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Conversations about this always make me wonder about those sects of Mormons that kick their young men out so the old men can marry 40 young wives. You’d think the young men would…do something about it systematically? But they don’t. Many just become homeless. Or maybe they do and we don’t hear about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:09 PM
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I think this all coincides with social media and the like. Before when your sphere was your tiny boring town, maybe it made more sense to pop a couple out and settle down. Your life was already pretty settled anyway, no big changes were coming your way until the old folks home. Now, you can see beautiful people living rich, exciting lives and to many it makes sense to hold off on children in hopes of experiencing the world freely. Change is accessible and common. You can interview for a job acro…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 04:37 PM
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I fell in love at first sight with my husband that man has me howling at the moon to this day. I've never had that slow burn thing with a man, if I don't like you within the first 2-3 months of meeting as friends I'll never like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:57 PM
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Meh, it is important to me to keep up with my body and I dress in ways that accentuate it because I like looking good and reaping the social reward of being attractive. But I won't leave the house in only a sports bra/booty shorts gym fit because it's too much attention and starts heading into feeling like an antelope in the lion enclosure and that doesn't feel safe. Men follow me into stores and shit when I'm in long pants I can't manage any more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:50 AM
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True true I'm just curious about how other women feel about finding out their coworker wants to hump them. At work it's easy to forget you're being perceived as a sexual being. Me? Sexy at the coffee machine? Odd stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:27 AM
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Repeatedly if I'm dressed up at night, more rarely if it's daytime. A guy asked me out at the grocery store yesterday. I always wonder how often women get asked out by men at their jobs. I've had a little crush confession and date request from a man at every job I've ever worked at and I always wonder how often that happens to other women and how they feel about it vs stranger approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:19 AM
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Interesting! But generally you are more attractive than these men? I dated uglier but didn't like the dynamic so I went for my looks match or a little hotter and I feel like I have more incentive to stay in shape etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 06:44 PM
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Do you all think there be some solid effort for people in the dating scene to date their looks match and not a lot hotter or uglier? I was having a discussion and basically heard that women generally date a little uglier to subconsciously feel comfortable and less likely to be left but that in turn this raises how beautiful a woman must be to snag a good average man in the dating market. This then leaves ugly/average women to struggle because average/hot women are taking those men. Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 06:24 PM
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I know quite a few single women that would like to be married/in a committed relationship but they are choosing to be single after unsuccessful relationships. I think that's just it, you get what you can get and if you don't like what's available you can stay single until you make yourself more desirable or just stay single for the long term. I think the issue is more so that women are content being single, not that every woman can date Jason Momoa.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 06:05 PM
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I agree with you. Do you think men that haven't had luck in their adult years should live lives not including romantic love? Being desired is like a drug you know, but if the high never comes they'll be more miserable waiting for it than moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:54 PM
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What are your thoughts on matchmaking and arranged marriages? Not meet each other once and get hitched but more modern versions. If the kid could get through feelings of embarrassment/shame that it didn't happen for them the way it did for their peers I think its a good option.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:06 PM
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Yes, true. Someone else mentioned they wouldn't go as far as an arranged marriage but I would consider something like a matchmaker for an unattractive kid if they were up for it. I see a lot of men/women I find unattractive can still end up with a partner that way because those people are specifically looking for marriage. If the kid is not up for alternative methods then yeah, nothing I can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:55 PM
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Of course I would take it very personally if my children were undesirable, the job of a parent is to prep them for adulthood. It's a terrible situation for a young adult to be in if they want a romantic relationship and can't achieve one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:29 AM
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Disappointed and concerned. I wouldn't really blink at eye at the highschool ages but then college too? When kids get out from under their parents thumb and come into their adulthood...and nothing? Phew. This is why it's important to encourage socialization and healthy physical/emotional habits. The people I know that have no luck at all struggle in those areas and dont come across as appealing partners because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:00 AM
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I think the height is automatically assumed to come with the rest i.e some kind of possibility of professional success, more respected by peers, welcomed in beautiful spaces, ease of social mobility. Its hard to separate it. I know someone that dropped her requirement from 6'2" to 5'8" because once the veneer wore off he was just...tall. When it doesn't come with the rest it's not as important.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:22 AM
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So fill me in, what's the general consensus on dating black women in white male spaces? What you're saying is insightful- for the most part I think the biggest issue black women face is just getting out there and being viewed as a sexual/romantic option. It feels like black women are treated like they're sexless a lot of the time or maybe threatening? Maybe the same issue Asian men have. I think a lot of being appealing to men has to do with being open to being conquered and I'm wondering if dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:58 AM
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Yeah i was trying to redirect my focus to my experience instead of all the I hate white guys girls still ending up with white guys talk :(
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:19 AM
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Hmm. As a black woman that didn't really struggle with dating, I think the info put forth is still true. Whiteness is upheld more by minorities than white people in many cases. Dating as a black woman is interesting because there are sooo many ways to present as black. It's a pretty large spectrum of physical attributes that all get grouped under black. All races of men hit on me but I'm also kinda weird looking. I used to mostly attract men that haven't dated a black woman before so who knows w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:05 AM
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Yeah, I wont argue that. Coming into these threads as a black woman is always a trip since a lot of average black women seem to struggle with dating but the general consensus is the liberal girls are into nerdy white dudes and the ones looking for traditional gender roles go for latinos these days. In the same vein some black women talk the same talk as the white women that preach about hating white men. It's kinda funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:33 AM
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Omg I feel this everytime I get the quizzical eyeballing if I'm wearing a dress at work. It's fine if I'm out and about on my days off but the up and down scan in the breakroom really snatches some of my self esteem. Sometimes I get a "cute dress" but mostly just eyes. I'm still working on not letting it make me feel weird and small. Let me know if you crack the code!!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 11:24 PM
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Number one, you're too old to be acting like this. This reads like you're 18! You seem like you're not self aware at all and honestly it seems like you still don't need to date anyone, especially this man. You might even need therapy. Relationships do not fix you and you can't destroy someone or be abusive on your path to self growth then turn around and be like sorry for treating you like shit, I'm ready to be a good wife now. People remember those things! Number two, this man does not want you…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 06:58 AM
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I agree in that a lot of it is bullshit and can be a coverup for being hurt that no man they actually desire has interest in settling down with them. Sex is validation. I remember a friend crying because her fwb that came over every night took someone else out for valentines day. Every night for three months this man fucked her, ate dinner with her, held her, and slept next to her. Zoinks. 5 dicks that kick you out after sex and don't text back really aren't better than 1 dick that gives a fuck …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 04:22 AM
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Weird pointless anecdote because I know it doesn't reflect on all men but I'm pretty damn tall for a woman (5'11ish?) and all of my serious male partners have talked about specifically wanting my tall genes for their kids. One was shorter than me and had no interest in being 5'8" and having kids with a 5'2" woman that might end up in the low-mid 5ft range. My current is around 6ft and also said that any woman he settled down with would have to at least be 5'8" because he doesn't particularly wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 06:41 PM
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I understand what you mean, I've struggled with asking for things too! I think it really is wrapped up in our self worth. I've had to remind myself that I'm worthy and deserve it. Dont rob yourself out of being treated well! Definitely go ahead and put your guard down. My concern is that these are odd things for him to not offer help with. I'm sure if you said heres the plan for building my bed and he chimed in "good plan, let me know if you need help I'll come over" you'd feel a lot better. I'd…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:43 AM
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I really dont like his behavior. A situation close to your car popped up with my guy but it was with my bike. I said I was having trouble putting it together, he said drop the pieces at his house and he'll put it together. We managed to make my bed frame pop apart (lol) and he literally punched it back into place because I didn't have a hammer. I know it sounds ridiculous (it is!) but when a man truly cares about you, he'll get a little ridiculous! He will dote on you. Men want to help their wom…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 02:12 AM
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Makeup, honey! Look up videos for everyday glam or natural makeup. And work on your disposition and your aura. There are women that just light up a room and while it's easier to do this when you're beautiful, the vast majority of women can still do it. But if your attitude is gross, gossipy, boring, low self worth, ect, your aura can show that. Don't be a storm cloud! And even though you're thin, go to the gym. Skinny with a flat ass and weak thighs is nothing compared to skinny with a nice bubb…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 02:11 AM
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Sure! I find that the first steps are actually trusting yourself and loving yourself. You have to trust that you chose a good man and that this man is going to get things done that benefit the both of you. That you're worth a man thatll go out into the world and bring home the bacon for you. You want to nag because you're worried, you know? You feel like you must speak up because you doubt that he'll do something that'll lead to a better life for you unprompted. You still think you have to fight…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 12:23 AM
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This is so good! I adore this post so much you have no idea. That trust is so freaking vulnerable and beautiful and feminine! I remember my mom telling me ladies are seen, not heard and teen me was like EXCUUUUUUUSE MEEEEE but now as an adult...yeah. She's right. Obviously if I'm being mistreated and my livelihood/security is being threatened I'm not shutting up but on a regular day where I don't need to jam my nose into things that are none of my business? I won't. Men really don't want the wif…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 07:21 PM
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...from experience the marriage conversation isn't one that's hinted at. When a man is ready he will straight up TELL you he wants to get married, he loves you, yada yada. When a man is ready he doesn't play around. He locks you down, tells you you're locked down, and tells the people in your lives that you are in fact, locked down. Never drive yourself crazy over stuff like that because you're reaching out for signs that he's not giving you yet. And a man can smell when a woman is desperate for…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 10:15 PM
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I think when I realized humans are sexual creatures I understood my own desire to be feminine. You'd think it would've been more obvious to me! I want to be wanted. I want to be desired. I want to desire a man and have him want me back. For all of my personality traits, of course, but also because I'm fucking gorgeous and he wants to put his hands all over me. I love when he just kinda stares at me and tells me I look beautiful. Its vulnerable and honest and kinda exhilarating. To be willingly a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 07:49 AM
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Your husband is taking advantage of his position of head of the household in such a nasty way...this isn't right. Being the head means he handles the issue in a meaningful, stable way, not shoots down any hint of you standing up for yourself. I don't think he's being a very good husband. How is your sex life if you don't mind me asking? His behavior does give off other woman vibes. You don't deserve such bad treatment. Nobody does. You're angry because you're being mistreated. Your body knows wh…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 06:03 AM
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Thank you, friend! Today he texted me "I love you and this weekend has been a gift that I'll always treasure" 😊 I'm so happy that I didnt allow myself to screw everything up by falling into old habits. I already know I would've caught an attitude and wasted time acting like a garbage can!
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 03:37 PM
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