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Military DivorceChocolateLocal8051/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:48 AM
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ChocolateLocal8051/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 09:40 AM
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Im glad you have the gift of discernment now. Im pretty sure im going to have it too. My divorce just started. Caught her cheating on fathers day weekend. I hope im able to spot them too. My wife was certainly emotionally abusive, but I didnt realise until I started the paperwork and talked to a therapist
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 05:26 AM
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You need to stay stable around her. Show her that you are the rock she needs during this time. Use this opportunity to self reflect and build yourself up. Don't start doing a bunch of stuff for her that you usually wouldn't, it will have the opposite effect that you want. Be emotionally stable when you see her, and try to listen and understand her needs. It doesnt sound like there is infidelity involved so yall could fix this my man. Just play it right.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 05:09 AM
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Bro I was just thinking about this the other day. The two positive things about my divorce are: 1. Not having to be with a cheater and 2. Ill be able to see someone with BPD and narcissistic traits coming a mile away now. (Shes diagnosed)
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 05:06 AM
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That shit is definitely top 1 most terrible things ive ever felt bro lol.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 04:35 AM
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Im sorry brother. I know its painful for you right now. I wish I could say something to take it away, but I cant. The only thing I can say is that im in the middle of a similar situation, but mine just started. So I understand how traumatizing it is. You cant expect the feelings to go away completely, but you can still feel them and learn how to make each day a little better. I wish you peace brother, and I prayed for you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 01:37 AM
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Nah bro you should do it. Fuck that dude. Do for that husband what you wish someone else did for you. Anyone enabling cheating behavior has probably cheated themselves. Infidelity in marriage should be a criminal offense, otherwise there is no point in marriage being legally binding.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 11:08 PM
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This is going to sound bad brother but you shouldnt support her post op. She made her choice. She asked YOU to leave. You need to take care of yourself, your mom, and your kids
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 07:17 PM
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Brother im going through a divorce right now with a child involved. Im just going to tell you straight. You need to try counseling first. Try to fix it. Your wife may be going through things too that you cant see currently because of the resentment. Yall made a promise to eachother when you got married, and marriage is hard. My marriage is already over, but yours isnt. Please bro, for the sake of your baby, go to counseling and try to make it work one last time. You never know, she may be depres…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 08:25 AM
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My wife acted this way and I pursued her until I caught her cheating. I believe she is cheating on you man. Its time to end it brother
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 06:47 PM
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Im going through a divorce and my wife was also unfaithful. Its been insanely difficult for me and our child. This is what I do: Walk 4-5 miles a day Go to church or study whatever spiritual connection that gives you peace Therapy Learn to sit in silence and FEEL your feelings and process them
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 08:10 PM
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I appreciate your honesty
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 10:49 PM
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The issue is that she routinely works 50 hours a week so her time home is limited. She is a good mother, just tired from work generally so not up to doing much. She is military and therefore doesnt have the ability to make her schedule any more flexible. If we put our daughter into childcare, I would be the one picking up/dropping off most of the time due to her schedule. She would also have to finance the childcare because I cant afford it on my pension alone. Im also a disabled veteran so I ne…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 07:18 PM
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This is a great response, you've given me some specific points to think about and consider. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 06:52 PM
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I just saw this. I feel you man. Its brutal. When I look back, her attitude definitely started changing once I started standing firm on boundaries. She'd start saying hurtful shit just to get a rise out of me and was always quick to start yelling. I wish I saw it then. Recently she got mad because I told her to stop leaving the kid with me on my designated off days (im with the kid like 6 days a week, a guy needs a break lol). I told her she is wicked for cheating on me on fathers day weekend of…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 10:01 AM
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I just wanted to say I read your link and it reslly resonated with me, so thank you bro. It put a name to what I was feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 09:52 AM
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Hang in there brother. Your babies still need you. You need to take care of yourself so that you can uplift them.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 09:07 AM
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I get you brother. Do what you need to do. Ill pray for you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 03:06 AM
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Go stay somewhere else if you need to. Or you could use this time to just find comfort in the silence. Let yourself suffer a little and have the courage to face it, and youll be a better man for it eventually. I would recommend not to touch any of her things though tbh. Anything of hers that you touch she could try and say you damaged it and use it against you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 03:00 AM
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Yeah bro I used to fight when I was younger in amateur stuff. My body is beat from the military. I've just been walking, 5 miles a day since this all started.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 05:52 AM
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Since I posted this i caught her at dinner with the dude she was walking with in the neighborhood with last week. I went through her email and found a hotel reservation for 2 and a dinner res at the hotel. I sent the screenshot to her at dinner. She promise she would leave that dude alone until we filed the paperwork. Instead she left the kid at home with me, lied to my face again, and got caught on fathers day weekend doing more dirt. I literally believe she is wicked now.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 12:14 AM
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Yeah I get what you are saying. Is what it is now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 04:21 AM
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The crazy part is she asked me to stay home with the kid lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 02:14 AM
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Thank you, that helped alot. Im doing much better mentally now than when I first posted this. I had to go to the doctor and get put on blood pressure and sleep meds temporarily but they are helping. I think the worst part is that she speaks of this man so casually. Only two weeks ago we made love (at least I thought lol) and she said she wanted to be with me forever, a week later changing her mind. I asked her if she sees it as wrong that shes entertaining another man when she hasnt even filed y…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 10:36 PM
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Dude im not even lying, mine just went to go on a walk with him while im here with my kid🤣
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 06:34 AM
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Im glad to know I'm not alone. We haven't even divorced yet, she told me 2 weeks ago. She's already telling me about how she's dating a coworker. Brutal as hell🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 06:29 AM
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I'm in a similar situation man. Its brutal. You're farther along in the process than I am but I hope to get to the point that I can just stop being passive aggressive and learn not to care so much. Its hard when they hurt you the way they do though.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:57 AM
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Not to be weird, but do you wanna hangout? Lol. Im on oahu and going through something similar. Check my post history if you want.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:47 AM
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To me he looks like an average white dude lol
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:45 AM
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Im going through this right now too brother. I actually got so bad I went to the doctor for frequent panic attacks and I ended up having to get put on blood pressure medicine at 28 years old and found out I have a heart murmur and have to see a specialist. I literally feel as if someone died. I've never felt this down in my life. I feel your pain buddy. The only thing we can do is carry on and take it day by day.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:01 AM
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Yes I have a feeling that once this fantasy finishes she'll come back. Fuck no.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:22 PM
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Yeah I see that now. It's just a brutal gut check. I literally thought she was the one. Sure we argued sometimes but I always thought we could fix it. The level of hurt she handed me is insane lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 08:47 PM
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Yeah, I didnt mean it like that. I love my kid, im just exhausted. I've literally been with them 15 hours a day while she was "working late" for the past two weeks. I just really resent that she would do this at the expense of spending time with her baby girl.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 08:36 PM
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Yeah im going to order a paternity test for my daughter too. She has me doubting everything now. I need to be sure that's my child. Even it it wasn't, i still love him, but I just have to know.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 07:58 PM
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Im not mad that im watching kiddo im just upset that shes done this. My daughter is the only reason I have left at this point honestly. Im just exhausted. And now I'm realizing that all those 14 hour days she was pulling, which were very frequent, shes probably with that dude.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 06:22 PM
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I think the worst part is that im just fucking here taking care of this kid while she gets to see her "friend" everyday. Im not sleeping because im just seething with anger constantly. This shit is terrible.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 03:22 PM
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Yeah I'm going to try my best brother, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:59 PM
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Thank you, really. I dont think I'll ever ignore my gut again honestly. Hell at this point I might just not get married again I thought she was the one🤣. You live and you learn I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:26 PM
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Thank you. That means a lot. The support in this post alone has been insanely helpful for my mental.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:18 PM
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My state is no fault unfortunately
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:16 PM
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I guess I just don't see a need to do that, I still want her to be in our son's life equally. In my mind mine/her bs has no basis on custody arrangement so long as she is a good mother to him, which i believe she is.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:15 PM
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I will probably struggle too but I feel like it's the only choice we have ya know? They don't care about our tears or us anymore. If they did, they wouldn't destroy a family over it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:13 PM
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On the brightside she makes more than me so hopefully I don't get cucked by the government for child support lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:02 PM
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Thanks brother. Honestly brought a tear to my eye reading that. It means more than you know to me that someone will listen.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 12:00 PM
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Lol this made me laugh actually, thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:59 AM
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Thanks. I haven't felt pain like this since my dad died. I've decided though that I'll never let her see the real me again. Only necessary communication from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:58 AM
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