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| 266 | Coworker asks me out over text on company provided cell. Why are men so dumb? | RANT | CounterCharacter7663 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 04:05 PM |
| 7 | I wish guys could adopt some of the philosophies of FDS | SHOWER THOUGHT | CounterCharacter7663 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:00 PM |
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| 2 | Western misogyny is as women rebelling against it.Woah! That's a whole different level. Mad props. I just couldn't. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:44 AM |
| 12 | Western misogyny is as women rebelling against it.In away here's the flip side. My Grandfather died a few years ago. He had 4 sons and 1 daughter. They all have spouses and kids. There are 12 cousins. My family is the only one that moved away. (Military, I met my grandfather for the first time at 9 years old.) My sister is the only one who steps up to help my Grandmother. Feed her, find his photo, and frame it for the funeral. She lives 7 hours away, there are 12 living relatives that couldn't be bothered to help grandmother. I also live out of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 03:37 PM |
| 60 | Coworker asks me out over text on company provided cell. Why are men so dumb?Thank you!! I needed this wording because I have a feeling my HR is this way. I just didn't know how to word it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 05:30 PM |
| 12 | They're telling on themselvesThis is my every holiday since moving out. I'm a chef, but my dad has to make a HUGE production on cooking the ham or the turkey. Um? Who's doing the stuffing? The rolls? Green Bean Casserole? Nobody? No one? Here's the cheese and cracker tray with veggies, get out of the kitchen. (My sisters are busy with their kids rightfully so.) My mom, does the dishes. I try to clean as I go but I got stuff in the oven, three pans on the stove, and prepping the last thing for the oven. *sigh* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 08:13 PM |
| 64 | Never let them get comfortable!I would first move the scissors out of spite first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:59 PM |
| 5 | "Friends" swiping right on OLDMen are not real friends. They are acquaintances. I had like 20 single guy friends across two decades of knowing that I thought were real friends. Within six months of ending a 20 year partnership, all but one asked me out. And most framed it like they were doing me a favor! Nah man, I don't want to get to know by playing world or Warcraft for a week. Sorry I'm not traveling to see your toy room in California or Texas or Chicago. Nope I'm not interested it talking to you over Facebook messenger … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 04:28 PM |
| 24 | The Methods Men Use to Manipulate Even the Smartest Women - Episode 4The strange thing with me is I find guys don't shut up about themselves and I end up filling the empty silences with a question to them. They never as questions back at me, so the last 2 years of dating, the first guy I tolerated 3 dates of this, then the 100 other dates I've been on I never accepted a second date. Guys think they are interesting, they aren't. They are boring as heck. They don't invest in themselves or their career. Every man who has a great job fell into it and fell upwards wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:59 PM |
| 7 | Why "walk dates" are a thing on OLD and why they should be trashed every single time.Same for men who say they travel or like to cook. Warming up frozen vegetables in the microwave and shoving an unseasoned skinless boneless chicken breast in the oven until you think it's done is not cooking. Don't go looking with hungry eyes at my plate of hickory smoked chicken thighs, stir-fried vegetables, properly cooked white rice, and simple salad with homemade miso carrot dressing. You told me you know how to cook... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:35 PM |
| 16 | UPDATE: We are changing our policy on polyamory!That both stings and is cathartic. My partner of 20 years turned poly on me. I had to dump him. It hurts to know I was not loved, but at least him and the soon non-existing brood are not loved together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Men are not your friends. If you don’t have to, never live with one that isn’t a relative/a significant other. He most likely doesn’t give a shit about you, your safety, your dignity. Living with one could potentially put you in a dangerous situation. I repeat, they are NOT our friends!!Even when gay, they are only friends when they need attention or something. Just not the sex part. :/ Women will only. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Just say you are broke and go. 🥱Amen to that! No more romancing dudes! There's too many damn fish in the sea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:36 PM |
| 5 | We honor our female ancestors by living a life they could have only ever dreamed of.And I'm taking everyone of those advantages fully! It's not always easy, but damn even I'm impressed with what I (we) can do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Can’t believe this is even a question. Just goes to show selfish men can really be.More like trying to develop whatever hair brained idea Marketing or Sales walk in the door with. We are a service and unfortunately not the originator for innovation at this place. It wasn't always this way, but after 30+ ideas weren't even consumer screened. You just make what they tell you to make. It's a different mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Instead of sending this reply, I blocked him. Not spending time on guys who don’t do the basics.I feel you, for me everyone is a "Project Manager" now. Well F my 35 credit hours, six months studying for the certification test, passing a three hour proctored test, and the 36 continuing education hours I have to earn every three years. Brads a Project Manager too. /S | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Slightly creepy colleague. Is this real or in my head? How do I navigate in the midst of LVM colleagues?I don't know what's worse, when they are out about it or when they take the Mike Pence approach. They are never really your mentor because a real mentor would be an advocate for you in your company. I've had dozen of skeevy guys over my years at my current corporate job and only one guy I would casually refer to as my mentor to boost his ego so he will spread good words for me in the Marketing department. All my real mentors have been women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 03:23 PM |
| 3 | When a date is lying about SOMETHING. AKA you don’t need to wait until you have all the infoThey do. Don't stay loyal. You need to be willing to job hop. Don't think of your career as straight line or stay in one industry, think of it as a jungle gym, but always make a little more than the last job. I have a Masters, PMP certification, and about to finish an MBA. A guy who has little over a high school degree and hasn't open a book or attended a class since the 1980's makes over twice my salary. I made $22K in promotions over my decade with the company most were cost of living adjustme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:59 PM |
| 3 | When a date is lying about SOMETHING. AKA you don’t need to wait until you have all the infoI know guys working $12-14/ hour. I'm not dating them, but it depends on their career. I will admit, in my corporate career, a guys sneezes and get a promotion. It's very disheartening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:53 PM |
| 14 | If men don’t have anything to offer, they have the audacity.*Hug* Yeah, all my male friends turned in to lizard men to me within six months of ending my very long term relationship. Always eye opening and sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:35 PM |
| 8 | Can’t believe this is even a question. Just goes to show selfish men can really be.No, we just have Marketing and Sales to deal with. So the headaches are year round instead of twice a year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:31 PM |
| 56 | If men don’t have anything to offer, they have the audacity.I always said "Gotta be an actual friend first for it to work." No guy has ever been an actual friend. So, no FWB. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:54 PM |
| 11 | Who comes first?Yeah, but you learned. We all learned. Never ever again. *Hug* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:51 PM |
| 25 | Can’t believe this is even a question. Just goes to show selfish men can really be.It's like this in private industry as a scientist as well. Ask me how I know... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:24 PM |
| 26 | The real reason FDS pisses people off so muchLouder for the Lads in the back!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Why do I hate both aspects of this guy's personalityMore like drunk, says you’re a condescending limp scrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:15 PM |
| 2 | I wish guys could adopt some of the philosophies of FDSI'll have to check her out. Thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:23 PM |
| 5 | Finding fds ladies in real life, being seen as extreme for people around meFDS is too new to find a woman just randomly. I don't talk about FDS with my friends. But at 40, single, and childless; no one is surprised that I'm okay just being the cool Auntie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Finding fds ladies in real life, being seen as extreme for people around meOuch! I feel for you. This is rare for me but hurts more than men doing it. I wish you the blessing of better luck with women. They are my only salvation, and my cat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone just lost faith in men altogether?They do exist. I know because all my friends and sisters married them. I may never find one, but I'm okay with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | “I’ve been trying to get a hold of you for a while...We met on Tinder”I canceled them all after one had a user try to scam money off me. No ROI for time investment and not about to be scammed too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:21 PM |
| 1 | “I’ve been trying to get a hold of you for a while...We met on Tinder”Yep, had a guy show up after I blocked him on Hinge. He located me on Instagram and just popped up twice in June, WITHOUT A MASK even! Block, block, block! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Never, and I mean NEVER, allow a man to disrespect your body like this.I'm sorry. *hug* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Most importantly, NEVER SETTLE LADIES!Also don't work for free for him for his business. He won't appreciate it and build that extra freebie into his business model. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Men post things like this to get a Pickmeisha to dance for themYep. *Tops my Eggs Sardou with Hollandaise sauce.* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Men post things like this to get a Pickmeisha to dance for themMy ex did that near the end. It hurt me as I would review the menu with him prior. My dinners take like 2 hours to make since from scratch. There came a point that he would "just pick somethings up" for him. At the end I said great and eat my bomb a$$ food myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 10:29 PM |
| 13 | Friendzoned men - what are your experiences?I have to be honest, I'm dealing with it for the first time at 40. I literally knew all these men for 15+ years, some are married with kids. The moment I break off with the ex... one by one. And this is like 15 guys! When I was younger I didn't understand why the GFs or wives hated me. Once they met me we were fine. There is one guy from high school who hasn't approached yet. But he lives in a different city. I know what will happen if I go and visit. I only have women friends and men associates… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:30 PM |
| 11 | Summer: the season of the "swimming" date -_-Noooo! It never leads anywhere and sometimes they won't even buy your coffee. Even putting on light make-up and a short drive is not worth their hour of boring talk. Buy better coffee at home and read a book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:02 PM |
| 0 | Women that have dropped a LVM for a HVM, please share your experiences.Not all, some are just broke and boring as F. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:40 PM |
| 3 | What happened when I invested all my time and energy in myselfIt was my biggest monetary promotion for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:30 PM |
| 3 | And every single one more than valid:)Whoomp there it is... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:34 PM |
| 7 | Friendly reminder that dating during a pandemic is still a bad idea.Remember, you can still date yourself in a pandemic. It's awesome actually. Just be safe, wear a mask in public, and keep some distance between you and others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 08:49 PM |
| 6 | This post boiled my blood. Don’t EVER shrink your success for a man!! Especially for a man with no job!!!The problem is, even in a major metropolitan city, very few men put effort in themselves or their careers. Like I met a Math Professor that makes peanuts, lives next to the University and rides his bike every where. My world is larger than a 3 mile radius. Another guy 36 years old making minimum wage in IT. I mentioned hey maybe get a few more certs. "That means I have to go back to school and take out loans." (I took the GMAT and was accepted to my prized MBA program less that a year later.) So… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 08:30 PM |
| 123 | If he doesn't cook and clean, he puts you at net negative.This excludes pets. Effort spent on pets are returned in three fold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone successfully quit online dating and began finding men in the Wild?Soooo going to be working the volunteer check-in when festivals start up again. But not just any festivals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:36 PM |
| 9 | How to explain that he should pay?Thing is, while I can pay for my meal or drinks. It becomes expensive. I always wanted to say to the guys who are hunkered down at the cafe already with his coffee "Hey F#$Ker, if I bought a cup of coffee for every man that wanted to meet me, I'd be bankrupt." I'm not ready to date until I learn how to vet properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:50 PM |
| 24 | How to explain that he should pay?Pre FDS, I paid 50/50 waaaay more than they paid. Even on drink/coffee dates. My last date I bought a new dress, spent 2 hours getting ready. I get to the Sunday date, he already has his drink. I sat down on the cool white couches all the pretty people apparently sit and mentioned I was thirsty. He told me, you order at the bar. Kept blathering on. I excused myself. Order a $10 with tip handcrafted lemonade and walked out. I'm only dating myself for the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:41 PM |
| 9 | At least the comments were telling him how big of an asshole he is.I buy the vinegar but add a little sugar and have the fruit steep in it at least 10 days. I then strain and place it in pretty bottles. I've already used the strawberry balsamic on a Caprese salad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 03:54 PM |
| 5 | I mean, who cares what people think but yeah, that is most definitely not the solution!I totally forgot about the onsen. I did that too in Tokyo. To see all body shapes and ages! So full of happy women and amazing baths. Yes. It was magical. A must do if there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:50 PM |
| 8 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?Worked my ex's convention, 60 hours over 4 days, instead of attending my in person MBA orientation. He was a comic book colorist, so I would fix his flats before he laid down the final colors. I did this for years not credited and some times staying up until midnight on work nights helping him out. Helping him pack up merchandise he sold and I never saw a dime for. Gave him trips for his birthday when he gave me chocolate and flowers for mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:46 PM |
| 25 | At least the comments were telling him how big of an asshole he is.Yep. I even have a spot in my garden full of fun different greens to make ad hoc bistro salads on the regular. I made strawberry balsamic vinegar, strawberry champagne vinegar, and peach white wine vinegar for fun salads in the winter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 01:39 PM |
| 5 | I mean, who cares what people think but yeah, that is most definitely not the solution!Random aside, I never felt more at peace with my body than walking the beaches in Hawaii. Leave Waikiki, go to Sandy Beach, go to Waimea Bay, or Kailua. All the locals are there, all races, all body shapes, all ages. No one cares what you look like there. It was so freeing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Just saw this on TwitterEh,... And I thought the fridge was too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:41 PM |
| 1 | When Pickmes tell you that “you’re too picky” and you think...When I imagine my future, I see a small house near a beach town, a garden, a sleekly decorated living room, a fulfilling career, and really good hair. However, I rarely imagine myself with a partner and never with kids. Not near a beach town, but I have the rest at 40 and it's GLORIOUS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:33 PM |
| 17 | Anytime I see “hang out” or “coffee” I already know it’s a red flag.Yes please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:24 PM |
| 15 | SAHM’s husband takes 15k out of their shared account that was meant to correct her torn muscles. He claims he thought she no longer wanted the surgery and wanted to reward himself for being a great father with a computer.Or just never get married. That's what I did. When he turned Poly and his other wanted to make me their unicorn, I told him to leave with what he paid for. And he had two weeks. I paid $60 retainer for a mover to place his things on the lawn if it was still there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:05 PM |
| 7 | SAHM’s husband takes 15k out of their shared account that was meant to correct her torn muscles. He claims he thought she no longer wanted the surgery and wanted to reward himself for being a great father with a computer.*Raises a glass* I'll drink to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:00 PM |
| 2 | I am so tired of being singleThe only person you need to date is yourself. Time to dump the apps for a bit. Some fun dates have been: Walking in the woods and finding pretty things. A picnic in the park with real plates and center piece. Getting all dressed up and going to an art museum. Getting all dressed up in a different persona and walking the main street and people watch. Picking up stuff for a 1 day craft. Like painting, decoupaging, or flower crowns. Make your world better for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:50 PM |
| 10 | LVM convinces pickme into poly, proposes to the new girlThank you, that is cathartic. I will admit it's useless to wish violence on the other woman. It's too much energy that can be better directed on your glow-up. The most peace I had was the day I said goodbye to that mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:38 PM |
| 16 | LVM convinces pickme into poly, proposes to the new girlBecause it is. Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. I'm just glad they call it out on their profiles now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:32 PM |
| 6 | Does anyone else constantly marvel at how women manage integration of their personality/interests SO MUCH BETTER than men?When I was dating. The third time a guy brought up running, I unmatched. I know there are other topics guys are as obsess with, but honestly that's all runners do! Strange, women are never so singularly focused. They have lives and families. Thank you next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 08:27 PM |
| 13 | The trash took itself out. He has a pic with his wife on their WEDDING DAY on his profile. 🤮As the woman who almost married that guy. It hurt when I finally learned about this change. And the other partner wanted me to be the unicorn. Miss me with that. He gave the fun nice caring guy to the new lady and left me with the grouchy hungry never happy man. I loss over 200# in two weeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Are there any 30+ women in this sub who don't intend to marry? Care to share your thoughts/experiences?Yep. 40 year old single and loving it. I got out of a 20 year relationship almost a year ago. I never wanted to marry, was never going to have kids, and I've never needed a man's money. When I finally toss the ex out he actually said "So I get half of the sectional right?" He left with what he paid for. Which incidentally wasn't a couch, bed, sheets, towels, or plates or dishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:08 PM |
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