A red flag to me that indicates someone is LV is who comes first to them.

I dated someone who always put me last. If I wanted to spend time with him, he’d make sure he has no plans with his friends first. When I had to go to the ER, he didn’t come to see if I was ok, he went to his friends because he had already promised to meet them. When I called to tell him, at 7am, I was in labour, he couldn’t be bothered to come right away because he had to drop his mom off at work, even though she’s capable to take an Uber. He didn’t show up until after 6pm.

Yet, he’d tell me I’m his first priority. I was not.

I’ll admit, I was the definition of a pickme. It took me years to find myself and I truly wish I had found this group before, but I can’t change the past, only the future.

A true HVM will put you first. Never settle for less.