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| – | I've heard people say that men's lack of success on dating apps doesn't occur in real life. I don't believe thatUCLA published that over half of undergraduates are graduating without having had sex at all. That is fucking wild. Zoomers just hate sex. https://www.instagram.com/p/C3oUf3Pu0K3/?igsh=OWU5NmwxNWtoYXJs When I grew up there was the “Superbad” expectation that you’re a loser if you graduate high school as a virgin. And I’m pretty sure that in the 00s most HS graduates had sex. In basically 15 years, we’ve gone to the point where graduating college as a virgin is now normal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/26 05:11 AM |
| 1 | The idea of men gaining more emotional intelligence is backfiring on fake feministBut your explanation is not simpler: it’s just a different scenario | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/26 04:55 AM |
| 2 | The idea of men gaining more emotional intelligence is backfiring on fake feministSure if by Occam’s razor you mean women are wonderful Sure though you can just have men being plain incompetent but that’s not the phenomenon I’m talking about. Both and. Not either or. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/26 04:14 AM |
| 3 | The idea of men gaining more emotional intelligence is backfiring on fake feministNo it’s not. It’s very logical. Both partners like their other partner having these flaws as leverage… and it also gives them the option to not do the hard work on themselves while also being able to manipulate their partner. It’s mutual Both boomer wives and husbands are perfectly capable of changing but they don’t want to. The boomer husband absolutely could learn to boil pasta and the wife can absolutely go to therapy and learn to control herself better. They are choosing not to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/26 03:31 AM |
| 4 | The idea of men gaining more emotional intelligence is backfiring on fake feministThe man is allowed to weaponize his incompetence so the woman can gain the privilege of not having to self regulate her emotions. Dumb husband. Crazy wife. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/26 01:32 AM |
| 5 | The idea of men gaining more emotional intelligence is backfiring on fake feministPrior generations involved men trading their weaponized incompetence in exchange for their female partner not emotionally self regulating. It used to work but it is now getting old | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/26 01:26 AM |
| – | Women don't contribute as much as they think in a relationship.Yes they are. What makes them look dumb is having these standards then getting mad when they pick someone who doesn’t meet their standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 08:26 PM |
| – | "Don't make dating/relationship your goal" is the worst possible adviceHoly projection | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 08:22 PM |
| – | Women don't contribute as much as they think in a relationship.If you think I’m the upset one then you need to work on that EQ my guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 07:45 PM |
| – | Women don't contribute as much as they think in a relationship.lol so you’re an option 2 girlie | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 07:27 PM |
| – | Just Feels PointlessI think when it comes to cosmetic procedures, the point is to get them done so it doesn’t look like you had a procedure. Drastic changes make it look like you suffer from body dysmorphia and that you are trying to fix your inherent ugliness rather than using cosmetic procedures to enhance your existing natural beauty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 06:53 PM |
| 4 | "Don't make dating/relationship your goal" is the worst possible adviceDecentering men used to just mean a more socio-cultural implication: that is why shouldn’t “orbit” around men as a center of our existence. But it has been hijacked by deluded women who lack self awareness that they suck at relationships and can’t cope with the trauma of failed relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 06:41 PM |
| – | I find it funny the amount of excuses the women use to gaslight and justify their lack of effort on making moves on the guy they like.Its a fine line: I still feel that dominance and submission go hand in hand with masculinity and femininity. But dominance can easily veer into strong arming and submission can easily veer into passive insecurity. Women absolutely have an active role to play when being approached. But many are incredibly passive because they are insecure and need to be chased to feel wanted. They often are just trying to avoid emotional risk, which ironically is unattractive so these women get stuck in a cycle o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 06:34 PM |
| – | Women don't contribute as much as they think in a relationship.Low iq woman playbook: Option 1: gaslight Option 2: men do it too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Being hookup/FWB material is better than being husband material.No. Women use you for validation. The sex just becomes work to make them feel good about themselves You’re also viewed as a womanizer. Women typically hide their FWBs from their general social life You don’t have to be a simp to be a husband | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 05:34 PM |
| 4 | Just Feels PointlessIt’s not hot per se but more so vitality if that makes sense—and yes “youth” is sort of one of the primary markers of that. It’s an evolutionary instinctual drive: men are attracted to women who seem the most “fit” to endure pregnancy, childbirth and child rearing. There are plenty of beautiful women who don’t actually fit this. Most men would pick absolutely pick a Sydney Sweeney over most super models because she exudes this kind of youthfulness. Sydney Sweeney honestly doesn’t even have a par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 08:36 AM |
| – | Women don't contribute as much as they think in a relationship.OP is saying women keep score. I find that women often give themselves relationship points on their score card for doing things their partner doesn’t actually care about and then they use this made up imbalance as a justification to have resentment they rarely communicate It’s like the concept of a partnership is foreign to them. Thank god my mom isn’t like this nor most women I date. But feel bad for the guys who feel like women like this are their only option | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 12:54 AM |
| -1 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.Again I’ve been sa’d too (and by both genders). Somehow that didn’t turn me into a sexist miserable fuck Am I supposed to be afraid of the whole world now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.OP is a he | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/26 10:00 PM |
| 1 | 30s are perhaps the hardest years to date (even if you're youthful)The dating market in your 30s is K shaped | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/26 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.I just think men and women are adept at different ways of assessing risk. I think men are better at it in circumstances where the risk is occurring in real time and quick decisions need to be made. Women are better at it when assessing long term risks and have better foresight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.The people downvoting me are fucking miserable lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.But the point is that you’re inventing boogeymen if you think random strangers want to murder and rape you. Men actually face more danger in public places yet many do not walk through life with this prejudice How many times has a random man in public told you “what are you looking at?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 08:39 PM |
| -2 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.IMO people who can’t learn to do this live a life surrounded by boogeymen they invent https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trust,_but_verify | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 08:22 PM |
| -2 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.Ahh so guilty till proven innocent It’s so sad because men face way more violence from strangers than women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Women, seriously. Why do you have such an aversion to taking responsibility and admitting fault?You tell me? Or maybe I’m wrong. At least I can do that lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Women, seriously. Why do you have such an aversion to taking responsibility and admitting fault?Maybe you’re just projecting your own lack of accountability lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 06:03 PM |
| 0 | Women, seriously. Why do you have such an aversion to taking responsibility and admitting fault?Who never apologizes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 05:46 PM |
| 0 | Women, seriously. Why do you have such an aversion to taking responsibility and admitting fault?Studies are fairly clear that men apologizing less has nothing to do with them not taking accountability. Women apologize more because they don’t want to come across as offensive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Do you think you can actually Empathize and understand the points of menMasturbation is basically like a cool rebellious act a woman can do. It’s still seen as loser activity for men…. Especially by the women who see their own masturbation as rebellious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:37 PM |
| 10 | Women shouldn't in most cases be allowed to accuse men of being lazy in the dating climate.Mostly they don’t like not having sexual leverage. They like to use sex as the carrot in the relationship. So it’s a tightrope they have to walk: women want someone they are attracted to but if he is attractive she has less bargaining power when it comes to sex. With sexually attractive AND competent men, all a woman gets for sex is sex in return. It’s zero sum so if she wants other things in the relationship, she can’t use sex as a bargaining chip | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Women shouldn't in most cases be allowed to accuse men of being lazy in the dating climate.I just put in my tinder bio that if I’m doing all relationship admin and planning all the dates then it’s a 6 month situationship tops. They all know what they are getting into | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:30 PM |
| -3 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.Because I have never SA’d a woman or crossed physical boundaries or have emotionally abused any. Personally I have absolutely no qualms about being dismissive of women who seem paranoid of me personally. I appreciate the apology | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:27 PM |
| 6 | Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid.“Make uncomfortable” and “sa” is quite a leap buddy. Have any stats that this is 80% of men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:26 PM |
| -10 | Women, seriously. Why do you have such an aversion to taking responsibility and admitting fault?Women apologize more. Women see apologizing as a function of defusing rather than admitting fault. Admitting fault itself may escalate a conflict they don’t want to have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Women shouldn't in most cases be allowed to accuse men of being lazy in the dating climate.Sweet lord read my comment again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 05:41 AM |
| 14 | Women shouldn't in most cases be allowed to accuse men of being lazy in the dating climate.It’s obvious to the women I date that I also have options and that the relationship won’t turn into an exclusive long term one unless they put the effort in | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:39 AM |
| – | Women shouldn't in most cases be allowed to accuse men of being lazy in the dating climate.SAHM is an objectively easy job once the kids are past 8 unless you pick a shitty father | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:14 AM |
| 8 | Women shouldn't in most cases be allowed to accuse men of being lazy in the dating climate.Hun, jobs give me money not take my money | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 04:13 AM |
| 1 | The economy and rising costs are influencing women's 'six figure' standardsYeah but they are more likely to earn that than single men No net worth requirement to be single lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 07:59 PM |
| 3 | The economy and rising costs are influencing women's 'six figure' standardsWdym? Because to be a father you have to already have these boxes ticked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 07:30 PM |
| 0 | Is Vetting Seen as a Red FlagThey will only tell you what you want to hear if you make it seem like there is a right or wrong answer to the question rather than it just being a discussion about their personal values. Your example itself can be a question “Hey I was invited to x queer event. Would you like to join me?” Assume you have the intuition that you’re not attracted to liars. And if they lie then now you have the receipts rather than it being ambiguous And besides that, it’s just a turn off to men with self respect. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 07:16 PM |
| 0 | Is Vetting Seen as a Red FlagYeah it’s Prozac pussy behavior | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Is Vetting Seen as a Red FlagSubtlety≠covert Good ways to phrase things are “Do you like x” “How do you feel about x” In fact the more encouraging you are, the more likely men are going to spill the beans and show their true selves. Don’t make it seem like there is a right or wrong answer to your question because that will make them self censor | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 06:58 PM |
| 16 | Is Vetting Seen as a Red FlagShit tests≠vetting When you seem like you’re trying to conceal intentions rather than being straight up then it’s a red flag. It comes off like you assume you’re being lied to and communication is sabotaged from the start. One crazy one I heard is that women now misgender men to see if they respond poorly to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 06:33 PM |
| 3 | The men women choose are the men they later blame everyone else forA lot of it is simply antisocial behavior and that we assume women have high EQ when often they do not. And often the most emotional women have the lowest EQ. Often the men they pick aren’t bad at all, but they use character assassination to reverse engineer that their relationship failed because of the man and not because of themselves. It often simply happens due to women picking men they find the most attractive, and not the men that share mutual amount of interest. Women pick men they find a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 03:22 PM |
| 1 | To end the eternal debate over when men reach peak SMVThe idea that there exists an objective SMV contradicts with the very concept of “market value.” Market value is inherently subjective. IMO if you want to make such arguments then we should use the term “sexual intrinsic value” (SIV) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/26 01:51 AM |
| 18 | The “brain being fully developed” argument is not relevant in the age gap discussionGeneral consensus in psych community is also that this relates to risk-reward calculation and not maturity per se and that maturity is not a function of brain development but rather experience and education | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 07:42 PM |
| 1 | The economy and rising costs are influencing women's 'six figure' standardsI would correct you and say black American women. And I’d say the same applies to a lot of Slavic women. The irony is that often you can find that a lot of West Indian immigrants, for instance, have opposite outcomes compared to many black American families. They are, on average, a more skilled class of people than average white folks in America. They do not suffer from the same inter gender tensions that black folks who have been affected by racist US policy. Basically the groups that have had … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 05:11 PM |
| 31 | The economy and rising costs are influencing women's 'six figure' standardsThat’s not single men either. The majority of those are going to be fathers to begin with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 04:06 AM |
| 1 | The economy and rising costs are influencing women's 'six figure' standardsThis is true for both genders. In fact, I think hypogamy might actually be more common in women who make a lot of money vs men (or at least it is statistically way more common than what redpill men would claim). But these women are not the average. I’m talking about the average working class woman who is struggling. They don’t want to date someone else who is struggling like they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 01:09 AM |
| 8 | The economy and rising costs are influencing women's 'six figure' standardsIt’s hard to say. But if you think about it, how can the economy grow fast enough to accommodate an effective doubling of the labor force participation in about 50 years? Something’s got to give. But countries that also neglect their female labor force tend to perform the worst as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 12:37 AM |
| 10 | The economy and rising costs are influencing women's 'six figure' standardsYes some women use relationships as financial lifeboats when it becomes less and less feasible that they can provide the lifestyle they want for themselves. Women don’t seem to be adjusting to the fact that men aren’t much better off than women are when in previous recessions, men still were a viable way to find financial lifeboats. These men just don’t exist anymore in the same quantities. But on the flip side there are more women now who make more money, but unfortunately it was awful timing t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Gen Z online dating profiles have lost their purity because of Social MediaNo studies show there is a gender split in how Gen Z interfaces in social media. It’s more just that the gender wars have made people myopic. Gen Z Women think men are gooners and Gen Z men think women are 666 gold diggers. There will be some Gen Z men dating profiles that look like thirst trap type stuff but not as many as Gen Z women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Gen Z online dating profiles have lost their purity because of Social MediaThey are addicted to the idea that they can leverage their presentation into a good relationship due to instant gratification culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 10:54 PM |
| 2 | The Redpill’s sex obsession at the expense of social competence leads to failure in men.Redpill men seem more obsessed with controlling women than they do sex per se Buuuuttttt I do think the core insecurity that often motivates men to become redpill is lack of sex. But we have Andrew Tate saying sex for pleasure is gay now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 10:23 PM |
| 1 | The overwhelming majority of women don't initiate or make the first moves because they are cowards.But isn’t the dating dynamic effectively irrelevant by the time you’re in a relationship. The courting ritual is just a ritual: it doesn’t say as much about their character as you think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 06:52 AM |
| 5 | The overwhelming majority of women don't initiate or make the first moves because they are cowards.Ofc they can but pretty much all literature says outcomes are better when they initiate. They choose not to due to lack of testosterone increasing rejection sensitivity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 06:50 AM |
| 2 | It's All Prostitution“Proportional contribution” is considered what’s important when determining equity. If you make less than him, it is still equitable if you are contributing similar proportions of your income. Prostitute territory is “his money is my money and my money is my money” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:07 PM |
| -1 | Why are women like this?Ofc everyone has a right to be fucking delusional. It’s pretty much exclusively my obese female friends who like male thirst trap photos. It’s not just about attraction but the idea that if she is with a hot guy then she won’t feel self conscious about being fat and ugly. They hop on a merry go round of average weight cock that only wants casual with her because these men don’t want to be seen in public with them and then they have the gall to say these men are using her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:55 PM |
| 2 | If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting itI think most importantly they are going to regret the relationships they do end up having with women. They are going to be hollow and loveless because their gender ideology is more important to them than the actual dynamic they have with their own partner. They will project this dynamic on to all their partners and they will attract not the most honest sorts of women either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 03:24 AM |
| 3 | If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting itIMO younger men probably have the most experience with it. Redpill has morphed a lot and I just grew up with weird pick up artist shit like Mystery. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 03:21 AM |
| 2 | How often do you have to communicate what you want during sex?Great theory… but where is the data? We don’t have that much, but studies where masturbation was the method (e.g. M&J) still show multiple orgasmic women are in the minority. Granted, I would still argue the strong majority are physically capable. The data is fairly clear that lesbians and heterosexual couples report similar amounts of sexual satisfaction “Straight women have more sex than lesbians” just won’t go over well as a headline lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 04:29 PM |
| 1 | How often do you have to communicate what you want during sex?If she wants to give me a blowjob, then I don’t ask. If I want a blowjob, then I ask Not complicated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 06:35 AM |
| 4 | How often do you have to communicate what you want during sex?“Heterosexual and lesbian women were equally likely to be sexually satisfied (66% heterosexual women vs. 68% lesbian women). Compared to heterosexuals, lesbians were more likely to report having sex 0–1 times per month (11% vs. 23%) and were less likely to report having sex greater than once per month (89% vs. 77%). Among women who had been in relationships for longer than 5 years, heterosexual women were less likely than lesbian women to report having sex 0–1 times per month (15%; 42%).” https:… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 06:31 AM |
| 6 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanWhy shouldn’t they touch bi guys? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 06:28 AM |
| 2 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanYes yours. You replied to this comment https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/ECAXV7OUni | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 02:38 AM |
| 5 | How often do you have to communicate what you want during sex?Moreover gendered scripts are often internalized by women themselves and often feel that straight sex is “supposed” to look a certain way due to the fact that there are really very few honest cultural depictions of mutually satisfying straight sex. Women may often feel reluctant to communicate their own needs because they think it breaks the expectation of what straight sex should look like. Queer couples often have no existing script, so they HAVE to communicate because there is no pre written … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 02:35 AM |
| 1 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.Why are you assuming the person doesn’t enjoy giving head? If they enjoy it, that doesn’t imply that the person receiving head isn’t selfish. Hahaha a whole text wall of someone putting words in my mouth. You seem to be missing the consent aspect…. Never did I say that women shouldn’t have their clit touched unless they ask. That’s just your lack of intellectual honesty. I’m saying that if you make a particular sex act a default expectation without actually communicating said expectation then th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 01:45 AM |
| 2 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanWat https://share.google/aimode/90FWcIDANRHZvsXOM | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 11:52 PM |
| 1 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.It is not arbitrary that giving someone head does not bring you closer to orgasm. I’ve never said I’m defining sex by penetration. Not sure where you are getting that impression. I’m saying penetration requires less solicitation because it is more mutually pleasureable than giving head or hand stuff. Saying PIV is different than what lesbians do isn’t saying sex revolves around PIV. Most of your comment is just some diatribe that has nothing to do with what I’m writing. It shouldn’t make you thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 11:49 PM |
| 0 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanHahaha maybe he has a humiliation fetish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 11:01 PM |
| 3 | Why do so many assume this "has much sex = good" "dont has much sex = bad" scheme ?People like leopards ate my face type stuff. Same reason why some people like to say homophobic slurs to conservatives implying they are in the closet. They assume all men derive self worth from sex so it’s just another form of bullying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a woman“Being in a relationship with two men” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 10:24 PM |
| 1 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.Men don’t have to ask because penetration isn’t purely a service act. Men do typically have to ask for blowjobs and handjobs. Women should solicit their analogous acts as well. It’s not symmetrical because blowjobs and handjobs aren’t the exactly same as giving head and fingering and wearing a strap on is nothing like actual PIV. You’re making it a binary. It’s not cum or no cum. It’s people who communicate cum MORE. I’d say people who don’t communicate won’t have good sex past the honeymoon pha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 09:36 PM |
| 4 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanYou’re mapping poly onto bi | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanThen what are you saying? The comment you replied to was about trust issues | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 09:20 PM |
| – | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.People who never solicit service sex acts (eg where only one person is being brought to orgasm) yet expect them as a default are selfish. I don’t know how to explain this any more than that. This isn’t as big an issue with lesbians because their needs are less asymmetrical but also that penetration is mutually pleasurable in a way that’s unique to straight sex (ofc mutual masturbation exists but that’s not really the same). There’s no good argument against communication. People who communicate c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 09:15 PM |
| 0 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanYou’re just assuming bi people are more likely to cheat on you because you think they won’t be fully satisfied by your puss. Why not just date a bi top? Girls have assholes too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanlol I hate that I still find casual misogyny funny | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 08:18 PM |
| 8 | Bisexual men should go for bisexual women if they miss the touch of a womanStraight women just need to get over their trust issues Presumably if a bi man is dating a straight woman then the straight woman wants to date him. If she gives him issues then it’s on her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 08:14 PM |
| 5 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.Ofc not. But after about 6 months of doing it to a pillow princess, I lose attraction Communicative people are more attractive than passive objects | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 07:28 PM |
| 2 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.lol imagine having sex with a guy and you have to give him a blowjob or handjob every time that he doesn’t ask for lol What an asshole | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 07:14 PM |
| -1 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.These are just cited reasons for reduced orgasm frequency in marriage but whatever | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:10 PM |
| 0 | The Manosphere does not care about men's issues: Bi-men editionSome are some not I guess? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:04 PM |
| 4 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.Lots of women see sex as their “job” When it comes to libido, women are more impacted than men by age related hormonal changes. Men get ED tho I think it is also clear that straight and queer women can be wired a bit differently. Lesbian women simply just have less sex overall, but that’s most likely because they like to make the act an event. A lot of heterosexual people see routine sex as good sexual hygiene or a sign of healthy intimacy. Heterosexual preference for quantity of sex often comes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:02 PM |
| 2 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.“Duty sex” Menopause | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 05:46 PM |
| 7 | The Manosphere does not care about men's issues: Bi-men editionDo you normally refer to other bi men as performative allies who insult you? I personally do disagree that a lot of the avoidance of bi men is rooted in biphobia among women. A lot of it is that they think their partner will have dick fomo and want to go looking for a guy. That’s not biphobia: that’s trust issues | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 05:37 PM |
| 0 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.It’s selfish to go an entire relationship expecting someone to touch your clit but never asking someone to touch your clit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 05:31 PM |
| – | Shattered masculinity by penis size comparisonWell fortunately we don’t have to rely on that unless you think sex stores lie It’s still pretty black pilled my guy. Women prefer a top 10th percentile penis. The average penis is significantly shorter than ideal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 06:12 PM |
| – | Shattered masculinity by penis size comparisonWhat numbers? I literally gave you self reported numbers from sex stores. Go on any website and just sort by most popular my guy Here ya go: https://www.pinkcherry.com/collections/dildo-sex-toys?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=87583512&utm_content=130503592307&utm_term=best%20sex%20toy%20website&absrc=Google&abid=782398473563&abcampid=87583512&abgroupid=130503592307&abkwdid=kwd-11852616389&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=87583512&gbraid=0AAAAAD-nqajjWrpNo7uEKhtw0jw_sJf9p What is actual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 06:05 PM |
| – | Shattered masculinity by penis size comparisonNo it isn’t https://www.wickedsextoys.uk/adult-toys/sex-toys-what-is-the-best-selling-dildo-size/ https://www.weloveplugs.com/blog/how-to-choose-the-most-popular-dildo-size-for-maximum-pleasure “Studies show that the average dildo size purchased is around 7.52 inches (19 centimeters) in length. This is nearly 3 inches longer than the average penis size. When it comes to width, the most popular dildos have a circumference of about 4.71 inches (12 centimeters).” Likewise “investable” length is a l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Women's insecurities are considered "cute" and endearing, but men's insecurities are called toxic.The peers of the woman you date (friends and family) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 05:48 PM |
| – | Shattered masculinity by penis size comparison6.75 to 7.25 inches is widely considered to be the ideal penis length Your dysmorphia is actually fueled by male gaze. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 05:45 PM |
| – | Shattered masculinity by penis size comparisonWomen who like PIV orgasms absolutely care They care about it being too big as well. There’s a fairly sharp cutoff before 8 inches in length whereas it is less extreme on the bottom end of the curve | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 05:42 PM |
| -2 | What you guys consider IOIs or flirting isn't a reliable indicator of attraction at allDon’t expect low test people to risk rejection often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 11:47 AM |
| – | Ageism is proof that looks is where its at even for bluepillersThis is tautological. The only people who forgo their independence for relationships are people who have been abandoned by their parents. Parents would not let their child be financially abused Even your use of the term “adopted” means that somehow there was a transfer of paternity. Why would a family let someone else “adopt” their child? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 10:00 AM |
| – | Ageism is proof that looks is where its at even for bluepillersThe kind of young adult who willingly chooses to have a relationship over becoming independent adult (going to school and getting a job) is typically a young adult who has been abandoned by their parents. Most families won’t let their college aged daughters forgo their self development for a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 09:52 AM |
| – | Ageism is proof that looks is where its at even for bluepillersMods deleted my age gap post for being shitposting but basically I was saying that the only exploitative age gap relationships are the ones where the younger person comes from an unstable household/got a bad education or were working at a young age in entertainment or industries where children are used. We definitely are in the era of where we assume age gap relationships on their face are exploitative. Do these people bother to find data? Ofc not. And yeah some blue pilled folk end up projectin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Women's insecurities are considered "cute" and endearing, but men's insecurities are called toxic.Are you sure you’re replying to the right person? I’m not OP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Women's insecurities are considered "cute" and endearing, but men's insecurities are called toxic.This has literally nothing to do with my reply my guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 08:25 AM |
| 0 | Its not biphobic to not date bi menYeah I think biphobia is overblown. Women just think bi men will have dick fomo and that they’ll want to sleep with a man at some point because she can’t provide the same thing a man can. That’s not really biphobia, that’s just some cunt with trust issues They could just date bi tops. Girls have assholes too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 08:09 AM |
| 4 | Women's insecurities are considered "cute" and endearing, but men's insecurities are called toxic.Pretty gendered. Sometimes it’s expected of men to not only tolerate a woman’s insecurities but to actively indulge them and be used for external validation to assuage their insecurities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 07:16 AM |
| 16 | If you want someone to choose you, bring what they want to the tableWhen this feeling isn’t mutual, this is how women get stuck on the situationship merry go round | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Do you think attraction is a choice?Same here. But we are not the norm my guy and nor are the women we date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Do you think attraction is a choice?Correction: aroused by men Sure heterosexual women are attracted to men… just usually not the idea of having sex with them. That’s a cost many will eat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Do you think attraction is a choice?That’s because we find the women who are attracted to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 06:26 PM |
| 2 | It makes more sense for women to chase men than for men to chase women.Most women are insecure so they need to be chased to feel secure in the relationship. If a woman sticks herself out there to pursue a man, she doesn’t know yet if he’ll reciprocate. Most women can’t handle that emotional risk. If a man is pursuing her then she doesn’t have to guess whether she is liked or not. But yes it is a tragedy given how much more successful relationships are when initiated by women. Whelp. This is often because even in relationships insecure women will continue to need to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 10:45 AM |
| -1 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?Lol pick your stereotype girly: either men like to hear themselves during sex or men aren’t making enough noise during sex. Which is it? You’re not mature enough for sex if you can’t self advocate period | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 01:36 AM |
| -4 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?The orgasm gap is mostly deserved. I’ve had one female partner solicit clitoral stimulation out of almost 2 dozen. If you can’t be bothered to ask a man to touch your clit then you’re selfish and deserve a jackhammer or two pump chump | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 12:45 AM |
| 0 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?Yeah, according to quite a few women I’ve dated. Usually you get a friend out of it too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 12:10 AM |
| 0 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?Ehhh some people enjoy sex more than masturbation believe it or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?As Redditors have pointed out my misread: Apparently according to UBS, this isn’t true. Women who make more money still on average defer to men for investment decisions | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 11:20 PM |
| -5 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?I can’t edit the title obviously, but the discussion on “who really is managing the money” then is clearly the next logical step. Women seem to take primary responsibility in one aspect and men the other. Nominally it could be men with respect to investment, but I don’t think this would apply to the median. Women may be spending more time making budgeting decisions comparatively and may be more relevant to day to day life Granted mods would probably prefer this be a discussion thread rather than… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 11:19 PM |
| -5 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?I’m not making that conflation in the edit. Managing investments and assets≠contribution I found the wording of the fortune article ambiguous and was more clear from UBS directly. Presumably “breadwinner” implies that it is already the person contributing more money. I’m sure you could break it down more but it could get subjective quickly in trying to define money kept for self vs money contributed. Savings can be used productively for couples and obviously you don’t need a joint bank account t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?It seems there are two dimensions: who is the breadwinner and gendered associations with consumer goods vs investments. Yes breadwinners often find a comparative advantage with their partner in giving them more responsibility to make financial decisions so they can focus on their own work more. But also… regardless of who is the breadwinner, women often see men as being more competent with investment and men see women as more competent with household management. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 11:10 PM |
| -1 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?The wording of the fortune article imo is not clear whereas it is in the UBS report. The data concerns investments not all household expenditure generally. So this report doesn’t contradict this data: https://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/news/women-almost-twice-as-likely-as-men-to-do-the-bulk-of-household-budgeting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?👍 This is making more sense when the data appears to contradict: https://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/news/women-almost-twice-as-likely-as-men-to-do-the-bulk-of-household-budgeting But when thinking more it means that women trust men to manage assets/investments and men trust women more for household budgeting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?So another Redditor pointed out to me that given this is investment bank data, so this is more narrowly referring to financial decisions regarding investments, not household expenditure generally. The data appears to contradict, but if you think about it… it makes sense: https://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/news/women-almost-twice-as-likely-as-men-to-do-the-bulk-of-household-budgeting Women trust men more to manage assets and investments, and men tend to trust women more with household budgeting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:56 PM |
| -7 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?This makes sense. UBS’ data set can only refer to investment resources. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:54 PM |
| -12 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?Is the data then correlated the other direction then (when women make more they make fewer financial decisions?) Because according to UBS, 52% of women are responsible for most financial decisions in couples: https://www.ubs.com/global/en/media/display-page-ndp/en-20210506-own-your-worth.html https://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/news/women-almost-twice-as-likely-as-men-to-do-the-bulk-of-household-budgeting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?This is a good point but savings can be used productively… although this is not the main point of OP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:42 PM |
| 0 | Why do so many breadwinner women contribute less than their partner in household expenses?From the article: “But just half of those women breadwinners take the lead on financial responsibilities in their households, compared to 79% of men in the same position.” I can look it up when I’m free but pretty sure on average women make most spending decisions even in primary male breadwinner households. That was certainly my experience when I worked in sales as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Women’s Selective Traditionalism Fuels the Red PillThanks for letting me know about this… I honestly didn’t know it was that bad https://fortune.com/2023/06/13/female-breadwinners-rising-ubs-report/ That said, women date down a lot more than TRPers suggest but clearly a good proportion of these women are just seeking convenience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:16 PM |
| 4 | Women Are Largely Shielded From Labeled "Cringe" in Online CultureThis is why so many women have no hobbies and that they need to “decenter men” to give them space to have one as if they can’t have balance I wouldn’t be surprised if the idea of having hobbies feels unattractive to these women because they don’t want to be like men. So their hobbies are more specifically feminine or they try to gatekeep certain hobbies as feminine. These are the women who complain about men not reading and or being emotionally intelligent and then they find an emotionally intel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 09:26 PM |
| 5 | Women’s Selective Traditionalism Fuels the Red PillGirl boss culture and redpill culture are adjacent. Pseudo feminists now see traditional roles as a means to create a binary for men whom they see as the enemy: either men are sequestered and fail to reproduce due to not meeting traditional standards OR girlboss women can use traditional standards to their advantage and have their cake and eat it too (eg my money is my money and his money is my money) The goal of a lot of girlboss culture is to try to find maximum efficiency in extracting what t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 09:10 PM |
| 7 | If you want to sleep with a woman you are attracted to you might have to do things to woo herWhy does OP think fat women don’t want to be woo’d? Everyone wants to be woo’d but only a minority of people have “bring to the table” mindsets. Plenty of men, myself included, have casual sex with non overweight women without having to bring something to the table the woman herself isn’t bringing. You just have to touch grass. OP is just describing what unattractive men have to do and ironically it tends to be black pilled/incels who are most aware of this not the opposite. Attractive people do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 08:01 PM |
| -1 | The average woman would fail at dating as a MenThe problem is that I see this attitude as not being healthy once you’re in a relationship. A couple is a partnership. If you’re partner is creating a problem for you then it is more about communicating that your partner take ownership. There’s a fine balance between being the authority in the relationship and having self respect. I’ve commanded respect from all my partners yet I see lots of redpill men in silently resentful transactional relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 07:25 PM |
| 10 | If you want to sleep with a woman you are attracted to you might have to do things to woo herWomen obsessed with the male loneliness epidemic like to make things up about incels because it validates their misandrist worldview (OP feels it is in their nature to be parasitic) OP should learn that if fat women want more than casual sex with men of average weight then they need to woo men lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Question for Blue Pill: If kindness is as important when it comes to attraction as the mainstream says, how do you explain all these horrible men having girlfriends?I’ve found that toxic protector narratives have been increasing among younger daters. Often it’s perpetuated by a cycle of trauma: last man I was with fucked me up so my next man needs to be protective and then he’s got the same problem ad nauseum. These women pretend the problem is the solution. Maybe we should call single women “unprotected women” lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:22 AM |
| 7 | Question for Blue Pill: If kindness is as important when it comes to attraction as the mainstream says, how do you explain all these horrible men having girlfriends?Same reason why plenty of women are pro life. “Unwanted pregnancy won’t happen to me because I’m amazing and only bad people unplanned pregnancies.” With being in a relationship with a misogynist it’s “oh I’m amazing. He won’t be misogynistic to me. He’ll only be misogynistic to the women who suck because I’m amazing” Blue pill ofc are going to use victim narratives again to maintain a woman are wonderful fallacy. They’re not wrong, but they won’t resolve the cognitive dissonance that women can … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 10:11 AM |
| 13 | Being successful at dating in 2026 requires MUCH more than looks and skills most men cant even fathom yet.I only half agree here: you most likely are wasting a lot of energy on people you should be moving on from. You only need to maintain frame with women who are not already decided they are attracted to you. Source: Similar match numbers to you. Done 3 dates in a week a couple times (never again lol). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 02:55 AM |
| 2 | The Reason why Men can act like sluts but Women can't is because of WomenThat’s my point: the only way a woman could find slut shaming from men nowadays is if she literally seeks it out on social media. So most policing has to be coming from elsewhere Most likely her girlfriends who are telling her she is being taken advantage of for having sex with a man who isn’t paying her to do so | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 02:28 AM |
| 0 | If you’re 18 and don’t understand the risks of age gap relationships, then you probably come from a bad background/were educationally deprivedCéline Dion was 20 and was happily married and sadly she struggled with social scrutiny (among her family as well) that made it more difficult for her than it needed to be. Tommy Mottola was abusing Carey by exploiting her career as a producer. I cover this in OP as child professional abuse. Aaliyah is statutory rape. This thread isn’t about that Demi Lovato is also possibly statutory rape but it’s obvious even from her own music that she comes from the bad background category here. Child of div… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 02:27 AM |
| 0 | If you’re 18 and don’t understand the risks of age gap relationships, then you probably come from a bad background/were educationally deprivedBecause exploitative age gap relationships typically involve taking advantage of women who can’t support themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 02:11 AM |
| 1 | The Reason why Men can act like sluts but Women can't is because of WomenPatriarchy meant that families historically used their daughter’s vitality as a means of wealth acquisition. If she sleeps around then they wouldn’t be able to arrange the marriage with the family they want to create a pact with. But because that’s no longer a phenomenon, how these norms are being upheld is less clear. However, it is hard to believe that women mostly are facing shame from men given how segregated the genders are now. Unless you have a public social media account, seek out intera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Shallow men really underestimate how shallow they are.I find this isn’t really an issue when people enjoy the sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Guys simply need to stop listening to online discourse that is largely driven by women and simpslol my sister has done worse. Parents didn’t care either She’s married a 40 yo man at 23 and now has 4 beautiful children! This is why this conversation is so tone deaf. Like people have these relationships and there are literal families built around them but terminally online folks have a pedo hyperfixation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Guys simply need to stop listening to online discourse that is largely driven by women and simpsIf the 25 and 18 yo just have a casual relationship, which most are, then the judgement is a waste of time. We assume young women are being bribed by some guy providing housing and that she’ll be homeless after he ditches her. The irony is that the men most capable of providing for young women are also the men in the biggest position to exploit them. Most 25 year old men aren’t going to have this agency. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on shy, no-experience men?It is for sure not average. But it’s common on apps where the man is often the more attractive one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Dating is simple, women make it complicatedMost blue pilled people didn’t really even participate in the dating market, which is a better strat than what redpill dudes do. But blue pilled people seem to think that their idiosyncratic love story is something that can be generalized into actionable advice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 07:42 PM |
| 3 | Guys simply need to stop listening to online discourse that is largely driven by women and simpsAlso don’t listen to 40+ year old blue pillers (or anyone for that matter of that age) on how to date. Their advice applies to 00s/90s and they most likely dated in their age range even if they did find a partner later. Their advice on maintaining relationships is the only relevant advice they can give | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 06:18 PM |
| 4 | Guys simply need to stop listening to online discourse that is largely driven by women and simps3-7 year age gaps are more common than 0-3 actually. Studies show the biggest risk to the average age gap couple is social scrutiny. While the risks of exploitation are very real, statistically it’s age age gap haters who make age gap relationships less viable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Women date men like they buy fixer upper houses and then act shocked when the walls do not rearrange themselvesCope lol Yeah most men don’t say anything to get laid believe it or not? And by “anything” could you provide examples and then try to have the audacity to claim this is average behavior? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 07:43 AM |
| 5 | Dating is simple, women make it complicatedThat is the things men need to do to get into a relationship are so wildly divorced from what is required to maintain a relationship that many men will have a story about their current SO laughing about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 03:43 AM |
| 2 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatThe only people who have to chase “dating market trends” were not desirable to begin with. This is kinda why TRP is the way it is: most men wouldn’t seek redpill if they weren’t already undesirable. My argument has nothing to do with true love but rather than the cynicism that red pill men have is due to the fact that they are essentially Eskimo broing women who respond to red pill tactics which is the minority of women (insecure women from unstable households)… again why they think women have a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 03:41 AM |
| 6 | Dating is simple, women make it complicatedMost men go through the experience of being self conscious about something that they got previously rejected for in the talking phase that their current SO not only does not care about, but often will laugh when you bring it up being a barrier for dating women in the past | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 03:25 AM |
| 2 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatMost people date on the basis of chemistry and compatibility: not value. Value based dating certainly has become more popular since apps and social media but value based dating is typically just for LVMs and LVWs. People who already have value are less concerned about finding value because people with value generally attract what they want anyway. Secure people feel secure based on how accommodating the person is, not by what league they are in. And back to my original point: women with daddy is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 03:15 AM |
| 9 | Dating is simple, women make it complicatedMen like on OP are on a constant merry go round of rejection so they have nothing else to do but to speculate why they are so unliked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 01:22 AM |
| 4 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatThese are mutually exclusive strategies. Redpill won’t admit that game only applies to a sliver of the population. Most people aren’t shit, so generally being kind and caring is a better strategy but most TRPers only have been kind to women transactionally because they are highly outcome dependent so they don’t know better. These men are juggling around the same few women with daddy issues which is why TRPers seem to think that most women have a ho phase. The portion of the female population tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 11:58 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on shy, no-experience men?None of the women replying have asked these men out. They are just going to give you a hypothetical that doesn’t make them look shallow Lots of women don’t like shy men because they need uninitiated affection to feel attractive. The idea that these women would have to solicit affection for a shy guy to feel comfortable giving it is a nightmare existence for them. They’re so pathetic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Women date men like they buy fixer upper houses and then act shocked when the walls do not rearrange themselvesI’m not saying it never happens. I’m saying it’s not the norm. So if it is always happening to you then you’re the lowest common denominator and it’s probably not that men are mostly fake to you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think that widening male gender roles wouldn't lead to wider female preferences?As long as men care more about women’s issues than vice versa, it’s kinda hard to see this argument as not being hypocritical Likewise men don’t face institutional barriers so much as social norm barriers. The people men need to rebel against are often their mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, teachers, coworkers, dates etc. Men rn are in a similar position to women pre sex revolution where women needed to abandon their local support systems to become independent women where their families want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 11:07 PM |
| -1 | Stop looking for unconditional love. Its unrealistic and entitled.I don’t think any man who complains about these things think they deserve love for existing. 99% of men who complain about this know that if they want a date with a woman, then they have to arrange a date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?Which is why I said projection | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?Seems to revolve around sex girlie even if there are adjacent topics. Doesn’t seem to be just relationship problems | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 06:38 PM |
| – | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?You’re projecting Classic PPD woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 06:24 PM |
| 13 | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?Most people are private about their sex life. It’s not the norm for you to treat it as a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t want to hear about it. Would you do the same with coworkers or is it impossible for you to be friends with them because you can’t talk about sex with them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 06:12 PM |
| 0 | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?Like a more traditional humblebrag usually with more embellishments And I assume you mean insecure men not all men. I meant insecure women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 06:11 PM |
| 12 | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?lol sorry for your friends that they can’t set boundaries with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 05:51 PM |
| 6 | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?Insecure women seek validation for their shitty love lives. It’s like a bizzare humblebrag that they have romantic problems | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 05:30 PM |
| 1 | The fact that prostitution is partially or fully illegal in most of the world is proof that the world is misandrist.lol at least edit your og comment to say “why should anyone be entitled to buy sex” if integrity is something you care about fuckin lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 05:28 PM |
| 1 | The fact that prostitution is partially or fully illegal in most of the world is proof that the world is misandrist.That’s why you have to buy a prostitute silly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 03:39 PM |
| – | Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring.The problem is also people who have a problem with it when it is not encroaching on said responsibilities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 11:20 PM |
| – | Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring.Hahaha it’s a variant of my recent post although this one is getting upvoted more but it’s the same thing: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/YadyLJmU1i The only people who have lists of attractive and unattractive hobbies (outside of hobbies that are violent and or unethical) are people who are uninteresting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Sexless men don't exist, only poor men do.The only men I’ve cucked made way more money than me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Women date men like they buy fixer upper houses and then act shocked when the walls do not rearrange themselvesI’m saying that people in general do not fake themselves. So most of the time if the effort falls off, it is not because they are fake but because they are matching energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 08:26 PM |
| 3 | Women date men like they buy fixer upper houses and then act shocked when the walls do not rearrange themselvesYou get what you give in life generally. Most people do not choose to put on an act they can’t maintain. If he’s putting less effort in, most likely he is just matching your energy. This is absolutely the majority of cases. Most of the time it isn’t some fake front they put on, but rather they put in up front investment that had no return so they adjust their investment accordingly. Usually this happens when the woman thinks her time, her presence and her body are what constitutes a good return … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 08:14 PM |
| 6 | Men say they just want a normal, decent partner and resent women for wanting ‘perfect’; Women are terrified of being chosen merely for being decent and acceptableThe majority of men settle but most men don’t have the self esteem to admit it to themselves. Women’s standards are kind of a roadblock for men being able to date a woman they want. Apps made it so that women just go after the men they find most attractive, and the people you find most attractive rarely like you back as much as you’d want. But then again, that’s not different than most men who just take what ends up on their plate. Along with low self esteem, men are more willing to settle becau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 08:07 PM |
| – | Women have given up on dating menAs women have gained financial agency, they seem to be struggling with the shift in roles. They don’t want to do what men have done for hundreds of years, so now they won’t have anything more than situations or casual. The only way we could have more complete couples is if women take up the slack and take on roles that men did before women had financial agency. But women don’t want to do that so we won’t get these couples. There are very few women today saying they will take care of most living … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts for men who stay mad at womenI think you can be mad at a gender as long as you don’t project that baggage onto the person you are dating. So you assume they aren’t one of the bad ones till they prove otherwise. It’s the people who assume they are dating someone who sucks and they make it a test to prove they aren’t one of the bad ones who will suffer the most when dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:47 PM |
| 5 | Why shouldn't I think your average women has an edge with tolerating singleness that most men could never get, because of their easier access to FWB and ONS?People don’t become FWBs for validation. But I guess since sex is seen as something that validates or invalidates a woman’s value, it is socially destructive for her to admit she is letting a man have sex with her without the perks of him being her boyfriend. Everyone will see her as being taken advantage of and throwing away her sexual value Society doesn’t like to empower women who have casual sex even if it’s what they want | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:39 PM |
| 0 | Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative.I linked a meta analysis Context is not meaningless either: “These differences are less apparent when the conformity occurs in private (Eagly, 1978, 1983)”: Women conform more in public contexts. So this confirms what OP is saying about the “performative” aspects of conformity No meta analysis says there are no differences between genders when factoring all variables. There is still a difference even if it is small. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative.I think OP is using it as a shorthand here but when you read OP it has more to do with social group dynamics. Herd mentality usually just means that you make a decision based on what the group you are in decides while bypassing personal rational thinking (eg movement of a herd of animals) I don’t really think, literally speaking, that is what we mean when we say herd mentality in human relational contexts. In this context, to me, it simply means that you feel pressured to be agreeable so as to n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:21 PM |
| 4 | Why shouldn't I think your average women has an edge with tolerating singleness that most men could never get, because of their easier access to FWB and ONS?It makes sense that women wouldn’t like ONS, but why not FWB? Presumably if they are FWB, then the sex isn’t bad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Why shouldn't I think your average women has an edge with tolerating singleness that most men could never get, because of their easier access to FWB and ONS?Because most women simply don’t like sex enough for this to be a reality. And it makes you realize that these women also create dead bedrooms marriages and simply are not sexual enough people to satisfy a monogamous partnership yet we make these people conform to it. But there are women like the ones in OP and I have had a similar experience in college and 20s. Plenty of women have “spontaneous sexuality” just like men and have visceral attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:17 PM |
| 10 | There are not enough conservative women for conservative men to date.Some do. And that’s for themselves to decide whether it is self sabotage or not. They are often pro life due to the social optics of being a “responsible mother.” It’s “look at me I would never get an abortion because only irresponsible people have unwanted pregnancies and I’m a responsible woman.” It’s fucking crazy but some women are like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative.Tends to only be myopic queer folks (not to knock on queer folks generally) who see cis straight men be averse to non gender conforming behavior then generalize that means they aren’t maverick. It probably comes from some weird place of jealousy that men can be normies but also be trailblazers and that not being heteronormative in queer communities doesn’t make them unique in those communities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 07:45 PM |
| 0 | Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative.It’s says what the quote I listed says. Sure there are situations where men conform more and women less but TAKEN TOGETHER women conform more than men. You simply have listed parts where men feel more averse to gender non conforming behavior. Herd mentality imo is agreeing for the sake of not rocking the boat. Why is it only women on PPD who move goalposts like this? Even blue pill men don’t do this. They tend to say the data is bad rather than trying to claim the very obvious wording of the stu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 07:39 PM |
| 16 | Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative.https://socialsci.libretexts.org/Courses/Macomb_Community_College/PSYC_2600_Social_Psychology/07%3A_Influencing_and_Conforming/7.03%3A_Person_Gender_and_Cultural_Differences_in_Conformity#:~:text=Taken%20together%2C%20this%20means%20that,Eagly%20&%20Chravala%2C%201986). “Taken together, this means that, at least when they are being observed by others, men are likely to hold their ground, act independently, and refuse to conform, whereas women are more likely to conform to the opinions of others … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative.OP should have put that women hate statistics and will cite gendered counterexamples and pretend that is an argument 🤮🤮🤮🤮 https://socialsci.libretexts.org/Courses/Macomb_Community_College/PSYC_2600_Social_Psychology/07%3A_Influencing_and_Conforming/7.03%3A_Person_Gender_and_Cultural_Differences_in_Conformity#:~:text=Taken%20together%2C%20this%20means%20that,Eagly%20&%20Chravala%2C%201986). “Taken together, this means that, at least when they are being observed by others, men are likely to hold t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 07:15 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personlol inflated self worth is literally a defining characteristic of grandiose narcissism (which the study specifies not just any narcissism). My argument doesn’t depend on rejection occurring or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 07:59 PM |
| -3 | Ladies: Do PiV orgasms feel more intense or emotionally connecting than clitoral orgasms?Hahaha bold of you to assume women on PPD have experienced a PIV orgasm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 06:50 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personThe point is that often people who don’t have much to offer themselves offset their lack of positive input by projecting negatives onto others. I linked a study connecting the likelihood of having an ick to grandiose narcissism and grandiose narcs think they are more interesting than they really are, but like I said earlier that would be just one subset of uninteresting people. And this is why the chaser-chased terminology doesn’t totally apply. Someone being chased can be reciprocal and matchin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 06:08 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting person“Greater narcissism will be positively correlated with the likelihood of experiencing the ick, as people who expect partners to reflect and elevate their own status, attractiveness, or desirability may be more sensitive to cues suggesting a partner does not meet these standards.” https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886925000480 Now ofc “uninteresting” is not one of the categories because that would be difficult to define scientifically, but narcissistic people do have an infla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 12:41 AM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personCouples lose attraction for each other all the time. Dead bedrooms exist lol still fits the definition yet there’s still relationship? Weird… It also makes no difference to my argument whether icks imply rejection. My point is that people who are petty and uninteresting are more likely to have extensive lists of things that other people do that disgust them. Most people only have a few icks. Lots of people have no icks, but that doesn’t mean they have no standards or deal breakers. The “chaser-c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 12:33 AM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personI’m sorry but these are not the same things my guy. A standard is not a deal breaker is not an ick. You can date someone who meets most your standards but not all. Deal breakers are the only one here that is by definition if you do x then there is no relationship. Icks convey disgust. It does not convey by definition something that ends a relationship. This is because you’re clearly not good with definitions and want them to be in much neater categories than they are in reality. Sure it may be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 12:01 AM |
| – | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personlol you mix up icks with standards and dealbreakers and now have the audacity to write this condescending crap? This is clearly an intellectual aptitude issue on your part. None of what I’m saying is debating the definition of ick. Plug in the definition you wrote and my argument still applies as I’m not using the term any differently than it used conventionally. And yes I’m saying a few people do this and then you are the one who thinks I’m generalizing. I’m not generalizing about people who ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 11:43 PM |
| 4 | What's the logic behind telling men to be more selective on dating apps?Women swipe on men they don’t talk to so men swipe on women they won’t date so women swipe on men they don’t talk to so men swipe on women they won’t date etc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 06:57 PM |
| 2 | Men have standards by default and criticize women for doing same thingFat women are selfish to expect anything more than casual sex from average weight men. But we demonize average weight men for wanting casual sex with fat women rather than telling the fat women they are selfish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 06:50 PM |
| – | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personI have multiple icks too girlie. I’m not qualifying it. Can you read literally the first sentence back to me? Hilarious of you to say I’m qualifying anything meanwhile you bring up standards and dealbreakers which are not the same as icks. Kinda rich to say that when you are treating different terms as synonymous I’m not talking about people who have just a few icks There’s a group of people who are insecure and use icks to feel better about themselves. Nothing inherent to the term “ick” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 06:14 PM |
| – | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personWell you can start a thread about standards and dealbreakers if you want but I’m talking about icks and not just a few icks, people who have more than just a couple of them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 05:54 PM |
| – | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personAnd I’m saying uninteresting people are more likely to have a longer list of arbitrary turn offs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 05:39 PM |
| 2 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personThey get stuck in a cycle of situationships then blame everyone but themselves. That’s what happens They end up with partners who lack negative characteristics but there is no chemistry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:54 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personIt’s an illusion of choice because they are depending on the notion that the asymmetry of the interaction implies that they are the desired ones but in the long run they are committing to behavior that makes them less desirable than people who match energy. These people get dates not relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:42 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personThis isn’t about icks. It is about people who aren’t interesting who use icks to make themselves feel more attractive than the people who are putting more effort in the talking stage than they are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:41 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personThis dynamic happens before the rejection occurs: It happens during the talking stage where one person is clearly providing more value than the other person. The person who is a slog to talk to is riding on the fact that the other person is still initiating interaction as a sign of interest, but they really are just exploiting that people give each other benefit of the doubt until more substantial interaction happens. These people are self conscious of this dynamic and know they lack confidence … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Women, to what extent if at all do personality, social skills, masculinity, ect affect your visceral, genuine attraction to a man?Never ceases to amaze me how many men on Reddit believe that they can get a take of what the average woman thinks on Reddit. Reddit represents average men way more than it does the average woman. Women know Reddit is where men often congregate online so just think about what kind of woman would be drawn to Reddit outside of niche hobbyist spaces | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:06 PM |
| 6 | Autistic men struggle much more in life than autistic womenI used to work for nonprofit and befriended a few of the ND volunteers. I once got stood up for a date and talked to a friend and she told me 50 excuses for why the girl did what she did. I then also talk to the same person about how one of the autistic volunteers asked me to hang out after I told him I wasn’t free that day (he most likely for got our conversation about my availability). She did not hesitate to say this guy was being rude to me. Fucked me up for quite a bit. Love that guy to dea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:01 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personThis thread isn’t critical of icks. It is discussing the phenomenon of uninteresting people who use icks to make themselves feel better than others | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:35 PM |
| 1 | It’s smart for a man to stop being friends with a women after she rejects himNaw good friends check in with their friends when they don’t hear from them. They might be going through a tough time and I’d be self centered to only assume that it’s just them being unreliable Sure I guess romantic interest can be fleeting. Best to talk about it rather than be shitty and make assumptions | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:31 PM |
| 4 | It’s smart for a man to stop being friends with a women after she rejects himPeople who make character assumptions based on how they respond to rejection tend to be scumbags ime The only people who don’t suck in this way are people who actually communicate. People who lose a friend after rejecting them romantically are free to use their words and ask the person why they don’t want to be friends anymore. If they can’t be bothered to have this communication and make assumptions about the person, then they were never a good friend in the first place. If you were romanticall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:23 PM |
| 2 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personI understand. I guess I’m saying that if these people felt they had showed their true self then this wouldn’t be a concern. They are deciding for themselves that they are uninteresting to the other person before they even attempt to show why they are interesting. They just wait for the other person to be curious without having any material to be curious about. It’s like they want their dates to FORM (family/occupation/recreation/motivation small talk) into being interested in them. You have to s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:07 PM |
| 5 | What motivation is there for dating in a Red Pill world?I genuinely do think most couples and most people in human history don’t get into loving romantic partnerships. But the weird part is that even in my most casual relationships, I’ve never felt as if basic relationship needs were conditional as many men here feel. I’ve never felt like affection was conditional in my relationships. The basic conditions that make being in a relationship preferable to single were never used as bargaining chips in any of my relationships. I think relationships where … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:00 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personWhy it matters to me isn’t important to the discussion. I guess maybe if issue was brought up more, humanity would benefit from these people showing their worth through their actions rather than by putting others down. So I guess it matters to me in that in a general social sense, the world would be a better place if this behavior was discouraged more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:47 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personI mean it should be clear that I’m not saying this is what all icks are. I’m specifically talking about people who lack the confidence to match energy in the talking phase and make little conversational contribution. Likewise, it is weird to make a decision for yourself that the other person doesn’t seem interested. If they want to keep going on dates then they are interested. It’s just a problem you’re creating for yourself if you think someone is full of shit for wanting to continue dating whi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:45 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personAnd I don’t get why you think I should just shut up lol I don’t care if you think this isn’t something I should talk about lol This isn’t about dating these people. It should be fairly clear to anyone in this thread that these aren’t people you should date. But that doesn’t mean that we should only criticize the people we want to date lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:42 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personI literally say first line that this isn’t a general condemnation of icks girly 🙄 I’m talking about people who are low bandwidth during the talking stage and like being chased before they’ve actually demonstrated anything of substance on their part. They use icks to compensate for the fact that they lack the confidence to match energy in the talking phase | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:39 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personIt’s usually obvious when people are being self flagellating or when they are bullying. And it’s not like I’m being super serious. I love making fun of my girl friends when they bring up a stupid ick. I enjoy roasting them so that’s what I get out of it typically. It doesn’t matter to me personally. Why does it matter to them if I’m critical of their behavior? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:36 PM |
| 1 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personThis is too ideal a definition of “ick.” Sure in theory that is what an ick is but in practice that is often not the case Most icks now are constructed based on subjective cultural experiences. Being superficial imo means that your disgust is self programmed and not instinctual | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:33 PM |
| 0 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personYou’re on your own tangent here. I don’t care how you joke about it as long as it is generally accepted that you’re not putting people down behind their back. People are allowed to have their preferences in humor and you shouldn’t get defensive if they don’t match. Just agree to disagree and move on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:31 PM |
| 2 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personIf you have casual banter discussing “icks” while also not being tongue in cheek about how the concept itself is dumb, then most likely you still have insecurities about not being interesting. People generally don’t have casual banter about what makes a person “icky” unless you enjoy being a bully | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:26 PM |
| 0 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personProjecting the shame they feel about their own flaws. These people tend to be so self obsessed with righting their own flaws, that they end up losing their identity in the process and become uninteresting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:21 PM |
| 0 | People use “icks” to compensate for an being uninteresting personI think we are in agreement? I’m not saying that this is a tactic that works. It’s something that is delulu I’m saying it’s typically a coping mechanism for people who don’t like their options. They can’t acknowledge that not matching energy results in driving away more desirable options or failing to keep them around. Rather than accept that they aren’t interesting and being more interesting will yield better results, they can double down and try to maintain a faulty sense of self worth by putt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | What hinders alot of guys from getting and staying in long term relationships is being manchildren.Yeah I agree that the people who saw personal growth and romantic experience as mutually exclusive tend to end up being adult children when they only decide to first start dating in their late 20s. But I’d say this has less to do with social skills and more to do with literal relationship skills. There are lots of social butterflies who fail at relationships because you still need a separate skill set for that. I think having an absent parent is more damaging in the sense that people tend to lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Can you share your experiences of breaking up because she was too boring?It’s more like I shouldn’t be the only one who is the source of dopamine. It’s most likely because now that I’m in my 30s I’m dating women who were able to coast in relationships based on young male hormones and now that sexual value is more equal, they flounder to actually provide much value elsewhere in the relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:03 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: Can you share your experiences of breaking up because she was too boring?Internal locus of control means that if a man sees his partner as boring, then men feel it is his job to help her be less boring. I think most of the time this is the best approach. Most women who complain about being bored also happen to be the women who are most passive. If they still feel bored when single and need to be in a relationship to not feel bored then she is the problem not her partners. I tend to dump women who aren’t reciprocal. I don’t need tit for tat but once it becomes clear t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 08:37 PM |
| 7 | What motivation is there for dating in a Red Pill world?Redpill men are stuck Eskimo broiling each other with women who have daddy issues Their tactics do a great job of scaring off most women and attracting dysfunctional self loathing women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 08:19 PM |
| 3 | What hinders alot of guys from getting and staying in long term relationships is being manchildren.Social adolescence is often a regressive social skill. Coed adolescent social environments are superior. If your adolescent social environment mainly involved people with the same gender and activity (often a sport) then most likely you have bad habits to unlearn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Emotional Addiction Is Ruining Relationships With WomenI’m seeing a girl rn who cries whenever she has an orgasm. Sure she is emotional. Emotionally available? No. Emotional dogpiling is toxic as well. But this happens more often with my female friends than girls I date. And it’s definitely something women do amongst themselves in their friend groups and they probably see it as emotional intelligence when it really isn’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 07:36 PM |
| 5 | Emotional Addiction Is Ruining Relationships With WomenI’m constantly finding that almost all women I get into situationships with from apps are incredibly emotionally closed off. They think men are so stupid that they don’t know any better but it’s the reason why they are situationships and not relationships. Some women nowadays seem to struggle immensely with vulnerability and think they can choose to only be vulnerable with someone they are in a secure committed relationship with but this puts the cart before the horse. A deep committed connectio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 07:17 PM |
| -1 | Why do so many women exaggerate about their standards?They are just projecting disgust they have for the men that do approach them. The men who do approach them do shower and have jobs, but because the men who approach them aren’t the men they want to be approached by it makes them feel unattractive. They use these terms because men who don’t shower are gross and the men who approach them make them feel gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Why men still ask women on dates if they don't want to pay?Women who try to force men into trad gender roles while trying to not adhere to themselves live lives of getting pumped and dumped. There exist no men who like this dynamic. Trad men will see you as useless and your desire for trad dynamics will scare away liberal men. Whores like this will literally try to emasculate men by saying that men who don’t like this are boys meanwhile they aren’t really “women” themselves: just a whore. Never had this issue dating women with careers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 06:24 PM |
| 1 | What constitutes a simp?I will say when it comes to your situation, it typically means that the man is doing things that most people would see as embarrassing if made public. You probably were publicly stating the dynamic of your relationship and a lot of people see people who have your dynamic as something that men would be publicly embarrassed to admit. While you probably see it as something to brag about, most people see the issue is that the man is doing things that would indicate he lacks self respect. Likewise th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/25 09:23 PM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismI’m not saying that people who don’t put their money where there mouth is should be given benefit of the doubt. It takes zero resources and the time it takes to ask a single vetting question is a few seconds. And no this doesn’t have to risk your safety (says the girl who puts her socials on her dating profile). Shows you don’t really care much about your relationships. Again it’s a decision informed by illusory opportunity costs/grass is greener mentality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:10 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessWhat you “deserve” starts at zero with each new person you meet and you build from there. The idea that a partner is your constellation prize for living a life is new social media quasi narcissistic brain rot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 03:35 PM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAgain just like all the other people I’ve replied to: None of this is mutually exclusive. You can both judge people for their actions as well as having open, honest and trustful communication. People who do both get objectively better results. You’re the one who thinks she accepts dates from liars | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 03:33 PM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)You said you were looking for a tour guide not a friend lol And no I don’t use Tinder to make friends 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 05:13 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Why not hire a tour guide lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 05:03 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)What does listing your socials on your dating profile (something which most apps don’t allow anymore) have to do with showing you around the city? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:52 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Location doesn’t change the apps features. What does “short term fun” mean to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:52 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)lol I wonder why | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:51 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Why do you put your socials on your tinder if you don’t want DMs from strangers? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:43 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Tinder is mostly a hookup app girly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:40 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)9 matches are 2/3 of your matches? Rookie numbers lol But I’m sure you got worse screenshots than these lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:40 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)This guy apparently? Have you seen how queer/fet people often introduce themselves? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:31 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)In the context of the redditor I was replying to (and by judging by her replies telling me about how naive I am about abuse) “true colors” means men revealing their antisocial tendencies | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:31 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)So you chose to swipe on someone named magic tongue and you gave the audacity to get mad at this!? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:28 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)If it was harassment then you could report it and get him banned | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:27 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)That this guy is a sub? What’s wrong with that? Fine if it’s not your thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:26 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Your preference | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:26 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)You asked for this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:25 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Again your preference that you don’t like transactional relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:25 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)This is funny lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:25 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Trashy. But again not anti social. You’d hate feeld lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:25 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Now this one is for sure sus, but still more likely than not total lack of self awareness like French kiss guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:24 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Soliciting nudes as a first message is for sure trashy af. But again not anti social as he isn’t demanding them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:23 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Bad “French Kiss” line But wild to assume this means he’s rapey | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:22 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Also nothing wrong here. You don’t share his kink preference. Men are allowed to have kinks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:22 AM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)So you don’t like transactional relationships. Your preference. Not anti social | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 04:21 AM |
| 2 | Men who ask out a female friend 9 out of 10 times naturally developed feelings for her and didn’t put her in the “fuck zone”Insecure women tend to project that people who are sexually attracted them are devaluing their other non sexual traits | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismYeah but I’ll say for the 50th time in this thread that these things are still mutually exclusive and you can. “Trust but verify” goes a long way in life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanism“Why do I care about verbal communication” You’re not a lie detector | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 10:39 PM |
| – | Women don't need a social circle or amazing social skills to get a boyfriendHas nothing to do with time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 09:07 PM |
| 3 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Why are you avoiding giving an example and just calling me names instead? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:49 PM |
| 2 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)And what exactly is an abusive message? Are they threatening violence? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:46 PM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)So they send an abusive message within 3-5 replies? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:39 PM |
| 0 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)What colors are these? Like he just wants to hook up even though that’s already usually listed on the profile so usually a non issue? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:16 PM |
| 2 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Most women are flooded with matches which means they thought those options were decent enough to swipe on then they proceed to not talk to most of their matches. How can you know whether a match is quality or not if you don’t talk to them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 04:18 PM |
| – | Women don't need a social circle or amazing social skills to get a boyfriendDepends. Some women with big friend groups it doesn’t feel like you are dating an individual but rather the hive mind of her friend group. It feels like you have no privacy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 03:44 PM |
| 5 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)Doesn’t matter the quality. They are swarmed to begin with and for some reason women choose to keep swiping on more people despite having people who are waiting for their reply. It’s not as if women actually know whether their options are decent or not because they aren’t talking to them. Hinge has been updating their app to prevent women from abusing this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | The Top 10% Illusion: Why Dating Apps Still Suck for Attractive Men (as a 10% user)My ratio is that for about every 5 yes’s to dates there are 2-3 ghosts and you’ll get stood up once. Granted, I have also had several weeks where I’ve had 2 dates a week and 3 dates one time. I really couldn’t make rational decisions and I was going through the motions. If it feels like you are talking to a woman who is going through the motions, then she simply has too much on her plate and she most likely swipes on apps compulsively. Hinge is the only app that prevents this as it won’t let you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismPeople tend to cheat only on people who are in their league. Just because you have more options, doesn’t mean you are tempted more. Being attractive and rich makes you rare and attractive and rich people tend to want to cheat with other people who are also attractive (and often rich). Men don’t date down as much as TRP suggests. And yes there is data on attractive people cheating less. That Ryan McMacken dude talks about this all the time. They simply aren’t interested in sacrificing their relat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismMen who had a sexually fulfilling youth are less tempted in marriage. Lots of “beta” men who marry were less sexually active at a young age so they are going to be more tempted to cheat to see what they missed out on. This is the real reason why women avoid older male virgins. You’re almost guaranteed to be his practice fuck and few men only one 1 sexual partner for their entire life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 05:57 AM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanism“Demonize” lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 05:43 AM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismIt still creates a receipt for the liar to be held accountable to. It will just make that much more obvious if they don’t put their money where their mouth is I think it’s pretty clear in OP that I’m not suggesting verbal vetting should be the only form of vetting but that people who forgo it for other kinds of vetting are simply vetting with fewer tools in their tool belt | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAlpha skeets beta cheats more like | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismThat’s my point: women feel it is superficial to judge people based on their physical attractiveness so they use character assassination as a crutch to rationalize their lack of attraction. Women feel judged harshly for their looks so they use character assassination to avoid feeling hypocritical I don’t see why you’d think my OP is questioning that these women aren’t into the men they character assassinate. I’m not arguing that. But they typically aren’t rejecting the actual person in front of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 04:43 AM |
| 0 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismIf you make up your mind about someone without talking to that person then relationships may not be for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismNor do I really need anecdotes. It is well studied: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3826209/#:~:text=Abstract,those%20who%20perpetrate%20the%20aggression. Granted this is an evo psych perspective saying that women engage in character assassination to reduce costs intrasexual competition | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanism“Disclaimer: not an AWALT thread” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 01:57 AM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismWell we will agree to disagree. Shame you can’t back your adjectives with an argument | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 01:50 AM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismI don’t date women like this lol These observations about women do not affect how I conduct my dating apart from that I just avoid people like this (not that I don’t end up on dates with people like this but I’ll set a boundary) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 01:39 AM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismWhere did I say crazy? It’s wild to seek out posts on the internet of men being shitty and then using that as a way to inform your approach to dating. That’s what incels do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 01:38 AM |
| -1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismBut you didn’t get fucked over. You just think you will because you’re playing armchair psychologist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAgree with the first part, but the second part implies that you don’t trust the person from the start. I think everyone starts at neutral and then prove why they are compatible. The idea that you prove that you aren’t going to fuck them over is trying to prove a negative and thus not a logical. If someone is going to screw me over, I’m not going to waste time trying to use shit tests and vibe checks to try to glean what they might do to me. I give benefit of the doubt until I get fucked over the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 12:38 AM |
| 6 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseUsing the term “loneliness” is itself poisoning the well. It’s meant to perpetuate the stereotype that men are socially inept, when they just have strengths when it comes to socializing and have a way of socializing that is often not recognized as social intelligence. Male “estrangement” epidemic would make more sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismSounds like a you problem my guy A+ feedback lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismYeah most TRPers are not the ones women are racking up their n count with. Most TRPers are just like the women who think all men lie: they had some traumatic experience that probably wasn’t actually that traumatic, but was humiliating enough for them that they are TRP as a defense mechanism. The loser women in this thread think men lie and loser TRPers think most women are hoes and only the minority of women who are modest. The fact that they think this, just shows their lack of experience and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 11:57 PM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAgain the reason why men slut shame is because TRPers get embarrassed dating a woman with a higher body count than their own If TRPers had high body counts then they wouldn’t slut shame as much | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 11:24 PM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanism“Reads story on Reddit about a man lying. Assumes men are liars.” -terminally online misandrist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismThis is a you problem not a man problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismI’m not saying they do. Men don’t need redpill if they are already getting laid. They don’t slut shame due to patriarchy, they slut shame women to feel better about not getting their dick wet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismThat’s an adjacent but not totally the same problem. I address this in OP as well: women use these snap judgements to justify avoiding the men they don’t find attractive. This doesn’t mean they are chattiest with the men they want the most. If anything insecure women will be more passive communicating with a guy they want the most because they want to see him extend himself for her. A lot of men on tinder feel like they are just on the other side of the spectrum and if they were attractive enoug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismMy argument would still be that direct communication does not necessarily endanger you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismWhy is he jumping through hoops unless you’re assuming he is lying? Circular reasoning much | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismBecause if someone is trying to conceal their true preference to use you for sex, they wouldn’t drop an unambiguous hint? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismNo but assuming that you’ll be lied to isn’t an excuse to avoid communication | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismWomen aren’t forced to stay in relationships with expiration dates. It’s not men’s fault that you’re a manic pixie dream girl. Hence why I personally do agree with your statements about investment (and yeah 6-12 month mark is a good time frame) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismIf he thinks his intention isn’t ambiguous, then he wouldn’t lie about his intentions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismI used to think this, but the reality is that insecure women use passive communication to feel validation that the man “really wants her.” Being a passive communicator is itself a shit test that insecure women do. It was a big eye opener for me when I got a bunch more matches (quality didn’t increase much but quantity did) after putting a shirtless selfie on my profile. A lot of these women still communicated just as passively but now they were just saying yes to the date. Attractive women who h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismBecause really the only way to verify if a man wants casual sex is that he says so or that he has sex with you and continues to want to date other people. Inviting you to a party as a first date doesn’t prove he just wants casual sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismHow do you know what he thinks lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismYou don’t have to. I think it’s fine if you don’t want to be casually dating but would still like to be in relationships before settling down and starting a family. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismWhy not observe AND communicate? I fail to see how they are mutually exclusive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAnd this is because serial abusers have been conditioned to pass shit tests and they take advantage of the fact that women are uncomfortable asserting boundaries | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismBecause “I don’t see his as action as ambiguous” is still your opinion and not his stated intention? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:54 PM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismDo you think these men don’t want a long term relationship at all or do you think they would like one but are just settling for a short term casual relationship for the time being? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismOk well that’s usually much further down the road than what I’m talking about in OP. The “medium term” relationship is popular among men in their 20s who are not settled in their careers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAnd how do these men rule themselves out if they aren’t saying they just want casual sex? I’m struggling to see how you’re not just making assumptions. So you think he just wants sex if he invites you to a party? Again why not just say “that seems like an informal date, what kind of relationship are you looking for?” Dated a girl for a bit in college I met at a club and then she invited me to her bday party. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:50 PM |
| -1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismThey don’t have to. Women don’t communicate well enough on apps generally for me to buy the idea that they have no choice but to make snap judgments. It’s usually just a girl who collects more matches than she can talk to for validation. The irony is that secure attractive women swipe much less often and don’t purposely match with men they don’t invest in interacting with. Just buy the coffee meets bagel stats and you’ll see that attractive women respond at a higher rate and send more first mess… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismSo do you ask if they are just looking for sex? Or again do you just choose not to waste literally 15 seconds of your time because you assume he’ll lie? Men aren’t evil for wanting casual sex so it isn’t rude to ask the question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismIm not talking about the other person im talking about yourself. I do not “act guarded” to protect myself. I am independent and secure enough in my own life that if I get fucked over, I have the self respect and agency to remove myself without traumatizing myself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismHehehe moving goalposts about men who watch goalposts So now they are getting violent when they watch sports? Wonder if any hockey couples started out as a man and woman flyers fans who bonded over flipping a car. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismPeople don’t communicate enough on the apps for us to truly blame the apps for how people act. It’s definitely mutually reinforcing but it’s more that apps encourage people to cultivate their existing prejudices: not that apps make people prejudiced | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAt what point do you feel you are worth the investment to a man? Should it be the first date? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismJust because you have a deeper relationship with someone doesn’t mean that the relationship CHANGES YOU | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismNo I don’t think verbal communication is a time inconvenience as people are saying. If you can’t even be bothered to ask a question then how is going on a date any more convenient? I’m saying that women see verbal communication as creating an opportunity cost because why put the effort when I can just keep dating until I find someone I can’t make snap judgements about (who often end up having more dark triad traits ironically) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismBut I’m saying the incompatibility is often projected and not real. It is often snap character judgment based on unverifiable claims. Just because you are incompatible, doesn’t mean someone isn’t worth treating with respect and open and clear communication. You aren’t better than someone because you’re incompatible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAgain this isn’t much different than assuming men are liars. Emotionally healthy men get angry sometimes and having conversations about said anger is also healthy. Negative past experiences do not justify unhealthy relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAsking someone why they react a certain way is not controlling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:24 PM |
| -1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismIf something is non existent, you still have to nurture it so that it grows into something that exists. It makes no difference if someone passes your shit tests or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismPeople who act differently in the talking vs a relationship are typically playing games. I do not avoid direct communication because I’m not in a long term relationship with someone because then literally every relationship will start on the wrong foot and assumptions we are making about each other that may not be true and will end the relationship. It’s not only toxic but it is foolhardy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAccusatory to someone violent. But again you’re assuming that asking someone why they had the emotional response they had will result in violence. (Eg men can’t be angry so women date abusive men who repress their emotions) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismGod bless you know how relationships work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanism“Thorough enough” Is still less thourough. No one is so busy that asking a question is a waste of time. You’re just rationalizing avoiding uncomfortable conversations that are necessary for relationships to grow And my point is that often the incompatibility an assumption made by the behavior rather than the behavior itself being problematic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismThat’s what I mean: women tend to think that such questions are rude while also making their decisions about relationships without actually involving the other person. Personally, I think most people just see what their lifestyle is and decide if the way they live is compatible. Usually financial solvency is an issue discussed once you are at the point in the relationship where financial liability is a concern. Unless the relationship is transactional, this doesn’t usually happen until cohabitat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:17 PM |
| 3 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismWhy even date if you have this perspective? Aren’t you just wasting everyone’s time because you assume even your partner is morally corrupt? What’s the point apart from you wasting the time of people who are actually sincere? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismNo it’d just less thorough vetting. More thorough vetting is both verbal and non verbal communication. Less thorough is just non verbal. The idea that verbal communication=deception is not protection, it is just fearful-anxious attachment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismNot necessarily. Often these women are permanently on guard. Some anticipate a 7 year itch. Some don’t trust he will be the same after marriage or children or menopause. Plenty of women go through their entire life being guarded. And imo this is the perspective of someone who does not have secure attachment. People with secure attachment give benefit of the doubt until trust is broken. They do not start with them not trusting the person as default. This is just an uncomfortable courtship ritual … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:07 PM |
| – | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismOh look another person who assumes their partner is a liar Good luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismSure only if you think you can glean “everything you need to know” based on their actions. Not an excuse to not verify that. And it shouldn’t change whether their actions say something negative or positive about them. Even if you can be communicated things that are positive non verbally, that is also not an excuse to avoid verbal communication. It’s all just bad relationship habits | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismThe thing is “observations” and “communication” are not mutually exclusive. And yeah they get upset so they slut shame to get back at women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:57 PM |
| 0 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismTwo things: Incompatibility with someone expressive is a real incompatibility. But the danger is also that this can provide a false sense of security among men who are repressed as you may not feel direct communication is necessary because they “seem” ok. Secondly is just that there is an association between male anger and violence. IMO men need a safe space to express their anger openly in order to have a healthy relationship. If that is triggering, then that is incompatibility as well. I do th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAuditions vet for aptitude not compatibility. And I agree I don’t date women like that. I even go on dates and call the behavior out in real time and am clear that I don’t like that as I am comfortable asserting boundaries with strangers (perhaps a male privilege). But a lot of this is that women can feel uncomfortable asserting boundaries due to risks they face, but by the same token, a lot of women engage in nasty behavior with the men they date that is often worse than asserting and do so wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismAppreciate the clarification. I am using it informally here and don’t mean it as libel or slander: I mean it as making negative unverified assumptions about someone. It’s not premised on that. My argument kind of the inverse: people avoid direct communication due to dunning Kruger causing them to over inflate their ability to vet people via other means (see “he invited me to a party as a first date so he just wanted casual sex” comment below). And the idea that direct communication is not only n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:23 PM |
| -1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanism“Hey I notice you’re taking me out to really nice places but you live at home. Can you explain your situation for me?” Insecure feminine energy often prevents women from communicating clearly and asserting boundaries because they project that doing so is rude or that they assume men are liars | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:18 PM |
| 3 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismBut you’re not wasting your time. That’s how you’re supposed to have a healthy relationship: clear communication. You only think you are wasting your time because you think a bunch of men who want to sleep with you=men who want to have the relationship I want. The reality is that grass is greener mentality is pointless if you can’t even be bothered to water the grass you are currently standing on. You’re literally just admitting that you don’t believe communication is important for relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:17 PM |
| 0 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismI’ve already addressed this and you are assuming I’m a liar so kinda confirming my post. You can verify if someone is lying or not. Assuming it won’t get you far | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:11 PM |
| -5 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismYou’re not being particularly specific here. Did you communicate this was a boundary? If no then how were they supposed to know it was a boundary? And if you did communicate it, then why wouldn’t you say “hey this was a boundary I communicated, why do you think it was ok for you to cross it?” If they get defensive, then I can see why ditching the guy is warranted. How do you know someone is living above their means if you don’t have their financials? And yeah pretty wild assumption on your part … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismI don’t think you’re really contradicting me here. It’s all monkey see monkey do with assuming the worst about people. It is fundamentally insecure feminine energy. Men who are secure are fine to give people benefit of the doubt until the person they give benefit of the doubt fucks up then they have the self respect to leave that person. Assuming the worst about people really doesn’t help to prevent these situations as much as people think it does. It’s just arm chair psychology These folks shou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:06 PM |
| 0 | If a man with options will cheat because he can, a man with no options is only with you because he's desperateI feel like if you’re a woman who has these thoughts then that’s just confirmation that you’re an undesirable partner As soon as you commit to a mating strategy that assumes the opposite gender is disingenuous, then you’re no longer able to have authentic romantic connection. These types of coping mechanisms are for people who lack the emotional resilience to have functioning long term relationships. These are the people who get burned and then define their personality as a woe as me narrative. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 05:39 PM |
| 1 | The gender disparity in crime isn’t a conspiracy against menPriors carry a more severe penalty for men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 10:16 PM |
| – | Women on reddit generalise men because they can't get over the fact that they're not personality detectors.Ofc! I think the other issue is that there almost is no flattering dating content that comes from either gender. So it’s not like you can even train the algo to show you positive stuff I like Dr max butterfield on Instagram lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 06:12 PM |
| – | Women on reddit generalise men because they can't get over the fact that they're not personality detectors.It just seems like it’s everywhere because you have an obsession that the algo picked up on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 06:07 PM |
| – | Women on reddit generalise men because they can't get over the fact that they're not personality detectors.So you don’t have male friends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 06:06 PM |
| – | Women on reddit generalise men because they can't get over the fact that they're not personality detectors.AWORALT all women on Reddit are like that hahaha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 06:01 PM |
| – | Women on reddit generalise men because they can't get over the fact that they're not personality detectors.“If you look hard enough, you’ll find a man on social media saying something that confirms my prejudices” Kinda weird to categorize your non romantic relationship priorities based on gender. Most of my friends are women. It’s not like I have a quota for how many or few people I want in my life based on gender. I can only see that making sense if you reduce a gender to a stereotype | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 05:52 PM |
| – | Suddenly all female preferences are "heckin valid" and not to be questionedI don’t think so. I do agree with OP that this is a cultural pendulum that swung in the other direction. I don’t think the fact that women were financial slaves meant they secretly wanted to date someone who is physically as attractive now. It’s definitely social media that has influenced the ceiling of standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 01:55 PM |
| 3 | The DL trend exists, because there is connection between homophobia and benevolent sexism.Goes both ways: trad con girlies now have a caricature of what masculinity is and if you’re a straight man who doesn’t present gender conforming then they see you as less of a man. And queer girlies will see you as an imposter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/25 05:10 PM |
| 5 | The DL trend exists, because there is connection between homophobia and benevolent sexism.I agree. Zoomers seem highly dependent on archetypes to validate their world view. They have a narrow view on what people of all genders and sexual orientations SHOULD behave like. Queer but you dress preppy? Zoomers hate it. Straight man but you speak in a higher register and like to talk about tea? Zoomers hate it. It’s like they hate to see heteronormative behavior that doesn’t offend them. It’s as if some zoomers are so miserable they WANT people to conform to their offensive stereotype | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/25 05:07 PM |
| 10 | The DL trend exists, because there is connection between homophobia and benevolent sexism.Younger generations are ironically wayyyyy more sensitive to gender non conforming behavior despite being more feminist on paper than millennials, but I think millennials are fundamentally more inclusive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/25 06:45 AM |
| 2 | CMV: GFs should not cook for their BFsHaha if you have to do that to incentivize someone to marry you then you simply weren’t desired enough as a partner to begin with and you are building your marriage on a house of cards. Like if he’s not marrying you when you cook for him, why would not cooking make him want marry you? It would simply be easier to find another woman and date her if she cooks before marriage | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 07:49 PM |
| -1 | Women are denied the gift of failureIt’s not the failure itself but the response to it: internal vs external locus of control. Culturally we overemphasize internal locus of control for men and we overemphasize external locus of control for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 06:06 PM |
| -1 | Domestic labor being a point of contention in marriages is the fault of feminism, not menSingle men don’t live in squalor. If you don’t want to please your partner then relationships aren’t for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 06:03 PM |
| 4 | What is stopping men to be hypergamous like they claim women are?The better question to ask is: how did women gain the agency to be hypergamous in the 20th century? Redpill for some reason thinks hypergamy is a female state of nature when it’s a relatively new phenomenon. For most of history, daughters were effectively the family’s property. They’d use their daughter to attract wealth, thus it was the will of the parents for women to have transactional relationships and it was rarely a trade between beauty and wealth, but more often YOUTH and wealth. Most peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 11:10 PM |
| 15 | A lot of women don't want emotional intelligence from men, they want emotional validation from men.Point is that self regulation is where men on average rank higher than women with respect to emotional intelligence. Men and women are not as far apart in terms of emotional intelligence as we think because it is easy to label men’s ability to self regulate and manage stress as repression. And we can overestimate women’s emotional intelligence because we often perceive emotional=emotionally intelligent. And I think when a lot of women complain about lack of emotional intelligence, it is often th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirs“In 29% of marriages today, both spouses earn about the same amount of money. Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner and 16% have a breadwinner wife.” https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsYes because the paid work hours makes up the difference of unpaid work hours | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsBreadwinner=man makes more not sole income earner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsAgain girly you are looking at only the second link Egalitarian couples are the minority of couples. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:38 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsShe backtracked. Then proceeded to ignore most of the data Typical scorned woman Now is moving goalposts because she can’t be bothered to read the actual stat on how many couples are where men are breadwinners so she’s trying to infer that the obvious is incorrect through ancillary data that doesn’t actually confirm what she’s saying. But she ofc could just look up how many couples are where men are the breadwinner but that would be too simple | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:35 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsMost couples are where men are the breadwinner Man (46.7+4.4+1.4)=52.5 Woman (33.4+9.4+7.3)=50.1 And in egalitarian couples, women don’t do more than what men do in breadwinner couples. It’s less than a 2 hour difference so this hardly confirms the “women do double the work” hypothesis. It’s only where women make more where the lazy man trope makes sense. This is where the data exposes the deadbeat dad phenomenon but that isn’t most men. Angry internet women think most men are like deadbeat dads | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:27 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsHours contributed to household=paid work+housework+caregiving Combine the three and men do more on average what do you know | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:08 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsThe data is clearly separated by parents vs husband and wife and has a caregiving column. What is this caregiving column measuring? Where is this amendment? Can you give a link? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:03 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsTime for men to grow tits | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 06:56 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirshttps://finance.yahoo.com/news/u-child-care-market-trends-132300714.html But go ahead and rationalize why literally pew data is underestimating what women contribute PPD hates stats for some reason | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 06:50 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirshttps://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/st_2023-04-13_breadwinner-wives_08-png/ (Most couples are where men are the bread winner) And in egalitarian couples, women don’t put more hours relative to their partner than men do in breadwinner couples: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/st_2023-04-13_breadwinner-wives_06-pn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 06:44 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsThe amount they work more than women exceeds the difference in leisure time: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/st_2023-04-13_breadwinner-wives_08-png/ (Most couples are where men are the bread winner) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 06:42 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsWhen combining paid work and domestic labor, men contribute more hours to the household than women on average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Why do women say men are single because they are bad/misogynistic. But tons of bad and misogynistic men have tons of women?I’m not saying they are? I’m just asking why misogyny isn’t a deal breaker for SO MANY women? Kyle Rittenhouse just got married. If Trump got divorced, he’d have women lined up to marry him. Why are there almost like a seemingly endless supply of women that high status misogynists to go through? Where does this supply of women come from? Do you think they come from households with fathers who abused their wives but treated their daughters well so the daughter has positive associations to misogyn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 06:23 PM |
| 1 | As a woman, women's intuition is vastly overratedThen they suffer dunning Kruger when the relationship guy they ignored the red flags with blows up in their face and they say “ugh my intuition is always right, why did I do that” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 06:04 PM |
| 17 | Why do women say men are single because they are bad/misogynistic. But tons of bad and misogynistic men have tons of women?Why are women so willing to toss morals out the window when choosing misogynists to have their children and thus endanger other women by making sure misogyny stays in the gene pool? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 03:08 AM |
| – | Q4M: Who is in the wrong here?It’s a skit. But if this is cruel to you then please seek mental health assistance. Seriously. Like hate to see society go down this track. This is all just getting so gross now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipYes women who have sex before commitment are not using sex to manipulate someone into a relationship. You use sex as a carrot to manipulate men into giving you commitment that they will readily give up when they find someone else who is easier than you because the only people who date people who withhold sex are celibate people who agree on their values. You said “it’s about vetting and seeing if actually likes the person he’s dating” so yes just because you had sex sooner than later doesn’t mea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipYes picking men who are choosing to have sex with you instead of other people is the definition of not using sex to manipulate someone and is how actual trustful monogamy is established. It is delusional to think that men who have sex with you sooner than later won’t like you as a person. The timing of having sex has literally nothing to do with whether they like you as a person or not. Moreover the dynamic of the relationship changes after you have sex. They may have liked you as a friend but n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipWithholding sex is using sex to manipulate someone girly. Then after you have sex how every arbitrary months in, how do you keep him after that? Does making a guy wait make you feel “safe?” Do you think men prefer to be committed with women who manipulate men with sex? If anything guys who wait for sex are the ones more desperate for it and would be more likely to jump at the opportunity the next chance they get because they don’t get many chances. Date the guy who has sexual options but is choo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipSTDs and unwanted pregnancy is an education issue. The point is you have to explore yourself. Ofc your drunken one night stand is going to be mid. And that’s my point: women are trying to use their looks and sex to bargain for relationships and it’s failing hard. New tactic needed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 05:29 PM |
| -1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipThis is why a sex negative society is bad for relationships. A thriving hookup culture means that people enter relationships with honest intentions. Relationships improve when casual sex is accessible to as most people as possible. When people stopped having as much sex (early 10s) we transitioned from hookup culture to situationship culture. Women (and tech companies) wanted women to retain their sexual value as means of bargaining for the best partner they can get. This has been a massive expe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 08:26 PM |
| – | Nothing is actually *that* hard to explain. "Hard to explain" is just code for "I have no argument"Most women don’t verify their intuition imo and they tend to hyper fixate one the one time they ignored their intuition and it bit them in the ass and they use that as a way to rationalize why the assumptions they have about others are correct and don’t need verification | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Women consider it a "betrayal" when an ostensibly platonic male friend expresses romantic interest in them ONLY IF they're not interested in him, as wellI guess you’d assume that if you’re immature | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 06:14 PM |
| 0 | Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges.Arguably a lot of women are doing 4B without realizing it. A lot of incels don’t necessarily call themselves that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges.I think a lot of it is parental shame and guilt by fathers. Fathers say “boys only want one thing” and then this scares young women into having very irresponsible committed relationships at an early age where they are not mature enough yet to “play house” and then miss out on a lot of sexual self exploration. I think late Gen X and early millennials have the women who were most free in this aspect And then there is parental shame generally where if a girl brings home a boyfriend who isn’t someon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges.IMO that’s only if you are sexually dysfunctional and/or emotionally unavailable. Which may be most (single) women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges.4B still implies relationships with men are a choice. A lot of women simply cannot do better than a 6-8 month situationship and they need outside guidance and advice to improve this. But most double down with misandrist rationalizations and try to make their lack of success a men’s problem because social media has destroyed female ego. This is like saying MGTOW=redpill And pink pill has not been advice for women from the perspective of having an internal locus of control. It’s just doubling down… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:50 PM |
| 6 | Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges.Dating is hard for women because we don’t think women do anything wrong in relationships so we don’t give women advice on how to be better partners and now women flounder in the post talking phase part of dating. Wish we could replace the word “femcel” with something like “relationcel” because it is the “involuntary” part that is more important. Women are choosing not to have sex but they seeming can’t choose to have the relationships they want despite men statistically wanted committed relation… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:26 PM |
| – | If misogynists want to create a fake narrative that number of women committing SA on men is higher or equal to men SA on women, then why don't men demand a seperate land away from women?I’m comparing misogyny to racism. Men are fine to lust after what they hate but also that women are professional character assassins and enjoy projecting their trauma onto half the world | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 09:12 PM |
| 1 | If misogynists want to create a fake narrative that number of women committing SA on men is higher or equal to men SA on women, then why don't men demand a seperate land away from women?Misogynists are to women what Sean Penn’s character in One Battle After The Other is to black women. Patriarchy depends on female labor. It’s only misandrists who hate men so viscerally that they are disgusted at the thought of any association with the other gender. “Nasty women” arguably hate men more than misogynists hate women Misogynists can even be traumatized by a woman and then not project those stereotypes onto all other women. They will just cling to their narrow set of beliefs that are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 01:31 AM |
| – | Are looks the deciding factor in how much effort a man puts into a woman? If not, what is?Looks alone will get you a 6-8 month situationship max. I can assure you the best looking woman I’ve dated did not get the most effort from me. In fact, this girl in particular got some of the least amount of effort from me And it’s about half and half. Half of the very attractive women I’ve dated feel that looks are just what they bring to the table and the other half are cognizant of the fact that their looks tend to sabotage the possibility of sincere and authentic connections so often the wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/25 10:57 PM |
| – | Almost every academic article says men and women have higher sexual satisfaction in committed relationship vs ONS or short term encounter. Yet I do not believe it.There’s just a small group of women who have mediocre sex with men who are much more attractive than they are and then they have rose tinted goggles about it when the short balding guy probably has way better head game. She just came due to the fact that an attractive man made her forget her insecurities and made her feel excited even though the sex was probably actually mid. Men need to stop feeling insecure about your woman’s past lovers. She’s just with you now as someone with similar SMVs an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/25 09:51 PM |
| 7 | Calling men paranoid for not wanting to approach women, ironically downplaying the same fears women claim to have about men.TIL those are two different words | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/25 08:43 PM |
| 6 | Calling men paranoid for not wanting to approach women, ironically downplaying the same fears women claim to have about men.I agree but body language will never replace asserting boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/25 06:20 PM |
| 13 | Calling men paranoid for not wanting to approach women, ironically downplaying the same fears women claim to have about men.Yes you’re not supposed to take terminally online misandrists seriously. Most women are WEARY of men not fearful of men generally. Most women are still imo more approachable than most men. But you do need to be cognizant of when women feign politeness to avoid conflict. I do think this is becoming more and more common again (I think this was common for women pre sexual revolution and women continued to become better with asserting boundaries, but a lot of that progress has been erased post socia… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/25 05:38 PM |
| 5 | "DoorDash Girl" is proof that women's spaces will not hold women accountable.This is just a glimpse behind the curtain of which women you are talking to on Reddit. Reddit is primarily an amab space. The few minority of women who do frequent Reddit come to Reddit knowing it’s an amab space. They are here explicitly to see the “man zoo” and find fodder to hate so their miserable lives have more meaning | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/25 03:47 PM |
| -6 | The single solution for women’s dating problems is being more active and asking men out.Yes women are knowingly choosing to stay with men who aren’t into them and choose to not date the men who are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 10:20 PM |
| -3 | The single solution for women’s dating problems is being more active and asking men out.The point is that men don’t have options. They choose being alone or someone they tolerate. It’s just silly because women don’t really want to date anymore so it’s not like men have a choice except to be alone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 10:16 PM |
| -6 | The single solution for women’s dating problems is being more active and asking men out.Why is it men’s fault that they are with women who aren’t their type? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 10:14 PM |
| 10 | The single solution for women’s dating problems is being more active and asking men out.It’s funny how women think they are black belts for vetting men who they are incompatible with yet they simply can’t decenter men when it comes to vetting them for the kind of interest they show in you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 10:13 PM |
| – | When bad boys come on strong, its "love bombing". When nice guys come on strong, they look desperate, clingy and needyIt’s a cycle. the discard cycle isn’t permanently getting rid of you. It’s designed to get you crawling back to them. Then they become nice to you again and the cycle repeats | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 03:14 PM |
| – | Q4M: When dating, do you only spend money if there's something in it for you?Sexually appealing≠looks for women. It is a combination of looks, personality, humor and health Nor do women associate money with sexual competence. It matters for the scope of long term relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 08:22 PM |
| 1 | When bad boys come on strong, its "love bombing". When nice guys come on strong, they look desperate, clingy and needySocial media pop psych is basically just a huge industry that preys on women with fragile egos. Even some of the older bimbofied dating gurus are starting to call this stuff out now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 07:57 PM |
| 1 | When bad boys come on strong, its "love bombing". When nice guys come on strong, they look desperate, clingy and needyAgain that’s just cope. People don’t leave satisfying sexual relationships. Men will start rosters before they leave a woman they enjoy sex with | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 07:47 PM |
| 1 | When bad boys come on strong, its "love bombing". When nice guys come on strong, they look desperate, clingy and needyYou’re literally just describing someone who changed their mind about you. Was he insincere? Who knows! But the fact that he left you isn’t evidence that it was insincere The entire point of love bombing is that it is a form of narcissistic abuse intended to form toxic attachment. If he left you then clearly he doesn’t want you attached to him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 07:41 PM |
| 6 | Q4M: When dating, do you only spend money if there's something in it for you?No this is just betabux for unattractive men. Men who are sexually appealing don’t really have to make the same demonstrations. It’s only a factor for the defining the scope of a long term relationship, not her interest to begin with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: When dating, do you only spend money if there's something in it for you?These sound like broke women problems to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 07:21 PM |
| 2 | When bad boys come on strong, its "love bombing". When nice guys come on strong, they look desperate, clingy and needyNo love bombing in its actual form, not what weak women complain about, is narcissistic abuse and pretty classic bad boy behavior. Love bombing implies a discard cycle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 06:42 PM |
| 2 | When bad boys come on strong, its "love bombing". When nice guys come on strong, they look desperate, clingy and needyLove bombing in its current pop psych brainrot form is just cope for women who struggle with emotional vulnerability Love bombers don’t pump and dump. If you got pumped and dumped then you weren’t love bombed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Men being the ones to initiate is not a failure of feminismI’m not I’m just saying “getting dates” doesn’t mean your strategy is working. But there are plenty of studies showing relationships have higher success rates when women initiate https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/love-sex/women-first-move-men-love-lucky-success-relationship-study-a8220701.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 08:45 PM |
| 4 | Men being the ones to initiate is not a failure of feminismGetting dates isn’t some sort of goal to strive for. Dates are a means to an end. So imo if your approach isn’t leading to relationship satisfaction then you’re not above criticism | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 07:11 PM |
| 7 | I think many (conservative) men are hypocrites because they say stuff like "not all men are bad" but act differently when it comes to their own daughters and sisters.Oooofff been saying this on this sub for a while Fathers telling their daughters when they meet a new boy “boys only want one thing” Translation: I disappointed young women when I was a teenager by having bad sex with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 06:55 AM |
| 8 | Men have absolutely no legitimate reason to be angry at womenWomen have absolutely no legitimate reason to be mad at men who only want sex from them and nothing else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?“Best behavior”≠hide values about relationships that are controversial. And if they had controversial views, then be direct about if they have them or not rather than waiting for people to “show themselves” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 07:01 PM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?Assuming someone is insecure without actually interrogating their motives is character assassination No most people do not hide their true selves. Assuming people are liars is also character assassination. It’s all just an excuse not to have tough conversations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?They’d rather take the risk than risk the humiliation of feeling judged upfront. It’s a balancing act. If you don’t have children from their sexual history then it’s easier for them to take the risk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 10:16 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?I don’t think anyone is assuming there are no underlying values. People just seem to assume what those values may be despite there being a variety of values that may motivate such a preference | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 10:08 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?Understandable. Just don’t get mad if someone leaves you after you’ve invested in them if you divulge info they don’t like. Although I’m sure you’d do your diligence to know that wouldn’t happen but there always will be a risk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:14 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?Ofc everyone has a right to privacy. My comment doesn’t contradict this so I frankly don’t understand your reply apart from it just being deflection. And I have the right to ask why you’d want that privacy in a relationship. Just because you say it’s irrelevant doesn’t make it irrelevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:09 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?I don’t see why privacy about sexual history is important for a person you have a long term relationship with. What’s the point apart from not wanting to be judged for it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:02 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?So you assume that men who express this preference IRL are secretly withholding misogynistic views that you see on Reddit? You perceive Reddit as “what men really think?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:00 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?So you’re saying men try to attract women with similar preferences by shaming high n count women? How do you know he would want to be promiscuous if he could? This sounds like another assumption to me. . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 08:55 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?So if a guy says he only wants to date low n count women, what reason would you need to assume he’s misogynistic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 08:48 AM |
| – | Why do high-body-count women get the most offended when men prefer low body count?Why do so many women have a knee jerk response to perform character assassination immediately when they hear someone who has a differing preference? Ofc there are men who want low n count women for misogynistic reasons, but do you actually stop to examine whether the person in front of you actually has those misogynistic motives or do you just assume it outright and then wait to see if he proves that he isn’t misogynistic? If women are so proud of their intuition, then why do they so rarely atte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Women's repulsion of weakness, while more subtle, is as "shitty" as men's objectifying tendencies.Women who are repulsed my expressions of weakness are just women who can’t regulate their nervous system well enough to have functioning relationships. Stop crying over spilt milk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 08:40 AM |
| 1 | Biggest reason men are mad at women? Miserable paths.Humans are pretty pathetic in that we abandon relationships during economic hardship. Like you can still fuck and support one another without money. But it’s like we are incapable of being social creatures unless we are associating with people who provide material benefit. It’s like our genitals are capitalist pigs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 08:38 AM |
| 4 | CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truthsMost men don’t not have pedo fantasies and i just assume women who say this are bitter about getting less attention when they are older as if men are pedophiles to be attracted to women in their 20s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 12:52 AM |
| 4 | Women's repulsion of weakness, while more subtle, is as "shitty" as men's objectifying tendencies.And I’m saying if your partner feels emasculated by you being dominant then you clearly didn’t “vet” very well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 09:51 PM |
| 5 | Women's repulsion of weakness, while more subtle, is as "shitty" as men's objectifying tendencies.Plenty of cishetmen would love to be led but there aren’t many women good at it because they have a caricature of masculinity in their head Women who ignore the fact that on average men are better leaders and women better followers in relationships tend to be low EQ in relationships. Not that exceptions to the norm exist, it’s just usually women trying to force a dynamic onto a man they are attracted to and not a man they are compatible with | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 09:32 PM |
| 8 | Women's repulsion of weakness, while more subtle, is as "shitty" as men's objectifying tendencies.And that changes the argument how? You think “lead and follow” disappears because the partners are the same sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 09:23 PM |
| 9 | Women's repulsion of weakness, while more subtle, is as "shitty" as men's objectifying tendencies.I’m still tired of leading women who are in infantile energy not feminine energy. Feminine energy is being led, but it’s not a charity. Feminine energy, while being led by masculine, creates synergy and provides a roadmap for men to lead women on. This is why Tango compared to other traditional dances is so much sexier. Tango involves women almost mirroring men every step of the way and is more fluid. This is why other dances give a more “father-daughter” dynamic. Too many women who want to be l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 09:18 PM |
| – | Why so many men suddenly became undesirable?And imo the obsession with fae/supernatural men in erotica is an expression of their hatred toward “real men” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 06:05 PM |
| – | Why so many men suddenly became undesirable?Not if vibrators, erotica and SSRIs have anything to say about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 05:59 PM |
| – | Why so many men suddenly became undesirable?Once women gained more financial independence, we are just seeing all the women who really never wanted a relationship in the first place simply making that choice rather than being forced to be with a man she has to lie about loving. These women were never romantically inclined in the first place and only see relationships as a means to an end for personal gain The requirement that successful relationships have upfront costs, require investment and some personal sacrifice disgusts them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of WomenThis echoes my above comment: Dating advice to men generally is just criticizing their competence. This isn’t really earth shattering nor is it even humiliating for men to hear The dating advice women need to hear is more along the lines of their moral decisions and toxic behavior. This criticism is inherently humiliating so we avoid giving it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of WomenBoth genders are currently shitting the bed when it comes to relationships. We just have an approach that women’s shit doesn’t stink because telling men what they need to do for relationship success isn’t actually all that humiliating advice. Saying you need to get a good job, get in shape and have better self awareness is not embarrassing. I can see that the message to women won’t have as clear a solution. The ways they mess up relationships are much more due to psychological blind spots and to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 06:23 PM |
| 7 | Debate me: people who claim they see through BS are the easiest to scam in dating and relationshipsDunning Kruger effect is real. So yeah people who think they can avoid deception often exaggerate their own ability to detect it…. But you also can’t see the people who avoid liars/manipulators in the fist place. The reality is that a lot of people who have experienced with manipulation often avoid it before the manipulator even decides whether they intend to manipulate or not. Dunning Kruger applies to manipulators/scammers too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 04:01 AM |
| 2 | "Does he like you or does he just wanna sleep with you?" - The false dichotomyAgain still doesn’t mean that they think their other characteristics are worthless. I can value the traits in someone without feeling the need to be in a relationship with them Whether or not someone wants a relationship with you is not an indicator of what your value is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 03:32 AM |
| 1 | What’s with the “I hate lustful men” trend?They just have a bad case of Prozac pussy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 02:48 AM |
| -1 | "Does he like you or does he just wanna sleep with you?" - The false dichotomyInsecure women feel slighted when they think men only value them for sex. They think that men who only value them for sex must imply their other characteristics don’t have value but that’s just their own insecurity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 02:45 AM |
| 4 | Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier.There’s one Chinese study versus the literal dozens of studies showing men who don’t do their fair share of domestic tasks have worse sex lives This study is more or less saying people who are wealthy have more free time. So yes they have more sex and thus more orgasms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 02:19 AM |
| 6 | Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier.Women obsessed with providers don’t enjoy sex Equitable relationships pretty much unequivocally have more satisfaction. When one partner feels like they contribute more disproportionately (usually finances) this often means they feel entitled to not contribute as much in other areas. Basically men entering into transactional relationships don’t care about the sexual pleasure of their partners generally because to them, the sex they get is their reward for providing for her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 09:12 PM |
| 26 | What are the main ways in which men are lacking these days which is causing them to stay perpetually single?Thanks for being real. I’ve been saying on this sub forever that it isn’t about standards or having to be perfect. It is mostly the expectations vs reality issue and that women are realizing that the reality is not going to accommodate what their expectations are for a relationship. I do think you can have relationships that don’t give anxiety, but often these may require a lot of boundaries that have to be set as well as having a relationship that is smaller in scope. The “misogyny paradox” mea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Why do you think women want to talk to men?The only people who don’t want to have small talk with strangers seem miserable to me regardless of gender. I make conversation with strangers all the time and it’s just part of being in a community. IME women are the most receptive to small talk with strangers. But there’s a clear sharp cut off with women close to my age as they project bad intentions on me if I try to make conversation. Most other people like pleasant conversation by contrast. But they tend to be older. But I would still say y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 05:45 PM |
| – | Women either can't tell the difference between good men and bad men or men are just being paranoid/irrational about approaching women. Can't have it both ways.My initial comment is that we exaggerate the risks women face in public with strangers and we downplay the risks men face | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 05:16 AM |
| – | Women either can't tell the difference between good men and bad men or men are just being paranoid/irrational about approaching women. Can't have it both ways.So basically you’re moving the goalposts to avoid addressing the fact that the statistical likelihood of men being victims of a violent crime committed by a stranger is more likely for them than women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Women either can't tell the difference between good men and bad men or men are just being paranoid/irrational about approaching women. Can't have it both ways.Most murder is between two men. Women try to extrapolate the risks of IPV to all male strangers, which is no way to live imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/25 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Women are more attracted to social status than social skills.It means you can market a lifestyle through your reputation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/25 06:18 AM |
| – | I thought we just had communication issues — now I see it was manipulationDon’t get in long term relationships with people who seek negatives not solutions. They can only advocate through shame, which means they want LTRs but cannot function properly inside them. Make sure that when you dump them that you realized that you fell in love with them, but they never actually loved you because they simply are not a person capable of loving another person until they work on themselves more. Always set a boundary with new partners that they advocate for themselves by at least… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/25 04:50 AM |
| 4 | Women are more attracted to social status than social skills.Hoping someday we can move on from “ew men are gross to not want to be in LTRs with overweight women” to “ew overweight women are entitled to think they can find an LTR with a man they find attractive. They shouldn’t expect more than casual sex from average weight men and these men aren’t evil for only wanting casual” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/25 10:51 PM |
| 1 | People say women should have agency...until they date older men.So now we’ve moved on from strangers relationships to their own relationships? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 08:16 PM |
| 1 | People say women should have agency...until they date older men.No gossip is damaging. Without verifiable information, hearsay can genuinely be hurtful to people. It’s low Eq stuff | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 06:56 PM |
| 1 | People say women should have agency...until they date older men.If they are strangers to you then you most likely can’t assess the couple well enough to make a concrete judgement call. It’s just gossip at that point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 06:33 PM |
| -1 | People say women should have agency...until they date older men.Because grooming and exploitation is a serious thing and if you think being nosy is a big enough reason for you to not intervene then you really don’t care Ofc I ask my male friends if they are ok with being treated that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 06:24 PM |
| – | If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"?The concept of leagues falls apart when you talk about race: Even white men on apps will mostly match with non white women. This isn’t because being a non white woman makes you less valuable. It’s just that white women are more desired. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 06:11 PM |
| 0 | if men dislike high maintenance women then how come they are still pursuing them?I don’t get the concept. Are these women not being “maintained” when they are single? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 05:51 PM |
| 1 | People say women should have agency...until they date older men.My litmus test for this is if whether the person concerned for the woman confronts her, the couple or woman’s peers If they don’t feel comfortable doing so, that’s because they know that they are just being judgemental. If we actually were concerned about the woman’s safety then someone would say something about it. If they are gossiping from afar then they are most likely just someone miserable trying to feel morally superior | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe asymmetry in online dating is a big contributor to the 'Male loneliness crisis'?I’m not sure what this has to do with my comment. Most men who aren’t attractive enough for apps will lose their virginity elsewhere | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 02:43 PM |
| 6 | We live in a world where women think their farts don't stinkHahaha this shit made people so mad Bait taken | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe asymmetry in online dating is a big contributor to the 'Male loneliness crisis'?Yep and realize that women use the apps for validation because she has exactly 4x the market value on the app vs real life. It can be easy to go down the misogyny rabbit hole if you judge women solely based on the women you meet on the apps | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 04:36 AM |
| 6 | Do you believe asymmetry in online dating is a big contributor to the 'Male loneliness crisis'?It’s basically bottom 50% are invisible. Top 40% basically have to rely on luck. Top 20% are having lots of casual sex with women they don’t want to be in LTRs with because they can’t actually find women they want to be in LTRs with and the top 5% can date like the top 50% of women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 02:07 AM |
| -2 | Women lie on men all the time and nothing happens to themWhattaboutism is a cancer People who make whattaboutist arguments have anti social tendencies and are low EQ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/25 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendCrazy isn’t evil my guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 12:47 AM |
| 8 | Emotionally immature men typically join the Manosphere.And so are the women with an obsession with it lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 08:19 PM |
| 1 | I'm questioning something I learned from the red pill. It's about red flags.Lots of Redpill men are former losers who still often have weak dick despite the self improvement women don’t care as much about as they think. They are for sure more likely to be paranoid about getting cheated on so they tend to rationalize why women with male friends are to be avoided. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 10:22 AM |
| 4 | Marriage doesn't make Men the happiest group because they are marriedYes studies show that the happiest people are married regardless of gender The divergence is simply due to the fact that IPV affects the average happiness for women significantly and that unmarried men are much more likely to be criminals or homeless. But yeah some femcels interpret it to mean that men depend on women for happiness Edit: ooo getting downvoted. Got the femcels trigged | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendIMO that’s marginal. Those women are self destructive And I’m poor and get laid plenty. I do think some redpill men can project resentment onto successful men who don’t have money because it kind of invalidates their premise. Some I’m sure just assume poor men are bad because they think they aren’t doing their role as a man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 01:53 AM |
| – | Men will use the “women just hate male sexuality” excuse when criticized displaying for selfish behavior.Do you seriously think women on average have more bodies than men and that celibacy is significantly different between the genders? Sounds like you’re buying the redpill propaganda. Women are also having less sex but they just don’t care about having no sex life whereas men do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 11:10 PM |
| – | Men will use the “women just hate male sexuality” excuse when criticized displaying for selfish behavior.For every one of them not getting it is also a woman not getting it. Women just don’t complain as much but both are equally sexually useless | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 11:00 PM |
| -1 | 30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men.Yes. This is why we have the term for “frosh meat” meaning senior boys dating freshman girls. There are more relationships with a 3-7 year age gap between the older man and woman than 0-3. This is also in women’s best interest so that careers are offset and men tend to take about 5 years longer for their brain to fully mature. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 10:54 PM |
| – | Men will use the “women just hate male sexuality” excuse when criticized displaying for selfish behavior.I have no idea what point you’re making but sounds like you just don’t enjoy sex. That’s going to make dating kinda hard for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 10:50 PM |
| 6 | It’s easier to change your behaviors and beliefs than your looks and income.I find that creating an environment where the person feels like they are in a safe space then I can actually get to know the person for who they are rather than speculating what their intentions and motives are based on superficial observations about their affect | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendSure in professional and legal contexts. But not in romantic contexts Women will marry a rapist with money | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 07:05 PM |
| 4 | It’s easier to change your behaviors and beliefs than your looks and income.You just lack EQ then. Most people are anxious because they are walking on egg shells | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 06:32 PM |
| 9 | It’s easier to change your behaviors and beliefs than your looks and income.Women assume that men who are timid and anxious are men who are concealing devious intentions | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 06:12 PM |
| 14 | 30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men.There still are more age gap relationships with an older man than vice versa | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 06:03 PM |
| 11 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendWomen tend to be a harsher judge of the morality of poor men and they let things slide with wealthy men or men of status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 09:22 AM |
| 9 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendElon musk has zero game | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendAll online women are real life women. Most gen z women are aware of “cunt” and “girlboss” culture. They have a difficult road ahead as they will have to pick between peer pressure from women who are unsuccessful/superficial in their dating lives who want them to also be “cunt” or to be maverick and do the embarrassing thing: do things that will get men to like you for a long term relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendBecause it’s better than the current situation: Girl gets shitty boyfriend then said girl loses some of her female friends who don’t approve. She would still have those friends if she didn’t date a misogynist. But it’s always a bargain: some friends will leave you but not all, so women will continue to be shameless about being transactional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 08:43 AM |
| 1 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendHaving a boyfriend is considered embarrassing now among a lot of Gen z women. They know transactional relationships tend to be lopsided in favor of the women if there isn’t grooming happening. So now it’s “cunt” or “girlboss” behavior to treat men this way whereas being emotionally vulnerable to men now is seen as something embarrassing for women to do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendI mean there is the obvious: IPV and the lack of freedom associated with being a wife. But a lot of women are delusional as well and don’t understand that they simply aren’t being treated by men the way they want because they don’t treat men the way men want to be treated. They are getting what they deserve in relationships but are in denial about it. I made a post with a similar theme: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/yfHvZ6Dg76 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendMoney gets you transactional whores that you’ll have to vet imo Having money gives you more shitty options. Men without money have fewer options but those options will be women who are not whores (I do not mean whore to mean promiscuous. I mean it in the transactional sense) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 07:57 AM |
| 6 | Being evil is not a factor when it comes to not being able to find a girlfriendYeah never understood women’s reluctance to criticize other women who are in transactional relationships with bad men. If Elon Musk was poor, then he’d be worse off than most men on this sub but he can effectively replace his partners indefinitely. There are probably more women who will sell their bodies to evil men than women who will date an incel. But I guess the point is that Elon musk is like dating an incel but the money makes it worth it. I think the hypocrisy comes when women complain ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 07:31 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Dating is not "easier" for women (see video)She can find an ambitious man then lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 07:07 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Dating is not "easier" for women (see video)Most people with a “worth” mindset never end up in happy relationships. “Quality” means nothing if there isn’t chemistry and compatibility. The only people who feel like they need to go on a scavenger hunt to find “quality” partners are the people who don’t really have their priorities straight when it comes to successful relationships in the first place. They’ve convinced themselves that their lack of fulfillment is due to a lack of quality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 07:04 AM |
| 2 | Why are you blue piller?White pill is basically optimism about a just world: eg dating is fair Blue pill imo is a reactionary ideology to redpill. It’s the notion that neoliberal social norms are the dominant social norms for dating. I don’t think blue pill assumes fairness, but it does dismiss a lot of complaints about dating as marginal issues and that for the most part, upholding neoliberal values will result in general dating success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 12:49 AM |
| 2 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Ad hom is when someone claims an argument is invalid due to the person making the argument. Saying that I personally find that most women who go on tirades about how awful men are tend to be unattractive women with trauma is not an argument | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 07:03 AM |
| 1 | We need to stop saying men "prey" on women for seeking a consensual relationship.But the issue is that bars now are full of women who aren’t single. It gets really old to take a girl home then next week you meet her bf at the bar. In my area, I’d guess about 70% of women at bars are not single so why are they there? Would they not be better suited for a women’s only club? It’s just bizzare to have women lament that men don’t want them to have girls nights out then these women in relationships have to have their girls nights out at a bar with single men. I remember one time a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 02:30 AM |
| 1 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Help myself do what? Are you having a psychotic break? Your replies to my comments are becoming increasingly cryptic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 02:15 AM |
| 0 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.I still have no idea what I’m being defensive about. Objectification has overlap with hyper sexualization for sure but they aren’t the same. I’m not sure why you think I’m being defensive when I’m being critical of people who conceive objectification=hypersexual content for male gaze. These people exist whether you accept it or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 02:14 AM |
| 2 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Pretty women generally only hate on individual men. Literally all the women in my friend groups who go on rants about the nature of men have all been fairly overweight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 01:46 AM |
| 0 | Bisexuality should be considered a privilege rather than a handicap“Sex craved cheater” As in they don’t feel like being your only source of sex is a way to keep you loyal. I agree it’s visceral disgust. But I’d also argue that straight men who are sexually confident and also don’t feel the need to rely on relationships for sex can illicit a similar disgust from women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 01:26 AM |
| 5 | Bisexuality should be considered a privilege rather than a handicapThey don’t like the power dynamic of you having easy access to casual sex. It makes you harder to manipulate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 01:07 AM |
| 1 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Ik you were like hate boner but the sad reality is the women who have the most sexist assumptions about men are often the ones with the most trauma. It’s a tragic reality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 10:37 PM |
| 1 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Because being critical of things that some women do doesn’t mean I generalize about women. I never make these assumptions about women. Whereas we assume men online who are critical of women in anyway must be an incel. The only thing I resent in dating today is just being a convenient himbo for professional women. There’s some sort of massive conspiracy to silence men who do get laid while focusing on the minority of men who don’t. The entire misandrist program falls apart when men who get laid a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 10:30 PM |
| 1 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Are you seriously trying to try to find some sort of misogynistic nugget or trying to reason that my opinions are based on my experience? I don’t interact with these women I am critical of. Most of my friends are women. I moved back in with my mom for a bit and I love to cook for her. My sister is basically a dude. Why are you so desperate to find some sort of resentment I have for how I’ve been treated by woman as a way to understand why I think the women who complain the most about objectifica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 10:13 PM |
| 1 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Ahh yes that’s would have been my third guess. You enjoy interacting with a contemporary culture you never really participated in yourself. Did I hold onto that? Lol you want to armchair psychologize me so bad because that comment about traumatized ugly women made you so mad hahaha She dumped me first because we both agreed we wouldn’t stay together for college. It would have been mutual if she waited a few months but she probably wanted a clean break before going to college even though she aske… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 10:04 PM |
| 0 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Catcalling, workplace harassment (eg denying professional interaction and replacing it with a sexual one). It happens in media and advertising but I think most people have too broad a definition for objectification in media because this would also include objectification that isn’t sexually devious. “Hand model” would fit the definition of objectification then, but obviously that doesn’t zero in on what is problematic. IMO this ad is objectifying (although the cultural context of Chinese brides … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:57 PM |
| 1 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.lol what am I being defensive about It’s never the pretty girls in my friend groups who yap about how objectifying men are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:45 PM |
| 2 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Well my HS sweetheart was the last girl to dump me if you want to know lol So you’re a guy? Hard to tell. I wasn’t really making assumptions about you because I’m not some miserable terminally online human who makes assumptions about people based on their opinions. Who knows. Either you are pretty vanilla and have had maybe like 3-4 relationships or you do kink stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Why are you blue piller?So TL:DR there are only 3 pills so I picked the one that bothers me least. I’d argue like 30% of people who claim to be blue pill here are actually white pill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:38 PM |
| -5 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.lol I want you to guess how the relationships are with women in my life so I can know how conceited you are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:34 PM |
| 3 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.No that’s still not objectification. Women who feel that their non sexual traits are being overlooked for sexual ones are not being objectified. Objectification is literally treating you as an object. As if your own wants and desires don’t matter and all that matters is that you are passive and that you let the person objectifying you have free use. This is why I am not attracted to hard subs as a soft dom. A lot of hard subs want me to have free use but I’m attracted to humans with agency and n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:32 PM |
| -6 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.I’m just saying who the type is. They try to use male objectification as a way to generalize men as animalistic while simultaneously using their objectification as a subconscious way to affirm their own attractiveness which they are insecure about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Men's Libido Is a DiseaseNo men’s sexuality is much more well adapted to modern relationships. I think it’s women’s sexual caution that is a relic of prehistoric times that is actually more incompatible with modern relationships. Although I think women today are more repressed than even what their “natural” tendency is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Its contradictory to believe “innocent until proven guilty” should apply OUTSIDE of a courtroom for sex crime accusations, while also thinking women should “pick better” if they end up in an abusive relationship.Not if they aren’t a lawyer lol They can make any assumptions they want. There’s a balance as I think cry wolf people end up shooting themselves in the foot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:22 PM |
| -6 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Usually they are unattractive women who had experienced sexual trauma. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Women hurt themselves with their extremely high standards, not just the men.It is determined if she is happy or not with her dating results. If she is not happy then it is she who has to change not the entire other gender | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:20 PM |
| – | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.That’s what he’s saying. That there are women who interpret attraction at all as objectifying. And then you proceed to gaslight OP by saying “no one is saying that.” These miserable women are in the minority like Lilith. Lilith is a woman who feels that attraction by definition can imply antisocial tendencies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:15 PM |
| 11 | We need to stop saying men "prey" on women for seeking a consensual relationship.I get hit on by gay men all the time and it never feels that way. I don’t care how sexual someone is as long as they respect boundaries. Most people who flirt don’t think you’re some tease if you don’t give them physical touch in response. Personally I find that bi men can be a little creepier in that they try to bro out with you and connect with you on more personal level then they bait and switch and become sexual when the conversation didn’t feel that way from the start. If I was a woman, tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:02 PM |
| – | Men are actually dating upHe needs to see her tax returns to finish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 08:58 PM |
| 4 | Social skills are not actually advantageous in datingZoomers generally (men and women) don’t have social skills. So their gooner brains can only judge based on presentation for the most part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 08:52 PM |
| – | Men are actually dating upWhen you get older you’ll learn that men approaching you isn’t a good indicator of how attractive you are. It’s the type of men who approach you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Its contradictory to believe “innocent until proven guilty” should apply OUTSIDE of a courtroom for sex crime accusations, while also thinking women should “pick better” if they end up in an abusive relationship.“Limited information” is doing heavy lifting here If this info is verifiable by a third party then it is absolutely advised. If rumors then no | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 08:45 PM |
| – | Men are actually dating upYes. He is saying in theory the man is dating down but in practicality he is not due disproportionately higher demand men have for sexual relationships with women than vice versa. A woman has more options than a man with equal SMV on paper | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 08:42 PM |
| – | Men are actually dating upWomen are hypocrites when they argue men want relationships more than women and then say in the next breath that men just want a porn star bang maid. Women hate accepting their own pussy privilege because it puts their sexual market value into context when they are discontent with their romantic life despite having pussy privilege. Pretty embarrassing when you lose at the dating game playing on easy mode | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Women hurt themselves with their extremely high standards, not just the men.Again you’re assuming that I’m saying I want women to stop caring about things that they find unattractive. IMO women don’t prioritize attraction and sexual compatibility enough as those are not superficial things. And yes women are often attracted to men they are not sexually compatible with ironically. No woman has orgasmed by avoiding icks. Women cum by finding what they want. I’m saying some women don’t care enough about the things that actually matter when it comes to relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 08:14 PM |
| 2 | Its contradictory to believe “innocent until proven guilty” should apply OUTSIDE of a courtroom for sex crime accusations, while also thinking women should “pick better” if they end up in an abusive relationship.Assuming guilt isn’t accusing. You can assume whatever you want about someone but it’s different when you make a public accusation. An accusation is made presumably because someone has incriminating information. Your OP seems to put the cart before the horse and isn’t necessarily a bad argument, but it just seems like you don’t get the definitions. A trial is there to verify the veracity of the claims made by the accusation. “Believe women” was part of MeToo, because giving benefit of the doubt … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Women hurt themselves with their extremely high standards, not just the men.Then what about women who are single or in a bad relationship who want to be in a good relationship? Should she double down and increase her “standards” further or is she simply not prioritizing the things that would actually contribute to a happy relationship? Personally I don’t think “high standards” are necessarily what contribute to women being discontent with their romantic life even if sometimes they have standards that will filter out a large amount of qualified candidates. It’s just that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 07:15 PM |
| 1 | We need to stop saying men "prey" on women for seeking a consensual relationship.Does it make a difference if the person making you cum is drunk or not? I’d take an orgasm with a drunk stranger than bad sex with a friend I warm approached. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 07:01 PM |
| 2 | We need to stop saying men "prey" on women for seeking a consensual relationship.Not into sex? What if you’re a good person? Then he may want more than sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 06:51 PM |
| 6 | We need to stop saying men "prey" on women for seeking a consensual relationship.Who goes to clubs in expecting that people won’t try to make romantic advances? Those women only clubs need to become more popular | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Women hurt themselves with their extremely high standards, not just the men.But isn’t the theme that it’s poor men who’d do better if women changed? OP is suggesting women would do better if women changed. Sorta like how we talk to incels | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Women hurt themselves with their extremely high standards, not just the men.I don’t see what the post has to do with shyness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 03:45 AM |
| 5 | Women hurt themselves with their extremely high standards, not just the men.I’m honestly trying to figure out what your comment has to do with OP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 03:17 AM |
| 1 | This sub is an objectively bad example of what average men are like in real life because there’s over-representation of autistic/socially incompetent men hereThis sub is probably a more accurate representation of the average man than it is an accurate representation of the average woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Mothers are the most misogynist groupSoft bigotry of low expectations. Fathers have soft misogyny often towards their daughters often coupled with a mild pedophilia when it comes to being protective of their daughter dating other men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenNothing wrong with insecurity or watching porn It’s a non issue for me bc I’ve never dated any woman who has an issue with it. I’ve dated a woman who was addicted herself and there were issues from it but not actually dealbreaking for me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 09:34 PM |
| 0 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenWhy do you think I want to date you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 08:44 PM |
| 7 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenWhy do I have a knee jerk reaction to seeing women wanting men to watch no porn as being insecure? I’ve dated women who have watched more porn than me. Why no porn and not porn in moderation? Not everyone watching porn is addicted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Women are not obligated to “fix” male loneliness by dating/sleeping with lonely men.They’re making the kids more sexist as evidenced by your sexist comment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 11:25 PM |
| 9 | I’m convinced that the only reason men want women to be more involved with fixing the “male loneliness epidemic” is because they genuinely do not care about one another’s problems. Thoughts?The very nature of gender segregated platonic friend groups is contributing to sexism among younger generations and leads them to see the other gender as subhuman It’s getting to the point where straight boys and girls are barely having any interaction until they start dating and this is fucking up the younger generations when dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Gender war stalemate favors menNo they are complaining because the men who passed their nitpick filters don’t want LTRs with them and some women will choose to be single instead picking the only options available to her for an LTR | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 10:11 PM |
| 0 | Women are not obligated to “fix” male loneliness by dating/sleeping with lonely men.No gender segregated platonic friend groups are a cancer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 09:57 PM |
| 9 | Women are not obligated to “fix” male loneliness by dating/sleeping with lonely men.And women constantly think that some men are suggesting this as a remedy for the dating crisis that women who don’t enjoy sex with men claim doesn’t exist? They will ctrl f on any obscure forum to find some miserable dude making a rape joke then suggest that this is what incels generally think would help them (To the women about to reply to me, I have more sex than you) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.I’m not contradicting the research. I’m saying it is inadequate to explain contemporary changes. The biological explanations aren’t incorrect but this only explains why men would lag behind women generally, not why men are lagging more than usual since the 90s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Gender war stalemate favors menND men are minority. The average woman is having a harder time converting dates into relationships than the average man even if the average man is having fewer dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.These issues seem to be worsening with time so biological explanations are not adequate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.These are the questions that our educators need to answer but are failing to do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.Parenting is things like teaching your kids manners. Teaching them to self regulate. Teaching social skills themselves are not curating a social environment. It’s not the same thing. A camp counselor for instance will schedule group activities. This isn’t parenting my guy. If educators of children are only doing the teaching part then that’s bare minimum. Sports for the most part have traditionally been the only alternative but we haven’t really adapted to younger generations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Women Prioritize Validation Over Resolution — and That’s a ProblemYeah these men fail to set boundaries with their wife so they too are part of the toxic dynamic. I’m not defending “betas” here. You shouldn’t be in a relationship if you can’t be bothered to “address” an issue you have. It’s not a burden to communicate. You seem to be slipping from addressing to “solving.” They are not the same. If something bothers you and you can’t communicate that, then unless you’re a child, expecting someone to fix a problem you have that you don’t address is selfish. If t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.I’m not saying you should parent. Parents are responsible for raising a kid that can behave in school. But parents are not physically there to facilitate their social environment. They can arrange playdates with parents they know with kids but not much else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.It’s not talking shit. My friend was a pre school teacher and she said that she doesn’t think parents raise boys properly and that she has to prevent them from growing up to become misogynistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.Where am i suggesting that’s a solution. All I’m saying is that educators need to do better. If they were mostly men then I’d be saying that for them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 07:06 PM |
| 7 | There is an effort to gaslight others into believing that women invented the "Male Loneliness Epidemic"And the idea that somehow only one gender is to blame for the issue is wild to me. The gaslighting of men that the loneliness epidemic is somehow only the fault of men themselves is equally absurd. The fact that friend groups of younger generations are more gender segregated means that sexism is growing and it’s growing among both genders. Women no longer can claim to be moral paragons with respect to gender. Terminally online feminism has converted patriarchy from referring to white cis men of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Men and women are not getting along and it unfortunately makes sense.“My anecdote disagrees with you” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 10:05 PM |
| -3 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.No there needs to be an integration between the family and the education system rather than a wedge between the two where responsibilities are compartmentalized. A parent has a responsibility to raise a child such that they can behave in school. But parents are not at the school. The teachers are. So when it comes to socializing, the majority of that happens in school. Parents can only do so much. They can arrange play dates with parents of other children but I can’t really see what else is obvi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill advice surrounding the Male Loneliness Epidemic is confusing and badThe sheer ambiguity tells me you either don’t set boundaries or you resent these men for no good reason. Not like I haven’t had girls catch feelings for me either. But I just don’t write off that gender for platonic friendships as a result bc I’m not sexist lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill advice surrounding the Male Loneliness Epidemic is confusing and bad“Twice” Yep explains it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 09:21 PM |
| -1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.I’m not saying they are causing the issue but the primary burden resides with them to help address the issue. It’s crazy to see women both have the majority of child care and education jobs while simultaneously criticizing boys for not doing their own part to prevent themselves from being lonely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 09:09 PM |
| 6 | Most women aren't honest about dating apps and finding relationshipsThey’re not lying. Men just can’t find women that they want more than sex from. The vast majority of women who feel like the guy only wanted sex fail to realize they are a disappointment to the guy. Most men want LTRs and we are better at finding them in scorched earth conditions than women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill advice surrounding the Male Loneliness Epidemic is confusing and badI’m saying you would not tolerate that energy if it wasn’t your female friends play flirting but one of your straight male friends. You will assume they have feelings about you that you’ll assume they’ll get sad about you don’t reciprocate. It’s mostly your narcissistic projection. Not every straight man who finds you attractive wants a relationship with you. Women talk as if there are all these men who want relationships with them and then complain that men don’t want relationships with them wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 08:21 PM |
| -1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.I guess it’s what they are NOT doing rather than what they are doing. I would not be surprised if female teachers nowadays encourage kids to avoid boys who seem estranged and isolated. I also didn’t think much of it at the time, but ik women in pre school education who see toxic masculinity as a form of original sin that can only be corrected through their efforts as many have vocalized to me that they think cart Blanche that the parents of the generation raising boys today are inherently blind … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill advice surrounding the Male Loneliness Epidemic is confusing and badThis is because Gen z women are uncomfortable with setting boundaries and don’t want to be friends with men who find them attractive. And Gen z men are paranoid of being used by women. I find all my female friends attractive and platonic heterosexual relationships between millennial men and women and older can even involve play flirtation. I don’t think younger generations are comfortable enough with themselves to have these kinds of relationships. If there is a moment where a male friend shows … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 08:11 PM |
| -1 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.I went to private school and that’s not how it was for me. Public school curriculums need to incorporate not just anti-bullying campaigns (do these still exist) but also courses about gender and inclusive social practices. Even as an introverted kid, I grew up with kids who tried to include me in things and I would reciprocate. Now with smartphones, kids simultaneously lack real social skills while learning skills that encourage subterfuge via remote communication. We are well into an era where … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 08:02 PM |
| 15 | The real world treats men in their 20's - 30's onwards who are virgins as failures.Society perceives men with low self esteem above a certain age as liabilities to society and more likely to be a threat to innocents. This is why white collar men who are married can get away with so much. If you are a man with high self esteem and has surplus resources then you have license to do antisocial things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 07:47 PM |
| 0 | Male Loneliness Epidemic is a societal problem.Given that a huge part of the issue is how boys are treated in the education system, and most educators are women, then I’d say at least women may disproportionately be a part of the problem relative to men. We tell men to seek help from other men and go to therapy, but this assumes that the male loneliness crisis starts when men turn 18. It starts earlier so toxic masculine narratives of internal locus of control (eg fix your loneliness by lifting yourself from your bootstraps) tend to just mak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Most women aren't honest about dating apps and finding relationshipsNo (straight) men genuinely are better than women at finding committed LTRs. Gay men and straight women seem to be the worst at securing commitment from other people. (lesbians have the opposite issue of uHauling) While men struggle to get the date in the first place, men are better than women at converting those dates into an LTR. Many women often are their own worst enemy when it comes to this and don’t realize how often their demands for a relationship are precisely what pushes men away. Some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 07:29 PM |
| 0 | Most women aren't honest about dating apps and finding relationshipsWomen are not willing to admit how frequently they are getting passed up on guys that they filter through on the apps. None of the men they want will give them the relationships they want. I recently updated my profile with a shirtless selfie and now i can go on multiple dates a week similar to women (yes it made a big difference. I am 6’3 and girls will assume you’re skinny if you don’t show your physique. Tall isn’t enough). But now I’m regularly going on dates with women who complain about ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Red Pill advice surrounding the Male Loneliness Epidemic is confusing and badMillennial friend groups were way more gender fluid than gen z. Gen z are literally being sexist on the premise that it’s feminist. I think the switch happened when it used to just be men interpreting friendliness as flirtation. As women have become terminally online, they have begun to assume flirtation from male friendliness like millennial incel men. You can’t ask any woman below the age of 28 “how are you” without her thinking you’re trying to have sex with her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 06:35 PM |
| 6 | If you lack options for ltr as a male you aren't avgThis isn’t how the dating market works. Because men demand relationships with women more than vice versa, this means that women don’t have to settle for someone who has the same traits as her. Women don’t need to be athletes to date one. An average weight/height man is not going to be as attractive as an average weight/height woman. The average weight/height woman is still going to be attractive to men who are physically more fit and healthy than her. Moreover the stats show that overweight wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Women Prioritize Validation Over Resolution — and That’s a ProblemBecause you can validate someone without agreeing with them? It’s not a false apology. I can understand how my actions can impact people but that does not necessarily mean I regret my actions. This is pretty basic emotional intelligence and I think these are where women tend to lack it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 08:58 PM |
| 35 | Red Pill advice surrounding the Male Loneliness Epidemic is confusing and badI find terminally online women who criticize the “epidemic” to often be hypocritical in that they often don’t have straight male friends on the presumption they think all men are trying to have sex with them. People who think platonic friend groups should be gender segregated are part of the problem. If your friend group is exclusively women and queer men then I don’t really think you can speak on this issue without recognizing your part in causing it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 08:56 PM |
| 22 | What women say they want in dating is the complete opposite of what they're attracted to.This is just because we put women on pedestals and see them as being emotionally superior to men. The reality is that if you be vulnerable to someone who is unstable then they will think you are unstable. Women who are not emotionally grounded will perceive male vulnerability as a signal to his incompetence and lack of reliability. These women don’t really deserve to be in relationships but male sex drive prevents these women from being accountable. The toxic dynamic is that men repress their em… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Women Prioritize Validation Over Resolution — and That’s a ProblemThe problem is that a lot of women feel “invalidated” so long as the man doesn’t fix what she wants fixed. I’ve had women tell me that I haven’t apologized for something that I immediately apologized to her for purely because I voiced that I had a different perspective on the issue after I apologized. She just forgot the apology because I didn’t do what she wanted ergo the validation was useless. Validation is only useful if the person isn’t entitled. If the person is entitled then validation an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 03:19 AM |
| – | Women Prioritize Validation Over Resolution — and That’s a ProblemMisogyny paradox forces women to feel shame if they are not in a relationship that is perceived in an idealistic way. (The misogyny paradox is that women feel like they are getting a raw deal no matter the relationship type: marriage limits her freedom but casual relationships diminish her feminine value) This creates myopia when they have relationship dissatisfaction because the actions required to solve the dissatisfaction usually would just result in further feelings of invalidation. To a lot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 03:15 AM |
| -4 | Q4M: Thoughts on this advice for young women?I do think that hookup culture needs a jump start The kids are not having enough sex clearly. Zoomers take themselves too seriously and think they hold the knowledge to have a successful relationship when they are really just wasting time they could be gaining experience so they can have real skills for a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 02:08 AM |
| 1 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomHypergamy means dating up. If you can’t attract people “above” you then you’re not hypergamous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 01:39 AM |
| 1 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomJust because you’re financially independent that does not give you the agency to be hypergamous. If you make a lot of money but can’t attract rich men then you’re still not hypergamous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 01:36 AM |
| 1 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomMost women are not attractive enough to be hypergamous. Pretty much only a minority of women before the age of 30 have the agency to be hypergamous. The rest who think they are hypergamous are just spinning their wheels in place being serially monogamous. This is not hypergamy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 01:27 AM |
| 1 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomWomen aren’t monolith. You can speak for yourself but you can’t speak for other women. Lots of career women want convenient boy toys. Some can only stand to date men who make more than them. They’re both neurotic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 01:23 AM |
| 2 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomcircular argument. Sexual satisfaction is a physical skill. It’s not as if a man’s income has any affect on a woman’s ability to have an orgasm. The issue is less a black pill one but rather of internalized misogynistic narrative: women feel shame enjoying sex with men who aren’t providing or don’t have outstanding traits about them. Women see their sexuality as something to guard but as long as they feel that way, then they won’t have enjoyable sex lives. It’s the mentality of a breeding machin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 01:19 AM |
| 1 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomYet again this assumes broken sexual dynamics. The only women who make money to be independent from men are the ones who don’t enjoy sex with men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 11:42 PM |
| 3 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomWhy don’t we call women who are provided for by men “roommates?” Why do we only call men who make less money roommates and not wives? Again it just doesn’t translate to sexual dynamics. You can make less than someone but still be dominant. The idea that a man who makes less than you can’t take charge is just a bias, not a real instinct. I don’t buy AFBB, but the reality is that broke men can make women orgasm when men with money can struggle with dead bedrooms Women are failing to find relations… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 11:27 PM |
| 4 | Is it a red flag if a man doesn't own a home?Most people with ok jobs can’t afford a home. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 10:19 PM |
| – | The only one who is following patriarchy are women not men and it has devastating effects on datingYou think men who can find sex also don’t have problems finding mates they want more than sex from? The reason why men don’t commit to a lot of women are the same reasons why some incels can’t get laid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 08:29 PM |
| – | The only one who is following patriarchy are women not men and it has devastating effects on datingDestroying gender norms because I already get laid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 08:12 PM |
| – | The only one who is following patriarchy are women not men and it has devastating effects on datingWhy do you think the only men who say this aren’t getting laid? It’s like some sort of auto reply yall have as a shield for all criticism of the female gender. “He has problem with women? He probably just wants sex!” And yeah that’s often a sad truth that even men who have no success with women will still most likely not want much more than sex when he finds a woman. But unlike what you think, that’s not because he only wants sex. It’s because he can’t find a woman he likes enough to want more f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 07:51 PM |
| 12 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomI have no issues finding women to have sex with who make more money than me. But in the back of my mind I’m thinking “if you were a man and I was a woman, then so much more of your money would be used to invest in the relationship.” I’m still making most of the plans and paying for more dates than women who make more than me. IMO it’s also that these women need to let go of norms about them losing their femininity if they are investing more money into the relationship and letting go of the idea … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Would u be able to date an attractive women if u were a Male??Siblings are a good way to determine your looksmatch | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 06:17 PM |
| 0 | Evo-psych is nowhere near as rigorous as red-pillers like to believe.Evo psych also doesn’t even agree with the male provider dynamic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 11:14 PM |
| 3 | Women don't have better emotional intelligence then men.Just going to say that regulating your nervous system (eg stress management) to someone emotionally unintelligent will appear to be repression or avoidant behavior. Culturally right now we associate “emotional volume” with “emotional intelligence” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 07:19 PM |
| 1 | If straight men wear the same gym outfits as women in the gym. Most people would consider that predatory.I can count on one hand the amount of plumber butts I’ve seen and a good amount of them are women. I just have to step outside to start seeing women wearing yoga pants and athletic wear who shouldn’t be wearing it. I guess it’s just so normalized now. But I understand that the appeal is that it’s kinda like wearing your pajamas in public but people aren’t going to call you out for being a bum | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 10:41 PM |
| -2 | If straight men wear the same gym outfits as women in the gym. Most people would consider that predatory.We don’t notice it because the only men who wear revealing clothing are already super fit. The issue is that women who barely go to the gym wear revealing clothing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 08:27 PM |
| 12 | Female intrasexual competition is the reason why women tend to have few or no close friendsYeah I think OP should have said “men burn fewer bridges with friends” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 01:40 AM |
| 0 | Men are cooked, new study shows men are the ones with the biological clock, not women.Has this ever been disputed? Reality is still that women produce a finite amount of eggs in their lifetime whereas men do not go through menopause. Statistically I believe it’s about 50/50 when it comes to which gender is responsible for pregnancy complications. But you also have to factor in that there are way more couples where the man is older so that also affects the spread | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 08:19 PM |
| – | Q4M: Does women shaming your sexuality feel dehumanizing?I’m soft dom and I let pure subs I know that I am not attracted to women who don’t want any control because they seem like objects to me and I’m not attracted to objects. The idea that women think all men are hard doms is just hilarious to me. It’s projection because CNC is so common. It’s not necessarily themselves who have CNC fetishes but they are aware of how common they are among women so they assume that men “mirror” this frequency of fetish when in reality men prefer less dominant forms o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Why would I, as a woman, take any of your complaints seriously ?You don’t have to listen to us. Just listen to women who are happily married. I give every woman the benefit of the doubt that she’s a good lady. I don’t need to be guarded to protect myself from something I’ve built resilience toward. Only weak people approach life with a sense of caution that everything is going to turn out badly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Are Eastern European men undesirable for women in western Europe/USA/Canada/Australia?Lol whenever I see black pill stuff I just think about some fat slav dude who only wears sweats with his trophy girly. Dunno what they’re into tbh. The cultures that had family structure most destroyed by the state tend to be the cultures with the worst relationship norms. I’d suggest OP seek out polish women and other Eastern European women who are either Catholic or Muslim as they have retained more positive relationship virtues (unfortunately the opposite is true for catholic latin women) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Men Who Part With Their Money Easily Are Always Mentally ill.Why are commenters replying as if this only applies to onlyfans and not also relationships generally? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Yes, women’s standards have changed and no, its not the way you think.They wouldn’t be wives in the first place if they had value. I’m talking about single women who want relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Yes, women’s standards have changed and no, its not the way you think.I recently saw a reel of an attractive young woman complaining about men who “soft ghost” her. She said men after 3 to 4 dates just only have online communication with her. Everyone there is commenting that these men are simply waiting for this girl to initiate making plans. She invented “soft ghosting” as a concept to shield her ego from the fact that she’s getting the treatment she deserves for being a freeloader I’ve personally been in an almost year long situationship with a woman who wanted… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 03:09 PM |
| 5 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitHow do you talk about men when discussing misogynistic locker room talk? Or are women supposed to do something about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:39 PM |
| 3 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitNo you’re just interpreting it as AWALT when clearly the title is talking about women who call out men for body shaming. I don’t personally agree with that being the demographic of women who do this, but clearly he’s not talking about all women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:19 PM |
| 14 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitI had to scroll down two comments to find the first female comment and she’s kinda implying he’s gay here and proving his point. I don’t see women replying to her. What examples of ostracism come to your mind from personal experience? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Most women want to be loved, but they dont want to love.She’s just projecting all she’s good for. She could make an incel happy for a month or two and that’s about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:05 PM |
| 4 | Performative males are more attractive to women, at the expense of their own dignityIt’s come full circle. I went on a tinder date recently and got called a “clairo boy” and I don’t know who she is. I’m a millennial so I’ve been unironically doing girly shit since 2010. I don’t do it performatively but because of the times, people now assume that sometimes about me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 02:08 AM |
| 10 | Yes, women’s standards have changed and no, its not the way you think.The confirmation bias cuts both ways: It’s not just that men can’t find relationships, women can’t get the relationships they want from the men that do end up passing their filters. On Reddit, people tend to hyper focus on these filters and how men don’t get past them, but we never talk about what happens when the man does pass the filter but still doesn’t choose to have a relationship despite wanting one. Dual income is the standard but what percentage of women in dual income relationships woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:21 PM |
| 30 | Yes, women’s standards have changed and no, its not the way you think.The issue is that women have lost self awareness in that what they want from a partner is not something many men are willing to give or even a healthy way to have a mutually reciprocating relationship. Lots of women don’t know that they have “anti social” standards and it’s not just their standards in the partner themselves that aren’t realistic but the very expectations they have for relationships themselves that are unrealistic. Lots of women think men would be ok with a relationship where the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:02 PM |
| 0 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingThe preference for low body count women is not misogynistic. The assumption that high body count women are disloyal is misogynistic. But it will statistically always be self confirming: obviously virgins and low body count women aren’t cheating by definition. Some women with higher body counts cheat and others don’t. We’ve only had birth control for like 60 years as well. Ofc I wouldn’t date a woman 70 years ago into casual sex. The paternity risk was too great. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 09:23 PM |
| 0 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingAgain, body count≠disloyal I’ve dated plenty of women with 10+ body counts and I’ve never been cheated on. Lots of dudes who don’t give good dick often need to resort to misogyny as a cope as to why they got cheated on when in reality men cheat more in marriage than women. This is phenomenon of current sex negativity in culture where averages are tipping the other way where young men are finding themselves being less sexually experienced than their female counterparts. But the only thing that re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingNo this is just an issue where a lot of young men don’t know how to distinguish between a woman who isn’t loyal vs a woman who has experience. They can get blindsided by attention whores with low body counts as well as for these women often just the attention itself is validation and they don’t need the sex, but the dynamic is effectively the same as disloyal hos | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Most women aren’t good enough for relationships for most menNo I am not withholding sex for six months. I’m just saying that’s how long the relationship will last in total when women do not invest. During these six months I may stop having sex at some point in hopes that it will spur on more investment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 12:28 AM |
| – | Q4W: Why do you want to marry and date men, given that the majority of women are not attracted to the male body?Straight demis are in denial about their visceral attraction to the opposite gender. I don’t bother trying to make sense of their sexualities. Demi means you’re attracted to intelligence which is by definition a queer identity. If the intelligent person has to be a man then you are by definition not primarily Demi Granted there are Demis who are queer but are attracted to both genders for unique reasons which is like a lite version (eg Julia fox) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 11:20 PM |
| – | Q4W: Why do you want to marry and date men, given that the majority of women are not attracted to the male body?Other women who think women only have responsive sexuality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included)I understand. I guess I feel like some ladies could be more straight forward with the truth about penetration mostly being unnecessary when it comes to actual physical pleasure. I think for most people, penetration is about emotional connection (which imo a lot of women tend to discount as well) But even a guy with a small package can put as much motion in the ocean as he wants but at the end of the day he will have to focus on clit play if he wants to bring a woman to orgasm. Even as a bigger g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 07:34 PM |
| 5 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingI’d agree 10 years ago but not post covid. But yeah it goes both ways. I have issues dating some younger women where their only sexual experience was their high school sweetheart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 07:17 PM |
| 7 | The worst thing about modern expectations is that women roles and social duties have been eased while men roles and social duties have increased or stayed sameI’m an independent adult so there’s nothing off the list. Guess these girls just eat takeout. I prefer to fold my laundry in thirds so I guess I could say if you are doing laundry and my stuff is in there then remember I prefer thirds Marie kondo style but I try segregate my dirty laundry. I do say they aren’t allowed to clean cookware and cutlery I guess because I’m particular about my cast irons and knives (I wouldn’t get mad if they didn’t clean them though, just not my preference) Maybe if I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included)Yeah most women buy vibrators and don’t even buy dildos my dog because most women don’t even care for penetration According to Google the average dildo size bought is 6.5 inches so it all tracks. Below average dicks are rarely pleasurable to women for penetration. These men really just have clit play as an option to please women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included)I mean it’s not what I do. But if I was a below average dude then I’d admit to myself that most women just see penetration as something for my own pleasure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 05:19 PM |
| 0 | Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included)lol I am reiterating what she said and her reply is saying she’s confused with me “arguing” because she agrees | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 05:19 PM |
| 0 | Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included)Am I arguing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 05:18 PM |
| 1 | The worst thing about modern expectations is that women roles and social duties have been eased while men roles and social duties have increased or stayed same“Yall don’t find wars anymore so I won’t clean the dishes” Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 04:53 PM |
| 4 | The worst thing about modern expectations is that women roles and social duties have been eased while men roles and social duties have increased or stayed sameI’ve had women list off on a first date the domestic things that they won’t do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Most women aren’t good enough for relationships for most menI give benefit of the doubt that they may increase investment. I have ceased sex as an ultimatum to get the girl to try to invest more as well. 6-8 months is the window usually. It’s situationship culture. It’s not like men don’t want relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 04:50 PM |
| 4 | They are trying to convince us that women are happier single and childless when almost all rich women get married.Happier single≠happy The older the women I date, the less happy they seem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 04:48 PM |
| -9 | Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included)What’s the point of penetration if you don’t feel it? Most women will prefer one big enough to feel (and obviously this will differ women to woman but “average” is probably on the lower end for preferred size for penetration) Men with below average size are pretty much useless for penetration and most women would prefer a guy with a small dick just focus on clit play. And once he’s finished he can just do penetration for his own pleasure to finish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 05:37 AM |
| 15 | Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included)When is this sub gonna make a dick size mega thread sticky | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 04:18 AM |
| – | Women without straight male friends:A common story I hear is: Female/male best friend then male best friend says he develops feelings for her. Do you think these men are lying and that they just wanted to fuck from the beginning of the friendship. Do women never develop unrequited feelings for their male friends? And is it gross when they do it or is it less gross than when men do it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 03:31 AM |
| -1 | Women without straight male friends:“Specific bad behavior” these women don’t use these episodes to justify being sexist Exactly. These women don’t generalize. They see the men who try to cross boundaries as an exception. I’m just trying to understand why there are also women who don’t complain yet are more attractive than women who do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 11:53 PM |
| 8 | "Provider men" content is deeply infantilizing to women and misogynisticA lot of people who are terminally online think a lot of stuff is terminally online when it isn’t because if you are terminally online then you don’t know what’s common in the real world. Not that Instagram is the real world, but if you think PPD is bad, literally just spend 30 seconds on Instagram threads | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexOnce you realize a lot of the mods are also in that demographic then this sub starts to make more sense. Shouldn’t call it blue pill. We should just call it xennial myopia (the good ones are the best tho) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Women without straight male friends:“Jar opener friends” Do they know you call them that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 06:20 PM |
| 0 | Women without straight male friends:Which “men?” All of them? Or the ones you want to generalize so you can indulge in your confirmation bias about men being dogs? Like if you don’t have straight male friends that you enjoy that’s a you problem not a horny man problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Women without straight male friends:So what do you make of women more attractive than you who don’t make these complaints? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Women without straight male friends:Why do women assume men can’t have platonic relationships with women? Did one male friend make a move then these women swear off all platonic straight male relationships or is it social isolation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexHow do you verify that he lied vs he changed his mind? IMO that only involves unkept promises. But I agree with the sentiment of your comment that situationships are usually enabled by both parties. IMO it’s less of a gender thing and more of attachment style incompatibility. (Eg Avoidants often attract anxious types and they tend to mutually reinforce their bad habits) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Women's brains have been FRIED by social media and OLDOLD puts women in a masculine approach to dating by prioritizing spontaneous sexuality over responsive. And women swiping on men is in of itself a masculinization of previous habits where men would approach and woman would accept or reject. Now women themselves “approach” men on the apps but it’s a half hearted one so this has created dating market anemia. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexNo they’re young people who are FWB. It’s just that casual sex has never been less popular since early boomers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 11:04 PM |
| 8 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexIt’s the arrogance that is astounding imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexNo you’re clearly the one who doesn’t have experience. I have been in one situationship (never again) and have had several FWBs my guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:36 PM |
| 6 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexIt’s so cute that you think women only want to be in relationships with men who fuck them Such innocence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexIn an FWB that is mutually agreed upon and in a situationship it is not and there is an unspoken expectation that it could change | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexI mean yeah sometimes they can start as strangers. Do you not understand the distinction between a platonic and romantic relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:26 PM |
| 14 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexYeah they should refer to you I guess 😂 https://www.grindr.com/blog/situationship-vs-friends-with-benefits https://kraks.co/situationship-vs-friends-with-benefits-whats-the-difference-really/ https://danieldashnawcouplestherapy.com/blog/situationship-vs-friends-with-benefits https://danieldashnawcouplestherapy.com/blog/situationship-vs-friends-with-benefits https://pickmeupgame.com/blogs/pick-me-up-blog/what-are-the-key-differences-between-friends-with-benefits-vs-situationships?srsltid=AfmBOooV… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexNo it’s two people fucking who agree that it’s platonic plus physical intimacy and not romantic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:20 PM |
| 19 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexhttps://www.wikihow.com/Situationship-vs-Friends-with-Benefits Everyone please refer to the above for clarity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexNo back in the day, the people who avoided FWB were just the people who didn’t want them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexI mean not all the time. But even then, situationships don’t start with clear intentions at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sex“but the hallmark is lack of clear boundaries” Can you read? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexOk find me articles about why FWB is bad. Then see if you can find more of them than ones about situationships being bad. Like it seems like you haven’t actively dated for a while. Most people who are single and dating now pretty much all agree situationships should be avoided | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:57 PM |
| 5 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexNo, FWB has clear boundaries dog Again very obvious you don’t have experience with these things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:54 PM |
| 6 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexIt’s just something women tell themselves to preserve their ego. “It’s him not me” most times a fling ends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:49 PM |
| 16 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sex99/100 they didn’t fake anything. They just got to know you better and changed their mind about you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexhttps://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-a-situationship I suggest OP put this in their post for reference so people don’t try to make themselves the dictionary authority | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexNo not at all. Situationships are where one or both people want the relationship to progress and/or become exclusive but for a variety of reasons no one takes the leap. FWB does not have a bad rap. Situationships do lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:31 PM |
| -5 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexWomen get what they deserve by not setting boundaries with these men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:26 PM |
| 5 | Situationship is a term made up by women to make themselves feel better about being used for sexlol no it isn’t. Situationships are very different than casual/open/FWB. Clearly you haven’t been in both | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:25 PM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyI mean I’m looking for a woman who is worth more than just for sex. I’ve been in relationships with women who do so. But none of them decentered men and none of them preferred masturbation to sex. Your partner can use toys on use as well. It’s pathetic if the only orgasms you have in life are by yourself. It should be a source of shame | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societySo you are volcel? Most people who want relationships want to derive happiness from them. The women who decenter men are the exactly the ones who are the worst at relationships with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:08 PM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societylol my first comment on this thread is addressing why men make poor partners but also how bitter progressives (I am a progressive btw) project hate fantasies onto young men by using “lift yourself from your bootstraps” narratives. This is because “bitter progressives” clearly don’t like it when conservative men criticize welfare so they’re like “how do you like it too” when talking about dating. And sorry stats are not my imagination. Women are single at higher rates today not just because they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 06:25 PM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyThey can get a man. They just can’t keep him. This is reflected in the marriage rate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Why do you guys insist that a woman's income and career doesn't matter, while also complaining about women "settling" for stable providers?So you’re saying men must treat all women the same to prove that they aren’t misogynistic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 05:59 PM |
| 2 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyYes and that’s why women nowadays for the most part are only valuable for the sex they provide because they offer no other value. And no it’s not just what men who want bang maids think. That’s just what femcels tell themselves so they can feel better sleeping alone at night | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:29 AM |
| 0 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyNo women who want long term relationships are struggling to acquire and maintain them. Men don’t think women are worth more than sex nowadays, apart from the men who don’t have access to women who are centering their lives around a marriage that won’t happen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:13 AM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyhttps://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/american-women-are-giving-up-on-marriage-54840971?mod=lifestyle_feat2_relationships_pos4 “In a 2023 Pew Research Center survey of 5,073 U.S. adults, 48% of women said that being married was not too or not at all important for a fulfilling life, compared with 39% of men—up from 31% and 28% in 2019. In a 2024 Wall Street Journal/NORC poll, 58% of women aged 18 to 29 said marriage was at least somewhat essential to their vision of the American dream, comp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 08:40 AM |
| 0 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyBeing single is always more expensive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 08:28 AM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for society“Anyway, I’m talking about (wo)men because I don’t like what I see in (wo)men. They are not (feminine) anymore, and it’s pathetic really” Do you think men today struggle because they aren’t masculine enough? Are you aware of the stats on how many women want to get married and have kids? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 08:27 AM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyAnd you talk about men more I guess because it’s such an accurate picture to paint to say most men who struggle with dating want mommies to gift pussy or whatever. Only terminally online people think that about men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 08:03 AM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyWomen today are unempathetic because they genuinely are less empathetic than women of past generations. They are more emotionally repressed and romantically cynical. Criticism of women isn’t just about not getting pussy lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 07:52 AM |
| 0 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyBecause no one should take seriously the idea that the reason why relationships today are failing is due to solely male incompetence. This is just soft misogyny toward women imo. It treats them like children who are victims to male incompetence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 07:47 AM |
| -3 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyOP is talking about “harems” and I’m saying that men nowadays have little incentive to have sex in one place at a time nowadays because women offer so little. As men have begun to offer less financially, women in turn offer less non financial acts of service. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 07:43 AM |
| -4 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyYet men who can find women don’t want to marry them at the same rate as before. Everyone kinda needs to do better right now. Pretty hilarious to act as if men are the only ones lagging It is in men’s best interest to get sex at as low a cost as possible given that relationships are no longer the same boon as they used to be | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 07:38 AM |
| 5 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyAnd plenty of men are making good choices but are still incels. This is just all just world fallacy bs which probably means you also subscribe to women are wonderful fallacy (that is women are perfect moral arbitrators so only morally corrupt men are single). Attraction isn’t fair my guy. Women today are much more easily repulsed than in the past (not that I’d recommend dating a woman with a sensitive ick response as the sex won’t be good) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 06:47 AM |
| 1 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyWell you’d probably be an incel too today if you were born later. I was pretty decent at dating prior to Covid. Barely any of the skills transfer. Going to therapy and getting a decent job has not helped me nearly as much with dating as putting a shirtless selfie of myself on my dating profile. But sure at the end of the day it won’t help to blame things you can’t control. But since men propose for marriage and marriage rates are down, women also could work on themselves if they don’t want to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 06:42 AM |
| -3 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyThe issue is that we project conservative “lift yourself by your bootstrap” hate fantasies onto men. Probably comes from a place of being bitter as a progressive who see young men become conservative and then try to use “leopards ate my face logic” against them. Reality is men won’t become better partners until society invests in men more. Education system needs to be revamped. Male birth control needs more investment. We need to culturally elevate male heterosexuality like we did up to the mid … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 06:27 AM |
| -2 | We are going back to our uncivilized days in dating and it isn't great for societyWe won’t have extensive welfare programs for unmarried elderly women (and men for that matter). We are going to see lots of old ladies bagging groceries 30 years from now. So it will switch back in probably 2 generations as young women will feel “forced” by seeing the bad outcomes of single elderly folk. They will see a stark difference between the life paths of these people vs their parents. So while today most kids don’t want to emulate their parents, this will flip at some point We are curren… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Why is big size so sexualized compared to other sizes?Someone said there’s content with big boobed women taunting small boobed women? Still not really analogous. I want to see a male dom body shame a female sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Women aren't going to drastically change their lifestyle so that someday you might want to marry them.Even excluding the implication that they want you to buy their tickets for them, it’s basically about as basic a hobby you could get and I’d expect any person I’d date to like traveling as a default. As in it would be weird if they didn’t like traveling. So to me when women put that on their profile, the come across as low effort | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 11:16 PM |
| 1 | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Who said anything about BDSM? Where did I say the majority of women don’t find it painful? It’s not black and white babe. You can have cervix stimulation be painful if done improperly and pleasurable if done correctly in the same person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 10:36 PM |
| 1 | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.And you’re just talking to yourself. Where do I say orgasm? I’m disputing the claim that it’s always painful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 10:19 PM |
| 1 | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Because those are two different stats girly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why such a hostile, negative reaction to a woman proposing to a man?I don’t think you’re understanding…. They contradict themselves in doing so. They say, “no women are different from each other” and then proceed to talk about themselves as if all other women feel the same way they do No one said anything about 80/20. I don’t believe in that. Why do you think I do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why such a hostile, negative reaction to a woman proposing to a man?That’s my point. There is no monolith but women (here especially) love to describe their personal preferences as a norm for other women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why such a hostile, negative reaction to a woman proposing to a man?PPD women will say they aren’t the norm then proceed to describe their own personal romantic preference as monolith | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 07:29 PM |
| 1 | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.It’s not extreme. It’s 16%. And you’ll see the numbers for “deep vaginal penetration” being higher than just “vaginal penetration” in the linked studies. It’s so pathetic that you have an elementary school response to me saying “projection” by saying “nawww you’re projecting.” And I’m like we are not, we are just telling you our experience with women which I have more of than you (“at least” twice the experience you have). Nonetheless preferences for bi and lesbian women are also not going to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 06:24 PM |
| 6 | Why is big size so sexualized compared to other sizes?It’s pretty telling that most “small dick” porn is centered around the concept of humiliation. Imagine if there was porn where body shaming women was the kink. “Oh look at you and your pathetic tiny tits. You couldn’t feed a baby mouse with those.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 06:15 AM |
| 1 | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Lots≠majority 16% is pretty statistically significant and tracks pretty well with around 80-85% of women preferring clitoral stimulation to penetration. And the amount of men who can stimulate the cervix in such a way is most likely not much higher than 15% either. Like it all kinda tracks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 06:10 AM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Girly I’ve already given you peer reviewed data. It’s 16.3% of women. Accept reality. Literally the medical article I shared with you says that damage to the cervix is rare when stimulated. And STIMULATED. Not pierced. Not pounded or whatever goal post you want to move to as if all cervix stimulation=jackhammer Again talk to these women and tell them that they don’t know their own biology or whatever | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 05:55 AM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.The Reddit comments aren’t medical advice. They are testimony on what they find pleasurable. They aren’t insisting that cervix stimulation is pleasurable to all women. They are saying they personally find it pleasurable. With many saying it is not painful at all. But again please dm these women. Please have a conversation with these women. Not for medical advice but to cure your myopia. No one is talking about having sex with pregnant women lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 05:32 AM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.You arrogant ladies need to actually talk to other women https://np.reddit.com/r/badwomensanatomy/s/V91MbbMNTT <image> You should dm these women and tell them they don’t know their own bodies and see what they think about you and your doctor’s opinion. Next time you see your doctor, ask them if some women enjoy cervix stimulation. You might learn a thing or two | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 05:16 AM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Just another day on PPD educating women about women: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/uvu0G0lIFP Like do you think me or the root commenter are making women bleed without realizing? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321574#before-trying “It is unlikely that cervical stimulation would permanently damage the cervix… Bleeding during sex is not typical. This may indicate a person has an injury.” And here’s some advice on how to approach cervical stimulation! Maybe give some of thes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 05:08 AM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Girly, no one has said anything about jack hammering. Your projection is obvious. We are not talking for other women. We are telling you what women have told us whom we’ve had sex with. How many women have you had sex with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 03:16 AM |
| 3 | Does it makes sense to you at all when men say some women are entitled in dating?“Always on texters” ime almost all have severe anxiety. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 11:58 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.You can find peer reviewed studies on Google. I even linked one on this comment thread But why am I not surprised. It’s expecting too much of PPD users to do “research” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 08:48 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Ok so you’re speaking for you and your friends. Try Google next time babe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 07:59 PM |
| -2 | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Why should I be embarrassed when I’m the one who is having enjoyable sex. These women probably name their vibrator after their favorite romantasy character It’s obvious that they are projecting some “oh I got a big dick so I’m awesome” stereotype onto me and the root commenter. They literally are imagining in their heads that we are choosing “cervix stimulation” over “clitoral stimulation” and I’m like sorry girly we also do both. These women only having experience with men who don’t care about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 07:58 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.No you are a woman speaking for other women’s pleasure. You’re being more misogynistic here than us because you’re the one treating women as monolith | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 07:48 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Quit what lol Literally the medical profession agrees that the cervix is not an inherently painful organ to touch. So obviously the only experience these women have with cervix stimulation is in medical contexts and they are using that as a way to reason that cervix stimulation during sex is painful. These women have not had sex with men with members big enough and they most likely don’t masturbate with dildos. They are just speaking for themselves as the data proves them wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?How do these women know this unless they are talking about themselves? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 06:15 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Misandrist women tend to speak for other women’s sexualities. It’s a trend I notice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 06:08 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Absolutely not true https://thepelvicpeople.com/blogs/journal/painful-sex-is-the-cervix-to-blame?srsltid=AfmBOooz75LM7Ch9b2guxI3SlGozlQggBOEZbtOyG6kWcLaZVuIFajny “As Dr. Karen Brandon, DSc, PT says, “The native state of the cervix is not tender or sensitive, but we know [that certain procedures or events like] colposcopies and LEEP procedures can cause cervical pain.” This basically means that the cervix isn’t usually super prone to pain unless something else is going on. In fact, cervical stimu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 06:05 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.No all these women have been brainwashed by patriarchy to interpret their pain as pleasure https://np.reddit.com/r/badwomensanatomy/s/Vm6Ye7ZnS9 Just another day on PPD educating women about women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 05:40 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.You need to have sex with more women girly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 05:31 PM |
| – | The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter.Imo the the lie isn’t that big dicks are super popular but that lots of women enjoy cervix stimulation There are women with very shallow vaginas that a 5.5 inch dick could hit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?Just try to avoid telling women in casual/FWB arrangements that they are subhuman I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?So you’re a misogynist too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?Exactly. These myopic losers are so obsessed with what shitty men say that they don’t actually end having empowered sexual selves. They just think that because that some men look down on women who have casual sex that it’s ok for women to agree with misogynists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 05:53 PM |
| – | Why do women expect traditionalism in relationships?Imo the issue today isn’t that women are trad but that women think transactional relationships are trad. They think a john-whore dynamic is trad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 05:16 PM |
| 2 | The advice that “men need to stop showing interest in order to actually attract women” only works for certain top % men. It’s horrible advice and a catch 22 situation.There’s a not so tiny group of insecure women who are allergic to emotional vulnerability (they only want performative vulnerability in the relationship) and if you try to to cater to these women then you won’t be able to have good relationships with good women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 04:19 PM |
| 5 | We're headed toward rich get richer in the dating market aka PolygynyPoly peaked in like 2022-2023 Everyone realized most poly people are just dysfunctional monog people larping as non jealous people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Dating feels more like a job interview than actually getting to know someoneI’ve started | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 07:48 PM |
| – | Men who ask a girl out asap are hated, men who start developing feelings after a full-fledged friendship are also hated and are seen as nothing but deceivers, so what's this goldilocks zone where the girl won't be put off by them?My tip is to avoid women who project trauma onto you so you don’t have to worry about this bullshit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a very attractive girl who doesn't like sex?Mods, why are you approving these duplicate posts? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?Talking to yourself. Women don’t have enough casual sex imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?Well I guess my point is do not confuse your preference with getting dissed by men who aren’t interested in long term relationships with you. They aren’t actually dissing you. You’re dissing yourself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 08:58 PM |
| 5 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?It’s insecurity too. You’re saying your perception of your own worth depends on how men treat you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 08:11 PM |
| 5 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?It’s internalized misogyny that you think a mutually reciprocal sexual relationship devalues women. Lots of empowered women have satisfying sexual relationships. I hope you don’t think they have less worth because they aren’t in a committed relationship. These women would not like it if you referred to them as fleshlights | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?No not in particular. They just lack the interpersonal skills. It’s often professional women who avoided relationships in their 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 07:45 PM |
| -2 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?I think the mark of an insecure woman is to interpret pure sexual interest as a slight to her worth. Even in a situation where it’s just FWB, that doesn’t mean you’re a fleshlight, it just means you’re not compatible for an LTR. But lots of women cannot think in the compatibility mindset and are stuck in a worth based mindset and think any man who wants anything short of a committed LTR from her is “devaluing” her. I guess it’s a combination of insecurity and internalized misogyny. Pump and dump… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, why are men expected to carry your emotional baggage with no reciprocation?“Mental health issues” Yeah keep it generic lol Some men kill themselves for other reasons than “mental health issues” girly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 02:11 AM |
| -2 | Ladies, why are men expected to carry your emotional baggage with no reciprocation?And it’s also a fairly well known fact that at least 40% of men who kill themselves do not have depression. Like pretty common story to hear among my therapists about middle aged men taking their own life without any signs of depression | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 01:47 AM |
| 0 | Ladies, why are men expected to carry your emotional baggage with no reciprocation?You’re assuming the only difference is under diagnosing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 01:39 AM |
| 0 | Ladies, why are men expected to carry your emotional baggage with no reciprocation?So less than 2x (close but not quite). But this data still supports that women are on average more neurotic and that men take this toll on in relationships because under-diagnosing is not the only variable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 01:34 AM |
| 5 | Ladies, why are men expected to carry your emotional baggage with no reciprocation?Women have anxiety and depression at twice the rate as men… do you think women go to therapy twice as often? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 01:14 AM |
| -2 | Ladies, why are men expected to carry your emotional baggage with no reciprocation?You should be immediately flag these women as pump and dump material. They’re often unfixable because a part of their subconscious wants their trauma to repeat as a fucked up power dynamic where they can’t be in a relationship and not be the “better person.” Talking into a pillow is about all these women are good for | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 01:14 AM |
| 3 | Men want women to settle for themI’m not disagreeing here that these women are settling. I’m just saying the best they can get will be settling to a lot of women. I don’t want you to operate on any system. I’m just saying the majority of women operate on the system of responsive attraction not spontaneous attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Men want women to settle for themWomen who lack self awareness don’t understand that the person they are settling for is the best they can get. Granted I am unsure if this post is about women not having spontaneous attraction. Most women don’t. But responsive attraction is by definition negotiated. Perhaps you’re a woman with spontaneous attraction projecting your sexuality onto other women. I’ve dated mostly women with spontaneous attraction and it’s much different than average. If I don’t wash the dishes, it’s not that she be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:35 PM |
| 10 | Men want women to settle for themMen settle for less than what they deserve often Women settle with what they deserve often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:00 PM |
| 9 | Would you date a 35 year old woman who is otherwise your looksmatch?Only if we were going to start a family within 2-4 years with certainty. I’m about 2-3 years from that stage in life so it would just be a no for me for the time being until I’m at that stage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 12:45 AM |
| 0 | Young women are dating the same terrible menThey aren’t terrible. We just blow smoke up high school girls’ asses by telling them they are mature enough for a long term relationship when they should just be hooking up at that age. The boys are doing the right thing by avoiding serious relationships then low iq/Eq women think these boys are evil for doing something completely healthy Boys who don’t hookup cope by imagining these men are evil Most of what these women post on are we dating the same guy probably aren’t true because they are al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 08:02 PM |
| 1 | A world without men would be calmer, safer, and more harmoniousHave you read Herland? Women can still be racist. Queen Victoria was one of the primary figures to advance western colonialism | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/25 06:37 PM |
| – | Patriarchy didn't start off with men wanting to be evil and oppressed women.No we do not historically see what we consider to be patriarchy until the first states and the origin of agriculture. There is no systemic oppression of male bodies over female bodies observed in nature. Might never made patriarchy right as rival male gangs always prevented might from consolidating power among men. Patriarchy was formed by a bunch of old dudes who managed to convince people to oppress themselves via ideology: eg a priestly class. And women were part of this. This is why internet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/25 05:38 PM |
| – | why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral?Same reason why women have a double standard for bisexual men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/25 05:29 PM |
| 4 | What would you personally contribute to society if you could get regular sex from attractive women?No most men make themselves cum inside women. I can’t tell if you’re changing the subject or trying to make excuses for being quiet by framing communication as “arguing” I’ll be clearer: women who don’t use their words in the bedroom deserve a jackhammer or two pump chump bf who doesn’t touch your clit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 10:02 PM |
| 7 | Women preferences are considered morality. While men preferences are considered evil.lol remember a post on r/tall of a woman saying she feels fetishized because a tall guy said he didn’t enjoy being with women 5’3 and below | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 02:07 AM |
| 5 | What would you personally contribute to society if you could get regular sex from attractive women?Then you don’t deserve good sex Ofc we know what the clit is. You know what the dick is too and you would think men would be selfish and entitled if you think we are owed handjobs and blowjobs without asking. Would never consider more than a 3-6 month sexual relationship with a woman who doesn’t ask for what she wants. If it’s like the 25th time I’ve touched your clit and you’ve never actually asked to have it touched then I’m going to start to think you’re a selfish fuck who doesn’t deserve to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 01:56 AM |
| 2 | What would you personally contribute to society if you could get regular sex from attractive women?Women need to learn to ask to get their clit touched just like how men ask for handjobs and blowjobs. Super weird to get resentful of dudes for not doing things you don’t ask for. Lots of women deserve the jackhammer/two pump chump | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 11:15 PM |
| 3 | What would you personally contribute to society if you could get regular sex from attractive women?Healthy sexual relationships are mutually reciprocal These men could all be taught fairly easily how to make a woman orgasm with clit play. It’s really not that hard | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 09:19 PM |
| – | Why have red pill figures, slipped into irrelevancy?Yeah idk Trump 2024 is way more empowered than Trump 2016 and this is due to how popular the red pill is among young men. But I lump alt right influencers with redpill. You could argue that folks like Andrew Tate are falling off but I’d say that’s due to the fact that their sources of revenue are now in markets that are over saturated. Andrew Tate’s prime as an onlyfans pimp is over. He’s scurrying for other sources of growth now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 08:03 PM |
| 5 | You can be straight up with a girl who actually likes and respects you.I’ve worked in sales. You wouldn’t need a salesman if the person already wanted the product. Game is just a form of manipulation to convince someone to buy a product without showing the real merit of that product. The very act of doing game implies you’re unattractive from the start so you need to game your way into being attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 04:59 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceUnsolicited affection, proposing plans (and yes im fine with making the plan, but I don’t want to be the only source of imagination for activities in the relationship), acts of service (I have typically cooked more than my exes but I like to be treated sometimes), words of gratitude not affirmations: this is just nice letters on bdays and anniversaries, gifts that are made (knit me something lol), and unfiltered emotional vulnerability | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 04:03 PM |
| 2 | You can be straight up with a girl who actually likes and respects you.That’s the point: If you aren’t “aware” of it then it’s a sincere and authentic interaction. As soon as you revert to scripts and rules while courting someone then it’s game | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceNo they told me they wanted an LTR girlie | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 03:33 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceYou’re just making stuff up now. Literally this post is about women who want an LTR with me. They voice the desire first. I agree on the goal but then I have another conversation about what needs to happen for an LTR to occur | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 07:16 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceThey’re not hypergamous my dude. That’s my point. I think you’re kinda reading what you want to see. My post is saying we overestimate hypergamy. We just see a lot of serially monogamous women as hypergamous when they aren’t. They just are people who don’t have self awareness that they are driving on the wrong side of the street I’m just describing a situation where I’ve dated women like this and it’s baffling to me why they want LTRs because they clearly aren’t cut out for one. Ofc we had where… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 07:09 PM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceProbably was a 5 year anemic relationship then he found someone compatible and the relationship grew with much more ease. You can still project what ROI of a relationship will be. You can see things going nowhere with someone you’ve been with for years and then you can also have a more productive relationship with someone you’ve recently met but are more compatible with. And I’d argue using relationship length as a measure of investment is the exact delusion I’m trying to debunk here. If you wer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 07:01 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI mean you don’t just suddenly become an exclusive without a conversation. And for me, the distinction between “exclusive dating” and a long term relationship aren’t important. If you’re exclusively dating, that already implies you’re seeking a long term relationship. And if you aren’t exclusive, that doesn’t mean you can’t have a relationship either. And open relationships are usually the endgame for most of these women I date, but as I’ve gotten older and have dated more career women, the situ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 06:57 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceMaybe you’re still stuck in the 10s but we’re in the job hugging era rn I agree there’s a power dynamic. Perhaps sports is a better analogy. Sure you can find a different league to play for but you got to practice your swing at the end of the day if you want to play a good game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 06:44 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI’m saying this type of person confuses the lack of relationship quality with them not picking the right person. No amount of pickiness will ever solve these people’s problems because they lack self awareness that the reason why their relationship sucks isn’t because they haven’t found the right person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 06:43 PM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceThe post would still make sense if I removed the entire section about flaws You’re just avoiding the argument | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 04:58 PM |
| 0 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceThey don’t matter. I’m talking about people who don’t realize all their relationships will suck because of their own lack of investment These are people who want LTRs in theory but don’t actually like the work involved | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 03:09 PM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceIn the short term it’s not true. But we get what we deserve in the long run outside of violence/crime/abuse etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 03:09 AM |
| 4 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceBecause grown adults self advocate in relationships? And that isn’t combative nor does that kill vibes unless you’re avoidant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 03:08 AM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceWhat does pumping and dumping have to do with their boredom? Usually the person doing it is the one who is bored What untrustworthy vibe? I’ve never cheated. Been in several LTRs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 03:05 AM |
| 4 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI agree. If we put some men’s brains in women’s bodies then they’d do the same. But I don’t think the grass is greener mentality is why the dynamic i describe is so toxic. It’s the fundamental misunderstanding about how relationships grow and how to get the best out of our partner that is the issue. For some people it’s just totally not on their radar that they may have to be proactive about getting what they need from their partner. I’ve dated women who were shameless about doing this as well a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 01:53 AM |
| 4 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI mean chemistry is purely just an in the moment thing. It doesn’t account for the fact that relationships are not just about what’s in the moment but also what’s invested over time. If anything women understand that better than men. I didn’t feel appreciated in a way that motivated me to want to have a committed LTR with this person but I still enjoyed their company otherwise. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with trying to advocate for yourself so that you can grow the relationship mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 01:35 AM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceThe problem is that sometimes they are making holes in the ship themselves/see holes in the ship as someone else’s problem exclusively. It’s like they are watching their partner bail out water on the sinking ship while she is pissing on the deck And these people are often perpetually dissatisfied because they can’t connect their own actions to their own dissatisfaction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 12:41 AM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceWhat? Why do they think I’m boring? Have been in LTRs with women who aren’t like this. It’s just mostly the women on apps who act this way and typically over 30. Ironically less of this behavior from younger women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 12:35 AM |
| 1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceWith one of these situations I’ve straight up made an ultimatum that we won’t have any sex until I feel more of an emotional connection from them + effort on their part when it comes to providing some input on what activities we do when we hang out. Nothing happens apart from them trying to get me to cave on not having sex. And this girl in particular stank a lot more when we stopped having sex for some reason | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 12:16 AM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceAnd I’m tired of pumping and dumping these women They weren’t even the ones who made the sex exciting. I do everything I think some believe that splitting the bill is their “contribution.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 12:07 AM |
| 3 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceThen I have no idea what your point is. I’m not complaining about shit not going anywhere. I’m complaining about how many women want the relationship to go somewhere but I would never in a million years offer commitment to someone who treats me like how some of these women on apps treat me (and yes I am lucky to have had a 1 year LTR with someone from the apps but that’s been it) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:58 PM |
| 4 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceMonths And the point is that we aren’t yet gf/bf I want to have a committed relationship, but I’d never give that to someone who isn’t matching my energy. These women verbalize that they want an LTR, but it’s dumbfounding to me because they aren’t acting differently than women I’ve had casual relationships with. And I had a 2 year hs sweatheart relationship and a 7 year one out of college and a 1 year one during covid. All women imo matched my energy. If I made an effort for them, they would be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:56 PM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceIt’s to preserve ego so that if the relationship goes awry, they can just blame the other person and not take ownership Big red flag with people like this is that whenever you bring up a grievance, they respond by bringing up one of their own grievances that has nothing to do with the issue you’re complaining about. These people aren’t trustworthy and am very glad to have never given someone like this my commitment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:50 PM |
| 7 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceWhy do you think I haven’t initiated negotiations? I’m initiating the negotiation and saying “hey I’d like an LTR but I can make that leap until we have x” Then nothing. It’s supposed to be a dialogue. Not a request for an order that you wait to be fulfilled Again why is everyone here assuming I’ve never been in a committed LTR? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:49 PM |
| 5 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceWhy are you unsure? I’m telling you this is a significant cultural thing that affects quite a few women. They see commitment as something that is given to them automatically if they simply spend enough time with a guy and they don’t factor in the quality of said time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:41 PM |
| 5 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceHahaha so you think I’ve never been in a relationship with a woman who puts in effort? I have and I gave them my commitment lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:39 PM |
| 3 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceControlling and nagging are not healthy. Self advocate in a healthy way: https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/dear-man.php | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:36 PM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceThere’s some symmetry, I think the analogous version are men who are deadbeat fathers. But you’re hilariously naive if you think men and women do this same behavior at same rate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:33 PM |
| 9 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceDo men lie about wanting a relationship for sex as often as claimed? Don’t you think men who want LTRs but meet a girl who they only feel strongly enough for FWB are disappointed? I think they are. I feel like people who make this argument assume most men are incels. Most men are content with FWB but still would prefer an LTR. Men want LTRs at the same rate as women and more men want to be fathers than women who are mothers. I mostly see the statement “men lie about wanting a relationship to get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:31 PM |
| 2 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceThe merit for commitment is based on the relationship you create as a unit. The idea that “I’m great therefore I deserve to be committed to” is mildly narcissistic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:28 PM |
| 3 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI guess a lot of women don’t think that man exists so they become jaded then avoid attachment then try to use relationships for other reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:27 PM |
| 6 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI tried my best to not make quantitatively falsifiable statements. A “large amount” could still be a small minority of women. My premise is still that I believe most people get what they deserve in the long run so if you are perpetually dissatisfied then you probably lack self awareness of how you are simply getting the treatment you deserve | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:25 PM |
| 5 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceNo I ask them how they show what MY significance is to them. I don’t exactly feel like I’m particularly important for you if all you do is let me take you out on dates that you never reciprocate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:23 PM |
| 10 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceNo because I’m giving them my loyalty and time too. What’s the other option? They don’t spend time with me? Then there’s no relationship. Literally the definition of bare minimum. If I have a T chart of “things I’ve done for her” in one column and “things she’s done for me” in the other, then it’s quite a bit lop sided. These women are selfish to want LTRs I have been in committed LTRs with women who have shown me affection without me asking, who have given me gifts, who have done acts of servic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:20 PM |
| 5 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceNo it’s just women think doing nothing is being in their feminine energy when it’s actually infantile energy. This is a new phenomenon. I believe it’s motivated by fragile ego: they need a committed relationship as a safe space to show emotional vulnerability but this puts the cart before the horse. Making a commitment to someone before any exchange of emotional vulnerability is foolhardy. Before social media shattered female ego (causing situationship culture) women used to do these things call… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:16 PM |
| – | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI’ve been in a string of situations via the apps, all with women who have verbalized that they want an LTR meanwhile I’m the only person breathing life into the relationship at all. When I ask, “how do you show me my significance to you?” They reply by saying “well I spend a lot of my time with you” as if I’m supposed to be flattered by that But I have also encountered women who absolutely only wanted casual but internalized misogyny forced them to lie on their profile | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 10:47 PM |
| 6 | Before or AfterBut we need to preserve he moral purity of women who feel hurt my guy. Like her feelings are hurt 😤 Obviously her feelings wouldn’t be hurt if he didn’t “betray” her ☝️☝️☝️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 06:56 PM |
| 7 | Before or AfterYou can end a relationship and be empathetic about it. What’s not empathetic is guilting someone who wants to end a friendship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 06:43 PM |
| 5 | Before or AfterNope Leaving is not malicious. Abandonment/betrayal/desertion are. You want to use morally charged language to condemn men for ending friendships over unrequited romantic feelings. You need to use morally charged language because you want to shame men for doing something that is absolutely not wrong in any way. The only thing wrong is that we shame these men and we coddle entitled women who feel like they are owed a friendship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 06:34 PM |
| 6 | Before or AfterYou can spout as many synonyms as you want but it doesn’t justify hyperbolic language. None of those words would apply except for maybe “cease to support.” Desertion implies leaving your post. Sort of the inverse of abandonment. Giving up implies that there is something you could continue to work toward. You know what words are also appropriate? “Leave” the relationship “End” the relationship “Cease” (without “to support”) the relationship This is just classic autistic Reddit arguing with dictio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 05:09 PM |
| 8 | Before or AfterIt’s not abandonment my dude Abandonment is when you expect someone to be there but they aren’t | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:37 PM |
| 12 | Before or AfterThey are making a choice for their mental health and you’d be entitled to think that you’re owed a friendship at the expense of their mental health | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:31 PM |
| -1 | Men should be expected to pay their pregnant partner half the market price of hiring a surrogate + parenthood penalty costs in a 50/50 relationshipAgreed. Always best outcome for the child when both parents want to be involved in raising the child. If not, then probably best not to give birth or give the child up for adoption. Can’t replace a parent with money. Wealthy single moms still raise children with worse QOL outcomes than kids with both parents present. Most children hate having parents who don’t want to both raise them. They’ll be like, “why did you fucking have me if you knew dad wouldn’t be around?” They’ll resent you and they’l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:22 PM |
| 9 | Before or AfterAbandonment has a specific meaning. Someone leaving a relationship is not always abandonment. A mom leaving her infant on the side of the road is abandonment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:19 PM |
| 9 | Before or AfterIt’s not “abandoning” Abandoning implies that someone expected someone to be there but they weren’t. If he ghosts then maybe you can call that abandonment. But someone saying “I don’t want to be your friend anymore” is not abandonment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:17 PM |
| 6 | Before or AfterYou have abandonment issues | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:11 PM |
| 0 | Men should be expected to pay their pregnant partner half the market price of hiring a surrogate + parenthood penalty costs in a 50/50 relationshipNo only forced abortions violate autonomy. “Have an abortion or raise the child as a single parent” is a choice you make in the early stages of pregnancy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:09 PM |
| 10 | Before or AfterI would recommend you speak to a therapist if you see that as betrayal Are incels “betrayed” when a girl doesn’t want to fuck him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:08 PM |
| 32 | Before or AfterGrieving a lost relationship/friendship is ok Saying he’s a bad dude bc you don’t want to fuck him means you feel entitled to his time and friendship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 03:36 PM |
| 3 | Men should be expected to pay their pregnant partner half the market price of hiring a surrogate + parenthood penalty costs in a 50/50 relationshipUnless by consent. Just as women consent to raising a kid that they could put up for adoption or terminate the pregnancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 03:35 PM |
| 1 | The 50/50 model is a bad deal for women. It's just a roommate situation with sex, and it becomes outright exploitative if you have kids.No one is making you cook for and clean after your roommate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 01:20 AM |
| 0 | If Women are hypergamous, then Men are the Prize. Make her work for it.Men have always been the prize. Social media brain rot has been trying to convince us otherwise. The culture of making women the prize has coincided with inceldom. Women are the prize because sex. But this is only a prize to men who don’t have access to sex. A woman’s sexuality is not worth much to men who are the prize. Usually his sexuality is worth more than hers and really it’s just her appearance that is a prize not sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 12:22 AM |
| -1 | The fact that most women don't want to date bisexual men is a great litmus test to show how much women actually do care about male gender roles. Contrary to popular beliefs.Most women don’t want casual sex. The idea that most women have a ho phase is a cope for redpill dudes who didn’t have a hs/college hookup phase. Women who want LTRs avoid fuckbois. Fuckbois get fuck zoned all the time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 12:40 AM |
| 3 | The fact that most women don't want to date bisexual men is a great litmus test to show how much women actually do care about male gender roles. Contrary to popular beliefs.It’s not due to bigotry or even traditional roles but due to the power dynamics involved over sex. Bisexual men don’t rely on women for sex so women can’t exploit the power dynamic of gatekeeping sex to manipulate their partner. Lots of women know that when a man feels that his partner is the only opportunity for sex then he’s more malleable. This is actually another reason why women avoid fuckboyes bc it’s a similar reason. They don’t like not being the most sexually desired person in the dynam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 11:09 PM |
| 8 | It’s not creepy for men to want to sleep with or date their friendsYou’re literally doing it right now. Just because someone wants to have sex with you, that doesn’t mean they think your other qualities don’t matter. Just because someone only wants to be FWB with you, that doesn’t mean you’re only good enough for sex. That’s just you projecting your insecurity. Plenty of people like their FWBs for other reasons than sex and them not wanting an LTR doesn’t mean you’re low worth; it means you’re not compatible for an LTR | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 11:01 PM |
| 9 | It’s not creepy for men to want to sleep with or date their friendsInsecure women take sexual attention as a slight to their worth. They think you’re ignoring their other features or think they don’t matter to you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 06:27 PM |
| -1 | The rejection that women go through is worse than that of menBy definition the fact that there is an ongoing relationship means it’s not rejection. You just felt entitled to a committed relationship so you see it as rejection | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 02:25 PM |
| -1 | The rejection that women go through is worse than that of menWomen are myopic in dating situations bc they don’t think about how the man is disappointed that the girl wasn’t the one. And if you add the fact that most of them don’t ask questions like “what do we need to do to turn this into a committed relationship” then my sympathy is less. Someone giving you a fair chance is better than none at all typically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: when was the last time you were too intimidated by a woman's beauty to approach?Attractive women only discourage men with outcome dependence. I actually think this is a good automatic filter for attractive women. Very attractive women probably do get approached less than “above average” women but I think that comes with the benefit. Unfortunately this makes some of these attractive women jealous or at least it puts a chip on their shoulder because a lot of these women feel like they should be getting the most attention when “lesser” women get more attention. I’d argue that’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Why do you want women to tell men "be attractive" ?Ok makes sense why ur not close | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 08:21 PM |
| 0 | Modern dating’s freedom of choice is an illusion, and most people are miserable for it.lol hilarious when the men on this sub know what they are looking at | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 08:13 PM |
| 4 | Why do you want women to tell men "be attractive" ?How many platonic straight male friends do you have? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 07:22 PM |
| 52 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingIt’s feminine projection to assume that complaints are demands | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 09:40 PM |
| 1 | I think women are worst in bed then men areWe have pretty significant data on how significant a number of women who can’t regularly achieve orgasm via masturbation. And yeah it’s a pretty large number compared to men. I had a few female friends in college tell me they’ve never had an orgasm in their life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 10:07 PM |
| -1 | I think women are worst in bed then men areMost women just hump regularly during cowgirl. If they are grinding, it’s more like belly dancing than a twerk. There is both spinal flexion and extension. During reverse cow girl (and doggy but less twerking) the girl is mostly in spinal extension (cow pose) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 08:29 PM |
| 3 | I think women are worst in bed then men areThis is cat pose. And it’s what women who are bad at sex do (some women will involuntarily cat pose out of pleasure but that’s different). No one wants to put their dick in a girl posed like this: <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 08:27 PM |
| 1 | I think women are worst in bed then men are<image> It’s not always comfortable because men have tendons that run down their pubic area and connects at the base of the top of the penis. This makes it hard for a lot of men to point their penis toward the floor with an erection. Most men naturally have their erection point slightly toward the ceiling. So having sex like this is not viable for a lot of men with healthy erections. I usually do this only as one of the first positions or after we’ve already done a first round. It’s fun to look … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 08:25 PM |
| -1 | I think women are worst in bed then men areWhile I actually do prefer women who prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration as an orgasm preference (piv girls are exhausting after a while), I find that the girls who don’t enjoy PIV to be emotionally vacant and hollow. Penetration is about feeling “one” with your partner and a feeling of close intimacy and togetherness. Some women just have those super impersonal vaginas. It’s also just much hotter foreplay to have a girl tell you how she wants to be filled up. While I love compliments o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 08:18 PM |
| 1 | I think women are worst in bed then men areReverse cowgirl can be pretty similar Like have you ever had sex with a woman from behind who went into cat pose instead of cow pose? 🤮 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 08:15 PM |
| 1 | I think women are worst in bed then men areYeah when you’re at the bar flirting with a guy, you’re just afraid of that person around the corner who’s gonna pop out and shame you for flirting with him. Which is absolutely ridiculous. Most of the shaming women do in this regard is self done. We need to stop taking seriously the argument that women see misogyny on social media so then we rationalize why women aren’t functional lovers IRL. We tell incels all the time to not get hung up on rage bait content but it’s ok for women apparently to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 08:07 PM |
| 4 | I think women are worst in bed then men areOnce I got enough bodies I started to look at the orgasm gap stat a little differently. I’d say literally about between 1 in 4 and 1 in 5 people in general are generous lovers. And this sort of correlates with the 20% or so orgasm gap. Men who are selfish lovers results in the man cumming but not the woman. But if the woman is selfish… it’s the same result. Women who are bad lovers have self awareness problems and will rationalize their bad habits as men who just can’t get them off It’s a cultur… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 07:41 PM |
| 4 | Q4 people who believe that promiscuity damages a womans capacity to "pair-bond" --why doesn't having generally good life, good family etc. also damage a womans capacity to pair bond?It’s just the Madonna whore complex playing out. Pseudo feminist women see critiques of promiscuity as slut shaming so they proceed to try to rationalize all female sexual behavior as Madonna. It’s a binary and a dirty political tactic in their war against heterosexuality Reality still is that healthy casual sexual experiences can in fact empower your long term relationships later. But unfortunately most promiscuity is not empowered. It usually comes from a place of low self esteem. This is also… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/25 06:33 PM |
| 0 | Women are instructed to believed "all men bad" by other menFather: “my daughter, boys your age only want one thing…” Translation: “I was so bad at sex when I was younger that I had sex with girls my age who regretted it.” 16-21 should be when you experiment with sex in a low stakes environment. People who don’t will be less prepared for relationships than the people who do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/25 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Why do the avg women dont want the bottom 80% of men?https://thematchartist.com/tinder/why-do-guys-not-message-first-on-tinder#do-girls-ever-message-first-on-tinder K “data from Tinder shows that only 1.4% of women think they should send the first message” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 09:12 PM |
| -5 | Why do the avg women dont want the bottom 80% of men?This is because women want the top rated profiles to message them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 08:30 PM |
| 0 | Manly, masculine and high testosterone doesn't automatically translate to attractive to women.Source? I mean boxers and wrestlers are celebrities. But you even see most pro wrestlers date within their job. The ones I know are some of the most sexually frustrated dudes. Catcalling is one of the ways they cope with rejection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 05:30 PM |
| 23 | When did the narrative shift from "it's your personality and misogyny that keeping you single" to "ofc women love attractive men, are you a stupid shut in!!" ?Yep. Have hooked up with plenty of shorties but I don’t want to dilute my tall genes. My height filter on the app is set to 5’6 and up. I’m 6’3 making me about top 1-2 percentile. I believe the height for women in the same percentile depends on source but somewhere between 5’9 and 5’11. I’d ideally like to be with someone that height that but not a deal breaker if they are couple inches taller or shorter. Taller women ironically are often harder to match with as they tend to more often have slen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 01:13 AM |
| 38 | When did the narrative shift from "it's your personality and misogyny that keeping you single" to "ofc women love attractive men, are you a stupid shut in!!" ?Yeah never understood the logic Men are sexually visual, but that does not imply they prioritize looks more. Really it just means that men have a minimum threshold to be physically attracted to a woman, which is much more binary than responsive sexuality that most women have. Women are much more easily turned off by men who aren’t physically attractive and have a narrower range of men whom they find physically attractive. The filter women use to pick attractive men is much more selective than th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps are essentially auction housesNo the gender dynamic is what drives the profit model they use. Men are the product on the app that women shop for as these apps appeal to female consumerism. Men give money to the app so that they effectively get better merchandising akin to food suppliers who pay to put their product on end caps in grocery stores. Granted recently hinge has been trying to get women to buy roses. Clearly hinge realized it’s a problem to have women collect matches with unreplied messages so hinge now is trying t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 08:17 PM |
| 4 | Dating apps are essentially auction housesDating apps are designed to give insecure women the illusion that they can pick from a soft harem when most of their matches are men who suicide swiped on them and the ones genuinely interested in going on a date rarely like the girl enough for a long term relationship. People like to argue that the apps are the way they are due to fundamental differences in sexuality between the sexes when the app design and gender ratio are far more relevant than pseudoscience evolutionary biological differenc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 04:52 PM |
| 1 | When men "get sexual too quickly" with you, that means they don't view you as relationship material.Classic Reddit whataboutism I dunno it’s more of an FDS thing. Redpill dudes seem to be fine with girls who put out quickly if they don’t have high body counts There’s a teeency minority of men who have sex with a girl on a first date and then go “oh she was willing to have sex on the first date so I don’t think she’s a loyal partner” that’s just women tell themselves to feel better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 09:32 PM |
| 1 | When men "get sexual too quickly" with you, that means they don't view you as relationship material.This is just what girls who get pumped and dumped tell themselves so they can sleep at night By this logic like no one in Scandinavia would have long term relationships as it’s more traditional there to have sex first People just want to judge and look down on people who are sexual up front as being inferior for a relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 07:47 PM |
| – | What would you want instead of sex?Be ok with me having sex with other women Asexual women need to be reminded that it is selfish to expect romantic relationships with sexual people. Either find someone asexual or be in an open relationship with someone sexual. There shouldn’t even be a consideration for alternative arrangements | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 10:41 PM |
| 13 | Why are women allowed to be entitled and manipulative and transactional towards men they label as "nice guys"?Naw there’s a basic level of civil interaction that strangers are owed so that social interactions are not contentious for no reason People who by default are not nice, deserve to have strangers be nasty to them. They’ve “earned” strangers not owing them niceness. https://youtu.be/O8aNfg0LBgQ?si=uV1zB1Y2H8K_a6GG Having worked as a doorman, I can’t imagine how hard my job would be if I acted “nasty” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 03:52 PM |
| 9 | Gen Z men's life choices are the primary reason they're much more single than gen Z women; gen z women are finding equitable partners outside of heteronormsWomen just need to be taught how to have financial boundaries. I’m dating someone who makes way more than me but she doesn’t have to take care of me. It’s a prejudice that you have to take care of people that make less than you. I think lots of women project the patriarchal dynamic of breadwinners infantilizing their stay at home partners when it doesn’t need to be like that. It’s also just an illusion that straight women somehow doing much better than straight men. The reality is that marriage … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 02:02 AM |
| 4 | “Men are expected to be attractive and/or funny, fun, charismatic, etc - women just have to exist”Genuinely curious to hear what you’re imagining about/projecting onto me lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 05:42 PM |
| 7 | “Men are expected to be attractive and/or funny, fun, charismatic, etc - women just have to exist”Naw this is just what miserable women who can’t make other people happy think | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 05:40 PM |
| 5 | Gen Z men are significantly more single because Gen Z women are dating each other - it's not because of women going for top x% of men all in situationships or whatever else redpillers claimIt’s a really shitty road we are going down by pitting queer culture against straight culture. You have gay people telling bi folks now to “decolonize” their brain and see heteronormativity as a form of colonization. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/25 12:51 AM |
| 0 | Why do women do this?It’s just women who lack confidence and can’t set a boundary that they don’t want sex outside of commitment. If he didn’t promise commitment then she wasn’t used. It’s just something they say to soothe their bruised egos. And no men are not bad for having sex with a woman that they had emotional intimacy then quit. They are only bad if they straight up lied which really doesn’t happen as much as scorned women think it does | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/25 12:20 AM |
| 1 | If you were a man what would be red flags in women you might want to date?IMO knee jerk response to vulgarity (outside of professional settings) is a sign of a lack of emotional intelligence. A lot of people are being witty and intelligent when they are being vulgar | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Woman-loving-woman relationships do not have more intimate partner violence than straight relationshipsWild that my root comment got upvotes but this one further down the thread got downvoted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 05:58 PM |
| – | Can someone explain what “dating inflation” even is?I convinced her to stop swiping when she could no longer maintain the conversations she was juggling and she said she’s had a better time since she’s made the adjustment. I personally stop swiping when I have 4-5 ongoing convos | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 05:54 PM |
| – | Can someone explain what “dating inflation” even is?A female friend and I decided to go on the apps at the same time and we talked about our experiences. I did ask, “do you think all your matches want to go on a date with you?” And she was like “why not?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 04:19 PM |
| -1 | People are attracted to attractive people, but women's idea of attractive is very narrow compared to men'sOf course not. But women also don’t like being in situationships. So if they want a more committed LTR then they will have to make such choices. Likewise women have responsive sexuality. You’re assuming women are gooners like men. I would also argue fat women preferring skinny men and short women preferring tall men actually isn’t just about attraction: it’s also about insecurity. The fat girl wants to feel attractive by having someone who isn’t fat be attracted to her. She’d feel shitty about h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:42 AM |
| – | Can someone explain what “dating inflation” even is?Often it’s not even a hookup. They just assume all their matches they get on the app are dtf when plenty of men who are way more attractive than her may have just suicide swiped her. That’s why bumble stopped making women message first and that’s the real reason why women (mostly mid women) never send a first message because they need the man to send a first message so she can have certainty that he intentionally swiped on her. Attractive women more often send me a first message on the apps than… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:38 AM |
| 0 | If you were a man what would be red flags in women you might want to date?Vulgar is fun tho I know plenty of vulgar women who are trustworthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:35 AM |
| 5 | People are attracted to attractive people, but women's idea of attractive is very narrow compared to men'sI’m saying this girl is literally saying the opposite. Terminally online misandrists seem to back and forth on the idea that unsuccessful men either have no standards at all or unrealistic standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:31 AM |
| -4 | People are attracted to attractive people, but women's idea of attractive is very narrow compared to men'sEhhh not really because there are also men who match up with these women demographically. A cup girl should date the hard gainer. It’s objectively a better fit than if he dates the fat girl because they both can try to work on their analogous health issues together. Just because a skinny guy isn’t healthy, doesn’t mean that’s somehow like some fair trade for a completely different type of unhealthy. Same with short girls… they should date short men… especially if they don’t want to be on a merry… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:28 AM |
| 6 | Why do so many men here keep demanding empathy ?Because they’ll vote for Trump If you want men to care about women then you got to care about them. Dunno what you tell you. You get what you give in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:14 AM |
| 4 | People are attracted to attractive people, but women's idea of attractive is very narrow compared to men'sLike do you even try https://www.zippia.com/mortician-jobs/demographics/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:12 AM |
| 3 | Woman-loving-woman relationships do not have more intimate partner violence than straight relationshipsThe 29.2% is lesbian victimization by other women. 3 lesbians in a room. 1 is likely to have experienced IPV. Why do they need to have had multiple partners to have this happen? You can experience IPV with your first or last partner What is this 1.3% number from? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:09 AM |
| 1 | People are attracted to attractive people, but women's idea of attractive is very narrow compared to men'sWhat about the femcels who say incels only want supermodels/pornstars? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:04 AM |
| 0 | People are attracted to attractive people, but women's idea of attractive is very narrow compared to men'sTruthfully tell me what percentage of men are necrophiles before I get stupider reading what you write | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 08:03 AM |
| 2 | People are attracted to attractive people, but women's idea of attractive is very narrow compared to men'sWell fortunately that isn’t an issue because there are basically an equal amount of fat women and men. The fatties should just date the fatties. Nothing more pathetic than seeing a fat girl complain about how men only want casual sex with her when she’s literally only sleeping with average weight men. Average weight men aren’t shallow for only wanting casual sex with fat women. It’s that fat women are selfish to want long term relationships with average weight men. They’re just hypocrites who cr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 07:51 AM |
| 4 | Woman-loving-woman relationships do not have more intimate partner violence than straight relationshipsNo they are only bi if they have a consensual relationship. Queer women SA’ing straight women is more common than you think. We don’t say lesbian women are bi because they’ve been assaulted by men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 07:25 AM |
| -6 | Woman-loving-woman relationships do not have more intimate partner violence than straight relationshipsIt’s one of those “inverted” issues. Black on black crime is a right wing talking point but at the same time its severity is exacerbated by white supremacy. Black folks calling the cops might make their situation worse than if they had not called at all so often they do without formal legal institutions which leads to underreported crime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 03:23 AM |
| 7 | Woman-loving-woman relationships do not have more intimate partner violence than straight relationshipsStraight women do indeed experience IPV from other women so with these margins it is sort of hard to make an exact case. Experts in the subject just say it is “comparable” Likewise IPV is an umbrella term that encompasses stalking and psychological aggression as well and not only physical violence. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26319709/#:~:text=IPV%20within%20the%20context%20of,compared%20with%20opposite%2Dsex%20IPV. “IPV within the context of same-sex relationships led to more depressive sym… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 02:48 AM |
| 2 | Males should be told to dress betterA well fitted plain white T with nice jeans>>>>>anything formal made of polyester | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Women want to be sexy, but hate the men who sexualize themNot a random woman. I just mean it’s a woman you are not romantically involved with but you have a comfort zone of being able to make comments about bodies/hygiene/sexuality. I do think this has somewhat died out with zoomers who are more gender segregated than millennials. I have female friends I’d go shopping with and sometimes they’d want me to come with them to the dressing room to give them feedback. You just turn around when they are changing. Used to also work on an all female sales team … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 09:44 PM |
| 0 | Women want to be sexy, but hate the men who sexualize themIf you don’t have a female friend that you can tell “your tits look great in that dress” then I’m sorry you have yet to fully get women to feel comfortable around you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Women would like to meet a guy who didn't see them as romantic prospect first, but will get annoyed if he isn't hot enoughWhen a guy is giving a first impression that his primary motivation to interact with you is physical attraction. This means he’s flirting with you from the beginning. Sure he may participate in small talk (FORM… family/occupation/recreation/motivation) but his tone is clear in that the small talk is not the same tone that he would have with someone he is not physically attracted to. It’s the brainrot idea that men are predatory for finding women attractive despite men not knowing her personally.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 06:39 PM |
| – | Women would like to meet a guy who didn't see them as romantic prospect first, but will get annoyed if he isn't hot enoughWomen who feel dehumanized when treated sexually in a way that is respectful of boundaries have a warped view on sex and view it as inherently degrading to women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 06:29 PM |
| – | Women should never lower their standardsAren’t there studies that people become pickier as a coping mechanism for rejection? Sounds like OP had sex with a man and she didn’t meet his standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 04:23 PM |
| – | Were the guys who hurt you the most actually hot?This thread is pointless unless OP clarifies “conventionally attractive.” Women are just going to say the person they like the most is the most attractive TO THEM and that the person who hurt them is less attractive by definition | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: be honest.. do you use the same lines to get laid as you do to win over someone you actually want to date?Not really how it works. There’s just a sliding scale of enthusiasm: Some girls I was enthusiastic about upfront ended up casual and some girls I wasn’t as enthusiastic about up front ended up growing into an LTR and vice versa. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 05:37 PM |
| 12 | Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want themFr I meet girls on dating apps where we are in a situation for months where literally nothing would ever happen if I didn’t make it happen and plan it. They just expect me to be a date pez dispenser then these women have the gall to want a long term relationship with me. It’s fucking ridiculous. They’re just so used to having a flock of desperate men doing things for them that they’ve lost self awareness of how to be a contributing partner in the relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 01:41 AM |
| 7 | Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want themIme only women with bad sex lives think this way No one should be proud that they cum mostly from a vibrator. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 01:33 AM |
| 3 | My Theory of Attraction: Why Behavior Matters for 90% of MenSo you think celebrity couples may even have a higher proportion of women initiating? I’d think the opposite because celebrity men would feel like they can find someone new after divorcing meanwhile imo the reason why men don’t initiate divorce as much is because they don’t think they could get another option after. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 08:16 PM |
| 2 | My Theory of Attraction: Why Behavior Matters for 90% of MenThis is also why celebrities/athletes have a significantly higher divorce rate than the average population. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Are women relatively happier dating bisexual men than straight men?No. Having emotional intelligence as a man is like having money as a woman. You just make everyone with less than you insecure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 06:18 PM |
| 2 | On OLD women definitely privilege the "alpha male" type of guyCougars love boyish men. Lots of old women go for men who look young. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 05:30 PM |
| 0 | On OLD women definitely privilege the "alpha male" type of guyHypermasc is a gay aesthetic Women generally prefer “pretty” men which OP probably thinks is alpha male but we have so many environmental estrogens now that the average teenage man is hormonally void so now any dude with a decent jawline and wide clavicle is an alpha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 04:59 PM |
| 2 | CMV: We need better ways to prevent western men from dating/marrying non-western womenEducate passport bros that the women they are dating are even less sincere than the ones they are avoiding here. They are encountering the same things they don’t like about western women but they just don’t notice because their SMV is different due to socioeconomic differences. None of the women they seek would genuinely want them if they had the same opportunities afforded to western women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 11:15 PM |
| 3 | CMV: We need better ways to prevent western men from dating/marrying non-western womenPassport bros are just the male equivalent of sugar babies. If we start valuing compatibility and chemistry over transactional relationships then that would stop passport bros. So a lot of the same women who criticize passport bros are enabling the same dynamic here in the west. So passport bros will go away when women stop wanting transactional relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 10:59 PM |
| 32 | Do Prettier Women Have Worse Personalities?I usually experience the opposite: more attractive people (men and women) on average tend to have more pleasant personalities. But there are exceptions on the margins. Lots of pretty people can be self absorbed and have vanity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 01:48 AM |
| 29 | There is no such thing as an "invalid" or "shallow" reason not to date someone, every single dating preference is valid.Self sabotage exists. You can have preferences that have little to do with a successful relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 05:53 AM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as "platonic cuddling" between a straight guy and a womanI was buffer spoon for between two female friends one of whom was uncomfortable with cuddling with the other so I was in between. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Women give bad advice because their advice comes from a point of privileged ignoranceThis one wasn’t middle aged. Who knows why these like 2 or 3 girls gave me side eye | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Women give bad advice because their advice comes from a point of privileged ignoranceThese aren’t women I’m approaching lol Bad look is probably an overstatement but more side eye | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 01:57 AM |
| – | Sexual frustration seems to have very different meanings depending on whether it’s men or women talking about itImagine how miserable of a person you need to be to compare consensual sex to rape You don’t deserve to have someone to touch your clit if you can’t be bothered to ask. Women who are like that are no better than men who expect handjobs without asking. You deserve two pump chump or a jack hammer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 09:13 PM |
| -1 | Sexual frustration seems to have very different meanings depending on whether it’s men or women talking about itYes. Most people with good sex lives do the things necessary to make it happen. If you have an external locus of control about the quality of your sex life then you probably are a fundamentally selfish person sexually and as a result you will also experience selfish lovers because you’re just attracting that energy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 09:04 PM |
| -6 | Sexual frustration seems to have very different meanings depending on whether it’s men or women talking about itWomen who have bad sex usually deserve bad sex. You don’t deserve to have someone touch your clit if you can’t even be bothered to ask. It’s good that men only care about their own pleasure with these women. Men who can’t get sex at all usually don’t deserve sex at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Men are sitting on two chairs, speaking for women and themselvesI don’t think monolithic thinking is gendered but they come in flavors. Men tend to reduce things to universals that contextualize their personal struggles. Women try to extrapolate their own personal preferences as universals. Similar thing but inverted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 07:21 PM |
| 23 | Women give bad advice because their advice comes from a point of privileged ignoranceOne time I made friends with a lesbian at a bar and she literally barked at any girl who gave me a bad look and told them I was better looking than them lol Have gotten the “women ☕️” line a decent amount of times from middle aged lesbians | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Are men remotely offended by the idea that sex with them ruins and devalues a person?Ime, the body count doesn’t matter that much. It’s just whether she has had positive experiences with men in the past. A woman with a body count of 15 but generally had more positive sexual experiences is going to be easier to be in a relationship than a woman with a body count of 3 but has trauma or is cynical based on how she was treated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 03:26 AM |
| – | Feminist modern society has given women the freedom to choose non traditional paths, yet still expect men to uphold traditional roles while also compensating for the roles women left behindWomen are just being lied to that dual income relationships imply disproportionate domestic burden on women. The issue is not with men generally being disproportionate non contributors to relationships, but with deadbeat dads/men who didn’t want the kid. Pew surveys just don’t show this disproportionate domestic burden that women claim in dual income relationships. The statistics only bear out once children are involved, which is where women do indeed are statistically fucked over very often. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 03:17 AM |
| 3 | Men and Women need to start settling for the average personThere are way more overweight women who would only date average weight men than incels who would only date a porn star/supermodel/celeb lookalike | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 07:27 PM |
| 4 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menThis is a result of industrial capitalism. It was very common for men to marry into nobility. If anything 200+ years ago, the only people voluntarily engaging in hypergamy were men. Most women who were “hypergamous” were in arranged marriages Just watched Barry Lyndon. Great movie literally about male hypergamy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menWho said wants that he wants to be supported by her either? Maybe she needs a lesson on how to set boundaries | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Men are much better at manipulation than womenIt’s way rarer than women think that men literally go “I’ve already decided I only want sex with this person but I’m just going to pretend to want a relationship.” This is just what femcels tell themselves to sleep at night. It’s a loser take because any dude who has hooked up/had casual sex knows pretending to want a relationship is a bad strategy to get easy sex. It literally would only work with someone who already likes you and that would have already taken work and rapport that can’t be don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 02:36 PM |
| -1 | Age gap avoidance actually amplifies inequality and power inbalance at the societal level (alternative interpretation)It’s something lots of people do. 3-7 year age gap relationships are more common than 0-3 statistically. If you want someone “on your level” then be prepared to contribute equally to the relationship. You’re not going to find someone who wants to be a “leader” in the relationship if you’re looking for an equal. Been dating quite a few women recently who are my “equal” yet don’t plan any dates or have a proactive role at all. So they’ve been flings that they’ve wanted to turn into something more.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 04:29 PM |
| -3 | Age gap avoidance actually amplifies inequality and power inbalance at the societal level (alternative interpretation)It doesn’t need to be finances. It’s just using a relationship for purposes of personal consumption. It’s probably not most but a significant amount of people date with the mindset that they are “acquiring” a partner. These people literally run away from people who see relationships as requiring upfront investment and sacrifice. They want the relationship to improve their QOL zero point. Could be finances/material benefits or it could be acquiring a social circle or popularity Spreadsheets aren’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 04:19 PM |
| -2 | Age gap avoidance actually amplifies inequality and power inbalance at the societal level (alternative interpretation)It’s purely counterexample that mismatched worth can even have its own advantages not that it should be a goal. It’s a narcissistic mindset | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 04:16 PM |
| -6 | Age gap avoidance actually amplifies inequality and power inbalance at the societal level (alternative interpretation)Worth based dating is for miserable people For women who want families, it’s objectively better to date a man at his career peak and for that man to date a woman who can continue to have kids and won’t be middle aged raising children (so she can resume her career when kids are in college). Ideally it’s better for a man who has his shit together to date someone younger who might not yet have their shit together than to date someone his own age who already does unless they themselves are offering … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 03:37 PM |
| 6 | Should men forgive a cheating girlfriend that wants him back ?Perma downgrade to open relationship no path to wifey status will be looking to upgrade | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 11:58 PM |
| 2 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Can someone explain to me why pretty women are so much nicer to me than ugly women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 10:03 PM |
| 6 | Why do men here cry about Casual sex?Yeah straight folks are having much less sex than before covid. Yet 70% of lesbians have reported having vaginal intercourse. You can still only exclude people who are exclusively homosexual which is by no means all queer people. I can only assume that you think I don’t have sex because I hurt your fee fees showing you quality data By choice? You mean mgtow/4b? That is not contradicting my point at all. You’re saying that zoomers would rather jerk off than to be with a real person And are you no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 08:57 PM |
| 11 | Why do men here cry about Casual sex?Here’s some 2024 data big boy (newer than your eharmomy survey): https://www.forbes.com/sites/ericwood/2025/02/10/comparing-the-hook-up-culture-to-intentional-dating-in-young-adults/ “However, according to the 2024 National College Health Assessment, 50.4% of college males, and 46.1% of college females reported never having vaginal sex” Wow what a crazy 1% “spike” post covid Try to get data from accredited academic institutions. Next you’re gonna show me a feeld survey. Going to enjoy you seeing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Why do men here cry about Casual sex?“Eharmomy survey” lol Use data from accredited academic institutions. Likewise the data trended downward from lockdown the year before so despite lockdown ending people still had less sex. These are long term trends. And my experience with lockdown was the opposite: more casual sex from people having cabin fever. https://www.graphsaboutreligion.com/p/the-data-is-clear-people-are-having | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 08:29 PM |
| 12 | Why do men here cry about Casual sex?Kids today are not like early millennials/gen x Over half of UCLA students graduate reporting never doing any sexual activity. Get with the times my dude. https://healtheducation.ucla.edu/topics/sexual-health | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 07:51 PM |
| -1 | Why do men here cry about Casual sex?There’s incel-femcel horseshoe theory with this: Incels think the only men who have casual sex are 666 chads who get away with behavior that wouldn’t fly with the same woman with a less attractive man Femcels think that the only men with high body counts are emotional manipulators who lie their way into sex Both femcels and incels confuse promiscuity and libido and treat them as the same. Incels think horny women are more likely to cheat. Femcels think women with high body counts are above any k… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Is a man who sleeps with a lot of women generally a player or womanizer?I’ve never misrepresented intentions. Some women have told me after sleeping them for a couple weeks, “I only see us being in a long term relationship” then ghost. Women pay in full on dates more often than you think. They want a dick appointment. More women would do casual if they were comfortable with the power dynamic involved. They sacrifice their sexuality as a bargaining chip, which many women like to fall back on as a way to have control in the relationship. But it doesn’t matter for thes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Women’s Dating Problems Are 100% Their Own FaultI’m sure it’s fairly equal but the reactions may be different. Men probably are more traumatized when something does happen but they aren’t as weary as women. I’d say men become more avoidant whereas women may become more guarded and cynical. Not that men don’t become cynical, but their cynicism becomes more like “women ☕️” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 06:30 PM |
| 0 | Women have different rules for guys they're actually attracted to.No. mid women have different rules for men who are more attractive than they are. Attractive women treat all men they are interested in the same way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 05:34 PM |
| 5 | Women’s Dating Problems Are 100% Their Own FaultI think it’s more that most people do not recover from relationship trauma. It’s both genders but women may be more sensitive. Instead of doing self work or learning to live and let live, they double down on being guarded and prioritizing traits in partners that often have little to do with why their previous trauma happened. One bad thing happens, then the exact things they do to prevent themselves from experiencing future heartbreak is exactly the same behavior that will guarantee men in the f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 11:11 PM |
| 3 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appAre you saying we should assume men who criticize tea publicly but not these other groups publicly are defending child rape? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 11:38 PM |
| 12 | Men on here don’t understand women’s approach to casual sex. A massive failure to cross sex mind read from the red pill.I frankly think redpill men overestimate the amount of casual sex that women have because their ego can’t cope when a girl picks another guy over him so he has to lie to himself that it’s casual | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 10:39 PM |
| 6 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appI’m pretty sure more men are in the business of catching child predators by catfishing them. So you’re saying the same men who criticize tea also defend child rape because they aren’t writing about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 10:08 PM |
| 7 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appYes they are worse. What’s your point? Can please show me where men are saying doxxing or libel is worse than child rape? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 10:04 PM |
| 7 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appYou’d be better off addressing people who defend r/CreepShots or r/Jailbait directly. You’re asking us as if I think that’s ok while I don’t think Tea is ok. You’re not addressing actual people. So I suggest you ask the pedophiles themselves why they have the double standard because most people replying here are gonna be like what are you smoking Like both are bad my dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 09:50 PM |
| 6 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appWho is dying on the hill to defend pedophilia apart from pedophiles? False equivalence much? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 09:46 PM |
| 7 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea app“Tea app is ok bc men are pedophiles” You got us there lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 09:40 PM |
| -1 | If you hate women nagging about cleanliness, just date slobs.IME they want you to clean up after them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 05:11 PM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedI’m pretty sure on hinge that you can only see the person on the top of your like stack without paying. This is set up poorly because it sort of encourages women to suicide swipe their like stack so they can see all of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 03:51 PM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedI don’t think you guys are understanding how the base app for women would function. They can still use it but basically the tinder likes circle is their base app. Women would automatically see the men who already like them and can match. They just have to either pay to swipe right on a man who hasn’t swiped on her already or she gets one message to send a day And I think you guys are exaggerating how good women have it on apps. They’d much prefer a gallery to a card stack. And yeah you’d pick yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 03:40 PM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedA suicide swiper is a man who just swipes right on every profile then narrows down their matches from there and they only talk to the matches they want. They’re the male equivalent of the female time wasters who collect matches who send them incoming messages while only responding to the minority of their matches in their inbox. Apps should incentivize to not have you match at all in the first place if you have no intention of talking to the person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 07:26 AM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedWomen wouldn’t always have to message first. They only have to message first if they want to swipe on men who haven’t liked them back yet (one per day) otherwise men have to message first for the match to happen. Basically women would only have the option to comment (like on hinge) as a way to swipe right and only once a day or they pay. But they will be able to freely match with any man already in their likes circle, which would be free for them to view. And when they match with a man in their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 07:23 AM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedIdeally you won’t have to. It’s sort of like women have to pay to role play as the man (being the picker) and men need to pay money to use the app passively (stereotypically like the woman). The app funnels women directly to the men who already like her and men who pay to like her expand her likes queue beyond the normal limit. The issue is that men suicide swipe and women regularly deal with getting matches who don’t ask them out. And women also engage in attention seeking behavior while still … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 06:47 AM |
| -1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedWhile it takes away women’s ability to window shop, it gives them back for free a perk they need to pay for on the other apps. Women would only match with men who are serious about them. It would create a more natural incentive for men to avoid suicide swiping (not by paying walling infinite swipes). You get back some of the old benefits of bumble but not as extreme (it incentivizes women to message first sometimes but they don’t have to if they don’t want to) while also making men send a messag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 06:37 AM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedA “like” is just someone who has already swiped right on you. It becomes a match when you like them back. On tinder you can see who has swiped right on you in your likes circle but both men and women need to pay to use this. I’m suggesting women actually get this for free but they actually need to pay to swipe as normally. Women will be able to use the like circle right away for free on my app idea although men perhaps have to pay to use this feature. Women can browse but in order to swipe right… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 06:32 AM |
| 0 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedLikes or matches? Women still have to pay for tinder gold to see their likes. Basically this app ensures that men take initiative but only with women they are sure about. And it also preselects the men who are actually serious about the women they want to talk to so that women don’t have to deal with as many suicide swipers and fuckbois. And also it prevents women from “window shopping” or engage in attention seeking behavior by making them message as a requirement to browse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 06:13 AM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedThey can use it, but can only match with men who have already swiped right on them: basically the tinder gold circle is the base (free) app for women. And maybe women can browse men on the base app but have to send a message in order to swipe right on the base app with only a certain amount of messages a day. But also the other way round: if a woman chooses to match with someone in her “like circle” the man has to send the first message in order for the match to happen. This would hopefully prev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 06:02 AM |
| 1 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedThe only solution is a different app: Forced 50/50 gender ratio (eg men have waiting lists) You can’t match with more than 8 at a time and you need to delete existing matches if you want to talk to more people. You can see how many other people they are actively talking to No more card stack: you can browse all people in your area as a gallery and pick your top 8 Users who ghost get shadow banned Women need to pay to swipe on men who haven’t already swiped on the woman and can only see men who h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 05:02 AM |
| 0 | The ability to get sex when you want to is not inherently a virtue. Most men don’t want to have sex with gay men either.You’re talking to yourself. OP is talking about virtue not advantage. And he’s saying women aren’t advantaged not that men have the same advantage because they can just as easily get gay sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 01:07 AM |
| 1 | People who moralize around "sexual objectification" are its worst offendersObjectification is not by definition something that violates boundaries and requires consent. Objectification can occur both in public and at a kink party. And in both situations you can have both objectification that violates boundaries and objectification that doesn’t. You can objectify someone purely by your opinion of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 07:41 PM |
| 1 | A lot of women's ideals and opinions are contradictory and don't make sense.You’re just inexperienced and are taking what terminally online women say about women online as gospel then see the “contradictions.” This is because women aren’t monolith. And this also applies to their morality. Terminally online women will claim women aren’t monolith but only with respect to their preferences, but they present women as monolith when it comes to their morality. It’s the gender swapped version of the “I’m a good guy but why am I still an incel.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 07:30 PM |
| 6 | Onlyfans proves male hypergamy.Most OF revenue comes from married men. It’s this hilarious revenge dynamic some sexist sex workers have: they think they can profit off of the “male loneliness” epidemic by trying to findom incels but incels don’t have money so they end up becoming parasocial mistresses to men in dead bedroom marriages They do more harm to other women than they exploit the incels they hate (yes the men bear more responsibility) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 07:52 PM |
| – | The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamyThis begs the question as to why roster dating and plan b partners have become so common with women. I wonder if it’s because these women have gotten burned and are like “well (the top 5%) of men do it so I can to” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Western women preferencesI’ve slept with high body count women with small hips and have had to squeeze my way in and have been with low body count women with tall hips that I can only bottom out in certain positions | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 03:12 AM |
| 3 | What do you think is more common: men who interpret friendliness as flirtation or men who mistake flirtation for friendliness?https://youtu.be/O8aNfg0LBgQ?si=sRa-M5G4gxWbNAel | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 09:50 PM |
| 4 | What do you think is more common: men who interpret friendliness as flirtation or men who mistake flirtation for friendliness?Prisoners dilemma: the more women are generally less friendly to men, the more likely men are going to interpret the now relatively fewer acts of kindness as flirting. You’re making it harder for other women. Decenter people who decenter the other gender is the only solution | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 04:28 PM |
| 4 | What do you think is more common: men who interpret friendliness as flirtation or men who mistake flirtation for friendliness?It’s an interesting breakdown. Friendliness is way more common than flirting so that would also imply that men have more experience with friendliness than flirtation but also bc flirtation is relatively rarer than friendliness, the opportunities for confusion are by definition fewer in the aggregate The question is the rate of confusion I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 02:52 AM |
| 6 | Lower your standards- or stay single?Highly recommend that you also check out coffee meets bagel and try out their stats feature for a week (it’s paid). The two key stats they show are % of first messages sent and reply rate to their matches. I have not looked at dating apps the same way. Across the board, the more attractive women on apps sent more first messages and responded at a higher rate. It scaled as well: moderately attractive women would maybe reply to about half of their matches but very attractive women would respond to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 02:10 AM |
| 6 | TEA app is not a big deal, men do it all the time in vanilla spacesIt would be very easy to start a “Am I on a roster” group. You’d simply privately share exchanged phone numbers with texts showing you’re dating then they’d create a list of other submissions to cross reference to. If the numbers match and you both are texting the same number and dating then you’re on a roster | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 12:52 AM |
| -5 | TEA app is not a big deal, men do it all the time in vanilla spacesYeah I don’t have a good feeling about this. It was founded by a man and I’m pretty sure it’s a trap to leak account details of these women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 12:23 AM |
| – | Men "replacing" women is actually beneficial for us.Always astounded at terminally online women’s ability to appoint themselves ambassadors to their own gender | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 10:08 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Being attracted to women is misogynyI’m saying that for a select group of women it doesn’t matter how he presents. The very fact that he’s approaching a stranger they see as logically implying he’s a predator (eg they only trust men with already established social proof) Are there men who will openly cross boundaries in public venues? Sure but nearly as there are men and strangers in general who wouldn’t respond and try to protect a girl in a public place if her boundaries are crossed So no matter how much trauma these women exper… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Is there an internalized belief among women that they are fundamentally more moral than men?It tends to be men who are providing for families that we make excuses for. There’s a massive white collar norm to cover up the infidelity of men who are providing because they see maintaining appearances as the better outcome for the children | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Is there an internalized belief among women that they are fundamentally more moral than men?Having worked in non-profit, this bias absolutely influenced me to be more vigilant of unprofessional behavior from OTs in training to my supervisors. There was an OT in training who was being very inappropriate with how she disciplined our neurodivergent volunteers but none of my coworkers cared to notice because they just thought she was doing her job. She’d regularly scold a particular volunteer for skipping the line to the microwave to heat her food. It was sort of a routine and would often … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 06:51 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Being attracted to women is misogynyIt’s more that cold approaches (and romantic bids in general before the guy knows the girl well) are assumed to be “objectifying” when it most often isn’t. The logic is that “well he doesn’t know my personality so why would he be interested if he wasn’t objectifying” when the reality is most men who make such romantic bids do indeed want to get to know the girl better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 08:13 PM |
| 1 | The main people mentioning women’s intuition are men who victim blame women.Two things: How does it imply they are okay with ignoring male abuse? Are the men who make these complaints friends with these abusers? It’s usually not about abuse. It’s about toxic relationships where the woman wants the guy more than the guy wants her back. These women complain about not getting what they want and because the man they picked is not compliant so they revert to sexism as a coping mechanism (eg men are afraid of commitment) to avoid accountability. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Women who want men to “lead” don’t really want a leader they’re just lazy, don’t want to take any initiative, want their minds read and are actually the ones in chargePeople confuse trad dynamics nowadays with sugar baby/sex worker dynamics | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Is Everything Is Being Needlessly Overcomplicated?OP is saying people are making it harder for themselves than it needs to be and they’re right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 09:19 PM |
| – | A woman being super sexual within relationships (ex-boyfriends) is a huge green flagYep. Women who claim that all the men in their past were selfish in bed and didn’t care about their pleasure have all been selfish lovers themselves who are timid about expressing their attraction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 08:47 PM |
| 1 | I think there’s some truth to “why but the cow when the milk is free”Women can only use sex to manipulate men who are bad at sex. Men who can consistently provide orgasms actually have more agency to manipulate their partner with sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Should women be “giving guys a chance”?Not at all. But they shouldn’t assume that men who display attraction to women upfront are trying to take advantage of them. It is impossible to build chemistry with a guilty till proven innocent approach. It kills chemistry and prevents idealistic dating. “Safety” is confused for “compatibility” and “toxicity” ends up being confused for “excitement.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Unskilled women who don’t screen men at all for what they want are going to continue complaining about hookups foreverMen and women want LTRs at equal rates so if you’re a woman who is driving on the wrong side of the road thinking men just want hookups then it’s a skill issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?I’m not interested in “reading social cues” (at least not when it comes to expressing romantic interest). These women come off as lacking confidence as well which I also don’t find attractive in of itself I’m interested in making my interest known to her and for her to reciprocate in a way that I find attractive. If I throw the ball in your court and you drop it or just hold it then I’m going to move on to the next person. It’s rude to make other people work on your time frame that you’re not co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 07:07 PM |
| – | Misandry creates MORE misogynists.Supporting victims is not the same as only holding violent men accountable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 02:19 AM |
| – | Misandry creates MORE misogynists.Men being victims of male violence is equally a problem as is addressing perpetrators of violence is an “answer.” You can’t pick one and not have the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 01:08 AM |
| – | Misandry creates MORE misogynists.But men are still disproportionately the victims of violent crime committed on behalf of other men. Apart from IPV it’s not as if women are victimized by men in any statistically significant way that men themselves are not already privy to. Men should get more attention given to them relative to women when it comes to most violent crime. And when it comes to sexual violence women really only deserve about 30% more attention given to them. But that’s not how the dialogue works. It’s a binary and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Average guys are expected to abide different rules when it comes to datingYep. Women who need to use sex to manipulate men are by definition still relying on manipulation to get what they want. If they could get what they want by not using sex to manipulate men then they wouldn’t. But since they are, then that means they are ostensibly lacking in other areas that is preventing them from getting what they want. It’s creating a gulf between experienced and inexperienced men. Inexperienced men are naive and make themselves vulnerable to emotional abuse and will rationali… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 09:18 PM |
| 3 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?You’re describing a completely internal subjective state. Do you communicate to men that you are considering them romantically? If not then how are they supposed to know what direction things are going? Going on a date IS what you do if you want to get to know someone. You’re inventing this idea that women who accept a first date are admitting that they want a steady romantic association when that’s not what accepting a date implies. It is much more preferable to assess compatibility when there … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?I categorize you as friend material or gf material and once I decide that, it will dictate how I get to know you. If they’re not receptive to flirting from the beginning then I’m not interested in their courtship process. I find the whole camping as a friend until she decides to find me attractive to honestly be a kind of creepy process. You hear women all the time complain about male friends who are just waiting to fuck them so it’s hilarious to hear that some women literally want to be courted… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreBell curve. Most high libido people are men. But women can have extreme libidos that are physically impossible for men to have due to the refractory period. HL women are their own category. Granted, usually it stems from either a mood or sensory disorder although mood disorders lend to an erratic libido that goes up and down whereas IME women with sensory disorders are the ones who are stuck in horny mode all the time. HL women are great but for LTRs past a few years, there needs to be boundarie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreNo. The elephant man could make a girl cum if he was pointed in the right direction. They want the men they find physically attractive to be invested in their pleasure, but that’s not always the case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreWell you’ve told me all I need to know. You think setting a boundary=insulting someone and you think waiting for a man to coincidentally touch you the way you want to is “instructions.” Don’t wait for a man to do something that’s good and say “keep doing that that’s good.” Just tell him what to do lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreNaw you guys aren’t that tough nuts to crack. It’s some weird fantasy that only the guy you truly like can make you cum when a vibrator with zero personality can also make you cum. Why would someone be faking an orgasm with their FWB? I have had plenty of purely sexual relationships with women and it would make no sense if they were faking because they weren’t getting other things from me to make it worthwhile. You assuming that other women are liars like you is just you projecting your sexism o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:40 PM |
| 10 | If you knew a woman/man who could never have sex, would you still marry them?He’s saying this person doesn’t match all the boxes. Sexuality is a pretty big box lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:34 PM |
| 2 | If you knew a woman/man who could never have sex, would you still marry them?If they don’t have a health issue preventing them from having sex I’d tell them to go to therapy to talk about asexuality. Asexuals are selfish for wanting relationships with sexual people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:32 PM |
| 2 | CMV: men's failure to approach women is ruining datingSome people don’t generalize harassment. Lots of women have the social intelligence to know that it is only particular types of men who harass and not a guilty till proven innocent approach to all men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:30 PM |
| 3 | CMV: men's failure to approach women is ruining datingOnly for early boomers. By late boomers and gen x, the bar scene was pretty significant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:29 PM |
| 4 | CMV: men's failure to approach women is ruining datingI get numbers from women like this all the time. Even the men who approach and seemingly successfully will still get ghosted. Most of these women want to just feel attractive and if anything doing so without the risk of sexual interaction is actually preferable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreI guess I just don’t relate at all from my perspective having had several casual relationships and have an FWB. Making a woman orgasm isn’t hard at all. You could train a monkey to do it. Women just want the monkeys to know it already. IMO women who are too timid to talk in the bedroom don’t deserve to cum and I hope they only experience shitty penetration | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreWhat “trick?” Has he offered commitment? If not then what “trick?” If he has offered commitment, how can he change his mind without it being a “trick?” Why would any of this matter if the sex was good? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 08:14 PM |
| 5 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreI tend to assume women who need financial compensation for male sexuality just don’t enjoy sex very much. Probably too timid to be assertive in asking for clit play or something. They just let him jackhammer or two pump chump her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do you assume men are only looking for sex?So you seriously think most men just want to have no committed relationships and die having only had casual sex? What exactly are men telling you? How do you know that they aren’t just saying they only want to have sex with you and would want committed relationships with other women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 06:46 PM |
| 0 | Why do you assume men are only looking for sex?Your father is just saying he disappointed a lot of young women in his day. Men who are competent lovers don’t say shit like this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 06:43 PM |
| 9 | Some guys really need to sexualize interactions with women moreBecause this is a turn off for most men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Women who complain about their relationship don't understand the importance of vettingTypo: meant to say aren’t | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Women who complain about their relationship don't understand the importance of vettingI think it’s just a black pill fantasy that women arent vetting properly. Women who are in relationships they’re complaining about are typically just getting what they deserve and lack self awareness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 12:12 AM |
| – | Men are drastically overestimating how badly the average young woman wants commitment.The young woman of today is having considerably less casual sex than the young women of just 15 years ago. Redpillers just love assuming daddy issues are more common than they really are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 12:10 AM |
| 0 | Women should approach moreI no longer hold back my sexuality and if women get uncomfortable I tend to confront them that they make me feel like I’m anti social and wouldn’t respond well to boundaries. I’ve only had to do this twice but both times I got an apology. I much prefer that than to censor my sexuality because it makes some girls feel uncomfortable. I’ve never SA’d anyone ever and have been a victim of it myself so the solution I think is just to not take paranoid people seriously. That it’s their problem if they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 12:01 AM |
| -1 | Women should approach moreWhy is someone asking for your number mean their intentions are purely sexual? And aren’t you just assuming that they won’t respond to a boundary well? If you find someone physically attractive, does it not make sense that you’d want to get to know them better? What’s so wrong with having romantic intentions with someone you don’t know yet? Isn’t the point of getting a number precisely so that they can get to know you better and see if a nice person accompanies a pretty face or whatever? I just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 11:56 PM |
| -1 | Women should approach moreOf course I have. I’ve never used that as an excuse to assume everyone is a predator until proven otherwise. But I guess I’m also a large human The most sexist women tend to also be the most traumatized tragically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 11:46 PM |
| -4 | Women should approach moreIt seems highly generational that some women feel that being friendly=consenting to sex. Like I smile a lot at strangers if we make eye contact. There’s a particular group of young women who seem to feel sheer panic when this happens. I think it’s because men their age probably are so inexpressive to women that they see any form of politeness exchanged with men as a risk. I’m literally tempted to tell these young women that I literally just smiled at some old man with nice shoes the same way as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Women should approach moreIs it bad that I just read this as you using sexism as an excuse? Like do you assume that any man you approach is just going to want to use you? How does that not make you sexist? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Female extremists and male extremists mutually push each other awayAnd I’m saying don’t be surprised if men aren’t feminist if their problems ignored in feminist spaces. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Female extremists and male extremists mutually push each other awayWhich goes back to my earlier point…. They only have tradcon voices who speak for them because we insist on sanitizing feminist spaces of issues that relate to cishet men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 01:31 AM |
| 5 | Female extremists and male extremists mutually push each other awayNo you are making assumptions and are unempathetic. The only people who think men’s issues is just about men feeling entitled to women’s bodies are people who are willfully ignorant. It’s making a strawman so you don’t have to be bothered with actually having a productive dialogue “What they say” is almost never what they say verbatim but rather putting words in their mouth so you can create a boogeyman to deplatform an entire gender | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 12:34 AM |
| 8 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesNo. socialist women would just end up dating the bureaucrats just as the sugar babies are dating rich dudes. If anything socialism would put women further down Maslow’s hierarchy of needs with respect to disposable income and would probably date for resources in an even more aggressive way than now. This is why Eastern European woman are like what they are now. Rich white girls going to liberal arts colleges see Soviet propaganda posters of women in the military thinking that was socialism givin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Female extremists and male extremists mutually push each other awayI’m saying that’s a prejudice that is reified as we continue to sanitize feminist spaces of cis male heteronormative participation. All it takes is a google search to see that there is actually little correlation with incels and their political affiliation and that they are mostly non white. But pro men’s perspectives now are deemed pro white tradcon narratives till proven otherwise. I see this as a massive failure in accountability in actually being able to listen to what men are complaining ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 09:53 PM |
| 7 | Female extremists and male extremists mutually push each other awayTotally reasonable. But it’s kinda our own fault as long as we make feminist spaces exclusive to catering to women’s issues. There’s basically a gulf now where if you’re a progressive man, you basically just have to accept being gaslit that everything is fine for you. The reality is that this is why there has been a massive shift among male youths to the right because the only men who can tolerate being progressive are men who are already self actualized and don’t deal with class struggle. You d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Female extremists and male extremists mutually push each other awayIt’s called feminism lol and as long as feminists make gender issues partisan issues then men’s movements are doomed to be tradcon | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 09:28 PM |
| – | Sexual compatibility isn't a real thing.I doubt that guy actually has much sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 01:09 AM |
| – | Sexual compatibility isn't a real thing.So you’re saying that men you’ve refused sex in the early stages of a relationship have accused you of not caring about sexual compatibility? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Let's say what it is, Men are in their princess era, and it's okay ❤️I think men and women are actually converging on what they want but many among both genders are not tolerating the transition. Toxic people are digging their heels in and trying to have relationships for personal consumption instead of trying to live up to either gender’s expectations. The extent to which men are in their “princess era” is also the extent to which women are in their “soft life” era. I’m dating women in their mid 30s now who have their life way more together than women I’ve dated… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Unless in the context of an LTR, “Physical intimacy” is a word horny people use to pretend they’re romantic.People who assume that the people they are dating are using deceptive communication without reason to believe otherwise are some of the most awful people you can date. And none of this really matters imo if the sex is enjoyable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 10:11 PM |
| – | Do most other men also not feel that attracted to celebrities or models, or am I rejecting them through insecurity?Celebrity glow effect is very real. I think it’s worse with men but Sabrina Carpenter is an example of a “sex symbol” who is less attractive than women you could very easily find in public on any day of the week. If any of these women I see in day to day had the costume and makeup team that Sabrina has then they would also be drooled over https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/g4612/hottest-men-of-all-time/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=mgu_ga_har_md_pmx_hybd_mix_us_17944… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.I mean I assume someone looking for an LTR isn’t only using apps. But I’d also argue that you’re artificially limiting yourself if you don’t use them. Dating apps have existed for a while but they didn’t become a dominating form of dating until the 10s. If you combine the fact that people aged 18-29 are less likely to have met their life partner by 29 anyways/more people in that group prefer casual vs 30+ then that 20% number is not insignificant whatsoever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.From the study: “According to a survey conducted in the United States in August 2023, men were more likely than women to have met someone on a dating app and have it lead to an exclusive relationship. Overall, 75 percent of men said they had entered into an exclusive relationship with somone they met on an online dating service, compared to 66 percent of women.” The stats say that most people who are using apps use it to find LTRs, but that they have a high failure rate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 12:42 AM |
| 3 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.https://www.statista.com/statistics/1481135/us-adults-exclusive-relationship-dating-app/ “Men on apps are just looking for hookups” -undateable woman The 10% number simply means that LTRs from apps have a high failure rate. It doesn’t mean that people on the apps are lying about their intentions. But some people who are driving on the wrong side of the road think that to avoid accountability | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.This reads more like you don’t have many straight platonic male friends and are trying to guess what incels are doing based on what they complain about online. I guarantee you there are men who have ZERO standards and are still not getting dates | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 12:07 AM |
| 0 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.It is. I don’t personally suicide swipe. I got better results being selective but I understand that most men don’t have that option. But also saying that dating apps “aren’t the real world” is ridiculous. If 40% of new relationships come from them, then dating apps at least correlate with the real world by 40% | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.It’s not personal. I’m just saying women who have a general dating app experience of only matching with men who don’t seem interested either lack self awareness that they are picking men out of their league or they are entitled or have anxious attachment and don’t have conversations on the apps with the men that entice the men to ask them out. Women who say that men aren’t interested in the girls they match with because they want supermodels is just using sexism as a way to feel better about you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.Women are saying dating app data is meaningless because men apparently all swipe on women they aren’t interested in. But the point is that if you’re a woman and only matching with men who aren’t interested then that isn’t a reflection of men generally having super high standards that is a reflection of that individual’s lack of self awareness. And you’ve written mostly about dating apps and haven’t said anything about how “real life” shows men want porn stars and super models. That just comes of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.And one of the ways men filter the women they match with is not based on their age and how they look but how responsive they are. If you’re only matching with men who don’t want convos with you, then it’s not the man’s standards who are too high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 10:32 PM |
| 0 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.Yes this is true but this is also just you outting yourself that you are matching with men out of your league. After buying the stats feature on coffee meets bagel, I was astounded to learn that the most attractive women sent more first messages and had a higher response rate than the uglier women. This is because attractive women are confident and feel that they can use their words and actions to attract men as well and that they even enjoy the process of attracting a man. Mid women are stuck i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 10:27 PM |
| 4 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.This is not data about who they are swiping on. This just means if they match with women of a variety of ages, that they’d prefer the younger over older. They’re still swiping at a very high percentage of profiles they see | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 10:09 PM |
| 55 | Men are completely delusional about who their "equals" are.I just would like to see evidence of this because dating app data does not in any way show that men are only swiping on a tiny percentage of women. They are swiping on like half of the profiles. So while I agree w you in theory, I just don’t see the evidence People think that the people who are ok with having sex with you are your equal when that’s really not true at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 09:31 PM |
| – | I keep seeing that men have it difficult in dating apps. Yet as a woman, I have never been able to get even 1 date and I am 30.Men suicide swipe (eg swipe on every profile) so that they can simply just see every girl who would match with him then they make their decisions from there. And this is because they get so few matches to begin with. As a result this means a lot of men match with women they have no intention of talking to. Then this creates a messed up dynamic where women do bare minimum messaging or never send first messages because women need proactive conversation from their matches to feel like they actually… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Women don't reserve casual sex for top % men because those are the only ones we're attracted to.“Reputation” often is just misogyny that women accept from their friends and family. My FWBs have kept me a secret in the past and not bc they were cheating. It’s just embarrassing for women to admit to their friends that they only see me to sleep with me and I’m not exactly paying any of their bills | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 04:39 PM |
| 2 | How often does the average man get 'approached'... In their lifetime?I’ve been SA’d by men as well. It was in a professional context where I didn’t really have a way to defend myself. Men leverage their position of power often. But ime as a man, on average women have been worse with personal boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/25 10:03 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?This is a somewhat terminally online take by saying that what guys who like warhammer and building computers like him. It’s more than Henry Cavil is into nerd culture so he’s sort of a role model for guys who don’t want to feel embarrassed for having nerdy hobbies You don’t seriously think you see men online saying “this is what women should be attracted to” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/25 07:36 PM |
| 10 | Would you guys do "duty sex" if women needed it but you didn't ?I did it for 3 years then it got old | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 08:07 PM |
| 0 | I don't get why men are surprised with womens behaviors or actions.Most people who explicitly vocalize that they want to be “protected and provided” for are usually asking to be infantilized Women benefit more from good sex than men do. Women were the primary providers for most of human history until patriarchy Are single women just “unprotected?” This just sounds like women who have bad sex they want compensation for | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 06:52 PM |
| 9 | On dating apps, I’ve seen women have far more professionally taken photos than men - why do you take them?Simply put, women have friend groups where their friends are regularly taking photos of each other whereas if I ever hung out with my guy friends, it would be kinda bizzare to do something like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 06:35 AM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?Yes he’s very attractive. But that’s not the sole reason for his heart throb status | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 02:38 AM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?Jude law in The talented Mr Ripley…. <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 01:14 AM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?My gay friends don’t exactly gush over him. Arguably now he’s just a little too bulky for what most women would consider ideal but there’s also plenty of women who like that as well just like gay dudes like bears and twinks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 11:44 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?“He’s hotter because he’s hotter” Sweet lord | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 11:35 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?We’re not talking about popularity. We are talking about attractiveness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 11:34 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?I mean would it make a difference if I posted just a picture of a complete stranger who I think is more physically attractive than Pedro pascal? Again you’re just proving my point that clearly his looks aren’t the reason why you find him attractive. You’re saying Purefoy here is unattractive because you didn’t know who he is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 11:32 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?Bandwagon celebrity crushes are pretty cringe imo. Like your aesthetic tastes are determined by viral algorithms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 11:16 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?Female gaze isn’t monolith. You just don’t have taste You haven’t pointed out a single feature or a reason at all why you find him attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 11:00 PM |
| 3 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?Ok u/My_House_on_Mars spokeswoman for all other woman’s preferences. He’s a good looking dude no doubt. But it’s not much different as to why Pete Davidson and Keanu also get so much attention. Personality is a huge factor. He’s got a patchy beard and a funny nose. But he is very endearing and has a great smile. But plenty of men pull off that look much better than him. Was watching a Knights Tale the other day and was floored by beautiful James Purefoy is. He literally outclasses Heath Ledger i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 10:55 PM |
| 2 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?<image> She looks so much better w/o makeup actually Not a flattering shade of lipstick on her. So many of her makeup looks online look like 2005 wants their makeup back. Like she just got back from a limited too bday party | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?The reason why he’s a heart throb has little to do with his looks imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 10:45 PM |
| 2 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?<image> “I see his face is good looking” lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 10:43 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?I find that women are equally obsessed. Lots of basic bitches out there who put themselves in either the Chris Evan’s camp, cavil or Chris Hemsworth. It’s like a recurring bar topic in a few of my social circles | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 10:40 PM |
| 0 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?She’s not bad looking at all but I’d argue her looks match would be more like a Timothy Oliphant (also a really good looking dude). And I can see how the bi girlies would like her given her more masculine jaw line (I don’t mind that btw. Ali larter imo is also very attractive) <image> Henry cavil is just widely considered to be somewhat of a gold standard for conventional masculine attractiveness. Kate Beckinsale imo is basically like the female version of Cavil in terms of conventional attracti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 10:38 PM |
| 1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?Thanks! I’m not a big celebrity gossip person. I think I probably confused his partner with Hugh jackman’s ex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 08:10 PM |
| -1 | My handsome, successful male cousins are getting married to women I perceive as "average". None of them are with beautiful women. This also reflects what I notice in society (not including Hollywood). Am I missing something here?Henry Cavil is also dating an older woman who is by no means unattractive but is not his looks match Attractive men have already had sex with attractive women. For a long term relationship, peace is more important than being with someone hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 07:58 PM |
| 4 | How often does the average man get 'approached'... In their lifetime?6’3 190lbs lean. Decent face card. More likely to be groped/harassed by women than approached with any kind of politeness. That said most polite approaches I’ve experienced in life were when I was young and they were young (eg 21 and under). Post college it was like a light switch with these things. Much less warm behavior and very few polite approaches and more harassment. I attribute that more to common third spaces more available when you’re being educated that provides implicit social proof … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 06:46 PM |
| 9 | my unpopular opinion is that ALL dating advice is fundamentally badI think a lot of social media brain rot advice exists due to people who had yet to have a serious LTR before COVID by trying to make sense of a scorched earth even though none of the “rules” they are trying anchor themselves to are real or universal in any way shape or form. The “rules” are 100% subjectively defined by parties consenting to relationships. People who choose or avoid potential partners on the basis of adhering to these non existent rules are literally just reading tea leaves It’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 04:04 AM |
| 0 | Most people, regardless of political affiliation, believe men who date trans women are gay or bisexual.The issue is that sexual preference is really just loosely correlated with gender. It’s called sexuality not “genderality.” But I think it’s still a Kinsey scale thing. Fucking a trans woman is less gay for a man than if he fucked a cis man. And arguably having sex with a neovagina is a little more gay than fucking a homegrown one as the stimulus profile is a little different. But this is also where I think things devolve: A clit is a phallus. The clitoris itself is mildly masculine. In fact, I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 03:50 AM |
| 5 | Love and sex is not a rightI would be interested in a study examining violent tendencies of incels. I am curious what the rate of inceldom is among the average prison population vs the general population | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 03:17 PM |
| 6 | Love and sex is not a rightYou can find anyone justifying anything more or less. Even Jordan Peterson advocated forced monogamy. But then obviously most advocates for arranged marriages are not incels or adjacent. Often this is just a way for people to dismiss people who complain about being an incel. They want to turn their very complaint into something they can ascribe malicious intent onto. They want people to assume that people who complain about not having x must feel entitled to x. The political divide is interestin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 02:55 PM |
| 2 | How often do you see couples where one partner infantilizes the other? Is it common, or rare? Do you see one gender doing it more than the other?I have a theory that this is what causes most or at least a statistically significant amount of in law drama. I basically ended a 7 year relationship because of this. I was subject dysfunctional behavior from an ex’s parent and my ex basically just told me to get used to it. Fuck that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 02:48 PM |
| 7 | Love and sex is not a rightI’m not pointing at any evidence and nor is OP I don’t think people who complain about lack of commitment are any more or less entitled than people who complain about not getting sex. Love is different. I don’t know how OP thinks anyone could be forced to love. Makes no sense. Sure you got Elliot Rodger extremists who want to turn women into breeding receptacles but I don’t even see the most misogynistic incels claiming that love can be forced. Seems like OP is punching air They should make vide… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 02:39 PM |
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