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| 37 | Discussion: What's the source of your femininity? | DISCUSSION | Cosima_Fan_Tutte | /r/RedPillWives | 29/06/22 03:12 PM |
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| 10 | If you had to remove all of your "Non-Negotiables" and keep only three, which ones would they be?First, I think women's non negotiables are fairly negotiable if the man is desirable. And all those checklists of standards and nice to haves are highly negotiable, they're Internet bluster. My own non negotiables for a man shortly before I met my husband were: -I want to have sex with him -He's open to marriage and kids -He has a respectable job that's compatible with family life My husband was actually in the "not sure about kids" camp when we met...and I was so attracted and in love that I de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/26 03:42 PM |
| 2 | How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing?What do you think is a source of truth about the sexes? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/26 01:34 PM |
| 4 | Repost: How some people are "naturally skinny"I've always been on the slimmer side, but after having kids ( 3 kids in my 30s, at that) I actually found it easier than ever to stay thin. Somehow my hunger cues changed post kids/breastfeeding in my favor. I enjoy a good round of fat shaming as much as anyone in these communities, but to be honest, I'm slim because it's very easy for me and not due to any incredible self-discipline. -I also don't like eating when I'm under stress (e.g .I run events at work and don't really eat on days there's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/26 04:08 AM |
| 2 | How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing?Haha! No offense meant. I myself ended up in the red pill because as a young woman I was frankly really weird and unsuccessful romantically. I'm much better now, though! I took advice from red pill men and it led to both a disasterously unhappy relationship and later to my very happy marriage. The red pill is true and wise(ish) but can create lifelong anger/despair. I have real mixed feelings about this stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/26 04:52 AM |
| 7 | How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing?-As others said, go offline, I don't think any red pill spaces are good for young women or women who've had bad experiences with men, even RPW. I do think online forums make gender relations worse. The genders know way too much about each other. -Stop thinking too much, people on these forums tend to be highly neurotic and introverted..they think and write too much and do too little. -Embrace the "bad" traits to an extent. There's no masculinity without some toxicity. Every good male trait comes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/26 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Why do men settle for and appear unhappy in their relationships so much?It is for me, too. I just don't think this is the default state of ltrs or marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/26 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Why do men settle for and appear unhappy in their relationships so much?Passion and excitement are incompatible with long term relationships. I mean, yes, it's certainly possible to have them through some combo of mutual effort, luck and a temperament that leans to finding joy in the mundane, but happiness is not a default baseline state. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/26 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Why do women on this sub seem to consider pregnancy to never be worth it.I have three kids with a great man and it is all ultimately worth it, I love my life. However, I can see how it could go wrong if the man is lacking or pregnancy/kids/family life are unusually difficult. Before kids I leaned anti-feminist, but after kids I'm more sympathetic to feminism and ambiguity toward motherhood. With each child, I also became less sentimental about children. One more kid and I'd downright become a feminist and an antinatalist, lol! But, don't worry, I'm done at 3. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/26 07:32 PM |
| 14 | A tangible example of the letting him leadFunny, my husband and I have the exact same dynamic when we travel. It feels very natural and easy for me because I don't really want to go anywhere or to plan trips, while he does. I'm not super invested in the trips, so when it works well I'm extra happy and if not doesn't, it's on his side of the street. I'll be honest, it's very easy to follow him when it comes to things I don't fully understand or want to do. In our relationship, that includes travel and anything technical or house related.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/26 11:58 PM |
| 25 | What are your thoughts on Pearl Devis?I haven't followed her since she was banned from IG, but she struck me as a deeply unfeminine and dominant woman. She unironically would shine as a corporate boss babe, or a trauma nurse or an atheltic director or something. Or even a soccer mom sahm who's head of every PTA, booster club and fundraising committee in town. She was born to lead and shout. Too bad she wasting her potential on merely arguing with weirdos online. Edit: I wouldn't be surprised if she were gay ( like a Camille Paglia, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/26 03:47 PM |
| 5 | A feminine girlie feeling isolatedIn addition to u/chamomilescloud's excellent comments , I'm going to recommend reading this classic rpw post on dominance level in relationships. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/XIqh70xDkw I'm not sure how much experience you have with men, but the article notes that very dominant man can be a bad long-term match for soft feminine women. I think a lot of women actually want a low-medium dominant men, and too much dominance feels scary, controlling and harsh, especially to soft women (tho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/26 04:05 PM |
| 5 | RPW maintenance - how do you keep the knowledge fresh?Not surprised! Have you seen the r/menopause sub? Everyone there hates their husbands, their children, their lives! Oof. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/26 01:04 PM |
| 8 | RPW maintenance - how do you keep the knowledge fresh?My husband and I are very well suited to each other, we have an unusually happy marriage, and I'm attuned to his preferences and quirks. Some typical red pill strategies are on autopilot for me...strategic stfu, bringing him my problem, borrowing his brain, sex, peace, agreeableness, etc. But I'll be honest, I'm not quite the red pill eager beaver that I was when we met 15 years ago. I've sometimes felt that that my husband was taking advantage of my soft nature...and he's a good man who cares a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/26 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Musings on happiness14 years married this year and I'm content...and happy? Like, there's an underlying happiness that my husband and family are the best choices I could have made. There's plenty of frustration and all the usual that comes with kids and everyday life and on a daily level I'm content...but beneath that I'm happy. Not dizzy sparkling happy, but a deeply satisfied kind of happy. I actually do think that my happy contentment is very different than contentment I would have felt had stayed with the guy I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 08:50 PM |
| 5 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)Yeah, broadly speaking, I think that's right. Every random romance novel I've ever picked up has a virgin female main character and a highly experienced man. OP notes that male desire for purity/morality is a revelation, and it is when explicitly stated like in the OP, but I also think that women are often subconsciously aware of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/26 10:59 PM |
| 4 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)Well, I agree that women like dominance...but I think that traits that lend themselves to dominance can cross over to badness easily enough (assertiveness, confidence, aggression, risk-taking, physicality, etc.). And some women just find bad men arousing. 🤷 And by bad I mean classic bad boys. Either way, as the OP argues, I think both good and bad men want women who are morally better than they are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/26 03:23 AM |
| 1 | How do I go about letting men know that I have certain financial standards when it comes to dating someone seriously without seeming like a gold digger or hurting feelings?You can estimate how much a guy makes just by knowing what he does for work, can't you? Why ask specifically about salary? (Which will be highly off-putting.) E.g. he tells you he's an accountant/cop/nurse/electrician, etc. You can easily gauge approx how much he makes at his level in your area. You just need to find the guys who have solid jobs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/26 09:28 PM |
| 11 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)You could write an equally infuriating companion piece for men called Women Want Us to be Worse Than Them! 😁 Worse isn't quite the correct word, it's more like "experienced" or "competent." But the idea is that the sexes find the opposite attractive in one another, and women tend to find life experience, sexual experience, and, yes, "badness" attractive in men. Men like some semblance of moral purity, women like the idea of inspiring goodness in a man who was once bad. Women see men's desire for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/26 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Almost 11 months postpartum with second baby and really strugglingHave you considered hiring a night nanny, if only for a week or so, or a few days each week? Don't make a big deal out of it, just say you've looked into it and think it'll work great. Having a stranger in the house caring for his wife and child might encourage him to help out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/26 12:28 PM |
| 4 | Should guys pay first date or should the bill be split?When I was dating, I was uneasy about a man paying. It left me with a sense of debt. I think spending money is always a covert contract, and some kind of repayment is expected. This doesn't mean sex (although I've seen enough guys online calculating minimum required $$ per notch...), but could mean gratitude, submission, the promise of more dates. Of course if you like a guy and are happy to offer gratitude, submission, dates...great! Enjoy his generosity. But if you're unsure about him, be caut… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 10:11 PM |
| 5 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?My question was specifically about how a man’s character is viewed when he involves his family in a voluntary process. I’m interested in thoughts on that specific dynamic rather than a debate on different cultures. It's impossible to answer this question without considering culture, isn't it? From my perspective (US Midwest middle class, secular-ish), a man actively involving his family to find a wife is likely an immigrant from an arranged marriage culture and comes with a boatload of cultural … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 01:57 PM |
| 4 | Q4women why do women enjoy gale male romance so much?the only time I ever heard of this was some apparent fanfic disseminated at star trek conventions or something? shipping the male characters I first encountered m/m fan fic in Vampire Chronicles forums on usenet going back to at least '94. Most of the fan fic was M/M and there was a lot of it. Some of the younger writers (all weirdo women, obv) were really into anime and androgynous men. I remember reading offshoot fan fic about members of bands like Placebo, The Cure, etc. lol! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/26 08:55 PM |
| 6 | What Phases Do Men Over 40 Go Through?There are some universal phases, of course, but it also depends on where a man is in life. The 43M here who says he's now open to commitment is a different type of man than one who got married at 30 and is now knee-deep in family life. Pretty much all the men I know are married fathers in their 40s. Generally their lives revolve around family life and once the kids are in first grade or so-- youth sports (coaching, driving the kids, working to pay for it all, lol). When they're not working, they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/26 02:28 PM |
| 12 | what do men want or find valuable in a woman?Yes and I'm floored by how casually $250k is dropped as a reasonable salary for a "HVM"! I'm admittedly middling middle class in a flyover state, but $250k is a fantastical salary here, like that's something an experienced lawyer or a family doc would earn. It's strange to expect the typical 19 year old girl to end up with a man like this in the near future. OP doesn't mention her social class or culture, but, for example in my culture (3rd tier white bread Midwest, lol) a "HVM" could be a firef… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/26 02:18 PM |
| 4 | Wait for a better environment to date, or try it out here?Maybe you're a late bloomer? 19 is very young, some women just aren't into men until they're a little older, maybe early or even mid-20s. Late bloomers tend to have a low(er) libido, fear men, and have never experienced boy craziness in their teens. I think that quiet, studious, or very soft women fall into this group. It doesn't mean that the guys at your school are unattractive, maybe you're just not ready to be attracted. In the meantime, you could still put yourself out there as time allows … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/26 01:11 AM |
| 4 | The profile of women wealthy men are dating are marrying?Basically I was pointing out the differences of what people say on the internet that a successful man wants and what they’re actually going for. Don't take advice on jobs/careers from red pill men online. I've been reading RP for 18 years now, and RP men's career/social class takes are consistently off base. If there's a specific group of men you like (let's say middle class professionals), look at the kind of women they're seriously dating and marrying. Or ask the women who're married to these … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/26 05:15 PM |
| 9 | Worried I will come off as career driven or too educated when I’m not. Should I avoid a masters try to change into a helping career?(for context, this is from the perspective of a middle class Midwestern millennial) Unless your job doesn't leave any time for meeting men or dating, I think you should keep doing what you're doing, save as much money as possible, and network like crazy. The money will provide a nice cushion for the many expenses of family life (in trad terms, it's your dowry) and the connections made now could help you finagle a part-time or remote role, or return on your terms when you're ready. I get a sense … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/26 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Can you keep a marriage happy forever with the same set of strategies that worked at the start? What destroys once-happy relationships?This is a really excellent answer into the underlying dynamics of successful marriages, and shows why well-meaning marriage advice like "communicate a lot!" and "be kind" feels, to me, so flimsy and unsatisfying. Relationship graveyards are filled with couples who communicated! When you're married, the man can't take a break from the burden of performance, and the woman can't take a break from respect and admiration. Not a long break, at least. I'll add that I think luck does play a part in succ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 06:53 PM |
| 9 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’What is the correct response to this question? Should a woman list things out?🤣 It's either an awkward, socially nerdy question or (as I think in this case), a near neg. Either way, I think the answer should be lighthearted, playful, funny, flirty. This is the time for childlike femininity men that love so much! ✨ You bring your award-winning homemade pickles to the table. Or your tater tot casserole! Or your great-grandma Olga's super secret borsch recipe. Your collection of non-toxic kitchen c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 02:33 AM |
| 4 | Man I’m talking to says he picks personality over looks for me.Yeah, true, maybe he's just saying stuff and doesn't care either way. If anything, this is a good TRP case study for men. Saying something offbeat makes you memorable to women, and "bad" memorable is still better than bland. This guy inadvertently got OP's hamster spinning. He got a lot of our hamsters spinning! Lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/25 02:42 PM |
| 9 | Man I’m talking to says he picks personality over looks for me.I think that if you liked this guy before and want to proceed further, you should just forget this highly cringe conversation ever happened and never ever refer to it again. But if you want to analyze, when he asked for a critique of his looks, was he flirty or serious? Flirting/playing is the only socially acceptable reason for his risky initial question, and either way, the way to answer it is to be playful. Compare him to a hot celebrity, send him a gif of Adam Driver in that perfume ad, etc.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/25 08:35 PM |
| -4 | I miss pre Me too interactions with menbut for traversing stoner conversations, men are awesome. Ok, I have to ask, were you all stoned during these interactions? No judgement, but I think that intoxicants consumed in a social setting help men A LOT with mixed gender socializing. They help women loosen up too, but men are expected to approach and need more courage. I'm more tempted to blame men's issues approaching on a general decline in socializing (in favor of phones, streaming, gaming, cocooning at home) than #metoo. I'm sure #me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/25 01:31 AM |
| 13 | How can I change my life when I’m that physically unattractive? I’ve never ever been asked out on a date and my phone is dry.So, as a meh looking woman who is happily married... Imo, getting asked out isn't really a thing and hasn't been for decades. I keep reading that Gen Z men are afraid to approach women, but I'm an old millennial and even 20+years ago, getting formally asked out was just not common, especially by a stranger . The way people got together by hanging with a mixed sex friend group in school/college/post-college. The only time I was proactively approached by men was during my brief bar/club going phas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/25 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Discussion: Male Led RelationshipsI think some character traits might make us more in need of a higher level of dominance, to be honest. If you want a dominant man, and already have a monster of a backbone :), then you're going to need a pretty friggin' dominant man. Yep, this is one of the concepts discussed in this key rpw post about dominance levels in relationships...that dominant woman can do very well with dominant men. The submissive woman/dominant man couples are not terribly common or necessarily functional. https://www… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/25 03:03 PM |
| 28 | I can’t keep up with his libidosuspect I might be demisexual or something because sex more than 5 times per week with everything else going on in life sounds like another part time job to me. Demisexual...so, like... a normal woman! I agree with a lot of the practical advice you got here, and I don't think your sex drive is abnormal. It'd be weird in a new relationship or if you were living apart, but not after some years together. But also... I think that a successful marriage requires some level of erotic sacrifice for wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/25 06:03 PM |
| 6 | What would be your thoughts on someone co parenting a dog?Yeah, I think people are really underestimating how attached some men can get to their dogs. A man's best friend and all that. I can actually imagine a scenario where the guy truly wants to see his dog, but doesn't care for the ex. That said, OP should try to sus out of either the guy or the ex are using the dog to cozy up to each other. If not, the question OP should ask herself is how much she likes dogs...because a guy willing to share a dog with an ex is a dog person and will always accommod… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/25 01:49 AM |
| 5 | Receiving gracefullyMy husband and I have this thing we call the guilt point tracker where we joke about earning points for doing more than the other person. Like, "oh, I' will take all three kids to the dentist, 1,000 guilt points for me, haha!" The guilt points are essentially moral leverage in the relationship-- I did this chore, I can use that to my advantage! 😎 Obviously the tracker is a very long running inside joke, we don't actually track each other's contributions! But .. I think there's an instinctive sen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 12:56 AM |
| 28 | MarriageIn my own marriage, I saw that taking the step of getting married unlocked a level of protectiveness in my husband that wasn't there before. Like, when we got married he stopped giving me rides on his motorcycle. The risk was too big for a wife (but ok for a girlfriend, lol). On our honeymoon, after a few sketchy situations in Asia and a turbulent flight, he had something like a panic attack at the thought of not being able to protect me if needed because we were married now. His exact words! He… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/25 01:54 AM |
| 4 | At what age do most men “hit the wall”?The time for building and molding themselves into the people they want to be is mostly going to be done in their 20s. The bulk of their youthful shenanigans and indiscretions, puppy love and playful exuberance, is going to happen in their 20s. If they miss the bandwagon, they miss it. It’s the same with women. There’s few exceptions. Great point. The red pill understands the worth of youth in women but undervalues youth in men. " You can always have a baby" is the lie the blue pill tells women, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/25 01:57 PM |
| 11 | BeautyOf course beauty is important, but... I dunno, where do you live? Is it a megapolis next door to a modeling agency? Is it online? I'm being snarky, but I live in a Midwestern suburb and see a ton of very average looking women with husbands, families, normal lives. A local city hall used to post photos of couples who got married there and it was mostly homely Midwestern women with shlubby Midwestern men. Where is is that only great beauties find love and commitment? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/25 03:07 AM |
| 1 | my (25f) bf (30m) lied about his sexual history multiple times and i don’t know if iThe way you explain the questioning is much more organic and conversational, so it makes more sense than straight up asking. I agree with Count the Bees advice about proceeding. I do think that most men would hesitate to reveal their whole sexual past when it's perceived as low SMV ( paying for sex), especially if their partner's history is more socially acceptable and speaks to a higher SMV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 08:28 PM |
| 1 | my (25f) bf (30m) lied about his sexual history multiple times and i don’t know if ii asked him how many girls has he slept with before brought up the topic of his past a few times, mostly out of genuine curiosity. I don't know if you can stay with this guy now that he's revealed a major ick and I share your disgust (partly because he's never had a non-paid gf at 30?)...but what was the reason you asked him in the first place? When you start digging into someone's past you risk getting answers you don't want and don't know what to do with. Or, in the case of sexual past, lies, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 04:49 PM |
| 7 | Thoroughbred and Clydesdale Horses don't clean stalls. I never ask my husband to do any chores, cleaning, handyman, or household work.There's a whole series that ran here last year about "dark femininity"--using feminine wiles and soft manipulation for good. Tell us how you do it! Field report, case study, specific things you've done in your marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/25 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Thoroughbred and Clydesdale Horses don't clean stalls. I never ask my husband to do any chores, cleaning, handyman, or household work.That's the one, thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/25 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Thoroughbred and Clydesdale Horses don't clean stalls. I never ask my husband to do any chores, cleaning, handyman, or household work.You know, I remember seeing some intro post that said the one thing women on RPW had in common was wanting a male-led relationship. But I can't find this article now, so maybe I'm misremembering or it's no longer the case (mods, help!). In any case, I think most women here do want a male-led relationship, but, of course, not all women do. It depends on what you value in a man and in life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/25 03:41 PM |
| 8 | Thoroughbred and Clydesdale Horses don't clean stalls. I never ask my husband to do any chores, cleaning, handyman, or household work.I think you'd get less pushback if you write a field report or offered concrete advice based on your personal experience. What did you do to "get him" to do whatever and how does that fit into RPW's framework of male-led relationship? This old post from the wiki covers the same ground, I'd be interested in your take on it: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/0I7RpV0uay | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/25 02:39 PM |
| 10 | Thoroughbred and Clydesdale Horses don't clean stalls. I never ask my husband to do any chores, cleaning, handyman, or household work.Give me any broke guy and I could turn him around. Can you share some practical advice for how you'd go about this? Like, what kind of stuff do you do or say, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/25 01:27 PM |
| 3 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedI'd stay because I'm lazy. 😎 The legal and practical logistics of separating are just insane, how do people with kids do it. Someone is saying she wouldn't want to see her kids half the time. I don't want to care for all three of them by myself half the time, or at any time. The homework, the sports, the activities, the emotional issues, etc. No, no. So much easier with a father in the house. Unless the kids or I were in danger due to his behavior, I'd stay the course. I'd probably check out fro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 01:35 PM |
| 17 | I’m A Real Life Beth MarchI've seen lots of posts like yours over the years. I don't know if you've spent a lot of time reading men's red pill content, but women who have tend to lean into RMV qualities and forget or fear SMV. It may different for religious men or those from traditional cultures, but mainstream western men want a fun, sexy girlfriend with some domestic/maternal qualities, rather than a domestic/maternal women with no sexy qualities. They'll care about the homemaking and thriftiness after the fun, not bef… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Are pets a dealbreaker if you're not a pet personMy issue with the dog was her hostility rather than too much enthusiasm and I'd say she came around six months in. My husband and I moved in together after 9 months, and at that point I was good with the dog. I did like walking her and her affection. That said, I've definitely experienced annoyances and pain points later on, and I guess I can live with them. Fitting dog chores among kids/household, expenses that go along with dog ownership, etc. The dog is currently old and incontinent and I hel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Are pets a dealbreaker if you're not a pet person"Hey, I think it's cool that you love the dog and take great care of it. I guess I've never really thought of myself as a dog person and I feel pretty stressed out and uncomfortable when the dog is all over me, I really don't enjoy it. Can you help me figure out a way to get some space when I'm here? I'd be happy to help with training or whatever you suggest, but I need to borrow your brain here!" Modify as needed. I've had lots of similar conversations with my husband early on, and to his credi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/25 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Are pets a dealbreaker if you're not a pet personhey i get stressed having your dog on me and nestled next to me all the time, please have him off me as much as possible while I'm here? I wouldn't say it like that, there's a more diplomatic and vulnerable way, but I second saying something because dog ownership will extend into other areas of your life if you stay together. Finance (dog training, vet bills, medicine, dog boarding), division of labor (you will be caring for the dogs when you live together), dog safety if you have children, pet … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/25 09:31 PM |
| 3 | “Women live their life on easy mode”You're right and deserve your star, nicely articulated. Internet men are eager to get a slice of the victim pie that women have been enjoying and using feminist gotchas for support. (Which would be fine for Internet banter, but they seem to earnestly argue from a feminist viewpoint). And then there are women who support this "but men are victims too!!" and I think they have good intentions but inadvertently encourage weakness and pity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/25 03:50 PM |
| 20 | Should you give wifey treatment to a boyfriend? I mean you have to show him you’re wifey material before he puts a ring on it first right?I think the responses are going to vary by generation: GenX and older millennials will say that you get to wife status by doing wife stuff before you're married, and the younger participants will say no way!!!. I'd argue this is part of the general cultural shift toward traditionalism (a variation of it for the times, not some real-deal Tradition). Someone on PPD remarked that young women are rediscovering what women knew in the past -- that a boyfriend is just some guy, here today, maybe gone t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/25 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realizedI know in OLD many women aren’t fans of sober dating Haha, a drinking problem isn't an issue, but sober dating is! Anyway, I get it, I'm also in a heavy drinking part of the Midwest. I'm an extremely moderate drinker and a quality woman 😇 (well, okay, better quality at least than the women he's been meeting)...and in my OLD days I honestly would have rejected him based on ethnicity, which I'd assume (maybe wrongly) comes with a ton of cultural baggage, and a past drinking problem. His job wouldn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 07:21 PM |
| 5 | Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realizedI think Vaz found the elephant in the room as to why this guy could still be single. I'm curious about the immigrant thing--did he grow up here and is completely assimilated or does he come off at all as foreign? (Accent, religion, any non-western liberal views, cultural stuff, etc). I'm also curious about the sober thing -- is he a lifelong teetotaler or did he used to drink but eventually chose sobriety? This doesn't explain women's behavior on apps, which appears to be kind of universal, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 06:23 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on manosphere?I think the red pill is a social reaction against the pedestalization of women as paragons of moral and sexual virtue. It's an understanding that women's sexual nature can be dark and debased. There's a very red pilled poem by Jonathan Swift where he calls women "Such gaudy tulips raised from dung." It's like that. I learned a lot from the early manosphere-- Roissy, Roosh and Rollo Tomassi. Their stuff reflected what I observed IRL about gender dynamics. I think these guys gave men good advice t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 04:37 AM |
| 12 | Took the red pill years ago and reinvented myself to be a feminine, submissive woman but now I’m 30 and STILL single. Please help me.Aaaargh, there it is! I'm so sorry. You overdosed on Internet red pill and dating advice from red pill men...which, while not always wrong, is often incomplete. When women come here saying they did everything the red pill tells them to do but it's not working, generally: 1) There's some big issue they're not revealing that stops them from successful dating. I don't know if you have this issue, there's not enough info. Or 2) They took male advice to heart and made themselves very boring and forge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 02:51 PM |
| 16 | [Discussion] the reality of the wallI'm 42, married 12, years and feel kind of indifferent to the wall...because I was never pretty. Like, what's to lose? I had very little attention from men when I was young. My husband, thank God, seems to like me as is. We still have sex! Also, I feel like I haven't really declined that much. My tween daughter saw a picture of me at 25 and flatly said, "you look exactly the same." She didn't mean it as a compliment (tweens rarely do!). It was more like, meh then, meh now. I'll take it! I do fee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 05:16 PM |
| 6 | How do you feel comfortable being intimate and getting naked with men when you are over 30? Or when you are post-wall?I've been on the Internet since the mid/late 90s as a teenager and this anxiety about getting old, the wall, etc. is something new for young women. No one was posting about aging on teen girl forums back in my day! No one knew what "neoteny" meant besides scientists and SAT word nerds. Total symptom of the red pill going mainstream. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 09:03 PM |
| 12 | Is this okay?Here's what I would tell my daughter: don't do stuff with a guy without knowing how and why. Don't drift into bed just because he asked and you didn't know how to say no. If you have a tendency to freeze in unwanted sexual situations (like MANY, MANY...MOST young women), work on your assertiveness and dgaf attitude. Maybe avoid dating until you have a better sense of self and what you want. For some women, especially "nice," submissive women, that doesn't happen until the early 20s. The man you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 04:15 PM |
| 2 | How did your mother shape the red pill woman you are today?We text daily and I see her every week, but we don't hang out much and I don't enjoy myself in her company. She tends to be negative and critical of...a lot...including me. We were close when I was a child, she was thrilled to have a daughter. But I think I disappointed her because I ended up being more like my dad, personality-wise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/24 06:13 PM |
| 9 | How did your mother shape the red pill woman you are today?how their mother shaped who they are today as a red pill woman. She didn't at all...it feels like she really couldn't have, we have such different personalities and we dated in such two different environments: she in 1970s USSR and me in post-9/11 U.S. My mom is pretty, emotionally volatile, and argumentative. I think she has some form of undiagnosed bpd or manic depression. I'm plain, shy, and emotionally steady. She married for practical reasons and has been unhappily married to my dad for 40-… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/24 03:17 AM |
| 3 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observationFirst, I think your OP is really interesting and is obviously inspiring a good discussion. My response is a "yes, and..." Ok, maybe a "yes, BUT..."😁 a false sense of control and I think that could backfire for them. So I think this behavior could backfire by: -Above all, making the woman look dumb and annoying in the fsm. Sure, Jan, your husband doesn't notice hot women. 🙄 -It could set the woman up for disappointment when her man does show obvious interest in other women, which you allude to -O… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/24 03:30 AM |
| 2 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observationI agree with the ECs about the whys. I''m curious, though, if you think that this type of bragging is harmful to relationships. What damage does it do? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 07:34 PM |
| 17 | When men marryInteresting! My husband was 36 when we met, never married. He'd had 4 LTRs: two that he never really expected to get serious (between ages 19-24, college) and two that were serious but ended due to compatibility/life goals (ages 26-34). With me, we went from first date to wedding day within 19 months and he escalated all stages of commitment. We didn't have the timeline talk, we didn't have the "what are we talk." I think once he hit the late 20s, he would have readily married, but the relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/24 04:38 AM |
| – | I’m A Submissive WomanOk, I, for one, think there's something to your observation. You're noting the dark side of submission. A woman who is by nature submissive will go along with a lot of stuff, partly because she easily bends to the appearance of authority, partly out of passivity, plus the desire to please, even to her own detriment. I don't think women always rack up n counts because they're dripping with desire for Chad McChad.Just as often, they drift into bed without even wanting to because male persistence p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/24 07:15 PM |
| 11 | Back to Basics September: Anatomy Of A Darn Good Personal AdI think a lot of men are pretty okay with a transactional relationship as long as they feel they're getting value in return (in a way that matters to them). The problem is not transaction , it's a woman not holding up her end of the deal in the transaction. This woman is promising to give men what they generally say they want, so the ad is not necessarily a turnoff. RIP this woman's inbox in 2014! Also, it's just a fun punchy ad. It gets your attention and makes you think, "Is this chick for rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/24 03:47 PM |
| 2 | New relationship and insecure about my 'boring' personalityThere's some good advice on making conversation here: herehttps://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/S8o6A5k0zv | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 09:25 PM |
| 5 | I've gotten Girl Game all wrong. (Reflecting on my Observations)Here you go! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/41pHLLG9ET | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/24 02:12 AM |
| 39 | I've gotten Girl Game all wrong. (Reflecting on my Observations)There are a lot of trad leaning men in the red pill who highly encourage modest wifely qualities. They're not wrong, but they're giving very incomplete advice. If you're a shy, modest, low/average SMV woman who doesn't flirt, go out, socialize or dress sexy , you will get nothing from men. Zilch, zero, nada! Certainly if you're dating in secular circles, though you say it's not so different in your religious SMP either. The whore/virgin spectrum article that was just reposted his week is super i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/24 06:46 PM |
| 2 | What does your partner think of RPW, submission, and male-led relationships?Interesting how many women consider their relationship to be male-led while the man considers it egalitarian! I think it's the same in my marriage. My husband said that I put on a good show as a submissive wife, but I have a strong will. I think I'm a pushover! Some reasons I'm coming up with for this: -Lots of men, even "trad" men, are reluctant to consider themselves dominant thanks to cultural conditioning. -A lot of women here are with greater betas, who are in fact less dominant and more ag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Finding the RPW Woman: What My Harley Rides Taught Me About RelationshipsYes...and the first one Brought Down a Hero 😀 | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Finding the RPW Woman: What My Harley Rides Taught Me About RelationshipsYep, I think this is exactly right. My husband's buddy only dates women who're really into motorcycles. I think all his gfs raced. Another buddy is a rock climber, he only dates other serious climbers. Sharing a masculine hobby is a great thing, outperforming a man is where it gets tricky. I'm sure there's a lot of nuance here, some guys might not mind a bit of competition. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 02:57 AM |
| 0 | Finding the RPW Woman: What My Harley Rides Taught Me About RelationshipsMay I take a guess? The second one was a little too into an inherently masculine hobby. She knew too much...she held on too loosely...she played hot and cold...like a man. One of my husband's buddies races motorcycles, and so does his girlfriend. When she was selected for a women's racing team, this guy complained that his balls shrank! And this is a very liberal, progressive guy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 01:28 AM |
| 9 | Finding the RPW Woman: What My Harley Rides Taught Me About RelationshipsThis is a good addition to "what do you bring to the table" (https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/IDiNtYiIs0). And in this case, I'd say what the last woman brought to the table was 1) fitting into OP's lifestyle and 2) honoring his need for escape (the motorcycle). I'd argue that escape is difficult for women to honor...more than security and status...because it takes men away from us! Sex is probably the easiest way for a woman to honor escape. Activity that involves physical danger, risk-t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 01:24 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Charming Other MenI have enough charisma that I meet people in real life all the time. And I would argue, the men I connect with in passing are usually a much better fit. Even if the connection doesn't lead to a relationship, the dating process with them is way more pleasant. There is something to be said about learning how to be charming. You almost get to skip to the front of the compatibility line with men. This is a really important insight! This is how women can avoid the hell of OLD--skipping to the front o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 06:07 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: Charming Other MenDo you think I should address anything else if I do a separate post? I get so long winded. Haha We'll, I really liked reading your entire field report, but I'd suggest reorganizing a bit to add or emphasize practical tips for being charming. I'm not naturally charming or flirty at all, it's an acquired skill that I need to keep honing. I'm fascinated by people who do this stuff innately. Tell us your secrets!! Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 03:18 AM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: Charming Other MenThis is a fantastic field report, you should do a separate post! The guy leaves thinking we had a good connection. I leave and pass out from expending so much energy. It does unfortunately throw the man for a loop when I don't want to go on a second date. You know, this comes up on dating forums from men. It's a regular question on r/seduction, haha. Of course there's a lot of reasons why a woman wouldn't want a second date, but doing all the work like she's the MC instead of a woman being seduc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 01:44 AM |
| 8 | Back to Basics September: Charming Other MenI love this post! First, admittedly, because it's delightfully contrarian. Some men like to see their woman admired by other men. Second, it's an endorsement of coquetry, playful feminine flirting and charm, an undervalued tool in girl game. Finally, this is all useful advice for single women as well. I also like the top comment in the original discussion. It talks about making your man look good to his peer group because he has an awesome/fun wife or gf. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 03:16 PM |
| 11 | Back to Basics September: Charming Other MenI used to be on a party planning team at work. One of the women on the team was exceptionally pretty, like model/actress pretty, which is unusual in my second-tier midwest city. She was rather sharp and snarky, but during staff events, in front of groups, she was sweet as pie, especially to men. I remember watching her serve breakfast to one particularly dorky guy--she was smiling, almost flirting with him, and he was just beaming! He looked like a kid at Disney World. Be attractive, but be attr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 01:56 PM |
| 8 | In What Ways Did Your Relationship Prepare You for Motherhood?When I met my husband he had a dog that I helped him train. I had never been around dogs, wasn't comfortable with dogs, and when I'd give it commands they came off very unassertive, very quiet, like, "Sit. Please? Lay down...maybe...pretty please?" Because that's me. And the dog would just sort of stare and not do a thing. My husband encouraged me to give commands in an assertive tone, use my playground voice, and to also give enthusiastic praise when the dog did something right. Until then, I b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/24 02:08 AM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: A Good Relationship Is Built In The BedroomThis post is a "Yes, and..." for me. Me too! I'm going to "yes, and..." your excellent response! It's good to say yes to sex unless it's a no - a different mindset than a defaulf no. A no can still happen. It's better to have no sex than bad duty sex that leaves you with the ick I'm going to focus on women who're married with young(ish) kids. I always say that sometimes (like during peak childcare years), you may need to have mediocre sex until you can get to the stage where you have time for go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 11:13 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] RPW: a balance between traditional and modernityWhat is something about your life/relationship that would horrify the TradCon way of thinking? My life is very normie and wouldn't horrify anyone, but I suppose I'm pretty laissez faire about virginity, n counts, and waiting to have sex. Whenever a young girl here asks if she should stay a virgin until marriage, I always think no. You'll miss out on a ton of perfectly good men if you do this (unless of course dating in an explicitly religious or traditional SMP). Im an old millennial and agree w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 06:33 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?I really like this answer, it captures the intangible nature of what one brings to the table. I'll try to put some structure around some of the elusive qualities women can offer: -A dominance level suited for the man in question. There's a whole post on this topic, excellent stuff: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/xY21MAgdNf -She fits into the man's lifestyle with minimum disturbance. For example, my husband has a buddy who's a rock climber. The guy moved across the country to an area wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/24 01:02 AM |
| 4 | Should I (21F) continue my relationship with my “almost perfect” boyfriend (23M)?Oooh boy! You are plunging a knife and twisting it! You are doubting your man's ability to assure the reproductive success of your future offspring! 💀💀💀 I don't think you're insane for considering this issue. We all subconsciously consider reproductive potential during the sexual attraction and vetting stages, it's just extremely uncouth to put it into words. Speaking of which, are you not worried about potentially passing down whatever mental health issues you might have? You are letting yourse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 06:01 PM |
| 9 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?Oh, yeah, absolutely! I feel so lucky to be with him. Sometimes I look at him and admire how handsome he is, and feel a pang because I don't think I measure up. (Although my FIL says my husband and I look like brother and sister--haha, thanks, FIL!) My husband is not the Chad of every woman's dreams...but he's the Chad of my dreams. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 03:27 AM |
| 15 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?If you've been the one to primarily pursue a partner, what motivated you? It wasn't that I wanted to pursue, but I did want a man who I could go all in with--emotionally, sexually, you name it. I wanted to give my all. I wanted to make a man happy. I had been in two relationships where I was holding back because there was something wrong, or some dead end, and I wasn't interested in doing that again. I didn't want to place a limit on how much I would give a man. That wasn't satisfying for me. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 02:31 AM |
| 7 | Thoughts on wanting to be taken care of by a man?Especially when he doesn’t make the decision you think he should!! lol I agree, and I also think that all male leaders will occasionally make bad calls, have lapses in leadership, act selfishly, make decisions that complicate life. If you're looking at 40-50 years of marriage over a lifetime, it's bound to happen. The difficult part for women is navigating these rocky times diplomatically without emasculating the leader. Sometimes that means sucking it up until the storm passes. Being led isn't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/24 04:59 PM |
| 9 | Thoughts on wanting to be taken care of by a man?I think there are a couple of different ideas here: Economic 50/50: Not unreasonable to want a man to earn most of the money Relationship emotional labor/mental load: Should feel like 100/100, but in different arenas for both. If the man is the main provider, the woman generally takes on the other stuff (kids, housekeeping, the secretarial tasks that come with family life)--unless the other stuff can be outsourced to family or paid help. Leadership: I actually think that a lot of women who say t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/24 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Question For Women, Which Of These Men Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With?Adam | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 08:58 PM |
| 4 | What advice would you give to a 21 year old girl in my situation?She's had successful women competing with each other to hold her attention. Please share your wife's secrets, lol! I'm curious about how the listener persona fits into the fsm--does your wife have a female friend group or a few close girlfriends? Does she talk about her experiences in all-female company (where men aren't around at all)? Is she satisfied with her place in the fsm and her social interactions? Is she an introvert or extrovert? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 02:58 PM |
| 6 | What advice would you give to a 21 year old girl in my situation?I'm a woman kind of like OP and I've had mixed results with this advice. If you're talking to a man who's into you, then yeah, being interested is good. But he has to be into you! And also: men like being entertained and amused, too. The most desirable men can flip the tables and have the woman do the clown game. This doesn't mean talking about herself, but flirting, bantering, teasing, being cute and goofy, etc. I suspect that's where OP struggles. If a man isn't into you, then just listening a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/24 09:19 PM |
| 6 | What advice would you give to a 21 year old girl in my situation?I was very similar to you at this age! I highly recommend reading this excellent comment from u/sunshinesundress on learning to overcome shyness, developing charm, and talking to men. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/ParC1j5SwC Any extra practice you can get in settings like Toastmasters, improv classes, etc. will help. For naturally shy and quiet people, talking is a skill you'll need to keep practicing daily, much like going to the gym or minding your diet. Two things also stand out: He… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/24 01:50 PM |
| 1 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.Well, you sound like an embodiment of an RPW ideal, so no wonder you found a great guy! Seriously, I'm glad you guys are happy. Your bf sounds uniquely suited to your personality and character. For example, I think your last bullet might be a deal breaker for a good number of women even if a man met every other qualification from your original post. Maybe that's what your OP was missing for some of us--that intangible quality that makes you love a man. Sometimes you just click with someone, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 02:13 AM |
| 1 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.Thanks for replying! Following up on ArkNemesis's comments, I'd love to read a post on what you did to find/attract a guy like this for marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/24 06:44 PM |
| 2 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.he has traits that are subjectively “icky” to a lot of women that I was willing to overlook Not to be crude, but I think this is an important point for women during vetting: how much value do you put on sexual attraction and desire? Is your bf desirable to you because of the traits you listed in your OP, or is desire less important to you overall than the traits you listed? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/24 03:48 PM |
| 2 | Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition?Fair enough! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/24 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition?My male friend for example, his ex was fine with him working as much as he did (at least according to him), then suddenly she wasn't anymore after spending time with her best friend. I can only speculate as to what they talked about. In this case, I'm almost certain his ex wasn't fine with it--it was either an annoyance she kept in the back of her head, or it was an actual problem, and she didn't know how to bring it up or was waiting for your friend to proactively identify and solve it ("Sorry … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/24 11:02 PM |
| 5 | Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition?Something I've noticed with female friendships. You're in a relationship. You're content. Everything's going well. Then you get together with female friend(s) and share things about said relationship. In come unsolicited advice about why you should be upset about what you were never upset about, even when you reiterate that it doesn't bother you. Out of curiosity, what do you share and how? Do you steer a conversation a certain way or just make passing comments in response to the friend leading … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/24 06:39 PM |
| 4 | Postpartum woesHe wanted a happy wife, not a clean house. Instead, I should have made sure I wasn't doing more than I could handle Thanks for this post! Can you talk about what you specifically stopped doing or cut down on, as far as routine housekeeping, chores, errands, etc.? Edit: I read this post multiple times---points 4-7 are excellent--and while there's nothing to argue with, I will try. 😀 I guess I can't quite put a finger on how to go about 1-3. Give up stuff that doesn't matter, sure. But how do you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/24 02:29 PM |
| 8 | Has your husband always made sure you are / will be okay (financially) even before marriage, and after marriage? Basically taken care of you and truly cared about youbut I don't want to "have to" work if I'm with a man you know? :/ In this arrangement, you'll have to work to keep his love and attention. This might mean staying attractive, fit, making his life easy and pleasant at home, raising his status by managing his social life, etc. I think you could come closest to finding what you want by marrying a very agreeable man who's crazy about you. That's not to say that is what you should do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/24 04:13 PM |
| 2 | did I mess up by telling my boyfriend I think he values sex more than an actual relationship? if so how can I fix things?me (23) and my boyfriend (27) were discussing our boundaries and what we consider cheating or no I think this is an example of the pitfalls of these conversations. When people are halfway honest with themselves, they already know what the other gender's boundaries are. somehow the conversation too a turn of how would one act of the other becomes too sick to have sex What's the reason for these hypotheticals, it's asking questions you may not want to know the answer to, issues that may never even… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/24 02:11 AM |
| 3 | are my standards hurting my options?I found rpw in 2022 at 20 years old, I'm curious about your culture and social class. I can't decide if you're from a conservative leaning culture or if you're living an unusual, insular life for a young woman. If I had to guess, I'd wager that you took a bit too much red pill and you come off as modest, sheltered and restrained instead of fun and sexy. Also, why were you in a long-distance relationship with a man from a different country, how did you meet? There's no reason for a young woman at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/24 10:29 PM |
| 7 | ”Being the starter girlfriend”For u/Party-Dish3613, I'd want to know what she and her BF specifically want to accomplish. Is he still in school, is he just starting his career, is he earning way below market for his role/experience, is going for a certain role (manager, director, csuite)? What is the cost of living in their area and what kind of lifestyle do they want? Is he proactive or lazy? I'm also wondering about social class/cultural context. I'll say that for middle class, mainstream American women, being 100% financi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/24 08:23 PM |
| 17 | ”Being the starter girlfriend”Every woman I know with a husband who makes you say “Wow, she’s a so lucky!!” met him during the “building” phase. It’s nearly impossible to find a single, baggage free very desirable man because they all pretty much settle down in their “building” phase. Yeah, this is what I generally saw, as a amillennial woman in the Midwest. The whole "building phase" conversation is so strange to me, it must be a generational or cultural thing. Most middle class millennial women I know met their husbands in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/24 06:42 PM |
| 7 | I have no ambitionsMy question is, what should I do the next 2-5 years while I'm waiting? ...I can't work a physical job I have to work remote because he has to move a lot for his profession. First, is your partner a fiance or husband? Is this relationship on a serious track to marriage or LTR with kids? If not, you're moving around, doing random jobs and...waiting...for...2-5 years. Is a family definitely the end game for your guy? As far as ambition, I think u/wife_and_mama's suggestion to work with kids is a gr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/24 09:07 PM |
| 16 | Was excited about a date but not sure anymoreWe tried to get together over the weekend (he offered to cook for me at his apartment and watch a movie) While he is planning the activity he shares a link to a sexual chemistry talk for single and couples. I laughed it off I think he was sending feelers out for your sexual interest and you declined, either because you're not interested or want to hold back on sex for now. The following dates lacked chemistry, most likely because both of you were unable or unwilling to create it out of friendly … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/24 03:07 PM |
| 2 | My (28F) boyfriend (28M) isnt masculine enough for me. Give him time or break up?This excellent theory post about relationship dynamics and dominance levels might be helpful to you: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/gxAAy2WKDc | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Survey: how often do you have sex with your partner?I'm in a similar place, but I have to say that 1-3 times a week for us at this point is A LOT, lol (41 and 49, 3 kids, we both work full time, my husband's job is demanding and he doesn't feel like sex when he's under stress). I deal with it by being tired, lol. By the time the kids are sleeping and all evening tasks are done, I'm looking forward to bedtime. I think we both sometimes initiate when we're not feeling it because it's been a while, and it's time. And I initiate quite a bit, too, whe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/24 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Feminine Role Models in Media?But this I think is a different thing. Hollywood had been making morally grey characters more and more of a 'thing' in the last, eh lets say 20 years I've been enjoying this debate! 🍿 I agree with you on this point. Conservatives have been writing about Hollywood's infatuation with antiheros for a long time. I think the pop culture antihero goes back to at least cultural shifts of the 1960s, but most likely even way before that, to the beginnings of cultural atheism, humanism, etc. This is a pre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 02:29 PM |
| 1 | My brother doesn't like my boyfriend. What should I doI think you should ask for advice in a culture specific group. Trying the Laura Doyle stuff is fine but there might be nuances that westerners would miss because western culture doesn't value familial approval. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/24 12:55 PM |
| 18 | My brother doesn't like my boyfriend. What should I doWhat culture is this? Being offended by a refusal to drink together seems like there's a male honor culture, not mainstream America culture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 02:51 PM |
| 8 | Discussion - dead vs active bedroom - what really is the normIn a discussion with my husband, he suggested that we should not be examining the concept of 'dead bedrooms' as though it is the aberration. Instead, assume that every relationship moves into a space of less sex as a natural baseline. He's exactly right, give the man a star! I suggested something like that in my comment last week about why women don't have sex after marriage, but it wasn't very popular, ha! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/XaXv7G369f Of course it's possible to have a pass… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/24 06:02 PM |
| 8 | FashionI dressed the same way in my early 20s and got compliments and generally positive attention in the office. Out and about, I wouldn't say I got negative attention, but I did sometimes feel awkward. I remember being in a Walmart in a working class area, wearing my a-line skirt and heels, and felt like I was wearing a costume. No one said anything or looked at me (that I noticed), it was just psychological discomfort and it's unpleasant. I still see plenty of dresses and sundresses being worn, but,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/24 06:17 PM |
| 6 | Advice for conversational topicsA journalism professor I had talked about "Hey Martha" stories--wild news stories you tell your wife about, like "Hey Martha, get a load of this!" You could watch for stories like that, stuff that catches your eye. When my husband and I were dating and lived an hour apart, I'd try to squirrel away stuff I'd read or hear about that might amuse him. This might be particular to your interests as a couple. Like, whenever Gen X alternative rock stars are in the news, my husband and I are chatting abo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 02:36 PM |
| 6 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?I think part of what makes a woman feel safe and content is being understood and having her needs anticipated, without her explicitly having to say what they are. Having to explain what her needs are makes her feel more insecure and less understood as a result. Yes, having to explain sexual needs is extremely off-putting and unpleasant to women, especially the nice, shy, yielding submissive ones. It's something brassy sluts might do in porn, it feels extremely unnatural to "normal" women IRL. De… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/24 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?Marriage isn't really compatible with long-term passion. I mean, yes, it can be, but it's not by default. Marriage is about stability, raising a family. The traits required for stable family life are not the ones that lend themselves to arousal and passion--especially for women. That women are aroused by jerks is like the red pill. Familiarity, comfort and routine are antithetical to passion for both sexes but especially for women, who need more effort and excitement to feel aroused. Women want … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/24 02:02 AM |
| 8 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI wrote this thinking about a friend who left her very good and decent husband for Mr. Outdoorsy. He was a trainwreck in all other ways but she got from him the one thing that her husband didn't do. She could have found a hiking buddy but instead she got a divorce I'm honestly curious--was it just hiking that she needed, or was his lack of interest in hiking a symptom of a larger problem? Like, was the husband not into physical fitness at all (fat?), or just hated to go out (boring, thrifty, ris… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?I think it'd be good to hash out finances and his plans to marry in the future, since he's a 35 year old, very recently divorced father of two kids with a nutty ex, and could have a "been there done that" mindset toward marriage. And is he actually legally divorced now? You didn't mention that. I'm not at all against living together prior to marriage, but in this particular case, I don't see a straightforward path to marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/24 02:51 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?I think people vastly overestimate "wife privileges" like cooking, cleaning, etc. Yeah sure you're doing them but it doesn't mean he values them. He might not and they don't factor into his decision at all. You ought to do a full post on this. I suspect a lot of younger men don't care that much about this stuff. Maybe older men do, especially those with kids. But in general red pillers overstate the value of cooking and cleaning and homemaking in the market. It adds to a woman's RMV, sure, but I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/24 01:45 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on cohabitating before marriage?I feel like I take a huge risk that he’ll just move me in, reap the benefits, and get comfortable and then I’ll be stuck there with no proposal. Yes I can move back out but I hate the thought of that expense and indignity. Maybe I’m just being overly cautious? What do you ladies think? There's the question about cohabiting before marriage in general, and then there's the issue of cohabiting with this particular man. Are you cautious because of your history together? If I'm reading your post hist… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/24 11:57 PM |
| 9 | I can't help but feel lied to by Red Pillers. Help me understand?But if guys that take a liking to me, say they want something serious and committed, also like women like her - what is the point of the red pill? You got some good, practical advice. Let me note that what red pill men on the internet say they want is not always what they actually want (watch what they do, not what they say). There's a ton of virtue signaling, edgy roleplaying, venting, wishful thinking, etc. I don't even think that men mean to deceive when they say they want a nice quiet girl b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/24 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Dressing at home when it’s coldWool wool wool wool wool. I feel you, OP, I'm just like you, heat-wise. Like, it has to be at least 75 degrees in the house before I'll wear short sleeves at all. I'll do anything for love ,🎶🎶...but I won't be cold. I usually wear fleece black leggings, tight long -sleeve T shirt/top (cotton or thin wool when it's very cold) a big wool cardigan, and often wool socks. The cutesy little dresses are for the summer months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/24 09:42 PM |
| 10 | What roles do parents play in raising their son to be a high value man?masculine, secure, comfortable being a leader etc. The child would need to have some innate traits that can be developed and guided into masculinity, leadership, etc. Not every boy has it in him to be an "hvm," especially to women. Fathers can help teach and reinforce hard skills and soft skills, and navigate male hierarchies, which helps boys end up in a better place than they would on their own. A very fatherly part of parenthood is rough play and kind of razzing your kid, which women don't ty… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/24 06:42 PM |
| 6 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?You should write a field report! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/24 12:25 AM |
| 8 | What do you all think of the 'manic pixie dream girl'?The manic pixie dream girl is a fantasy that appeals to some men, and some women enjoy playing that persona in turn. I wrote a post about it under a different name a while back, ha! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/erQCjjgNNA, | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?This post may help! I'm almost sure there's an expanded version, but I can't find the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/C1BD8OhXat | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 08:46 PM |
| 31 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?It's the feeling of intense love and idealism for a woman...some combination of possessiveness and protectiveness, putting her on a pedestal above other women (she's not like the other girls!), seeing wonderful qualities in her (that objectively she might not even have!). Feeling young, free, handsome, and powerful in her company. There's this idea that men are very rational when selecting a wife or a long-term GF, and in my experience, that is not quite true (at least for western post-sexual re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/24 10:54 PM |
| 16 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?A lot of it is about dating slightly below your league I think you're making an important point ---it's easier to get commitment from a man slightly below your league. Of course, it might not be the commitment you want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/24 09:38 PM |
| 48 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?I think these women know how to activate male romantic idealism...and do so with men who are in their SMV league. (Celebrities are in a whole different realm, though...who knows what's real and what's concocted by their management.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/24 08:47 PM |
| 26 | How should a RPW treat simps?When you entertain a simp, you enter into a covert contract he's setting up. We're always warned here against creating our own covert contacts, but you also need to be aware of contracts others are creating with you. When someone does something nice for you, there's an unspoken expectation of it being returned, somehow, someday. When a man who likes you does nice stuff for you, oh boy will he have all sorts of expectations for how you "should" pay him back. I think it takes a certain amount of r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/24 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Will my boyfriend break up with me if he knew I used to do OF?Well, we don't know anything about OP's guy...that said, he could be the "impure" man who's still a good match for a woman he sees as pure (scenario #3). Or he could be an impure man who's a good match for an equally impure woman, though that seems less likely from the little info she provided (scenario #2). The pure/impure stuff isn't set in stone, it really depends on the man's background, social class, social mileu, personality, his perception of himself and his woman (perception rather than … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/24 12:38 AM |
| 10 | Tips on ensuring physical boundaries and saving yourself?In the short term, you could see him only in public places and avoid being alone with him. In the long term (like next 12 months), is there a plan for vetting/timeline for marriage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/02/24 04:20 PM |
| 13 | Will my boyfriend break up with me if he knew I used to do OF?I agree with the commenters who're advising you to tell him. I do wonder what you mean by him being very traditional and what attracted you to him. In general, I think relationships work best when the man and the woman are moral equals, with the woman being slightly more equal. There's a kind of formula: --Man and woman are both equally "pure": Fine --Man and woman both have a past: Can be fine if the past is more or less equal and both bid it goodbye and decide to sin no more together, for each… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/24 06:35 AM |
| 9 | Dating Without Attraction: Can it work? What if the Pros outweigh the Cons?This is so sad. I'm so sorry. I was in a relationship with a man who gave me the ick, and the hard part was just doing it. Well, there was that too! Yeah, I didn't want foreplay or to talk about it or "work" on it. When there's no attraction, or worse, repulsion, all this stuff is a burden, not a solution. It was my choice to be in that relationship, and I could make a very rational case for being and staying in it. I was actually reading a lot of red pill at the time and genuinely thought I was… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 10:27 PM |
| 6 | Dating Without Attraction: Can it work? What if the Pros outweigh the Cons?Tattoos, kind of an alternative style - hipster, indie, goth. Very much attracted to what the stereotypical libleft man would look like on average. And usually they don't end up being a good leader, or aren't interested in being one in the first place. I hate to pull the "have you tried older men?" line, but have you? Hipsters follow the bohemian to respectable pipeline with age. One day they're playing in bands, the next they're buying houses in gentrifying neighborhoods and taking their kids m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 05:28 PM |
| 40 | Dating Without Attraction: Can it work? What if the Pros outweigh the Cons?I'd love to hear your opinions on why dating someone you're not attracted to is/isn't a bad idea, and if any of you ladies has entered a relationship without being head over heels or feeling that spark and had it grow over time. Well, eventually you'll have to sleep with this guy, and then maintain an active sex life. That's what killed it for me when I dated a man who I wasn't attracted to. I'd lie next to him in bed after sex, which I'd try to avoid as much as I could, and think, "oh my God, t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 02:29 PM |
| 28 | I think men simply find me repulsive and I have a hard time finding out whyYou are very pretty, so I don't think it's your looks. Your post history talks about social isolation, trouble with social skills, sadness, so I think it has something to do with how you come off to people, your vibe. Also, when I was younger, I was really terrible at holding up my end of a conversation. I'd say a lot of stuff like "oh wow!" "Really?" "OMG, that's cool" and I'd think that was being a good conversationalist, showing interest in people. And yes,that's part of it, but that's not al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/24 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Changing yourself to become better but kind of regretting it?And I have a traditional partner now and he is devoted to me in the same way I am to him and since then I am not really lonely anymore. also believe him that he absolutely respects and loves me for my traditionalist views, FOR my weirdness Yep, I'm in a similar place. Weird awkward women can lean into the oddball sexual persona. The shy little librarian, the quirky girl, the weirdly sexy geek, etc. This can be charming to some men. (I do have to say, I enjoyed a long respite from loneliness afte… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/24 06:08 PM |
| 63 | Changing yourself to become better but kind of regretting it?and have spent most of my life as a socially awkward, mentally ill, bisexual leftist with weird interests Last year I discovered the redpill via Youtube. I think you replaced one type of weird interest (anime, LGBT whatever) with another type of weird interest (internet red pill). The root cause of your unhappiness is not being liberal. Normie women with basic girly hobbies, husbands, kids, the works, are often liberal. The root cause is being a socially awkward weirdo with oddball interests. Wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/24 05:56 AM |
| 9 | I want a man taller than me, and I don’t get why people think that’s shallow.because being "taller than you" doesn't serve any real life purpose It serves the purpose of making a man more sexually attractive, and sexually appealing in the SMP. That's a big deal. It also contributes to the height of the children the couple will produce, which leads to their future success in the SMP. I'm 5'3, my husband is 5'8. One of our sons is in the second percentile for height and is projected to reach 5'3-5'5 as an adult (totally healthy kid, btw). We're looking into hormone growth … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 05:49 PM |
| 5 | Do you think the average straight woman feels this way about guys?This isn't "normal" for most women, but I think what you describe is not at all uncommon for a certain type of woman. Common traits are shyness, social anxiety, social awkwardness, being on the spectrum, no friends, weird family life, childhood or adolescent trauma, bookishness, excessive intellectualism, mental illness, low SMV, lack of interest in typical female hobbies (fashion, makeup, all things girly, etc ). These are the things you may need to dig into. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to approach my man without sounding like I’m nagging or complaining!!I snagged this excerpt on communication and how to get your man to initiate more from the RPW wiki. Would you mind sharing a link to this? I'd like to read it and can't find it. Thx! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 04:45 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend only wants me to wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeFor reference, my girls usually strip down when they come over, unless we are leaving for dinner or smth. And they sleep nude. OMG, how warm do you keep your place? Or do you live in a warm climate? I'm in the Midwest and I'd die of cold Sept through late May under these conditions. Is it like 85-90 at your house? Lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/24 05:31 PM |
| 4 | I’m terrified I’ll never experience romantic love. Think I’m unlovable and unattractive.a pretty "mid" girl in terms of looks, but I have an amazing career, an extremely wonderful partner who loves me (and I think objectively looks better than me), and age 30-40, any man worth your time who hasn't found a wife yet or are on their second or third long term relationship will fall over themselves for someone who loves them, respects them, and makes them laugh, didn't meet my current partner until age 28 and we didn't have our son until I was 32. it often does take more time to get pai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/24 07:00 PM |
| 2 | I’m terrified I’ll never experience romantic love. Think I’m unlovable and unattractive.If you're homely and shy/awkward you will need to put yourself in social settings and find a way to talk to men, they won't chase you. I know you're abroad and your life is in flux, but online dating (when you're ready for it) can be really helpful for women like us--you don't have to worry about showing indicators of interest in person, it's assumed you're on OLD because you're interested in something. You just need to show up to the date and be cute. Make yourself as pretty and charming as you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/24 05:52 PM |
| 10 | Not Just For Anyonea friend asked you how you keep a beautiful, healthy, happy RPW relationship what would be the most important thing you'd tell her? The most important thing is vetting, but specifically vetting for well-matched dominance levels. I think this is an essential RPW post: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/TBOw87sZMD You can and should vet for similar values, goals and lifestyle, of course, but if you're poorly matched in your dominance levels, you could be in for a rough time despite being a go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/24 12:03 AM |
| 2 | If finances were no obstacle, how many children would you have?Lol, the third child was not a good financial decision for us, we joke about how he better become a doctor or a lawyer and put us in a real nice nursing home when we're old to make it worth it! When my husband and I told our parents about the third pregnancy, both of our moms were thrilled and both of our dads were not. My dad's face fell and my FIL said nothing for an hour (and I've always worked full time, it's not all on my husband). | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/24 04:31 PM |
| 6 | If finances were no obstacle, how many children would you have?how many children do you think you'd like to have? Depends on what life stage you had asked me this! When I was a teenager, I was "child free." I would read and post on the Usenet child free group (hey, old people, remember Usenet?). Then in my 20s I thought I'd like a large family, like 4 kids. I grew up as a lonely only child, so I liked the idea of having children. In my unhappy LTRs in my 20s, we didn't talk much about kids, though, but at that point I thought 2 was reasonable. When I met my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?I like this answer. Human traits generally come as a package deal, the "good" traits come with some side effects, the "bad" traits come with some benefits! We all want the Chad who commits, or the high libido yet chaste woman, or the dominant man who's not domineering, or the beautiful virgin, etc., etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 01:03 AM |
| 22 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?I'm a woman who practices and admires traditionalism What do you mean by practicing traditionalism? men who are traditional seem to go for "boss babe" girls. What's your location, social class and social mileu? What makes these men traditional? You've received some very solid general advice, but your particular situation will depend on where you are and what is typical for your social sphere. I gotta add, "trad wife" is very online lingo, it makes me think of women who play-act a 1950s lifestyle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 05:34 AM |
| 1 | How important is it for the man you want to marry to have a stable job?It was important that he had a steady respectable job that was compatible with having a middle class family. I never expected to be a sahm, I always expected to work, and indeed that's what happened after we had kids. I really lucked out with my job, though. I did bring a nice amount of savings to the relationship when I got married (parents paid for college, lived at home rent free for much of my 20s), which helped provide a cushion for the usual ups and downs of life. My husband works in an ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/24 04:40 PM |
| 6 | Deal Makers and Deal BreakersOut of all of my previous dates and short/long term relationships, the amount of girls who actually offered to cook/cooked for me was about 3. I only accepted food from 1, I'm curious what made you decline food from the other two? I'd also like to hear more about the disruption deal breaker. It's not something I see discussed here lot, unlike disrespect and disloyalty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/24 03:43 AM |
| 2 | My(23f) partner (25m) gets angry too easilyWhat's the long term plan for this long distance relationship? It's hard to really get to know someone's character via chat, especially when you're navigating different cultural expectations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/24 08:13 PM |
| 11 | I'm starting to resent my boyfriendBasically if someone has 80% of all that you could want, there is no point chasing after that 20% in someone else, because while they have the 20% you want, they're missing the rest of the 80% that you need. Can you be satisfied with the 80% that he provides? How important is that 80% to you vs the 20%? Because if the 80% is super important you'll have to just let go of the missing 20%. What your guy cannot provide, at least not now, is what a lot of women eventually want (and what most women in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 01:14 AM |
| 6 | Maintaining Attraction While NursingSo is my only solution to fake interest and just remind myself to initiate until Im done nursing and that craving desire returns? I was pregnant or breastfeeding for eight years straight, and, yeah, there was a lot of fake it till you make it. It's extremely important to me to maintain an active sex life, even when I'm not really thinking about sex. I've initiated when I wasn't feeling like it --but I do get a huge self esteem boost when I make my husband feel good, so there's that. I think part… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/01/24 02:01 AM |
| 9 | How can redpill women be happy?One day I will inevitablely grow old and become ugly, then what? This upsets me so much. You got some good advice, but I want to focus on this statement. This is like saying "One day I will inevitably DIE, then what? This upsets me so much." I mean, yeah, you will, but so what. In addition to vetting,, may I suggest not thinking about this stuff? Let it go. One of the main causes of unhappiness for the pilled (men, women, red pill, black pill, this pill that pill) is so much damned overthinking.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 06:36 PM |
| 19 | Getting commitment after sexI think if a guy is into you, he's into you and it doesn't matter much when you sleep together, and if he's not into you, nothing you do will make him into you. Aside from any moral, religious or personal reasons to wait, you can hold off on sex to give yourself more time to work your girl game and inspire him to be into you, but I think generally men know pretty early if they see you as girlfriend material or not. I slept with my husband on our third date, after maybe 3-4 weeks of dating. I lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 04:58 PM |
| 3 | What do rich men find the most attractive in a woman?This is the most sensible post I've seen on this topic: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/QDsMiAvwnI | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 06:25 AM |
| 4 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.I think higher SMV goes hand in hand with an interest in maintaining or enhancing that SMV. So prettier women tend to be more interested in grooming, fashion, fitness, style, and all the rituals that go along (like looking at yourself in the mirror). I'm almost positive that if you line up a bunch of women with stylish designer purses (as appropriate to their social class and social mileu) and women carrying random outdated purses, the prettier women will have the stylish purses and men will pre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.I just spent the weekend at a youth hockey tournament (small town Midwest, behind the trends) and not a tote bag in sight! Anyway, I just got one of those little bags so I can be all, "Sorry, kids, mom has no room for your junk in her purse, use your pockets!" 😝 | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.I think women talk about this pretty readily, but, yes, in that worldview the root cause for being mean tends to be patriarchal structures that "force" women to be harsh with each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.meanness that is discussed is more associated with, like you said, the pick me behavior or the progressive feminist behavior, and not as much as a behavior of the average joe women, who don't fit either of those groups. This is a topic that's pretty well covered in literature and pop culture! None of this behavior is post-feminist, it's all just part of the feminine experience: https://www.flavorwire.com/499110/30-legendary-literary-mean-girls-we-love-to-hate | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 02:13 PM |
| 3 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.Oh, you enjoy observing signals of social class too? 😀 Most of them carried those huge purses, like handbags but huge, instead of backpacks or grocery store bags. It made them look classier. Out of sheer curiosity, can you link to an example? I live in a middle-class area, and all the moms are carrying those little crossbody fanny pack purses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 05:49 AM |
| 1 | How to RPW a controlling boyfriendThanks, that's helpful context. I added another comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/24 04:56 PM |
| 3 | How to RPW a controlling boyfriendit’s kind of nice to being able to present yourself as a girl? Does that make sense? It does to me. Young women at their peak want to be admired for their beauty and femininity. Obviously, now, there are countless opportunities online to get attention from men, but it's not like women didn't seek attention in the past. A woman in a relationship will seek that attention from her man (him making her feel sexy, pretty, feminine), and if her man doesn't do it, she'll look for validation elsewhere. (… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/24 04:41 PM |
| 4 | How to RPW a controlling boyfriendOP's family is from Afghanistan. Yep, I saw that. I'm always puzzled by questions like this from non western women because they're going to get a western answers (like RatchedAngle's) on Reddit, even from the "trad" crowd. For many westerners, tradition just means the earlier stages of the sexual revolution. What kind of tradition does OP want to follow? She might get more relevant feedback from Muslim women living abroad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/24 12:54 AM |
| 7 | How to RPW a controlling boyfriendIs there a cultural component here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/24 10:22 PM |
| 5 | Bf doesn’t enjoy having sex with me? What am I doing wrong?How's your relationship otherwise? Is he affectionate outside of bed? Do you guys enjoy spending time together? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/24 08:01 PM |
| 2 | 3 Act JourneyBy choice or circumstances, some women never enjoyed much of an Act 1 'hot girl' lifestyle, which might be a blessing in disguise I never had an Act 1 (homely, shy shut -in) and feel some grief about missing it. I think I could have met a man like my husband during Act 1 and had more youthful, carefree years to enjoy with him, skipping act 2 entirely. Obviously it all worked out for me because I did meet my husband in my late 20s, but I had some luck on my side. Not all first acts include a lost… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/24 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Want kids before 30 but BF wants to waitI asked my husband for his unbiased opinion before I posted this Ha, I also asked my husband about his opinion on the OP, and he half-joked that a conversation about baby timelines at 5 months would have sounded like a threat to him. He would have wanted marriage/baby timelines to evolve naturally, out of mutual desire for these milestones. And that's how it happened for us--and he was the one who escalated commitment, and we were married 21 months after our first date, pregnant 6 months later. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/24 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Want kids before 30 but BF wants to waitI think your comments are interesting, but they're worded in a kinda snarky way. You're pointing out that this is a battle of sexual imperatives: the man's imperative to pursue his mission (which may include family life, but on his timeline) vs the feminine imperative to follow her biological clock. You see this when women come in here and say "I love him, he's amazing, he's the love of my life, but he doesn't want family life on my timeline (or he wants me to help out financially), so is this a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/24 06:09 PM |
| 8 | Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractiveI would agree with the subject line if it said: "Western, secular, post-sexual revolution men don't like high n counts in women but ultimately don't care that much as long as the woman in question satisfies a man sexually and emotionally and her count isn't above his personal 'woah, too slutty!' threshold." Also, middle class party girls and sorority floozies are not in the same category as actual prostitutes and strippers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/24 10:08 PM |
| 5 | Relationship PrioritizationGlad it was helpful! I saw the post that you referred to in your OP. That womens sub also has weekly posts from married women who say their single party friends don't want to hang out and from mothers who complain that their childless/child free friends left them in the dust. There's a study I saw some years back that found that the pillars of friendship are 1) unstructured time to hang out and 2) risk-taking (doing stupid #$!t together). No wonder the best time to make friends is school/college… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/24 03:48 AM |
| 15 | Relationship PrioritizationSome 15 years ago, I met a woman who became a friend. When we were both single we got together on a regular basis. Then I started dating my husband and quickly got engaged and married while she was out there dating. I avoided talking about my husband much because I knew she was struggling to find someone (she had hired matchmakers) and I felt bad, like I was privileged in a way that she wasn't. Eventually she met a guy and also quickly got married. Great! Then I had kids and between breastfeedin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/24 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?Manwhore isn't an insult for men, but, sure, some guys would say alpha is about a man successfully following his mission and self-actualizing. However, the male mission has nothing to do with accommodating women or their desires. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/23 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?Agreed, though I'm okay with the frankness of FDS. If women want a rich guy to provide, go ahead and say so, go get him and settle for nothing less! I don't like FDS stuff under the cover of tradition, moral righteousness and virtue. Traditionally, young women going on expensive unchaperoned dates with strange men were courtesans, harlots, kept women (which certainly is a longtime tradition, just not one that RPW aspires to!). To me, a modern western woman meeting a stranger on an app and expect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 11:30 PM |
| 5 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?Excuse me, but how can a woman be soft and feminine if she has to constantly rely on herself financially? She can't. She has to put on her big girl pants, go to work and pay her bills In addition to my other comment, I want to flag this part. This is an issue of social class--the privilege of being a woman who does need to work outside the home, or even labor inside the home, so she can keep or maintain softness and femininity. This is saying, how can a woman be at least middle class, or more re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?Thanks, much appreciated. This topic just raises my blood pressure, lol! I don't like the FDS-ication of RPW where women kind of assume that "HVMs" love provisioning and will do it without expecting women to curb the female imperative in return. I'm getting on my soapbox again, argh! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 04:20 PM |
| 25 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?isn't the whole premise of an ALPHA man to provide and protect? Leaving aside the issue of provision, for years, in men's red pill circles, alpha meant a high SMV man. Not a provider, not a protector, not a dad, not a godly man, not a virtuous man, but a man who could attract women and pursue the male sexual imperative above all else, to his heart's content. This man could be a good/godly/trad man if he chose to, but virtue, in itself, is not what made him alpha. I recommend this piece from one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 03:24 PM |
| 11 | His mom loves me! But she said he needs a leader…unsure of what to feel.Are you upset by her comments because they strike you as out of the left field? Or do her comments bother you because she's confirming what you already suspect? In the latter case, it's not really about the mom, it's about dealing with a boyfriend who may not be a leader, and we'd need more info about the nature of your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 11:28 PM |
| 8 | Does body count actually matter?Recommended reading: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/Q61oqpA81Y | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 07:10 PM |
| 2 | should i save myself for marriage?You should get into an environment with men who value virginity and are dating to marry (most likely church, religious university, religious dating apps, etc). Avoid overly online red pill oddballs (that's who the top comment is alluding to). | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/23 07:07 PM |
| 6 | Stay at home wives, what do you wear in winter that is comfortable yet feminine?Not a sahw, but... wool! I typically wear a layer of fleece leggings and long sleeved top (thin wool top if I'll be outdoors) under whatever I'm wearing on top. I don't know your budget or shopping options/preferences, but I can recommend getting a thick, wool cable knit cardigan sweater that you can unbutton and throw over whatever else for extra warmth. Something like this: https://www.theirishstore.com/malone-aran-sweater. I live in the Midwest and get cold easily, fleece/sweatshirts don't ke… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/12/23 01:30 AM |
| 9 | More betrayal, now what?you’re not going to see her encourage somebody to leave because it’s not in line with her branding. That's a great point--like all successful self-help writers/speakers, Laura Doyle is a brand and brand consistency is important to her, as it is to any company and marketer. If "every marriage can be saved" is her brand, that's what you're going to get. Doyle may have decent general advice, but it's not going to be tailored to each specific woman and situation and it's always going to be consisten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/23 04:34 PM |
| 11 | Dating Red FlagsLOL, this guy! In the best case, he's saying this as a playful neg and wants to see if you'll play along (he's flirting with an edge, admittedly a sharp one). In the worst case, he's driven by either social cluelessness or, worse, anger at women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/23 08:57 PM |
| 5 | I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent itI highly recommend you read this post about relationship power dynamics: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/zU73Rouzvi. It's the most important essay on all of RPW, seriously. You come off as a dominant go-getter woman. People are getting derailed by the issue of tech hiring, but that's not the point. The point is that you're hustling and planning for the future and he is not, or not enough in your eyes (I'm not even addressing the mental health issue, the giant elephant in the room that mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 10:22 PM |
| 9 | I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent itThanks! I think people are being hard on OP. She's unmarried, she's vetting, and she wants an ambitious man who can afford a sahm. If that's not what her man can provide in the near future, she can leave or modify her life goals to accommodate his. What else is there to do? She says this man is the love of her life, so I'm trying to get at what inspires her love. It must be something besides career ambition and is that something enough? It's rough trying to figure this out at 21 and it's a major… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 06:11 PM |
| 12 | I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent itHe's the love of my life, I'd rather try with him OP, does this guy fulfill your hypergamy in other ways (besides career potential)? Does he do things you find sexy, charming, charismatic, interesting ? He may or may not become ambitious and financially successful, and if not, you need to find something else to really admire in him. That may mean never becoming a full-time sahm. Is the sahm requirement an absolute must? There's a woman on the purple pill debate sub who works in a high-paying cor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 04:38 PM |
| 2 | The Real Reason So Many Women Are Doing OnlyFans | Lib Turned Red Pill Female PerspectiveI think plenty of women who try OF are driven by validation and fame-seeking...like pursuing a career in entertainment, pay is low and competition is fierce, but if you make it... Anyway, a lot of the outrage over OF is rooted in that nice, middle-class girls from normal families can do it with little skin in the game (creators don't even need to touch a man, ever!). These women are in the dating pool for nice middle-class men. If it was done only by underclass women from chaotic backgrounds peo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 09:55 PM |
| 11 | He isn't masculine and it's getting me downHe is a very nerdy bloke What attracted you to him and why? How long have you been together? Nerdy blokes will tend to be less masculine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 07:11 PM |
| 8 | You are a nice girl but…That's young for a guy, and maybe they wanted to avoid escalating commitment. Hard to say without a lot more detail on each relationship and the arguments that you allude to. Also, red pillers tend to exaggerate the importance of positive traits that you list. I think a lot of younger guys err on the side of having fun with a girlfriend above stable wifely qualities. Not saying that you weren't fun, but you focus on qualities like agreeability and niceness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 04:22 PM |
| 2 | You are a nice girl but…How old are the men? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 02:29 PM |
| 2 | I'm a widow. I've been single and celibate for 16 years. I've only been with 2 men.On one hand, I see that men say they want Where are you hearing men say this? Is it men you know in person? Are you spending a lot of time reading red pill stuff online (where men can be edgy with impunity)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/23 03:38 AM |
| 2 | I'm a widow. I've been single and celibate for 16 years. I've only been with 2 men.Now, that I am re-entering the dating world, all of the conflicting dating advice is confusing me. It's hard to answer your question without context about your background and what you're looking for. What's your age and location/social mileu? What kind of a relationship are you looking for and what do you want in a man? How do you plan to meet someone (online dating, social circles, etc.)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Feeling unwanted sexually and not sure anymore how to approach itI read your update and I think the problem goes beyond typical attraction/male libido issues. I'm sorry you're struggling, you're in a tough place. I'd recommend making a separate thread about how to get out of your situation, since you're unmarried with no income/job/family/schooling (not sure about the last one--did you finish your degree? And are there any plans to marry? ). If you're living in Canada, there's the question of immigration laws. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/23 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Feeling unwanted sexually and not sure anymore how to approach itI moved almost 3,000 miles away from my home town to a new country to be with him. I wonder if there's a cultural issue here. Are you two from very different cultures? Are you married? How long have you dated prior to moving in and was that in person? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/23 03:22 PM |
| 10 | Struggling with less sex in my relationshipIt makes me feel super unwanted and just too young for this, as much as I love him and want to be with him. feel like I just found out that most long term relationships don’t actually have super frequent sex and I feel betrayed For a LTR where you spend a lot of time together, 3-4 times a week a pretty decent amount of sex. I know it's not enough for you, but I don't think frequency is at all unusual. A couple of things here: -The intense focus on sex from the red pill comes from undersexed men … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 06:05 PM |
| 1 | “Beta Batman”Aw, thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/23 09:41 PM |
| 4 | Should Women Defend their Men from Feminists who Call them Misogynists for wanting Traditional Wives?We are both currently single I was talking about how the natural order of things is for the husband to go out and work and it is the wife’s job to nurture the home by Of course it's fine to debate this topic in the public arena and if questioned by someone you personally know--but in the latter case, you'd come off better by being funny, playful and using the game technique of agree and amplify. There's a sidebar post on how to best handle women who encroach on your man--and you do it through ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/23 03:55 PM |
| 8 | “Beta Batman”None of this is wrong, but in the comments there's some back and forth over dominant vs domineering vs leader....and I think there's not a dominant man (or leader) in the world who's also not at least occasionally domineering. That's just a side effect of a dominant leader personality. Most desirable traits come with a downside, and that is certainly true of traits as potent as male dominance and leadership. There are no perfect, always-moderate, always level-headed dominant men... otherwise the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/23 09:24 PM |
| 6 | How do I as a new mom regain the lighter, fun, and more whimsical side of life?it’s weightier than I thought. Society seems to tell me I need to give every ounce to motherhood What specific things are weighing you down? There are a lot of inevitable burdens that come with motherhood (sleeplessness, exhaustion, lack of time), but there are also self-created burdens. They're driven by social media, news, social pressures (sometimes imagined ones), etc. For example--in the parenting subs, I've been seeing posts from both moms and dads who're devastated by the deaths of childr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/23 08:53 PM |
| 4 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentEven with conservative backlash, I don’t think the typical gen-z man is all too enthusiastic for marriage. If anything, they are more likely to fall victim to the male loneliness epidemic as they do not have the skills to find, attract, or keep a mate. I agree here. Conservative isn't quite the right word for the pill backlash (red pill, black pill, incels, whatever). It's more like dissatisfaction with all of modernity, including, of course, feminism and certainly modern marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentFeeling ready for marriage really depends on location/social class/social mileu, regardless of how much man is into a woman. I don't know any men from my generation (old millennial/young genx) who proposed at 19. In my middle class mid-America, the youngest married men I know were 23-24 and they married their high school or college girlfriends. These were 4-year LTRs and the men finished college and got their first professional jobs before they proposed. Edit: I think there's a generational gap … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 08:18 PM |
| 6 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentNone of the things you listed are going to matter if his light isn’t on I'd refine this to: these things don't matter if he's not that into you and not open marriage. The former is far more damning--I see women here all the time wasting their best girl game on indifferent men. The latter also isn't great, but a guy whose light isn't on at 21 might be ready by his late 20s. It's not unusual to marry a college boyfriend of 4-5 years (of course, it doesn't help if a woman wants marriage ASAP). | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 07:36 PM |
| 12 | Withholding Premarital Sex Age 40+knew secular people who used lingo like "courtship not dating" I'm familiar with the term, but I associate it with evangelicals and Christian "fundies." Purity culture was absolutely a thing in the 90s (promise and purity rings, purity pledges, purity balls, abstinence only sex ed), but not in my part of the U.S. and not in my social mileu. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 06:18 PM |
| 16 | Withholding Premarital Sex Age 40+Interesting! I was a teenager in the late 90s, middle-class Midwest, secular, mainstream, and sexual purity until marriage just didn't seem like a thing. People may have refrained from sex because they were afraid of pregnancy, STDs, or a (temporary) hit to their reputation, but my impression was that no one was prioritizing purity or waiting for marriage, just for college or until they had a solid GF/bf. To this day, I can think of only one couple in my genx/millennial circle who didn't have pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 05:00 PM |
| 41 | Withholding Premarital Sex Age 40+When I was in my 20s and early 30s, both guys and girls in NYC valued sexual purity. In NYC?? In 2010? I find this so baffling. Was this in specific religious/traditional/immigrant communities? Were these...you know, attractive and reasonably normal people? The three date rule goes back to at least the late 80s, and I think it was intended as a "conservative" measure to give women a few dates to get to know a guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 03:28 PM |
| 4 | Husband's libidoYou're absolutely right, good comment. I'm annoyed at all the bad faith in this thread, both from OP (who's looking for validation that her husband "should" have sex because we encourage wives not to deny their husbands) and people arguing with her using dopey feminist ideas (enthusiastic consent and no always means no). | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Best way to act when husband is on a boys tripWe got lucky, the daughter of one of my husband's cousins helped us out. But otherwise, wherever you find sitters. Care.com, local Facebook moms groups, Next Door if there's an active one in your area, word of mouth. You could see if you can advertise in the local library, high school or community center. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 01:21 AM |
| 15 | Husband's libidoYou're understandably frustrated, but you're also approaching this in bad faith. Like, if it's "okay" for husbands to seduce or even pressure wives into sex, why can't wives do it too, huh?? And, yes, if you came here and said I'm not in the mood but my husband is, you would absolutely be told to get in the mood if you care about your marriage (I can tell you're frustrated that people aren't owning up to this). Unfortunately, it doesn't work tit for tat, even if you wish it did. The man's libido… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Husband's libidoHow old is your husband? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 07:30 PM |
| 23 | Best way to act when husband is on a boys tripWhen my husband used to travel, we ended up hiring a "mother's helper" type babysitter who'd stay with me and the kids for the whole weekend. Having another set of hands to help with the kids and entertain them was beyond helpful. Or my mom or dad would stay over, but that came with family drama. If you can put any money toward a sitter, even for a half day or a few hours, do it. Since you'll be around, you could hire someone young and inexperienced who wants to start nannying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/23 08:03 PM |
| 11 | What does a healthy sex life look like?It is probably connected to the fact I don't love how I look naked but I used to. I Is it also connected to your devastation over his cheating, per your post a few days ago in a different sub? Where do you see this relationship heading? I think these are important details to consider to get helpful advice here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/23 06:18 PM |
| 3 | How do you handle the pain?I was attracted to him, What was attractive to you about him? Were you physically attracted to him or attracted in other ways? I ask because I was with a man that I didn't find physically attractive, although he had lots of other great qualities. But I never really wanted to have sex with him, and nothing he could have done (foreplay, kissing, whatever) would have turned me on. In fact, all his efforts would really turn me off. It's completely different with my husband, because he does activate … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 11:37 PM |
| 3 | How can I make more girl friendsYes. I don't mean to sound abrupt. I'm a quiet, shy woman who didn't talk a lot and it was the bane of my existence for years. Kids at school said it was like someone pressed the "mute" button on me. Mean, but true. Eventually I made an effort to speak up and stop being so weirdly quiet, which did improve my life quite a bit (met my husband during this time!). I never really made friends, though, but I started late in life. The sooner you tackle this, the better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 01:17 AM |
| 6 | How can I make more girl friendsI just don’t talk a lot, I’m a quiet person I can almost guarantee that you're having trouble making friends because you're quiet. These two qualities have never helped anymore make friends, especially a woman trying to befriend women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 01:03 AM |
| 6 | Sex is truly the key 🔐Good to know! You should consider doing a writeup for RPW, there's no content on menopause. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 03:50 AM |
| 4 | Sex is truly the key 🔐Same here when I go down the rabbit hole of reading about menopause so I'm going to just stop. Won't worry until it happens... | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 06:55 PM |
| 13 | Sex is truly the key 🔐The menopause sub is depressing as all hell. I subscribed to prepare for what's to come in the next decade (I'm 41), but will be unsubscribing because...well, just take a look. Menopause is a completely unexplored topic on RPW because the sub skews young. There were a few frequent 50+ contributors in the past, but I don't think they're around anymore. (Since women tend to live into their 70s or beyond, they're facing at least 20+ years of post-menopause life. They potentially facing more post-me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 05:43 PM |
| 6 | Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender rolesI think in Fascinating Womanhood it says it's better to have 5% of a 100% man, rather than 100% of a 5% man. I've been reading your previous posts and it seems like this guy is your 100% man. I think you could accept that he is the way he is and that the "work" in this relationship will come mostly from you. It's fine to be okay with that, it's not unheard of for a woman to give more because the man is worth it for whatever reason. . If you're not okay with that, you could ask yourself why you c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 04:43 PM |
| 4 | Lighthearted ways to mention you want a more traditional relationship while online dating and first few dates?I’m an American woman with an immigrant background so my culture inherently is more traditional in a more effortless way. The types of men I’m interested in are more traditional but would be off-put by statements like that because it seems too “structured / serious”. I’m usually dating men outside my culture so I want my bio to appeal to “provider mindset” men who are not super ideological. Just curious, why not date men from your culture? Anyway, if you're dating regular American men, I think t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/23 07:00 PM |
| 15 | Serious mommy issuesI'm sorry that your mother wasn't good or affectionate. I think you should continue working on your disappointment in therapy and then look for women you want to emulate elsewhere. I actually disagree that women learn about relationships, beauty style and femininity from their mothers. Mothers have an influence, but girls generally learn this stuff from their peers. It's not at all unusual for young women to have an adversarial relationship with their mothers. Do you have female friends? Or even… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/23 06:44 PM |
| 7 | Is it better to invest on a Masters Degree or Plastic Surgery?What's your social class/social mileu? What's your dating history? What's wrong with your looks? What are you looking for from a man? From life? Have you tried dating men who make salaries close to yours? If not, why? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/23 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How many percent off taken Women/Men would cheat if the PERFECT Man/Women would appear?Anne Rice for awhile Please elaborate! I was a huge Anne Rice fan back in the day, never heard about this, lol! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 09:05 PM |
| 1 | How do I start dating?If you're living on campus or with a roommate, that's a great way to break the ice. My two roommates became friends starting move-in weekend (I had a single room and didn't talk to anyone, so I didn't make any friends, lol). The first week of college there's usually a lot of events and icebreakers, try to go. You got some great feedback on joining study groups and sports. I'll only add that you should try to talk to people when you do go--it's almost easy to forget that part if you're shy. I wro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 03:08 AM |
| 31 | How do I start dating?I think the first step is working on your social skills rather than jumping into dating. Stop watching red pill stuff cold turkey, delete it from your phone and history if needed. It's iffy content even for the socially apt, and poison for overly online weirdos. When you start college, try to befriend women offline. Ideally, women who're as basic/normie as possible, leaning toward the nice girl next door types. You will be tempted to scoff and sneer at them, but don't. A woman who can befriend a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Early stages of dating and his parent passes away - be there for him as friend?In addition to what the others said (and they're right), you're Christian while he grew up in Arab culture. Would you and this man be on the same page regarding faith? You seem to take yours pretty seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/23 03:30 PM |
| 6 | Advice on building female friendships. Accept that friendships are seasonal. They pretty much all end at some point, for this and that reason. Long-term or lifetime friends are exceptionally rare because most friendships take place in a vacuum. We're friends because we work together, go to church together, walk in the same hiking group. That's okay. Set proper expectations here. Someone might be interested one moment, and not the next. Appreciate it in the moment, and let it go when it fizzles out. Do not put in more effort than th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/23 05:40 PM |
| 2 | What is your Preference for Male Body Type?What is the male body type you find most attractive? Shredded (muscles, no drugs) Bulked (muscles + mass) Toned Skinny Underweight Overweight Obese Morbidly obese Do not care Other All of these besides besides fat+ are fine, although some tall or sturdy/stocky men can carry their extra weight well. If I liked the man and "clicked" with him emotionally/sexually, his body type would become my preferred one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/23 03:28 PM |
| 16 | How much have you changed your style for your partner?Stopped wearing heels! He thought they were dumb and would shake his head at my blistered feet. I would have stopped anyway after I had kids--young children and heels don't mix. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/23 02:21 PM |
| 14 | Do you ever feel bad about using red pill tactics?RPW went from plate school to hu$band school, lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 02:13 PM |
| 9 | My boyfriend asked for a 50-50 split on the tripI dunno, sounds like a nothingburger to me. You've only been dating for four months, you said you sometimes chip in for dates. You don't say if he makes decent money, so I'm reading this like he doesn't. Trips involve lots of costs besides the Airbnb/hotel. I suspect he doesn't think losing your virginity is that big of a deal and is envisioning a fun mini vacation with some new relationship sex, rather than some great gift and sacrifice from you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 02:05 PM |
| 3 | 2nd Date / Potential SleepoverShe's not asking when she should have sex with a man. She's asking if she should sleep over at a man's house if she doesn't intend to have sex with him. If she asked the former question, the answers would be far more varied and nuanced. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/23 09:08 PM |
| 29 | 2nd Date / Potential SleepoverDon't isolate yourself with a man unless you're planning to sleep with him or you don't mind being seduced. I'm going to stitch this on a sweater and gift it to my daughter when she's a teenager, lol. There are millions upon millions of cases of women saying "we were just going to hang out but one thing led to another and..." | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 05:50 PM |
| 9 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!Some solid good advice that isn't heard much these days but pretty common not even 40 years ago I'm curious about this comment. OP's advice and commentary is somewhere between an Edith Wharton novel and Helen Gurley Brown's Sex and the Single Girl (using the professional environment to look hot, marry rich, and climb the social ladder). You seem to be an older guy--was this common advice for young women in the 80s-90s? It seems like what socially "low" but gutsy and ambitious women did prior or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 05:16 PM |
| 2 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!What is that? It's a public speaking training organization that's open to everyone. They have clubs all around the world. It's a good way to develop or practice speaking in a low-stakes environment. Toastmasters culture can be weird and some clubs are way better than others (all volunteer-run), but I still highly recommend it. I was active in TM for a few years and it definitely helped overcome shyness and awkwardness. I've had managers at work comment about my improvement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 12:57 PM |
| 20 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!also it’s pretty common in our social group Out of sheer prurient curiosity, is it just the men who practice...let's call it ethical non-monogamy, or do some wives do it too? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 03:24 AM |
| 126 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!My husband was twice divorced with kids Ok, older guy, understood... And he has occasionally (with my permission) had casual flings outside our marriage. 😲 😳I feel like you buried the lede a bit here, lol! No judgement and I understand there are pros and cons to marrying a man at this level, but infidelity is something a lot of women here would struggle with, even those who aspire to wealth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 01:50 AM |
| 7 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!AMA! When you say you were poor, what was your social class/mileu growing up? What kind of school did you go to for undergrad and what did you study? What brought you to the Bay Area--a job, dating, or both? How did you meet your husband and how long did you date before marriage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 11:32 PM |
| 4 | What could a childless-homemaker wife offer a man over a working wife?For an upper middle class+ man, she could offer status by doing some low/no-pay but prestigious activity. Volunteering with notable groups, philanthropy, hobby business, anything in the arts/culture sphere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Struggling to know whether my expectations are realistic?Yeah, when I was a teenager my dad got a job in a different state and moved out there on his own to live in an apartment for a few months while my mom was selling our old house. When we joined him, my mom was so appalled at the state of his housekeeping. The bathroom was covered in beard trimmings, kitchen counters were sticky, the patio was littered with bird seed from the unit above ours. My dad didn't notice any of this stuff and was genuinely surprised when my mom went off on him. He thought… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/23 03:42 PM |
| 6 | Struggling to know whether my expectations are realistic?No, because I don't think most men care about housekeeping, certainly not young guys. I would guess it's like daily priority #895 for him. It's not really a "wife benefit" as people here like to say, because it benefits the woman more than the man--as you note, you clean his place because you like to live in a clean space. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/23 01:28 PM |
| 8 | Married women, can you please respond to some questions? It would be very helpful to me and other women in my situationWere you clear with your man about your expectations (family, marriage) since the beginning? If yes, how did they respond and react? We met on OLD and marriage/kids was in my profile. Not sure how carefully he read it, lol! I honestly don't remember specific conversations about marriage. We did talk about kids maybe 5-6 months into dating and were both in the "probably" camp. He's not a trad guy per se, but I don't think he would have considered kids without marriage. Most of his friends and fam… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 03:52 PM |
| 3 | I've been told by a couple of men that I don't have a feminine touch e.g. "don't know how to touch a man"?!I think all the suggestions you're getting are fine to pursue if they make you feel more comfortable with men. However, this reads like the guys in question were negging you (certainly the first one). There's negging that's like funny teasing (the woman laughs along) and then there's more mean-spirited negging that's intended to make a woman react like "oh, no, I'm not like that!" and work harder to please --which is what I think the first guy was doing. Also, their reaction might have more to d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/23 09:01 PM |
| 6 | Have you noticed whether it hurts/helps you if you have a career?Watch what men do, not what they say. 😁 I mean, look at the men you'd want to marry and pay attention to what kind of women they tend to commit to. stressed how important it was that to find the husband I wanted, I needed to put myself in the appropriate social circles. This is universally correct. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/23 02:59 PM |
| 11 | Have you noticed whether it hurts/helps you if you have a career?There was a big thread on this topic recently. I'm having trouble linking to it, but it was called "upper middle class men do care if you have an education" or something like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Is it unreasonable to want a provider, but to not want kids?This heavily depends on your social class, location and social milieu. I've never seen this arrangement in the Midwest middle class (middle-middle) for a healthy young woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 02:32 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend says he wants varietyI’ve never heard of agree and amplify game technique but that sounds pretty solid. Here's a classic guide from one of the first major red pill bloggers: https://heartiste.org/2009/08/13/relationship-game-week-agree-and-amplify/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 02:20 AM |
| 4 | My boyfriend says he wants varietyWhat should he have done? He should have used the classic "agree and amplify" game technique to playfully deflect OP's comfort test/shit test. "Sure, babe, I need 69 different girls a day to be satisfied." "How about you satisfy me now with a bj, pretend to be Taylor Swift, I need some variety" And so on. Instead, he earnestly answered a question that no woman wants an honest answer to, intellectualized it, got her hamster going for no good reason, and possibly talked himself out of a girlfriend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 01:57 AM |
| 9 | My boyfriend says he wants varietyYou'll have to decide if the pros of dating a high SMV guy (plus whatever good RMV qualities he has) outweigh the possibility of infidelity. No right or wrong decision here. Two sketchy things, however: You asking a question where there's obviously a "wrong" answer for you, the one he gave. And him making you complicit in future infidelities. "Well, I once communicated that I might want variety and you knew and stayed so why are you upset, etc." Loose lips sink relationship ships. But again, thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/23 07:16 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend says he wants varietyAnd that he’d ask/tell me before if he were to want to sleep with someone else. Is he a high SMV man? Good looking, fun, uninhibited, social, outgoing? What was his past like? Lots of girlfriends, hookups? It's hard to say whether he's at all serious (capable of stepping out) or if he's just saying edgy contrarian stuff to test you or rattle you a bit. Not the first time a man said he wanted variety but wasn't able to get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/23 04:37 PM |
| 19 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling SexyI was pregnant or breastfeeding for eight years straight and when I was done with both, at 38, my sex drive went waaaaaaaay up. I always thought this was feminist bs, that women got horny in their late 30 and 40s, but it's absolutely true for me. If nothing stood in my way (kids, work, husband being at work), I'd have sex three times a day, ha. My husband is in his late 40s and I'm 9 years younger, and my sex drive outpaces his right now. Sex makes me feel loved and desired more than anything el… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/23 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?I think you could make the argument that modern western marriage is emasculating to men because women no longer have to meet social/religious duties within marriage (premarital chastity, sex, unassailable fidelity, obedience to the husband, etc ), plus they can initiate divorce, so the man is inherently in the woman's frame. In traditional marriage, women do have the duties listed above and divorce is highly taboo, so the man has the upper hand. Also, in traditional setups, men can still have se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/23 02:32 AM |
| 9 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?A man goes on a lifelong hero's journey in search of purpose and self-actualization. A woman's hero's journey ends in finding love, sanctified by marriage and motherhood, and she must leverage her youth for success. (Unless she is some sort of a weirdo, lol.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 05:45 PM |
| 7 | Maintaining respect in marriage/ltrA few weeks before we got married, my husband and I did one of those crazy obstacle mud runs together. It was his idea, and neither of us are hugely into fitness. Well, it was a great experience thanks to him. He kept up morale, kept me going, kept his sense of humor when we were jumping into tubs of ice water in pretty chilly weather. I was happy to follow his lead, even when I wanted the damn thing to be over. A mud run seems like a silly test of dealing with tough circumstances, but in lieu o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 05:33 PM |
| 9 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?What if I told you, the vast majority of men get married because he believes it will make his partner happy Why do men want to make their woman happy? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 05:24 PM |
| 11 | Maintaining respect in marriage/ltrI took a crack at this but it's such a big question that I hardly know where to start! LOL! I recommend reading the sidebar, specifically on LTRs. In regards to family life, I do think that whatever issues you have in your relationship before kids will likely get worse after kids. Whatever personality flaws each of you has will be magnified. You have to ask yourself how you deal with stress, physical discomfort, and frustration--because kids will cause all three. How does your partner deal with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'tscommunicating your desires is much more powerful than nagging or demanding I agree that saying "he should" is useless advice. Nagging and demanding are a-no go. But I'm still going to find something to be difficult about, the bit about communication. 😁 I think communication works best when it's about practical matters. Chores are a good example. What to get at the store (send a very, very specific list), which school to pick for the kids, where to go for vacation, where to spend Christmas, which… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/23 07:50 PM |
| 23 | How does the Red Pill Community view men who want their women to be exclusive to them, yet the man can have one-night stands and "friends for sex"? Is such a man considered an HVM?I suspect that men who can successfully pull off one-sided open relationships don't talk a ton about their intentions. They just do it, and have so much status/looks/game that their women implicitly accept this arrangement--a don't ask, don't tell deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 02:25 AM |
| 5 | My husband said he "lowered his standards" dating meUnfortunately, I think your assessment is the most accurate one in this thread. Hurts because as much as we want to be loved for our hearts, we want our men to desire us as animals Being sexually desired by a desirable man (here, OP's husband) is of existential importance to a woman. Inner beauty is great after a woman feels assured that she's pretty. This situation is one of those minor tragedies of life. I think OP can accept the situation for what it is, let the sting fade with time, let it g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/23 10:30 PM |
| 5 | Ways to test RMVFor young girls, the SMV does the heavy lifting, compatibility takes care of most of the rest, a little bit of right place/right time, and a teeny tiny amount of vetting can prevent a total disaster. Young men don't really care about RMV. They are mostly banking on maturing together and forgive a lot of shit. The men that start asking "what does she bring to the table" are older, and have been burnt. But a guys not going to be asking or even thinking what his first gf brings to the table. Bam! I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 02:26 AM |
| 3 | Ways to test RMVI'll be real. It's very hard to have high RMV at the age of 20. Most of the desirable inner traits of a woman develop after her peak SMV has passed. This is the most interesting insight I've read here in a while! I agree with you, it's just so jarring to see in a place where RMV is heavily emphasized. I'd say overemphasized but I'm being difficult now. I'd love a longer post on this topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/23 06:29 PM |
| 3 | I feel a large part of the problem with dating is extroverts and a lack of social unity and connection.Why can't the government set up local communities where people calln come together and meet other single people? Like a single meet up but funded and advertised by our government There's a wildly popular old Soviet movie, Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears, where this is a thing, exactly as you're describing. Not sure if this actually happened in the USSR or was made up for the movie. https://youtu.be/NTWA_7-ld_U?si=JbjxaiqkfafASjFI Start at 1.17. It ends with a scene where an old man complains to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedHey, I remember you, I liked your contrarian takes here and at PPD! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/23 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedYeah, I dug out my straight-leg jeans that I had been neglecting for years. I'm thinking I'll be wearing straight leg forever! Boot cut is what I wore in 2001-2006 until skinnies took over. Don't get rid of your clothes, they'll cycle back! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 08:47 PM |
| 9 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedwore a pair of skinny jeans Okay, this is my opportunity to ask the ladies of RPW: What kind of jeans are you wearing these days?? As an old millennial, I just can't revisit the baggy light-wash denim that I was wearing in middle school in 1996, lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 08:11 PM |
| 49 | Will men find it a turn off that I am a quiet home body who doesn’t have many friends?As a lifelong quiet woman who doesn't have many friends, I'll say the biggest problem with being a homebody when you're young is losing out on building social circles and meeting men. Youth/university years is the time to do this, don't miss out. If you do meet a guy, a lot of quieter, homebody men definitely won't mind. But these might be the guys who like playing video games for hours or who never want to leave the house, especially as they get older. Make sure you are okay with that. More act… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 08:13 PM |
| 9 | What do you bring to the table?skinny dipping after hours It was fun. open and experimental That's a great story and thanks for bringing up fun, the most underrated feminine virtue on RPW. This is what gets lost in all these resumes about being a good cook or knowing how to manage a household or being low n-count or agreeable--the intangible quality of being a fun woman who's open to stuff. I get annoyed at this "what do you bring to the table" question because a lot of what women bring to the table that seals the deal for LT… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 04:02 PM |
| 3 | What do you bring to the table?My husband said he liked having sex with me, lol. But in general, outside of bed, he praised me specifically for being accommodating, not trying to change him, and just making things easy. I also think he liked introducing the quiet little me to things like riding a motorcycle, training his difficult dog, skating, etc. Adding a dash of danger to my life! It's good to consider your tangible SMV/RMV qualities, but this question also involves unspoken intangibles that just "feel right" to a man. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/23 05:55 PM |
| 7 | I don’t know where to start, but I know I want to understandThis is all helpful context and certainly puts him in a better light! As for age, don't cry, I didn't meet my husband until 28 and did pretty well! In fact I'm now 40 (! 😱) and still enjoying his affection and life past the wall, lol. Btw, I mentioned your "downsides" not because they're all necessarily downsides for men in general, but because if this guy dates you, maybe he's not quite as red pill as he says or thinks he is. Watch what he does, not what he says. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 09:30 PM |
| 7 | I don’t know where to start, but I know I want to understandYou can read the wiki for this sub and see if it resonates with you. I’ve always considered myself to be liberal, fiercely independent, and a feminist. My mom was a single mom and I’m an only child These are all downsides for a red pill man. What is attractive to you about this man, and what does he find attractive about you (besides your relative youth)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 07:37 PM |
| 1 | I like older men but feel repulsed when they show interest in mewhen tbey show interest in me I can't help but feel repulsed. but I find them extremely attractive I'm curious how you can be repulsed by men you find extremely attractive. What do you find attractive about them? Do they maybe inspire some "icks" because of their maturity? For example, when I was 23 I started dating a guy who was 28 or 29. He had just bought a condo and spent a lot of time remodeling it. When we met up with his friends, the conversation was mostly about home ownership and remode… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 11:02 PM |
| 1 | How would a RP man feel about an anorgasmic wife?What have you said in the past and how did he react? As to your second point, you're very much in your head because you're not aroused. The more you start feeling aroused, the less you'll be concerned about exactly what he's thinking. If I'm halfway to orgasm and I'm worried that he's feeling it's a chore....well, too bad, at that point I want to cum so we keep going! I think the payoff is worth it for my husband. I feel for you, this isn't an easy issue to deal with and when it comes to communi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 04:56 AM |
| 2 | Back To Basics September: Online DatingI'm in agreement with you that if you lean more towards alternative style (tattoos, colored hair, or piercings, etc.) you can still find high quality men that value those things. There's good men everywhere, but the consensus I think on both RPW and RPWi was/is to try to be attractive to as many men when dating rather than niche dating. At least until you find your partner and can dress for him specifically. I know some people dress alt as pretty much a costume, but alt scenes generally heavily … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/23 03:55 PM |
| 1 | How would a RP man feel about an anorgasmic wife?What’s a normal amount of time to spend? I think for us it’s usually ~5 minutes. Are you talking about foreplay? If so, five minutes is very short before you proceed to penetration. I doubt there's a woman in the world who can get fully aroused and feel the tingles in 5 minutes. You could focus on foreplay without the intention of orgasm just because kissing/touching feels good. (I personally could spend an hour just making out, kissing feels so good to me.) Tell him that you feel good when he t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/23 03:09 PM |
| 9 | Were you attracted to your husband/partner from the first date?Attraction can grow over time, but usually when the couple get to know each other in a non-romantic way (work, friend circles), without the pressures that inevitably come in dating like any sort of physical intimacy. You're in a tough spot--you could try going on a few more dates and offer to pay, even it's just tipping, or paying for one part of the date while he covers another. Don't insist, just offer. (I know exactly what you mean about feeling bad about a man you're not that into who insist… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/23 04:30 PM |
| 3 | How would a RP man feel about an anorgasmic wife?I get mentally very aroused (sex is all in my head- but I’ve heard that’s how women are?). How much time do you guys typically spend on foreplay when you have sex? Making out, caressing and kissing your breasts, neck, abdomen, inner thighs, gentle clit stimulation with fingers or mouth? Do you ever feel the "tingles" in these areas? I know exactly what you mean about mental arousal- some of the most memorable sex I've had was when I was mentally excited, although nowhere near feeling the "tingle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/23 03:39 AM |
| 3 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".Absolutely, food is a huge social signifier! This is actually is a pretty decent overview: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_class_differences_in_food_consumption I always recommend Paul Fussel's excellent book Class about the various nuances of social class in the U.S. if you want to geek out on this. It's a bit dated now, but overall really fun and insightful. Quite funny, too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/23 11:48 PM |
| 4 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".I don't mean to be difficult (oh who am I kidding, yes I do!)....but the traits that led your doctor girl to read red pill articles (intellectual curiosity, ability to engage with written content) are some of the same traits that led her to pursue many years of higher education. How long is your submissive girls series? 1,500 words, 2,000? An uneducated's woman's eyes would glaze over and she'd say "tldr lul" and go watch tiktoks and you'd never end up in bed in the first place! 🤪 I really do ap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/23 04:08 PM |
| 6 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".Thanks for responding, I appreciate it! But I mostly do not care what my girls do for work - So one girl is a higher end party planner. Another was a doctor who found me on TRP of all places.1 Another was an assistant professor.2 Others have been students, models, artists, nannies...one of the Art History girls was a bartender and the other one works in a museum. That last one was also a coder Of the 10 jobs you mentioned, 5 require at least a 4-year degree or more. Students are presumably on th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/23 02:27 PM |
| 5 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".All things being equal, I'd go with the waitress. I know you're doing the soft harem thing and not exclusive LTRs, but I'm still curious about what your girls do for work. Have you dated waitresses who work in low-end restaurants? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/23 07:30 PM |
| 15 | Upper middle class men do care if you have an "education" or a "good job".College degrees are a class marker that correlates with other class markers, and while men might not care about salary or a career, they care about class markers. I don't think they consciously look for class markers because everything a woman does is a class marker that comprises her sexual persona, whether she knows it or not: her clothes, media she consumes, food she likes, her hobbies, her family, etc. And while men certainly marry down, there's a threshold to how low a man will go. If colle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/23 02:07 PM |
| 12 | Does your man know you follow RP teachings?He's not aware of the red pill (as in the online teachings/culture around it), but he knows that I participate on an anti-feminist forum, or as he calls it "the submissive women's group." He thinks the whole concept is pretty funny and when we disagree on stuff, he'll sometimes joke "Ask your womens group and they'll say that you are WRONG and I am RIGHT!" When tell him about some of the more controversial stuff here he says it's guys larping. That said, I do like to get his take on general red … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/23 02:15 PM |
| 6 | Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring.Hard to say what's going on here based on this brief post. Maybe it's a nothingburger, maybe something's bothering him beyond makeup trends. You know your husband, but in the offchance that it is something, here are some questions to dig into: What's going on in your marriage? Any issues or problems? What kind of guy is he? Does he have any cause to be unhappy with you and how you present yourself? Is he aware of the red pill? I ask because according to you, he's really not saying "I think heavy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 03:47 AM |
| 2 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?Things are manageable these days, I think we're past the toughest part now that the kids are all in school. My husband does gets tired but mostly because of the nature of his work (creative field with deadlines, and he's a perfectionist on the job). I was tired when the kids were very young, but my job has always been quite easy and family-friendly, I'm very lucky that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 08:18 PM |
| 7 | How much do you contribute in your marriage?We both work full time and he's typically earned 10-20% more than me, but my job is easy and his is far more challenging and deadline-driven. He also takes occasional side gigs and I don't. We have a joint account, our money is our money. We have three kids, childcare is generally 60% me, 40% him, though I did more by default when I was breastfeeding. I do a lot of the secretarial stuff that comes with family life because if I didn't it wouldn't get done. But he takes care of our son's sports ac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Daughters of Pick Me Girls or Cool GirlsThank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/23 03:30 PM |
| 8 | Cheating Dilemma: do you let your partner know that you know?First, Freaks and Geeks was such a great show, thanks for reminding me to rewatch it one of these days. Second, damn, this is such a good response. This whole idea of confessing one's cheating, apologies, amends, going to therapy together, etc. is so revolting to me. I could not respect my husband if he was crying and apologizing...yes, the adultery would be disappointing, but his inability to be discreet and conceal it from me forever...equally so. There's also distinction between choosing to d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Daughters of Pick Me Girls or Cool GirlsA lot of women here are very young and childless, and young people who don't yet have children judge their parents very harshly. You see this all over reddit, all the "just no" forums. For every truly terrible parent, there's four that fail in very banal, ordinary ways but are seen as monsters by the grown child. I don't think people really develop empathy toward their parents until well into their 20s, or until they have kids of their own. My mom can be a piece of work, but if I grew up in her … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 04:27 PM |
| 6 | How do you interact with a potential boyfriend’s pet?When I met my husband he owned a border collie mix who didn't like anyone except him and his parents. Beautiful dog that would get quite protective and territorial around strangers, including me. I can tell you that being willing get to know his dog was a huge, huge green flag in my favor. I had never been around dogs so my husband didn't expect me to proactively do anything, but following his lead in interacting with and helping train the dog helped cement out relationship. The dog and I are no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 08:53 PM |
| 4 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?How do you stay with a guy with these types of double standards? It just seems hypocritical to OP, how old are you,behave you ever been in love? I think the simplest answer to your question is that when a woman is in love--by which I mean feeling an intense emotional and sexual connection to a man and putting him on a pedestal above others--she does not care. If her love is returned in the same form by the man...she doubly does not care. Love makes women overlook all sorts of flaws and hypocrisi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 03:12 PM |
| 5 | Have a healthy relationship And spoil you like princesses through sexNow everyone wants a provider and the idea that you should be attracted to him has gone by the wayside. The spectre of FDS is haunting RPW! Yeah, the provider above all thing disturbs me, but I think it may be part of a larger cultural shift away from the ideals of the western sexual revolution--the ideal of sexual pleasure above all, all you need is love (not provision), plus the obnoxious push for female careerism. Women are understandably seeing the downsides of "free" love and work, and look… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Liberal women have an easier time datingThanks! This is pretty fascinating! A good number of very conservative religious colleges on that list, the word "Baptist" stood out a lot, ha. So not surprising that these universities attract marriage-minded young people who try to marry early. But your overall point still stands. From what I've seen it's not uncommon to meet at college a serious LTR in college and marry that person in the late 20s. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/23 02:56 PM |
| 8 | Liberal women have an easier time datingBut in the end, about 40% of people who went to college marry someone from their college. Where is this stat from? I completely agree with you and Deliaallmife on this, btw, but 40% seems pretty high so curious how that number came about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/23 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Do you ever feel out of place these days being red pilled?I wouldn't recommend living in an economically depressed dump or a remote rural area, but I typically think of cities like Indianapolis, Milwaukee, Minneapolis, Columbus, Cleveland, Omaha, etc. (Although I do know couples who have very nice family lives in 3rd/4th/5th tier flyover cities, you can get lots of house for less money). It's not that these cities are per se conservative in terms of dating, but marriage and family at an earlier age is completely normal, cost of living is better, and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/23 03:51 PM |
| 16 | Do you ever feel out of place these days being red pilled?I've only really felt out of place when I read Mommy forums and some woman says "ugh, my husband wants to have sex and I'm only 2 years postpartum" and then they all chime in like, "ugh, what a man child, grow up buddy, it's not all about you anymore!!!!" almost feel guilty about wanting to get married and wanting a big family in the future. How old are you, where do you live, what's your social class and social mileu? What kind of media do you consume? I'm a millennial in a second-tier city in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 04:58 PM |
| 2 | "Top 10% of men want 20 yr olds they can mold"I think a man over 25 dating a 16 year old is weird tbh. Like at least wait til she’s 18, it’s just weird af. Here's my favorite random famous old guy/young girl pairing: I recently learned that Bill Wyman, bass player for the Rolling Stones, married a 18 year old woman in his 50s. This was in the late 80s. I guess he met her when she was 13 and consummated the relationship at 14. They separated when she was 20. I had never heard of this, why was it memory holed?? And Wyman wasn't a silver fox a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 04:01 PM |
| 2 | What do HVM want? I need a women’s perspective because what is said in those male podcasts is not what I’ve observed in real life.Thanks for the link, it’s spot on for exactly what I’m talking about! Glad it helped! I think RPW errs on the side of telling women "If you want to get married, be a good girl, men don't marry bad girls!" And when men deliver this message, it also comes with some (A LOT) of finger-wagging. Look here, little ladies...🤪 And yeah, what they're saying is generally true, but it's not the whole truth. There's an enormous appeal to "bad" women, and don't tell me they won't ever get married. They will, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 05:08 AM |
| 5 | What do HVM want? I need a women’s perspective because what is said in those male podcasts is not what I’ve observed in real life.It might be the type of HVM in my city they are mainly all business or club owners not doctors or lawyers or anything like that. Could you clarify this part? What's an HVM to you? I'm curious why doctors and lawyers in your city aren't considered HVMs--or do you not consider them HVMs? Edit: On a different note, you may find this post helpful. Highly recommend you read it and the discussion that follows. It talks about men's preferences for "good" vs " bad" women and how to calibrate your sexual… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 03:07 AM |
| 3 | Entitlement, Tradition & What you Bring to the TableMy personal reason for splitting the bill stems from a bit of marketing psychology I learned in college. Basically the reason that companies give out pens and trinkets is that it creates a sense of owing in the receivers brain. I never wanted to feel that I owed a man anything for meeting up to get to know each other. Now if he insisted, I would not push paying, but splitting a check was for my benefit not his. Man, I'm loving this thread. Yes, yes, yes. When my now-husband suggested splitting t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/23 07:19 PM |
| 4 | Entitlement, Tradition & What you Bring to the TableHome/slow cooking and "trad" skills like crafting, sewing, knitting, fermenting, homesteading, backyard chickens, etc., made a huge comeback 2000 to....present day? And not really among trad wife types until more recently, but rather among cool urban millennials. I do think it's baffling that RP men complain about women not knowing how to cook. It wasn't a thing for GenX women, so maybe that's why older guys don't encounter it? And maybe the new domesticity trend has never took off with zoomers,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/23 01:17 AM |
| 5 | Catcalling (or lack thereof) is killing my hardly-existing confidenceI'm now on vacations in Paris. I read again and again, how catcalling and "harassment" is out of this world in Paris and that women are approached and called all the time here. Have you tried making eye contact with Middle Eastern men, lol? When I did that in Paris they assumed I was...good to go! Seriously, I hardly got any attention from men when I was young and that was due to being homely, extremely shy, afraid of men (not giving them IOIs) and rarely going out, especially to bars/clubs/part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/23 08:05 PM |
| 17 | Entitlement, Tradition & What you Bring to the TableSolid post, and thank you for giving me a soapbox to talk about this "traditional dating" thing that comes up here a lot. Dating is inherently untraditional. Can someone point me to a tradition in which respectable, middle-class women (especially young, never-married ones) go on unchaperoned outings with strange men with no guidance or approval from their families? This is modern dating, and I don't care how conservative or chaste both parties may be--tradition no longer applies to them. Which m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/23 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Redpilled Victorians: these complaints aren’t newWait til you read Laclos' Dangerous Liaisons! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 11:27 PM |
| 3 | How can you cope with being a “low value” woman, or can you compensate for it in other ways?Can I ask why it is you even read it? I read a lot of Rollo around 2010-2012, probably all the essays collected in his first book. I mean, it's a great overview of essential red pill concepts and it helped me understand men better. I think my own marriage benefits from what I learned from Rollo. Women's content can err on the side of building the better beta and the corny trad wife stuff, so a bit of Rollo is a good antidote. And I do mean a bit, because after 2012 I stopped reading him and have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/23 02:21 PM |
| 5 | Evolution Happens QuicklyI've heard the same thing about dad bods and I was envisaging Homer Simpson... Good to know they didn't mean that. I thought it was a sad indictment on women's tastes overall. I wonder how much age/generation/location plays into this. I'm an old millennial and when I started dating in the early-aughts, lifting didn't really seem like a thing. However, it seemed like everyone on my Facebook feed was training for a 5k or 10k or a marathon. So being not fat was a thing, but visible muscles, not rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/23 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Why would women orgasm more in a socialist society?My Soviet immigrant mom is sad that she missed out on a western-style sexual revolution in her youth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 02:38 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: "Wife Privileges"We slept together (starting from the third date), lived together, split expenses and chores 50/50, though I never did chores at his place prior to moving in together. To me, wife stuff is combining finances, buying a house, having children, becoming a sahm/housewife, moving, dealing with his family (the day we got engaged his mom starting including me on the rambling emails she sent to her siblings, lol), and maybe dealing with long-term illness, though plenty of people would harshly judge a gf … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/23 02:29 PM |
| 5 | Are You Single Until You're Married?In the west, if a woman is in a serious, monogamous LTR and she's considering other men, then: A) She isn't attracted to and doesn't respect her man. Or B) She has mixed feelings about her LTR for whatever reason--commonly it's because of different life goals or habits/issues she no longer wants to tolerate. This is often the beginning of a breakup. Or C) She's dating him for mostly transactional reasons (he's rich, status ). I think this is actually the least common reason, you'll see a lot mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/23 09:15 PM |
| 6 | Food for though: What will you teach your childrenI'd be thrilled if my three kids followed the path my husband and I took, though I hope they'd get there a bit sooner in life. Basically, marriage and kids, after a typical period of dating...which is the path of nearly all middle class millennials in my circle (Midwest). I'd hope that my kids will see and want to emulate what my husband and I have: happy family life, affection and mutual attraction. I don't know how much advice I'd proactively give my kids, especially my sons. Who wants to hear… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/23 03:20 PM |
| 9 | Non-traditional women of RPW, what brings you here?It's a way of understanding men, what makes them tick, how to cultivate their commitment and affection, regardless of lifestyle, politics, religion, etc. I think men have the same sexual nature, no matter who they are (just as awalt, amalt). This place definitely isn't perfect for me, but it's the closest I found in the red pill realm that accommodates my beliefs (secular, mainstream western culture, middle of the road politically, not really feminist but also not quite anti feminist. The woman … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/23 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Confused on who to “aim” for in LTRsIt's hard to answer your questions without knowing your age, your location, your social class and your social mileu. What is an HVM to you where you are? What makes him an HVM? What kind of women does he end up with (look beyond their style). Is general you should dress for the man you want, but these days there are so many variations on each style. Does bohemian mean middle aged lady at a craft fair or a young hipster-type woman? This is just stuff to think about, I don't think people can help … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/23 07:03 PM |
| 7 | FR: I left a bad relationship at 23 and my life didn't end.I was 27 when I left a similar relationship. He was also the good on paper guy (though it gradually turned out that he wasn't that good even on paper) who I didn't like having sex with. When we got together I was actually reading a lot of early red pill and thought I was doing exactly the right thing as a young woman: dating a stable man and not chasing tingles, what do they matter... After this relationship I did prioritize attraction (among other traits of course), it worked out great for me. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 02:47 PM |
| – | Everybody acknowledges that making friends as an adult is very hard but we still think it’s easy to join in established social circlesI agree, the social circle wall is more harsh for both men and women than the SMV wall. The skill of forming a social circle should begin to develop at ages 4-5, and then age 13-25 is the key time go make friends, go out, create social connections, etc. (I'd maybe even set the cutoff at ages 22-23.) Anyone who doesn't do this will struggle to catch up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 07:47 PM |
| 2 | How do you know when you’ve hit the wall?A little small talk with the cashier to make my day brighter, getting unrequested help from a kind man to put my carry on luggage into the overhead compartments EVERY time, and rewarding these small favors with the warmth and wide-eyed, bright smiles that seem more natural from someone who is in their teens and twenties. Youth and beauty aside, the other way to experience these perks is to be a woman with small children. In fact, I've never felt any special privilege until I had kids in my 30s. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 06:33 PM |
| 7 | Pretty privilege is everywhere and is actually the strongest discrimination on earth??IG or Tiktok models live their best lives. i just saw a story of 9/10 on a fucking yacht Since the fact that your looks can literally put you in LA or in Miami famous because of your looks I'm not going to tell you that looks don't matter, because they obviously do, and plenty of women would rather be sad, lonely and, yes, debased like the yacht girls if they could also be beautiful. It's not like being unattractive guarantees a wholesome and pleasant life. However, your post is really pining fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Am I wrong to heal my trauma before settling down (and face hitting the wall) ?I'll see what I can do, lol. I need to read a few more "I'm 23, did I hit the wall" posts here for inspiration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 02:27 PM |
| 5 | Am I wrong to heal my trauma before settling down (and face hitting the wall) ?Lol, I've been considering pitching an article called "Your guide to normiemaxxing" to the mods. Step one for young women would be to cut yourself off from male RP content for a long while, additional steps are looking cute, fitting into an fsm and having a social circle. I don't mean this as snark--I think this is the path to middle-class marriage and family life for women in mainstream culture. I failed to do all this when I was young so you don't want to learn from me, but maybe someone else … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | What is realistic to expect?Thanks! This whole topic is near and dear to my heart. When I was young I didn't think that I'm the kind of woman who errs on the side of desire, but painful experience showed me that I am, ha! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/23 02:49 PM |
| 13 | What is realistic to expect?You have to decide whether you want to err on the side of attraction or stability/provision, unfortunately relatively few men have a good supply of both. I was in a relationship where I erred in the side of stability/provision and felt no attraction to the guy, although on paper he was quite perfect. I also had a lot of doubts when I ended that relationship. Then I decided to err on the side of attraction, and it was the right choice for me. My husband doesn't make a lot of money (works hard and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/23 04:36 AM |
| 6 | Do you consider yourself attractive?When I was 7 or 8, I asked my dad if I was pretty and he said, "You're perfectly average." As a teenager, my mom would look me up and down and say, "You're not a beauty, but you're pleasant looking, you can get a boyfriend." Well, it turned out that my blunt Soviet immigrant parents were...correct! I know I'm pretty meh looking, probably a 4. That's the rating that actresses I most closely resemble get on that vindicta celebrity rating sub. I was a late bloomer and went through puberty when most… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/23 02:28 PM |
| 4 | How the hell can women commit to a man they don't lust after?Common. Stay off mom forums and daddit, lol. But there's stuff to consider like, how attracted were the partners to each other pre-kids? How much sex did they have? How motivated are they to maintain their looks and sex life? Women tend to get fat and get too into the mom role. Men grow a gut, get lazy, go beta. How easy/difficult was the pregnancy and recovery? Is she breastfeeding (often suppresses the sex drive). What other new life stresses are there? Kids are unpredictable. If your baby end… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 08:21 PM |
| 4 | How the hell can women commit to a man they don't lust after?I think women who are by nature conservative, inhibited, religious or family-minded are more likely to vet men for beta/comfort/provider traits and put sexual desire on the back burner. These women are eager to opt out of the chaotic, frightening sexual marketplace and once a man who's "good on paper" comes along, they'll stick with him instead of searching for one who's also sexually exciting. A lot of these women tend to be on the homely side, awkward, shy, "nice." I don't think most dead bedr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 07:28 PM |
| 7 | Let's Debate about the IG followers ruleMy anonymous account where I post a dumb arty photo (never pix of me) every few weeks has 102 followers. 😭 Can I atone for this by being a g r e e a b l e? 😇 ✨ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/23 02:22 AM |
| 18 | Almost totally asexual, do I still have a chance?Edit: there is something wrong with culture that tells women these experiences aren’t normal and they must be asexual. I agree with your whole response. Yeah, for some reason people overlook the fear/repulsion some young women experience around sex and male sexuality. For a certain type of young woman--shy, inhibited, self-conscious, conservative, neurotic, socially awkward, maybe not very attractive--sex and men are really terrifying. There's like an innate sense of self-preservation, a paralyz… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 05:33 PM |
| 11 | q4w what is your opinion on "femcel" women?I've known women who were essentially ignored by the opposite sex but they saw themselves as defective rather than the uninterested men. Yeah, that was me in my teens and early 20s. This is the period when I was most conservative and tradition-minded. It certainly didn't lead me to radical feminism, really the opposite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 02:27 PM |
| 12 | Boyfriend traveling with a female friend without telling me. Is this wrong or I'm just being over?I asked him but not before this happened. he told me yesterday I can go travel with whoever I want. This is the most damning statement in this whole story. He says he'd okay with you traveling alone with some man, any man? He's not protective or possessive of you. You can proceed as you like with him, you know this man and whatever good/attractive qualities he may have, but you seem to be far more into him than he is into you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 12:17 PM |
| 2 | I keep getting asked “why” with why I don’t want a full time job or career :(I feel like in Seattle you could tell them you've done FIRE and you're retiring from full-time work. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/06/23 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Those in happy LTR's, what has been the key for your success?Sexual attraction, similar goals/worldview, compatible personalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 07:15 PM |
| 5 | Bohemian, artistic, spiritually alternative BUT STILL TRADITIONAL cities?Yep. And I was going to say pretty much any Midwestern city that has an arts/hipster scene. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/23 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Disabled ex husbandI have a friend who did emt transport for a stretch and observed that to be old comfortably you needed two of the following three: not fat, wealth, or daughters. Not sons, it was daughters that cared for their aging parents. This is so fascinating! My in-laws are fat, poor and have no daughters...god, they're extremely lucky to have my BIL taking on elder care, mostly because he is childless and has the time. He did get so burned out taking care of them that he's now in therapy. For example: if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/23 07:37 PM |
| 2 | How to act more feminine as someone with a more masculine haircut/wardrobeThis is a case where you can get some actual inspirations and styling ideas from masculine-looking icons/influencers, women like Patti Smith, Katherine Hepburn, Coco Chanel, Cate Blanchett, Tilda Swinton, Charlotte Rampling, short-haired fashion models, etc. Maybe you need to look for men who do appreciate a more masculine, no-nonsense woman. In the online red pill world , the most desirable feminine persona is the long-haired, delicate middle class woman in a flowery sundress. But that's not th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/23 02:55 PM |
| 5 | What is exactly emotional labour which women do?Emotional labor is secretarial/administrative tasks in the household and family life. Women generally take on this role when they have kids. Edit: I think this is one of those seemingly minor issues where the sexes really can't understand each other. Men generally have less interest in the minutea of household management/childcare, so the very concept seems dumb, especially to young childless men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Any thoughts on the RP canon "you CANNOT negotiate attraction"?I'm going to take a different angle and it may be off base, so feel free to disregard. How are you getting to know these men? What kind of dates are you going on? I think a lot of "nice" men are unaware of how to display sexual charisma or what makes men appealing to women. When I look at the OLD forums where men ask people to review their profiles, it's amazing how many decent looking guys present themselves in an entirely harmless and sexually neutered way. You'd think they're applying for pre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/23 04:05 PM |
| 5 | Left holding the baby...Check out this post, very similar issue and some decent advice: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/12sreed/he_goes_out_with_friends_while_im_home_with_baby/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/23 05:35 PM |
| 13 | Traditional and “Progressive” Men are not mutually exclusiveYep, I think this is pretty accurate. These days a "traditional" man is simply a man who intends to get married and have a family and is open to having a sahm wife after children. Plenty of liberal-leaning men like that. I also think a lot of traditional ideals kick in for men after they get married and have kids. My husband is a fairly liberal guy, but after we got married became even more protective of me. Like, he stopped giving me rides on his motorcycle because he felt responsible for a wif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/23 09:23 PM |
| 2 | I don't know if my partner is good for me anymoreAt the beginning of the relationship he told me he will take care of me and do everything for me and give me the best life. I found it so cute and appreciated it it is also the norm for my family that the man provides. So I thought he was like that but now he says if I want to be with him then I have to have a job and work too,. It's hard to weigh in here without knowing your social class/social mileu/cultural background. For women dating in secular western middle class culture, the path to leav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/23 09:35 PM |
| 8 | 7 Things I've Learned From My Highly Desirable, Thrice Divorced MotherMen really value a playful, open spirit... to an extent. My mom was not the type to turn heads when she walked down the street, but she had her pick of the pack because everyone wanted a piece of her personality. She was the type who could talk to anyone, was down to do anything, willing to try everything, loved a good prank, and knew how to make people laugh. Very nice post. This this such an underrated quality on RPW. From what I've seen, women like this don't stay single for long. Anyway, my … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/23 02:54 PM |
| 7 | Going down on womenHave a upvote for the Sopranos reference! Ironically, Uncle Jr was a real-deal mgtow! He never married, and until his decline, he lived for his mission ("our thing"), women were side entertainment. He probably had the happiest romantic relationships on the show (along with Paulie, another dude who never married). Also, even given the cultural factor (super macho old school mafia), it's implied that even Tony goes down on his wife--granted, only once a year, on her birthday, lol, so it's easy for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 04:00 AM |
| 7 | Going down on womenI think it's just something pilled men say on the internet, locker room shit talk. That's it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/23 08:56 PM |
| 8 | My(22f) boyfriend(26m) has told me he tells his parents when we 'have fun', I feel like my privacy is being taken away from meMy boyfriend's parents live abroad. Whenever we are together, he is often sends pictures of me to his family, and although I cannot read their language.. I would bet money that this is primarily a cultural issue, namely western expectations of privacy and lack of family involvement in one's love life vs...the opposite. I'm going to guess that your boyfriend is somewhere from the Middle East. By western cultural standards of course you're being reasonable, but it doesn't matter if your boyfriend … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 04:23 AM |
| 2 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?I am a fencesitter and could see myself being happy with or without children, but am very interested in how children affect the marriage beyond more/less sleep, more/less romance and sex. Having children with a man who has solid husband/father qualities can make a woman very happy, but having kids with a man without those qualities is the no. 1 way women permanently derail their lives. There's no decision more important for a woman than picking the right man to have kids with. The man aside, I t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 05:44 PM |
| 7 | How to weed out useless datesMaybe it is my culture but men in my culture would never let a woman pay on the first date, Out of curiosity, what is your culture? I suspect there's a cultural component to the pushback you're getting (egalitarian anglo post-sexual revolution culture vs the culture you're from). | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 02:36 PM |
| 5 | how do i level up in terms of getting my career and school life together? i really need someone older than me to guide meI barely have work to do and I make as much as a nurse in my area. After a certain paygrade, most companies are flex about coming, leaving, time off, etc. Get yourself to the pay grade where you have that flexibility. 😂 You're exactly right on this point! Red pill men like to knock bullshit office jobs (dreaded awful HR, power point flunky, etc.), but these jobs give women more freedom and flexibility than some traditional women's fields like teaching and nursing. Of course, the downside of thes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/23 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Everything TRP states is true, but only for low-socio social circlesTRP content creators seem very low social class to me. My understanding of the red pill comes from the Roosh/Roissy/Rollo crowd, and those guys seemed to come from middle class backgrounds. But I concede that the current crop of guys are a rung lower on the social ladder. TRP audience, mostly people which lack social awareness... shitload of autistic people. I agree, but idk, everything about autism and autism culture seems middle class. The TRP audience is always reading, writing, theorizing, o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Everything TRP states is true, but only for low-socio social circlesMost TRP'ers are themselves part of the low social class and can't understand higher social classes. I think they're generally middle class, not lower middle or upper middle, just solidly middle. This is the social class that has the most sentimental attitudes about women (that need to be "fixed" with the red pill) and feels boxed in by politically correct norms that nice middle-class people can't violate without risking their reputation (social, professional, digital, etc). In contrast, the "lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Genderflip - if men chose "bodice rippers", what would they choose?If men had to choose a "bodice ripper" - a romantic novel with sexual undertones - how do you think their preferences would differ to womens? It'd be like the movie Say Anything. Male fantasy of letting go of the conventional masculine burden of performance yet being loved by a beautiful, accomplished and pure woman all the more for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 04:10 PM |
| 1 | CMV : The human brain doesn’t care about statistics, it perceives “average” as what’s physiologically possible, not numerical distributionYou guys gotta see Joseph Gordon Levitt in Hesher, I'm telling ya.... https://youtu.be/g-tbM0qCU-s It's a fantastic red pill movie, too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 08:56 PM |
| 4 | The women who end up as single "cat ladies" are usually not the typical hot, party girlFrom what I've seen in the middle/lower middle class, this is true. The 30+ unmarried cat ladies I've met were all grossly obese "nice" women. They did stuff like crafting, game nights with girlfriends, they spent time with families, babysat, volunteered at animal shelters. One was a churchy woman who was a virgin past 35. These womens' idea of a wild night was going for Mexican with girlfriends and having two margaritas. The other category of cat ladies were women in the same social class/weigh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Less affection from boyfriendKeep doing the RPW thing, but watch carefully for continuing signs of reciprocity, protectiveness and possessiveness (in this case, desire to keep you locked down as a girlfriend). You are in an exclusive boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, right? It's harder in an LDR-- new relationship energy thrives on togetherness, not to mention it's tough to say what's up with his work stuff from afar. You guys have to see each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/23 01:49 PM |
| – | Pretty much every advice targeted at men is to make them to wait until they are too old to do anythingYou know what, OP, I agree. "You can always have a baby" is the lie blue pill tells women, "You can always become Chad" is the lie red pill tells men. There's a time for everything, and the time to prepare for future romantic success should start long before puberty through socialization, sports, etc. The time to leverage that success is in one's youth. If a man is romantically unsuccessful in his 20s, chances are he'll be unsuccessful for life (although there are of course exceptions, and the r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Women don't appreciate male breadwinnersNeither sex can appreciate each other's work if they're not working side by side, day in and day out. This is the traditional way--running a farm or a business together. Women can't appreciate what a man does in an office or factory, and men think of childcare and housework like Shakespeare's Iago: it's merely "suckling fools and chronicling small beer" (minor inconsequential tasks). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Liberal men vs conservative womenThank you for giving me the opportunity to respond to these old RPW posts, I'm really enjoying this! Nothing to argue with in Whisper's post, but it's really a standalone topic. Ruby's post essentially said "Watch out for chads who will pump and dump you. These men are risky candidates for committed relationships. You already know how frat boy chad operates, now learn about bohemian chad." It's obvious that bohemian Chad in his wild oats phase is a values/goal mismatch for 99% of women on RPW. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/23 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Liberal men vs conservative womenOh, yesss, I know about Dylan! I think that post makes my point nicely. Per the EC, Dylan is very handsome, has tight game and plays in a band (status in a field that appeals to women). Looks, game, status: the trifecta of male sexual success. Dylan is just Chad in Ren faire costume. He leans into the poet/artist/troubadour archetype that is appealing to many young women, and is wildly appealing to women in a certain niche (arts, hipsters, etc.). Yes, a dash of feminism can lower a woman's defen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 03:29 PM |
| 5 | Liberal men vs conservative womenpretend to support liberal left wing ideas because they hope to get laid, and don’t have to be responsible for any consequences. I see this idea a lot in red pill circles, but I think it has to be a myth. The red pill teaches us that women respond to game, frame, status, charisma, charm, good looks, assholes, dark triad, etc. If liberal men succeed with women, it's because they have some of these traits alongside their liberal or feminist views. They succeed despite their liberality, not because… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 01:33 PM |
| – | Why is the question, "What do you bring to the table?" so offensive to some?-Intimate human relationships, and certainly love and romance, thrive on indirect communication, signals, "reading a room." Forcing a direct answer where one party is asked to verbally assess their virtues creates discomfort and disgust because the very question breaks an instinctive rule of human communication. -Even if someone attempted to answer your question in earnest, they'd likely give a useless answer. Men and women don't understand what the other sex wants, so women might say, well, I h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 03:00 PM |
| – | Why is the question, "What do you bring to the table?" so offensive to some?Because it's a socially imbecilic question to which the real answer from a woman's side "youth, beauty, and sexual enthusiasm." Even in arranged marriage cultures where marriage is understood as a transaction, I bet the answer to this question is found by the parents and matchmaker digging around, not by one party asking the other directly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 01:03 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Most men should pursue serial monogamy, not casual sex.Was the last paragraph written by AI? Anyway, reads like the premise for a romantic comedy where a guy decided to practice this wonderful serial monogamy but ends up liking some girl so much (or, ok, gets so comfortable) that he stays or life! Also, this OP needs the author's age. Who cares what a guy in his 20s or early 30s says about marriage. Show me a desirable, never-married man in his 40s, then we'll talk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 05:46 PM |
| 5 | Did anyone go from being a really messy person to a tidy one? (If so, how?)Do you have any tips? Get your own house/place and have kids. Seriously, I never really cared about tidiness until I lived on my own and now that I have kids, I hate hate hate messes and clutter. I'm utterly baffled by how my kids don't notice messes, dirt, etc. Because I understand if I want to be a good wife or a trophy wife, or anything of the sort I have to be able to have a nice, clean space Btw, I think this is way overhyped in red pill forums, young guys don't gaf as long as your place is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 10:51 PM |
| 4 | Women of PPD, how often do you get hit on in public?Never. I'm a middle-aged, mid-looking woman in the Midwest who only really goes to the grocery store, kids' activities and a mostly-empty office (a few days a week). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 09:48 PM |
| – | Women, how much did your relationship with your father affect that with men?My dad is a sardonic intellectual who thinks very highly of himself. Growing up, I was a shy, bookish wallflower with no friends and my dad and I were very close. I loved to talk to him about books and ask him the "big" questions. I think my mom (a beautiful but emotionally volatile woman) was jealous of our relationship. I don't know if he really affected my relationships with men, though. My first two LTRs failed, but they weren't bad guys and I've never been abused or cheated on. I've been in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 06:46 PM |
| – | Do you think woman put on a “customer service” face?Guile, artifice, artfulness, coquetry, "putting on airs," etc. are age-old tools in the female toolbox. Read something written before 1900 and see how much men have always complained about this.* Of course, men, when they're not completely socially inept, also put on a face to an extent. Too much authenticity and transparency is unbearable for creating love and romance. All young ladies, in general, are affected to the most extreme point—affected in the expression of their feelings....I did once… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 05:23 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAnd why are you both friends with people you clearly hate? Don't know about OP, but I've found that as people get into their 30s and beyond, the friend group of their youth sort of gets grandfathered in and these friendships stagger along despite people not really liking each other much anymore. What are you gonna do, make new friends when you now have the responsibilities of family, kids, work, aging parents, etc.? Nah! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 07:05 PM |
| 5 | What is your unpopular opinion regarding your own gender that could make others call you a gender traitor?I agree with you and don't turn my husband down in my own marriage...but honestly, between our three youngish kids, my h's stressful job, my own job and all the usual responsibilities...sometimes all we can find time for is like 5-7 minutes to fuck in the locked bathroom, lol! There's no way I can become fully aroused in that time. I do enjoy pleasing my husband and he returns the favor when we have time for more leisurely sex, but I understand why women would get frustrated with the advice to g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: Do you enjoy rejecting men who approach you that you don't find attractive?It's horrifically unpleasant. I hate turning anyone down for anything and always end up feeling bad and guilty and feeling like I have to say a lot of nice things to soften the blow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 02:49 PM |
| – | Who is your celeb crush?I've only really had crushes on fictional characters. That said, male celebrities that appeal to me tend to have long, angular faces and weird noses. Trent Reznor, Stephen Malkmus, Steve Coogan, Adrian Brody, Louis Garrel. If I was around when T.Rex was big in the UK in the 70s, I would have had a giant crush on Marc Bolan. Also, I like 80s- era Kirk Hammett from Metallica. Cutest little rocker I've ever seen. Oh, and Dave Mustaine in his prime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 05:14 PM |
| 2 | how to reverse the damage of high body count?What do you do about... Are you, personally, experiencing the things you listed? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/23 12:10 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Missing out on teen love as a male can be hugely detrimental in later years while courting a woman.While this OP is exaggerated, I actually agree that preparation for a successful romantic life should start very early through participation in sports , social activities that include the opposite sex and informal socializing with friends. This is really a key function of K4-12 for middle class kids, education itself is often secondary. People who miss out on these activities or refuse to participate for some reason (shy, depressed, anxious, too busy, etc. ) will have to work hard to catch up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Media's Portrayal of TradwivesYep, this is exactly right. The "trad wife" phenomenon looks to me like a mix of 1950s kitsch style, dissident right political/cultural commentary, bdsm kink, and some genuine content on homemaking, parenting, homesteading, crafting, etc. (however, plenty of "normal" women write about the last category, most will never seek it from trad wife sources). | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/23 07:53 PM |
| 9 | Ungrateful - An UpdateI only had a chance to skim the post you deleted, so maybe I'm missing some details, but...some men are just inherently more selfish, self-interested and less likely to reciprocate. Or, the man's SMV is higher than the woman's, so he can inspire doting treatment without putting in too much effort in return. Sure, you can communicate your needs and wants, but it'll have to be a lifelong, sustained communication effort that may have inconsistent results. The reason for being with a man like this i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 03:08 PM |
| 5 | Is effort a paradox in dating?For context, I'm a person who works very hard to be appealing to both myself and others. I'm attractive, work out everyday, eat well, dress well for my figure, have a suiting haircut and maintain good personal hygiene. I've also been learning charisma and how to be more friendly in a social setting. Women gravitate to guys who didn't need to learn charisma or social skills or have already learned them so the "learning" part doesn't show. When you're at this point, you will likely see more succes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/23 02:37 PM |
| 1 | As RPW, what are your opinions on age gap relationships?Check out this thread, lots of practical advice on the pros and cons of dating older men: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/10w928k/thoughts_on_age_gaps/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/23 05:54 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countAw, thanks! I appreciate your literary sensibility as well. While I was mulling over this post, I was thinking of Bob Dylan's Shelter from the Storm, and how, ideally, relationships should have some element of moral virtue coming from the woman. Take it away, Bob: Twas in another lifetime, one of toil and blood When blackness was a virtue the road was full of mud I came in from the wilderness, a creature void of form Come in, she said, I'll give ya shelter from the storm. And btw, I don't think … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/23 01:43 AM |
| 8 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countN count aside, I also think this relationship violates a certain formula of happy hetero relationships where the man becomes "good" via the woman's influence. Like, a guy goes through women like Kleenex but when he meets the virtuous woman he gives up chadding because she's worth it (the Jane Eyre archetype). But here, OP was morally "bad" (feminist, blue pill, promiscuous) and became morally "good" through his influence. He is the redeemer, not OP. They were never equal, she was his moral infer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 11:15 PM |
| 8 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countOr should I move on, hoping to find someone else who doesn’t define me by my biggest regrets? It's okay for him to reject you for your sexual past, no matter how contrite or wonderful you are. I would reject an LTR with a man who had addiction or a felony in his past, no matter what efforts or amends he made to overcome it. And it's okay for you to be with someone who doesn't define you by your past, and wouldn't hold your sexual history as a righteous trump card if you slip in some way as a gir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | How would you introduce RP to your daughter? Do you wish you had known about RP at a younger age?how would you introduce RP theory to a young person? Stable, affectionate marriage in a stable middle-class community where marriage is the norm (couples who have children at least start out married) and people have a sense of planning for the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/23 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?Yep, though I bring her up because her social media persona in those days seemed to be "young housewife leading a slow life" rather than "self-employed social media content producer" (which I've done for work, and it's time-consuming rigamarole). I'm middle class in the Midwest, and I don't see a lot of women quitting their jobs or even going part-time/self employed before having kids. It can be a different story after they have a baby, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/23 05:07 PM |
| 5 | If you were a pretty 21 year old women how would you make the most of your looks?-Get a bf your own age and have the best relationship while you are both fit and attracted to each other. Omg, this is the only normal life path for a middle class woman and the path followed by nearly every woman I know. Women do this just fine while going to college and getting a degree in marketing or something, so they don't miss out on a white collar job or traveling with their bf, either. What is even on the rest of the list, is this from Instagram or a TV show or something, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/23 03:27 PM |
| 3 | Do RPW initiate intimacy? Or leave it to their partnerI've gone through this when my husband is under a lot of pressure at work. I've found that just being supportive and letting him come to me when he's in the mood works best. I also tell him how much I want him and love having sex with him and then just lay off. Overt sexiness when he's trying to meet a work deadline and his email is exploding is annoying and guilt-inducing. There are some good comments about testosterone, depression, rest and so on, but I think your husband would have to pursue … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/23 01:53 PM |
| 9 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?I think one way to do this is having a job in a prestigious/cultural but low-paying field like the arts and marrying a relatively well-off man. Then you do your job as a side gig or hobby business after marriage. Edit: I think one reason you're getting pushback is that the red pill audience is generally a middle class one, and the middle class appreciates things that are practical. A childless housewife is an absurd luxury for a middle-class man.* But a "higher" class man might appreciate beauti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 02:20 PM |
| 2 | How long did you and your husband wait before you were engaged?21 months from first date to wedding day, but he was 36 when we met and more than ready for something serious. If we had met when he was 26, I think we would have dated a lot longer and maybe wouldn't have even gotten married. Who knows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 05:11 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend treatment vs husband treatment? Do you draw a line somewhere?I hate the thought of putting a restriction/limit on love but is there a line that should be placed? In a modem middle-class western relationship, I think the following are strictly for marriage: having children, following your SO if he moves, quitting your job/becoming a sahm, buying a house, combining finances, accommodating his family, caring for him through a serious lifelong illness or condition (though plenty of people will say you should do the last for a bf). Most everything else is fair… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 05:09 PM |
| 5 | Question for Women: How has having a child impacted your sex life and what was your sex life before?I was lucky to have easy pregnancies and recoveries, and we had a steady sex life throughout. The trickiest part is finding time and just being tired. Two of our kids are horrible sleepers and would stay up until midnight if we let them. Also, since I was pregnant and breastfeeding for 8 or 9 years straight, I didn't have a strong sex drive. I still enjoyed it and sometimes initiated because it's important to me to be the couple that has sex, but it wasn't something that was really on my mind. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 05:11 PM |
| 2 | My (26F) long term partner's (32M) response to the Crowder marriage video has me seriously considering I change my mind on marriage and kids with him.we live in different countries so we've never been seriously dating, but we have met twice a year for 4 years now Info: How well do you know this man? How did you meet, was it online? How much time have you spent together in person? Enough to be confident in his "behind the scenes" personality and temperament? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/23 03:32 AM |
| 12 | Do men actually care if a woman is smart/professionally successful or not?I love Fussel's Class, have an upvote! People here tend to forget that social class is far, far more than money. All of your preferences and tastes in media, food, education, politics, etc. determine social class and can play a bigger role than money itself. Even with the supermodel example--it depends on what kind of model! Is she from a middle class family and did ballet prior to a career in high-fashion modeling? That's a wife for an "upper" class successful man. Or is she from a working clas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/23 01:56 PM |
| 13 | A man got angry at me for being submissive.I don't assert myself enough... Just because I am shy and silent. I don't know what this guy's problem is and his comments as you describe them are inappropriate, but being shy and silent at work is not a good thing. You don't want to come off like an aggressive boss babe, but coworkers should first think of you as "competent," "helpful," and "friendly," not "submissive." I've had male and female bosses coach me on being more assertive and speaking up in meetings, and it absolutely helped change… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Thought experiment about arranged marriagesSometimes I wonder if the paradigm of choosing your own mate is really the best choice for long term happiness. I suspect that the definitions of "love" and "happiness" in an arranged marriage culture vs mainstream western post-sexual revolution culture are so different that they can't possibly be compared. They are alien to each other. Completely different conception of what these terms ought to mean to an individual and a family. Apples and oranges. We dont choose our families, and yet we love… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 02:03 PM |
| 1 | q4women who are or plan to be a parent, what are you gonna do as a parent to make sure your son going to grow up to be a good man and partner and someone who treats women right?I don't think you can really "make sure" of anything with kids. Kids aren't little blank slates that you can paint any color you wish. Their natural temperament and inclinations matter a lot. Sometimes I look at my daughter and wonder how she could possibly be my child because she acts and looks nothing like me. That said, I do think my sons have a good start because they're being raised in a solid middle-class family where they can see an example of a happy marriage and satisfying family life d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 01:09 AM |
| 6 | Am I ignoring red flags?This isn't really about whether what he says is correct or not, it's that he's saying this to you, his woman, which shows either social cluelessness or immaturity, or both. It's like if I said to my husband, "Hey babe, just so you know, I'm not yours, it's just your turn. I can never love you like you want to be loved. You better keep up with the burden of performance or I'll lose attraction. Want some dinner?" Most likely this phase will pass, like other boyish interests, but you will have to e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 05:46 PM |
| 15 | Though on the intention of patriarchal traditionWomen wanted men for practical reasons and men wanted women for practical reasons Yeah. I highly recommend the book Marriage: A History by Stephanie Coontz for anyone interested in an overview of Western marriage. I'm sure Coontz is some sort of an academic Marxist feminist boogey woman, but she is remarkably clear-eyed in describing marriage, historically, as above all a practical matter for making family alliances, acquiring useful relatives and getting work done. Marriage wasn't about oppress… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/23 02:28 PM |
| 1 | When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you."Real" love is born out of the superficial for both genders. This is the paradox of romantic love. You can't understand this if you're terminally earnest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/23 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Is my relationship a bad idea and what does it mean to build a man up?just 6 weeks but hes talking about marriage and stuff already Did you already know him or his family before you started dating? You said his mom tells you daily that you're awesome. How did you get to know his mom? Putting aside your question about building up man, which is a different and unrelated issue, this relationship is already quite outside the normal western timeline for dating/marriage. Are you okay with that? I mean, it's okay not to be okay marrying into a very distinct culture and r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/23 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?You're very eager to drop your standards, so I would first recommend lowering them for the height, hair and age requirements (where you're clinging to them the most!) Yes, that may mean having kids with a 45-year-old man. No, it's not ideal, but hardly the end of the world. Second, I recommend assessing how you come off to men. I know people can be very different in their writing style, but here you come off as a difficult and stubborn person. You may be loyal to a man, but are you pleasant to b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?Yes? I recommend you read through this series: http://julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/01/moms-make-it-work-guest-blogging-series.html?m=1 Nearly everyone I know in my social circle looks and leads a lifestyle like the families in these profiles. These are all normal middle-class, college-educated women married to similar men, with with 1-3 kids. I'll add that these are all millennials mostly in the Midwest, but you're a younger millennial, so not that far off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 04:29 AM |
| 6 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?Did you demand a fancy house, elaborate proposal, princess wedding, private schools, constant hand-holding, spending every weekend with your parents etc.? Or just express some desire for these things, which are completely normal and common in a serious middle-class relationship? I'm wondering if it wasn't your desires per se that pushed guys away, but that they just weren't that into you, which is what I was trying to get at. How do you come off to men? How do you come off to friends and family … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 04:08 AM |
| 6 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?You're 32--what went wrong in your previous relationships? The list of requirements isn't unreasonable (except maybe height) if you just want a stable guy in your life, but you come off as intense and slightly caustic in your writing. We're you once intense about being high maintenance and now you've become intense about being low maintenance? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 03:44 AM |
| 10 | How long should I be in nun mode?I try to be pretty appropriate on here, but I literally read this, rolled my eyes and thought "fuuuuuuck." You are not going to be unappealing to all good men the second your turn 26. Stop reading TRP blogs and go for a walk. LOL, hear hear. Mods and ECs, may I suggest a post on why young women should stop reading TRP stuff excessively (or at all) and, if they do, not take it as literal gospel? I'm seeing tons of posts from young women who're regurgitating bottom-of-the-barrel RP taking points a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 03:05 AM |
| 1 | There are two men, Shawn and Thad. Who do you pick?I like these funny q4ws. Nice job, OP. Okay.... He is your ideal man in every way looks-wise and makes roughly the same amount as you. But there is an issue, he is very emotional and cries about 2 times a month. Maybe I'm a weirdo foreigner and my Soviet childhood is showing, but a man crying monthly for reasons other than the death of a loved one is just strange to me. Then there is Thad, 6"3, Nice! he looks very masculine to the point that it might be ugly. Like Matt Smith? Nice! His eyebrows … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 09:18 PM |
| 3 | Can women increase their dating value or worth to men at all?What happened with the college boyfriends? Do you live in a big city where everyone's standards are sky high and people don't really settle down until their 30s? Sometimes I encounter women here who seem to be doing everything right on paper but are not landing a solid relationship. Maybe it's bad luck and a terrible dating market, but maybe there's something they're not sharing. It's impossible to tell how you come off in person or what's missing. Do you have a friend or a family member who can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 04:13 AM |
| 3 | Can women increase their dating value or worth to men at all?I have only had 2 boyfriends (I’m 31) in my life, and that was in college Much more info needed to diagnose. Why did these relationships end? Why have you not dated for nearly a decade? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Whats ideal female body and face for you?Thx! I used to spend a lot of time at Barnes and Noble way back when looking at French and Italian Vogue, magazines like W, Nylon, etc.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:59 PM |
| 6 | Whats ideal female body and face for you?I like willowy and arty weirdos: 90s Kate Moss, Shelley Duvall, etc. Love all the major 00s high fashion runway models. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 05:30 PM |
| 3 | What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?Most of the poetry I read is in Russian, but in English I've been working on memorizing parts of Poe's The Raven and William Henley's Madam's Life a Piece in Bloom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/23 02:33 PM |
| 7 | What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?For a while, I got into memorizing poetry. It was a good way to keep my brain busy, and something to do when I was bored or doing routine or tedious work. It was more challenging than I expected. But I'd pick a poem I really liked and there was a lot of satisfaction in being able to recite the whole thing in my mind, kind of like hearing a favorite song. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/23 02:32 AM |
| 2 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.Like a bicycle, like a wheel that, once rolling, is stable only so long as it keeps moving but falls when its momentum stops, so the game between a man and woman, once begun, can exist only so long as it progresses. If the forward movement today is no more than it was yesterday, the game is over. -Alexander Solzhenitsyn, famous PUA | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Red pill music???There's no "red pill music," but the type of music and other media a woman consumes can indicate socioeconomic status and the type of sexual persona she is putting forth, whether consciously or not. I suspect that's what your guy is trying to say-- he's unsatisfied with the former or the latter or both (if he's not just outright negging you, being a red piller). | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 06:34 PM |
| 2 | I am a masculine woman I don't know where to start I need helpI noticed my movement is very stiff especially my hands the way I walk I am not flowy like other females I am very closed off and very serious I talk fast very fast I think these are problems with socialization, social awkwardness and shyness, not so much femininity. I was very much like this was I was younger. Do you have friends, OP? Are there social groups you can join? How about something like Toastmasters or an improv class? I had a great experience in Toastmasters, very friendly environmen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 03:53 PM |
| 6 | Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them?Not at all, men are great, love 'em. That said, I don't want my sons to turn out like the weirder dudes here and I think a lot about how to keep that from happening. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Is it possible for an adult who is not under duress to have sex they do not want to? Yeah, young inexperienced women do it all the time. Who gets to tell women that they didn't really want to have sex with the men they had sex with? It's the kind of sex that afterwards leads the woman to think: "That sucked, he sucked, and I knew that he'd suck and I didn't even really feel like it, why did I even do that??" I'm saying: women, don't passively blunder into this kind of experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:51 AM |
| 23 | Christian response to single women, do you agree?Some years ago there was an excellent Christian red pill blog called Haley's Halo, which addressed this very issue, as well as many other Christian dating topics. The blog is defunct but still available. Here you go: https://haleyshalo.wordpress.com/2012/04/25/gods-perfect-timing-hamster-food/ Haley's Halo was written by a young woman who had a good understanding of the red pill, women's perspectives and modern Christian culture. I'm not at all religious or trad but I very much enjoyed reading h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Complacency and passivity that leads women to have sex with men they don't really want to have sex with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 10:29 PM |
| 2 | I keep filling his cup and he is not filling mine?I think there's not enough info and context to diagnose the problem. We can only make assumptions. Could it be: -He fills your cup in other ways that you don't necessarily think about? Does he work a lot, earn more, contribute to the household in big ways, etc. Or -You're so agreeable that you don't share what you need and want and/or he's not a guy who's skilled at reading emotional cues. Or -He quiet quit the relationship and is coasting along. Or maybe his SMV is higher than yours and he does… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you believe/know/think that your grandmothers have never loved your grandfathers?Paternal grandmother: Married in Russia in 1952 to an older man who was an outstandingly good match at the time: came back from the war in one piece, worked, didn't drink or smoke too much. They hated each other and started sleeping in separate beds early in the relationship. I don't remember them speaking to each other once when I was growing up. My grandmother had lost her boyfriend in the war, and my grandfather had lost his first wife. Today, he'd be placed on the spectrum or diagnosed with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How would you console, and what advice would you give to a hypothetical son who couldn’t get dates?What would you say? What honest advice would you give? Mourn your lack of sexual and romantic success and come to accept it as one of those inevitable tragedies of the human condition. Acquire provider qualities and lead with them. And finally, consider moving overseas to a country where a man like you is still considered a catch, or else where prostitution is cheap and socially accepted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 06:20 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on Domestic Discipline/Taken in Hand relationships?Oh, yes, I've seen that article shared..on...um...Tumblr kink sites, lol! I dunno, maybe I'll try to do some scholarly research on this! When it comes to husbands and wives, I suspect spanking always had an undertone of sexual fetish, maybe one-sided, but still.... which is why we don't see a lot about it except in erotic lit. But who knows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/23 04:34 PM |
| 9 | Where have all the good men gone?They talked a lot about some of their daughters dating and repeatedly lamented that there doesn’t seem to be very many good hardworking guys out there. Was there a time in history when young women and their fathers were generally happy with the state of young men? What was this time? It's hard for me to believe it existed. Are young men, en masse, ever good enough for women and fathers? Modern male vices like video games, porn and isolation have replaced traditional male vices like drinking, who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 01:55 AM |
| 6 | What are your thoughts on Domestic Discipline/Taken in Hand relationships?although up until recently it wasn't necessarily culturally uncommon in Western Europe and North America for husbands to literally spank their wives, as evidenced by advertisements, and articles talking about. I'm honestly curious, does anyone have examples of this beyond a few humorous ads? I mean, husbands punishing wives, not in an obviously abusive way or a sexual kink way, but in a controlled way with a genuine desire to "correct" a woman? I can think of examples of the former (husband beat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/23 01:35 AM |
| 2 | Do men become "Beta Bucks" after kids?A few of them mentioned that it's normal not to have sex at least a year after your kids are born. One said it's normal to hate your husband until your youngest is in school. Most seemed to express the sentiment that their husband is more of a business partner and that their kids are their world now. Many hadn't been on dates in months or years, said they didn't have time for anything but the kids. I've been a parent for almost a decade now and have seen this stuff all over all the moms groups, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 05:52 PM |
| 8 | Book Recommendation: How To Walk In High Heels by Camilla MortonI haven't read this book, but it reminds me of a super fun (though now out-of-print) book called Boobs, Boys and High Heels by Dianne Brill, who was a club scene "it" girl in NYC in the 80s. Obviously not trad in any way, but a very fun book on to style yourself and act in a very feminine, seductive way. Brill actually had a lot of sensible stuff to say in this recent interview I found. https://www.dazeddigital.com/art-photography/article/38609/1/dianne-brill-lessons-from-a-1980s-new-york-party-… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/23 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Where/ how did you find your partner?On eHarmony 12 years ago. Is it even around anymore? No one ever talks about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/23 04:03 AM |
| 9 | Being a woman vs being a girlTo me, these words center mostly around a woman's look/style/demeanor. If a woman looks older, dresses in a matronly way and has a certain gravity, I wouldn't ever think of her as a girl. For me, I guess I started feeling more like "woman," when I had kids in 30s. Weird to think of yourself as a "girl" with multiple children. And of course, I just look older and style myself differently. Though, honestly, I'm 40 and would be very flattered if someone earnestly referred to me as a girl. Girlishne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever met a man that you felt was "too nice"?I guess he was either okay with shoddy treatment by friends and family, to say nothing of women, or else he wasn't self-aware enough to notice it. Not a problem if he was happy with life, I suppose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 10:22 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever met a man that you felt was "too nice"?Yes, an ex. He went out of his way to do favors for everyone, not just women. Family members, casual acquaintances, male friends. He'd insist on helping even when the other person hemmed and hawed about accepting the favor. In return, people used him pretty shamelessly. Once, a woman coworker he hadn't seen in a few years called him at 10 p.m. because her car broke down. He was ready to rescue her, not with ulterior motives, but because he genuinely wanted to help. He'd give rides to drunk frien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Is playing video games an ick be honest?I have an instinctive, knee-jerk aversion to video games. My husband used to do an extreme sport and it was a thorn in my side (dangerous, expensive). When I complained about it he'd joke, "Well, do you want me to play video games instead?!" And I honestly had to say "No." I'm a lucky woman, somehow I lived to 40 without ever being involved with a guy who played video games. We have two sons, damned if we ever buy them a gaming console. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 03:34 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?If single means no sex or partners of any kind, I feel bad for these men, especially if they're young. So my question for women is, if you know of a guy who is otherwise perfectly put together and no obvious problems in his life (he is employed, not mentally ill, no autism, and well groomed) do you assume he is some kind of creep just because he has had bad luck with women? Do you assume that there is something wrong with him? Not a creep, but something about him is in fact not perfectly put tog… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 04:56 PM |
| 4 | How do you show your standards in a feminine way?Yes. Like it or not, bars are a legit third place where men and women can socialize and they're one of the few remaining places where it's considered acceptable for men to cold approach women. Even I, a shy, marriage-minded "quality woman," met my first boyfriend only when I started going out to bars (a period of my life that lasted all of two months, lol). | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/23 03:42 PM |
| 17 | Do you plan on having children?Even with money how would one be okay with raising a kid in the West, specifically the U.S.? Oh jeez. My great-grandparents lived through the Russian revolution and the Russian civil war. My grandparents lived through World War II. My grandmother survived the Siege of Leningrad, for chrissakes. My own life in a middle-class mid-America suburb is so easy and luxurious and peaceful in comparison that it would make my ancestors weep with envy. I have three kids. My husband and I might worry about i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?In every variant of this question, I would be responsive to the new man if I didn't love the one I was with and had started ending our relationship in my mind. That's how I met my 2nd LTR--I took his number but didn't contact him until after my 1st LTR ended months later. If I loved the man I was with and/or had no intention of ending my current relationship, I would quickly end any conversation with a new man and avoid contact with him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:15 PM |
| 7 | How would you feel if your long term boyfriend had a personal "# of blowjobs before cohabitating" rule?Not asking whether you think the rule is reasonable. Asking how it would make you feel, personally. It would make me laugh until I cried and then I would playfully punch his arm and praise him for being such a funny flippant smartass. Then I'd blow him. Nice one, OP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 03:38 PM |
| 17 | More interest from older men than from those my age?I suspect Lateral is getting down voted because his comments don't really reflect the trends I've seen among middle-class GenX and millennial women. Maybe it's different for younger women, but most women I know married their college boyfriend or a man they met in their early to mid 20s who was about the same age, give a few years. These are all steady, still-married suburban moms. For young women, the potential of a same-age boyfriend is quite good enough as long as it's stuff like: he is going … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/23 05:54 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHas anyone seen the movie Hesher, with Joseph Gordon Levitt? His character is a kind of walking red pill. The whole movie is a great character study about masculinity and fatherhood, under the guise of a goofy little indie comedy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Which man would you pick?Sam, duh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 09:59 PM |
| 7 | Struggling with feeling feminineDoes it make me less feminine if I go to college? It makes you a normal middle-class woman, and indeed college is a common place for women to find boyfriends who will become husbands in their late 20s. Working in college and building a high career is more of a masculine thing. Why is a high career the default career? Plenty of women graduate from college and go on to have completely middling lightweight careers like marketing assistant or program coordinator (ask me how I know, lol). These are n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/23 05:29 PM |
| 1 | How does one make sure that a gf/wife sees him as a lover first, bf/husband second?I'm disregarding all answers from people under 30 and/or in an LTR of less than 5 years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 04:09 PM |
| 0 | How does one find a Red Pilled woman?Part of me is thinking that I'm looking in all the wrong places. Then again, church is not a place to flirt at least in my opinion and it seems there's mostly older people attending You have to attend this kind of church: http://www.faithfulwordbaptist.org/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Caffeine AlternativeRooibos tea has no caffeine and is similar in taste to black tea. I normally don't like herbal or "fake" teas, but rooibos is remarkably close to the real thing, minus caffeine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Considering not having children bcz I have semi-ugly genes? Thoughts? [21F] POTENTIAL DYSMORPHIA WARNINGMy struggle is that I feel angry at my parents for procreating so wouldn’t I be a hypocrite to do the same? Kids are always a gamble. You can't vet your future kids. That's just the risk of becoming a parent. Who knows what could happen. My mother was a beautiful woman when she was young. What would I do for her bone structure and beautiful thick hair! And yet she told me she's never been in love, and she's never been loved by a man that she desired. I'm not nearly as attractive, and I did much … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 03:14 AM |
| 4 | How traditional is too traditional?What's going on in the west? The west underwent a sexual revolution in the 1960s (which really started in the early 20th century and arguably at least a century before that) in which women were sexually, politically and psychologically emancipated from traditional norms. And I don't think western traditional norms were ever as conservative as the ones in the muslim world. The red pill came about as men's attempt to navigate the western (really, American) post-sexual revolution dating landscape w… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/02/23 02:44 AM |
| 11 | Considering not having children bcz I have semi-ugly genes? Thoughts? [21F] POTENTIAL DYSMORPHIA WARNINGDo you spend a lot of time on red pill/black pill/true rate me/pink pill (vindicta, lookmaxxing, etc.) forums? Because that stuff, if not consumed in moderation with an ear for bs, will warp your mind and amplify your insecurities. I mean, I get it. I don't think you're as nuts as people are saying. A woman can't get waist-deep into the red pill and not question her beauty and SMV. Reading about the 1-10 scale is still deeply depressing to me because I don't think I'd rank above a 4 on a good da… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Curious, who here was reading red pill content pre 2018?I've started reading Roissy in DC in 2007/2008, I think. 😱My mind is so warped! His comment section was fun in the early days, kind of like PPD with a lot less black pill /incel stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 12:41 AM |
| 6 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreIn short, protectiveness and chivalry come at a cost women no longer wish to pay. However, this is kind of a non- problem, since I don't think women really expect or want to be protected by strange men. In my 40 years, it's never really crossed my mind that any man besides my dad or an LTR/husband would protect me. Is lack of protectiveness from strangers really a problem for most women? Pro tip: if you want to elicit male sympathy or something resembling friendly protectiveness from strange men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 12:29 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on age gaps?Yeah, I have no regrets about marrying my husband, he's awesome. Looking back on it, my two LTRs before him were also at least 5 years older than me, so I guess that's my thing, lol. There are lots of advantages to being with an older guy, and I think a 10 year gap is reasonable (though I'm much more skeptical about larger gaps). My husband was ready for a serious LTR and family when we met, there was no hemming and hawing about what he wanted from life. I didn't really sense the "cons" to being… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/23 10:47 PM |
| 45 | Thoughts on age gaps?I don't have any moral concerns about age gaps, but I do have practical ones. In addition to vetting him now, as many are rightly suggesting, it's good to be aware of things that could potentially come up up in the future: mismatched energy levels, mismatched libidos, mismatched desires to go out vs. stay in or slow down in life vs do adventurous things, and, eventually, mismatched health if he ends up declining first and you assume a caretaker role. This stuff isn't noticeable at your ages beca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/23 08:18 PM |
| 18 | How did your attraction change on birth control vs off birth control?Yes. You took my comment! I suspect this has less to do with birth control and more with how women's preferences change with age. Male sexuality can be scary as hell for young women, an aroused guy is no joke. So I think younger women tend to be drawn to "safer," more effeminate-looking men (look at most boy bands, teen idols, etc.). I think this is especially true for shy, romantic wallflower types. When I was a teenager, I would have felt extremely uncomfortable just being in the presence of a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/23 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?Responsible is the wrong word. However, a man who can make a woman cum will gain an edge of psychological dominance and enjoy some "God among men" status in her mind (however delusional it may be), which is generally pleasant to both. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:17 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend wants me to dress sexier and less modestYou might like @endure.darkly on Instagram. Most of her outfits are modest but tailored, yet often incorporate a "bag" style. She is also a great example of everyday goth, which you seem to have some interest in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/23 10:15 PM |
| 1 | TupacWow, famous male musicians always look so charming and fresh-faced early in their careers, so much boyish exuberance and playfulness.... Why do these guys have to get old? 😭😭😭 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/23 10:41 PM |
| 7 | Do I need to be decently attractive to be a stay-at-home wife?Sometimes I get the impression that everyone on these pill forums lives in some coastal megapolis where women look like models. I can tell you that in my second-tier city in the Midwest, plenty of average-looking, middle class women get married, have children, and become sahms. A lot of the young families I see around me look like the ones profiled here: http://julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/01/moms-make-it-work-guest-blogging-series.html?m=1 As always, being as close to normal-attractive (g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Finding a relationship is way easier than making friends as an adult.Yes. I suspect the wall for making friends is around 23-24, and it's a harsher wall than the sexual one. It's so important to make friends and find a social circle prior to your mid-to-early 20s. Failure to do so can be impossible to recover from, especially for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?Well, the thing about conservatives in these spaces (especially the men) is that they still want the pleasures promised by the sexual revolution, they just want them in marriage. 😄 But, yeah, I also lean weirdo, especially after being in a relationship that was perfect on paper (commitment, long vetting period before sex), but had zero sexual spark for me. My most successful relationship was the one where I had sex on the third date and sex in public on the fourth, and that's the man I married 2… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/23 05:24 AM |
| 3 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?The reason why “sex on the third date” became such a cultural phenomenon was because BOTH genders wanted it. The women wanted it because the feminists convinced them that sexual liberation is a good thing that would benefit them. The men wanted it because it meant they could get sex from the gatekeepers of sex MUCH sooner than they ever had to before, and it was basically the bargain of the millennia for them. Both sides encouraged it and it took over like wildfire. I think this is right. I'd sa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 09:26 PM |
| 6 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?I remember reading/hearing about the third date rule when I was a teenager in the 90s. I suspect it originated from the dating culture of the 80s, as a way to create some sexual restraint, lol (as the article below suggests). See: https://www.insidehook.com/article/sex-and-dating/third-date-rule-back-but-did-ever-get-thing-begin Edit: I have a book by Dianne Brill, an NYC "it girl" in the 80s, where she recommends third-date sex as the sensible approach for women. Not too fast, not too slow, lol… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 02:11 PM |
| 4 | would you lose interest in your man if he lost in a fight to alpha ChadMy husband plays in a hockey league and once almost got in a fight with some guys from the other team. Not gonna lie, it was pretty hot and I was rooting for him. The ref sent them all to the box, though. 😭 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 05:15 AM |
| 2 | What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of?I think that for women dating in the mainstream western smp, what really matters is: -Looking as good as possible -Having a social/friend circle that puts you among the kind of men you want to marry -And being fun (making a man feel good when he's around you, sexual enthusiasm and just not being bitchy) I think this sub tends overestimate the importance cooking, cleaning, feminine hobbies, overt submission and n-counts. And there's also a matter of age and timelines. My husband and I went from f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/23 06:30 PM |
| 36 | What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of?I think a woman's cooking/cleaning skills are very overhyped and lots of young guys don't really care about this stuff until they're much older. While all men will appreciate a meal or treat, most will be just as happy with cookies made out of refrigerated dough as with some recipe a woman spent months perfecting (unless you're dating the next Anthony Bourdain or J Kenji Alt-Lopez or something). I'm skeptical that there's a "wholesome" dating market that's marriage minded and a slutty dating mar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 02:47 PM |
| 12 | Moving on😭 you'll be missed! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 02:36 PM |
| 5 | What was your timeline?I think it's worth doing whatever you can afford, 23 is prime time to get a boyfriend. (I don't know anything about makeup, but almost all my clothes are from TJ Maxx and thrift stores, and I've been told on occasion that I have good style! ) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/23 03:42 AM |
| 14 | What was your timeline?Looking back on it, I think what stopped me from achieving my "ideal" timeline is not doing anything to enhance my looks (I could have used a bit of Vindicta in my early 20s) and being so shy and socially anxious that I failed to develop a friend/social circle where I could meet guys. So that's my advice for young women: look cute and get out of the house with friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/23 07:43 PM |
| 38 | What was your timeline?I was a shy teenager and who wanted to get married right off the bat and hated the idea of dating and hookups. I met my first boyfriend at 21-24. We were briefly engaged but it became clear that we had different values and goals in life. Dated my next boyfriend 25-28. We were perfect on paper. Same goals, same cultural background, everything. Seriously, you couldn't make a better match, in theory. However, I wasn't at all attracted to him at all and it never got better. I had a ton of guilt and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/23 06:03 PM |
| 3 | Are we in a Gender Cold War?There's an eternal and timeless cold war between the sexes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 01:54 PM |
| 3 | My (20) boufriend (19) seems to not want a SAHM and it’s the only thing i want. PLEASE ADVISEI agree that it's possible to meet a young guy who's already planning his family life, I just don't think it's that likely, especially given that she's from a European city where being a sahm is uncommon and OP is getting her inspiration from red pill content online, rather than from people in her social class/milieu leading this lifestyle. I'm in the Midwest, US, and I don't think most young couples really have these conversations until the mid to late 20s. I agree, however, that it's probably … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 12:52 AM |
| 8 | My (20) boufriend (19) seems to not want a SAHM and it’s the only thing i want. PLEASE ADVISEIt's not so much a matter of different values (though values are a part of your problem), it's a matter of entirely different timelines. No secular, Western 19-year-old guy dreams about sahms... I think this is really outside the bounds of his imagination, like asking him, "do you want to go to the moon someday?" Uh... He may very well appreciate a sahm, in about 15-20 years. It's a matter of deciding if you want to take your chances and stick around that long. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 09:43 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend used to shut down my baby fever, but now he indulges in it... help!!Sounds like the horny, boyish exuberance of being in love, lol! Shortly after we got married and my husband completed a major, extremely stressful work project, his baby fever flared up. We had talked about trying for a baby six months down the line, but one night, as he was....getting ready to finish, he just asked if he could shoot it instead of pulling out, which is what we had been doing. And I remember going, "uuuuuhhh....uuuuh....ok?" Right afterward, I burst into tears because I had been … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 08:19 PM |
| 6 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?After almost 13 years in what I ended up missing the most were going to restaurants, live music, and vacations. My parents were able to watch the kids for the first few years but eventually got too old to do it 😱 Are you me?? Now that my kids are older, I find that everything is unexpectedly getting harder! My support network (parents and in laws ), who were soooo incredibly helpful when the kids were little, are getting too old and frankly too tired to help. I don't regret having kids when I di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 03:44 PM |
| 5 | I've never gotten a marriage proposal from a man, it feels sadIt's hard to tell what's going on without knowing you, or the men you've dated, but it sounds like either these guys just weren't that into you for whatever reason, or you pick men badly (shoddy guys, or out of your league, etc. ), or you and these men are lower than middle class on the class scale. I don't believe people here insisting that men won't marry anymore. American middle class and above men still marry. Men are far more romantic and idealistic than women. If he's into you, he won't be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Dysfunctional homes are equally as toxic as people from divorced homes.Kids are not as perceptive as many people think. Children are astoundingly selfish, lol. My older kids are in elementary school and are just reaching the age where they can read a room and perceive others' moods. They dgaf yet about anyone's happiness but their own, and they're perfectly healthy, happy, normal kids. Where are all these kids who are so attuned to their parents' emotional and romantic happiness?? Please send them to my house, I'll trade! LOL | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 09:17 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: What is a low value woman to you?A woman who can't inspire male love, protectiveness and tenderness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 08:03 PM |
| 2 | What do you like to wear for just lounging around the house?Fleece-lined leggings! But, yeah, my lips are turning blue at the thought of cotton and silky stuff right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/22 02:58 PM |
| 7 | An Article About Dating For An Effect (or at least TB's commentary about it)Much of this approach runs counter to women's sexuality, especially that of young attractive women. It is, however, not a bad strategy* for older women (epiphany stage, late 20s/early 30s) looking for marriage/family sooner than later and women who value marriage/family more than any particular man. *With some alterations. Asking on the third date if he wants to marry you and btw, does he take any meds...😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/22 06:09 PM |
| 20 | What do you like to wear for just lounging around the house?Does no one live in a cold climate?? 😭 LOL For much of the year, black fleece-lined leggings, a tight long-sleeved top, and a big wool cable-knit cardigan sweater. Sundresses or yoga pants and tanks for maybe June-August. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/22 02:15 AM |
| 7 | Upper class men marry educated womenI am here to tell you that one of the reasons he married me is that I am familiar with art and literature and classical music. Upper class families care about these things; STEM and business are middle and upper middle class and not UC. Hey, omarnbradley, nice to see you here, you always talk sense. I'm merely middle middle class, but I learned from Paul Fussel's book Class (so highly recommended for the pilled crowd!) that upper classes really do appreciate the "impractical" arts and things wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 06:02 PM |
| 10 | Upper class men marry educated womenI appreciate this post, since red pillers either ignore social class altogether or think it doesn't matter. For people who like this post, I highly recommend Paul Fussel's book Class, which covers social class in America in a very funny and biting way. It sounds to me, though, that class markers are important, really more so than education/ intelligence itself. (Do young guys really care that much about having intelligent conversations with women??? I don't believe it, but they may value the app… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 02:51 AM |
| 12 | A Cautionary Tale from an Ex RPWThank you for writing this. I think there are a lot of young women who're unhappy with the liberal feminist sexual narrative and try to rebel against it without nuance or experience. I also think that consuming red pill content intended for men can be harmful to very young women because they take it too literally, like a textbook for what women should do, instead of what men can choose to do. I can tell when young women have had their minds warped by the red pill because they come off as absolut… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/22 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionOh god, prepare yourself for a long, multi-part response 😂 Haha, thank you, much appreciated! I do think that some women are understandably frustrated with the liberal feminist sexual narrative...but in their eagerness to contradict it, they throw out the baby with the bathwater, so to speak. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 03:29 PM |
| 5 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionHey, u/sunshinesundress, u/girlwithasidecar, if you have some time, I'm curious about your take on this advice. I don't mean to "call it out," but genuinely interested since some of it is pretty typical RPW and some is a bit of a different strain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 05:46 AM |
| 3 | Do all men lack sexual boundaries?What you describe sounds a lot like infatuation, in that case it isn’t really love is it? I think for the purpose of making the male sex drive palatable to women--infatuation, love, chemistry, "the spark," "butterflies," etc. are all one and the same. How can there be romantic love without some degree of infatuation on the part of the woman? I don't see it. Really, it's whatever makes you elevate the man above others and want to be the object of his sexual desire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/22 04:54 AM |
| 64 | Do all men lack sexual boundaries?Conclusion: men go into this weird fantasy place when horny, objectify and dehumanize the hell out of women, many are incredibly porn sick and just downright disgusting in the way they’ve had their reality warped by porn. I don’t know if this is genetic, ie all men are programmed this way, or what. OP, have you ever been in love with a man? Have you ever met a guy you really, really liked in a romantic/sexual way? A guy you put on a pedestal above others? And I don't mean you like him in a "he's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/22 08:47 PM |
| 2 | What are some habits that a 15 y/o girl can form to become a better woman in the future?This is the time to make good friends/build a solid social circle and experiment with enhancing your looks. Honestly, I think these two things will by far help the most with achieving the kind of lifestyle you want. This is also the time to do fun stuff like exploring interests/hobbies. You have the time, energy and a relative lack of adult responsibility. Finally, I recommend not delving too deep into red pill stuff written for men, or even the stuff for women, especially aspirational trad wife… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/22 01:32 AM |
| 1 | How would you react if you found out that your boyfriend/husband is using pills for ED?I'd immediately assume that he doesn't find me attractive anymore and feel very sad. If he was taking pills due to health/aging, it would have a whiff of decrepitude...like, damn....winter is coming, we're no longer young. Don't get me wrong, I'd say all the right things and do whatever we need to keep our sex life going and keep him feeling good, but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't a blow (obviously I'd never ever tell him that). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 06:33 PM |
| 23 | Should a woman go "the extra mile" for a man during the vetting phase? RPW and TRP opinions welcome.Whoa, whoa! Too much, too fast, too soon. This is the stage (one date!) where a small funny gift or offering to treat him to a drink/ lunch is far more appropriate. Reading some of this RP stuff made me overdo it, too. Some years ago, I learned from my father in law that my husband was actually kind of weirded out by how nice and accomodating I was early in our relationship. Kind of like, "this girl is sooo nice, is this building up to some kind of dark turn that I should be wary of??" Luckily, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 05:07 PM |
| 9 | Isn’t RPW just about being a good human being?At the heart of them, it’s all about just actively being a good human being, about having strong values and maintaining them. I dunno, I think it's more about understanding male sexual imperative and strategy, and marrying it (often literally, lol) with female sexual imperative and strategy in a relationship that strives for compromise between the two, where mutual attraction and happiness can thrive. A woman can do this successfully but not be a good human being by any measure. She could be the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 05:27 PM |
| 1 | The bluepilled meme that "communication solves everything" is just a lazy catch-all phraseThe OP is way too broad, but there's some truth to it when it comes to communicating sexual and emotional issues, especially when it's the woman who has the need to communicate them. That's why a partner who "just gets it," or comes as close to getting it as a man can, is a real prize. Spares the need for awkward and distinctly un-arousing communication. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/22 05:06 PM |
| 0 | Why being an amazing mother is not considered successful?Motherhood can give women moral sanctity and social status that far outpaces status given to men by fatherhood. The importance of Mother's Day, activism sanctified by motherhood (mothers against drunk driving, etc.), the idea of introducing the "right" girl to mom, etc., etc. Prefacing whatever you're saying with, "as a mother..." gives mothers a moral upper hand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/22 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Why being an amazing mother is not considered successful?The work of the mother, even when it's excellent, is private, routine and ordinary...and men know it's ordinary. As Shakespeare's Iago said, women "suckle fools and chronicle small beer" (do small, inconsequential tasks). Economic success, however, has the appearance of the extraordinary...to say nothing of female beauty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/22 04:57 PM |
| 9 | What is femininity to you?Femininity is the art of having and showing men traits that inspire them to love and protect women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/22 02:47 PM |
| 2 | What was the biggest sign you ever gave to a guy only for him to miss it?Haha, my husband told me some funny stories from his young and clueless days. (He's GenX, btw, so this was late 80s/early 90s in high school and college.) Girl inviting him to her bedroom while she changed and he respectfully turned his back. Girl he photographed nude for a college art class inviting him to hang out and drink and him assuming she just wanted to hang out (she initiated a hookup, to his surprise). His high school yearbook is filled with stuff like "call me this summer, 420!!!!" ..… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table?The unfortunate but necessary purpose of “feminine wiles” really is to manipulate men. Because just voicing your opinion outright like you have a dick or something will get you nowhere. They have to be guided subliminally to the right answer by planting seeds and dropping hints. I do think this is a skill modern women, including myself, are losing. You're exactly right. The modern worship of clear, direct communication between the sexes doesn't consider that men don't enjoy clear, direct communi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 08:11 PM |
| 1 | How much do you think your relationship with your father has affected your dating life?My dad is a Soviet STEM nerd. He was a great father but a distant husband (and badly matched with my emotionally volatile mom). He and I were always close and just sort of "got" each other. Before I met my husband, he was the person I'd go to for advice and guidance. My husband is a solid family man, but far more adventurous and devil-may-care. He's done extreme sports, he's not an intellectual, etc. My worst relationship was with a guy who was closest in temperament to my dad, lol. All in all, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/22 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Any advice for a single introvert turning 30F next year?Consider volunteering for organizations or events that attract young people/young professional types, even if you're not that interested in whatever they're doing. In my city, that was the college radio station, local film festival, roller derby league, etc. Also, Meetup can be good if it's active where you live. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/22 04:20 PM |
| 0 | Do you care about whether the guy has a college degree?Don't care so much about the degree itself, but college is a class marker, it indicates a certain middle class worldview, and that was important to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/22 03:11 PM |
| 6 | When the good guy is also very sexual too earlyHave you talked about possible timelines for marriage? Dare I say, 12-18 months if you intend to remain celibate until your wedding night? (Frankly, even six months isn't completely unreasonable for two grown adults who have their lives together.) Are you having serious conversations about lifestyles, finances, religion, parenting styles, etc.? Meeting each other's families? Involved in a church that actively endorses premarital chastity? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/22 02:22 PM |
| 1 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceYes, she gave in to illicit passion, there's no place for it in socially sanctioned relationships of the time. (See Mertreuil's letter in defense of arranged marriage.) But, sure, once you get a taste of mutual passion, nothing compares to it.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 09:10 PM |
| 5 | Which Would You PickMen will choose the first, women will choose the second. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/22 01:42 PM |
| 1 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceDangerous Liaisons, de Laclos, 1782 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Are you turned off (or made jealous by) men watching porn?I don't want to know about his porn habits or have them affect our sex life. Out of sight, out of mind, please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 09:16 PM |
| 2 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceThat gleaming big eyed look they give you. The cuddles and kisses in the morning. The need to hold your hand and feel close to you. The warm smile. The stroke on the back of your neck when you're driving. True loving sex. Be careful, once you tell women that it's okay to "genuinely love," (in respectable marriage, no less!) they will want nothing but genuine love, at least at the start and in their youth.....and look at the misery you'll unleash on the men who can't inspire it. This is a respect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDo you think culture has perhaps exaggerated the extent to which women love being moms as Does modern western culture do this? I only really see this in trad/religious/conservative/red pill women-type spaces, and, granted, they're more sentimental than Hallmark. But how else to appeal to motherhood if not through joy? Duty/obligation? Purpose? (I think that comment about purpose is quite spot-on, actually, but not sure if it's a good sell.) Maybe through conformity and appeal to aesthetics, like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 08:09 PM |
| 4 | Q4W - which of the following two men would you rather have?B is a normal man and almost literally my husband, so... B. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 08:10 PM |
| 3 | What IS femininity?The idea that feminine traits emerged as an adaptation to appeal to men so that they protect us, and to ensure our survival and that of our children Yessss....I like this, thank you for fleshing it out for me! It was that evolutionary angle I was missing. If I can build on my original definition, I might now say that femininity is the art (or skill) of showing men traits that inspire them to love and protect women. It comes easier to some women than to others. Btw, I think they men can sense a c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/22 04:46 PM |
| 3 | What IS femininity?Maybe that means feminine is our idealized version of women? I'm going to use this as a springboard for my own morning musings because it's the closest to my line of thought, lol. The only definition I can really land on is that femininity is traits that inspire love, affection, and protectiveness in men. These traits certainly require an idealized version of women...or for women to hide certain "bad" feminine traits and highlight the ones that appeal to men. On a wider scale, I do think that un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/22 01:35 PM |
| 5 | No, a nanny can't be a child's primary attachment figure.I think I remember some old movies from like "The Secret Garden" era where there's historical similarities between what you're describing and the things depicted in those movies. Yes, that rings a bell! But the book that really shocked me was Tolstoy's Childhood (1852). Granted, it's in Russia, but the Russian nobility emulated the French back then. Its set in a wealthy family where the sons have a tutor and the daughters have a governess, who take care of dressing, bathing, and educating the ki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 03:23 PM |
| 8 | No, a nanny can't be a child's primary attachment figure.Oh, I agree that it wasn't good or healthy. I guess I'm pointing out that women farming off their children isn't just some modern feminist thing, it's something done historically, and not just by the upper classes.* I guess when we talk about what should be good and normal now, and what women should do, I think it's interesting to try to look what similar women have done in the past to help develop a sense of tradition and norms, if only to reject them or improve on them. But I admit that's my h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 03:09 PM |
| 9 | No, a nanny can't be a child's primary attachment figure.When I read pre-1900 European literature, I'm constantly taken aback by the presence of wet nurses, nannies, governesses, maids, tutors and various companions (the poor relation or the maiden aunt) who were placed in charge of children. And while this may have applied to a small portion of the upper classes and played up in fiction, sending infants to live with wet nurses until toddlerhood was a common practice in parts of Europe into the 19th century, especially in France. Here's one article th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 02:10 PM |
| 3 | With the rise of red pill ideas, is feminism doomed to fail?Will the rise of the red pill ideology bring back the union between men and women? I don't think so, not as long as we have our current technology up and running. Mainstreaming of the red pill (if it is in fact going mainstream) will make everyone who follows this stuff double down on their positions. Even if our current technology all crashed and burned tomorrow, I'm not sure if "union" is the right word to describe what would follow. There's natural antagonism between men and women, dueling se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/22 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Soft / feminine careersI'm going to go against other advice here and advise you not to limit yourself to WFH right out of school. I completely agree with this. It's important to network and make connections/work friends early in your career, when you're young and unencumbered. These connections with people who like you and trust you will make your life easier if you ever want to reenter the workforce after a period of being a sahm, or work part time, or arrange flex hours down the line. I've been working from home sin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/22 04:40 PM |
| 14 | Soft / feminine careersAdmin/clerical jobs in office settings. Jobs with "assistant" or "specialist" in the title. Communications/marketing/HR/program management. Office bullshit jobs, basically. They don't pay a lot, but the flexibility/ low stress is so worth it to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/22 02:15 PM |
| 4 | why does a man stay in a relationship from a male perspective?I asked my husband and he said, "lol, when you find the right woman, you're kind of done looking." Then I pestered him for more and on the fly he broke it into four buckets: Love (genuine love and affection for the woman, sex is included in this category) Annoyance (that is, lack of it in the relationship) Effort (how much effort he has to put into the relationship, as counterbalanced by the high love and low annoyance. Also how much effort would it take to get out of the relationship and find a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | What is your opinion on men who will not marry women whose parents are divorced?I've seen tons of these cases in internet I think it's something men say on the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 03:03 PM |
| 2 | 5 Books that have saved me thus far. What are 5 books you'd recommend to someone trying to dive into the deeper end?Dangerous Liaisons, de Laclos (the original trp sidebar and fds handbook) Three Years, Chekhov The Lady's Dressing Room, Jonathan Swift Something by Tolstoy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Man's view on IUDsMy guess is she’s touched you decided to take birth control on as your burden (it’s usually the woman’s problem) and is feeling a bit warmer towards you. Have you ever asked her if she felt a difference emotionally? It's been only about a week since OP's wife had the Mirena removed. I'm curious if her mood will change in any way over the coming months or if this in fact her "real" state, unaltered by hormonal birth control. Did she want OP to get a vasectomy, was it ever a point of contention? I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/22 03:53 AM |
| 1 | CMV, Sex is an essential part of a long term relationship, without it relationships lose their love and end badly.Not all of them if you look at personal accounts and diaries. Especially of the more religious type Could you recommend any books or historical resources that go into this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/22 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Was Giacomo Casanova a masculine or dominant man?You can listen to a highly abridged version of his memoirs here: https://youtu.be/oNhyLKUjRec (read by Benedict Cumberbatch, if that matters ..) Casanova comes off as a charming, socially savvy bullshitter who weaseled his way into high society multiple times. He is not masculine or dominant in the modern sense, but he did live in an age when manners, grace and refinement mattered in a high-society man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 04:31 PM |
| 5 | Women of PPD, if you had a son...Ok, I'll play! Ideally, fuckboy until age 30, and then husband with a spine, but since the choice is specifically beta husband...then fuckboy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 05:36 PM |
| 5 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)As others said, hypergamy goes beyond mere job status. Maybe the man satisfies a woman's hypergamy because he's talented or has status in something that appeals to women, or he's charismatic, charming, seductive, etc. OR...he doesn't satisfy a woman's hypergamy, but he's acceptable as a long-term partner because the woman can't attract anyone better, or she wants out of the chaotic dating market, or she wants kids and a stable family life and he's good enough for that. I think all of the above a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/22 12:59 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are some things you wish your mother had taught you?Sewing seems to be the most popular answer overall, which surprises me. My mom also knows how to sew but didn't teach me, though I had no interest in it as a kid. My mom grew up in the USSR and a lot of women from her generation learned to sew because they wanted cute dresses and outfits that you just couldn't buy in stores due to clothing shortages. I wonder if their daughters sew...I'd guess not nearly as much because now there's an endless amount of ready to wear and fast fashion options. Wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 05:52 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are some things you wish your mother had taught you?We'll, I'm not sure if my mom could have taught me anything directly. I wasn't exactly a rebellious child or teenager in the usual sense (I was a shy, weirdo shut-in), but in my teens I went through a period of contempt for my mom...I think mostly because she was my mom. Maybe another woman could have taught me stuff and I would have listened, but I didn't have another grown woman in my life at that point. Looking back on it from my late 30s, I can see that I absorbed a lot from my mom...just by… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Gender Roles and Self-SufficiencyAre you and your partner self-sufficient? Do you think gender roles pose an issue? What would you or your partner find difficult if you suddenly had to take care of everything on your own? I'm not self sufficient in doing anything that requires fixing, heavy lifting, anything technical and mechanical, complicates finances. My husband handles everything of that nature. If I didn't have a man, however, I wouldn't need a lot of this stuff done. I would never ever ever ever buy a house without a man… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDo you think that had someone wifed her up back when she was 15 or 16 (back when hypothetically she was a virgin) that things would be working out for them today? Or do you think the seeds have been planted and she's gonna go hog wild no matter what? Seeds planted! Lol, I just read a 300-year old novel in which a teenage girl is sent to a convent for life because her parents can sense that the seeds have been planted! (Quite sensible of her parents in that place and time.) It was against her con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Reflections on dating after 9 years of marriageIt does... thanks! (I've been trying hard to get the kitchen cleaned up earlier in the evening so I can relax, the waffle thing made me twitch a bit!) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Reflections on dating after 9 years of marriageI've had his back in public as well as working with him to achieve his goals. And I really mean his goals got a tattoo for him (literally at his request - totally not my thing). last night I made waffles at like 11pm because he wanted waffles and ice cream. Oh, man, I gotta step up my wife game, I've been slacking, lol 😳 I guess...do you ever feel like it's his world and you're living in it? Or giving a little more than you're getting? I've been there and done some similar stuff, but over the ye… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 04:14 PM |
| 5 | Reflections on dating after 9 years of marriageMy husband used to have a matching user name to mine and would hang out here poking at me and giving advice. So yes, he's aware of the red pill. We talk about this stuff all the time. When did he become red pilled? Did that affect your relationship? Sometimes women here are warned against pill-aware men, but you and your husband seem to be using this knowledge successfully. (Oh, and thanks for answering my questions, much appreciated!) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 06:12 PM |
| 13 | Reflections on dating after 9 years of marriageThanks for sharing this, you're an awesome contributor. I'm really interested in how women "RPW" in long ltrs, so I'm going to take up your sort-of invite to AMA. 😃 Do you think your husband explicitly understands the role of the man in the relationship (upholding the burden of performance) or is it more like you inspire him to do this and the understanding is more veiled on his part? Is he aware of the red pill? Are there RPW tactics or advice that you've changed your opinion about over the yea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Tea TimeYou have my sympathy, I was both wincing and cringe laughing as I read this. Some of it sounds familiar! My husband and I have done short vacations with our kids and two things helped: -Not having a schedule when traveling. Easier said than done, and easier for us because we've never really stuck to a schedule for the kids, except maybe feedings in the early weeks of infancy. If the kids end up jumping on a hotel bed and eating Applebee's fries at 11 pm, okay (oddly specific cause it happened, l… | /r/RedPillWives | 13/08/22 01:54 AM |
| 38 | controversial thoughts on the female orgasmHmmm, for me, soooort of but not quite. Yes, some of the hottest, most memorable sex I had with my husband was sex where I was nowhere near an orgasm...BUT...that sex was either: a) somewhat risky sex in public (like in a hollow redwood tree when we were hiking in Northern California 🌳) or B) quick, down and dirty, wham, bam, thank-you ma'am sex where my husband's desire and dominance was super exciting in itself. So, yeah, risk and spontaneity are hot without the orgasm. However, for more leisu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/22 06:02 AM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadEternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind in reverse, I like it. Someone, please write this story/novel/script. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:31 PM |
| 5 | Why do some women date/marry guys who aren't good in bed?I think you got some solid answers about women choosing between solid husband qualities and hot sex qualities, which can be found in the same man...but unfortunately, not that often. This is a age-old female dilemma, and much more painful for women these days, since in the past families steered women toward men with husband qualities and away from men with only hot sex qualities, and these days women must steer themselves. I'm seeing lots of well meaningful advice about communication as a workar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/22 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Casual QuestionsI think it's more about how closely we hold those expectations or how much we stake on them Yes, that's a good way to think about. I like that. Thanks for entertaining my shower thought. 😃 | /r/RedPillWives | 04/08/22 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Casual QuestionsIt could be a matter of different tastes in kinks or wildly different sex drives, but most often I think it's a matter of the woman not finding the man sexually attractive for whatever reason. Her lack of attraction will make her less willing to accommodate different tastes and tolerate his desire for sex. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/08/22 06:01 PM |
| 6 | Casual QuestionsI'm toying around with a separate post on this, but ...the whole covert contract thing. Don't our lives revolve around covert contracts, romantically, professionally, in business, friendships, nearly all our social interactions? Can you really have no expectations in these realms unless you clearly communicate them? | /r/RedPillWives | 03/08/22 04:19 PM |
| 7 | The Cute Kid ReportMy toddler loves a book called The Shark in the Dark, but he calls it "the dark in the shark," which sounds very existential. | /r/RedPillWives | 02/08/22 04:44 PM |
| 6 | Q4W - If you were a full time working woman and the sole income provider, and your husband was a Stay at home dad/ house husband, how much housework would you do?Be honest. How much housework would you do? I would expect to do 90% of it on evenings and weekends because men aren't interested in the minutia of housekeeping, certainly not when a woman is in the house. The big exception might be yardwork/fixing stuff, that's where men tend to shine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/22 04:35 PM |
| 4 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsPPD is a wildly active, entertaining sub with a few excellent participants. Like, I'd pay to read their stuff if they wrote blogs, books, etc. But the darker side of PPD...is....dark. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/07/22 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don't know about that time period in particular, but maybe the social acceptability of brothels made things a bit better for undesirable men in the past. From Chekhov's The Kiss: (1887) He had never once danced in his whole life, and he had never once in his life put his arm round the waist of a respectable woman.... There were times when he envied the boldness and swagger of his companions and was inwardly wretched; the consciousness that he was timid, that he was round-shouldered and uninter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 06:16 PM |
| 3 | The Cute Kid ReportHaha, it's ok to laugh. 😂 My kids come up with some laughable excuses for not doing stuff. Son: I can't get my towel and swim shorts from the patio and put them away...because it's dark outside! And....there might be coyotes in the yard! Also, it might rain, I don't wanna get hit by lightning. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/07/22 07:56 PM |
| 5 | The Cute Kid ReportI'm learning that parenting elementary school-age kids is more emotionally exhausting than dealing with toddlers/babies (that was physically exhausting). Trying to teach respect, thinking long term, the value of a dollar, using the resources you have, planning ahead, etc. I have become the mom nag: Clean your room, pack your lunch, put away your stuff, turn off the lights when you leave a room, put your empty dish in the sink. Argh. Simple stuff...right? Wrong. Also, I'm not ever taking my kids … | /r/RedPillWives | 26/07/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhen my husband and I were dating I was dabbling in roller derby and we'd go skating every week. It was such a great time. I sucked at derby but I do miss our skate dates. 🛼 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 06:24 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?You know, this is a very good question. In my view, men (and to an extent, childless women who want kids) have a very idealized, beautiful idea of motherhood, and if they perceive a woman as a good mother they put her on a pedestal above all others. It's the most pure, laudable thing a woman can achieve. Have you seen those trad wife Instagram accounts where beautiful young women frolic with cherubic infants in sunflower fields? It's like that. Women deal with the physical vagaries of motherhood… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?Most women probably have even deeper feelings, even sentimentality, about motherhood than men. Hey, thanks for chiming in, you're one of my favorite commenters here. Re: motherhood...Well, to hear some guys talk about it, you'd think motherhood is like a giant bowl of ice cream covered with a sea chocolate syrup. But it's more like a single scoop of dark chocolate sorbet (the best kind of dessert, btw!). I'm a calm and emotionally even person, but motherhood made me feel rage, fear, and LOVE, ob… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 06:52 AM |
| – | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?Women in other countries are much more sentimental about motherhood. Which counties do you have in mind? To me, it seems like no one is more sentimental about children than upper middle class westerners, both men and women, because they have so few of them and wait so long for the "right" time to have them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 02:16 AM |
| – | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?If you're fucking loads of dudes, you definitely have emotional problems that don't let you properlybond with people romantically. Same goes to men tho. Ok, that's a fair point, though I'm inclined to think that it's not high n counts that lead to inability to bond. It's that emotionally volatile people who can't bond in the first place end up fucking loads of partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo, but I did follow a bunch of Russian lady bloggers/influencers on Instagram and they seemed no different than American women, but then out of nowhere they'd say something...well... Like the nice lady who blogged about Russian orphanages and encouraged adoption. She compared Ukraine to an unfaithful wife who's being beaten by an angry husband (she suggested couples therapy instead of beatings). And the nice book blogger lady, who, when Harvey Weinstein was convicted, called his accusers dumb s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?That's right: https://therationalmale.com/2012/08/22/just-get-it/amp/ Take it away, Rollo: This is why the “communication is everything” meme has been responsible for the demise of more relationships than anyone will ever admit. It’s not that you communicate, it’s what you’re communicating and how you communicate it. I’ve counseled more men than I care to recount who’ve sobbed from the depths of their souls, “IF SHE’D JUST TELL ME WHAT I HAVE TO DO TO MAKE HER LOVE ME I’D DO IT!” not realizing t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 10:37 PM |
| – | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?Communication kills desire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 10:30 PM |
| 257 | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?I think men are sentimental about motherhood in a way that women aren't, but they also dismiss pregnancy and childbirth as no big deal. Also, the idea that a sexually inexperienced woman will enjoy sex with an unappealing man because she has nothing to compare it to. The whole low n-count=automatic pair bonding thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Is it alright to desire to be a provider husband?Is it common for women to want to be a fully provided for, stay at home wife? It's extremely common and desirable after a woman has children. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/07/22 11:17 PM |
| 5 | For the happily married womenMy husband was 36 when we met and more than ready for a serious relationship, which sped up our timeline. We hit it off right away. Three months into the relationship, I just kind of decided that this is the guy I would be marrying, lol. I think going in we both wanted marriage and we're open to kids, but I don't remember if we explicitly talked about it. When we met, we lived an hour apart and visited each other twice a week, taking turns planning dates/activities depending on whose city we wer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 01:44 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadPPD back in the day: (From Rudin by Turgenev, 1856) This Pigasov was a strange person. Full of acerbity against everything and every one—especially against women—he was railing from morning to night, sometimes very aptly, sometimes rather stupidly, but always with gusto... Darya Mihailovna gave Pigasov a cordial reception; he amused her with his sallies. They were certainly absurd enough. He took delight in perpetual exaggeration. For example, if he were told of any disaster.... he invariably as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 04:06 PM |
| 3 | The most obvious sign of women having the upper hand in dating is how many dudes you see who are completely whipped by women far less attractive than themThe shrew wife is an old, old trope that continues to resonate. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shrew_(stock_character) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Do you think your boyfriend truly cares about you?Yes, my husband cares about me, and yes, he also has flaws, but I would not complain about him to the hyenas on ppd, and I suspect, neither would the women who have a smattering of respect for their men, because they instinctively realize that it's wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIs that from The Most Dangerous Game? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 02:33 PM |
| 6 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy is my 7-year-old son fascinated by war? From military equipment to battle reenactments to nerf war, you name it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 02:15 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBoudoir shoots: hot or cringe? Edit: If cringe, why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: What's the source of your femininity?If you can learn how to give yourself the love, validation, attention, acceptance, and passion that you are currently outsourcing to others, you'll bask in the most delicious feminine feeling all the time, and become incredibly radiant and magnetic as well. Objectively, I understand what you're saying, but this kind of love still feels nebulous to me. I do think pretty highly of myself, lol! 🤪 But that doesn't carry over to how I feel about femininity. I thought you had some interesting thoughts… | /r/RedPillWives | 30/06/22 12:21 AM |
| 7 | What does a red pilled woman get out of the ideology?Time to dust off my old comment about the kind of women I see in online red pill communities. -Very young women who latch on to RP as a kind of rebellion against mom or mainstream culture. (Fuck you, feminist mom!) These girls are 15-21, and you see them regurgitating RP talking points or casting their equally young boyfriends in a "captain" role. Will these girls be RP in 10 or 20 years? Maybe, maybe not. -Various trad leaning women. These are conservative sahms who found RP after they landed a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 09:23 PM |
| 0 | What does a red pilled woman get out of the ideology?Either way, what the hell does a woman get out of being red pilled? I think the red pill is a more or less accurate description of gender dynamics, which women can use to better understand men and what makes them tick. I think it's very possible to come away from the red pill with a dark, negative view of men and choose to avoid them altogether, btw. Which she can’t get out of a normal healthy relationship? If a normal healthy relationship means a sexually charged hetero relationship, I think ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: What's the source of your femininity?I see that older women who have passed their prime childbearing years embody this femininity too, and oftentimes better than me at this stage in my life. I want that assurance and peaceful nurturing in my life no matter what season. Yes, that's a good point, especially since 40 is just around the corner for me... | /r/RedPillWives | 29/06/22 05:15 PM |
| 1 | If you expect men to pay on the first date, then you don't get to complain about the wage gap.This is a very funny and entertaining thread, nice job ppd. Actually, the women have funnier zingers here. Good time for men to leverage agree and amplify and amused mastery. Go get 'em. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: What's the source of your femininity?When I don't feel particularly feminine, it's not that I feel masculine, just that I feel kinda normal. Yes....that's exactly how I feel most days. When actually being feminine is your standard and what feels normal, then it takes extra to shift the balance enough to feel the difference. That's a great point. I've never been super girly, most of my life I was very bookish and nerdy. But psychologically, I do think I have a feminine nature, the good and the bad parts. I can't imagine ever being e… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/06/22 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat Megathread🎶Tous les garçons et les filles de mon âge Se promènent par les rues deux par deux Tous les garçons et les filles de mon âge Savent bien ce que c'est qu'être heureux... 🎶 https://youtu.be/_V-b8QIYOpM | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 03:01 AM |
| 9 | It's quite quiet in hereThanks for starting the conversation. I like that this sub gives women an opportunity to vent and think through feelings without all the strict rules about actionable advice on the other sub, if only in the weekly tea threads. I understand and appreciate their approach, but I do think it's helpful and valuable for women to have a space to get stuff off their chest or find a solution by sort of meandering. As for me, I've been married for 10 years, 3 kids, and entering a weird stage where my olde… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 02:34 AM |
| 3 | Using the childlike demeanor to attract men -- do other women see you as competition?I think the "child-like" demeanor thing works best in private, when working through minor issues or play-acting the sexy airhead. I wouldn't say that being fun, enthusiastic, energetic, or pleasant (which are the traits that you should display in public) is really "child-like." | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/22 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadRecite some Silvia Plath then I’ll be impressed. They would recite only the "every woman adores a fascist" line as proof of women's depravity straight from the horse's mouth! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/22 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathreada sizable number advise being persistent, claiming that persistence is attractive. "Whatever inclination we may have to yield, however we feel our compliance unavoidable, still must there be a pretence; and can there be a more commodious one for us, than that which gives us the appearance of being overcome by force?" "For my part, I own nothing charms me to much as a brisk lively attack, where every thing is carried on with regularity, but with rapidity; which never puts us to the painful dilemm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathread😭😭😭 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSuccessful relationships or lifelong relationships? Those aren't quite the same. Having seen my grandparents' and my parents ' unhappy but lifelong marriages, here's what kept them together: -First, the practicalities of leaving the marriage are extremely difficult for one or both partners. -Commitment to raising children together. -Later in life, shared history that would be impossible to rebuild with someone else. -And finally, in the end, the devil you know is better than the devil you don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 02:22 PM |
| 3 | discussion - following the leaderMarried 10 years, 3 kids. Yes, I think I'd follow my husband anywhere at this point unless it involved addiction, physical danger to me or the kids, or obvious financial ruin. He generally has solid judgement and does what he thinks is the best for our family, and he's generally right. And even if I didn't want to follow him somewhere, our kids need him, so... But... I mean, he says he appreciates my practical, risk-averse side to keep him grounded. Would I hesitate to tell him that I don't like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 02:00 PM |
| 2 | What is a feminine woman?Feminine traits are those that inspire male romantic idealism and affection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Why do most people secretly enjoy watching other relationships fail?"People really do like seeing their best friends humiliated; a large part of the friendship is based on humiliation; and that is an old truth,well known to all intelligent people." Dostoevsky, The Gambler | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/22 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'll check it out, спасибо. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/22 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah, I'm always amazed by how little underlying gender dynamics have changed over the centuries. Got any book recommendations? I can read Russian. Haven't read a ton of Turgenev, but: First Love: LOVE it, unintentionally red pill AF, perfect, heartbreaking. Recommend to everyone. Fathers and Sons: Very enjoyable and timeless. Also I have a crush on Bazarov. Awalt, I know. Rudin, Asya: Enjoyable but not great. Mumu: Emotionally manipulative in the most noble way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/22 05:58 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadCorrect! Chekhov's certainly my favorite. Yeah, I like reading classic lit (especially pre-1900) through a pilled perspective. There's not much interest in fiction among red pillers, but good fiction is a lie that tells the truth, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/22 04:50 PM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat Megathread"With all his soft-heartedness and good-nature, Savka despised women. He behaved carelessly, condescendingly with them, and even stooped to scornful laughter of their feelings for himself. God knows, perhaps this careless, contemptuous manner was one of the causes of his irresistible attraction for the village Dulcineas. "He was handsome and well-built; in his eyes there was always a soft friendliness, even when he was looking at the women he so despised, but the fascination was not to be explai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI read it as the bird correctly calling people cucks, whores and fools, but that doesn't make the bird itself wise, or really any better. But I do think that ppd's more outrageous and insane regulars are like broken clocks, nearly always wrong but when they're right, oof, they're right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 08:48 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathread"The coxcomb bird, so talkative and grave, That from his cage cries Cuckold, Whore, and Knave, Though many a passenger he rightly call, You hold him no Philosopher at all." Wow, how did Alexander Pope predict ppd?? 😳 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 06:20 PM |
| 5 | The word incel has become meaningless, and is used as a knee-jerk response any time a woman doesn’t like something a man says'Has become," haha. When Jonathan Swift published his funny red pilled poem, The Lady's Dressing Room, (1732): "The poem was received like any satire: some loved it and some hated it. For example, the poem provoked a negative response from Lady Mary Wortley Montagu, featured in her poem “The Reasons that Induced Dr. S. to Write a Poem called The Lady’s Dressing Room.” In this poem, she voices what many thought was the reason for his writing the poem: sexual frustration." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 04:55 AM |
| 1 | How do your men treat you? As their partners? Wives, girlfriends?However, in many of these discussions a lot of the men want and believe women should be subservient to them. A master/pet kind of relationship. They want to make all the decisions, manage all the money not to do any form of chore or be bothered by children. Divorce is not an option and even if a divorce happens the wife will get nothing since all she did was look after children. I’ve read a post where a redpilled man was looking for someone to agree with him that beating his wife was the next lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/22 04:07 PM |
| 4 | Femininity makes people treat you better!This seems to happen to some women, but I've never experienced it. Maybe it's because I live in the Midwest, and dressing up here means wearing your "nice" jeans. When I was really into skirts/heels, I often felt overdressed and out of place. But! Being out with my young children does make people treat me very kindly! I've never experienced so much positive attention in my life until I had kids. People will smile, say nice things, let me go ahead of them in line, etc. It's like motherhood gave m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm not surprised you didn't finish it! Yeah, sounds like Casanova blew money on women, dinners, hotel rooms, clothes, etc. He'd make money and then lose it. He seemed to have a short attention span. Maybe he was trying make his narrative faced-paced and exciting, but he also admits at one point that he just didn't want to hold a steady respectable job or lead a quiet life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 12:34 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNot in the audiobook, but it ends when he's still in his 20s. He considers marriage a few times, but decides he likes his freedom more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 10:16 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI read* Casanova's memoir and thought it was surprisingly dull. There's not much about seduction-- women just kind of fell into his arms, including several pairs of virgin sisters who were naturally very happy to share him! He was good at creating circumstances where women could be alone with him, so they could do what they already wanted to do, lol. Casanova says he was not handsome, but his face was memorable and worked in his favor. I guess his main "HVM" quality is confidence and scheming hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Men and women watching porn is not the sameBroader speaking.... Male vice=sex. Female vice=coquetry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/22 05:35 PM |
| 21 | How to up my cooking abilities?Yeah, this was my initial thought. Is the husband into food or nice food experiences? My husband will for sure appreciate a hot meal, but his idea of that is some baked chicken and mashed potatoes. He's even fine with mashed potatoes from a mix. He'll eat and maybe even appreciate fancy food, but he just doesn't care that much about it. Some people are like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 06:01 PM |
| 10 | Which is better- husband with low or high body count?I think it's better to have a husband who has some experience with women and understands how to balance the "alpha"/masculine and "beta"/comfort traits needed for an enduring relationship. But you can debate how much of an n count (if any at all) is needed for a man to achieve this experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/22 07:31 PM |
| 3 | do we have more power over men than we think we do?You are on a roll! Yes, I agree with all this, thanks for putting more context around my thoughts. :) (which is a form of power within the relationship that he must yield in most cases to make her feel safe enough to stay long-term). Yes, a balance of alpha and "comfort" traits. I think even the red pilliest guys understand that both are needed for an enduring relationship with a woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 02:16 AM |
| 13 | do we have more power over men than we think we do?I think this is an excellent answer. In addition to what Roses said, my own take is that having power over a man really isn't a win for a woman who wants a sexually charged relationship. I think women desire men who don't easily yield power to women or hold their frame even in the face of the most desirable femininity. This goes double for women who're naturally submissive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/22 11:43 PM |
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