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| 5 | Just VentingYour post made me think a lot of things about womens' character. They're going to play whatever angle they have "You work too much and don't spend time with us doing the things that matter." "Why don't you work more and provide for us better?" "Your dick is too little and you don't know how to fuck." "You're dick is so big it hurts me and you're too rough " "You don't think I can pay for my own food? How dare you pick up the bill, are you trying to indebt me for sex?" "You won't pick up the chec… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/25 08:56 AM |
| 5 | Fathers who are on child support.That's nice. But if your ex is unreasonable and fights for more than 50% for no reason other than more child support, it will build infinite resentment. And where I live, child support is not reasonable at all | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/25 08:11 AM |
| 6 | Who is fighting?What does it mean to fight? Are negotiating, litigating, compromising, mediating, capitulating, the same as fighting? Did someone mistreat you, and if so, what is the justification that you should not fight back. After you lose the fight that someone initiated against you to violate you and harm your kids, nobody is going to have any sympathy at all whatsoever for you as a man. They are going to victim blame you, and ask you, "why didn't you fight back?" You can be a victim or a victor When some… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 07:37 AM |
| 2 | Question about communication. Ex wife continually call my kids when they are at my house for the weekJust don't answer if you don't feel like it. A lot of the time, my kids aren't even interested in talking to their mom while they're with me. If my kids are asking for her, or they've been apart for a while, or there's a reason they should talk, then fine. But yeah, she can cope. I mostly ignore calls and don't make them too often either | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Update on wife who wants to separate but live togetherYou know $0 child support, $100,000+ for your ex to do international litigation (I don't know what they expect to gain from that). Plus you're more likely to win in court anywhere but here, because we are so cucked. Stand up for yourself, bro, and move on with your life in another country if you have the resources to do so. You know these women would never think twice in a million years under the same circumstances, they throw us under the bus for recreation | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 07:18 AM |
| 0 | GLP-1 related divorce?I think you're going about your relationship backwards. Mental state, psyche meds, IUDs, counseling, GLP-1 (which I've never previously heard of). That's a lot of bullshit. No judgement, I've gone through that stuff myself with multiple women, and it only leads to trouble. I'd probably throw in the towel. If a relationship isn't leading to kids and making your life materially better, what's the point? You can be fine on your own. It sounds like the person you're involved with has a lot of issues… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Does divorce with flashbacks get better?Don't be too hard on yourself, pal. You don't sound like such a terrible guy to me. If it makes you feel any better, my ex killed my beloved dog too | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/25 05:31 AM |
| 4 | The Biggest challenge and how you overcame it?I don't think you need a coach or therapist. In fact, that sounds disastrous to me. I'm sure other redditors disagree on that point though. It sounds like you need to stop getting married, try to drink less if not stop altogether for a while, and not blame your behavior/choices on other people by owning them yourself. If you did those things, based on your post, you would be way better off. Also, women, don't have the validation you seek, it lies within. A stretch of excruciating solitude until … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/25 04:48 AM |
| 11 | Ex is contentiousShe's just going to be more and more troublesome and disagreeable. Don't expect any cooperation or decency at all whatsoever. Is she even paying for her own lawyer, or did the government give her a ruthless one for free on the taxpayers dime while you are left on your own? Regardless, they probably confidently expect you'll pay her legal fees and are happy to fight it out in the most destructive way possible. Really dude, I hope you are prepared for what you are up against. What kind of kids do … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/25 06:39 AM |
| 9 | Ex wife just living it upIf I told you what I really think about your situation, it would not be socially acceptable. My own family court judge would not approve of my thoughts on your post at all whatsoever | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 03:39 AM |
| 8 | Anyone have this weird empty sensation when you are not with your childrenIt sucks. Waking up on the couch alone in the dark, surrounded by toys on the floor, it's quite a depressing scene that happens every other week. I don't even understand what the point of breaking up a family is or what anyone other than divorce lawyers gets out of it. Why anyone wants a broken home or to spend half time with their kids is beyond me. Go ask modern women what their problem is, not very smart | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 02:37 AM |
| -1 | Realizing ive been making child support bank transfers to ex and realized I should have been making them through the Child support enforcement agency. If I start making payments through the agency, will they make me start from the date the court order was made?Why should you have to pay anything at all? Since you are both allegedly responsible independent grown adults capable of providing for your children, why should one of you have to pay the other a single penny. Until we start attacking this fundamental flawed bullshit idea, nothing will change. And by attacking I mean I personally won't participate or legitimize it by complying under any circumstances | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/25 04:32 AM |
| 6 | Wife just took over half the money out of our savings???I would take the other half I guess | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Need some gentle perspective on post-divorce datingI would go with number 2 and shoot for the moon. Then again, I'm a sentimental motherfucking fool who can't be taught anything with an endless thirst for trouble, so maybe my advice isn't best. Can't go wrong with a young woman down for babies imo, I'd be a sucker | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 12:04 AM |
| 0 | To my heartbroken brothers, if your father is still alive. Please be beside him.You're actually right on the money. Never mind the down votes. What op is talking about is something different though; it sounds like he had a decent dad who really loved him. You know, like regular decent dads. He's not talking about the shitheads we got, so we shouldn't rain on his parade. They know nothing about it | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/25 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Initiating divorce with a child involvedNot accepting 50/50 exposes how selfish, narcissistic, unfair, immoral, and entitled these modern women are. There is no justification for them to expect more than half. And when the system inexplicably gives them more than 50/50, it shows how rotten and full of shit the system is. Fuck them. Like really, fuck the whole lot of them. "Best interest of the kids", "mothers", ect. Give me a break. We all see how well separating men from their kids is working out for society. Fight them, they are lit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/25 06:02 AM |
| 3 | I’m StrugglingYou're not in a good position man. Being in the military means you're double fucked and they have you even more by the balls. Honestly, you need to look after your own self interest as ruthlessly as you can at this point. Have no illusions about her having any decency or the govt having your back. They will work together to fuck you over to the maximum. Even your kids, I wish them well, but they will be used as pawns against you. On the inside and in the dark, you need to think about yourself on… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/25 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Lifetime Alimony ☠️They're not going to do all that if you leave without the kids and don't tell them where you're going | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/25 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with loss of time with kidsCan you afford a couple beds? If they're under 3, why can't you all just sleep in the same room, or let them sleep in the living room? I think every kid should have their own crib/bed as a basic requirement, but other than that you should be able to make it work | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/25 09:49 PM |
| 8 | How did you make sense of her walking away after years together?Some women are selfish evil people. Plain and simple. The percentage is allegedly not all of them and debatable, although I personally havent seen much evidence of that. They're like toddlers except more dangerous because they vote (and do so in greater numbers than us) and they have the full backing of the legal system who does whatever they want. If we gave similar privileges to toddlers, it would be legally mandated to have cookies for dinner. Similarly and predictably, we get divorce violati… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/25 09:00 AM |
| 4 | WwydDivorce is extreme danger for children. It might as well be the most dangerous and destructive thing you can do to them. Anyone who willfully puts their child through divorce, with the exception of infidelity or extreme physical abuse, is a danger to them https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6313686/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/25 08:27 AM |
| 4 | There's been no response to my counter offer for a month.You're lucky she wasn't on legal aid. Because then, she would never get a legal bill ever, couldn't give af less, and would be therefore further incentivized to drag it out and screw you over through litigation. But legal aid is this really great moral thing though supposedly, that doesn't help rip families apart for no reason | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/25 08:12 AM |
| 3 | What do you do on your days off with the children?I do a lot of sleeping and nothing | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/25 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Move in alreadyI'm worried about your kid too. Fight indefatigably, onwards and upwards | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/25 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Child support estimateOr 70 $1000 prostitutes | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/25 09:32 AM |
| 3 | Child support estimateIf you chose to bang $100 prostitutes instead of getting married, that would only be 700 of them. And that's like the tiniest child support | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/25 09:28 AM |
| 5 | Child support estimateYou didn't mention how much your ex makes. Assuming she works equally, you'll pay $325 / month based on a quick calculation in Florida. There should be a table encoded into law you can use to calculate precisely with your incomes My calc is only $70,500 over 18 years you need to inexplicably hand over to your ex. Plus the court cut. I'm sure your divorce lawyer will tell you that's a great deal! Although I'm not exactly clear personally on why a grown adult needs to pay another alleged grown res… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/25 09:15 AM |
| 3 | Hitting restartThere is no reconciliation, brother. If she loved and respected you, reconciliation would've been a given and she'd be begging for it after 1s of separation | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/25 06:49 AM |
| 6 | How many of us were in this situationI don't think "emotional abuse" should be some kind of crime. They'd charge every man on earth with it the second a guy said "no" to their woman or did anything women don't like. I don't think courts should be involved in our personal lives, nor do they have legitimate authority between parents and children. I don't care the gender of the accused. This is clear evidence of why Australia is an authoritarian hellhole that takes the follies of the US even farther than we do | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/25 08:40 AM |
| 3 | Moving to another CountryUh, if you flee the country to skip out on court ordered alimony payments, no, you can't just come and go. You'll probably go to jail. Not good while you have children too, youre not going to be in their life much if you do that. Do your alimony payments end soon since your kids are grown and can you wait it out? What you are describing means you have to exile yourself permanently and it is illegal, like last resort stuff | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 07:42 AM |
| -1 | Want to Divorce but have 2 young kidsI don't think marriages should so readily end. I think you should be able to stand up to your wife and she should just stfu and submit to your authority, like the Bible commands. That would solve an enormous amount of problems in our society. It's such a waste and damaging to the kids to go through the grueling unnecessary clown process. Just read a study on the effects of divorce. Everyone in your household and associated with you would be a million times better off...but feminism and biased co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Reconciliation or Finding True Love a 2nd TimeIs that a real statistic? I find that incredibly hard to believe. Where did you come up with that idea | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 11:32 PM |
| 1 | My wife wants a divor**It sounds like you're in a lot of trouble and a toxic situation. Tread carefully Also, I don't think you should leave your kids unsupervised for several minutes in their high chair. I know how it is, and I know the specifics about the laws, but you really can't take your eyes off of them for more than a minute or two or they can engineer surprising ways to seriously injure themselves. If Karen's with clipboards with a chip on their shoulder read that, and some of them could have power, I don't t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/25 11:04 PM |
| 6 | RantHang in there, brother. You're not alone. We know the bs youre going through. You're in for a long fight. You're gonna win with a surprise rope-a-dope strategy, by rolling with the punches and ruthlessly preserving secret strength and stamina at every opportunity until the last round. Or you can win by coldly walking away from the fight, which will take way less energy. One thing you should know is you are in a gutter street fight, but there are paths to victory | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/25 08:49 AM |
| 9 | Divorce season??!When I first saw guys go through exactly what we're going through; like 20 years ago, it was extremely bizarre and unrelatable to me. To add to that, it was sometimes the best guys I ever knew. High-paid respectable likable competent hard-working funny moral stable family guys. Like, wait, what? You have to sleep in your office and can't see your little kids because your wife flipped out? I take your word that she's crazy, because you haven't missed a day of work or made a mistake in 5 years. Or… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/25 07:00 AM |
| 8 | Meeting womenNot so long ago, when I was around your age, I would regularly have deadend conversations with not 2 gals, but 20 of them, just to find a girl easy to meet up with, and half the time she'd still be lame. But that did enable me (through sheer shameless shotgun approach persistence) to bang and date plenty of them and make kids. Also, I was often very lonely and isolated too, to the point that I learned to love solitude above all else. You need to not seek validation from any woman or friend. When… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/25 01:27 AM |
| 4 | Getting a roommate after divorce?It's up to you. I personally don't think having roommates is a huge deal, but I could see why some would think otherwise or see it as highly unpreferable. It's certainly an avenue to cut corners financially and have interesting social experiences | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/25 03:59 PM |
| 1 | To file or not to fileNot to be disagreeable, but if her family hates her and takes her ex's side, she has a shitty lowlife piece of shit family by definition, and that explains some of the deficiencies in her personality. Her family taking your side isn't a flex, it means she comes from a treacherous disloyal home. Seen it before and I'll see it again. Could you even imagine siding with your daughter/sister/cousin's ex bf, what scum | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/25 03:22 PM |
| 1 | In need of serious help. Wall of text.X=0 | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/25 03:03 PM |
| 8 | Final judgment almost signed — $100k later, bittersweet but relievedI'm glad you got out relatively unscathed. Sex 10X in 4 years, that's some bullshit. You can have sex 10X in 2 days with supermodels for like $300 in some parts of the world. I guess that's the duality of women. Strangers will give it up for nothing; your wife whom you've dedicated years and everything you have to won't give it up for anything. At least you got your daughter, and to keep your business I guess | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/25 03:20 AM |
| 2 | EducationI've listened to a lot of 33secrets. He's kind of a cheesy red pill pick up artist, but he certainly understands the dynamics of modern relationships. He spent like 3-4 years ragging on random women on the internet who regret divorce or their foolish decisions, which is some cathartic relatable content | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/25 02:20 AM |
| 3 | Passports for kids? Mom is Canadian.Yeah, that's probably the worst county to try and pull that. I'm surprised they actually locked her up, | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/25 01:36 PM |
| 3 | Passports for kids? Mom is Canadian.Don't do it. It is a huge liability. Enforce your rights by not consenting. Our legal system's safeguard is you not agreeing to it now, and you can also shut down your kids US passport too. The fact that you're even asking shows it doesn't sit right with you. I agree the hague convention will probably protect you and she can't just go to Canada. It's a bad idea and huge red flag though. I've experienced similar concerns. Go read Reddit posts from guys whose Asian wives disappeared with the kids.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/25 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Passports for kids? Mom is Canadian.What country did she abscond to? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/25 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Vacation Planning DebacleSeems like she's being a bitch. I know how it is. I'd not let it get a rise out of you. I don't think keeping the kids from each other in dispute is good for anyone. I would just make a strong statement of your boundary; that you have first choice for 2 weeks in the summer this year, and these are the days you're choosing. It's more important than some random regular weekend. And leave it at that. I would keep my daughter and just go through with it; if it came to that. Maybe offer her some smal… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/25 07:20 AM |
| 4 | More Difficult - Divorce or Death? Both?You're a little confused bud. You're talking to the people whose exes wished they killed themselves. We're allowed to hate back in kind, although I would guess it is the women in divorce who are much more vindictive and heartless and couldn't care less if their ex killed themselves | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/25 06:53 AM |
| 0 | First nights without the kidsIt's bullshit bro. Been there, done that. My recommendation is to contemplate ways you will never have to spend nights apart from your kids again. Your lawyer, priest, or therapist won't help you realize that. God might feel differently though | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/25 06:44 AM |
| 1 | I asked CHATgpt this: Why Do You Have to Put Yourself Through This?Based. He refuses to go off the rails and reach bonus unredditcommentable conclusions though | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/25 05:45 AM |
| 2 | When giving up is the only optionIt sucks man. If that's what you decide to do, I'll be the last to judge you. If you decide to fight dirty or otherwise do what you gotta do, I wouldn't judge you either. Fuck this shit, bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/25 06:37 AM |
| 6 | Does Filing for Divorce “To Teach Them a Lesson” Ever Actually Work? Do People Really Come Back?Tactics like this lead only to escalating tit for tat hostility. Once someone is filling for divorce, come on bro, the relationship is over. I can't imagine anything but varying levels of bitterness to follow. I knew a guy who remarried the woman he divorced, and predictably, they divorced again | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/25 06:04 AM |
| -2 | I Live in PA. My Ex and I Are Not Divorced Yet. She Just Removed Me from Her Health Insurance. Is This Allowed?Every year, you have an open enrollment period of one month. You can absolutely remove your spouse from your health insurance. If you're a grown adult, it's kind of your personal responsibility to get your own health insurance. You do have a shared legal responsibility to provide health insurance for your children. I don't know what you're imagining as far as legal recourse, but I've never heard of such a thing. The system will go so far as to intimidate us, saying we have some kind of vague res… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/25 02:22 AM |
| 10 | Thumbs Up EmojiI agree with your strategy. In fact, I wouldn't bother responding at all in lieu of k or👍. That is even stronger. Arguing back in an inflammatory dismissive way to defend yourself isn't entirely irrespectable either; you are entitled to it | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/25 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Should I hire a PI?Wait, so your dangerous enough that she needs a restraining order, but you're safe enough to be left with your 2 yo daughter all day? What a load of bullshit. Your ex is an enormous POS who has weaponized the system against you in the worst way possible. This right here, is exactly what we are talking about. Total hypocrisy and blatant lies in broad daylight to mess you and your kid up. Id tell you what I think you should do, but I doubt the system that rubber stamped this nonsense would rubber … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/25 03:07 AM |
| 5 | What’s the NUCLEAR OPTION for Ending a Divorce Fast in Texas?You can always get in your car and drive into Mexico. I don't mean to crack jokes, I'm equally desperate, and I'm entirely convinced that the process ends the day youre truly broke, wrung dry and tossed in the gutter. Maybe my comment isn't that much of a joke after all | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/25 01:30 AM |
| 1 | How is it legal that I have to pay my wife’s lawyer to build a case against me while I still pay for everything else?This is how civilizations and empires collapse. Totally decadent, welfare state, money-prioritizing, virtueless bullshit. Through and through. The feminism and greed are off the charts which means the good times are over. Demoralizing men, making us disloyal, defensive, passive, and sometimes leave altogether. We've gotta be near the end now, it's as simple as that | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/25 09:15 AM |
| 2 | HelpPersonally, I think that is a waste of money and a lawyer scam. As if divorce wasn't expensive enough. . It just makes it harder to communicate, and I doubt it will change anything at all whatsoever. I've exchanged plenty of shit talking, in the app, it makes no difference, people are gonna say what they're gonna say | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/25 01:44 AM |
| 2 | 30 days laterSounds like a terrible situation. I'm sorry you're going through it. Being in the military, your hands are double tied. Consider getting a lawyer, although they might just rip you off too. At least you're in Hawaii. You may need to just focus and prioritize yourself to an extreme amount for the time being, and figure out how to fight a longer war. It's such bullshit, wtf is wrong with modern women, honestly? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/25 04:47 AM |
| 6 | Getting it off my chestThis post and the replies evoke strong de ja vu in me; like I read it in a dream or saw the exact same thing before, maybe you're not so alone. I'm sorry you had to go through that, and your thoughts are understandable. I wouldn't internalize her actions, take blame, or be hard on yourself. My grandma had multiple miscarriages, and she didn't abandon my grandpa or run off with another man. That's bullshit, and people who divorce for affairs are scum, who cares what she thinks or remembers becaus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/25 02:25 AM |
| 1 | She's 8 weeks pregnant and I'm looking for the exitDon't be too hard on yourself. Pregnancy is actually the time of most marital turmoil, which is paradoxical to what you'd think and peoples expectations. Pregnancy is when fights, abuse, violence are statistically most likely to happen... You're not an asshole for having problems at this time. If you decide to leave, just do it. You wouldn't be the first or the last guy to make that difficult decision. She can make her or own decisions. Kids are pretty great, but they arent going to solve the pr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/25 01:11 AM |
| 4 | How do you find out if your kids left the country with their Mother?Your post means you are in trouble. You need to a lawyer to get the divorce, contempt of court, govt searching for missing kids wheels spinning as soon as possible. You're going to have a long costly flight to get your kids back, and you need to decide now if it's worth it. But it is quite doable, and could even work out in your favor. Depending on how clever or reckless your baby momma is. She could also really fuck you. Do you think she went to a hague country; that will greatly simplify your … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/25 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Tell APs new potential target?You should tell him, obviously, if you are friends with your old neighbor | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/25 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Reoccurring issue with oldest child day of bringing back to my ex homeDamn, bro. Mine is equally distressed to go to their mom and happily excited to come back to me. They come back with black eyes and other troubling symptoms. But I'm sure we're somehow the neglectful abusive ones though, through the mystery of feminism. Nobody gives af brother. Our kids getting destroyed is just a perk these scum get off on; take command of the situation to the best of your ability and fight for your kids unrestrained. I wouldn't deliberately disparage their mother, but the writ… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/25 02:35 AM |
| 2 | Divorce generate $50 billion annually in the U.S. it's a business fuck you kidsI think refusing to play their game and operating outside the rules they made specifically to screw you is a winning move too. Let's not beat around the bush, the entire family court system is unlawful, unjust, and straight up abusive to our children. Nothing is off the table. They have it coming. Abandoning your kids, leaving the country, or other underhanded tactics I'll let you imagine for yourself is a clear path to victory, if you have the energy for it | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/25 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Running out of funds for legal battleI got a cheaper better lawyer. It has made a big difference. He won my neighbor sole custody years ago, so I trust him. He says he'll do the whole thing, here to finish, for $1500, and we won't lose. He says anything more than that, you're getting ripped off. My previous lawyer took tons of my money and dragged it out as long as possible and forced me to "downgrade", which has actually been an enormous upgrade | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/25 08:22 PM |
| 11 | EX WIVES NOW BFFsYeah, dude, I think it's normal. Whatever faults she saw in you, real or imaged, probably more imagined, she hyped them up and used them as justification to do whatever she did and to cope with your falling out. That way she can just blame you and never reflect on their decisions and behavior. She'll be taking that trash long after your gone and or dead. I knew one old lady who when I challenged her said "he was crazy, I had to leave him. That's why my kids don't have a dad and we struggled. One… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/25 06:14 AM |
| 3 | False Allegations - Round 2You're lucky she didn't get the initial tro. Separating you from your home, kids, and property for months. It's entirely random whether that lands or not. She very well could've made you homeless and alone for months for no reason. And stole all your property. That would've really messed you up. I do have experience defending myself from such allegations, as I'm sure many here do. The best thing you can do, I guess and your lawyer will tell you, is act calm, cool, and on your best conceivable be… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/25 01:24 PM |
| 2 | Being the stable one gets recast as controlling…fastDude, it doesn't matter what you do. You'll always be the bad guy no matter what. I'm generally the opposite; I'm the more indulgent and carefree parent. I never hear the end of blame and baseless accusations. Even when I'm the more disciplinary authoritarian parent, it's just the same. All in disregard of the facts or the situation. Better get used to it, everything you do will be held against you | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/25 07:09 AM |
| 4 | She’s Taking Everything, This Is Happening Now. How Do I Survive This Financially?My best advice is "Fuck her. Fight for yourself, tooth and nail, because if you don't, no one else will. Don't pay her a single penny more than you are legally obliged to through court orders. On top of that, more philosophically, why should you as a grown adult have to pay another alleged self-sufficient grown adult anything at all? Why should you, the more financially responsible and proficient one be punished by having custody of their kids given to the less responsible less competent one? It… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/25 05:48 AM |
| 2 | About to go through hellI would just leave, honestly. Come back home. Go to another country. What are you waiting for? You have no kids and she's premenopausal. You still have time to make a whole family or two. Just do it bro, cut the dead weight and jump, while you can. Sorry if that's harsh on her but it's reality. If she wants to blame you for her unhappiness, accept her blame and move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/25 12:27 AM |
| 9 | Guilt, AITA ?I think you should listen to your wife, honestly. She sounds reasonable. She sounds exactly like me, with the same arguments that have fallen in deaf ears 10 million times. What exactly aren't you getting from her? Sex, more kids, support? She sounds like she would give it to you if it made you happy. Not sure what else you can ask of her, but whatever it is it sounds like more of a you problem. If you want to spend time with your kid, divorce means you will lose 50% of your time with him at lea… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/25 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Diaries of a Goody DadYou're fine bro. Fuck her. Crush her. Your kids will thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/25 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Possible threat of moving out of stateThe threat of her absconding with your kid elsewhere in America is 0, so long as you are willing to lawyer up and prevent her from doing so | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/25 06:54 AM |
| 5 | False AllegationsWe whine about this bullshit all day long. For real though, is this a fucking joke? Do they think it's a game? Lying about abuse; separating men from their children's. When you really think about it. You're going to have an army of grown men with boiling molten lava flowing through their veins knocking on your door tomorrow for this, and I don't think they're going to be sympathetic to your cries of "abuse". It's not some redditor or disgruntled ex husband these folks are going to be dealing wit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/25 03:11 AM |
| 4 | When does it get better?/slight updateWhen we starting fighting (nonviolently) back. Not litigating, negotiating, compromising, complying, submitting, accepting, tolerating, or otherwise sacrificing what is ours. Fuck them and fuck their system, fight (nonviolently and legally) them back | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/25 04:47 AM |
| 18 | How the tides have turned...I'm surprised the govt doesn't step in, pay all her bills, give her free taxpayer cash, and give her a free lawyer to try to violate you financially... Like they did to mine. If only yours knew how to play her cards better, you'd be in a lot of trouble. None the less all mine does is whine about how broke and miserable she is. No shit Sherlock, we used to be rich and have only one list of expenses, and you decided to multiply it all X2 (rent, utilities, child costs, cars, ect), not to mention co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/25 07:04 AM |
| 7 | Still hurts, wth?Never discount the possibility that you were too good for her, she realized that, and its all her way of coping with this reality and her observations towards the future about it. When a woman won't talk about it or give you closure, that unlikely possibility starts getting power. I think many guys here are too hard on themselves and think the worst, when the reality is quite different. Some loser had kids with you, but is so amoral they can't be bothered to explain why they blew up your family?… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/25 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Why isn’t there a national support hotline for men going through divorce?They don't give a fuck about us. Does anyone shed tears for a male praying mantis when they cannibalized by their female partner. Because that's how our society is set up and sees men. They simply do not give a fuck about us; your own sister is liable to side with your cheating abusive ex. The answer is to not give a fuck about them back in kind, never forget their callousness, and try to be a friend and community member to other men because it you don't there's a good chance no one else will. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/25 07:37 AM |
| 3 | Why is she rewarded for blowing up our family. It's got to stop.It's a defiance and mockery of God, quite frankly. Not to be all religious and stuff.. They don't have the authority to separate a man from his son. Like God and Jesus were one, so should it be with a man and his son. it's terrible they often steal from a good man and give his property to some treacherous woman. Divorce court breaks all kinds of God's explicit laws and commandments. And fundamental laws nature too. I don't think God is pleased to be mocked and have his power flippantly denied. Y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/25 11:48 PM |
| 11 | First meeting with divorce lawyer, left me feeling deflated and unsupportedI don't like it man. I've talked to 5 divorce lawyers throughout the process. #1 red flag is they charge you money for consultation. Why can't you to to their office and talk to them for free for an hour, oh I guess they're too busy and important for that. #2 red flag is that they don't feel like they're on your side; paying for a consultation they should come up with a solid battle plan and make you feel ready for action, while not attacking you or behaving like they might as well be on opposin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/25 07:52 AM |
| 4 | Does anyone feel like their attorneys are just one big money scam?Yes dude. I had an expensive useless attorney with terrible online reviews. He was bamboozled and foisted onto me by another attorney with a much better reputation. All my lawyer did was drag things out for 2 years, take all of my money, and escalate conflict. I recently switched to a different lawyer; everything is exponentially cheaper and more simple, with much less mental anguish. My new lawyer says everything my previous lawyer did was insane and self destructive, which costed 20X the price… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/25 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Wife stonewalling with intent[ Removed by Reddit ] | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/25 01:37 PM |
| 1 | Women took all and ran. What should I do?I'd make a joke about abnormally destructive behavior equating to justice to add levity to our situation, but this is neither the time or place for humor. We must put our faith in the family court to do what's in the best interest of our children, it's no laughing matter | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/25 09:56 AM |
| 1 | False 498a case i am NRi stuck in indiaUh, I think you'll be fine if you show up at the airport to travel abroad. I'd suggest having a destination with a job and/or visa lined up before you decide to do so. Nobody cares about your bullshit feminist local hangups | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/25 09:47 AM |
| 3 | Damn man!Are you sure, bro. You know I'm the first to question these skanks fidelity and integrity. However, assuming they're getting dicked down better than ever is a reach. Just wait until you show up to a custody exchange and meet some ugly old lady you don't recognize; not to mention she's your sloppy seconds and extremely damaged goods. Do you really think there's some alpha chad hitting that? I think a 70 year old could do better honestly, it's quite embarrassing personally | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/25 09:30 AM |
| 5 | A month in and its silence that kills me.Their retardation is the most incomprehensible thing. Idk if you're allowed to say that on Reddit, but it's like, "hey knucklehead, we were well on our way to a dozen perfect babies and millions of dollars. Explain yourself at the very least" we'll all be million year old fossil skeletons waiting for that explanation | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/25 09:18 AM |
| 3 | Need some support, it was partially my faultThese women are evil bro. Don't take any blame or guilt or apologize for anything, quite frankly. They'll just use that to manipulate you and string you along to your destruction. She could very well be cheating on you anyways. Not to be cynical, but you need to not beat yourself up and look at them realistically. Just be glad you don't have kids involved or you would be double fucked | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/25 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Bitch and moan about inequalities in divorceYeah, dude. It sucks. Not to say Andrew Tate is a good guy, but he had a good point when he calmly said "if I don't like my country's laws, I'll just leave and go to a different country.". Honestly, America seems toast thanks to these ridiculous laws. Just look at the reproduction and marriage rates. Then look ahead. Anyone who says there isn't a problem or feminist isn't going to destroy our whole civilization has their head in the sand. I'm most worried about my son's in this environment | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/25 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Ex tries to usurp opportunities with the kids. Advice/commiseration?Yeah, my kids don't talk much yet, but that's one thing I'm not looking forward to. I agree with the other comment. Simply don't converse with your children about information or ideas you don't want their mother to have. Kids can't help but be unfiltered and they talk a lot. Your opsec is your responsibility, not theirs. Its real life infowar | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/25 08:10 PM |
| 4 | She doesn’t want to leave and still loves me. Its making me question things. How do I stick to my guns?You need to divorce her. I'm proud of you for whipping her into line, youre a real man for that, but you shouldn't even have to do it in the first place. Financial irresponsibility, withholding sex, your friends and family not liking her. Yeah, those are some serious red flags. Why would she even put you through that in the first place. Expect those problems and more to reemmerge with a vengeance when you have less power to combat them at a later date if you foolishly forgive her, and you will h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 04:06 AM |
| 5 | Figuring out what to do in regard to intimacy/sex?You can always bang prostitutes. If sex is really what you need, you can always easily accomplish that. As far as money goes, it is a lot cheaper than a relationship. I wouldn't be surprised if you could bang women 10x hotter for 10x cheaper if you put your mind to it. It doesn't sound like plain sex is what you missing or longing for, in which case, you should probably look to yourself and within. become the person you are most happy to be around until you find yourself bathing in a fountain of… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/25 07:21 AM |
| 0 | It's my fault. I'm lost and spiraling. I'll take anything I can get.Don't be too hard on yourself brother. If men aren't getting sex at home, they'll likely get it somewhere else. It's arguably better to stay and cheat than break up a family. You were put it a tough spot and did what you did. I'm sure you'll never hear the end of it; just keep trying to do what's best for you and your kids and don't let her tear you down | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/25 04:30 AM |
| 2 | I don’t know how to make it outDude, I've been there too, and certainly not out of the woods yet even years later. My advice to you would be to realize that you are at war with a vicious insidious enemy. The woman putting baseless injunctions on you isn't the same woman who made babies with you or you built a life with thinking she was your friend. Furthermore, any angry or erratic reactions you make to what is happening now will appear to outsiders to coroberate her false narrative about you. Even though your feelings are ju… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/25 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Need Some Perspective — EXW’s BF’s Mom Using My Daughter as Her Profile PicThat would irritate me and give me the creeps too. I probably wouldnt say anything. It would be counterproductive to react to it by giving a rise, and you gotta pick your battles. You couldn't do anything about it anyways. Let it play out on its own, and Im sure this new Grandma will get burned eventually for involving themself with someone else's kid. Your kid knows who their real dad is from imposters | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/25 08:09 PM |
| 5 | When did you get out of flight mode"Why is this happening to me?" I think the men of this subreddit hardly need to take any more blame or accountability; it's quite enough already. The reason it's happening is largely because our country has been corrupted by feminism, and we were married to modern women who are selfish and entitled. Men should stop marrying women altogether, and stop contributing to a misandrist society that is unfair and hates them. Why it's happening to me personally is because the govt gave my stbxw a free la… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/25 07:17 PM |
| 3 | How to Handle: Attending Kids Events Together mid DivorceDont be hard on yourself or take your kid's choosing personally. It doesn't mean anything, there's all kinds of reasons your kid could act like that. I would say that you should ask her mom for sole time if it's negatively affecting your time together, which it sounds like it is. I have a 3 year old too, but I would never spend time with their mom, invite her around, or be cool with her in my presence except briefly. I have a general boundary of contempt for her, and prefer to just be separate | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/25 07:23 PM |
| 5 | At a lossYou're not alone, partner. Many of us have been exactly there. It's fucking bullshit. Just keep your head down and keep pushing on. I'm sure you'll end up with 50% custody eventually if you do so, which is arguably an ideal outcome. You could also abandon your kids as an act of self preservation; I don't think anyone would judge you and that's on the table too. You should fight it out until the end imo though, as tiring as it may be, you gotta rise to the rumble and your kids will someday thank … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/25 02:05 PM |
| 5 | Lack of intimacy divorce?She's running dread game on you; it will escalate to cheating, and the longer you let it carry on, the more self esteem you will sacrifice. Preemptively leave in a calculated decisive manner while you can and don't look back | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/25 11:49 PM |
| 3 | Just an analogy...Your 3 year old will hate you when you say two lollipops is enough, your 2 year old will be pissed when it's time to leave the playground, your 1 year old will be spiteful when it's time to change into a clean diaper, and your baby momma will whine on the highest cloud in heaven. Who gives af what any of them thinks | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/25 10:44 AM |
| 21 | When did you realize what you do will never be enough?My stbxw had me arrested under false charges, put a restraining order against me and my small children, essentially made me homeless, and opened dcf cases against me. My lawyer kept going on about optics, how I had to support her as a mother, and how things would look bad in court if I acted pissed. I was so spun around and felt like a bad guy too. Therefore I agreed at some point to let her have our car, and parked it for her to pick up, which would've left me carless and made my life double fu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/25 09:39 AM |
| 2 | First girl after divorce… disasterWhy dont you just chill out, man. This girl doesn't sound so bad, and obviously she was fond of you. But the stuff you're talking about would give anyone the creeps, frankly. Just give up, let her go, and be grateful for the time you had together. Her coming back around isn't out the cards, but letting it go if the only way for it to be so. Even then you'd be lucky, and it doesn't sound like the healthiest ideal situation anyways in my opinion | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/25 08:18 AM |
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