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| 1 | Wife angry about equitable financial splittingYeah think about if she would take the same from you or is she accounting child support to the nickel | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/26 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Anyone had success countering the 'silver bullet' strategy?Would you be willing to share the name of the attorney who filed this for her? Honestly it’s going to take some major reform to stop this disgusting tactic but a short term fix is to file complaints against the opposing counsel with the bar association ethics committee. One complaint, nothing happens. But apattern of similar complaints… now there’s some smoke. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 11:16 AM |
| 1 | I feel lost, I feel stupid... at the same time not sure how to even feel.Get the JAG to 1) draft the protective order keeping that guy away from your kids 2) draft the emergency petition to take full custody of your kids and 3) draft the TRO preventing her from moving the kids or consuming alcohol while she is supposed to be watching them and 4) anything else that she can think of to stop this | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 01:56 AM |
| 21 | Officially hit below rock bottomThe woman who you loved is gone. The person in front of you is your adversary now. Your adversary is playing nice to your face while more than likely seeing the coworker and others, and will continue to play normal and nice with you… That is until it comes time to talk splitting assets, alimony, child support etc. and all this friendliness is simply to get you to sign up easily for your own financial enslavement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 01:51 AM |
| 2 | I feel lost, I feel stupid... at the same time not sure how to even feel.Get the JAG immediately | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Need a Sounding boardDon’t give 70% because that’s full custody in most states and she’s going to be able to relocate the kids to a lower col area that serves her better | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/26 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Question to divorced menEmphasis that both parties need to be willing to work on it | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/26 11:49 PM |
| 1 | What can I do if my narcissistic spouse keeps getting in my face while recording me with her phone camera after I ask her to stop?Try an anti-stalking law, | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/26 08:34 PM |
| 1 | What can I do if my narcissistic spouse keeps getting in my face while recording me with her phone camera after I ask her to stop?Duh and or yeah | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/26 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Don't want to sell my houseWoof this sounds familiar | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/26 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Oh, Now she wants to deal...This 100%. Peace through strength, you get everything you need in place for trial. Work backwards, what does complete and total victory/justice look like? How did you get there? What did you have to show the Judge? What did she show that you had to overcome? How were you going to lose, and what steps did you take to avoid that outcome? Etc. And if she offers something you can live with, take it and be done- the family law system and justice are farther apart than Israel and Palestine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/26 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Finding Child Support UnfairNope you’re stealing from your ex to enrich yourself with an outdated concept of what the households look like now | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/26 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Finding Child Support UnfairHis income as part of the new household should be included | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/26 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Finding Child Support UnfairNah, don’t give up so easily- she’s choosing not working and has the opportunity to at least do summer school at her same job. She’s not required to work but she can’t voluntarily impoverish herself either simply to make you pay more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/26 04:03 PM |
| 5 | “I never asked you to do everything you did for me”There needs to be a reckoning for this behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/26 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Did your (ex)wife’s friends lead her towards divorce?Yup I did the boxes, pediatrician, pediatric dentist ls, pediatric optometrists etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/26 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Why Re-marry after Divorce?Corinthians 7:1-2:l: 'It is good for a man not to marry.' | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/26 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Family law attorneysThat’s because law school tests you on reading comprehension and logic: while developing skills on determining reasonableness and justice. None of which are present in family law | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/26 10:26 PM |
| 9 | Did your (ex)wife’s friends lead her towards divorce?I really appreciate your post here, it seems like a rare instance of honest self reflection (of all people ). I hope you feel welcomed here. Personally I dealt with a similar situation that divorced or single friends said I wasn’t doing enough for her - which was true, I resented being the sole income, chef, dishwasher, grocery shopper, parent, budget analyst, lawnmower, snow shoveler, vacuumer, bathroom cleaner etc. so it’s true I didn’t do a lot for her at the end, but in my defense I was exha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/26 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Family law attorneysYup. I was controlling and abusive by asking her to: get a job, pickup after herself, and spend time with her kids instead of her drug friends. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/26 06:50 PM |
| 3 | What is the occupation of your STBXW or Ex-Wife?Funemployed | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/26 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Crazy number?Could you DM me, I am interested in your situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/26 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Ex proudly claims life is so much easier / better nowIt’s an obvious manipulation, don’t fall for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/26 07:14 PM |
| 6 | Trying to understand why some divorces feel sudden to one spouseWow this sounds very familiar. Thanks for sharing just know it’s not just you | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Wife having affair while we have 2 young kids. Trying to stay calm and protect 50/50 custody/assets. Advice from people who've been through this?She files, but also means she seeks a “temporary” restraining order. It’s an ex parte hearing meaning neither you, your lawyer, the facts or even your side of the story are present. Instead, she can lie, get your kids, have you arrested and or barred from seeing them or stepping foot in your house without even an iota of proof. And then she gets to participate in the hearing that contests the “temporary” order, which she can delay for months and months after which all of that time is used agains… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 01:14 AM |
| 8 | Wife having affair while we have 2 young kids. Trying to stay calm and protect 50/50 custody/assets. Advice from people who've been through this?Do it now before she tries to silver bullet you- and use the affair partner as a witness. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/26 09:08 PM |
| 11 | Looking for adviceThis 100% the person you fell in love with and thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with is GONE. The person now there before you is your adversary who will lie, cheat, steal to hurt you and take advantage of you financially. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/26 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Unconscionable? - Ex and mediator put forth the idea that she is entitled to 102% of the marital estate.I’m so confused she wants your equity for nothing and to keep the HELOC proceeds? I believe the expression is GTFOH | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/26 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Divorce agreement helpYou need to refer to a different part of the contract if there’s no CS, which is where these expenses are typically accounted for- try looking at shared child expenses | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/26 02:12 AM |
| 0 | Unconscionable? - Ex and mediator put forth the idea that she is entitled to 102% of the marital estate.I’m guessing that you probably can’t afford to buy her out of the house. Suggest you take on repayment of the HELOC in exchange for her equity in the house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/26 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Unconscionable? - Ex and mediator put forth the idea that she is entitled to 102% of the marital estate.She can ask for whatever, she gets to steal 52,500. where is the 58k figure coming from. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/26 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Unconscionable? - Ex and mediator put forth the idea that she is entitled to 102% of the marital estate.Yeah I am confused about how you get to a figure exceeding 100%? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 11:24 PM |
| 4 | Others that are divorced/separate with kidsThere is light at the end of the tunnel. I struggled with this empty house particularly, and often simply went to the bar. Eventually started some hobbies and clubs which were great distractions. But truly eventually the therapy and exercise have helped the blues. Now I look forward to my night off because I can socialize or not or do whatever I want. Stay with it, you’ll get there | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Wife’s Having An Affair.This 100%. Get your ducks in a row, file for what you want, then sit her down and don’t cave. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/26 07:56 PM |
| 1 | How the hell do people afford this?Same, she got away paying nothing after blindsiding me and silver bullet attempt | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/26 12:06 AM |
| 4 | Could my wife and I work through these red flags?These things will only get worse if you add kids stress to the relationship | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/26 05:11 PM |
| 3 | Trying to get outJust do it, don’t wait. You don’t have assets, kids etc suggest a mediator to help with the process and draft an agreement | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/26 06:22 PM |
| 14 | Wife wants more money so she can buy a house "she deserves"Tell her to get a job | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/26 06:19 PM |
| 10 | I’m a lesbian and this sub is a breath of fresh airPlease feel free to join here, I hope you always feel welcome to share. I sincerely hope you make it through this difficult time with the best possible results. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/26 01:01 PM |
| 1 | How’d you get through the first week?Therapist. Psychiatrist - the pharms help implement gray rock. Exercise all the stress off. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Ex is pissedLet her try, seek sanctions for filing frivolous claims | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Had my initiation today in courtDude, you have all the facts in your favor, and the law probably should work in your favor. The Judge is probably overwhelmed by your narrative (200+ pages) they don’t have time for all that. the lawyer is going to distill it down into important/unimportant and get it into a format that the judge, also likely a former lawyer, will understand and be persuaded (if possible). At the very least getting that debt split 50/50 via the lawyer will be worth it | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 10:03 PM |
| 5 | Had my initiation today in courtBetter to get the lawyer now, she’s going to use this nonsense to bleed you for more money. Short term debt now to get your kids back is worth it- appeal that craziness | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 08:57 PM |
| 10 | This is probably not the place for this conversation but i am interested in seeing if any other men have came too this conclusionThe first problem is that women are permitted to defer all their needs, happiness, desires etc. as YOUR responsibility, and any failure is consequently your fault. The second is that the law financially rewards them for breaking the family up - and provides zero incentive to take any responsibility. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Calculations…How? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/26 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Calculations…Yeah just imagine if you took the logic to its natural conclusion that the kids could audit their parents usage of CS money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/26 07:11 PM |
| 19 | What are positive aspects of being divorced?The utility bill drops 80% across the board | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/26 10:36 PM |
| 11 | Something I Will Not Miss. How About You?Not having to cover the weed smell or bong from the kids. Not being late for everything Not having to clean up after the other so called “adult” in the house | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/26 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Trying to understand what this meansHe’s right though | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/26 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Anyone gone through this with a pension?Ugh wish I did that- it’s crazy how they get rewarded for your work while doing nothing but undermining/cheating/drugging | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 08:24 PM |
| 7 | What would it take for you to rekindle your love with your ex-wife?An ice pick Lobotomy | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Difference in Women vs Men After DivorceThere’s a travesty of a legal opinion in Maryland for In Re Marriage of Houser | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 09:53 PM |
| 7 | What to do when the stbxw hits the wall?She was building her life raft to ditch you and then it sunk. She’s in any port in the storm now and knows how to manipulate you, don’t fall for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 09:49 PM |
| 1 | When to settleDoesn’t cover college savings because the ex needs her nails done | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/26 12:01 AM |
| 4 | Difference in Women vs Men After Divorce100% more than half the stuff about mental load is the inability to apply the lessons of a work style calendar and a to-do list to one’s personal life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 11:57 PM |
| -1 | Anyone else wonder how a sweet loving giving woman...Weed, wokeness, and hormonal birth control | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 11:31 PM |
| 3 | Are female couple counselors biased towards wives?They are in a sense, because if they don’t take her side the counseling stops. What are you going to do about it? Any attempt to get her to go back to counseling is “controlling” and would show up in the fake abuse complaint | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Difference in Women vs Men After DivorceLol are you really Houser from Maryland? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 08:51 PM |
| 7 | Difference in Women vs Men After DivorceHow about I did the food shopping, cooking, dishes, cleaning, bathrooms, mine and kids laundry, brushed their teeth, bathed them, got their lunches done, got them dressed every single morning, took them to all (94%) post school and weekend activities paid every bill and she sat around as the SAHM so I got to pay for her “contribution” which as far as I could tell was dusting, smoking weed, texting her drug friends, and abusing or neglecting the children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Difference in Women vs Men After DivorceHence the incentive to take as much money they didn’t earn as possible | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Torn between saving my marriage and walking away — I feel completely lostShe’s just going to go back to the drawing board regroup with the sociopaths on breakingmom and take another lover, use the silver bullet, or anything up to and including hiring someone to kill you. Divorce it now | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/26 12:18 AM |
| 10 | Well this a new one, wife tried to hire someone to kill me.Wow, we might finally have a situation where the family court won’t give her all of your money! They’ll probably just have you put the alimony on her commissary 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/26 02:16 AM |
| 5 | Seventeen year relationship ending, just figure I’d introduce myselfYou own that house do not move. Trade her letting go of half the grad degree and keep the house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 01:52 AM |
| 1 | I just want to off myself. I can’t anymoreName and shame | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/26 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Men should unite - they can’t keep killing us!Alimony should be unavailable to plaintiffs using no fault. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/26 01:55 AM |
| 6 | Results of a Divorce from the 60sThey are fucking animals over there. It’s cognitive dissonance on a level that is not available to any other form of species in the universe | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/26 03:15 AM |
| 6 | Don’t HesitateYup. If you're here, that means she's probably built, or is building her lifeboat. They'll have a plan and it will 100% involve a direct targeted manipulation (because they know you so well) to provoke a reaction that she can hold over your head to law enforcement and/or the Court later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/26 03:56 PM |
| 16 | Let’s get to the point - did she leave us because of money, sex or boredomThose videos omg, I’m so independent and taking care of myself….with both hands in my ex’s pockets | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 03:58 PM |
| 26 | Let’s get to the point - did she leave us because of money, sex or boredomBecause to her you are responsible for her fullfillment, happiness, sex life, and general lust for life; while she bears no responsibility for any of those categories in her life or yours. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 02:41 PM |
| 8 | 19F trying to understand my dad better after divorce — any advice?It's very nice that you're interested. These are stereotypes, but one if not several probably happened to your father: Your father has his own side of the story - and probably hasn't told you his to avoid disparaging your mother. Your mother probably, didn't do the same for him and you know her reasons for divorce through and through. Your father probably paid a huge amount of money in settlement that she didn't help work for, or support. or contribute to in anyway and that he was essentially st… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 10:31 AM |
| 26 | Man you guys are always right.Don't kid yourself, she LOVED seeing you down and out - it affirmed everything she thought, i.e. that it was completely and entirely your fault. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 10:09 AM |
| 7 | Trying to cope the injustice of divorce.... and advice?Disclaimer: Not a lawyer, and definitely not your lawyer. My advice, I'm sorry. The system is absolutely designed to fuck you and reward the spendthrift drug riddled abusive cheaters. You need a therapist, a rigorous exercise plan, and a good lawyer. That being said from what I've read you have a couple of things in your favor: House was bought before the marriage, that's not hers - that's separate property. She probably will try to STEAL half of the increase in value - but go back through and s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/26 03:03 PM |
| 2 | A Slight AnnoyanceThat legal advice is garbage, fuck her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/26 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Should I push for custody?Lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/26 02:32 PM |
| 3 | I’m At The Very Beginning.Every decision she's made up to this point has been to hurt you: couples therapy? She wanted more ammunition and potentially a witness for her side. Therapy for you? So she can show to the Court that you're mentally unfit. Sounds like she stayed around three years to work things out? To justify spousal support, cheaper day care with your child support money, and to take advantage of a robust stock market and family law that allows her to expropriate your assets and retirement funds. Cried or sho… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Considering Filing for Child SupportDisclaimer: Not a lawyer and definitely not your lawyer. I understand your trepidation in "kicking the hornets nest" and it's certainly a valid and real concern. The problem as I see it, is that she continues to file things against you seeing if something will stick. My advice, get a lawyer, file for converting that temporary order to a final order, and seek child support at the same time. At the very least the court HAS TO award something to you as the full custodial parent.- You now have lever… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/26 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Child support and divorceI know that feeling, but you have a son - you don't get to be selfish anymore. Do you really want her and/or some other men she picks up along the way raising him without you? I sincerely wish you the best of luck, hope for the best but prepare for the worst. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/26 11:01 AM |
| 0 | Child support and divorceThen be prepared for the Court and/or her to blindside you with a big monthly bill - and you get to subsidize her drug / makeup / dick habit for the next 16 years or more! | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/26 07:22 PM |
| 12 | She wants more Child support because my new wife workDisclaimer: Not a lawyer. My opinion, the law is very clear on this issue, your new marriage / spouse's wealth doesn't impact the child support calculations. There's been plenty of men whose exes remarried a multi millionaire and the ex-wife was still permitted to impoversh them - shoe's on the other foot here, tell her to GTFOH. And get a lawyer and annuitant to bring a present value of that trust into her income calculations. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/26 12:44 PM |
| 12 | Wife's deal for 50/50 custody...She's trying to give you the majority of the childcare responsibility while being paid like you aren't involved at all. The overnights give her basically full custody and maximizes your child support payments to her, in addition to 30% in spousal support (my guy, get a lawyer). Tell her to go back to 50/50 or you'll get your own lawyer (which you should do anyway) who will tell them to GTFO. In part because she'll have to explain why you don't deserve 50/50 when she was prepared to give you all … | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/26 11:04 PM |
| 1 | This is pettyYup, nothing quite like the strong independent girl-boss with both hands in her ex'es pocket (CS and Alimony) | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/26 12:51 PM |
| 3 | I'm coming to the realization I've been financially abused way too lateYup, and she still gets to steal from you after its done too - she was preparing and everything she stole is hers, she gets to keep, and shet gets to steal from you until you're dead / and if you have a pension, after you're dead too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/26 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Joy of a divorced manThey really are - expropriate half your stuff (certainly not earned, but as your lawyer said good luck proving it even with thousands of photos showing their "parenting" from the couch on the phone while you slaved) keep your wallet on forever vows, while having no obligation whatsoever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/26 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Help me advise anything really.Sorry you are going through all that, represeting yourself is not advisable. Have you tried Broward Legal Aid https://www.browardlegalaid.org/get-help/ and if they don't have an attorney see if they can refer you to a pro-bono or reduced cost option referral. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/26 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Filed taxes separately and claimed the kids, STBX is fuminghttps://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f3949a.pdf if you decide you want to pursue the matter | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/26 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Crazy wifeYup, she'll lie about being abused (physically / emotionally / verbally) and there's no consequence whatsoever, be prepared for that bullshit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/26 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Filed taxes separately and claimed the kids, STBX is fumingReport it to the IRS if there's any of them left working | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/26 02:19 PM |
| 4 | Does the Ex feel like a parasite?It's 1000% parasitic. There's no parity of obligation. She wants to end all of her vows, you get to keep paying her, it's absurd. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/26 02:54 PM |
| 1 | So are all divorced men narcissists?Expect her to do 50% of child care and chores = Controlling Expect her to adhere to a family budget = financial abuse Ask her to correct either of the above = emotional abuse Ask her to meet the basic tenets of adulthood = toxic masculinity | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/26 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Vasectomy After DivorceDefinitely, especially if you plan on fucking the pain away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/26 04:53 PM |
| 1 | wife wants divorceIt's ok to feel that way. The last sentence shows you know what we needs to be done. And there's no shame in mourning your marriage. It's natural to have the what ifs, or putting the kids first (every statistic shows they're better with two parents), and how awful 50/50 would be but you need to do that separately and get your things in order. She has already told you she is awful, she has shown you she is awful, she has shown you she is selfish inconsiderate irresponsible and prepared to be a li… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/26 03:29 PM |
| 2 | So are all divorced men narcissists?Yup mine said the kids 529 accounts were a waste too, her weed habit was not | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/26 02:08 PM |
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