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| 2 | If i am talking to tall girls and if taller guys approach the same group and set, should i leave? Because clearly, women prefer taller guys and i think, i become a block between them. I feel girls might be upset with me because of that. They just don't show it on their face.Tldr: height has influence in these dynamics yes. Don't leave unless your vibe you present while around them or that situation becomes negative. Be selfish: If you feel uncomfortable due to anything and your enjoyment, game, esteem faulters then leave and find others you enjoy the moment with. This is the rule irregardless of height. I feel the other comments aren't giving the input you are looking for here so I will chime in. Your concern isn't about confidence it is about being honest about he… | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 01:19 PM |
| 1 | How to have female presence benefit you even if you don't like the girl who wants to be by you?I am looking at is as structural foundation long term growth. Banging a 3 and using that affection to get a 4 interested, sealing the deal with the 4 and then use that affection to get a 5... then 6 etc. This is the long game. | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 08:55 PM |
| 3 | A healthy dose of cynism is necessary in gameYou word the experience well, my experiences at least. I know now why many high value men walk around and don't say much, even if they don't understand all these dynamics they see the benefit of never opening up. It is truth that as a man you are generally rewarded for suppression. In some cases openness is impactful but in yhe case of red-pill it is best yo never bring it up. Just have your actions show the success others always question "how did that ugly ogre get the hot B." Honestly they can… | /r/seduction | 23/06/26 05:46 PM |
| 6 | A healthy dose of cynism is necessary in gameJust thinking this the other day. I opened up to friends and few months back about being a red-piller and my two buddies, who have wives of their own, consistently dismiss me and say I need to go to therapy. Why, you may ask, because they think I hate women. I reflect on that and acknowledge I have bitterness towards how men are lied to and in general " male - female" relationship dynamics, but I don't have anger or hatred towards woman. I use this bitterness as my "edge" that you talk about. Yo… | /r/seduction | 23/06/26 03:09 AM |
| 2 | Any suggestions for addressing this without repression?Thank you, I see what you are saying. I agree with a lot of it. | /r/seduction | 07/05/26 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Any suggestions for addressing this without repression?Your comment impacts me positively. | /r/seduction | 04/05/26 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Cold approaches are one of the healthiest things men can do.I can get fidgety and nervous still when cold approsching during first 1-4 minutes of interaction. It is apparent in the moment. Also the body positions I take aren't always as bold as they could be. Like I am a step too far away from the girl or if she is walking a certain way it is "ok" to match her direction for a bit but I am usually stationary as example. Not trying to follow per se, but show genuine interest through body language and movements. I can talk fine, it is the body dysregulation… | /r/seduction | 21/04/26 11:41 AM |
| 2 | Cold approaches are one of the healthiest things men can do.Thanks for the information. Not looking for LTR at the moment but will keep that in mind. | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 12:12 PM |
| 12 | Cold approaches are one of the healthiest things men can do.Doing low numbers, maybe 20 this past week, but progressing. I know what I need to work on regarding cold approaches. I am proud to say I shot my shot to all women I saw yesterday that I was genuinely attracted to. | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 12:10 PM |
| 18 | Have you learned anything in the field, by yourself, that no theory or coach thought of?The way I rationalize it is that being logical and honest forces them to live in reality and puts weight on them. If you put weight on them that they don't want, you lost her. Either women's lives are so good (or so bad depending how you look at it) that they are allowed to live in fantasy realm and have very little responsibilities relative outside of "regular" female responsibilities. They are allowed to live in LaLaLand and when they are forced to be "real" they take out that stress from that… | /r/seduction | 29/03/26 07:46 AM |
| 1 | Fears and progress - next steps: rapid fire and shoot for the moonThank you for the feedback. | /r/seduction | 29/03/26 07:36 AM |
| 4 | Everyone says join a club. I did. Here's what actually happenedGreat post bud, congrats on getting out there. I am about 1/2 step further than you. My key is going to the places you enjoy more often with or without someone. I had to break my internal barriers but the experience is better for I have my " go to place now if I am in alright or Great mood." It is tough to feel comfortable in a new environment, especially when women are around and women are on your mind. ( very natural I have found) It is helpful to literally go back to the same environment. Thi… | /r/seduction | 16/03/26 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Conversation dynamics and clarificationsThanks for comment. Main issue is during conversation I get dysregulated. I can introduce myself and close just fine. It is that middle ground that is a struggle. The conversation flow. The nuance of the comments, the "testing" that occurs, all in the middle. It is difficult for me conceptually to navigate through. | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Conversation dynamics and clarificationsJust typed a lot at once. I can go initiate and connect or get in contact with someone. I can do that and not feel I am performing or trying too hard. In this phase I can use curiosity to ask micro questions that start the conversation and keep it going. In this phase I could use the concept of "sharedness" but it isn't necessary for it is out of place. The concept of "appreciation" is satisfied by me being there. (Sharedness example is like , "Damn we both got wet because it rained"; Appreciati… | /r/seduction | 02/03/26 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Conversation dynamics and clarificationsThanks, what text/books do you recommend? | /r/seduction | 01/03/26 09:01 PM |
| 1 | I am glad this community exists.Yeah, the people/community make this work. There is so much to say regarding all this and it feels scattered but it is coming together. I feel it at clubs or even at work with women. | /r/seduction | 26/02/26 03:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you learn from your mess ups/failures without taking it too hard?Thanks for the input. I see my position is outcome based for sure. I am needy for the approval via sex. Admitting now to get ahead. In past I wasn't and just pushed my way and admittedly did have more sex with less trial but still felt sparse in past. Anyway, thanks appreciated will take all comments and make progress. | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 10:24 PM |
| 1 | How do you learn from your mess ups/failures without taking it too hard?Thank you | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 10:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you learn from your mess ups/failures without taking it too hard?Thank you | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 10:48 AM |
| 1 | Finding the right community/environmentJust sharing further thoughts, chatgpt did put in some good suggestions where my personality traits are a part of the environment and not out of the ordinary. Additionally suggesting other necessary things such as containment not suppression of the goofiness is a direction. This puts me in a position where I won't have a large breadth of women per se but within the locality and environments I will fit in and be attractive to women. Be active not sit and drink. For me it is to find co Ed sporting… | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | I've become to lazy with escalation I think, anyone else have this problem?She likes you enough to keep you in the waiting list. Remember there are men right now she would drop everything for and meetup within 24 hours. These men probably had similar 1 meet = 4 hours. That is enough time for her to determine if she is interested without putting out on first night. Note: re reading your comment on escalation.. there is a flow there that exists that is absolutely dependant on many factors and timing being the most important. Escalation, I struggle with and know very litt… | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 06:32 AM |
| 2 | I've become to lazy with escalation I think, anyone else have this problem?Admittedly I was tired when we had met so she said "i should have canceled because she canceled on someone else to meet me." ( partially blaming me for her feeling like she Missed out on something, which shows she was comparing me to someone/something else. Once again showing she isnt as interested.) The conversatjon stalled a few times during the night. Rather than silence being a seductive tool, she felt some weight to carry the conversation. Overall I am similar personality to Shaggy from sco… | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 05:52 PM |
| 5 | I've become to lazy with escalation I think, anyone else have this problem?Just had this issue the other day. Went on a date and I just felt right away something was a miss. She was attractive and attracted to me but she wasn't super excited about the date. It was good conversation in good atmosphere. It felt weird by the end because we were on good terms but I felt that the relationship would have been led to "chill friends" and nothing intimate that was super exciting. Afterwards we spoke via text and she was critiquing me on my demeanor and I knew then my suspicions… | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 12:29 PM |
| 1 | The dark side of this gameTLDR:If you decide to go to LTR, just remember seduction is required to a greater extent without the benefits of new partners Long term relationships are "hard mode" that require you to be way more effective at seduction. You have to be "on" all of the time for your women to be "at peace." The concept of seduction ruining your long term relationship options isn't necessarily true. You having the ability to be with other women and enjoy the highs of new intimacy is the benefit of your efforts. Wh… | /r/seduction | 08/12/25 02:01 PM |
| 27 | There’s this super hot bartender I can’t stop thinking about."Don't go grocery shopping hungry" Seduction equivalent "Don't go for women when you are desperate" Note: Dude you talked to her and she was chill... great fucking job! You in the top 5% automatically man. Be proud. No other comments for ya dude. Good luck, slay king slay. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 03:32 AM |
| 5 | What's your process once you get the girl home?Alot of the signs, they have to lead a little or give significant signs. Example: we are walking and she grabs my hand momentarily to awkwardly point at a duck. In her mind it is an excuse to let me know she wants me to hold her hand. So even if let go, I am holding her hand again within 60 seconds but it is me, for lack of a better term, leading into the hand holding once she gave a signal. To go back to your at home event, she instigated things and as long as you match her vibe with your style… | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 09:53 PM |
| 5 | How to sexualise it?I have found the sexual tension, other than obvious things you will feel, is presented and progressed by the woman. You being indifferent and not partaking in early minutia is kind of sexy for them. There is a level of give and take, but the first 15-25 minutes are never sexual and anything that becomes is based on women's decisions. Acknowledging that I dont have to do anything other than partake in a casual conversation with nothing to prove helps my mental state and their perception of me. | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Weight loss fixed my marriage… don’t know how to feel?Thank you for your compliment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Weight loss fixed my marriage… don’t know how to feel?Thank you for your reply. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Weight loss fixed my marriage… don’t know how to feel?Thank you for the link. Is fascinating womanhood similar to "the rational male" but for women? If not, do you have a book recommendation that is so? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 05:35 AM |
| 1 | Weight loss fixed my marriage… don’t know how to feel?Hopefully, my reply to "Which-skill2601" above helps explain further. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 05:29 AM |
| 5 | Weight loss fixed my marriage… don’t know how to feel?I do not disagree with the way you have explained her feelings or psychology. Before this trial period that i mentioned, over 25 years of media and society had put me in a mindset that 50-50 was what all women wanted. If i do not progress the 50-50 mentality, then I am sexist, misogynistic, or any other word you choose. That is the negative label men recieve, if we do anything that suggests women and men want different things, we are labeled as wrong. Equality was above all else. This is what me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 05:27 AM |
| 3 | Weight loss fixed my marriage… don’t know how to feel?I want to commend you for asking others for support on your newfound resentment. Your ability to digest and address this will assist you in saving your marriage. I was not so pursuant of this in my situation. I was with a woman where we had our relationship set up as "50-50" for ~8 years. I felt something was off at various points, such as extra tension in the house and back handed comments that pointed at me. But I attributed it to her not knowing what she is saying is hurtful, such as her fami… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 04:01 AM |
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