| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 43 | I never was anything to her | Coffeecankicker | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/25 05:54 PM | |
| 10 | Spousal support | Coffeecankicker | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/25 08:11 PM | |
| 8 | How long did your divorce take? | Coffeecankicker | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 05:15 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | Dude the numbers aren’t adding up. Whole lot of married men.Half my workplace is divorced. Of that half. Half of us got silver bullet divorces with orders of protection and child abuse allegations. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 08:27 PM |
| 0 | DivorcedI’ll be living it soon. I hope | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/26 10:53 PM |
| 3 | House purchase with trust funds - marital or non-marital?Never get married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/26 11:39 PM |
| 5 | Booked a singles cruiseI’ve been looking at singles cruises also. My divorce is finally wrapping up and im looking for a vacation. Im taking my dad on vacation the day day divorce is final. But for myself. I dummo what im gonna do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/26 11:38 PM |
| 8 | I'm currently laying on my 10 year old sons empty bed crying like I would if I had lost him foreverI’m so glad I don’t have children. My ex wife is stealing all of my personal stuff. Things I’ve owned long before I ever met her. She’s ruthless and diabolical. It would be never ending with children. I’m happy to cut my losses as a robbery or fire. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/26 12:54 PM |
| 5 | Dissipation of marital assets - will this come back to bite me?Better to keep it in a separate account so you can use it for attorney fees. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/26 05:30 PM |
| 4 | Dissipation of marital assets - will this come back to bite me?That’s dissipation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/26 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Title: Married 6 months ago, now I think my wife is a covert narcissist and no one believes me because she’s “the sweetest person.” How did you cope?100%. I lost all of our co mingled friends. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/26 03:58 PM |
| 9 | Title: Married 6 months ago, now I think my wife is a covert narcissist and no one believes me because she’s “the sweetest person.” How did you cope?Get out bro. Get out now. It’ll only get worse. I’m divorcing my covert narcissist. She’s a beauty to everyone. I’m the trouble. With an attorney father. Get the fuck out now. Immediately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/26 03:56 PM |
| 5 | Blaming social media and AIHer screaming at me lead to my divorce. She didn’t need social media or ai to that. It was an absent father and grandparents who spoiled her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/26 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Oof.I married a child. Not really. But the mentality. She’s a horrible person. She doesn’t want more. She wants me to have less. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/26 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Silver Bullet DivorceWe don’t even have kids and my ex wife did it to me. She doesn’t know how to survive so I’m paying her bills. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/26 01:52 PM |
| 5 | Got served divorce papers, wife only wants one thingBrilliant. Dr prescribed. Your dog. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Got served divorce papers, wife only wants one thingGo get the dog to be your emotional support animal. It’s 100$. Depending on how much money there is, I’d go for half. But also, be thankful that’s all she wants | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 09:59 PM |
| 9 | Those of you who initiated a divorce, how did your wife take it?She threw a huge tantrum, what she’s known for, and filed an order of protection against me, threw me out of the house and tried to take my dog. She’s then missed three court dates and refuses any kind of negotiation. I’m divorcing a child. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/26 09:58 PM |
| 2 | How many of you bought your wife out of the house?I’m trying to hurry up and get divorced. I don’t care for buying selling or keeping. I just want away from her. Don’t care about the cheapest, only quickest. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/26 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Questions.Yeah, I’m getting over the betrayal part. I’m still trying to divorce her. Now it’s the anger of her dragging this out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/26 02:51 AM |
| 7 | Questions.I can’t get over the anger I have for her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/26 12:00 AM |
| 13 | It wasn’t entirely your fault. Adultery should never be forgiven.I wish I only lost half my shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/26 04:52 PM |
| 8 | Dating AgainI’ve lost 30 lbs and squared up my shoulders and started buying fitting clothes. I’ve been hit on by random women now. Get a cute dog. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/26 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Divorce Hearing - what to expect?Bro. I’m in the same situation. Exactly. I swear I thought I wrote this. I’m trying to hurry it up and get my money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/26 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Erectile Dysfunction…Welllbutrin and weed causes my dick to not work. I use viagra. I get it from my doc. Also the attraction thing. But there’s times I can’t even wank it because shit don’t work. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/26 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Get thisI feel so much better about my situation after reading this | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/26 06:52 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone improved finances through divorce?Currently still divorcing and financially I’m fucked. Once it’s over. I’ll be financially free. I don’t need the big house and the fancy vacations every year. But we did em! We didn’t have children and was married less than 10 years. There’s an offer on the table and I’m trying to take it. I want this divorce over!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/26 02:25 AM |
| 2 | 14 hours in 50 DaysYeah. It’s the time for me too. I’ve been living in a camper paying for her mortgage while this gets stalled. I’m the one who filed. I’ve lost every court appearance. I’ve lost every money dispute. I’m just done. I’m so tired of it all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/26 04:47 PM |
| 3 | 14 hours in 50 DaysI’m glad I don’t have children. My divorce has been ongoing since last July. There’s offers on the table and my attorney just quit on me when I questioned him about discovery. Now I’m at the finish line with no horse to race. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/26 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Happy Sunday fellas, divorce sucks but what's one thing you're looking forward to this week?Seeing my dad. Hopefully coming to a deal. I got my ass best in this divorce. Like she fucking won big and my attorney sucked. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 02:01 AM |
| 6 | Some of These People and What They Say on The r/Divorce Subreddit are kinda funny 😁 😂😭I remember my ex wife saying something like “why don’t you post on fb the way “Joe” does about his wife. How come you don’t say things like that about me?” Turns out, Joe was cheating on wife and got another girl pregnant and was saying things in public that were fake in private. It’s all lies. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/26 02:13 PM |
| 1 | How long have you been 'separated' if asked?April 30 2024. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/26 07:02 PM |
| 5 | My ex wife is says she is scared of me.Mine filed an order of protection against me claiming a bunch of shit she did to me and some just completely made up shit. Anyway, I’m still trying to divorce her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/26 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Ex wife picsI’ve deleted every photo of her except two. The two where she looks absolutely mean, fat and nasty. Hair all fucked up and jaws all puffy, scolding face with tight eyebrows. I like seeing them. That’s the way how she always was. Not like the smiling family pics or the vacation poses. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Wife doesn’t respect me or my feelingsGet the fuck out. If you feel this way now you need to get out. Save yourself. I felt the same way at two years. It took 3.5 more for me to finally get out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 06:19 PM |
| 1 | If you initiated the separation/divorce, what made you go back to your spouse? And if you reconciled, how is it going now?I told my wife in in 23 I wanted a divorce. In 24 I talked to attorney. In 24 I hired one. It’s 25 and I’m still trying to divorce this woman. They’ll only change for the worse. My wife chose everything and everyone over me. It was exhausting being last in the line up but first at punishment and yelling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 02:21 AM |
| 10 | What would it take for you to rekindle your love with your ex-wife?Light a candle at her funeral is the only flame you’ll get outa me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 02:16 AM |
| 6 | What was the thing that made you say you no longer love your wife?I never loved my wife. I thought I did. I thought she loved me. I’m finding out lots about her now. What I thought was love was just me filling the void of loneliness. It was never about love for either of us. It was how we coped with our own bullshit. I really thought that once I got her what she wanted the yelling would stop. It never did. The need for more just kept growing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Anyone here have any success in vacating and/or modifying an Order of Protection?Luckily my wife dropped hers against me. She could bring it up if I harassed her again. But she had shit from seven years ago that she did to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 03:05 AM |
| 4 | Do you still love her and think of her?I have only anger of how much money was stolen that nobody is doing anything about. So glad I don’t have kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Rent or buy after divorceI’m living in a 22 foot camper. been here since September. I think my divorce is winding down. We have offers on the table and I’ve accepted hers. I just want it over with | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 01:56 AM |
| 6 | I need serious help, my logic is no better than that of the very women I complain about (post-divorce struggles)Go find a hobby. Get a dog. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 01:52 AM |
| 5 | Difference in Women vs Men After DivorceIt can be if you want it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/26 04:11 PM |
| 5 | Difference in Women vs Men After DivorceI’m one of the few who actually filed against my wife. She never wanted divorce, at least not until we hit 20 years. But at 8 years I realized she didn’t love me, she loved what I could provide for her. The house and vacations. Well, I just accepted her offer today to buy me out. I offer med her to buy out at 15k. She fought it and now she’s paying me 32,5. lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Had to have emergency surgery yesterday and led me to an important realization... thought I'd shareChange your person who can make medical decisions if you’re not able. Right now it’s your wife. I forgot what it’s called. But your wife could pull the plug if you got in that shape. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/26 10:40 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys motivate yourselves?The days will always be there. You have to be there for the days. Just show up. Go for a walk. Make a dinner. Even if it’s hard boiled eggs. Get deep into conspiracies but only for entertainment- see how wacko people really are. Stay out of politics, drugs and alcohol. I’m very weary of religions also. Find one friend you can talk to. Find a therapist you can talk to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 12:46 PM |
| 3 | Hard not talking to her missing her loving her thinking about her well being as a protector.Now you know who they are and that it was all an act. You were fooled. Just like me. Welcome to the club. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/26 02:17 PM |
| 4 | Hard not talking to her missing her loving her thinking about her well being as a protector.I’m with ya brother. I’m living in a camper until the divorce is over with and I’m still happier than being yelled at all the time. Wondering how to act so I don’t get yelled at. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/26 02:16 PM |
| 6 | The reality of her being gone for good has finally set in.Man I can’t wait for that day. My divorce is different than most. My wife was abusive, financially, physically, verbally, emotionally, sexually just all around a horrible person. She fighting the divorce because she knows it’s hurting me. We’ve gone no contact, she filed an order of protection when I moved out and her and her attorney have missed three court appearances and just want to drag this out forever. I can’t wait until I’m rid of her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/26 02:11 PM |
| 4 | How it all started...I didn’t start getting these types of video shorts until AFTER I filed. Now that I see them, I feel horrible for those men. I feel horrible for myself because I endured that type of behavior for far too long. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/26 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Phony new Girlfriend?Why. But if you really want, ChatGPT will create you and whatever girl you want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/26 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Married 25 years. On the verge of divorce. Lost [M50] married to [F49]Depends on state. Illinois is lifetime alimony after 20 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/26 11:01 PM |
| 7 | Would you do it all over again?Nope. Not at all. And won’t do it again. Absolutely not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/26 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Remember guys: Know your kids shoe sizes!Mine did the same. I filed for divorce, she filed an OP. Only evidence was a screaming match between the two of us. She dismissed it before going to trial. Just wanted the house for herself. It’s fine though. It’s what cunts do. They’re horrible people. The world will react to them soon enough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/26 05:06 PM |
| 3 | Post Divorce and Sex?I had to use it while I was married. I’m still going through the divorce and have been close but no sex, yet, with a girl and everything seems to be working as it should. I was worried being over 50 and possibly low T was my issue. Nope, just being married to a condescending cunt will limp your dick. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/26 01:57 PM |
| 0 | Ex wife's' current Boyfriend called me to ask about "My Side of the Story"Yep. Best thing. Live and learn. I wouldn’t give any information. Just go read the court docs | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/26 04:47 PM |
| 1 | What does your bachelor pad look like?I’m living in a camper. Still trying to get divorced. I’m really hoping to keep the house I’m still paying for. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/26 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Divorcing clingy wifeFile and move out. File an order of protection throwing her out | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/26 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like a loser…and then…I’m sorry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/26 04:57 AM |
| 2 | How did you get it started?Don’t mention divorce again. Go speak to an attorney. Go talk to a few. I don’t know your situation. Everyone is different. Talk to an attorney about divorce. Not your wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/26 03:00 AM |
| 2 | How many times?!Bro. Get an attorney | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/26 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Military DivorceYes it is. It absolutely fucking is. At least in Illinois. I’m 70% and it fucking counts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/26 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else have a STBX that has people fooled?Mutual wont believe if you say it. Only if they see it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/26 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Struggling to rebuild my lifeI’ve been trying to divorce for 9 months now. Wife filed op. Missed three court dates already. Fourth reschedule. It’s gross. I’ll never get away from her it seems. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Man you guys are always right.Thank you. I hope I do too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Man you guys are always right.Oh no. It’s gonna feel good to file it. Even if nothing comes of it. It’ll be a hassle for her. I’ve been living in a camper for 8 months after she filed an op on me after I filed for divorce. Tit for tat with her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Man you guys are always right.I just found out my stbxw is in violation of her securities job based on outdated information available online. The second we’re divorced I’m filing a complaint to the sec the state licensing commission and the federal regulatory agency. Fuck that cunt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Man you guys are always right.I’m at 2.75. Loan is in my name. I’m really hoping to keep it. However, I’ve been kicked out since sept and still making the mortgage payment. It’s bullshit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 03:23 PM |
| 2 | What were the signs you wished you paid more attention to?Are you me? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Accidentally over paid my ex. She refuses to give me the overage.I got sober almost two years ago. That’s when I realized I no longer wanted to be married to her. Sobriety got me free from her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/26 09:53 PM |
| 1 | When did you stop calling her your wife?Two days before she filed theOP | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/26 09:51 PM |
| 9 | After 11 years, I finally filed. Here are the real reasons and they're not what anyone expectsAbsolute disrespect. That’s why I divorced her. She would rather take advice from other men about our household responsibilities than listen to her husband. And the constant yelling and screaming and temper tantrums she’d throw. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 04:43 PM |
| 3 | ChatGPTWhat’s OFW | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 02:46 PM |
| 1 | She moved out of the shared residenceWait. Talk to your attorney. No need to go jail for something silly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 02:45 PM |
| 15 | Maybe Divorce Made Me a ChauvinistI don’t trust women or men. My trust level is about nil for everything except my dog - and she only loves me for food and cuddles and walks. I know she’d eventually eat my face if I died in front of her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 12:27 PM |
| 1 | How much life savings have you lost post divorce?Still divorcing. I’m 15k in attorney fees. I’ve had 3 court dates. lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 02:46 AM |
| 2 | Anyone sue their ex outside of family court?I asked ChatGPT about this. Apparently, it should all be settled in family court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else getting bitter towards the idea of marriage?Only if she’s a billionaire and I get some in the pre nup. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/26 08:33 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else getting bitter towards the idea of marriage?Absolutely not. I don’t even want a live in. I’m still divorcing but started dating a woman who lives an hour away. The distance is magnificent! It stops the early phase of bonding like some relationships but I don’t want fast action. I need slow and steady. And texting daily while calling a couple times a week and then weekly visits. Shit man, some dads don’t see their kids this much so I’m good with it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/26 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Generally concerned on financial issuesShe gets half the 401k unless you can prove premarital. Just because she works doesn’t mean you won’t have to pay maintenance. Illinois is fucked. I have no idea what’s going on with my divorce and my attorney won’t respond to my emails. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 02:02 AM |
| 4 | Anyone come out NOT broke?I was broke starting. She took all the money and got possession of the house. I’m managing but living conditions are shit. I’ll be through this someday. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/26 11:58 PM |
| 2 | How did you all divide your manly stuff?I got all the stuff out I was scared about, tools, records, some clothes. She filed an op after I grabbed some of my items. Everything else I assume is gone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/26 08:59 PM |
| 4 | RegretSmart man. Wish I had done that first. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/26 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Providing social media login for discovery?I’m getting My wife’s but she only because she ran a business and used social media for appointments and booking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/26 04:53 PM |
| 20 | Women Typically Don't Leave for a Worse Situation..... Exceptions to the Rule?She did have someone lined up. That dude dropped her. She’s heard from other how great it is to be single. Like me, you don’t have kids, be thankful for that. Just hurry the process along and get away from her. Go to therapy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/26 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Should I accept the settlementI feel ya. I hate kids. That’s why I didn’t have any. But you do. Get your shit together and raise your kid. Worse thing in the world for a kid is to be fatherless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/26 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Bad MathWe were all dumb. Lost a bet. Now we’re paying for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/26 09:28 PM |
| 8 | Here we are again... drunkI had to get sober to divorce my wife. I had to see that it wasn’t my drinking that was the problem. It was my drinking that faded away all the pain and hurt she caused me. I got sober, faced her pain and filed for divorce. You’re already past the hard part. Quit drinking. Just fucking stop. It’s gross. Just go look at yourself. Fucking quit. Go to the gym. Don’t drink. Start eating meat and vegetables. Leave the fast food shit alone. Take care of yourself. Stop drinking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 11:18 PM |
| 1 | How to handle an aging b*** wifeYes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Safeguard your irreplaceable items.She tried taking mine. Even after we agreed about who would get each dog. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 02:55 AM |
| 7 | The more you and your spouse can talk and negotiate your own settlement, the more time and money you will save in your divorce.Bro, my wife planned on doing it this way! “We’ll just split everything 50/50 and let the lawyers figure it out.” She filed an order of protection, kicked me out of the house and wants everything 50/50. It’s gross. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/26 04:13 PM |
| 4 | Divorce parties.I’m gonna have some celebration for myself. I’ve been kicked out of my house and living in a camper since sept. I’ll definitely celebrate getting back into a house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 09:35 AM |
| 3 | 3 nights on a couch because she changed the locksYou need a lawyer yesterday. A court order forcing her out of the house and you take the kids. She’s crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 03:57 AM |
| 3 | Advise for possible messinessGod luck bro. You got no kids? No house? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/26 12:05 AM |
| 3 | How do you ban the thought of Su1cide as an easy way out of the nightmare?I’ve said this before and it’s horrible, but if she had died my life would be so much better. I’ve never had that thought about anyone. Never. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/26 03:17 PM |
| 4 | What do you do to kill time while you're waiting for all these things to happen so it can be over already?I made it until I told her I wanted the house. Then she filed an op and I’ve been in a camper since. Wish this was over soon. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/26 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Delaying trial over and overI filed in may. Attorney filed in wrong county. Refiled in Aug in correct county, new attorney. She filed an op. Had court sep 29 and then again Nov 25. They didn’t show. Then again Dec 22. And again Jan 30. And that’s just a conference hearing. Not even a trial yet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/26 04:50 AM |
| 14 | What was the point of it all?I don’t have kids. Thank fuck. But getting away from her is a win. I haven’t been screamed at since September. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/26 04:56 PM |
| 6 | Told her last nightThe only thing my wife brought to the relationship was sex. Well that and anger. But you gotta do more than just sex. You gotta be nice and loving too. At least for me to stick around | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/26 02:53 PM |
| -3 | Can’t take the screaming and yelling…Your wife is pregnant. She’s having crazy hormones and chemical issues and all kinds of shit. Settle down. Go to therapy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/26 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Should you sell the house before or after divorceI’m the only name on the mortgage but we share the title. It’s a VA loan also. I don’t think they helps though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/26 04:16 AM |
| 3 | State requires 1 year separation but she won’t move outFind another attorney. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 05:12 PM |
| 4 | State requires 1 year separation but she won’t move outIf you have a DV against her already, file an order of protection and throw her out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 01:20 PM |
| 2 | Affair with no future but strong attachment — need real adviceReading this made me feel so much better about me not being piece of shit. My wife and I fought and even got physical with each other, but I never once thought about cheating. I am the one who initiated divorce. And honestly, right now I don’t want another relationship. OP affair partner is what I see her for most guys. Here’s a woman who gets all her bills paid and knows it. So she steps out to get dick. Why would she ever want to give that up? It’s only when her husband finds out that she’ll b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/26 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Large purchases for repairs to the house are needed.Call your insurance company. Talk to your attorney. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/26 01:12 PM |
| -1 | How can I fight back on the silver bullet method in family court?File one against her first. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/26 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Give her the house?My wife filed an OP and tossed me out of the house the second I told her I wanted to keep it in the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/26 12:46 PM |
| 3 | Saving money for the inevitable, how do I go about it?Contact an attorney before you post anything else | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/26 08:47 PM |
| 7 | Struggling with divorce, I want to kill myselfI felt that way about three months ago. I’m still here. Thanks for letting us know you’re in pain. We’re hurting too. You’re in the right place. You are loved. You are wanted and you are desired. Tell yourself that over and over. There’s life to live. It hurts right now but suffering is life. It will always have struggle. You’re experiencing a flood of chemicals in your body right now. Check your diet. Check your sleep. Go for a run. Go to the gym. Go to the gym. Buy some kettlebells. Go to the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/25 10:20 PM |
| 3 | The flood of differant emotions is ridiculous22 lbs during the first 90 days of my divorce. I embraced it. I’m maintaining the low weight and have created some pretty good muscles. Being bored and lonely with nothing but kettlebells and a yoga mat makes me kinda thirsty for getting fit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/25 03:13 AM |
| 7 | The trap waiting for you 3 years from nowI was anti first marriage but succumbed to pressure and manipulation. I felt victim to daily pussy and weekly BJs. I was putting up with way too much even before we got married. I was stupid. I was drunk most of my younger life that lead to this bullshit. I’m sober, healthy and trying to get mental and financial mess in order. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/25 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Outright TheftWhat state are you in? What income difference for such a large maintenance amount. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/25 11:45 PM |
| 5 | Need advice on a situationTell her they’re paying for the house and see if that changes. If so she’s shit. She’s shit for saying the things she did about controlling your time with them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/25 10:15 PM |
| 3 | I don’t fight for relationships anymoreI fought to keep my marriage. And now I’m fighting to leave it. My wife just wanted everything all the time and I just couldn’t give it anymore. The fighting. Oh man. I’m not fighting for any relationship anymore. If we can’t come to terms without screaming I don’t want it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/25 02:00 AM |
| 13 | Man I don’t know what to do anymore. Feels completely useless.Bad moms are the only kind of moms who try to take kids away from their father. It’s gross. The courts love it though. I think attorneys enjoy watching us squirm. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/25 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Expecting Divorce in IL - Buy/Rent/Lease Car Now? Advice (Chicago suburbs)Talk to an attorney. Talk to multiple attorneys. You can file an order of protection and have her thrown out of her own house. She’ll still have to make payments. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/25 01:42 PM |
| 1 | $0, living with my daughter’s mom, need urgent custody help”You are not alone in this, and there are real local resources that can help you — even with no money to pay a lawyer. In Washington (especially Spokane/Liberty Lake), it’s very common for people to represent themselves (“pro se”) in family law court, and there are free services, clinics, and self-help programs specifically designed to support you doing that effectively.  ⸻ 📌 Where You Can Get Real Help (Free or Low-Cost) 🧑⚖️ Local Spokane Resources for Custody/Family Law Spokane Fatherhood Ini… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/25 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Help me understand whyGet a dog. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/25 09:23 PM |
| 8 | What’s it like out thereBwhahah. High mileage car lot. That’s what it feels like. Bunch of beat up Chrysler mini vans where I’m at and then theres a few classic Mercedes you can’t afford. I’m buying a dirtbike and might just stay in the camper year round. Fuck women. Dating is a bit easier now because I don’t give a fuck. Im kinda good with small talk conversations with complete strangers. My dog don’t mind me jacking it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/25 08:31 PM |
| 5 | WarI read stories like yours and it helps me calm down a bit. I’ve been married just short of 9 years no kids. We have assets and a house. I’m freaking out about alimony as I’m broke already! But with you, yeah settle. But if she’s bi polar, manic or crazy, it’ll never be over. You guys have kids. Be prepared for the silver bullet divorce. Even if you file first, she can still file an order of protection and then you lose everything for years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/25 08:24 PM |
| 12 | How to be safe from alimony?Don’t ever get married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/25 10:42 AM |
| 3 | “Never move out”?She hasn’t filed the protection order yet? It’s coming. “It’s what’s best for the children”. If she’s yelled at you and you yelled at her, prepare for it or you go file first. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/25 11:33 PM |
| 4 | Spousal supportI’m out of the house. She has possession of house. We found cash deposits in her bank statements for the business account. It looks like she was funding the business with her w2 income and straight banking everything from the business. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/25 08:37 PM |
| 10 | Do i tell her the truth or sugarcoat it?This is so wrong. Don’t say a fucking word! Did she forewarn you of the affair? Did she say, “oh honey, I’m so sorry, I’d like more dick in me” | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/25 12:24 PM |
| 7 | Lessons Learned: Never Ignore Your Wife's Relationship with External Validation--Social MediaYep. It’s like telling your daughter not to dress slutty. She’s still gonna do it. Just behind your back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/25 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Finding purpose after divorce?I’m 52. Never had kids, but I gave the last 13 years to a woman who I loved like no other. I currently believe, I’ll never be able to open myself up like I did to her. And that’s kind of liberating. To know that nobody will have the inner workings into my behavior to be able to manipulate and control. To know my past is now only in my mind and if I choose to share it, that’s on me. I’m still in the heat of the divorce. First real court date is tomorrow and I filed 5 months ago! I love my job too… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/25 05:40 PM |
| 24 | Complete mind F today by my ex.If you did that to her she could have a restraining order. Save it as harassment and tell your attorney | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/25 08:15 AM |
| 10 | Miss my wifeI feel for you guys that miss your wives. I miss the life I had but not her. She is mean and hateful and I filed for divorce. I’m currently living in an RV at buddies house because of a bullshit court order. Life is shit right now. I fucking hate my wife. Never thought I’d say that about her. She’s been nothing but cold and vindictive since this started. It’s gross to the extreme. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/25 01:29 AM |
| 5 | What new hobbies did you guys pick up?I’m getting a dirtbike when this is over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/25 05:28 PM |
| 3 | Men who initiated divorce after a long relationshipI finally threw in the towel at 8 years 10 months. Wish I had done it sooner but really thought it was going to be different one day. Oh, it got different. It got way worse than it was at five years or two years. I’ve had the worse attorneys through this. I feel like I’m getting steamrolled by my wife and by my own attorneys. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/25 02:13 AM |
| 5 | Wrong to narc on stbx in pre trial intervention?It’s divorce. Yall ain’t friends no more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Classic undecided dilemmaOh man. I was about to give my wife the house because I cared for her. Even after she got the cops involved. But now, nah man. This is a business deal solely based on money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/25 04:55 AM |
| 0 | Divorce AdviceIf you’re that agreeable for a divorce why can’t you work on your marriage? My divorce is absolutely ridiculous and disgusting because my wife is a cunt. I tried to be amicable during all of it and found out she’s a pile of shit. Hopefully, she won’t change her mind and you can get away quickly and unscathed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/25 04:08 PM |
| 5 | Going downhill pretty fast…..She’ll never change. She’s who you married. You’re just seeing the core of her now. That cold callous being, the selfish, self centered woman who used to smile at every stupid thing you did, now is criticizing your every move, downplaying your existence and prioritizing everyone and everything but your cares and desires. She played her hand out and has no more wild cards. Her true hand is laying out and she bluffed one too many times. Call her out and take her chips. Cash out at the window befor… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/25 03:39 PM |
| 5 | I think it is timeYour wife is jealous of you. She will never not get over that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/25 11:58 AM |
| 2 | DiagnosisYou had ptsd before this. It’s most likely the reason you were with her. It the reason I was with my wife. She filled everything I was missing. And it was all fake. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/25 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Gentlemen, I need wisdom.Christian marriages fail just as often as any others. Jesus ain’t gonna save your marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/25 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Gentlemen, I need wisdom.Go see what Jesus said about divorcing cheating whores. “It’s better live alone in the desert than with a contentious wife” - somewhere in the bible. I live by that verse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/25 11:48 PM |
| 1 | I never was anything to herShe has court ordered possession of the house. She can’t afford the house. I’m going to buy her out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/25 02:28 AM |
| 1 | How strong a feeling did you have, prior to marriage, that it was a mistake?I just knew she was a bitch but tried to please her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 06:55 PM |
| 6 | UpdateOnce I saw the discovery and all her bank accounts. I knew right then she’s the jackal and I was the mark. She scammed me for 13 years. I’m glad I finally made the decision to end it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 04:33 PM |
| 3 | I never was anything to herThere’s no talking to her anymore. She dropped the order of protection to maintain no contact and keep possession of house during divorce. It’s all attorneys from here on. It’s gonna get stupid expensive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 11:21 AM |
| 1 | I understand why people cut their ex out of their livesShe will change when there’s a lawyer telling her she gets everything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 10:50 AM |
| 1 | I understand why people cut their ex out of their livesBro this happened to me. We had a deal worked out and then she hired an attorney and filed an op and threw me out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Just another stepSounds like my first couple of days into this. I blocked her and all her friends and all of my friends through her. I’m done with her and everything she represents and anybody who supports her. It’s gotten that evil. I never thought it would end like this. But she did. She planned for divorce before we were married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 10:48 AM |
| 6 | I never was anything to herMy attorney told me I might get to see it again but probably not. Since I made more than her. It’s so fucked. We make the same but she has a cash business so most of hers is hidden. She has 60k in cash on hand. I have $1800. lol. I paid all the bills and she socked away cash. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/25 10:22 PM |
| 5 | I never was anything to herOh bud. She took all ours. Then I totaled my truck and she won’t sign the papers for the insurance company so the claim is held up and I have 15k waiting to be released | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/25 07:00 PM |
| 5 | I never was anything to herI’m starting to put a lot of the missing pieces together and I’m positive she was having affairs. It’s all coming out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/25 06:27 PM |
| 2 | How strong a feeling did you have, prior to marriage, that it was a mistake?100% | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/25 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Signed the settlement decree today… 24 years marriedI have my first court date Tuesday and I’m really worried I’m about to get plowed over. She’s had possession of the house but hasn’t made a payment and took a lot of marital money when she kicked me out with an OP. I found out today through discovery that she had her grandfather listed on all of her accounts as co owner or beneficiary. She didn’t give a shit about me even after she was dead. That shit hurt. For real. I knew she was stingy and greedy but i never expected her to do that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/25 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Do you tell your boss when you were going through divorce?Everyone at my work knows. We’re a tight group of guys and all but one is divorced. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/25 05:55 PM |
| 6 | Post on the lack of father figure for women100% my ex. Same with all her sisters too. The whole lot of em is crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/25 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Ruined itMaybe you should learn to respect boundaries and stay out of men’s spaces. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/25 09:05 PM |
| 13 | Ruined itWhy are women infiltrating this sub and why aren’t mods. Doing something about its | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/25 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Hit the limit, now whatBro. What are you gonna do when she does it to you? Lose your kids? Be kicked out of the house. It’s divorce. It’s war. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/25 04:44 PM |
| 7 | False allegations of DVI got kicked out with an OP. I’m loving it now. After the nerves settled and she dropped it in court. I’m now on the offense and gonna slam this bitch for everything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/25 02:08 PM |
| 10 | Tales from the monkey branchI’m so glad I don’t have kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/25 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Hit the limit, now whatFile an order of protection against her for the treatment of the children. Make her move out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/25 11:29 AM |
| 2 | Should I stay or should I go?I regret ever marrying my wife. File bud. Get out and go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/25 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Looking for advice for alimony and retirement.Lawyer up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/25 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Thanks for supportIllinois | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/25 01:58 AM |
| 3 | GuiltyCongrats for being out of that. Never stay with anyone who threatens to call the cops or murder themselves. They’re insane. Leave asap. You did good brother. Raise your kids and go be happy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Thanks for supportThanks. I have a premarital home we lived in for 4 years of marriage and rented out the last five years. There’s tenants still in it. I’m hoping that’s completely off the table for her. Zero renovations only bought a new stove and fridge. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Thanks for supportWhat state are you in? Why did it take a year? Did you buy her out of the house? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Is there a checklist? What to do? (Father seeking divorce, Custody)File an order of protection for her violence against you and get her thrown out of the house asap. Then call an attorney and say you want to divorce her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/25 02:33 PM |
| 12 | I threatened to call the cops tonightBro. Call the cops. File an order of protection. If it was you, you’d be in jail. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/25 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Dichotomy of emotions?I filed against my wife and we’re still fighting in courts. I filed for divorce and she filed an OP. I’m pretty sure everything I left in the house is now gone. She hasn’t made a house payment, took all the money from the joint account and is now withholding a 15k insurance payment from a car crash. All of her friends and some of mine now think I’m a wife beater. I just found out my best friend stole some bills I had been collecting and I just feel like I’m losing at every turn in life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/25 01:26 AM |
| 5 | Men over 45 after 27 years of marriage I haven't been intimate with my wife for 4 years. Thinking of calling it quits but I am afraid of not finding anyone. How hard is it out there?If you aren’t getting any at home why not go to the streets. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 09:59 PM |
| 2 | If I file, the wheels likely fall off her lifeI had to get sober to divorce my wife. I was drinking when we met and just never stopped. Once I got sober I realized the fights about me being an asshole and starting fights was her gaslighting. I figured out that me being a drunk who hates confrontation would just bow down to her rule. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 03:04 AM |
| 4 | Visited the other divorce subs and I'm shocked...I kinda feel like that’s how this sub is for me. It’s there to get this shit out of my brain. It also helps to know I’m not alone, I’m not the only one and that there’s light on the other side. I’m in the heated throws of divorce right not and it’s draining. Financially and emotionally. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/25 04:21 PM |
| 7 | Today’s reality checkI’m so glad I don’t have kids with my wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/25 11:14 AM |
| 3 | Divorce is a (financial) set back, not ruinI’m glad my wife just took 5k out of the joint account. We were both pretty frugal but she didn’t have problems spending my money. She never had a credit card and I only have a couple grand on mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 12:30 AM |
| 5 | Anecdotal Divorce Stories from Men I Know. Feel free to share yoursI tried to hire a house cleaner but she wouldn’t allow because she didn’t want people to see how we lived unless she did the cleaning. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 07:28 PM |
| 4 | Men of reddit. What did divorce take from you and what gave did it give back?I gave my wife everything she wanted and was constantly told it wasn’t enough. We went to gatlinburg pigeon forge area for vacation a couple years ago and she never stopped bitching about how it sucked. We had a great time, perfect weather, discounted passes to Dollywood, super discounted rates for other things we had given to us. Bad ass cabin in the woods, saw multiple bears. Went for amazing hikes. But it wasn’t Iceland, it wasn’t the Rockies, it want a foreign beach or European vacation nope… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Need to get a lot off my chestYou can’t afford not to have an attorney | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Need to get a lot off my chestTell your attorney she hits you and you’re scared to be around her. That will get her thrown out of the house. If you don’t do that or move out, expect it to happen to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 12:56 AM |
| 9 | Full Circle with Affair PartnerI’m so thankful I don’t have kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/25 12:37 AM |
| 3 | False allegations are funny - let them believe it!!File the OP first!! Men. File the OP FIRST!! I didn’t. I’m in a camper hoping I don’t lose my job. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/25 06:47 PM |
| 6 | I'm at the hate stage for her nowI’m at the hate/miss you part. I saw her the other day and I want to scream at her for all she’s done to me but instead just turned around and walked the other way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/25 03:41 PM |
| 7 | Finding a decent lawyer sucksI’m in the same boat. Disabled vet and my wife even used my PTSD as a reason for an order of protection. It’s sick. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 07:40 PM |
| 1 | STBX has it disappeared with the kidsYou can say anything you want to a judge. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 01:14 AM |
| 2 | STBX has it disappeared with the kidsMy wife got an order of protection against me when I packed my stuff and left. I’m just so thankful we don’t have children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Am I a Narcissist, according to Divorce Coaches I am ?You need to file an order of protection and have her thrown out before she does it to you. My wife did it to me. Just lie to judge. She’s violent. Hit you and the kids. Do it. I wish I did. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/25 08:18 PM |
| 12 | Damn. She is going super low now even for herI’m living in a camper down by the river because my lying stbxw filed an order of protection against me. Then dropped it but still has possession of most all my shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/25 01:07 AM |
| 3 | Deleted all the photosI’m not scrolling to find pics but when google brings them up I delete. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/25 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Successful Divorce[ Removed by Reddit ] | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/25 02:19 PM |
| 4 | How to go for winning case?Plant cocaine in her car and call the cops | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/25 12:47 PM |
| 5 | To what extent and in what context do you still “care” about your ex?If she died right now my life would be better. I’m currently living in a camper at my buddies house because she got an OP against me because I gathered my belonging and left. I left and she OPd me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Lessons learned from using divorce attorney + saving money on caseI’m 4 k in and don’t have a court date for divorce but my OP hearing is in ten days. I should’ve filed an OP against her first. But here we are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 03:48 PM |
| 6 | Cohabitate, how tough it is?I have an order of protection against me for trying to live in my basement. Just trying to stay away and she would come downstairs to fight. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/25 08:19 AM |
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