31 PM
8

Good for you! Glad he's an ex, that sounds absolutely insufferable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:09 AM
17

Oh gosh I love a good bassy voice. 😍 Avi Kaplan from Pentatonix type bass. I need a voice that rumbles right down to my loins!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:05 AM
13

If my husband ever said "How long is this going to take, I have plans" I would tell him his plans better involve getting his buddies to help him move all his shit out of my house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:51 PM
4

Fantastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:09 AM
152

I absolutely love using "the male person" instead of his name. I've been at a loss for what to call my ex, to others and with my daughters that he took no part in. It disgraces my lips to let his name pass through them and I hate to call him their father or dad because he never earned the title. I may use this from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:56 PM
13

Man, this struck my funny bone the right way this morning. I had a good laugh. Fantastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:53 AM
4

Saving this one for next time a scrote tries to use this faulty logic at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:43 AM
3

Very well put. 🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:20 AM
34

I read this out loud to my 13yo. (Starting her on the path to queendom early) and her response is "Get TOLD bitch." 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:07 PM
8

Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:21 AM
24

That part about "if I could just love them a little harder maybe they'll love me back" hit home big time for me. I've been that way since before I can remember, it's no surprise I ended up getting myself into bad relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:19 AM
33

This is exactly how my abusive ex behaved when he realized he was loosing his grip on me and my "sister-wife" as I now lovingly call her (he had us pitted against each other in the same home while being with both of us). We were starting to talk to each other and realizing his lies and manipulations and he got way worse before we both made it to a women's shelter. It's strange to watch, but with both of us more informed you could really see that it was a panicked power grab.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:56 AM
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That is so infuriating and disingenuous. It would be nice for someone to have our backs for once and actually speak the truth on what we're about and how helpful and supportive this sub is. It makes me sad and so very angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:00 AM
81

I just commented on one there today titled "this was written by a girl" or something to that about how HARD it is for men out there because they have to be decent humans and they have standards of behavior. I broke down why it was wrong in the most calm and rational way I could. I expect to get downvotes to hell, but let them. I said my piece.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:48 PM
7

I'm there with you sis. What my ex has cost me in damages, hours of therapy, killing my credit by putting bills in my name and not paying them, etc., I would have all his cash for life. I'd have to split it with my sister-wife though, and considering he's broke and leeching off a new girl, I can't imagine it would be much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:42 AM
5

Oh my gosh.... I know these guys are LV/NV but good gracious it just goes to show how little the actual DATE part of the date means to them. Just gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:00 AM
17

Someone pass the brain bleach... 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:56 AM
3

Lost me immediately with bad grammar/punctuation/spelling. If you're too lazy to type "y-o-u", I don't have the gorram time for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:00 PM
24

And the ad even has a wholesome award?!? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:56 PM
25

In contrast with the Tiktok challenge when you see a man tell his gf that he'll say yes to her all day and all she wants is to get food and go to Target and spend some time watching a movie with him. It's intended to be an "I love you let me do everything nice for you today" instead of "be my slave and let me humiliate you". He really is a man child, I genuinely can't even see WHY she would want to marry him. He's obnoxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:51 PM
14

Oh man... This is so cringey. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:29 PM
13

I can only manage this in an email setting, and typically only with work. I have been trying to catch it more often when I type messages to anyone, but catch me IRL and I can't help myself it's just so ingrained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:13 AM
1

Fantastic. 🤣 I love it, sign me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:12 AM
13

WOOOOOWWWWW! Oh my goodness. I'd much rather be a wife than a slave like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:41 AM
9

I had to get two abortions because my abusive ex couldn't take no for an answer and I couldn't be on birth control. I REFUSED to bear another one of his children (thank goodness). Even though I knew I was making the right decision to not bring a child into an incredibly abusive and impoverished situation, it still hurt to have those people outside the building yelling at me as we drove past and holding signs that called me a monster and a murderer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:58 PM
33

Ychromies. 🤣 I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:00 AM
10

If I heard "breath play" in any other context, I would assume Inuit throat singing. That is the only playing breath can do with other breath in my mind. Wtf is wrong with people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:18 AM
23

My favourite is the last response, "Ken is that you? I own the whole the whole house." Lmao! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:31 PM
26

I wish I had an award for this comment. 🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:04 PM
90

True words. I once had affection for a guy who was trying to date me (a single mom out of an abusive relationship) but I found out after we went separate ways that he thinks any man who helps raise another man's child is a lesser man for it. Then why on Earth would you show interest in me??? Dodged that bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:07 AM
6

Such effort at grooming he should start trimming pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:00 PM
85

Guaranteed any man who looks at this comic only sees what she's wearing and shames her for it while enjoying the view.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:54 AM
5

But I need to know, how much did it weigh?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:35 AM
7

I would SO want to comment: "Is she slapping and spitting on you during sex? That just sounds like her preference. Don't kink shame her!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:10 PM
49

In his defense, Aragorn seems to give such a degree of love and attention to EVERYONE, males included. 😂 I think he loves the hobbits equally as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:23 AM
12

I love her so much. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:48 AM
1

I'd like to also bring up school dress codes. My daughter and I have a running joke whenever she wears spaghetti straps because "THE BOYS WON'T BE ABLE TO CONCENTRATE!!" (which is already bullshit). Because of course how dare girls be cool and comfortable when it will "encourage" the boys in their class to ogle them inappropriately. Blasphemy to allow boys to see that you do indeed have flesh on your shoulders! But what about the male teachers? These rules that send many girls home from school t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:14 PM
6

Well of course they would splash the opposite story of a female teacher with a male student all over the media... As mentioned with other female murderers etc. it makes a good story because it is more uncommon and thought to be "against a woman's nature" to commit such heinous acts, whereas for males it's just another Tuesday. The "hot teacher" trope is so ingrained in p0rn and film that most people probably think the teenage boy won some kind of prize. It's glorified and brought to light so tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:52 AM
8

Because it's DELICIOUS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:01 AM
4

YEEEEESSSS! I love it. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:15 AM
5

I would love this 10,000× more than real roses. 😍🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:44 AM
59

He sounds like a complete garbage human. I am so sorry for your pain, you don't deserve to be treated this way. 💔 I've been there and despite learning how LV they are it's hard not to take this treatment personally. It still completely guts you. Take your time to process and heal. We love you. 💖👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:37 PM
26

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:43 PM
8

"Aim higher."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:25 PM
51

Someone posted a divorce court video on here once (because of the advice the judge gave), and I was so shocked at the mistress being so angry and volatile about "her man" when she legit just heard that this guy had children with and was engaged to this other woman long before her relationship with him. I DON'T UNDERSTAND! You just heard that he is garbage. Why do you still want this?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:16 PM
17

Speaking of last names... Was filling out some gov't paperwork online and needed a security question in case I forget my password. At the beginning of the list is "Mother's maiden name"... the dropdown box contains nothing else. I try to type my own retrieval question, no other questions allowed. How patriarchal to assume that my mother's family name is no longer her name, and that my family name would have been my father's or husband's. Now I guess my personal info gets to be part of the "super…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:55 AM
9

Funny, because my red flag radar was going off. I tend to doubt my instincts, especially when I'm judging based on a voice alone (due to hilarious cat face) but it turns out my instincts are spot on! Jokes on me for feeling like I'm being unfair to someone when I should just go with my gut. What a creep!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:42 AM
21

And don't even get me started on makeup! Every man in the world grows up learning that their face is FINE just the way it is, then wants a girl who wears enough makeup to change her face without looking like she's wearing too much makeup. Lest she be judged for that as well. Makes me want to walk around and tell every man that his eyelashes are thin and weak, and that if he wanted women to think he's attractive he should start wearing mascara. Also while you're at it, tweeze your eyebrows, trim …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:16 AM
74

Rather than "How do I be supportive?", what I'm wondering is how do you protect your child from a situation like this without them hating you and thinking you don't understand or are trying to control them? It happened to me (much younger manipulative groomer), I've seen it happen to a young friend, and I STILL wouldn't know how to handle it if my daughter took this path. Luckily, she's 13 and has said that if I ever get a bad feeling about a boy, to tell her and she'd dump him right away. She k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:19 AM
9

Same. I have BPD and Complex-PTSD from an abusive ex. The relationship part hit me hard. I've been through years of therapy but it's still really difficult to fight this. I've had moments of not talking to my partner for days because I'm too hurt and I don't want to say something vicious to him just because I'm angry. It takes a lot of effort to rationalize it all and calm down emotionally to finally get to the point where I can have a decent conversation with him like a normal human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:10 PM
13

He even subconsciously knows his opinion on the matter is wrong "I know you will think I'm being childish and greedy" well YEAH! Because you ARE! Also, the fact that one of his check boxes is "has and will attain feminine values"??? Do you even KNOW what women value? Maybe you should figure that out first... because I bet it isn't just a dude with a job. What it sounds like he wants is a woman who will maintain male values of what a woman should be. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:48 AM
3

That is a great metaphor and I'm going to use it in future. Who would continue to shop somewhere that didn't have what they want? Don't stay with a man that can't give you what you want!!!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:21 AM
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I like the one who thinks taking a woman's name is an irreversible step towards a matriarchal goddess culture. 😂 I say let's go for it! Bring on the era of the Matriarchy! The mother's bloodline is the only sure one anyhow. 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:01 AM
9

I have one sentiment for this... 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:02 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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