Codedress Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	I am being gaslighted?	SEEKING ADVICE	Codedress	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/01/20 07:16 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
12	They don’t trust each other either When I was 14 I was so damn innocent. I thought my "best friend" was my brother, you know my brother from another mother. (All my life I wanted to have a brother to protect me). my best friend got me drunk and raped me one night and I remember very little. after that he treated me more and more contemptuous and before that he swore that he wanted to protect me and that he loved me. I never realized that his voice always spoke above mine, that he treated me as a little thing just because I was a …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/05/21 08:51 PM
5	Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!! I am dealing with this right now. I have been dating this very sweet boy for 3 months. he's very charming and kind (and doesn't watch porn). But today he told me that one of his female co-workers has asked him if he prefers women with boob jobs or naturals (I am natural and very insecure about that). It turns out that she was angry with his answer (because he prefers natural ones). Obviously she's flirting with him (she knows he's dating me) and that ¿they hug at work??!. my expression changed c…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/10/20 03:55 AM
7	You guys wanna know how stupid I am? You shouldn't try to conquer a man in general, much less one with a girlfriend. I think you were very quick wanting to ask him where their relationship was going together. It is clear that if he continued he would have used you to sleep over and eventually return to this LDR sorry I know it's hard to hear but it's how these players work. They really confuse your mind. I think he is not the right man for you if you want a serious relationship as this seems to be the case. Come on ¿what did you se…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/09/20 11:46 PM
50	Low Value Men comparing their perceived options who are out of their league like: I love this movie with my soul. when i was younger i didn't understand why she doesn't give up and fall into mr darcy's arms? . because being chased and wanted only keeps HVMs on the run. it is an amazing novel.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/09/20 05:17 AM
1	Favourite characters/movies? Role models? Women from Ozarks💖	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/20 02:06 PM
5	TIL people really do have a "type" when it comes to romantic attraction. According to a study, 50% of people’s preferences for faces is unique to them, and who we find attractive is most strongly influenced by our life experiences. I am from south America. I really have a very marked "type". a boy with a good face, a good boyfriend you know?. ne of those who do not turn to look at another woman when they pass her!. examples of actors with that face: tom hardy, ryan gosling, luke wilson (when they were all young) haha i don't know why. hope someone understands me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/20 12:06 AM
2	No words. REMINDER to not mommy or play the role of a dermatologist for your man. I studied long enough to teach men the basics of a routine for free. No more. They don't even try to improve! I really don't understand how there are men who are afraid to do a basic skin care routine. I mean that their skin is so thick and it can be worke so easily. I am sorry that they let time pass and remember late. Facial hygiene is a basic right and duty too ...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/20 01:09 AM
19	Straight from the horse’s mouth!! These men WANT us to employ FDS principles ladies!!!! 💅🏽 I’ve added captions of important points outlined in our lovely handbook under each picture. Recently a LVM played a big trick on me. We started dating slowly & we talked every single day. He said that he loved me so much and that he wanted to marry me. So 3 months ago It was my birthday and I didn't want to say anything but I mentioned that I was expecting a gift from him. He said he wanted to do it and he was making up his mind with it... after 3 weeks I mentioned it to him again (this time by text message), ¿U know what he told me? "The day I give you something is going to be because…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/20 12:39 AM
12	did anyone else fall for the trap of asking men for dating advice (regarding other men) when they were younger? omg men always advise you to take your first step because "they are shy "...yea sure. Luckily I never dared to do it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/07/20 04:30 AM
10	Imagine being petty with your child who made a decision when they were thirteen years old This relives awful memories of my childhood. My NV father bought a new house for him and his new gf but he didn't want to take me to live with him. He left me with my paternal grandmother. Again when I was 13yo I mentioned that I wanted to live with him in his new house and he openly said no because his girlfriend couldn't accept it. When they broke up he told me over and over again that it was MY FAULT even though I never lived with them. Now he wants to speak to me again and forget the past, b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/07/20 03:33 AM
9	How do I make more female friends? I rely too much on attention from male "friends" and that needs to change. you have everything on point! I agree with every word of what you have said. except with the craiglist and kik part in my country those are terrifying sites.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/07/20 03:32 AM
13	How do I make more female friends? I rely too much on attention from male "friends" and that needs to change. I totally understand you girl. in my case I cut off the relationship with all my male-friends because analyzing my friendship with them turned out to be quite toxic (and I felt like the inexhaustible source of interesting conversations and what did they give me? nothing.) They were totally basic and hearing them talk about other women totally terrified me. Anyway... I am the type of women who is only present for the bad times in the life of my girlfriends Did you fight with your boyfriend and yo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/07/20 03:28 AM
5	Well? When I was younger I brought my "best friend" (with benefits eww) to live at my house... it quickly became almost like the second pic, it is always a mistake. They hope to live in the filth and never complain. never again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/06/20 04:49 AM
2	Look out for #1, ladies Damn I found myself talking to a LVM every day at a certain time of the day and then realizing that due to the time difference (5 hours) in HIS country it was past 11pm!. it certainly broke my heart but blocking him when I realized his fuckboy actions certainly felt better.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/05/20 06:33 AM
3	When he is trying to rush things, but you know your worth Tyrone's profile looks like Alain Delon! I had to google it. Rita looks so gorgeous❤	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/05/20 02:13 AM
15	Can we please talk about this nonsense? I’m trying to understand what’s going on here? No wonder why when fame rises in your head it clouds your reasoning like that. All this ambiguous ig post sends the message that "relationships that are not perfect are also acceptable for some girls." Is like hearing old lana singing "he hit me and it felt like a kiss". is enough Lana. so much fame and so little certainty of carrying a message of transformation for the new generations.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/05/20 05:15 PM
3	Woman feels “validated” because her boyfriend told her she’s “not like the other girls” and doesn’t get mad when he asks for a BJ after she turns down sex This is revolting...I felt it in my stomach :(	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/05/20 04:45 AM
63	Does anyone else have immense frustration towards how rotten this generation is? I can not take it anymore. all my girl friends have polyamorous relationships, free love is the rule here between my pick-me friends and my college group. I cannot speak of serious monogamous relationships with anyone IRL! Pd: and even previous generations are often ruined by abuse and mistreatment.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/05/20 04:34 AM
12	What would you do if your boyfriend called another girl hot/cute in front of you? Well It never happened to me but I would feel a little embarrassed. Although I know that other women are not my competition, it is different because for men to call a women hot or cute means that they want to fuck her, without hesitation. they know. they do not value beauty the same as we women in my case when I call some cute actor (timothee chalamet example) is because I appreciate their beauty but I do not feel lust for that person. That is my explanation and it is what I believe because real…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/05/20 04:44 AM
27	22-Year-Old who has never had a boyfriend My dear, sometimes we get locked up and it is difficult to meet new people so try to find people with similar tastes or good friends of girlfriends that you already know. when all this quarantine you will have the opportunity. don't cry about it!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/20 05:25 AM
66	22-Year-Old who has never had a boyfriend To be honest the most successful and interesting women that I have known and some are relatives of mine.(no matter if they were introverted or not) they were girls who have never had a romantic relationship!. I mean never having a boyfriend or friends with benefits. They tend to go on dates but they are not in favor of casual sex or commitment and I do not blame them (with well-paid work, international vacations paid by the company, good circle of friends, own car and a house being 30 years old)…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/20 05:22 AM
6	Guys who persue you but don't give a sh*t about your interests It is incredible (horrifying) how LVM craves vain and empty attention. I was harshly asked how I felt in this quarantine so I decided to block his ass forever.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/20 03:00 AM
8	Guys who persue you but don't give a sh*t about your interests Girl the same thing always happens to me, with friends or men I just met. I cannot explain how absorbing it is!!! Before entering FDS, I made the very serious mistake of seeking their attention and making an effort in the conversation. Never more. my attitude changed forever after this sub.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/20 02:57 AM
15	What advice would you give to a woman that never dated that wants to find real love? It is very important that you do not obsess with a particular boy or want to capture only his attention to validate yourself. If you have this in mind you can handle this calmly. The feeling I'm talking to you about is feeling full with yourself regardless of the insecurities imposed by validation. In my case it was very difficult to learn this (and I was constantly crying for a LVM). If you want a romantic relationship, it will work when he is willing to give everything to you, from the beginni…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/20 07:07 AM
6	One single voice can bring about change...Many single voices, brought together, can change the world! Become part of a tribe and support each other! Today I made the mistake of trying to talk to an girl (friend of mine) who suffered abuse and is not ready to talk. I talked about how I noticed that during these years my biggest problems were related to a conflicted emotional relationship (male friends who I considered my brothers, and BF)partly because I suffered and transported the values of a dysfunctional family. My friend agreed with this but nevertheless she told me that she does NOT trust women and that she does not want to admit that a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/20 07:02 AM
9	Has anyone ever dated a covert narcissist? What were the signs? How did you escape it? It is more easy to realize now. If he is attractive, he only wants to be with you because of your appearance. He is not interested in your personality, your goals, your dreams, or what you put effort into. His ears are deaf for that. he just thinks about how amazing they would be having sex or how he would show you to others as a status signal. a narcissistic man broke my heart and is recent ... his whole life is based on appearances.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/20 04:35 AM
3	So disgusting. You have to set that pillow on fire. and the boyfriend in quarantine. Though the standards are so low...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/20 04:31 AM
4	Stop Smiling So Much He has to earn your smile!!! It's hard but I try to be more aware of my facial expressions.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/20 04:27 AM
3	Never met a straight guy who wanted to be my friend without some intention In my opinion, my male friends not only turned out to be toxic but also offensive. on more than one occasion he criticized the choice of my university career by telling me that it bothers me if surely I don't even end up working on it. in Many times they tried to bring up the theme "What bothers you about your body that you would like to change from yourself?" As if to want to know what it is, it makes me self-conscious of my body! I never revealed any insecurity of mine (because I learned from …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/20 11:30 PM
2	Mi historia como "pick-me"//My pick-me tales (español) Hola es la primera vez que veo un post en español! yo también soy nueva en el sub y estoy encantada de estar aquí leyéndola y reflexionando. Es increíble mirar al pasado y darnos cuenta de todo lo que hemos dado a cambio de no recibir nada ni afectivo mucho menos ayuda financial. Hemos sacrificado nuestras personalidades y carácter (ellos lo tienen bien construido para que jamas les pasen por encima y poder manipularnos fácilmente) hemos dado tanto por ese vínculo que pensabamos que de algún mod…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/20 02:16 AM