Channeling this energy today.

thruawoo90210 · 2021-09-29T16:17:00+00:00

There's some peace that comes with it, first and foremost is middle aged men losing their interest. It's a damn blessing

Newwavesupport3657 · 2021-09-29T17:52:51+00:00

I’m still afraid of getting older due to repeatedly being traumatized. But I’ve gained more knowledge getting older.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-09-29T18:19:58+00:00

40+ and it’s awesome but I also feel a disconnect with my younger sisters. I’ve gone so far into the not-giving-a-fuck territory that my advice when asked is always “just don’t, stop. who cares”. Easier said than done, I know.

s_slayer · 2021-09-29T22:09:41+00:00

It's so liberating to not care what men think of you, or if you stop turning their heads as much. I'm 47 and the peace I feel at this age was virtually unknown to me in my 20s, and very seldom known to me in my 30s. I just stopped wearing makeup last year and I choose my glasses over contacts far more now, wear comfy clothes instead of trying to be sexy. To me that IS sexy. Sexy is being who you want to be, comfortable in your own skin. I'm just sorry it took me decades of massive insecurities but I finally arrived and armed with infinitely more wisdom. This time is about me, not about men or their wants or getting their cheap attention. Although I am finally getting to experience what truly making love feels like (I realize now it was just sex/fucking with the others), I was fine with never having sex again. I could please myself better anyway. When you finally realize the sheer rarity of a HVM and accept that, you start to focus more on yourself and all that energy you used to put towards men can be channeled into a very satisfying life.

ETA: I do still wear makeup but when I want to. I no longer feel like I have to just to go to the store and whatnot. I love feeling sexy and feminine but I no longer limit that feeling to special times I doll myself up. I feel sexy pretty much all the time now.

TigreImpossibile · 2021-09-30T00:03:05+00:00

Bahahahaha!!! AMEN!!!

I love being in my 40's, I love everything about it and even though I know that looks aren't that important and it's how they objectify us our entire lives, I also still look good, bitch. The thing they use against us to make us feel terrified of aging and losing our value because of brainwashing and gaslighting our entire lives is a whole fucking lie, anyway, haha!!!

Eat shit, scrotes.

queenagave · 2021-09-29T18:37:45+00:00

I was just talking about this yesterday. My sister was talking about getting older and how she doesn't know how to feel and I was like I fucking love it. I love the confidence gained, lessons learned, life lived, another year of discovery and growth. Who wouldn't love that?!

lucidlotus · 2021-09-29T20:41:45+00:00

I have an elderly female relative who never partnered/married or had children. She's always had several pets and been active in her community. When I was younger I felt sorry for her because I didn't know any better. (Admittedly my dad making critical comments about her "feminism" didn't help.) Now I admire her for her independence and recognizing early on that men could be trouble.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-09-30T01:28:29+00:00

No, you're not supposed to be afraid of ageing. This youth worshipping culture isn't normal or natural.

RufusLaButte · 2021-09-29T18:44:50+00:00

Mid-30s here and have just been coming into this feeling in the last couple of years. It is SO great. So freeing if you let it be.

eatchickpeas · 2021-09-29T19:12:25+00:00

now that im getting older its easier to recognise the red flags in men, i can sense it alot faster when a man is about to start being creepy and what i need to do in response to shut him up. i no longer have that naivety i did when i was younger

ms_monquis · 2021-09-29T18:51:39+00:00

Truth! And, my darlings, tap into those knowledge wells! It's a classic, tried-and-true attitude of The Youth to dismiss The Elds as "pff they're old, what do they know?" Plenty, that's what they know. Not everything, not always right, but there's a chance they've already been through what you're struggling with, and could give you some perspective you can't see from there.

Torrey_not_Kori · 2021-09-30T00:07:01+00:00

I'm told to be afraid of getting older cuz sexual desirability and all that. But like...that doesn't factor in. Mostly I'm worried about getting older because that means I'm closer to death and the great unknown and all that.

I am looking forward to graduating college (finally) and hopefully being financially secure in the next few years.

Jezebel143 · 2021-09-29T19:38:43+00:00

I let my grays grow in as they please for the past couple years and let me tell you: I get compliments EVERY time I go out in public! I make sure to tell everyone that it’s all natural and that it’s okay to go gray if that’s what you want to do!

kinkardine · 2021-09-29T20:37:22+00:00

I have found in my previous country/culture that people are genetically mutated to obey anything that a 40+ woman says, no wonder our prime minister and opposition party leader are both 40+ woman, men are more cautious around you, they do not perceive you as an entertainment piece, they kind of think if an elderly women is saying it it may make sense because they(men) do not want to exercise their brain neurones anyway. So I have always dreamt about being 40+, I do not need sex appeal, I need to be seen as a human.

Antique_Fortune6974 · 2021-09-30T00:26:07+00:00

Life has just started for me at about 22 or 23, I've felt like I actually started my " glow up" last year at 25 and I can only assume that its only going to get better as I get older. 😁

OptionalCookie · 2021-09-29T22:25:48+00:00

Straight facts.

Sometimes I think about the things younger OptionalCookie did and I kind of want to slap her for not finding her voice and trusting her gut.

But then I'm glad the older OptionalCookie has found her voice, and will trust her gut than someone's words or actions.

blueboobs- · 2021-09-29T19:54:52+00:00

I Only want to stay young LOOKING 👼👼because I DARE one of these motberfuckers to actually try to play me like a child! I want to be the bait that makes them walk right into a straight scalping. They never see it coming. 🙃

Nessigrrrl · 2021-10-01T21:28:41+00:00

Same.

Also, I wish this supposed "wall" existed. I'm way past it and men still bother me... I just want to be left alone and ignored.

warinmymind94 · 2021-10-06T00:52:47+00:00

I'm 26 and already have seen myself grow so much. I've learned to stop caring about stupid things, I started speaking my mind more when appropriate, I learned how to and started enforcing my boundaries. I started using the "block and delete" tactic for low value men and friendships.

Recently spent time with my grandparents. Sure it cost me a lot of time and lost work to take those 2 weeks off... but it was so worth the investment. They both love me show much and set a great example for what I should expect. The best was telling my grandpa that in person and thanking him for that. If you guys recall my one post I wrote about how he gave me the bicycle he restored from his death bed for my birthday, even with dementia and no money, not being able to walk or leave or anything. And yet he still managed to arrange it for me. It's another perfect example of if he wanted to, he would but it also is like my grandpa could do all that for me and these guys can't even make time to send a quick text to check in on me 🤡

Title	Channeling this energy today.
Author	jingks_
Upvotes	1911
Comments	59
Date	September 29, 2021 3:12 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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