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CoachDad9/r/RPChristians22/08/18 01:07 PM
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CoachDad9/r/RPChristians04/09/18 01:17 AM
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To the Mods: The comments on this post has illustrated to me that Christian people are just like non-christian people in that they are struggling to forgive and forget a person's past. My goodness, there's several mentions of Jesus' forgiving women with sexual history but the overwhelming consensus in these comments is that a kid looking for a wife shouldn't date/marry a women who has truly repented, been granted grace, and now follows Jesus. It doesnt really matter to me. In my real life I dont…
/r/RPChristians21/10/18 11:13 AM
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Full of condescension, anger and bitterness. Repent my friend!
/r/RPChristians21/10/18 10:54 AM
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I dont like any of the jobs Ive been offered because they dont fit my little box of the perfect job so Ive been unemployed for a decade and my family suffers but its my "preference". See what I did there?
/r/RPChristians20/10/18 10:24 PM
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We discourage exploring sexuality outside of marriage because we follow the teachings of Jesus.
/r/RPChristians20/10/18 10:31 AM
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I've been to many Christian youth event's, am active in our church, have made christian online dating profiles, but can't find a single girl that I'd want to date let alone marry. What usually happens is I'll find a girl that I'm attracted to, I'll get to know her, and like her personality and faith, only to find out about her past which I can't deal with. Kinda like your past fapping to porn? What do they think about that? Finding a marriageable girl is easy: Is she a christian, does she read t…
/r/RPChristians20/10/18 10:29 AM
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You can absolutely use the Bible to support things that are not explicitly mentioned. I discipline my kids with spanking even though the Bible doesn't say "Spank your kids as a form of discipline ye men." And yes sometimes people use scripture to support silly things but knowing the difference is this crazy word called Discernment.
/r/RPChristians04/10/18 03:45 PM
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You don't get a magical "get out of the gym free" pass by being baptized. And I'll add you can't avoid approaching and gaming women because you've given up control of your life to Jesus. He saves your soul but He doesn't talk to women for you.
/r/RPChristians04/10/18 03:39 PM
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I asked out a girl from church. She didn’t say no, but she didn’t say yes either, which is a no in my book. I saw something, but it wasn’t to the point where “I couldn’t keep from banging her”. This will probably blow up in my face, as a lot of my orbiters are in the same group. Honestly, a lot of me doing it came from wanting to prove to myself that I was over my oneitis, or at least making progress, which honestly I’m beating myself up for. You miss 100% of the shots you dont take. Ask out lot…
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 06:13 PM
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Where's all the guys who post about "Should I date this chick from my church?" The single guys in this sub need to take some action and OYS instead of asking advice about potentially dating the one girl they know at youth group.
/r/RPChristians20/09/18 02:40 PM
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What books have you read on the sidebar? Post summaries of each that you've read. It's much easier to read the sidebar material and ask specific questions rather than come here looking for us to spoon-feed you.
/r/RPChristians15/09/18 10:23 AM
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The problem here is that most men do this precisely to make their wives jealous. I would warn men here to be careful, as this can cause problems if not handled properly. There's a difference between being friendly with women who you are around in social situations and seeking out women to be your friends. Single guys do need female friends for these activities because it helps them with pre-selection and it helps them learn to be comfortable around women. Single guys are headed for social awkwar…
/r/RPChristians07/09/18 08:10 PM
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Spot on with every point. Next OYS will address these points and show improvement.
/r/RPChristians06/09/18 12:35 AM
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Glad we got our own OYS, thanks mods. RPC OYS #1 Backstory: Christian for 32 years, RP for 10 months. Found RP b/c my wife made a comment during an argument in 2017 that I didnt make enough money. Ironically I just sold 2 businesses and started another that was growing rapidly. But it stung me down to the core since she called out my ability to provide. I sold my businesses to spend more time with my kids since my father worked 70+ hours/week to provide for us and I've spent my whole life trying…
/r/RPChristians05/09/18 10:50 PM
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Is this harmless fun to put her on display? Yes. At what point is it causing others to lust? When she bends over and shows her cleavage "accidentally" Boundaries were set long ago to not involve anyone else, what other boundaries should be considered? No anal on Thursdays. Well maybe Thursdays are ok but definitely not between 2pm and 3pm. You're a married man in his late thirties, you should be having nasty, dirty, filthy sex with your wife and loving it. Just to change things up, every once in…
/r/RPChristians05/09/18 01:55 AM
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I'd rather OYS here than on main MRP sub because the advice would be more beneficial.
/r/RPChristians04/09/18 07:14 PM
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Dang Rollo. Now I want to look at my wife's old college laptop.
/r/askMRP03/09/18 11:15 PM
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I am still having a severe problem making the healthy choice over spending time with people (e.g. sleep, eating out, activities when I should be studying, etc). No more Mr nice guy has a chapter on feeling guilty when you spend time by yourself. It's good for you especially recovering nice guys.
/r/RPChristians03/09/18 11:07 PM
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Great point. She's amazing but has insecurity around men. Very attractive with a great body as she's an athlete who's done crossfit for almost 10 years. Being introverted makes her feel even more self conscious around people which was one of the reasons she was attracted to me as we're polar opposites. Other than complementing her, whats a good way to help her with confidence?
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 08:57 PM
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I told my wife I was part of a men's group on reddit. She doesnt care and we've never talked about it again.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 02:40 PM
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I remember my dad telling my mom during an argument, "If you dont like the way I do things, get the hell out of my house and good luck on your own." He wasn't upset, just reminding her of reality. He was the the most stoic guy I've ever met and his frame was like a vortex. Still is. My childhood friends grew up in similar households so those behaviors were reinforced everywhere I went. I often heard my friend's fathers say things such as, "Go make some food, it's time for the men to talk." I nev…
/r/askMRP27/08/18 01:40 PM
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Action Plan Step 1: Break up with LDR Step 2: Immediately date 2 girls in a tri-nogomous relationship Step 3: Enjoy being young and stop attaching yourself to women
/r/askMRP27/08/18 11:32 AM
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Excellent. No secret texting, no secret rendezvous, simply being friends in a group at social gatherings. Draw a safe line and stay behind it.
/r/RPChristians25/08/18 01:30 AM
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I use VPN so its a spoof provider thats doesnt enable tracking my history. Some websites dont allow that which I assume is what's happening. Oddly it just started happening in the last week because all my other comments in other subs were posted immediately.
/r/RPChristians25/08/18 01:25 AM
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Are my comments being deleted or delayed?
/r/RPChristians25/08/18 01:22 AM
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I'd tell my younger self that you were way better than you thought you were. You were young, naive, and had youth but you didn't know how to take advantage of it. Stoic philosophy says that everything in your life happened for a reason so you can learn from it. Being young, dumb and a little self conscious wasnt a bad thing because as I matured I learned from all of those interactions and situations that didn't go well. All my business failures, social challenges, sports goofs, and fashion faux …
/r/RPChristians24/08/18 06:08 PM
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Good question Question: What value does spending time and/or chatting with other women other than your wife add to your life? Answer: The reason I enjoy going to parties, socializing, meeting new people, playing team sports, coaching kids, having BBQs, being in a Bible Studies, joining a small group - the value is the joy of interacting with people, learning from them and connecting. Extroverted people like myself thrive on friendships with people. Friendships with women don't give me any additi…
/r/RPChristians24/08/18 06:01 PM
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Not tempted at all to cheat. My conviction is cheating and lust are sinful. Female friends and chatting are not sin. Wife being uncomfortable is not a sin. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/RPChristians24/08/18 05:50 PM
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I listen to their opinions as they are very Godly men and we agree on most topics but I disagree with them on this particular opinion. I make my wife uncomfortable all the time and it's not sinning.
/r/RPChristians24/08/18 05:32 PM
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First person I've seen in a while who answered all questions on backstory with lifts, reading, test levels, abundance levels, etc. As someone who has the opposite tendency to socialize too much and learned to dial back extroversion, I think what you feed, grows. Spending time being life of the party, telling stories and engaging in group activities make it easier to become that person. Extroverts often have a superiority complex where they think everything they know and say is an important contr…
/r/askMRP24/08/18 12:55 AM
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Cut it off like a bandaid. Don't be her emotional tampon. Just like men need wise counsel from other men, she needs women. If she needs a man's opinion, she can call her dad, uncle, grandpa, brother, etc.
/r/RPChristians19/08/18 08:43 PM
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First thing that popped into my head was, "She's yours now just like she was someone else's before. It's just your turn." She sounds like a lot of fun so I understand the desire to keep her around. But a fun relationship can turn sour when you start playing the jealousy game no matter which partner does it. Spending time with her ex is a version of disrespect and your response can be to get butthurt or stay unemotional & detached. One person always cares more in the relationship, don't let it be…
/r/askMRP19/08/18 08:40 PM
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I'm surprised the women from RPW haven't offered their opinions yet. I thought we had a few who stopped by RPC occasionally.
/r/RPChristians15/08/18 01:22 AM
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My wife doesn't say yes to any of the things I do either. She doesnt like fishing, hunting, volleyball, basketball, crossfit, poker, smoking cigars, rock climbing, mountain biking or camping. So I throw her a bone occasionally and we get dressed up for a "dinner date" at the local mexican place so she can get her cheese dip, margaritas and IG photo to make all the other women jealous.
/r/askMRP14/08/18 05:41 PM
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I literally just re-visited RPW sub last night and saw several posts about supporting your man by having dinner ready, clothes washed and house cleaned so when he gets home from work he can feel relaxed. Dozens of supportive comments from women on each of those posts each saying how they want their SO to feel valued so he feels like the Alpha Captain. Maybe we're talking about different subs? I don't care about RPW or follow that sub but it's strikes me as odd that we can have such drastically d…
/r/RPChristians14/08/18 05:34 PM
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I disagree strongly with deep_strength in that I think the redpillwomen sub is an excellent place for women looking to improve their relationship. They focus on supporting their men, being a good first mate and making husbands/boyfriends feel valued while at the same time increasing their own value to bring to the relationship like we are in the MRP sub. Yes it is secular like MRP. I haven't seen many examples of "building a better beta" in that sub, but I'm not spending as much time analyzing t…
/r/RPChristians14/08/18 12:45 AM
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r/RedPillWomen is for girls in relationships
/r/RPChristians13/08/18 07:48 PM
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You care enough to write a post. Groom the parts you don't like. Leave the rest. "Girls don't like hairy men but women find it sexy."
/r/askMRP12/08/18 02:03 AM
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We need more posts on married game, maybe even a few books. Especially for the guys married 10+ year with multiple kids. Long term married game is like playing in the pro leagues, you can't have a bad season.
/r/RPChristians02/08/18 02:03 PM
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Is your wife religious by chance? I'm a christian so I don't pursue other women. Wife knows my commitment and that keeps her from getting to excited when women openly flirt with me. If you don't have those same moral handcuffs, use that to your advantage and flirt openly and often. The combination of open flirting with being absent gets the juice flowing. Add abs, upgraded wardrobe and refreshed mindset where you don't care about sex unless it's amazing and you'll be there. The hardest part is t…
/r/askMRP01/08/18 06:08 PM
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You might be a really good looking guy, charismatic, life of the party, getting IOIs from other women but to her you are the same dude she's been banging long time. The most effective way to create desire is to remove yourself from her. Esther Perel is the queen of this strategy. Stay away and work, when at home be in the basement or garage. Go on a camping trip or hiking trip. Be gone all the time. Over a few days/weeks she will start to think, "Who is this guy I see occasionally?" I struggle w…
/r/askMRP01/08/18 02:07 PM
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Theyve been taught to communicate from the beginning thinking that will solve all their problems.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 11:12 PM
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I've written shorter novels. What happened to brevity on text messages?
/r/askMRP31/07/18 11:11 PM
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she starts in on how I am lying and cheating #1 sign SO is cheating is claiming you are cheating. Strike one. She got caught cheating in the past, strike 2 and 3. Get rid of her.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 02:31 PM
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He doesnt have time to respond to nudie pics from his wife and encourage sexy time because he's busy at the gym blowing up his biceps. We all know how important it is to add 1" to your arms. Strangely he does have time to write a lengthy post on reddit so now im questioning his committment to those biceps.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 11:33 AM
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You went from dead bedroom to your wife being naked and sending nudes within a 2 month period? Wise man once said, "You'll always feel guilty either about the time you spend working or the time you spend screwing your wife. I choose to feel guilty about work."
/r/askMRP28/07/18 10:45 PM
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Im an ectomorph but the good news is that I eat 3,000 calories a day and stay lean!
/r/RPChristians27/07/18 07:22 PM
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Completely untrue. 100% mis-information. I've been a crossfit coach/owner for 14+ years with well over 1,000 clients and mostly women. They were on a strict diet and workout routine for years but most struggled to drop more than 10-20 lbs due to stress levels, hormonal issues, microbiota damage in their gut, having multiple kids, or other external factors. If it was as simple as calories in and calories out there would be a single universal diet which of course there isn't b/c it's pseudo-scienc…
/r/RPChristians27/07/18 07:03 PM
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Ask yourself what happens in 10 years if you wife gets fat after a few kids even though she goes to the gym? Would you stop having sex with her? Because this is an extremely common phenomenon in marriages.
/r/RPChristians27/07/18 02:35 PM
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Were you having sex 5x a week and her initiating 40%?
/r/RPChristians27/07/18 01:15 AM
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Similar to my wife. I told her a few months ago she has become a boring lover and she said, "I agree. Lets spice it up, I've just gotten lazy," and for a couple weeks she was a wild girl but then she started giving excuses again anytime I tried something new. We still have sex 5x a week with her initiating about 40%, but it's the same positions. My guess is that my wife is super insecure and "feels stupid" when we try new stuff even though I love it and tell her so enthusiastically. She's been t…
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 08:36 PM
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So saying the "newness" of a long-term marriage wears off is projecting? Right buddy, good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 05:25 PM
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She said she felt like a slut walking around with 4 kids and no ring That's a comfort test, she wants to show the world she's taken and is negotiating for the "make other women jealous" ring cause she sees it as the outward appearance of her value. Buy her the ring you want for the same reason you dont ask someone what they want for Xmas, you just buy what you want them to have. But give it to her in a romantic setting so she gets the feelz. Alpha is dopamin, Beta is oxytocin and she's begging f…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 03:27 PM
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One of the boxes to check "to be RP" seems to be to control the finances. Much to my disadvantage because nearly everything that comes out of my mouth is sarcastic, words online are often taken literally. So here's a rewrite of this idea. Be the final authority on the finances. A high value woman with a good education who is intelligent can handle the family finances along with many other family tasks. My wife plans the family vacation because she's particular about the location and the layout o…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 03:17 PM
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That's easy, the first few months anyone can game a woman, keep interest, stay aloof. But once you put that ring on the finger and move in together the curtain comes up on the wizard.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 03:12 PM
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That's quality help. I bet you're the life of the party.
/r/askMRP24/07/18 11:53 PM
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For a christian husband, removing attention is about as much dread as we can apply. Some women don't respond to this level and for the single guys, what's the response at that point? How do they proceed?
/r/RPChristians24/07/18 09:17 PM
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I'm not seeing the correlation between a woman being hard-headed and refusing to submit and you cutting up credit cards or removing the tv. My wife doesn't have credit cards and doesnt watch tv but she can still refuse to submit to my authority.
/r/RPChristians24/07/18 09:14 PM
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The key is to keep that up for 10 years and more
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/18 09:51 PM
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A lot of guys complain on here about their wives not cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids or other basic wifely duties, but the answer to that is tell her you expect her to have those things done and call her out when she isnt doing them. The ideal situation of course is for her to proactively do those things so you dont have to tell her. As a man and husband I try to do everything that needs to be done ahead of time so that my wife doesnt have to give me a ridiculous list. The list is emascul…
/r/RPChristians22/07/18 10:31 PM
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But maybe he just wants to be friends, drink wine and hang out late at night talking art...
/r/askMRP22/07/18 10:25 PM
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I’m bored out of my mind working this corporate job. I’m nothing like most of these men. They talk about hitting that number and then they will retire. Wtf ever. I’m not seeing 30 years here just be let out of the prison bc I’ve scrimped enough money to pay for my nursing home. Men find fulfillment and purpose in their job. If a man isn't happy at work, the rest of his life rarely fills the gap and he takes that frustration home with him. I work a solid 40 or more hours each weak. It’s a 6 figur…
/r/askMRP21/07/18 11:37 AM
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Have you read the symptoms of Post Partum Depression? Most women have some level of depression and/or wild hormone swings post partum meaning you are in for a wild ride! Be a good communicator during this period and a calming influence. Your family doesn't need two emotional adults in the household.
/r/askMRP21/07/18 11:28 AM
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5'6"? You a basketball player? I have my wife on a monthly allowance and told her if she wants more spending money she has to make it on her own. She very quickly figured out how to monetize a blog and social media. She's happy and the family continues on solid financial ground.
/r/askMRP20/07/18 11:21 PM
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Drinking with my buddies one night they asked how often we all get laid. It was 1-2x a week all around, except me. They're totally happy with their wives and think 1-2x a week is great. I'm not going to call them losers just like I wouldn't call a guy making $40k a year who's happy a loser, but it's not for me.
/r/askMRP20/07/18 04:27 PM
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Nope. Totally different scenario totally different approach.
/r/askMRP19/07/18 03:56 PM
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Chads not married to her
/r/askMRP19/07/18 03:02 PM
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2nd day of RP? Don't credit or blame RP for any situation for at least a couple months.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 02:55 PM
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