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| 1 | Do you care how many people your partner slept with?What do you deem to be a “lower N count” ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Do you care how many people your partner slept with?That seems to be my current mentality but I don’t want to feel like I’m “settling”. Awesome, intelligent, well educated woman who has her head on straight. Been friends for many years and genuinely know her. However 7 seems so high to me. Meanwhile others tell me to grow up and that it’s low for someone in their upper 20’s / lower 30’s. I do see how 7 can be obtained pretty easily without sleeping around. Considering people often start dating at 16-17, that’s only 1 person every 2 years or so. S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Do you care how many people your partner slept with?Would you be okay within that “average 5-7” range if you were upper 20’s / lower 30’s or do you deem that to high? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 01:06 AM |
| 1 | How old are you and what do you consider to be an average amount of sexual partners for your age group?Do you think 5-8 would be considered high among your group or country once you approach the age of 25-30 (another 5-10 years) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 10:56 PM |
| 1 | How old are you and what do you consider to be an average amount of sexual partners for your age group?That is very true, I guess I was not factoring in the option of dating younger. I’m the U.S. the average age of losing virginity is 16 years old. As a 30 year old, to go back and date someone 10 years younger than me would likely pose other issues (immaturity on their part, lack of life experience, perhaps they get older and feel like they missed out on something). Idk, interesting things lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 10:05 PM |
| 1 | How old are you and what do you consider to be an average amount of sexual partners for your age group?I can agree with that, what is acceptable to each individual is what matters most. If you don’t mind me asking, is your number 2 or lower? I personally don’t think I know anyone who had been with less than 5 by that time I was 25 or so. I dated women from school, church, mutual friends, etc and no matter how they represented themselves or dressed reserved, they had had a handful of boyfriends by then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | How old are you and what do you consider to be an average amount of sexual partners for your age group?Thanks for the input! So at 32, you would think that less than 10 is considerably low? 15 is average and 20 is starting to get high? I guess I always assumed people had lower numbers like 3-4 but over the years I’ve learned that is not true I guess lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 09:29 PM |
| 1 | How old are you and what do you consider to be an average amount of sexual partners for your age group?I guess I’m surprised how common these numbers are. I would consider them high but they seem pretty average. I am 30 and I was practically celibate most of my early 20’s. Then I let loose for 2 months and slept with 9 people in those 7-8 weeks. Then went back to abstaining. So I can see how easily the numbers can rack up but I guess I just would expect more people to be reserved or see sex as a big deal lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?I would agree with everything you said. I guess the context that these guys are using it in is just a little extreme for me personally. To see a woman happily in a relationship with a guy and then to say “I could sleep with her again”… simply because you did 6 years ago doesn’t really ring true to me. I think there’s great chances that she has moved on or possibly even no longer finds him attractive after years have passed by. Our taste & preferences often change | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?I can agree with that! However Is there any past boyfriends that YOU broke up with that you would have sex with once again? Or do you lose interest once you decide to break up? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?Yes that is helpful. I guess my thought was that when a woman ends things, that usually means she has no interest. That could be an interest in you physically, emotionally, or any other various way. I’m a male but I don’t think like a lot of guys. I don’t look at past partners and think “oh yea dude I could bang them again”. I’m an attractive guy and I’m successful with traits that make me a good potential candidate BUT they ended things for a reason. And once a few years go by, I don’t think th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?Fair enough lol. So if you were dating a woman, you would just assume that she would sleep with her exes again if the opportunity arose? I guess I am thinking there’s different type of women. I’ve had past partners who I could sleep with again but I’ve never looked at them in a relationship and even had that thought cross my mind. I assume they are infatuated with current guy and that the “ship has sailed”. I’ve also been with women who LOVED the sex but barely say hi to me now in public (there … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?Understandable reasoning. However, do you feel for your current bf a way you’ve never felt towards any other bf? If an ex hit you up current day / today, would you consider having sex with him or would you be offended / repulsed? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?I can understand this in the circumstances of you two talking. However let’s say for example, someone you slept with 5 years ago. Lets say she’s not in a committed relationship. You’ve physically changed, she’s physically changed. You feel that you can “claim” her or that you could just walk back into her life and have sex with her? I feel like with the emotional attraction women prefer, they likely view their LTR or husband in a light that they never viewed their “bf’s” in. I didn’t think it wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Weird hangup over my partner’s sexual pastAt my age, I think they are very few and far between. I live in the US so sex is very casual and the social norm for those who are dating. Even women I’ve dated from church have had a handful of partners. I am led to believe my way of thinking is very outdated. I have spoken to friends about it and they all laugh and said I should feel lucky, that 7 is low. I believe we’re compatible in various other ways and perhaps even when it comes to our beliefs on sex. She doesn’t believe in casual sex and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 03:10 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?Thank you for sharing. What is your age if you don’t mind me asking? I think the lower the better as well but I don’t think I can really apply 5 failed relationships for a 25 year old as I can a 30 year old or older. From 25-30 is a 5 year gap and a huge maturity increase typically. And so on from there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/22 08:46 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider a high N-count?Yea I mean, to each their own. However I’m not sure how you would think 17-18 is low lol. I’ve had 17-18 and while it seemed “easy enough to do” no pun intended, there’s no arguing it a pretty high number. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 01:44 AM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?I could see this being true. I’ve slept with 17 women and only a few have been a “freak”. The ones that have only been with 5-7 were pretty modest. I could tell they weren’t experienced giving head, they didn’t take charge in the bedroom, didn’t take charge with positions or try to switch it up. They just left it all up to me 😂. But I was also okay with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 12:03 AM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?Yea this girl is a keeper. She spent most of her 20’s learning about herself and gaining emotional security. Her mom had a rough upbringing and wasn’t a good example, so she saw that and wanted to make a difference. She got her masters in psychology. Great catch - but I’ve struggled with the 7. I have thought to myself “if it was just 5 or less” But then I also tell myself - “you’re 30 years old and you’re going to risk someone great that you’ve been friends with for 15 years to try and find som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 12:00 AM |
| 3 | What do you consider a high N-count?Idk, I’ve heard of some people coming out of highschool that already slept with 5-10 people. Although I also saw a study that said current generations are having less sex so who knows lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 11:58 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?My morales regarding sex were initially to wait until marriage. I purposely turned down sex all of college. I dated a girl from 23-26 and then when we split, I was going out enjoying night life 3-4 times a week. It would be closing time and a girl (I would often know due to our town being fairly small) would approach me and ask to continue having a few drinks at my place. Then that would escalate (by their move not mine). I racked up 8-9 people over about 6-7 weeks and I looked myself in the mir… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 11:56 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider a high N-count?Very interesting, thank you for sharing. I would agree that the 0-5 range is optimal. I’ve “dated” women who had higher counts but I couldn’t bring myself to commit to them (with that being one of the reasons why). They had other underlying issues but I also didn’t find it attractive that they had slept with 12,15,20 men. I’m currently 30 and unfortunately for the last 5-6 years (since I was 24-25) I haven’t dated someone who has had 5 or less partners. What’s also a challenge is you want someon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 11:53 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider a high N-count?I respect your opinion but I don’t think insecurity is the culprit. I deal with ocd / obsessive thoughts over germs and that’s what gets me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 10:35 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?Thank you for sharing, I respect that you have your own boundaries set for who you’re looking to date. I do have 2 questions. Are you meeting people your age with less than 5 people? I feel like I haven’t met anyone that low since 24-25 (except those who have been married for most of their 20’s). You say 5 is your limit. So if you met someone awesome who had been with 6-7 people, would that be a deal breaker for you? Do you have a hard line at 5 or is a couple over no different than 5? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 10:16 PM |
| 0 | What do you consider a high N-count?What’s interesting is where everyone draws the line. What do you consider high? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 09:21 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?I’m sure we’re thinking of 2 different perspectives / life stories. I myself have dated probably 7-8 women. I would openly admit my issues (which may be commitment issues) but outside of that I have no character problems. I’m honest, genuine, ambitious, hardworking, etc. so I guess I try to apply that across the board. My current gf has been with 6-7 partners and I’ve been close friends with her for 15 years, so I know her better than probably anyone else other than her family. She’s a much bett… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 08:22 PM |
| 3 | What do you consider a high N-count?I struggle with OCD regarding germs and things of that nature. It’s not about inadequacy or performance. It’s just that I find it nasty and that there is more appealing in self control / valuing your body | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:50 PM |
| 0 | What do you consider a high N-count?I agree again, that 10 is extensive. However I do think it’s possible to have 6 - 7 relationship between the age of 16 & 28 or so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:49 PM |
| 4 | What do you consider a high N-count?My sexual history is far more extensive than here. I’ve slept with about 16-17 women and fooled around with 21. She’s been with 7 (all of which were relationships and not very sexually active) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:41 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?Oh I agree completely. Seriously dating that many people is unlikely. Although from 20-30 is 10 years, so essentially that could be 10 (1) year long relationships. Factor in 1-2 of those other people choosing to end things (out of their control). Maybe 1-2 that the person chooses they’re not a good fit. The typical highschool relationship - that puts you at 5. Maybe 1-2 bad picks - now you’re at 7. Maturity and wisdom definitely comes with age. Idk, just thinking of different possibilities 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:35 PM |
| 5 | What do you consider a high N-count?I’m not, although I am in a committed relationship for the last 2 years (28) and we do intend to get married. We’ve been close friends for 15 years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:28 PM |
| 3 | What do you consider a high N-count?I’ve read a lot on pairbonding and am not sure of my stance. I’ve slept with 17 women and been sexual with around 21. I may be an outlier but the ONLY woman I’ve truly been infatuated with and felt love for is the woman I’m now dating (we’ve been close friends since we were 15 years old). She’s been with 6 and shares a similar feeling for me, how I do for her. Despite the other people we’ve dated, we’ve always intuitively known that we were great matches for eachother. The only reason we didn’t … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:26 PM |
| 3 | What do you consider a high N-count?Agreed, it’s really not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:20 PM |
| 3 | What do you consider a high N-count?Great point there! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:19 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider a high N-count?Thank you for your response, well thought out a s well said. I think 10 is probably about “average” for someone 25. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:18 PM |
| 6 | What do you consider a high N-count?I can relate. I wanted to initially wait for marriage and at 21 I thought 4-5 was HIGH. At 30, I would now think 4-5 is LOW haha I guess because life doesn’t pause and people date looking for their forever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 07:16 PM |
| 3 | What do you consider a high N-count?Based on that, they would be at 5 at 26 years old if not married (1 every 2 years starting at 18) From my own experience it seemed like after 25 the numbers really started to ramp up. I’ve dated a few girls who could care less for sex but had been with 6-8 people by their upper 20’s due to failed relationships. Many of those relationships being 1-3 years long too. It’s hard to put a number on it seems due to everyone’s life experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 06:59 PM |
| 0 | What do you consider a high N-count?I can agree with this. The woman I most recently dated and am most compatible with has been with 7 people. She’s 30 now and we got together at 28. She is by far the least “sexual” woman I’ve been with. I can tell she didn’t have much interest in sex in the past, she doesn’t talk sexually, joke sexually, and there’s quite a bit of acts that I could tell she had no experience in when we did them. Despite 7 partners, she’s also the most wise & emotionally mature woman I’ve been with. 3 of those 7 s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 06:49 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?Love the username 😂. 9 at 30 years old low but 10 high? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider a high N-count?Is there an age range you apply this to? How old are you if you don’t mind me asking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 06:45 PM |
| 4 | What do you consider a high N-count?I have no reason to lie or be dishonest. I think I deal with internal guilt because I know the hypocrisy but it’s me at my roots it seems. I try to be open minded, I am progressive, I’ve read and done studies but that one category still gets me lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 04:48 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider a high N-count?I’m a 30(m) and I’m not a cocky guy by any means. If I sit around and break it down - sure I have some things going for me. I’m well educated, I’m in decent shape, I’m extremely outgoing and genuine / personable” With that being said, having sex has never been an issue for me. In fact, I intentionally turned down sex a lot in college out of what I thought was respect for my future partner. I was raised that sex was “special”. Current day, I’ve slept with 17 women (9 of which came in a 8 week per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 04:18 PM |
| 4 | What do you consider a high N-count?I’m sure many agree with this but there’s many who fall in the category of being hypocritical. I personally know some that deal with Retroactive Jealousy (a form of ocd) and they fixate on their partner’s past, even if their own is far more promiscuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 03:41 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider a high N-count?I’m not sure if you’re referring to my comment or the initial comment by someone else but I can assure you that my reasoning for preferring a relatively low number has nothing to do about “them having less sexual experience than me”. Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 03:15 PM |
| 13 | What do you consider a high N-count?Yea I’ve personally never handled hearing about the past very well either. I was fine with LTR but didn’t like hearing about casual encounters. However what I want to hear and what reality is seem to be 2 different things lol. I dated women from church and who would be considered quite conservative who had 3-4 partners at 22. They weren’t out looking for sex or a hookup but they had dated a few guys by that age. 1 in highschool, 1-2 in the first couple of years of college. They could get to 3-4 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 02:39 PM |
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