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Men aren’t even capable of love. At this rate I think women are the only true human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:20 AM
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They also wouldn’t get the satisfaction unless it resulted in a woman’s ptsd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:04 PM
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Thank you for this analysis and for sharing your experience! I never heard someone put it this way but you just described my abusers mindset to a T. I never thought of it that way. In my case, my abuser was my father and he hated his mother and got sick l satisfaction and self esteem out of abusing me. This paints such a clear and vivid picture of how these men think. This really helped me understand my own experience. They are narcissists who have a victim narrative in their head and view women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:56 PM
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Holy shit what a psychopath!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:55 AM
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I was hesitant to click unmute lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:53 AM
40

Assuming they don't abuse their wives and children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:52 AM
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Nice to see men finally calling this out. The brain short circuiting was spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:51 AM
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I was going to make a secondary account (a CalAble,) to save so I can have my benefits while leveling up to get a job. What is coding? I’ll look into that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:41 AM
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I remember some dude once posted he was grateful for his “beautiful healthy wife” also a religious man; to me it sounds a bit like a status symbol/status points, it sounds like bragging over a prized heifer. We all want to be healthy but how is that an attribute to brag on online? What about smart? Talented? It just sounds weird to me, whether it’s someone’s child or partner it sounds weird to me to brag about your “healthy” child or “healthy” wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:19 PM
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I thought he looked familiar… I can’t stand Chris Prat. Like is this a joke or is he for real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:47 PM
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I can’t stand him 🤢I watched some of that “Deadpool” movie as well amd flipped it off. It’s so cringe, joking about child molestation, a crass joke every 5 minutes, and I can only think you have to be really below average intelligence to find that kind of shit funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:45 PM
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This is true 😔I’m on ssi disability due to male violence and want to and to go back to school but right now being vulnerable can create more abuse for me so I’m a doormat who over thinks, because being poor = less freedoms. Congrats on the new company. $=empowerment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:30 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:24 PM
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Thanks for the hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:24 PM
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It was a projectin, but then it’s upsetting seeing how the vast majority of men are, and I feel alienated in feminist spaces where they act like if you aren’t separatist you aren’t feminist. My father forced me to be separatist. I want strong friendships with women and I want a relationship with someone who values me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:24 PM
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He was a pedophile and didn’t want me to date or marry men he viewed me as a sexual object, hated me and was sexually attracted to me, and I feel disgusting as if I “discovered” my sexuality through him snd don’t want to believe that. I’ve only met 1 man who didn’t watch porn but we were both mormon at the time and I was forced to break up with him, the bar is so low I want more than just doesn’t watch porn but it does seem most men do :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:53 PM
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I need bed rest, I read this as “don’t exist” and got sad. I want to believe there are good men out there, my “father” was an abusive men who said that “this is how men are” and I refuse to believe it, but sadly most men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:27 PM
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I don’t believe there are any good men cause of porn:( how do you vet them out? Like all men seem to view us as objects. I hate that I really crave mutual love and affection and am attracted to a sex that turn me the fuck off cause they all view us as meat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:13 PM
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Lmao I love this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 07:56 PM
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Fuck I was just thinking of this and saw your post I feel called out; guilty of this. Euphoria feels like love. I needed to hear this thank you. Romantic love is manipulation tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:36 AM
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How do you vet for this? I’m disturbed by this. I have a friend who has to share custody of her kids with her ex husband who she left over his porn habit, she found teenage porn on his computer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:33 AM
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This is disgusting. They aren’t attracted to women they’re attracted to innocence and vulnerability. And violating both those things. I wish every man attracted to teenage girls would drop dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:32 AM
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Ummm no it does affect them. These girls feel the creepy vibes, and sexual abuse doesn’t require touch to be sexual abuse. My “father” covertly sexually abused me in my teens, it was hands on abuse in my early childhood. I endured this for a little over 20 years and the normalization around men being sexually attracted to teenagers, children and their daughters harmed me. I have severe post traumatic from this. my mother was a narcissist in the fact that she didn’t protect me and she didn’t care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:28 AM
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I’d be relieved if it’s fake, but also annoying because men already invalidate our experiences so that’s obnoxious someone would do this just for attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:19 PM
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This is why I carry pepperspray and a taser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:17 PM
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I had to do that yesterday. Bikes to my optometry appointment and had some creep follow me at 3 exists, finally at a stop light and waiting and he’s honkong at me and keeps saying “hey,” I wanted to rage at him to fuck off (sometimes I do do this if it feels safe,) but this didn’t feel safe . Wtf is wrong with them? Why the fuck don’t they just leave us alone ?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:08 PM
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What a petulant man child! Psychopath!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:52 PM
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I was thinking of the last one lol. The guy who tries to patronize her by calling her “sweetheart” to hide his own insecurity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:00 AM
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He showed the back of his head to hide it 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:13 AM
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Oh it is still a thing, and it’s pathetic. And must be what it is… afraid of raising the bar. Exactly why men hate this sub and project this “incel” narrative on us for having standards 🙄 Men hate feminists because narcissists hate when you’re into them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:58 AM
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I know. Like the whole “Simp” crap… like “don’t you dare ruin it for us and cate about women’s self esteem!” Men hate women so much they feel threatened and angry at other men who are kind to women it’s scary and pathetic. Men are very homoerotic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:38 AM
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Wow. They treat us like shit snd then police other men who are nice to us 🙄 I wish they’d just leave us alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:34 AM
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This is narcissism. They have a victim complex and honestly project what they do to women; 1. “Women don’t like you they only like she is getting from you and will get entitled. Don’t be nice to women!( Like, no? If you’re mid it shows you’re confident and have empathy, no one can experience emotional connection to an Asshole, you’re not a victim you’re an asshole Dude.) and then 2. “It may seem mean, but it’s worse to be ignored. Everyone wants to be liked, and she will do anything to get that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:13 AM
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They must’ve been trolling. This sub is honestly pretty misogynistic
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 01:05 AM
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I just read that this is an anti feminist space… I am no longer interested in this sub. What is the aim of this sub? The responses I got from another post completely devoid of empathy and flat out nasty. “Your feelings aren’t normal. I don’t know why when I said I miss feminist subs on Reddit, someone tagged this one… This isn’t the sub for me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 01:02 AM
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I just read that so I left, idk why someone recommended me this subreddit, they said it was a radical feminist space.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 12:59 AM
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this is the message I received; "You've been permantlely banned for participation in red pill, the self described "women's space in the RP network".its promotion of incel/redpill/mGTOW ideology inherently violates our rule 2. Its moderators allow disruptive and harassing bigrades aimed directly at this community. Its users are uncontrollable and belligerant. I am a bot and cannot determine context. If you do not support redpillwomen and are wiling to leave it, reply to this message. Other replie…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 12:57 AM
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“Are you ok?” Or “is there anything I can do for you?” Is caring, and can be done without commenting on someone’s looks. “It’s not normal to feel this way.” I thought this was a feminist forum; it isnt “not normal” to not want others to treat you as though you are on display and open to public commentary and are monitoring your appearance. I’ve been told I look tired on 8 your of sleep so 🤷🏼‍♀️ I personally don’t feel it’s appropriate to comment on women’s looks.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 12:51 AM
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I was checking and I don’t think I’ve ever posted I’m off my chest and don’t even see any recent comments so it’s really odd. They list a rule of “we dom tolerate x, y, and z” but it says nothing about being in other groups. Sounds like a toxic forum either way, just found it rather pathetic.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 12:27 AM
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Doing core inner work is something I find helpful; writing down your core values, core hopes, core fears, core wounds, and core beliefs and investing more time in yourself so the time you spend around others is more valuable.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 11:52 PM
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I’ve had social workers and even therapists for it. I lost services when I asked them to stop.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 11:17 PM
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It’s all centered around dick that’s why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:49 AM
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😂😂😂 This show is so spot on. He goes off about how dating apps are “anti feminist” and he would go on a horse to whisk women away. He thinks he’s a romantic and calls himself a feminist. Basic decency; isn’t a porn wanker (to my knowledge… he gets off to his own power fantasizes,) and cooks and does laundry. These do not make you a good man! I like how he calls other men stalkers 🙄😂that’s seriously how men think “it’s not me, it’s THOSE men, I’m a nice guy! This show scares me as someone who has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:18 PM
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He’ll do laundry and cook for you too; basic basic decency shit, he calls himself a feminist too. Don’t settle for men who idealize themselves for acting like white knights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:15 PM
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It’s good at exploring the physical verses emotional abuse concept. As well as social benefits and how you can’t make over a certain amount or you will be cut off and the judgment from others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:40 AM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:12 AM
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Awe that’s sweet 💞 (Thats what I want, a meet cute/happening to meet someone; no dumpster diving lol.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:03 AM
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Ok side note can someone tell me what OLD stands for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:58 AM
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I as also a bit dumbfounded by this; seems anti feminist to tell women that they need to consider finding the “right man” as a part time job. I considering investing in myself a job. Not to mention; I think it’s bad for women’s emotional and mental health to invest time in men over investing time in herself. I’m going to cultivate and live my life, I don’t chase. If I meet someone along the way that I mesh well with while I’m cultivating my own life, great, if not, that’s ok too. I thought the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:58 PM
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This post just convinced me to stay single for life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:46 PM
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I just love horse’s energy. There’s something I’ve always found so spiritual about them. The have very expressive body language, I agree with what you mean because it’s very subtle, maybe that’s why women have a stronger connection to horses. There’s a horse at the vet teaching hospital I like, I give her neck messages and she likes them so much she closes her eyes and rests her face on my chest <3 I could pet horses all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:36 AM
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I have such a hard time too cause the bar is so low, my “father” was sexually attracted to me and a pedo,I don’t like amd am turned off by perverted men and men who put me down, but I’m drawn to the charming narcissists who act like they “see me” and milk the charm by love bombing the shit out of me. I’m drawn to men who remind me of my mother. Damaged, insecure, yells at me then days he’s sorry later. Tells me all the things in need to hear. The bar is to the floor. He doesn’t objectify me or w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:26 AM
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Negging is an aspect of narcissism. My father negged me all the time :/ it caused mr to have body dysphoria. Once told me one of my eye was bigger than the other. It stayed with me and hurt me till my 20’s. I was 11 when he told me that. The fact that so many men do this… Men are bad for your mental health! I know not to stoop to their level, but one cashier once asked me if my hair was real (long hair, implying I had extensions. ) I wanted to say so badly “as real as your face pubes!” Their vie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 07:49 AM
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Sometimes I want to tell my POS brother “hey I didn’t raise you to act like this!” Lol. Cause wtf dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:30 AM
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As a first daughter, 🖕🏼🖕🏼this guy. Omg I remember my siblings could be little turd butts and so I would get them for it then tell my mother on them for misbehaving amd she’s like “well since you handled it now I can’t do anything.” WTF. To this day that boils my blood. You can’t what, be a mother? My father was violent, so while she hid in the bathroom like a coward, deep in denial, I was the one who stepped up and would throw shit at him. Or be taking care of my siblings after he hurt them. Men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:19 AM
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LMAO. The old conservative “vitreous”misogyny, painting our purpose as mothers under a “complimentary” light. I hope he never has kids. What he’s essentially saying is he’d be a dead beat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 01:54 AM
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Eww fuck him trying to garner sympathy and re-framing himself as the victim. I hate when men throw around the word love when it’s clearly something they don’t feel or possess. God I feel sorry for her having such a prick boyfriend. He sounds like a pedo. Why does a woman need to be tiny to be attractive?? “My girl.” 🤢🤢 I find that so creepy and perverted as well. Like daddy dom creep vibes. I hate men who refer to women as girls, it’s so unattractive. “My girl” like she’s his daughter. Imagine i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:06 AM
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Yea I also got defensive when I first saw this, because I do think (sorry,) that having kids in this day and age is selfish. And we are so socialized to want kids. And a lot of men want kids to have their genetic narcissism. BUT, a lot of men if they did have kids, (I know my low value father did with my brother, who joked to my father “Anna hear a joke? Women’s rights,) bond with their sons over being misogynistic and porn sick. They want to mold their sons into being just like them. I know how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:26 AM
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I get the OP’s point on “what values would he teach a child” and “date a man who you think would be a good father.” But you’re specifically asking me what I would do in hypothetical situations and I answered you. I would only date a man if he shared the same values as me (atheist, childfree, vegan,) and called out other men and was anti porn cause it’s misogynistic. So I’ll probably be single for life tbh. Every abusive man I have known is abusive to kids and animals, so I get OP’s point. You as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:03 AM
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It is for me. You asked what I would do if I got pregnant as if abortion isn’t an option. Abortion is the only option I would choose. I don’t want kids, I don’t want to endure pregnancy and child birth, and I think it’s selfish to bring kids into a dying and fucked up world. Are you pro choice or… “what if you got pregnant.” My simple answer; I’d get an abortion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 01:35 AM
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I’m aware of that, I was answering what I would do since the question was directed at me. That’s what I would do. My heart breaks for women in Texas and other states that can’t, I’m grateful that I’m California that’s something I don’t have to worry about. I’d be too scared to even have sex if abortion wasn’t an option, I rather kill myself than be pregnant. Tokophobia and also my trauma makes it hard for me to care for myself, let alone a kid. It’s a shame basic autonomy rights are still a thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:32 AM
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If I ever got pregnant I would get an abortion. Easy answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:10 AM
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I’m not in contact with my family, and never again with BC, which I had to take for health reasons and had horrific side effects, and can increase your risk for breast cancer. I had hope any man I might date doesn’t expect me to put hormones in my body when he could snip it or wear a damn condom. I get the point of the OP’s question after seeing some other comments. I don’t want kids, but I know how I would want to raise them if I did, however I really REALLY do not want kids, and don’t feel fit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:07 AM
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Kinda like R Kelly getting away with shit for 30 years and convinced he’s a victim and not an abuser. Cause they hate women and feel justified. Like laws and rules don’t apply to them, and rhe law enables them. I am so so sorry that happened to you btw!! I hope you’re doing ok now. They have no souls! All men know right from wrong, that’s why they got so angry over “me too”; because they don’t like to be told they’re behaving badly, they don’t think the rules apply to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 08:15 PM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 08:00 PM
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I just asked this just now because I’m afraid of this as well. Horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 07:59 PM
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I’ve heard too many stories about women getting raped or molested in their sleep and it makes me terrified to date men at all. I want to get over my “need” for male approval/desire for a relationship because I crave mutual love and affection, but don’t think men are capable of it to be honest. This terrifies me. I had delayed phase sleep my entire life because my “father” sexually abused me and I still had to live with him so it made me the last one awake. I’m afraid to date or have relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 07:58 PM
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Men who hate cats are def a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 11:18 PM
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If he says he’s childfree and doesn’t want kids cause the state of the world, then we’d be sharing the same values and I love that. I want someone with my same values. How someone treats the vulnerable is a good indicator of how they will treat you. Look at how they treat animals, and children. Abusive men I have known abuse animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 08:24 PM
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What if I’m adamantly childfree? I think a man wanting kids is a red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:40 PM
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Feeeemaaalleeesss! Ew. What a creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:51 PM
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I notice women who are pretty narcissistic with their toxic male approval boyfriends condescend and have a bullying vibe towards me when judgmentally asking me why I’m single. I would be surprised and wouldn’t know what to say because I expect that from men but not from women, considering how many of us are traumatized by men due to them either raping us as adults, or molesting us as children, and just how toxic they are, why would you ask such a question?! Now I notice they get all squirmy when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:07 AM
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I hate that term. I can’t experience sexual attraction without emotional attraction first and I feel like that’s a normal healthy sexuality….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:41 PM
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I’ve noticed some radical feminists on Facebook even promoting book up culture cause they “learned a lot of their bodies” and I’m just like “hmmm.” (But to each their own) I don’t want to have sex with someone unless we both know each other really well and care about each other. I agree intimacy is a turn on. Hook up culture scares me. But I’m someone who needs emotional connection to feel turned on. I have trauma from sexual abuse so I don’t think I’d ever feel safe wifi hook up culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:39 PM
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Omg I love her her videos help me level up! I finally watched her videos on core values, core beliefs, core fears, core hopes, and core wounds , and it really helped me realize why I always fall for abusive relationships. I’ve always been addicted to abuse cause of the euphoria from love bombing. I figured loss is inevitable and everyone will leave me and abuse me, and that plays a huge rule in me avoiding people and then falling for abusers cause they love bomb me and then I get the illusion of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:20 AM
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They’re turned on by violating innocence and attracted to vulnerability. I have been whistled and laughed at before for crying. I think you’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:53 PM
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Thanks for sharing this this gives me hope that there are some good men out there. I want to let go of the “need” for male approval, but I also do want a relationship based on mutual love and affection, and it’s hard considering how many men view themselves as superior to women and view women as sexual objects. Most men don’t love women as unique individuals, so I do have that worry about getting older, and being hard on myself for aging feeling like time is wearing out for love and success and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:51 PM
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They can sense it 🤢ohhh i hope that’s why they are fucking off. I avoid men and confront them if they ever say some sick shit to me. They don’t like me and the feeling is mutual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:42 PM
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I was told I looked like a teenager up until I was 25. (And I hate it because I felt the most positive attention for my looks and it honestly harmed me,) like people telling me I “look young for my age” and that I looked 16 when I was 25. Now people say early 20’s at 29. And I have noticed the harassment stopped. Are beauty standards rooted in pedophilia or? It does leave me with some insecurities but I’m good days I look in the mirror and feel like I look beautiful and like a woman. I guess I j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:11 PM
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I think I’m almost there, intellectually I know these feelings came from trauma and my worth does not come from others or my looks and just cause I sadly lost my childhood, my teens, and my 20’s to abuse and trauma, I’m finally learning my rights and standing up for myself. I’m going into what feels like my first healthy living space. I was abused by my father who wanted me fully dependent on him and used sexual assault as an act of terror to “keep me in my place” my mother was in denial because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:20 PM
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It started me at 12 and I notice a lot of other women say it started for them at 11-13. It’s like they are waiting for us to enter puberty 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:12 PM
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I really do notice that at 29 I’m honked at and hit on less by older men than when I was a teenager! It’s creepy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 05:53 PM
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I’m still afraid of getting older due to repeatedly being traumatized. But I’ve gained more knowledge getting older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 05:52 PM
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I had to read these 3 times it wasn’t processing for some reason. This is really fucked up. And manipulative….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:15 AM
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It’s so nice when you don’t have to explain basic boundaries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:55 AM
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Been there and appreciate that you can acknowledge it’s a form of self harm and not “empowerment.” I wish this was recognized as a form of self harm, cause it is. Many women do this. It’s trauma you’re not alone. I hope you are able to get the help to heal and move forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:52 AM
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Yea if someone says “you can trust me” you can’t. I’ve learned this the hard way. People will show you who they are, if they tell you they aren’t a certain way, they are lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:01 AM
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Unfortunately not. All women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:09 PM
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Who is that if you don’t mind my asking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:17 AM
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Fuck, the whole mental health system is based around pathologizing and gaslighting women. This is why I want to he a psychologist; I think more women would benefit from feminist psychotherapy that is based on actual neuroscience and not male hypothesis. The amount of therapists that gaslight women. I literally had a therapist say to me “so what” when I told her my father told me I had a “nice figure” and it made me feel cheap 🤐 My friend’s therapist normalized her husbands porn use and claimed s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:15 AM
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It’s like bragging about settling “Lol typical guy!” Puke!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:03 AM
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Video game addicts are so pathetic. I hate how people act like men’s behavior is cute it’s really not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:02 AM
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Radical feminism isn’t like this 🤷🏼‍♀️ but then you’d call that “man hating.” 🙄
/r/AntiFeminists19/09/21 12:14 AM
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In MANY cases, I agree; life is short, don’t settle just cause society says you’re “lame” if you’re single. Whatever. I don’t care.
/r/AntiFeminists19/09/21 12:13 AM
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I prefer my own company.
/r/AntiFeminists19/09/21 12:12 AM
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I rather be alone than settle.
/r/AntiFeminists18/09/21 11:50 PM
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This is liberalism, not feminism. 🤢
/r/AntiFeminists18/09/21 11:49 PM
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Why do men feel so entitled to our bodies? Bunch of sociopathic spoiled brats. Just evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:54 AM
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They hate us cause they ain’t us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:55 PM
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The “brotherhood” which is based on bonding over hating women, will never be on par with the sisterhood based on love and protection of women. Men lack the love and spirituality and wisdom of women, they are def jealous. It’s gross when they try and use our sisterly terms, it’s patronizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:54 PM
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Men trying to talk to us as if they’re fellow women creeps me out. Saying shit like “sister” and “girl”, little platonic pet names that women have for each other is gross when men use it 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:59 PM
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Men are not attracted to women, they’re attracted to power. Men are evil. This is scary. I don’t even like to think about this awful shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:11 AM
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I got my radar the hard way cause my narcissistic father. I am drawn to guys that at the bare minimum don’t objectify women (the love bombing ones that are desperate for a girlfriend though; my maternal abandonment issues…). I take things very slow. If a man does not have empathy for my feelings, I’m not attracted to him. If he does not demonstrate empathy for my feelings, I cannot connect to him emotionally and therefore can’t feel safe sharing my autonomy, so maybe that’s why. If a man slapped…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 10:00 PM
24

Money keeps you out of abusive relationships. Money was always my meal ticket out. Money makes me very happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:50 AM
22

I would love this honestly. Becayse been there :( I have been abused by men and women, and performative woke dudes who posed as “the hero” but then showed their true colors; it was like “wow you’re using me to validate your ego too.” I always fall for love bombing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 04:03 PM
26

A man who actually cares about your pleasure and is soley focused on you and not other women is attractive. I don’t understand women in Poly relationship and their boyfriend watches porn… why even be in a relationship then? And how are they attracted to This? It’s so unattractive. I’m moving out of a toxic roommate situation where my female roommate viewed my boundaries as revenge and saw me as competition and is now kicking me out over setting a boundary (cause I wasn’t gonna be narcissistic su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 04:01 PM
32

My immediate thought when I read the title lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:06 AM
8

Thanks for the solid advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 07:40 AM
49

I have such a hard time, cause I have attracted someone who wasn’t really into me, but was desperate for a girlfriend. I sent mixed signals (living in an abusive household where having a boyfriend could lead to abuse, I was in denial of this due to gaslighting and complicit parties, low value narc father basically who would get jealous,) but I thought he was amazing cause he literally molded himself into exactly what I needed; defended me ( a few times he didn’t, which was a red flag,) would do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:26 AM
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I’m working with a therapist who does EMDR and will be seeking job rehabilitation soon! I am currently in an abusive living situation. Poverty and ptsd has landed me in many abusive living situations. Having your own money is empowerment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:46 AM
7

I love that analysis mind off I steal some of that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:35 PM
15

Men are evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:11 PM
32

I found the scrote doing it, and its the one whining cause I shared this post in porn is misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:55 AM
23

Exactly. And as someone who has escaped homeliness twice, only because my“father” viewed me as “his” and didn’t want me to be independent and I had to get away, I empathize with the drastic measures women have had to take to survive. Because women were put on these position, many woman are escaping abusive families with 0 support!! These women are survivors (and I hate that term, cause female pain is so romanticized,) women deserve fair and equal housing, shelter, and to live, free of oppression…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:30 AM
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I have a female roommate (living with a couple,) who calls feminism man hating and blames women for their oppression by claiming women are dumb with money. And says she doesn’t get why women don’t leave abusive relationships sooner. She came from Greece and id from a rich family of lawyers, her father is a lawyer and pays for half her rent each month. She is so spoiled and out of touch with reality, I can’t stand her. She doesn’t even see her privilege that the vast majority of women don’t have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:48 AM
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Women are being brainwashed by men to think that male validation =empowerment, snd they ignore the suffering of other women. Men aren’t duped by misogyny, they enjoy every minute of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:07 AM
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Preach. And they remove their empathy from women who aren’t privileged because they don’t want to acknowledge their privilege. I’m sorry but a lot of rich coddled women I’ve met are narcissists. I can’t stand them. They project misogyny onto other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:37 AM
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So I’m terrified of Pap smears because I was molested. I had a so called “feminist” tell me to “calm down, it’s just another hole!” Is that really how women are viewed? “Just holes?” Fucking sick. She compared it to going to the dentist. Sex work isn’t work, it’s rape. Edit; why is me expressing my fear of a rather personal procedure downvoted? Comparing seeing a gynecologist to going to the dentist is also a fallacious comparison, also pretty sadistic to get angry at someone for expressing some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:35 AM
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It’s like comparing CSA or rape with “oh yea I’m sorry that sucks. My parents yelled at me a lot.” This just shows how little people empathize with women and sexual trauma. Sex plays a large role in our psychology, rape is the most insidious form of violence and the worst thing you can do to a human being, but because it happens to women, people don’t care. It’s false Equivalency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:23 AM
10

I hope I can love myself like that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:08 PM
13

Do they really? That’s terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:42 AM
35

Whenever I’ve been looking for room rentals the amount of men who message me and then get pissed when I say “hey my add said females only” is creepy! And they will get pissed at me for reminding them of the boundary that was in my fucking post 🙄one Dude said “your issues are mine not yours!” Yea I’m not the predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:41 AM
34

They really don’t view us as human beings! I’ve seen some of these recently and the fact they really don’t empathize and are that out of touch with reality to think any woman would “consent” to being their personal sex objects is terrifying. I have so many thoughts but don’t know how to articulate them. This is beyond disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:40 AM
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I really want to have hope that there are good ones out there, seems really rare though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:49 PM
49

Omg!!!! That makes me furious and sad at the same time. How sick. I’m so sorry you went through that :( the fucking gymnastics people pull to excuse men from feeling shame and put it on the victim is disgusting, cause women and children aren’t seen human beings, all the pick me’s and bystandared males don’t want to accept that the men they idealize did this🙄or accept abuse in the family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:34 PM
3

Oh to other women too. Every woman who is like this has been emotionally and verbally abusive towards me, especially if their boyfriends or husbands creep on me and I point it out. Mother was a pick me ass who chose an abusive man over me. Claimed he was not abusive and that I was the problem. They are dangerous to themselves and other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:56 PM
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It makes me sad being attracted to males… I don’t think gentle kind and decent ones exist at this rate. They’re all porn sick misogynists who feel entitled fo women’s bodies and sex and lack empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:45 PM
1

They 100% are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:44 PM
13

I’m embarrassed for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:23 AM
35

I can’t either because I know women like this IRL (living with a couple,) and I’m sorry but most the time these are pick me asses who call feminism man hating when in reality they hate other women and have no self respect and are in complete denial that their bf’s are misogynists, and so are they.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:39 PM
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I’ve literally seen men on other forums seeking out other women “my wife is nice but she’s so vanilla haha.” I think a large number of men actually hate their wives and gf’s and just like the status of having one bur view themselves as superior to their gf’s and think they exist to service them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:28 PM
23

The disdain from when she opens the door and the “don’t flatter yourself” was off-putting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:52 PM
73

A man does this to me, I’d break up with him in the spot. This seems abusive. I can only imagine what the rest of their relationship looks like. He as already put off with her for “interrupting” his video game and his response coaxed as “humor” to me sounds like how he actually feels. Disgusting. This honestly shows how little self respect she has and it’s just sad. I know so many women who think their insensitive boyfriends or husbands are “funny” it’s like dissociation in a way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:41 PM
30

I will never use dating apps. Don’t trust men who use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:03 AM
91

They’re so entitled. They think that women exist to validate them. I can’t stand men in mental health groups blaming women for their mental illness and saying they want a gf to be happy and then when I point out how selfish that is and how women aren’t their therapists and to get professional help they throw a tantrum. They want women to be their mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:02 AM
4

He did have a baby face then, so I could see why, now he just looks so average and he looks old. I think you’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:38 AM
42

In my experience, IRL men befriend your abuser and then whine that you’re not with them cause they’re nice to you. Like tf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:03 PM
40

I always wondered why anyone found him attractive. He looks ok I’m his 20’s and peaked fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:02 PM
49

I’ll honestly never understand why anyone finds him attractive. He looks basic to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:00 PM
1

I officially hate journey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:16 PM
91

Fucking hate them. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:10 PM
21

How is a hike even a date?? Jesus though how scary!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:47 PM
23

I do not believe these men are victims of a “disorder” and quite frankly fo not believe in the disorder system. Our brains develop around our environments. The mental health system is very patriarchal and a pathologizes women’s responses to trauma. There is no evidence in the innate biological component. That itself is a hypothesis. My “father” was a sociopath btw. The patterns of this often involve violent fathers and complicit mothers and our culture snd society enables male sociopathy. I mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:41 PM
35

What a sicko!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:06 AM
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We live in a pedophile culture. Men are attracted to vulnerability and violating innocence. I was raised by a pedophile , and I am traumatized by it. It’s not a “disorder” they aren’t distressed at all by it. It’s misogyny. It’s being aroused over a power dynamic. Both his parents were pedophilies, and we were raised Mormon. Religion perpetuates pedophilia , so do our beautify standards, so does porn. Men are turned on by having power over vulnerable girls who can’t get away. They are corrupt an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:04 AM
57

He doesn’t respect her at all. God this is so gross and sad to read… No intimacy love or respect at all. How do women stay married to these men? What a lonely and unsatisfactory marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:28 AM
5

Yup they externalize all their shame. Most of them are narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:10 AM
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Most men are silent cause they benefit from the actions of violent men and lack the empathy and respect for women. It is concerning. I’ve had men “swoop in” like white knights when women are being mean to me (they benefit from women hating on each other too,) but crickets when a man is harassing or abusing me. I hate them for this. Like really hate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:45 AM
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It’s their way of evading their own behavior. They will say “oh she’s into it” everytime you ask why he’s into it. “I’m just fulfilling her desires!” Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:32 AM
33

Male violence and male depravity is always excused, and women’s trauma responses to male violence and sexual assault is pathologized as a “disorder.” I hate this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:31 AM
16

Wow thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:26 PM
48

Yup!! I repress my anger and happiness all growing up. My sick pedophile sociopath mormon father believed he owned my body and sexuality, my mother was complicit, in my 20’s (he wanted me as a “mini wife, never independent from him,) I started using my voice and he got violent and started smashing shit. Then called me a sick and DARVO’d at me. They’re crazy sick. They want domination over us and their level of hatred for women is shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:26 PM
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https://www.amazon.com/Bancrofts-Why-Does-That-Controlling/dp/B0037W1NU4/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=why+does+he+do+that&qid=1628618282&sr=8-5 ​ It helped me understand my narc/ sociopath father and notice red flags in other men. He is "one of the good ones" anti porn and calls out other men even when they try and gather sympathy by pulling the "bad parenting" card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:59 PM
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Men are emotional, selfishly emotionally; they externalize and punish everyone around them for their emotions and feelings so they don’t have to feel them. Men rather have women repress and be quiet about their feelings. In the book “why does he do that” it says that men don’t have a problem with their anger, they have a problem with your anger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:44 PM
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In relation to the post I could totally believe this is a thing I wouldn’t be surprised, women are so conditioned to settle for being less than completely satisfied. To me sex is important in relationships but I would only want it without having to fear he would cheat or watch porn if I didn’t and it was actually not all about him and he had actual empathy; I can honestly see why a lot of women would say this, so many women I know I look at their partners looks and behaviors and I wonder what th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:51 AM
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I wasn’t saying this post is wrong just that I didn’t know women said this so often and it was the internet so I didn’t really know it, it was related to something someone posted about their partner. And the OP’s partner sounded shit. That’s how they made it sound. I hadn’t really heard of this before!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:42 AM
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I only saw someone post this in a fb support group so I thought it just meant he respected sexual boundaries, and valued her more than sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:43 AM
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Like everything, men are socialized not to feel shame and women are taught shame. Can’t talk about women’s preferences cause that’s shaming men! And “oh well fine then it’s not sexist for men to say they only want women with large breasts!” Men shame every inch of women’s bodies and condition women to diet and have eating disorders a bur god forbid women have sexual preferences thats “oppressing men” and “just as bad.” They think we exist to sexually please them, that’s why. And they are entitle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:24 PM
26

I think being dependent on man for housing is terrifying. I would never. Good way to risk homelessness and domestic violence I just would never want to be vulnerable on him for housing. But why marriage? Like can you just not live together and have a life long commitment cause marriage also seems like a cage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:17 AM
4

Men wanting women to be tiny usually correlates with porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:44 PM
6

Is he trying to give his pregnant wife an eating disorder? This is so patronizing and abusive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:43 PM
14

THIS!! I always get so annoyed when I see subs where women claim their bf’s are ruined by porn. No your bf is an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 09:44 AM
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They do take everything out on their partners, I agree. Men are socialized not to feel shame, therefore they blame everything on women. They dehumanize us so they don’t have to sit with their shame. It’s disgusting. Thanks for sharing this stuff. I didn’t know how sirens originated. God men never take responsibility for anything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 08:37 AM
21

I think men are more often abused by their mothers but not their partners. They take it out on their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:12 AM
7

You are 100% right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:12 AM
40

I’ve noticed this in fb mental health groups and yes I always question it. Men will claim their partner is “withholding sex” and that thats abuse. I had a man I saw right through him post that his gf didn’t care about his feelings, even though he posted a screenshot of a heartfelt text where she’s almost codependent with her apology but says it won’t work. And the women are such pick me gullible women they are all coddling him. So I post as empathetic and he asks if I can give me her email to em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:11 AM
14

As an ex Mormon I would never. Polygamy and polyamory is for men not women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:16 AM
9

I’m subleasing and I’m working on moving out soon cause both my roommates are misogynists and boundary crushing, (a couple,) but I do feel bad for my female roommate who judges me for being single while her bf convinces her to get into BDSM and a Poly relationships (porn sick.) Idk how any woman would find this attractive. That’s a lost boy. (Finally getting these terms down lol.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:16 AM
25

Polyamerous guys are fucking gross imho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:25 AM
67

Thank you I was gonna ask
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:31 AM
19

It did seem that way. I’ve confronted men before because it’s so violating the things they do but you do have to weigh in if its even worth it. From his tone and demeanor he doesn’t seem to care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:23 AM
4

This shit is why I’m terrified of having sex with men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:11 AM
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This just gave me goosebumps. He broke her rib…. Sex should not be painful and dangerous! She doesn’t want to feel her feelings cause it’s too painful to accept that she is being abused how sad. And what a sick man!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:11 AM
57

Seriously. Most peoole are LV in my experience. Perverted men and complicit pick me ass women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:55 AM
25

This. Every woman who has been snotty to me over being single has a bf or husband who treats her like shit. (Pushes her sexual boundaries, yells at her, etc.) “Why are you still single?” “Why are you still with your porn sick wanker bf?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:29 AM
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I think there’s a power imbalance between men and women and men lack the ability to empathize outside of themselves because they don’t even view us as human beings or sexual subjects, just things to push their sexual appetites on at the expense of our physical and emotional well being and it’s disgusting. They’re so entitled they don’t think they should have to earn our trust and respect but they should just have it. It’s like we are literal play things to them. I personally don’t understand sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:16 PM
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The fact that men expect sex without a woman’s sense of feeling safe or trusting towards them yet is so entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:50 PM
3

That’s true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:37 PM
23

I needed this thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:44 PM
14

I didn’t like some of her songs because of this like the other one about stealing bother woman’s boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:00 PM
10

The first time I initiated with someone it’s because he took me out dancing LMAO. I didn’t expect dancing to be so intimate… I miss when I didn’t know Bdsm was a thing or this violent porn shit. It shocks me that men can be turned choking and slapping women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:06 PM
53

This. Dancing is so intimate. Sex is intimate. It’s about the pleasure and excitement in being close to someone, there shouldn’t be violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:49 PM
14

It feels so good to dish it right back lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:31 AM
5

There is no heaven for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:49 AM
41

Pretentious mormon speak meaning “heaven.” He needs the electric chair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:53 PM
189

My father bragged about marrying a woman only 13 years older than me a year after my mother died. Bragged he would have 2 wives in the “celestial kingdom” now. He’s a pedophile. I don’t trust a lot of men cause I was raised by a porn sick pedo so I see all the bad behavior and red flags and I’m so not duped it has nothing to do with women it is 100% male depravity. Men want much younger women because they don’t respect women as equals and want someone to make them feel superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:02 PM
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It’s a projection too; insecure men are degenerate porn wankers who can’t connect or commit to one woman. They objectify women to “feel like a man” cause they don’t feel they measure up to other men, and use women to feel superior. It’s pathetic really. He’s the one whose insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:35 PM
7

This is really good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:23 AM
6

Coercion is so so common and it’s why men scare me. Hell even my roommate complained to me that her bf kept punishing her and getting passive aggressive because she refused to have sex with him after she got hit by a semi and sprained her back. They are selfish and get an ego boost from “scoring.” It’s rape to coerce a woman. It’s intimidating. It’s abusive. So many men do this. Glad you dodged a speeding bullet. What a narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:19 AM
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They know what the fuck they’re doing and they lie and gaslight and blame so they don’t have to sit with their shame and they’re only ashamed when they get caught!! 😡😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:16 AM
11

This means they do not view women as equals. They want someone with less lift experience so they can feel superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:32 PM
29

It is honestly probably best not to say anything, it just pisses me off so much. My go to is to just call them rapists or telling them rapists laugh at rape jokes, calling them woman haters, etc. they probably wouldn’t care I’m just ticked. I would listen to your nervous system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:20 PM
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This is true. I’m just so pissed off. I’m not blaming her, just wish I could have a go at them. I’ve reacted the same in these situations, not wanting to say anything because of nasty insults I knew would get hurled my way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:18 PM
94

Bunch of sadists! Theres no punchline, unless the punchline is women. Men are evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:07 AM
55

I can hear it it does sound like it. How fucking patronizing. This is sexual harassment and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:18 AM
187

If this ever happens to me I’m gonna confront them. I can’t contain the rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:01 AM
71

That’s what I felt watching this. Like yea men think of how they sound if others heard them and plan in advance the gaslighting defense they have for it. “It’s just a joke.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:54 AM
37

Ok re-watched I see it now I’m pissed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:35 AM
75

Only a man would defend rape jokes and minimize a woman being scared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:33 AM
61

Found the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:33 AM
88

Was he talking to her?? I thought they were just making jokes and acting like she wasn’t there, now my blood is curling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:31 AM
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God this is so triggering. Men bond over hating women. Why do they enjoy violating us so much? Why is it so funny to them? Sick. This happened to me at a gas station once… “Hahaha you’re having sex without the date rape?” “I’m buying pussy tonight!” And the cashier who had been hitting on me every time I came in was laughing. It was creepy he always offered me free things like he was hitting on me and then I also see him laughing at rape. They want our time and they find our trauma and oppressio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:25 AM
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I heard that. Was gonna comment this and saw your comment; that was horrifying. They are really proud of how evil they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:22 AM
52

That’s hilarious. “I’m happy with my gf” he starts, and “I’ll always love you” To the “I wish you were dead” and “I gave you worms.” And “I wish you were with me.” “Good luck finding a man like me.” Lol he’s the one who can’t find another like her. He lost. Now he’s having a tantrum . Hope his new gf leaves him, after she finds this shit on his phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:18 AM
68

Ugh this pisses me off. It genuinely makes my day if another woman compliments my outfits. Tbh that’s why I dress the way I do; I like compliments from other women, and I like how I look in them. It grosses me out that men would think anything I do is for them. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:58 PM
59

Men think they are God’s gift to women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:45 PM
5

Saying “you’re not worthy of my time” is only arrogant when women say it 🙄abusive people aren’t worthy of my time. Bullies aren’t worthy of my time. You prove you’re a decent person, then you’re worthy of my time. My time is sacred. I’ve given up so much of my time and energy for people who didn’t value me and therefore were not worthy of it. Confidence in women will always be branded “arrogant.” Fuck that. If I’m “arrogant” then I’m doing something right. Stop silencing women and shaming women.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 01:11 AM
8

Why is this arrogant? Not everyone is worthy of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 01:07 AM
10

ewwww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:05 AM
41

They view us as subhuman, and think that being a man makes them good. They all have god complexes. They believe being a man makes them inherently good, and will claim its OTHER men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:10 AM
17

Are you shitting me? I thought he was in jail!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:00 AM
3

Probably! Still so weird lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:40 PM
8

Why doesn't she block him? And why does she refer to her ex as her bf? Sounds like some serious unmet feelings and dysfunction; time for therapy....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:05 PM
47

It’s a good thing to put them in their place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:32 PM
153

I hate being a woman and judged for being single and not having had PIV sex, by fellow women! I had a therapist judge me for being single, a family acquaintance, and my female roommate. I am single because I was raised by a gross man who abused me and didn’t want me to have a bf, I didn’t get out till 24 and met with more trauma. A lot of women are single due to male violence or male abuse, why do some women judge women for being single? (In my experience they’re usually pick me’s but it still h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:31 PM
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Men thinking everything is flirting is exhausting. I use to bike everyday other day to two grocery stores. I liked to just bike and meal plan for each day cause biking kept me in shape and I didn’t have a car and me frequenting these stores a lot made some of the cashiers seem to think I was into them just by being there so often. One time I was in a personal crisis and was anxious so I did not have the energy to overthink how I came across so this man at walk in dispensary, so I just let myself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:37 AM
18

The mental health system often supports crazy making of traumatized women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:42 AM
31

That’s how it works; the law enables abusive men. The family system is a cult in our society. Women snd children are viewed as objects that men are entitled to. I wondered how she got that. Scary!! Her rights were violated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:41 AM
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She’s so brave. I was raised by an abusive man who abused me in every way, including sexually, and used a crisis to threaten conservertership over me. I was slandered as having developmental issues while he threatened me. He stalked me a few years of being moved out. The thought of being conserved scared me he sexually abused me for 20 years. I really feel for Brittney how degrading and violating that must’ve been that has been my biggest fear before. Never getting away! I’m glad she’s free now …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:40 AM
78

“Nobody enjoys a baby thumb” that made me laugh. I love this comment 😂 so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:52 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:56 AM
1

whats the documentary called?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:23 PM
56

I shared the "men who use porn are losers" post from FDS in the sub "Porn is misogyny" and how I love this subreddit because it is anti porn. The men who shit on my post were condescendingly warning me and said this sub had unrealistic standards. FFS, men are afraid of women having standards, they would prefer no standards, and then in the same breath blame women for having low standards if she gets abused by her partner. fucking morons! Its scary how a very very tiny portion of society, the rad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:21 PM
15

Oh god that’s so sad. I sometimes have felt selfish for wanting a family sized home being a single woman but like… why? I would make those spare rooms rooms for my pets lol, or cute guest rooms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:17 AM
19

This is what a hate about capitalism. You seriously do lose housing opportunities to couples with kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:16 AM
12

Makes me sad; I hate being straight, attracted to a sex not capable of love. I don’t think men are capable of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:14 PM
8

Needed to rant/vent also avoiding shit I need to get done but THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:52 AM
20

I’ve been romanticizing a past relationship that I couldn’t have due to an abuser in my family system; I was avoidant and traumatized and he got an ego boost from being the “special” one who got my attention because he knew how to love bomb me just right and he got an ego boost out of me idealizing the basic scraps of affection and protection I needed from my mother. He got an ego boost out of feeling needed, and the relationship wouldn’t have been so significant to me if I wasn’t traumatized. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:52 AM
77

They feel entitled to women’s bodies it’s the most disgusting thing about men. It’s why women are 100% allowed to hate them and people need to stop whining about “man hating.” They will project that women are “sl**s”‘who “tempt them” because if they didn’t then they would have to sit with how foul and dirty they are to women. And how dehumanizing women makes them feel like god because then they can feel like they are good simply for being men while doing evil acts. Just like the god they invente…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:04 PM
10

I can't have sex with someone unless I know they love and respect me first. I hate how that's mocked as "vanilla." A lot of women are willing to settle for men who view them as objects and they justify that their violence is "just a kink" because they view themselves as objects too. sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:06 PM
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It sounds more like she wants to fulfill a male fantasy to me. Also, equality is bullshit. People need treatment based upon their needs. Men and women are very different, what is not ok is the belief and ideology that women are inferior and men are superior, and men abusing women over this ideology, and women being complicit in this misogyny. This sounds like pick me shit tbh... "I am not like the other girls!" Yea I am also cringing over here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:40 PM
19

So many women are more concerned about raising a gay son than a rapist or a pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:23 PM
4

Yea; not tolerating men’s shit is a right of passage for women. If you don’t think women have enough good sense to know when a situation is safe or not and you’re going to blame women 🙄🙄 a man who cat calls you or harasses you like that can get the bird and die mad over it. Clearly OP had good saftey awareness so you can stop calling people a dumbass. And yea, women are taught to be polite and tolerate men’s shit so damn right it is. No I didn’t mean assaulted or killed. Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:17 PM
13

Lmao he sounds like a robot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:15 AM
38

Ummm flipping off men is a woman’s right of passage stop doing shit to get flipped off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:05 AM
23

They always fake a deep voice on the phone and it’s so obvious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:21 AM
24

Man or woman alike, what someone says doesn’t matter to me, I observe their patterns of behavior. It tells me how they feel about me and who they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:42 PM
21

It’s his status points. That’s all family is to them. Never marry and bare a man’s children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:37 PM
18

I keep telling myself I won’t let myself die of male approval just like my mother. It’s hard. I lost everything, and was gaslight so much. I do remember my happiest time was when I was validating myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:27 PM
11

I still fear aging because I fear decreased looks and loss of childhood and getting “old and bitter.” Does it get easier? I’m in therapy going to do emdr. But not sleeping due to trauma even makes me fear aging. I so want to let go of this fear and sleep. I feel like caring about amd fearing aging is me not being authentic with myself anymore but idk how to not care what others think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:48 PM
16

That beer gut they get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:35 PM
21

I’m 29 and people tell me I look early 20’s, I’m my early 20’s I was told I looked in my teens lol. I see 30 year old men with receding hair lines already. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:34 PM
26

Masculinity is a power dynamic that couldn’t exist without femininity. I think masculinity as a concept in and of Itself is toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:12 AM
8

There is lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:43 AM
4

No self respect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:21 AM
7

Ummm he’s an entitled narcissist. Hes 30 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:20 AM
33

Respect and love is dead. Fuck gender roles I disagree with the masculinity bit; cause they do that shit because it makes them feel “masculine.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:14 AM
76

I think this is why I find most men unattractive. High porn use is also linked with a low IQ. Every man I know that uses porn is a woman hating moron.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:13 AM
112

My mother viewed herself as an object and hated herself and married a man who views women as objects, thus he sexually abused me and she ignored it and slandered me and blamed me and saw me in competition. She saw me as a competition and didn’t want me to “ruin the family image.” She died in 2016 and I’ve gotten away and cut ties. And I see that society is not that different from my experiences. A lot of women hate themselves and views themselves as objects and see other women as objects and don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:11 AM
3

😭😂 Men make my social anxiety worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:39 AM
4

OMG. Reminds me of this dumb one in a debate; Me; “gender is a construct, sex is about biology.” Him; “haha someone sure has sex on the brain.” I can’t with the this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:10 AM
6

One time this guy misinterpreted my anxious chatter as flirting. Lol no dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:55 AM
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I think men who want kids are a red flag in general lol. He wants genetic narcissism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:30 AM
7

Waaayy too many pickme therapists too! But they’re going to therapy based on the idea that he has a “disorder” 🙄I hate the disorder system. We are all traumatized, focus on healing and grieving thar trauma and unlearning unhealthy behaviors, and grow. That’s every adult’s personal responsibility. I hate the disorder system that says we are born this way. We aren’t born sick, but a lot of doctors as you said, are pick me’s; the family system and the mental health system are toxic in this patriarc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:10 PM
8

She claims his teenage boy mode is afraid of responsibility and he splits off and shuts off his empathy and she paints this sob story of him. He basically ghosts her and then says he wants to break up and he has to go to therapy because of her but never actually goes in the relationship. It’s a honey moon phase of him going, molding into what she wants, and then going back into the same abusive mode of avoiding responsibility, triangulating her and painting himself as the victim and slandering h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:07 PM
14

I finally had to cut off a female friend for invalidating my abusive living situation while she expected me to validate her relationship as healthy. Hes abusive and she claims he’s better when he’s in therapy. She constantly pushes him to go! She claims he has DID and splits off into teenager mode 🙄omg men don’t need DID to act this way. I told her based on his patterns of behavior that his is not going to change. Exactly(sorry for the vomit but it was too true.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:24 PM
54

Never ever date a man who hasn’t gone to therapy and worked on himself, and never date a man with no goals or aspirations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:17 PM
61

This is my favorite sub lol. Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:03 AM
72

Men want to invade women’s spaces. Both sides. The left and the right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:17 PM
5

Telling a man he’s cheap is even better lol they get really upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:42 PM
8

Do they really think it’s acceptable to talk to us this way 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:59 PM
45

The word sl** exists because men are repulsed by the idea of women as sex SUBJECTS instead of sex OBJECTS. Sl** punishes her for saying “yes” prude punished her for saying “no.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:38 PM
23

I always call out men when they neg me and they get defensive and aggressive and mad at ME it’s so fucking bizzare. Or I’ll insult them right back. Passive aggressive men are pathetic. I had some guy he liked “your hair is really long is that your real hair?” A cashier. Leave me alone 🙄 as real as your face pubes dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:59 AM
10

What’s ED? (I agree with this though.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:08 AM
38

Men with ass fetishes are so immature and crass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:07 AM
49

If he uses porn he doesn’t love you or respect women. I think most men don’t love women. I think most women view themselves as objects and thus tolerate this. It’s sad. I don’t care what anyone says; pornography is misogyny. It’s lust. There’s no love from a wanker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:06 AM
47

I need a relationship built on layers of trust and I usually take a full year to fully trust someone completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:44 AM
72

I personally don’t believe in marriage. I see it as ownership. It’s also a hassle if he cheats or is abusive dealing with a divorce and I don’t want kids so.. 3-6 months is unreal. I was raised Mormon and they get married ridiculously fast so I’m against that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:44 AM
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My roomate has been with her bf almost 4 years and he still hasn’t asked her or set a date yet. Idk I see comments saying 3-6 months though... I feel like I would need a year or 2 cause I don’t trust like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:33 AM
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I hate when they try to claim it goes both ways. Because we know it does not . Women have every right to snoop. This is not like men snooping through women’s phones because they “want to see if he’s cheating”. Too many men cheat and watch porn or engage in pedophilia. It is more than ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:40 AM
4

I love her little “thank you” lol. She’s beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:52 PM
7

Yea it is. It means you won’t settle if you do find someone. If you don’t, that’s fine too. You must be new
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:51 PM
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Omg could I get the link for this tik tok so I can share it on my Fb? I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:51 PM
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What an asshole! God I hate how selfish they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:25 AM
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I think you’re spot on. I think they are willfully ignorant; they choose not to but they also want to act out what they see in porn. No disagreements with what you said. It repulses me. But they aren’t turned on by love making. That’s “vanilla”, they want to refer to their partners a “little” or a “sl” or a “b**” for wanting sex. They aren’t aroused my intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:27 AM
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That just says a lot about how much men hate women... that their performance is so bad. It’s not that hard to get a woman to orgasm if you know what you’re doing. They aren’t loving or affectionate it’s a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:16 PM
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Lol as if a woman like that would be with a fat basement dweller incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:15 PM
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The fact that they mock healthy sex that is an expression of love verses role playing abuse is very telling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:55 AM
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I want to make stickers if this and put it outside the Mormon church. Fuck them. (Ex Mormon.) this is what they taught. Woman hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:54 AM
15

And a lot of women settle for porn users :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:40 AM
8

For me this applies to friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:07 PM
64

All women are porn objects to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:49 AM
70

Men who harass women all watch porn. It’s crazy how anyone wouldn’t see that connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:48 AM
20

That would out an end to sex trafficking and women being afraid to go on walks at night
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:47 AM
11

I would love that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:47 AM
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These women are inspiring. I have a creepy ass male roommate (my roommate’s bf, also my roommate, thankfully not here that often,) who has a clear ass fetish and breast fetish (I mean he constantly fetishizes women with his jokes about strippers and he weaves sexual jokes and crass jokes into any conversation. He is insecure, socially awkward, and I’m guessing viewing women as subhuman is how he copes but a lot of women enable it.) He gave me a ride somewhere once and tried to coax it as “health…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:46 AM
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When this guy called my ass “cake” I could barely eat for a week. It’s disgusting. Makes me feel cheap. My body isn’t food. I’m a human being. I fucking hate men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:04 PM
3

It’s so cute you will love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:41 AM
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She’s happy and fulfilled with her cats :) I love that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:41 AM
7

Holy shit this chilled my blood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:54 AM
4

There’s a book called “psychopath free”, it has a whole chapter on exes lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:42 PM
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A grown ass man who plays video games all day is such a turn off lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:41 PM
16

“Infinity + 3” lol awe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:06 PM
9

Right? Omg it felt like I was being jabbed with a campfire stick! I don’t think I can ever do one again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:10 AM
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It makes me sad when some women think like this, usually devoutly religious. My mother thought vaginas get stretched and yea... (because I said the Pap smear hurt; “it’s cause your vagina hasn’t been stretched yet.” Does anyone else also find that creepy and uncomfortable? )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:11 PM
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Omg thank you for this comment it’s so validating. This just goes to show trauma and euphoric recall is normal. I’ve been insecure about missing the memory of something and it’s totally nostalgia colored glasses. I was never shown basic decency before. I still need to heal from trauma and abuse. Euphoric recall is brutal. My needs were being Met. I felt wanted for once. Those feelings are addicting to reflect on when you’re not in a good place and unsure of your future. I’m so impatient I feel r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:25 PM
25

Triggered trauma and abuse for me. In my early 20’s I learned to generate my own self love and realized I didn’t need them. Then I got abused and traumatized. So I lost my drive again. I know when I’m healing and moving forward I won’t care and I don’t miss them, I miss the idea. I miss never having gotten to experience romantic love. (Miss the idea; euphoric recal. Trauma bubbled.) this is what I felt it was, I’m actually embarrassed im thinking of this person, like a loser, like why and I figu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:18 AM
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This made me so nervous reading! Glad you stood up for yourself and it worked! God they’re gross... I had a man asking me if I wanted to “kick it with him” for $50. He was serious. Scared the crap out of me I walked away and called the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:28 AM
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That was one green flag I got within my first relationship; always checking and expressing genius concern, having an intuitive and empathetic understanding of my boundaries without it having to be explained; that’s how I felt safe the first time. And my abuser (male,) didn’t card about my feelings at all, let alone my autonomy. Never ever trust one bit of disrespect they can be dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:41 AM
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“He’s not an angel for treating you like a human being.” Oof THIS. Exactly. But I’ve been guilty of this. (Was a trauma response, not use to basic decency lol. Hate when they take an ego boost for it though.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:03 AM
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My mom would do this to me >.< (my roomate a couple of times too. Makes me so anxious. ) I’d be terrified if a man did this to me; men that don’t care about your feelings often don’t care about your autonomy either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:45 AM
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Does this strike anyone else as infantilizing as well? She’s posed as the ultimate “prize” and she’s half naked and vulnerable and it’s coaxed like she’s some kind of cute pet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:00 AM
4

He eats and takes up space while she’s just there as boner fuel. Vomit Inducing. Men are trash and I hate that I’m attracted to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:39 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:39 AM
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With liberal feminism it’s become increasingly worse. I think a lot of women now are trying to chase euphoria of being wanted via being socially accepted and trying to be the “best sex object” as “empowering” and it’s becoming so normalized you’re the “weird one” if you’re repulsed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:37 AM
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I hate whenever I see this male gaze crap. Women are more than where they shit from. I hate those images (like this one,) where she’s wearing nothing but a thong while they’re watching tv and his hand is on her ass and the porn-y image is coaxed as “romantic”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:37 AM
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I have. By male family member. I’m jealous of women (as bad as it sounds,) who learned men are shit via relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:44 AM
11

Seriously; how do you know which one is a rapist or not???!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:43 AM
45

This is so sad. I don’t think. I don’t think Most men are even capable of love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:16 AM
4

Because society paints them as being the pinnacle of human and women as secondary. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 01:26 AM
42

“Begging to be freed”. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:58 AM
3

I hate the comments to this on the fb post defending this shit too 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:15 AM
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Yea fuck no no way I’m dating right now lol. I’m too unstable and too many of them are crazy. I’m still too traumatized of them to date them anyway so I won’t. I want to heal first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:46 AM
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I just got a room rental to leave an abusive environment. The plan is intensive therapy and getting back to school and community. (Ive spent my entire life trying to protect myself from my father and fleeing abuse. And leaving the church,) now I have an opportunity and I’m finding myself fantasizing about relationships less. (I don’t even like most men so it’s not worth the time.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:07 AM
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It’s crazy; they’re afraid of rejection, I’m afraid of sexual violation! But those poor nervous things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:01 AM
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“We’re nervous too.” Oh oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:55 AM
14

Red flag when they just get out of relationships too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:07 PM
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I’m so sorry that happened to you :( I was molested at 5 and having very disturbing thoughts and feelings as young as 6 and 7. When I didn’t remember the abuse, (god he repressed my sexuality after he assaulted me that was enraging too cause he denied me the right to experience anything outside of it, I escaped that household at 24 and haven’t had a relationship since,) when I didn’t remember, I remember someone doing an intimate gesture and associating it with intimacy for a brief period of tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:20 PM
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THIS. I don’t want sex to prove how “edgy” I am but the excitement of just being close to someone. If it’s not based on mutual love and affection I don’t want it. Call me “vanilla” all you want but I think kinksters are actually terrified of sex and intimacy hence the need for constant validation for what I think they unconsciously know is them just acting out their trauma... this shit isn’t normal or healthy sexuality although it’s being heavily normalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:52 AM
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Yup I do this all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:15 PM
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I crave affection and nurturing and love the IDEA of a relationship, one that is actually LOVING with MUTUAL AFFECTION where my needs, boundaries, pleasure and space are prioritized and I don’t have to worry about cheating or porn, but I don’t think that’s going to happen any time soon so I rather center myself. Kinda makes me sad but it is what is it. I was sexually abused and then sexually repressed. I’m back to grieving that yet again. I had 1 relationship where I felt saved but was living wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:15 PM
126

Posting about women’s vagina’s being loose if they have had “too much sex” and acting disgusted by vaginas and how they smell is the gayest shit ever too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:19 PM
63

Are there any men out there who don’t watch porn? God it’s so depressing. I hate being straight sometimes. Raised by a porn wanker (after slipping up and acting some traumas leading me to go to therapy, I started uncovering all the dots and red flags and indications that he, did, in fact, view porn, grandfather likely did too; my whole father’s side of the family is rampant with sexual abuse that no one discusses starting from my grandfather, Mormon, and have Mormon loop holes with assault,) I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:42 PM
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💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:54 AM
11

They lie cause they know they’re wrong and don’t want to deal with the shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:05 AM
5

He asked me out on a group date when he had a gf. I was an insecure girl he hasn’t seen in a year after he has moved them came back, he had a gf, didn’t tell me, then later when I found out and we hadn’t gone on that date yet, I looked at him wifi a dropped jaw, like “how could you LIE to me? How could you cheat on your gf? Are you ever REAL?” And his response was to shamefully hang his head then text my friend who told me what he said “it would’ve worked out, she just didn’t tell to me.” I can’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:01 AM
33

Shame more men for not washing their hands after they use the bathroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:34 AM
23

Every man is a misogynist, some more or less then others. They view themselves as superior and when you rise above them they feel jealous. Your analysis is so spot on. It’s ironic cause the things they brag about, like jerking off and playing video games all day, I don’t think it bothers them how lame it is until they’re left to sit and think about it. And how dare a woman outshine them. They’re chronically jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:44 AM
2

Way too scream louder “I’m insecure!” God they’re pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:59 AM
39

One green flag I experienced from a man was him getting annoyed when I basically thanked him for not yelling at me during a heated debate lol. “Well thanks at least for being civil.” “Don’t thank me for that, in fact, don’t ever thank anyone for that. This is how people are suppose to treat people.” I really do try and remember that and not trauma fawn. Also; you can tell a lot by a man by how he reacts to your anger. I wasn’t nasty, but I was angry. I’m use to getting yelled at for being assert…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:12 AM
6

Ugh even the cute ones are disappointing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:46 AM
13

And I’ll bet you anything he thinks men who put effort in anything are “simp’s.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:21 PM
4

Sounds like projections. Men are afraid women will have standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:20 PM
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They compare sex to $$ all the time. This is how they view women: objects. 0 empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:16 AM
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They really think we aren’t humans to the point they trivialize our fears with comparisons of our bodies to money. Psychopaths...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:15 AM
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I would trust a man more that went no contact with his parents and sought to better himself tbh. So many people have unresolved trauma from their parents and haven’t broken away or sought to heal or find themselves. Unless you’re seeing him not treat you well, I wouldn’t worry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:05 PM
2

THIS. Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:04 PM
13

My “father” acts enmeshed with his mother who was complicit with an abuser and is an abuser herself so he got off on abusing me and other women and claims to love his mom; I don’t trust “mommy boys” cause half the time they have unresolved hatred and resentment towards their mothers but don’t see it and feel justified because “women aren’t human beings anyway” in molesting girls and raping women and harassing and abusing women yet they “love their mommies.” 🤢snd their mommies”love them too.” Vom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:04 PM
1

I’m so insecure about aging.... I love FDS; this isn’t just a guide to avoid shitty men it’s low key therapeutic. The age posts have been making me feel better. xx thanks for sharing. And yea, I think the age thing is honestly a projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:12 AM
2

Don’t have to worry about a dildo raping you in your sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:20 PM
17

I didn’t end up with my soul mate, (bad timing, I was too busy needing to focus on surviving getting out of a toxic situation which they couldn’t have helped,) and it irks me knowing I missed out and probably won’t cause most men out there will watch porn or betray you in some way to make you cry or get re-traumatized. Just sad how they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:03 PM
8

I broke a boys heart once because if I didn’t a man would’ve assaulted me if I let him in. That was traumatizing. Not just gut wrenching, traumatic. There’s way worse things then having your heart broken. Women have to build trust not just with feelings but AUTONOMY and men are whining about their fee fees getting hurt and evade their own responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:41 AM
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Right like I never want to be fully dependent on a man either. I want to want one if I want one but not cause I feel like I “need” one. She wanted image. When he abused me in disgusting was she just said he wasn’t abusive and identified me as the “family patient”. He would laugh and say “medication time.” Evil af. I don’t get it. He was shit to her too but all she cared about was religious image and male approval
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:09 PM
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My mother refused to divorce her abusive husband, meanwhile I met a woman who took her son and left with nothing out the window in the middle of the night. I have a lot of respect for single mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:05 PM
2

I figured but damn it sounded good lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:32 PM
8

It’s such a projection of their own shame and guilt and fear and it is pathetic of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:24 PM
212

I told my father that mowing the lawn is a Man’s Job as a sarcastic joke that I didn’t really mean just cause I didn’t want to mow the lawn and he actually got pissed! “What if I said women only belong in the kitchen?!” brags about never having done laundry, and rarely cooks I like how they are suddenly aware of sexusm when it suits them to say “wow if the tables were turned “ because they rights we do have they don’t think we should have anyway. It is so crazy they will get super super offended…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:03 AM
2

Now I want to read the book lol. The trailers made it look like it was just rich people getting married and I was raised on romance films and got tired of it but the description makes me intrigued!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:47 PM
7

I want to watch this movie now. Thought it was a cliche love story and looked boring but I didn’t really know what it was about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:21 PM
45

So many men hate their mothers and see a world that views women as subhuman while they get immunity; my own father abused me cause I was happier than him. My mother had a job before him. Abused her too. A lot of religious men will feel emasculated if you know something they don’t. And the liberal “woke” boys who claim to be allies do that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:52 PM
6

To be owned by a man via marriage? Fuck that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:23 AM
10

THIS. As an ex Mormon, the concept of marriage makes me want to puke. I don’t want to hear that a man is “low value” because he doesn’t want to own me im sorry but NO. Marriage laws are property laws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:12 AM
8

I rather own my own space personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:01 AM
25

Was going to ask this; marriage is inherently patriarchal and I’m not a fan of feeling like I belong to someone legally. I like the idea of a life long committed partner and I don’t need a ring for commitment personally. The idea of traveling together, staying the night at each other’s houses, and just having fun with each other is more appealing to me than being a house wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:33 AM
31

My father did this with my mother. I had to make a savings in secret. Never ever trust a man who wants anything to do with YOUR hard earned cash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:31 AM
6

I HATE talking pictures of having my photos taken but I thought it was cute (and annoying,) when this guy I was seeing kept pushing/asking to take my picture cause he thought I was “cute” and wanted a photo to have around. This is adorable. And yea dudes asking for nudes is Creepy... where is the connection in that. It’s just demeaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:53 PM
1

Its one of those “I never got to experience it I only got to experience abuse so how can I be content” phase. Like other seperatists who had relationships first; I think I’ll need to heal to exist that mindstate cause yea; they’re not good for mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:00 AM
12

When I remembered sexual abuse and was raised Mormon and thought of marriage I realized how much I couldn’t do marriage; they think once you’re their wife you’re their property.. I could totally see me having just caving and having sex when they want and I don’t want that for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:44 PM
2

Thanks:) And totally going to see what my therapists stance is in separatism! I want that mentality cause then if anything changes, at least I stuck to my own guns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:23 PM
7

This is funny but I’d also shit my pants if asked that by someone I was dating. I guess it’s a good thing they make you aware ahead of time so you can know to bounce!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:36 AM
13

“My bf doesn’t like my pet rats and says I should get rid of them but if we move in with each other he’ll change his mind.” And apparently I was the asshole for pointing out the bullshit and control issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:40 PM
2

Waiting for it to get dark for a long ass bike ride lol. And thanks. I kinda sneakily asked her opinion cause that’s so important to me. Makes me more comfortable moving forded. I was raised Mormon and had lots of my sexuality repressed; so tons of missing out + brainwashing I still need to heal through. I hope the pandemic ends it gets me stuck in this thought loop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:10 AM
3

Hopefully re-wires my brain back to not caring about the Y’s fast lol. I hope she does. She’s anti porn so one green light there. Haven’t talked about this stuff with her yet. (Thanks for listening btw! I can’t stop emotional dumping left and right lately.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:35 AM
3

I mean I got smeared as delayed; lots of complicit parties it’s a long story. I got blamed for my trauma responses and my mother claimed I was developmentally disabled. Just now accepting ive endured sexual abuse for essentially 24 years; overt then covert in teens and 20’s. I have an amazing therapist now. Trying to get me to a stable environment first and its only been a few months but she’s the first ther validates and believes me so I’m hoping it gets better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:24 AM
6

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:16 PM
6

BDSM in a bit shell; don’t rape me just pretend to. Acting out porn and traumas .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:41 PM
15

At this point I’ve lost hope that non porn wanking, so called “vanilla” men exist. I’ve heard too many women talk about their sexual boundaries being violated and that scares me. I still, even at 28, seeking to leave an agency that extorted and blamed me for sexual assault so it’s like my life got “defined” by it. Been grieving and scared at how much grieving I’m doing at missing out on romantic love because I’m terrified I’ll regress back into wanting a bf only to end up getting raped; most of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:36 PM
13

I just worry it will never end :( my goals are getting my funds; check. Moving out of here; almost. And intensive therapy while seeking community and volunteer work (shut down,) and going back to school (shut down,) cause my abuser (my father, predatory,) stopped and traumatized me from my goals. I’m still working on getting away from abusive toxic people and being healthy. I did need to see this today. Needed the assurance; I’m scared it will never end! I need to reach this goal. To be me again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:35 PM
1

I feel like it is too I was repressed from experiencing it and it’s a shame cause most of them want to be violent during sex and watch porn so I suspect I won’t ever have that experience they’re terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:58 AM
34

Women go to therapy , men go for relationships 🤦🏼‍♀️obnoxious. In every anxiety and depression Group on fb there’s always a man using it as zoosk talking about how he’s lonely. And he shouldn’t have to recover before seeking relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:49 PM
1

Oops! Ok will do!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:09 AM
15

My mom use to go to the pulpit at church and say she was “grateful to her daughter who is beautiful and doesn’t know it.” So creepy. It 100% made those boys feel more entitled. I know I was pretty I didn’t want their attention. One of them so clearly watched porn it showed in his harassing behavior towards me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:20 AM
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I remember someone had posted here “never date a man who is cheap with money.” Made me drop my jaw; my father is a tight wad. And he’s abusive. 100% feels inadequate and jealous of his brothers and other men. It was “fun” trying to sleep summer nights with no AC. Oh and at Disneyland when my mom really wanted photos. “No!!” “Why?!” “Because it cost $5!” $5. Wow. Way to break the bank. This guy I was seeing wanted to buy me things and do things for me all the time I’m not use to it so it made me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:28 AM
44

This man with a teenage daughter and he was in his 50’s wouldn’t stop hitting on me and I’m in mu 20’s. Creepy af!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:25 AM
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🤦🏼‍♀️they expect women to re-parent them!! Yea I have a social worker/therapist who is so caring and does emdr. When I get out of a toxic situation we will start EMDR!! Women aren’t your damn mommies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:36 PM
2

Ghosting is sick. I struggle to talk about my feelings and get scared. I know I’ll ghost. So NC from the world till I’m in therapy. I don’t want to hurt anyone. They’re so entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:41 PM
11

I’m grateful for my first relationship it taught it me not only was I being mistreated a lot, (he validated my feelings and experiences so much,) but without any prompting or asking he would ask me if I was ok. “Are got ok? Is there anything I can do for you?” I’m crap with feelings. I remember I was 15 and had a petty ass immature teacher who found out via his wife that I said he was boring. It was an early morning class and he had a mono tone voice. If your ego can’t handle a 15 year old girls…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:00 PM
10

Omfg we do lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:20 AM
55

“Rape is extremely uncommon and rare-“ male proverb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:03 AM
3

When I remembered the abuse and saw why most men give me the creeps; most are like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:50 AM
9

Yup. Mormon trash. And yea they are. I cried at my baptism cause I didn’t want to be cealed . I’ve been out of the church since 2013 now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:30 PM
35

My father remarried 1 year after my mom died. 25 years of marriage. Dating 6 months after she died. Everyone in my family defends that minus my brother and SIL, because it is demeaning; married a new maid pretty quick. Bragged she was only 13 years older than me. (Also said he’d have 2 wives in the celestial kingdom now...) Death shows you who people really are it’s just creepy. But yea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:19 PM
2

I know in my own family pattern, it was Mormon men who abused their wives and children and men carried resentment from boyhood and didn’t know how to connect and felt justified in abusing heir daughters and wives because women are subhuman, worthless without the patriarch. Generation trauma in religious families is especially disturbing. My own experience is being raised in a cult with mothers who couldn’t love because they were stressed and promised loving husbands and children, and petulant ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:42 PM
3

I agree, but I think it’s a generational thing too. I don’t believe little boys are born with an innate desire to harm but men even harm boys! I think it’s our personal responsible to grow and overcome our conditioning, men created a system where they don’t have to do it. I think it’s both honestly. Maybe the nature is generational. I see generational patterns in my family of misogynistic shits and they are raised to be misogynistic. Men created a system that creates sickness. They whine about a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:16 PM
5

I think a lot of men hate their mothers and are raised in cultures to believe women are subhuman and feel justified acting out their traumas onto women. Men hate themselves. Men are empty. They get off on harming women. Society enables them. It’s like chicken or egg, cause men did create this type of socialization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:56 PM
3

It’d demeaning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:54 PM
8

Good strategy! Yea if I’m left wondering “what’s that suppose to mean” probably a red flag. A compliment should be clear and direct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:32 PM
38

Right?! Some women did comment that 😂😭👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:56 AM
34

“Is a wig” . POC Have the best hair. Low key #jealous and so was he probably lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:04 AM
31

🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ why are men so damn stupid? Like yea I’m pretty and you can’t ever have me; get over yourself. I need a hair cut so damn bad!! My ends are split 3 inches up and to my hips now. Nothing about my hair looks fake. It was weird I answered and he didn’t say anything like “well it looks nice” which would indicate it was a compliment but we both know it was his insecurity and need to drag me down. God they’re pathetic. I love my long hair and no one can make me insecure about it 🤷🏼‍♀️#longha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:01 AM
40

Self blame is often a desire and need to feel in control. “If it’s my fault, then I can make sure it doesn’t happen again. If it’s my fault, I don’t have to accept the lack of empathy and extortion and violation.” What a fucking ass!! He took advantage of your drunken state and emotional agony. You did NOT deserve that!!! And what a fucking pick me!! Half my trauma is female silence; women have a sacred duty to warn and protect women bur half that time they are so hung up on male approval they’l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:35 AM
2

Fucking hell. Women are seeking growth and enlightenment and men are like; “omg I wish I had a gf to nurture me and take care of me and breastfeed ma and tell me I’m special and ease my depression and take care of me 😭😭😭” 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🙄 “Is my lack of emotional intelligent hot ladies?!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:20 AM
190

I was feeling myself one day and running my fingers through my hair while I went to get my mail. This woman shouts across the way; “I love your hair!” And comments “I can never get mine that long!” Made my entire day lol. This dude at the store the other day “is your hair naturally that long?” Felt like a subtle neg cause it’s a weird question and I did the whole “haha yea but also not been cut since the pandemic.” Ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:07 AM
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My not so feminist guilty pleasure is a show called “Lucifer”. There’s a scene where she’s super drunk throwing herself at him and even gets naked (off screen,) at one point, he still can’t do it even though he wants her cause it doesn’t feel right. I mean she even crawls into bed with him. Still doesn’t do it. ...cause that shit would be rape. She wasn’t acting like her normal self. Was insecure, self wallowing, and wanted validation after her ex dumped her via text. Normally she finds this dud…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 03:08 AM
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I’m low key laughing my ass off at the fucking accuracy but how I sincerely thought this was romance in my teens 😭😂 “sorry fell asleep on you there” always texting me that shit the next day. Did my effort and your laziness make you sleepy? Women are too smart and wholesome for low effort. their low effort is lame! If you’re an adult STILL typing “nm wbu” I’m just going to say to that man “don’t bother texting me then!” Tell them you’re going to hext them or something for low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:33 AM
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My stomach doing a little flip flop over “hey you” too 😂😂👏🏼in adulthood I expect a little more depth and effort! I always texted paragraphs! Oh how pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:26 AM
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Me as a teen; Him; “hey you.” Me; “hey.” “What’s up?” “Nm wbu?” “Nm.” “Sooo.” “What?” “Idk lol.” The very deep conversations lmao. They still do this as adults?! 😂😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:01 AM
3

I feel like it’s a mix of both lol. I mean I can’t feel sexual attraction if I’m turned off and scared, porn users freak me out. One night stands freak me out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:24 PM
2

My father threatened me if I had a bf growing up and I didn’t get out till 24. I’m anguished now I never got to experience cause I’m afraid I’ll always feel dirty cause when I didn’t remember, I could’ve had that, now I never will. I learned I feel sexual attraction via emotional attraction due to someone I still consider HV looking back, we were just teens. I had a moment where I wanted sex (bur raised by a Mormon porn wanker,) and what triggered that is because the relationship was super nutur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:22 PM
31

I can’t feel sexual attraction without emotional attraction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:42 AM
8

Women are superior and deep down all men know it. That’s why they created these oppressive systems; just to stay relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:37 AM
3

My friend did use to joke with me and call her my “lover” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:26 PM
23

In my first relationship we had shared trauma and they were so concerned about me feeling unwanted in any capacity they didn’t want me to feel that same too. And I never had to explain boundaries with my autonomy, not once. Reading this sickens me. (Only ever had one relationship. Not a bad guy but bad timing. Now that I know about this shit leaving my bubble I’m scared to ever have a relationship! This is scary! )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:52 AM
35

There was a woman shared about her CSA and he “accidentally” sticks it in her ass. This scares me. How do you have a connective relationship with someone if you can’t even be fully vulnerable with them? This is sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:51 AM
1

Thank you! (I’m assuming this also means men who have to prove their prowess by talking about it 24/7 too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:05 PM
2

And male suicide rates include men who kill themselves after killing their partners
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 11:41 PM
35

They don’t usually admit this this is weird They are this twisted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:08 AM
7

They talk about not watching it so much and repress sexuality; I think church leaders want them to watch it so they can have addicts seeking residence every time. Talking about this in front of children too. Getting them curious. And they don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 07:33 AM
5

Ugh. Showing a female or male child porn is child abuse. They think that’s funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 07:16 AM
12

This mindset is so weird. Like conservatives watch porn too they’re just quiet about it. Some of the grossest porn wankers I ever met were Mormon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 07:12 AM
6

Pick me women sabotogized healing! If all women has sisterhood we would all be so strong as a class! I’m in therapy cause women blamed me for male violence! I still love women. I want to not be like these women. Trying to be stronger than these women. I’ve had Pick me women claim they can’t hate while they hate me and love my abuser. Evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:56 PM
9

Ffs 🤦🏼‍♀️ive endured bad therapy off and in for 10 years and finally found a good therapist. I am invested in my growth and healing despite limited support and resources (therapy due time male VIOLENCE and women gaslighting me,) i have little patience for depressed males who are just seeking “healing” by fucking depressed women and abusing women’s empathy. Depressed men are still men and they use trauma or mental illness as an excuse. The only people they respect are other men. I’ve had guys try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:55 PM
6

Men think not having easy access to sex and their dicks worshipped=oppressed. Men aren’t oppressed. They claim women aren’t oppressed cause “women can have sex with whoever!” They’re obsessing with sex over feeling. Women can’t have sex with whoever you might rape us but go off I guess?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:00 PM
9

How the fuck is birds of prey anti male? 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ it just centers women as primary characters without being Bf obsessed and portrays one very creepy misogynist l villain. I loved that movie. Shes humanized. The character is funny, witty, street smart, and over coming a break up. She’s real. Shes her own person. I’m tired of relationship centric films. They seem alienating. Women are more than love or relationships or the male gaze. So many movies made for men where the man is a whole character…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:58 PM
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As someone whose mother should’ve left but stayed I think single mothers deserve nothing but praise. They put their kids before the image. Some women think they’re worthless outside of image and will deny abuse over it. It is sick. It is so sick. And so many men resent and hate their mothers; notice we never say “mommy issues?” Everyone just shits on abusive mothers but fathers abusing we have to be quiet about. Even though paternal abuse tends to be sadistic, maternal abuse is often emotionally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:25 PM
2

These are the first women they view as second class. Especially their own mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:32 PM
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Cause black people include men and women are subhuman to them. Whenever someone tries to derail BLM with violence I’m just like #nametheproblem #maleviolence. They don’t like that but... 🤷🏼‍♀️ don’t use some violent males to justify racism! They abuse black women too! Sick of this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:45 AM
19

WOW. I’m so glad I don’t fear my professors anymore. I remember back with the Miley shit and “I know you want it” song was going around I said “why is everyone focusing on Miley Cyrus’s behavior when a man is singing about rape and it’s #3 on the charts?!” Thankfully my professor ended up taking my side and we had a class discussion. I’m sick of professors using their positions to be misogynistic pricks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:43 AM
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I saw this post on fb and the comments from men and women scared me. “If she said yes then she consented, that’s on her for falling for peer pressure. Yes=yes.” Wtf?? If you’re a man who is bigger and stronger and pushing a woman to the point of being scared then don’t pretend that “yes” was enthusiasm when it was sheer terror!! The fuck men want “sex” for if she isn’t happy, smiling, and laughing and enjoying herself? Evil pricks. The lot of them. How do you “vet” a guy as a rapist or not? I si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:41 AM
8

He should be worried about not being like other guys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:41 PM
7

Wow wtf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:09 PM
22

Don’t want kids ya loser. Not passing on his “l3G@cY” so he can have status and sit on his ass while I raise 2 screamers. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:36 AM
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I just want a day at the beach, or dinner, movies, etc, women don’t ask for much other than the basic concept “if you want to have a friend, be a friend” and considering how men are the ones in the position to have to gain a woman’s trust, the comparisons are so obnoxious. And yea I can afford all that shit lmao. Can the average man go the extra mile and just give his TIME? Cause a good portion act dramatic over that and want to consume all of a woman’s time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:32 AM
11

They never think it’d mean to dehumanize is like fuck objects wifi no value but out “reactive abuse” to them dehumanizing Us makes us “mean.” “Just take a compliment!” Translatation; “how did you ever consider how you making me feel like a creep makes me feel bad for being a creep?” insert tons of sexist slurs they project next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:17 AM
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My abuser broke my things for calling him a creep. A male family member. And he was a creep What I considered actual seduction wasn’t creepy it was usually doing something sweet and getting me in the “feels.” They like to think they’re sex gods, all of them do, even the child abusing creeps. Call them sociopaths and they’re prideful, call them creeps and they’re violent. They like to think of themselves as sex gods when they’re just fucking menaces to women and creeps just like their own fathers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:08 AM
20

Ew like a negging title cause she’s less if she isn’t 18 or she looked younger then that? Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:36 AM
19

Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:36 AM
16

Oh gross. He 100% gave off those vibes. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:43 PM
16

Ok yea don’t ask a woman her damn age thats just common sense 🤦🏼‍♀️seems like negging (isn’t not asking a woman her age and weight a rule of thumb? Age is so sensitive to me, I’d be irked and bothered. They’re not stupid. They are just clueless. Seems like negging to guess. I’ve had when men guessed my age. One was right but it felt objectifying.)I hate when they hit on me when I go frequent certain stores, they will use that as a way to build a “connection” by hitting on me then low ball asking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:34 PM
17

What’s PUA? (Still getting the lingo down.) Yea I just deleted his number lol wtf who does that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:11 PM
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I remember this guy just grabbing my phone and putting his phone number in. I wanted to yank it away I was pissed. I showed him the same level of friendliness as everyone and he took it as flirting and got super pushy after that. Probably thought he was being “assertive.” Literally just so full of himself that he assumed I liked him just cause we had a few conversations in class
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:35 PM
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She has good boundaries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:33 PM
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I told this guy who at midnight asked to ride bikes with him and what my name was. I said “I’m meeting someone” and made you a bunch of stuff and he kept pressing so I finally snapped and said “you’re making me uncomfortable.” He backed off and it felt empowering to “politely” tell him to fuck off and have a voice. You have to be assertive and even aggressive sometimes, so there isn’t room for any “confusion”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:56 PM
6

That is the biggest mystery to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:05 PM
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She’s not worth the extra money just to sit next to her? He doesn’t love her, he probably loves the way she loves him in all the ways he doesn’t deserve. That’s trash. How clueless and dumb. He knows or he wouldn’t have to ask. Your gf just told you you’re an asshole and he’s projecting out for assurance to people who will probably tell him he’s not; the consent excuses for men is why they feel so justified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:45 AM
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Oh I’m single af this was a friend but i bounce from those friends too cause I don’t like hanging around insecure guys who act that way. My brother would act that way and whenever he did I condescended with pet names. My father would sabotogize me quite literally amd was very infantilizing because he hated his mother and he didn’t want a girl to outshine him. But I am glad that you said that it makes me more confident that I was right that my fie first relationship was not meant to work out; he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:39 AM
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Or when you make a joke and everyone laughs so they try and “one up you” are you 7 and insecure dude? Grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:18 AM
21

This dude at the weed dispensary flirted with me over my edibles every-time I went. Didn’t use to bother me except for when they actually use that as an excuse to ask you out; that is stresseful! I don’t want to stress about the response to turning someone down when I’m shopping!! If I were available, I’d make my life they way but not when I’m shopping🤦🏼‍♀️ Guys think everything is flirting so I’ve had to learn is that guys over sharing personal details of their life, even small ones, like how t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:16 AM
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What an ass he was!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:29 AM
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For sure. The law is never on our side. I remember initiating, if he touched me without mu consent or initiating I would’ve fucking died; men have no right to initiate sex imho. If she wants it you earn it. Men thinking they can act out their sexual urges on us are sick. It took me years to accept I was molested because yea; it’s all so downplayed!! To touch a woman without her permission and throw a tantrum when she says no to sex; scary. I’m convinced most of them are narcs and sociopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:53 PM
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That is terrifying and fucking creepy!! I miss the concept of building deep emotional connections first and slowly building up to kissing, caressing, etc that they earn and let you initiate. I can’t feel safe otherwise and it’s creepy that most men want to just get instant gratification and expect you to make them happy via your body. That is sick. And the tantrums over “no” seems like a rapist red flag. It makes me so angry and hurt knowing men don’t want to know us as whole humans they just wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:23 PM
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Men hate their own mothers and sisters and daughters. Most of us stop feeling special by the times we are children by violence in our own families. Men created porn, religion, all major institutions meant to oppress women and we are suppose to make them feel special? They’ve shot themselves in the face. He better worship her first if he wants to feel special because he has demoralized her torment on a class level already. This entitlement that we owe them anything...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:42 PM
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“You need to land her before she understands her value.” And I have men calling this sub the “red pill.” “Before she knows her value.” They HATE women who love themselves and men teach each other how to find insecure women to love bomb and then abuse then they get her (my own father taught his son how to abuse women,) bur I women want to love themselves back and not accept any less than a man that will love her with her, and avoid these insecure and traumatized men, she’s “red pill.” God they’re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 07:02 PM
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And she proves she’s smarter and funnier than him in one effortless swoop 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:56 PM
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This is exactly it. Don’t react or take the bait just have a stronger argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:38 PM
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I’m so tired for a moment I read this as “doesn’t make him great” and read “great sex” and “great cook” like yea he better. Then realized it was for women and was like “yea no.” Society is so backwards. Men have to earn this shit for women otherwise it’s just a woman degrading herself. The onus is on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:20 AM
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This is true though. Everyone on my dad’s side of the family mistreated my grandma. She’s complicit with his violence, he doesn’t respect her, teaches his kids not to respect her. My mother married a LVM. How you think he replicated that? My mom thinks my brother is good cause he reminds her of his dad. An emotional distant man, who also had a violent father. If the husband doesn’t respect the wife or kids you should bounce. It’s family dysfunction. Teaching kids to repeat abuse patterns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:08 AM
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Those men don’t care about those women. He’s turned on by imagining he owns her body. These men are merely entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:24 AM
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A green flag is when he wants to hear what you have to say. Enough of that shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:04 AM
2

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:53 AM
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My biggest fear is that trump will likely win. I don’t want him to but me negative predications usually turn out. I hope he doesn’t. To me this is kinda low key a betrayal. She knows I have trauma from a father who speaks to me that way, why would you vote for an abuser? He tried to appeal health care, he wants to cut affordable housing, I am sincerely curious about what she thinks trump has done that is good. Sending kids across the border.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:52 AM
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Giving tree is female too. Symbolic. She deserved better. He made a boat out of her! Completely destroyed her and she ended as a stump for him to sit on. She gave him all her apples and it wasn’t enough. Ungrateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:23 AM
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I mean the predatory behavior is sick. But.... in terms of policies I’ll be voting for him too. I’m shocked by my Rad fem friend. I’m vegan too! Been vegan since 2013.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:37 AM
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Fucking THIS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:53 AM
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Tbh I’m about done with Fb radical feminists cause a good portion of them strike me as identified Rad fems who aren’t actually radical feminists... I can’t even feel safe talking about certain traumas in that community anymore without feeling attacked (women with trauma in romantic relationships; a lot seem to quickly call themselves Rad fems for being anti porn, hating men, and being gender critical, but will displace hatred of men onto other women.) im about done with it. It doesn’t. I don’t g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:52 AM
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Her comment to me;”Hey insert my name here . I don't want you to think I worship Trump I don't I know he is a misogynistic asshole. But he has had to deal with the liberal media doing everything in their power to discount the good things that he has done for the country and there are a lot of good things he has done for the country. So I do support him as the president even though I don't I like him as a person if that makes sense” I am basically choosing not to respond. I’ll have nothing good t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:54 AM
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It’s a damn show. But... :/ 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:28 AM
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One of my radical feminist friend said she’s voting for trump. I don’t know how to react to that. I don’t like Joe, but I don’t want trump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:28 AM
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This bothers me so much :( it seems unreal and unconstitutional that being a sex offender isn’t an automatic disqualifier How do women get justice when men can run for office for crimes that women try and seek justice for? The way trump talks to his daughter reminds me of my dad 🤢 and I don’t like Joe but politically he seems more qualified but UMMM not comfortable with that either. Kayne is a fucking narcissist. Can I be excused from living 😭 I miss the Obama and Romney and we all thought that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:27 AM
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And if you talk about any of the things you just listed “wow there’s sexism against men!” 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ I’ve said I’m terrified of men because my father was so abusive and have actually had men get MAD at me and tell me it is SEXIST that I’m scared and it’s my responsibility to heal and NOT be scared. Fucking narcissists. No empathy or conscience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:15 AM
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And they have the emotional immaturity of children and the sadism of sociopaths. I agree, but it’s so disgusting. I don’t know how else to describe what I’ve witnessed from them. Being sinister and evil and then having the audacity to get mad when you call them perverts or rapists? Like they’re pissed you’re challenging their omniscient narrative in their head, their “I’m a good human being” even while they abuse women. God I’m repulsed by them. Evil creatures that society still expects we worsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:10 AM
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Was raised by a Mormon man who wanked to porn. Can confirm. Men who hate women take their resentment for their mothers out on women and get gleeful about getting to act out abuse on their daughters and view women as sex objects and maids and objects. They are prideful about the immunity in which they can rape women and sexually abuse girls. And get violent when challenged. Like a sociopathic child in a man’s body. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:31 AM
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I was raised by a porn wanker. I had to sabotogize my first relationship where I was being treated well, to avoid future violations from my abuser. The only positive male I had in my life was my brother. I avoid most of them like the plague cause I can smell the red flags that they use porn from a mile away. God, the bar is set so low; my first relationship wasn’t special aside from them having empathy. I’ve not experienced much empathy from males outside manipulation. My mother always said “it’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:09 PM
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My roommates fiancé who whines “cops get shot at all the time.” Really couldn’t have done any better than this whiney plays video games all day, on leave whiney cop? (Sorry Lol I just agree it’s annoying . )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:30 AM
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I have no job right now (trauma related injury,) seeking to better myself and get back in the game. Why tf is it “stuck up” to want to flee someone who feels entitled to a relationship when they haven’t even worked on themselves 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ He sounds very explosively insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:36 PM
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How sad her life is cause she doesn’t want to be a baby mill and a maid? Lmao wow. Every stay at home mom I’ve met is absolutely miserable when they’re not pretending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:24 PM
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This is why I’m a fan of long term commitment without a rock and piece of paper; I’m not a traditionalist. I also don’t want kids. I don’t want a patriarchal family system . I didn’t envy my mother’s life. Marriage is a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:24 PM
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My brother went to therapy. Outside of that, I’ve never heard of it either. Society doesn’t really expect men to make any changes, their dick somehow entitles them to everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:13 AM
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Thank you for the reminder!! I remember when a boy I was dating was sent away I was sad but did really well in Math lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 12:09 AM
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Same. Most men won’t be worthy of it but I can like it. Don’t need their approval on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:47 PM
4

Ugh, gross narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:00 PM
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BELIEVE your red flags. Exactly. I always second guess. “W3Ll th3Y wErE niC3 b3F0r3” 🤦🏼‍♀️@ me Like maybe my perception is off. This is important. 100% of the time I’ve been right. It’s painful to accept how people are. I’m learning to develop thicker skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:00 PM
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Omg niiice that is so sweet. Opals are my absolute favorite. I think diamond are overrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:56 PM
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Right? I have endo too I will bite someone’s head off if they try this crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:54 PM
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A good way to judge a man is to see how he reacts to your pain. Does he want to help and make your pain lighter and is he concerned for you or is it an inconvenience and nuisance to him to the point he tried to invalidate that your pain even exists?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:46 PM
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What I liked about my first relationship and I partially use that as a “guide” but they didn’t say that they showed that, and even looking back, I know they meant it because they were consistent at showing it. At no point did I feel they didn’t care about my feelings. They shouldn’t have to be so dramatic and romanticize how they say it too, that almost makes it sound automatically insincere, it sounds like trying too hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:43 PM
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Ew he seems like he knows nothing about good vibes cause I’m only seeing creep vibes. Dodged a bullet. A pretentious creep at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:42 PM
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Attractive men are so toxic, and I also don’t want ugly men. Meh. I think it’s because they know they’re attractive, unlike women their entire worth isn’t based on their looks but they’ll use it to get away with shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:41 PM
17

My sister dated a boy we called “ giraffe neck” and he still cheated on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:40 PM
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Men abuse their daughters, and we laugh at the traumatized girl. I have been mocked and blamed by so many people for my father sexually assaulting me. It’s sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:17 AM
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I don’t like the porn-y and incesteous undertone to this term either 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:17 AM
8

I love this. This is mood lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:40 PM
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That stuff always strikes me as rape-y. Why don’t men want us to feel 100% safe and comfortable with our autonomy around them? And they think we should just overlook that? Fuck that! Delusional crazies. You dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:51 PM
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This whole space feels like women loving women; very compassionate and concerned about the well being of other women. This is a beautiful space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:23 PM
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My tether once told me “you look pretty when you cry” I’ll be damned if I chose a misogynistic man as an adult fuck no. Why do so many women tolerate this shit. I’ve heard of crying after spanking (pedophilic as fuck,) as a kink.) And “comforting” dom’s who “feel guilty.” It is women acting out and unconsciously trying to resolve traumas and men getting off to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:03 PM
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😂😂👏🏼ok calling me out. I google it for reassurance of what I already know 😅 We are so brainwashed to doubt our intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:41 AM
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Saving. Thank you. I’m afraid to trust men with my autonomy but I want to heal and grow and if I seek relationships, I want to know the other person is trustworthy. It’s been a long time since I’ve even thought about relationships and this helps a lot. This makes me a little sad cause it’s so hard to find with so many of them wanting violent sex.... Petting, holding, nuzzling, caressing; to me that feels loving. If they desire to be rough with you there’s something wrong with them.... it should …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:35 AM
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God. They’re evil...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:51 PM
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😂😂this made me laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:42 AM
8

This is beyond sick. Is he joking about rape?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:37 AM
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Thank you. I know. I’ve wasted months on this :( my plan is to chop it up today and cut it. Seeking therapy for my fb addiction too and shame and guilt. Guilt and shame was the result of years of male violence and being shamed for it; now I have to take care of everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:03 PM
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I have a hard time when I set boundaries and someone asks me if I’m Ok in response to me being online less. I feel like I have to assure them and respond like a compulsion. Because it makes me feel guilty. Working on it but struggling .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:45 PM
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Lmao this can’t be real. They don’t usually admit they’re doing it, but they do this. This is narcissism textbook. (I mean this is real but he just admitted it; usually it’s subtle cause deep down they know it’s abuse.) negging is lowering self esteem for dependency for example. Usually they gaslight you about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:33 PM
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Men are insecure toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:56 PM
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Yea and I rather they show it with other words and deeds like this sappy laying it on thick telling is what they think we want to hear crap isn’t working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:51 AM
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And when we were insecure and grateful for scraps 😭😭💔 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:50 AM
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I looked it as “be an adult.” I tolerated this behavior as a teen. Whatever. We were all still maturing. But into adulthood? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:34 AM
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Oh wow 😂HOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:50 AM
2

What did they say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:50 AM
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I’ve experienced this. Was infuriating. We didn’t speak for a year and he came back to ask me out on a group date with my friends. Probably so to anyone else he could say we were just friends hanging out. I found out he had a gf. He later felt bad and then yellow bellied had my friend text me and said “it would’ve worked out, she just didn’t talk to me.” Ummm you didn’t make an effort for an entire year and it left I’m uncertain terms. I assumed we were over and was hoping to move on. I ignored …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:48 AM
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Time, effort, and energy well spent. That’s all that’s needed! I remember the sweetest things were spontaneous dates or romantic gestures that cost no money at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:35 AM
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WOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:34 AM
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Why don’t more men want to make their partners happy like this or go out of their way like this? This is an aspect of the friendship component; like for my best friend before she passed away, I did “bucket” lists for her, 1. She never held a puppy so I borrowed someone’s puppy lol. Or she was too bed ridden to leave the house so after my beach trip I collected shells in sand and had a little bottle with a tag I made that said “brining the beach to you!” Generosity is a normal aspect of love and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:33 AM
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Fucking hell🤦🏼‍♀️ I’m excited and nervous to start intensive therapy and get my act together after trauma and I want to become a therapist (not for men though lmao. On someone else’s dime.) If I don’t love myself then idk how anyone else will cause I won’t be able to feel it as much. They will always be empty seeking fullness outside of themselves, and too emotionally immature to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:48 AM
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That’s what makes them weak too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:45 AM
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The difference is when women don’t have our shit together we work towards it. I don’t have my shit together yet; working on it. Won’t date anyone until I’m in a stable place and have my shit together. Men just feel entitled to date.. whenever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:40 AM
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Omg I’m so sorry. It’s mind numbing that they think this way. I’m so sorry. It hurts a lot when women do this too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:10 AM
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Narcissists hate when you leave them. They can’t sit with themselves or regulate their self esteem, they externalize onto everything. Men like this are EXHAUSTING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:01 AM
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I know a 56 year old woman who acts like this no lie I thought I was in the twilight zone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:52 AM
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“My crackhead energy.” I love this lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:50 AM
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This space is so validating. I noticed in my father being hostile towards women but feeling insecure around his brothers who had more $ and kids than him, and bigger houses. He overcompensated by abusing women. Women become punching bags for insecure men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:46 AM
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What’s annoying is in nature, those males have to move on. Like ok, you’re single, no woman wants you cause you’re not attractive. Go find a hobby. Volunteer. Nope. They won’t do that. It’s only women seeking to generate their own happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:54 PM
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“MGTOW” like omg nooooo!! I’m gonna miss the honking, street harassment, and stalking :’( That’s how fucking stupid they sound. How can anyone lack this much self awareness? We’ve been asking me to leave us alone for forever! My favorite thing about leaving religion was using the word “fuck.” Could fell as many men as I wanted to to “fuck off.” How creepy and unattractive; dry humping what looks like a dead woman in the corner. They really think we find this attractive? They’re repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:53 PM
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My father is a cop though and all the times he spent teasing and harassing everyone he could’ve actually contributed to the household he had more than enough time to help out. He bragged about never having done laundry and then expected sympathy for that later when she died.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:56 PM
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She was a stay at home mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:55 PM
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I use to tease my brother for having an easy bake cause that was a “girl toy.” (Honestly I was just jealous my mom broke gender norms for him and not me lol, she never bought me “boy” toys. So my brother had to be good at sharing.) he gave me half of the mini cakes anyway so I stopped being mean lol. He still cooks and bakes now. When I saw him and my SIL he made us black bean burgers we all had a good visit. Grown men not being able to cook is pathetic. My father almost NEVER cooked. My mom did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:59 AM
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I think they want women obsessed with their age. Or they’re afraid of women growing in wisdom. They rather women focus on frivolous things so they need men for male approval. Do men really care about age and weight? I think not really, not if they were really attracted to women. They’re attracted to the feeling of power. Power over women. “Sorry but you’ll also age.” Her confidence threatens him. Humans age. Humans gain weight. They target our humanity as a mechanism of control. Just look at how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:05 AM
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This book is so helpful. Although about relationshioships, it helped me understand my father’s abusive mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 01:36 AM
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Women have this except we feel shame and guilt and try and be better. I feel empathy for boys who act our due to trauma bur once you’re an adult, Nope, grow the fuck up. Trauma is a reason to get help not an excuse to treat anyone like shit. They don’t view women as human beings so we are the perfect punching bags for their trauma. And men created the family system with stressed and unhappy mothers. If they wanted it to end, truly wanted it to end, they’d be all for changing it. They don’t. They…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:32 AM
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Lmao narcissists hate being ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:07 PM
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This guy assumed my friendliness was flirting even though my friendliness towards him didn’t exclude me being friendly to other people like I wasn’t singling him out. He starts hitting on me and I start withholding conversation, turning my back, etc, kept pushing. I used every excuse after that cause my body language was so damn clear. Ignoring body language is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:18 PM
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I appreciate this cause I’m tired of it being claimed that ghosting = bad 100% of the time. I’ve had people ghost me before, it hurts, but my life moves foward. Sometimes people are adult enough that you shouldn’t need to explain. I had a woman who claimed she wanted to help me with a crisis situation, but then when she heard how frantic I sounded she laughed and called me “manic.” She knows I have trauma from victim shaming and pathologizing and stigmatizing me for male violence. I didn’t call …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:03 PM
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Anything that holds a mirror to men’s behavior they don’t want to hear. Women are society’s scape goats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:59 PM
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And it 100% is them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:59 AM
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I remember my father cringing and saying I was “picky.” (Weird that he’d care, kinda creepy tbh,) but no most men just aren’t that good looking... and if they are their personality half the time makes em unattractive real fast. Really pathetic. Most women ought to raise their standards even Higher imho, I see kind and loving beautiful women with trolls for partners all the time, lame looks and lack of appreciation for their gf’s and wives all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:33 AM
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How demoralizing and twisted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:24 AM
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It’s scary that men don’t want to build a real connection with a woman before sex. Wtf. Like it’s just a passive act for women and our feelings aren’t there. How much lack of self awareness can a person have to expect a woman to give up her body to a man she barely knows on the first night. How creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:37 AM
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I loved in the show “the Great” Catherine shows how creepy the compliments are bu excessively complimenting a man’s eyes who downplays the creepiness she received and he’s uncomfortable, because when she does it to him it’s transparently sexually harassing and domineering and he doesn’t like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:50 PM
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Some of the “nice” ones I don’t like either. Like a man at the gas station in the drive while I’m walking away pulling you in his car; “you’re going to think I’m crazy but I just think you’re so cute.” That was fucking weird. I remember posting about that and even women are like “he was just being nice?” Really? That was weird. “Sorry to bother you”.(the senior example in the clip.) “You’re going to think I’m crazy but.” Disturbing someone just got go out of the way to comment on their appearanc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:48 PM
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The “men hate normal body fat” gets me a lot. My father called my mother “fat” and she was a size 7 in jeans! She had wide hips but wasn’t fat at all or chunky she was just curvy. I am like a 3-5 and he called me chunky. And I’ve seen this in a lot of relationships. I think dating a man would make me relapse into anorexia. So that’s part of why I am frustrated and in this page. Validation and understanding. And the revulsion to hair... snd wanting a pink slit... they want children. This is scary…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:27 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:02 AM
73

Same. You know what I like to do now is psychoanalyze them . They don’t like that. They’re not as clever as they think. And it scares them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:01 AM
71

How sad. Being heterosexual sucks. They’re so... not evolved at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:00 AM
183

Homo erotic. And I find they often don’t feel they measure up to other men and then they over compensate by dominating women. Women become punching bags. And men can bond over hating them together. Just sick. I remember this abusive male who was crass to women but would get really jealous, like a teenage girl, (no hate to teen girls, I just mean petty/insecure behavior, like girls with internalized misogyny towards each other,) if he saw a buff dude shirtless. Worried his wife would look, and ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:00 AM
58

This is why I find most men utterly unattractive. They remind me of my father and this is absolutely how he views women. He gets off on humiliating and degrading them (Mormon who porn-fies women. His father was also Mormon, and got off on abusing his wife and kids and showing them porn. Joyous childhood.) I’ve had one short relationship and due to circumstances have remained single due to trauma and even if I heal, most are LVM. My first relationship actually made me feel humanized; they would s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:25 AM
120

My sister dated a guy who was waaayy beneath her in terms of looks; still cheated. Don’t settle. You can have both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:07 AM
36

Even worse they will seek “broken” women so they can get an ego boost out of her expecting very little while they subtl-y devaluing her self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:01 PM
15

How pathetic to be a grown ass man and expect your partner to re-parent you. Grow the fuck up before you start dating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:00 PM
8

Omg... I don’t work or have a car right now (life circumstances but looking to cultivate my life,) and I sure as hell won’t date because of that. Why are men even seeking relationships when they still don’t have their shit together. I wouldn’t expect any of that shit either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:25 PM
11

High internalized self objectifiers. I think it’s an aspect of trauma. It is sad women are conditioned to seek this kind of attention, and that now its praised as “empowering.” I went through a phase of acting this way and I personally considered it mental harm to myself. I had to get high to do it. I did it when I felt hopeless and I just wanted to feel numb. A high crash to an emptiness. I was having bad post trauma and acting out traumas. I seek to be critical of myself and grow though. It wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:34 AM
10

It makes me worry hearing that too that maybe she felt she couldn’t say no and was dissociating like either way she isn’t happy and the fact he isn’t in tune shows a lack of empathy and attentiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:38 AM
51

Do men even like themselves? Jesus. Ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:24 AM
87

I love these cats they’re so talky lol. I met one at the vet’s office and the owner was like “sorry he smells your rats!” (He was very upset he couldn’t see them lol. He was yodeling.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:09 AM
9

Awww!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:08 AM
2

I like the roast comments lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:46 PM
5

“Get a muzzle mutt.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:46 PM
1

He’s going to be a real shitty father too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:52 PM
34

Rape culture ftw. They want to own our flesh. Are repulsed at us owning our flesh. Or pointing fingers at women giving their bodies when they’re the ones fueling the supply. Point with their fingers and wank to avoid looking inwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:23 AM
22

I was raised by a porn user mormon who wanted a mini wife. I didn’t get to experience it cause I couldn’t reciprocate due to abuse behind the scenes I didn’t want to accept so I tried to date anyway and got threatened. I felt loved momentarily but as we know mixed signals =no so they understandably stopped putting in an effort. (Teenager, now adult.) I feel like online porn got bad post 2009. I miss innocence. I believe most men cannot love. They do not love women. They love feminity and want se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:47 PM
2

I sincerely hope so, I have no family or friends outside of the Internet, so it’s kind of scary and daunting knowing that I am going to have to basically rely on only myself at this point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:46 PM
16

“If I cant, you can’t” mentality. Corrupt men will defile innocence of children; “if I didn’t get to have an innocent childhood, neither will you.” And the sadistic pleasure of it. “If I cant be happy you can’t be happy.” “If I can’t feel fullfiled then you can’t.” I explained this narrative to my own abuser who looked down and mumbled “everyone says things they don’t mean.” It’s easy to psychoanalyze men cause they’re cut from the same damn cloth. They either get mad or buckle down. I was raise…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:31 AM
36

OMG!! I have a puffer coat! It’s white and it’s makes me look like a massive marshmallow. I got “hey baby.” No make up, messy hair. Wtf. I’ve gotten by kids that looked 13; “you have a big ass and big titties!” .... I struggle to even fit some A cups. Definitely just shouting obscenities. Then said “awe” when I gave them the bird. Kids. Scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:37 AM
54

Probably because you were more vulnerable; I had a man whistle after he saw my face puffy from crying. I was going to have to put my pet to sleep the next day that’s why I was crying. I hate them. So much. I notice if I’m tired or feel unwell that’s when they harass the most. Also when I was a teenager. Huh. Teenagers are vulnerable too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:35 AM
33

It is. Half the time they honk with my back turned. I don’t look cute right now. Haven’t been sleeping. I had a man yell “you’re so cute have a bf?” Before driving off. Idk that my under eye bags and mask and sloppy pony tail were “cute” I think he’s just a weirdo and I hope nothing terrible happens to his tires on the freeway I really hope not. Half the time I’m honked at when I’m observing nature and taking photos; they see a woman enjoying themselves they honk. We should start talking to men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:34 AM
2

I think my experience pushed me more but I was always a critical thinker. “God” never answering my prayers when I begged for the abuse to a stop certainty didn’t help! (I was always weirded out when I saw clips of that movie cause I didn’t get what it was about but I may have to just watch that now!) And thanks you! Means a lot! Here’s the kicker; he may inherit his father’s cancer. If I get out of here and heal, I may very well take his ass to court with evidence I’m collecting but we will see.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:25 AM
5

I appreciate it. I feel bad cause I’m constantly dumping this but until I escape and leave it’s all I can think about. No one here validates me and I’m isolated right now so I’m so grateful for the compassion and support on Reddit and fb because I lose my faith for humanity being surrounded by narcissistic social workers who blame me for the abuse or don’t believe me or see me as a hysterical joke. I don’t believe in god. I just view it as an irrational belief. There’s no evidence and we are ind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:39 AM
9

Time is so important too. Sometimes making time is more romantic and sweet than spending money. That is nice he notices and wants you comfortable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:48 AM
6

It’s crazy how often I’ve seen that here. No one at this agency believes me because it doesn’t benefit them to and they see their clients as liabilities and they basically convinced me to give up my funds. Now I have to have a legal process to get it back even though I didn’t need one then; my father used my ssid (which I need until I heal from Ptsd and get back to work and school if I ever get my funds and heal and leave this agency,) to hold me hostage. Fear mongered me and then got violent ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:14 PM
26

My father molested me and had sexually charged conversations with me my entire teen years. My mother denied it and smeared me as “special needs” so she wouldn’t have to deal with it. I had to seek that special needs agency to leave the incest, and they are now extorting my ssid to keep me with them so I’m having to go back to fighting to get those funds back so I can get intensive therapy and go back to school. He ruined my life. That article shook me (I’ll link it when I can find it; the child …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:07 PM
16

Thanks. xx it did radicalize me though! Leaving woke me up. I believe you. And what’s sick is how much religion influences society and people refuse to acknowledge it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:46 AM
71

Liberal and conservative; two picks of poison. And the problem is the value of men is so low that if one isn’t violent he’s suddenly “high value.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:38 AM
99

Yup. Raised Mormon, and the only policy for divorce is is if he stops paying tithing, going to church, etc etc; basically if he stops following god you can leave him. This does NOT include if he abuses you or your children. There was a woman who left because their husband raped their 5 year old daughter. She actually got so much shit for divorcing him. My mother did 90% of the parenting and my father just got off on harassing and bullying and teasing knowing she would never leave. When I left th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:36 AM
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I have found that religious men are the absolute worst. The family system in religion is often abusive. I have noticed with my brother, and other guys I’ve inow, who are abused by their mothers and also taught that they are superior to women, 1. Do not like women telling them what to do. They’re absolutely incorrigible and they want to feel in control and will feel emasculated “obeying” you. You will be a “nagging bitch.” 2. Not all of them, but a portion of them act out violence on women. They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:23 AM
9

The sad thing is Therapy is super patriarchal. When my mom died my grief was diagnosed as PMMD and major depression. She died and told me she didn’t care her husband abusive and that she essentially knew e whole time and shortly after she’s dead I’m sorry am I not suppose to have emotions? I have also seen men use therapy to manipulate and it is sick. Started saying i was trigger him to blame me for his violent behavior towards me (I was “triggering him.” 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:16 AM
6

Omg I feel this :( my dead best friend’s mother is 56 and still a fucking pick me. She used my best friend to live vicariously through so she could feel young. Doesn’t care about anyone else but herself. She refers to young women as “hoochies.” And talks shit about young women and girls daily. I had to go to her when I was evicted. She raves about my father despite what I’ve told her about him. I told her he molested me when I was 5 and had sexually charged conversations towards me through my te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:20 PM
9

This just makes me so glad I’m no longer in contact with my family, they thought I was less than it’s because I’m not married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:32 PM
12

I did this at 21 then got abused over it and some trauma. Not a traditionalist so even if I had a bf I wouldn’t see the point in marriage, but regressing back time wishing I was in a relationship. Need to revive the 21 year old. She didn’t need them because she was starting to love herself. You just need to love yourself and generate your own happiness. Most men don’t even have hobbies the just want a woman to serve them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:31 PM
47

“You immortalized my torment.” Fucking worded spot on. And the shameless comment Ugh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:28 PM
60

THIS!!!! “Men don’t care about who they damage but they do care about their reputations.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 11:29 PM
10

I thought it sounded condescending.... like virtue signaling, unsolicited advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:38 PM
2

A spider landed on my hand 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:34 AM
4

I have a cracked iPhone 6s though lmao 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:55 AM
81

Some of the most unhappy women I know are in relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 06:52 PM
11

And yet people still doubt we live under patriarchy...... this would never happen in a woman run world. BuT p3Opl3 @R3 m3An t0 3ach0tHeR. In a just world I’d put lighter fluid to my abuser and walk away without shedding a tear. They deserve to die for sexual violence and assault. She did nothing wrong. She should not be punished. We are punished for taking justice into our own hands because men don’t care about justice .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:22 PM
3

Your caption is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:33 PM
6

Love this. I need to get back into this. It helped me get over men too; who needs them when you can generate your own happiness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 09:25 PM
3

Sociopaths....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:28 AM
9

This is how narcissistic. Yea like WOW the craziness of men needing to prove they’re safe, trustworthy, loyal and reliable before they can be trusted by women... This is so demoralizing... if they’re not in it to be there for has someone then it just sounds like manipulation/rape to me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:33 AM
2

I’m anti porn. I may have misunderstood the comment. I haven’t watched the video. Porn isn’t real or healthy sexuality but it is sexualized sexual assualt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:02 PM
15

I don’t ever click this video cause I know it will be repeating the same shit they always repeat and I’m just going to be pissed off the whole time lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 04:22 AM
6

Omg if their ego feels threatened they will show you no mercy it is sick. I’m so sorry you deal with that and absountely! No worries :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:07 AM
12

There’s a book called “controlling people” by Patricia Evans and she explains the psychology of controlling people so well. Defining someone’s reality, as if you were them, without their consent and not allowing them to define their reality to you, even arguing your perception of their reality over their understanding of it, is something she mentions a lot, it’s a common form of control and an insidious form of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:01 AM
27

“Men having feelings!” Yea, every woman whose father punched holes in the walls know that. The rantings of a tantrum throwing histrionic child not getting enough attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:07 AM
7

My sister dated an ugly guy only to get cheated on. It’s fine for the men to wander around but they want women to be loyal to them while they wank off to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 10:06 PM
2

I’ve had men hit on me in the Fb marketplace.. like wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:52 PM
22

This was like when my mother told me I was screaming cause I was scared the door was going to hit me, after swinging the door open and threatening to slap me, lunging her arm at me, and screaming. Called me “crazy” for screaming, then said “it was the door” (started defining my reality and re-writing history.) I’ve had my father sexualize my leg and objectify me repeatedly, after getting bit by a dog that he didn’t say was “that bad.” They will do anything to to evade their behavior so they can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:14 PM
30

Incest is incredibly common too. It is sick that the heaviest traumas for women are men’s biggest turn on’s... and why oh why would women bear children to these men? Darkened souls do get turned on by stealing away innocence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:53 PM
11

Part of why I'm single is to preserve good body image; they seriously don't expect us to be human like god forbid a woman is bloated or tired or hungry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:00 PM
83

I remember at like 17 or so I'm like "oh I just got out of the shower." "Mmm quit turning me on." ????? Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:30 AM
9

It's like when toddlers say they're running away lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:47 PM
29

This is why I have no empathy for them... ffs. My father said his father treated his mom like trash. And what does he do? Treat my mom and all us women like trash. They don't grow up into better more moral human beings. They use their shitty fathers as an excuse to deliberately repeat cycles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:15 PM
5

My father once muttered "and how my dad treated my mom." abuses my mim they have no sense of awareness OTHER men are always worse than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:08 PM
10

I've been abused by women and by men and what I notice is women are usually motivated by a desire to feel emotionally fulfilled by someone else, whereas men quite honestly just get off in making you feel crazy. They created a system that bases a woman's worth on male approval and self image that way they can control us based on this and so we will believe anything they say against our better judgement because we have already been taught that we are fundamentally flawed anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:07 PM
22

How can any women support porn when it's so painfully clear how men who view porn view women? "Hahaha bobs and vagane"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 06:59 PM
18

Ofc, they all know his deep down it's why they constantly announce that they're "going their own way." And women tend to have our discussions in our women circles because we acted the same way we'd be enduring tantrums all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 06:49 PM
5

Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:35 AM
15

I relapsed last year I'm seeking recovery this year. When you don't feel happy with yourself or the present sometimes you regress into feeling the need to have approval and validation from others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:04 AM
43

I would like to think I'm slowing crawling out of the ground (zombie pickme learning not to give a fuck lol.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:27 AM
111

A transparent way of saying "we put women in their place" in the midst of movements meant to further someone's humanity, this is a slap in the face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:13 AM
40

yes. We are often taught not to trust our bodies, even the we are "over reacting." This insidious form of abuse and oppression teaches us to discount our own intuition. It's taken me till my late 20's to start getting this down. Our bodies tell us the truth. Love your bodies and stop doubting yourself. I remember this guy sending iffy texts like he sounded conceited and arrogant. Turns out he had a gf and thought I wouldn't find out. I needed to feel "saved" cause I was living with abuse. So I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:03 PM
19

These women hurt other women by saying this. They do not care. And totally; a dad who buys women is a wonderful father and husband. Like are you shitting me??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:57 AM
8

I remember literally thanking a guy for not yelling at me... yea... was living in an abusive home and thus, I was codependent and afraid of people's anger cause I needed my abusers happy to survive so I would praise them for scraps and undermine my needs. (I've learned most people are shit because of this; most people will cash in on that and take an ego boost that you thank them for basic consideration.) We were in a heated debate and I was really pushing it. I was passionate and assertive and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 07:30 PM
6

It's ridiculous, I'm in an ex Mormon sub Reddit (the sexuality policing I experienced on top of being sexual abused by a family member was absolutely toxic and abusive,) and I'm disagreeing with a "joke" meme on Reddit in that community about choking. (Nala growing on top of a scared looking simba, captioned "my gf asking me to choke her, my sexually repressed ass." )Ok.... no... Mormonism caused shame for me having any sexual desire at all. Loving and affectionate sex is in no way "repressed." …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:00 AM
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This is such a good assessment. I think everyone has been sexually abused in some way, at least covertly; I think religious sexuality policing is a socially acceptable form of sexual abuse; owning someone's sexuality and instilling shame without even touching them. I've seen the all too negative effects of this. When this is normalized it's hard to untangle. Most people don't even view indoctrination as a form of child abuse. So then how do we heal? What a mess. Not sure why I'm getting downvote…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:56 PM
29

Traumatized women trying to act out their trauma in a scenario where they feel in control. I blame our mental health system too that often doesn't want to deal with trauma; they want to pill and label you. (Leaving my own insurance because of this.) often times, therapists will label and pill you and only want to discuss said label. Not the trauma when the label is a symptom of said trauma. So many women go into relationships to act out their traumas. You need to heal your sexual and emotional t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:48 PM
27

A man who has not resolved himself enough to maturely handle rejection has no business asking a woman anything. Wtf. I remember the first time I told a boy "no" at a dance he was too scared to ask me and had his friend do it. I said no. He started wailing about it "why? WHY?" (Not violent, and we are only 13 but I know that's a red flag now.) But breaking a bottle? Yikes. Men externalizes so they won't internalize. If your self esteem is that low, work on your damn self. Men are so afraid of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:43 PM
8

Thank you, although I literally waited till my life was in shambles and my mental health was screaming before I decided to do this. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:14 AM
73

I'm single and I do this... it's also a symptom of trauma (codependency.) I was denied jurisdiction over my life by my family of origin and then abused in another agency. It's why healing is important for me before seeking romantic relationships. I need to gain full control over my life first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:17 AM
5

Wow :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:47 PM
5

How ironic and sick of men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:46 PM
4

Same :( I have high libido but was living with my attacker who threatened me if I dated, also raised Mormon. Left at 21. I'm a virgin and it's like I'm afraid and having "what if's", like "what if" I become mentally stable and become overly trusting and seek a relationship fast only to get degraded. There's no logic to this at all but I feel it. It is beyond frustrating. Being heterosexual sucks tbh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:46 PM
12

My libido is high if he's generous and goes out of his way for me then it's more like I want to cause I feel enamored; my love language is touch and physical intimacy but I need to feel like my emotions are valued first and feel desirable and loved. Make me feel that way and I pretty much want it all the time. And I can only feel safe with men who value and put my emotions first and are intuitive and caring and aware of my emotions without needing to be asked. Most men are not willing to work fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:43 PM
11

This is borderline sexually aggressive why do they think women want this? If a man is wanting sex right away I'd be scared cause to me that screams "rapist" louder than anything else. Not to mention this is objectifying af. No wonder he's single. His poor previous gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:30 PM
7

I acted traumas bad last year and now it's like, I'm wishing to heal so I can be stable for relationships... feeling like I need it to be happy because my education and success got sabotogized. I learned I could regulate my own happiness and due to abuse I lost that. Learning to love me and not blame me and knowing I'm the whole deal and don't need that is really hard. I get it. I never want to leave my bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:48 AM
16

I needed this reminder. I love that this space isn't purely about dating but also about self love which I guess at its core is where healthy relationships come from anyway. I hope to fall back into being content with myself. Re-traumatization has made me need to proactive this everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:38 AM
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As bad as it sounds I'm relieved. She was terrible. Thanks for listening 💞 I am going to see a trauma specialist after shut downs end and seek intensive care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:24 AM
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My mother died at 45. Her husband sexually abused me as a child and all in my teens had sexually charged conversations directed at me and objectified me. My mother refused to divorce him and blamed me. He also bragged about never doing laundry; I did my own laundry while she did everyone else's, he almost never made dinner and when the dog got sick and puked I'm the kitchen and I called him to ask where the cleaners were he said "call your mother." She died at 45. The autopsy showed nothing. One…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:11 AM
8

Forgive my ignorance but what is TRP? I have a guess but I'm not 100% sure. That is sick that men will rally on how to spot insecure women... I had a man on my Instagram who I thought was just having a friendly chat with me say "do you have a pic that looks younger than your profile? Let's see some picks." I'm looking back on my photos and I post about my eating disorder, and I'm also living at home at the time and experiencing abuse. So a lot of my posts are me fearing seeming arrogant so a lot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:29 PM
1

Exactly. I crave nurturing and would love a healthy relationship but soooo many watch porn and are turned on by rape that I want a relationship but I'm also terrified at the same time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:12 PM
8

Saving this post for the next claim. I posted a comment in a ex Mormon group that offended some dude: "society is very harsh towards women for aging. I know it shouldn't bother me but it does, I was dealt an ugly hand and am very behind and I dread coming older. I have trauma and then society is harsh about this." He comments about this page I'm following and says it's "the red pill for women." Tf. Men commit 90% of violent crimes godforbid heterosexual women who want a loving and nurturing part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:10 PM
2

This is so fucking depressing :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:07 PM
10

I've been in a position of vulnerability most my life. Was raised in a very abusive household and he agency I fled to cashed in on my vulnerability (now on shut down.) I can't wait to become empowered and get away. I feel humiliated constantly. They act hostile when I'm assertive so I have to kiss ass and beg for scraps. Oppressive situations make you codependent. I don't like this at all. Going to work on loving myself during and after this. Oppressors don't care about your humanity. You can't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:53 PM
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A woman who feels cherished and loved will want to be loving and nurturing in return. It's fucking common sense. Treat women well and they will want to treat you well. So many men are grandiose and expect women to just give and give with nothing offered and nothing in return. I'm convince most of them are narcissists. Calling women "hoes" when men are primarily sexually predatory is such darvo bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:31 AM
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A go to response (depending on if he's violent or not,) "ok, if you want to be melodramatic about this, that is your choice. Don't speak then."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:23 AM
33

Same. Absolutely petulant and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:22 AM
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