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Field ReportConscious-Trifle-137/r/seduction04/07/22 07:40 PM
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5

Agree to disagree then. I have no idea where you’re getting your statistic data from, since this is a social/psychological issue thesis which is almost impossible to prove, even with an actual professional research team etc. In other words: your statistics are bullshit. Idk if a coach told you that or you quote some sort of semi professional research, but social data is never n exact science where you can say stuff like statically 4% chance… it doesn’t work like that, its impossible to design a …
/r/seduction04/08/22 10:25 PM
1

20 hours a week… just how, having the time, energy etc.
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:33 PM
3

You can approach anyone in pretty much any situation. Don’t assume someone doesn’t want to talk to you or does, if I have learned anything it’s that you never know in what kind of social state someone else is… I’ve dated a girl that I approached while she was running with headphones in. I have also been ignored/harshly rejected by women who seemed very open. Moral of the story: approach if you want to, it’s about self expression. The reason PUA got a bad rep is because they made it into an art f…
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:26 PM
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8 is just stupid, you’re wasting your time. 9 is debatable. Personally I don’t like social media and I’m not going to make a whole page just for dates, so numbers are the way to go for me… The rest checks out though
/r/seduction12/07/22 06:14 PM
10

But now that you know, the honorable thing to do here is to stop seeing her. If you don’t care about all that, I think you’re text message was great. Very direct and honest, without sounding very needy. Let her make the next play or move on.
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:30 PM
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I think you shouldn’t try to get someone to cheat. She’s rightfully hesitant. There’s a code to seduction if you ask me: don’t fuck around with another man’s girl…
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:24 PM
1

Yeah if you’re looking for hook ups, night game is def your best chance.
/r/seduction11/07/22 08:58 PM
2

I would focus more on daygame. Less competition, more likely to get dates based on character rather than looks. Night game favors physically attractive guys more in the same way tinder does: they stand out because of the highly competitiveness and women are often looking for hook ups, so physical attraction is a bigger factor than in a daygame scenario.
/r/seduction11/07/22 07:12 PM
2

Talk about her. Ask questions, make observations, take a guess, just make it about her. As long as you do that (respectfully) and you don’t go too deep at first, there really isn’t a wrong thing you can say..
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:32 PM
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But the thing is, if you suffer from social anxiety you need to push yourself. Plus cold approach is actually received well by many… sure you’ll get some cold responses as well or even some severely negative responses, but those responses will teach you that in the end it doesn’t really matter how people respond. It only matters that you have the confidence to express yourself and how people react to that, isn’t that important and shouldn’t be a factor as to whether you approach a person or not.…
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:44 PM
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Cold approach is a great way to get more comfortable with expressing yourself so great advice for people who struggle socially. But yeah its hard, that’s no secret… but then again, if you’re socially awkward, approaching people at a party is also hard. Atleast by approaching strangers, you won’t damage your reputation with the social groups of your daily life in the process.
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:37 PM
2

You gotta get the “out of your league thing” out of your head… there is no league, there is only you and her and either she finds you attractive or not, but she’s not gonna give you a grade based on your appearance, compare that with the grade she would give to her self and then come to the conclusion she doesn’t like you because you’re not “on her level”.
/r/seduction05/07/22 09:24 PM
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Treat strangers like friends. You wouldn’t hesitate teasing a friend, making a funny observation. Just get in that mindset, that you don’t have to censor yourself for a stranger, you can treat them like you already know them.
/r/seduction05/07/22 08:44 AM
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Great it comes naturally for you, others might need to work on it with a more structured approach. Who cares man, just let people be and grow without judging them based on a single post…
/r/seduction05/07/22 08:35 AM
1

This is funny, I just found a channel called social animal and he said the exact same thing. Basically the more you stop censoring yourself and just say what comes to your mind at any moment, the easier approaching will get.
/r/seduction05/07/22 08:13 AM
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Yeah that’s what I was thinking. Looking back she made it pretty easy for me too, asking questions and such. I probably should have asked for the number…
/r/seduction04/07/22 09:48 PM
1

Nah it’s renamed normal human behavior. People did it way before the modern age, it’s just that they didn’t call it cold approach, they didn’t give it any special name because it was normal. And it still is, people have just been conditioned to think that its something special now…
/r/seduction04/07/22 12:26 PM
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Cold approach is actually “the normal way” tho… there was a time before phones when people actually talked to one another and met in real life.
/r/seduction04/07/22 08:31 AM
1

It means being able to freely express yourself and being perfectly okay with however people might react… when it comes to approaching, accept that some people think you’re a creep, a loser, a weirdo etc, accept that you’re gonna get rejected and that isn’t a problem at all, accept that it might be totally out of your comfort zone. It all comes down to really believing and feeling like you are perfectly allowed and capable of doing and acting as you please. (Within legal/moral reason)
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:18 PM
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It means being able to freely express yourself and being perfectly okay with however people might react… when it comes to approaching, accept that some people think you’re a creep, a loser, a weirdo etc, accept that you’re gonna get rejected and that isn’t a problem at all, accept that it might be totally out of your comfort zone. It all comes down to really believing and feeling like you are perfectly allowed and capable of doing and acting as you please. (Within legal/moral reason)
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:18 PM
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Agreed then
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:54 AM
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I mean it’s a good argument, but I would see that more of a reason not to get married in your 20s… A relationship can make you grow as a person and get to know yourself as well. How do you know what you want in life if you don’t know what to look for in a girl? If you’ve never dated anyone, how are you supposed to find a partner that suits you?
/r/seduction03/07/22 08:39 AM
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Maybe he didn’t felt comfortable. Just because it’s legal doesn’t mean everyone would like it…
/r/seduction02/07/22 04:00 PM
2

Not everyone is socially skilled… just like not everyone is good at sports or gets good grades easily. It can be difficult for some people to even say hello to a classmate, others have 30 min convo with strangers naturally. Instead of acting like someone should be able to do everything you can, help people who struggle with thing you’re good at….
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:56 PM
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Yeah try to make it harder to flake…. Maybe schedule dates a little sooner in the week, its a slightly bigger step to cancel after a longer period of time between.
/r/seduction17/03/22 09:12 AM
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Ever saw someone approaching people to sale them something or handing out flyers in the city? Look at how they make contact…. It mostly about not being afraid of drawing her attention in an obvious way. You can smile, walk towards her a bit, make a friendly hand gesture and talk to her from the start. Make it obvious…
/r/seduction22/02/22 10:02 PM
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Just focus on the girl man, put your focus on her and the anxiety will drop before you even realize it.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:20 PM
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Find good dating coaches on YouTube and watch them. Watch infields, learn the fundamentals, keep away from too much strategy (like push-pull etc, not saying it doesn’t work, but it isn’t needed at all), try to practice regularly too (I’m not practicing enough too) and just try to adopt the right mindset (Abundance, being genuinely interested in the women themselves rather than approval of others, don’t see rejections as a negative thing etc.). If all else fails, try a bootcamp or hire a dating c…
/r/seduction11/02/22 09:02 PM
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What repercussions… as long as you are respectful, the worst repercussions are just peoples opinions about you, which you can handle… like I feel like you’re scared of getting in trouble but that really doesn’t happen from cold approaching in a respectful matter. Cold approaching, asking people out is what all previous generations solely depended on, no one is gonna arrest or kick you out of college for that. So really what are the worst possible consequences then, aside from just opinions of ra…
/r/seduction19/01/22 09:00 PM
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You can do both though… rising in status and wealth and also cold approach. That way you learn seduction and become a desired option. I think only focusing on one of those is stupid to begin with. Cold approach is a skill to learn, but after you’ve begun to learn it, you can practice while focusing on your own development. I mean you don’t need to invest twenty hours a week cold approaching to get decent at it and you don’t need to spend all your time only on yourself to become successful. Try t…
/r/seduction14/01/22 09:16 AM
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Well just ask her out next time… doesn’t sound like you made a terrible impression and you will probably see her again, probably not too late to try.
/r/seduction05/01/22 04:29 AM
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This might be genius
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:28 PM
1

I mean mixed results but I have just started. I’m at the end of the desensitizing stage. I will def keep going, cause even though I’m far from great yet, it still gives me wat more options than before.
/r/seduction16/11/21 08:49 PM
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I started a few months ago but it takes time to get yourself started. You really need to push yourself out of the comfortzone. Most important tip I can give you: don’t worry about what you can say. The simplest conversations will be enough. Honestly no matter how uninteresting your question maybe, how lame your jokes are, it doesn’t matter half as much as you initially think. I normally just go up to her, say hi, give her a compliment, ask her Name and proceed to ask the most basic question; lik…
/r/seduction16/11/21 08:45 PM
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A lot of girls love to be approached, some don’t. Thats out of your control. It does work but it takes time and commitment. I’m currently trying it out and it def has a steep learning curve. At the same time, its great because even if you don’t have great Game yet, you’re still gonna get just based on simple statistics.
/r/seduction13/11/21 09:16 PM
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I think he made his boundaries pretty clear, might be time to respect them…
/r/seduction11/10/21 12:45 PM
3

Just ask her when you “accidentally” run into her and find out that she is free too. Its a perfectly normal question if you’re both free, so it could be friendly or romantically motivated, which makes it the perfect question. There is really no risk there, so stop overthinking!
/r/seduction18/09/21 06:52 PM
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Bro stop seeing yourself as a victim. Yes COVID made socializing a little more difficult. But you can still socialize, every single day. You don’t need college to socialize, just go outside and strike up conversations with people wherever you are, with whoever you feel like.
/r/seduction14/08/21 03:44 PM
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Idk what you’re talking about, a lot of women that age want someone atleast a few years older… you still got quite a few years left buddy
/r/seduction26/07/21 09:38 AM
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Just watched your video man, great content!
/r/seduction23/07/21 08:40 PM
1

Well start by low risk touching, like a light tap on her shoulder or softly put your hand on her lowback when opening the door for her or guiding her somewhere. When she seems to respond well to this, go for a little more risk, like hugging or playfully dancing, rubbing her back up and down, playing with her hair. After that the next step would probably be kissing her on the mouth, kissing her neck and touching her face. At that point forplay has pretty much began… So in short, start as soon as …
/r/seduction22/07/21 10:10 PM
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Your problem seems to be making the convo man to woman. That’s just a part of game you struggle with. Sounds like you can open and vibe with women easily. So focus on making it man to woman. It’s a step that a lot of guys have trouble learning, that’s why a lot of YouTube videos talk about this specific part. Some things you should focus on more: eye contact; this alone can turn a friendly convo into flirting. physicality; breaking the touchbarrier early, build it up step by step (2 steps forwar…
/r/seduction22/07/21 08:57 PM
2

I honestly think that your lessons are spot on. And as a beginner I think it’s even more valuable to stay longer in the convo even if you think it’s going nowhere. The only thing is that you don’t have to completely ignore the boyfriend comment, like you could also make a joke about that. Like you say something like “oh great, me too”. But ignoring it is fine as well. And about the vulnerability you mentioned: the problem is, the community is pretty divided about that. Some say raw honesty from …
/r/seduction22/07/21 04:06 PM
3

I actually have a tip about the clothes matching issue: look up things about men fashion on Pinterest. That will help you develop a sense for style, speaking from experience. About being picky: don’t worry about that too much, it’s better to approach the girls you want, than to wait for some sort of signal that a woman is interested in you before you take action. Efficiency will come from experience, getting your level of game up. That way you will be able to make girls more interested in you by…
/r/seduction22/07/21 01:56 PM
4

That’s what people do when they get offended though, tough guy…
/r/seduction22/07/21 01:46 PM
1

Say hey/hi/hello, talk about why you came over to talk, introduce yourself, follow up question for the convo. This pretty much works well in any situation. You can also go for a more indirect style of open, for example when you’re at a party, just ask a normal question like “hey, are you having at this party?”. It’s as easy as that.
/r/seduction22/07/21 01:45 PM
3

What did this guy ever do to you though? He’s just giving advice and most of it is good, what does it matter where he got it from?… some people man, always ready to criticize for no reason
/r/seduction22/07/21 01:42 PM
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It sounded like a normal friendly conversation. Nothing wrong with that but it sounds like you were expecting more to come out of it. The thing is, you didn’t introduce yourself, made your intentions clear etc. How do you expect the girl to remember you than, especially as a romantic option? Next time, try making yourself more clear, really get your intentions across, introduce yourself, joke around a bit and then don’t be afraid to go for the number instead of ig.
/r/seduction18/07/21 12:00 PM
4

Better known as the notorious cock-blocker…
/r/seduction18/07/21 11:54 AM
41

I’m saving this one
/r/seduction17/07/21 08:42 PM
4

A year and a half… come on bro, you’re better than this! Ask her out today, stop being a friend.
/r/seduction17/07/21 07:19 PM
1

I wouldn’t spend too much time on dating apps, that’s the least effective road for most guys. Talk to more girls irl. If you want dating apps to work, go out to take really good photos, really make something of your profile instead of some decent selfies.
/r/seduction17/07/21 07:16 PM
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Well that’s a normal reaction. People nowadays barely speak to a stranger on the street, let alone flirt with one. Daygame isn’t exactly normal anymore. However, that doesn’t mean it isn’t effective or shouldn’t be practiced. The way I see it, the abnormality about it makes it even more valuable cause it’s sets you apart, by showing qualities that women look for in a man. So it should feel weird at first, that’s what makes it great later on funny enough…
/r/seduction17/07/21 07:11 PM
1

Really depends on who you’re talking about…
/r/seduction16/07/21 10:52 PM
1

Make eye contact, when you come from behind make sure you place yourself slightly in front of her before saying anything, wave even to be sure. Never touch her from behind or something. Just make sure she notices you coming up to her before saying anything basically…
/r/seduction16/07/21 10:48 PM
1

True, I gave a very general look overview of the options. Obviously option 1 is best in 90% of the scenarios, but sometimes it just doesn’t work and in those cases self-deprecating humor comes in, but like I said it’s meant to use on occasion as that kind of humor can backfire easily. Anyways thanks for adding the nuance, this is def more helpful for someone less experienced.
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:01 PM
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OWN whatever she says to you or about you. Let her know that you are perfectly okay with whatever she is saying, whether she saying she leaving or something about you being a player etc. Just own it. Self-deprecating humor, when the comment is about you. Don’t overuse this one though, if you use it rarely it comes off as confident but the more you use it, the more it will sound like you’re actually insecure…
/r/seduction16/07/21 10:10 AM
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Yeah that’s smart, don’t over invest rn, that’s only gonna make her invest even less…
/r/seduction16/07/21 08:59 AM
2

I’m guessing he wants to move in together…
/r/seduction16/07/21 08:57 AM
2

Austen summers is great too, those two are the best in the world in my opinion
/r/seduction12/07/21 09:31 PM
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Smile a lot, like smile while you’re talking. Coach Kyle has a view videos on it, trust me it will make a huge difference
/r/seduction12/07/21 01:34 PM
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Smile a lot, like smile while you’re talking. Coach Kyle has a few videos on it, trust me it will make a huge difference
/r/seduction12/07/21 01:34 PM
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Thats partly your problem though, sure a number can easily lead nowhere but you can make it go somewhere a fair percentage of the time
/r/seduction10/07/21 05:58 PM
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No that would look normal.
/r/seduction07/07/21 12:59 PM
1

I would go for total honesty here and reschedule immediately as well
/r/seduction07/07/21 12:39 PM
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Ah let him try it once more to be sure. I agree it’s not much to go off but who are we to judge the situation itself…
/r/seduction05/07/21 09:29 PM
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I mean a lot of people say that to make themselves feel better for not having the balls to approach those girls. That said, it could be helpful to approach outside of work as well, because it can backfire when you approach a lot of people at the same place. Being known as the guy that approaches lots of girls isn’t always a great thing for your own succes rate unfortunately
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:19 PM
2

I think depending on your intention you’re gonna end up with a certain type of person. Annoyingly shallow on the one side and overly trying to make everything meaningful on the other side. Sounds like you want someone that’s in the middle and those can be hard to find since that is what most guys want.
/r/seduction29/06/21 05:54 PM
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Find it funny you call that disrespectful. That’s a term you use for something that is lacking basic respect, not something that is very normal yet YOU find annoying
/r/seduction29/06/21 05:48 PM
2

Not every woman feels this way though
/r/seduction29/06/21 05:07 PM
1

I think it’s more of a pegging extreme thing. Like people start with girls with strapons and then take it a step further
/r/seduction28/06/21 08:44 PM
1

A lot of women don’t take jokes about their appearance well so yeah that was a def a mistake buddy
/r/seduction26/06/21 01:27 PM
2

Practice makes perfect man, a few more dates and you’re gonna be way more comfortable in that kind of setting and escalating won’t seem so unnatural anymore, it actually becomes just a part of the date like it’s customary
/r/seduction25/06/21 02:43 PM
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I mean if it scares you, you should do it. I know its hard to actually start doing it, but I think dating, especially for an inexperienced guy, is also about personal growth which means going out of your comfort zone. Tinder sounds like a semi-comfort zone for you rn, so I would suggest to start approaching.
/r/seduction24/06/21 02:50 PM
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Stop being mr nice guy is more about being dominant and having your own opinion than it is about being actually nice or not. Nice Guys tend to be afraid of offending or scarring the girl in any way, so they won’t be dominant and pretty much always agree with the girl on everything, just so they don’t offend or scare her. You can be dominant without being an asshole
/r/seduction24/06/21 08:27 AM
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Stop viewing yourself as a loser for not being able to close, if anything, keeping the convo going instead of closing might actually be more useful as practice in the long run. Keep it up champ
/r/seduction21/06/21 06:16 PM
1

Well I guess the balance is just off.. men usually care more about looks than women, cause women also value character. So even though women are also sensitive to physical features, it doesn’t matter nearly as much as it does for men..
/r/seduction08/06/21 08:43 PM
2

I mean there def a MAYBE category when it comes to initial physical attraction though... women aren’t nearly as visual as men. However game isn’t gonna change a hard initial NO
/r/seduction08/06/21 06:59 PM
0

Bro it’s not about the compliment, it’s about immediately setting the right vibe. Opening direct lets them know you’re here to approach her as a man who knows what he wants. Opening indirect just seems to be a friendly conversation, which ideally is not the vibe you want to give off. Besides a pretty girl knows she’s, so it’s more about you giving her a reason to stick around because it’s more than just small talk...
/r/seduction03/06/21 11:43 AM
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Nah man, showing intent right off the bat is great, works much better than going indirect.
/r/seduction31/05/21 09:49 PM
4

Well I think the best tip for you right now is to start opening more direct. So basically just like a standard “hey I saw you and I thought you looked nice so I wanted to say hi” or some variation of that. That way girls immediately know what your intentions are, so they won’t wonder off quickly. Secondly it’s probably a good idea to do around 10-20 approaches each session. The women you’re approaching are in the middle of something most of the time during the day, unlike nighttime when they’re …
/r/seduction14/05/21 04:28 PM
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First of all, I would say that human connection isn’t the only thing an adult would be interested in. However if you’re only looking for that, than you should try to pick out the ‘real ones’ before hand. It isn’t hard to figure out if someone has depth or not. But if you’re still trying with those men, the best way I can think of to try to force a connection, is by getting them to do some sort of physical activity. Most guys naturally open up more while doing a sport or something.
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