How many times?!

mesi130 · 2026-04-08T11:16:03+00:00

Why do you need permission?

UrAristotle · 2026-04-08T03:35:51+00:00

Marriage is a democracy, but the vote has to be unanimous.

Mcjnbaker · 2026-04-08T00:45:55+00:00

FILE

According-Designer15 · 2026-04-07T22:58:01+00:00

That sounds exhausting. Having to repeat yourself and still not be taken seriously can wear you down.

At some point it stops being about how many times you say it, and more about what you do next. You’ve already been clear. If she’s not accepting it, that doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to move forward.

Usually the shift happens when things move from conversations to action. Not aggressive, just firm and calm. Setting the direction and following through.

You don’t need her agreement to know where you stand.

What’s been stopping you from taking the next step so far?

FUMoney · 2026-04-07T22:27:56+00:00

How many times do I have to ask for a divorce before get taken seriously

The answer is zero. Zero. You don't "ask" a spouse. You file a divorce petition, in court. You don't need anyone's permission to file for divorce. And no-fault divorce guarantees it will be granted -- the ex-spouse does not need to consent.

So do something, other than whining on here about being "taken seriously." Perhaps do something serious, like filing for the divorce you claim to want.

RabbitGlass5578 · 2026-04-07T21:44:42+00:00

You can file....even if she refuses to cooperate or sign the papers....

Jankyfumunda · 2026-04-07T21:26:40+00:00

If you're serious, just do it because asking or saying it with out action is just empty threats. No one takes empty threats serious in any situation

If you want to be a nice guy, then call her family, tell them the situation so they can help her and now its their problem to make sure she and the kid are taken care of.

If you don't care. Then pack up, have the paperwork served and move on.

Obviously with any situation, you have to make sure things that need to be transferred are transferred and things that need to be split are split

OhioStretcher17 · 2026-04-07T21:23:57+00:00

Why are you asking a question you can solve very easily, serve her

AssistantActive9529 · 2026-04-07T21:15:38+00:00

Serve her . She will get the point and respect you afterwards

RealDamage007 · 2026-04-07T21:07:21+00:00

Stop asking. Move on.

EmbarrassedAge7612 · 2026-04-07T21:01:28+00:00

It’s not going to be serious until you serve her papers.

Number007 · 2026-04-07T20:53:13+00:00

I mean, seriously, what are you waiting for!! I wasn't taken seriously until she got served papers!! Just do it!! Good luck (get a lawyer!!!)

CowBoyDanIndie · 2026-04-07T20:49:27+00:00

Why are you asking? You don’t need their consent to divorce.

GlitteringBroccoli12 · 2026-04-07T20:49:16+00:00

You've forgotten who you were. You're not a part of her story, you're a story of your own

bridge1999 · 2026-04-07T20:48:39+00:00

Just go get a lawyer and file

EnvironmentalRate853 · 2026-04-07T20:44:56+00:00

You don’t need her permission.

See a lawyer and get it done.

Coffeecankicker · 2026-04-07T20:41:13+00:00

Bro. Get an attorney

Title	How many times?!
Author	flock-fish
Upvotes	2
Comments	26
Date	April 7, 2026 8:39 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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