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You can't stop the judgement of those around you and it will come regardless since it's part of the human condition. In the end it is you and your husband's lives to live and it's best to try to ignore or brush off the judgement. Sometimes you might have to consider cutting the person out of your life if they become too toxic/jealous/nosy. The judgements of others are flaws in their characters not in your actions. You have every right to live a lifestyle that makes you the happiest and able to g…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 04:51 PM
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I don't think people are really choosing to wait that long, it's more like they feel uncomfortable asking questions of that nature and that weakness sets them back. Pretty soon 3 months have gone by and they're no closer to knowing the person. Everyone is so concerned all the time about being nice and perfect and avoiding awkward situations or anything that might require a little bit of a spine.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 10:21 PM
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Most likely not you. In today's society it's extremely difficult to make friendships that are on a deeper level depending on age. After a point a lot of people are focused more on their own lives/careers than they are on friends and deepening bonds. Some people grow out of this as they age and as their values change. A lot of them don't because as they chase what they think will bring them happiness they get farther away for the things that actually would, like reliable social connections. It ca…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 09:33 PM
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The thought of him leading you is sickening to him because you've trained your husband that to lead you is painful and he'll be rejected. He wants respect and acceptance. IF you'd been demonstrating those in meaningful ways to him his words would not have been that it was sickening. Work your way through the reading materials again.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 04:50 PM
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I'm sorry, but how does this actually add value to this sub? Pretty much all you've said is don't be a slut, which is RPW 101. I mean it's one thing to offer male perspective, but this is Captain Obvious territory. About a subject you're not that well versed in either if /u/LeftAndRed's comments are anything to go by.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 12:42 AM
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Youtube. You can see exactly what the person is doing, and the actual cooking process which is important for some foods. There's such a wealth of knowledge and anything you could dream of cooking will be there.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 12:21 AM
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However, whenever we hang out now, he gets super specific and points out the changes that he LOVES about my body. "Your butt is bigger, your stomach is a little flatter, your boobs seem more shapely." It makes me actually uncomfortable. It doesn't flatter me. It makes me feel scrutinized. When I told him this, he apologized and said he just wants me to feel attractive and to know that he "notices." Yes. It makes YOU feel uncomfortable and in turn you're making him feel so by rejecting his positi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 12:18 AM
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Clean is the most important. It's ok to be eccentric and decorate in a way that makes you feel most at home. It is where you live after all, and even if you make it look more to your age or matching/modern, what's the use if it makes you unhappy/uncomfortable? Yes, showing off your domestic skills is something to consider, but overall happiness makes more of an impact. For ideas on colors /r/RoomPorn is good for that and there's a bunch of related subs in the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 11:55 PM
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do women love their men like this? Some, not all. There are red pill/traditional women. AWALT traits aren't equal between all women. RP sometimes portrays women as being ready to jump ship at any moment and always on the lookout, but do you realize how tiring that would be if it were true? That's not to say a woman doesn't start looking around when her needs aren't being met, but that's true of both genders given the right circumstances. AWALT doesn't mean you're guaranteed to get stabbed in the…
/r/askMRP12/10/17 09:20 PM
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She is trying to figure out a reason as to why she doesn't want to fuck you more/harder. Exactly. OP sounds like a hot mess and she's trying to find where exactly the train derailment started and where the pleasure in the relationship went. She's probably on the way to getting apathetic soon, judging by the sex issues in other comments.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 03:28 PM
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Don't waste your time any longer. That means just breaking it off. Whatever else you can do to shut yourself off from him, like keeping yourself physically away, turning off your phone, etc, do. You'll be in(and are in) a vulnerable state and as you've mentioned, you've caved already. You are worth more than that. Here are some more resources to keep you occupied. Female redpill is a different ball game than the male side. Also just FYI, it's very rare for a plate to get upgraded. That label onc…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 03:21 PM
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I personally don't expect to be EVERYTHING for my boyfriend. This is one of the most important things to take away from this post. Too many men and women have an overly romanticized view of their spouse being able to be their everything or being able to do so for their spouse. Fairy tale romances like that are humanly impossible and that expectation is poison itself. This is how people get caught up in not being 'good enough', when in reality they have a skewed sense of what the limits of a heal…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 03:09 PM
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Stop relying on motivation and build discipline. I guess I'm frustrated because I tried being more feminine and it didn't work. Of course it didn't. That stuff works person and you put out when you shouldn't have. You used the wrong tool for the wrong task. It's also possible that your vetting wasn't good enough as well because let's face it, people lie all the time and ldrs/internet makes that very easy. You gave that guy what he wanted and it's not a shock he's no longer interested. As for imp…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 04:01 PM
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Details needed for sure. Sounds like a harpy woman bossing your ass around due to lack of respect to me. Could be but it's really hard to tell when it could also just be her delegating to the child she's been with for years.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 03:49 PM
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What does that make the G-spot?
/r/askMRP10/10/17 03:45 PM
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She's actually afraid of what "The Whore" might bait me into doing. She fears being labeled as that one facet 100% of the time. Women go through a lifetime of being told what is and isn't sexually proper. Even with a life long partner it can be scary to think, if I cross X line my spouse will lose respect for me, things will change for the worse, and he'll see me as garbage when he looks at me. There's no coming back from that kind of thing. It's similar to if you found out your husband was hidi…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 03:26 PM
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The part that is your fault is digging through the garbage and picking out trash. Sometimes people are just incompatible and it really sounds like a person you can't work things out with(to begin fixing) is not someone you can be with long term. It doesn't matter who is right or wrong here, or even frankly what bad things you've done to each other. The exhaustion you've described is not a normal part of a healthy relationship and it's not doing anyone any good. You have to decide if staying in t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 12:27 AM
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What I see: My husband bought me a pony and I love ponies, but I really wanted the black and white one, not the brown one. It's nice to have a pony(since I do love them) BUUUUUUUT I would have loved the other one more. And now I feel bad because the other pony isn't mine(even though I have a perfectly good pony that is fulfilling my needs). So how do you get over the bad feelings in that situation? Practice gratitude and focus on the good so you have less time to spend thinking about what's not …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:51 PM
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You're a convenient chick to fall back on. This guy is using you for his own gain while treating your commitment and investment into the relationship like shit. You won't get what you've been putting in from this man. Leave him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 03:12 PM
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You had sex, you just didn't cum. This happens to women all the time. Just want to point out that this is a true, even if you guys think you're the greatest in bed. No woman will orgasm from vanilla sex 100% of the time. There's a lot of factors that will dictate if a woman does or doesn't, the least of which are her partner. Our brains completely screw us over sometimes (stress/distraction/worry) and make it such that to actually climax it would take an act of god. Slight side note, EVERY woman…
/r/askMRP08/10/17 08:11 PM
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This may come out a little bit harsh but Your body is a direct reflection of the person you are. You're the only caretaker, not to mention the best suited, to care for yourself. When he subscribed to the relationship it was under certain circumstances which are no longer the case. To say that you're the same person you were inside is wrong, because that person was different enough to keep appearances differently. There's no shame in reacting in a way that at the time was kind of for self preserv…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/17 02:38 AM
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Yet I often wonder if this is the low quality post that is going to be the final straw for a valuable member. This seems to have happened to several regulars over at redpillwomen over the past year. It's really frustrating because some of them had posts and such that got deleted with their accounts. There's a fair share of low quality things going on there too on a regular basis now that wasn't that way in the past. So I wouldn't be too shocked if this sub got hit with that too, especially since…
/r/askMRP06/10/17 02:20 AM
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I'm of the mind that one that is actually committed wouldn't have need to use a throwaway account in the first place. What's so scary about people giving advice/answers that these guys feel the need to hide themselves?
/r/askMRP06/10/17 02:16 AM
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Your insecurities are the issue here. Even if she were to stop this behavior, your insecurities will come back unless they're dealt with. Would confronting her truly make you feel permanently better? Or would that only last until your mind came up with alternate scenarios of her being unfaithful in ways you can't monitor/see?
/r/askMRP05/10/17 06:30 PM
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Yes. Never felt better
/r/RedPillWives05/10/17 06:15 PM
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You're trying to get her to go from zero to 60 with your "I want to ravage you" bullshit. Is that supposed to make her wet? It's the same line the creepy guys in high school/college most likely tried to use. Ick.
/r/askMRP05/10/17 03:37 PM
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I think it really depends on the person in question. Brain stops developing at around 25 so I personally think that where you are on that road is a large factor in one's success or failure. Teens can take a lot of things to heart that aren't big issues or encounter other *insurmountable roadblocks with the red pill that probably wouldn't happen the same if the development was there. That's not to say that some/most red pill things are beneficial, but as a whole especially when one has to face ha…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 05:11 AM
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It really depend what kind of tomboy we're talking about here. I grew up on a farm was outside more than in, plus had to fill roles that a boy would have done like helping my dad fix/maintain the equipment. I learned how to have confidence, be independent, and how to have discipline. Skills that are important across all areas of your life. Those are far more valuable than how to style your hair or how to dress yourself. Both of the latter can easily be learned in a week if you're diligent. Cooki…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 04:43 AM
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The recent influx of young teenagers had been kind of weird.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 04:32 AM
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For some women pride/entitlement is a difficult thing to circumvent and so sex can be a lot easier to do than to say an apology when shitty behavior is involved.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 06:13 PM
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So while you paint yourself as being secure, what I'm hearing/seeing is that you aren't open/vulnerable enough. This is apparent in all of these relationships inevitably having your partner tell you the same things. It is possible to be just as confident as you project while also being vulnerable when you need to be. If you haven't read Empowered Single by Laura Doyle, it might help you get more in touch with being vulnerable.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 05:25 PM
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No woman respects a guy that she can't rely on, and that includes when you demonstrate a lack of planning ability. If you're showing her that you have issues taking care of your own needs, do you think that's an attractive quality? I'm pretty sure she didn't just spring the trip to the zoo on you this morning when she woke you, so you probably had time to get your own needs in order. There's either the husband who enables good times, or the one that enables lackluster/negative ones. I'd like to …
/r/askMRP02/10/17 04:59 PM
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Coupled with that there's also her disappointment of "being stuck" a guy that you not only have to, but can nag to get to do things. At this point if she's being this inconsiderate it's likely she doesn't even really see OP as a proper person anymore let alone anyone to give more than the minimum amount of respect to.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 03:30 PM
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Did you consider that he just might not really be reacting in ways that you're looking for despite your efforts? To me it sounds like you did everything as well as can be expected and he's got his own hangups somewhere(that probably have nothing to do with you).
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 05:01 PM
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There's this list of books which are useful for perspective. The thing is though that even if you lead your horse to water, there's no guarantee of it drinking.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 01:23 AM
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But probably has plenty of fantasies about them. All of his replies here are really cringe worthy and honestly it feels like he's fishing for some sort of fap material somehow.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 01:15 AM
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Men have an urge to cheat that is a lot less threatening to the marriage. A man can cheat for years without compromising his marriage. In fact, men often cheat as a way of getting their sexual needs met so they don't have to break up the marriage! Women OTOH, cheat because they have one foot out the door. Women cheat as a form of branch swinging. It's the tone in which you write, this particular part really sounds like you're condoning the behavior on some levels or that it's sort of ok because …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:34 PM
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The sad part is that this is about the only forum he is active on. None of these posts go onto any of the other red pill subs and most of the so called discussion is quickly turned into defensiveness on OP's part. There's a history of condescension, woman chiding, and preachy posts, which is really a shame because I think OP has knowledge to share.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:22 PM
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Absolutely. It really feels like over the past year or so this subreddit has been degrading slowly and something like that might help start pulling it back together.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:07 PM
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Side note, being fine doesn't mean the same thing to a woman. The "I'm fine" that's reserved for one's spouse is different than what you tell others. It's a cause for concern for her. Usually it feels like there's something being hidden/ignored. /u/Triadis3's answer is spot on.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 02:03 PM
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You may have found the red pill, but swallowing it could take months if not years. Along with the advice that everyone has given you, as well as what follows, read the sidebar and work your way through the material. Red pill really isn't as simple as upping your SMV and calling it a day. The information and perspective in the sidebar and related resources are a very good place to start to get your feet under you, as well as outline basic questions like yours. I'm not one to sugar coat so I'm goi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 03:36 PM
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I know I have to leave regardless of how much I love him. Sometimes it's harder to do the second time around. I'm not advocating one way or another, just something to keep in mind. If this happens again, god forbid, you might have to find strength you didn't even know you had to get through it. Can't let it turn into a "too bad to stay, too good to leave" situation.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 03:26 PM
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Human penises are shaped the way that they are so that the head of it helps suction/scrape out a previous competitor's sperm. Helps with "sperm competition" since the ones that get left behind are far enough along or were fast enough to not get physically removed like that. Plus obviously ups the chance of the new guy's kid being the one conceived.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:04 PM
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Firstly you don't sound in love. What you have is probably more of a strong/deep friendship with benefits. Although it might be a type of love, I wouldn't consider it to be the same as what one has when they know they're with a partner they want for the rest of their lives. We are so young that we probably don't even have developed a real personality yet. This is true in more ways than one. The lack of life experience contributes to this, as well as your brain being still not fully done developi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:18 PM
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Love isn't enough. If you need to convince yourself of reasons to break up think about all you know now and ask yourself if you'd get into the relationship knowing he is how he is. Also don't view this as a failure, it's a learning experience. You've now gone through what often happens when there isn't good vetting. Lastly just because he's a couple years older doesn't mean at all that he gained any wisdom in those years. His lack thereof is apparent in his continual hanging on to his ex. I'm so…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 03:55 PM
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So on the one hand this looks like something that can be agreed with, but on the other you've got to understand cheating is much more complex than the individual just having a wandering eye. There are so many underlying reasons for why cheaters cheat and a lot of reasons why someone would maintain their relationship and try to seek comfort outside of one. Essentially your post is saying that anyone in a bad relationship should either end it(which means knowing how and being able to move on) or s…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 11:10 AM
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She thinks you're definitely worth more and you're selling yourself short(FYI if it's not clear enough, she still sees value in you). You're lucky that she's still confident enough to be able to tell you something like that to your face or at all. Some women, having to wear the pants for however long, wouldn't bother saying much of anything or give two shits. Her pointing out this fact is her attempt at trying to put a boot to your ass to knock some sense into what she sees as her failing captai…
/r/askMRP11/09/17 08:50 PM
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I guarantee you if my wife didn't trust I could handle her shit, she wouldn't tell me half of it. This is something that seems to be misunderstood by a lot of men. No one will give you some of their burdens if you haven't proven that you're not just going to dump those burdens off a cliff after taking two steps.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 07:56 PM
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Not everything is a test. If she's just stating that she's sore, poking fun at you that you caused it, and not actually saying "I can't go do activity A because of you" it's possible that it's not even a real complaint. Depends a little on her personality though. I use things like that as an invitation to my husband to play, sometimes I'm curious to see what kind of quip he'll come up with, or need some cheap laughs.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 07:38 PM
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i am not open to anyone elses view or idea. This right here is going to cause a whole lot of troubles if it doesn't get fixed regardless of how empathetic you are or aren't. This one thing will/would be the death of any long term and serious relationship, because people with this trait can be extremely difficult to put up with and more pain than they're worth. There's a tipping point between the number of positive and negative interactions between couples. If the theme of the relationship become…
/r/askMRP11/09/17 07:16 PM
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I'm not gonna try to apply male logic to the female brain But you'll ask everyone here for an interpretation of something that is pretty much the most trivial thing anyone could have chosen.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:46 AM
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From the next to nothing amount of information to go on it sounds like you might focus too much on his actions and not enough on yourself or other things that you should be focusing on. Everyone gets complacent at some time or another. Good time to take a look at the recommended reading and rule yourself completely out of being the cause of your own issues.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 01:25 AM
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To me what it sounds like he's doing is akin to him saying you've got to chop off some of your fingers because the grocer looked at them when bagging the food. He sounds like he's displaying very high levels of mate guarding, which is screaming insecurity(and is unattractive to boot). The problem here is that you're letting him dictate your life because of his issues. Whether or not you quit your job and hobbies isn't going to fix the root problem. It doesn't look like talking is getting through…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 01:18 AM
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It was a comfort test I'm going to have to disagree with you on that. Comfort tests come from fear/dread. Lightheartedness and joking like what she displays are incompatible with worry and unease. The fact that she is trying to carry the joke out for more than just one reply shows that, as well as the lack of aggression or defensiveness in any of the replies provided. We aren't so binary or one dimensional that everything is either a shit/comfort test. You scared her. This is doubtful in the way…
/r/askMRP02/09/17 07:08 PM
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(I.e you don't care if she gets pregnant) This coupled with the not sharing the snipping date is what really gets me. Why in the hell would she put more trust into OP and also be open/vulnerable to him when he's shown he'll blow off very real concerns?
/r/askMRP01/09/17 07:46 AM
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Thank you. I try.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 06:20 AM
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Your answer is plastered all over this sub. All you have to do is read.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/17 04:25 AM
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Could you have put any less effort into your question? This whole sub is dedicated to teaching and helping women learn how to improve themselves to have the largest statistic probability of getting into and keeping the relationship they want. The sidebar and wiki is there for your use. You're really asking for some spoon feeding, which is fine, but when the rubber meets the road, you'll have to put in the work.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 09:16 PM
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This should be the top reply.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 09:06 PM
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Women are/can be massive hoarders. She has a mountain of examples stored in her brain about all the shitty things you've done or that have hurt her(and you don't even have to be the one that caused the pain). Each time something happens that she perceives as a slight, she has to visit that same mountain of past wrongdoings/pain. In that moment she is confronted by all these instances and "proof" of a perceived lack of love/affection/respect/whatever, and so when you're viewed in that light, rega…
/r/askMRP31/08/17 08:58 PM
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I'm not sure "alpha" is a quality of a virtuous, perfect man like you make it out to be. I really think you're reading a bit into what I said and putting words into my mouth. No one is perfect and I'm not really sure where you got that from. Men that live their lives in traditional/redpill ways, while they make mistakes and can be jerks like anyone else, shouldn't abuse or take their issues out on OP like she has mentioned. OYS and all. What she has described sounds malicious to me and more than…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 07:11 AM
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You need to vet more thoroughly. Abuse and alpha are practically polar opposites fyi and there is no true alpha that will abuse. Controlling behaviors, like abuse, stem from fear and insecurities, neither of which are alpha traits. Alpha baggage...that's another thing that doesn't exist in the redpill man, or at least not that you'd ever really know of. So it comes down to your vetting skills. I wouldn't be too hard on you because the process is unique for everyone and equally tricky, especially…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 08:26 PM
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While some of this is relevant to the subject, the majority of this advice isn't really adherent to female red pill. This is the kind of thing that you'd tell to a guy with oneitis or who is having difficulty dropping a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 08:05 PM
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if I were his age I would be so much more accomplished. I hate to break it to you but life has a way of butting in and crushing this naive way of thinking. You have zero way of knowing that you'd be more accomplished than him at all and comparing the two of you in that way is most likely clouding your judgement of him. It's possible that he's in a slump right now, or doesn't feel like he has much of a reason to do or be better with his life career-wise. You know what motivates men to do their be…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 07:40 PM
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because where i live I would stick out like a sore thumb. This sounds like your issues with this may be somewhat fear based. I personally see no issues with him wanting you to look your best instead of what he probably considers to be maybe frumpy. The fact of the matter is that his standards are different than yours and I'd be willing to bet that his asking you is pride based. He knows you look good and probably wants to flaunt you a little. I wouldn't consider his request to be control based, …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 07:26 PM
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Communication between you and your spouse is something you'll both be learning and working on 24/7 like it or not. The only control you have is what comes out of your own mouth and how. Always sound advice, you don't have to attend any argument you're invited to. Does/did he tell you his expectations of you as a wife? If you want to know something ask. A lot of women make the mistake of hinting/suggesting or using other covert means of communication to try to get what they want, and then throw f…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 09:28 PM
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a leave before you are left mentality. This just oozes self esteem and confidence issues. If a person is in fear of being left or constantly thinking that's going to happen, it's not their spouse's issue. You're in control of your own value and if there's so much insecurity that you're thinking of bailing out before the truth comes to get you, there's major issues that need to be addressed. I don't think I can fully agree with RPW with searching for "the one" because in reality: there isn't "the…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 09:14 PM
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First I'd like to thank you for at at least considering that you might be perceived as something you're not while talking to the boys. It just seems like whenever I'm asked about my studies/interests/etc. it becomes a dead-end. That's kind of the nature of most of these conversations in my experience if you don't leave yourself some sort of follow up or have an anecdote or something a little off topic to keep the conversation flowing so the other person can relate. It doesn't even have to be lon…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 12:33 AM
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If you're extremely shy and anxious you should be focusing on fixing those problems rather than looking for a guy. Adding another person into your life isn't going to sprinkle fairy dust on those flaws and make them go away. Not to mention the hindrance they're probably causing in your life as it is. So what I'd do is start studying the female side of TRP and doing self work before even trying to get a man, high or low quality. The truth of the matter is that if your issues cause difficulty in a…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 11:48 PM
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Hopefully not up them either lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 10:29 PM
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However, I hate small talk and find myself trying to veer conversation into more of an “educated” direction (not always, but about the second or third date) which I can see can be a turn off for many men. Men like to lead. They don't like to be made to feel dumb, which you inadvertently might be doing, nor does anyone like to feel like they're not heard even if the topic is trivial. However most of them do like smart women, just in other subjects than what they know. Conversations about "educate…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 10:21 PM
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Lacy things can be irritating depending on the material. If you're buying online make sure there's a good return policy just in case something's not good. For me I've found that any lacy trims and such made out of synthetic materials are pretty terrible comfort-wise and usually only good for short term wear.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 09:51 PM
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Not everyone's lady bits have the same amount of discharge btw. I have never experienced what was described above, and even if I did, that would simply be solved by underwear so that's just an excuse for you to get some for her you like! Another thing, if you've got silky/slippery sheets, I wouldn't get her slippery nightwear. Unless you want to practice sliding her across the bed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 09:44 PM
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Afraid that I have lost some of my worth. Afraid that I wasted some of the best years of my life. But I am also afraid that I'll waste my time, that I'll never be ready. Even worse that I'll never find someone. Straight from the horse's mouth. It's nice that you're making your way through the posts and sidebar stuff. Here's the reading list as well for when you feel like greater commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 05:58 PM
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I prefer online shopping. I take full advantage of my Amazon prime benefits and it's a lot more comfortable to browse from home plus have easy returns. There's only a few brands I even look at in stores today the rest I just ignore for the most part.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 05:08 PM
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If you're treating learning experiences as a waste of time, you seriously need to shift your perspective. No one gets it right the first few times and it wasn't as if you've known about redpill things your whole life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 04:44 PM
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you can't ask them 'how' you can fix things to make them desire you again. Women know what they want. None of us can tell you though how to get from point A to point B. We don't have access to male road maps and we can't tell you how to get somewhere we've never been(and never will be). Also I don't see how that planned convo with your wife would turn into anything positive. She can speak for herself when she wants/needs to.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 07:13 AM
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I'm not saying they're not helpful. I do think that they can act as really good training wheels with many problems. However at some point the training wheels have to come off. No counselor ever is going to tell that to someone who is a source of income. A counselor will provide the same listening ear and advice indefinitely. There's people who struggle with the same issues for years and years with a multitudes of counselors because they think that counseling is the answer. It doesn't work unless…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 06:41 AM
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"that's my problem I'll worry about that I'm working on myself and it's none of your business" Why aren't you using this tactic.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 07:00 PM
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You sound like you'd benefit greatly from adding confidence building things in your life. This will mean stepping out of your comfort zone regularly and consistently. I've seen a counsellor and we did discuss my view of myself but I don't think it raised my self-esteem. Maybe I need to try a different counsellor though. Don't. Self esteem and confidence come from within, even if someone is encouraging to you or trying to coach you, those internal values aren't going to change unless you do somet…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 06:56 PM
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Realize that fear is stopping you. Then analyze if it's a rational fear or an irrational one. Is the fear from things that are factual and have happened in the past, or is it just something that your brain has concocted. Maybe you're afraid of making a fool of yourself, or that you'll say the wrong thing, or that your husband won't respond to you how you feel you need or in a perfect manner. Maybe you're afraid of someone trying to use your vulnerability against you. Some of those things have pr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 04:35 AM
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I'm surprised the other women at the club seemed to have so much fun. Usually the ones that go to strip clubs or enjoy it don't properly get the attention they want elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 09:30 PM
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Telling her marriage could be in the cards was pretty dumb. Since then, I assure you, she's been dying a little each day going crazy waiting for you to go one way or another. With your actions you are helping breed insecurity in your relationship. Marriage or not, someone is going to get hurt here.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:00 PM
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Lol. By means give her ammo to whip out next time she feels the need. When a woman is acting like she is and OP is at the stage that he's at, no amount of 'stop' is going to stop anything. Just add more stress to the mix. There isn't enough respect or trust for something like that to work yet.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 08:32 PM
1

Easier than addressing the real issues lol.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 09:16 PM
1

I wanted to chime in specifically on the learning and developing part. From a biological standpoint both you and your boyfriend's brains are still switching from that of a child to that of an adult. This doesn't stop until you're around 22-23. It's fact and you can google it. This is something that should be considered and kept in mind in regards to life plans like marriage and taking the risk of pregnancy. You've still got 5 years of development left and while you'll probably have the same core…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/17 09:04 PM
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Tell her you won't tolerate her bashing your husband or her disrespect in that regard. A boundary has to be set and you need to set it and stand by it. Whatever her issues are they're twisting her perspective. The things she says are probably out of some form of jealousy and lack of self love. So when you come around she tears you down to try to make herself feel better.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 08:13 PM
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I learned from my dad. Learned how to be a harpy from my mom, along with a few actually useful things, but she has a load of problems that eventually made me cut her out of my life. My dad though, we're pretty much two peas in a pod.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 05:35 AM
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We need more details to help you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 05:32 AM
1

So people who have different perspectives from you aren't different, they need to improve themselves? Why is it so hard for you to accept that some people don't want what you want, don't see things the way you do and your position that people should be friends first a personal one, not a universal constant that we must all improve ourselves till we accept? This is what I was referring to. I didn't say that anyone needed to do anything. You chose to read between lines and then get your panties in…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 10:50 PM
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You shouldn't start a relationship based on a lie. If you are interested in a romantic relationship with someone then don't dress it up as a platonic friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 10:30 PM
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I forgive you for being on the defensive for no real reason and putting words into my mouth. I have no idea why you're taking what I said as an attack. You're reading between lines that aren't there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 10:20 PM
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A traditional church wedding and a typical reception Not talking about this but he seems almost annoyed with all of the questions and planning. This is what the conversation needs to address. How much real involvement does he want, what does he expect of you in that regard.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 10:18 PM
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I'm not ready to be a mother and I don't want to start a family like this. I just wish this wasn't happening. I definitely did not want to get pregnant. I'm not ready now. I think you know. I'm sorry that you're going through this kind of thing and hope for all the best for you. As for telling him, I also agree with other posters, this will give you a good idea of how he will respond to other similar situations.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 10:09 PM
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Should I be planning this without him and only going to him if I need help or should I continue to try to involve him in the plans when he doesn't seem particularly interested? Sit down and discuss his expectations about this. There shouldn't be a question about keeping him in the loop with things, but for the rest you'll never know until you ask.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 09:58 PM
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They may never hit on you again but the friendship is ruined as is your trust of them. If a person is letting years a friendship get ruined from one isolated incident, it's not really a friendship to begin with. Things might change here and there but it's not an instant relationship killer like you're portraying it to be. Misunderstandings happen. Sometimes we/they embarrass ourselves. Get over it. What makes sense to you would be seen as creepy by myself and by most of the girls I know. I'm sor…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 09:42 PM
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Would work if the friend zone crowd wouldn't be both terrified of rejection and have a false sense of entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 09:34 PM
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A serious and successful long term relationship can't be built on lies. If you're lying about why you're spending time with someone there's not going to be a good outcome to breaking their trust. And unless the person you're after is an idiot or doesn't value themselves very much it's not going to end how you'd like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 09:33 PM
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and many consider it harassment or at the very least something negative about the guy if he approaches them in any way other than the one they prefer I don't know what females you're hanging out with but these people are a very small cross section of the population. As I said, people without mental dysfunction don't view the world this way. The friend zone is made up purely of butthurt individuals who had no intention of being friends in the first place. No one put them there but themselves. Als…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 08:11 PM
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You entirely missed my point that it's not just RP tactics that are manipulation. ANY courtship is. Also I disagree with the catering to what other people want. If you're really that uninteresting or generally repulsive, you shouldn't be ok with that and should have higher standards for your own existence. If you don't respect your own self enough to take care of it and want to be the best you can then there's issues that stretch beyond not attracting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 07:56 PM
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Holy shit. I guess relationships where someone is a friend first or starts out with casual conversations don't exist. The majority of people don't start relationships like completely mentally dysfunctional people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 07:39 PM
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Read Empowered Single by Laura Doyle. If a guy is saying that he feels entirely emasculated by you, it has a lot more to do with your overall actions as well. It's worth noting that if a guy is really that intimidated by a woman who likes sex and isn't afraid to ask for it, long run it's a good possibility that his spine would have been too weak to make an effective leader in the ways you needed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 06:47 PM
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Have you seen any science to back that though?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 06:31 PM
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Best reply so far. OP doesn't like the cage he built for himself and doesn't seem to realize the door isn't locked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 07:31 AM
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Sharing you life and happiness with someone. Not everyone is motivated by that on either side of the debate. The things I like to with my life and how I spend my time are made that much better by having a partner to have those experiences with. Plus I'll need someone to argue with when I'm old and I don't want to be the only one yelling at the kids to get off our lawn or at the cars that drive too fast. primarily focused on "self-improvement," rather than using psychological manipulation techniq…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 07:25 AM
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I don't understand how any of these issues would still be persisting after 2 years of serious dedication/application to improvement of self.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 07:14 AM
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Then I just look like a dick. You're not obligated to attend every argument you're invited to. If you laugh, so what? Her antics were funny. Why do you think you get so much shit flicked at you? Your reactions are funny to her, at least on some levels. The rest is plain old disrespect, but as you improve that will change, if she's got half a brain.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:26 AM
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When OP has violent outbursts of throwing things it's hard to imagine anyone, let alone his wife, giving him the respect he wants. Or viewing him as any sort of prize for that matter. Dug his own grave with this one.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 12:41 AM
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Sex without consent is rape regardless of who does it. TRP proper doesn't condone rape.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 12:12 AM
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You mean flexes the weakness he's showing trying to control/own her shit instead of his own.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 12:08 AM
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He shouldn't. It'll probably like, 'Great! my wife and I get to explore these kinks' not 'my wife turned into a whore'. Think of it in terms of food. If someone shared with you one day that instead of mushroom soup they'd like to have chicken soup, do you think they'd respect you less at the end of the day for giving them what they asked for? They'd probably be thrilled. I personally would use this as an opportunity to put faith in your man and let him lead you through this arena. If you feel li…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 08:04 AM
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I don't think anyone here thinks they should have a pink hair. :D Hard to say with some of the recent posts cropping up here lol.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 08:14 AM
1

Anyone can set themselves a goal, the issues are generally with carrying out the goals, prioritizing or even getting to a place where they're prepared to work towards the goals with the correct tools. The the subject is as abstract as self improvement a person needs all the help they can get. Reading a few books on the subject won't hurt anything.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 07:17 AM
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It's a little bit hard to take some of this seriously especially when it pushes supplements and that root so strongly in multiple places. Where you store your fat is genetically determined, there isn't a magic root that will somehow hinder fat cells in a specific part of your body. It's essentially akin to saying bone cells in your foot differ from those in your jaw and that you can slim your jaw by using special leaves. As for the supplements, eat right and you shouldn't need them. This means c…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 09:49 PM
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They don't respect her. How a man should treat a woman is taught from one man to the next. She is asking for the support she needs on this from you. Her methods of asking may not be the best but to me it looks like sending you videos probably isn't her first resort. There may have been times where she tried other tactics and was brushed off or otherwise not heard. So now she literally shows you the problem and hopes the message gets through. It doesn't matter that she does or doesn't dole out th…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 09:49 PM
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Surrendered wife and Empowered wife by Laura Doyle are a good starting place. Doesn't matter that you're not married, you will be one day and the principles apply across the board life wise. The perspective provided is very useful. Laura Schlessinger also has a good handful of books, that range from marriage topics, to getting past childhood issues, and it's worth giving them a look and there's bound to be ones applicable. Red pill is about self improvement and no one can do that without outside…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 07:39 PM
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If you don't know what you're doing or where to start, yes you should read about it. No one learns how to cook just by osmosis. I agree with the introspection and the rest, but people don't inherently know how to improve themselves. That's why there's so many weak and crummy ones everywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 07:22 PM
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If you mean practically every reply to your post pointed out that her jealousy is a huge red flag, then yes you'd be right. Link to refresh your memory
/r/askMRP06/08/17 09:47 PM
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Too bad you deleted the bit from the original post stating that your partner has strong feelings of jealousy. More signs of your denial issues with it?
/r/askMRP06/08/17 08:14 PM
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I don't really feel like I should be actively competing with an inanimate object. Well you are. I realize this isn't a conclusion that is painless to accept but it's a facet of red pill/traditional beliefs that rings true to both sexes. Attraction isn't negotiable. A person is always going to choose the most enticing food out of two choices. In this case you can see from his actions that you're not enticing enough and there's only so many times a person will choke down something unappetizing. I …
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 08:06 PM
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No one is asking you to. You absolutely are responsible for your actions and you making yourself be a more appealing choice than his games is your jurisdiction. Yeah you're not holding a gun to his head and making him play the games, but if you were the better choice of the two he'd 100% be choosing you. There are certainly issues that you need to rectify which can easily be seen by how he's spending his time. The truth is right there in his behavior like it or not. It's not as if he's an ass or…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:30 AM
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Personally those 'consequences' seem petty and what I'd expect out of some sort of high school drama between a pack of girls. Not coming from a guy that's got his shit at least semi together.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 09:23 AM
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Work on yourself and your man will notice and come around. That's really all you can do. Won't happen overnight of course.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:17 AM
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I believe our biggest hurdle is her unrecognized jealousy which she oozes during our nightly excursions. Judging by your replies, it's not only her jealousy hampering you but your denial that she doesn't really want this. Jealousy isn't a normal feeling for anyone that truly desires this kind of thing. If your SO is dragging her feet this whole dog and pony show isn't for her benefit. I don't know what kind of dynamic you two have, but these kinds of emotions are what cause major problems and bu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:12 AM
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This advice is assuming that you properly vetted this guy and are in a serious relationship. A lot of video games are designed nowadays to be addictive. Frankly it's not really that hard to manipulate a person's brain(just take a look at advert tactics) and so while the blame does fall on him, it's not necessarily as easy as just unplugging. You also have to consider how much of an impact games had on him throughout his life. If he grew up with them being a major source of entertainment it's pos…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:06 AM
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The amount of red flags in your short post stemming from her makes me uncomfortable. If it were me I would not be pursuing a serious relationship with her. Whether she goes through with it or not this will leave a black cloud between you guys for a long time, even it's only one you can see. Do you really want all the 'good' traits she has to be under that kind of pall after this?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 08:31 AM
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Writers write what they know so I think it's safe to say this is a slice of Martin's life some how lol.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/17 04:44 AM
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women won't turn to them in significant numbers. Not for serious romantic relationships maybe, but for companionship absolutely. As time goes on there's more and more career oriented women(like it or not) and a lot of them don't have much time for the other sex. If you've got the money for a companion like that though I don't see how anyone would turn that down. I think once the cost goes down they're going to be as commonplace as cell phones, and be just as much, if not more varied. Assuming we…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 04:15 AM
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Exactly. OP forgets that handy bit.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 03:56 AM
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Will a robot be able to fill that need for females on the same scale it does for males? So this statement to me suggests that you don't know what the Turing test is. This is a test given to AI where the object is to see if a human can tell if the other 'person' is a human or not. Passing it means that the AI was able to act/react/respond as a human does and the testers were unable to tell it was in fact a robot. This is a huge accomplishment. That said, yes, a robot will absolutely be able to fi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 02:26 AM
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Worth mentioning though that if you're not taking care of yourself properly you'll have nothing to fill their bucket with. A lot of people get into the trap of giving their all to someone else and neglecting themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 10:37 PM
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Well, take a look online. They're already coming out with real life like robots with whom you can actually carry a conversation. Give it a few years and they may be perfected to the point where it would be hard to tell the difference. You're behind the times. They have Realdolls already, and as a woman who has a fairly extensive collection of sex toys I can already say that there's more that enough out there to replace either sex. Strictly from a physical standpoint men are easily out of the equ…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 10:33 PM
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How many of that age range and in those settings as well?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 10:23 PM
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I guess that makes me another exception. I'm married, with the same guy for 5+ years and I'm much the same. He's happy with 1-3/week whereas I'm left to handle myself the rest of the time. I'd also argue that most those women who's libidos seem to take a nosedive were just women faking it to catch the man. Female culture encourages that kind of behavior and I've yet to really see an unattached man that it not only didn't work with, or that seriously turned that type of attention down.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 10:16 PM
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Sidebar is there for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 10:03 PM
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Unless you're trying to pursue marriage no. Serious relationships shouldn't really be had until there's income enough for any potential children imo. Focus on school, getting a scholarship/job, and working on your personal deficiencies, the last of which will crop up when you begin to grow into an adult. Relationships can generally always be had. Your youth and school opportunities will pass you by.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 02:35 AM
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Really is though. Any quality woman will understand that if she steps out of line her man is dumping her marriage or no. Assuming the man is high quality himself and actually means what he says.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 05:22 AM
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Depends on the teasing. I'd say if it's just light jokes that stay within relatively respectful boundaries and are actually humorous then it's not bad. Playful behavior is what keeps a person young and it's mentally stimulating. Depends on the situation too. Some teasing shouldn't be done around groups of friends because that's when you have to provide a united front.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 05:03 PM
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Lust phase, but that doesn't mean it can't be more. Read the sidebar, things from the reading list. If you want to keep this guy you've got to replace the fear of losing him with something productive like working on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 04:59 PM
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It gets very tiring having to be in a relationship where you're having to do everything because your spouse is too much of a pushover. There's no time for nurturing or the real expression of other feminine qualities and people get very burned out without realizing they're doing it to themselves. Or they end up living a fairly empty existence not knowing why they're not happy despite having 'everything they want'. Solved by proper vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 09:06 PM
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Time for (some reading)[https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/5bp1p9/the_unofficial_rpw_reading_list/]. No one here will be able to just give you a summation of what to change in your life. There's also a whole bunch of additional resources in the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 08:56 PM
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Personally I don't see either of those examples as being submissive. They're more like you just giving him those choices so because you want him to choose, and so emulate a feeling like you were actually submissive. Submission is more like STFU when you have the urge to nag, complain, or otherwise butt in to a situation that isn't your business. Submission is letting him lead how he leads, not making him micromanage your nail color and clothing. It's providing a good home environment without nee…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 12:20 AM
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Exactly. OP seems shocked about that though.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 12:10 AM
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They claim they're feminists, but will put a woman down who wants to look feminine! Feminists =/= femininity and female traits.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 07:35 PM
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Don't take it personally. It shouldn't be an earth shattering thing that a guy wants to focus on his career and not you. Also he's right, there will be no time especially if officer school for the AF is anything like that of the Navy. It's up to you whether you want to wait or not. If you have any family who have experience with military marriages now would be the time to talk to them. Relationships with people serving can have many more challenges than civilian ones and it will break people tha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 07:31 PM
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Empowered single by Laura Doyle will probably help you out.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 07:19 PM
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Or is it viewed as unattractive because of social conditioning? I think that it is and there's evidence supporting this when you look at the difference between cultures and beauty standards. I personally think that some women have a little too much hair not to trim it, but I don't think that everyone needs to be bald. As for the pits, that's more of a sanitation issue. Obviously it varies between person but if you have hair you will be smellier just due to the fact that there is higher surface a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/17 07:12 AM
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Just quit buying. It will cost the same amount of money to switch to healthy food, and if you don't believe me google it. There are plenty of price comparisons out there. Yes you won't be eating premium/organic or always the cuts/type of meat you prefer, but a balanced healthy diet can be done on the same budget. /r/EatCheapAndHealthy can help, but also there is plenty you can google. Supermarkets always have sales and deals, which are usually a good thing. Also /r/MealPrepSunday can help if you…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 02:21 AM
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and I am blessed to have a decent metabolism. This is going to fade just like your beauty. If we're being completely honest it probably already is starting to decline. So, if you have any bad habits or food crutches that you are able to get away with because of your metabolism, now is the time to correct them since it will be easier. Weight is determined more by diet than by exercise so if you're eating right in the first place getting to the body you want is infinitely easier. Personally I thin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 12:01 AM
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Bingo.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 07:57 PM
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Also it's worth pointing out that this report was one for TV, which is specifically designed to generate revenue. So the way in which this is all structured is not the same at all as research conducted using the scientific method. I'd like some facts to help explain or support the anecdotes.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 07:32 AM
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You observe his actions. All of them. Alternatively you can weigh his heart against a feather. Much of it is very subjective and also depends on the individual in question. I do think though that there are times when humor can be telling. Obviously finding the same things funny is nice, but then there's also tasteless/violent things that some seem to joke about or find humorous.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 07:05 PM
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Clean, not fat. Also that you can tell some thought went into how he looks. The rest is game and whether or not I'm just looking for socialization or more. There's a million factors that come into play. I think that male RP would lead one to believe that AWALT, so with that logic if you don't pull 100% of the time it's something you did, when it very well could just be due to the chick.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 06:59 PM
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Ran away lol
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 06:49 PM
1

If Vulnerability takes true confidence. Then I would say insecurity isn't the opposite of confidence. It's vulnerability. False.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 06:25 PM
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Well it gave me a laugh. All I wanted was a source and you think I'm making assumptions and attacks lol. From one sentence. This is how wars start you know lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 05:44 PM
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I don't really think that having a good career or having your act together is overwhelmingly due to confidence as your post seems to imply. Also ice queen girl probably comes off as frigid because of a lack of confidence with men so she brings tension not relaxation. Vulnerability requires some form of confidence or at least the fortitude to realize you might get burned and be able to deal with that. Walling yourself off is the opposite of confidence, that's being scared and hiding.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 05:26 PM
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Here's a Youtube excerpt. 9 minutes. Then the source(news article) that was angrily thrown at me lol. Not really a study imo and I'm not sure there's really any science behind it. So as far as real evidence goes it doesn't look like there's any. The word of some marriage counselors, but no way of knowing how many of them were either in the lifestyle or had successful long term relationships under their belts. No names named or fingers pointed at any one of these 'dozens' of counselors.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 05:17 PM
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As I stated, not what I searched for. I'm really confused as to how me saying I couldn't find anything and asking for a source is coming after you but to each their own. Might want to get your touchiness checked out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 05:01 PM
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Any idea how to get my wants organized? Write a list. Organize it. I'm in therapy to stop blaming them and to get over my anger towards them Therapy is just to give you tools to fix yourself and a temporary help. Honestly if you're struggling as much as your post seems to suggest in all of these different aspects, it looks like you're not applying the things you should. Talking to someone, coming here for advice, none of it will make a difference unless you're making a difference for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 07:48 AM
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The first step to getting more out of life is learning to quit blaming your parents for your circumstances. Fine there's things that are their fault sure, but blame is taking up so time you could be doing something productive. Second step is actually making some sort of organization to your goals. You say art teacher, but also want to get a BA/BS in psychology. You say travel, but also making money on art, do you realize how hand to mouth many artists are? I'm not even sure the requirements for …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 06:40 AM
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I'd really like to see a source for your 'very well-researched investigative report' because googling John Stossel and variations of open relationship/marriage study yields nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 06:25 AM
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Scheduled sex....Just like scheduling appointments with the OB/GYN.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 06:13 AM
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You probably won't have complete access to these, but the articles have a basic summary that is available to the public to view. I'm sure you could also google for news articles if you wanted. Source 1 Source 2 Source 3 Source 4 The link between fat cells and mood isn't the most direct. It has to do with the chemicals that they are responsible for(adipokines), which help you regulate your eating(ironically enough), and work in tandem with your liver. When you're overweight you produce more of th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 05:42 PM
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I think you might be right that it lies in the low confidence that the extra weight brings. It's not only this but the fat cells can also change how positive your thoughts are, as well as your gut bacteria. Both of those things can alter your brain chemistry and make you feel more down than normal, so more likely to make poor food choices. There's also a lot of fitness things you can do for curves /r/xxfitness has plenty of stuff if you need inspiration. Good luck on your journey!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 02:35 AM
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Frustration.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 09:04 PM
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I'm not going to pull my punches with this one and it will probably come across as a little harsh. Femininity for me includes an aspect of gracefulness, which is hard to envision when one is overweight. The limitations from the extra baggage is only putting a damper on things both physically and mentally. In some regards it's also a physical representation of where your priorities are and how diligent you are with the care of yourself. The fact is that behaviors that cause one to be overweight a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 09:02 PM
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Glad to help!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 07:19 AM
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Attraction changes over time for everyone. It would be safe to assume that yes, your sex drive will diminish. Human nature is also one of complacency to some extent as well. I mean look at why dread works.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 05:11 AM
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These two things specifically stand out to me. You don't listen to me and motivate me like you use to. That absolutely is a job of yours and he's making it no secret that it's missing. This needs to be worked on ASAP. A listening ear isn't that hard to provide, neither is a little cheerleading from the sidelines. No fixing or advice giving unless he specifically asks. No one respects me here. Respect is one of the life bloods of the common male. Lack of it causes all sorts of issues, as you're s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 05:08 AM
1

Figure out if a library near you has the reading material, or buy your own. The investment to learn is worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:46 PM
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What's the best next thing to do? Stop saying "I didn't need an answer right away" or anything mentioning that you need an answer. Despite trying to make that sound like it's not putting pressure on him, saying it all is only increasing the pressure. It's almost a nag, albeit a low key one. So if you really don't need that answer soon, leave it alone completely. Cut off some toes if that will help remind you to shut it. I frankly wouldn't start the conversation again and would wait on him. If yo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 06:34 AM
1

Pretty much rule number one is to not talk trash to anyone about your spouse ever. It's enough to say that things are rough or that you've been arguing, but even that can be very borderline especially if you never have anything positive to say to those people about your spouse. They get a very one sided picture and it's a really shitty one. The one time I would say that it would be worth breaking this rule is if you're being abused and need help getting out. Otherwise everything is only between …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 06:15 AM
1

Ew is right. But that includes oatmeal for me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:08 AM
1

I get that it's focused on improving your smv and rmv too Looks like you have more digesting to do ahead of you. RP values go much deeper than simply smv and rmv. The subreddits do focus on the relationship side, but there's much more out there.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 11:30 PM
1

Sure beats eating wheat bran.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 11:17 PM
2

Here's a whole slew of things that should be read. Plus all of the side bar. The information is all there, we can't spoon feed you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 06:17 PM
3

It really sounds like you have no idea where your own boundaries are. Every relationship is different and preferences between people will differ. If something is causing harm in the relationship and the person doing the harming knows, it's abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 06:13 PM
8

Blackberries. For free. Everywhere. I've already picked 6 pounds of them, eaten 1.5 of that, and this is just the start of the season.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 03:22 AM
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I like kids, but only other peoples' children. I have no desire to have one of my own, although maybe one day I'd adopt. My life just isn't focused on children and I'm not interested. I am much happier surrounded by animals and the fruits of my labor. Frankly I don't have the time for a child in the midst of that. My husband feels the same way. My life is very fulfilling as is and although people say children are the most fulfilling thing, I honestly don't see it. Adoption on the other hand make…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 11:39 PM
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Insecurity uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence. Fear, low self worth, depression; if any of those drive a person or cause them to express themselves a certain way it's insecurity. This is also seen in controlling people because the need for control stems from fear. Insecure people tend to be unable to be placated and their perspective is rooted firmly in their fear so even when faced with logic to help dispel their fears they reject it. Their insecurity is the right/correct …
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 11:31 PM
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Vulnerability shouldn't be confused with insecurity. The former is what men are attracted to. The later becomes unattractive quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 07:54 PM
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Still a kernel of truth in there though. Red pill wouldn't exist if men weren't separated from what it is to be one. Low blow for sure but women fight dirtiest when it feels like things are getting out of control. If you get burned badly enough, you'll be afraid of birthday candles. And with that logic(or lack of) it then follows that fighting dirty will ultimately get us what we want. I think most women have been taught that punishment is more effective, whether by society or bad relationships,…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 07:24 PM
1

War and battles for control are much less effective if the enemy knows your plans beforehand.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 07:05 PM
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None of us here can really give you a road map. Frankly I'd start working through the reading material because that will help you clarify things for yourself as well as give you a strong base to work with, whether or not you move forward with him. As for what you should do in the short term, I don't think anything bad will happen from going cautiously rather than flinging yourself into the fray.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 06:48 PM
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I want break up but I cannot do it because I am so codependent on him. Work on being more independent. You're not happy now with him and that's not going to change unless he does which looks really doubtful. Eventually you'll resent his underachieving even more than now. You can't get the time back that you spend with this guy. If it were me I'd find an upgraded version.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 12:35 AM
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The simple explanation to this is that most people marry the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Many people as well have gone through life with a lack of respect shown to them so they fail to really recognize and value it when it jumps up and smacks them in the face.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:20 PM
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Pretty sure this isn't the only study either. I heard about this years ago and it's one of the reasons I don't do hormonal birth control. Anything that messes with your brain that deep isn't something I want to put into my body.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 04:40 AM
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You need National Eating Disorders Association assuming you're in the US. If you're not then you need to find your country's equivalent and get proper help from counselors that specifically work with eating disorders.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 04:16 AM
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There's also the expectations that people are generally fed about what to expect in a marriage. Your spouse can't and shouldn't be your everything and somehow it seems like many people go into relationships with that attitude. It's saddening.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 09:20 PM
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Seems to be the latter plus others subscribing to the belief that it's not their problem or something that affects them. To generalize I think it's safe to assume that most people don't even take the time to really evaluate themselves as a person or think on their actions. So when it comes to expectations in relationships that's a huge factor. People compromise rather than think, maybe the issue is with me and my standards. And one day they don't even remember who they used to be because they've…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 09:09 PM
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You voicing that worry won't help with that. Your worry won't just pop into his head and remind him to self care. If you notice that it's been a while since he has, just suggest he take some in that moment. Give him a beer, give him a massage or a bj. Those are all at least ten times more useful than burdening him with this intangible worry.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 05:33 AM
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Trust that he'll come to you. Suggesting that he won't is pretty much saying that he won't know what's good for him or what he needs. Get control of your hamster.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 04:57 AM
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With what specifically?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 04:24 AM
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Men don't worry in the same way that women do. You have to trust that he will ask for your support if he needs it. I would not voice this concern of yours because it could be seen as a bit undermining. He knows what's good for him. In the future if he looks stressed you can always ask him about how he feels or what he needs.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 04:20 AM
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that will lower your anxiety As well as hers so she doesn't have to sit there wondering what a huge mistake she made and whether or not she's wasting her time.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 02:07 AM
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Try not to be hard on yourself for past actions. You are young and in those years were still growing into an adult. Any progress in the right direction is progress and focusing on that fact will help. Best of luck to you both.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 06:46 PM
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On top of that if you're using retinoids those make your skin more sensitive to the sun too, so if you're not using protection you're essentially undoing any benefit you'd be seeing from the products.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 06:26 PM
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Holy cow guys, NO ONE has mentioned sunscreen!!! The sun is the number one factor in making your skin age. If you're not wearing protection, whether a hat, sunglasses, or sunscreen you're asking for wrinkles and sunspots. So in addition to developing a good morning and night routine, you absolutely need sunscreen.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 04:48 PM
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If you haven't read some of Laura Doyle's books, absolutely do so. They should provide some really good insight with this. If you have, reread. Really you have to try to be hands off. The more you try to steer the ship, the more he will let you because of the emasculation your attitude and actions are communicating. If you're constantly sending the message that he's incapable, that's what he'll become. there is no on/off switch for these kind of worries and anxieties. Self care greatly helps as …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 04:41 PM
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I waited to step in until it was 'emergency' mode. How emergency? Stepping in is stepping in. I mean were you guys going to be homeless the next day? If so what are you doing with a guy that's repeatedly shown that he won't provide when he needs to? It's kind of tricky to know what exactly you mean. On the one hand if this guy isn't capable of stepping up when he needs to and relies on you to do so, he won't be able to change because he's never going to need to. If he legitimately can't provide …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 04:10 PM
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If anything, doesn't this just confirm that women are much more socially and sexually aware than men? The culture is just different. There's many other things that men are better versed in than any woman. We're designed to compliment each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 05:28 AM
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Some people are just dicks. Some of my husband's circle of friends are similar to what OP described. They either ignore me or sexually harassed me, the latter behind his back. Of course by shutting down the harassment I got labeled a bitch and now all of them do the former. Definitely not ideal.
/r/askMRP14/07/17 10:57 PM
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I don't take the lead then we wouldn't eat or have the bills paid. Is this a fact or an assumption? he exhibits negative alpha traits which in turn make me comfort test No one is making you anything. You let yourself fall into those habits. None of us are perfect so yes mistakes will happen, but practice will make you better. The last thing he needs on his bad days are you acting up, or changing the dynamic by taking the lead. The latter might actually be encouraging his beta behavior because he…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 10:25 PM
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is that she is too full. This is really uncomfortable just FYI and having everything getting sloshed around too violently will definitely make you nauseated. Even worse if you're unhealthy and have ulcers or heartburn. That said, if she wanted to bone your brains out more than she wanted to overeat, she would eat less or try to structure sex around meals. Overall though it is a pretty lame excuse because she could just as easily wait an hour or two for things to settle and then screw you. When a…
/r/askMRP14/07/17 08:44 PM
1

that's up to the boy/man on his own. So with no examples to measure himself by are you suggesting that a boy will somehow just be a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 07:17 PM
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With that we're in agreement.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 07:09 PM
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Actually my comment if you go read it is that no woman will be able to make a boy into a man. The repetition from outside sources isn't enough. If it were society as a whole would reflect that, but it doesn't. The proof is in how feminized men are. That's absolutely factual. You just have to look around lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 07:05 PM
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So you're saying that those people all lived with you, provided one on one care and attention that you would have had from a father figure 24/7? The hours spent with those people, while helpful is not a good replacement for an actual parent. If it were that's what we'd do with orphans. No need for real fathers or mothers lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 06:49 PM
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Which are found in adulthood, not boyhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 06:45 PM
1

I don't see how you think another person's guilt could be bullshit. When my husband says he doesn't see the point of something I enjoy doing, I'm less inclined to do that thing and after a while of him harping on me about it, yes I feel guilty about wanting to do whatever it is. I'm not saying they can't have a good time at home, just pointing out that she could have guilt.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 06:44 PM
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Motivations yes, perspective no. Unless you've lived it you can't truly gain a perspective. It's like saying just because you learned about ancient cultures you have the perspectives of those people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 06:38 PM
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What are you trying to achieve specifically? Just growing more as a person. I'm already married so no, not meeting anyone. True, but it's reasonable to assume certain things. You'll be happier overall, improve your reputation among peers, feel less stressed, be more productive, raise your confidence, have a better social experience (dating, mingling with acquaintances, friends). This is the part that I was talking about. I'd like to know the changes now lol. Don't have a crystal ball yet though.…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 01:18 AM
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Goals was probably the wrong term. They're open ended goals I guess. Like if I develop these habits and stick to them, the coming years will be better. But in an intangible sense. Like if you're nicer or work on improving yourself or what have you, you don't really know where you'll actually end up, just a general sense of better. So that's what I struggle with. It's silly because the actual act of doing what I need to do is relatively easy and comes naturally. Yet I'm still impatient about need…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 01:01 AM
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It's more to do with long term life things. I want the goals of next year to be here already. I don't have issues with day to day patience.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 12:51 AM
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Not what I said nor what I was suggesting. If that's what you'd like to interpret go ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 12:49 AM
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I don't think you know how perspectives work. If reading something was enough for anyone to magically gain the perspective of someone, the world would be a vastly different place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 12:38 AM
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I think you may want to look at the crime statistics that feature black males as well as their aptitudes in education. Wouldn't call either of those doing quite well at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 12:36 AM
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He could find his own father figure Absolutely, but not as a child. So from a young age he really won't be getting taught how he should. If on the off chance he does get a proper role model he'll be behind and depending on his character that might be enough of a set back to turn him off from pursuing his masculinity properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 12:35 AM
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It's not found in a woman's mind is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 12:32 AM
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Nope. The necessary experience and knowledge on male culture and perspective isn't there. Same is true in the reverse. Fathers can only teach their daughters how to be treated by men, not how to be women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 12:17 AM
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It has more to do with family structures imo. No woman will ever be able to teach a boy how to be a man. Without their fathers a male child has no choice in the matter but to develop in a more feminized fashion. There's no one to show them explicitly and repetitively how they should be. Of course there's probably exceptions here and there, but very very rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 12:12 AM
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She just has no idea how to do things alone or make herself happy. Essentially you're getting used for that purpose by her and I highly doubt you command any of her respect. If you've made boundaries back them up. The more you puff yourself up about them and fail to follow through, the less value you'll have to her in every aspect. More likely than not she's probably still with you just out of the sake of convenience. Personally she doesn't seem like she'd be worth the effort to keep around or t…
/r/askMRP12/07/17 12:08 AM
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"Wanna see it from a different angle?" Then grab and kiss. Or start with sex. A compliment can be just a compliment, and although wives/women do a lot of covert things, not all of them are. Can you imagine how stressful and tiring that would be if they were? "this guy didn't even care that I gave him a compliment that he begged for for years, what a dick." Pretty sure if you've married at least a semi decent woman this isn't what she's thinking. If it's been that long since she's said something …
/r/askMRP11/07/17 08:44 AM
1

Any particular brand?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 08:31 AM
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I feel like he started creating the distance first Look at this. Are you really trying to justify your bad behavior with his? Did he force you to do what you did? Absolutely not. You made a conscious choice and have been doing so for weeks. Like I said, break up. His behavior is shit and yours isn't much better here either. Please take the vetting process more seriously next time so you don't get put into this position again. There's a lot of work and healing to be done that you won't be able to…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 12:58 AM
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They're not even long books FYI. Personally I think any good husband that's having wife problems and it's clear that she needs help, should get one of these for her to read. The majority of women don't even realize they have issues or that they are contributing to the problems. Odds are that the woman probably isn't going to find this material or similar things herself because of upbringing and just blue pill influences. I don't mean she won't try, but rather even if she does, there's a sea of b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 12:45 AM
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Rollerblading will give you a fabulous ass and legs. It's great.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 12:25 AM
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Time to invest in some of Laura Doyle's books or reread them if you have them. It feels like you're leading, because you are. Like it or not, you've slowly forced him out of that role and taught him to be more submissive to you, probably because in some ways he feels like he can't win. If you never win or do things right, why not let someone else do so who is more capable? This is often would happen over time to anyone. So you've got to work on yourself with this and sort of lead him into leadin…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 12:20 AM
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Do yourself a favor and break up with him. It's clear that you're not in a place right now to deal with your feelings. If it's really taking both a mental and physical toll you need to get yourself right before you can ever hope to tackle issues that aren't with just you. Right now continuing to do what you're doing is driving a wedge in between the two of you that will be pretty damn difficult to repair. How can he be expected to trust you properly after this kind of stunt? Why would he want to…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 12:12 AM
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If there's no trust, then there's no relationship, right? Trust, respect, and communication are pillars that hold up any relationship, intimate or otherwise. You absolutely have good cause not to trust him and frankly he isn't really trying to make himself out to be a trustworthy person. I wouldn't marry him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 06:36 PM
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I don't see a lot of point in spending $30+ on a main meal I can make at home for under $15. Also she probably feels guilt about wanting to go out especially since OP's view on it. No one likes to feel like a burden and this is common behavior reflecting that. In a sense she's looking for permission to enjoy herself.
/r/askMRP10/07/17 06:25 PM
1

Yes, and to piggyback on that boasting is also something that's disgustingly piglike in this regard. If a man sits there and can't keep his trap shut about how many women he's stuck his dick in that pretty much lowers his value to zero no matter the other factors.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 04:55 AM
2

Reading through the sidebar should help. There's some archived posts about this very thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 04:49 AM
2

Just to make it clear as to why, comfort tests come from places of vulnerability. If your spouse is opening up to you about feelings like this, 99% of the time it's a comfort test. No one wanting to fight starts with their heart bared. Of course how you react can turn it into a shit test. No one likes to be rejected or punished for being open with their feelings and will defend themselves. Usually any spitefulness or disrespect comes at the end when they feel that you haven't reacted in the appr…
/r/askMRP09/07/17 04:37 AM
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Complete comfort test. I have never been so sad for so long. Almost 2 years now and i don't feel more settled or happy. Yes, i have moments of happiness, but the sad moment are much more and i don't think that's how it's supposed to be. Needs comfort. you don't think about me, about what makes me happy, about what i want. It has been like that for a while now, this is not the first time i tell you this. Asking for comfort, points out this isn't the first time either. aren't they supposed to brin…
/r/askMRP09/07/17 04:22 AM
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That's one of the sticking points I have with some of the advice that gets given. A lot of what's said seems to be aiming for 100% alpha behavior, when a good mix of beta traits is required for relationships. No woman will be with a man that has only alpha traits.
/r/askMRP09/07/17 04:07 AM
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a woman who is incompetent/doesn't use their intellect Some of them can't help it. They slept in the day the brains were handed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/17 01:02 AM
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I actually make my own because the one that I used to buy I can't get in stores here. The mustard I make uses a blend of black mustard and regular white seeds, so it's a little more spicy than a plain mustard. You pretty much just grind them, mix in some water, salt, and whatever other spices you might want. Some people use vinegar instead of water, but it really depends on the flavors you're after. To be fair I don't think I've ever really had an American style mustard bought from a store that'…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 12:58 AM
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Adults can say no and express when something is happening to them that hurts. If he didn't or didn't remove himself from that situation, it is his fault. No magical fairy is going to come down and fix the situation. I'd blame the chick too if the situation was reversed. I mean geez people speak the fuck up when you need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/17 08:00 PM
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Some of them are so much better than others.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 07:52 PM
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women who are pushovers and have no standards or respect for themselves. Not submission, just doormats. This kind of thing used as an example of submission is really fairly irksome because it really implies that at one time the person being used wouldn't have allowed that at one time. Submission to someone is a gift. Not being beat down or forcing yourself to accept the rule of someone else. If you don't have trust, respect, and the motivation to be submissive for a person you shouldn't. If you …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 07:22 PM
1

Add mustard and it's perfect!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 06:48 PM
1

It's also worth mentioning that you should also follow through. I've been in situations before where I was pretty much waiting to get boned by the guy and had been teased like this, but then he never actually would screw me. Got really boring and unattractive fast. The playfulness always was soured by that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 06:13 AM
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You may find that she is much happier when you aren't orbiting her, obsessing over her, living for her. This is my experience too. It's absolutely suffocating at times. Having to play puppet master in a relationship will absolutely kill it. No thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 06:04 AM
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Why spend money on this if you live in such a poor neighborhood? Poor neighborhoods are depressing. Looking pretty and primping is distracting from that and usually brings happiness. It can also attract or keep a guy so the benefits of working on this for a female outweigh the negatives. I know women will always go the extra mile to look good This isn't always true. Some women have very set miles they'll go and no interest in extras.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 06:41 PM
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The part that's most interesting to me is that this is probably the first time I've really seen(haven't been active her long though) any clear male avocation or encouragement of female self care. If anything it'll also help your woman be more comfortable with actually relaxing and taking time for herself, which is something a lot of us are encouraged not to do before getting everything else done. As I'm sure many males are familiar with, the burned out harpy of a person appears eventually. So if…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 06:34 PM
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Why do women lacking in self control find men lacking in self control to be a turn off? This went completely over your head and it completely gives you an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 01:56 AM
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Yup. Too bad without proper marriages it's hard to have those male role models around consistently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 01:21 AM
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OP is a slightly confused person I gather.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 01:14 AM
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It has to do with the break down of family and the lack of proper role models. Boys cannot be raised into men by women, just like a man can never raise a girl into a woman and teach her how to be feminine. Boys learn which traits they prefer from their mothers, in general, just like girls learn how to be properly treated by men from her father. Families that are lacking either parent often raise children that are a bit lopsided in certain regards. I also think this occurs in families that are no…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 01:12 AM
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Because overindulging is unattractive. Women are already generally fairly attractive to begin with so why would a person devalue themselves by not exerting a little self control? Self control isn't a negative thing. You're the caretaker of yourself and being able to have good control skills promotes a good ability to give yourself proper care.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 01:07 AM
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So I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to keep yourself up and hit your physical goals, but something you should be aware of is that older women pretty much have to rely on their relationship value and not looks since that's a finite resource. but at times I feel that our relationship is stale and terse. I do try very hard to please him, but at times I find myself getting irritable and wanting to be left alone (I'm an introvert) and he's always wanting more time with me (he's an extrovert), an…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 10:50 PM
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True
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 09:05 PM
1

We had a few bumps in the beginning but I do everything she has asked within the scope of the contract. My husband has done things as well within the scope of the contract. Sounds like they're pulling the weight agreed to. Yet she still feels the need to practically berate me for the things she thinks her son and I are not doing. Emphasis on MIL thinks things aren't happening, not knows. Then berating comes into play, which is never good. I need to tell him what to do and then when I tell her th…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 07:20 PM
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Nagging is never the answer no matter who it's coming from. MIL is an adult and shouldn't be playing games of 'tell your husband' when that is in fact her son. It's entirely possible that OP and her spouse are failing in some regard, but that absolutely don't justify a need for them to suck it up from her.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 06:56 PM
1

The book will help greatly if she actually reads it. There's a lot of information about getting your desires out and more effective communication.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 07:03 AM
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That some probably isn't nearly enough. I still stand by that this is completely her issue. Empowered Wife would be enlightening and if she's mainstream/BP probably more palatable a title from the go than Surrendered Wife. My view is that her partner is only basically showing her one language I don't know where you're getting your view from, but unless you've been a 24/7 fly on the wall there will be pieces missing that could be fairly critical. There has to be complete surety that these issues …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 06:15 AM
1

When you're busy giving all your fucks to self improvement, there's none left to give elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:06 AM
2

I have a working hypothesis that the strongest love languages a person feels is either the main way they were shown love growing up, or it's something they were possibly denied. As a result they have a lopsided sense of how love is expressed. This is what I think as well. I also agree that it's hard to adjust, but I mean at least knowing where the issue truly lies is the first step in the right direction. The game of life does have a steep learning curve after all, but the rewards are pretty awe…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 06:04 AM
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If a man sticks around upon learning about her unfortunate circumstance after the first or second date, isn't that a good sign for her? Not necessarily. The guy might actually see this as a good chance to prey on her and turn this into a pump and dump. The ones that get scared away usually are uncomfortable because guys aren't the best with dealing with feelings like this on the spot. A conversation like this will be the last thing on their minds and a complete blindside which is what's unfair t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 05:58 AM
3

I'm sorry but I really think that love languages is kind of a load of bologna. Yes there's different ways to express love and sure there's ways that are more obvious to individuals, but there's absolutely no reason that someone can't learn to see and appreciate things just as much as the rest. Practicing gratitude, mindfulness, and being receptive is what needs to happen here, much more than trying to coerce one's spouse to provide more of a certain thing because you can't see the forest for the…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 05:43 AM
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I need to tell him what to do Tell her to unknot her panties and tell him herself. Do not let her suck you into her poor attitude of nagging and shrew behavior. Your husband and you may need to gang up on her with a united front to get the point across. I wouldn't speak to her often without your husband there as well if you can manage it because it looks like both of you need to watch your backs a little.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 05:29 AM
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I'd argue that it would be relatively improper for a first or second date even if it did organically come up. A story like this is very personal and even if OP is ready to share it, the listeners generally won't be ready for this kind of bombshell that early.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 05:26 AM
3

Why in did you expect this to change now though? Putting a ring on it and giving the kitchen a face lift will not make someone more apt to cook. Sure sure cooking is a nice favor she could be doing for you, but why should she really? It sounds like she's already getting everything she wants from you and doesn't need to put in the extra effort. Whatever is stopping her is stronger than any good feelings she'd get from the cooking, hence the excuses and other garbage. Even then I can't imagine tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 01:31 AM
2

The word submission conjures such an extreme image in my head of superiority and subjugation. Someone crushing another person underfoot, etc. I associate this more with domineering/domination and just weakness(of the antagonist) in general. The need to have control really does come out of fear of some sort and it's not power. Submission exchanged with a partner should be a gift. It's also extremely hard to do 100% of the time. Everyone has their irrational peanut gallery in their head that's giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 11:55 PM
9

I don't even know what the hell you mean when you say 'initiate intimacy'. There's about a billion things that could mean and although sex is an intimate act, it's not what's coming to my mind when you say intimacy. If a guy has his arm around me and we're sitting together after a romantic evening, enjoying a sunset like the love struck saps we are, it doesn't matter if he thinks the next move is sex and that I should be doing something about his hard-on. Why the hell aren't I taking the next st…
/r/askMRP05/07/17 08:29 PM
2

People who have power over others often abuse it and people who give up power are prone to feeling used or devalued. Submission is earned, not blindly given. Those who don't properly vet their partners will be used and will feel used because in fact they are. No one buys a car without test driving it, and the same should be with relationships. Frankly I think there's a lot of people that don't know themselves well enough to get in relationships in the first place. Like they don't really know wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 07:51 PM
1

he'll have to push down her feelings of exasperation and knowledge that he didn't lead them out. Doormat she wanted but not her own self-esteem or sense of self. Doormat The woman knows the way out. The man doesn't The mistake was already made of getting lost. The wife's job isn't to sit back and die with her child and husband and let the ship sink. However she also shouldn't sit there and nag by saying 'Don't you think this would be better?' to prevent to getting lost in the first place. The ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 05:33 AM
0

Submission doesn't mean lack of self or being a doormat like the woman you described. No wonder you had such a bad time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 05:08 AM
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who needed mummy's help This is control. Not submission. If you had been submitting then he would have been free to make his mistakes without your help. Submission is hands free. Yes definitely not for everyone, but what you're describing was not true submission.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 04:36 AM
1

Yeah, just look down and you'll find a crowd of them licking your heels. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 04:30 AM
6

Being submissive doesn't mean you aren't allowed to have an opinion or have to be a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 04:28 AM
1

Ass kissing and worship lol. Fawning and scraping men that come in crawling on their bellies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 04:23 AM
1

What are some good ways to cultivate patience in general?
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 11:10 PM
1

Arguably IQ isn't that hard to change imo, and a really poor comparison to hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 05:02 PM
6

Lumping all the housework on one day can make it seem never ending. I'm doing it all week and to me it really seems to be a lot easier. I have it all broken up and it hardly seems like work anymore. I leave my husband notes in his lunches sometimes as a surprise. Takes a second to write out a thoughtful feeling/encouragement and probably stays with him the whole day.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/17 09:36 PM
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It absolutely does. For the former, money and power are things women consider, which boil down to sexual fitness. How fit is this person to support and provide for my children and my future? How likely am I to not starve or be abandoned by this person? With the latter someone is still making the choice and it's coming from the same place, how fit is the candidate to be a good match and do right by my children or whatever. I know there's also different cultural factors also, but even then those t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 11:15 PM
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What are you trying to say? The length of time that we have recorded history of is waaaaay too short of a time for something big like hypergamy to change in meaningful and noticeable ways. Not really sure what people's parents have to do with any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 10:49 PM
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It's because of emotional shit. Or as they say 'genetics' and being 'big boned' lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 08:14 PM
1

I disagree somewhat because I think it's entirely possible to present one with all the negatives of whatever addiction they face, as well as point them to help. Even going as far as giving them the resources to get help. But the vast majority of the people who 'want' to change don't. The truth of the matter is that they want a quick fix which doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 08:08 PM
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The thing you forget is that evolution is much slower than the short while that that hasn't been the case. So yes it's still in play even in modern times.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 08:05 PM
2

I think of AWALT in terms of cooking. If you have a chicken dish, the base is going to be a damn chicken no matter how you slice it. But two equally difficult dishes that are made with chicken can be pretty far on a spectrum from each other. No one can say that a chicken curry is the same as some chicken ravioli. Just like food, people can be shit or they can be great. They make you feel like they limit your chances of self-improvement and change and they limit your chances of other people viewi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 07:52 PM
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Personally I think we are the slaves of our biology. Both sexes are. Which is why hypergamy exists. Only the most successful offspring survive, and one can't have those without first choosing the most successful partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 07:43 PM
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Is there a way to get this across to the people who believe otherwise without them feeling attacked? Nope. People will always cling to what which makes them feel good and look on those things in a more positive light than is necessarily good for them. I mean look how hard it is to get overweight people to change their lives, when they have more concrete proof of negative consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 07:34 PM
2

Time to go camping for a week or something with nothing but a burner phone. Disconnecting even for that short a while can be really refreshing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 07:30 PM
1

Real panty moistening tactics there lol.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 07:14 PM
1

She is worried, so then she's trying to control by nudging you to do things that are your responsibility. In her mind this probably comes from a place of 'helpfulness', but in reality all control of this type is from fear. Even if those things are irrational, there's still an underlying fear there, that you may be contributing to or have contributed to in the past. Whether she thinks those things aren't going to get done or whatnot, there's a fear in there. She doesn't want to have to do your ch…
/r/askMRP30/06/17 07:09 PM
2

Life definitely can get boring without drama. Bonus points if she couldn't walk the next day. That kind of thing always gives me something to think about when my spouse is away.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 06:46 PM
1

How long you think that's gonna keep happening before she decided you're not worth the effort? I somehow doubt that this is the first time OP has responded with petty behavior, hence the flying off the handle by the SO. Similar has probably happened while they were together too.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 06:38 PM
2

Fitting in is just another lie that a lot of people tell themselves. Sure it's nice to fit in when you need to, or at least know how, but striving for that 100% of the time is idiocy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 06:46 PM
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How exactly do you figure a "better" answer would make you feel better? What life changing thing would really happen? Imo regardless of the answer you'd be given you'd find something else to obsess over like this. I mean in the most perfect situation imaginable what would be the exact answer you "deserve" from him that would erase all of the feelings you've felt around this subject?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 06:40 PM
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I feel like if one holds that view then you're devaluing what is an important part of an intimate relationship. Sex is what makes a committed relationship different than any other relationship one can have with another person. So to say 'I don't care if my spouse is getting that intimacy elsewhere' it's belittling the relationship. I don't think it has much to do with jealousy either, but from an intimacy perspective it's problematic. In the end I think it would ultimately cause loss of respect …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/17 08:38 PM
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I think it also depends a lot of circumstance too. For example I have a military background so that period really pared down the number of outside friends I had. Once out, it can be difficult to maintain the friendship of those still in. So large amount of people just drifting away in my life because of that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 02:59 AM
3

Ever see any animal with a mating ritual? Humans may not have one that's 100% set, but since we're animals it does follow that there is some ritual. I don't know that I would consider it being tricked. Just that the right buttons were pushed at the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/17 06:52 AM
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That's what I thought.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/06/17 01:43 AM
3

I don't have children, at 1 and 2 they're not big enough to exit when ready right?
/r/PussyPassDenied26/06/17 12:01 AM
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I think it gives them the tools to get on that path. When you look at the reading material and the sidebar those are the various tools to get you started. Not every tool is for that purpose, and you may have to find others when one doesn't quite work for you. In the end though it's up to the individual to use them and to tailor them to what he needs. Are there other ways to figure things out for oneself? Absolutely, and probably work just as well if the person in question is motivated. The probl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 11:56 PM
1

I think it can help separate the wheat from the chaff definitely. If a man is strong enough to own his shit, and take care of himself, that alone already makes him more attractive. Why would I want a partner who seems to be inept or is blaming other factors besides themselves for their own problems? I don't want a baby or a child as a husband. I'd like a man please. We all have our different preferences and mine aren't geared towards having to coddle another adult or handhold through things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 05:24 PM
1

Meaning OP
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 03:53 AM
1

Wasn't talking about others though. Thanks for reminding me about 'paste eater' that's a good one lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 03:44 AM
2

Did you see this person's question? They literally want to know how to bandy around some obscure 'commitment' and whether or not that will land them a fuckbuddy. If they knew the workings of a relationship they'd probably be in one or at least not asking questions like what's been posed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 03:41 AM
1

Ask your successful friends. Read a book. Google. Online dating/apps. It's really not hard, and frankly at this point you're just trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 03:37 AM
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If someone has never been in one, they don't even know the first damn thing on what commitment in a relationship would be. Lying to people about what you're bringing to the table is a cheap move and ultimately not productive if you want positive experiences that are more than a pump and dump.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 03:35 AM
1

How about not try to build a relationship on a lie first and gain some experience. Everyone at one point has been in a position where they've never had a relationship. Jump in or become a hermit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 03:29 AM
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How can he offer commitment really if he's never had any prior experience on what that is? Women are good at sniffing out lies, and your friend is going to smell from a mile away.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 03:26 AM
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"I'm going to say this only once, don't ever threaten to take my kids away again, or you will regret it." This should have been the end of it. Last few days I've been distant. She asks if I'm still mad(I explained later that the argument was her fault for escalating her tone and that it was unacceptable)... I tell her yes. Today she tries to initiate flirting and I put up with it for a minute and walk away. You instead chose to extend the issue and devalue your own original words and conviction.…
/r/askMRP25/06/17 03:25 AM
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Yes. According to my husband it never goes well. He's there much more than I, although I've witnessed fights as well between them. They just fight and she's always making remarks to cut him down, no matter where they are. Even if he doesn't do the chores she doesn't do them. The wife just disgusts me with her behavior. I mean I know there's times when we're all assholes when we shouldn't be to people we shouldn't, but it's ceaseless with her. You don't know how thrilled I would be if somehow he …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 11:02 PM
1

The kids especially, one is a girl and I think she's going to grow up to be her mother. Idk what's going to happen with the boy. I don't really know if his dad does 'boy' things with him. I've never seen any of them play together.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 10:39 PM
2

This guy pretty much can't even wipe his own ass in peace. There is no way he'd be able to do RP. He is waaaaaay too beaten down. He's drinking himself down the drain. Really unfortunate because from my perspective he really has/had nice qualities plus is a very hard worker, so RP could work if he was receptive. But he's not. Rather drink like a fish. Makes it kind of hard when he's around with my husband because I find it difficult to have any respect for him. Just wanna grab him and shake some…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 10:37 PM
1

Most FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 07:51 PM
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I bring it up, he'd know it's because I don't trust him and I'd want to snoop. This is exactly why asking for transparency isn't an an option here. Don't you see the damage that would do to your relationship? You'd be using it for the express purpose of being nosy, so undermining, and trying to hide it in a package of being something good. In some cases transparency, such as with finances, can work, but your intent is to weaponize this, against your own partner. If you can't find yourself able t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 07:50 PM
3

speaking womanese This is probably the biggest mistake that a lot of guys seem to make. Nothing with a woman is out of the blue, not ever. Whatever it is has been on our minds for a while and in general we either try to wait for it to go away/resolve itself, or we drop hints and then finally when the pressure is too much, blurt it out. Part of why we're so good at making mountains out of molehills.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 07:40 PM
1

I'd say when you leave it and get overwhelmed maybe? Or when all you do is clean and never take a break for yourself.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 07:31 PM
1

The fat part and the self esteem issues are probably pretty hard to overcome for her too because it's a circular problem. What a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 06:49 PM
1

You'd probably be pretty crap at a police photo lineup then.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 06:37 PM
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unsure of what they want/how to solve their personal problems, seeking another person to help them figure it out, failing repeatedly because that's their job and not someone else's I think this is probably one of the biggest issues with people in general. No one wants to own their shit, and putting in the work into fixing said shit takes more effort and discipline than just ignoring it or blaming it on 'not me'.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 06:35 PM
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One of my husband's friends is in pretty much marriage hell. No one can stand the wife and frankly I have no idea why they ever married(having not known her beforehand). The husband is an ok guy, he's just been beaten down by her so much that all he does at this point is drink and whine about the problems. He's completely emasculated and it's so saddening to me because this is a vicious cycle. He can't dig himself out of the hole. He reminds me of an abused dog and it's heartbreaking. His wife i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 06:33 PM
1

I've known about TRP for well over a year, but generally stayed away(and continue to do so). To me TRP(specifically the subreddit) is completely a male area and I have no business there. This means that I don't talk to him about it, ever. Sometimes this is a little hard, but in those times I successfully stop myself by thinking about RPW and what my role is and what I can be doing better as well as what I should be focusing on. His challenges and things are on his paper, not mine. It is up to hi…
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:34 PM
4

I somehow naturally follow a similar routine. My list is things that I'd like to get done because I enjoy the outcome, not any sort of strict never ending list of chores that have to get done. I've realized that with most things the world isn't going to start turning backwards if I don't get everything done or if something is not quite right.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 04:03 PM
1

Yes. I was raised by older parents in a more traditional European influenced household. Gave me a head start on female RP.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 03:58 PM
1

There are always signs. Probably just not in a language you're used to or things you dismissed or blew off.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 03:44 PM
1

Not the best wording on my part but frankly I was unable to come up with a more concise way of asking at the time. Thanks for the explanation.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 01:06 AM
1

Do you think that the potential of danger is lessened if the man is with a woman that also practices female red pill values?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 11:53 PM
3

Shit tests are just maintenance. Your wife has to know if you're 'good enough' and she has to know all the time. They shouldn't stop if she sees value in you. If they do, then she doesn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 11:30 PM
3

Probably why you're getting walked all over. All bark no bite. Why would she respect that?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 11:28 PM
0

If they tell you their feelings on this then they're comfortable enough to show up. Someone uncomfortable most likely won't confide in you and will just ghost or avoid you in different ways. Or they have a friend that told them it's a shit idea and they listen.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 10:47 PM
2

I think a lot of the problems can come from being impatient. A lot of goals one has in life, especially the really good ones, like a dream home or certain career/lifestyle, take a lot of work and pretty careful planning. I don't think you necessarily ever have to really sacrifice one goal for another. Sure you might have it planned out one way in your head and things may conflict somewhat in reality, but there's usually always a solution or compromise. Life has a way of giving you solutions to t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 10:42 PM
-1

No, it's creepy. Pretty much anyone I know would say that. Perhaps the females you're around don't think so, but anyone I know would. I'm not jealous at all lol, married with a husband.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 10:26 PM
1

This might help.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 09:49 PM
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I might be in the minority, but there is something really creepy about a guy on tinder trying to lure women to his house without a first date or at least a meetup. That's how you get raped and killed so it's no wonder they flake out on you when they realize that.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 09:44 PM
1

It's really not that hard at all. The logical thinking is kind of screwy at times but with proper vetting that's not such an issue either. The trouble a lot of women get into is just plain being stupid. Whether that's with alcohol, false expectations, etc. They end up putting out to guys that pump and dump them which can eventually make them normalize that kind of behavior so it's a cycle they get stuck in. No one really tells them different in this day and age because now it's supposed to be wo…
/r/askTRP22/06/17 04:26 PM
2

And for god's sake if she's not blowing you how you like, teach her! Really sucks to find out the technique you have used, and thought your spouse liked, has been crap. Telling her study to BJ porn will not help. Definitely confidence booster to know you're good at it once you get there though. Ditto on the material goods as well, any guy with money can buy a woman things. Unless she's a materialistic type the appreciation only runs so deep, and it's never as deep as you'd like.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 08:48 PM
2

Apologies for how long this became. I pared it down the best I was able. I was in depression free fall for the whole time that I had it continually, and eventually hit rock bottom. At that point I realized I could either die or get on with it and neither of those things could be dependent on my husband. He couldn't stop me, or just somehow know what things looked like from my perspective in order to effectively help. I was never able to get repeats of the times when he was an effective help and …
/r/askMRP20/06/17 08:40 PM
1

Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 06:29 PM
1

At the time the first was all him mostly because he was clueless of what to do and no one had ever needed him like that before. Then yes, afterwards it was a vicious cycle of the both of us lashing out. Horrendous behavior from both of us.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 06:28 PM
1

Whenever I can.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 06:24 PM
1

Are these women you're talking about mute? If not then they're perfectly capable of saying no. Are the RP men you're talking about rapists? If not then it can be assumed that both consented. As a woman if you're not vetting for the men you want, you're just as much to blame for what happens to you. To me this is akin to going to a lake to swim when you don't know how in the first place, yet still expecting not to drown. No one is making you have sex with these guys and you're not obligated to do…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 06:10 PM
1

They overflow my closet. The ones I keep outside wake us up at 04 in the morning so there's that issue as well. There's just one though that I like best though and I think you know what happened to that guy :)
/r/askMRP20/06/17 05:02 PM
1

No one is naturally any of those things. It's possible to be predisposed to become one with work, but it's not natural. If it were there'd be babies born like that. What a nightmare of a pregnancy. I'd say those things are more attractive though because they send a larger message about the person. Being fit takes work, being good at conversing takes work, just like anything else. I personally don't want someone that's overweight, because to me that says that particular person has issues. Just as…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 04:58 PM
1

It really depends on where it's coming from and how. From a spouse it's the easiest thing in the world to get caught up and justify or twist what's said into something that fits to you. Same with family/friends. Brains are just good at doing the easiest things so placing blame elsewhere is almost default. Also makes a lot of sense when you consider that human brains are wired to find patterns. The way it worked for me was being presented logically with "do you have this laundry list of feelings/…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:52 PM
2

Not in the same way that the main target is. Their value decreases drastically the more she falls for the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 04:42 PM
1

Nope.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:35 PM
1

I don't think that's always the case. It's possible for a person with a brain to be presented with new information and have a revelation or change of views. Drawing on personal experience that's what happened with me, new information in = change of perspective and life. I didn't lose anything and wasn't threatened with losing anything, in fact I was the main perpetrator of that kind of behavior before RP.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:33 PM
1

So the only training she's had on marriage was from that kind of shit show. Her behavior fully makes sense. Better luck next time.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:26 PM
1

What's tragic about this whole thing is that with some self work(on her part)this could probably a good marriage. There needs to be a third party to call her out and show her that she needs help and walk her through the steps. No way she will believe it from her husband.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:22 PM
5

I've offered that to my husband prior to RP. For me it came straight from a place of depression and being told by him that because of my depression I was worthless in that department. So I figured if I wasn't good enough it would be ok for him to seek out others. I don't ever want to be a ball and chain. Like you, he was not there when I needed him for support and our relationship was really messed up later because of that. There wasn't any trust, because how would I know when I could be open an…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:10 PM
1

I think the fear is probably insecurity that you're not going to be deemed good enough to be in a secure and comfortable LTR. In general that's what composes most of the cake. Loneliness protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 01:01 AM
1

The goal of RP men is vastly different from that of RP women. Why the hell would a RP woman want all the added stress from being a captain all the time? Because that's what you'll get with a beta. You'll never actually get a chance to enjoy yourself, your relationship, or your man. As a woman you're not actually getting more of the things you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 04:29 PM
5

Or you know, maybe culturally women approach problems completely differently from men. Maybe due to gender their thinking patterns are different. Maybe the messages they're getting from their peers/family/society is that they haven't gotten lucky yet and haven't found the right one yet. No one really tells a chick that the problems could stem from her. A lifetime of being on a pedestal you didn't even know you're on is something that many don't ever have the chance to realize. Self improvement i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 04:16 PM
3

How can you be a team with only one person playing? When have you ever heard of anyone really listening to the warnings of their friends and family with things like this? If you don't vet properly and have the blinders on it's not going to be good.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/17 01:57 AM
6

Believe it or not, some people are just crappy. Their cold feet might not have anything to do with you and everything to do with themselves. Maybe after 3-4 straight failures it would be a better spread to say it's you, but 2 is hardly enough to make that kind of connection IMO.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 01:37 AM
1

I just start playing with it and wait for a no. I don't stop until I get one or he's done. This happens a lot with us during TV or whatever because a lot of the time I'm laying with my head in his lap anyways and I get bored.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 01:34 AM
0

Because why not? What are you trying to pick this apart for?
/r/askMRP19/06/17 01:30 AM
9

Probably part of the overall problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 01:26 AM
2

Usually because neither actually knows how to be married lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 01:20 AM
3

I guess maybe non RP women might be. There's no hiding that the male side of TRP is amoral and that can be jarring to a lot of people; women especially because from the outside it really looks like these men are dehumanized to some extent. If you're a woman that doesn't acknowledge the basic difference between sexes such as cultural differences in social interactions then TRP is extremely foreign and I could see how it could be frightening. I mean aren't most new/different/unfamiliar things that…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 12:43 AM
1

Then go study persuasion or something. Practice on other people. Even the disliked can and should be able to fake it.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 07:05 PM
5

You trying to say you can't be 'nice' and give him the acceptance your title says he craves?
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:27 PM
9

If he's so predictable, just push the buttons that you want to get what you want. I'd milk it dry and then either work on getting his job, or leaving that particular company for the next step up. Not only will you probably have more money than if you just would have been passive, but also if you play your cards right will have really good history/recommendations/connections. Not taking advantage is a pretty large lost opportunity.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 05:47 PM
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Male to male interactions will always be different than that between females, or that of male and female. The society of sexes is not universal, and honestly what you're perceiving as fakery isn't. It's just the culture of a woman with another woman. Pretty much identical to having a multicultural family, actions change when you're with the parents or such. Not really sure I'd categorize that as fakery.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/17 05:42 PM
2

How is what she says to you prohibiting you from giving her some foreplay?
/r/askMRP18/06/17 03:05 PM
1

Yeah, how surprising that she didn't feel like being a cum rag at that time.
/r/askMRP18/06/17 02:52 PM
2

You might find this helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 06:29 PM
1

I don't mean to suggest that it's easy, far be it. I struggle every day to make sure I'm doing as I should and am constantly looking to identify issues. A lot of people though, male and female, don't seem to see much of a need for introspection or self evaluation, so you get shrews for wives and whatever the male equivalent is. I think it's beneficial for any spouse to suggest their partner practice introspection. Maybe not today, or next week, but it's a valuable skill to have just to go throug…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 03:07 PM
1

I didn't mean to suggest that OP lay this on her like a ton of falling bricks, maybe I wrongly assumed he'd be able to infer the need to exercise some for of tact with his particular woman. Thanks for the additional clarification.
/r/askMRP16/06/17 11:29 AM
3

The problem that I'm trying to point out is that there don't seem to be solutions that cater to issues that might also be the other party. When you've got a bad horse you don't tell the rider to only get better at riding, go practice roping, and come back. You train it and yourself. You identify if your equipment is causing trouble. You don't just sit there and say, gee if only my calf tying times were faster, I'm sure my horse would neck rein better then. If you're lazy maybe you get a new one …
/r/askMRP16/06/17 11:19 AM
1

Not sure what you think it wrong with rpw. It's nothing like what's given to guys. Given her shrew attitude she could use it.
/r/askMRP16/06/17 12:33 AM
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You should try to introduce her to /r/RedPillWomen or at least maybe buy her some of the books geared towards red pill for women, like the things that Laura Doyle has put out. It sounds to me like she doesn't know how to manage her feelings. Just like the guys that are clueless before taking their first steps, the women are too.
/r/askMRP16/06/17 12:00 AM
1

No. I do hope that you manage to avoid having to deal with those kinds of people because not only is it damaging to the person but possibly monetarily. I'm a little at a loss of how you see that as volatile. No one here is out to get you. If you'd like me to show you exactly where you're being very obviously defensive I can do so.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:46 PM
1

I hope your naive views on this don't get you in trouble one day. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 07:55 PM
1

they try very hard to impress me. This is usually because of either intimidation or feelings of inadequacy. I'm not sure how much of what I'm saying is getting through to you. It sort of seems like they enjoy dating me because I have the life they want, and they like my cultured/educated self. They've all made subtle comments here and there about how they dislike dating less educated and lower class girls. I'm unsure as to how this doesn't really paint a picture of them wanting something from yo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 06:36 PM
2

I'm not asking for a rich lifestyle just able to have a basic standard of living It doesn't matter what you're asking for. For a lot of guys that have a strong provider mentality it's hard for them to see when they've done or are doing enough. You don't know how he measures his own performance with this, and likely regardless of what measuring sticks you provide they will be different than what he uses. The only real way I think you'd have success with someone like you're looking for, is to vet …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 06:11 PM
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I'd be really really choosy. Money can cause a lot of resentment especially if the male has a strong provider mentality. If something is making them 'try extra hard' now, that's not going to go away. It generally gets worse over time and by the time the issue is finally brought fully to light it can be too late to try to repair. Or the injured party might not even want to repair things or sees the issue as insurmountable.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:45 PM
2

I view this much the same as preparing for anything else in life. When you go camping you don't bring a first aid kit hoping to use it. But if you need it, boy will you be grateful. Disloyalty is camping in the hospital because you're planning on getting someone injured and also justifying your choice to be there or smoke screening about it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 04:23 PM
1

I think it's only a year or two sooner for the women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/17 03:16 PM
1

If could also be family as well depending on her age and background.
/r/askTRP09/06/17 01:28 PM
0

That's how I read it too. It doesn't really say if she asked for an explanation or anything like that. I've been in relationships where my playfulness wasn't encouraged and in fact actively stifled, which is what OP's response looks like.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 07:17 PM
3

You can survive without crack though....
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 07:02 PM
2

Hang on I think there's some sort of basic misunderstanding here. I am saying that I don't feel that there is a subreddit to address this.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 01:52 PM
4

I meant that it's a shame there isn't more eye to eye between RPW and TRP. It feels like there's a pretty big void and there isn't really a middle ground for both sexes. I suppose here, but still things could definitely be improved in that particular regard.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 01:28 PM
1

It certainly is preference based, but it's really questionable nowadays how many people actually experience the former for any length of time. Seems like it's one big shack up out there lol.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 10:43 AM
2

Which is a complete shame.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 10:41 AM
1

It's not so much that marriage is holy, it's more about absence making the heart grow fonder. I mean for me at least there was always a special thrill and anticipation that was definitely amplified with time spent apart. Married or no. Cohabitation is fine, but just personally there's some extra spark there when you're not.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 10:09 AM
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People nowadays want to have instant gratification and ease of access. Cohabitation fulfills both of those things and it's really a shame that separate living is now taking so much of a backseat. Easy to make things that used to be special into something mundane, then surprise! You're unhappy and don't know why.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 02:14 PM
2

Oh, I think I wasn't so clear. I meant the rate of heartbreak. I agree that women in usually have more options. Sorry about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/17 01:11 PM
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I think that's open to some debate. I think that it's more equal, but that the coping mechanisms are different and the general self image between sexes is very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/17 12:46 PM
4

Takes two to tango. I personally would physically walk away. Don't respond to his anger and he'll see that it's pointless and whatever he's trying to convey isn't working. If it's important he'll try a different tactic to get through to you. If it's not, maybe later he'll realize he was behaving badly. Submission and respect are earned. You don't have to be his doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 12:25 PM
1

This might be helpful if you haven't already read it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 09:16 AM
2

I agree with you that it does make sense, but only to an extent. Those people shouldn't have that kind of control over you. Your life is your own. If you think you're putting your best out there and you own it(long hair or short), others will see the best as well.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 08:50 PM
4

Why so much concern about people's opinions about your hair, when those people have little to no bearing in your life? What is there to be embarrassed about? I say go for it. If it makes you feel beautiful and good about yourself there's no reason not to.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 07:23 PM
4

I wonder how many of the vocal red pill males with the posted opinion have ever worked on a farm/ranch or really even met women who have. I grew up doing all sorts of physical things and just generally getting dirty because not only was it expected but I had to. There was work to be done. Put in that situation again or any 'dirty' kinds of work, you do it. It's probably not your favorite thing to do, but I bet the men doing it don't like it either. I like being clean, but don't let that fool you…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/17 01:37 PM
4

That painted a picture that probably belongs on /r/MorbidReality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/17 10:14 AM
2

The water probably doesn't participate in arguments though or have an opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 04:09 AM
1

I'd pick a few food groups, or say surprise me, or just say you don't have a preference and see what he comes up with.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 01:30 AM
23

I honestly don't understand how there are people who can be in a relationship and be blind to the things their spouse is contributing or going through. Aren't your ears and eyes open? That's some serious entitlement issues. Kudos to her for getting her act together eventually.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 12:54 AM
1

I think there are times when it seems like the individual is mildly forgotten. There are a near endless variety of paths that one would classify as being a 'good' woman. They don't all have all the same qualities at the same times nor in the same quantities. Striving to be the best you can is all one can do, not surprising that some wires might be crossed/lost amid all the moving parts.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 01:26 PM
4

You can't prevent kids from making stupid experiences. Prevention usually falls on deaf ears anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/17 10:58 PM
3

Focus on your own actions and be who you were when she met you. You sound like you're all over the place here, and that's forcing her to not be able to rely on you because you're not steady. I'd also consider some of the things she said. While it's true that her self esteem issues of saying that she thinks all I want from her is sex partially come from her brain, you could be adding to it and reinforcing that idea. If it doesn't look like it'll be a LTR she probably won't stick around. In her mi…
/r/askTRP29/05/17 10:19 PM
2

This is all assuming the club wasn't onsite in the resort itself. If it was, a lot of this won't make so much sense. I wanted to point out the safety thing she mentioned. Mexico isn't known to be that safe for a single, unarmed, probably somewhat intoxicated female to roam at night alone. I don't know what part of the country they are in, but these are very valid fears to take into consideration here. Even near resorts it's often just the resort that's fairly safe with high amounts of crime rela…
/r/askTRP29/05/17 10:10 PM
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If I were to hazard a guess it would probably have something to do with inconsistency. From my perspective that kind of change is a little disconcerting and not only would my respect falter but also trust in what I was getting myself into and whether or not your initial bravado was just to get into my pants. Sometimes that can be salvaged, but a lot of the time once the trust in the relationship is gone it's pretty damn hard to get it back. Slip ups happen, we're all human, but when the slip up …
/r/askTRP29/05/17 09:39 PM
2

Not sure where you got that from. It wouldn't be like that; when asked why it would be nice to be able to receive an answer better than 'because'. I'd personally feel at ease going in depth about any one of my beliefs in life especially when getting to know someone too. I don't think it's anything that needs to be kept from a partner or hidden.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/17 08:31 PM
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This is my problem too. I don't require marriage/children at all, but I would find it hard to trust someone like that without a really good explanation as to why they're that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/17 12:17 PM
1

From observation, to me it looks like it could be an expression of feelings of betrayal. When you enter any portion of your life where it feels like the past years have been a lie it's hard to do that passively. Plus it's easy for TRP to become a place to vent, so people do. I agree that it's human nature. When you strip everything down and look at any other animal, they pair for success of their offspring. Whether it's males fighting or whatnot it's all survival of the fittest. I'm not sure tha…
/r/askTRP29/05/17 01:09 AM
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Why do people try to mess with cops like this? How stupid are you?
/r/PussyPassDenied26/05/17 06:14 AM
2

I'm trying to imagine what that would be like. Like how does a person like that perceive themselves after screwing however many people? What is the experience adding to their lives that isn't replaceable? I guess maybe it would be like mindlessly eating or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 02:01 AM
1

you have yet to show anything that would support such a connection. I have read all of the comments, there is nothing. I don't know how that whole side of the argument is even standing right now. There's no legs lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 01:52 AM
2

I'd be pretty scared if that was unicorn behavior. What a bleak outlook that would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 01:48 AM
7

Probably the best summation of this whole thing. Vilify things that one can't change rather than improving oneself or looking for alternative solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 01:27 AM
2

I agree with this 100%. It's a balancing act between communication and action. Either without the other doesn't really work IMO in the long term. Communication is getting on the same page, but then it's up to both individuals to get their act together and work towards a solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/17 07:35 PM
2

To some it is. Others have boundaries. I wouldn't compare it to anything to do with religious figures though because that to me implies blind faith, which is not the same. Submission is earned. It's a gift to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 07:15 AM
1

I thought it was but I was still being misunderstood. So I guess I don't know. Submission also has a lot of meanings/connotations too, so the best I can give there is it's complicated. To me it doesn't imply what you've suggested.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 06:56 AM
1

No, like between someone you're closer than that to. Certain family, spouse. Not just nice/admire. I mean the latter can be any old Harry/Dick/Joe and I sure as hell am not bending the knee to them. English needs better words for all of this so there's easier differentiation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 03:16 AM
0

You know I didn't even consider that. I was thinking more like submission coming from a place of respect. I'd respect a submissive woman, but I'm not sure about a man now that you mention it. Depends on why he's submissive and other things in his life. Edit: personally I don't think submission is something that should be given without mutual respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 03:10 AM
0

Why not submission?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 03:02 AM
1

Submission is earned just like respect. There isn't a need to try to dominate someone. It's a gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 02:59 AM
3

This is one of the things that drew me in as well. Although I don't like all of the things said, or agree with all of them, there are deeper truths in the whole mentality that are pretty much impossible to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 02:56 AM
1

You have to remember the demographics of those people though. May of them lack a certain level of maturity. I think the people that are a little older tend to be a little wiser in this area. Better coping skills and whatnot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 02:52 AM
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