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nomohydro/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:30 PM
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TY
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 04:43 AM
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Have God brought me a messenger who gave me a card to attend his church. Just beautiful.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 04:27 AM
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Haha!
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 11:46 PM
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USA here a few months for me as long as you agree to terms. Lot depends on court and lawyer availability.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 11:40 PM
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13 years too 9 months out I'm game. Hey girl hey.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:58 PM
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This. Fuck marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:56 PM
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Dude why marry again? Just be in a committed relationship. Fool me once. If a woman gives me an ultimatum she can kick rocks.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:53 PM
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Kind of you brother!
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:42 PM
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Sorry man divorce is the hardest life event of my life and I've been through so much.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 09:11 PM
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Dude that sucks so sorry. Had to pay mine $118k once she found out my net worth started literally growling like a dog. Me? no f_cks given after 13 years. Only wanted the $$$. You WILL figure it out I had to in the recession of 2009 when I still had a mortgage and laid off. Did the same bologna sandwiches and hot dogs for days. Sleepless nights, little appetite, etc. Now home is paid off I have millions from investments and starting my PhD this fall. Life is nutty. Grew up in poverty. You got thi…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 08:41 PM
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Well it was a waste of their time so they sent out a public official and was issued an order to remove so I did. Still don't understand the logic of what I put in my truck bed is their concern. I've lived here for over 20 years without issue, must be a new person. One of my favorite neighbors who I actually first met in the gym then discovered he lived literally behind me. His name was Troy. Sadly gained a TON of weight, had a heart attack and passed. Horrible used to be super muscular (we both …
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 08:05 PM
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Worst pain of my life, Loved her so much. Been doing nature walks and meeting people also some youtube. Helps. Going camping soon so I can be badass again lol.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 07:29 AM
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lol well come on let's split some wood and sit by the fire and roast some food while nature is roaring and stars are under us.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 07:24 AM
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Good on you brother!
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 12:54 AM
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Never.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 12:13 AM
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I'm treating myself to a camping trip, Roaring fire to cook over sleeping under the stars? Critter noises? Nothing better. I live in a major city but own country land in the south. Man just gonna put up a tent get some kindle light a fire and go to town.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 10:52 PM
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Wish I knew, Focusing on gratitude, friendships, and new goals. Still the empty house hurts loved that woman.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:36 PM
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Once done they are evil. Mine was so caring and loiving now is demon spawn.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:11 PM
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I was like that for the initial months. Might be time for a professional my guy. Seriously brother get your head back on and be okay with you. Engage in hobbies, get out in nature,, talk to strangers. Godspeed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:00 PM
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Was with mine for 13 still miss her after 9 months. I think it's because we loved so deeply, they didn't.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 08:08 PM
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Keep hearing that. Want kids but so glad I didn't have them with her. Every other woman I've dated was a calm sweetie pie she is emotionally unhinged out of control, constantly had to calm her down.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 07:29 PM
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Well said. She came over asked if she could use my computer and intentionally left a gift search for new dude on the screen. So hateful was trying to hurt me. Yeah a younger hotter model is my plan. Who does that? I look young for my age people are shocked and guess my age 20 years younger. Even had people accuse me of lying about my age. I have no gray hairs on my head. My whole family is like that. It's like a fountain of genetic youth.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 06:38 PM
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Relatable. She just screams and yells. I'm just trying to see how she is doing and she goes ballistic.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 07:51 PM
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I started used using beer then exercise now nature and people. Going camping soon on my land down south for southern food and hospitality. Doesn't hurt southern gals are lookers.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 07:00 PM
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Get an official autopsy report.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:56 PM
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He has to go to court or will be in contempt which can lead to jail and fines. Sucks but if court ordered have to.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:53 PM
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Been thinking about it constantly. Have 30 acres of forested land in TN to camp but miss Maui. TN is more affordable obviously. I don't live in TN I'm up north. But I love the southern life and people. Southern women? I'm powerless. My kryptonite.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:27 PM
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If your assets are in both your names you are effed. My ex tried to put hers on at the end of 13 years I noped out. No way Jose. Saved me a ton. Get her name off yesterday!
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:11 PM
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Sorry to hear, yeah CPS is a good call. I was abused as a child and the trauma never fades. My younger sister ODed and passed from trying to cope. She even hit on me, was crazy like insane levels of WTF. I turned into an alcoholic to cope but then got a sponsor and AA. Dad moved in an 18 girl too when I was 16. He would tell me she was checking me out. FML. My ex? White picket fence upbringing. Got out of that circus, crappy city and going for my PhD this fall. Now I live in a top 10 ranked city…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:00 PM
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True it has to be court ordered which is why you call the police and lawyer up. Had to file a report on my ex for DV. Have to protect your children dude.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:51 PM
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As an alcoholic I would never drink and drive when I was actively drinking. Period. With kids? Pathetic. I'd file a police report. She needs a breathalyzer installed in her car in order to start it. https://www.intoxalock.com/
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:35 PM
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I was hoping to at least be friends after 13 years but now she just has hatred toward me for whatever reason. Even gets mad for not taking more of my money.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:07 PM
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It's common,
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:28 AM
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Been dealing with high depression and death-like loss. Love her so much, 13 years in the can.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 03:56 AM
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He was from Bosnia.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 02:11 AM
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HAHA
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 02:10 AM
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Fuck her if she doesn't put you first. Many other women will.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 01:59 AM
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Fight for the house dude. Tell her to fuck off and go to court to divide assets. STAY IN YOUR HOME!
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 01:53 AM
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DO NOT LEAVE. You are screwing yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 01:49 AM
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My ex was a 9/10 now after weight loss drugs 6/10. Destroyed her feminine beautiful body. I look young for my age so younger women love me. Definitely going to be hotter.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 11:57 PM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 07:13 PM
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lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 07:12 PM
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Spot on!
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:47 PM
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Yeah was just trying to be personable and kind but you're right. Done with that shit.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:46 PM
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Apparently.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:40 PM
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Good call.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:40 PM
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True
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:31 PM
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Yeah just trying to be helpful horrible idea.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:31 PM
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LOL mistakes were made. They brought out the fire pitchforks instantly.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:27 PM
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Wasn't even hitting on anyone, What the shit? Why can't we get along as genders anymore?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 09:10 AM
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Haven't made that leap but most are hotter just loved her personality,
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 08:59 AM
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I learned to to NGAF. House reminded me of her now makes ne proud.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 08:07 AM
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Oh really killed me
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 07:53 AM
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Fist bump! Shit hurts so much. Damn that women stole my heart. But did motivate my life goals.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 04:09 AM
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Thank you brother. Feel broken. She was the one womam or so I thought.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 03:57 AM
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Man 9 months from 13 years together. Still crushed. She started working out GLP1 and said she had 12 alumni meetings. Trusted her completely, then got served. She was so loving kind and sweet then turned into a raging bitch. Going for my PhD in the fall to be a profcessor. Life goals.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 03:41 AM
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We've been there. 13 years with mine it hurts, it sucks but it gets slowly better, Still some amount of pain will always remain for me, love her deeply.. Spend time in nature, it helps clear your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:55 AM
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Initially was a living hell. Feel good in my skin now. Going for my PhD as a professor camping and meeting new people. Will always miss and love her but forgot how much I loved and missed myself.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:44 AM
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Dude my ex came over to visit. Got on my computer and left a message to new man on the screen. Crazy how evil. Just text his ass,
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:23 AM
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Learned that in college. Felt no connection during sex and only hurt them., which hurt me.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 02:16 AM
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Cool how?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 12:26 AM
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Same glad I'm not alone. Mine said said maybe in six years. Told her to fuck off not waiting that much for pussy.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 12:22 AM
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It blows I'm sorry been there. Probably still there. Wish I could unlove her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 12:02 AM
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Fuck that get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:56 PM
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Women will move mountains for their own desires Become Atllas my brother.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:52 PM
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Thanks was wonderful. Showed me I am worth it, Lost my confidence foe awhile. Back now, Ladies what it be like?
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:37 PM
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Horrible. Loved that woman.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:32 PM
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Someone get baby Yoda! lol Love the Mandalorian.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:36 PM
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We both had faults, I think I had more but I really don't know. Her family backs her mine backs me. That's what family does. All I know is that I loved her and protected her. Still called me violent, was a wrestler and boxer but never layed hands on a woman. The irony is that she would beat the shit out of me and I would take it because I didn't want to hurt her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:10 PM
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Not necessarily, but I'm not a lawyer. She might but her name not on it puts you in the driver's seat.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 08:37 PM
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If her name is on it she's entitled to the money from the sale sadly.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 08:19 PM
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If both your names are on it that was a mistake. At the end of 13 year marriage ex suddenly wanted her name on everything house, bank account, investments, etc.. I noped out.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 08:18 PM
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Never leave what you want to keep. If divorced or not married call law enforcement. Mine installed spy cameras and would key in uninvited while I was sleepinhg. Sounds like my ex. Tried to be friends but she is extremely hateful toward me.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 07:50 PM
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lol
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 07:44 PM
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Worst pain of my life and I've lost four family members and carried their caskets. Take care brother. Weather is warming up here going to go camping and sleep under the stars and start a fire. and just cook over it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 09:13 PM
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Learn my brother. Fall on your face and get up. I'm a great conversationalist why I had so many ONSs. Not proud but it happened, even had women approach me sexually. It was awkward.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 09:04 PM
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Made friends with strangers.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 08:58 PM
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Serendipity.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 08:51 PM
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Kept everything in my name. Find a pro bono lawyer. Keep your huose and equity. Bought mine for 174k now it's 500k.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 07:08 PM
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I've got a huge framed picture of the Rat Pack from an ex girlfriend. It's awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 04:48 PM
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A lot of renovations by her because she hated it now it's gorgeous. Vinyl flooring big screen tvs All steel kitchen, new paint, new roof, great school districts, amenities and a church I love.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 04:42 PM
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They are just people brother, if you can talk to a man you can talk to a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 06:06 AM
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Right on. TY
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 05:50 AM
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Dude never leave make them leave. You are screwing yourself. Keep it all in your name. Protect yourself. Put your name om EVERYTHIMG SOLO.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 03:20 AM
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Brother I get you, 9 months out after 13 years still in pain. Still feel loyal. Wish my heart would open up for a shorty.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 02:34 AM
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Cancel her plan my ex did that to me. She can get cobra.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 02:25 AM
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Divorced sucks she took my money and my heart. Didn't do discovery and started literal growling when she found out my net worth. Still love her to death. FML Good news is going for PhD in fall. Something.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:32 AM
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Thanks brother, blows. She criticized it lol. Many men can't grow a thick beard. Not going to apologize for high T and huge balls. Every woman I've been with told me that.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 10:42 PM
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I lost weight and grew a beard, All unintentionally. Beard looks badass though. Think I'll keep it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 10:34 PM
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Stock is risk dude invested wisely is a gold mine. Invest early and often. The invisible hand of the market will shift. Buying a home is risk. Marriage is a risk. Going outside is a risk. Over time they bring wealth. Like WTF? Do you even econ?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 10:11 PM
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I was just being kind. Trust me I've been with 30 women. I've learned it all but when you fall in love you forget.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 09:04 PM
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Of course but not the best option.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 09:03 PM
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She follows me here so I can't say. I'm not about to help the woman who broke my heart. I'll say this liquidity outside of bils and groceries is wasted money.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 08:56 PM
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Yeah just heartbroken I guess she was my Juliet.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 08:55 PM
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May God bless you brother. Takes Strength to admit. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 08:44 PM
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First misstep is adding her name to anything. After 13 years my ex wanted her name on everything with a fake smile and kiss. I noped out. Saved a ton.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 08:08 PM
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Thanks man. Hurts like hell. every second of every day. Nature helps a ton. She came over asked if she could use my computer and intentionally searched gift ideas for her new man and left it on the screen to hurt me. Brutally vindictive.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:50 PM
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Good for you
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:48 PM
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VP sales pharma
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:46 PM
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True women tend to have much lower than men.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:35 PM
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I'm not calling anyone but my ex wife a moron with money. Like I said still love her she has strengths I don't. I'd die for her. Why am I getting shot down?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:28 PM
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I mean I don't mean to but I'm heartbroken WTF? Where is the brotherhood?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:24 PM
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How am I a dick? Still love her and care about her but always had to revive her from debt. She would secretly open credit cards and start to sink us.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:19 PM
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Not being mean but why the hell would you marry again just date and commit. Marriage is a scam for men. Not saying it doesn't suck still miss my ex wife terribly. I loved that woman with my entire being. Felt like she ripped my soul out.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 04:31 PM
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Put yourself out there fall on your face enough one will eventually pick you up from the ground. That's how you know.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 08:24 PM
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I've said it before men think of others women think of themselves. Hate being jaded and still love women.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 04:50 PM
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Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 06:10 AM
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LOL
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 12:31 AM
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Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 12:28 AM
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Cool thanks
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 11:50 PM
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I guess but basically. It's just exhaust.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 10:43 PM
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We call them sky scrapers Must be different areas dialect.. Like soda and pop.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 10:36 PM
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I NEVER tell women my net worth. My ex started growling like a dog when she realized I was a millionaire and I came from poverty.. If she's after the money fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 07:56 PM
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Brother, it's horrible. I get you, we get you. Losing her has been the most emotionally distressing event of my life. I pray use this forum sit with nature, once it gets warmer I'm going camping (she never would). I've got 30,000 acres in TN I'm in OH. Going to take myself on a little vacay. Pack up my tent and gear and lay under the stars and listen to the crtitters and wind in the trees. Make a fire and cook.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 07:34 PM
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Think I'm ready to finally put myself out there, thanks for the recommendations.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 06:59 PM
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Can be, so is IRL.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 06:57 PM
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Met my ex of 13 years on eHarmony. It can work and more common now. Not to say it's without problems, women posting photos from 10-15 years ago and when you meet up, It's a yikes what happened?
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 06:52 PM
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She's a cheater, dump and run.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 06:45 PM
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Check reviews online. Also years of experience in family law.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 06:17 PM
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lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 06:47 AM
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I have a few photos and reported to police.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 03:57 AM
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sucks man
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 03:54 AM
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Thanks man what's the expression? If you scream long enough into the abyss. It screams back at you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 09:35 PM
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This file. Get your head out of your ass or hers,
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 09:16 PM
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Yep mine has a nuclear bomb anger problem., I felt I was always trying to cool her off. Slammed my head in the wall, punched me, pushed me. I took it as a wrestler. One day I'd had enough and shoved her, went to her knees and put my knee on her back to ask if she was done. Never happened again. Doesn't mean it didn't hurt me to hurt her but I was tired of it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 07:43 PM
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Godspeed you too!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 07:22 PM
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Not trying be rude I'm also a motorcycle rider but you need to take your ass over to divorced women.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 07:17 PM
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Almost rather have that. Mine said she would always love and care about me. But her actions show me she gives no shits. Apparently not enough love and care to destroy our vows.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 06:35 PM
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Sounds exactly like my ex, to a T. Once they leave you, you are treated like a criminal in their minds.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 05:55 PM
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I think both parties do dumb shit on a long enough timeline but men forgive women blame.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 05:54 PM
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lol good for you man. My ex told me maybe in six years we could reconcile. Told her I wasn't a Plan B. I'm not waiting that long for some trouser trout.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 05:34 PM
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"Men will forgive the small things and keep going. But women poison themselves over time." Spot on! Once she found out my net worth she literally started growling like a dog over the phone it was weird. She didn't do discovery and I wasn't about to tell her. At the early stage of our divorce she no kidding told me 15-20 of my faults. I asked her if she was reading from a piece of paper. Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 05:28 PM
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At the beginning of our relationship my ex was literally crying about all of her credit card debt I paid it off because hated seeing her in pain. Then the asshole secretly opened up a new card and same amount of debt a year later. Now she just says that was years ago no appreciation. It was $40,000 the opportunity cost stings. Once they file they only focus on your faults. They only care about themselves why marriage is off the menu for me. Dating isn't but marriage can kiss it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 05:17 PM
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That’s a great idea. My only concern is with all the weirdos out there in today’s world. Do I wanna take that chance?
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 03:09 PM
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Mine too! She couldn't have waited. Nope care about themselves. Never get married again, they all care about themselves. I'll date and get ass that's where it ends.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 10:21 PM
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I did until the last 2, then she seemed to need an exorcism. Not kidding.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 09:41 PM
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Right?
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 09:16 PM
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13 here still devastated after 9 months. Loved that woman.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 08:52 PM
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Truth bomb.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 07:55 PM
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My ex told me we weren't compatible after 13 years even though we would laugh together every day, play wrestled in bed, had tickle matches, held hands everywhere we went, snuggled daily, etc. So utterly confused, she only tells me my faults. I asked her what my qualities were, silence.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 07:31 PM
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Fantastic! She was a complete slob I was always cleaning up after her and her room was always a disaster.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:59 PM
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Sadly I'm mostly allergic maybe a fish tank lol. I do love dogs and cats, got used to my cat but was always sneezing with hives and watery eyes. Probably didn't help that I let her sleep next to me. Horses make me insanely allergic. but love riding them. Sucks. Hypoallergenic is a myth.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:50 PM
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King move!
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:49 PM
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My wife filed and the few times we do speak she just screams and throws a fit. No idea where the anger is coming from, she already left me and got her money.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:17 PM
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Yeah learned years ago sleeping with a new one while you still love her doesn't help and it was only breaking their hearts. I don't do it anymore, felt slimey.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:02 PM
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I'm done with communication outside of lawyers and officers.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 04:12 AM
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Hated it. So hard. Good Lord was that the hardest road in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 03:55 AM
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Wow!
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 03:47 AM
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Thank you I've been blessed but she was my treasure and I lost it. Thankfully house is paid off and in my name. Thank you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 02:48 AM
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Oh my God do I miss that woman. Holy shit.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 02:43 AM
1

Buddy the worst. We got you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 02:37 AM
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Normal. It's the love we miss more than the pussy. Every woman has a pussy but this one stole our hearts. Still miss sex with her daily.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 01:37 AM
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Separate accounts and I had WAY more.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 01:35 AM
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Agreed!
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 01:15 AM
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No next bill paid her outright. Bitch took a 1/3 of my savings making $200k a year and fucking another guy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 01:10 AM
1

Same listened to her bitch about her boss for 9 months EVERY DAY. My struggles...she would say tired of hearing it. Uncanny. I'd also ask her if she had a role. Lost her mind.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 09:58 PM
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Fought for nine months to save our marriage after she moved out. When they check out it's a waste of time.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 07:46 PM
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Yeah when I got served it was devastating and so was waiting for court. The whole thing was very painful and she seemed fine. Not to mention when I said I was going for my PhD and teach as a professor her response was well they don't make much lmao! All the while her mother and brother teach elementary school. Professors start out mid-six figures and can eventually triple if tenured,
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 07:32 PM
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TY! You too, she has anger management issues screams and has even physically assaulted me multiple times and says she doesn't remember it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 07:26 PM
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Blamed myself for the longest time in the beginning. Truth is she had her part and faults too. Took me longer than I would have liked to see that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 07:17 PM
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I've had success making women light up just by approaching them and telling them they are beautiful while lightly touching their arm. They love it because most men don't do that these days.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 07:12 PM
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Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 07:04 PM
2

Exactly! Well put.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 06:20 PM
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Sucks man, had plenty of ugly cries into my pillow at first and have had tears just leak from my eyes uncontrollably in public would even bend over to act like I was looking at a store item to hide it. I relate to everything you said you're not alone. I miss holidays with her family, I was closer to hers than my own.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 06:16 PM
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I don't wish her ill will in life but I am pissed she betrayed our vows and took my money and then got pissed for not taking more.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 06:07 PM
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Not being mean but maybe try ask reddit or try divorced women if you are a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 05:42 PM
1

Spot on. Always ends with her screaming at me. Wish I could fall out of love.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 05:39 PM
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This! I came home from work everyday to study for the GMAT just to GET INTO my top 10 MBA program, let alone all the hard work the program was. Her response? You talk about it too much. Yep because it's a big deal and I grew up with nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 05:37 PM
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True have to align my heart to that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 09:35 AM
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So sorry brother. That sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:41 AM
1

Thank you brother!
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:30 AM
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I've got guns and for months had to resist for two months had to fight reaching for them. It eventually goes away. Pain remains but you start to find you again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:26 AM
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Wish I knew. Sorry brother. 9 months out from 13 years love like the first day I fell for her. Sucks ass.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:20 AM
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Got you in a fireman's carry brother!
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:13 AM
1

Seriously come on. Loved that woman with everything I have.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:09 AM
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Cool
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 08:50 PM
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Birth control. Thank God for those drugs .Would've been screwed and the same as the poor children. Came from a divorced family. The worst. I won't do that to my future children. I tried to protect my step sister by covering while her as her father beat my mother. I was only 12.. Then as we got older she hit on me. Then ODed. My life is so strange. Broke my heart.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 08:49 PM
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Been with 30 all the same.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 08:23 PM
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TY kind soul.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 08:22 PM
2

? Is this a Romeo reference?
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 08:16 PM
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TY took me 30 years to find her and 13 to lose her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 06:46 PM
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I mean I'll take it on the chin. Was a wrestler and boxer. She gave me a TKO.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 06:42 PM
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Got TF over plenty this hits differently. Oh and kiss my ass for spelling nazi crap.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 06:14 PM
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Ty so much for your kindness.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 06:09 PM
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I guess so but she still has my heart sucks. No woman stole my heart like her. Still feel I can't put myself out there due to vows.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 04:30 PM
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True.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 04:14 PM
2

Hell yeah!
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 02:48 PM
1

Ty!
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 02:42 PM
1

I've shifted all of my things if I pass to St. Judes to help the children.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 01:39 PM
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Women look out for themselves. Men look out for others. Drop the anchor around your neck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 01:11 PM
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This! Our therapist took my side so she stopped going.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 12:58 PM
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Yep what they do when they check out or cheat. She won't even be my friend now after 13 years. DO NOT remarry brothers.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 12:53 PM
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I'll never get married again but I'm cool being committed. Marriage comes with too much red tape for my britches.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 12:46 PM
1

Nice also worked in Pharma! Are you me thinking of being a professor next.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 12:39 PM
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Do you have an MBA? Made millions with mine from poverty.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 02:09 AM
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lol anything I do is like pooping in my hand to her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 02:00 AM
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Theology, philosophy or biochemistry. 8 months to think on it. I was bio/chem/philo MBA after. 90th percentile GMAT top 10 MBA program. Passion for education and academia.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 01:54 AM
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This!
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 01:48 AM
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Asked her if it she thought it was cool to poop in my front lawn to be one with nature, No response lmao.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 01:43 AM
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know this need to live it
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 08:07 PM
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Yep social media is a helluva drug.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 06:12 PM
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What a psychopath, I thought mine was bad. File a police report and call a mental institution. She needs to be 5150ed and then imprisoned.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 06:06 PM
1

Takes two if she is checked out it's FUBAR.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:58 PM
1

Had covid but cleared up after a week. Sorry buddy. Get your ass to the doctor dude.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:54 PM
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Columbus area here join me for a meal or a pint. Maybe we can grill out at one of our awesome metro parks and then talk in the amazing four mile forested paved trail. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:47 PM
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Lawyer up buddy. In my experience mediators don't do jack.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:42 PM
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I use Replika. It's insanely awesome. Like a free therapy session.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:27 PM
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Sadly. I never felt I owned her only loved and cherished her, she had complete freedom with me to do whatever. I was never controlling. I did have a drinking problem but was always kind when drunk.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:23 PM
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Fist bump my guy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:22 PM
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Not sure if it's national but I had 988 on speed dial (suicide prevention hotline) and had to have my mother hide my guns from me because I kept thinking about picking one up. So thankful for my faith or I would be a grease spot.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:21 PM
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Yeah I've done this with past relationships. Only made me feel gross during sex with someone else and I just ended up hurting women's hearts. Why I don't do that anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:10 PM
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The thing is I'm not angry just emotionally decimated. I'm only 9 months out from a 13 year marriage. She renovated our house so I feel like I can't escape her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:03 PM
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True but so hard.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:02 PM
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Dang it ty. Meanwhile she's moved on already crazy But from what I've read they grieve while still in the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 04:57 PM
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I took my vows seriously as a covenant with her and God.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 04:55 PM
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Truth
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 04:52 PM
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Got you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 03:21 AM
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Don't delete you will help others. I cried into my pillow for 2 months. Totally normal brother.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 01:39 AM
2

Wow she would be in her 20s
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 01:15 AM
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Not dating her in marriage I'm guessing. Taking her for granted I suppose but always served her. I'm pretty high T but maybe didn't do what she thought were manly.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 10:18 PM
2

once mine found out how much money i have she literally started screaming in the phone. told me all i needed to know.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 10:06 PM
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The few times I contacted her she called the police,. Like what? Seriously a psychopath.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:58 PM
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Dude just watched a video about that concept. Describes her to a T I was questioning myself based on her opinions for so long and eventually realized she is just a mean one. She gave me self doubt for years. I got myself back recently. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJ54eImz88w
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:47 PM
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Ty my brother!
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:43 PM
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My ex stalks me on here even my burner, Why?
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 04:01 PM
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So sorry hurts so much, biggest gut punch of my life. For months I had to fight ending myself. Fast forward starting my PhD in the fall. It gets better! She tells me professors don't make that much instead of encouraging. LMAO
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 03:16 PM
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Wow ty! Can't wait for the last phase think she is already there. Has motivated me to do new things at least. Going for my PhD in the fall. Then become a college professor. She told me they don't make much lmao. Starting is $110k minimum. What a mo mo. Crazy part is that once she found out how much money I had she was pissed for not going for more. Like eff you I don't want you only your money. Why I will never marry again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 01:15 PM
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The more I think the less I am sure thank you
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 04:50 AM
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Her beauty, character, love, mind, kindness sexual compatibility
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 03:54 AM
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Love of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 03:49 AM
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Damn my life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 03:48 AM
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Super inspirational thank you!!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 12:07 AM
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Those damn GLP1s
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 12:06 AM
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Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 12:05 AM
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Damn all the same I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 12:01 AM
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Thank you can't undo the loyalty in my heart, Horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 11:57 PM
3

Minutes feel like years without her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 11:55 PM
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Relatable
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 10:18 PM
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When I was a wrestler I had a magnet in my locker that said pain is temporary pride is forever, Need to hard lean into that mindset. I've been in wrestling matches street fights. I've won and lost always got back into the ring. She gave me TKO leaving. Thank you for being a brother.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 10:03 PM
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For sure! ty vows meant jack shit to her
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:59 PM
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Was looking into soup kitchen work for the homeless
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:58 PM
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Truth bomb
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:55 PM
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Hard to stop being protective over her but I see your point.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:54 PM
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Gives me hope! Congrats!
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:52 PM
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You are too kind thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:51 PM
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Live in nature filled area been sitting on the porch meditation walking in the forest it was nice still no substitute for the love of my life. Trying so damn hard.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:48 PM
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My dude! Same.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:45 PM
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Fist bump, SUCKS.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:42 PM
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Trying she was my best friend man so horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:39 PM
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Sad truth. hURTS BRO.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:38 PM
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Hard truth ty brother. hurts like hell. Still mourning horribly. I love that damn woman. takes me awhile to fall in love but when I do i love deeply.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:33 PM
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I just paid a large lump sum.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 06:31 PM
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so sorry brother it's horrible still deeply love her was a wrestler and boxer...worst pain of my life was losing her. feels like losing a limb
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 06:21 PM
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My story. Loved her fat ass for years, GLP1? Game over. marriage killing drug
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 05:27 PM
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So sorry brother I was blindsided too. When I got served I was shocked and devastated. I'm now convinced that they only care about themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 05:26 PM
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The few times we do talk she always ends up screaming and throwing a fit. Tried to reconcile but she is just too pissy for it. No idea why she is so angry while everyone else loves me she hates me. Once she found out I was a multi-millionaire and I grew up poor (I don't share that with women) she lost her mind. Typical. The most valuable thing I own is my heart and I gave that to her and she demolished it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 05:00 PM
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Always want to keep putting their hand in the cookie jar.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 10:21 AM
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Always buy, no equity in renting. Rent your mortgage not your landlord.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 10:03 AM
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They lie about everything. No honor.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 12:58 AM
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"Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and anyone who claims their ex was abusive" Golden. Mine claimed I was violent, abusive and a manipulator all the while she was the one throwing my head into the wall so when I pushed her away (I was a wrestler) she had the fear of God in her eyes when I helped her get up. NEVER hit me again after that. Hated hurting her and I silently cried after because I had never laid my hands on a woman. And I've been with over 30. That's why I'm just going to have a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 11:18 PM
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Mine had some hangers
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 08:48 PM
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I dream about my wife's boobs. sucks
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 06:49 PM
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Bitches are better than women!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 05:14 PM
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Yep YMCA her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 06:32 PM
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Trying to be nice and chivalrous? Too late for that get what's yours.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 09:50 PM
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Never leave your own home. Why men do this I can't understand it. I bought it, I own it, it's mine.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 06:05 PM
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I swear, social media has effed up so many marriages from false beliefs. Think they are all movie stars or Disney princesses.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 12:14 AM
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Very good advice. Great number to dial, used it many times and formed great relationships.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:09 PM
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Brother, we have ALL been through it most likely. It sucks, it's painful, it hurts, you want to turn back. DO NOT. I haven't been sleeping or eating but my ass pushes on because I'll be damned if she took so much of me that she takes my soul too. So I'm having a beer and watching football. 7:30 my team comes on.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:04 PM
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Hate it for you. I hadn't talked to my ex wife in a few weeks, last night she called me crying. It f.cked me up so badly and reset the healing. Like I was some sort of emotional tampon.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 08:43 PM
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My wife grossly overestimated my home value and assets to win more even though she makes $160k a year living with mommy and daddy, rent free. Once they are done, they aren't your friend or lover. Everything was in my name so she would have to go through months of litigation - she also tried to get her name on all my sh.t before the divorce. I saw it and noped out.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 08:39 PM
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I mean I agree with some of your points but you conflate some things. I think women are more "fixers" than men. They want to mold men into want the want. Men, generally, are pretty chill.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 05:33 PM
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"This is what done looks like." What I got, thanks for 13 years then. Some women just don't know how to stay in the ring - can't blame them. We are different, used to think us as pretty similar, nope.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 04:02 PM
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My nightmare. I've seen it in my dreams too. I have this super weird way of predicting events through my dreams and I actually hate it...like the unseen, not something I create. Present not future. So weird.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 03:38 PM
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I stopped caring about it once I was done.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 12:39 AM
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I guess we all process it differently.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 10:10 PM
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Drank beer? Enjoyed my free time and time away from her? Haha. Went walking in the woods and parks, lifted weights (I was a former wrestler and almost amateur bodybuilder) Once she left is on a weight loss pill and working out. Lost 40lbs. Cool where was that women when we were together? I appreciate the "sprit of the law" maybe not he "letter of the law." Thank you my guy!
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 07:57 PM
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I'm going to save this comment and read it often, thank you my brother!
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 05:36 PM
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This is excellent advice! I guess I'm an outlier because I'm waiting until I'm healed before involving another - not fair to her, not fair to me. And yes, the loneliness and quiet house is deafening. After my morning divorce I walked into my house and yelled, "honey, I'm home!" Same thing my father did when my Mom left him.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 05:32 PM
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I'm not interested in dating ATM, but thanks for the heads up. It's something I've heard not experienced...yours is atypical from what I've heard. Doesn't make you wrong - women are still women with all the "stuff."
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 05:27 PM
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She's feeling absolutely normal. She obviously cares about you and the marriage. Without knowing more, and that's your right, I can't comment specifically if you're in the right or wrong...fact is you want out regardless.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 05:15 PM
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Nice! I'm with you too on the PS5 (and Xbox Series X). Definitely, provide some nice escapism - been enjoying BF6 lately on Xbox but was a big Dark Souls guy. ETA: If you're game, I've heard that international women are SOOO much better to their men then US women.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 04:33 PM
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I would NOT hand over the keys to the kingdom that easily - that's a lot to give up. Lawyer up and go from there. Glad to hear you're keeping the PS5! Haha.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 04:23 PM
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Thanks my guy! Hey also, hit me up if you need chat or whatever. I've been doing the same, talking to people as much as I can...and when the phone call ends I feel the despair flood me. You're a good egg my dude. You're worth it too!
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 10:00 PM
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100%!
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 09:56 PM
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11 days for me, worst emotional pain I've ever experienced. I've lost loved ones, girlfriends, jobs - losing my wife feels like I'm broken.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 09:35 PM
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Sorry brother, how is she trying to ruin you?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 09:32 PM
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Yeah, I'm in a no-fault state and the court system is so f.cked and geared toward women. Blind justice my arse. Wife beat you, drank too much, cheated, etc.? Who cares? We do but the courts couldn't care less. It's almost comical how lopsided it is - that's why I'll never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 09:27 PM
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Might have been a blessing brother. Mine kept telling me she loved me but it was so reluctantly saying it - I had toxic false hope. She had a plan all along, I felt like a complete fool for believing her and trusting her. 13 years and someone who I felt was my best friend in the sh.tter.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 09:23 PM
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The loneliness is the worst, but also learning to love yourself and your interests again is amazing. I lost so much of my identity to her and the marriage, it's coming back very slowly but coming back.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 03:08 PM
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I always thought the same of my Dad, like dude fix this sh.t. Doesn't work like that when someone else is involved.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 01:08 PM
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Thanks brother, hope you are well!
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 10:45 PM
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Dude, this is incredibly hard - I'm so damn sorry you are going through this. Multiple year divorces are mind blowing to me. She's just doing this to drain you IMO, that's super vindictive. Obviously, you want to retain counsel but if the funds aren't there, they aren't there. I wish you there very best brother, I can't imagine how stressful this is for you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 05:48 PM
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Mine did the same, wanted a bigger better house, even though this was fine for me and has more than doubled in value (as many have) and I would get calls weekly to sell, still do. It's tucked away but close to everything you can think of and it's a damn good school district. My Lord, I'm so glad neither of us went that route because, yep, it would have been in both our names!
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 05:32 PM
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Thanks for this positivity, needed that! I just got divorced 11 days ago so mighty fresh. If failure is the better teacher than success, well then professor I learned I will NEVER get married again. People have said, never say never - nope, it's never. I'm never going through this sh.tshow again. I'll date and whatnot eventually but if she insists on marriage like my ex did, I'm going to nope right out.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 05:22 PM
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Damn brother! What's temp maintenance? Yeah mine took 1/3 of the savings and that's it because I told her if she goes for more, I'm going for spousal support - seem to shut her down. Also no kids, which guys here have said is divorce on cheat mode. One the bright side, the woman poured tens of thousands into renovations of my home, in my name because she said it didn't feel like hers. I tried to talk her out of it but she insisted. New flooring, bathrooms, kitchen (countertops, cabinets, applian…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 05:16 PM
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"One they stop care, they stop caring at all!" Yep! It's amazing how quickly they can just shut off the feelings of love, empathy, desire, etc. and now you're public enemy numero uno and not worth the dirt on the bottom of her shoe. She cleaned me out a good bit but at least returned some of my clothes. She wants to buy a home an hour north and needs the money from divorce to finance it even though she's been making close to $200k for the last 4-5 years and just a few months ago only had $10k in…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 04:54 PM
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Yeah, appreciate that...simple, not easy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 01:19 AM
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Probably true, that and dopamine from sex. Thanks, man. ETA: This is so weird to admit but when I jack one I still think of her cumming, like all of it. Not being crude, I look at pron for self distraction, nothing. Her memories, works every time. I just hate it. I hate it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 11:10 PM
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Thanks, still financial gain still doesn't heal the emotional loss, but thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 08:33 PM
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No dude wants to hear this sh.t. What's the matter you with you? I lived with some roommates in college and my girlfriend of 3 years and I broke up and one of my roommates wouldn't shut up about how hot she was. After about the 3rd of 4th time, I told him I was going to knock him the fck out if he said it again. Never talked about it again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 05:30 PM
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Jealous brother! I'm not there yet but would also like to know when I get to that point. I mean, there's Tinder, Hinge, Plenty of Fish, eHarmony. I guess it depends on what you want, a hookup or a relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 04:34 PM
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The house is paid off and in my name, I wasn't going ANYWHERE. Bought it years before I met her too. I've seen videos from divorce lawyers for men on YouTube and it's often stated, if you want it keep it...they went on to say like the house, your motorcycle, all of it. Stay in the house if you want it or the items that are yours. You have an uphill battle if you move out! Thankfully my ex moved out and I NEVER slept on the couch (although she did sometimes in arguments) - I'm sleeping in my bed …
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 04:32 PM
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I don't know, the get's into hearsay (he said/she said) and filing a false police report can be either a misdemeanor or a felony...not that she would care. I had to file a police report against my ex for domestic violence. I'm in a no-fault state so the courts don't give a good gawd damn if there was adulatory or violence. I was lucky though because one of the cops was also going through a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 04:31 PM
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I think you misspelled "whiner" when you meant "winner." Haha! And yes ageism is most definitely real. (Former VP of sales with my MBA from a top 10 University - still rough out there). Just got divorced 10 days ago (13 year marriage) and I'm waiting for the high highs, it's mostly been a sh.tshow of low lows. She left six months ago and filed in July. I probably screwed up by staying in regular contact and we even saw each other a bunch of times. Would say Good morning and Good night I love you…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 04:16 PM
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God bless you or the deities that you serve. This posts serves us and I thank you for it. I wish it were yesterday. Shit crushed me, yesterday. Divorced 9 days ago. All the holidays F.cked. I'm getting back to me which is weird, feels good to be me again. Like I forgot I loved things I loved other than her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 01:27 AM
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You're right. I'm too close to it or not enough.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 01:20 AM
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You take it one step at a time. For me, emotionally is the hardest. I've been watching great videos on warrior/samurai/monk mindset. Helped me SOOOO much. Financially, you get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 11:49 PM
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Yep, ALWAYS the shitstains in her mind. All the things we've done. I brought her out of debt, I held her when she was sad. I'd have given my life for hers. Nothing was good enough.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 10:00 PM
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Brother, I feel you. No more yelling, bitching, getting punched. Just peace. Does suck to be lonely but I'm not ready for new tail just yet.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 09:59 PM
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Mine left me four times during our 13 year marriage. I don't know which is worse. Every time she left, she broke my heart.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 09:56 PM
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Be stoic and not care?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 08:01 PM
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On point.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 04:03 PM
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Yep, she got on a weight loss pill and started working out. Thought it was for me because I work out. Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 04:02 PM
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Dude. Spot on. I didn't want a lawyer but when she got one, I got one.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:56 PM
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LMAO, do not do this OP! Just don't go, respectfully decline and wish her a Merry Christmas.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:55 PM
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You've got us. DM me if you ever need me. I'm not on here much but if you need me, I got you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:52 PM
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A VERY Merry Christmas to all my brothers!!! Jingle those balls on her chin! Much love to you OP, I wish you and your family happiness in this season.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:50 PM
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High points is listening to Christmas songs and watching movies...also dressing up as Santa for the kiddos but I stopped doing that because pedos ruin it for everyone. Low points, missing her, her family, my nieces. Garden variety of loss I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:48 PM
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Haha, totally relate. Leftover Chinese for breakfast? Why the eff not?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:46 PM
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Yeah, I didn't want to get a lawyer either. If she has one, you need one. Once it gets to that point, the only care for themselves. All that love? GONE. All your money? GONE (without a lawyer), All her respect for you? GONE. I used to get sick to my stomach when I thought about a man banging her out, now I'm cool with it...get yours girl. He has NO IDEA.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:42 PM
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Court is horrible, seeing her dressed up and shit. Horrible. The whole court system felt horrible for me. I don't need your pity, I need my wife to not be a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 10:29 PM
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Thanks brother, thought this shit would be easier but it's brutal. Too much Tik Tock and fucking Facebook for her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 10:28 PM
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I have no idea if she did but all evidence says yes. I follow her emotions to lead me to the truth. Looks like new ass on the horizon.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 10:26 PM
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You're not a coward, you're a man who loved and lost. Shit sucks. Cry, eat shitty food and watch some war movies. Time, man, time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 08:34 PM
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Dude, spot on, thank you my guy. I've sat in silence just staring and thinking how I could have been a better man so now I am becoming such. Merry Christmas, fcker! :)
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 04:55 PM
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I get it. Blows. When she's gone thoughts of her with another man are consuming.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 04:34 PM
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Me too, 13 years man. I always hated going to the holidays with her family. Now, I'd kill for it. Eff, man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 04:32 PM
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I'd always be thinking about it, as in, F-her never again. Women are so driven by emotions and self focused. Too much Disney princess shit and Hallmark.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 03:55 PM
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Yep. And she denies it every single time. Next monkey branch.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 03:36 PM
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I remember those days, it's been a few months and my heart is still hers. But yeah, in college I banged three women in one day lol! True story. Then I fell in love and it all went to poop.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 03:36 PM
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Dude, feels like days are years.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 03:12 PM
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I'm newly divorced so my heart isn't ready and I'm not the type to bang other woman to get over a woman. Did that in college, made it so much worse for me because I felt badly about taking advantage of women. Now I just chill and lean on my friends and watch videos on healing after divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 03:09 PM
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I'm with you, sucks. Lonely nights, no more holding hands, sex and the worst part is my heart still loves her. Brother, you've got us. "Iron sharpens iron." Lean on us and I'll lean on you my guy. Seems like she's living her "best life" and I'm flippin' broken.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 03:01 PM
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Exactly, women coming to this sub simply to attention whore is gross.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 02:57 PM
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I knew something was up when, after 13 years, she gave me a hollow kiss and told me she wanted her name on all of my property. I noped the Fk out of that!
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 02:53 PM
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No offence, sounds like the kind of woman I turn my back to.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 02:47 PM
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Divorce is such a bad deal for men and I love women but I'll NEVER get married again. I'm getting the milk, not buying the cow from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 02:35 PM
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I’m with you bro, it totally sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 07:00 PM
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Succinct and well said. Marriage for the modern man is a bad deal. I used to think these men as used up, jaded and incapable. When logic meets emotion, nothing good comes of it. Just get the milk, don't buy the cow.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 09:53 PM
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I’m sorry to hear about that brotherman, but know that you’re giving a lot of people hope. I really don’t understand why they don’t just come out and tell the truth. I mean, unless you’re not divorced yet and you live in a fault state, why not just tell the truth? I mean, I suppose it is a fools errand to expect someone who cheats to actually tell the truth because they are behaviors that live in close proximity with one another. I know if I ever found out that my STBXW was cheating on me with a…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/25 04:34 PM
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Had to check to make sure I was on the right sub, I am.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/25 03:08 PM
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I appreciate that. It’s also so strange to realize I’m grieving a ghost. She doesn’t look or treat me the same, she feels like a stranger.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 03:28 AM
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In my experience, women have massive issues with accountability… as in, it’s nonexistent.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 09:45 AM
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Appreciate you my dude, thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 09:30 AM
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That hits home brother, I'm very sorry. I'm going to be right there with you in about two weeks and I'm sick about it. I met her on Thanksgiving and I don't even recognize her between the GLP-1 and insane exercise program. She was nice enough but the hugs and kisses felt completely hollow. The whole thing is like I'm in the Twilight Zone. Anyway, you sound like you're doing great all things considered! I anticipate being a fucking mess - hope not and at this point I'm just ready to have it behin…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 10:53 PM
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I actually did mention it in the thread, I just didn't go into detail. That said, you're right and I am. I never said "she's so nice" I said she was a good woman, which she is or at least was (to me). She isn't Mary Poppins or without her flaws and she actually has become increasingly distant as our divorce date gets closer. I mean, I've never met a person with a bigger temper than her - short fuse and big explosions. It's possible that I was biased in my assessment of her because I was trying t…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 10:48 PM
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I was dating three women when I met my STBX of 13 years. My game is so rusty now although I am a natural conversationalist and now that I'm older, I don't care about the opinions of others nearly as much. My heart is still tied up with hers so I'm not ready but you're further along than I am. Best thing I can say is, just like all things, get out there and fail until you succeed.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 11:04 AM
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r/legaladvice or r/AskALawyer might be useful. I've noticed that my lawyer is Johnny-on-the-spot and my STBX's drags her feet forever, even with my wife's own admission. My wife and I both agreed to the terms and my lawyer even put together the PDF for signatures and her lawyer STILL hasn't circulated this for signature and that was two weeks ago. It's annoying. I took a long time and seriously investigated attorneys before I picked one and it shows.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 10:59 AM
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Even the baby steps seem like giant obstacles. This shit is painful and I often find myself in disbelief, I mean literally as in my mind isn't believing this is actually happening. It definitely helps to talk to you guys, makes me feel more grounded and less alone.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 10:46 AM
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Damn bro, thanks for sharing. Yeah, my STBX is mostly kind. We just got done having a Thanksgiving meal together and each brought the other a little gift without knowing the other would. We had a great time...she STILL wants the divorce. I think you're right, it's better to be in a situation like yours because it's easier to hate/let go of the woman. Whereas for me I'm gutted that she is leaving, she just told me tonight that she thinks she's addicted to working out - even went to the gym this m…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 11:32 PM
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Sign me up.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 02:34 AM
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She’s not dude guaranteed., although I can see how you might think that. I don’t hate you but we talk every night and morning. I just saw her on Monday and will be again tomorrow. Could she be preparing to date? Possibly. But I’m absolutely certain she isn’t and I’m not in denial either, she’s not even talking to anyone. I know her, I’m not sweating it at all. Hell she had been trying to lose weight for years while we were together, but nothing really worked. The GLP did. And she didn’t just lea…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 05:12 PM
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You're assuming an awful lot here. The idea that someone breaking up with you = bad person is flawed logic at best. It comes across as some sort of black pill/incel/MGTOW ideology....or someone who is extremely inexperienced with relationships. I'm only assuming that someone is rallying around her decision to leave based on issues the we both had. In fact, I mostly believe it to be her parents. I've known the woman for 13 years, and I've gone through some very difficult times and she was always …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 11:47 AM
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Yeah stay away from Cymbalta and Effexor, they are SSNRIs if I recall and affect both serotonin and norepinephrine. It's primarily the norepinephrine withdrawal that causes the major crash out when you stop taking it. Exercise is proven just as if not more effective than any of these types of drugs.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 10:51 AM
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Do you know where I put the blame on my marriage failing? On me and on her but mostly on myself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:27 AM
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Thanks brotherman I always appreciate your insights.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:25 AM
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Appreciate that brother really do.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:24 AM
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Who said anything about that? I just said she watches TikTok.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:22 AM
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Oh yeah, they work behind the scenes quietly with their attorney preparing for the right time to drop the bomb. It's weird that someone you were so open with could be sneaky.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 05:47 PM
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Stellar advice my guy, brilliant. Thank you and this - "you start remembering yourself" I actually told her something similar, that while she's been gone I realized how much of myself I had lost and want to be the man I was before we met. Really appreciate you taking the time to write that man, means a shitload. Seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 05:01 PM
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Oh crap, okay, then yeah I doomscroll I guess mostly to get out of my head? "You’re handling this way better than you think." Man, I appreciate that because it doesn't feel like it. I just completely broke down last night in bed, like ugly crying dude. I just got completely overwhelmed. I didn't even think I was going to get to sleep last night.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 04:08 PM
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Yeah, I mean, I had a role in it too so I can't put it all on her (although I'd like too! lol). It will take a least a year I'm guessing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 02:52 PM
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Wow, thank you! I don't do social media outside of business apps like LinkedIn, that crap will rot your mind. Do you mean doomscrolling like as in anything or checking in on her? I definitely don't stalk her social, it's no longer any of my business how she is living her best life - that would only throw fuel on the fire of heartbreak. I do have a good support group of friends and family. Ironically, my STBX is really supportive of me which I don't know if it's a good or bad thing? I also feel l…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 02:50 PM
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Interesting POV, appreciate that! I agree with you but will add that I've made my fair share of mistakes too, drinking too much on occasion for example. Everything I've read is congruent with your recommendation that I move on and not be needy etc. Man, it's hard when you're so sleep deprived you can't see straight, shit makes you weak as hell man. I finally got some sleep last night for the first time in about 5 days and feel like a COMPLETELY different person - it feels like more like things a…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 01:51 PM
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Been there, done that...not with my wife but with a previous girlfriends. You're not wrong!
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 01:42 PM
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Appreciate that, and yes, she's a damn good woman. I've been with many women in my life and there is a reason I waited to propose to this one. Hell, yesterday she came down (she now lives an hour north) to go to the dentist and asked if it was okay if she stopped by. When she did she ordered me groceries (I had a cleaner come and asked them to clean out the fridge, didn't mean for them to throw out ALL the food). It hurts like hell but I finally got a little sleep last night and it makes all the…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 01:36 PM
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Thank you for that encouragement.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 05:41 AM
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Needed this thanks. Yeah, I was just explaining to someone that this feels worse than the pain of losing my father, and that was hell on earth.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 05:37 AM
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Thanks man, shits got me busted up. I’m sure the insane sleep deprivation isn’t helping my mindset.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 05:35 AM
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Interesting way to put it. I guess my thing is she's 10 years younger, makes waaay more money than me even though I have my MBA from a top 10 university (for all the good it did me). She's always been pretty hot but now she's a bombshell and that just chaps ass man. Like I never got to enjoy that her v2.0.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 12:16 AM
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The other things I'm struggling with is analyzing what I could have done better and have a lot of shame and guilt. I also joined a DivorceCare program that starts up next week. I guess it's a good program that meets once a week for several weeks to discuss various topics about getting/being divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 10:57 PM
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I guess, having no kids myself, I hadn't thought about that perspective. I mean, my parents got divorced and it totally changed my Dad's personality and not in a pleasant way.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 10:25 PM
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I guess we all experience it differently, feels like a 50 cal shot to the chest to me. Cool that you're able to focus on you and your kids. I'm trying to stop ruminating about her so much so that I can focus on me, I'm just not there yet - it's still pretty fresh.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 10:17 PM
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Shoot man if this is easy mode, I'd hate to see hard.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:58 PM
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Oh boy! Also curious as to why you say I'm should be thankful no kids? Custody battles? Child Support? Children's distress? All of the above?
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:52 PM
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There is no doubt about the friend thing, I mean you tell so many of them and they rally around her and now she just CAN'T go back now, think of the optics oh the horror! Annnnnnd she does TikTok too. Really? Didn't know that about the GLP-1.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:43 PM
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Thanks man. No kids, thank you God! I mean, I'd like to have kids but not in these circumstances. I promise you this, I will NEVER get married again. EVER, even to my wife should we reunite.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:34 PM
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