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Condor-man3000/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 01:14 AM
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I would lie to say I took my own advice, but hindsight is the best teacher. You only have so much energy and you need to focus on you and long term growth. Your best move is play nice until after the divorce has been finalized.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 06:44 AM
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IT DOESEN'T MATTER. You are hurt and are trying to find something in your soon to be ex that doesn't make this divorce half your fault. Anger is such an easier emotion than grief and guilt. It will not serve you. You need to move on and disconnect from her and her life. If anything, take this as a sign that you need to start getting out there and date.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 04:18 PM
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Believe me when I say your best years are waiting for as soon as you decide to move on. Start that new chapter now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 06:35 AM
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You say you are not on any apps like it's a badge of honer. Get on them. They work and now make up 50% of how married people meet each other. You come across as someone who is looking for different result by doing the exact same thing you have always done.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 06:12 AM
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Just think of it like the time you spend connecting with a dead end, the less time you have to cultivate a relationship with someone who can be your person. It's not easy to step away from familiar, and it's really hard to start over, but the sooner you make that decision the better off you will be in the long run. You are holding on to a relationship where they are using you until they find someone better. They will drop you once they find that person.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 08:11 PM
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Do yourself a favor and for like 15-20 minutes feel those feelings. Don't try to dismiss them. Part of the reason some of these feeling linger is because they don't get felt to their fullest and end up persisting. I have heard where if you write it down and release it, it will help.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 03:51 PM
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Are you serious? My next one was a perfect fit. We have so much fun together. I think he is going to wish he did it sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 10:49 AM
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Use her happiness as a motivator to figure out what makes you happy and start doing that. Do all the things you wanted to do, but were held back by her. You can never go back to what you had and if you go back to her it won't be the same. You need to focus on you independent of if she is happy or not.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 09:34 PM
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You two have been dating for 6 months. People's vision of what needs to happen in the future changes over time. Her view might about what the family unit looks like might change over time as you get more and more involved with her family.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 12:30 PM
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Use it as leverage to get her to do things, but chances are it will cost you money, time and may piss her off more if you take further action...and absolutely nothing good will come of it. There is what should be and what is. Play the end game, not the petty short term back and forth.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 04:06 AM
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Why is it so important for you to get her to admit it was partially her fault? Chances are what is driving you to seek this is coming from an insecurity you have. Don't waste your time and energy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 09:49 PM
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There are a number of stages to a separation/divorce. You know you are in a good place when you realize that you played a major role in the breakup of your marriage. It's easy to play the victim and blame your partner and right off, most of us do. In the end, if you don't see the part of your ex that made you love her, you have not reflected enough and truly healed and moved on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 03:42 PM
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Inflation? What?
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 12:57 AM
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He probably got the house and all its equity. Surprised this part wasn't mentioned.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 12:18 AM
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While I agree with everyone not to tell her, you need a way to remove that feeling of wanting revenge. I have heard telling it into a mirror, writing it down in a letter and not mailing it etc. , that feeling of wanting revenge is just hurt you feel, you need a way to resolve it, so it isn't something you carry with you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 07:02 PM
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Honestly, move to a different city. There is only upside. You are in a rut, and you need a change of scenery. Reinvent yourself. When you move, you will do that anyway. Try it. The worst that could happen is you move back.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 06:34 AM
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Is Jesus Christ playing hard to get?
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 04:02 AM
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The greater form of communication is saying something to illicit the reaction you want in the audience. I don't think this strategy is going to serve you. The basis of your initial request does not reflect someone who is emotionally stable. Feels like you might not be in a good place right now.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:19 PM
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I don't think it's that crazy, but the problem is the technique of liking every girl. The girls just get inundated with likes. There are more boys, but also every boy likes every girl, so they get 1,000 likes the first day.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:06 PM
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I would say talk to her long enough to see if she is a pessimist or optimist and have it match yours. Also having future kids. These were really my initial dealbreaker's before we even went out on one date.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 02:28 AM
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Honestly, take some time, regroup and focus on living your best life. The more time you spend thinking about her and that dude the more you are going to rot from the inside out.. Therapy was money well spent. If you get to a point where you want to give up and have not tried it yet, do. You don't get any bonus points for cutting it out and it taking care of yourself. It will catch up to you and burn you down.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 05:21 AM
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If that is the option you are left with, I feel you. You sound like a good dad. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 03:03 PM
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I loved your view that one bad date experience is no comparison to what we have endured going through most of our divorces. Also, trying to make the point that online dating is just one way to meet. There are many, and it's beneficial to utilize as many avenues as you can to meet someone. Based on your comment I thought I needed to provide clarity.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 11:22 AM
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Shit, you lose 20-30 pounds and your confidence is also going to be in a place that adds to your attraction. I do like how at 40ish...we all start from the same place (20-30 pounds over ideal).
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 11:11 AM
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Sometimes the best lesson you can teach your kids is that you should not stay in a loveless marriage, and it's ok to admit you were wrong. Right now your child is learning about love and relationships from watching you. You probably aren't as good an actor as you think you are.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 05:18 AM
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Jump online before you think you are ready to date. I had really low self esteem from getting rejected by the person who knew me the best. Realizing that people were interested was a nice boost. Realize that no one on there has had their life workout the way they planned. We are all trying to find our version of happiness and intimacy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 05:10 AM
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If they don't learn from their mistakes....yes I would agree with you. It's so sad that men don't take a second to reflect on how they contributed to the failed marriage and find ways to help them grow. With that said, I married an opposite because I was attracted to her qualities that I didn't have. I am now dating someone very similar and it is amazing. Our personalities, likes, thought processes are very similar. Goes a long ways. Empathy does too. I still don't understand how we all know we …
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 05:00 AM
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At least she revealed herself on the first date. I say that was a good date. He now has a story that I am sure has been said a ton!
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 04:50 AM
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I love this view...so correct. Utilize every avenue at your disposal. Don't limit yourself or rule out anything.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 04:48 AM
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Probably set her back on dating also.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 04:45 AM
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I found my most luck on Hinge, but found my girlfriend who will be moving in soon on Stir. My advice: Spend some time on some good pics, I can't emphasis this enough. Soooo many people upload shitty pictures and have a bio that doesn't stand out and spend hours upon hours swiping and get discouraged. Your success is in two places: 1. Pictures that are current and appealing 2. An opening that catches someone's eye. My bio said I made my millions by inventing parallel parking and I regret it every…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 04:42 AM
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With long marriages both parties usually played a role in it's demise. Make sure you also take some time to reflect and not make the same mistakes. Isn't it amazing to date someone like you rather then be tied to an opposite you were attracted to in your 20-30's. Someone that finds you attractive and interested in the same things you are. I agree, it's so very amazing to date again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 04:25 AM
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Honestly, this sounds petty. You should know where your kids go to school without your ex telling you. If she changes schools that's fine. Your kids can tell you where they go. Proving she lied is a waste of money that will get you no where.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 03:22 PM
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And that trend of dishonestly that you show isn't worth much and will make you go broke in legal fees.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 03:16 PM
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The other remedy is to let it go. I like that you shared what the likely outcome would be. I would estimate it taking a lawyer around $1000 at least to file and little chance she will go to jail. There is a big difference between what you know is going on and what you can prove in front of a judge is going on. Chances are she will have a counter story/argument....which will make the ruling probably not very satisfying and may just cause more frustration.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 11:21 PM
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This right here! Based on what he has already said having someone takeover emotional payment maybe the best thing for him. Also, love the advice on this thread. Agree, with the others. Move forward and focus on you. Worrying about what she is doing is only going to cost you money and time.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 11:16 PM
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She didn't waste half your life, you did. Take ownership for your life. Stop being the victim in your own story. Who cares if she's dating someone? Quite wasting your time on her shit. Don't waste your time being her adversary. The mature thing and best thing is to not waste your time or energy. Let it go. If you can't, that's something you need to work on. Stop playing the victim and stop caring more about what she is doing then getting your life turned around.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 02:39 AM
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You are way too young to be in a bad marriage. It is absolutely better. There will be times when you will miss the familiar and get lonely, but it get's way better.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 04:49 AM
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If you were having problems before, with kids they will amplify. You may distract yourself for a while raising the kid, but the kid won't bring you closer. It's not the divorce that impacts kids negatively, it's the conflict. Do it now, but I would plan on not moving out right away and supporting your wife through the first year. Joint custody of a baby doesn't seem realistic in the first year...not sure how that typically works.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 03:07 PM
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If it is an initial rejection usually it is based on superficial reason. I would say because you have established a friendship already there might be more to it. Being hot to someone you have a long term relationship with may include more than just looks.
/r/seduction10/05/22 03:22 PM
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Yes, good pictures are key, but I think you would be surprised.
/r/seduction01/04/22 07:09 AM
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Have you thought about dating apps?
/r/seduction01/04/22 01:48 AM
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It's easy to hide behind "being a nice guy" as a way to not initiate and possibly get your feeling hurt from rejection. Being a manly man, I think they wanted you to take more of a lead role in everything. At 18 and 19 their confidence isn't there at all. They really needed you to step up. It's easy to say, but hard to do. You put yourself in a vulnerable position, but that is what it takes, and as a man...you are expected to initiate. It really seemed like your fear of rejection may have been w…
/r/seduction31/03/22 11:55 PM
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Donate your time to a charity. Do fun runs. Join a club (running,chess etc.) Have your goal be to meet other people....there is a good chance 50% of them will be women.
/r/seduction26/03/22 06:35 AM
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For the acne check your diet also. Try Whole30 for a month and see if it has any effect. On chasing girls: you are 22 and running a marathon in both your career and dating life. Have fun. Enjoy the journey.
/r/seduction26/03/22 04:29 AM
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Um...honestly, I think dumb guys have better luck. They don't overthink. Driven by emotion. Impulsive. These guys come off genuine, and confident, if only because they don't harbor the same self awareness as others. There is a sweet spot, but if history repeats itself, nerds just don't get laid at the same rate as the dumb jocks.
/r/seduction26/03/22 04:24 AM
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The only time IQ gets in the way of picking up girls is when it's too high. In fact I would argue interesting experiences and life trump an intellectual conversation. No one wants to hear about what you read...they want to hear about what you experienced!
/r/seduction26/03/22 03:35 AM
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Confidence is always a winner. It's amazing how many girls an average guy can get if he just exudes confidence. You have to keep it up and fake it till you make it.
/r/seduction26/03/22 01:54 AM
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Go for it....next you may want to just practicing making out with her to work on your kissing! 😂 Kidding, getting comfortable with approaching and having opening dialogue is key and I think you have the right idea!
/r/seduction26/03/22 01:47 AM
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She has a boyfriend and this was her way of not cheating on him or at least clearing her conscience. That or she has a dumb first date rule about kissing which she missed the point of.
/r/seduction23/03/22 09:33 PM
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Are you going to be ok if he treats you like a FWB, or will this continue to crush you? Also...what made him the best dick? Size, attraction, rhythm, attention to your needs? Give me some insight. It would make my decade to hear that from a girl.
/r/seduction16/03/22 11:08 PM
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I agree with those three recommendations also.
/r/seduction02/03/22 08:48 PM
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History checks out...you were a 20 year old boy 9 days ago. 😂😂
/r/seduction02/02/22 01:54 AM
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This really feels like something a 46 year old guy wearing his wife's pantyhose would ask....
/r/seduction02/02/22 01:24 AM
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The key is to be unique and mention something that you think they want to talk about. Find something you have in common: "live concerts" and start off by telling her something about you that indicates you have a fun life. "I just went to "blank" concert last week and saw that you love live music, what was your last concert, and who would you love to see? If they bite on that I will look at local shows, small venues...tell them I am going and see if they would like to come with. Any local artist …
/r/seduction31/01/22 05:23 PM
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I really think asking them early is key.
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:13 AM
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Honestly, I will ask if they want to go out on Tuesday for dinner and in most cases they accept. Don't be a dumbass and ask the fifty questions via text. Be funny, be cute...then ask them out for coffee or drinks or dinner. Do it quick. Most of the time you text way too long or are not personable in your texts. Also, you can't limp in when you text. Think about what you are going to say. You will get way better results with a quality response to 5 girls than a generic no thought response to 20. …
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:08 AM
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Yeah...I hate to break it to you. You weren't talking to a girl. 😂
/r/seduction26/01/22 09:53 PM
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Honestly....I have never had a woman ask for either. If she is asking, you need to legitimately question you aren't talking to a dude in China. I have never talked to a girl who wants a pic of your dick. Never. If they actually ask which again is highly unlikely they would seriously ask. I think a funny response or vague response is in order. "3 inches, but most girls seem to like it that thick". A dick pick should never be sent unless requested which in most cases again will be 0 times.
/r/seduction26/01/22 09:49 PM
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People want to help others. We all do, it's part of our DNA (some exceptions are a given). If you give her a reason to help you, it will go over so much better than thinking you need to be the one to help her. Start your conversation off with a question. How she answers your question will give you everything you need to know. "What is a good starter coffee for someone who doesn't like coffee?" "Do any of these flavors not taste...so like coffee?" Again! Props on walking up to her!
/r/seduction17/11/21 03:54 AM
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How she answers a question like, "What coffee should I choose?" will give you a huge indication if she is open to you. You can minimize the rejections and awkward retreat if she isn't receptive to a simple question like that. Also girls have a good way of casually dropping the fact that they have a boyfriend which also helps you decide if you want to take the next steps. Again, props for approaching!
/r/seduction17/11/21 03:35 AM
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I love countries where this is the norm.
/r/seduction17/11/21 02:48 AM
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I have done both...and I agree with this for people in the U.S. And because there are different types of hugs....the very lightest you can give. Don't mimic Antie Esters bear hug that leaves you breathless for 3 seconds.
/r/seduction17/11/21 02:46 AM
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Unless they are married, then they make it their mission to get you dates 😂
/r/seduction15/11/21 08:23 PM
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The women are not victims, but willing participants. He isn't targeting anyone. Sex is something that is shared not something that is given to a man and taken from a woman. Asking for a safe place to have sex in his situation is a good question, because the answer isn't apparent. Most of our parents had sex in a car when they were teens and also in other random places. This is also Reddit, so humor does end up being a common response to ANY question. My answer to his question: I have had some of…
/r/seduction14/11/21 07:00 PM
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I would always go up to the bouncer and ask, Who do you need to know around here to cut the line?" I would palm some cash and show him and say, "well what if I knew you?" It's amazing how much a few $ can save you. This only works if no one is doing it. Vegas this doesn't work well in....Seattle it does.
/r/seduction12/11/21 04:51 PM
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Very good start to a healthy interaction. Step 1:Approach from the front. I guess there were a few foundational things I took for granted that people knew.
/r/seduction12/11/21 04:09 PM
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Set a goal that you are going to get rejected by at least two women a night. Setting a goal like that takes the pressure away from thinking you need to only attempt if you think you have a sure thing. Also set your sights on just having an initial conversation. No agenda, just a vocal interaction. It could be as simple as a "Hi, you're cute." and work on getting comfortable having a quick exchange. Baby steps, work your way into the other things, but for now set your goal on getting use to being…
/r/seduction12/11/21 03:57 PM
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I always try to work a question in based on what their profile says or their picture. It Is far harder, but you will get better results. Just remember they get 50 guys asking them the same stupid questions. If you ask a good one they will want to answer. It will be something they are excited to share. Again, I stress: this is not easy and takes some actual thought, but you will get better results. It is the quality over quantity approach.
/r/seduction02/11/21 07:58 PM
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Knowing this man you need to pass that on! I realized sadly not too long ago how good it felt and how little compliments I actually give people. Pass that shit on!!!
/r/seduction31/10/21 06:40 PM
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Yeah, his story doesn't hold much weight. I think he is probably a porn addicted narcissist. Law degree who likes people to know he also plays chess. Saw someone mention his history indicated that he had solicited 100 people for Sex on Reddit. Seems like he thinks of himself a lot higher than others do. Most average girls if you ask them out will at least go on a date with you.
/r/seduction31/10/21 12:13 AM
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I was thinking he was on the spectrum until he indicated he wasn't. Then he mentioned d that he had his law degree...ok that makes sense. He seems like a narcissist that lacks reflection and is not learning from his mistakes because he doesn't think he has made any. I also think he is confusing being respectful with what women see as a beta who doesn't initiate anything. No way he has his law degree and not getting online hits. Only thing I can think of is he is shooting for the stars on his swi…
/r/seduction31/10/21 12:00 AM
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It's hard to admit to yourself that you are the problem. I do it....I don't want to change, but I want a different outcome. It doesn't work that way. It's very hard to admit you might not be doing something right...even harder if you have your law degree 😂
/r/seduction30/10/21 11:44 PM
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Next time you go out set a goal to get turned down by at least two women. Be outrageous, be funny. Tell them the worst pickup line you have ever heard. Your goal should be to get up the nerve to approach, which if you set your goal as being turned down you are going to be way more comfortable...and after many times of trying different things you are going to find out what gets a laugh, what gets a smile and maybe what gets a slap....The way you get good at scoring in basketball...you take a lot …
/r/seduction30/10/21 11:15 PM
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Small group settings: single focused. Not a bar or club...that's not you. You will need a little more structure. A charity, or a hobby group. Don't just support it, be part of the organization. Do you know the guy to girl ratio on the planning committee of a Ronald McDonald Foundation fundraising event? Habitat for humanity! A political campaign for someone you believe in. If you don't have any passions...go and it will grow on you.
/r/seduction30/10/21 10:46 PM
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It's never your lack of looks...and always your lack of effort. You probably spent 2 minutes developing a profile and pulling pictures off your phone and hours and hours going through girls profiles. Spend one fucking day and go out with a friend and take some good photos of yourself. Take a bunch and choose the best 3-4. I find it amazing how little time and effort people put into their profiles and expect that shit to just manifest. Also stop watching so much porn (yes you are). That fucks up …
/r/seduction30/10/21 10:28 PM
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Looking at the comments you have provided I will suggest this: You will need to fundamentally change something about yourself if you want to change the outcome you have been receiving. You cannot keep living your life in this same manner that you have been and expect a different result. It's not about just being better at something...you need to change and it all starts in your head. We are all the results of our habits. Start by developing a routine in the morning of reminding yourself of the n…
/r/seduction30/10/21 09:11 PM
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I realized how little time and effort I put into presenting myself well to others. I didn't and you may not realize this, but people think a lot about their hair, clothes, assessors. Turns out the people who spend more time thinking about this stuff tend to look better. My advice for you: Pay attention and put some thought and money into how you present yourself to others. Look in the mirror fully clothed and make sure you look in good order. Getting a modern haircut can really help also. Honest…
/r/seduction30/10/21 08:38 PM
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