I need feedback. We have 50/50 custody of our 6 yr. old. Each of us is allowed 2 weeks of vacation during the summer, these 2 weeks can be taken consecutively or non-consecutively.

This year (odd years), I am given precedence on which dates I can choose to take a vacation. 7 days after I sent my ex my dates, I realized I choose the wrong dates and sent her a correction. She is refusing to accept these new dates. Mind you, the new dates I did choose do not overlap with her vacation dates BUT do take a normal weekend of hers (3 additional days).

She claims I can't do that and says she has already made plans on that weekend. She is refusing to provide any proof of plans or non-refundable costs paid. Essentially, she is cynically exploiting this error.

The vacation is coming up fast and I need to make reservations. We have been in a game of chicken. What should I do?

  1. Ignore her and keep my daughter anyway.
  2. Stick with my original dates.
  3. Any other ideas?

I sent her the following message:

Is Parent A not allowed to modify vacation dates once they are sent, even if Parent A has precedence and the vacation dates are not in conflict with Parent B's vacation dates?

In summary her response was yes.