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| 1 | Vacation Planning DebacleActually there was a deadline and she missed the it because she wanted to strike a rule in the judgement the prevented us from choosing vacation dates on the opposing parents weekend. So I agreed to amend the judgement and then we both re-picked dates post deadline. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/25 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Vacation Planning DebacleI already set my boundary, there is no coming around at this point. I either capitulate or keep my daughter and face the fallout of either choice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/25 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Vacation Planning DebacleThe problem is the order just states the following: "In the event of a conflict, the Husband's preferences will be honored in odd numbered years and the Wife's preferences will be honored in even numbered years." It doesn't get into any other details and yes I have to think about the future and the precedent this sets. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/25 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Coparenting with narcissistHow did she agree to mediation? Have you already made concessions? If she truly has NPD, mediation will be a waste of time and money. Always wear a digital recorder on you while interacting with her, plant cameras around the house and be prepared to be falsely accused. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/25 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Prevented from volunteering at school due to false allegationsThat would not make any difference to my situation with the school. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/24 11:12 PM |
| 4 | Prevented from volunteering at school due to false allegationsIt was communicated via email, but it didn't state a reason. More importantly I want to know what the standard is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/24 06:27 AM |
| 4 | Prevented from volunteering at school due to false allegationsAlready did, they are stalling. I asked for their criteria and who makes the determination. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/24 06:21 AM |
| 6 | Prevented from volunteering at school due to false allegationsDon't do anything? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/24 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Systemic impunity of False AccusersWere you accused of SA? If so, how can you trust any woman of even knowing that you were falsely accused? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/24 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 19, 2024Those are the metrics my scale outputted. As for the company I work for I was/am going through divorce, its job security ATM. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/11/24 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 19, 2024OYS #21 STATS: 41 // 6'1" // 203 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Body Fat: 21% Muscle Mass: 149 lbs. / 74% I. Physical I injured myself doing squats for the 2nd time, this time I was using just a single plate with proper form. I am done with back squats. Its been 3 months and my lower back is still not at 100%. I have also quit doing StrongLifts 5x5 as I was just plateauing and the fact it heavily relies on the back squat. It is the #1 move and I love it, but I’m just too old… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/11/24 04:10 AM |
| 18 | I made a mistakeNever tell a woman your problems, never. They say they want vulnerability but in reality this behavior repulses them. Talk to your family and your bros about your situation, but try your best to keep these two world's apart. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 05:01 AM |
| 1 | Ex crashing birthday partiesNo civil judge is going to grant a restraining order based on what she's done, and if so, not one that is long term. My attorney is good but I wish he advocated more strongly for restricting possibility of contact. My ex wouldn't have agreed and this provision would have gone to trial. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/24 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Ex crashing birthday partiesSeperated for 2 years, trial was 3 months ago. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/24 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Birthdays and invitationsThe GAL in our case recommended a parental coordinator, we opted not to get one because I know ex would disagree with her anyway and I would be getting billed for it. I'd be interested to hear how that goes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 02:15 PM |
| 5 | Ex-wife wants me to not dateYou sound confused, but one thing is for sure, your wife controls the frame of the marriage. Do you have children? Do you own the house? Your wife already has somebody lined up, but doesn't want you dating around. Even if you don't date, make it clear this is not an aspect of your life that she will have a say in. You are going to be negotiating ALOT of things, this shouldn't be one of them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/24 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Getting a vasectomy in your 40s, why it might not make senseSo you’re still not recovered? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 02:24 AM |
| 13 | Dating so-called spiritual women seems to always be a losing proposition.If you are a believer, then you are first accountable to yourself. You wouldn't require an outside force to compel you to recognize your wrongs. Show me a hypocrite/poser and I'll show you a zealot/saint, they are at the opposite ends of the spectrum. What is certain is that the woman who calls herself "spiritual" does not want to bother with the question of accountability because there is none in her version of religion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 10:41 PM |
| 18 | Dating so-called spiritual women seems to always be a losing proposition.Spiritual = Religion minus accountability (ie. sin, repentance, commandments...). My ex was the same and you've astutely observed the relationship between being spiritual and being accountable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 10:26 PM |
| 15 | Divorced man of 40, father of 3 beautiful kids, how difficult is it to have a fresh start at life?Just to be clear, its not in the interest of your kids to be raised by a single mom unless you’re a POS. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 04:43 AM |
| 0 | Remember that conservatives are not your friends. They want men to work until they die(((We need you to keep working to fund our genocide of Palestinians))) | /r/MensRights | 13/03/24 11:51 PM |
| 4 | Gym Crush missed an opportunityI wouldn't recommend cold approaching at the gym. Its one of those spaces where women overtly tease and expect you not to hound them. If she frequents a class you attend and it naturally happens cool, but don't force it. Don't overthink it, you didn't miss out on "the one" because there is no "one" | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 06:23 PM |
| 1 | 34m accused of molesting daughter by wife 35fr/Divorce_Men | /r/MensRights | 12/03/24 05:54 PM |
| 3 | 34m accused of molesting daughter by wife 35fWife claims she didn't know the doctor would take it to social services, although she worked in healthcare. Impossible to prove one way or the other. She is clearly lying. If she worked in healthcare she is trained to look for signs of abuse and is obligated to report them just as the doctor did. | /r/MensRights | 12/03/24 05:45 PM |
| 2 | 34m accused of molesting daughter by wife 35fHey bro I'm sorry she leveled these accusations at you, I know how it feels and how difficult it is to even talk about this. My ex (NPD) accused me of the same with my daughter, it is unforgivable. This happened years ago so know that she is way ahead of you on her divorce plans, you need a plan and to file first ASAP. You want to be the proactive one and not be on the defense because its you who is protecting your children, not this monster. Before anything however, buy yourself a digital audio… | /r/MensRights | 12/03/24 04:37 PM |
| 3 | For those who divorced an NPD/BPD woman with children-were you made to feel as though greyrocking was a form of abuse and bad for the kids?The only thing you disagree with his who is doing the frowning and yes he should be going for parallel parenting. Lets take the divorce aspect out of this scenario, getting wrapped up with another woman with kids this quickly and telling her your problems is reckless and beta on a personal level. At the divorce level, he's "hurting mom's feelings" and unfortunately at least in OP's case, he is getting flack for that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/24 04:16 PM |
| 2 | For those who divorced an NPD/BPD woman with children-were you made to feel as though greyrocking was a form of abuse and bad for the kids?If she is either, she is BPD and not NPD from your examples. I’m in a similar situation with an NPD ex who wants to continue to control. There is an important distinction between parallel and co-parenting, the court and attorneys know this and sounds like you could justify it with your history. However, jumping into another LTR, telling this woman your problems and already doing things with all the kids together…you are inviting more chaos and complexity into your life when your divorce isn’t ev… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/24 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 27, 2024OYS #19 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 203 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Body Fat: 21% Muscle Mass: 149 lbs. / 74% Chest: Bench 185 // Overhead Press 115 Back: Bent Row 145 Arms: Hammer Curl 45 // Bicep Curl (Barbell) 90 Compound: Squat 245 // Front Squat 145 I. Physical Back at the gym and found a gym partner to train with weekly. Guy is the organizer of a social Meetup I’m involved in, works security. He’s 300 lbs and same height as me and has that power lifter physique. Obviously … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/03/24 04:04 PM |
| 4 | Gloating Parent(s) During the Divorce?Sorry to say, but your dad is a POS. My parents and even my older brother are very supportive, to the point, where they overreact about things my ex has done and I have to put things into perspective for them be less reactive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 02:52 PM |
| 4 | Marco Rubio Introduces Bill Requiring Biological Fathers to Pay Pregnancy Expenses: "Ensuring fathers are financially responsible for their child is an important step toward engaging fathers in family life"Little Marco like Vivek is pandering to women under the guise of being responsible. Until I hear them promoting default 50/50 they can stfu - that is the litmus test for these politicians. | /r/MensRights | 28/01/24 04:09 AM |
| 1 | My mom is verbally abusive to my dad, who is getting older and I worry the emotional stress will eventually take a toll on his health. What can I do?Do you still live with them? How old are you? You must be in your late 30s or 40s. Calling an organization is ridiculous when you are their son and can confront her directly. You talked to your dad, how about talking to your mom!? | /r/MensRights | 28/01/24 04:01 AM |
| 0 | Dating a recently divorced guyNeed more context. How recent is recent? Did he file or did she? What kind of issues is the ex causing? From what you wrote, best guess is that you’re a rebound. If you’re hoping for marriage/kids, just don’t. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 03:54 AM |
| 3 | Vivek Ramaswamy wants to "codify sexual responsibility for men into the law" and make them fully financially responsible for the child AND the motherAnd here I was waiting for Vivek to say something profound LOL. This guy has no clue. | /r/MensRights | 26/01/24 06:17 PM |
| 1 | just read a news article in Canada that feminist want to block "parental alienation" as a reason for dads to have more visitation.Let me fix the 2nd paragraph: "This concept [parental alienation] is leading courts across the country to reduce the amount of time children spend with their abusive mothers and re-introducing minors to their fathers, even when there is a documented history of false allegations against them." Ask them what does it means against the children's will? Do they believe children cannot be influenced to hate one parent over the other? What is considered documented history of family violence? They're ar… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/24 05:16 AM |
| 0 | Anybody else sick of men being ignored when talking about hostages being held by Hamas?I'm more sick of hearing about Israeli hostages and casualties in general versus the 20K+ Palestinian casualties, yeah I said it. | /r/MensRights | 16/01/24 12:06 AM |
| 6 | Did counselling help any men?Yes, but not in the way you might think. Individual counseling was a waste of money, I just needed someone to talk to. Couples counseling however, let me see how unhinged my wife was with a professional in a clinical setting. The couples counselor ended up quitting because of my wife's attitude AND declared that she does not believe our marriage is salvageable. That was important for me to hear and its the event that tipped me over the line. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 12:00 AM |
| 3 | To spend now or wait?If all goes to plan? You mean your wife’s plan to get you tf out, keep the house and kids? That plan? If you move out, you are surrendering before the battle even begins. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/24 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Men who are in a relationship should give equal importance to their parentsDisagree and I have a good relationship with my parents, whom my ex-SO hates. You and only you should be your mental point of origin. Your relationship between parents and SO should be balanced but ultimately different and serve different purposes. If you are being put in the middle of disagreements it is because neither your parents or SO respect your authority. | /r/MensRights | 15/01/24 03:27 AM |
| 5 | Revenge on stbxwWrong question. You get revenge in the courtroom not with this petty bullshit. Don’t contact her AP, your 54 not 14, that’s somehow more pathetic than the AP being cheated on. Karma will do its job. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/24 03:14 AM |
| 2 | Michigan to pay $1.75 million to innocent man after 35 years in prison " The state of Michigan has agreed to pay $1.75 million to an innocent man who spent 35 years in prison after being wrongly convicted of sexual assault."This! The pig should now sit in jail for 35 years, instead he’s probably retired living off a crazy pension. | /r/MensRights | 14/01/24 02:25 AM |
| 4 | Taking accuser to court, living with this accusationYes, its part of the state's calculation for child support but using that as a means of financial loss in civil court would not fly. | /r/MensRights | 08/01/24 07:34 PM |
| 20 | Taking accuser to court, living with this accusationUnited States | /r/MensRights | 08/01/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 02, 2024Thanks You aren’t attractive. If you were, women wouldn’t give a shit about the stage of your divorce. Ask me how I know. This rejection has come from women that have made the initial move on the dating app, so they find the profile at least attractive enough to do that. I see validity with what you're saying in IRL interactions but maybe not so much with online game. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/01/24 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 02, 2024OYS #18 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 193 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) I. Physical I’ve been sick the last two weeks and have only eased back into physical activity this week, no new PRs. II. Mindset I scheduled a consult to get a vasectomy. I’ve been thinking about this for a while, but I cannot risk having another kid with another woman. I would of preferred having 2 kids but that ship has sailed after getting a divorce. Another topic, I’m getting traction with a dating app, but … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/01/24 06:56 PM |
| 7 | Religion became a wedge issue in my relationship.Religion was not the wedge in your relationship, it was her mom, whose frame she was in and not yours. You had 3 years to act and she adopted religious zealotry as a means of accelerating the relationship's eventual destruction or ensuring that her happiness becomes a proxy for God’s pleasure with men, and in so doing becomes a means of control (Rational Male - Religion). You were running the dangerously faulty premise of a 50/50 marriage and got out clean, be thankful for this! | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/24 11:45 PM |
| 2 | How bad did your retirement accounts get a shellacking during your divorce?My ex and I have both maxed out loans on our 401k, which were roughly of equal value. Its a no-no to touch it, but we both had to, as she was been aggressive with litigation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 03:18 AM |
| 0 | The things people say to single dads.I wouldn’t be so accommodating as to tell or ask my child if they wanted to leave. These are public spaces and you have every right to be there even if you didn’t have children present. Its not so peculiar, I’ve sat at the park waiting for the ex to bring my daughter, I am not moving. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 04:58 AM |
| 2 | Culture, Culazo, and Cognizance: Geopolitically Weaponized AutismNo, its not the same as "She loves me for me!" I'm not deluded to think that western women aren't interested in things like money and status. The difference between the western woman and the jungle Asian, is that the former is discerning enough to recognize whether a man really does posses money or status, they are not bedazzled by the mystical white man to the point of blindly attributing things he really doesn't posses. You are the same person - the bar is just lower because you're fetishized … | /r/TheRedPill | 21/12/23 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Culture, Culazo, and Cognizance: Geopolitically Weaponized AutismHow about overcoming your autism and thriving in the place you were born in? This is an effective recipe, but its ultimately an unequivocal surrender. If you are RP aware, you should have enough self-awareness and respect for yourself to know that the only reason you've found success with jungle Asians is because you have been fetishized for what you represent, not what you are. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/12/23 05:13 PM |
| 3 | [FR] I met the hamsterGood example of AA right here. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/12/23 06:56 PM |
| 2 | THIS IS THE WAY to Text Girls on Tinder, Hinge or Bumble (Full Example + Breakdown)I appreciate how thorough this guide was but I was expecting the GameGenie cheat code to these interactions. The example used is a foregone conclusion, just by the girls response times you could of closed on her number at message #3 and cut the chitchat. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/12/23 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 12, 2023I believe it and that's a reasonable benchmark, thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/12/23 05:05 PM |
| 9 | Seeking advice - Wife cheated, she doesn't know I knowThis! OP deluded himself into thinking that if he outsourced the rules of the relationship to a third-party that everything would be fine. Oops wife didn't sign off on the cuck contract and went off with someone else. How can she respect a husband who's okay with that? Is this suppose to be a surprise? Instantly got a terrible feeling No idea if anything happened and dont really care about that. You knew this was as bad idea, that terrible feeling was your gut telling you that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 12, 2023OYS #18 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) I. Physical No changes. I’ve ordered a new scale and will be putting up new numbers next OYS. II. Mindset After taking a deserved beating for this post Divorced dad LTR types, I uninstalled an app I was using for single parents and have wrote off single moms completely. If one enters my orbit organically for the short-term cool, but I am not gunning for them. I was under this impression that I can put the right … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/12/23 05:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you actually know if you’re ready to date again?Its not so much that you have to date multiple women simultaneously, it more so about not inhibiting yourself from pursuing or closing off options once you do have a woman in your orbit. It helps answer the question whether she is the one because she's simply available or because she has truly withstood the test of time of experiences with you and rose to the top of the prospect pile. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Recording of DV incident by stbxwAbsolutely it is relevant to your case and you should enter it into evidence, did you have an emergency (ex-parte) hearing? The same thing happened to me, wife got arrested and I brought the video evidence of her assaulting me into court at the emergency hearing, other side tried to exclude it but judge viewed the damning video in court. Her scrumbag criminal lawyer coached her to fabricate false DV charges after the fact, just to force me to drop her criminal case. The no contact order is a goo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Wife realized she is too gay to stay with meBruh wtf did you think was gonna happen when you "opened up the marriage" and you have a kid at that, what kind of example is that for your son? If this is about money, don't wait to file, she's not going to start working when she has a plow horse that's going to be funding her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 06:53 AM |
| 1 | It’s been hard.Did you voluntarily leave the marital home? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 06:44 AM |
| 2 | It just never endsYou missed your chance, don't fuck it up again. The police are going to come regardless, is it better they arrive on her call or your call? I called the police on my wife after she hit me, she got arrested and now I am sitting in the marital house while she's renting an expensive apartment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 06:40 AM |
| 3 | Cohabitation after divorceAFTER divorce!? So you're okay with her bringing in Chad to fuck her in the next room while you are reading your children a bedtime story? If you had an exceptionally amicable relationship with your ex, maybe it makes sense during the divorce, but not after. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 04:29 AM |
| 6 | It just never endsAre you waiting to get kicked out of the marital house? Because that is exactly whats going to happen if you don't get your head out of your ass. You should be recording these interactions and be the first one to call the police, immediately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 04:27 AM |
| 3 | How do you actually know if you’re ready to date again?Looks like your divorce was too easy to learn anything from and you're probably going to make the same mistake twice. If a woman is what you need to be happy, you got work to do. Date for alot longer and with multiple women simultaneously, are you capable of doing that? If not, ask yourself why not? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?A couple of quotes from Rollo Tomassi's book Religion which I highly recommend any religiously inclined men here read. The real-world risks that modern marriage presents to men today are dispelled by religious idealism. Marriage becomes a literal leap of faith. The religious framework is only applicable to the man, that's why they are so appealing for the woman. Even if she was faithful and never chooses to divorce you, she can still make your life a living hell. As we make women the intermediar… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 04:10 AM |
| 2 | I am so tired.Is she paying you child support? Hire some assistance. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Don't be fooled by women from the East.You wouldn't. Again why do you care he said that? You're assuming he didn't know it would sting'em | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/23 08:09 PM |
| 0 | Don't be fooled by women from the East.lol so what? He's got the balls to say what you could only think of saying. The guy is a tour guide, he's probably more social than most of the commenters on the thread. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/23 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Should I get married?Date but your mind should not be on marriage. I was 30 when I met my future ex-wife and threw away 10 years with her (and I consider myself fortunate). Know that women in their early 30s want to lock a man down because they are going to hit the biological wall and you're sexual value will keep rising as you enter your late 30s. You have the right instinct and the fact you are here, you're already ahead of the game. Before anything ask yourself why/how are these people putting pressure on you? I … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/23 03:43 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 28, 2023I'm 40 years old, my schedule is too busy to make plans simply for sexual gratification IF said women has zero LTR potential. That's not say I'm not open to casual dating, but an LTR is the end goal. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/11/23 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Divorced dad LTR typesDid you live together or you came to this conclusion just dating one? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/11/23 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Divorced dad LTR typesThanks for the response, alot to chew on. I suppose not cohabitating with a single mom would significantly reduce these issues, but then to your point, why would she accept that? If not cohabitating is a rule, I"m probably more likely to secure a single woman than a single mom. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/11/23 06:29 PM |
| -4 | Divorced dad LTR typesBecause young single women persist in unattached, child-free men. Women especially don't like being cucked. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/11/23 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Divorced dad LTR typesIf I don't marry or have children with said women, what additional responsibility do you see? This is what I want to talk about really. If she has a daughter, same age as mine, the experience should be complimentary. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/11/23 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Divorced dad LTR typesThis is ideal, but its not the other ex I'm concerned about. Its also a minuscule part of the population that is not old.. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/11/23 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 28, 2023OYS #17 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) (Not including lift metrics since they are out of date) I. Physical Nothing new to report, other than I've started doing a sauna pre-work out and re-introduced cardio at the end of my workout. II. Mindset Girl I was occasionally going out with but only messed around with in my car told me she wanted to "fuck my brains out" and suggested we get a day hotel. She was even willing to set everything up, I just needed… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/11/23 05:16 PM |
| 4 | Spouse is withholding my twins and won’t communicateWhat exactly are you asking? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/23 07:07 PM |
| 3 | So what exactly happens if you dump your life savings into Bitcoin and 'forget' the password?To put it simply, as long as your ex is aware and the money can be traced - you can be made to account for it, regardless if you forgot your password or not. Are there ways to purchase crypto without leaving a trace? Yes, you would do it by paying with cash peer-to-peer or via a crypto ATM using petty cash (avoiding KYC minimums). This of course requires pre-planning over a long period of time to build up anything substantial. 99% of the people on this sub, including myself did not have this for… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 06:14 PM |
| 2 | What role does/did passive-aggressive behavior play in your marriage?Its unattractive behavior and a cowardly way of demonstrating your position, I used to do it and the relationship suffers because of it. Her behavior will become worse the more you do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Sex while separated, do *you* consider it cheating?Is a divorce filed as well? If so, then absolutely not. Not even something I gave any thought to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/23 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Breaking ex's pattern of negotiating EVERYTHINGThe custody agreement was imposed by a judge after an emergency court hearing. Personal feelings have zero place in communicating with your ex, its all about concisely stating your position (which should be in the best interest of your child). | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/23 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Breaking ex's pattern of negotiating EVERYTHINGCorrect. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/23 04:26 PM |
| 3 | I just found a gps tracker on my car that was obviously put there by my ex…lol what? PIs are not above the law. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023It seems like you’re close to worshipping at the alter of Andrew Tate or whatever version of masculinity you put on a pedestal. Yes mine. She's signaling her active role in emasculating her boy. Its a red flag, that goes beyond her just saying that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/11/23 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Breaking ex's pattern of negotiating EVERYTHINGNeither, we have a court issued temporary agreement that is pretty basic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Breaking ex's pattern of negotiating EVERYTHINGAsk questions. “How is this balancing time between parents?”. “Why do you feel you deserve more time with the kids? I've done that it just opens up a new avenue of argumentation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 06:50 PM |
| 6 | Breaking ex's pattern of negotiating EVERYTHINGWe're still married, I just call her my ex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023OYS #16 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) (Not including lift metrics since they are out of date) I. Physical Recovered from throwing my back out squatting. Got back into yoga and taking it slow at the gym. Gained some weight in the past month that I need to shed. Despite buying wrist wraps, I am still getting bottom palm pain in my right hand from pushing exercises and its limiting my bench work. II. Mindset Nothing to report. III. Divorce Ex is becomi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/11/23 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife health scareShe's still in your head. You don't work for her anymore. I know you can probably rationalize helping her = helping your kids, but you have 1 child, not 2. Treat her like an independent adult, you don't want to serve as an example so your kid can play caretaker to her in the future. If she endangers your kid, adjust the court order. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/23 09:12 PM |
| 5 | 16 months in little progressGym. No one who puts in the work at the gym feels depressed. Convert any anxiety or negativity you have into gains. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023Yeah I should of said 4 plates total and you're right, I do not have the build to excel at squats. Will try dead hangs this week, good idea thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/10/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023OYS #15 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) (Not including lift metrics since they are out of date) I. Physical I fucked my back up squatting 4 plates. I have already done away with dead lifts after a similar injury and now I am out for at least another 2 weeks because of this. I attribute it to a combination of poor form and not enough sleep. I also haven't done yoga in 3 months and my balance and breath work is lacking. I know how crucial this single ex… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/10/23 05:13 PM |
| 2 | FR: The NarcissistYou're reading too much into this. These guys exist in every social circle and are cringe. Women indulge them because they're being nice and have pity on them, this guy would never go beyond friend-zone if that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/10/23 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 03, 2023Something like this? https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07BB3VQ42/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?smid=A3TATHROASWQUD&psc=1 | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/10/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 03, 2023OYS #14 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Body Fat: 24% Muscle Mass: 141 lbs. / 71% Chest: Bench 185 // Overhead Press 115 Back: Bent Row 145 Arms: Hammer Curl 45 // Bicep Curl (Barbell) 90 Compound: Squat 245 // Front Squat 145 I. Physical Started developing a pain in the bottom part of my palm when I am benching, or really, anytime I need to uphold the barbell. It gets to the point where I am not confident in my lifts and need to stop due to the pain,… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/10/23 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Protecting attorney's time from ex's communicationsIts novel, but no respectable lawyer would agree to send something like that and regardless is still a waste of time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 19, 2023OYS #13 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Chest: Bench 185 // Overhead Press 115 Back: Bent Row 145 Arms: Hammer Curl 45 // Bicep Curl (Barbell) 90 Compound: Squat 245 // Front Squat 145 I. Physical Sleep! Yes, cutting blue light screen time at night and increasing sleep time has translated into more PRs in the gym. I need to stay disciplined with this routine. II. Mindset Deleted my dating app after sufficiently exhausting my options and tbh prevent me… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/09/23 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 12, 2023OYS #12 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Body Fat: 24% Muscle Mass: 141 lbs. / 71% StrongLifts 5x5 Chest: Bench 185 // Overhead Press 115 Back: Bent Row 145 Arms: Hammer Curl 45 // Bicep Curl (Barbell) 90 Compound: Squat 225 // Front Squat 145 I. Physical The assisted captain's chair has been helping me alleviate elbow pain from bursitis while still challenging me. Been taking creatine and Ashwaganda for several months now and the frequency of reaching… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/09/23 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 11, 2023OYS #11 STATS: 40 // 6'1" // 200 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Body Fat: 25% Muscle Mass: 142 lbs. / 71% Chest: Bench 185 // Overhead Press 115 Back: Bent Row 145 // Lat Pulldown 170 Arms: Hammer Curl 45 // Bicep Curl (Barbell) 90 Compound: Squat 215 // Front Squat 145 // Trap Bar Deadlift 225 I. Physical Been regularly taking creatine and ashwagandha, which I feel has been helping me hit PRs faster. I have had pain in my elbow and knee, went to the PT and found that I poss… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/07/23 01:43 AM |
| 2 | Question for menThe divorce court is looking at both income and expenses. Your idea about having "net zero surplus" ie. NO SAVINGS is ridiculous both from a financial planning perspective and as a divorce strategy. Your ex will claim that the lifestyle will need to be maintained post-divorce and guess who's going to pay for that? You! Look, I asked about a prenup with my ex and she refused citing the typical fairy tale bullshit about why its not necessary if we really loved each other. Don't buy it, she is not … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/23 06:06 PM |
| 5 | Finding your next relationshipOr marriage? NOPE, if you haven't yet learned that marriage is a losing proposition, you are going to be taken in whatever arrangement you wind up in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/23 03:31 PM |
| – | Ex wants to take things from housePeople like this thrive on chaos. You could give her all of the contents in your house and she’ll come back asking for the door knobs and windows. Yup, describes her exactly. If she was in my position, she would justify keeping everything and still claim to be a victim. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Ex wants to take things from houseI am not trying to keep any of HER stuff, but she's asking for things that we both use and for our daughter without any consideration for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/23 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Life after Divorce - Who here gets the "side eye"?Yes I know exactly what you're talking about. Some parents at my daughter's school who I would normally be friendly with and talk to, can't even look at me and the ones who do give me a fake, strained smile. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/23 01:04 PM |
| 1 | I get how fathers abandon their childrenSorry but this is dumb. My wife actually tried something like this with me but it was a lopsided deal and she was bluffing. I tried to get her to write it down, so the court could see how much of a POS she is but she didn't do that. If you think escaping to another state absolves you of CS or alimony, you're wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/23 02:12 PM |
| 1 | I get how fathers abandon their childrenBut is there a situation where the "right thing" is to actually just be absent? NO. If you were still together with your wife, you still have a responsibility to care for your child. You're letting your ex affect you, your daughter and now your perspective. As I'm typing this out I am waiting in a zoom criminal trial because my ex made the allegation that I hit her after she got arrested and removed from the house for hitting me. She has tried everything in court to try to decrease my time, but … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/23 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Wake-UP Weds- What Happened OP?Why are you here? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Considering suicide. Divorce destroyed my life.You didn't mention kids, are there any? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/23 12:54 PM |
| 1 | When ex missed exchange time, adviceWe are under temporary orders, so it is very minimal. There is no explicit language for this situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/23 03:50 AM |
| 9 | Men teaching men - asking for advice and your insightsDon't get married or have kids with her (at least not yet) and work on getting your frame back if you think she's redeemable. You've already conceded too much in your relationship. She knows your an LTR kind of guy and has got you locked down, improve yourself and give her reason to worry. When I was your age, I thought the possibilities were already closing off for me. You have your peak SMV years ahead of you, think bigger. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Filing Taxes Married but SeparatelyOnce a tax return is filed with a dependent's tax ID number, the IRS will not accept another e-filed return with that same dependent even if the first return is amended to remove the dependent. So, if a parent tries to e-file a tax return claiming a child that has already been claimed for the year, the return will be rejected by the IRS. It will be as though the return was never filed. https://turbotax.intuit.com/tax-tips/family/what-happens-when-both-parents-claim-a-child-on-a-tax-return/L5ejjt… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/23 03:26 PM |
| 4 | Why being in a relationship or accidentally impregnating a black women is a terrible ideaNot really, black women have more testosterone than white woman, which is not an insignificant difference. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/04/23 04:34 AM |
| 3 | Have anyone of you guys completely left dating since Divorce?lol I thought you were about to offer some practical precautions to escape false accusations, but this mf talking about opening up a porn studio. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/23 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Help!Why do you need a forensic CPA? Will she be demanding discovery on something specific beyond the normal disclosure? I retained a CDFA (divorce financial analyst) for a couple thousand. How far into the divorce are you? Have you gone through pre-trial? Is there a court date? | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/23 12:12 AM |
| 7 | What are the most aggressive legal demands your ex made against you during pretrial motions in family Court ?Even with a 40/60 temporary order that favored her, my ex tried withholding my daughter and sought sole custody after triggering two CPS investigations claiming I had sexually abused my daughter. CPS dismissed them both, not enough merit to warrant an investigation. The scales will be tipping in my favor next hearing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/23 12:01 AM |
| 7 | The Impending VR PornpocalypseI doubt that, I could easily see arguments from the VR porn industry talking about how it actually saves women from being exploited. You make it sound like VR porn is a gift to humanity, when its poison and because its poison, it will be made free in the future. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/03/23 09:14 PM |
| 1 | CA - DisomasterHow long do you have to pay spousal support for? That sucks, I wonder if you had filed before the 5 year mark if that would of made any difference. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/23 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023If I were to graduate from 5x5, do you have a program you would recommend? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/03/23 06:41 PM |
| 11 | Considering Divorce: 2 kids under 4Wife and I have no physically or even verbal conflict(we are very respectful of one another)…it makes it even harder on me in thinking the way I am; BUT I simply don’t feeling fulfilled/happy You sound like a woman. If you're looking to a woman for fulfillment/happiness, you will remain unfulfilled. I had to divorce my wife because conflict was unavoidable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/23 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023OYS #10 STATS: 39 // 6'1" // 198 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Body Fat: 24% Muscle Mass: 141 lbs. / 71% Chest: BP 165 // OverheadP 105 // InclineP 145 Back: DL 195 // Bent Row 135 // Lat Pulldown 150 Arms: Bicep Curl 55 // Triceps Ext 95 // Lateral Raise 20 Legs: Squat 190 // Front Squat 125 // Leg Ext 115 I. Physical Fundamental question: For the longest time I have been recording my best 5rep max, but is that really the best metric to use when comparing progress? I never… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/03/23 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Ex's car broke down, can't make exchangesI am not as petty as her, but she has been so terrible during this process that little things like this all look like opportunities to give her a taste of her own medicine. Thanks everyone for your feedback, looks like I'm on the right track and just need to continue accommodating a little more until this new car gets here. Big picture. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/23 01:06 AM |
| 0 | Men who initiated the divorce and datingCompletion from divorce, is my understanding. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 09:40 PM |
| 8 | As a woman who finds herself dating a lot of divorced men, what should I ask to gauge if he is in a healthy place mentally for dating post divorce? What should I watch out for?Why not both? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 02:54 AM |
| 3 | I was too conservative and I regret it, but am I being a doormat now to compensate?Lol wtf, this is a shitpost. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/23 04:40 PM |
| 1 | I Ruined My Marriage and I don’t want to live anymore.You're young and you don't have children together, consider yourself fortunate and move on. There is no such thing as a soul mate. Its good that you have self-reflected and see your faults - now is time to work on yourself. There is time to make amends, now is not the time, cut communication, start reading foundational RP texts and hit the gym. If you think the ex will somehow be remorseful because of your death, you're wrong, she will capitalize on the victimhood and the money will be spent on … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/23 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Shared Custody and Post Divorce LTR OutlookExactly my thoughts, It wouldn't be advise my own daughter to enter such an arrangement. I think that's where I am getting hung up on. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/23 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Shared Custody and Post Divorce LTR OutlookMy daughter is 3.5 as well and I'm the one with more support resources, as her family lives overseas. Thanks for the input. That's great you were able to settle before the court date. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/23 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Shared Custody and Post Divorce LTR OutlookThat will have no merit on giving you the lion's share of parenting time. Women lie in family law court all the time, including false allegations. They are not punished for it. Generally yes, but not in my case. My ex is such a POS that the judge ordered that if the results of a sexual assault kit on my daughter come back negative, that I will be entitled to a custody schedule adjustment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/23 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Hiding BitcoinTo answer directly, it depends on how you purchased the BTC to begin with. Did you buy it on an exchange with KYC requirements? If so, then I would disclose it because the forensic accountant will be able to trace it. If you try hiding it and they find it, expect to be punished. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/23 04:41 PM |
| 5 | Shared Custody and Post Divorce LTR OutlookAll good questions, but no I have not prioritized or had sex or sexual relations with any women for almost three years now. Once divorce became a real possibility, I ran dread game, which involved a process of self-improvement both physical and mental; the stay plan was the same as the go plan. Despite going through this judicial hell, my day-to-day life is 1000% better than when I was living with my ex. I've picked back hobbies and am involved in several social circles. I posted this because I'… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/03/23 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Medical appointment switcherooThe idea would be that I setup auto forwarding, recovery credentials being mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/23 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Advice so the soon to be ex wife birthday is Saturday. I keep on going back and forth of getting her something or not getting her something. What do you guys think?No, do you want to look any more pathetic? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/23 05:21 AM |
| 12 | GaslightingThat is not gaslighting. For myself, I experienced gaslighting when my wife would question my mental state / perception of reality, to the point that it drove me to pay a neurologist $2K to determine that I did not have autism as she claimed I had. That's fucken gaslighting. Don't let her wield that word when its not warranted. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/23 09:26 PM |
| 2 | GALs and Parenting AppsThe app is helpful in documentation because it is court admissible, that is the biggest plus. Personally, I think it could use a redesign and better UX but its better then using your phone's text messaging or email. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/23 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Why you dont date soon after divorce...Is this supposed to be eye opening? This is from the perspective of a divorced woman dating a pathetic man who practically begs her to live with her. The woman did him a favor. The guy in this story made so many mistakes and dating a woman soon after divorce was the least of them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/23 02:25 PM |
| 3 | I’m very nervous about this divorce. Wife wanted it after 13 years. Two kids 12,6. She has signed and I’ve filed. She wants to leave back to her country. We live In Missouri state. She’ll let’s me keep, the house with me cash buy her out for 45k, i keep my rav4 30k, she’ll keep kia 07 5k.I know what you're thinking, too good to be true! I wouldn't worry about it. A judge is not going to do favors for a woman who wants to abandon her kids and go back home. Not receiving support is worth it for this deal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/23 10:21 PM |
| 15 | I'm trapped with a cheating spouse that has cancer. I'm losing my mind.Get a new lawyer, stop caring for her and take solace that she will likely die sooner than later. Also YOU drive your lawyer, not the other way around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/23 08:06 PM |
| 1 | 1 Year After Divorce: Venting and Still Seeking HelpWhats the custody arrangement? You make it sound like its something you can just increase when you want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/23 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Experience w/ Pre-K therapy?Absolutely, thats exactly what she did. The psych was obligated to file a report even though her previous allegations came back unsupported. I doubt STBX informed her of those findings. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/23 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Experience w/ Pre-K therapy?I should specify she spoke to the in-house psychologist at my daughter's primary care practice - not school. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/23 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Some random woman messages me...Shut up cuck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/23 09:10 PM |
| 2 | My family is completely against my divorce."As we make women the intermediaries between men and God, we also make women’s satisfaction with men the metric for God’s will or His displeasure with men." - Rollo Tomassi | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | this sounds exactly like my ex over the last 6 monthsNo, it is useful because if you are dealing with an authentic pwNPD, there is a whole slew of behavioral patterns that you can protect yourself from and exploit during the court process. pwNPD tend to gaslight their victims, its a important step in healing yourself to recognize this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/23 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Filing from the Couple that "had it all."Yeah you're going to get raked financially, but you are very fortunate to not have children. You can regain wealth, but you cannot regain time with your kids or shield them entirely from the lifelong effects of divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 09:39 PM |
| 3 | Is it just me?Men and women are not equal, you failed. https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/26/heirs-of-the-blank-slate/comment-page-2/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Is it just me?My 18 year old daughter is home from college and wants me to come over to decorate the tree. Who is more important? Your daughter or your girlfriend of one year? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with pettiness, so this is how its gonna be..We have court ordered parenting plan, because of that, there are gaps that my SBTX exploits as described in my OP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 02:36 PM |
| 1 | What strategies have you used with the courts against a narcissist wife..?Did you have to file contempt motions to get those attorneys fees, or did the judge just looked at the history and ordered it at the trial? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 04:48 AM |
| 3 | What is the Most Man Friendly State in the USA for Divorce?Why Costa Rica specifically? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 04:37 AM |
| 4 | In honor of this year’s Miriam-Webster word of the year.. let’s hear your RECENT gaslighting stories!My NPD SBTX told me that I have autism, she convinced me to the point that I sought out a highly respected neurologist to get evaluated, only to get a negative diagnosis. What she viewed as autism, was my nervous system shutting down and preserving itself in the face of her fits of rage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 04:36 AM |
| 2 | What strategies have you used with the courts against a narcissist wife..?Watch this video from Dr. Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A0Z1QLXbb_k I am currently in a ugly custody battle with an NPD SBTX and she has behaved and reacted exactly as Vaknin describes. I've probably watched this video at least 5X, its that good! Also read the book Splitting by Bill Eddy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/22 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Haven't seen daughter in 2 weeks, first Thanksgiving aloneThanks man, I am the one who initiated the divorce and I am in contact with friends and family. The video I held in my back pocket served me well at our first emergency hearing and a little cache of unhinged emails. You're 100% right about the SBTX being depraved and stooping to the lowest levels. The only thing that I'm afraid of is having to go pro se because I can't afford going to emergency hearings every week with a lawyer! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/22 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Haven't seen daughter in 2 weeks, first Thanksgiving aloneYes, I have implemented gym and yoga routine the past year and understand how important that is. Thanks for the reminder to focus on myself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/22 02:02 PM |
| 3 | Haven't seen daughter in 2 weeks, first Thanksgiving aloneNo, I am not in direct contact with SBTX because of her no contact order. I tried reaching out to the people she is staying with but I did not get a response. Lawyer did make a point that her coming by the house only hurts her, because it proves she is willing to meet with me under police presence to pick up clothes but not to exchange our child. I have and can substantiate more unstable behavior. She is not on meds, but should be. She does not have a diagnosis but should get one. I firmly belie… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/22 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Dating while separated living same house, bad idea?I would do it only after the divorce has been finalized. Why introduce complexity? Your attention should be on your case, yourself and your kids if you have any, that is more than enough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/22 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 01, 2022OYS #9 STATS: 39 // 6'1" // 197 lbs. // Divorcing (Married 5; Together 10; 1 child) Body Fat: 24% Muscle Mass: 141 lbs. / 71.4% LIFT HIGHLIGHTS (StrongLifts 5x5): Chest: BP 165 // OverheadP 105 // InclineP 145 Back: DL 195 // Bent Row 135 // Lat Pulldown 150 Arms: Bicep Curl 55 // Triceps Ext 95 // Lateral Raise 20 Legs: Squat 190 // Front Squat 115 // Leg Ext 105 I.Physical Finally recovered from my back injury from deadlifting. I have since swapped the barbell for a trap bar deadlift. Also got… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/11/22 02:35 PM |
| 11 | Wife demands I goto therapy for alleged child abuseThe rule one that is constant is to never move out, wouldn't I just be surrendering the house if I do? She's been warned by a police officer already about the seriousness of a false DV and shes paranoid about me recording, I'd rather gamble staying then risk losing my biggest asset. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/22 03:04 AM |
| 1 | What is your custody schedule?How have you found 50/50 working with the 3 yr. old? I've always thought the courts don't like splitting 50/50 with kids who are too young. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Feeling pretty low 😥Damn sorry dude. Do I understand correctly that she lawyered up but you did not? Are you also paying alimony? As for your daughter, you will always be her dad and in that capacity its your job to teach her what is truly valuable. She doesn't need two men spoiling her with amusement. I would recommend you look into nature related groups and meetups, and checkout your local library as they sometimes have free passes to museums for patrons. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 12:23 AM |
| 4 | [US] filingHonor all threats. She's told you multiple times, what was so different about the last time she said that compelled you to actually do it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Update from Girl BossHonest is good. Yes I realized such a plan was stupid the next morning I woke up and aborted the mission. Also, do you really want to wait until you make more money before the divorced is finalized? Not at all, I would be switching jobs after. My wife on the other hand will be earning more than me by that point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/22 06:48 PM |
| -1 | Update from Girl BossI haven't signed off on anything, we are talking about an ideal situation. The desire to hold off is not just about having our daughter complete Montessori and getting her into the public school system, it also: Allows me to wait for a better housing market Gives me more guaranteed 1:1 time with my daughter Gives me more time at current job where I make less money, so that at 2 year mark I can exit to a higher seniority level (not there yet) Wife will be earning more than me by then Besides, my … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/22 12:29 PM |
| 17 | Wife is trying to get me out of the houseThe "first-to-file" advantage is overrated, so don't sweat it. It was a good idea to wait after all that, your wife looks like the callous one by doing it so quickly. Don't leave over night, but I would suggest going to the gym when things heat up. Convert that anxiety into gains. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/22 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Taming the Boss Girl, Decision in 2 DaysThanks for putting it so succinctly, I needed this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/22 02:44 PM |
| -1 | Taming the Boss Girl, Decision in 2 DaysI should of specifically said, couples counseling is antithetical to RP because it relegates the success or failure of your marriage to a third party and not the man. I don't know how I feel about that, but that is the rationale given out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/22 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Taming the Boss Girl, Decision in 2 DaysIt is baffling how easy it is for her to not have sex, no sex toys, porn, nothing. I think it has been conditioned out of her (coming from the Middle East), but still, you'd think she would act on it at some point. Her aphrodisiac is power. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/22 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Where's my Main Event?No, I'm not looking for sympathy or a way to get her to heel - I have more than enough inputs to chart my course ahead. Its more a cautionary tale of unattractive behaviors and oversights that buried me and may resonate with others. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/10/22 02:20 AM |
| 3 | Don't know where to startSaturday night after she told me she wanted to leave Let HER leave then - not you. Don't break down or reveal talk about your emotions to her. You've lost your frame and its going be quite a task to regain it, should you want to. 2 months of bitchy behavior is nothing in terms of enduring shit from a wife, but its also suspect how sudden of a turn she took. So snoop on her and get conclusive evidence she is cheating and start working on your divorce game plan ASAP! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/22 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Best Mom Ever!They're boys, there is no gender orientation, thats not even a concept that needs to occupy space in their head 🤡 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/22 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Best Mom Ever!There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have your boys get gayed up by their passive aggressive mom. In a sane society, she would be prosecuted for child abuse for pushing that on your boys, unfortunately we live in a globohomo society and your ex knows the institutions are behind her. I wouldn't complain to her, it will only reinforce her behavior, but I would instill a sense of agency in your boys. Sorry to hear they're being used by your sick ex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/22 05:29 PM |
| 10 | what happens next?This post would make more sense coming from a woman. You are obviously not the best version of yourself and I'm sure your current wife knows that. If you think some fling is the key to your happiness, prepare for divorce #2. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/22 01:40 AM |
| 1 | My dads ex came from Russia and has nothing to her name and is expecting 75/25Your dad need's a new lawyer and a copy of No More Mr. Nice Guy. You can support your dad by helping out in documenting and being a witness should the case goto trial or a GAL gets assigned. I don't know Australian law, but 6 years is still young. I expect he will have to pay some alimony to her, but at the same time will still need to support you and your brother for 3-5 more years. The big unknown is your little half-sister and what the custody arrangement for her will be. Is he positive that … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 04:49 PM |
| 1 | My dads ex came from Russia and has nothing to her name and is expecting 75/25OP is 15 years old, so his dad still needs funds to car for him and his brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Asking to meet ex’s new partner?Sorry, this is nightmarish and yeah the fact she's delegating a lesbian with this authority makes it worse. Whats your custody arrangement? Let your kids know, you are always there and available. I'm not quite sure you want to even bestow the that sort of recognition to the SO yet, without first speaking with your ex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/22 03:40 AM |
| 1 | You can't make this shit up.Here you go: W | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/22 03:33 AM |
| 3 | I asked a questionThis is the path I am on, not finalized, Dread being fully applied. The snag is discerning what is genuine change and is it good enough to withdraw the divorce. In my case, my wife is so prideful and arrogant she is still relying on shaming me and threatening sole custody instead of humbling herself and owning up to her faults in the marriage. The only thing keeping me from being 100% is my daughter and the minuscule possibility my wife will turn around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/22 06:09 PM |
| 7 | I asked a questionI agree with this. My wife would be the one who would tell me she wants a divorce, thinking I wouldn't call her bluff until the day I actually did. I didn't announce anything until it was filed. Now she wants me to call it off. You asking your wife this question repeatedly is still putting all the responsibility in her hands, at the minimum, its a beta behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/22 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Wife had me leave house, tips?Get back in there ASAP. Calling the cops to enter and escort you in is the way to go. Believe me, the cops will not make it any more traumatic then it already is. If you are calm and brief the police, even goto the station yourself. Their presence can de-escalate the situation. Your wife will either straighten up or if she acts wild, you get some solid evidence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/22 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Won't enter therapy unless I call off divorceYour take sounds right. She is not willing to enter therapy even for the purpose of co-parenting. It is either reconcile or scorched earth. Its not presumptive 50/50 in my state but I am confident I will get better than EOW. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/22 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Financial PTSDFirst tackle why you are so frightened to live life alone, that is poor reason to open yourself back up to marrriage. https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/12/the-myth-of-the-lonely-old-man/comment-page-6/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/22 06:25 PM |
| 0 | Genuine Desire vs. InvestmentThis is a good summation of my situation, but she is not at all "relieved I filed". She wants me to call off the divorce - that is the twist. I also have a child with her, so yeah I’m going to grasp at straws should they exist. Commenters who don’t have kids can STFU and jack off to the mirror. | /r/askMRP | 13/07/22 05:58 PM |
| -10 | Genuine Desire vs. InvestmentThe filing of a divorce is not the end-all, be-all. It is not final, until it is final. Of course I would prefer for things to workout, but the stay-plan is the same as the go-plan, divorce is just a phase regardless of which direction we ultimately end up in. | /r/askMRP | 12/07/22 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 05, 2022OYS #7 STATS: 38 // 6'1" 194 lbs. // Married 4.5; Together 8.5 // 1 child LIFT HIGHLIGHTS (StrongLifts 5x5): Chest: BP 165 // OverheadP 105 // InclineP 145 Back: DL 185 // Seated Row 135 // Lat Pulldown 150 Arms: Bicep Curl 55 // Triceps Ext 80 // Lateral Raise 20 Legs: Squat 185 // Front Squat 95 // Leg Ext 105 RP LIBRARY: Reading: NMMNG, Game, Married Man Sex Life Primer // Finished: Saving a Low Sex Marriage, WISNIFG, Rational Male series, Unplugged Alpha and Fuccfiles I. Physical Nothing new… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/07/22 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Advice with wife's ridiculous termsThis is all written in email. I know I will bury her if we litigate, but I want to do all I can to give her the options to sensibly settle out of court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 06:32 PM |
| 11 | Advice with wife's ridiculous termsMassachusetts. Already retained a lawyer and proposed 50/50. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 21, 2022OYS #5 STATS: 38 // 6'1" 194 lbs. // Married 4.5; Together 8.5 // 1 toddler LIFT HIGHLIGHTS (StrongLifts 5x5): Chest: BP 165 // OverheadP 1055 // InclineP 135 | Back: DL 175 // Seated Row 135 // Lat Pulldown 150 | Arms: Bicep Curl 40 // Triceps Ext 80 // Lateral Raise 15 Legs: Squat 185 // Front Squat 80 // Leg Ext 105 RP LIBRARY: Reading: NMMNG, Game, Married Man Sex Life Primer // Finished: Saving a Low Sex Marriage, WISNIFG, Rational Male series, Unplugged Alpha and Fuccfiles. I. Physical I h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/06/22 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 07, 2022After spending some time in askMRP, I'm back. OYS #4 STATS: 38 // 6' 200 lbs. // Married 4.5; Together 8.5 // 1 toddler LIFT HIGHLIGHTS (StrongLifts 5x5): Chest: BP 165 // OP 95 // IP 125 Back: DL 145 // Seated Row 110 // Lat Pulldown 135 Arms: Bicep Curl 70 (barbell) // Triceps Ext 80 // Lateral Raise 15 Legs: Squat 185 // Leg Ext 90 I. Physical I GTFO of Planet Fitness and joined a real gym, so I've been doing as much as I could with olympic barbells because I didn't have access to them for ye… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/06/22 02:39 AM |
| 2 | Threat honored, After filing for divorceI don't and its great. | /r/askMRP | 27/05/22 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Wife bluffing about divorce?You are way behind the ball if you've been served and you're asking if its a bluff. Know that she has already paid a retainer (at least $5K) to keep a lawyer on hand. I spent one fucking year just preparing to serve my wife. This isn't even time to be on Reddit reading RP content, except for the responses to this post. Instead I recommend reading Divorce Simply Stated as a starting point and retaining a lawyer ASAP. Nevermind she is a female, she has the added edge of being the plaintiff in the … | /r/askMRP | 10/05/22 03:54 PM |
| -1 | Threat honored, After filing for divorceI know you want to make a cute post, but you have cherry picked a post from 2 months ago, ignored the rest of my post history and misread what I wrote here. Translation: I don't lift. Because of the Smith Machine? I have since switched to a gym that has a proper bench and squat rack. Translation: I haven't read the sidebar That same OYS post you're quoting has a section with my readings, come on now.. Translation: I don't know how to STFU We are not in counseling and I've since refused to … | /r/askMRP | 09/05/22 05:41 PM |
| 4 | Threat honored, After filing for divorceWhat does this even mean? This is so vague that I doubt you’ve done anything except sit there while she proceeds with the divorce. It means I retained an attorney, served her and want to get the divorce while she does not. | /r/askMRP | 06/05/22 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Live near her family or mines?Being of mixed race, your future kids are going to grow up confused and conflicted regardless of which set of parents they are near to. I understand the healthy desire to want them to identify with your race, but either you or your wife will have to subsume to the other's culture. I know this because my SBTX is Middle Eastern. Forget what your or her family thinks, but also know how much of a help and support they may be to you guys. Does your woman like your mom and vice versa? If there is any … | /r/askMRP | 11/04/22 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Are all threats honored?Thanks, I did not cave and will not be signing for my daughter's passport. Divorce timeline just accelerated from fallout for refusing to do so. | /r/askMRP | 29/03/22 04:36 AM |
| 0 | Are all threats honored?You're right, there is no "RP" way to a good divorce and that's what I'm trying to do with this post. There is only calculated strategy. | /r/askMRP | 29/03/22 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Wife getting child passport, should I put on the brakesThanks, as for the passport notification (first link). It is only useful prior to attaining a passport. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/22 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Jesse Lee Peterson and family dynamicsHe just released a speech today where he outlines the basis of his beliefs starting at 6:50 in the video. Essentially he puts significance into Eve/woman listening to Satan (her god) and Adam/man listening to Eve/woman (his god) as opposed to the Father. He see's this same dynamic perpetuating itself today and encourages men to forgive their mothers for harboring resentment against them (its their nature after all) and by doing so returning to the Father. God over man, man over woman, woman over… | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/22 04:53 AM |
| 3 | Jesse Lee Peterson and family dynamicsI’m the same, I don’t listen to him for theology or political analysis. So its a lot to wade through, but its the interpersonal stuff where he shines. | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/22 04:58 PM |
| 1 | The NPD vs. DreadThanks for the reply. Its a easy zinger, but the "hallucinogens" are at the threshold of having any perceptual affects ie. no one is tripping. Can you expand on what you mean by justice? I will have a follow-up addressing your points. | /r/askMRP | 01/03/22 03:06 AM |
| -1 | The NPD vs. DreadMRP, therefore NPD does not exist. Got it. | /r/askMRP | 01/03/22 03:00 AM |
| 1 | The NPD vs. DreadNo, this is straight up NPD. See my post in this thread about her dad. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/22 09:14 PM |
| 3 | The NPD vs. DreadEven IF there was a pathway to bring this back to some semblance of normality, would you even want to try for it now? My guess is a hard NO. You are correct. She said that if her dad was here to help out and was present, she would refrain from yelling at me! (Doesn't want to embarass herself). Doubt that, but even so, I responded it shouldn't require a third party to be present. She replied that her dad would give her what I am incapable of giving. Her dad is a bonafide nice guy, a widower, whos… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/22 08:15 PM |
| 1 | The NPD vs. DreadYes, I know that is the part and parcel. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/22 08:00 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 14, 2021OYS #3 STATS: 38 // 6' 190 lbs // Married 4; Together 8 // 1 toddler LIFT HIGHLIGHTS: Chest: BP 165 5x (smith) // Shoulders: ShoulderPress (machine) 60 5x // Arms: BicepCurl (dumbbells) 55 5x // Triceps: Triceps Pulldown (cable) 72.5 5x // Core: Squat 175 5x (smith) // Back: LatPulldown 140 x5 LIBRARY: Reading: NMMNG, Game, Saving a Low Sex Marriage and Married Man Sex Life Primer. // Finished: WISNIFG, Rational Male series (books 1-4), Unplugged Alpha and Fuccfiles. Summary: Since last OYS, I h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/12/21 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 17, 2021She's talked divorce before, but yes when combined with those two factors I am taking it seriously. All threats are honored. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/08/21 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 17, 2021OYS #2 STATS: 38 // 6' 190 lbs // Married 4; Together 8 // 1 toddler LIFT HIGHLIGHTS: Chest: BP 155 5x (smith) // Shoulders: ShoulderPress (machine) 60 5x // Arms: BicepCurl (dumbbells) 50 5x // Triceps: Triceps Pulldown (cable) 50 5x // Core: Squat 135 5x (smith) *Back: BentOverRow 70 5x // Upright Row 57.5 x5 // SeatedRow 120 3x // LatPulldown 140 x5 // RevFly 105 x5 // *I've only included the highlight event for each body area, which is the best metric for back? LIBRARY: Reading: MMNG, Game, … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/08/21 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 10, 2021Are you actually autistic? What would you consider being a dick to your wife? Not providing support or empathy? Your latest OYS reminds me a bit of myself and my relationship. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/21 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 27, 2021Thanks, these are the conclusions I've come to reading the material and hitting the same resistance despite making progress. I am aware that dread has evolved since Kay and BPP and that the 12-step program is not conducive to applying dread - perhaps that is where I should start re-thinking the possibilities. I'm looking forward to reading Rian Stone's updated take on dread for this reason. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/07/21 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 27, 2021I goto the gym, condition at home and goto a dojo 2X a week. I need to be better about logging my gains, part of the problem is I goto Planet Fitness and everything is done a freaken Smith Machine so the numbers are not "real" | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/07/21 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 27, 2021If only I had that in an undisclosed location... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/07/21 03:26 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 27, 2021OYS #1 Stats: 38 // 6' 190 lbs // Married 4; Together 8 // 1 toddler Lifts: BP 165 5x // SQ 135 5x Reading: MMNG, Game, Saving a Low Sex Marriage and Married Man Sex Life Primer. Read: WISNIFG, Rational Male #2 and #4 (Religion), Unplugged Alpha and Fuccfiles. Summary: I am currently running dread on my wife but there are some fundamental obstacles that I am not sure I can surmount. V. Empathy One thing that is clear to me is that I believe I am psychologically incapable of passing comfort tests… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/07/21 03:02 AM |
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