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It's a trap!
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 11:22 PM
6

Complex, after my divorce, I will never ever marry again. Once bitten twice shy. Now I have fun and do what I want without being nagged or made to feel guilty.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 11:46 AM
3

B I N G O ! !
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 11:41 AM
3

I have been coming here since at the start of my separation back at the end of 2019. Looking back i was a mess. This sub was my rock during the subsequent divorce. Therapy and a glowup has made me whole again. After having my heart, mind and soul ripped out, I still haven't dated anyone. I have women interested, but zero connection.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 12:51 PM
1

Hahaha!
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 09:12 PM
2

A boss baby is what my ex-labled herself. Cut her hair short, got tattoos and became a man-hater.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 04:47 PM
3

Don't worry. The cuck in the chair is taking notes!
/r/MensRights02/05/26 08:31 PM
4

She can't spell characteristically!
/r/MensRights15/03/26 08:42 PM
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This is why men should be very wary of dating single women, that turns into marriage.
/r/MensRights13/03/26 11:22 AM
4

Also add me to the bad guy pile. We all have gone through the same shit. Different women same outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 07:40 PM
10

My ex also did the inspirational quotes using them to still paint me as the bad guy. She used them to make herself the poor defenceless heroine against the evil bad man who made her life a living hell. Pay all that waffle with the contempt they showed us.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 07:36 PM
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Usual, learn the grey rock method. It is so hard to not blow up, but that is what she wants. Turn all your emotion into logic. Start thinking and not reacting. She wants the life without you? Then let her go. Start living your life with just your children. She is for the streets, bruv.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 08:42 PM
12

I am 0-1. That is enough for me. Never again will I entertain marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/26 11:02 PM
2

I'm not knocking dating after divorce. I am just more cautious when it comes to me starting dating again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 05:43 PM
6

Have you noticed? We all have the same wife, just different names and addresses. I have told my two sons never get married. the squeeze ain't worth the juice
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 01:26 PM
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Worldly, i been on this sub since 2021. It helped me when I was in a dark place mentally, physically, financially and spiritually. But seeing my life played by other men suffering with a vengeful wife, brought me clarity in my own situation: you are not alone. That was then. Now? Lost 110LBS (8 Stones), grew my hair, got my million pound smile back, got my mojo back! Yeah baby! So fuck them women who have fucked us better than they ever did in the divorce! Still single. My trust in people has co…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 01:24 PM
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Worldly, it seems we have had a similar experience except we have 5 children together. Out of the 5, I only have regular contact with the eldest and youngest. She has successfully turned the other 3 against me. I am not bitter. I carry on living my life surrounded by the family that still love me. In time, the other 3 will realise what a terrible mistake it was in believing her poisonous words and actions. For me I left the family home when the abuse ramped up exponentially. I still have the rec…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 12:37 PM
7

Maybe someone should...
/r/MensRights05/03/26 11:43 AM
15

Once their mask slips, that's it, game over. There is nothing they can do to put the mask back on. I was devastated when my now ex-wife came off. I didn't recognise the person I was with for 22yrs. The shock was so traumatic, I spent 3yrs doing therapy to make sense of all this bullshit she put me through. No wonder i'm super fussy when it comes to dating again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 11:43 AM
6

Water is wet. More at news at 10.
/r/MensRights01/03/26 12:08 PM
2

Huh?
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 01:04 PM
5

Or when he wears a suit!
/r/MensRights11/02/26 02:36 PM
13

W H A T ? ! ?
/r/MensRights29/01/26 11:20 AM
1

We are meant to be wild and free. It is so difficult trying to restrain us. I post on r/Sagittarius regularly. Come join us. There we understand each other.
/r/MensRights10/01/26 05:04 PM
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Bwahahahahahaha! So its not just me then? We are way too much for women then! Good!
/r/MensRights08/01/26 07:20 AM
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You have won yourself a prize of self-awareness! Peace of mind beats anything else. Not dealing with any woman who demands my money, my time, my all. P A S S
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:13 PM
5

Such is life.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:07 PM
6

Throwing dice and getting snakes eyes in the game of life ain't it, chief.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 06:53 PM
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Not in a good way, either!
/r/MensRights07/01/26 06:41 PM
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What's is your starsign? I'm a Sagittarius, so women seem to run when I mention it. I wonder why...
/r/MensRights07/01/26 06:40 PM
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Women!
/r/MensRights07/01/26 06:39 PM
1

The house ALWAYS WINS! The game of life is rigged for us men.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 06:37 PM
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Join the wife tells the children about the divorce club. Yeah, it sucks, but it will fade in due course. Just be your loving dad self. Nothing else really matters.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 01:37 PM
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Old middle-class men!
/r/MensRights14/12/25 09:27 PM
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Yeah, whereas we are just holding on with the knowledge our children now live in a broken home. I will never forget or forgive the destruction she caused because "she was bored".
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 10:18 AM
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They want to stay single after we have given them everything we had. Now they can enjoy their life with the children we made, the car i bought, the house i bought, the bank account I filled by working 80-100 hours a week. Now they are single after we financied their lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 09:45 AM
3

What the hell?!? The world is doomed!
/r/MensRights09/12/25 03:09 PM
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They are called 'white knights'. I call them SIMPS: SUCKAS IDOLISING MEDIOCRE PUSSYS.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 02:10 PM
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TJ, every man divorced has the exact same shit. The faces and names change, but the bullshit still stinks.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 05:38 PM
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Honestly, with therapy, 18 months. I went through the dark, but now i see the daylight.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 10:35 PM
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Have you forgotten? All men are evil in women's eyes. We are the devil incarnate who can't do no right.
/r/MensRights11/08/25 02:24 PM
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Police.
/r/MensRights09/08/25 04:10 PM
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I do hope you are happy and living your best life. I never will let any woman define my worth again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 10:35 AM
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Married 22 years. Divorced 5 years, and I feel GREAT!! No more listening to the ex moan about another issue she created, lost 108LBS down to 140LBS, grew my hair, and got my mojo back. I'm dating women younger than the ex and loving it! It took me to hell my divorce did. Lost everything, including my mind. Stopped drinking, took up walking, and yoga. Did 3 years therapy to make sense of my worth. Yeah, it was worth it looking back. I wouldn't be the man today if I stayed with her bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 03:57 PM
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Find yourself in a police cell all night!!! Umm...i'll pass!
/r/MensRights19/07/25 08:27 PM
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She is a keeper! /s
/r/MensRights03/07/25 10:08 AM
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Haha! So true! Unless you are tall and good looking then you get a free pass!
/r/MensRights21/06/25 08:07 PM
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In the eyes of every woman alive, men are expendable. Nothing more to add.
/r/MensRights21/06/25 07:33 PM
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Why am I not surprised?
/r/MensRights15/04/25 12:13 PM
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Just by being here, idiskfla, you are getting to that place where you are happy with your life and choices. Sometimes, you will need to put yourself 1st. We give so much of ourselves away. There is nothing left for us to enjoy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 08:16 AM
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idiskfla, I have been divorced for over 4 years, and i am happier now! Took me years of therapy to get my mindset to not give a damn about the past. The day will come when you get the same way of thinking. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it for your peace of mind.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 06:25 PM
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And that was a tall reach.
/r/MensRights09/02/25 10:55 PM
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Whose birthday?!? Do you know which sub you are in?
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 02:15 PM
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Hell no! I was married for 22 years until the abuse got so bad I walked away. I don't wish anything terrible to happen to her, but there is no way I am going to reward her for her toxic bullshit. But if you want to be a people pleaser, go right ahead. It is your money and life you are spending on a soon to be ex wife.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 04:45 AM
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This is enough reddit for today. Fuck all feminists!
/r/MensRights09/01/25 11:05 AM
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"Who do I trust? Me." Tony Montana had the perfect mentality. He relished being the bad guy. Since my ex labelled me the bad guy, I played the part very well! Fuck them ex bitches.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 10:01 PM
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"The dildo of consequence rarely comes lubed!"
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 06:21 PM
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Hahaha! I'm dying! Poor shrek!
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 06:24 PM
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The mind of a scientist, the soul of a poet and the body of Atlas! Hair of Samson!
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 06:14 PM
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Penguin, all women do it. Mine done it, too. IDGAF if I am labelled the bad guy. If you are, then relish the role. Nobody cares. Just do you and have fun doing it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 05:10 PM
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It does! But I also have a warm heart!
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 05:07 PM
2

You rang?
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 04:50 PM
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It is height, not hieght. Sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 04:45 PM
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S.T.T.U.W
/r/MensRights08/11/24 02:37 PM
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I swear Toe, we have lived the exact same life! I have been doing a lot of research into Borderline Personality Disorder. I also gave myself the BPD test. My ex has it. That explains the: Lovebombing Mirror likes/dislikes Hot/Cold Push/Pull Cutting off family/friends. (She once instigated a fight so bad between my parents, we didn't speak for 5yrs) No hobbies allowed It's all about her feelings. Mine never mattered. I could go on, but instead I'll leave that for you to see if your ex has indeed …
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 11:01 AM
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Toe my brother, I know the exact pain, shock, and disbelief you are experiencing with right now: 23yrs, 5 kids, money, holiday home, everything she could dream for, I bought it for her. SAHM (lazy) never cooked, cleaned, ironed, anything. Just sitting down, on her phone doomscrolling, or seeing her toxic friends. They told her she can make bank out of the divorce, so she walked out for 6 months. I was devastated: begged her to come home. Nope, too busy getting dicked down by Tyrone. I had the 5 …
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 08:49 AM
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Get a games console or PC.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 05:57 PM
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I never knew you met my ex-wife. She is a bottomless pit: no matter what I did/what I gave her, it was never enough. She wore her mask well too, until it slipped and I saw the real her. I was shocked! Then again, my mother saw the real person under the mask. She told me to not to get romantically involved with her, but I was under a spell. Twenty 22 years later, I divorced her due to the ex ramping up the abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 05:53 PM
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Have you noticed the very last image of our exes is the most telling? That last image is the one that turned all out lives upside down and inside out. Whenever I do date again, I will be looking for behaviour my ex had. If my new date has them too...I'm gone. Too mistrusting to be dating red flag women. There will be amazing women for us when the time is right, but not for me presently. My children and my elderly parents need my support, so I'm putting my lovelife on hold for now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 12:45 PM
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What worked for me was this: My very last image of my ex was when I was leaving home for the last time. She stood there with my jacket in her arms and just dropped it to the ground with a smirk and shut the front door behind her. Anytime I waiver I just think back to that image of her cruelty and I snap out of it quickly. Apple, you will be better than good when this is all in your rear view mirror. Be grateful your time of being used and disrespected by your ex is finished. Think 🤔 of yourself …
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 12:20 PM
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That how i was with my ex: I was totally besotted with her beauty and intelligence. She has dark eyes that sparkle whenever she smiles or laughs. Damn, to find someone who can turn my head and heart will be a miracle. We had 5 children together with 3 grandchildren, so we do see each other on family occasions. I won't lie: she looks amazing still. But so do I after I spent 4yrs working on my physical mental spiritual and financial wellbeing. I hold no animosity towards her as I don't believe in …
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:48 AM
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The wounds in your heart never heals really. You can put a bandaid over it, but the cracks will appear again. I am not interested in dating yet. My trust levels are zero, so it will take a exceptional woman for me to open up again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:15 AM
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Welcome to being 'married in 2024. All of us here know the pain, betrayal and lies that bring us. I have been divorced 4yrs and that bitter taste of pain never truly leaves, no matter what you do or say. So i just live the life i was meant to live but it is hard when you get to my age.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:13 AM
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Me three.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 12:31 PM
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Alpine, we will all die 1 day. Why waste it with negative energy? Not every marriage/partnership will last. Instead reevaluate what you want out the next relationship. Work on your weaknesses and become the man you were always meant to be. The past has gone. look forward and see how amazing life is.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 11:31 AM
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I am. Been with my parents 4yrs since my divorce. And I love it! I help my parents out with bills and I have peace and quiet to pursue my hobbies: Blue ray collector Gaming Biking Gym Walking Seeing friends Comic collector Old sci- fi nerd! I still my children and grandchildren daily and my parents so I am content. I have a 55 samung q neo, ps5, 7.1.2 dolby atmos so I am good lol. Myself being at my parents has been a blessing: I can help them both and just listen to them, because I will never g…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 02:02 PM
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Hmm? N E V E R ! !
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 08:45 AM
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This is the mentality I have concerning my ex-witch: have a great healthy wealthy life and let her stew in her own greed. Since the divorce I have become the man I was destined to be, and not get weighed down by a unambitious lazy bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 02:15 PM
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Marriage is just a vehicle to make all men subsurvient. We are then thrown away once the juice has run out. Welcome to modern marriage where men as a resource are exploited through means of subtefuge deceit lies sex food. Us men need the wake the hell up and find value who we are as men. I don't need any woman. If she wants me then she will have to chase me because i am never simping any woman again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 09:48 AM
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It is not flipping a switch, they have been masquerading as a certain woman until she got what she wanted: marriage family house car money. Once she has drained you of all your natural resources, her mask comes off and then you see the real woman you made a life with. All of us here has had the exactly the same experience. No wonder i am still single since my divorce rape in 2020.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 06:41 AM
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I forgot about heath ledger's Joker! Doh!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/07/24 10:02 PM
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For me THE best joker of all time was Cesár Romero. He was pure class. That jared leto monstrosity should be forever scrubbed from history.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/07/24 08:40 PM
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And finishes' with a 6!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/06/24 05:51 PM
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Send your ex this: 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 06:52 PM
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Happy birthday to your daughter! My daughter is 21 today also!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:18 AM
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Common sense. Nothing more to add. There is no way i would ever entertain such a idiotic thought again. I'm doing great now after spending time in therapy and i never will make myself vulnerable to any female again. The squeeze is not worth the juice.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:10 AM
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You mean vocal.
/r/MensRights27/05/24 07:15 PM
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In other words: Man bad Woman good Oogabooga.
/r/MensRights26/05/24 05:21 PM
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Again my pleasure, Designer!
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 09:05 PM
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My pleasure, Designer. Just don't be so hard on yourself ok? Also make sure you make time for your family and friends. My parents have been amazing helping me heal my broken heart. Now? I can laugh again and be me without worrying about the exes 'feelings'. Trust me bro! In time this will be a faded minor inconvienience for you. Just keep your head held high and embrace loving yourself again. Find a hobby and meet new people who will love your company and confidence!
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 08:46 PM
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I too found myself missing my ex every few days in the beginning, but that started to fade until my ex who?? Don't beat yourself over missing your ex because we have all done it. Instead use this time to work on yourself: mentally spiritually physically and financially. Be the best man you can be, so when you find someone who will love you, you'll be perfect for her. I also suggest you delete her on social media. You don't need to be reminded of her at all. Look to the future instead. You can't …
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 07:07 PM
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Designer, grey rocking is not letting your heart rule your head. Do you remember mr.spock from star trek? He used cold hard logic to deal with people and situations and never let his emotions control him. If you have kids, keep your answers and questions short and that's it: don't ask her anything else. Just be someone who doesn't give a damn who she was: instead look how she is now, a woman who only used you until you are no longer needed or required. I am sorry if i am being direct with you br…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 06:43 PM
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Bee, just go grey rock. Life is way too short to deal with a soon to be ex-wife's crap. Let her have her AP because they both deserve each other. Instead just work on yourself and your children. Cheaters will always cheat. You be the adult in your relationship. I really don't give a shit what the ex is upto. As long as me and my kids are ok then i'm good. You need that mentality too otherwise she will run right over you without a second look.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:19 AM
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If that is a woman i just scored for Arsenal!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/04/24 04:29 PM
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I was super close to my exes family until the divorce. The lies she told them about me destroyed what we had. So i don't see them anymore. They even knew she was the abusive 1 but blamed me, since i must have driven her to do it. Fuck 'em all. Don't need no 2-faced inlaws in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 10:20 AM
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Honestly Isthis, the pain she caused you will fade like a cheap pair of jeans. Soon she will be nothing more than a very very distant memory. You will look back and say "phew! Dodged a nuke of a missile!" Upwards and onwards my brother. The best way to get rid of a shitty divorce is to have the very best life you can. I guarantee the ex will try and contact you again when you have the life you need and want. Hell no! She belongs to the streets! Do you ok?
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 05:44 AM
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1 more week then you are free! I'm still single due to the abuse i suffered so i am less trusting and more cautious. You have time now to get your smile back. It took me ages but i now see it was worth it since i have my mom and dad back. (The ex cut me off from my family and friends so i was isolated). Just do things that will help you in your healing. Anything that brings you happiness. We all have 1 life so why waste it on a woman who never respected us? When you are 100% healed, start dating…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 03:58 AM
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Your ex wanted 1 last twist of the knife through your heart before you disappear from her for good. I swear every man who gets divorced were all married to the same bitch. It was all a act: the real women we married doesn't show until they want a divorce then the mask slips and we see the real them. I feel your pain brother. I do hope you can heal from the last betrayal of a heartless and selfish woman. We are all here for each other due to evil exes. So you will always have us all to talk when …
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 03:48 AM
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isthis listen: your ex-wife wants to do maximum damage to you. She knows her actions will have the desired effect. Once the divorce starts, you become public enemy #1 in her eyes. Do not be surprised if she is bad mouthing about you to everyone she knows. Women will always portray themselves as the victim in their lives. So they need a bad guy...you. i know it hurts but let the ex keep the dog. Don't give her any reason to prove that she was right in divorcing you. I know because i endured a ter…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 03:37 AM
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Gym, cycling, walking, dentist, therapy, grew my locs, and just loving me for me. Once i could love myself again, i knew i had the capacity to overcome a car crash of a divorce from a ex who has BPD. Now? Lost loads of weight, no alcohol or smoking, got my mojo back and have a gf who loves me for me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 12:02 PM
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It is 'rescind consent'.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 05:14 AM
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¡ʎɹɹos
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 11:53 PM
0

¿ʇɐɥʍ pıp
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 11:17 PM
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I loved reading especially as a boy growing up. I turned the book upside down to give myself a challenge while reading. Haven't done it in awhile but i still got it lol. You are a good older brother. I am the middle son, so i was always the odd one out. Still am lol. Once a geek always a geek!
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 10:45 PM
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Aah! A fellow upside down reader. You are the only person besides me who can do it! I taught myself to read upside down years ago. Nobody knew until now! ¡sɹǝʍsuɐ ɹoɟ sʞooq looɥɔs spuǝıɹɟ ʎɯ ƃuıpɐǝɹ ǝɯ ɟo sǝıɹoɯǝɯ ʞɔɐq sƃuıɹq ˙ɐɥɐɥ
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 07:25 PM
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Also happened to me. When my now ex-wife's mask dropped and i saw the real her, i was devastated. Her eyes turned full black and full of hate for me. That was 4yrs ago and i can still see her rage for me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 07:41 PM
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I have nothing left for my ex, but i would save her as she did give me 5 beautiful kids. I am not the monster she portrayed to everyone. I have a good heart which she tried her hardest to destroy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:17 AM
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Our kids never mattered. I never mattered. The only thing that ever mattered to my ex was her 'feelings'.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 09:13 AM
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Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! N O !
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 09:10 AM
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The old saying 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' has never been truer for men in these stressful times.
/r/MensRights27/01/24 04:38 PM
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T H I S I S T H E W A Y
/r/MensRights03/01/24 03:03 PM
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"I swear on my name and the names of the ancestors... That I shall walk the Way of the Mand'alor... And the words of the Creed shall be forever forged in my heart. This is the Way".
/r/MensRights03/01/24 02:28 PM
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No. No text/call at christmas or new years day. Only time they get intouch is when they need my help.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 01:54 PM
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Whenever a woman mentions divorce even once, call her bluff, get a lawyer and petition divorcing her. She has lost all respect for you, and by begging you look weak. Prepare for war because your soon to be ex is getting ready to take from you everything you have. This is no time for tears. Instead use your pain to motivate you to be the best dad for your kids. They will need your strength and kindness to help them during your divorce. Good luck and keep your head up. Anytime you need a friendly …
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 02:27 PM
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Guys, i am 3yrs out of a toxic marriage. My ex has BPD, so you can imagine the crap she has put me through for 25yrs. I won't go into details here, but to tell you that good days will come again. Right now the fog is thick with doubt, shock and disbelief. I am still the bad guy for divorcing a toxic, drunken, abusive, lying, 2 timing woman. Now she has poisoned our 5 kids against me, and told everyone i am the abusive 1. I don't drink, shout or violent, yet those so-called friends believed her l…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 12:00 PM
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Astronaut, it is a trap. Always look at what they do and never ever what they say. Get all your ducks in a row and leave this sinking ship. How many of us fell for the same stinking trap, only to be blindsided with a divorce? The answer? Nearly all of us. We all get 1 life to be the very best version for us and our families. Trust your instincts: she is buying time until she has all her ducks in a row then....BOOM! Divorce and maybe a DV charge to get you out the marital home. Just my 0.2 cents.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 12:24 PM
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My red flag is my ex's parents never showed they even liked each other: no hugs no kisses no holding hands. Whereas my parents celebrate their 60th anniversary later in 2024. They still kiss hold hands cuddle. That is why i am so loving and she was cold and distant. My mother warned me not to date her. Mom was right. My next gf will meet my parents before i get too serious. If mom doesn't like her then she is gone. No way on earth am i dating a red flag waving chick again fuck that noise!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 11:34 AM
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For me, i have 5 kids. I made damn sure they want for nothing ever. Not 1 even sent me a single text wishing me a merry christmas. That pain is the worst ever. I have been spiraling since. I each gave them a nice amount for christmas, and they couldn't even text me. I spent christmas by myself. I went for a walk and started crying.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 11:29 AM
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Or you go to the car dealership to part exchange that beat up model for a new car you can drive all the time without begging for a ride!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 11:25 AM
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You just made me spit out my coffee! But damn, that is 100% truth: the millionaire will get away with murder and the hobo will get prison for it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/12/23 03:09 PM
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A whole 2hr account?!? We need to make posting here a more stricter procedure. Can the mods implement a certain amount of either Karma How old the account is Whether divorced or not. This should make posting here for us divorce men a safer place to vent/learn/discuss our lives or problems.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 08:30 PM
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"Fool me once shame on me, fool me twice shame on you".
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 04:56 PM
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Thank you, Reflog! I turn 55 on thursday so i will be celebrating without made to feel guilty from the ex.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 11:16 PM
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I left my home with my ps5, 7.1 surround system, comic collection and my clothes. My evil ex kept everything else. She left me with nothing but bitter memories and a bitter taste in my mouth. But i digress as that was the past and i am healed and free from that crazy bitch! Took me awhile but my home is gorgeous! And i don't share with anyone. I host game weekends for my kids where we host lan parties. Life is good now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 05:44 AM
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I am 55 later this month. Been divorced for 3yrs. She was an abusive alcoholic which i cut loose. No regrets. Single and loving it. My kids are all in their 20's, so i can work on me. Been in therapy and worked on my wealth health mind and spiritual wellbeing. Most of my friends are either divorced or living in dead marriages. I can do me! Not dating until i find 1 that will treat me as me and not a sucker who will buy her love. Going to jamaica for christmas! Can't wait!
/r/MensRights08/11/23 04:48 PM
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I fucking hate cottage cheese ass! My crazy ex did the 'ol spandex keep the ass in place bullshit. Her new man is in for 1 hell of a cheesy ride hahaha!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 08:31 PM
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Win stupid boyfriends! BWAHAHAHAHA!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 08:20 PM
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Listen, it is because they need us all to be the villian and her the poor innocent victim in her play. Honestly, DGAF! If they want to rewrite history then let them. Just continue on your healing path: mental physical spiritual and financial wellbeing. When they notice how great we all look, they will try and worm their miserable asses back into our lives. Had it to me, but i just laughed at her and carried on being the best me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 08:17 PM
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I am still in therapy due to depression. I am a lot better than i was with her but i still get days i feel like crap. The good news i kept my ps5! She took everything but the clothes on my back. Leaving home infront of my kids is soul destroying. I wouldn't wish that feeling on anybody. I can still see her face grinning as if she has won the lottery. I don't care what anybody says: starting over in your 50's is heartbreaking. We give them everything to end up with nothing. No wonder i have no in…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 02:22 PM
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I am also turning 55 next month. Got divorced at 52. It has affected my mental health considerably. I now have trust issues and became very standoffish and distant. I divorced her due to the mental physical spiritual and financial abuse. She completely drained me of my self-worth and trust. I won't be dating again. Prefer my kids and parents company.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 01:54 PM
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I never knew you dated my ex-wife!
/r/MensRights17/10/23 09:48 PM
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Saying "I do!".
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 02:55 PM
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I have a galaxy fold 4. The amount of people asking me what my phone is when i open it is absurd. Women especially love asking me questions about it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/10/23 08:38 PM
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No. They all believed the bullshit the ex was spreading about me when i was the 1 who was suffering with the abuse at her hands. Their loss my gain.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 07:01 AM
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I wish we were neighbours so i could share my ps5 with you. I do need a gaming buddy...
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 01:01 AM
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I have been divorced for over 3yrs. I am in a much better place now where i can be a great father son and brother to my family. Scorpio, honestly get a ps5. Spider-man 2 is out in 13 days. I would also play God of war 2018 and Ragnarók because that deals with a father helping his son deal with loss over 2 games. I played both with my kids and they loved the story unfold before their eyes.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 07:32 PM
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Get a ps5. I got one to help my mental load while divorcing a narcissistic evil woman. Never again will i be a slave to womens whims. I think therefore i am.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 07:28 PM
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No cats and fridges full of boxed wine as those 2 combined are massive red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 08:35 AM
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bernie, why would you put yourself back in the meat grinder? I have been divorced for 3yrs and i am still single. I worked on my mental physical spiritual and financial well being. I am in a so much better place since i divorced the succubus who sucked me dry. If i date again it is to someone who can enhance and not subtract from my life. There is no reason to rushing back into dating because there will always be women but only you. Think logically and not emotionally and you will see women for …
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 08:34 AM
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Marry me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 07:14 AM
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That is 100% correct! My parents have noticed i am my normal confident self (with a dose of arrogance. Sorry!) Therapy has done wonders to my mental wellbeing: no more biting my tongue if i don't like something. The old me would just accept it for a quiet/peaceful life. Now? Idgaf if you don't like my opinion as i am here to make myself happy and to put myself 1st (that felt weird at 1st as i always put myself last). I had to goto a beauty shop for mom on saturday. When i walked in it was just f…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 09:24 PM
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As i said "there is someone out there who will love us for being us". I love wearing all things designer just for me. I am so over impressing anyone at my age. If a woman shows an interest then i'll take a peek lol.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 05:15 PM
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Ad, i do get lonely but it passes when i realise i still have my kids, grandkids and my parents. I am not worried if i'll find a woman who will love me for me, as i have faith i will someday.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 03:55 PM
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Congratulations, Cost! I have 5 kids (2 boys 3 girls) and i have always taught them that your appearance is so important because that is what everyone will see 1st. Us men need to take care of ourselves because it is so easy to let ourselves go. I love looking and smelling amazing! I get compliments from both men and women more since my divorce. I also have shoulder length dreads which i get asked questions about them. I have found out that it is easier to attract the opposite sex if you take ca…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 03:12 PM
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I was super lucky i still have both of my parents for support. Without them i would be in either prison mental ward or dead. Thanks to them i got help through therapy and my parents love and support. For me to date again the woman has to be exceptional and has to work to get my love. I will never put another woman on a pedestal because they will always look down on me. Then again the single life is amazing: i can do whatever i want without being made to feel guilty. I can play my ps5 at night wi…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 01:14 PM
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I am 54 (55 in november) and i am still single. Had a horrific ex-wife who put me through the meat grinder for 25yrs. I finally divorced her back in 2020. Not looking for a gf yet as i was in therapy due to the abuse i suffered. I have worked on my physical mental spiritual and financial health. But when i do start dating again she will get the best version of me without the hangups i had. Right now i look amazing (honestly!) I stopped drinking alcohol for 3yrs non smoker and i am in peak phyica…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 10:22 AM
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Honestly Nicolas? Give yourself some time to mourn your divorce. Once that has finished get yourself into therapy. It would be good for you to talk and get good advice how to move forward. While in therapy work on your mental physical spiritual and financial wellbeing. Once you are healed and happy then go out and have fun dating again. Just remember only you can make yourself happy. In the meantime reconnect with family and friends because they will always accept you for you. Take care and be h…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 03:58 PM
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You forgot the room full of cats!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/09/23 08:58 AM
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Tractor, i know exactly how you feel. I was married for 25yrs to an abusive evil wife. She left me in june 2020 leaving me with the kids. I had to do everyrhing and still work. I was begging for her to come home not realising she had a new man. She came home december 2020 and that was when the abuse ramped up. By june 2021 i was gone. She took me to the cleaners: left me with nothing but bitter memories. I was drinking when she left the 1st time. It took my father to make me see since and stop d…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:01 PM
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Here endeth the lesson.
/r/MensRights14/09/23 02:35 PM
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The way truthteller is acting, i have a gut feeling it is the same bitch making OP's life a living hell. There is no way on earth any decent man would condemn the OP and praise the crazy bitch, unless the crazy bitch has found him here o.O BTW OP, if a woman can't give up her pussy then she has no value.
/r/MensRights26/08/23 11:37 PM
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How ironic; your reddit name is truthteller but all i see is bullshit. Why don't you piss off and go outside and touch the green stuff called grass. Btw, white knighting for women is sad hahahahaha.
/r/MensRights26/08/23 06:58 AM
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And pussies that don't fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 11:08 PM
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Exactly! All of us men here have suffered at the hands of our vindictive exes. But what they all did belongs with them...in the past. We shouldn't waste this gift of time or life dwelling on the past, but to see the potential of our future. Go out and have fun and work on yourself. Your ex has given you the best gift ever...FREEDOM! Freedom to come and go as you see fit is priceless. That is why i am not swapping it for any woman, no matter what she says or does.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 12:32 PM
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alex, you got this bro. You need to hold yourself in a higher regard than anyone thinks of you. I make myself happy so i don't need any woman to make me feel better. I just don't need a gf at this moment in time. I have been divorced over 3yrs now and i love being single! I don't answer to any female: i can focus all my attention in improving myself financially spirirually mentally and physically. Don't put a single goddamn thought to your evil ex. You need that IDGAF mentality. Once you have it…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 11:54 AM
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So you met my ex wife then?
/r/MensRights13/08/23 11:18 PM
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A M A Z I N G ! ! I am 3yrs out and i feel great. I worked on my physical mental spiritual and financial well being. Grown dreads white teeth 6pack! Smell/dress gorgeous. Getting women hitting on me! The ex has been telling everyone she has messed up getting rid of me. Only because i fixed myself up and i don't need her. The penny had dropped how good her life was with me, but it had taken it's toll on me and i was a shell of my former life. Now i smile and laugh again. Meanwhile the ex has put …
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 07:17 PM
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Are you: A) Female B) A fucking idiot? Take your time and really think about the next answer you give the group. I await your answer...
/r/MensRights20/07/23 10:02 AM
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She sounds like mine...controlling, angry, insecure, and hostile. We married the same evil bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 12:49 PM
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We have a blue pill taker in our midst. God i absolutely detest 'white knights' protecting the innocent women of the world. The very same women who will destroy everything you hold dear. I am super wary of women since my divorce: who do i trust? ME!
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 12:45 PM
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"I've been raped by better men than you." That is the most disturbing quote i have ever heard and i am 54. My now ex-wife was horrendous in her actions and her words, but she never said that. If she had uttered those unforgiveable words i would be gone and seen a lawyer to terminate this hateful marriage the same day. No man who gives everything to his wife/family deserves that level of contempt. Audrey, i hope and pray you are in a better place now. Sending you a loving hug because i do love hu…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 07:36 AM
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I am sure we married the same 'feminist warrior'. It is uncanny how similar they are with their actions. It is like a mania has gripped them and they lost all reasoning.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 04:06 PM
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I do love tattoos when the person has put some thought into them. But my ex has these tattoos that look like a child has scribbled on her arms with a permanent marker pen. As for the songs our exes have tattooed is Basket case by Green Day!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 04:00 PM
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My ex has them on her chest and both hands/arms. They look tacky! She has put on over 100lbs since the divorce. My daughters have told me she blames me for all this: yet she was the one who abused me mentally spiritually physically and financially for years. I divorced her because she is rotten to the core. I loved her with all my heart and soul: she saw someone she can use to get what she wanted house car kids money.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 03:42 PM
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L E A V E N O W !
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 02:30 PM
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Heh! My ex blamed me for her behaviour that led to the demise of our marriage. These women have no self-awareness: it is all "me me me". Horrendous and shocking behaviour from them all. Us men have been well and truly deceived with a life of lies. Never again will i do a LTR/co-habiting. Happy seeing my kids and my parents.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 02:18 PM
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The next victim/simp. My eldest daughter told me she is talking to these men who are inferior to me in everyway, but idgaf. We are divorced so my support has faded like a cheap pair of jeans, and i am free to do me. She hoovers me constantly because she knows she has messed up, but why would i go back to crap attitude and crap sex? P A S S !
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 01:32 PM
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Did we marry the same evil witch? My ex has put on some serious weight, got horrible tattoos, became a feminist, got a nose ring, wears make-up so thick it could plaster walls and posting on social media saying the same nonsense "i don't need no man!" I swear they all read from the same damn book. If we didn't have kids together i would disappear. Her family try to stay in touch but i have my reservations since they all believed that i was a monster.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 11:41 AM
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I went recently to a beauty store for my mother. She needed some beauty products. I walked in and it was full of women. I am a 6ft jamaican with shoulder length dreads who keeps himself in shape. I could feel the stares and i felt really uncomfortable. I am not a piece of meat you can drool over. Since my divorce i am now super picky who i want to date since my ex has BPD. I have been divorced 3yrs. Done the hardwork of rebuilding my life with therapy and gym. I will only date a woman who is exc…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 11:22 PM
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Long may your posts continue to light up r/divorcemen, because we all need a little joy from all the heartache and pain a ex-wife causes us.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:36 PM
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"Yep, but only in reruns!"
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 10:18 AM
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Hook line and sinker!
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 10:16 AM
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And what happened to the Titanic? It sank just like OP's marriage...
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 10:16 AM
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Happy Fathers day Chunder❤️!
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 09:00 AM
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I have 5 kids (3 girls 2 boys) ages from 15-25. Only my middle child (daughter) texted me to wish me a happy fathers day. Yet i am the one who always help them constantly financially mentally physically or spiritually. Their mother would constantly belittle me infront of them while they were young, and today has shown the true level of contempt for me even though i provided a stable and loving father. Thank you for your post, OP. It did make me laugh because i went through the same scenario with…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 08:43 AM
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I am 54 and i have been gaming since the 1970's! Got my ps5 at launch while i was going through a divorce with a vengeful 'wife'. Worked on myself physically mentally spiritually financially. Gaming has kept me sane and i am always in contact with my kids when i don't have them. I have been playing the demo for final fantasy 16. What a game! I also have a private lobby on street fighter 6 for myself and my kids only. I am still single since i have time only for work kids and my elderly parents. …
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 04:05 PM
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T O O F A R 😔
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:50 PM
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I upvoted your post because it is fact: i have a way above average Intelligence Quota. I have always asked questions due to my inquisitive nature. I love art galleries/museums travelling learning about other cultures (religion history food). My ex-wife hated going abroad with me since we don't share the same passions. All she wanted was to sun bathe by the beach drinking. I prefer to study the country so i know where everything is and to know the laws of the land.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 10:18 PM
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The 1st line can make or break a date. I found out i have also got a great skill at listening without ever being judgmental. My now ex was overbearing which is a massive red flag for me personally. I swept it under a rug because she loved bombed me so much i excused all her bad behaviours. It was a drug habit i couldn't shake: she trodden over all my boundaries until i became a slave to her needs. The feeling she gave me was unlike anything i have felt before her or after her. It has taken me 3y…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 09:32 PM
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I posted recently the art of conversation/communicating is dying as a skill. Like everything we do, we need to constantly practise until we become fluent in speaking. As a child i had a stammer. My parents paid for my elocution lessons so i could speak properly. It was tied to myself being a shy lad growing up. Now? I can talk the hind legs off a donkey lol! If my date couldn't make the effort to communicate to me, i wouldn't have another date with her as i hate talking to a brick wall. I divorc…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 06:27 PM
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Throwaway, you need to focus on you by putting your needs/wants 1st. Do not dwell on what the ex-wife is doing with her AP and child. I make it sound easy but everyone here is/has been in the exact situation as you. Instead of thinking what you have lost, look at the life you have gained. Work on your physical mental financial spiritual wellbeing to be the very best person you can be for yourself and your child. I have been divorced 3yrs so i am further out in my healing than you. I just took 1 …
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 02:31 AM
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I lost 44lbs since my divorce. I have never felt healthier or happy since before the now ex-wife. I now get women hitting on me but i am not interested as i love my freedom to do whatever i want without feeling guilty or walking on eggshells!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 04:04 PM
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I lost 44lbs since my divorce. I have never felt healthier or happy since before the now ex-wife. I now get women hitting on me but i am not interested as i love my freedom to do whatever i want without feeling guilty or walking on eggshells!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 04:04 PM
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Actions will always speak louder than words. The vows we make to each other when we marry are worthless because they are empty words without action. The vows should be sacred since they are made in the eyes of God and should never be broken...
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 08:19 AM
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H E L L N O ! !
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 01:29 PM
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Marriage!
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:37 AM
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O M G ! ! That was my life with the now ex-wife. It is scary everyman here has gone through the exact same situation...
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 07:45 PM
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It's all good brother! We have all suffered with the pain of a wife who finally showed her real face. This sub has been just amazing in being supportive to me while i was going through hell with a vengeful ex(wife).
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 05:36 PM
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E X A C T L Y ! ! No more dealing with a red flag waiving woman like she lives in china.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 05:18 PM
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Mine also had an affair. Told everyone i drove her to cheat. I filed for divorce the next morning.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 05:16 PM
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P I S S O F F C A N D L E S ! !
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 02:31 PM
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And if you don't win then you are fucked by the courts.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 12:20 PM
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N E V E R ! !
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 11:02 AM
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Unfortunately every man divorced has the same wife. This is not a coincidence but natures way of telling us not to marry.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 10:49 AM
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It would be....no child support!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 10:48 AM
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So as i drank the lipopeptides, my husband had a strange gleam in his eyes. "The bastard! He switched my antibiotics with sodium hydroxide. Argh! My stomach is on fire!!" My husband said "who needs a divorce when the bitch is dead!" That is all i remember as i slumped to the floor before engulfed in darkness.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 04:19 PM
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"Don't you remember Honey? Coffee gives me ulcers!"
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 03:17 PM
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The 'wife' replies.."it's a new brand from the blue mountains of jamaica. It will help you with your digestive problems. Here, i have made it in your favourite gallon mug!" "Drink it while it is hot!"
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 03:08 PM
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These women are plumbing to new lows to either get divorced or to stop it happening. Thank God i only drink black coffee.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 02:17 PM
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L E A V E ! ! This sub is a haven for men who have been let down by marriage, the divorce and the system designed to break us. We are not here to help ANY FEMALE. So take your nonsense and piss off. We don't care!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 06:58 PM
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I am now in the camp of pump and dump. Never again will i get a LTR. Not worth my time and money.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 02:34 PM
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I honestly stayed with her due to our kids and i kept hoping she would revert back to her loving self. I was lying to myself because 'her loving self' never existed. It was only there to keep me interested long enough so she would have everything she wanted from me. arc, we both loved our wives without question, but they only saw us as a walking atm/sperm bank. That shit hurt me to my soul, but now? I feel nothing but indifference to her. She trashed my name around family/friends, so i found it …
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 02:32 PM
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I was in therapy for 2yrs after i left her, due to the mental physical spiritual and financial abuse took a massive toll on my psyche. My parents have been amazing! I had a drink problem due to the now ex-wife and they got me clean. Started hitting the gym and cycling and lost 42lbs! I look and feel amazing again. Whenever i date, the woman has to add to the quality of my life and never subtract from it. I finally love myself after having doubts about me, and the woman has to equal the amount or…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 02:23 PM
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Congratulations moreno! I too walked out and divorced my BPD wife of 25yrs just over 2yrs now. Have my apartment, single but i see my parents everyday. Life is amazing now. No more walking on eggshells ever again!
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 02:04 PM
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I know exactly how you feel, rookie! I am also single but after what my ex put me through i am not surprised if i am honest. I can come and go, see whoever i want, eat/drink what i want, play my ps5 whenever i feel, without any female nagging me! It is the best feeling in the world not to taken for granted by a pillow princess.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 03:14 PM
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Myself and dad have just finished the 1st coat. Looks like i'll be painting all day tomorrow as well lol. Dad has really appreciated my help even though he'll never tell me haha! I even have his 1st name so i have always been called Junior by my parents and siblings. This is why i have a close bond to him. My ex hated me seeing my parents so much she put a massive wedge between me and them and we didn't speak for 5yrs. But God is good as he has given me time to spend it with my parents and to be…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 03:06 PM
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That is how i feel about my parents too: eternally grateful for their love and support during my turbulent divorce from a narcissist. In fact i am assisting my dad in painting the spare room today, and mom is the tea lady lol. I don't know how much time i have left with them so i enjoy every second being around them. It also helps myself and dad absolutely love football here in the UK. We both support Arsenal, so i have been taking dad to watch them play at home. He loves it!
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 08:23 AM
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The 1st time mom saw my ex when we were first dating, she told me to drop her as she has a bad vibe around her. I dismissed her complaints. Eventually got married. 25yrs later i am divorced and mentally physically and spiritually abused. Mom knew best but i thought i did. So from now on if mom says yes/no that will decide my future with who i am dating.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 07:22 PM
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Since i have been divorced over 2yrs i am currently not dating. But if i was i would show her to my parents and ask them if she is right for me? They have a right to know since they were the ones who put me back together again after years of abuse by a evil 2-faced lying bitch. If mom likes her i will keep on dating her, but if mom has her doubts then the woman is getting dropped like a bad habit.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 05:18 PM
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P A S S ! !
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 03:21 PM
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Then you are the exception and this sub would welcome you, but you must realise the men here have been hurt and then thrown away. So you will read posts that you won't like but this is what this sub is for: a place where men can vent in private without fear of repercussions. I divorced my wife due to the physical mental financial and spiritual abuse i suffered for years. She took me to the cleaners and i was left with nothing but bitter memories of the 1 person who i gave my heart to. I have spe…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 03:58 PM
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Exactly! This sub is a haven for men who have been lied to about marriage. If a woman needs advice she can go to r/divorce. Where women go to slag off men constantly. This sub is where we can learn and advise from each and every man battered from women who only wanted to rob us blind. N O W O M E N A L L O W E D ! !
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 01:45 PM
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alterego, read all the posts here of every single man blindsided by divorce then taken to the cleaners. There is no mediation. She is planning to take EVERYTHING and leave you with nothing but bitter memories. Get a lawyer and get ready for a drawn out war with the soon to be ex. You have been warned.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 11:58 AM
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Your words are the gospel truth. I have been divorced over 2 years, and the ex-wife will not let me go. She DESTROYED our relationship so she can 'find herself' (her reasons for the chaos she created). She has irrevocably damaged our family dynamic permanently. My relationship with my kids is in pieces and yet i am the bad guy. No wonder men are baulking in getting married when it is nothing more than giving women a golden nest egg regardless how little they contribute financially to the househo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 11:54 AM
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Unfortunately this is the way for modern women: trap you marry you dump you rob you. I T ' S A T R A P !
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 05:16 PM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 07:41 AM
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You are in r/divorcemen. The key word is MEN! We are here because we have been to hell anr back by our ex-wifes who wanted it all by doing absolutely nothing to earn it. Go back to r/divorce as you will never understand the trauma us men have suffered. We don't need a woman's perspective. Btw the way, keep your buzz words you use to describe men out of this sub. B E G O N E ! !
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 09:38 AM
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"I spit on your grave!"
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 05:21 PM
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A F U C K I N G E X-W I F E ! !
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 11:00 PM
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My ex made me cut ties from my parents too for 5yrs. That was hard on me mentally. When my aunty passed away she made a massive scene at her funeral: she made it all about herself. I could live to be 100 and i will never forget the damage she caused that day. Living with a SO who has BPD is soul destroying. No wonder i am wary of dating again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 05:26 PM
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You have described my ex perfectly: she didn't like my family or friends either. Made me chose her or them. If i chose my family she would emotionally blackmail or make me feel bad that i would. It is insidious how they can brainwash you. Meanwhile my ex kept her friends and family. I was isolated and lonely but she was happy she never had to sacrifice anything. She had her cake and ate it too whereas i was surviving on crumbs....
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:12 PM
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This should be stickied at the top of this sub. I divorced a narcissistic wife who also has BPD in 2021. Spent 2yrs in therapy to unravel all the damage this 'marriage' did to me physically mentally financially and spiritually. I am in a better place also due to my parents immense love and support for me. I am not dating due to my mistrust in women. In fact i am enjoying the peace and quiet life without the drama. See my kids and grandkids daily. Unless a woman brings no drama or red flags then …
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 11:30 AM
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You are being honest and upfront with your FWB. For me that is a massive plus:knowing each others boundaries leads to no confusion at a later point in time. I have found my boundaries again after divorcing my ex-wife who suffered with BPD. Took me a long time working with a therapist and my parents i can say "NO!" without feeling guilty. I am in the best shape financially mentally spiritually for the 1st time since before i met the now ex. So when i do start dating again, i know my likes and dis…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 08:10 PM
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I have been divorced almost 3yrs and i am still single. What the ex put me through i have no trust in women now. For me to date again the woman has to be exceptional who has got her life in order with good health. I am not dating to be somebody's carer. I spend my time with my parents and my children. I haven't the time to waste on a woman who will use me then throw me away like i never mattered.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 06:29 PM
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Found the wife...
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 10:47 AM
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Hi Nom! I too am 54. Been divorced from an ex who has BPD also. My ex has also made my eldest daughter into her and it is so sad. It was my granddaughters 2nd birthday today and i was banned from seeing her. I have been upset all day over it. My daughter told me by text i am not to see her or her daughter. I feel your pain as i have also been through all the mental physical and spiritual abuse. But it does get better but it will take time to heal. You are better off divorcing and finding yoursel…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 10:11 PM
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I would learn to love myself 1st before starting dating. Spend time working on yourself mentally physically and spiritually before dipping your toe into the dating pool again. When you are happy being single then start dating. That is what i did after a traumatic divorce from a woman who had BPD.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 12:16 AM
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It is my second christmas as well. I have 5 kids and not one had text or called me or check to make sure i am ok. The ex made me look like i was the devil incarnate. Shit is tough. Also i am the middle son. Middle child syndrome is real. Mom had 4 children: eldest daughter eldest son middle son youngest son. Can you guess the 1 who is still treated like a step-child? Yup me. She has her favourites and it has never been me. I had some traumatic christmases growing up and that is why i detest chri…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 09:38 AM
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U G H ! ! ! How much i hate 'happy wife happy life'. My now ex-wife had BPD. At the beginning she love bombed me so hard it made me lose my self-worth. She made me lose contact with my friends and family but she kept hers. When her mask slipped and i saw the real her i pulled away and started divorce proceedings. She painted me black to everyone. Been divorced 3yrs and still she is calling me 'dead beat dad gambler abusive alchoholic and child abuser'. I am still single. Not surprised since i am…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 09:42 AM
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Are you a pc or console gamer? My ex-wife hated my gaming with a passion. I bought a ps5 when they were released in 2020 and she treated like a rival for my affections. We were also had a dead bedroom/dead relationship so gaming with my buddies helped my anxieties. We divorced soon after but i kept all my friends. We are squading up for MIIW friday and we can't wait. So i lost a wife but gained my sense of worth back. If your wife can't/won't understand your gaming, nags you about everything the…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 05:51 PM
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Be careful! It's a trap.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 12:31 PM
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F A C T S ! ! !
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 12:19 PM
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Never look back. Look to the future and enjoy life once again. Also stay of social media as that will only torment you. Your ex-wife has moved on so now it is your turn. Good luck bro!
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 10:39 AM
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Hallmark films are straight up garbage. My ex-wife used to make me sit by her watching that trash. God forbid if i look at my phone, yawn or get up.... Never ever going to put myself through that 7 stages of hell again.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 06:17 AM
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THIS! If your SO cannot respect your boundaries it is a massive deal breaker and red flag. My ex never respected me or my boundaries. She just thought "i will scream at that idiot until he backs down AND HE ALWAYS BACKS DOWN". So she got into a habit that whenever i disagree with her the abuse started. It was a goddamn hell living with our evil wives who have BPD. Divorced 2yrs out but the hoovering was daily until i went NC. I still see my kids when not working. Found out from her brother she i…
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/22 07:52 AM
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Just be grateful you and i are not living with them anymore. If i didn't divorce her i would either be: Dead Jail Asylum. My parents have been amazing fixing what she broke inside me...
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 03:30 PM
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WTF! All of us with BPD wives/husbands have tolerated so much abuse no wonder we don't want to date again. I also suffered with gaslighting and physical abuse, breaking my belongings then flipping it onto me saying i was the 1 being abusive. It is literally hell on earth. My ex is still badmouthing me to anyone who will listen. She sent her 3 brothers to my parents to cause trouble. Once they saw how big my family is they got back in their car and drove off. Haven't seen them since. She is marri…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 03:17 PM
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I am 54 next month. I wasted my 20's 30's 40's and a little bit of my 50's trying to fill a never ending bucket. I could never satisfy her no matter what i said or did. I am determined to enjoy what time i have left with my kids, family and friends. Jac, enjoy your life filling it with the things you love to see and do. I am!
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 03:11 PM
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For me my biggest issue was if i have to walk on eggshells to keep the peace. I was made to feel guilty if i ever expressed my feelings, doubt, insecurity or trying to explain my boundaries. I can't explain how liberating i feel getting back my life, thoughts, feelings, voice and my backbone. No longer will i put myself last for anybody. It was as if i have been released from solitary confinement after 25yrs. The 1st week was strange due to me not getting belittled if i disagreed with someone.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 03:07 PM
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Exactly. I will never get the time i have lost but i can enjoy the time i have left!
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 12:08 PM
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I love being single. I was with my wife who had BPD for 25yrs until i could take no more abuse and divorced her. I can come and go where i please No more walking on eggshells Watch the film i want Play my ps5 without feeling guilty Basically live my life how i want without feeling guilty.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 10:31 AM
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Sorry bud but she has already checked out the marriage and is monkey branching to the single coach. If you don't take steps now to protect yourself you will end up with nothing. Get yourself a lawyer as soon as possible so you will know where you stand legally. Do not leave the marital home on no circumstances. I know you are in shock and denial right now, but your 'wife' has already mourned the death of her marriage to you. As always us men are the last to know. If you check her phone you will …
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 11:11 PM
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Atleast she won't answer back. Just be careful of a full-blown meltdown!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 10:18 PM
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That is a good point. With me and my ex: i worked so hard to provide for her and our family. I was there for her constantly. I was her rock but she wasn't mine. To her i was only good for being a atm and a carer. I really thought she was my soul mate. Gave her my all and i ended up with nothing but bad memories. I am now scared to commit to another woman due to the pain i felt over the death of my marriage. I truly believe she loved the fact she found somebody who loved her without question. Eve…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:16 PM
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How many pumps to get her hard?!?
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 07:56 PM
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Have you noticed? Most of us here who are divorced married women who have Borderline Personality Disorder. I hope 1 day i can find someone who will love desire respect me for me but i am not holding my breathe...
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 07:54 PM
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Women=financial and emotional VAMPIRES!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 07:51 PM
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I will never again be played like a fiddle by any woman. Nor will i put her needs above my own. Until i can get over the betrayal, i am staying single. It is just not worth it being stuck in a relationship where you are made to feel like she is doing you a favour.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 06:18 PM
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'Marriage is a fools errand'. Married 25yrs to a woman who i thought she was my soul mate. I was a fool. Didn't see the red flags because i was blinded from her lovebombing me. When she had me in her grasp came the push pull trap. We all know the rest: Infidelity Alcoholism Physical and mental abuse Gaslighting Deadbedroom Playing the victim and us the vliiain. The final stroke was on her birthday over 2.5yrs ago: She went to her moms and left me with looking after the kids, cooking, cleaning, d…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 10:23 AM
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I agree whole-heartedly with your post, San. I divorced my wife just over 2yrs ago now due to: Putting me last like i wasn't even worth the time. Belittiling my emotions. Saying men don't have any. Physical and mental abuse. Countless affairs. Using me as a carer and a atm. Dead bedroom. Dead relationship. BPD. Walking on egg-shells every goddamn day for over 25yrs. Silent treatment/cold shoulder. Since i have been free from my ex i am happy being me again. I can come and go whenever i want with…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 10:25 AM
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I should know.... i paid for it! Ba dum tiss!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 10:00 PM
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We all did hahahahaha!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 08:49 PM
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First of all breathe. Never let what the ex did dictate your future. If your gf leaves you, so what? She wasn't into you the way you was into her. Take a time out and work on yourself until you start dating again. Women put us men through the grinder. It is time we take back the power and be the alpha male that can date women without fear of breaking up. Lance, go out with your male friends and have fun again. Life is too short. My dad has always told me "no matter how long you live you will be …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 11:20 PM
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Time to explore this world of ours without the baggage of a nagging wife! Congratulations!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 11:08 PM
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That is so true. Us men get the short end of the stick when women are concerned. There is no point in men getting married since women hold all the aces and we hold the jokers. It is as if women roll 7's and every man rolls snake eyes on the table of life. There is no way in hell i would ever marry again. Idgaf how gorgeous she is i'm not falling into that man trap again: once bitten twice shy.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 11:07 PM
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My ex-wife only wanted me to be: free taxi service, shopper, house-keeper, wallet and carer. Gave me no love, sex, attention, respect or honesty. Listen newdadof4. Get rid of her or you will end up with nothing but bad memories. She doesn't gaf about you or your needs. There are millions of women who will love respect and desire you. Also make sure the next woman you date puts you 1st. Good luck bro!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 09:42 PM
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I have also suffered with a vengeful wife at the start of 2019. She was physically and mentally abusive. I walked out just before christmas 2019. Divorced june 2020. Got kids. Turned them against me. She has BPD and it was a topsy-turvy 25yrs together. I am a better man not dealing with her bat-shit crazy mouth anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/22 07:32 PM
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I was guilty of putting the ex on a pedastal. Once you do that they can only look down on you like you are nothing. Get yourself a bike. I find walking and cycling theraputic for the mind body and soul. My ex can take my belongings but never my mind body and soul. I have been to hell and back during my healing process. No longer will i be fooled by a pretty face and kind words. I am happy being and doing me for a change. TBW, get a bike and spend time making yourself happy and content with life!…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:27 PM
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My ex-wife took everything i worked for in the divorce. I went back at my parents with just a few items and a memory of pain. That was 2yrs ago. I have now got my own place, bought a mountain bike so i can cycle and meet new people on my travels. Still single but happy being me. My ex posted the same nonsense on her social media. It is laughable because she was the 1 who abused and used me until there was nothing left of me. When i left the family home i took my 7.1 surround system and my ps5! T…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 03:00 PM
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You just described my ex-wife. We live in the UK and the women here act just like the women from america. I will never get married again as that bitch too me to the cleaners. Ended up with nothing but bad memories. She cheated with different men but i am the bad guy!
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 11:42 AM
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