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| 1 | stop this bragging about cheap men. it perpetuates that this is okUpdate there was no other dates and she ended doing a thrift store "date" where the scrote stole $20 from her! There us NO reward for being the cool-girl pickme she was trying so hard to be. The svrotes used and literally stole from her and wasted her time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/22 12:35 AM |
| 20 | The Rise of Gen Z Celibacy (PATREON EXCLUSIVE)I turned 28 and haven't had sex in about 2 years. I had been open to dating if a man that was actually a functioning adult and expressed some effort came along, but that hasn't been the case. I've been very happy with my vibrator though. I've only been on a handful of dates since finding fds about 2 years ago and honestly I've saved myself a lot of time and headache that would have been spent on lvm confusing me with low effort and games, when the reality is they just weren't interested enough i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/22 09:14 PM |
| 14 | stop this bragging about cheap men. it perpetuates that this is okGoes Along with the line "play stupid games win stupid prizes" and "you teach people how to treat you"... she's allowing this type of cheapness and laziness on the first "date" and it'll never get better than the first date. Now he knows that she's a cool girl type and won't bother trying with anything. You best believe that she is gonna be the one texting and calling him first, begging for his time, and she will be planning and paying for herself if they continue on with this nonsense. If she w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:25 PM |
| 22 | stop this bragging about cheap men. it perpetuates that this is okWould have been acceptable if it was like an outdoor mall or movies and the target was there. Maybe she wanted to grab something before the movie and he came in. That would have been okay. Tbh I was on a date in the past at an Italian place in a strip mall environment and there was a grocery store down from it. After the date I told him I was gonna run in quick because I needed flour and it was right there. He laughed and said he was gonna do the same so he came in with me paid for the flour and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:50 PM |
| 54 | stop this bragging about cheap men. it perpetuates that this is okThe comments are despicable calling it wholesome and a story to tell their future kids. She resells used clothes as her living, but that doesn't mean she needs to accept cheap walks /tagging along on an errands run as a "date". I'm genuinely embarrassed for her and confused as to why this is making any waves. It's also sending this message to vulnerable pickmes that target walks are CuTe and fUn and she went so the pickmes will think "well other girls are going on target walks, I guess that's th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:46 PM |
| 92 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.Everyone I knew it was a last resort choice they didn't want to have to make. They struggled with it. One of my friends, now years later, still feels bad about it. But she was raped and young and wasn't ready to be a parent mentally and also wasn't able to provide for a child. Imagine if her rapist was the one held accountable and if it was men that had to deal with being shamed, deal with fake religious hypocrites yelling as you go into the clinic, having the trauma and also the effects on your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:12 PM |
| 143 | Thoughts On This “Men Paying On Dates For Them To Look Out For Entitled Women” article??Him being in my presence is a gift. I'm beautiful and smart and captivating. Men get off on being seen with a pretty woman in public too. He can at least pay for the meal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:33 PM |
| 2 | don't date him "as practice" when you don't like him or saw red flagsYeah I don't need practice. Reading fds and learning lessons from my past (reflecting, Journaling, therapy helped with this) were plenty of practice. I was at a group event and the guys of course turned the discussion to some trash dating show and started whining that supposedly women in town only want casual then ghost the men after getting sex. I said laughing that sounds like the sex was bad for them and that's why all these women ghost you after that 1 time, maybe it's something on your end.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:31 PM |
| 57 | What is the Bare Minimum? (A Reminder) about what the bare minimum is. Don’t celebrate when someone you date has these qualities. I know it’s hard, but we should expect this in everyone.Fantastic post and thank you for sharing again. You have to act like you're used to be treated well. I had a guy on a first date that I vetted really flaunt his debit card Around when the check came. He kept moving it around and then said randomly "I have wells Fargo see" like he kept trying to get me to say how he's paying or offer and I wouldn't acknowledge it all. I kept talking about traveling. At the end of the date before I leave I will say thanks for dinner and it was great getting to mee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:22 PM |
| 238 | Thoughts On This “Men Paying On Dates For Them To Look Out For Entitled Women” article??I want to check if the man is entitled see if he begs to pay half of my birth control, gyno appointments, if he begs to pay for half my lingerie, half of my nails, half of my outfit ... I mean men want 50/50 sooooooo ( haha) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:13 PM |
| 112 | Thoughts On This “Men Paying On Dates For Them To Look Out For Entitled Women” article??Ah a divorce lawyer giving advice to the redp1lled ince1s, classic. This is clever the lawyer giving "advice" which results in more divorced men needing services to come to him. If he won't pay for a dinner then he's cheap, doesn't see me as a relationship, shows ge isn't interested in me. Plus dies he know that he can AT LEAST pay for a dinner? I'm taking time out of my day and driving to meet him. I'm getting dolled up in a pretty outfit and makeup and heels to impress. It's not cheap or easy.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:12 PM |
| 7 | Asked out by the same guy twice: please help me FDS, you’re my only hope.You knew from the start he wanted more. Straight men are never just your "friend" it's their attempt to get ammo or leverage a situation to get the out of his league girl to fall in love with him. Lvm think they can make you like them via wearing you down lol. You need to create distance with this man if you can't delete/block him. Sounds like he's a work type of scrote so the best exit since you'll still have to bump into him is to slowly and carefully fade out - start loosing interest, keep yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:05 PM |
| 262 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.The amount of men that have opinions about abortion baffle Mr and Infuriate me. Without safe and legal access to abortions, women will be forced to have a baby they can't afford, or provide for, or suffer physical complications (some women can't healthily Carry a baby) and have more psychological trauma. Some women will turn to shady "doctors" or scary DIY /at home abortion methods which can result in serious health complications and death. The thing is you can support abortion without ever gett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:54 PM |
| 235 | The Pickme Paradox.Anyone else calling out the hypocrisy and double standard that society is trying to push: telling women "charge him for that lingerie pic sis, get the bag! Charge him to talk to you!" But they're also the ones saying that casual sex with men that you just met and don't even know is empowering, they're saying it's cool just to Netflix and chill (or walk around or get a hotel, etc) which is basically free prostitution. 🤔 How can they tell us its cool to charge him for some steamy pics (aka "crumbs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 05:30 PM |
| 18 | What characteristics are you looking for in a partner?I like the tall dudes that have some meat on their bones but not obese, just tone and strong. I like men that are well groomed as far as hair goes, beards are okay if short and Clean. I like men that take charge in the sense that they have a plan. They make effort in the convo and with me. When they get to a place, they're leading the way and showing me a good time. They treat me. They handle the issues and make sure I'm comfortable. My grandpa was a take charge man like that. It doesn't mean I'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:16 AM |
| 28 | OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours.I'm really glad you saw through him and investigated him before wasting more of your time. You did the right thing. Women get shamed for being "creepy stalkers" but for safety we should be checking his number and looking for social media. Saves a lot of time. Good job vetting. I hope the red flag list helps others see things | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:06 AM |
| 4 | don't date him "as practice" when you don't like him or saw red flagsYeah I haven't been friends with any pickmes in years. I tolerate the work ones but keep a distance too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:57 AM |
| 32 | Can we stop calling them fuck boys and move forward to the simple and subhuman title of skank?But men want to side with feminists now and go 50/50 so by that logic that means they should also be sl0t shamed in the same ways that we have all been (Half being sarcastic) I'm just tired that they Want 50/50 but then can't actually take what they dish.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:56 AM |
| 89 | FDS Spared Me A Proverbial GrenadeTHIS is why you REPORT (if possible, do at your own safety/repression risk) delete and block!!! At the FIRST red flag. This is ehy you listen to your gut if something feels off, even if you haven't seen a red flag. This is why you don't give men chances and ignore red flags or your gut. I'm so glad you ran at the first red flag, but it is awful to hear what happened to the next woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:51 AM |
| 90 | OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours.I'm here to point out the red flags. Joe is what I call the "good old country boy" lvm scrote. 🚩 saying that he likes giving women flowers and that he's a "romantic" - almost like a virtue signaling. Goes along with the dudes that say "I'm honest, hard working, loyal, I have a car, I pay my bills, I cook, etc" it's ridiculous because there's no need to advertise bare minimum. Men that advertise are not any of those things, it's their mask. 🚩saying he loves "feminine woman" now we tend to think o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:36 AM |
| 10 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyI can't watch anything like those shows. It's cringey. I saw the trailer for the ultimatum and yikes.... begging a man to marry you... that's a big nah sis. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 02:19 AM |
| 21 | 🙄I doubt retail company opening was a black tie eventHer makeup and hair look great and her outfit is cute and very trendy. He's being a jerk and negging her. Glad that she left and took the uber that was on his dime. Hopefully he has been deleted and blocked as well. Scrotes though think it's okay to roll up to a date in sweaty gym clothes with unkempt goat beards and cheetos dust .... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 02:16 AM |
| 16 | don't date him "as practice" when you don't like him or saw red flagsYeah its good to have a few men that you're actually interested in and vetting, date multiple if possible I was just saying though she would tie herself up with practicing with guys that she knew she didn't like and knew she didn't want anything with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 02:12 AM |
| 20 | ladies, how do you hold space for yourself?Not sure if this helps but my great aunt is in her 60s. Her husband passed a few years ago. She sold the house and bought a small condo for herself. She has a man in her life who she calls her "beau" but she does not want to marry him. He lost his wife as well to her passing and also has his own small condo. What they do is go out together, vacation together, and she goes over to his place or vice versa and then when they're done the other goes home. This way she gets to keep her own clean and d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 07:41 PM |
| 9 | Let’s translate “he’s bad at texting”All facts. Also because he has other side pieces / spinning plates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 07:18 PM |
| 7 | OLDs are literal hellYou don't need to give anyone reasons for requiring them to be vaccinated. You're being responsible and now I'm going on a larger scope saying that you don't nerd reasons because you shouldn't have to explain why for anything else that js your standard as well. He also should have read your profile. Should not have even responded back since he has an issue. But no they always have to have the last say with negging or gaslighting involved. Also, those type of responses from men plus the fact I do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Positive stories of finding a HVM or enjoying singlehood?Productivity, clarity, and happiness have increased. I'm less emotional (less crying, less sad, less upset). No cleaning up after pets - no stinky cat liter or them flicking it onto the carpets No dirty smelly laundry left all over the floor especially dirty socks all over the house No trash thrown on the floor. No dirty plates or cups left in strange places. No finding my food being eaten or being tempted by him eating fast food Bathroom stays clean and doesn't smell. My toothpaste, deodorant, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 05:45 PM |
| 26 | Lazy/useless men & the 'Why should I? It's my time' mentality.You're a queen. I'm sorry you were overworked as a result of his laziness, and he's another example of why pickme moms are so dangerous. Their sons are coddled so much that they turn into Jeffs who are not only lazy, but useless. The other common theme is that these pickme moms will constantly blame a condition- oh its his autism, or well he's depressed, or let's say he was the one on crutches then she would have blamed that as the reason. You speaking up though was the right thing in your case.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 05:34 PM |
| 5 | Block & Delete isn't always EnoughI was at a smaller concert with my friends and a tall dude was moving around through the crowd pushing people and when he got near me, he grabbed my boob, definitelydelibtate as he squeezed it harshly. Feeling what happened, my instinct took over and I smacked him. I also said angrily don't you dare grab my boobs you perv and my friends heard and immediately started defending me. Dude got embarrassed and got far away from us. The crowd was so thick I couldn't even push through to notify anyone a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 05:19 PM |
| 18 | if you are using OLD here's some tips from my experiencesYeah I always disclose that I do not recommend OLD but I know many are still using it. This may break policy, but I found it helpful to start off by getting back in the dating game by putting myself on OLD again. I was able to really get comfortable being more ruthless, set boundaries, and learned a lot more red flags that I wasn't aware of before. It showed me that I was leveling up more and learned more lessons of what to avoid. It oddly made me feel even more confident. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 07:15 PM |
| 16 | if you are using OLD here's some tips from my experiencesThat's more or less an accurate way to show the saved time. Like this morning I woke up to about 10 new messages ... all were copypastas of how are you with some more fluff. All did not read my profile, no one answered or mentioned my prompt. So I didn't even need to look through the rest of their pics or bios, they were blocked immediately. I'm not a plate to be spun. If he can't make the bare minimum Effort of sending me an original opening message (showing he read about me) then why should I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 07:11 PM |
| 14 | Block & Delete isn't always EnoughExcellent post and points made here. I do realize that there are cases and factors, like the ones you mentioned, that make telling something that could be even more harmful. It's definitely reality. Everyone just has to make the judgment call. Luckily in my situations, I knew that telling on the guy in my college class would be fine and with the retail job I worked over summers I knew I could get get another | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 04:10 PM |
| 2 | NVM Single DadsI would actually call cps and report that. I'm concerned for his daughter. Lvm never actually "joke" there's always a truth to it or a shot test ti see how much they can get away with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 10:36 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?Several of mine are cross posted and dragged. You're doing something right. We are onto lvm and exposing them, hence the mantrums | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 10:31 PM |
| 33 | if you are using OLD here's some tips from my experiencesThis is a good strategy. The predate phone call is very important. Some opt for a video call but I always found a phone call to be easier for me to keep short and sweet - around a half hour. Most of the apps have an option for you to call through the app, or if not I would give them a texting app fake phone number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 07:27 PM |
| 56 | if you are using OLD here's some tips from my experiencesBecause I would sift through hundreds and it's a time thing. Most men that I find some level of physical attraction to won't bother messaging me at all, may not match, and if they send a message there's a high chance it'll be a copypasta or a generic how r u.... so in those cases I don't even need to take the time and effort to actually look through the rest of their pics or bios.... because they already weren't up to par. Very few men actually take the time to answer my prompt .... so there's v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 07:18 PM |
| 2 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesYou were being a good friend and being honest with her by telling her that it's on her to have boundaries (and higher standards). Casual hookups mixed with being drunk are high risk for stds, unwanted pregnancies, violence, assault and rape. There's even a good chance she got attached to these men after sleeping with them, hence why she's upset and asking you for some advice. I lost a lot of friendships with women like your friend when I started leveling up. It's been hard. But these women are l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:54 AM |
| 65 | Subtle signs a man is going to be a terrible fatherTake a look at how he takes care (or fails to take care) of his pets. Especially if it's a cat or dog. Is the house clean? Or is there dander and hair all over everything. Are the food and water bowls neglected or is there always a dirty floor and crumbs around it he leaves? For cats is the litter cleaned daily, and does he vaccuum up the litter that tracks out? Does he walk and play with his dogs, are they well trained? It can give you a good idea of what he would be like as a parent. If he can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:17 AM |
| 74 | On Bad Habits - Why Texting That Old LVM Is A Form Of Self Harm, & YOU AREN’T A SPORT! Why He Doesn’t Qualify For A ‘Second Shot’ - Don’t Let Your Vulnerability Be His Advantage.Block and delete him if possible. I know some people have kids and need to coparent so that's an exception. But seriously if there aren't court upheld reasons why you need to have contact, then don't. All it does is tempts you and brings up emotions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:09 AM |
| 28 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?The reality of fds is understandable that it will be difficult and statistically unlikely to find a hvm, and being happy single otherwise. Because it's better to be happy and single rather than in an abusive bangmaid style marriage with a lvm. I've honestly stopped focusing on "putting myself out There" and stopped dwelling on how the statistics are against me to find something genuine with a hvm... and instead I'm just sharing my experiences and reading here, and I'm focusing on what I want to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:02 AM |
| 452 | If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right.This is the vibe that I out out at work and when I go out in public. You'll probably notice a lot of them staring at you or even ogling at you. I'll be alone and yet they don't even bother to approach. But they will stare at me and my chest like a hungry dog looking at his dinner. It's vile but I'm definitely doing something right. I generally act like I don't notice them at all and like they don't exist. When I walk I keep good posture and my head higher, and I have a confided when I walk. I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 12:49 AM |
| 14 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.The way I grew up was that my family went out to eat every weekend, usually after church on Sundays, but sometimes we would go Saturday night instead. My parents really liked chains so that was the usual but we would also go to upper class places and we especially as kids really liked fast food too. So I had a variety. And then when I grew up I saw what it's like to have a work week and stressors of bills, meal prepping and grocery shopping, being tired of just eating in, and holy cow.... Eating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 10:27 PM |
| 11 | Beware of men who try to turn every discussion into an argumentThis is negging. It's his way of undermining everything you say. It makes you get "put in your place" and gives him power to correct you and tell it the way he thinks it is. It will start Chipping away at your self esteem and you'll start overly explaining everything and thinking about all the tiny unlikely chances, exceptions, or details. You may get defensive and already have arguments lined up. The "devils advocate" lvm is actually a negging and emotionally abusive scum. He's dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 07:45 AM |
| 16 | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responseHahaha he f***ed around and found out. I had one do a similar thing with me, he suggested this fancier restaurant, similar in price to that steakhouse, and I was really eager. Then closer to the date he mentioned how I liked art and museums and said that he knew a place that was famous for their art and wanted to take me there instead. I asked him what it was and turns out it was a community park in a run down, bad neighborhood. I texted him and was like im confused I don't see a museum I must h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 07:37 AM |
| 143 | A decent strategy guide to land a man /sOther Tips to Act like a Man /s -whine about how birth control makes it feel bad, or how taking a pill kills your mood and then place ALL the responsibility on your partner (do NOT actually do this it's unsafe) -dates? Don't worry he will do all the legwork. Sit back and let your partner plan everything out for you. Then pretend to be supportive and woke for your partner and they will happily pay half! More money for p0rn and to see your others from your harem of back burner dates. Winning, brah… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 05:58 PM |
| 37 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesThis. I'm very goal oriented and I mean business when im on the clock. I'm friendly but only on a surface small talk level and I'm very matter of business. When the pickmes try to get off topic I quickly steer it back on track | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 08:13 AM |
| 7 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesYou're doing the right thing by simply keeping your distance from them and avoiding the conversations or being a work pickme by telling them what they want to hear. Work is a little touchy theres nothing wrong with interacting when you have to for the job and keeping it professional and it's good to see you not doing anything else to entertain these pickme clowns otherwise. I used to eat lunch alone too when it was pickmes in the break room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 08:11 AM |
| 15 | How to deal with men who want to be “orbiters”These men are all hoping to get in your pants. That's why they want to waste your time and slowly wear you down. If you have to see them at work, then I would keep it professional as possible. I would try ignoring their messages outside of work as well. If they're bringing it up though at work I would simply say "I'm busy / I have a lot in my plate right now/ you're cool but I prefer to keep this at work / I prefer to keep things professional / i don't mix my outside life with my work life (the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 03:37 AM |
| 2 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️Remember when there was a post on fds saying don't date men you find unattractive and there was an OUTCRY like insels were dming me, I was flooded with the r cares helpline, and so.many down votes.... But it's OKAY for men to not date unattractive women. They can just use them for attention and validation in bed though its cool. No chances for an actual relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:26 AM |
| 3 | I lost track of how many red flags I heard.Men that just ipen with "hey" or "how are you" or copypastas are immediate unmatch for me. There's enough basic info in my bio that they can say something about it and my bio even literally says "ask me about my travels to x" it's such a quick way to weed out the ones that can't even take w seconds to read about you Don't let a man into your bed when he can't even put in w seconds to read your bio and open with something authentic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:22 AM |
| 3 | My pre-FDS self would have gone with this. My current self unmatched him!When he asked do I look like a man with a plan that's your cue to play the dumb fox and sat "what" or "I don't understand the question" seriously. I have used these many times before and they then immediately tell on themselves by getting nasty or turning it sexual or admitting they don't know and try having you do the work. Not to be mean but saying "I don't know what a man with a plan looks like" makes it seem like you were treated poorly in the past and that is not the vibe we want to send ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:17 AM |
| 3 | Jesus Christ, is she in the Pick-Me Olympics? Did not see 1 tiktok encouraging men 2 give their woman oral sex. Her feed is just pandering to male pleasure constantly. Women get enough pressure from porn fried society to give head. It’s men who need a reminder to eat a woman out and make her orgasm.Sex posi aka male benefit /pandering pickme queen Ugh. So many scrotes use these types of lines too "sex is good for your immune system, it burns calories, it can reduce stress!" Yes but you have a std risk, pregnancy risk, bv/ throwing off the pH risk, getting attached to him and getting feels high risk, and a high risk of him just using you if it's casual ... so let's not forget there's also RISKS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:11 AM |
| 7 | My boyfriend shared a funny video that i didn't find funnyAgreed. A man that I was starting to see shared a comedian video to me and I watched it and it was a different comedian but the same type of thing: saying that she's a prize and settling for a dusty man, and that makes him see her as less value. And honestly it was how he actually felt about women that saw him. It was how he treated me and how he treated his exes from what he would tell me. Same with his friends telling me.... So I would just take some time to take in all this info because that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:07 AM |
| 10 | How do queens handle a lukewarm man?Was hoping that it would help someone. Yeah they want to pretend ro be hv but dont know how to wear the mask. This is why we don't communicate and tell them what to do, this is why we don't seek closure or text men paragraphs. Let them stay sloppy and dumb because it makes it even easier for the next queen to swerve | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:01 AM |
| 3 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.Men that use the 🤷♂️ shrug emoji are scotes. It's the emoji of its just a joke mentality. I just can't believe she's still pregnant and he's already dipped out of her life, a deadbeat dad ALREADY months before the baby is born, seeking another warm hole | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:31 AM |
| 10 | At the hospital overnight for a small procedure. This is where the bar is:When I was a pickme I remember bringing over some nice bath and body hand soap to his place because he only had that dusty old sad bar of soap out in the bathroom.... I even picked out a "non girly scent" he liked. I told him it was for him to use and even put a 2nd one in the cabinet. Anyways when I'd come over I started noticing that the soap never seemed to get low or even move. Then it's 3 months later and I'm coming over every weekend and I noticed it still barely is used and that I'm the o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:28 AM |
| 15 | How do queens handle a lukewarm man?I've talked to/ pre date vetted lukewarm men like this before. They have an idea of how ro put the mask on - and they're sort of trying to mask up. They'll usually seem good on paper, and they'll do semi charming things like initially have a good conversation or maybe they'll plan a good first date or even get you flowers... but they just seem robotic almost And when you talk they don't seem interested at all. It's almost like they're just there. Texting them will almost feel dry, like talking t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:22 AM |
| 15 | Sending love and respect to all mothers out there and their invisible labor 🤍Ever notice that in public when there's a couple it's 99% of the time the mom pushing the stroller and then it's the mom making the bottle /feeding the little one, and it's almost always the moms changing the babies .... I know some places don't have family bathrooms or changing tables in the men's, and I know that some moms feel safer taking their little one to use the women's room.... but my point is that more and more places are having family bathrooms and changing stations in the male restro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:11 AM |
| 40 | A post titled “would you date a porn star” on a popular men’s sub redditThey wouldn't date a prostitute doesn't matter if she's doing nudes online or OF or she's in a strip club type setting. She's a prostitute, okay we don't use the term sex worker because it's part of that sugar coating it woke bs the men want us to use. Men see those women as prostitutes, just a warm object for them to use and degrade. Many men that I knew or used to be friends with all have admitted to me that they wouldn't touch a prostitute with a 10 ft pole, that they'd be ashamed to bring he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:05 AM |
| 63 | TW for sexual abuse survivors. Disgusting scrotes use prostitutes to act out their incestuous nightmare. Pick-me women who enable predator kinks are also a danger to all women and children. Mass grooming has only gotten more accessible with the internet . I first came across violent porn at age 6. 💔"K1nks" need to be shamed. Ddlg and the others mentioned in these screenshots are literally fantasies of criminal things: ince$t, r@pe, and ped0 ... dressing up or pretending to be a child is just downright sick it's ped0 and the daughters thing ped0 and ince$t I remember learning about people that basically were into ddlg in a psych class the sex was implied but some went to really act out the whole being a baby or little kid thing even to the point of wearing diapers and having a custom made c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:59 AM |
| 352 | Positive for chlamydia- the audacityhe has an std of course he's pesting her while she's at work, trying to do her job of course it's in a field where it jeopardizes her job and maybe even her nursing license Any of those factors alone have a ton of audacity and yet he didn't care about any of them 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:53 AM |
| 7 | getting closer to true 50/50 so he can also take a pill, men wanted 50/50 soI like this because it's all facts and it's intelligent, honestly I used to think that men had it made by being able to just easily out on a condom - from what I'm told it feels similar to wearing a rubber glove. Yeah sure it's a little weird but that's nothing in comparison to std risks and pregnancy risks. I would gladly wear a condom if I were a man, yes they make female condoms but they aren't as effective. A lot of people just harped that men aren't trustworthiness to use male pills... and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:42 AM |
| -3 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?There is no such thing as open relationships, because that is still cheating. Her cheating she admitted but from what I heard without digging too far people just started rumors about him. This is fds. We don't Stan cheating no matter what bs label like "poly, enm, open relationship" etc labels you put on it. Cheating is low value on her end. Chris Rock was also being low value making fun and bullying a bald woman's appearance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:37 AM |
| 5 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?Weed is also a no for me. I can't stand the smell or how it will absorb into my clothing and hair then I have to do more laundry and cleaning to get it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:41 PM |
| 10 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?It's a NO for me - doesn't matter if he spews some woke bs trying to justify it. Does not line up with my lifestyle. These things are illegal where I live and many of the career good paying jobs regularly drug trust and any of these would get you fired. The men that I know that do these things tend to be low value, broke, and very lazy and are at a level of using where it is like an addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:39 PM |
| 101 | Blocked & DeletedLiterally a hard lesson to learn of if he wanted to he would. He wasn't texting you in the first place and even with communicating he still wasn't stepping up (lesson that communication doesn't work) and that people won't change. Shown when he admitted it to you. You did the right thing by blocking him and being done. Other things aside It's really weird that he was dating you and wasn't texting at all in between dates... gives me red flags. He either has someone else or was just using you to tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:34 PM |
| 2 | getting closer to true 50/50 so he can also take a pill, men wanted 50/50 soThe v1r u$ that sounds like Mexican beer, that people like to ad a lime slice to, but seriously a lot of people are having fertility issues. Someone was also saying that the cheap makeup that comes over from China im factories that don't follow standards is also filled with lead and fecal matter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 08:48 PM |
| 7 | getting closer to true 50/50 so he can also take a pill, men wanted 50/50 soThat's true and you're correct poking further into it. I was more of mocking the scrotes that say they want 50/50 when it's a woman paying bills and buying dinners... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 08:46 PM |
| 25 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?From my understanding the comedian made a joke about the wife's hair loss. Supposedly, her hair loss is from alopecia, which is an auto immune disorder more common in women of color. She can't help for her hair loss. She did cheat on Will, and that's wrong of her and low value but it doesn't justify her being made fun of for her medically caused hair loss. I think Will did the right thing. These are celebrities. Like it or not, people do look up to them and they do have influence over a lot of p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:51 PM |
| 9 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.I dont endorse being a free prostitute to men you need to read the handbook | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 01:34 PM |
| 194 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.They always would say abstinence is free. And honestly it's saved me quite a bit of money versus when I was a pickme who'd shave, buy lingerie or a new bra and panty set, who'd have a "h0 bag" with shower stuff, vaginal wash, a clean towel, slippers , water bottle, etc because so many of the scrotes wouldn't even have a clean towel or actual soap at their place. Plus all the gas it was costing me to meet them and whatnot. All the extra dr appointments and the one time I got a yeast infection aft… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 11:24 PM |
| 118 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.With all my appointments and tests I've had ro get done at the doctor they keep asking if I "might be pregnant" and I look them in the eyes and say "I haven't had sex in over a year because these men are not worth it." Seriously since moving the men are even worse in my new area than when I lived in a different state. But also when I noticed they take me seriously if I say "I haven't been having sex because I'm following religious reasons" and that's tne magic words to get them to back off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 11:19 PM |
| 103 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.I have not had sex with a man in about a year and honestly the sex life I have with myself has been much more fulfilling. I don't really even crave sex anymore because I have the toys. It's helping me stick to my standards | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 11:16 PM |
| 57 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.I reconcile it with knowing that it shows him I don't just hop into bed with anyone. By holding out and really getting to know and trust him more it shows that you're a serious woman and it decentralizes sex from the relationship so other things like trust and common values can be the theme. It's building a quality relationship. I also don't want a manwhore that's been around, that's risky and unappealing to me. If he can handle waiting then it shows me that he is willing to put in that effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 11:14 PM |
| 120 | love thisGonna start doing this too. In my town strangers generally only approach to ask for money anyways. Should fend them off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 05:48 PM |
| 5 | I cringe. Why are women not allowed to care about the way a man present themselves? Why does he act like men don’t treat women they find unattractive like shit all the time? Also women are not that simple minded, a good looking scrote is still low value. Being HV is not based on mere looks & income.You do need to have a level of attraction to the man you are dating but you also have to step back and look at his qualities for red flags. Both of the men pictured are LVMs of the gaming variety. Sure one is lore physically attractive but they both have the same low value traits at the end of the day, so both need to be a pass. We've all stumbled upon plenty of model looking guys on OLD and the thing is a lot of them are LV. You can't let a good face or body trick you into giving them a pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.I'm tired of men shaming us if we do wear makeup, get our nails done, or get "overdressed" These things for me at least build my confidence and really play up on the features I do have. And from my experience people have consistently overall treated me better when I was dressed up like that versus looking messy and just rolled out of bed w no makeup or outfit. Some men know how to dress nicer, pick a hair style that really accentuates their features, and style/groom their facial hair to look bet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 05:38 PM |
| 135 | getting closer to true 50/50 so he can also take a pill, men wanted 50/50 soIt is about damn time that there's birth control options for men like this pill that is moving to human trials soon. The thing is that we do have the technology but in the past they just didn't want to use funding to study it and in past studies side effects of headaches were belly ached over by the scrotes. I'm personally hoping that a male pill does get approved because it would be nice for men to share that birth control responsibility, after all the fake woke male feminists want 50/50 so tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 5 | Stay. Away. From. These. Bum. Ass. “Estranged”. Single. Dads. (P.S - baby mama? Baby mama?….You mean the woman whom he impregnated and to whom he had two children? Girllll i-) the tomfooleryThis is what I'm afraid of with single dads because no matter what that's the woman they impregnated and have to have some level of interaction and coparenting with for at least 18 years, there will always be some chemistry and deeper connection there. Single dads are a no for me and my standard is no single dads. I am in my 20s and not ready to step parent or deal with his drama with the ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 05:19 PM |
| 68 | Male/Female FriendshipEvery man that was friends with me was just trying to get in my pants, and when he realized it wasn't happening stopped the friendship completely. One of them assaulted me and attempted to rape me. They all had these things in common: played the role of the friend. Got to.knowe.more little by little and was trying to build that trust. Also got to get an idea of what I like/dislike in terms of dating. Would often ask me for "advice" on how to impress/date other women and had me thing I was like a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:27 PM |
| 104 | Lol, all these winners.Her outfits and faces when she's playing the man Are on point though. I've seen this video and its all too accurate. I'm glad get video calls it out though might be helping some others wake up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 10:42 PM |
| 59 | This comment section on Youtube reminded me of FDS. Keep brunching and treating yourself like the queens you are ladies. 💕Such a powerful message. When the queens become grandmas its going to be such a victory. Made me think of also seeing my own grandma and mom stress themselves out frantically cleaning and grocery shopping and then going ham in the kitchen trying to make these huge meals for everyone. I didn't understand why we were the only house to do it. I didn't understand why people would just come and eat for free and why suddenly people's significant others popped up and kids we didn't know were being drag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 09:13 AM |
| 3 | he will call you a gold digger a for wanting a dinner date and high maintenence when he spends $$$ on HIS hobbiesI'm sorry he was like that and am glad you leveled up and are being treated much better. Sounds about right though for lvms. Even when they have a bangmaid that's paying rent they still are using porn... yet another reason to avoid 50/50 with men. Also, nails is something that I see as a hygiene expense. Some jobs pretty much require it, they want you to look neat and presentable and that includes having clean, taken care of nails, at least on a basic level. It's like taking care of your hair. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:50 AM |
| 16 | he will call you a gold digger a for wanting a dinner date and high maintenence when he spends $$$ on HIS hobbiesBeware that guys with these interests from my experience are broke lvms mooching on their parents or bros couches, because he's spending way more than he can afford on his car or PC (unnecessary stuff, not like a required auto repair or maintenance, I'm talking like he's getting it lifted or just wants a fancy gaming headset) .... these are the same type of men that will not want to take you on a proper date. They'll want you to do a walk or go 50/50 at coffee, and he will accuse you of being a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 05:39 AM |
| 27 | Even the comments are clocking onto his weaponised incompetenceYou nailed it. He's teaching her a lesson to not burden him again - that's the way he thinks about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Even the comments are clocking onto his weaponised incompetenceThat's all high end stuff, naked palette is over $50, the little Natasha one is around $25, and that one that's square looks like it might be a huda one which go for around $30. So his incompetence just cost her over $100 plus now having to clean up a mess. I'm sure the scrote would flip if his $50 video game controller was wrecked by kids and his $50 gaming headset was wrecked in a similar manner. There's no excuse to let thus happen other than he wasn't watching them or playing with them enoug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 07:55 PM |
| 103 | pickme glamorizing doing it all. there's no prize for doing it all🤡100% it's her cope. Yeah she's being sarcastic but there's truth in sarcasm and we know this because of the sarcastic, dark humor scrotes saying "but her nose is too big!" When they see a supermodel. Then they'll say "but I'm just being sarcastic" when they actually meant it. They Pick out something and use the sarcasm as a cope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 07:40 PM |
| 62 | pickme glamorizing doing it all. there's no prize for doing it all🤡In the US you can also be a foster parent. The given will financially help you as well so it won't even really be a financial strain. I think there's tax credits for it as well. You can also volunteer with kids or do a mentorship program with them. I'm 27 and single and childfree and I work with kids and it really helps me feel valued and like I'm contributing to something even if it's just making one of them smile or feel heard. My one teacher was a single mom she adopted 2 kids from an impover… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 07:38 PM |
| 81 | pickme glamorizing doing it all. there's no prize for doing it all🤡Yeah I think Megan the stallion when I'm thinking of hot girl shit, like graduating, getting a career, getting your finances in order, having high confidence and knowing your worth. Not doing all the housework. I give credit to the single moms doing it, but doing it for a lvm is a hard no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 07:34 PM |
| 21 | pickme glamorizing doing it all. there's no prize for doing it all🤡I think it's a cope for someone overwhelmed and burnt tf out. There's always truth in sarcasm, that's why scrotes have sarcasm and dark humor but they're being honest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 07:33 PM |
| 226 | pickme glamorizing doing it all. there's no prize for doing it all🤡This isn't "hot girl shit" it's being a bangmaid and over worked and under valued. I'm tired of the glamorization of women that do it all because some scrote is lazy and gaming. There is no prize or actual appreciation for her work, she will only be more stressed, more frustrated, more angry, and more likely to become depressed, anxious, age faster, gain weight, and get sick (yes these are the medical risks of a high stress environment) I saw my mom like this growing up with my lvm dad when I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 05:56 PM |
| 30 | There was a man masturbating and watching porn at a coffee shop I like to go to, have they no pride or dignity?I would have left or gone somewhere else private (for your safety sake, and not giving him the reaction he wants) and called the cops telling them from over the phone. I also would have done my best to keep a poker face while in his presence - he's a k1inkster pervert who is looking for that high when seeing people get shocked or disgusted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 05:47 PM |
| 2 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringThat's what I'm trying to do. I got rid of my female low value roommate and I'm gonna save up whatever I can. I don't need a fancy house just something affordable and that will be all mine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Men who try to trick you into coming over on the first date or early onHahaha same though. Gives me this different type of ick along the vibes of the silence of the lambs it rubs lotion on itself guy, the masseuse men make me feel like they'll actually kidnap and harm me. They're a huge safety red flag and I don't just block them, I report them. I encourage others to report it as well. For clarity sake I'm talking about the dudes that say it right off the bat or early on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 05:41 PM |
| 9 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringMy aunt is in her upper 60s and did that after her husband passed away. She sold the house and got a small condo for herself. She saw other men and would stay over at their places but always had her condo to go back to, keep clean, and have her own space. She never got trapped into a situation with a man again. She had an abusive relationship when she was in her 20s and always says never move in unless you're married. And now she does have a male she is going steady with, but she won't marry or … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 07:09 PM |
| 5 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringYour life is my goals though! In college I had female roomates and generally didn't have too many issues. One would steal my clothes and lie about it but other than that they all paid on time, kept their areas clean and contributed to the rest of the house chores. Another thing is we never ran out of essentials- there was always extra toliet paper restocked, trash and laundry were never just left on the floor, we always had soap, they never ate or stole my food, and we were often generous with e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 07:07 PM |
| 8 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringBingo. If he doesn't want to marry you before having a place together or kids, he will not be changing his mind afterwards from a genuine place of love. A place together is a big responsibility, it's more stress, more bills, and figuring out what the other person is really really like because you'll see the true colors if you cohabitate. A baby is even more stress, more bills, more strain. He wasn't proposing before because he just wasn't that into you OR he just wasn't ready. So either way he's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 06:52 PM |
| 9 | New to OLDKeep your bio short and sweet. Your first name, the ballpark of what where you live or a town over instead of actual location, share your hobbies or the field you work in. Men that just open with a copypasta like the ones here are low value. Men that just say "hey" or "how are you" are low effort too. Look for someone that read your bio and customizes a response for you ie "oh I work in accounting as well how's tax season going" or "I also really love tennis, I just bought a new sneakers for it.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 12:51 AM |
| 118 | Spotted one in the wild.Yeah this is common on OLD. "Message me first, show me a good time, make me laugh, show me around" I think they forget they're men. It's their job to impress and pursue woman. Unmatch /block men that say things like this. It's their Bait to lure in pickmes that will be trying hard to pursue him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 12:27 AM |
| 4 | Scrote Bingos from the red flagsWow the scrotes have come out to cry about the video Gamez, the office, and dnd..did... I'm just saying that the men that tend to put these things in their bios tend to be addicted lazy lvms. That's why I hesitate when I see that. Gamers are a deal breaker for me. If you're into these things then that's yoir standard but just beware a lot of those men are broke and seriously addicted to it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 12:25 AM |
| 42 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringThat's the beauty of having an exit plan. I've been stuck before too when I was a pickme but I made a plan and worked on it but not but and I was able to get out. You can do it. Have a plan, work towards it, and when you do move be smart and sneaky about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 12:18 AM |
| 130 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringI would rather move back into my parents basement at 30 then have to sign a lease with a lvm or buy a home with one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:52 PM |
| 145 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringSadly that's the truth. Living with a man drags the woman down: she now has to deal with higher bills (he leaves lights on, runs more power, uses more water, etc). He eats her food and often doesn't cook and doesn't replace it. He leaves his messes for her to clean up: bathroom messes, laundry all over the floor, shoes he won't take off so he tracks around mud, dirt, etc. Even If he is contributing its not fair. Still more work for her. On top of this he plays dumb and still expects sex. It cost… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:50 PM |
| 7 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.This is the brainwashing going around. Lvm that hate women will say things along his train of thought. "Women have it easy. Women get discounts. Women get saves first in emergencies. Women can make money off sex...." What he is doing is taking all of the struggles we had to endure as Women, all of the basic rights we had to (and still have to) fight for and trying to gaslight us and act like none of that struggle existed. "You have it made" men like this hate women. You cannot even talk to them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 05:44 PM |
| 271 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???Also don't forget scrotes will whine when their woman gains weight, misses a spot shaving, or complain her body changed during pregnancy or post partum .... And you don't see anything like this ad for the flip side of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:52 AM |
| 102 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???Not a fan of this ad. She is coddling him and making a ton of excuses for him. ED is not okay when its from pornsick reasons. No, you don't have to accept it. He has a defective dick. You deserve fulfillment in bed, with a functional and honest man. Remember a lot of ED comes from pornsickness - he's masturbating too often, needs those images/videos to be pleased, and often when the guy is cheating he has a hard time keeping it up because he's been doing a lot with the other woman. A real HVM wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:40 AM |
| 1 | lvm approached me and I made a disgusted face at himNext time if you don't like the advice then move along sis. I'm gonna throw grossed looks if a gross lvm approaches me and is lewd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:29 AM |
| 3 | lvm approached me and I made a disgusted face at himYeah I'm disappointed in the backlash of this post. Many missed the whole point and made assumptions. It's about the audacity of lvms to look like that and speak like that and giving them the raw really check they need - matching their energy sort of. They don't deserve polite answers to protect their feelings, they don't deserve respect when they made a disrespectful or lewd / pua style comment to us. They need to stay in their own lane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:30 PM |
| 3 | lvm approached me and I made a disgusted face at himHe was not polite. This actually IS an fds post. It's not appropriate to show up at a job interview looking like a smelly slob and it's not appropriate to speak to anyone the way he did to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:25 PM |
| 2 | lvm approached me and I made a disgusted face at himYou're making assumptions and didn't read the post. It is a dating strategy of me telling you that faking being polite isn't an option. He wasn't just standing there looking like be was going to approach, he did approach and used a lewd comment to try to hit on me. Again you also didn't read the post as I mentioned the safety issues and my situation and to why I decided to give the gross look because I was okay for my situation. You need to ask yourself why you're still pandering to walking on e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:24 PM |
| 0 | lvm approached me and I made a disgusted face at himI think you need to check your internalized msyogyny as to why you think you owe men a polite rejection. You don't. You're assuming he was just chubby. It wasn't about that he was lewd and unhygienic and in greasy pajamas thinking he could approach me with a horn dog PUA style comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:20 PM |
| 2 | lvm approached me and I made a disgusted face at himOp here since many scrotes are triggered and others are even saying they'd just be polite - you need to check your own self and remember women don't owe men anything. That means you do not have to politely reject a man because you're worried about his fefes getting hurt. Would you show up to a job interview unhygienic and looking like you just rolled out of bed? No. Would you, a High value person, show up to a date looking like that? No. I wouldnt even show up like that for girls night or seeing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:16 PM |
| 75 | The Awakening is Hard.Hugs. Waking up is hard. For me finding fds was a wave of emotions. I was in a situationship style thing with a lvm at the time and someone thankfully rescued me. His masked slipped. At first I found it shocking and even thought fds seemed a little over the stop and strict with waiting for sex and not accepting low effort dates. But I started examining my past relationships and looking at why I was accepting walks and lazy texters and men that switch up: my mom was in a relationship with a lvm a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:11 AM |
| 22 | From the tinder subreddit. I have no words.This is why you do NOT snapchat with men! Notice it's over 🚩 snap and he turned the conversation 🚩sexual and then continued pressuring he🚩r and negging her to get fisted and saying no one would want her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 11:49 PM |
| 5 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?A scrote is a scrote, sis. We need to stop pointing fingers at disorders and other things as reasons - it doesn't matter if he has aspergers or anything else - if any man is a scrote or LV then he needs to be dumped. Having this whole "well he has x" gives some low value people this idea that its a free pass to be a jerk /low value. Others will use their diagnosis as a crutch and refuse to work on themselves or get real help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 01:59 AM |
| 5 | SW is glorified on TikTok for impressionable teens and it’s disgusting. Her whole page is flexing the money she earns and how ‘fun’ her job is. Her mum even hypes her up. Also even strippers know that it’s not empowering - they’re so quick to clarify that they aren’t ‘escorts’.There was a page I followed back and I noticed the woman running it had bruises all over herself. When I went through her posts she admitted she was doing irl and only prostitution and had other posts crying and talking about her mental illnesses she struggles with. I do feel bad for her, but it's more evidence prostitution is NOT empowering. I immediacy out it together - you Know these men using and abusing her gave her those bruises and if anything made her mental health even worse. Ended up b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 05:12 AM |
| 3 | SW is glorified on TikTok for impressionable teens and it’s disgusting. Her whole page is flexing the money she earns and how ‘fun’ her job is. Her mum even hypes her up. Also even strippers know that it’s not empowering - they’re so quick to clarify that they aren’t ‘escorts’.Theyre prostitutes. Stop using the buzzword sugar coated term sw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 05:07 AM |
| 4 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidTranslation: prey on insecure pickmes. They will accept your low effort and give you free, easy sex. Seriously. He is also the type that will Brag to these pickmes that he's been with so many hot women and how many women want him, keep texting him, calling him, etc. He will ghost the pickmes as he moves onto the next, gets sex,and then ghosts, repeating on and on. The pickmes will get feelings and want effort or a relationship after being led on and that's why he dips out, lowering their self es… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 05:05 AM |
| 6 | stripping / OF aren't actually "empowering" no one genuinely wants to do themExactly. I'm not saying to treat prostitutes badly but I am saying we need ro understand that there is a shameful aspect of it because men are especially likely to degrade and see these women as objects, the industry preys on vulnerable women, and it's something that will ruin a career. Also let's not use the term SW. it's prostitutes. You have to stop using their sugar coated jargon that's trying to make it sound like a legitimate job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:36 PM |
| 5 | stripping / OF aren't actually "empowering" no one genuinely wants to do themNot e girls Not adult entertainers, not models, not pole dancers, not adult film stars, etc... prostitutes and strippers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 02:04 AM |
| 6 | stripping / OF aren't actually "empowering" no one genuinely wants to do themAlso they're called prostitutes. Not sex workers. Not "entrepreneurs" Not "boss babes". It's all prostitution. Let's stop using the sugar coated terms. We need to bring shame back to the degrading act that it is so hence "prostitutes" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 02:03 AM |
| 24 | How would you feel if your partner said they were open to a threesome?Threesomes are cheating. It's a pornsick male /rp fantasy. They all would love a threesome, especially if it's 2 women, more for their pleasure. You deserve monogamy. Loyalty. When you're in bed, it should be all about YOU not being shared with some third person, male or female. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:46 AM |
| 90 | This is one of the most horrific stories I have ever seen on Reddit. Thank god she is getting out. How is there not protections for young women like this.Someone please send her some links or phone numbers of resources available to help her escape that. She has been brainwashed and is waking up. That monster preyed on her and needs to be in jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 01:39 AM |
| 83 | in response to "female decision calculator" here's a scrote delusion calculator and a response siteI'm gonna clarify the "one of the bros thing" these scrotes want basically a barbie but they also want her to be genuinely into their sports or games (dNd, video games, other stereotypical "male" interests) and yes some women genuinely like these things. A scrote though wants a barbie who finds football boring and beer gross to pretend that she likes it and learn all about it and Cheer on his team just to stroke his ago. That's what I am getting at. It's the golf wives who aren't happy to be the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:42 PM |
| 26 | Imagine All the Productive Things She Could Be Doing with Her Time Instead 🤦♀️Oof I saw this and went off on it and the pickmes attacked. Reminds me of when I was in 2nd and 3rd grade they had this educational computer game they'd have all of us play in school. One little boy would get stuck all the time and rather than solving the math to pass the game he would raise his hand and try having the teacher give him the answers. That's what this reminds me of. She coddles him. Don't date video game addicts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:38 PM |
| 25 | What are some good dating green flags?Consistency in communication: he responds quickly and with effort, he let's you know he is gonna be heading to sleep or to work, says something like "how about I call you tomorrow?", asks how your day was and actually listens. If he listens he will remember things you told him amd mention them here and there. Enthusiasm: when he is talking to you, he seems interested. When he sees you he genuinely looks happy to be around you. Some guys get a little nervous but still he shouldn't be looking bore… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:31 PM |
| 59 | Anyone disgusted with the way men talk?I hate the words men use in general to discuss women's bodies, sex, and intimacy. It all stems from pornsickness and dehumanizing women as much as possible - and it always shows how much they want to overpower and control us. Men that use the words: nut, seed, bust, slime/goo, stretch out, fishy, roast beef, long lips, snatch, coochie, swallow/spit, suck me dry, baby batter, or even if he makes the comment "you feel so tight" also "she just laid there" / starfish / dead fish etc etc 🤢🤢🤢 turn off… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:19 PM |
| 4 | The Struggle Is Real...Exactly. Same with areas like NYC or really any major city especially in Cali. It's just a made up statistic. To put it in reference I was from a small, poor town, pretty far from a major city and I remember in high school my friends would brag about their parents jobs. Even in small towns, the doctors, surgeons, lawyers, certain business owners, etc all made over 100k. My mom made close to 100k when she was in her late 30s and this was in the small town, she studied and worked hard. There's eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:53 PM |
| 7 | What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you?Yup Susan knew about me. She was friends with him on social media and before she came back into town, he had posted a couples pic qnd tagged me in it. I was getting notifications about some Susan commenting. I was confused as I didn't know her and the comments were really, really rude. So rude that my friends who saw them even reached out to me about it. I showed my then bf and he was like oh thats Susan and defended her "she just has a weird sense of humor". I reported her comments to fb and th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:47 PM |
| 12 | What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you?Looking back now that I'm older these were the red flags: the 5 year age gap, the fact his family was racist against me, he had lots of female friends, the male friends he had were all low value and wanted to just get drunk and do drugs, he didn't cook or clean, his place was basically a nest, followed ig models and despite having good paychecks and money from his parents he was always "broke" As far as his mood though he had always been nice to me, attentive, planned nice dates, made effort, ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:44 PM |
| 10 | What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you?Around 19/20 and of course he was 24/25 Age gaps 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:33 PM |
| 17 | The Struggle Is Real...Thats a fake statistic. There's a good number of men that are between 26 and 40 that are actually single and not obese and over 6 foot 2. Finding someone that makes 100k a year or more is more common around the bigger cities, higher cost of living but higher wages. Less than 1% okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 07:26 PM |
| 267 | What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you?He always seemed popular at school, and seemed to have many friends, both men and women friends. The female friends thing was always a little weird to me from day 1, even as young and niave as I was. I remember he mentioned "Susan" before as having transferred and moving out of state. Then one day I heard the her name again, he's saying she will be back in town for the weekend. I already had plans for the weekend with my grandma. Being that Susan would be back in town he was "excited to see his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 06:11 PM |
| 8 | Men who try to trick you into coming over on the first date or early onThe proper response to anything is "you're asking for it" /s That's what men would say though if women did any of those things trying to come in to his place. It really is his issue though. There's always a gas station that will have bathrooms, or he should have went before leaving the restaurant. He should have called an uber if he's drunk. Then he should put the books in his car or shouldn't have bought that much in the first place. The long walk thing is something he knew beforehand. Then he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 05:39 PM |
| 25 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?Sending thirst traps is low value, period. He will keep all those pics and share them with his bros. Some men will try to use those pics ro blackmail or manipulate you. Even so, it's a red flag he's following and liking trashy pics on Instagram. It's a good indicator he's buying those women's OF accounts and pornsick. Ask your friend why she has such low self esteem and she's seeking external validation and attention to send those pics | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:36 AM |
| 35 | Men who try to trick you into coming over on the first date or early onSame here! Plus the fact he wanted me to drink and sleep in his bed! I didn't know his roomates and had only been on one dinner date with the guy, maybe an hour and a half of time was it! I'm glad I said no and blocked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 05:59 AM |
| 26 | A "good wife" guide from the 1950's and men still expect it in modern time.Yeah if I do anything remotely nice now it has to be earned. A lvm once told me "you teach people how to treat you" so if you don't let lvm use and walk all over you, then they won't. I save my kindness for my family members theyre the only ones worthy if being cooked and cleaned for. Even so I still don't do it all I just help out or surprise them when I can | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 11:10 PM |
| 146 | Men who try to trick you into coming over on the first date or early onHoly smokes that is terrifying! That's another thing they will do is take you to a place nearby their house and say they forgot something or that they need a glass of water and try to get you to come inside! I hope you're okay. It's good to share these things though so it warns others, especially newbies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 08:20 PM |
| 105 | Men who try to trick you into coming over on the first date or early onBut it's gourmet 🤣 I laughed so hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 08:18 PM |
| 72 | NYT advice column tells women to CoMmUniCateScrotes always will follow bro code, you know from that vrappy TV show. It is actually a thing. "His connection to his ex is understandable" No, its not. He isn't over her and needs therapy. "They were together for years" Okay. If that's the case then it'll take him some extra time and extra work to get through all those feelings and possible codepencies/trauma bonds they may have had. It's more of a red flag and even more of a reason he needs to be single and in therapy. The whole tone of the a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 05:44 PM |
| 92 | A "good wife" guide from the 1950's and men still expect it in modern time.I dont want to sound like a pickme but I wouldn't have an issue doing more of the cooking and chores if he was the one footing the bills and giving me some money to shop. I wouldn't be a maid amd do it all but I wouldn't mind doing some "wife duties" of cooking ad I like cooking. I just don't cook for men when dating though . Even when a new mom is on maternity leave / being super pregnant and needs rest he should be the one stepping up and doing all the housework and cooking then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 05:17 PM |
| 159 | A "good wife" guide from the 1950's and men still expect it in modern time.It was a small town and all people she knew pretty well as they would often come over when my grandpa was home. She said that's just how friends treated each other back then. She said people cared more. She also said that with these guys today she wouldn't bother dating either. She's the only one who gets how bad it is and doesn't give me a hard time for having basic standards | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | The results of applying FDS to my dating since having moved.One simply called me on the phone catching up and told me some quick stories I thought it was a nice convo and then he said "I wanna see you again" and started saying something about how he has a roomate and can't have people over. I played dumb fox and was like "what are you talking about" and he said "well I normally don't ask girls to a hotel, but I could get you a hotel near where I live what do you say?" And of course I was like "you're actually asking me to a hotel for the 2nd date? Are yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 05:10 PM |
| 72 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childBut it's also the fact that regardless of her maternity leave package or how much she makes.... her body is going to undergo some serious and painful things during pregnancy. She will have to take it easy as a new mom and give herself time to heal. Plus the baby will need care. She is going to be sore and sleep deprived and stressing adjusting to a newborn. It's his duty as a father to step tf up. That means letting her rest and heal up, also taking care of the baby, and stepping up to take care… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 04:55 PM |
| 121 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childTf is a spiritual marriage. Nah, sis. He strung her along and said some mumbo jumbo so he doesn't have to have the legalities of an actual marriage. Common law can bite you in the butt though, there's some horror stories about one partner passing and another having to turn a ring in or move out of the house because of the bills. Someone recently posted how pensions are sticky and can go to divorced exes, etc. So beware on that. But honestly THIS is why you do NOT do 50/50 even when you start dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 423 | A "good wife" guide from the 1950's and men still expect it in modern time.That's the problem with the msyogynists. They expect a 50s bangmaid, but they don't want to be the 50s man who was the only one working, the only one paying the bills, and giving the wife an allowance to do the shopping and errands, they also tended to be better groomed and dressed versus the couch creatures of today. Oh and 50s men actually dated women, they took the initiative, planned the dates, took her to places like restaurants and events and he ALWAYS PAID. my grandma grew up in that time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 04:41 PM |
| 4 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡It's not posted because this vid was when to me and I briefly checked out her content it's all very pickme. Don't feed the pickme she uses her money to buy this gold digging mooch houses | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 01:22 AM |
| 3 | What are the possibility that he’s going to settle down?Here's what I know. The military thing is his career and his prime commitment right now, and be has to move around for it. This would make it harder to settle down even if he wanted to- you would have to uproot yourself to follow him around add all the stress of moving and finding a new job along with that. Military men also have incentives to get married and have kids more pay and benefits - which is why so many of them get married and start families so fast hence the term "quick to settle down… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:43 PM |
| 9 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡The goal is buy yourself a nice house. When people get married they often buy a house and that's TOGETHER so they are both owners and there's an agreed upon financial arrangement and protections of marriage. Her wording implies that she paid in full and gave it to him, like a present. If that's really the case it's extremely stupid. He is a working dude in a good high paying career. Yes he has medical school debt. Almost all med students do. My friends are docs, and they Still bought their own p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 05:08 AM |
| 5 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡Yeah It showed me her, I crept on her account and saw how much he is a gold digger and using her, and then ended up blocking it. I honestly wonder if she's actually a nurse or if she just plays the part and does tick rocks all day... I didn't look enough... my friends that are doctors and nurses have to really watch what they post on their social media because their jobs are very strict | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 05:06 AM |
| 28 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡Men are such gold diggers! He is using her for her money. I but he doesn't even put out ugh! Wait, if he actually does pit out I bet he's bad in bed.... even worse because he is a doctor and literally knows anatomy AND has his own well paying career | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:17 PM |
| 23 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡Hes a gold digger. Using her for her money. Having her buy him things, bring him meals, and even buy him a house. He is using her. GOLD DIGGING DR | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:15 PM |
| 83 | My ex tried to follow me after I told him I was moving. Now he’s stuck in the cold mountains and I’m elsewhere 🎉I'm the same distance from my home state. Congratulations. I can reassure you that you made the right the choice. Moving opens new doors and gives you a fresh start. You will thrive. Thank God he isn't following you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 05:18 AM |
| 94 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡Also notice he isn't even smiling and looks miserable in the pic... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 05:04 AM |
| 187 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡Amen. She's a registered nurse and accomplished on social media as well. She's big enough that they pay her to do collabs and whatnot. And she's buying him a house. She told him she wanted a designer bag for Valentines and he tricked her and had a huge shipping bad from that store and had just the cheap purse Keychain thing inside. It was cruel. He is a zero value male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 05:03 AM |
| 10 | We need to talk about exit strategies for those of us with LVM.Thanks! Yeah that's the thing there's a lot that found that started seeing their worth already after signing a lease, buying a house or getting married... and it's more complicated than "just leave him" and "delete and block". I was stuck in a lease before so I learned the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:49 AM |
| 51 | We need to talk about exit strategies for those of us with LVM.Exactly. This is why I highly suggest being secretive so he doesn't know you're in the active process of leaving. This is also why I suggest to slowly pull away from him and make yourself busier so you're around him less - you're slowly pulling back spending less time and having less conversation - so he isn't as aware or upset by it. When we leave, we want him to be shocked pickachu and confused. Telling him, leaving immature notes, immaturely wrecking or taking his things, explains to him that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 09:06 PM |
| 65 | The results of applying FDS to my dating since having moved.I joined a gym and would get approached there often, I volunteered once a week at the animal shelter, and I joined a networking group online that meet ups for different interests/events that are in person (its more of a networking group but the guys show up looking to hit on women as I quickly found out). Theere was also a trail cleanup and ofc the dude that approached me there asked me to walk with him as a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:44 PM |
| 64 | The results of applying FDS to my dating since having moved.Thank you. Just be ready for their masks to slip at any moment. The silver lining is I got dinner or dinner movie dates out if it, and really not much time was wasted on anyone. I'm sure the guys that switched up and wanted sex for the 2nd date had really subtle red flags I missed or that with predate vetting (keep it short and sweet) I just hadn't gotten to see the flags sooner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:20 PM |
| 10 | This Woman Dated a Man for 2 Years Without Ever Meeting His Family, Friends, or Seeing His HomeShe has my sympathy because he played her. I'm not one for revenge much, but you know what, I'm gonna let her have her moment. His whole church can see the sin he's done which will be mortifying for him, and his wife will see it with her own eyes. I hope the wife is also wise enough to leave him after finding out about the cheating too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:15 PM |
| 4 | If he wanted to he wouldI'm embarrassed for her. Wish she would respect herself more, and the fact she is posting that... yikes. Where is her shame? I would be embarrassed to tell anyone I was stood up, had to beg for a v day date, and even more embarrassed to post it publicly. I do wish her the best and hope she can see her worth more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:12 PM |
| 17 | What the fuck is w one with my friendShe is fully aware that he is married and is still seeing him. He is a lv cheater, but she is also a lv cheater who is allowing it to keep happening. It's one thing if she didn't know it's Still trashy lv behavior but it's even deeper knowing she's a homewrecker. She ain't your friend. This lvw will end up dragging you down. She js already getting too far in your head with problems she created willingly for her own self. You have better things to do than be her therapist and convince her to be b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:23 PM |
| 182 | I’ve been saying this… It only takes men just a few months to know if you are the one! 👆I disagree with the picture though, what actually happened is he got desperate and rushed into lock that woman down after 6 months. I've seen it happen this way many times. The dude though would pursue women out of his league, keep getting rejected, and then he will snatch up whatever lower value pickme and hand over that ring. Especially true for young military men to get the benefits, especially true for non military guys that are hitting 30 (the hairline recedes, the beer belly busts out, fac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:17 PM |
| 79 | Baldness is DadnessLook at all the salons and beauty stores, women getting wigs or extensions. Some women experience medical issues where they are bald or have thinning hair, and they either shave it off or will be seeking a solution (hair thickening cream, products to fill in, wigs/ extensions, styling it a certain way, etc) There's nothing wrong with hair loss, it's just the men that choose to lie and hide it or see they have an issue yet do nothing while expecting women to be perfect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 05:50 AM |
| 88 | Baldness is DadnessThe issue is they can do something about it, and they don't. Instead they hat fish or just let it keep getting worse! They can take Rogaine or try thickening products. They can get hair transplants. They can go to salons, I've seen videos of the magic salons can do gluing in hair and things along that line. Nope, they just choose to hatfish or let that hairline go all the way back until it falls off... God forbid they have that ONE issue of balding ... and they still expect women to have gorgeou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 05:45 AM |
| 69 | Friends with Men?Every straight male that has been friends with a woman was just waiting to shoot his shot. I wouldn't really advise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 05:10 AM |
| 3 | TW: nasty as hell. I don’t even have words..This sounds like an episode of hoarders on tlc. A woman was living alone and sitting in various jars and buckets and keeping it in the house. The show actually has social services come in and she was deemed unfit to live on her own, and severe mentally ill. They put her into a group home and started therapy. Obviously this scorte had mental illness of some sort to do this, and its especially wicked if it was just to upset his wife. I'm so glad she left him over it though. Thank God. More women a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:04 AM |
| 3 | I just got dumped mid-abortionI am so sorry you had to deal with his ass. You deserve so much better. I hope you're feeling better after the procedure and not worrying about him. I'm sorry to say this but It sounds like he was suckinh up just to make sure you followed through with the abortion. If it's the US, LVM really don't want to pay child support. Wishing you healing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:01 AM |
| 18 | Ladies fire away. I actually know this person because we went to school together. This type of man is not to be taken seriously or even be considered to date. He doesn’t deserve children, sex, affection, etc. He deserves nothing. He wants his life to be easy which is why he’s making a PSA.Men used to pay all the bills when all the wife had ro do was be a bangmaid. But now women are expected to WORK full time more AND still be a bangmaid while ALSO paying the bills! No it shouldn't be that way! I'm not bearing his kids or being his maid and still paying the bills! If I still have to pay bills then I'll get a roomate or live alone. Remember if you want to share the bills with someone or go 50/50, you can get a roomate or 2. If you don't want a roomate but are still on a budget, you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 11:57 PM |
| 65 | I used to think there was something wrong with me...Lvm like you described all want hv women. Everyone would rather have a luxury sports car rather than an old, rusty, barely functioning camry. So of course they are attracted to you and will still shoot their shot. There's nothing wrong with you. I used to feel the same way and even with therapy, working on myself. Leveling up, I still attract lvm. The difference now though is I notice that they seem more intimidated to approach me and even when they do they quickly realize I'm not interested | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 07:52 PM |
| 71 | Don't be with man who is squeamish about women bodyIf he is grossed out by body functions or thinks pussy looks "gross" he should not be given sex from anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 01:50 AM |
| 36 | Dating men who are grievingIf this has been someone you've been seeing for a while, and they just lost someone, then it's okay to stay with them provided that they will be seeking the support groups/therapists they need rather than dumping it all on you. but .... if this is a guy that you recently met or it's early on in the relation then it can be a big red flag ! He should be healed and have done the work BEFORE trying to date again. If it's from a loss that happened a while ago and he's still devastated from it and a w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:34 PM |
| 127 | Don't be with man who is squeamish about women bodyDuring vetting early on - see how he is about periods, if uou have a cold or even seasonal allergies or like a nosebleed - these are all things that happen - see how he responds. If he's grossed our my periods or any of these other things mentioned, if hes immature, if he isn't helpful or doesn't care - there is no way he will be able to cope and be there for you if you do get really sick or injured. And for Pete sake if he can't handle a period or you having a cold do NOT give that man sex. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:41 PM |
| 31 | Have you ever walked out of a first date and why?Before fds, the guy asked me to a coffee date and when I get there we stand outside and chat, I suggested going in, and he said he was hungry and offered some mom and pop Italian restaurant. I said sure and said I'd drive over and meet him there. So we get there and it's going okay but awkward. He suddenly tells the waitress he wants Mozzarella sticks as an app. I then told him "I didn't know we were getting an app, I didn't even get to look over that section of the menu." Then he chuckled and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:51 PM |
| 5 | How do you respond to men who ask you to teach them something as an OLD opener?If you have a shared interest or hobby, and he's genuinely asking you questions like what brand of watercolor do you prefer (because you both paint) or something else hobby related like how do you seal stuff (because let's say you paint purses and doesn't know how ot works so he's just being curious) then I'm okay with it. Let's say I paint and he does not and asks what my fav brand of brushes are or something like that I'm also okay with that.... but if hes just asking me to teach him absolutel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:08 AM |
| 17 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh.So many are triggered by this post defending coffee dates. Even when I was a pickme and entertained clowns at coffee they were broke, insecure Men who would try to get me to hangout for over and hour. It was a waste of my time and drive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 06:42 PM |
| 16 | Women who implement FDS are "groomed, hot, successful, with standards", says FDS-hating manThis is just confirmation of all my posts. When I was first starting fds a dude decided to ignore my text left me on read for going on 48 hours. So I texted him saying "hey this isn't something I'm interested in continuing as I haven't heard from you. Good luck" (I know, DO NOT do that just ghost and block but hear me out) and he got upset begging me and then finally saying "this sucks". It's the same reason that the guys that I hadn't blocked before fds kept texting me months, some even years l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 06:10 PM |
| 67 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh.They have to sell the idea of pickme pussy delivery service | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 05:58 PM |
| 95 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh."Real connections" and "meaningful conversations" aka heys and hru and wyd as a "conversation" and men who want to take you to coffee so you can go 50/50 then he will try to get sex after coffee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 07:39 AM |
| 17 | Red pilled Twitter caught encouraging men not to wear condoms and thinks STIs are part of a government conspiracy to keep birth rates down🤡Okay then Is he cool with anyone making his food when he does anywhere not wearing gloves? How about the dentist, then he needs to be cool with his dentist touching his mouth insides with no gloves. Forbid he has to get a big surgery, none of the doctors or nurses getting all on his insides are wearing gloves either. It's cool, it's because gloves are just a conspiracy to keep population down/s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:40 PM |
| 40 | LVM are out there thinking men don't treat women like shit. Drew's response is on point as always 👑Imagine a pickme-man: comes over to YOUR Place with a dinner hot and ready that he paid for, cleans up for whole place for you (even brings/buys the cleaning supplies), smells lovely and has on a very nice outfit and is all groomed for you, is cool with whatever you want to do even if he absolutely hates it, entertains your friends and family, does all the legwork to plan dates and keep the peace/make everyone like him ....and gives YOU great orgasms every time, whenever you want.... yes tell th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:37 PM |
| 2 | What is a yellow/orange flag?If you have ANY doubts, questions, or any gut feelings no matter how SMALL, then it is a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:28 PM |
| 17 | scrotey man can masturbste ‘for hours’ but can’t hold an erection with his girlfriend. sex columnist advice ‘oh don’t feel ashamed, just communicaaaaate’The issue is shame has been eliminated from out culture too much. He SHOULD BE ashamed of himself for his defective pee pee which was self inflicted. I have zero sympathy for the scrotes that cause their own pee pee issues. They should be weeding themselves out of the gene pool, women everywhere should reject defective dicks that are a result of porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:27 PM |
| 51 | Vetting: if a worst case scenario happens to you, can you rely on him?This! Great vetting date idea. See if hes game for it too, and if he goes see how he reacts. Now that I think about it going to a haunted house event is a must! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 05:29 PM |
| 4 | Women leaving the dating appsIn my experience: The are ugly. Out of shape, sloppy clothes and greasy looking, balding Edit: they need to make sales- selling their NFT, cyprto or real estate or stock course. They want you to sign up for their house flipping scheme, or their MLM They can't make conversation. A sea of copypastas, hey, and hru (they don't read profiles and may even be bots) Minors - when I was younger some of the guys claiming to be of college age looked under 18. I didn't Want to take any risks. Catfishing is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:32 AM |
| 4 | Stick to your boundariesI am so proud of you for sticking to your boundaries and constantly vetting him - you did the right thing by ending that immediately when he told on himself. It does suck to know he was just trying to get sex, but the mask always slips. This is also why fds says that dates need to be of value like dinners /a nice venue /a nice event you're into (theatre, art, mueseum, pottery paint crafty class, etc) because it's like a deposit for your time. When you make it expensive in terms of money and effo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:49 AM |
| 18 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Theyre all the same. Add the other red flags 🚩I'm a good old country boy 🚩I suck at writing bios. I'm an open book. Ask me anything 🚩here for a good time not a long time 🚩 guess I'm back on here again 🚩 snapchat username 🚩not sure what I want 🚩dog dad, washed up ex college athlete, educated and self employed 🚩are you going go peg me or? Depression and anxiety are my hobbies 🚩 has pro con list (pro I can can cook for you, con you clean the dishes) 🚩adventures 🚩dom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:33 AM |
| 27 | I am just so... disappointedYou're a queen and you did the right thing, even though it does hurt. It's valid to hurt, he ruined himself and let you down. Sex is a part of committed healthy relationships and that's not possible for men with PIED. they will never be able to give you the sex you deserve. So, next. Give yourself time to heal you dodged so much more future disappointment and issues with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:46 AM |
| 78 | Pickmeisha hall of fame 😂🤦🏻♀️We are all here because we saw what being a pickme is like in reality. Pickmes do treat him like a king (dressing up for him, giving him so much energy and attention, being his cook make sex doll teacher nurse and therapist, buying him things, dropping everything for him, etc) this issue is he will just further disrespect you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:32 AM |
| 42 | being male in america hard, so hardEven if he was was single again he would STILL have to -get up every day -work and pay bills -take care of his kids -make dinner -clean up and do chores -tend to his other adult and parental responsibilities It doesn't have to do with his marriage or his wife, he is just another scrote whining about the daily things he would be doing regardless if he was married or not. Maybe what he meant is that the kids and wife are the reason he can't be a video game addict that sleeps all day and lives off … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:27 AM |
| 312 | Pickmes contributing to the idea that women should be low maintenanceI've been thrift shopping a lot lately and have been treating myself to a McDonald's coffee when out and about lately too and I've noticed that there are so many young, beautiful women on dates with fugly obnoxious scrotes at the mcdonalds and the thrift shop! These are not real dates. The women are almost always initiating the awkward trying to get to know each other convos and dressed up and they both seem so nervous. And yeah If there's a guy doing anything thats the bare minimum for a woman,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:13 AM |
| 86 | This is why casual sex is a big no-no. Thoughts?He tried going 50/50 on the abortion yall .... this is why hookups are a NO this is what any lvm would do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:04 PM |
| 85 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItFlashbacks to when guys were all asking me to mcdonalds first dates about 3 years ago... holy 💩 I would have been embarrassed. This was a shit test. He was testing her to see how big of a pickme she was. Notice it's always the ugly ones that are the incels like that. I'm sure she paid for her own ticket and everything while in Mexico as well probably even bought his stuff too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:11 AM |
| 252 | When they show themselves in the second message…. Boy bye.He was baiting women with his profile question making it seem like he would plan a decent real date too. But yes, good catch, the nerdy date is a neg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 08:41 PM |
| 364 | When they show themselves in the second message…. Boy bye.They want free prostitution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:17 PM |
| 44 | Valentine’s Day cringeSomeone recently posted a photo of a couple getting married on fds, she's all dolled up in a nice gown and he's in a t shirt and jeans and looks like he rolled out of bed... and yeah that's what they pretty much look like to me when I see a couple irl where she put in effort and he didn't. I went on social media just to see the couples post. Almost all the posts were made by women who posted cute, flattering couples pics and wrote heartfelt, cute captions about how they appreciate and love him. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:22 AM |
| 77 | Just saying that I would like *his* to mention *her* in the description… also the #1 point in *hers*… nah, sis you’re AMAZING (treat her well JO we’re watching)I Google her accomplishments and she's the most decorated gymnast of ALL time. Olympics is massive but of ALL time - and she has a scrote as the first thing 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:26 AM |
| 18 | Just saying that I would like *his* to mention *her* in the description… also the #1 point in *hers*… nah, sis you’re AMAZING (treat her well JO we’re watching)Pickmes love to show off their man and think showing that they're taken is like showing off a trophy, like he's a prize! So sad to this this from such an amazingly talented Olympic medalist (won many awards) ... and still thinks he is the prize. Crossing my fingers she will wake up before that wedding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Textbook Terrible V-DayIt's NOT HARD Google a restaurant. If they both like steak, lookup steak restaurants a few days ahead. Pick one, call it up, ask if they accept Valentines day reservations and then ask when they a slor available. Then agree to whatever they suggest. Then let the gf know "love they had a spot open at 630pm for Valentines dinner. Will you be my valentine?" Obviously the sooner the better, so she would have notice and to make sure you could have a table. What's so hard about that. We have phones in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:15 AM |
| 131 | “She doesn’t bother to pretend she’s not being raped and that makes my pp sad”Why is it shocking that no emotional connection, no respect, no foreplay, and literally being used as a human fleshlit can't get her to relax or genuinely enjoy it? Scrotes are sp entitled they want performative women acting and moaning obnoxiously the entire time when all he did is just insert and thrust. Most women need an emotional connection, trust, foreplay, and honestly a lot of us don't cum from p in v alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 06:56 PM |
| 98 | They use our Rape Kits as evidence against us: heads up!It's always the aging, balding ones spewing word stew that's just pure msyogynisyic bs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 06:32 AM |
| 80 | Something icky to laugh about tonight. We were talking about planting grass for our cats and ofc he had to make it gross and awkward. My intuition was telling me from the start he was weird, but societal gaslighting told me to give him a chance merely bc he was giving me attention 🤷♀️. Blocked.Scrotes telling on themselves looking for a prostitute with free delivery! Take this as a win in the sense that he told on himself so quickly, it was an obvious Red flag, and you blocked and deleted before wasting more energy and time. Bullet dodged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 06:30 AM |
| 111 | When the guy you're dating doesn't even send you a message on valentines....Big facts. He either found a free prostitution on OLD and forgot about OP, or he's shit testing her to see if he can ghost and do nothing for Valentines day. Doesn't matter tbh. When it hits 24 hours and they haven't said a peep? Block and delete | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:25 PM |
| 156 | When the guy you're dating doesn't even send you a message on valentines....If you don't hear from him in 24 hours it's an instant block and delete. Sis, he ignored you for over TWO days. And now it's v day and 🚩he never made plans with you and 🚩he hasn't contacted you in over 48 hours and your friends are also being pickmes. F the "you didn't iniate texting him" no full stop, you Made it clear you were interested in him and responded and continued to show interest when he was pursuing you... this man stopped pursuing you. He did it around v day as a shit test to see if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:23 PM |
| 134 | I'd leave. Straight up would not make it down that aisle if my man was dressed like thisOften men RENT a tux and the woman spends an average of $1000 buying her wedding dress. I Google the average cost of a wedding tux rental =$135. With alterations for the dress more women spent around $1600 and another source claimed the average cost of a wedding dress was $2200! I'm not reading too much into it, just highlighting the massive differences. Even for a high school prom guys spend about $100 to $150 on the tux rental while girls are spending closer to $500 for their dress. (More are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:17 PM |
| 41 | I'd leave. Straight up would not make it down that aisle if my man was dressed like thisI'm screeching. This is what pickmes look like when they settle for clowns, this is literally what it looks like to me... when the woman is all dressed up and puts effort in and the scrote looks like he just rolled out of bed when they're together, when I see a woman with a scrote on a thrift date, when I see her on a walk with him, when I see her Paying for his food, etc. Classmate was a lvm he took a woman to a dumpy gas station sat outside vaping and she brought him handmade cookies and paid … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Introspection- when you aren't sure ask yourself would you do the same to him?That's what reminder posts are for! It's easy to get caught up in low self esteem and especially for newbies, lvm may still be tricking some and they'll wreck self esteem and gaslight. I text people back or make the text letting them know I'll be working/busy. I plan out when I meet with friends and family, and give them adequate notice too. I buy my friends and family thoughtful gifts, we celebrate most holidays, and I treat my friends and family when we do go out somewhere. I avoid eating /han… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:07 PM |
| 16 | An example of a LV Valentine's day gift. The bar is so low, that she's so excited about receiving this "gift" 🤮This is a cleaning product which he is having HER use so she can be the maid... ugh. Cooking anything (pots, pans, appliances, etc) are also not gifts... he expects you to do the cooking and make him his favorite foods with them. Him buying you lingerie isn't a gift for you its for him. An actual gift should be something to actually treat you that isn't just a house necessity, something fun or more extravagant. Ie jewelry, that really nice plush blanket you asked for, those new headphones for yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:32 AM |
| 211 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenienceJustin beiber and his wife I suspect are another example of it. I don't pay much attention but my sister will mention stuff about celebs. Basically he split with Selena and got back with Hailey and proposed like after a month 🤡 and then had a courthouse wedding like 2 months after getting engaged... sounds to me like the Beibs got desperate and wanted to tie down whatever he could get... and Hailey was being a pickme to even entertain him as a friend and crawl back too. I've also seen a lot of m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 04:33 AM |
| 120 | Half time showHe just gives me all around LVM vibes even without knowing too much about him. I didn't watch the superbowl this year and I'm so happy I'm not sitting in a bar or on some couch eating wings pretending that I want to learn about football and being bored outta my mind! Glad I'm not a pickme anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:36 AM |
| 94 | If he doesn't do anything for you on VDay you need to block him. Period. Any low effort? Bye.Even if dont know each other too well or it's early he needs to be doing something for you for Valentines day, he should be taking you our for dinner or buying you flowers or a small gift. It doesn't need ro be lavish in the early stages. Men that do nothing though need to be dumped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 11:09 PM |
| 79 | Introspection- when you aren't sure ask yourself would you do the same to him?Exactly. I set a rule because of that experience- no response in 24 hours or more is an instant block and delete. I don't play games and I'm not a duck that will eat bread crumbs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:23 PM |
| 26 | Valentine’s Day Gifts if you’re in a relationship ?When I did have someone and it was in the early stages (3 months plus) I would just buy him his favorite treat and homemade a little card I cut into the shape of a heart. It wasn't expensive and it didn't require roo much effort. For another guy that was also around the month mark, I got him his favorite whiskey (but a smaller bottle like half the size of the regular) and some shot glasses because he collected them (I do too lol) ... but with that one I was still a pickme and literally kept it i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:21 PM |
| 28 | A reminder that being a high value woman will be uncomfortableSo proud of you. A hvm would not make your feel anxious and be playing games with you. Notice how he told on himself and literally admitted that 1. He was not over his ex 2. He was not ready to invest into you and 3. That he just wanted you "around" (stringing you along). This man needs to be in therapy and get over his ex and work on himself - he knew that from the start yet was still trying to time waste. I'm so proud of you for seeing it and leaving. Queens like you are the revolution we need… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:13 PM |
| 20 | So I got left a day before VDay but I am not the sad victim -- thanks to FDS!You handled this like a queen, especially the break up! Taking notes! The red flags on him were starting to come out and you kept your dignity and gave him what he wanted. You were calm and cool and unphased- scrotes want you to have a dramatic upset /begging reaction (and then they'll whine that women are dramatic 🙄) and you didn't give him an inch. Be proud of yourself. Take these lessons with you. Treat yourself to something nice for Valentines day even if you just cook your favorite meal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:08 PM |
| 3 | Nick Cannon Needs An InterventionEven when it's "just a joke" scrotes KNOW. He knows to use condoms ... I just Google and he has FOUR different baby mommas (and the vending machine caused some of his exes to get upset). He's sowing his seed and being a man whore and even Hart sees that. There's always truth to their jokes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Discussing future financesEven as a pickme the men I lived with NEVER made me pay rent. They wanted me there. And I didn't cook or clean for them. I had lived with 3 men before FDS (all boyfriend's at the time) and they all said the same thing: they wanted me there, even just me being around was a good influence on them, no need for me to pay rent because it was their pleasure to have me and they wanted me to keep my money and use it for better things. You did GOOD though by discussing your financial future with him, esp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 10:22 PM |
| 16 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.Excellent post! This is a much needed reminder. Never text him asking him to confirm the date or to remind him. My policy is, if he doesn't text me confirming the date the day of/reminding me then I'm not going. It's on you to vet the venue BUT also to secure your own safe and reliable means of transportation- NEVER let a man pick you up especially for these first dates! The first date is YOU setting the tone of the relationship- you want to show him it's HIS responsibility to plan and impress y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 10:01 PM |
| 31 | I need someone to help me make sense of this...You want apology because the lady was being considerate? Because she had common sense?I have to commend Billie on doing the right thing of helping the fan and also not entertaining Kanye. Kanye is a massive NVM with serious mental health issues and it's nor an excuse. He has all the money and resources in the world to get help but yet festers and uses his fame to keep promoting this NVM type of thinking for the masses to see. Total jerk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:53 PM |
| 83 | Having to beg your boyfriend for crumbs on Valentine's Day. So romantic!Prime marketing to pickmes. Not only the message, but the fact that it's a card. She is the one who desperately wants a card, a gift or dinner, and attention for Valentines day - scrotes don't read or appreciate cards. He will toss that on the floor with his other trash and dirty laundry. Take the $2 and buy yourself a tea or cold drink instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:50 PM |
| 16 | Why do so many men have bad breath?The guys with stank breath are all LVM. I mean chronic stank breath, not just went to a garlic festival or ate something with an onion (and I even keep mints and gum in my bag for when I'm out and have that gross taste). Stank breath means he neglects the rest of his hygienie too. Theyre the same type of lvms that don't wash their dicks or assholes and expect a BJ. He most likely won't go down on you because he thinks women "smell" and it "doesn't do anything" for him but yet wants a BJ. (The va… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:46 PM |
| 103 | When you move in with a man that doesn't even respect youOmg. He's doing it on purpose to mess her life up. Being loud, staying up late with friends over, going in/out excessively while she sleeps, leaving lights on purpose to disrupt her. Anna's a grown women that had her life pretty much together her job and adult schedule - lvm is probably a bald middle aged lump that is still trying to be A fuc Boi. Notice how he won't dump her. He's already seen she's being a bangmaid. It isn't said but implied. Lvm knows no one else wants him so he's trying to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:31 PM |
| 113 | He’s really dumbfounded, guys. He really has no words.Don't respond to this! He sent what was a copy pasta for pet pics. I'm telling you he uses those same sentences and just swaps out for whatever pet is shown. Proper response is NONE. delete and block. His response showed he is LV and he's looking for a cool girl to LOL and do the legwork thinking up a better convo for him. By telling him /calling him out you just did a DISSERVICE to other women. As men get older they get smarter at hiding that they are Lv through learning through women teaching … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:21 PM |
| 127 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” men100% facts. Often times they will try to act like a "nice guy" because "im just being honest with ya would you want me to lie? I'm communicating!" When really he is being a lvm scrote. These are the dudes that will neg and gaslight you. Run! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Tell me you ha yes your wife without telling me you hate your wifeI'm gonna translate to my understanding of what actually happened. Before getting married wife was in college, studying, and happy. She had a more active lifestyle and wasn't as stressed. Wife met husband and he started draining her energy and time. She's taking on his problems, making him dinner, cleaning up his place, helping him out... and starts neglecting herself. Grades start falling and she can't find the balance with having a scrote around and not understanding how to enforce boundaries.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 08:04 PM |
| 4 | In Australia one step back. This timeline is need fudged…I call pimps man-whores and sex traffickers haha. But you're exactky correct, these PC libfem fake woke names for stuff is toxic, it's taking something awful and sugar coating it. The whole issue with prostitution is that it's a large part of the reason why many LVM continue to keep being lv, they keep seeing women as objects and treating them shitty with the Netflix and chill/walks or even worse abuse them is because of this mainstream idea of seeing them as objects | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 05:25 PM |
| 169 | In Australia one step back. This timeline is need fudged…*prostitution Stop using the buzzwords. Call it what it is. Using the buzzwords gets rid of that degrading, shameful aspect and we need that in society. Men that use prostitutes are disgusting and if they're taken and he's seeing a prostitute its cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:01 PM |
| 47 | What are some signs someone's not over their ex?-does he still have her on the social media he uses? -does he still have her phone number? -look for clues that he stays in contact with her. He may say he's still friends with her, that he runs into her, that he is still good friends with her bestie/dad/brother/etc, he admit he texted her. I always suggest to see if he has social media and to creep on it. You'll most likely be able to see if they're still commenting or liking each other's posts 🚩 -pay attention to if they still live in the same… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:45 PM |
| 35 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"Eww. He tried to fk zone you. No one wants to be in the fk zone. If he really liked you there would be a serious effort to date and establish a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:22 PM |
| 50 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"HE needs to stop letting himself go. I don't care if it was a beer baby or burrito baby, HE needs to loose that baby weight! He was hot when I first met him /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:20 PM |
| 10 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?I used to say I'm a "true feminist" and they would get baffled. All the men asking were hoping I was a lib feb that believed in free prostitution and being their band-maid. Usually they would tell on themselves immediately "that's great I live that women are empowered I support it totally!" And then ask me to go HALF on a drinks date 🚩 or ask let's get dinner it'll be my treat this time you can get it next time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:05 AM |
| 492 | Obvious things I never realized until someone else pointed it outI would love to see women start calling out this double standard. Let's make it a normal thing to be like "ew Chad tried to f--k zone me!" And be dramatic like men are about the friend zone. "I don't want to be in f--k zone! Why would he do that to me? I thought he really liked me and we had chemistry" haahahaha. Dont be a pickme though I'm just having a laugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:58 AM |
| 250 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"I'm personally excited for my 30s. I've learned and really matured so much so far through my 20s. I've gotten to know myself, healed, found my career, found my happiness again. I got my money right. I developed hobbies. I have been leveling up. HVM will have also used their time to level up. They exist. They're out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:50 AM |
| 11 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?Not in my own dating experiences but I started realizing who the ones that I know are: my friend's from middle school dad I hung out at their house a lot: had a partnership with his wife, they would cook together, clean together, they always sat down for family dinners, both disciplined, and I would see them sort of both doing the driving for the errands. The mom came home one day I was over there tired from work, she sunk into the couch and you could see she was just beat, the dad went in and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:57 AM |
| 35 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listJoe Rogan fans are instant block and delete for me, whether on OLD or social media friends/followers. There was actually a really big organization that started a petition to take down his podcasts/videos recently. If it wasn't obvious Joe rogan is a huge LVM he had a tour called something like the "King clown" tour 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:47 AM |
| 4 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”"Why are you so nosey?" (Good for family members) Also "How is that your business?" If you Want to be snarky "divorce is expensive and a process." And "Why should i settle?" Less snarky "dating is not my priority/ because I'm in school/ because I'm working on getting extra certifications etc at work / because I was putting my energy into getting that promotion" add the really confused look on your face, like who would waste time dating when I was swamped with finishing nursing school and then wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:37 AM |
| 6 | Some of these aren't even dates 🤦That's also a good idea! I think that's also a great way to do it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 08:20 PM |
| 75 | Some of these aren't even dates 🤦FDS acceptable dates: dinner at a respectable restaurant movies afterwards is okay movies on its own and you cant chat to get to know each other, if you're into museums or art exhibits or galleries thats a good one too as long as its a respectable venue and not a hippies selling stuff at a park and he's calling that an "art show", other ideas tickets to theatre, paint / pottery class, ballroom dancing class (not for 1st date), amusement park, some people do ice skating/ bowling / golf, the zoo o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:21 AM |
| 24 | Spotting red flags in old Convos and passing on the lessonsThank you for the feedback. Also, congratulations on the new job! (As for the new job why can't scrotes say congrats and then ask of its in the same field, if it's a promotion, is the boss better, how is the work culture different, etc ... there's SO many things they could say to make pleasant convo and they can't be bothered) The how's it going is the same as how are you... its so lazy and low effort. But it's also them trying to have you do the legwork to start a convo they're more interested … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:56 PM |
| 20 | Spotting red flags in old Convos and passing on the lessonsHe was also blocked and ghosted after that. I should have added it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:03 PM |
| 89 | Love yourself enough to walk away.He sounds like my LVx you did good by blocking him. The mask did slip and he started playing games, not seeing you, not responding, and threw a mantrum at you ... early indications he will be abusive and shows he doesn't care. Carrying on with him would have seriously gotten you hurt and it would have been a lot of cringing with a therapist, trust me I know! He isn't getting to waste any more of your time, you're free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Singles events and speed dating popping up around Valentines day?Thank you for sharing your experience. I was like 90% sure this would be a waste of time. It's creepy that it was run by a pickme who still tried forcing the guys you Said "no" to on you by emailing you afterwards! Ick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:19 PM |
| 4 | FDS Rules save the day again!youre the type of big sister / friend the younger generations desperately need, you give me hope, thank you for showing her the way and preventing her the trauma and heartbreak ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:16 AM |
| 13 | Why am I doing things to make myself more attractive when at the end of the day, men are still going to look at other women anyway?I have struggled with this so much, wondering really is that new outfit or new makeup for MY confidence or to actually still pander to the male gaze? sure, it does make me feel confident to wear a flattering outfit even new underwear can make me feel fresh and confident, it does make me feel confident to have my hair done rather than having poor hygiene and having jus rolled out of bed ion my pjs - but I wonder does that confidence come from knowing that subconsciously I look better for male vie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:11 AM |
| 42 | That's NOT a date. Stop romanticising no effort! Tired of seeing awkward couples looking uncomfortable at thrifts and parksAngry scrotes are getting triggered by this. If you can't even buy a woman dinner than you need to go to work. Imagine if I theoretically went to a thrift store or walk date and told my grandparents that... how embarrassing! Imagine telling your friends... I'd be embarrassed. My grandparents would have been appalled to hear any man considers walks or thrifts a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:17 AM |
| 20 | That's NOT a date. Stop romanticising no effort! Tired of seeing awkward couples looking uncomfortable at thrifts and parksTHIS. Self gaslighting is common in extreme pickmes. They are so knee deep in the abuse they start do it to themselves. Examples "I know I'm the worst / I dragged him to the craft store with me I know its so boring" (when she LOVES crafts and said store and he's the one that hates it) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:07 AM |
| 30 | That's NOT a date. Stop romanticising no effort! Tired of seeing awkward couples looking uncomfortable at thrifts and parksI love thrifting too. It saved me a fortune when I moved into my new house - throw carpets, wall tapestries, curtains, yard furniture, garden pots, shoe racks, and my bookcases! Obviously I washed and cleaned it all first. I built myself a really nice wardrobe that way too. It's insane at what a rug or bookcase costs retail and a lot of it is made junky too! That's sweet you thrift with your grandma! Sounds like fun. Yeah thrifting is not something I would do as a date, it shocks me women accept… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 06:56 AM |
| 73 | That's NOT a date. Stop romanticising no effort! Tired of seeing awkward couples looking uncomfortable at thrifts and parksHahaha I remember seeing that. She got so grossed out and was so disappointed he wouldn't take her for nicer clothes... I really was hoping she would leave him. I'm sad that she settled for him. He had all these other baby mommas and worked a looser job and had so many LV traits. He acted like she was a GoLdDiGgEr too. I have no issue thrift shopping for myself but I wouldn't be buying a boyfriend stuff from there or going there as a date. Nope. Robert should have been trying to impress her. She… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:06 AM |
| 85 | That's NOT a date. Stop romanticising no effort! Tired of seeing awkward couples looking uncomfortable at thrifts and parksExactly. Glad you're also on board with this! I'm hoping she will wake up and others will also be making cringe faces. My sibling went on a thrift first date and tried bragging about it to me and my mother and I both were like wtf and were like that's not a date why are you bragging about that. He didn't even pay for the 1 item she picked out and apparently he bought himself a few outfits and was using her to help pick out styles and coordinate his outfits for him... and he wouldn't pay for her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:00 AM |
| 180 | That's NOT a date. Stop romanticising no effort! Tired of seeing awkward couples looking uncomfortable at thrifts and parksNothing like having a scrote stand there miserable and impatiently rushing you at the store while you're smelling BO and mothballs at the thrift shop! There were 2 people on a date at a really dirty thrift shop near me and when they left I actually heard other shoppers laughing and making fun of them saying "who takes a woman to a thrift shop and calls it a date? She looked so miserable" I started giving a cringe reaction type in public (I purposely ham out my repulsed facial expression) when I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 01:18 AM |
| 17 | Singles events and speed dating popping up around Valentines day?Exactly what I was thinking. It's good to see others having similar thoughts. It was tempting but a lot of the locations are dumpy bars and seems to attract lvms! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 12:23 AM |
| 13 | Dirty Talk in the Sheets: Yay or Nay?Be careful with dirty talk... usually stems from pornsick men and Even if he's sounding sweet watch how quickly it can get very degrading. I have stories from when I was a pickme... all the bedroom talk started cute and then he would start pressing boundaries and you will notice he will become very clearly selfish in his actions. You stop at that point. It's one thing for a man to tell you are beautiful, that you are attractive, that he loves your eyes, tells you he likes xyz, that he couldn't s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 11:16 AM |
| 18 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?"If he wanted to he would" and he did! Thats so sweet he surprised you with cheese burgers on Halloween- he listened, he cared to make you happy, and he made the effort. A lvm wouldn't have even remembered or at best mumbled something like you gonna eat a burger today/ tried getting you to make it for him or buy him fast food... Very happy for you! Gives me hope the burgers was cute and the fact he even got alternative things to give to kids who are neurodivergent/have allergies was another good… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 11:07 AM |
| 30 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Glad to hear vetting would cooking was successful for you! Asking for a homemade cake is another great strategy as well, because it tests to see if he will put in that effort and also will show if he has some basic baking skills! Good way to see if he notes of your favorite colors, flavors, or uses the special ingredients/substitutes if you have allergies or a diet - for people that do follow a stricter diet even if you just want clean or organic ingredients see if he will listen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 10:11 AM |
| 18 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?I would suggest doing it together as a vetting activity once you're established in a relationship and have been dating a while. I would make sure though to not make it a regular thing though. Also cooking together is NOT a date. It would be a vetting strategy I would pull out later in the game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 08:37 AM |
| 160 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?I would save this for down the line, obviously after you've established a committed relationship. Make it vetting thing. Is he suggesting the recipe? Is he grocery shopping and buying the right ingredients? Is he skimping, buying the wrong items, or omitting things out of laziness or cheapness? Cooking will show you how well he follows directions, doing it together will show if you can work in a team, it'll show you how he reacts when things can get little stressful. Does he do his fair share of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 08:34 AM |
| 39 | The title was « exactly why you should do coffee dates first »Yup I'm seeing the butt hurt cheapskate comment too! Of you can't even cough up the maybe $30 it costs to take me to dinner ($30 is what it usually costs for what I order on a date) then he needs to on linked in looking for jobs, not on OLD looking for dates. The whole point of a dinner date is to sit in a nice environment and really be able to have that more private conversation. Decent restaurants will be cozy and the table will have a level of privacy - enough for you to have a good conversat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢With actual children, you get a tax credit. With lvm you get abused for free labor like this and that mantrum can turn violent quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:25 PM |
| 73 | The title was « exactly why you should do coffee dates first »The paragraph though about her time being valuable and the effort and money it costs her to get ready is giving me life! Love seeing other queens have this mindset and waking up. I turned down a lot of coffee dates. Coffee dates were a high school thing I I do with friends and in college it's where I would meet up for a group project or to study with classmates for an exam! Coffee is something I will take myself out for when I'm shopping or meeting a friend, I'll grab a cup before we start the d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)This is also something that varies by state: if you drive for uber eats they technically say you aren't supposed to have a passenger along and you aren't supposed to have a gun in the car. With uber eats I wasn't actually picking up customers, only the food. I kept a gun in my driver door in the case - legal in the state I was in - and I would bring along my roomate who liked the drive and for safety. Sometimes uber eats would send me to a sketchy neighborhood and my roomate and I would walk the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:19 PM |
| 27 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)Love this post! Give the general field you work in. If you're a kindergarten teacher just say "I work in education" if you're a pediatric nurse just say "I work in healthcare" if he presses don't give more info. Don't say what company/location you work for. Don't mention what actual town or neighborhoods you live in. Maybe you live 35 minutes outside of Portland- so just say "I'm in the Portland area" Google him before going on a date. Should be part of vetting. Look for his social media's as we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 02:53 AM |
| 6 | Stop getting into cars with men.I'm glad it's helping. I've mentioned it before in comments but unfortunately keep seeing posts where the woman willingly let's him give her a ride. So It was time to make a post dedicated to the reasoning, worst case scenario, and share how driving myself was one of the main reasons I didn't get raped that day. Dude had been a close friend and I remember my grandma offering to give me a ride as she liked the shops that were near his house... Definitely is always a good choice to drive yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:10 AM |
| 19 | Stop getting into cars with men.Yes triple a is a great investment. I advise anyone who is driving especially of you moved away from family like me (I don't have anyone but my roomate) you do not want to be stranded or pay a fortune to get a tow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:58 PM |
| 33 | Vet the restaurant or venue he asked you to, especially if you're new to townYup another red flag. He is lazy and doesn't Want to be bothered to think of my location and my drive time, and it was a dive bar... if I would have gone you know the goal was to get me tipsy and take me back to his place | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:57 PM |
| 5 | NEVER EVER FINANCIALLY RELY ON A MAN! Naive young women on TikTok are idealising the stay at home wife/mum lifestyle and literally cursing our hard-earnt right to work.Working does not "suck" We worked as women to have our right to work. Let me also remind this young tick tocker that it is a lot EASIER to clock into a 9 to 5 then come home, eat dinner, watch TV, and head to bed for the next day RATHER than being the housewife. A housewife does at LEAST 10 JOBS she is a maid, a chef, secretary, pet sitter, nurse, caregiver to the kids, teacher, handyman (fixing things, or making sure things get fixed), sex doll, and therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:47 PM |
| 126 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementMarriage for her would be a mistake most likely. But her being unwed and becoming a baby momma sets a bad example to women that are reproducing with men that have more assets and money than them - marriage would give women like that more of an advantage for themselves and the baby if the father cheated/left. You should have the legal protections of a marriage when having a baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:43 PM |
| 43 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementReally was disappointed and confused at Rihanna when she announced this. She was music queen, but then really got my respect when she started branching out with Fenty Beauty and her Savage Fenty lingerie line - both brands broke barriers and she really pushed for more inclusivity- a huge step in the right direction in my opinion. From a business standpoint though it was also genius - she is a successful businesswoman who created multiple streams of income. Then seeing her pregnant with ASAP as t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:38 PM |
| 33 | Stop getting into cars with men.There's men that want to even SEE what you're driving and get a look at the plate. I had a stalker that knew my car and boy would try to follow me, by looking for the car. Told me he'd drive around my town looking for my car so he could find where I lived. Had another dude tell me "I wish I could just follow you around all day see how you drive, where you go, and what you do" it was very creepy. It's a good idea to get to the date a little early, and head inside the restaurant /sit right outside… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:23 PM |
| 10 | Vet the restaurant or venue he asked you to, especially if you're new to townThat was part of the description when I looked up the place online so that was why I used it as the fake name for being anonymous! Haha. The actual name sounded like it might have been higher end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:15 PM |
| 11 | Vet the restaurant or venue he asked you to, especially if you're new to townGoogle Street view If it's available. It'll look run down too. If you Stull aren't sure Google that town or area look at crime stats. If you're looking stuff up and still feel unsure - feeling unsure is your gut telling you it's a red flag - trust me there are parts of towns you really should not be going into especially alone! Delete and block members that can't take you somewhere respectable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:14 PM |
| 1 | LVM in televisionIf you've seen better call Saul, Kim is one of the biggest pickmes and I could write a post on her situationship with Saul, which just gets worse and worse over time and you see how it mentally and physically impacts her as well as her career. It's so difficult to watch because I would sacrifice too much as a pickme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:06 AM |
| 19 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!You overall did a good job but please do not let a man be picking you up / do not get in the car with him. Please use your own transportation until you really are serious and know him better. This way he wouldn't know where you live, you wouldn't have had ro be listening to him in the car ride. That car ride with him getting upset at you like that was dangerous: he could have started driving recklessly out of childish rage, he could have dropped you off somewhere and left you there, he could hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 05:35 AM |
| 10 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himGenuinely happy to see that Prudence is a Queen and gave the right advice - mentioned the red flag of the physical aggression (it is a clear sign of abuse) and that the fact she isn't happy alone is enough for a divorce. Op is doing the right thing as well she's being honest with herself and filing for divorce. I'm appalled that she only had that one request, and that he didnt respect it. I had PTSD from a car accident and can imagine how triggering that must have been for her, plus the humiliat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 01:47 AM |
| 3 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .You have to take plan B ASAP for it to have a decent chance at being effective though. Buying online and waiting for it to arrive is not a good idea if you just had sex and there was a slip up or you suspect a mishap. I'm sure you're aware but I'm writing it out a lot of women are reading and need this reminder. You have to take plab asap, don't wait more than 2 days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 01:36 AM |
| 62 | Liz and Big Ed are a cautionary tale (90 day single life spoilers)Exactly he was initially so disgusting and LV and as they kept filming he got worse and worse, as it always is with LVM. Seeing colt and Debbie both call him out and the other cast members faces was bad. I hope Liz calls off the marriage and gets herself some help. I know she has a kid and I'm worried for that kids safety too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 11:14 AM |
| 66 | Liz and Big Ed are a cautionary tale (90 day single life spoilers)If you followed the whole series from the start to finish, you can also see how big Ed's true self came out more and more.... red flags got bigger and bigger as he got nastier and more abusive along the way. You can also see he got sneakier in some ways as it progressed, better at faking some things and putting on an act in some ways. Very scary stuff. Shows what fds says is true and how scary and dangerous it is to ignore red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 10:48 AM |
| 59 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them.If it does mean men that have brain damaged wives, then this prostitute is enabling them to cheat on their poor wives-who are unaware and not able to even understand at that point. That's sick. That woman should be ashamed of herself if she is enabling cheating like that. Prostitute is never a thing to brag about, especially when he's married and his wife isn't there mentally. Bars in hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 10:46 AM |
| 5 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪Other than the awful gift, I do hope you had a happy birthday! No you did NOT overreact at all. He dated you and was well aware of your diet as to what you eat and do not eat, the truth is he does NOT care. He gave you, just as you said, a generic zero effort gift. I wouldn't be surprised if he was simply using up a gift card or Groupon he got. The first red flag was him asking if you wanted to do anything for your birthday. Theres no reason to ask, he should have been doing something special an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 09:21 AM |
| 53 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them.Also for disabled men... I knew plenty of women that married/dated men that are disabled, even men that are disabled from the waist down. Women will sleep with disabled men.... so as for her argument that she's doing disabled men a favor by sleeping with them... it goes to show it was not their disability as the reason why no other women will sleep with them. Dude had to be a real NVM or have other issues as to why even pickmes won't sleep with him ... Scary thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 09:13 AM |
| 116 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them.How can a man with that severe of brain damage actually be fully aware though to even be having sex? He should NOT be having sex if he really does have that severe of brain damage. Same with men that have kinks so weird (yes I said it WEIRD) that no other women will sleep with him and he has to pay someone to let him act out those kinks- the stuff is probably so sick /weird it has to be abusive or just about illegal acts and he should NOT be having sex at that point. And if a man has anxiety tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 09:10 AM |
| 5 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.Actual single in her 30s starter pack: BASED QUEEN. Wise. Sees through scrotes and lvms. Gives good advice. Great friend and role model to others. Financially secure. Career is taking off and she's flourishing. Great girl gang. Spends quality time with them. Beautiful house or apartment, nicely decorated, clean, organized. Has an awesome wardrobe. Her closet has great pieces that reflect her taste and make her feel confident. Has a workout routine and skincare routine. Knows how to look and feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:33 PM |
| 4 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.The single LVM starter pack actually looks like: -messy nest in a cheap apartment /parents basement -rusty, dirty, broken down car /no car -5 in 1 in the shower -frozen meals and fast food wrappers all about -empty liquor bottles as decor -Christmas string lights as decor -video game collection -anime and superhero merch debt, bills -fridge consists of condiments, beer, and some water. That's it. condoms near his floor matress/nest -pile of clothes/laundry on the floor -has tinder, bumble, hinge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:26 PM |
| 2 | No second date, so he wants moneyWow. The audacity is off the charts. In his 50s and really can't afford $30? Dusty lvm. He askes her out, was graced by your friends beauty and charm and her precious time, and im sure when the bill came he was the one who offered to pay. Then he has the balls to ask to be reimbursed. Give me a break. I hope she did not entertain such an awful person. Even when I was in MY TEENS I would buy my friends coffee, ice cream, movie tickets and snacks... and thats when I barely had any money. I'm just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:20 PM |
| 12 | I walked away when my needs weren't metProud of you for doing the right thing. A month was plenty of time for him to have gotten to know you enough and it was time for him to start getting more serious... you dodged being "strung along" and there's plenty of posts on here as cautionary tales of being strung along. You deserve so much more to be that scrotes back up plan while he hunts for women that are lower effort pickmes! Good riddance to a time waster like him. You are part of the scrite resistance and this is model behavior to o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:14 PM |
| 74 | A Curated Selection from OLDLots of words to say "I'm a cheater" And "seeking free prostitution" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:58 PM |
| 586 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .It needs to go beyond online dating, in general women need to stand together and stop being pickmes who offer free prostitution to men. I said it. That means stop going to bars/clubs/events and sleeping with a man you just met 2 hours ago. Stop sending nudes. Stop accepting low effort dates. Stop giving broke /ugly/unhygienic/unemployed/cheating men "a chance". The problem is that pickmes enable LVM by agreeing to do casual sex. And then Stay around for situationships. If we all stopped engaging… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:55 PM |
| 33 | Warning ⚠️ Some red-pill guys have started adopting FDS lingoI saw one on a dating app recently his bio literally opened with "I'm a Dusty" 🚩🚩🚩🚩 immediately swiped left | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:27 AM |
| 3 | Gradually dropping a male orbiterSounds like a man I met on OLD that I recently blocked hahaha. Oh no. This is a case where I advise to slow fade him, for your own safety, since he knows where you live and whatnot. I did the slow fade ro him: I stopped initiating any contact, then when he would reach out I would wait almost a full day to respond, and when I did respond I just acted disinterested/ used excuses/ when he would fish for pity with me I would just say "thats life for ya" and I would quickly switch the subject say I h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Do you talk to your therapist about FDS?Yes. I mentioned that I follow online groups that promote boundaries and encourage healthy self esteem and reciprocity in relationships. When I talked about exes who were lvm and lv things a lot of them are abusive traits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:42 AM |
| 8 | Negs her, calls her response a meltdown, asks reddit if he is wrong or if she is overreacting.Wow he didn't text her sooner? First red flag was the delayed response. 2nd was that YESTERDAY was her birthday and he missed it completely, didn't even TEXT a "happy birthday" ... then he negs her and tries gaslighting. I would have blocked if I didn't hear from him within 24 hours OR if he knew it was my birthday and didn't do anything (when you're just talking and haven't even met the bare minimum is him saying happy birthday and asking about your day) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:40 AM |
| 61 | A quality 1ct diamond can be over 10k, BUT Reddit society agrees that $7500 on an engagement ring is INSANEPandora or the jcpenney $25 ring section is TOO CHEAP though. For a man that is very wealthy, $7500 is not enough. For a man that maybe makes $40k a year though, then $7500 is a bit much for his salary - you need to make sure the man is financially savvy. The cost of the ring should be appropriate for his income- it should be at least a months salary in my opinion - and it definitely needs to reflect your style and preferences of whatever stone/metal/material you like. You do not have to be sett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 03:39 AM |
| 1 | beware of men that aren't over their EX and the subtle ways they let you knowI dont acknowledge my exes if I do happen to bump into them. I just pretend I don't know then and keep walking. There is no reason to be in contact with an ex, and there is no reason to go over to them and shit chat if you do see them. Same with men's exes. He should just keep walking. Ex is an ex for a reason and should be out of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 03:32 AM |
| 3 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?I would have deleted and blocked when he asked for her to "teach him" ... would have prevented the rest of the convo. The "sometime" was also another red flag for me in that text block when he made that low effort, vague lets hangout sometime and you can each me... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Men Can Now Respond Directly to The Female Dating Strategy Podcast!mods should send a link to the $10 scrotes mad when taking down whatever they try posting in fds lol, this will direct them away from the reddit and help the podcast make money, win win | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:50 AM |
| 12 | Of course we already know these two are dysfunctional, but still had to share. This is disgustingive been saying that she stoops down to his level by making herself speak less eloquently around him and then I saw a clip of his proposal ... Megan also got down on her knees to the ground!!! she literally stooped for him. It was so pickme. usually the man will put the ring in her finger then he will stand up and they will embrace... nope she got on the ground too smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Sigh. Ladies, tell me what you think.they KNOW what a clit is, they KNOW where it is, they KNOW how to have good foreplay, they KNOW how to make a woman cum.... they just do NOT care so they do NOT even try. they will instead make effort on creating excuses, playing dumb, gaslighting women by saying we choose men we dont like etc.... he is selfish and only cares about his own pleasure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:39 AM |
| 72 | Tell us about the PickMe friend(s) you ditched!when I was in college one of my closest friends and I would study together a lot - it helped us both - but she was a huge pickme in her personal life. when she got a boyfriend she would bring him to everything and they would often invite me to Third wheel. he seemed cool, we all seemed to get along pretty well. until one night when he started DMing me and then read-only said "I wish I met you before I met (her name) because I would much rather be F****ing you. I really want to F you. You're so m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:34 AM |
| 88 | Tell us about the PickMe friend(s) you ditched!a few years ago I was going through a really rough breakup and one of my male friends at the time was being a good, supportive friend (I really thought so back then) and then he tricked me into being alone with him for a few minutes and assaulted me and had the intention of raping me. Luckily, I was able to quickly leave and drive off. anyways, I told my friends who were mutual friends with him, so they all were warned. One of my friends then spoke up, sobbing, saying he did the same thing to he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:27 AM |
| 9 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.A "friend" isn't someone you twist the truth for, make mental gymnastics to manipulate, use, and hide facts from.... scrotes tell on themselves! 10 MONTHS they should have been exclusive by then! See men do keep options available and the new woman is already giving him something sexual, she is lower effort, so that's of course why he is trying to place the 10 month woman on the backburner and call her a "friend" - so he can go back to her when the new woman dumps him. Scrotes all use the same ga… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:06 PM |
| 9 | "I just fell asleep" Men that won't say goodnight or just dip from convosYup. Lvm don't like when women are intelligent, deep, or get engaging and they have to step up the effort. They want us to be like stereotypical anime women - docile, stupid, naive, shallow, willing to do anything for a man, swooning over the slightest bread crumb. It's a good vetting strategy to quickly transition the chat from small talk to something more deep. Lvms can't handle that much effort or stand seeing us as actual intelligent people - so they dip without notice. Block him immediately… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:25 PM |
| 3 | "I just fell asleep" Men that won't say goodnight or just dip from convosYup they'll "fall asleep" mid convo never responding or saying goodnight then check their phones and neg "woman, YOU NEVER said goodnight to me!" With their rage I had a first date with a guy and he basically did this a few days after the date. Vanished mid convo. No goodnight or anything. I had been the last to text. I checked my phone the next day and he still never responded. It hit the 24 hour mark and still no response. This was early in my FDS days so I was still learning, but I foolishly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:17 PM |
| 24 | had a bad coffee date, i’m glad his red flags were obviousThe fact he asked you for coffee alone was enough to block and delete. This is why coffee isn't a date. He has money as he doesn't pay rent. This man is a dusty lvm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 02:59 AM |
| 40 | 35+ Queens - He Still Ain't S**TWise words. I'm 27 and started wishing up when I hit 25 and since finding this sub and seeing posts like this - it helps me embrace getting older, wiser, more secure, have less debt and more savings, and be able to enjoy the finer things in life! I had my rebellious years and my years as a pickme, it didn't work, I didn't get "picked" because I dodged bullets. You're so right about the guys in their 20s and 30s being lv, it's a cesspool. It's already gotten so much easier to see Red flags early … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:41 AM |
| 28 | Valentine’s Day Is Coming UpWith the info in the edit, he NEEDS to be iniating some form for romantic gesture for Valentines day. It doesn't matter that you aren't official - Valentines day is his opportunity to get official and really pull out all the stops to win you over. A HVM would do any of the following: - make it clear he wants to see you on vday, ask if you feel comfortable going to a restaurant in person, and making dinner reservations for you -if you aren't comfortable with in person, then he should be asking if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:33 AM |
| 126 | When Talk Show Hosts Make Celebrities Uncomfortable (how gross. it's of course mostly women)Poor Jennifer Anniston, she was pretty much assaulted. Her screaming and her facial expressions and pulling away was hard to watch. Also Kristen Stewart, he just went and touched her and didnt even ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:24 AM |
| 15 | Finally happened to me... The proposed work date 😂Don't even respond to him. Delete and block immediately. He was ready telling you 1- what to do, 2-invited himself along into your space (your car) and 3- he would have considered that a date. The audacity of these scrotes, you're the one working and he wants to sit in your car and tag along. Wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:10 AM |
| 27 | you're allowed to want a fairytale wedding & a pricey ringBrass "because it's antibacterial" when he meant to say "brass because I'm cheap and don't actually value you. Lower your standards for me, woman!" See how they will use buzzwords to try forcing a cheaper ring? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Text: I have a few minutes, Do you want to talk on phone?Oh no. He sounds EXACTLY like a man I blocked right before the holidays. He started off like that with me late night calls at the last minute and would say things like "I just like talking on the phone better, I drive a lot so I don't text" etc. He also would loosely mention plans like ice cream and exotic restaurants he knew places, he was trying to see what I liked, etc and then never followed through. The calls when he did call were long- he drove for uber and would call me in between rides b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:49 AM |
| 10 | OLD and vettingI'm gonna add the less obvious ones: men that have fake names or have their name written in another language /alphabet when they are not actually from that country/don't speak the language. 🚩 🚩 "I'm a good ol country boy" type of line. Means he is a msyogynisyic man child seeking a bang maid 🚩"just a simple guy, loves to hunt, camp, fish, and ride my dirt bike. Loves history" these men are usually cheap, socially awkward and need to find some bros for their hobbies. He is the type to not want to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:39 AM |
| 8 | What do members of FDS think of the idea of love at first sight?I have not had experiences like that. I did have one though on a first date he was walking towards me in the parking lot he was very handsome in person, and I could feel this animalistic reaction of almost like a danger? All I could think of was "he's gonna destroy me and break my heart"... turns out he was the one that was such a smooth love bomber, great actor at faking being high value, and it did destroy me... but it did lead me to FDS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:24 AM |
| 29 | This is why setting clear boundaries from the beginning is important. He showed his true colors before wasting any time. I had ghosted him many years ago after a few dates and always felt bad cause I thought he seemed nice, so I decided to respond when he reached out again and this happenedTranslation of the Scrote: can I get get my dick wet? You: made it clear you require more effort Scrote: plays dumb plays pity card 2 hours later the scrote streams "THAT B*! I was just trying to be nice why won't she give me a chance?! I am running out of ally backup options, even the ones from years past" Block and delete. Bullet dodged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:19 AM |
| 136 | Why do they keep romanticizing “toxic love” ?She honestly acts more immature and shallow around him, she actually has a very high IQ. She seems to purposely dumb herself down around him and acts more shallow. I was rooting for her, I wanted to see some queen energy! But he's a man child and I think she stoops to his level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:13 AM |
| 63 | Why do they keep romanticizing “toxic love” ?MGK gives me the ick, he reminds me of a rebellious emo teen that wont grow up. He's trying so hard to be edgy but isn't he in his 30s? I can't place my finger on it but there is an ick. He was climbing at ACL and did a video that was high school themed not too long ago. Megan has this twin flame mindset with him, she's actually very intelligent, but when I see her in videos with him she speaks in a very immature way, like she is dumbing herself down and acting more shallow. Twin flames is pickm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:10 AM |
| 11 | Shania Twain - That Don't Impress Me Much (Official Music Video) ..My mom and I would sing this and always be playing this when I was little... just brought back the memories! Wow. I loved it then but now I love it even more 👌 she was really channeling queen energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:59 AM |
| 6 | Where do my FDS ladies like to shop?Everlane, madewell, j crew, old navy, and loft all have options I like for more professional clothing. For my going out clothes: free people, anthropologie, spell, and love shack fancy. Soft spot for target brand clothes I get at gabes or dirt cheap all under $10, they have really nice looking work clothes. Ross is great if you have one because they are affordable and if you like thrift shop prices and have a store called Gabes - I loved it there. Lots of really cheap basic clothes and shoes, I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:57 AM |
| 108 | Have you found that men on OLD lie about wanting/looking for a relationship just to get laid?First off, never have anything in your OLD profile like "looking for a serious relationship/ hoping to settle down / no Games /no hookups" and don't mention that you're looking for a relationship to them. They will just mimic and play the role of also wanting a relationship. Even when you listen to that advice above, yes a LOT of the OLD clowns will pretend to be looking for a relationship and play the part anyways. Fear not! This is why we have vetting strategies. Men that are just pretending t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:50 AM |
| 5 | Are they ridiculous, or do you have a husband that won’t do basic shit!The fact that she's combining about being her husband's unpaid secretary (we are calling a spade a spade, she is doing free secretary labor by making his appointments) it shows she is at the beginning of her wake up process. She's tired, she's fed up, and she is wanting the scrotery to stop even with that one aspect. We all have been there. FDS for me wasn't something I fully accepted I had to have my snapping point, and then slowly came around to fds after seeing through my own experiences it h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:23 AM |
| 46 | Potential Vetting Method? "I have a latex allergy."I agree buying your own condoms is a step that's impossible to take because of these reasons. I already have to go into the gyno, get birth control pills (I use to manage my periods), and in my state it's hard to get an abortion... and I don't trust men. Some men know you don't want kids and really will try to baby trap you, my friends here have all told me stories. It gives me more of a peace of mind using condoms I provide, especially because I do not trust generic /cheap condoms or the men pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:18 AM |
| 8 | This is what people on reddit consider "heartwarming"-women doing all the emotional and physical labor for men while they have breakdownsThis is what you do for your young child or a baby not a grown, adult man!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Thank you thank you FDSI just Googled a pic of uncle fritz hahhaaha oh no, he looks like a sad spaz with a lady puppet 🥴 haha if I could imagine a cartoon depiction of a scrote I think this is perfect. Seriously glad you did the video chat, you saved a lot of time and energy compared to going to an in-person date with him! Such a good way to tell if he is a catfish too. Scrotes always tell on themselves good for seeing the red flags and deleting and blocking. Really sorry to hear about the racism as well, him mentioni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:03 AM |
| 23 | Flip the scriptNice swerve! Good job seeing the red flag of "im spontaneous" because that's their lie usually along with "im chill / laid back /just want to see what happens/ go with the flow/ love down to earth girls". One time when I was a pickme the dude I was seeing decided to be spontaneous and "wanted to take me somewhere special" so I said I'd get dressed up... and the dude takes me to a hiking trail covered in a lot of big rocks, going up a mountain which was step. The rocks were massive you had to bas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 08:24 AM |
| 3 | Gaslighting women into staying with LVMYes men will say these things to women, but this is also something pickmes will tell you to "keep a man" and "make the relationship work" - this is why you can't have pickme friends. If you have pickme coworkers you have to keep them at a safe distance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:06 PM |
| 8 | Pickmeisha me vs FDS enlightened me:Yeah I learned the hard way, this is too accurate. Now I actually respect myself and will see myself out glady at the first red flag. No more stressing and wasting headspace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:02 PM |
| 77 | Ladies, how long did it take for the man's mask to slip, during dating?Before fds it was usually when we hit the 2 to 3 month stage, he would lower the effort to just Netflix and chill. It went like this always: he started off seemingly charming, put together, good on paper, well groomed and well dressed, and would take me to nice dates like restaurants and events. Then as we moved forward, he would pull a bait and switch "the restaurant has a long wait" or "they didn't accept reservations" "I can't even get a parking spot" ... "want to just get burger king?!" And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 06:58 PM |
| 137 | While I try to support our sisters, this… idk how I feel about this…. Like why can’t we protest woman’s rights.Yup that's the issue. Scrotes will be showing up just to basically get free OF and almost nudes and be taking photos for their "collection" ... empowering. Sex work is one of the biggest reasons why scrotes have the bar in hell and continue to see women as objects for their own use and pleasure, rather than human beings. There's other reasons, and I know many women feel desperate who get into it or were groomed /brainwashed, but men will never respect anything they see as an object - no differen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 06:49 PM |
| 68 | While I try to support our sisters, this… idk how I feel about this…. Like why can’t we protest woman’s rights.Not surprised at the location. I hate that they call it "sex work" no it is "prostitution" men especially do not respect prostitutes, they never have, they never will. I made a post on the double standard mem have saying that they support "prostitution" but then also say things like they would never touch her with a 10ft pole, and community bicycle talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 06:45 PM |
| 3 | Him making new numbers to text you after being blocked is harassment. My state says it's "not enough" to file a restraining order. I am not changing MY number bc a scrote won't listen to "no"That is a terrifying story and that's scary he kept calling her that many times over the years and even had a woman calling for him! I remember during college I had some friends I drifted apart from - two women both had messaged me seemingly like they wanted to reconnect with me and be good friends again- but they were both asking me for other peoples numbers and to even call and text th sending messages from them! I quickly put my foot down and said j am not giving you that person's contact inf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Him making new numbers to text you after being blocked is harassment. My state says it's "not enough" to file a restraining order. I am not changing MY number bc a scrote won't listen to "no"Honestly my post talked about how exhausting it is to have to be the one to be inconvenienced because of a scrote. I turned on a setting as someone else commented. All of my social media is private and I have not been adding anyone new. I have some ideas to hide a security camera or something like that in decoration near my door, I have been wanting one anyways. The only reason I had responded to the one asking who is this was for the sake of collecting evidence. He responded with his first and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 05:56 AM |
| 27 | Him making new numbers to text you after being blocked is harassment. My state says it's "not enough" to file a restraining order. I am not changing MY number bc a scrote won't listen to "no"This is what I pretty much told everyone who told me to buy something or inconvenience myself to essentially hide from him. The cops in my town are all a lot of mostly white men a little older than me an they are msyogynistic! I called and asked the office about filing a restraining order (because I can see that this guy isn't gonna stop - 6 new numbers in less than 2 weeks? And following me around that time I was driving?) And he was like you could just change change your number or see what he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:21 PM |
| 32 | Him making new numbers to text you after being blocked is harassment. My state says it's "not enough" to file a restraining order. I am not changing MY number bc a scrote won't listen to "no"I had no idea. Thank you so much!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 08:39 AM |
| 13 | HVMs are not unicornsSuch a great point. My one uncle has HVM traits, and it's no surprise his son (my cousin) is also a HVM to his fiancee. I know we like to post a lot here about lvms, venting and warning others, but HVM do exist. My friends dad is another solid example of someone who seemed to be a HVM, from what I saw anyways. I had also posted a few months back that my grandpa is sick and has dementia, he is bed ridden and in a home. He can't even remember his own name sometimes. He knew my birthday was coming … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 07:44 AM |
| 8 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menThe audacity that he thinks you're just an object like an incubator. I'm sorry, the trash takes itself out, feel better soon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:05 AM |
| 10 | "I WORK and pay ALL the bills" and "she agreed to it" does not justify being a man-childI saw that too. So glad she's divorced. I thought that video was a good example though of these man children that won't lift a finger and are abusive even though she does everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 02:52 AM |
| 28 | "I WORK and pay ALL the bills" and "she agreed to it" does not justify being a man-childVery well said. I had to leave a job in the past because they tried doing that, giving me all the supervisor duties without the pay! These scrotes really try tricking women. Imagine if the role was reversed and we got married and then came home to a clean house, hot meal, lunches packed, kids and pets taken care of, appointments made, laundry and dishes done and so on... wow. How quickly things would change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:44 PM |
| 39 | Anyone else experiencing the desperation going on in OLD right now?Cheapskate. I had a man ask me to a "thrift shop date" and to drive him because he didn't have a car 🤡 and he was 32 years old. He wants you to tag along to HIS thrift shopping and call it a date. Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?Yeah all of his situation screams to me red flags. His marriage wasn't that long, and yeah you're right I think he was either just saying he's in contact and parenting the kids to seem like a good guy... I told him I wasn't comfortable he was in contact with his ex who is the mom of those kids and I wasn't comfortable with the fact he's still "friends" with his other ex "who fell in love again with him" and calls him for a few hours at a time. He's trying to keep a harem. And yeah there's nothin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?In his case it's definitely a red flag to me. I don't appreciate this sub coming at me for saying it is a red flag he's still involved with his step kids and I think that it's a way for him to be in contact and possibly get that ex back into his life. It IS suspicious. He lied in his dating profile and said he didn't have kids, I have filters on for no kids, ans he drops the bomb on me. If he actually loved those kids he wouldn't have moved so far, and he would have stated he had kids in his bio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?I agree. I don't like that he talks to his first ex wife for hours either. There's no reason to, and it's great he's being a dad to the 2nd ex wives kids but he doesn't need that much communication and hangouts with her. In no disrespect to her, I also have no business coming in as a stepmother to her kids. It just seems sort of pickme on my end. They have a new father figure for over a year as well as this other guy. Quite frankly, I don't want or need the responsibility of raising another woma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 04:11 PM |
| 4 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?Yeah I was thinking about it kids and exes that are in contact are both deal-breakers. I thought about what if we had a relationship? Is he gonna have me meet and help raise her kids? If they really are like his kids and he's involved I'd have to meet them and step up then if I had a future with him. He can't have one foot in the door playing dad and being with her and have another out the door being a single bachelor with someone like me as a new woman. It wouldn't work. I know the ex and kids … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:50 PM |
| 5 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?I think he had plenty of red flags. He waited to tell me about the ex wives he has two. And he waited to tell me about his kids. Contact with ex is my deal-breaker, he also still calls up his other ex wife they're friends who talk for hours, and hangs with the other wife who has the kids. Kids are a deal breaker as well. We should not give him the benefit of the doubt. He wants chances with either ex and the kids happen to be a good reason for him to keep talking to that ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:37 PM |
| 5 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?Kids are a deal breaker for me and so is being in contact with exes. He swears nothing will ever happen and he just cares for the kids but i am still young, I don't ever want kids, and I don't need the burden of raising his step kids and dealing with his ex. Of course he waited to tell me about his 2 divorces. And waited to mention the kids! Of course he's butthurt the ex wife moved on and found someone else, and he's whining he can't get any dates. Also let it slip he keeps his other ex wife in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:34 PM |
| 8 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?Yup kids are a dealbreaker for me same with being in contact with the ex and he's doing both of those I dont Care if its because of kids he got attached too. I don't want kids, and I don't want to deal with a man's ex. I already blocked and posted this afterwards to see what everyone else thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?He could also just be blatantly lying. He may not actually be in contact or helping with those kids at all. Might just want to sound like a good guy. fds has me always thinking at the worst case scenarios until proven otherwise and I'm listening to my gut something with him and that situation is off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:05 PM |
| 11 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?This is why I posted. She's had a new man stepparemting them for over a year and he is also still in the situation and co parenting. It was rubbing me the wrong way a lot. He was saying she moved on so fast and was a cheater and complaining he's single and wishing that he could find someone ro settle down with, which is more reasons I wonder about his real motives. I think as women we like to assume he really loves the kids and being like a dad, but honestly I think he's alone and desperate and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:00 PM |
| 11 | Men that are still parenting step-kids after their divorce?Yeah something about it is giving me a major red flag. She's been in a new relationship for over a year and that new guy has been step parenting and this other guy is still step parenting too? I think its great when a man does step up but I am weary of his actual motives, wondering if they are actually divorced | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbers5 years ago is a record. I was shocked the men reaching out to me had to be from 2 to 3 years ago because that's when I dated /chatted a lot of gave out my number (and it was pretty fds so before I was blocking). And yeah a lot of men have admitted to me they keep numbers of women I think they see it as like having a roster / trophy case no matter if they talk or were dumped or not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 08:08 PM |
| 18 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbersScrotes and scammers... I don't see a difference both low value and unwanted LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 09:49 AM |
| 17 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbersKeep it in the back of your mind, some old folks aren't tech savvy, so it could have been an accident- just be on alert he doesn't do anything else weird! You can never be sure with men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 08:37 AM |
| 40 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbersYup. That's the whole point of the post: it's usually a scrote and don't message back. Old pickme me would have texted back "who is this" or "happy new year!" And fallen for the trap. New me ignores and blocks these texts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:05 AM |
| 292 | We're not doing it anymoreExactly. Women are not in a time anymore where we need men. Thanks to women like RBG, we can get our own lines of credit, we can get our own housing, etc. We don't need to rely on a man for income, security / protection, or a place to live. We can even adopt kids if we want / do IVF if we want children. We also have even more options for birth control if we do not want children. My point is we really don't need men in this day in age, at least in the USA. And yet, the bar has somehow been lowere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 01:44 AM |
| 24 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbersI wish it was as easy as just putting on airplane mode I also think there's a setting of do nor disturb and you can set it so only certain people's texts ans calls will come through- but I do have applications out there so I need to be able to answer a call if someone from one of those banks calls me. I also live far from my family so all of them have been in contact with me. I am also tired of having to go to these extra measures ro avoid the harassment and scrotes. Why should I have to make a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 01:36 AM |
| 242 | If you found yourself starting to NAG your man - LEAVE.A "nag" itself is a toxic, neg level term invented by LVMs so they can keep trying the strategic incompetence card. It's honestly emotionally abusive to have to "nag" a grown man to finish the job (take out the trash, put a new bag in, clean up his tools he left out, take out the old heavy part when he did a repair but half assed it, etc) They don't listen and pretend to be incompetent then laugh that a woman "nags" them. If a man ever says he was "nagged" in the past he's telling on himself and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 12:56 AM |
| 157 | Being alone is always > than being with a person of low valueIt's the truth. I spent Christmas alone, I Skype with family and mailed them presents. My mom mailed me a lot of wonderful, thoughtful presents- all wrapped. All catered to my taste. You can tell she put love and effort into it. I bought myself some skincare and hair care and used a giftcard to get a new pair of shoes. I made myself a fantastic dinner! I felt so happy and loved. So much better than stressing over a LVM, dealing with his family, spending money on him when he doesn't when get me a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 12:52 AM |
| 6 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?I have a small blur apron (meal kit) box coming I enjoy cooking and their recipes. I also spent $60 at sephora. I've been wanting one of the sol de jainerio kits (and the hair one was on sale) it does wonders on my hair but it's pricey, and the second item I got was the it cosmetics holiday set with the confidence cream (does wonders for my dry skin in the winter) and it came with some minis. Let's not forget, I just blocked another scrote. He started playing the hot/cold game / bread crumbling … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbaby"The mother brainwashed" his kid - I hate this, it's internalized misogyny. No the single mom was pulling all the weight raising the scrotes kids, and the kid eventually started seeing dad wasn't around and wasn't trying. Also, pets are a great vetting strategy. If he doesn't take care of his animals, he is definitely LV. especially if he is trying to call her the dogs "mommy" 🚩 and then expects her to take care of the dogs 🚩. Good for her for leaving, pets are a lot of extra responsibility and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:32 AM |
| 2 | This dumb ass scrote I work with is literally going to leave these spilled ramekins of dry cereal on his half (when we're on the line )of the section floor 😆That's disgusting and I hope the boss /management gives him trouble for it. Do not fall into the trap of cleaning it up for him. It's one of the scrote shit tests, he's seeing how much he can get away with and if anyone will clean up for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:28 AM |
| 22 | Meghan Trainor's new song, "Title" - for women not into FWBsA refreshing step in the right direction, especially with so much pickme grande and other pickme anthems being pushed when you hear a radio | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:25 AM |
| 99 | What is it with men and being greedy and wanting open relationships?A lot of men are cheaters. I won't ever call it qn "open relationship" it's cheating, period. They're pornsick, depraved, and their actual wife or girlfriend is sick of their LV nonsense so he created a dead bedroom for himself. Rather than actually helping around the house, he seeks a pickme with low standards to get sex without strings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:21 AM |
| 43 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?I made a mistake and apologize I thought Lolita was child-isj type of clothes for adults. I looked up pics of nymphet fashion and it makes more sense. So I apologize as I called this Lolita in my title too. I think a lot of the dresses from the company (selkie) I pictured though are not Lolita they are more sexualized /kinky | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:30 AM |
| 11 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?They showed me the top one of the women holding hands shining twins style in my targeted ad.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:10 AM |
| 104 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?Dd LG "kink" aka abuse and pretending a grown woman is a child when having sex.... that's my idea as to these ads. The girls hand holding in pink dresses is a reference to the shining twins, also trauma victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:09 AM |
| 18 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?Yup its selkie and I don't have an issue with the puff sleeve dresses but some of the outfits especially in the ads are really playing off a lolita vibe and pandering to the dd/LG kink... and that is basically a "dominant" aka abusive man pretending the woman is a child when he has sex with her. I read into ads as the subliminal messages can be wild | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:04 AM |
| 24 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?Theyre trying to appeal to trauma, as sick as it sounds, I think. Reading into, and maybe I am reading too far into it, I think they want to appeal to women with childhood trauma that's unresolved and to pornsick rapey men that like minors so they want an adult to dress up like a little girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 01:15 AM |
| 33 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?I'm honestly being more mindful of the ads that are shown to me because ads are part of the overlying issue and there is no reason to have ads like this. Worse was the one I saw for a woman bringing expensive shower Scrub "to wash away the sins of last night" and "make the walk of shame less shameful" to a guys house for a hookup because "he didn't finish the job"... for shower scrubs and washes... again no reason they had to advertise that way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 11:30 PM |
| 23 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?A women's clothing company this is from their ads and how they decided to advertise. Of all the ways they could have advertised, they decided to go with this abusive creepy tone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 11:28 PM |
| 53 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?It was giving me the ick as well. Like fetish-y lolita bs the expressions and tears really seem rapey. This is why I posted as a discussion I didn't know if I was reading into it too much or I'd its actually gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:31 PM |
| 56 | The tea is hotThey leave a "snail trail" of poop down the bowl and o don't even know how they can be that dirty and then just leave it. So unsanitary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 02:13 AM |
| 258 | Why do men act so nice to other people but seem to hate their own wife and children?It's part of the abuse cycle. They are abusers. Often men like this are emotionally abusive at home and quite frankly it's emotional abuse - yelling, screaming, tantrums, hot/cold game style tactics, qnd honestly the feigned incompetence talked about in the podcast is part of the abuse. Abusers do it like this because they can get away with it. Cops won't arrest a man for yelling and belittling you. Abusers like to be super friendly to their peers and coworkers because it's part of their manipul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 02:11 AM |
| 31 | What are your standards when dating?Adding no history of cheating or age gap relationships and needs ro be reliable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 09:45 PM |
| 64 | What are your standards when dating?My list of standards: -single and child free -college degree or higher, stable job, reliable car -has his own place -functioning adult (manages his money, pays bills, does chores and keeps his place and himself clean, grocery shops, cooks, his place has furniture) -no addiction issues (alcohol, drugs, p0rn, gambling, no video gamers as many gamer guys are broke video game addicts) -responsible (drives responsibly, if something needs fixing he does it right or pays to get it done promptly, etc) -… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 09:41 PM |
| 2 | Update on kicking out an abusive Ex (Narcissist). **Law & Order** episodeYou give me so much hope. Keep fighting. You are a hero for protecting yourself are getting this taken care of- it will be a warning and help other women dodge him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:42 AM |
| 11 | Wife’s message to husband on TinderMy heart hurts for her. She's a beautiful and he is never gonna find anyone like her. I hope she's already in contact with a good divorce attorney and finds healing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:37 AM |
| 23 | How do you handle being approached by scrotes?I lie and say "thanks, but I already have a boyfriend" Usually the guy will then say something like "hur hur he must be a lucky man" Thats when I'm already in the process of walking away and I'll say "have a nice day" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:32 AM |
| 30 | How often do you go on a date?Honestly I usually only have a date every other month. I get approached by men in public and I check my OLD here and there but hardly anyone can pass the basic criteria of: no kids, supports themselves, doesn't live with their parents, decent job, and their own reliable transportation. I'm getting close to 30 I have my own job, am independent, have my own working car, and my own place - kids are a dealbreaker for me because I don't want kids. To be honest I block or walk away from them usually b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 04:55 AM |
| 14 | Now that's a movie I'd want to watch!Hahha this post triggered a scrote and I got a reddit cares message. 🤣 wow shocking that women shouldn't have to give up their carreers and nice things to settle for a scrote in a small town? The bar is in hell. Pursue your careers and treat yourselves well FDSers. Don't move and leave what you worked for behind for any man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?No I in my upper 20s and I don't want kids, and I dont want to be a stepmother to anyone else's kids. I especially am not ready to be dealing with a coparent situation with the mom, a lot of people my age are doing that and the biological mom is hostile to her, creates drama, or pretends to be her friend to bad mouth the dad and cause them to split up. I think that it would be different if I already had kids myself or if I was older / mentally and emotionally ready and willing to step up as a po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:20 PM |
| 5 | I'm going to sound ridiculous...Be proud of doing the right thing when his mask started slipping, you saw he was looking for sex before you were ready, you enforced your boundaries and then blocked him. You should be proud of yourself for that, it isn't easy! I have been fooled lots of times by men before, especially when I was younger and a Virgin! It may have been love bombing but it sounds like he was more of good at pretending to play the part to pass initial vetting. I'm 26 and a lot of guys now pretend to act HV planning… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Low effort flirting and low effort dates I have been shutting down all weekExactly! I am glad I stuck to my own plans I already had: went and saw some lights, went thrift shopping in the city (my favorite), and met my roomate for a steak dinner with a cocktail. Had a great time! Definitely glad I found fds and prioritize myself and have fun rather than dropping everything and delivering myself to some scrote and being cooped up in a boring Starbucks, you know he would have drug out the coffee date for over an hour too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:17 AM |
| 130 | Low effort flirting and low effort dates I have been shutting down all weekYeah I don't do last minute anything with dating, it sends him the wrong message and he will abuse the low effort/last minute thing if you entertain it. I drop everything at the last minute only if a family member is having an emergency. Lvm audacity never fails to shock and disgust me. I'm from a smaller town where I would hangout at coffee shops in college for study groups and with friends, we didn't have much to do. Part of me moving as far as I did was to be near the city I described because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:59 AM |
| 41 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 39 - Casual Sex, Part 1: Don‘t Do It, But if You Do, Sit On His Face) + Real Estate StalkerSexual coercion is attempted rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:05 AM |
| 13 | This is too funny 🙄Every self proclaimed "hard working man" was a huge lvm who used "I work" as an excuse to not take out the trash, never help with dinner, never run errands, never put his dirty clothes the the hamper etc Go ahead and be a pickme who mentions to him once or twice to wash his rotting dish or do his sticky laundry... and you'll be an evil, crazy, nag. "Babe the hamper is right there. Stop putting your underwear with poop smears next to the hamper," you'll cry out out of frustration at him! And he'l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 07:23 AM |
| 52 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombIt started with Texas and I remember posting to my personal social media's that Texan women especially should be raising their standards and waiting to sleep with a man because of the abortion rules. Now that the whole country is taking this turn for the worse it's even more of a reason for women to be adopting the FDS mindset. Since it's harder to get an abortion, it needs to be harder to have sex. That means vetting, proper dates, high standards. I am in my 20s and against casual hookups. Said… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 07:16 AM |
| 72 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?I used to believe the old right person, wrong time thing. I thought I had to always be dressed up, makeup, hair nails, and be slim to "attract" a "good husband". I thought relationships failed sometimes because the woman didn't "put out" enough. Thankfully I learner and found fds! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:08 AM |
| 66 | Boundaries, block/delete, and keeping your standards high are all worth it in the end.For me, I do all these things out of self love because I love myself enough not to allow myself to get hurt again. Because I love myself enough not to suffer the emotional abuse (and physical abuse that I suspect) my mom endured from my NVM father. It's hard to keep your standards high, it's hard to block/delete, it's hard to stop yourself and walk away instead of giving him a chance (or 2nd chance), it's hard cutting off pickme friends that are dragging you down, and it's especially hard to lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 09:57 AM |
| 93 | Live action Cowboy Bebop won't dress Faye as scanty as original, actress speaks outScrotes everywhere are crying that they won't pander to the male gaze 🤣 I'm here for it. It's good to take the focus off her outfits and shift it towards her character. I hope more actresses speak up like this and it makes a difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:10 AM |
| 92 | Live action Cowboy Bebop won't dress Faye as scanty as original, actress speaks outNice to see that they dressed her in more realistic outfit than the original. Also refreshing to hear the actress speak out about the unrealistic proportions and outfits in the original. It's a step in the right direction I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 02:21 AM |
| 65 | Stepping into my power with FDS style datingSo proud of you! This is good you checked his OLD for anyone using OLD keep them as a match while you date. If they are updating it shows that they're still looking for other side plates. The man you blocked was acting HV wearing a mask he knew how to walk the walk with the dates and being polite... its good you saw that travel mode because you saved yourself a lot of time and heart break when his mask slipped. Checking their dating profile is a good strategy for those using OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:36 PM |
| 94 | Lvm telling on themselves: "sex work is a valid profession" and yet he would "never touch that sk@nk with a 10 ft pole"Exactly, good observation. When she benefits them, she is desired, when she is free. One told me a sex worker approached him one time and he tried acting like a Saint "I don't pay for sex!" Saying it like he was a good person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:31 PM |
| 111 | OP is ignored by her boyfriend at a friend's birthday party because he was busy speaking to another woman all day. Comments told her to just talk to him. Proceeds to make a bunch of excuses for him as well.This is NVM behavior. A hvm would invite his gf and then be introducing her to everyone at the event. He would stay by her side for the duration of the event ie not abandoning her. He would be including her in conversations. The fact that he abandoned her to talk to one other woman the entire time is very sus and NV. This is awful to read. This is why vet and if this still happens to you, please get up and leave. Don't even tell him just walk out. Also why I encourage you to drive separately/ ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:07 PM |
| 46 | Never beg a man to marry youHe hates her. It's apparent. He doesn't care about her and is fighting her on everything. This is where those guys who start negging you will turn into of you entertain them, this is why you block and delete asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 11:01 PM |
| 70 | More negs which aren't always obvious and guys try to act like it's "normal conversation"And its not even personal. Shows he is insecure or has deep rooted issues, usually mommy issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:35 AM |
| 3 | REMINDER: Do not clean up for dirty scrotes and make them feel cozy in their filth *busy none* they can find *one* hour out of the week to clean their scum.Omg that toliet is a biohazard. She's really scrubbing that shit had be on there for ages for it to be that caked on. Yuck. Live in nannies make around 20 an hour with free food, room/board, and usually get to use the parents car with a gas card to run errands. Granted they only do light housework/tidying up and get to take care of the child. So I don't understand why she is taking care of a (man) child for free when she could have all those benefits plus a paycheck on top of it. I know being a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:09 AM |
| 8 | Let’s count the red flags together!Sounds like he didn't confirm the plans with her He was only 5 min early? If I am reading that right. I personally like to get somewhere like 15 or 10 min early. That's how I was raised bit my personal standard is having someone else be early around that same 10 to 15 minute time frame. He didn't make reservations and he should have. He should have better warned her about parking if he did know ahead of time OR been more helpful with finding overflow /alternate parking. Drinks dates are red flag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:04 AM |
| 3 | Never Help Men With Their Woman-Seeking MotivesMy step-dad with my mom consistently. He always is texting me last minute having me DO the shopping and research FOR him. Then he gives her the present I picked out and found the website for and takes all the credit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:33 AM |
| 3 | How many red flags can you pack into 1 profile? LET'S COUNT!Translation: I'm Paul im not active or attractive so won't post pics BIT I want a model level, skinny, sex doll I can use for my pleasure. She needs to be dtf anytime! I'm actually married and use OLD to hunt for my many side pieces. Chase me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:31 AM |
| 15 | Dating outside of your raceWatch for "assumptions" he makes which will show if he is a r@cist. They usually try to downplay it and then say "im not rac1st!" He shouldn't be asking things like what language do you speak at home, do you have family over there, and watch especially with the holidays for him showing himself as a r@cist ie "does your family (or he may say culture) celebrate Thanksgiving/christmas/etc" Its the things he will pass off as "little" and will try to make them come off as "sweet". It could even be "h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:25 AM |
| 141 | "Do you want to hang out sometime?"Yes. I remember when I was just starting fds I applied vetting, followed the handbook best I could, and things were going well with this guy. We did the predate call. I watched the time and said I had to go when it hit around a half hour. I was surprised he texted me almost immediately after the call saying how lovely the talk was and how he would like to get to know me more. He had been mentioning his favorite restaurant on the phone and I was thinking maybe he would ask me out there for dinner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 08:57 PM |
| 44 | Start calling it what it is when you can.Also goes without saying also follow up or encourage your friend to file up by reporting it. In my situation at the bar we told the bartender and then I left and dragged my friend along with me. If you see something, say something. If you're out and about and you see another woman with a man and she looks uncomfortable it's okay to start making conversation see if she's okay. Let's stick together we can make a difference | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 08:52 PM |
| 17 | Some of the many buzz words which all mean hes a F BoyYup. Also they will say: not sure what I want right now, let's see what happens, no drama, need a down to earth girl (down to earth = a woman with no standards, and 2nd of all we are women not girls), no drama, good vibes, any man asking you to "hangout" all red flags that he wants a FWB situation. This post thought was specifically pointing out the buzz words men use to admit they are cheaters, all the words on my list confirm he has other women on the side and he will not ever be establishing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 12:23 AM |
| 2 | Car mechanics need to respect professional boundariesSorry this happened but thank you for sharing because you had the perfect response to it. This is a perfect example of when it is OKAY to actually unblock- to inform his baby momma and to show the management/use as evidence before re-blocking. You did the right thing by telling her and also by going in and telling the manager about what happened, good for calling it out that he has a woman and has children on the way with her. I am all for bringing back shame and calling it out hopefully keeps y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 11:39 PM |
| 115 | If he tells you to swallow his cum, tell him to swallow your period blood :)"They just won't degrade the women they love" THIS! As fds always says men know. They know their semen and body fluids are gross. There were even some men i knew before fds that had mentioned to me or my friends that they were seeing that "going down on a woman is gross" so if they think it's gross then why are they wanting us to perform oral on them, talk about a double standard. When they really love a woman they will give her non selfish, fulfilling sex, with the goal of her pleasure, comfort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 11:31 PM |
| 60 | Tired of polyamorous folks being judgemental towards monogamy, I need helpCheating is what it is. No matter what buzz word they use. The thing is I started owning being "judgemental" and giving confused looks /repulsed facial expressions while saying things like "you're okay with him sleeping with other women?" I also hate that they are trying to normalize cheating relationships and I think deep down they know it's wrong, deep down they have to know that sleeping around with others isn't real love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 11:22 PM |
| 28 | Love is never enough!Also discuss the thermostat temp, and vet vet vet. Make sure to be on the same page about pets too, children /birth control. If he happens to have a pet during the relaxing a good part of vetting is to see how well he actually takes care of it and if he keeps the house clean (no dog fur everywhere or cat litter everywhere) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 10:28 AM |
| 8 | I left a perfectly good man because FDS made me believe I could do better. And you were rightGood post. A lot of us that are recovering pickmes or new to FDS often think guys like your previous boyfriend really think men like that are "so good" and "great catches" when they really are lousy, not even meeting the bare minimum men. He wasn't planning and he paid sometimes which sounded like that was his way of 50/50. Your current boyfriend is a real example of a man that ACTUALLY is "good". He makes effort, he doesn't cheap out, his intentions are clear, he makes time for you and values y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 06:42 AM |
| 34 | OLD: Who needs personality when you’ve been on a boat, caught a fish that one time or go to the gym?You then can already see they'll be asking you on hike/walk dates. Instant swipe left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 06:33 AM |
| 92 | In most cases, it is a bad, bad idea to buy a house, especially your childhood home, with a bf, not a husband 🚩10 years together, no ring 🚩he makes > $100k, she $60k, but planning to split mortgage 50/50 🚩house is barely affordable even with their combined income. Ways this can go south in 3…2…1If you can't afford it alone it's not a great idea. All the other red flags are already stated. Her better option is to move elsewhere with her 60k salary and find a starter home, small and modest is okay, at a price range she can handle alone. Do not get roped into over half a million of debt AND be attached to a scrote. A small house she buys in and pays for herself and has only her name on is the way to go he can rent an apartment for himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 06:29 AM |
| 85 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?You should not be leading/training the man on how to properly date you. Let him do all the talking because that's how you will see his true self. If he is the one suggesting drinks/coffee/walks/hangout then if you're online block and delete and if its person stop being polite and just laugh it off like it is a ludicrous suggestion and decline. Say you need to get going. If you tell him you only do dinner he will just pretend to be high value, try to get you to catch feels and then revert back to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 60 | Listen to your GUT not your Heart: guys will fake a nice first date and drop effort OR try a switch a roo as their masks slipYou did the right thing by blocking him, but a lot of them really do think women are sex dispensers and they act entitled to it by the 2nd date. A lot lately have all been saying they want sex on the 2nd date one dude said straight to my face he will drive his bigger car to the movies so we can "park" afterwards. It's appalling. As much as it sucks when we see their true colors, we stand together the more we shut down LVMs and f boys the more they will have to step up or go back to their moms ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:49 AM |
| 78 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionI can't believe this is real. First off he posts a photo of her like this where her hair is crazy /messy. He did it on purpose. He wants to make her look bad. The caption speaks for itself, he is telling on himself. He uses her for his benefit and will leave her through cheating in the next 2 or 3 years years max. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:11 PM |
| 12 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.She does everything for him and he literally used the word "trade" to describe their relationship which is toxic and in that tit for tat reciprocal mindset, and notice how he literally says she does everything and he at best, opens a jar of pickles. She does 99% and he does 1%, far from any fair trade. Bad deal. Notice the neg disguised as a joke "if I don't get her anything for her birthday" ... this is the typical hur dur negs that lvm love to throw around. This man has all the money in the wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:44 PM |
| 164 | if a beaver can wash his butt, pits, and balls then so can your bfEven raccoons who dig through trash and scraps are notoriously clean animals they pretty much will wash their hands as well as certain items they scavenge. Since men like to pull that they're such animals... well even raccoons and beavers clean themselves. Animals like male seahorses carry the young. Female fireflies and preying mantis will lure males in, seduce them, and eat them. Just saying lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 05:47 AM |
| 25 | How do you strategize outfits and fashion for dates?I like dressing to impress on the first date. Usually a mini dress, something that flatters my figure because I have a butt and a bit of a belly that doesn't look good in bodycon dresses. I do my makeup and usually flatten my hair and wear my hair down. I generally pick one piece of jewelry so he already knows I appreciate jewelry. I have one necklace most guys tend to ask about on the first date, which is a cue for me to mention the brand and how much I love it and their designs. It signals to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 05:44 AM |
| 3 | PSA: Halloween is almost here for many of us.Instead of going to a bar or party, I decided to buy a bunch of candy and get dressed up to hand it out to the trick or treaters. Gonna have a scary moving playing while waiting for them. Gonna have a nice oktoberfest beer as well. Cheaper and less risky than going to one of the rave style parties in the city! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 09:37 PM |
| 380 | You should have a “hoe phase!”A "hoe phase" shouldn't be normalized and I had that pushed on me by pickme classmates in college. She is trying to drag you down to her level. -higher risk of stds and abuse. Taking a man home you dont know and just think about it- you're getting naked and often hes atop you where he pretty much overpowers you. Higher risk of him being violent and abusive especially when you're at your most vulnerable -yeast infections, throwing off the pH, etc no thanks -hookups are awkward. You don't even kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:31 PM |
| 109 | Let's talk about picky eaters.You are spot on with LVMs that refuse to cook and are also picky/narrow minded when it comes to trying different foods. The thing is they CAN cook at least on a basic level they just feign incompetence and are too lazy to actually cook. Usually these lvms just get microwave dinners, make boxed mac and cheese, and live off mcdonalds. Lvms that don't want to try different foods are usually super narrow minded, judgemental, and in my experience tend to have racist and xenophobic tendencies. I can u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:19 PM |
| 8 | Knowing Your Worth: Pricing the First DateI always let him suggest /plan the restaurant or event. I make sure to lookup the restaurant before hand so I know its a classier place and not in a bad neighborhood. On dates I make sure to order an actual drink not just water and I will have him get us an appetizer and I usually order steak or a seafood dinner because they are pricier. I usually can tell of the man is cheaper by seeing how he reacts to what I order and also seeing what he orders. The bar needs to be set high from the first dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 12:42 AM |
| 3 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?If she is actually family then yes. In almost all other cases, no. Almost all the straight men I knew were only "friends" with women because they were trying to get in their pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 12:38 AM |
| 24 | Is Marriage a Bad Deal for Women?It's always a massively bad deal if he is a LVM and is looking for the bang maid/ mommy figure. One thing that helps me when vetting is thinking what does he bring to the table other than his own plate? Does he cook at a functioning adult level? Microwave pizza does not count. Does he burn pasta? My step-dad and ex did! Yes apparently they are that bad of cooks they somehow burnt pasta. Does he clean up after himself and his pets? Is his car maintained and cleaned? Is he financially secure and i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:39 PM |
| 3 | What dating is like in a small townfacts they have such good videos though https://www.instagram.com/p/CMKMGfKA9I1/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link ^ this one was made for FDS!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 03:34 AM |
| 13 | Who’s watched Maid on Netflix.I got a few episodes in and had to stop. My dad was a lot like her baby daddy growing up with the emotional abuse and games especially. All around a LVM. im happy my mom eventually separated and divorced him, because he had gotten violent towards her. The things he said to her and the way he acted reminds me so much of my own father, especially how he tries to be a cool fun guy to the daughter with that whole "lets hangout" attitude towards parenting and his mom is really the one watching her. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:25 PM |
| 10 | Was reading a vent that got deleted bc OP said FDS and incels are not in anyway comparable and got hella attacked, but the worst part is the women who coddle men 🤦🏽♀️ truly our weakest linksI hate that they say we hate men and compare us to incels and extremists. We are a self love sub that preaches empowerment to women. We tell women to be able to support themselves, work on self improvement and growth, have hobbies and a career. Life is fulfilled so we don't have to depend on a man which helps prevent us from being trapped in a toxic or abusive relationship. A lot of the advice on here is VERY similar to what my therapist told me throughout our sessions: setting boundaries, havin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 07:44 PM |
| 13 | Let's talk about why women have sex with men they don't really like and/or are not attracted toBut yeah these are the types that will sleep with men that they are not the least bit attracted to. My former friend who I think was molested and was neglected my her parents growing up (poor workaholics who never spent time and paid attention to her) ended up having a series of hookups that were very short term, most under 2 months. She thought giving sex up easily to anyone that accepted it was love and that if she offered that to them they would genuinely love her. She was always sad and conf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:42 AM |
| 30 | Let's talk about why women have sex with men they don't really like and/or are not attracted toClassmates I had were extremely pickmes that had pretty deep unresolved trauma- rape, assault, etc. Often on top of it, they had an absent father or mother that was also an extreme pickme that was so desperately trying to make a toxic, often emotionally abusive marriage work. These types of classmates allowed cheating, had that keep and fight for a man mentality, and would often hookup to think they would heal from a breakup. Others were just neglected as a child by parents that were always at w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:37 AM |
| 14 | I just discovered blocked messages on my iPhone!The initial time you talked with him/the first date was his chance, and he blew it. Lol at his tears! This is a shit test from him though seeing if you're weak enough to crawl back (pickmes would and this dude would just walk all over them and treat them so lousy) good for you keep your chin up and thank you for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:26 AM |
| 15 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.This is good advice but I can't even get them to pass basic pre-date vetting. I am trying. Trust me. And one of them that was actually meeting the bare minimum has asked me out to a nice dinner and I agreed... and he ghosted me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:18 AM |
| 6 | Prepping to leave - biding my timeBeen in a similar situation before. Here's what I advise from living in it. Find a copy of the lease and read it over carefully. Some let you leave early you can just pay a fee type of thing, but it all depends on what it says. You could always talk to your landlord as well if you have questions. Start saving up money. Get an idea of what other apartments would cost and keep it in mind to budget. Typically they want to see that you make at least 3x the rent. Keep quiet about your plans and ideas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:22 AM |
| 21 | If it wasn't for this community ladies, I wouldn't be experiencing this. #LiveYourBestLife #Don'tSettleForLess ❤️Wow that's beautiful, enjoy! Thank you for sharing sometimes I feel hopeless and stuff like this reminds me HVM do exist and "if he wants to, he will". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 10:09 PM |
| 20 | Surprised by his decent behaviour, and then… the mask slipped 🚩Oh he tried to pull a really sneaky bait and switch on you. Good for you for trusting your gut instinct that something was off and you even saw that slots were available. I am really into the whole embarass /shame them which you sort of did by showing him slots were available- and of course he still lied. It's good you broke off contact then. He was definitely gonna gave you get there and take you for a walk or even try to get you to go back to his place with him. This is a good post showing tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?Honestly, I do NOT enjoy blowjobs at all. It doesn't do anything for me or for my pleasure. Often times, he smells a little like pee too which is gross. Honestly, blowjobs get tiring. I actually enjoy giving hand jobs I think it helps get me in the mood a little and as long as there's reciprocation and effort. Blow jobs just feel messy, there's a lot of saliva, and I feel like the guy always wants to turn it into a face f*cking session, I can't enjoy that at all because I have a gag reflex - and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?In westworld, Dolores becomes a HVW as she evolves over time. She starts learning about herself, stands up for herself, pursues her justice, and leaves a toxic environment. In the walking dead, watch Michone and Maggie. Pay attention to Michones back story, how she overcame it, became independent, bit also became a wonderful friend and amazing leader. Maggie goes from living at the farmhouse to becoming more tough, and she develops more as a leader and becomes more independent over time. In Maid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 02:12 AM |
| 18 | The danger of using FDS inconsistentlyHe's mooching living with her in her moms house. He should ashamed of that. He needs to get his own place. He also sounds like he is home often or all the time. He financially is "wrecked" sounds like he needs to get a job or pickup a 2nd job. It's not a "husband" thing to clean up after yourself. Beings that he is living in the moms house, he SHOULD be keeping it clean and doing some of the extra chores/errands since he is staying there. To me, that's base level respect. Doing her laundry doesn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 05:14 PM |
| 42 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….🚩mentioned he found her "beautiful" totally out of the blue 🚩🚩🚩has "sleepovers" with these female friends (this gets THREE red flags it's so sus, especially with the context) 🚩 tried bringing other women along 🚩double standard of him wanting to know of it was a guy you were sleeping over with I have always said in the past to be hesitant of guys that have female friends, because usually they are just trying to shoot their shot. Every male friend that I have had in the past was trying to shoot th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 04:24 PM |
| 125 | This is why you vet and have to block scrotes. This man is 93 look at him getting put together and taking his wife out for a date. 93 years old... and today's young LVMs want to meetup for a walk lastA great observation! One of my friend's grandmothers was married to a HVM and she also looked about 15 years younger than her actual age. Why? She wasn't super stressed, she wasn't overwhelmed, she wasn't carrying the weight of two people alone. He financially provided, set up funds for her if anything happened to him, he took care of the housework, the banking, helped run the errands, cleaned up and when he started getting sick and got weak he hired maids to come. When he realized how sick he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 09:33 PM |
| 12 | "WIFE 💍"pickmes completely loose their own sense of identity when they get picked, ie become a wife. they really think that they have to go into that bang maid role, their whole life now revolves around the man, and the kids if they have kids. it's a scary thing to think about because I wonder how many of the pickmes are so brainwashed by the patriarchy that they go into marriage thinking that's what they have to do, let alone be excited about it. also though I wonder how many times the husband takes a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 03:21 PM |
| 2 | For ladies who don't like/can't wear rings, what do you prefer instead?I dont like rings really. I would consider accepting property, a nice car, some of my debt being paid off, or a check I can just stash away. I do like necklaces and bracelets a lot so I would think about having those in leui of a ring. They would obviously have to be nice quality, good stones, to my taste, quality metals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:33 PM |
| 53 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyI HATE the small talk how r u and good morning shit especially when there are plenty of topics in my profile (a fun fact, the field i work in, and travel - I would rather than ask me about any of those and then it also shows they took time to read and send me something they put effort into) But this whole "keeping a man" thing is so msyogynisyic and toxic. Keeping a house is the only thing that you should actually have to work to keep- financially you're working to pay for the house and the bill… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?I think the ring should definitely be of value and should require effort: the guy having to actually save up for it, looking at different styles and designs, and going the extra mile to really pick out/design a ring that reflects her style and preferences. It should be on the pricey side for the man, because it should be a serious purchase, one that requires him to work for it, because it shouldn't be taken lightly. You can use alternative stones if you like but the ring can still be a good qual… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 04:01 PM |
| 28 | They always come back for a temp checkHey it's enough for a snack at a gas station lol! Be careful though. He may be making more new accounts or numbers to harass you. Be careful if he knows where you live or work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Channeling this energy today.I'm 26 and already have seen myself grow so much. I've learned to stop caring about stupid things, I started speaking my mind more when appropriate, I learned how to and started enforcing my boundaries. I started using the "block and delete" tactic for low value men and friendships. Recently spent time with my grandparents. Sure it cost me a lot of time and lost work to take those 2 weeks off... but it was so worth the investment. They both love me show much and set a great example for what I sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 12:52 AM |
| 33 | Weekly FDS Check-InJoe rogan fans are instantly block and delete territory right? Guy mentioned the name to me and it rang a bell. Can someone explain to me is this rogan dude a red piller spreading that ideology? Also went to my cousins wedding. It was beautiful until the pastor literally started saying on the altar how a wife's job is to lift up and comfort her husband, be submissive to him, and serve him, she is supposed to fill in his broken pieces. The pastor then spoke how the husband's role was to lead the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 02:53 PM |
| 3 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?Here's a list of copy pastas they will use: How r u/ hey beautiful / hi cutie / hello I'm so and so I have to say you are absolutely stunning would you like to get to know more about me / wow you have beautiful eyes / hi I'm so and so I work as a (job) so I'm not on this app all the time I don't get messages here but I would like to get to know you better if interested heres my phone number They also may use a pickup line. Look for guys that read your profile and message you something pertaining… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inJoe Rogan is a huge red flag right? What is he about just a red piller? His name was mentioned and I definitely could have sworn i saw that name here as a red flag list. I am prepared to block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:15 AM |
| 37 | What are your thoughts?Seems like a huge neg sandwich. He is dissing her singing and look at his choice of words they are all negative when describing it. He seems to enjoy the fact that she isn't good at something. Some of us are thinking the sentiment is cute but I am weary of this. Seems like he wants to keep her down. Edit: plus the fact he is telling the internet this as well as his friends probably? To me it's pointing out she's bad at something. Sort of reminds me of a parent pretending a toddlers artwork is su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:03 AM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Check-Inattending a wedding soon ALONE. no date, no plus one. feels liberating. its my first wedding as an adult and I remember my friends stressing trying to find any scrote they could so they would have a date, but that cant be me. I can enjoy the wedding with my friends that already will be there without toting around a scrote! had a great 1st date with a dude and then guess what? he tried pulling the slow fade on me. his effort just nice dived off a cliff and then he stopped responding. and I slippe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 02:45 AM |
| 45 | I think we can all guess how this went down-- Elon must've used his work travel as an excuse to have an "oPeN rElAtiOnShiP", a total slap in the face to Grimes after having his baby!!! Friendly reminder that most wealthy men are LVM who treat women as sex objects and incubators."we still love each other" - Naw, sis! if he really LOVED you he wouldn't have cheated on you with anyone, and call it anything you want - ie open relationship, ENM, Poly, swinging, etc... its all cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 02:32 AM |
| 10 | What's everyone's MBTI type?Yup same here. They're amazed at how warm and intelligent I can be usually find me highly charming and they're amazed at how I door slam like they meant nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:22 AM |
| 4 | What's everyone's MBTI type?Infj-t here hello friend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:20 AM |
| 7 | What's everyone's MBTI type?Infj-t ... and I recently met an entp... which they say is my most compatible match. The vetting was going well overall and the first date seemed fine, slightly boring because I was focusing and really trying to interview and observe, but then he pulled the slow fade and his effort nose dived off the cliff, and almost TWO full days had passed and he never responded to me. I was hoping he was better. Of course I hoped he had a valid reason but I knew he just was looking for a lower effort cool gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:19 AM |
| 4 | anyone here ever just declared war with a man?When I was younger and still a pickme it was war for me. And before therapy then it was hurt him before he cuts me too deep. I made a few guys cry after they started breadcrumbing me, being hot/cold, compared me other woman, or just gave me shit for being "a prude" because I wouldn't do FWb. Then I got a little more in war mode and just started lashing out full in war at the first straw of disrespect. Then I found this sub, took a step back from dating, got myself into therapy, now I vet and if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:10 AM |
| 34 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?50/50 isn't "fair" and to be "expected" its more like 90/10 and a scam for women to be mommy bangmaids -bread crumming and the slow fade/mixed signals are signs he is NOT into you and to drop him any time you get those -the importance of dropping pickme/lv friends -block and delete -coffee /bars aren't actual dates, you should say no -how to vet and being independent so you can leave ANY time a mask slips | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:44 AM |
| 56 | Pickme dates. He brought to the gym and for a walk? How romantic… Thoughts? 😂When I had some extra pounds on i noticed I got asked on way more gym / hike "dates" rather than when I underweight just starting college (I was sick and lost too much weight) the guys would ask me to drinks /coffee /walk around a mall or garden not the gym /hikes. I am NOT doing this to body shame anyone but I noticed with the extra pounds for me the gym and use of the term "hike" or just mentioning exercise off the bat is way more common from lvms. It isn't just LV but it's a NEG. A gym date w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:51 PM |
| 3 | I can't believe I have to ask this on Planet Earth.Not everyone likes anal! That is okay. You also have to remember a lot of the hyping it up /guys pushing for it comes from them being depraved and pornsick. If it is something someone is into and they consent then that is fine. I just don't like the coercion- its rapey- for anal or anything. I personally never could get into anal. A lot of the guys that were into it would immediately pressure me and you know how many times their dick "slipped" or they just tried putting it in my anus? A lot. Whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:42 PM |
| 116 | FDS isn't "wild" it is the same standards i learned in therapy especially with how to recognize abuseYes! This. The issue is largely from society normalizing and even romanticizing not only pickmeism but abusive and toxic relationships. Then a lot of women start waking up but only to be gaslit by their family and friends. For me, that's why I ended up staying in an abusive relationship when all the signs were there that it would turn abusive physically and no surprise he got violent and it took that to happen for me to leave. Until then my friends and mom said I was being "too clingy, too criti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 08:06 PM |
| 18 | My EX’s phone called me.Take this as a reminder - GO through your APPS, social media, contact lists and check for any other accounts /contacts that you need to block and delete. It shouldn't have to be said be on the lookout for him making new numbers or fake accounts trying go contact you again. Review your settings on social media and messaging so you can't have random people dm you. Forgive yourself but acknowledge that YOU slipped and entertained him. That's on you. The fact he was calling you all morning and then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:59 PM |
| 107 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”how many of us have been coerced? going through the list I have experienced 10 of these, 11 if you want to take the "continuing to offer her drinks...:" and thinking of it as guys that keep pressuring you to drink because they have sleazy intentions and want to make it easier to prey on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:57 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-inmy roomate is loosing her temper and snapping. it's becoming a verbally abusive/manipulative situation. I am making an exit plan to get another place before my lease ends. I dont have the money to get another place right now but im gonna work harder to save up money again and get a different place. anyways I had a first date with a guy a month ago. thought it went good enough to keep in contact. the week afterwards he spent away on a vacation he was still checking in and showed me some of the va… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:50 AM |
| 16 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureAny man anyone dates / sleeps with needs to let her use as much toliet paper/wipes /a towel/take a shower. Men owe that to us its the bare minimum. Whining /complaining about any of that and I would end it immediately and be heading out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:30 PM |
| 18 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureCuddling can be really nice i agree, but I was saying sometimes women only want to cuddle because he was selfish in bed and came and she didnt... so she is still seeking some fulfillment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:26 PM |
| 25 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureAgreed. I don't want his seed in me at all ... and any man being slept with needs to respect how you feel about raw/finishing inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:09 PM |
| 87 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureThey showed a twinkie being filled with cream and even called it "cream" and that all stems from porn. The whole "cream pie" porn fantasy and then that video was too much. It's not funny, clever, or appealing advertising it is porn sick. And the 69 count size... okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:14 PM |
| 3 | I’m just so over dating at this pointAh he is bread crumbing and doing the slow fade game. Next! I feel your frustration. The effort drops off. Then gets less and less. I can't even be friends with someone who doesn't make an effort to get to know me or check in on me so why would I accept that in a potential relationship? Hell no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesHe should be in the process of moving out after college /by his early to mid 20s. Graduate college, start working, maybe save up a little first then get a place. If he didn't go to college then he should be working and saving up. He should have reliable transportation too. If hes in his 20s especially after college age/graduating college they need to be more mature. No frat houses/ drug dens/ partying. No neck beard nests and floor mattresses. Beware of if he lives at home still in his late 20s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Are beauty pageants empowering or are they a pick-me tournament?I never liked it. Beauty isn't just physical but also personality as cliche as that sounds. Pagents are pushed on young girls, even toddlers, and it sends this toxic message to them that women have to look like a perfect model and compete with each other. Often sends the message that you also need to spend hundreds of dollars on costumes, hair, makeup, etc to be "beautiful". Some pagents are more about talent or more natural but generally speaking pagent culture is toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:36 PM |
| 6 | The ole blast from the past “I’m in your town let’s get coffee” textHe was seeking you out because he is hoping to feel you out for casual sex (or he may be married and looking to secretly cheat). Most men aren't just being friendly. If anyone really cared about you or was an actual friend to you they would have been actually messaging you more often, not just when they're "in town". Beware. It would be one thing if it was a group thing or like a reunion but he is seeking you out and putting those feels out for a hookup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:32 PM |
| 6 | How do you deal with rejection?He is going after a woman that's several years younger because that's the LVM tactic - they want younger women that are less aware of redpill/LV tactics. He thinks she will be easier to use for sex and is hoping she is enough of a cool girl to let his clown ways and low effort slide. He saw you were a secure, leveled up queen. You are doing FDS correctly because you repelled him, that chemistry you felt you had with him was just him being smooth and knowing how to pretend at first. I get that I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:13 PM |
| 156 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureAlso the one size of pack they offer is "69 count" i mean come on. Its a women owned company supposedly ... won't be supporting this business at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:03 PM |
| 18 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureThe ad http://imgur.com/gallery/hyjBmdu | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:59 PM |
| 27 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenPer use it would be less than $21. He can afford that. They drop way more on only fans, strip clubs, or if they buy video games.... Even the guys with yellow flags sometimes drop $400 on headphones or $$ for concert tickets /vacations etc so they should be able to afford it no issue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 12:19 AM |
| 23 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenYet I used to have painful periods every month where I was hunched over on pain, nauseous, bloated, drowsy, and with headaches lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:54 PM |
| 29 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenYeah I used to put advice on fds saying lie to him say you aren't on it so he will use the condoms, but it doesn't matter no matter what you are on he should wear condoms anyways. Its also easier to vet men that whine about condoms from the get go - like him whining is him telling on himself and its your cue to delete block and not bother sleeping with him. My old mindset was stay on the pill to protect myself. My new mindset is stay abstinent until I meet someone willing to wear condoms without… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:51 PM |
| 71 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenThe 70s 🤧🤧🤧? I'm at a loss for words. The msyogynists are keeping it at bay so it has to fall as the women's burden. We made a covid vaccine that works and got approval in months. And yet they still won't make a male birth control. That's more bs than a cow pasture. We need to get vocal about gnks as fds-ers. Males need to have options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:45 PM |
| 26 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenAnd really he should be offering to pay for it and I'd there's a copay for that dr appointment you need to get the RX for it. Im in the US we need a copay, an appointment, to take time out of our days sit in a waiting room theyre always late, then beg the Dr for the RX we actually want... then have to drop it off and pay that $250. Lol. Anyone that wants to sleep with me from now on HAS TO give me money towards it. Not sorry. If I wanted phexxi $250 plus the copay of the appointment is A LOT OF … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:41 PM |
| 8 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?I am using OLD despite what fds says. I can dip my toe in the pool and its easier for me to vet /spot red flags after like almost 2 years of being on a break from dating. I have 2 photos where you can clearly see my face. One photo is no makeup. The other is my makeup I wear to work or to be around family. So they have a realistic idea of what I look like in daily life. The third pic is a body shot in a slightly classier /dressier outfit. Its modest. I don't use filters. I wanted to come across … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:35 PM |
| 9 | If a man is willing to sleep with me too soon then I stop finding him attractive.Yup I look for this when I meet a guy and start vetting. If he is way too eager or too sexual soon... even if its just making overly sexual comments or if he starts fishing for nudes/sexy pics i see myself out because it shows you he is a fuccboi and he is high risk. High risk in the sense that he is an lvm, high risk that he will use any pics you send him against you, high risk in the sense that he sleeps around with a lot of people and super easily. You can get an std from sleeping with anyone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:08 PM |
| 31 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenI just saw an ad for a non hormonal one in the US so they are starting to come out, but my point is women are just expected to be the ones to have to really be responsible and stay on top of making the appointments, paying for stuff, remembering to take the pill/get the iud/patch replaced etc, so its long overdue for more male birth control options. I agree they should have more options for women especially non hormonal so I feel what you're saying bit the bigger issue is the men as usual get th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:57 PM |
| 18 | Pressure to take hormonal birth controlI ALWAYS make whoever I sleep with wear a condom. I make sure its a good brand too and fresh if he has some weird generic brand I go with him to the store and tell him buy a reputable brand or I won't sleep with you. Don't trust cheap condoms. Scrote one time had these weird looking like generic wholesale looking ones. Don't trust ones with memes on. Look for brands like trojan, durex, etc. Reputable. Even when I was on the pill I often lied saying I was not ... I don't need a dirty penis giving… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:53 PM |
| 16 | Pressure to take hormonal birth controlFunny how men are like "get on the pill".... Yet they don't want to drive you to the appointments at the doctor. They don't want to pay for the doctor appointment or if you have to pay out of pocket towards birth control. I remember my friend was dating a dude and paid over $1000 out of pocket to get her IUD put in and had her mom drive her, offer moral support, her mom gave her some money towards it because she was in college and strapped financially, and her mom drove her home and made sure sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:47 PM |
| 244 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenI need to pop off on a rant. I saw a few years back they were developing a male pill for birth control in the US and they stopped pushing for it because men don't want to take it. It's just that its still so deeply msyogynisyic that they aren't even giving male birth control the research and advertising it deserves because they still want "a shared responsibility" but it ain't equal. It's easier and less invasive (and also way less judgemental) when a man actually decides to get a vasectomy. As … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:38 PM |
| 5 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleLove this explanation and way of thinking. Partners is what is used to describe two detectives, cops, or paramedics that are assigned to work together in a pair usually one is driving and the other one is doing the rest of the work, they have to work on that professional /team level. "Partners" is what you call a group of lawyers in a practice together. Partners is also what a lot of people would refer to same sex couples years ago before many states recognized them as being married as husband a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:10 PM |
| 24 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleLove this explanation and way of thinking. Partners is what is used to describe two detectives, cops, or paramedics that are assigned to work together in a pair usually one is driving and the other one is doing the rest of the work, they have to work on that professional /team level. "Partners" is what you call a group of lawyers in a practice together. Partners is also what a lot of people would refer to same sex couples years ago before many states recognized them as being married as husband a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:10 PM |
| 45 | Thoughts on SMBC? (single mother by choice or some form of co-parenting with a male friend)One of my teachers was a SMBC she was a high value woman and never married and stopped dating. She was very kind and many of the students really liked her. She adopted 2 daughters from an impoverished country when they were really little and raised them. Her daughters were really lovely and grew up to be successful, thriving, high value women. They have a good relationship with their mom. I am 26 now and with my 30s coming up I can see where you are coming from. I haven't had any luck with datin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 09:59 PM |
| 35 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮For me it's an instant pass. Once in a while is okay with younger family but I am approaching my 30s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:37 PM |
| 20 | Weekly FDS Check-inStarted talking with a former classmate i hadn't seen in years. He started making the conversation flirty and he got 🚩sexual fast. But I strayed from FDS and we started telling each other stories🚩. He had told me about his ex in detail 🚩and what he liked. Against my better judgment, I entertained this, im on vacation, I justed wanted one night of a break and to have some fun talk 🤡. I said what was your best sex? Mine was when I did x,y,z one night the dude put a hat on me and had a great Playli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:05 PM |
| 29 | How do you feel about video games?I agree with this and also have video gamers as an instant deal breaker for me. Every guy I have ever dated or even just known that was a gamer was a huge LVM or NVM. most of them are seriously addicted to the games and really do spend exuberant amounts of their time and money on the games, when their living areas are filthy, when there are priorities to get done, etc. These men are immature and emotionally stunted. I dont mind if a dude plays video games if he hangs out with his nephews or niec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 03:53 PM |
| 18 | The visuals or thoughts that are helping me move on. Add yours to the list!I picture myself when I was going through depression really hard. It was before FDS but he had all the red flags of being a noncommittal LVM and finally he stood me up and I went and ugly cried in my car all night. I had such a hard time feeling better. I just remember how heartbroken and completely devastated I felt. I imagine that now anytime a clown starts breadcrumbing or slow fading out with me, or just starts giving me mixed signals. Makes it real easy to delete and block. This is GROSS bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Comments say a man standing on his toes is fair because the women he is talking to is wearing heels 🤡 Thoughts?Lol massively insecure huge turn off for me. I would chuckle though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 02:25 AM |
| 27 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?Watch out for the sob stories Watch out for dudes that talk about their exes, its even worse if they claimed she was crazy or abused or cheated on him. Listen if he says things like she used him, didn't put out (give sex), was a nag, etc Watch out for if he talks or brags about his body count. Does he actually brag to you about a woman that was "his best"? Does he say the women starfish or layed like a pile of straw, or boast about how good he is? Watch out for redpillers that love bomb you and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 157 | Does it ever just make you sad how much women will put up with?I always come back to saying there are live in nanny jobs that pay around $25 An hour. You get to stay there, you often get to use their car to run their errands, you get to use their wifi/amenities, and often times they feed you as well.... in addition to that paycheck. Obviously you have to take care of the kids, run errands, clean up the house a little but idk why women are living with lvms paying half of the bills, and usually buying most if not all the groceries, giving sex and doing all (i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-inGetting other good morning texts and how are you texts. I ignore completely. Really tired of the low effort. If anyone wants to talk to me they need to make it more thoughtful and original than their copy pasta good morning. Its very freeing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:38 PM |
| 11 | I used to date ugly men because I was tired of being called Shallow for only dating attractive men, but I don’t care anymore.Haha I know where this is from. They have a meme of a teenager going on a date with this dude in a pickup truck and he has the Oakley sunnies and is a total LVM. It's so accurate. So many of my friends and classmates recently "got married" and by that I mean "settled" for these obese, balding, scrotes that are huge lvms. They're pickmes and show them off like they're some prize and Shrek is more attractive then their lvms. I wish I could post a photo but doxxing- my beautiful friend is on the al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:06 PM |
| 7 | 15 Signs You Are in a Relationship With a Man BabySorry but I disagree with the advice at the very bottom where it suggests communicating with him and asking him to change. Grown adults very rarely will change. There have been studies done once people hit their early to mid 20s their brain has fully developed and that is who they are, which is even more of a case proving that CoMmUnIcAtInG won't fix shit. You can cleay see he is a man baby already so truthfully talking to him won't fix him, at best he will put on a facade for a little bit and m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 04:59 PM |
| 61 | Your experiences with Liberal vs. Conservative men.My experience with conservative men were mostly in my hometown. They are good at acting like a gentleman and pretending to be HV initially. They'll make time to call/text you and generally will ask you out a nice FDS approved first date in a healthy time frame. They generally dressed well for the date and used good manners and paid, showed up on time. However, a lot of it was a facade that quickly dropped off. Almost all of them were flagrantly racist and/or homophobic. Some of them used religio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 04:50 PM |
| 101 | This is a weekly reminder to women especially “creatives” to watch out for lovebombing, genuine demons lurk and will seemingly try their best to tether your guard with words to exploit your emotions and try to conquer your body.This is what guys will do when they are love bombing. The goal is to get you to feel like this rare unicorn and create this twin flame level bs have you tricked into thinking theyre the one for you. Then he gets you hooked so he can have sex a few times and along the way starts slow fading and bread crumming to keep you around as a free pr0stitute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 04:40 PM |
| 29 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsThe accuracy though! Mine had the audacity to tell me I was so refreshing because I actually had a conversation and talked and how interesting i was from traveling and my life and how established and motivated I was blah blah, and then still did the slow fade. It's like I'm the high quality bottle of fancy wine and he would rather have the cheap $5 bottle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 09:38 PM |
| 27 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsWell said and this is the mentality I have too. I want to just scream sometimes. If you want me take me. If you're not sure, wishy washy, hot and cold, wondering around for better options than actually just say you aren't feeling it OR just ghost me! It's so immature they can't even just leave and see themselves out. Mixed signals of any sort are clear signs he isn't into you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 88 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsNever call a man out on this or anything. And yeah this is basically breadcrummbing,I but instead of just breadcrumbing you right off the bat they are super talkative, sometimes very warm and affectionate at first, and appear to be showing good signs and lots of effort and then they slowly take a step back at a time. They step back because they are looking for low effort loving pickmes. Lvms essentially just go and order that low effort, quick, cheap mcdonalds burger rather than that expensive s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 09:18 PM |
| 68 | That’s the truth.Sorry to hear that sis. It's his loss. If you see the drop in effort you already know what it means but good point with the social media. I always try to look them up especially to see if they are active /posting there when they aren't even making an effort to contact you. My situation was similar to yours like he had this great date with me and he would call me on the phone and text me and he did text me saying I want to call you this evening and then he never gave me a time frame, I couldn't s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 09:05 PM |
| 2 | I’d wife me 💍Tooting my own horn for where I am right now (even though I still have a longer way to go)... I'd be getting me flowers, I'd be texting me checking in and making plans to see me, I'd get all dressed up and polished up to see me, I'd stand in the cold rain and give me my umbrella, I'd hold the door for me, I'd be doing everything I could just to impress me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:41 PM |
| 4 | Even the CDC is promoting 50/50 😅No I don't MISS getting dolled up, driving over for a date, and then paying for myself 🤡 that's not a date then Notice how they call it "good times" that is not a good time. Honestly when I used to go out with friends we would split the bill during college and the start of our careers, but now even my friends treat me or I just pay for everything and treat them. It's honestly ridiculous society pushes the halfsies bs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 75 | If he wanted to he wouldGuy I dated (when I was a recovering pickme) told me he likes to just wear t shirts and crocs when going anywhere, even dates. I told him that I enjoyed dressing up and mentioned I wanted to see a movie. He ended up asking me out to a nice dinner, followed by a movie, and he dressed nicer for it like casual shoes, dress pants and button down shirt. He was cleaned up and looked great. He paid for the meal and made zero fuss about it and had prebought the tickets. Issue was that he started doing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:27 PM |
| 185 | That’s the truth.100%. If a man actually genuinely likes you he WILL be making effort and will be pursing you. He should be at least touching base with you every day NO matter how "busy" he is. He should be putting effort into the conversations, and be making time no matter how busy his schedule to see you. Period. Don't chase him, don't be texting him paragraphs, don't fall for the slow fade BS, don't buy into the whole "communicate" that you need more from him trope, just stop wasting your own time and move on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:23 PM |
| 52 | Wife Introduces Serial Cheating Husband to FearShe is wasting so much time and energy onto this caddy, petty, immature "revenge" plan.... he's cheating and she knows it. Forget the revenge plan, just call up a lawyer and file for divorce its LESS time and effort than this revenge/extortion plot. She needs to use that energy for her exit plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:19 PM |
| 31 | Ummm...yes? And?Keep a man? Are you serious? Live in nannies for children get around $25 an hour with FREE housing, food/utilities, and have transportation often provided (you usually get to use the families cars to run the kid around or do errands). If you ask me, that's potentially a great gig (provided its actually safe). Why be a maid to man just to have him come home to sleep there and use you for sex? You could be a live in nanny for a toddler with the free housing, food, transportation and make a salary … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:40 AM |
| 41 | Dodging LVM feels like extreme Dodgeball some daysAnytime I get a good morning and respond to it they ghost for hours. Then they never follow up to my question or comment, ignore it completely, and come back with the "how r u" bs. It's super low effort and lazy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:18 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Check-inThank you. Yeah I am just seeing that his effort is nosediving and turning into bread crumbs after the meetup. He used to have great text conversations with me and we had a great first date and pre phone call and now he's trying to keep me as a backup option. Ew. He's in his 30s. Too old for this Clownery. I deleted him because I need consistent effort. I am a prize I have a good income, my own place, my own nice car, I cook and clean, keep a house and yard clean and decorated, I pay my bills, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inYeah I am seeing that his effort really started dropping off more and more after the date. I hate when they do that crap. I call it the slow fade. I can't deal with being bread crumbled and the scraps of attention and sparse low effort texts. I hate the good morning and how are you texts they are lazy as hell. It's just like a parrot squawking nonsense because they text then won't have a conversation. I'm heading out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 09:45 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inWhat is the consensus on taking a random phone call from a dude? We met up once and he has been texting me regularly and checking in. But I can already see the effort dropped off. Before meeting up, he would text me a lot more detailed stuff, have longer convos and respond faster. Then last night all of a sudden he randomly called me. I didn't answer and waited about 20 min to text him "you called?" I am proud of myself for handling this. I do not take random calls that stop what I am doing unle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:26 PM |
| 5 | Dodged a crafty LVMThank you! The "good morning" and "how r u" texts are so annoying and lazy. I won't respond to them when I'm in the early stages or when I see that it's their little pattern of low effort conversations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 11:55 PM |
| 6 | A Pickme's LifeIf this is what she is posting for social media, this is just the tip of the iceberg of pickme hell. Imagine all the other stuff she does for him. I don't want to know. Set standards high before even dating anyone. NEVER offer to do any pickme shit for a man, you cannot give them an inch they will take a mile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inI'm grateful my grandpa set the bar for me and lead by example. Anytime me and him went anywhere he would call me /talk to me before hand telling me the time and place. He was always a little early and he would always put himself together to go out anywhere. I ain't standing outside a movie theatre in hundred degree weather or running my car for over an hour for some ass clown to maybe* decide to show up and if he would he'd probably wear some awful combo and not even have showered, wearing gym … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inRecently encountered a new form of low effort, asked me to dinner and then a movie. Seemed like he was planning it out. Picked out the movie and place and time for the movie but then gave me a vague notion of dinner (which is beforehand) didn't name a place and said there is a whole 2 hour window of possibility when he gets off from work. So I have no idea what time I'm supposed to get there to meetup. Even if I was a pickme I couldn't do this. I need to vent. He said he will get off at the time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:11 PM |
| 3 | Tired of getting ads for cheap engagement rings and society telling me I have to lower my standards for essentially costume jewelryVery good advice. I am personally happy with a lab grown diamond (they are very cheaply priced) or mossanite but I would have to see effort that he made it a little unique and special. Since the ring was cheap I would like to see him purpose with something else like getting me a stock or one of the things you said. I'm not a "good digger" for wanting it to special and I'm not a heinous person. I understand the history and gimmicks of the diamond industry but the thing is a lot of those YouTube v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:17 PM |
| 41 | Tired of getting ads for cheap engagement rings and society telling me I have to lower my standards for essentially costume jewelryYeah I won't settle for a cheap generic ring. It can be mossainte but I still want it to have a 3 month salary price tag or be given something else of compatible value instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 09:19 PM |
| 3 | FDS position on lube?My 2 cents: Lube can help if you have a condition or just are drier down there, lube can help a lot if you use toys with yourself/masturbation Lube shouldn't be something he is reading in for the bedroom because he is lazy / won't give you foreplay to get you good and turned on. You naturally should get turned on and pretty wet before he penetrates (unless you have a medical condition/some side effect of a medication makes you dry)... otherwise he is bad in bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 09:17 PM |
| 3 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.She knows he has another woman (the ex is still sort of in the picture) and yet she is STILL entertaining him. It is a disrespect to herself, to you as the roomate with trying to have him come over into a space that is also yours, and it's extremely vilely disrespectful to that other woman. Yeah he's also a scrote for entertaining/cheating too but hear me out pickmes are disgusting because they know there's another woman in the picture and they don't care, they still entertain the dude and know … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 09:10 PM |
| 68 | Found in another sub, imagine thinking this is funny.Guys that just have to take a leak out in the about and us women have to actually plan out using a bathroom/take the opportunity while we can /hold it until we can have a bathroom and they just get to whip it out in front of us. Its a scrote move and its disrespectful. I don't need to see him using the bathroom. Especially when I can't do that as easily out in the woods/open. Especially if I have to go too and can't because it's somewhere like this. Trashy trashy. Ring isn't even special looking… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 93 | This is actually my worst nightmare. It was posted on a "wholsome" sub.Great 3 more lvms in the making, learning how to sit on their butts all day and seeing women as maids.... hope she puts her foot down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Someone I've known since middle school just got proposed to with a Ring Pop.My NVX gave his fiancee a hard boiled Easter egg when he proposed. There was no ring. It wasn't an Easter egg shaped box or decoration, it was the actual hard boiled chicken egg with crayon writing on it "marry me?" This was the woman the cheated on me for. When I met to give him his apartment keys in public, he trash talked her to me. I tried telling her and sending her the screenshot then were he admitted he still loved me. She gaslit me saying I was a crazy liar. She got picked, and yes she g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:50 PM |
| 10 | SNOOPING 101When you're vetting dont make it loud and clear you don't use snapchat, just let them talk. Get a feel for who their friends are, what they do when they hangout, and see if he mentions he uses snapchat. Even Instagram has vanish mode so does Facebook messenger it deletes all the messages almost instantly. So keep that in mind, cheaters can get very sneaky and some are better than others at covering their tracks. Yes to hidden folders, duplicate apps/downloading and deleting in a cycle. Also look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:38 PM |
| 12 | "Hey fellas ... consider a vasectomy" The Guardian newspaper articleI hate that as a women I get a song and dance from gynos when I asked for a hysterectomy. I was just starting college. I asked again through my early 20s. I don't want kids. I hated that it was so hard to find anyone willing to do it and that my insurance didn't want to cover it because it wasn't for a medical condition. Its also a lot more invasive and painful and a longer recovery time after you get a hysterectomy. The doctor that was willing to do it was out of state and I didn't have anyone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:29 PM |
| 12 | "Hey fellas ... consider a vasectomy" The Guardian newspaper articleI've been saying this since high school. It needs to be easier and more accepted (I live in the US where doctors here don't want to give me a hysterectomy because ill "change my mind") for both men and women to get voluntary hysterectomies and vasectomy. For the men, a vasectomy is much less invasive and he heals up so much faster. For women, its more of a process and honestly I would ask a man I was seeing a future with to get himself fixed because I don't want kids and I am tired of the birth … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:22 PM |
| 133 | New moms get less sleep and it's linked to aging... what do you think? They only studied women, but where are the dads helping out?I hate how the advice at the end of the article tells moms to look for more opportunities to sleep... how about finding a better partner that actually helps you with the baby so the burden isn't so much on the mom? As usual, the father is left out of the article. I'm glad for FDS and reading stuff like this makes me appreciate the single moms out there yall have scarficed so much, but reading this also reminds me why vetting is so important especially if you have kids with the dude. It's detrime… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:16 PM |
| 170 | PiCk Me. I don’t require any effort or standards.I hate that these pickme propaganda posts float around, they're especially rampant on Facebook. It puts this idea in women's minds, especially younger women, to lower their standards and objectify themselves. Society and the patriatchy does so much corrupting of vulnerable minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:39 AM |
| 103 | PiCk Me. I don’t require any effort or standards.Same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:37 AM |
| 21 | Targeted advice from FDS “older sisters” needed for “younger sisters” (adolescent and early 20’s) 👩👧Love this. I try to keep my posts relevant for age, keeping in mind high school dating /college dating is gonna be a little different financially but the effort should still be there if you are dating at these ages. I would love to see it happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:36 AM |
| 5 | FDS hits The Guardian 🥳: ‘Sales funnels’ and high-value men: the rise of strategic dating’well done, Savannah and all the mods, so nice to see FDS being represented in a positive light and nice seeing the strategies here have worked for the women in the article (showing the public yes it really works!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:08 AM |
| 4 | Criteria for assessing a man's social mediaThose type of accounts usually have OF /paid snaps where they ate doing pornographic stuff they use Facebook and ig for sexy pics to promote it. If hes openly following and commenting or liking these accounts, he is porn sick and probably paying for OF too. Shows he views women as objects for his pleasure. I always advocate looking up a guys Facebook or other social medias see what you can see. You did the right thing by ending it with him, he was putting on a fake HV persona, as they often do, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 37 | Even LinkedIn says we should say No to coffee datesGlad linked in is sharing the message. One thing covid should have taught the general public is that you can get things done through phone calls and video calls -that work meeting CAN be done from home. Fds believes in the predate call you can see and chat with the guy from home to vet before a dinner date. I refuse to get coffee with anyone. I'll grab it for myself of if we have an actual day planned somewhere and its part of the overall date, like a beach trip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:38 PM |
| 12 | How to spot a man faking mental illness to use it as a pass?How to handle it?Yeah I had blocked him but its becoming a pattern they don't want to do a predate call and use anxiety as an excuse. Theres a lot of narcs out there looking to say they have xyz to get you to pity them and use it as an excuse | /r/askFDS | 08/08/21 08:06 PM |
| 48 | Was permanently banned from another subreddit for linking FDS to a poor woman who seemed to need it. Apparently we are anti-men. We're not, we're just navigating dating and weeding out the shitty ones. 🤡 I'd argue it's anti-woman to not let women help each other.Fds is anti- clown and anti-manchild. We are pro men. (Lvms and nvms are clowns and manchildren, hvm are functioning adult men) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inWhen the weekends start watch how they all pull back and basically ignore you all weekend to see other people then flutter back "sorry I was tired" bs. Yeah well I'm tired of the low effort/no effort and excuses. I expect effort and I make time to text people back especially family I care about and if I am actually interested in someone. A lot have been ghosted as a result of trying to ignore me all weekend with excuses. Haha next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:34 AM |
| 25 | Woman Refuses To Coddle Man-child on a Date, Comments Are Full Of Man Babies Saying She Has No Empathy for Mental HealthIf this was me I would have looked him dead in the eyes, "no. The only thing i can do though is recommend a good therapist. She is a professional who can help you work through that, you should give her call." And I would have been seeing myself out. Its not a mean or harsh thing to need therapy. He shouldn't have been dating if he had that bad of anxiety he couldn't even mention his order w as wrong to the waiter, of course it was a shit test manipulation tactic, but anyone will to shit test a w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:20 AM |
| 0 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!No this is not negging. If im at a dinner with him and hes ranting and bragging that he has this car, that bonus, that job, those vacations you can see he is mad insecure and needs to make me feel like he is better than me because of those things. Its perfectly okay to point out then why didn't he get xyz done to his car, or that oh that doesn't seem like a great bonus then. No woman deserves to be listening to a fragile peacock going on and on trying to prove he is better than you, because that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!This isnt too put down others. When guys try to brag to me about their travel stories, I tell them "oh ive been to Germany as well". Its not shaming him and I am not telling anyone to lie, but that instead of acting impressed that an option as a response is saying you have also been there. I also grew up in a poor small town where these lvm clowns would even try bragging that they still lived in their parents basement and about their older than them dirty, poorly taken care of cars. Car guys and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:11 PM |
| 8 | Do any of your families try and make you get with a LVM?My mom was doing this i was also 24 when I went through a bad breakup. I genuinely thought I would end up marrying the dude after we both finished grad school. He is a cheater so we split. Ever since my mom has been pressuring me and pushing guys onto me who are LVMs just like my sperm donor deadbeat (father). She was a pickme who suffered years of verbal abuse and being ignored by him and was miserable, and thinks that's "normal" and I should have to suffer too. We are very low contact. The wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 08:50 AM |
| 107 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡Damn. Drinks is a low bar. But he got rejected and DOWNGRADED you 🤡 to even lower with the walk. You think that after being turned down their thirsty selves would panic a little and be like oh my gosh I'm loosing my chance, I should step up my game and make a nice offer that is more tempting. And he freaking downgrades you further. So much trash in the sea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 08:37 AM |
| 54 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!Thank you. As a pickme I was too nice and they saw that and took advantage of it. I bookmark great posts they are wonderful reminders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 08:33 AM |
| 34 | 🤡🤡🤡Anytime a man says he plays video games it's an instant swipe left or delete/block. They come home from work and on their days off this is all the do. He won't help out around the house. He will be making more messes. He won't grocery shop. He won't do laundry. He will expect you to make him hot meals and clean all the dishes. run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:57 PM |
| 2 | I love having pro-FDS friends IRL.This is a high value friendship! Cherish it! I had so many toxic pickme "friends" in the past I was being cheated on and starting to get smarter and they gaslit me into staying with him also saying I was cRaZy and oVeRrEaCting. Friends have big impacts on us. It is so important to find like minded HV friends! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:30 PM |
| 5 | Why they're hung up on their exPickmeism/being a wife appliance enables LVM and sets that bar so that they seek out a bang maid. Definitely good to lookout for. Pay attention to look for the red flags of if he dated a bang maid in the past. But also of you can listen/look for signs of how his relationship especially with his mother is/was. "My mom always would make us breakfast growing up! /my mom always does the laundry/ my mom is having a big party this weekend shes been cooking up a storm" when he says stuff like this imme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:27 PM |
| 6 | For those who remember Derrick Jackson, he cheated on his girlfriend (now wife) when they were dating in college.Wow. This hit deep. When I was in college I was a lot like his gf/wife that was being cheated on. Like her, I KNEW what was happening and I was in that pick me mindset deep, and still stayed with him. I was in denial. I was being gaslit. I wanted to "have a man". I also didn't have "evidence" for a while and I would try being extra romantic and doing all this extra nice stuff for him, thinking maybe he would pick me. Obviously it didn't work. Him cheating and being distant plus the mental scars … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:16 PM |
| 22 | If he wanted to, he would! 😊Very cute and so sweet to see he took the effort to get her a ring that reflected her tastes! Love to see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:05 PM |
| 10 | Do not have a scarcity mindset in datingI love the Olympian analogy. These athletes are amazing, they get up every day and are really putting in that hard work of training, practicing, stretching, etc. But they're also working with coaches, have a support system. They strategize about what techniques to try out, what new gear to try out, they're meeting with coaches and doctors. They're planning their meals. They also pay attention to their competition so they know what to expect to make sure they have that competitive edge. They refl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Alrighty Queens, time to start spreading. These *should* work but let me know if not!I'm gonna add these to bathroom stalls I travel so I hope this helps someone. When you're on the toliet we all look at the door or walls of the stall. Good way to advertise. I'm honest thinking of putting it up on my business page but scared of doxxing. I do share fds approved know your worth type of advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:21 AM |
| 51 | STOP THE VANILLA SHAMING!As someone else from fds said: vanilla is delicious, exquisite, and the most popular flavor of ice cream for a reason. Honestly I would love to have vanilla sex with someone that really loves me and cares about my pleasure. Imagine how great it would be to share the most intimate, beautiful thing with each other when you really love each other, have a good real connection, listen to and respect each other. Looking into each other's eyes, him giving you pleasure and seeing him being pleased too. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:16 AM |
| 32 | Husband replaces wife's lost ring and upgrades her too! Never settle. Story in the next pic and comments.Swipe to see the story, but I will paraphrase it if you can't see it "I lost my ring while working. Recently, my husband surprised me with a new one. He customized it with the special style and cut I love. It's even bigger and a better clarity than my original ring" I did paraphrase it to respect their privacy/doxxing. I thought this was very acceptable behavior. If you loose your ring, a hvm won't neg or lash out at you or be like "oh well too bad". Hvm tendencies shown here: he paid attention … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:11 AM |
| 49 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not Consentthe blonde man saying no looks like the man that assaulted and tried to rape me. this needs to be shared. so many pickmes get pressured into sex/manipulated/have sex just to have him stop pushing and whining for it, and honestly I dont even think they realize it is r@pe. I am not blaming their ignorance, but if more women knew then more women could realize it is wrong and report the rapist scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:35 AM |
| 59 | more examples of "subtle negging" and what's in a Neg Sandwich?All I am getting is negged lately and it's infuriating. I just keep blocking them left and right. It is easy and kind to be genuinely supportive of someone else or to ask thoughtful questions, there's so many nice things they could say, but NOPE they have to neg me! A financially stable grown woman that has no need for a man is so threatening to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:54 AM |
| 53 | more examples of "subtle negging" and what's in a Neg Sandwich?exactly. when he told Me about his job I was like wow, how do you like it? it must be so rewarding. I always ask people about how they like their jobs or commend them for their hard work to get there. I know how much studying goes into some of these professions. and his first response to me was assuming I did illegal activity because I was somehow struggling. YIKES. I demand to only accept people that have the same level of respect for me as I do for them. honestly though I am grateful when I se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:21 AM |
| 36 | more examples of "subtle negging" and what's in a Neg Sandwich?exactly, my first thought was always to change out of my work clothes. even when I volunteered at a hospital in the past, I would head straight to the shower and those clothes would go right in the hamper. you are right it is projection, LVMs tell on themselves. they literally are looking for their partner in crime lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:18 AM |
| 20 | Anyone else not dating becauseI clicked the link when he sent it as I was curious. It's his own company, so I couldn't report it unfortunately. So many dudes say in their OLD bios "I don't want to buy your 0nly f@ns!" But this was so so much worse. Using a dating app under the pretense of just being a dude matching and wanting to chat with women. He never even mentioned his job or booking anything it was super early on and random like we should chat sometime with the link. What a gold digger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:56 PM |
| 74 | Anyone else not dating becauseI've been dipping my toe back in the water and I haven't been on an actual date yet. The low effort is disgusting they can't even message me back promptly, and they won't put in any effort into the conversation. I need to get to know the person and I can't even get them to tell me the basics about their job and lifestyle/goals. A man in his 30s said he didn't know how to proceed to the next level. He then asked me "do you want to hangout when I'm not tired?" Some dude sent me a link saying we sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 34 | Part of vetting is seeing if he can grocery shop and cook without being spoon fed like a toddler.Glad you called him out as well. Part of changing the narrative and giving hope to the future generations involves becoming HVW but also calling out /making disgusted or confused faces when pickmes coddle their man babies and scrotes pretend to be incompetent to get mommied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 07:16 PM |
| 17 | After listening to an episode of the podcast, I made a FDS-inspired comic. Here it is!Hahaha Satan is a walking red flag complete with the "dad bad", he's hatfishing, and has the beard! Love that its a dumpy bar too, notice scrotes always mention the dumpiest bars when trying to get you to meetup | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 07:04 PM |
| 274 | Part of vetting is seeing if he can grocery shop and cook without being spoon fed like a toddler.For ladies in the vetting process, I highly suggest paying close attention when you start going over to his house if he has groceries, cooking supplies, and if he can cook. As silly as it sounds, make sure he can grocery shop. You need to be able to have someone that will be able to pickup your favorite specific canned soup and that baking ingredient you ran out of. You also don't want to be the only grocery shopper in a marriage. I have a seen videos of a TWO year old being given a grocery list… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 07:54 AM |
| 3 | FDS, please share some examples of HVW you've met in your lifemy lvx's sister - she was starting her PhD. She had what she thought was a high value boyfriend, he seemed to treat her well and even paid the tab for me my ex at the time and then treated us the rest of the night too - and when she found out he was cheating she completely walked away. she surrounded herself with women in her school and profession, eats healthy, works out, travels, and spends her free time with her friends and family. she got a new car and apartment in her dream city and just la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 08:08 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, it is NOT "rude" to call men out when your boundaries are being violatedI had a whole post about it a few months back you should be able to find it on my profile | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:02 AM |
| 10 | Men using lots of emojis is a RED FLAGIt's a sign of immaturity (one you're out of high school, really once you hit junior year and up). I remember discovering emojis when I jailbreak my high school iPhone. 15 year old me thought I was such a baddie, and no one else had them so they just came up as empty boxes on their phones. But yeah now I'm in my upper 20s and men that use emojis have always for me been immature, looking to just hookup, or they use them to try to manipulate and diminish your feelings. Guys that use this shrugging… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 06:55 PM |
| 290 | Ladies, it is NOT "rude" to call men out when your boundaries are being violatedLove this energy. No more being polite or fake laughing it off and dismissing their bad behavior anymore. I have a strict no answer the door policy since the fake cop incident. My roomate though still goes and answers the door and there's door to door salesman in my new neighborhood. I generally check the window where they can't see im peeping and only come if its a package I know they ordered. Even then I wait until they leave. I don't trust anyone anymore and play it safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI am noticing this too especially with the dudes in their 30s. I'm all for having a pet, it can be a great way to quickly vet a man, just by seeing how well he takes care of the pet- or doesn't. but that's really once you go over to his place then you can see if he keeps it clean, what he feeds the pet, are the bowls clean and full or is that water empty or dirty because he wont clean it? but yeah the extreme pet guys are red flags to me "looking for a mom to my doggo" and the guys that only wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:32 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-Insis, stop, you are YOUNG! Only 28! you're still so young. I am 27. you should be so proud of yourself for your hard work and getting that PhD! and you are on the fast track to getting it. most people are close to 30 if they start college "on time" go right into a masters and then right into a PhD. you are building up your future and this will lead you to a more prestigious, high paying, and hopefully more secure career compared to the uneducated scrotes who work dead end, low paying jobs with hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:25 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-In"you're too picky" is scrote talk for "I am insecure because I know I will never meet bare minimum standards. let me neg you and project and spin this around on you by saying YoUrE ToO pIcKy." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:11 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-Inhahaha the egg does not chase the sperm. what a clown. good for blocking. you are the prize, dick is low value and abundant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:09 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-Incongratulations ! you are leveling up! the rule of thumb is if you are wondering a lot of he is a HVM, he's not. you do have to always vet, but a HVM wont leave you constantly wondering because you will get consistent effort and green flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:08 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-Inwell done they "hey" or "how r u" messages are so disgustingly low effort. the paragraphs are copypastas they sent to every woman, trying to overcompensate and appear like a loving, caring, soft boi. I no longer entertain either of those types. there is enough info on my bio for him to ask me something, or mention something like "oh I also went to your college I was a x major. did you ever have professor so and so?" beware of the ones that open and ask good questions based on your bio and then s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI was trying to network more and ended up meeting some people that also have the same line of work as I do. rather than giving any of the three of them my number, I gave them my business' social media page instead. the one dude never added me, the woman did and likes and shares my posts, and the other guy added me super fast and started messaging me. he started complementing my business and products and I started asking him questions about his business model and how he advertises, you know, busi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?Probably because a lot of men sleep nude pf in their underwear, plus the fact they don't shower and the ones that do shower i don't think actually are using enough soap and really washing themselves properly. My one ex would shower but he wouldn't use enough soap and he didn't actually Scrub himself. So he was coming out still with some of that grease. A lot of LVM are out of shape and sweat like crazy during the night. They also don't wash their sheets/pillows/blankets enough. One ex when he di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 12:04 AM |
| 10 | LVM wanting to be coddled when doing simple housework is so widespread they even pitched it on Shark Tank as a businessWow I haven't had a sticker chart since 1st grade for doing my homework and chores. Wtf. They're a little big for still trying to fit in the kid clothes and play with toy cars and blocks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 07:52 PM |
| 61 | my quickest vetting strategyI love this strategy, what a great idea. Since being in FDS I am starting to "pretend to think like a scrote" and "think like a man" and I have found it has been helping me see their scrote behaviors faster and it helps prevent me from getting attached. For strangers I ignore them or just pretend I am also a bro and then treat them as a bro. Watch how funny it is when they try to approach you and you call them "bro" . At the gas station is the best "thats a nice car for a beautiful woman like yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 87 | “Why did he marry her and not me?”Ohh, you're actually right though they know their clocks are ticking before they go bald and sperm are less viable. One of the neighbors added me on Facebook a few years back anyways my mom would use to to message back and forth coordinating community yardsales with him and his parents, who lived nearby but didn't use Facebook. Of course, the scrote used this to shoot his shot with me. He saw I wasn't interested and the next DAY was posting publicly how he met someone else. Anyways, she dumped h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 07:40 PM |
| 54 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)Any man that mentions he has a snapchat /asks to snapchat is a RED FLAG per the handbook and this of course was a perfect example of it. Their interaction reminded me of a preschool teacher /toddler mom and a toddler that got caught red handed stealing a snack. He sounds so immature and disgusting. I was so happy to see that she had a group of friends over to support and Celebrate being rid of that trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:53 AM |
| 23 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)She's a queen!! She did the right thing, she didn't argue/scream at him/lecture him/beg/cry buckets and buckets yelling him how he hurt her... she calmly told him she knew about the cheating, asked for her battery, and told him he needs to move out. Asshole tactic when he said "I have nowhere to go" lol was hoping to make her feel bad ! The audacity. I'm ticked for her. He was hoping he'd still be able to live at her place. I hope he is super embarassed when he has to explain why she suddenly ki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:50 AM |
| 10 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.Jamal indeed KNOWS where the clit is, he just doesn't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:34 PM |
| 2 | The usual culprits at it with the fear-mongering again. If we all just popped out some babies for the terrorism plotting incels, deranged red pilled dweebs and paedophilic cheating porn fried scrotes, society would be magically better! 🙄Yes. I also caught her with 2 different men, one was leaving the house and the other time I was baking cookies with my sister and I heard her kissing a different dude in the kitchen. Those 2 guys were while she was in a relationship (established Relationship) with my step-dad. He knew all that and still married her. I'm trying to get custody of my sister as she is still a kid and I have my own house now. Thank God. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 10:47 PM |
| 7 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...He's only this happy because a pickme is Netflix and chilling with him sacking his peen while he games. And she comes over to his place. He probably just rolls out of bed and let's her in. Bet she has to order /bring food over if she gets hungry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:57 PM |
| 11 | It’s pathetic that this level of scrotery is so normalizedThey KNOW they should put the clothes in the hamper and the trash can, heck they have the coordination to even throw it into the hamper from a cross the room... yet they do this ON PURPOSE because they want to disrespect us. They know we already have enough to do and just want to make it even harder. Next him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:56 PM |
| 3 | The new "shit test" and Another common Neg Found on OLDVery good observation. These chubby clowns that neg us for fitness what us to bust out butts working out at the gym and they'll be there talking to other dudes and gawking at other women and barely break a sweat. I think curves on a woman are beautiful. I was so insecure in high school because I was flat chested, thin, had no hips or butt. Again no shame to anyone, but I used to be so insecure about my appearance. I also like having curves it helped me love myself more and feel like a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 02:20 AM |
| 37 | The usual culprits at it with the fear-mongering again. If we all just popped out some babies for the terrorism plotting incels, deranged red pilled dweebs and paedophilic cheating porn fried scrotes, society would be magically better! 🙄What a cheapskate. Lvm have not even the slightest bit of culture and going to the movies isn't even cultured but you pay to go for the experience, the big screen, comfy seats, surround sound, and that dark environment plus it's fun being out of the house and public spaces are safer than a strange man's couch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:00 PM |
| 36 | Update. Water is wet, and my psycho ex is still a psycho.Please stay safe. You did the right thing KEEP your friends and family alerted /updated on the situation. See if you can file a restraining order, if you haven't already. Keep documenting and keep contacting the police if anything else weird happens. He knows where you live which terrifies me for you. Take a step back and think to yourself does he know where you work or did you have areas you would frequent (maybe he knew you went to the gym every night, that you want to Aldi every Sunday after … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:14 PM |
| 52 | The usual culprits at it with the fear-mongering again. If we all just popped out some babies for the terrorism plotting incels, deranged red pilled dweebs and paedophilic cheating porn fried scrotes, society would be magically better! 🙄This. My mom had me and dropped out of college to try to be with my male sperm donor. He wouldn't even come see me, lift a finger, he wouldn't give $1 so I could have baby formula when my mom wasn't able to nurse me. My grandparents ended up raising me and buying me stuff while she worked 2 jobs -one at a strip club- and filed child support. My dad wouldn't give her any place to live she lived at my grandparents with me. And yet she thought popping out a 2nd kid would "fix" their "relationship".… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:05 PM |
| 97 | The usual culprits at it with the fear-mongering again. If we all just popped out some babies for the terrorism plotting incels, deranged red pilled dweebs and paedophilic cheating porn fried scrotes, society would be magically better! 🙄Looks like our FDS global resistance is working if you ask me. More women are vetting, turning down low effort, and more women are waiting until they are older to have kids/more women are being child free (no shade to single moms or young moms). Dating isn't worth my time when some scrote wants to take me on a walk, breadcrumbs me, or wants to Netflix and chill. The amount of mcdonalds first dates I have been asked on is shocking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:57 PM |
| 162 | Seen this repost on FB today. Are men really this stupid?The bar is in hell. They always put the responsibility on the woman but HE made that baby too HE didn't wear a condom/use any protection when he knew he wasn't ready to be a father. The audacity then to tell the woman to get an abortion. Always telling us what to do with our wombs. Bet she asked him to wear a condom and he whined about the feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:51 PM |
| 2 | I can’t stand the older generation of pick-mes that made men so damn entitled.I admire you for sticking with him because I can see you clearly love your kids and you have their best interest in mind. That is selfless and in a good spirit. It sucks he changed up like that and you are right about vetting. What you can do though is raise your kids so they don't get to be lazy like he is. You can instill good values into them, show them, talk with them, so that they can be better. You can teach your little girl that both parents need to contribute and to have standards for wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:07 AM |
| 11 | The new "shit test" and Another common Neg Found on OLDAbsolutely correct. Mental illness is not an excuse. But my point is that these scrotes are lying and pretending to have a mental illness. They don't actually have depression or anxiety or whatever, they are literally telling each other to lie and say they do and then to lie saying they're getting treatment to see how the woman reacts. I think its even more descipicable they are lying about mental health issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:59 AM |
| 20 | The new "shit test" and Another common Neg Found on OLDYes, that's the issue with the redpill incel scrotes. They literally have these "strategies" it's in YouTube in their reddits, they talk about it to other dudes at the bars strangers and their buddies. The best I can do is just warn everyone here about it when it comes to my attention. Some red pillers and scrotes are good at pretending and putting in a charade before their nasty behavior surfaces. Don't blame yourself. We all have to be ready for if they pull these shit tests | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:56 AM |
| 66 | ‘Looking for a dog mom’Foreshadowing they will be deadbeat dads and absetentee fathers, wanting the woman to stay home and raise the kid alone or they will pawn off the kid to the grandparents of whoever they can find to avoid the responsibility. 🙄if he can't take care of ANY pet (cat, dog, bird, reptile, whatever) assume it will translate over to how he will take care of the house and future kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:52 AM |
| 14 | If he wanted to he wouldIts a cubic zirconia and it's freaking pandora. She probably paid around $40 just to get the nails done. Add more for lashes and brows. She might as well buy it for herself. "Hinting" is too much work you shouldn't have to hint or ask for a man to buy you a present let alone a cheap jewelry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:48 AM |
| 57 | Dirty Scrote Starter PackThe bed has sheets, a blanket, and pillow. Scrotes only have 1 out of those 3. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:45 AM |
| 24 | Meme inspired by another FDS postOmg the shaving gel over her whole body in the shower ☠☠☠ that used to be me. I would shave everywhere. Lord forbid I had a single leg hair or anything for a date. I would actually bring the summers eve wipes back then and "freshen up" before having sex Become the patriarchy tricked me into think I STANK and was embarrassed to smell like anything other than floral/clean scented chemical wipes down there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:44 AM |
| 18 | The new "shit test" and Another common Neg Found on OLDHonestly though it sounds like it can be helpful for weeding out the low effort/lazy texters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:23 AM |
| 22 | The new "shit test" and Another common Neg Found on OLDyeah the example 1 and 2 with the subtle negs was written with OLD in mind, and to me it's a neg because why even feel the need to mention fitness and workouts when you just start messaging. they could have genuinely told me about their hobbies and example 1 could have just said "I really enjoy hiking and dancing" it's common sense that they are physical activities and you will get some level of workout from them. but of course as the convo continued he kept spinning I back to fitness and asking… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:35 AM |
| 5 | I feel…asexual?I posted about this a while back, I honestly think its part of the journey for a lot of us here at FDS. learning the truth about men and society is tough, and feeling that disgust and lack of sexual attraction towards men naturally follows. Even when I (rarely) see a man that is physically attractive, I can't help to immediately remembering all the time, money, and energy it took me to heal from past situationships. I also can't help but imagining him having LV traits, even if I don't know him. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:35 AM |
| 163 | WHAT on Earth IS THIS.I actually used to really like summers eve I am sensitive to a lot of body washes down there, but seeing this being marketed this way means I am going to stop buying it. The implication we smell "fishy" and need to "wash" to get rid of the odor before sec is a turn off. All vaginas have a natural odor but if its bad or anything else is going on then you need to go to the doctor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Why does stuff like this always go viral? It’s just encouraging more women to accept less and “adjust” themselves to tolerate bs !! 😤😐there's a similar toxic advice my sister told me her therapist told her saying "not to have any expectations" with the warped logic that then you wouldn't get let down. I wish we would teach people, especially young people, to expect to be treated well by people and how to walk away / stand up for yourself in less than appropriate conditions. I remember having a group project in high school where it was a powerpoint and we each had a different section to work on. one of the guys in the group ref… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:35 AM |
| 381 | If he wanted to, he wouldhe made the effort, paid attention to detail to get the exact purse, and look he even put it in a gift bag (a cute pink one too not some leftover Christmas reused one), and even printed the post.... very very cute and attentive, this is the effort we deserve. happy for her!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:26 AM |
| 18 | Kink community showing their true face. This is why kinkshaming is importantThis is like like same as saying you have to rob and steal to heal from being robbed and having your own things stolen. It's scrote logic. I won't date men that are "open minded" and "willing to explore any k1nk" they're desperate but also creepy and likely to become abusive. I wouldn't be surprised if the daddy d0ms and k1nksters have a high correlation with mental illness, psychopathic tendencies, actual anger/violence issues (even though they try to say the k1nk is just "play") | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:43 PM |
| 46 | Why are all female halloween costumes sexual??Ugh I hate the outlet and plug couples costume. The man is the plug and of course the prongs are on his crotch, and the womens costume has an outlet on her crotch and chest. It's so demeaning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:37 PM |
| 32 | Why are all female halloween costumes sexual??Yubaba from spirited away... she had queen energy and a modest dress. It would have been great if you dressed up as her and screamed at him like when she got really mad and all her hair fell down 🤣. It was such a scrote tactic for him to talk you out of Yubaba and have you go basically naked as a painting. I hate scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:36 PM |
| 64 | You are allowed to eat.Amen!!! any man that makes comments about what you eat or how much you are eating is negging and it will continue to get worse if anyone carry on with him. one guy from a while ago asked me to dinner and then made a comment (luckily over message before the date) telling me that I had to order the grilled chicken and vegetable dish because of the macros and calories and that the other options were not healthy. I deleted him immediately! one of my college friends dated a NVM that actually ordered … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 07:28 AM |
| 6 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?it has been since being here! same with any man referring to me as "girl" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 06:01 AM |
| 81 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?about 3 years ago I was still a pickme and on T!nder this one LVM was messaging me. he told me he was a chef and said he had his own place located near the restaurant he worked at. as well talked he started telling me how much he loved cooking and how he had such wonderful coworkers and he really liked how close by he was to his job. he would name this gourmet dishes and how he would supposedly make them. anyways he ended up saying I should come to his restauant some time as he is friends with t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:28 AM |
| 32 | Why is it becoming increasingly acceptable for men to be unemployed, not in school, and video game/porn addicted?beware of the ones that job jump from low end/dead end job to dead end job. I had an ex like this. he had zero ambition and would often be calling out and he would slack and break the rules at work. then he would jump to another one and do the same thing. tired of men with no skincare routine, unibrow, dad bods, t shirt and gym shorts clothes, balding, that are uneducated and broke thinking they can score professional, classy, women that are actively making an effort to take care of themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:18 AM |
| 3 | "Good Morning" small talk and other irksI am gonna start doing that, very good idea. a lot of guys are using the excuse "want to text, its easier than the OLD app" LOL this is a red flag NO it is not easier. also I hate the liars "I dont get messages on here (OLD app)" I delete guys that say this. man tf up and actually ASK for my number properly and how about asking me on an actual date. I most recently deleted one after he told me "I would love to take you on a date, we should get dinner sometime soon" he said that Friday evening. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:14 AM |
| 10 | "Good Morning" small talk and other irksHis penis is the one it's coming from, crying for female attention. Lol it's a fact. It can be cute if he's actively communicating and adding more to it and also making sure he says good night but i am weary of the low effort and seeing they're just horny and want immediate attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:32 AM |
| 66 | If women can go through the discomfort of being pregnant for 9 months, then men can go through the “discomfort” of not getting sex for the first 3months+ of the relationship.Or they can go through the very mild, in and out, vasectomy. Or wear a thin latex wrapper on their dick for a small amount of time. Amen. Its really the least they can do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:28 AM |
| 4 | Spotted sneaky red flags in my old messages when I was still learning and analyzing them through FDS lensesI spy the date formula!!!! Yes! A date = time + specific location + day. Other wise it isn't a date. Digusting he tries to spin his lack of planning on you. Men that spin it around like that are the worst. Good for you for seeing through him and making other plans. I try to be positive with that it is a blessing the trash takes itself out before eyou waste your time or get invested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:59 PM |
| 50 | "Good Morning" small talk and other irksThank your for the perspective. I will consider this. I think if he is texting good morning though he should also be texting goodnight. I think the good morning text should actually be more effort than just good morning. For working people in day jobs it could be "good morning, hope you have a great day at work. Looking forward to seeing you this weekend." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:57 PM |
| 4 | Older Singles Have Found a New Way to Partner Up: Living ApartMy grandmas sister is a total queen and she did a similar thing. Her husband passed and eventually she met a new man. She sold her house and moved into a nice condo and he followed her there, getting a condo in the same building (he wasn't being a creep, they talked about it and he asked her beforehand). She has been so happy this way and stress free. I like this idea much better than living together. You have your own space and keep your space clean. You don't have to clean up after him or be h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 07:10 PM |
| 5 | Document, document, document!We as high value women need to have an outcry and defend this women. We must protect her. Why is the gym banning HER and tik tok took down her video? We need to boycott that gym and we should be seeing what we can do to call out both the gym and tik tok for this. My grandma would say "write them a letter!" So we should do whatever the modern version of that is. I hope this woman gets a good lawyer. Let's raise hell even if it just starts by keeping talking about this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 07:00 PM |
| 17 | Spotted sneaky red flags in my old messages when I was still learning and analyzing them through FDS lensesWhen my sister was about 8 or 9 and got her first phone even she would text me "moms gonna make me go to bed soon goodnight". Some of my friends I have known for years just message me occasionally and go ghost and when they started doing that it showed me they don't care about me anymore. Them popping up again was because they just wanted to nosey and gossip. It's about respect. I next anyone that goes ghost with no explanation. Explanation afterwards is not okay. Like tell me upfront you're hea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:56 PM |
| 9 | Spotted sneaky red flags in my old messages when I was still learning and analyzing them through FDS lensesWow that dude was using a very similar tactic to the one I wrote about. It is a "sneaky bait and switch". Any guys that mention honesty and communication are red flags and are often the ones pulling this sneaky bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:51 PM |
| 12 | Double Standard with Long DistanceThat is how those lvm try to trap you in, by isolating you and throwing into a new an distant environment. Moving in with them and even if you find a new job, you are looking your coworkers and your community of family and friends in your original location. Moving away with means you'd have to totally start over, learning all the ropes. You may end up leaving the past job, even if the new one pays about the same now you may have awful coworkers and a lousy work environment. More realistically, y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:45 PM |
| 17 | Spotted sneaky red flags in my old messages when I was still learning and analyzing them through FDS lensesHe had negative respect for me. I had bills to pay, a job to work, I was still finishing school at the time, and I was helping my family out even with little things like cleaning and running errands. Even my adult friends need to contribute to my life. Zero value men act like dinner is such a special thing I'd beg them for, please. I can easily buy it for myself. I have very high standards for actually stopping my day, getting mentally prepped for the gymnastics of dating, and then getting all d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:40 PM |
| 133 | Spotted sneaky red flags in my old messages when I was still learning and analyzing them through FDS lensesI really despise the pity card | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:26 PM |
| 129 | Spotted sneaky red flags in my old messages when I was still learning and analyzing them through FDS lensesThank you. Asking about allergies is a high value trait, but this dude was faking it. The mask slipped so quickly. After I answered the allergy question a real HV would have said something like "thanks for letting me know I will keep it mind (and then he would have changed the subject or actually named a specific restaurant asking me to it and checking when I am free). Also it is common courtesy to respond within a reasonable amount of time hvm would give a woman head up they will be "cooking" o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:23 PM |
| 66 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Gaslighring of that dumpster fire made "a steam" lol. Jared is a huge LVM glad you saw your worth and we welcome you here. You deserve so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:01 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inI've been immediately rejecting anyone that mentions snap on their bio or guys that ask in conversation. Saying any form of no /Sassing them/trying to make them embarrassed just results in gasligjting or negging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:06 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inExactly you can get better conversation from a bot. The Shakespeare speech one here always makes me laugh at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 07:05 AM |
| 1 | HVM will listen to your fears and make you feel at easeThat's not the point. I posted because its an example of hv behavior and you should be comfortable talking to a man about your fears and he should put you at ease. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:46 AM |
| 1 | HVM will listen to your fears and make you feel at easeI don't know what the context of their lives are, so I dont want to look into it, but let's just appreciate the little lesson here: she was worried about having to wear a diaper after giving birth so he helped put her at ease by wearing a diaper too and being silly. it seems like it helped her feel a lot better! I know humor isn't for everyone so a man should do what makes you feel at ease. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:40 AM |
| 11 | The new dating scam.my former friend would do this order a ton of food and drinks and I would order modestly, having a much smaller bill than her. she would try to pull this on the waiters as well, you have to speak up for yourself and dont be afraid to talk over them. interrupt them and say "separate checks". if that doesn't work or you dont like making a scene just pay your meal in cash and leave some extra for the tip, but please get up and hand it to the server if you see them. LVMs and other people would swipe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Did I spot the breadcrumming?He all of a sudden got super chatty like pretty soon after I posted this complaining. He seemed to be making an effort and responding fast, and then hit me with the bs "I don't know how to take it to the next level" and then "do you want to hangout if im not dead tired" yeah lol all this did was prove to me my instinct was on from the start. He has been blocked and NEXTed. I couldn't help but laugh at the neg though "if im not dead tired" and "hanging out" yeah I am a grown woman. I don't "hango… | /r/askFDS | 15/07/21 09:48 PM |
| 37 | After years of wasting my time going on dates with losers, this subreddit helped me become selective and considerate of my time/understanding how much skin I really have in the game.I am so proud of you! You are leveling up and not only seeing the red flags immediately but doing the right thing by blocking /unmatchable them immediately! A lot of men use these LVM tactics like you described and eww especially the walk date- why is that a thing? I can't imagine telling my future grandkids "I met your grandfather on OLD, he messaged me by saying 'how r u bby' at 2am. He asked me to go on a walk." ☠☠ you deserve so much better. You are part of the revolution by resisting their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 09:26 PM |
| 324 | Don’t you just love it when LVM tell on themselves? Do not settle for a man you have to “change.” You’re not a therapist. A HVM will see your worth without expecting you to “fix” him!All the former pickmes know this does not work. Can confirm from my several past pickme dating fails. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 09:16 PM |
| 140 | Lol, do we have a Self Aware Wolves flair?Dude must have creep /rape energy and he must be giving off a really bad vibe. There was actually a study saying women can actually pickup by looking at a man's face if he wants hookups or a long term relationship, so seeing a study find actual evidence of this was awesome. Ladies let's normalize this behavior though, get up and move away from men that make you feel comfortable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 96 | The absolute AUDACITY of men who want to have their cake and eat it too.Please call up the company and fo full "karen" and speak to a manger about that. Honestly take a photo of the note with his number and post it on the company review page and don't blur it let everyone see it. You should shame the heck out of him and he should get in trouble for being so disgusting and unprofessional. I hope his girlfriend finds out and leaves him too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 09:41 AM |
| 2 | Did I spot the breadcrumming?Yeah I've been making the effort to talk to other dudes. The one I wrote about is chatting it up again but said he picked up a shift and its a longer drive away to the city he is going to. That's cool but im just gonna start seeing if something can happen with other dudes instead. Thank you for the advice about the roomate. I will just head out and do my thing of I do meetup. She knows I am very set on keeping my life more private. | /r/askFDS | 14/07/21 11:24 PM |
| -6 | Did I spot the breadcrumming?Update: then he texts me a whole lot just now and we start having a good convo and he just stops responding out the blue. I mean I do the same thing if I'm making dinner or driving. I think I'll let him linger see what happens between now and the weekend. I can be like that with texting too so I want to hold a guy to the same behavior I have. He will have to step it up for making conversations and getting to know me though I just want to see an effort that is genuine. Plus I am worried about hav… | /r/askFDS | 14/07/21 10:27 PM |
| 7 | Did I spot the breadcrumming?I can see he hasn't been on the OLD where we met, and if you think that's a fair amount of texting then maybe I'll leave him hanging and see if hes any better this weekend. His field is dangerous its a lot of manual labor too so I don't think anyone he works with is on their phones at work too much. | /r/askFDS | 14/07/21 08:47 PM |
| 74 | Probably the worst double standardI wish getting a hysterectomy was as easy as getting a vasectomy. Do you know how many creepy, msyogynisyic gynos I had to go to before finding a half decent one? Even now, "a hysterectomy isn't covered by insurance" and "why? You'll change your mind in a few years". But the procedure for a vasectomy is so much simpler and its an in and out procedure. The two guys from good mythical morning made a video of them getting it done. Start making talks with your partners about sex and if you dont want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Check-inI'm having awful luck with professional men and what makes them more dangerous is they tend to be smarter when it comes to faking being high value and sneakier at hiding the women they have on the side. One thing about blue collar dudes is they seem to be way more up front about what they want and honest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 07:28 AM |
| 1 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentAny time I lived with a man I would go on a cleaning strike, where I only pickup after myself. Within a few days, there was always so much trash on the floor, dirty dishes stacked high, cranky man baby because I would only cook for myself and not share, the floors would be covered in dirt that would start sticking to your feet. His dirty laundry all over the floor. It was always the same. And I hate to admit it but my father AND step-dad are the same way when my mom stops picking up after them. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:34 AM |
| 36 | Watch how men treat you when completing tasks they want to “do themselves”I assume a HVM would act like me an aspiring HVW - I was driving aline in my car and noticed it was making a weird sound. I called the mechanic and set up an appointment. I told my family that "my cars making a sound, it's going into the shop on Thursday" because they relied on me to give rides back then. I took it into the shop, got the diagnosis, and calmly said alright get it taken care of. I put it on my credit card, worked extra, and then paid it off as soon as I could. Yeah, it sucks. But … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:19 AM |
| 2 | Things to avoid saying in early stages or on OLDVery very good tip. LVMs can be huge gold diggers and just want to either neg you (ie the hate messages you got) or want to try to use you so they can mooch off how you did it for free /use you for your money (the guys suddenly wanting dates after seeing your success). Congratulations on you success though. I try to let men know I am self suffiencient and that I'm not hurting for money. Even when I was just trying to make money and didn't have much, I didn't act like it. Im seeing more success n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 11:44 PM |
| 17 | Meetup Groups and HobbiesYeah exactly. I posted about this "infiltration" a few weeks back. Theres a lot of men faking being into the hobby or cause and are even fake volunteering just to try to get casual sex. It's appalling and terrifying they go to such lengths to get their dicks wet, they could have easily used that energy to improve themselves. Or if they want to be a PUA then maybe they should just stick to using actual sex toys, leave women alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 09:39 PM |
| 34 | Weekly FDS Check-inI went back to OLD! this is a way to dip my foot in the water and sort of practice FDS. I haven't had much luck finding open events that aren't at bars. Also RSVPed to my cousins wedding. no date, no plus one. My uncle was nice about it. It made me happy. He said "just you?" And I said "yes" and that was it he said okay and we talked about other stuff. You do NOT need a DATE to attend anyone's wedding. I think bringing along someone like a sister /bff should be more normalized if you really don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 08:31 PM |
| 21 | Meetup Groups and HobbiesI'm in my 20s and found a local meetup since I moved and don't know anyone here. A lot of the guys are doing the same type of stuff, it's infuriating me because they should use a dating platform. I want to use meetup and similar groups to actually connect with people who have similar interests and hobbies. They just have to shoot their shot. See if you can find female only spaces or groups. Stay weary of the men that prey on the meetups. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 08:02 PM |
| 20 | I am so glad I didn’t end up with any of the losers I pined over in my pickme yearsYour hometown sounds like its my hometown too! I am so glad I moved far away. Good for you for seeing that there was no growth there to move away. I too needed more than the dead end jobs and wageslave LVMs that were stuck in those jobs, and the ones that already have kids can have so many red flags and baggage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:28 PM |
| 2 | This is nothing but truth.This is handbook/strategy material. I advise for everyone to follow this and pick a small boundary asap to see how they respond. It's telling and a good way to not waste more of your time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-InI'm evaluating my past decisions and dating experiences again because I am trying to slowly put myself back into the real world. Im job hunting and getting my teaching credentials. I'm trying to start being more social, explore more, and make friends. It's a shame that a lot of the guys in my new state are actually decently attractive, they have that solid and muscular country type of look, I think it's attractive but their personalities seem just the same boring, shallow "hey how r u" as everyw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedI'm not trying to get Doxxed, I have a bunch of people that watch this account here. I'm sure you can Google it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedThe depravity is insane. Like just seeing you at the top creates a fantasy for them 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:07 PM |
| 5 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedLol no he was just bullshiting but I am chronically allergic to scrote bull shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:06 PM |
| 7 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedAndroid with lots of customization. This one i didn't do though. It was in my settings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:05 PM |
| 100 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedYeah. Back in college one guy even told me his dad gave him the giftcard and then bragged how he didn't have to actually pay. Im all for getting a good deal but dating is NOT the place to be a cheapskate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 12:27 PM |
| 296 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedYeah beware of scrotes that cry "she used me as a free meal ticket". I remember that was from the dude that asked me to a nice fancy dinner (he asked, his suggestion, and he turned down my offer to pay smh I was still a lot pickme) it was great then the 2nd date he was late to walk around the outdoor mall. He used inappropriate slurs and crude language in public around kids, didn't let me order food because it was "too many calories" but yet HE wanted pizza 🤡 and then he made me pay for his movi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 12:19 PM |
| 112 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedContext: I just found that you can see and read blocked messages and found this entire circus of messages from clowns. One is just an address. I think this was the dude that wanted me to drive several hours away to meet him for a walk "date" he kept pressuring me and got blocked. The one with "hey" had 13 blocked messages over days. He kept reaching out with the same "hey" and "how r u" messages The one asking if I was available for coffee... he had been pushing for drink or coffee date and told… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 12:14 PM |
| 33 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedAgree. It was funny to see them all and what they said. One dude with THIRTEEN "Hey" and "how r u" texts 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 12:02 PM |
| 165 | Be careful around your friends’ boyfriends/husbands. Vet them & NEVER get too comfortable, no matter what.You did the RIGHT thing by telling her, she is being a pickme cloen by knowing he did that and staying with him. My one former friend, would always do these types of things to me and my other female friend he found attractive. He was very huggy did the squeezing, picking up, and kissing /stroking to both of us and no surprise he would give her a "rapey vibe" (she admitted later) and he tried to RAPE me. Trust your gut with your friend's dates/husband's. Men that are rapey will be pushing your bo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 12:00 PM |
| 98 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedYeah I'm pretty sure that text about the free pizza and mcdonalds was him trying to lure me /offer it to hangout as he was offering a mcdonalds date and I blocked. He was a true CLOWN 🤡 so I Ronald mcdonald thats why lvm love mcdonalds 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 11:47 AM |
| 7 | Mini rant about needing to let strange men into my placeI feel this SOOO much. Its one of the only redeeming factors about having a roomate. When I lived alone and the maintenence dudes would come over I would feel immensely anxious for my own safety. Thank heavens nothing happened. But still. I remember own time a friend of mine were hanging at her house and her elderly neighbors invited us over to pick peaches in their yard. I agreed to come along and I remember the old guy of the house there keeping his hands in a hoodie pocket in the summer. It w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:55 AM |
| 20 | I Married a Homeless Man Living Under a BushOh lord sis, if your heart is aching to help the homeless go VOLUNTEER. or make goody bags and hand them out. Donate clothes. Find a charity to donate goods or money to... it's like she took in a stray ragged dog. This is not something to be proud about. So desperate to get picked she adopted in and took care of this man. There are so many other better ways to help out. Damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 11:00 PM |
| 26 | I'm done 😪Downright shameful and disgusting of the married man to seek out other women. He is a cheater. Even worse is the supreme pickmesha messaging for him PlZ BlOcK mY hUsBaNd... nah sis. That husband of yours is an active cheater, maybe the woman he was messaging shot him down but he's gonna be finding someone else to get in bed with and it won't take too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:57 PM |
| 18 | How do you ladies feel about friends that prioritize their boyfriends?She is a big pickme and she will be a bad influence and eventually drag you down from her relationship drama OR try setting up /shame you into settling for a similar LVM. misery loves company. Her bf is a LVM and a lot of her behavior shows she is being manipulated and controlled by him. Distance yourself. Healthy HV adults need to keep their friends and balance a life outside their relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:52 PM |
| 1 | "You need to forgive!"The only person you should forgive is yourself for dealing with shitty treatment, but don't forget the lesson either. It's also a good time to have an internal lotus of control, remind yourself that while you can't control how someone else treats you and you can't change them: you can control how you react to it. You can set standards and boundaries. You have the power to out your foot down, walk out, and delete and block. A man won't change. But you can change how you react to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 10:34 PM |
| 37 | Are the dates he offers for HIM? is he just having you tag along to his fav restaurant or to the movie he's been wanting to see?Over text or messages just say "I'm gonna have to pass." Don't apologize, and don't lie and make up that you're busy with something else. You could also use these ideas: Him: "want to come bowling with me?" You: "that's not my cup of tea" OR "I wouldn't consider that a date" OR "I usually save that type of stuff for my friends" or "nah" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 05:25 AM |
| 62 | Are the dates he offers for HIM? is he just having you tag along to his fav restaurant or to the movie he's been wanting to see?Don't respond to that at all. He needs to be the one actually suggesting the place and doing the work. Remember the minimum of 6 hours we spend between talking to a guy and then dressing up, commuting to the date location plus the time actually at the date... is at least 6 hours...even mcdonalds would have paid you $60 or more for that time. Also remember the date formula. A date = specific place + specific day + specified time If he hasn't messaged you something like "hey are you free for dinne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 02:22 AM |
| 4 | Ladies, what are your current level ups?Started the program to get my teaching certification Made a new resume fit for substitute teaching jobs, started applying Signed back up with hello fresh, because honestly it's helping me so much. I never know what to cook and was dreading cook and started eating out, but with it im eating at home, and feeling better. Started working out again. Cut off my split ends of my hair I was in a slump and funk the past 2 weeks or so and I keep fighting it but its been tough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:38 PM |
| 17 | Are the dates he offers for HIM? is he just having you tag along to his fav restaurant or to the movie he's been wanting to see?I actually like a bunch of animes and cons as well. I want to cosplay at one instead of just around Halloween! I would never do that stuff as a date. Same with shopping, shopping anywhere is something I really enjoy doing alone. Guys also get the wrong idea when hearing a woman is "nerdy" and especially if they hear we cosplay. One of my former friends, a male, had no idea I was secretly nerdy and cosplayed. He was super into game of thrones and started randomly telling me I should dress up as t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:26 PM |
| 43 | Are the dates he offers for HIM? is he just having you tag along to his fav restaurant or to the movie he's been wanting to see?Yuck! His comic book store plus the PDA it's like they try to drag us to these cesspool locations just so they can show us off to the other LVM that hangout there. My ex would do Similar things. Seemed like he got super into PDA, butt grabbing, etc but only in public when other dudes were around. I'd start smacking and pulling away from anyone who did that embarrassing shit to me in public. It's demeaning because the root of it is being shown off like a prize and objectived, and excessive PDA an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:17 PM |
| 141 | When you follow a financial literacy page and then they start posting this shit... Unfollowed!Redpillers wrote that shit. Trying to glamourize 50/50 and make it "empowering" and "feminist" aka get free stuff from the women and use her even more 🤢🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 09:56 PM |
| 4 | FDS Weekly Chat / Check-Ingot a call from my uncle and it was funny because I had it on speaker and my roommate got to hear the last half of it. my uncle called to "check up on me" I was thinking wow this is so nice, I feel so loved and cared about, and then I noticed the call turned into him bragging about his own job, traveling, and what his kids (my cousins) were accomplishing. mind you, the entire phone call, I was humble and didn't really get into detail about my life, I didn't flex. the highlights were "still unemp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 06:19 AM |
| 7 | FDS Weekly Chat / Check-Invery helpful post and great insight on how the internalized misogyny had you downplaying yourself! I try avoiding emojis all together especially when messaging guys. also great observation on how men throw around emojis to make fun of us and make their negs and jabs when we are passionate about things, they're such jerks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 05:59 AM |
| 16 | FDS Weekly Chat / Check-Inthey're still pulling this bait and switch scam! yuck. I was agitated reading he texted only an hour before the dinner was supposed to happen (I would have already been just about dressed up and full glam with hair, makeup, painted nails and been livid getting dressed for a flake at the last minute) but he wanted a WALK at late NIGHT in the DARK with a bottle of strong LIQOUR? whoa, that is actually terrifying and I am hearing the alarm bells go off from here. to say you dodged a bullet underpla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 05:55 AM |
| 7 | It isn’t that bad…https://www.healthline.com/health-news/will-we-ever-get-a-birth-control-pill-for-men#Experimental-research I'm disgusted. These men act like the male contraceptives being tested and their side effects are some hellish price to pay. They'll whine about condoms killing the feeling, but yet they don't want to abstain/use a condom/use male birth control 🤡 I've used birth control pills for years because my periods and cramps were so painful and unbearable I started missing school. Every month it felt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 10:10 PM |
| 23 | Yet another reminder: If he wanted to, he would- a field reportLove to see this, it's nice to see the examples of green flags especially with how you have a crush but aren't letting yourself get overwhelmed and obsessed with him! Happy for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 03:51 AM |
| 21 | What refusing to pay their share looks like in 2021.Yeah geez. Sign me up to live in a room in her $650k house (it's probably gorgeous) and I'd gladly pay $2k for that plus all the utilties AND groceries (probably homemade hot meals too)... does he not see that amount is a pittance for what he is actually getting? Don't even get me started on what hiring a maid would cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:39 PM |
| 13 | Don't be a pickme, even men won't like you. Credits: https://twitter.com/finegodmother/status/1410316385545330689?s=20She is embarrassing herself so hard and she looks so desperate to be picked 🤡. I posted recently about how a first date takes at LEAST 6 hours worth of a woman's time, plus however much you put into for your outfit, if you do your brows, nails, makeup, hair, perfume ETC this could easily go up into the hundreds for those of us who really like to dress up and do a full glam type of look... (no hate for anyone that doesn't go the 9 yards, I KNOW the 9 yards is not required but it was something I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:35 PM |
| 62 | This tweet speaks truths BUT FDS is here to stop women from choosing LVM to have kids with.I hated this shit growing up. "She has daddy issues" and "her mom is a single mom" talk thrown at me and my other classmates who had a similar situation. I would really love to see the narrative start changing, and the deadbeat dad should be the one that is shit talked for abandoning his kids and not helping out (a mandatory child support does NOT count). We need more applause and recognition for the mothers that took on the role of both parents and did it all by themselves to raise their kids. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:26 PM |
| 27 | What refusing to pay their share looks like in 2021.He's living in a $650k house and ONLY Paying her $2k a month? Does this 🤡 know what it costs to even rent a 1 bedroom tiny apartment in my hometown? They started at $1k a month with nothing included other than the dumpster for trash. They were tiny, roach infested, street parking, old, and in the ghetto neighborhoods. And then hes complaining her house is full of her stuff 🤡 There was a post on FDS a little while back where the dude charged the woman and he was using the money on other women 🚩 I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:20 PM |
| 78 | Future of scrotesHahahaha the floor mattress, the music, the I've never had a real job omg. The old pic he used to catfish. Yup, yup, yup. Plus the baldness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:26 AM |
| 13 | Remember you can love and work on yourself, but you can't fix others.Oooohhh, this should be a post all on its own. Fantastic observation. I feel like a lot of these are the "I'm an entrepreneur/ Amazon FBA /sneaker seller /stock buyer/ real estate house flipper" type. They are the male version of MLM huns, but they pretend to be a huge success and then educate you on house flipping or whatever when they actually suck at it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:21 AM |
| 7 | Remember you can love and work on yourself, but you can't fix others.I keep attracting the looser and low value men and ladies trying to be friends. It's hard to attract better people. Too many negative folk and they try to drag you down with them. Good for cutting them out and seeing their hypocrisy. I recognize it a lot more now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 12:06 AM |
| 9 | I know we don't do drinks; how deal with this scenario:He is not serious about you. The lets grab a bite line is generally an indication that it is casual. I saw your edit that the place he offered is a pub and I think that goes to show he really is looking for a casual thing. You could respond with something like "oh I see that's just a bar. Bars are what I do with my girlfriends. I'll have to pass, good luck" or just block him now and obviously don't show up to that pub. | /r/askFDS | 29/06/21 10:36 PM |
| 12 | How much is your time worth?👑 queen level right here, keep that bar set high. Even on the mcdonalds paycheck that $60 is enough to take yourself to a nice restaurant. These dudes can afford it, they just choose to mod their cars, buy OF and p0rn, or spend lots on video games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 09:42 PM |
| 19 | How much is your time worth?50/50 is what I did when I'd go to lunch with a friend during college. 50/50 is what I do when me and my sister order Chinese takeout. If he's asking or accepting 50/50, he is not a date or a man i would sleep with. A man made me pay for both mine and his movie tickets once, and that was it, I paid, but blocked him afterwards. Not glamorizing escorts but they even get paid like $100 or more to attend events with a man, and cheap h00kr§ make $50. And they're worried about women using them for a f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 09:29 PM |
| 170 | This!Manifest? I think she means she set high standards, set boundaries, vetted and probably had to delete/block the lvms. But also a man cleaning is bare minimum. Dont get me wrong he's built, attractive and looks clean, but don't forget maintaining yourself and home are basic bare minimum things. It's sad the bare min is glamorize like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:53 PM |
| 87 | How much is your time worth?Let me add that an hour of counseling on average costs $100 where I live, so please do not be anyone's free therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:50 PM |
| 37 | How much is your time worth?They just roll out of bed I swear. The worst was a guy that showed up in his t shirt from work with this huge graffiti looking logo all over it and a baggy hoodie and sweatpants and sneakers. I was mortified. Like he couldn't even bother to change or wash his greasy hair. Then he had the audacity to neg me and say "I normally don't find bigger girls attractive. I have a type". My bmi is in a healthy range. He showed me pics of rail thin women skin and bones saying they are his type and I said th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:34 PM |
| 16 | How much is your time worth?For the person asking about dating a woman, I would say apply the vetting techniques, do a predate phone call and keep it around a half hour or less, vet the restaurant if she suggested one, and again think about how much time/potential money you are investing into all the time leading up to the first date (talking, vetting, getting ready) and the time spent at the actual date itself. Make sure you think she is really worth it. If she is showing green flags dont wait too long to do a first date … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:22 PM |
| 24 | How much is your time worth?Same. The restaurant would have to be really special along with the man. Plus its yard sale season, I used to do yardsale with my mom and friends. Fun and profitable at the same time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:55 PM |
| 18 | How much is your time worth?I'm glad I used to do yard sales with my mom. They'd start around 6am and be done around noon. Add an hour for parking stuff up and driving there, pay a $10 fee, then add another hour for dropping stuff at a thrift shop and coming home... I'd always make at least $100 for that maybe 8 hours of work. It's summer now if it's not a fancier dinner and he doesn't seem like a real gem,just pickup a shift or sell old stuff at a yardsale dont waste your time and loose money w dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:53 PM |
| 26 | How much is your time worth?I didn't even want to think of that because I used to talk with some dudes a week or 2 before meeting as a pickme and many hours spent on texting, dressing up to snap them, phone calls, etc. I lost so much. And men have the audacity to cry "she is using me for a free meal" plz keep the shit $10 burger and $2 soda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:49 PM |
| 2 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realAnd if they have a job, they're job hoping from warehouse to warehouse job /fast food/grocery store. I'm not applying this to people still in college or younger, im talking mid 20s and up and they're uneducated, not in school, and just doing looser jobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:34 PM |
| 7 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realSame. Almost all the hate messages I get and harassment from the incels have nsfw accounts, post tiny shrimp dick pics, and are obsessed with video games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:31 PM |
| 2 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realMost of the Red pi11 type guys I dated or knew (friends dated) were all: uneducated, broke, dead end job, lived with parents/couch surfed, dirty unreliable car they won't take care of, addiction problems to video games/alochol/weed (one dude was actually addicted to weed ro the point it made him sick and he smoked it almost round the clock), receding hairline, overweight or obese, no ambition. They seriously have a type and are so butthurt that HVW won't give them the time of day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Don’t give wifey energy to someone who isn’t your husbandGood observations and leveling up, but even in a marriage it is not a woman's job to be a personal chef! Cooking in a marriage should be cooking the meals together, taking turns for who makes the meals, or lets say you're really great at making one dish then you could make that dish while he could prep and cleanup afterwards. Marriage shouldn't be just the woman doing the grocery shopping or cleaning up the kitchen/dishes either. If I get married, I visualize myself cooking together with a man. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:26 PM |
| 2 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Aww the card was sweet, i am sorry to hear he was a LVM before. My grandpa apparently was a LVM to my grandma especially in the early stages of the relationship and when they were newly married. She told me he had a meltdown the one time he came home from work. He wanted pizza and coca cola for dinner. She made it, but the store was out of coca cola so she got something else. And apparently he screamed and hollered and then took the whole pizza and the soda and threw it all over the yard in a ra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 12:15 AM |
| 2 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Tearing up reading this, so sorry for your loss. Your husband sounds like he was a wonderful man and thank you for sharing this story and your kind words. It's interesting you mentioned the Astral and dream aspects, I often see my grandpa in my lucid dreams and he's fully healthy and himself there and we talk there like before. I wonder a lot too about these types of things. I think he will be there advocating for his family until the end as well. He's really worried about my grandma and how muc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:43 AM |
| 1 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Exactly, it's all about the effort they put into making us happy, because that is part of love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:39 AM |
| 1 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Dementa and alzheimers are terrible conditions, that's so heartbreaking. I really hope they keep researching and finding better prevention and treatment options | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:37 AM |
| 3 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Thank you ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:36 AM |
| 3 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"So sweet, cherish the time you have together. Grandpas like mine and yours are examples of what exists and why we shouldn't settle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:36 AM |
| 7 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"I hope you still had a very happy birthday. I'm glad you know your worth and decided not to settle for his lousy awful behavior. His bs excuse makes me even angrier on top of it. Social media is really good at letting people know its someone's birthday, he also has a phone which literally will tell him the time and date, paper calenders are cheap and widely available, he also could he used his phone or laptop calander to write down your birthday and set an actual reminder. My lv exes would set a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:59 PM |
| 3 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Thank you for your hard work and I appreciate you and the tips. Theu have him medicated so he isn't violent and its helped calm his mood a lot. A lot of my family are in the medical field and they've been checking him for bedsores, i made sure to ask my mom to check when she goes in. My grandma called them a lot when it was closed to visitors and stayed on them a lot whenever my grandpa needed the bathroom he would call home and my grandma would make a fuss and she noticed they're more on top of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:55 PM |
| 25 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒FDS: work on yourself, heal, become independent so you dont need to rely on anyone, surround yourself with good people. If a man abuses, negs, gaslights, uses you, or is looking for a mommy/maid then delete and block. Incels: harass women, avoid therapy use women instead, neg and gaslight her. Use her as a fleshlight, push and violate all boundaries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 08:37 PM |
| 95 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"He can't even tell if its the day or night time, he never knows what day it actually is, and he keeps getting confused and thinking he needs to go to work (to his company that he retired from like 20 years ago)... he is really confused like 75% of the time. But briefly he is completely himself and it breaks my heart he knows he forgets and was so worried about remembering my birthday and still getting me a present. I cherish him so much. I lived with my parents almost an extra year just so I cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 08:42 AM |
| 189 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Thank you. I sobbed as I was typing it. We owe it to ourselves to not settle, but we also owe it to our grandads, who gave us a good example, not to settle for any less. My grandpa wanted so much to see me get married, and I told him I tried to be dating, but I won't settle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 07:28 AM |
| 280 | Why are so many men so unhygienic and disgusting?I've gotten negged on a few first dates as a pickme. I would wear a nice dress (usually a more expensive one too) nice jewelry, hair, makeup, fresh French nails, nice shoes, nice petite purse... I even bought a classier looking phone case at one point to look more grown up instead of my fun one... smh. One 🤡 negged "what's with the outfit, why are you dressed up like this! It is just a bar. Chill, girl." Mind you the dress was so pretty. It had finally gone on sale from over $100 down to like $5… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 07:01 AM |
| 3 | Planning to end things with LVM tomorrowLVX did this same crap to me as well. We had TWO bathrooms let me add. The motherfer would always be trying to see me on the toliet and try to come in and peep on me in the shower. It's a huge violation of privacy and to me its very gross and makes me feel violated. He would also always leave the door open when he was using the bathroom and I would frequently yell at him to close the door, LVMs are just gross and they are obsessed with pee and poop and excrement in general, I have no desire or n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Dr. Jess just out there spewing straight facts as usual.Prime projection. A guy that says /posts stuff like this should be a major red flag. Them worrying so much about their future kids /current kids shows that they know how bad guys are... because they ARE the creepy, inappropriate, hyper sexual guys themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Worried about coworkerThis is awful to hear, he is 100% negging and brainwashing her into lowering herself and screwing herself over for this clown. Just be careful if you do say anything else to her that it doesn't create issues for you at your job. That lvm will even try to get her to retaliate on you if she starts leveling up again and he knows it was you. You can't beat yourself up over this. You could mention these things as bad choices to her, but honestly you won't be able to cure her pickmeism. Some people wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 02:37 AM |
| 16 | Lee Byung-Hun.I was genuinely starting to think I was asexual for a little, until fine AF Fridays became a thing. Wow. I'm definitely still very attracted to men. I guess I just don't like balding stink ogres haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 02:32 AM |
| 3 | Do I Contact His Ex?I think this would open a pandoras box and probably lead you to further trauma / questioning /feelings of insecurity. You have no idea how she would react either, she may be very irrational, hostile, or cause trouble. | /r/askFDS | 24/06/21 03:11 AM |
| 24 | Beware of "men are programmed to cheat" and fake woke scrotes saying cool girls are "real women"Good point about Beyonce, for any of the pickmes reading my comment here: she's Beyonce- insanely talented, absolutely beautiful, great singer and dancer, and made some smart moves with doing business collaborations, she's also mega rich and influential. This woman has it all! And yet she hasn't gotten picked, she hasn't been treated with real love or respect by Jay Z. She is a perfect example for how you won't ever be able to change a cheater or LVM. Another example is Cardi B, I loathe her mai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 08:02 PM |
| 30 | Beware of "men are programmed to cheat" and fake woke scrotes saying cool girls are "real women"even when a scrote finds a cool girl or extreme pickme that allows anything to happen, he will STILL treat her like crap and cheat on her as well. being a cool girl will not get you picked, and it won't change a LVM or make him loyal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:24 AM |
| 47 | Beware of "men are programmed to cheat" and fake woke scrotes saying cool girls are "real women"I agree with you completely. I posted this to warn others. Sometimes these guys are less upfront about this mindset, and they try to act intelligent, scientific, and "woke" and then try to slowly brainwash the woman. Cheating is cheating, period. And it's wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupYes it's happened to me! One guy from college (I didn't ever actually date him, be was a crush, and we would talk, and one day he starts messaging outside of stuff for class, and he started getting wildly sexual and inappropriate and sent me a dick pic) I ended up telling him this wasn't cool and I would no longer be messaging him, and if he bothered me in class I could tell my professor and speak with the dean. That stopped him. ...then I graduated and a year later I noticed a new account (for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:45 PM |
| 25 | How do you end a date early?Holy smokes. You handled this like a queen. This is a way to make am exit for sure. Love how you embarrassed him and made him trip on himself too. Also wow that other woman was on another level of pick me ism, even messaging you for him?! 🤡 ugh. You did the right thing by exposing him to her though letting her know he shat talked her. Hopefully she will wise up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:25 PM |
| 6 | How do you end a date early?Definitely drive yourself /have your own means of transportation or a trusted friend nearby to pick you up. Never have him give you a ride. You can get up at any time and walk out. You can pretend that you're getting a phone call /text and politely excuse yourself "I really need to take this call, it's important, so im gonna step out for a little" (try to head to your car asap and leave). You could also excuse yourself to the bathroom, but dip to your car. You can say something like "its getting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:21 PM |
| 39 | Doing "boring manly job" is actually really fun! Talk about male PRYES!!! so proud of you. I built my own furniture and have my own set of basic tools. I bought a folding stepstool so I could easily reach and hang stuff / change out light bulbs as well. I bought a push mower that is easy for me to push and use. I also picked up a shelf thing (out for free) and it was broken so I bought some screws and was able to fix it myself. It looks great in my room and uses the space I have in a corner. This goes to show we really don't need men. Hoping more women get insp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:04 PM |
| 13 | How do you make it clear from the start that you only want friendship?It's a very RARE case you can just be platonic friends with a male. The few exceptions are if he is related to you, if he is gay, or maybe he is a family friend or neighbor that ends up coming to your parents events or something like that. You can have coworker "friends" or classmate friends you are amicable or professional with to create a more pleasant classroom or work environment, but generally not too many people are actually close friends with their male coworkers. You can socialize as gro… | /r/askFDS | 22/06/21 09:16 PM |
| 5 | Seen in the wild on a 'listicle' about why older men date young women. Also included gems like "women my age are so bitter" "younger women need the guidance and nurturing of an older man" 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮This is true though. I dated a LVM who straight up told me this (before fds) he literally explained to me on the first date he likes younger women because we aren't bitter, don't hate men, and because we don't have laundry lists of standards, and we are "down to earth" (he was then describing the pickme cool girl type). Ironically enough, he was the reason I ended up lurking FDS and then started to slowly try out and live the message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Just started talking to this guy on Hinge (28M) and he's already tryna make me (22F) his motherEwwwww 🤢🤢🤢 he really thinks that saying this to you is somehow sexy and flattering. I know, iTs jUsT a Joke! Scrotes tell on themselves. Now he's gonna be super confused as to why he's been ghosted and blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:04 AM |
| 10 | Old pick me VS new Queen meHe did this on purpose, he is trying to bait and switch you into a cheap, low effort BS. walking around the mall and eating at a good court is what teenagers do since they're broke!!! Lol. That is absurd and insulting. I'm proud of you! You saw onto his bait and switch clown bs and stopped it right there! You dodged a LVM. Call the restaurant you initially were going to eat at and take yourself or a friend there or order a nice takeout instead! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:01 AM |
| 3 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himShe looks like a sad puppy following him around, like she is on a leash. She doesn't even look like the strong, confident JLO I have seen elsewhere. The pic says it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:58 AM |
| 6 | Why is someone like you single???These scrotes have ALL the audacity. You were in contact with him to ask about buying a house to flip, the scrote HAD to SHOOT HIS SHOT. ugh. "Why Is SoMeOnE lIkE yOu SiNgLe?" He is projecting about being single himself or being in a lv relationship. Ugh. I just made a post about how scrotes like this are infiltrating and getting really off topic and creeping into situations and places trying to shoot their shot when it is very out of place. Next time you find yourself in a situation with a scro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:53 AM |
| 18 | Tip - if he reschedules even once for your first date, there is a 99% chance he is using you as a backup.Can also confirm This is the TRUTH. if he is flaking/runs late/reschedules then he will continue to pull this bs throughout any future times he spends with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:13 AM |
| 17 | At first it looks like a good answer, but then you realize the first part is about him, the second part is about you helping HIM achieve HIS goals (!), and the third part is a hastily assembled mishmash of Good Qualities he put in at the last minuteTranslation: I need a pickme who is smart enough to literally do my job for me, kind in bed and never has a temper or retaliates to being used and abused. I return MAYBE I will drop $1k on a tiny cloudy diamond after 10 years and you begging and NagGiNG me Scrotes always tell on themselves. He's already so selfish and has nothing to offer only take, take, take | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:11 AM |
| 3 | (M) First date logistics questionVenmo /PayPal her money to cover her ride. Tell her "I'd like to send you money so you can get a cab/uver to come to our dinner date" You could also see if uber has like an email gift card and email her it | /r/askFDS | 20/06/21 02:00 AM |
| 18 | More young men are living at home, not participating in the workforce, and playing more video games. What a surprise! /ssounds a lot like the guys in my hometown, almost ALL the guys I knew /met there were in their mid 20s to mid 30s and STILL lived with mommy and daddy or were couch surfing between friends. they are unemployed or work dead end jobs and have ZERO ambition to go to school / start an actual career. one guy had his CDL and had so many job opportunities with sign on bonuses and still opted to work for minimum wage at his relatives business and live in his parents house. another guy I dumped in my pic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 09:34 PM |
| 97 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.rooting for her and genuinely hoping she keeps with this attitude and message, because she has a fame and can use that to spread this message of self love and standards rather than spreading pickme nonsense like she did in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 09:29 PM |
| 12 | Don't even pretend you're having a good time.always drive yourself/meet him always lookup the restaurant BEFORE actually showing up, vet the places he's asks you out to, a lot of LVM will ask you to a dumpy place and hype it up hoping they can trick you. one lvm tried doing this with me saying he wanted to take me out to his favorite restaurant, went on and on how "fancy" it was with "gourmet food" and thankfully I looked it up first because it was a dirty dumpy bar in the middle of the ghetto neighborhood. blocked and deleted him and I di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 09:15 PM |
| 22 | Infiltration of LVM's coming off quarantine- huge time wasters and fakersOh my gosh... I already can imagine the messages they'd say "CaN yOu mOdeL fOr mE bBy" yeah Facebook marketplace is the worst. J had a lot of dudes ask me to drive over to their house to meet them when I clearly said "pickup /local gas station meetup ONLY" and they didn't care. So I started listing stuff under my step-dad account and then guess what? No one dares to harass a stereotypical biker looking dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Graduating from bitterness towards menI'm trying to get out all my bitterness, and im in a new city and I want to socialize and thrive again, but I'm at the stage where I just want to start building my hobbies up again and I am looking for higher value female friends. I want to share my ideas and funny stories with them and hear theirs! Eventually I would like to be hanging out with her together at higher class events, like art galleries, museums, volunteering, etc. I could network more and maybe I'd meet a high value man then throu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 08:36 AM |
| 4 | Dealing with the realization that I'm a PickmeshaHonestly give yourself a big pat on the back, you're here, and you have seen the truth and you're brave: you looked at the truth of being a pickme, acknowledging it and have come here to start making changes. That's huge! You are growing already. I am proud of you because it is really hard to acknowledge it and start, a lot of pickmes start realizing something is wrong, but don't do anything about it or just get worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 08:15 AM |
| 42 | Congrats sisa CLOWN specifically Pennywise... Im cracking up at the accuracy. these LV/NV M's are CLOWNS! his lair is a nest and majority of the time the pickmes dont even get a ring | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 06:18 AM |
| 9 | LVM stay mad at HV behavior!More guys need to learn/and actually cook the type of dinners like yours does! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:35 PM |
| 56 | LVM stay mad at HV behavior!Wow he did a great job it looks delicious. Butthurt lvm making a frozen pizza or microwaving a frozen dinner - that is NOT cooking. It's fine to have a quick fix, but I hate seeing pickmes flex that their man "made them" a dinner and its Marie calenders or frozen pizza lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:35 PM |
| 10 | The sad reality behind Only Fans that no one speaks aboutI'm glad she is calling it out and using tik tok to speak the truth about this stuff. Sex work isn't glamorous or empowering. I feel like most people do it because they were groomed or feel absolutely desperate for some money. Sex is such an intimate connection and as a woman you are exposing yourself and making yourself so vulnerable- to violence, getting killed, getting an STI, or getting pregnant. Sex exposes our most sensitive and private areas that lead into our bodies too, areas we have al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 03:58 AM |
| 3 | The sad reality behind Only Fans that no one speaks aboutI feel like it would be self employed on paper, I sell on ebay/posh/merc and I use a schedule C and am considered self employed. Most places will ask for your past 2 years of tax returns or a proof of income (and bank statements would count and I don't know how OF does it but there's probably a direct deposit that says "only fans") so YES working on OF will come haunt you and make it hard to gain meaningful employment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 03:48 AM |
| 37 | This popped up in my memories. This is HV.This is true love sort of stuff. He is physically helping make sure she can still enjoy sightseeing and emotionally taking care of her as well. Remember a HV will care about your physical AND emotional needs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 01:55 AM |
| 32 | My grandma "I don't understand why women would even bother dating today! I wouldn't, I would just get a dog."Same. I haven't seen my grandpa in over a year from moving and they're slowly starting to allow visitors in his nursing home and all he wanted for me was "to see me get married". We said our goodbyes last summer because he is ill, and we both cried. When he told me that though my heart sank because I can't promise him that. We talked about it too. I haven't found a man that could ever take care of me and lookout for me like he did, my grandpa had a very patient and soft spoken demeanor. He made … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 04:24 AM |
| 70 | The bar can’t be this damn lowI remember always excusing myself to the restroom to freshen up whenever I was about to have sex with a guy. I would literally tell him hold on a sec I want to "get ready" and "freshen myself" I would keep the summers eve wipes in my bag and I had a little trash bag for them in my bag as well (guys didn't ever have trash bins in their bathrooms). Ugh I was a huge pick me! I would always wash myself down there before having sex. I was self conscious about having any odor, even though it's normal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 10:27 PM |
| 114 | Much love to FDS, always ❤️Yall someone messaged me about fds and I was pleasantly surprised because they had believed this type of stuff and when I actually said what I am getting out of it is to make myself better, get my life together.... and that I just want to find someone on my level (or better) and have recirprocation.... I think it clicked for that person. We aren't hold digging because we want to have a real first date with effort and be treated well. We take dating seriously here because we are actually looking … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:40 PM |
| 5 | What is even the point of being in a world where you are constantly preyed upon and looked down upon I don’t even have the energy to keep working or going on anymorecan you report any of the behavior? I know its sad most places don't bother, but try to make a stink about it anyways. as others said, start making an exit plan. start applying to other jobs and save up some money gearing up. plan to keep applying elsewhere and then put in your two weeks notice to at least get a decent reference out of them, if possible. im still self employed right now and so far for June i've made almost $2500! I have a lot more to get done and am really hoping the self employ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 12:29 AM |
| 93 | I feel like I saw my Past Pickme self standing in front of me in line today... Thank God for FDSI remember buying these nice outfits and putting them together in the mirror and asking my sister for outfit tips whenever I'd meet with my lvm... and he would show up in sweatpants and a t shirt! even as a pickme I noticed that's always how he dressed to go out in public and I was so embarrassed. even as a pickme I felt like a fool walking into restaurants all glammed up and him in the sweatpants and backwards baseball cap, and the people staring at us. I'm so upset for that young woman, becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 12:21 AM |
| 8 | How much debt are you in as a direct result of a LVM ex?My mom easily lost $200k between my lv supermarket donor and her leech man child she remarried. I easily spent around $150 on one clown as a pickme, I foolishly drove him around and got suckered into "taking turns" paying the tab. Luckily I caught on quickly and ended it. Another guy only cost me the gas money for meeting up and then he had me pay for both our movie tickets. I was petrified and should have not and just left. It was maybe $20 or $25 for us both? He then tried to get me to buy foo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Bathroom lines and "I'm glad I'm a guy" comments from scrotesI've had a few partners and at some point they were the ones that would stop during sex because "my pee is gonna come out i can't hold it" and the "i have to pee bad but I don't want to stop because you feel to good" and sex with these guys was never more than 10 minutes... I am an understanding person but by the time they returned my mood was dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Bathroom lines and "I'm glad I'm a guy" comments from scrotesSome places have bathrooms that are labeled separately but really they are just individual bathrooms where the door locks. Sometimes when there's a line and I see the bathrooms are like this I will use the men's room as its a single personal bathroom. Fast food places are notorious for this and if I come out and theres more women in line I literally will tell them its a single room use the mens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:27 AM |
| 5 | Bathroom lines and "I'm glad I'm a guy" comments from scrotesYeah exactly. So many women, myself included, use a bathroom when one is available even if we "don't have to go". My mom forced this into my sister and I as kids, she would always make us "try" and honestly it was a good habit to pickup because (especially with so many places closed during covid) so many places weren't open, had long lines, or were really dirty. We can't hold it and get away with peeing anywhere, so we tend to go when we have the opportunity before it's urgent. My ex was notorio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:24 AM |
| 2 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselfI write a lot on here, but I love writing and telling my story and making it a lesson for others. This dude should have just believed women. I'm upset at how many men view women as second class citizens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 07:54 PM |
| 3 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselfExactly what I was saying. I hope posting this just helps more of us see through the "nice guy" facade they put up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 07:52 PM |
| 73 | Bathroom lines and "I'm glad I'm a guy" comments from scrotesThis explains why men stink and have nasty underwear with snail trails.... Oh my God. I'll take your word for it. That's just some big Ed level manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:23 AM |
| 159 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselfMore telling on himself. He knows he's just as bad (I think he's actually worse) than the actual "creeps" and notice he calls them "creeps" rather than stalkers, harassers, predators. The word "creeps" downplays it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:18 AM |
| 89 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselfexactly. honestly I would love if men got to simulate being a woman for even just one day and simulated all the things majority of women do in a day. I would also like to see him do hair, makeup, pack lunches for work, walk in heels or uncomfortable shoes, and then get the full experience of the sexual harassment from males as well as have to deal with frenemy pickme coworkers and have to experience a period with cramps and then a line for the bathroom and the bathroom is out of toilet paper ...… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 09:24 AM |
| 56 | Apparently even ancient Rabbis didn’t have time for thirsty dudes and their nonsensehahaha I love this so much, I will be sharing with my Jewish friend! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 09:16 AM |
| 191 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselffds has really changed my mindset because I can see stuff like this now and call BS super quickly, this man isn't a hero or an ally to women, he literally is the problem because he is implying that he never listened to women or believed that harassment was as prominent as what it is. of course him putting this out there on the internet will not help improve the problem at all. guys like the one in this post are some of the worse because they try to pretend like the sympathize with women and like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 08:30 AM |
| 19 | my childhood friend's parents are examples of a HV MarriageHigh value parents set high standards for their children and raise high value children, your parents and my friends parents are proof that high value marriages exist. Also kudos to your parents for instilling the values into you, I am really working hard to undo the damage my pickme mother and verbally abusive father have done to my little sister. I don't want her settling for a low value partner and/or an abusive relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:53 PM |
| 53 | my childhood friend's parents are examples of a HV MarriageYou dont have to "talk" with him. If you are stuck in a lease or living arrangement with him, I would suggest making an exit strategy and distancing yourself until you can get out/leave. I know not everyone can just dump and walk out because of financial reasons or leases, etc. Fds has a bunch of posts on exit strategies. Otherwise, if you aren't living with him or have stuff there you care about, its best to just delete and block him. 13 years of off and on is being a forever girlfriend. You de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:12 PM |
| 27 | FDS perk #358961 - Seeing through their BS and manipulationSis, I am so proud of you! You handled this situation like a true queen. As I always say, at least you saw his true self on the first date rather than it being two or three years before the mask slipped! For everyone else take note of how he tried to manipulate her into pushing for sex and how she responded (she didn't argue, she didn't explain, she didn't pretend to agree with him) and how after she heard him trying to get quick sex notice how she quickly ended the date and left. Its okay to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:07 PM |
| 72 | my childhood friend's parents are examples of a HV Marriageno one is perfect but I really think these types of marriages are overall the best idea I can have in my mind for what a healthy marriage looks like. I think it is sort of like group projects, you have to do your work and be willing to listen to other ideas as well as appreciate when the others do their share of the work and are making the effort to do a good job, and be appreciated back as well. my mom was a huge pickme and my nvm dad was hardly in the picture and people like John and Amy are p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Oh I didn't think of this. I apologize for my ignorance! I would advocate vetting for high value traits and good personalities in potential partners | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 10:29 PM |
| 25 | Where he asks you out to the first date should be appropriate for how much he makes & why splitting the bill is even more offensive logicallyI did! Every once in a while I pull up his Facebook, which is public, and he makes rants about how he is such a catch and how any woman's parents would love him, and how he is so butthurt he can't find any one. He cracks me up! He has all the audacity and then can't understand why he is alone. The difference is I'm happy being alone and not desperate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:18 AM |
| 10 | Dating a woman and ignoring the men who want me has been the best dating decision I’ve ever made.Genuinely happy for you, she sounds like an amazing and high value partner. Your relationship sounds mature, reciprocal (it sounds like you both genuinely care and make effort) and this post was very inspirational! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:31 AM |
| 52 | Broke men on Reddit be likeThank you to the mods though for keeping up deleting off the scrote comments. Going 50/50 on a date is NOT normal! That's what you would do with a platonic roomate! If a man wants to go Dutch with me it shows me he wants to be "friends" keeping me in his harem of backup options. If I split the bill with anyone, I'd call up my sister or female best friend and go to lunch and a movie with them, yeah id pay half, AND I would at least be guaranteed to have fun! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:27 AM |
| 26 | Where he asks you out to the first date should be appropriate for how much he makes & why splitting the bill is even more offensive logicallyExactly, that is very true. I've had blue collar men take me to decent restaurants, as well as even buy me desert or coffee afterwards and they were very generous! I was just saying though for men that have obvious means and a good career they can't just offer a cheap burger shack as the date since they can obviously afford better than that and they don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:01 AM |
| 14 | Paying while dating: meet the men who pick up the check (and those who don’t)"If she insists on splitting the bill i feel like she doesn't like me and i get worried" and "If I really like the woman I'll plan it out some more (for the date)" ... these are paraphrased from two of the dudes and it is just more PROOF FDS works. Also notice how the first guy sort of mocks a smile and speaks in a degrading tone when the woman FaKe ReAcHeS for her wallet... wtf! When I was a pickme I would always offer to "pay for what I ordered" and it always was genuine. I feel like if a man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:00 PM |
| 21 | The delusion, the audacity 🤡😂A man who has never been kissed or in a relationship by 28 years old is a HUGE red flag. Hes been actively dodged for over 10 years by women that even PICKMES wouldn't give him a chance. This dude must be a new level of cringe. Bet he was that awkward nerdy type of dude in high school that stalked girls, made in appropriate jOkEs, didn't take care of his hygiene, or would walk up to girls he didn't even know and offer "to pay them" for a "good time". Im sure we all had that type of dude in our h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:44 PM |
| 87 | Why are we taught to focus on MEN??"Wifey" in any sense was something pickmes were notorious for saying in my hometown. They would do pickme things and call it as being "wifey material" Don't give wife benefits until you've vetted and you're married. Even then pace yourself with what you give a little at a time so he doesn't take advantage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:38 PM |
| 19 | If you haven't already, get to know yourself sexually. It'll make it easier to stop desiring LVM and make it easier to drop men that are selfish in bed.I would classify your examples here as "medical" reasons that would prevent orgasm as these are from psychological/trauma/violence/medical problems. What i was saying is that I think women that do not have reasons like that ones you stated... the number should be higher. If she does not have these type of things she should be able to climax. But its also like theoretically saying 20% of the worlds population is unable to walk or has a very very difficult time walking when what they need to say i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:27 AM |
| 3 | We used to think we were always at fault20% of women cannot orgasm has to be a line of bad data and bs. I think a lot of women have not experienced orgasm because of men that are selfish in bed. Most of my friends haven't orgasmed because they were used as human flesh lights. I never orgasmed from a man because pounding me with little/lazy foreplay doesn't turn me on at all. Thats where I stand. Science has a bad track record for msyogyny. They aren't even sure what female cum is made of yet and it's 2021. Give me a break. We need to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:08 AM |
| 48 | If you haven't already, get to know yourself sexually. It'll make it easier to stop desiring LVM and make it easier to drop men that are selfish in bed.Not to invalidate you but I don't want to believe that as many as 20% of women can't orgasm. I feel like that still has to be a result of errors in experimental designs, too small of a sample sized or too biased of a population.... 20% is still way too high of a number. When looking for research on female orgasm... i am still seeing that not a lot of it has been done. It is 2021. They still don't know that much and what is even more alarming is that overall not enough scientists seem that intere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:55 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inMy roomate is already super toxic. She is 100% lv, and I have to yell at her to pickup after herself. Today she finally did some chores, tomorrow she is contributing to some of the yard work and running an errand for me, since she was already going there. She's annoying me because she is working from home and just started that job and she was supposed to get paid, but then they didn't pay her yet and I heard her arguing with them on the phone (I overheard the call). They were supposed to follow … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:33 AM |
| 5 | So guys do expect you to be a live in maid just because they earn more than you do. Nevermind the fact that if he lived alone he would still have to do them."Outside chores" translation: hiding out in the garage for 2 hours with some tools laid out to give the illusion of work, drinking a beer and mowing for 20 min and then shooting the breeze with the neighbor for 30 min, making up more lies to the wife that you'll fix the broken spigot when you just don't want to deal with it. Yall. run from guys that are like this with their "outside chores". I'm severy allergic to cut grass like i will get huge hives all over my legs but its really not hard to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:04 AM |
| 17 | If you haven't already, get to know yourself sexually. It'll make it easier to stop desiring LVM and make it easier to drop men that are selfish in bed.I should expand this post to say fingers / toys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:42 AM |
| 29 | If you haven't already, get to know yourself sexually. It'll make it easier to stop desiring LVM and make it easier to drop men that are selfish in bed.This is fantastic! You made a great investment for your future by learning what you love and what heaven is like now, and I really think it will keep your standards high when men come along. I wish I would have done the same! This is a great safe space especially to talk about sex, and we do need more discussions for it here. You can always ask if you have questions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:40 AM |
| 5 | Controlling Behavior Re: Chores & MoneyMy lv ex was like this exactly. He rarely ever cleaned but after me calling him out for not cleaning up, he started to criticize how I would clean. Sis, there's nothing actually wrong with your cleaning. He is negging you and abusing you. Its definitely time to dump him and leave and if you can't move out just yet, start making your exit strategy. Save up money. See what your options are to get out of a lease, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:33 AM |
| 23 | If you haven't already, get to know yourself sexually. It'll make it easier to stop desiring LVM and make it easier to drop men that are selfish in bed.Yikes!! He sounded manipulative and insecure. Men should be comfortable with allowing you to do you, and also be willing to bring toys into your time, but he should be actively allowing you do you and be still making an effort to please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:11 AM |
| 87 | If we’re Femcels, then why are Scrotes so obsessed with us??? 🧐Yup! Fear because we caught onto them, fear which is them actually being afraid that all women will see them as a gross, undesirable scrote. The hatred is because they are mad they can't dominate us, we don't need them. They hate us because we see them for who they are and that their trash behaviors are trash. Their jig is up! Theyre mad because now more of us are leveling up and that they will either have to die mad and alone, or because they will have to also level up to find a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:04 AM |
| 3 | Gay couples versus straight couples.Facts. Also have to say that my gay friends always make sure to post flattering photos of each other, unlike the straight LVM purposely and constant posting pics of when their girlfriends have their eyes closed, just rolled out of bed, or look completely hungover. If your significant other won't post flattering photos of you, it is a neg and a huge red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 08:14 AM |
| 15 | Anyone else find certain shows/movies infuriating now that you've found FDS?I went back to watching documentary style shows and shows about traveling or house renos/flipping. The one thing i do watch is people on YouTube that roast big Ed from 90day fiance/the single life because they call out his NVM behaviors and make fun of his audacity. Lately, another NVM from the show really threw him under the bus and then said he's a gaslighter and even his mom started calling him out as well. It is oddly therapeutic for me. Although, you have to be careful what you tubers you w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 25 | I find nothing wholesome or cute about this. I will not be bribing a man to marry ne, not with toys or anything else. He will be glad to marry me or we will not be married at all. Childish.How are they not humiliated especially by posting this? Yikes. Edit: guys and pickmes circulating "memes" like this are part of the problem, they're perpetuating msyogyny and that it's okay to treat women like poop like you get a reward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 06:19 PM |
| 8 | You know what’s attractive? Men who take care of themselves.The skincare routine is so important. I went on a first (and last) date with a man who had a nose COVERED in blackheads. Huge, blackheads, all over his nose they were so bad they looked like freckles. It started to become all I could see when I would look at him from across the table in the dim lighting. This dude I don't think had ever attempted to do skincare his entire life. I don't know how he could look into a mirror and think that was normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 06:27 PM |
| 63 | The woman my LVex cheated on me with told me "You have to trust your man" when I was catching onto themHonestly wish I had you and FDS back then. I consider the women of sub as genuine friends. I honestly stayed so long with him back then because my pickme friends kept brainwashing and gaslighting me anytime I started seeing the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 07:26 AM |
| 9 | Date with a LVM starter pack 😂😩🥴mcdonalds 🤣🤣🤣 I was asked out on so many first dates to mcdonalds. Another dude from my OLD days went on a rant, full blown rant, about how McDonald's upped their prices and how "expensive" it is 🤣🤣🤣🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 07:18 AM |
| 178 | Sis follows her nose & uncovers a whole treasure trove of cheating stemming back years. Now imagine she’d ReSpEcTeD hIs PrIvAcY 🤡 cheaters don’t have any respect for you. And that’s why we’re pro SNOOP. If you think he’s cheating- you’re probably right & just smelling the TIP of the iceberg.yikes. Never trust the pickme propaganda "yOu hAvE tO TrUsT yOuR mAn" ... now at FDS we trust but verify, and keep verifying over time. Do not get comfortable. And listen to your gut even if you can't find "proof" when snooping | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 05:47 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Check-inI had to have a roommate move in and so far the roommate is very LV! I need some tips for how to cope. I laid down boundaries and said that I will not be stuck for money, and if they refuse to clean up after themselves I will charge them a maid fee, and if they refuse to cleanup or pay me the maid fee, they will have to move out. I HATE having a roommate. my energy is drained and I am more STRESSED Than ever having someone else here. it feels like more WORK was added to my plate but FINANCIALLY … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:52 AM |
| 88 | Reproductive control is the cornerstone of male violence. From one generation to the next.I just saw comments (elsewhere) about guys taking all the credit for their new babies and jOkInG about how their babies are their "sex trophies" and "proof they had sex" ... I can't find anyone to meet the bare minimum standards for date but if I date again I refuse to ever give a man children. Imagine going through 9 or 10 months of your body changing, mourning sickness, cravings, mood swings, your feet swelling up og and the women in my family all had their feet get bigger. I have a nice colle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:11 AM |
| 50 | “You deserve it.”Congratulations on the new place and you do deserve it! It is still a big level up and you will thank yourself, there's nothing that can compare to the sanctuary that is you own place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 06:17 PM |
| 19 | you could try, I don’t know, being her friend? what is wrong with men that being friends with a girl doesn’t even occur to them and they need to ask the internet?Lots of lvm are probably telling him to prey on her and try to get in her pants. Ugh. If you aren't attracted to someone do NOT date them, do NOT lead them on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 06:15 PM |
| 34 | 💩Scrote sits on a literal toliet to talk about being green and poop at his booth, a woman stops briefly, he makes a public post to hunt her down and spam her DMs... then he plays the victim. 💩Same. He is like a pretty well known influencer too, sort of a hippie guy that mostly posts green lifestyle stuff and occasionally posts hippie mindset love, acceptance and forgiveness stuff. I didn't want or expect to see posts about him being a scumbag stalker ... I'm also getting a bit of a laugh just imagining him sitting on the toliet trying to be all sexy when talking about poop to a passerby woman. She probably was so confused and concerned about his mental state if anything. Bet she brea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:46 AM |
| 14 | Daveed DiggsHe's stunning 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:21 AM |
| 49 | Found him on tinder 😛Handsome. All these fine Friday men are not only built but look at the clear skin, and clean maintained hair... love to see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:20 AM |
| 3 | This is why I’m okay with not getting married or having children. I’d much rather be out experiencing life and enjoying myself than have to deal with thisKids probably learned it from an LVM dad, thinking that the woman will pick up after them. I seriously hope the mom though cracks down on the boys: no tv/video games/phones until they clean up their mess and do it right. Half assing or whining should result in extra time away from the video game/phone/tv. The dad needs to get on board too and out the fear of God in them to never let them leave a mess like that again. That sink gave me flashbacks of my ex. He would just pile all his stuff and lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:07 AM |
| 22 | Buff Taecyeon👏 these guys in all these pics are making my night | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 08:45 AM |
| 139 | Would like to announce the winning name: Fine AF Friday! And here is our first fine hottie!I'm not trying to be funny but so many lvm that look and dress (and often smell) like 💩 had me wondering if there was something wrong with me or if I was asexual... but this pic reminded me I still like men a lot. Honestly no need to settle for fugly anything. My partner will need to be attractive to me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 08:43 AM |
| 136 | 💩Scrote sits on a literal toliet to talk about being green and poop at his booth, a woman stops briefly, he makes a public post to hunt her down and spam her DMs... then he plays the victim. 💩I followed this page because this guy was dedicated to posting about gardening and a green lifestyle and nothing is safe. Scrotes, scrotes everywhere! The dude was essentially at an expo type of thing outdoors and I can't believe he humiliated and posted online to essentially stalk that woman. And then slide into her dms and now publicly post about it a 2nd time using what may be her real name. And he was sitting on a toliet and talking about literal shit 🤡🤡🤡 he could have just said would you li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 08:35 AM |
| 11 | 💩Scrote sits on a literal toliet to talk about being green and poop at his booth, a woman stops briefly, he makes a public post to hunt her down and spam her DMs... then he plays the victim. 💩Changed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 08:20 AM |
| 7 | Message to Male LurkersBig ed needs to see this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:53 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else have a sour mother's day? The moms of LVMs failed as parents they don't deserve a holiday.I think you completely missed my point. | /r/askFDS | 11/05/21 05:48 PM |
| 11 | I ended it with a textWhy are you feeling bad? He was IGNORING you for a month. You even told him you need more and he didnt fix it. You matched his energy. "Nobody puts a baby in the corner" be glad you nexted him, you don't want to beg for anyone's attention. Its not hard to text or meet up for a date, he could have made the time, but he didn't because he doesn't care. His true self came out and he doesn't care about you. Im not trying to be harsh, but this is the truth. You dodged a bullet. You don't want to be do… | /r/askFDS | 11/05/21 07:29 AM |
| 5 | Can I kinkshame yet?These dd/lg and similar "klnks" have to a mental health condition. I honestly don't know why it hasn't gotten a diagnosis yet. These dudes are sexually turned on by acting like a baby and that's pedophilia. Im having awful flashbacks to when I was a pickme and this dude I was chatting with started telling me about his ex and how "she was into ddlg". I didn't know what it was so he explained and I was mortified. I instantly thought "whoa this guy's has all his screws loose upstairs". He went on t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:33 AM |
| 228 | A Scrote is trying to turn his partner into a single father.The audacity. He is trying to make his partner run the household and take the burden of raising 2 kids that aren't even his. I can't. Imagine being asked to raise someone else's kids for a year while their actual father is out lolly-gagging for a whole year This man needs to dump him immediately and run. I can't understand why anyone wants to dump kids like that either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:12 AM |
| 100 | Happy Mother’s Day FDS!Hahha someone I followed in social media (I've suspected she is fds) posted "happy mothers day to all the women that had to raise their ex boyfriends" Mothers day is a sore spot for me because I seriously want to go off on all my exes moms /my friends exes moms because they raised shitry lvm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:07 AM |
| 7 | This 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 why 👏🏻 I 👏🏻 have 👏🏻 trust issues!! Take them to the barbers on the first date. 💈 🪒Beware of hat fishing, men that use hats to hide that they are balding. Beware of the hairstyles specially worn to hide they are balding and receding! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 07:27 PM |
| 21 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.Shes been struggling to loose weight on her page, she started dropping weight and I guarantee you the taco bell thing was his idea to sabotage her weight loss journey. She was probably making salads or something and he started negging her about taco bell just to make it harder for her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:49 PM |
| 21 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.Pickme brainwashing. Farts and burps are GROSS. they SMELL. Yes they are a natural body function and they happen so of it does excuse yourself. But honestly I'm more refined and act more professional and don't just rip them in front of people. Some guys just keep blasting them out and seem to get off on it. I would always hold in the fart on a date or at the guys place and excuse myself to the bathroom or make an excuse to get a drink or something to slip out the fart Talking about pooping, havi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:42 PM |
| 23 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.She is what I would guess to be in her mid 30s 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:24 AM |
| 87 | The women in the comments were adamant that for a husband this is appropriate but it’s too risky to do this for a boyfriend (yes!). Unsurprisingly, the men said this is how a relationship should be.$5000 doesn't get you a new car. With 5k all he'd be able to get is a meh used starter type of car. Pickmes love to over inflate everything. My sister paid $16,000 for a used car 4 years old and close to 40k miles.... my grandma paid about $12 k .... my point is she is hyping it all up including the man. Wtf is she giving HIM money? 🤮🤮 they're getting worse | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:33 AM |
| 39 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.Thank you. And this is what she is trying to show off for the world to see. Imagine what its actually like in reality... and the Instagram version was already a nightmare | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:17 AM |
| 70 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.🥇🥇🥇🥇 my poor woman's gold. This made me lol. Dogs give so much love and bring happiness and protect you. Sometimes they make a mess or have an accident, but they learn and things happen. lvm though constantly leave pee on the floor/skid marks in the toliet, shavings in the sink, socks and shoes on the floor etc....... she should have just gotten the dog and not the manchild | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:15 AM |
| 104 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.Bro sounds like the only thing he does is take out the trash and bring along the list of paper to her car (the grocery list) She sounds like she does all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the dog, errands running, etc... oh and her IG pays their bills. The woman hustles trying to do sponsorships, interviews, write books, etc on top of taking care of him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:12 AM |
| 9 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)Wow! But also notice his beard is nice, his hair is all there and cut and his skin is taken care of. I don't see a uni brow or dry flakey skin or acne (i understand these things can't always be treated and do take time but yall gotta put in effort too) This is a physically attractive man to me and we are designed to like attractive, fit men to pass along these genes biologically. Fat, greasy bald stinky men though not my cup of tea and ive given them so many chances as a pickme... the fatter, ug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 04:37 AM |
| 16 | Because god forbid that a man does the introspection required to address his implicit biases 🙄🙄He's proudly showing off hes racist and already trying to gaslight with the "I don't know who would find this attrractive" 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:23 AM |
| 21 | This went VIRAL on FB and everyone was calling it cute and praising him. She deserves better.Cheap takeout, a low effort outfit, and smoking a joint ...she probably had to "nag" him and then buy him something as a "reward" smh. She deserves better and he literally said he didn't want to date... see | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:21 AM |
| 2 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)You dodged a bullet. I'm sorry he wasted your time and string you along but I am glad you did realize it and got out before having to go through the hoops and loops of a divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 06:58 AM |
| 1 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)Because it is so offensive and anyone would be! Pickmes are brain dead and its really pathetic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 06:51 AM |
| 35 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.Yes! And look at them with a wtf expression and tone. Like "really? I haven't been to coffee since doing college study groups. Who would even suggest Starbucks wtf?" It honestly should be a wake up call for your friends. Sometimes they don't realize how ridiculous it is. First dates especially should be the time the guy goes above and beyond a normal date by really pulling out everything he can to make a good impression. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:50 AM |
| 3 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)She was 21 or 22 when they got engaged and he was 25 or 26 so he's in his 30s now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:36 PM |
| 4 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)Hahah it made me picture monika so much but yeah the web toon is cute and funny and it really has a lot of good messages that relates a lot to the stuff that is taught here. If fds had a real life meetup or retreat I bet it would be a lot like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:12 AM |
| 54 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)More of them need to hear it. Call it out if we overhear it, and when a coworker pickme complains about her lvm or how her fiancee is dreading the wedding look at her like she crazy and be like "its clear he doesn't want to get married why are you with him?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:10 AM |
| 11 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)There's this web toon called cursed princess club (which reminds me so much, suspiciously in fact, of fds) and theres a character named monika who turns into a bird when she is anxious and she steals peoples treasures and stashes them in her room, like a nest. All the princesses have some type of curse and all spend time learning how to love themselves and level up, but also talk about the lvms from their past | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:07 AM |
| 78 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)And if the woman leaves he will play the victim. He will be miserable in the marriage and start trying to sabotage it and get her to leave after a while and when she finally files for divorce he will drag it out, refuse to cooperate and fight it. Divorce will cost the woman her own valuable time AND money! You'll have appointments with the lawyers, phone calls, and if you have a kid its even more expensive and a huge court mess. Normalizing turning down proposals or telling him you aren't quite … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:34 AM |
| 36 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)They put so much energy and time into dodging responsibility and accountability for everything. Their brains are in overdrive constantly trying to make up excuses and gaslight. It is so immature and any former pickme will know that they just keep spinning the table back around to point the finger at you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:26 AM |
| 25 | Scrote wants pity for getting dumped after stringing ex along for 10 years.They will also try to use the line early on when you start dating them but before you were official. "You should have come to [insert low effort last minute shitty hangout] i was gonna ask you to be my girlfriend" It happened to my friends a few times and myself once. The guy strings you along for the 1st, 2nd, and maybe even a 3rd actual nice date. Then he will ask you to some walk /hangout/ or to come over for his roommates party to their house at the last minute and it won't be romantic and w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:11 AM |
| 86 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)Her friend even called the dude a man child, im literally embarrassed for them. And then you saw what he posted to his friend about how he only sees it as a financial drain. A lot of women will fantasize about their wedding day for so many years! Its such a special day. Honestly since being in fds, I realized if I ever did get married it would be a huge success and I would really want to be celebrating it up that I actually found a hvm that loves me. It's just that LVM KNOW how special a marriag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:02 AM |
| 45 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)They have way too much audacity to complain about their own wedding when they were the ones asking her to get married in the first place and if im ever in public and I hear any commentary from guys complaining about their own wedding I will speak up and be "well you asked her". So many lvm survive by leeching off some pickme to be their secretary, manage the finances/taxes, grocery shop and cook, keep the house clean, laundry etc etc .... otherwise look at how many live with parents still or in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:55 AM |
| 134 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)This also isn't the first time the man was running his mouth about the engagement and dreading the wedding. He was like "I need an open bar to get through my wedding day" and the woman keeps posting how excited she is and its also posts about how she is stressed planning the wedding and running their household while he "stays overnight in a hotel near work" and his commute is maybe 1.5 hours with traffic 🚩🚩🚩 everything about him is LV and I see this stuff on my social media and it seriously acts… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:41 AM |
| 3 | He can still send Postmates/venmo for a Skype date but would rather have you cook for him bc he wants a mommy. He's talking you for a walk because he's CHEAP not because he cares about everyone's safety. He's no prize for sometimes wearing a cloth over his chin when it's still required 😷Anyone that makes a big issue bragging how they wear a mask is a red flag, it is such a simple and required thing to do, and I am really tired of seeing my social media flooded with posts from people bragging like they deserve a nobel peace prize for wearing their mask. The vaccine isn't required for my area yet but some jobs are saying their employees or students have to get it to go into the school otherwise they have to online learn. Its just a simple thing of doing your part and doesn't make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:32 PM |
| 0 | He can still send Postmates/venmo for a Skype date but would rather have you cook for him bc he wants a mommy. He's talking you for a walk because he's CHEAP not because he cares about everyone's safety. He's no prize for sometimes wearing a cloth over his chin when it's still required 😷I dont see a problem with this tweet. The message I got from is is that wearing a mask and getting a vaccine does NOT make anyone a hero. Masks are still mostly required across the United States so its like bragging you wore shoes when you have to wear shoes to enter businesses. A lot of lvm brag about getting the vaccine or how they wear masks... when this is along the bare minimum standards. This tweet isn't antimask or antivaccine but rather calls out that being a good man requires more than … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:28 PM |
| 8 | As a single woman, at any given time you should be either dating multiple people at once, or not dating at all.No I'm straight. I'd love to feel a sexual attraction to women but I can't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:23 PM |
| 23 | He can still send Postmates/venmo for a Skype date but would rather have you cook for him bc he wants a mommy. He's talking you for a walk because he's CHEAP not because he cares about everyone's safety. He's no prize for sometimes wearing a cloth over his chin when it's still required 😷For context I didn't look into this Zuby is or what be believes but I just saw this tweet alone. Whatever the dude thinks otherwise I can't assess because I don't know. But the tweet here is helpful it points out how seriously so many lvm do the bare minimum and then act like they are heroes. These lvm often brag in social media or to women that they wear a face mask... but the thing is what is he bragging about? Face masks are still required everywhere (even in states that dropped the ban every… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Childfree women, how do you go about dating with FDS principles?I am a child free woman and even in the past when I lived with a man or we talked about moving in (even as a pickme) I would tell them if I do 50/50 then I will be your roomate, because what is the difference between that and a platonic roomate? I would also clean up after myself and contribute by paying a ultity bill. I also did the laundry. What i ended up paying for and doing about covered the actual cost increase from having me live there.He still came to me about 50/50 for the rent money an… | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 08:40 PM |
| 83 | To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣For us here it is a blessing and freedom to be single. My life does not revolve around picking up dirty socks from a man, picking up trash he threw on the floor everyday, picking up wrappers and fast food out of my car because he left it inside, im not cleaning up extra dishes or having my food suddenly disappear. Im not getting sick as much from dishes that weren't washed properly. Im not coming into an apartment that reeks of pot and smells like a flaming hot pile of poop exploded because his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:12 PM |
| 3 | Is anyone really surprised about this?The more we keep hearing about cops ... dont even get me started. This incident was another example of an injustice and the corruption in the system. I can't believe they accepted an apology and confused "counseling" with talking to a church leader (who wasn't at all a therapist, and probably super msyogynisyic and rapey himself). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:57 PM |
| 7 | my stepdad my a sexual innuendo to me while me and my mom were talking on the phone and my mom doesn't see an issue... help?Update: my grandma and I had a long talk and my grandmother said she is gonna start having my sister come over to her house more and she's gonna start picking her up from school. My grandma has always felt something was off about my step-dad, from the moment she met him. Ive also talked with my sister since reading through the messages and comments (thank all of you for you insights and help) and im trying to ease into the topic and she said that my step-dad mostly hangs out in the garage now (h… | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 06:52 PM |
| 4 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!The whole point of my post was to tell everyone to find someone they personally find attractive. I was highlighting the bald fat men in the post since I personally don't find balding fat white men the least bit attractive and lately all my pretty friends feel the need to date and then marry them. It all stemmed from their low self confidence and they felt like they had to give him a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:01 PM |
| 6 | Valid reason to break up ?Valid because he lied/withheld the vaping thing from you. He honestly sounds like he's trying to be like a frat boy but edgier: breaking laws to vape and speed, he sounds unhealthy obsessed with his bike (car/bike guys are usually lv), likes to go out and party binge drinking and staying up all night with the bros. The job isn't an excuse for him to be sleeping in all day all the time and not making effort. His whole life seems like it's about disrespecting rules and testing all the boundaries h… | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 04:58 PM |
| 11 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!The Oakley style sunglasses that never fit their face right! If you have seen what Pc principal from Southpark looks like, he always has them on and they look 2 sizes too small for his head. But I also really hate those transition sunglasses my former guy friend had them and whenever he was inside even all day they still were super dark plus they were just a bad style for his face and he was actually handsome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:28 AM |
| 12 | Take your pick, ladies! - *sobs*Ugh same. I allowed myself to endure some real bs and bread crumbing from this dude he was like a 9/10 and the sex was the best I ever had! He was ways clean shaven, he wore polo cololgne which is amazing, he dressed nicely, he was very tall, and tan! And he was built like huge arms and nice toned chest with the V. He was packing too and had some good stamina. He then got all distant and he had his pattern of sleeping with someone for like a month and then needing the thrill of the next one and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:18 AM |
| 7 | Take your pick, ladies! - *sobs*Some are generally much easier to spot than others. It's one thing if you're theoretically let's say at your friends weddings or neighbors 4th of July. And random guys start talking to you and one of them straight up tells you things that are blatant red flags or no goes off the bat (saying he's in and out of jail, or a drug addict, or whatever) sp you know not to bother with him and you move along and let other men approach you. Softbois tell on themselves pretty easily and pretty quickly. The … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:09 AM |
| 25 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Thank you to the mods because pickmes keep trying to say NoT AlL MeN and are saying UGlY mEn mAy hAvE NiCe pErSoNaLiTiEs... I want to say that people seeing this with that mindset have missed my point. The point if if you do not feel butterflies in your stomach, if you dont feel any physical attraction to a man just upon his looks do not even try to date him. Yeah, maybe he does have a great personality. Okay, but if you do not find yourself attracted to his physical looks then don't date him. W… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:55 AM |
| 11 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!I can practically see them scratching their balls and then hearing them burp/fart 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:21 AM |
| 9 | LVM Use Their Depression as a Guilt-tripIt always rubbed me a red flag when they try to tell you their past traumas and mental illnesses before you even meet up or on the first or second date. I have been through ptsd and depression and been to therapy and taken medication and worked through it and honestly it wasn't something I even wanted to tell my friends. It took me a while to even just mention it and I never used it as an excuse to stand people up or be blatantly lousy. Some scrotes have no shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:54 AM |
| 14 | LVM Use Their Depression as a Guilt-tripI'm not buying it from him. Its such a shame they are lying about mental illness as an excuse, bet he was trying to keep his options open. It shows they have actual mental health issues like perhaps being a narcissist or a sociopath though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:51 AM |
| 41 | LVM Use Their Depression as a Guilt-tripThis! I have known men /seen men especially on the dating apps before fds that would use their "depression" as an excuse for "forgetting" to call me/show up etc or even to try to have me do the planning. I remember the "just come over to my place im depressed" cards they would pull to try to get out of taking me to dinner. One of my clowns started saying he was "depressed" when he would disappear for days no text no calls or anything and then as to why he wasn't making plans to see me. He was ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:48 AM |
| 3 | my stepdad my a sexual innuendo to me while me and my mom were talking on the phone and my mom doesn't see an issue... help?The breaker actually seemed like there was an issue because the hallway light would usually be on and that was off and the power was off in my nightlight, so it seemed like it actually was broken | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 06:30 AM |
| 3 | The women in my life keep telling me sex is not a big deal and that I should just do it because I'm 23 F and a virgin. But I don't want to allow men to have easy access to my body. How do I explain that casual sex is not empowering to me?I lost my virginity when I was 21. I waited until I was dating someone that I felt like cared about me and got to know him for a few months. We talked about it and prepared for when the time felt right... and the first time for me was actually painful. Looking back its because he didn't really do foreplay on me. I wasn't aware. But we took it slow and then the next time we had sex it got better. But looking back now I realize it was bad see because he was selfish and never cared for my pleasure.… | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 05:03 AM |
| 15 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Oh my God I'm cracking up! Hes on the single life show now and repeating his SAME bs... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 04:55 AM |
| 24 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Haha most lvs don't use chapstick and if they do I can guarantee they don't keep up on their oral hygiene... something about the way he rolls his eyes and the hoodie and chapstick hit home for me 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 04:06 AM |
| 35 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!These lvm ugly dudes will then be like "my gf is so clingy" and feel smothered, and while the pickme thinks she is somehow preventing cheating, it just makes him want to go and get space and start cheating even more! She has to trust her partner. You can't even prevent a man from cheating. Smothering him though and acting like your pickme friend backfires because then they go for alone time and with the bras and most likely feel more inclined to have a wandering eye for a "cool girl" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:57 AM |
| 59 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Your current boyfriend sounds wonderful and like he is super hot. I started watching this one youtuber and he has a similar physical looks and he seems to have really HV traits. I definitely have a crush on the youtuber and remind myself if a man comes into my life he has to be attractive physically but also have the bare minimum for me to start vetting him! White men just tend to age awfully and it seems that most of the guys that bald as bad in this meme are white and have lost half of their h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:55 AM |
| 44 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Science still doesn't understand really what a female orgasm even is, and they still haven't figured out what actually comes out as far as the cum. They haven't done many studies on female orgasms either. They have plenty of funding and whatnot and most men in science just don't want to even acknowledge female orgasm. Its 2021 I can't believe how little there still is surrounding it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:50 AM |
| 62 | Is anyone really surprised about this?I am not surprised at all. What shocks me is that WHY WASNT HE ALREADY IN JAIL for the previous assault of 5 minors? We need a vigilante to come and permanently end dudes that are the problems like this. They cannot be rehabbed. They do not change. If anything they get sneakier and know how to hide their crimes better with time. They will repeat the offense | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:10 PM |
| 93 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Hahaha the accuracy! My one friend started dating a lvm way younger and way below her league and she didn't want to introduce me to him and wouldn't let me come around if he was there! They're so protective of these guys but look like clowns showing off a pile of dog poop. If she can't trust her man around me (when we are all in a group setting too!) Then she shouldn't be with him. And if she can't trust me as her friend then why is she friends with me 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:03 PM |
| 55 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!I dont understand how they can go to bed with someone like this. Smh one of my coworkers looked a lot like the guys here and even as a coworker he was unbearable. I barely had to see him but when I did he always made little jabs trying to neg my work or group of people. He acted so much better than me when we had the same position and pay. Anytime he would see me I noticed he always tried to inconvenience me just to be a jerk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:00 PM |
| 108 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!The uglier/fatter/balder they get the more audacity they get. Their goal is to neg a catch (or any woman that is way out of their league) down through negging and manipulating her. Then they will sneer "she's damaged/has issues" when they were the person that made you insecure! Ugly lvm are really dangerous like that. Then they will try to get you to stay by tricking you into thinking no other man wants you and that stay with the current lvm because he "loves and cares about you" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:57 PM |
| 115 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Same except they don't dress as nice or look as clean as the clean shaven dude in the pic. Instead they visibly look sweaty and greasy and wear the faded/cracking t shirt with their sports logo on it and the super baggy gym shorts. And pickmes post about them like they're so proud and lucky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:54 PM |
| 97 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!This is such a good point. Attraction exists on a superficial because we are designed to look for mates that have good genes to pass on (like being tall, athletic /in shape/ good teeth etc). It doesn't mean that men that aren't models don't deserve love or to have kids based on their looks alone, but I want people to be reminded that if you aren't even physically attracted to some dude dont bother wasting your own time! A lot of my old classmates and friends have recently gotten married and the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Women aren't funnyI love this and how she is using it to educate us. Also THANK YOU for mentioning that these studies usually always are CIS Straight white men. You have no idea how abundant racism /discrimination is when it comes to research studies. Even the studies that included others it generally was a small percentage. Men want us to laugh at their jokes because they are intimidated that we are smarter than them. Which highlights never date a man beneath you as far as education /spproximate intelligence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:15 PM |
| 9 | Always remember that if you EVER think about ignoring red flags, giving second chances, not blocking and deleting or crying over a man! NEXT (if suitable), please!And don't forget sex toys are generally cheap and come in a variety. Most are under $100! You really don't need a man to get the job done. Bad /low effort/selfish sex with a man alone is a reason enough to dump him. $20 toy will do the job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:10 PM |
| 128 | Ads on Reddit targeting poor women and girls for prostitution. Absolutely disgusting.What this "ad" doesn't tell you is how long it took her to reach the $11k available balance and how much she had work for it, meaning like she may have had to do over 2000 personalized commissions. Maybe for the commissions and pervs requesting weird or oddly specific stuff she had to keep buying all the things she needed to fulfill their requests. Even lingerie is expensive! My point is to show you that this "ad" doesn't give women the full picture and any person that even starts to apply busin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 08:53 PM |
| 7 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.I have another story where the guy I was dating (we had been dating a few months) took me along for a day out. He was showing me his favorite store and then we were gonna check out other things in the area. On the way there he stopped for gas and he said he was longing for a snack so I said let's go inside and grab snacks. We went in, he picked out a soda and some candy, and I grabbed a soda and granola bar and he comes up to the register with me and goes "oh well you can get this, since I'm get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 07:55 PM |
| 2 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?You deserve a dinner date and men that aren't stingy and are capable of following through! I am sorry you have had to deal with flakes and cheap scrotes. It's not high school dating anymore where people grab coffee or ice cream after school or on the way home from the bus because they don't have cars yet (and we didn't have uber in ny day)... im now 26 and men need to at least provide me with a meal for my time and energy to get dressed up and meet them! Its such a waste of time to get ready and… | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 07:41 PM |
| 41 | my stepdad my a sexual innuendo to me while me and my mom were talking on the phone and my mom doesn't see an issue... help?thank you this is solid advice. I did have her move from her room into a different room because stepdad was then trying to go into her room at night when she was sleeping "to check the radiator" and the radiator of course was right next to her bed... I helped put a stop to that creepiness pretty fast. the room I talked her into switching doesn't have a radiator or a fuse box like the other rooms. she has a lock. she has a walk in closet and I still have her in the habit of changing in the bathro… | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 10:06 AM |
| 2 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?you could also say "really? ice cream? I usually take the little kids I babysit to ice cream." and seem confused and kind of scoff. follow up with "ice cream isn't romantic. my dates have always asked me to dinners." | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 07:44 AM |
| 5 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?I used to say "oh. I usually get asked to dinner :/ " I normally don't use emojis or faces at all but I would usually throw one in so he could almost hear the disappointment. try to act dissappointed or confused about why he is asking you only to ice cream. usually the guys would respond to me by getting ruffled and embarrassed and they would usually apologize and then suggest a restaurant. one time a guy did this but it was with a coffee shop and I pulled my line and then he got nasty and said … | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 07:42 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inI am starting to feel offended and grossed out when really fugly dudes check me out in public. this pot bellied, halfway bald, super pale, messy pube beard scrote in a old t shirt and baggy gym shorts was hardcore checking me out in a store as I grabbed what I needed. I hate that men that are that gross and slobby with themselves even get to look at us! they dont even deserve that. I gave him a dirty look and it scared him off. at the grocery store, there was a little moment where me and another… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 07:28 AM |
| 10 | Being repeatedly ignored sounds sooo fun! Let's get hitched ASAP! 🤡 Why is this normalized?you're right. my ex friend (a huge pickme) is getting married very soon and ive noticed that it's almost always the women that are super excited for their weddings and the guys pretty much seem like they could care less at best and more realistically they are like sweating saying "I need to round up the boys and go party in Bangkok really quick". the guys always try to sneak in last minute hookups and experiments since they aren't "hitched yet". they seem to dread the actual wedding and marriage… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:57 AM |
| 8 | My love myself ring, best thing about it... the strongest woman I know gave it to me to as a reminder to love me first bc I am all I need.your grandma is awesome. my grandma has in her will that I will be getting her engagement ring. truthfully its the only ring I ever want to wear! I call my grandma all the time (since I moved) and we have always been very close my whole life. when the time comes I know I will be reminded of her and to make good life choices | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:52 AM |
| 5 | My love myself ring, best thing about it... the strongest woman I know gave it to me to as a reminder to love me first bc I am all I need.that is so beautiful, what a great choice! and look at all that detail on the sides, I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:49 AM |
| 133 | As a single woman, at any given time you should be either dating multiple people at once, or not dating at all.the problem for me is just meeting ONE man that I even find physically attractive that isn't married. im only 26! having just one that is single, I have a physical attraction to, and that meets the bare minimum (has a place, a reliable car, steady job, childfree, at least a college or trade school degree) for me to even start talking to... im laughing at this comment and my own thoughts because it really is so hard even just to find ONE to start vetting, but find multiple? and the thing is I don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:46 AM |
| 10 | Imagine if for 1 Day women all acted like stereotypical scrotes, what would happen?Such a good one to mention! Society has very slightly improved with accepting women's leg /underarm hair now but a lot of scrotes still expect /demand (like big Ed from 90 day/the single life) that women shave their legs, underarms, privates. I'm always shaving my legs, my toes, my upper lip, and doing my eyebrows so it doesn't look like a foresty unbrow. I even bought the facial razors for the "peach fuzz" ... the amount of shaving I choose to do as a woman is crazy and I do spend extra to keep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:56 AM |
| 12 | Imagine if for 1 Day women all acted like stereotypical scrotes, what would happen?Yeah exactly and it makes me even angrier. Seriously we women work full time, run households, and the mothers are out there are the raising kids AND contributing the bills/paying for them all. As a women, imagine if all we had to do was go in for our jobs where we joked around with buddies, and came home to being the cool fun parent and always walking into a clean, maintained home and a hot homemade meal ready for us! How fun would it be to just come home chill to your fav TV show and not fuss o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 01:50 AM |
| 71 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.It was such an awkward position to be in for sure and it was pure evil. He had asked me out to the movie. He had wanted to see the movie and it was the movie that he wanted to see. When we ate the pizza he gave me the illusion of choice by having me decide between his two picks. One was a movie that was more geared towards kids, which was really unappealing as I am in my mid 20s. So I settled for the other option - some remake and I HATE remakes. The film that was playing (which had several open… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:49 PM |
| 29 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.The ugly men know they are ugly and they are insecure (even though they act like they have all the confidence and audacity). They will definitely be negging you and doing things to knock you down a peg and make you feel beneath them. Why? Because a man thats a 4/10 or less KNOWS he can't be seen walking around with a beautiful woman that is way out of his league. He needs to make her feel lousy and that he is the prize. She will have low self confidence if his negging works and try to have her b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:35 PM |
| 48 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.Looking back i should have just told the employee, oh never mind cancel the transaction please and walked out. I have done this on the few occasions where stores like bath and body / mall stores having a sign up saying $10 off candles and then you get to the register and they make up some BS saying they aren't honoring that promotion and everything is full price. I even had the email saying it was whatever off candles in store and wa stood its the correct candle, but they just weren't honoring i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:29 PM |
| 69 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.The audacity he had to switch up like that especially on the 2nd date. I mentioned his looks because he wasn't even attractive in the face or body he was just scrawny looking and plain, really was built like a child. He also had a really good job and low cost of living, guys should pay for dates, but In his case its extra bad because he had more than enough money and still made me pay for movie tickets and then tried getting me to pay for food and drinks at the concession. I said no to that so w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:23 PM |
| 3 | No More Low Energy Experiences!!This woman is a queen and example. I am taking notes: listen to how confident she is when she speaks, she means what she says, and the little look of "really" when she mentions people who are scared of loosing people to high standards. You can see she is in a clean and well taken care of car and that her outfit and everything was thought about and well put together. She has a great sense of style. You can see the effort. This is the type of women we all need to become: a queen. She is the type o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:18 PM |
| 11 | I love tiktokWe need to be specific though when saying men want the thick thighs and big butt with a teeny tiny waist with F cups that most people would need plastic surgery to achieve. The proportions that these scrotes idolize are usually extremely unnatural, and for those that have these proportions whether naturally or through surgery they will then shame her saying "she's so fake and plastic!!" Most women have height requirements because the truth is we don't want to be dating someone shorter than us be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:11 PM |
| 37 | Imagine if for 1 Day women all acted like stereotypical scrotes, what would happen?And all the holidays and birthdays and anniversaries that will come and go they they pretend to "forget" and skip out on presents and celebrating but still gladly eat the cake the wife bought for them and still are enjoying the stuff she got them... while having to do nothing in return. It's like being a 6 year old, your parents buy you gifts, a cake, and a party and you just sit back and have all the fun at their expense (but kids are kids this is normal, but not for grown men) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Trying to get rid of my own pick-me BS fantasiesYes I do this too. Take the "fantasy" man or situation and imagine it as you masturbate. I don't do it all the time but once in a while I indulge in my daydreams or fantasy land. You should be using it though to realize you on a basic level want someone that is loving and caring and treats you well, and is handsome but remember that Thor (for example) is a fictional character not many guys are gonna be that ripped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:45 PM |
| 4 | Trying to get rid of my own pick-me BS fantasiesI struggle with this too. For me, I started allowing myself to develop crushes on fictional male characters from TV shows or movies. You know the type of guys that are built nice, have great skin, and nice facial hair/hair in general? I don't allow myself to get obsessed with them and I don't poke around into the personal life of the actor. But once in a while i will put on the movie and just admire and crush on that character. I allow myself to fantasize a little over the character, but of cour… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:42 PM |
| 34 | Imagine if for 1 Day women all acted like stereotypical scrotes, what would happen?By calling it out and refusing to date lvm or entertain pickmes we can help reduce it. The list is appalling seeing just how little they actually have to do and how much they get away with or don't even see as a problem. For parents though, parents need to start teaching their sons that housework is for everyone! Teach your sons just as much about cooking and cleaning and have them both partake in these chores from a young age just as much as daughters are taught. Sons need to be taught to picku… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:30 PM |
| 308 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.This is along the lines of a bait and switch. Before covid my former classmate asked me out to dinner, it was a pretty nice restaurant he was generous, planned out the date, dressed up nice, and we had a lovely time. When the check came, he grabbed it and paid. He insisted we do this again sometime soon and even offered to walk me to my car at the end (which I declined but I appreciated the offer as it was in the city at dusk). As I drove home, I ended up going the long way home to think. Tears … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:23 PM |
| 22 | Men and skincareI dont understand how anyone avoids washing their face especially after you worked out or were outside in the heat... or just take you facemask off after a long day and you can feel all that grease and sweat on your face! It's so uncomfortable! It has been very humid lately where I live and I started bringing facial wipes in my purse with me. I have started going into the bathrooms and unmasking and wiping off the chin stickiness! A lot of companies including dove have made their own "men" lines… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 04:05 PM |
| 22 | Mama’s boy: covert editionSounds exactly like my ex and one of my male former friends from high school. They were both extreme mommas boys and the moms both would act really friendly and nice towards their son's friends and girlfriend. My father who wasn't around much thankfully was one of the kings of mommas boys though. What they all had in common was that they would end up telling their mommas everything about the relationship and things that are too personal about you, and they would incorporate their manipulation by… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:59 PM |
| 9 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.recognizing this within yourself is a huge victory alone and shows you are already healing and growing. I was raised in a more conservative christian setting where my church and school taught me from a young age, that it was my responsibility to be of service to others (help people, help the poor, turn the other cheek, love all thy neighbors, etc). This isn't to condemn any religions but an acknowledgement that it was part of my personal brainwashing combined with the fact that my mother was a h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:27 AM |
| 8 | Seeing former friends/lvexes Get Married is a bag of mixed emotions but mostly a big Relief.this is such a good point, and please say it louder for all of FDS to hear: hanging around with pickmes REPELS HVM! there is just a way that pickmes act just like how lvm have certain mannerisms and hv people can spot these and may mistake you for also being a pickme or lv. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:20 AM |
| 8 | Seeing former friends/lvexes Get Married is a bag of mixed emotions but mostly a big Relief.congrats on leveling up and maturing past where they are at, I remember thinking as a teenager and when I entered college that people will "learn" and "mature" as we all age and have more experiences with life and now as someone in my mid to late 20s it has shocked me by the huge number of people around my age or in their 30s that are still mentally in high school or have just stagnated and never grew out of the frat/sorority early 20s stereotypical mindset. I dumped majority of my friends as we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:17 AM |
| 6 | Seeing former friends/lvexes Get Married is a bag of mixed emotions but mostly a big Relief.thank you for your kind words. leveling up can feel really hard especially when you outgrow old friends and despite giving them chances or trying to enlighten them to also start leveling up - you will see that some people just stop growing and stagnate. friendships are like having a flower garden (where you are the flowers) and pickme friends start off like small weeds, at first you dont even notice them, but you will start notice the weeds after they start sucking your resources and smothering … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:10 AM |
| 5 | Seeing former friends/lvexes Get Married is a bag of mixed emotions but mostly a big Relief.thank you, leveling up overall can be a very tough journey and feel lonely at times. truthfully, I think it's a blast to go to weddings and the people that are still my friends are single as well, so I've never had the fun of going to a friend's wedding. I really wish the pickme I talked about in my story would have just respected my boundaries and that she also would have grown and come to see her own self worth, so we could have stayed friends, but to really level up you have pull out all the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:04 AM |
| 16 | Seeing former friends/lvexes Get Married is a bag of mixed emotions but mostly a big Relief.our ex friends are very similar! her lvm fiancee's parents have a lot on money and she has been duping herself thinking that makes his poor Behavior permissible! its sad though because she ended ups buying a house with him, the house itself is massive and beautiful but was in a falling apart fixer upper condition when they got it. as I did more digging around on her social media, I saw that she was mostly the one paying for everything for house - it seems like she drained all her money and went … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:01 AM |
| 30 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.Thank you for being an awesome parent. What you described is honestly how we eliminate creating lvm that seek out mommy gfs and bangmaids. You are teaching him responsibility and preparing him for the real world where he will be more ready to have his own place and take care of himself. I like the idea that your kids all help out rather than just seeing the daughters as helpers. This fosters the idea that the house is everyone's responsibility! He grow up and thank you for teaching him right (ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:53 PM |
| 74 | I felt this. Love and life are so much more than your relationship status.The accuracy. Wait until you hit college age and your mid 20s and the pickmes get much more dangerous ... saying you don't want a boyfriend or are happy single is no longer seen as weird but rather a challenge for them to trick you into being set up with a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:38 PM |
| 32 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.Ugh this is giving me flashbacks of my ex. He was like 20 or 21 at the time and didn't know how to pack when we went to the beach for a day. We had to stop THREE times at different stores because he forgot so much stuff. I was furious because we went half for the cost of the trip 🤡🤡🤡 and I didn't want to be in targets and walmarts I wanted to use as much of my time as I could by being at the beach. 44 years old though? That blows my mind. He had to know. Honestly I bet it was some type of tactic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:32 PM |
| 15 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.You're right this is one of their tactics. For the record its a good measure to just NOT move any of his things because it will lead to him loosing them and relying on you and then he will assume each time he looses something that its your fault. I try to keep track of my own stuff and if I can't find it ill search around before asking the others I live with. Men just want a woman to do it all for them and then gaslight us into thinking they aren't a burden. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:22 PM |
| 77 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.I recently saw it on Facebook too and its even worse she tagged her fiancee and is saying she loves him so much and she can't wait to marry him 🤮 it's especially sad to see though because its easier to end an engagement then do the whole divorce process. She should get out now and its scary she is so brainwashed she thinks the babying is normal and cute. It's also super scary because that could have been me or any of us if this sub wasn't here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:28 PM |
| 120 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.Too many lvms unfortunately expect this behavior and encourage their bros to expect the same, and it is because too many pickmes enable it. We need to start normalizing that both men and women act as grown adults that manage their own lives. I never understood the missing keys thing. He should have his own set of keys and a spare hidden. Whenever I moved into a new place I always made sure to make a set spot for my keys as well as my bag. Then I always know these items are always in the same spo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:14 PM |
| 58 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.My advice with this one is it a very fast slippery slope and that men want to be able to use their long shifts or jobs as an excuse. He may be starting with the shorts now but you gave in and helped him and it can escalate now into essentially what the meme says. If he does something like this again my advice is to simply say "I don't know" and continue on with what you are doing. If he asks you to help him look for them or starts saying something like "but babe you were in my closet or you fold… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:11 PM |
| 173 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.If you're trapped or in the process of moving out/divorcing this type of man or your date starts pulling this crap you need to adopt the attitude of "its not my problem". Do not stop what you're doing and help him look for his items. Do not be taking his phone calls even is he asks you to, just say "I don't do that im not comfortable". If he says things like he is out of clean clothes just be like okay well the washer and dryer works. Detach and do not stoop to this shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:06 PM |
| 33 | If you cannot yet leave but are in a bad situation, the art of detaching will save you while you’re knee deep in shit and paralyzedI love this because we need to address more exit and detachment strategies for those of us here that are stuck in a living arrangement/marriage or whatever where they cannot get rid of the man just yet. This is good and solid advice. A lot of other advice says things like save up and move your stuff out in a more sneaky manner but this post hit on how to actively get through the being stuck together part. It's important to understand co dependency and trauma bonding too so you can recognize thes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:00 PM |
| 24 | Any experiences with red flags in dating women?Similar to fds when it comes to texting back in reasonable amounts of time, making effort especially when it comes to the conversations and the dating. She should take care of herself as far as hygiene and have her own sense of style and effort in dressing just like how fds has standards for males putting on a nice outfit rather than looking like a bum. She should embrace her own style and dress for the occasions rather than looking like a bum or in dirty or ill fitted clothing. Be careful of he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 04:50 PM |
| 5 | Epidemic of LVM in their 20sI'm 26 and these guys sound like the all the single guys from where I grew up in the northeast US. All I can say is ughhhh yuck. I felt like I searched so hard and tried giving guys chances before fds and they were all pretty much the same as you described: no ambition, super lazy, mostly uneducated, and financially irresponsible. I even dated guys in their 30s and it was the same. A lot of the guys still lived with their parents, didn't even have their own car, and didn't even try to take care … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:55 AM |
| 6 | Men are out of their minds desperate for any attentionI especially hate when you're at work (and I don't want to give too much info) but I worked in places where it was super obvious I worked there... and they think it's appropriate to flirt with you and ask.you out. It's even more awkward when they specifically keep coming back to see you. Do they realize that as an employee we have to be professional and seem friendly to clients? It doesn't mean I want to date them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:30 AM |
| 10 | This is why we must be extremely careful about the kind of men we procreate with, lest this happens. She's still trying to hang on instead of divorce. Meanwhile some pickme in the comments is saying they could "bOtH bEnEfIt fRoM cOuNseLinG." OP has suggested it, but surprise, he never went.I can't even read this chart because it's so exhausting and overwhelming. This woman is so overwhelmed and I cannot imagine the stress and financial strain. I'm not sure why she is so scared of loosing him. As someone that has lived with a few LVM as well as alone I can tell you it is always a lot LESS work living on your own. I can't speak about being a parent but I bet emotionally she will feel better without the deadweight and stress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:07 AM |
| 17 | A NVM is actively harassing me for saying NO to a dateFunny how Bob has such a sob story he loves to tell to you and others so he "really needs the job" but doesn't seem to act like it by deliberately and frequently disobeying the rules of the job... I hate sob stories being pulled as excuse cards when people contradict themselves. I'm sorry Bob is harassing you. Please continue to go after management and make a stink out of it so they take appropriate actions (firing him). Please also let someone you trust know what is going on especially when you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:50 AM |
| 9 | 'It is what it is'. This is dismissive at best, gaslighting at worst.100% can confirm from experience. It's always been a lazy and low value thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:40 AM |
| 13 | ⚠️The audacity of these men...I’m beyond TIRED. I had to block him. I just can’t understand why they think this is okay...⚠️Translation of the scrote: i want someone that will have casual sex with me AND I can use last minute as my free therapist / entertainment for when I'm bored or my other chick's cancel on me hur dur "Last minute" anything is always a red flag but this scrote was a whole store of red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:38 AM |
| 78 | High Value Dates OnlyAlways DRIVE YOURSELF/ have your own reliable means of transportation. You don't want him knowing where you live. You don't want to trapped in a car with a man you don't know. You don't know what he will do to you or where he would take you or even if he is a safe driver. Having your own means of transportation has another advantage of being able to leave whenever you want, asap. You won't have to be at his mercy or wait for an uber or a ride. If things get weird or for any reason you feel uncom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:35 AM |
| 29 | 'It is what it is'. This is dismissive at best, gaslighting at worst.These are the type of scrotes that like to use this emoji to represent the "it is what it is" ie: l🤷♂️🤷 These guys have no responsibility or respect they are super lazy and won't do anything ever to help you out! Anyone that leaves diarrhea (or anything like that) on the floor for TWO DAYS has a serious issue because that is so unsanitary. I understand when you are sick and in bed but he had no excuse and what type of sick lazy pos lets literal shit be in his kitchen like that? How did he even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:27 AM |
| 130 | Me! Me! Pick me! Keep picking me hubby!! I’ll treat us both 🙋🏻♀️and you’ll never have to feel bad!Hahaha I came here to post this! I had seen this today and immediately cringed and thought of FDS. I can't understand how can anyone be married to someone they don't even feel comfortable saying they want to go eat somewhere? This hints at someone more sinsister: verbal /physical abuse. My father was verbally abusive. My mother would take measures to trick my father like this to prevent him from "loosing his temper". The person saying about buying giftcards seems to me like she is acting out of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:18 AM |
| 4 | The Benefits of Living Alone vs living with a LVMAll the ones I had been with would do the same thing! They were also gamers. I can't understand why they want to live like animals and then can't understand why women can't get turned on by them especially in their gross nests. I've also dated another guy though that didn't have many things to begin with and would fake being clean when I'd come over. He said it was because the house was under renovations and it was his cousin house, but red flags were there. People offered to give him free furni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 12:38 AM |
| 19 | Gasoline Limbo &LVM are a match made in hell. It's bad for cars to run low on gas but endangers you as a woman and yet LVM can't stop playing limbo.My father was like this growing up he wasn't around much but for one of my high school homecoming he offered to drive me to my friend's house in his really snazzy old school convertible. My friend's parents were having a group of us over to meet all our parents and take pictures. My mom and dad were posing as a "happy couple" I guess for my sake? Anyways it was a sleepover and the next day my dad and mom came to pick me up. My dad's car ran out of gas just 2 blocks after leaving my friends house… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:20 AM |
| 25 | My "sex" story with an LVMI've been on a few dates in with different men and others I was seeing long term and when the sex talk comes up they all wanted me to be on birth control because of the same "logic" thinking they wouldn't have to wear a condom. I also started lying about being on birth control because I got so tired of being asked and pested about it. These men are nvm and completely selfish, all they care about is THEIR pleasure. They don't care about a woman's health, the risk to her body as far as sti's, yeas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:11 AM |
| 132 | Guys who have a problem with sex during your period are LVMSemen to me is much grosser because its mostly mucus, slimey like a snail. Everyone bleeds and some guys act so immature and grossed out by blood but thats only a few days of the month and some women won't do period sex. Semen though and that mucus mess happens every time for them though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:23 PM |
| 34 | Guys who have a problem with sex during your period are LVMGuys that pressure you into sex when you tell them you are on your period are also lvm. I personally hate period sex it grosses me out. Tried it a few times after being pressured from an lvx and I could feel my flow gushing onto him and squishing each time 🤮 no thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:20 PM |
| 26 | The Benefits of Living Alone vs living with a LVMI'm happy you're getting out of that hell and you'll be free. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. It really is better to just be alone than with a lvm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:51 PM |
| 79 | The Benefits of Living Alone vs living with a LVMAll these points are so true, the upgrade one is a valid point. He will also demand you upgrade the wifi as well for faster speeds so he can game or stream the sports / TV he wants to watch. Let me add with the gas thing: how many of us were in a car with a LVM driving and he refused to stop and get gas and then you're out of gas and stranded next to a dangerous highway or in bumblef*ck? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:42 PM |
| 44 | The Benefits of Living Alone vs living with a LVMAnd he will go on and on if your hair gets anywhere. I vacuum and clean often and its natural for me to "shed" some hair. If I sit on the couch maybe a strand gets on the back of the couch. I'd get yelled at and shamed for that but they're cool with leaving sinks covered in hair all the time 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:22 PM |
| 26 | Billie speaking facts!Facts!! When I was 24 years old I gave a man that was a year older than me a chance (before fds). He was very overweight, very ugly in his face with some acne and a double chin, and he had a very messy beard and eyebrows. He lived with his mom, didn't have his own car, and worked as a cashier at a grocery store - wasn't in school for anything either and wasn't motivated. He asked me on a date then he "forgot" all about it. Called him out on it and he ended up telling me he went to see his ex and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:09 PM |
| 31 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoThe before photo honestly looks like something from hoarders buried alive or a condemned house. I understand it's not "fun" to cleanup and do chores for anyone, but the thing is everyone NEEDS to keep their living space sanitary and decently clean. There is no reason anyone's place should ever look like the before photo. I would bet there is mold and further damage to that bathroom and it has to be a breathing hazard! I just really hate how nvm refuse to do chores like cleaning of any kind and e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 06:33 PM |
| 232 | 👀I always clap back to when guys say stuff like this with "can't turn a f *ck boy into a fiancee" and can't turn a frat boy into a good father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 06:28 PM |
| 39 | Weird Red Flags?Watches you struggling/ doing chores /lifting stuff and doesn't even offer to help. Example: a few years back (before fds) guy offered to do a yard sale with me. He literally sat in his bum and watched my mom and I struggle and heave to get the one table set up and then lift the furniture. Another example is if you are in the store together and he stands there watching you struggle to reach something in the back or top of a shelf (I'm short) and he could easily grab it but doesn't even offer. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:11 PM |
| 22 | Let’s stop perpetuating the lie that men don’t have hormones and women are irrational. *** It was posted on a mom group (women’s only group🤨🙄)Whenever I see or hear stuff like this in public I always counteract it with a similar neg for the males. For example if I hear the term "can't make a wife out of a h0" I'll say "can't make a fiance out of a f*ckboy" For this one i would say something like "hormonal husbands" "too much testosterone" and "moody man" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:21 PM |
| 26 | Even men themselves laugh at the low bar of pickmeishas 😭🤡More proof that men KNOW. Any act of bare minimum for a woman and they usually cry "simp!" Which is so childish and its their way of negging the bare minimum guys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:18 PM |
| 14 | Thought You All Would Enjoy This, I Know I Sure Did!Lvm like this come from all races though, and I am speaking from experience. White men in particular though generally have this old money sense of entitlement and superiority, they really think they are God's gift because of their penis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:20 PM |
| 20 | Thanks for weeding yourself out of the gene pool. This is more cringe than the usual decalsAvoid the guys that are really into anime /manga because its usually pornsickness and they often watch hentai. It's one thing to enjoy some studio ghibli or full metal alchemist, but its another thing when they are obsessed with the super sexual booby bouncing animes. 🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:16 PM |
| 11 | Have any of yall experienced that “look” on dates?Unfortunately this has happened to me, and its happening more often lately guys stop in their tracks to stare at me in public. These are from men that are complete strangers and in places like gas stations and cafes. I try to avoid eye contact and act like they don't exist and try to get away from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:10 PM |
| 46 | It’s tragic seeing women like this. You know how this story ends. But you can’t save them. If you want a relationship avoid these disgusting men and don’t give anyone sex before committing you poor, poor fool.Translation: be a bangmaid just for him and look on point always for him, tick tock act fast because aging makes you worthless I hate these advice posts and all the pickmes and lvms that use it as their opportunity to trick and brainwash lost soul women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!A dinner date for the first date should be normal and expected though. I've never seen dinner dates as "lavish" when most of the time they cost around $50 to $80. He should be trying to really impress you after all it is the first date! Coffee is super cheap and it reminds me of getting coffee with my friends in high school or doing study groups in college, because we were all broke then. This man is in his 30s he should be able to afford dinner dates no problem. It definitely shows cheapness bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:26 PM |
| 3 | If he’s letting himself go (both fitness wise and diet), it’s over 🤷🏾♀️ I’m sure you ladies can guess what the comments are saying 🤮This is so awful and look at the ages, they are young and he has let himself go and so fast!! It will surely get worse. I am sure he is trying to use her as a free therapist as well and I would bet money she has offered to feed him the healthy meals and have him workout with her and he has refused. I am so tired of society expecting us women to all look like models with fit bodies and hair and makeup and getting the crap for letting ourselves go but society glamorize the overweight men with the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Dead bedrooms, and men.Never let yourself be attracted for a man child. It's important to wait until he proves himself until you have sex. Even then keep vetting and learn to be repulsed and refuse sex and dump him when he is being a lazy slob. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Men are cry babiesLVMs and pervs make comments all the time about breast /butt size or curves or "thicc" women they objectify and shame women based on physical appearance all the time. They want women to pay half for dates or worse pay for the guys meal or ticket too. I mean come on. Men know what they are doing, and its funny because they can't stand the taste of their own medicine. No one likes short men or small dicks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:13 PM |
| 6 | **NEW VARIATION** Coffee / Walk date 🙄Just when you think the bar couldn't get possibly any lower, these LVM are out here with shovels creating a new low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:10 PM |
| 24 | From Instagram. Speaks for itself - so much garbage behaviour gets dismissed by men and pickmes as "shyness".He wasn't shy when he was literally naked and stuck his penis inside to create those kids though... I literally cannot with these clowns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:06 PM |
| 3 | I dated a Softboi so you don’t have to!Also its not shaming other womens bodies for acknowledging that this man had a distorted view of weight he looked underweight himself and wanted underweight women- its not shaming its unhealthy and we need to say it like it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:59 PM |
| 37 | #notallmen is no different than #alllivesmatter 100% of women will be sexually harassed or assaulted in their lives, but let’s be sure to pander to the perpetrators about how difficult it is for them when they are victims of the same crimesBut they have no issue being super protective of their baby nieces, or little girl step siblings or saying things like "if I had a daughter I'd plant cacti outside her window to keep the boys out, id always make her wear shorts under her dresses, id bring out a shotgun if she ever brought a guy home / she can't date until she is married hur dur" They realize the world is dangerous and full of man pigs yet they won't step up and treat women better. It is a huge double standard. Today I went out f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 10:02 PM |
| 29 | I dated a Softboi so you don’t have to!Sounds like we had the same ex! Add the fact he was a gamer, had a fast food addiction (seriously it was almost all he ate, other than frozen pizza or pizza pockets or PBJ sandwiches). He also was super into anime, including hentai (porn but with anime women and usually with fetishes). He was a slob and pretty quickly he was burping/farting all the time. The emotional thing is so exhausting because they fake it just to keep manipulating you to stay around and mine was even saying he would kIlL h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 09:54 PM |
| 17 | I’m sick of being canceled on because 30 year old men somehow still can’t pace themselves with alcohol and act like frat boysAren't they embarrassed ever when they tell on themselves? He's so nonchalant and content with the fact he's in his 30s and still spends his weekends partying/bing drinking and then is a complete deadbeat all Sunday. Meanwhile good for you to spot this man child before wasting time and good luck on the interview! My Sundays are always spent meal prepping /grocery shopping, and getting chores done around the house. What kind of adult is still okay with being hungover all day? Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 09:41 PM |
| 38 | Gaslighting me by telling me not being comfortable with sex talk with a stranger is “unhealthy” 🤢 Analysis in the commentsThe 🤷♂️ emoji i hate because scrotes always use it when they say something completely douchey. Sex talk is not normal right off the bat especially with a stranger! Guys that try to talk about sex super fast are seriously just trying to have hookups and test out your boundaries. Sex Definitely should be talked about in a mature setting but when you have started to see someone and are starting to get to know them. He is predatory and gaslighgkng you for sure here! Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 09:36 PM |
| 74 | Other things he does in Bed that are Red Flags and Manipulative!Very true and good point to add. Some guys I talked to would tell me "im down to try anything, any kink is fine, im open minded" and they were the ones that were into some really weird stuff like diaper wetting and being a furry. Luckily they ended up telling me before I wasted time to meet with them for a date! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:42 AM |
| 158 | Other things he does in Bed that are Red Flags and Manipulative!From my experience it shows that they believe the bs that pussies "stretch out" from a lot of use. In my case, he thought his one ex was "loose" because she had a lot of partners before him. The more he would sleep with me he was implying that he'd stretch me out and loosen me up and then wear me out so he could go find a woman that was less experienced sexually. He also cheated on me with several women. Pussies don't even stretch out and get "loose" anyways | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:40 AM |
| 29 | LVM trying to find the right key for the lock.guys on OLD be sending these at 2am Wednesday: "hey" then at 10am Wednesday: "good morning" and finally around 4pm the same day "wtf are you on a dating app for since you're not responding to me! get over yourself already u bitch!!!" I would have this happen all the time - what do they think we do all day? I was sleeping, got ready for work, went in, and then by the time I got home and had dinner open my OLD and see all these crazy messages. men are the CrAzY and MoODy ones | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.they definitely should have gotten reported. everyone on here is being so flagrant about being mature and how its not an issue to ask for condoms but the thing is that there is NO need for them to be locked away, period, and the theft reason is complete BS since they dont lock up other items that get stolen quite often. I guarantee you that it being locked up like that has stopped many people from buying them and led to plenty of unprotected sex. I expected better of the commenters here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:03 AM |
| 4 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.exactly how I feel, and I am pretty disappointed by some of the comments on here saying its just anti-theft and the stigma argument is "invalid" the point is locking them up like that and announcing it IS already stopping probably a lot of teenagers / shy people in general from buying protection. another good point to make is sometimes you are in more of a hurry and maybe you just want to run in, grab what you need and leave rather than calling an employee and waiting for them to come over and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.thank you, if the store I was mentioning actually cared about theft they would also have locked up lots of other items. it was also in a military town and it is a very family oriented area, I honestly just think whatever person in charge of that location of walmart honestly just wants to push their religious beliefs by adding some extra hoops and loops to buying birth control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 02:57 AM |
| 61 | Breakups are tougher on men, women's mental health tend to get better after a breakup while men's tend to get worseBecause men rely on women to take care of them: physically, mentally, and sexually. When she dumps and leaves him, he struggles to function as a basic adult: he doesn't know how to do laundry, grocery shop, and is too lazy to make a real dinner. Women become happier because the burden of a man child is finally off their shoulders! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:48 PM |
| 12 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.I'm not a gun person either and WOW walmart better not try to lock of poc hair products again that is awful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:42 PM |
| 19 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.Yeah buying condoms in this walmart is almost as much of a process as buying a gun. I really think condoms / pregnancy tests should be just on the shelves, just like canned soup and other grocery items. My walmart makes people buy the condoms right away and separately too, which I think is also ridiculous. Condom buying should be quick and easy and throwing them in with your other items helps normalize it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:38 PM |
| 9 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.Getting rid of the stigma is putting them out on the shelf just like canned soup. You go in, throw it in your basket with you other items and groceries, and go checkout all in the same transaction. There is literally no need to lock it up like contraband, stand around waiting for the employee, and then have to purchase the condoms separately. that is creating more barriers and some teens need to be discreet about buying protection/pregnancy tests when they have strict parents. You don't need to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:34 PM |
| 136 | A women I’m fb friends with shared this and tagged her husband...The lvm will try to then boast about how handy and helpful he is and may even try to say that women aren't capable of doing it. The "handyman" is often an excuse to get out of actual chores and they deliberately drag it out. Its important to learn how to do "handy" stuff as a woman if you don't already know. YouTube has been helpful for me. Anytime my step-dad did something at home (before I moved out) I'd always ask him to teach/show me. It helped me pickup a lot of knowledge and made me more p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:29 PM |
| 39 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.This is in the south also! I'm originally from the northeast US and this shocked me. The northeast also had quite a lot of vending machines that had condoms, and CVS type of stuff. Condoms were always just out on the shelf, never locked up or anything. The only thing you had to actually ask for was Plan B, and for those reading this you can actually buy it through the nurx or pill club app and have it delivered with your birth control. Asking the pharmacy though isn't as much of a barrier as pag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:24 PM |
| 40 | Conservative Pick Me Magazine Evie thinks we’re all Femcels Y’all. I wonder which man dictated this idea for them to write down? Lmaooo, imagine being this desperate for male approval in 2021.But enjoying your flat and cat are positive things everyone should appreciate, and no one should be a placemat. It is like she is making fun of Chanel for being bougie, she just sounds like a clown. If she actually read FDS she would see that it is here to help us become independent, secure, and successful women that can stand on our own two feet and have our own already fulfilled lives. We simply do not need a man, we aren't lonely, stupid, bored, or desperate. If a man does enter our lives we … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:16 PM |
| 5 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.I wrote a paragraph giving examples of situations especially for teens where they are relying on buying these items to be more discreet. I can understand stores locking up electronics or expensive items but even then you don't hear them paging people for the whole store to hear every 5 minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:01 PM |
| 18 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.Planned parenthood does give out birth control for free in the US, but you are missing the point walmart in general has a high theft rate for makeup and they don't lock that up and page someone for it. This store doesn't put security on their printer ink either. People shouldn't steal but theft to me isn't a valid reason to lock up such important items that sometimes people really do need, sooner rather than later and for some cases you want to be a little discreet about buying it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:53 PM |
| 31 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.This could be a fair compromise, but again it puts the stigma on it, and that is what we need to completely eliminate: stigma and barriers. But then by that logic walmart also needs to lockup every single makeup item and have it behind the counter too, because so many people steal makeup or worse: open it, use it, and put it back on the shelf. This gets overlooked at many walmarts and the studies on used makeup are horrific, it almost always contain fecal matter and pathogens. This store in part… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:49 PM |
| 10 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.Op here: i recently moved across the country and my local Walmart kept announcing over the PA system "employee assistance to family planning". I heard it at least 5 times while just shopping in the grocery area. So finally I went over to the condom section and noticed that all the condoms as well as lubes and pregnancy tests were actually locked up and that the store pages an employee for the whole store to hear. I was appalled and disgusted. Women have fought so long and hard for safe and acces… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:41 PM |
| 4 | For the Military guys, marriage and kids means a bigger paycheck for them. It's not always about love.My thoughts exactly. Then he does get some time off and theres his wife waiting for him and giving him more sex, everyone treats him like a good man and hero, he bangs his wife, then leaves again for more money and whatnot. Its a win-win for the guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:47 PM |
| 4 | Incels on the rise: The percentage of men between ages 18-30 with no sex partners has tripled from 08-18They will all turn into big Eds as they age: not only does he look horrendous but he has way too much audacity and still lies and treats women like poop! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:35 PM |
| 9 | Incels on the rise: The percentage of men between ages 18-30 with no sex partners has tripled from 08-18You don't say! Haha men are probably scratching their balding heads wondering why they can't get laid let alone hold down a relationship so they trying to be all cool and hip being Red pill and going their own way but really they are so angry they can't get laid. You know if you did further research on these men I guarantee you that there will be a strong correlation between poor hygiene, high BMI, and presence of dark triad personality traits. I know for a fact majority of these scrotes are pre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:33 PM |
| 4 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahYou should have never responded to his opener and just immediately deleted/blocked. Three red flags in that opener: he admitted he wants a hookup. Red flag number 2 was that he said he is moving away soon. Red flag 3 is that he asked you on a walk. Do not respond or explain to these scrotes "no means no" sis they know that already they just don't care. You can see he just had to clap back to that and try to make you feel shitty. Thats why just delete and block asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:20 PM |
| 24 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?Sending hugs, you are strong and thank you for talking about this. Definitely continue to call it out and keep mentioning it to your friends/ others when you hear them say the things like "that's just how men are". My first boyfriend was a lot like this. They really do think that just because they're you're dating /living with them that they can have sex with you whenever they want and that "no" is not valid. Cue the men "joking" that women are never in the mood or tOo tIrEd for sex. No means no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:03 PM |
| 12 | The annoyingly persistent manA lot of men actually believe they can "make you like them" even if you clearly have said no, even if you have said no multiple times, even if you already are in a relationship or married, or straight up said you are not interested in them. I used to have many male friends (who it turns out all hung around as "friends" to me because they had feelings for me and hoped they'd be able to date me - so I don't believe in adult male/female friendships) that would explain this to me and let me partake … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 08:20 PM |
| 7 | For the Military guys, marriage and kids means a bigger paycheck for them. It's not always about love.This is sort of pickme. Here are FDS we have to look at the worst case sort of scenarios when it comes to dating, and keep vetting. You shouldn't assume any man's words are true or that his intentions are well meaning. Most men just want hookups and don't really care. Be prepared for the worst! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 01:41 AM |
| 17 | OLD Cautionary Tales: I rejected men that seemed good on paper.100% he was also in his mid 30s and I always would try finding the guys I matched with social media, especially their Facebook then their Instagram. You usually can find them and look around without friend requesting them and some profiles are super telling. Ben was the one dude I couldn't find anything about online! Would also bet money he was using a fake name and would make a new OLD profile each time he was prowling! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:14 PM |
| 58 | How men insult women by how they define them. UPDATEDIf a man ever insults you, delete and block him with no response or explanation. If you do ever need a comeback though, the things that actually hurt them are the ghosting or delete/block. They do get offended to being told they have a small pee pee and scrotes that are balding... my god... you should see how insecure and upset they become when you say they're balding and its ugly (because to me it looks really awful). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:10 PM |
| 30 | For the Military guys, marriage and kids means a bigger paycheck for them. It's not always about love.They're literally deadbeat dads that get rewarded for it, and made into heroes by society's eyes. The marriage and impregnation of a woman by a military man feels so predatory, especially because they rush so quickly into it while the woman is generally still so young (and they are betting that a woman being young will make her niave). I agree with this and what you mentioned about the lack of mental Healthcare for the military - it's like they want them to stay ill and unstable. We also need to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:05 PM |
| 33 | OLD Cautionary Tales: I rejected men that seemed good on paper.Don't date down though, only date men with the same level of skill / education as you or better. Otherwise they will be jealous, butthurt, and try to drag you down to their level or some will even try to shame you for having your degree(s). I have 2 degrees and have dated several blue collar men before and they all had one thing in common: a really negative, twisted view on education and would try to neg me for deciding to pursue my education. Going to school and earning that degree makes a prof… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 07:57 PM |
| 34 | OLD Cautionary Tales: I rejected men that seemed good on paper.Yeah I haven't used OLD on over a year now. The best thing to do is be single and unbothered, and if a man comes into your life its best that he is someone you bump into in real life, through friends, your career, or a mutual hobby. OLD is full of posers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Let’s discuss: why do some people try to shame you for not wanting to be in a casual sexual relationship?They have effort to put in when it comes to using a woman as a free sex doll for the night. They are creative and will say things just to try to twist your arm, or guilt trip you, or manipulate you into casual sex because they are shit and are too broke/gross/lazy to actually find and maintain a serious relationship. They want one night stands because it's like getting McDonald's instead of cooking a homemade meal. Mcdonalds is cheap, easy, and fast, it's almost always there even though its bad … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:47 PM |
| 6 | Hot Take: Ghosting people is a perfectly valid form of ending communication.Lvm love to play the victim or beg "please don't ghost me, just tell me what I did wrong or tell me you don't want to talk anymore other wise I will keep trying to text you and I won't be able to figure out the problem." Men that whine they were ghosted, or don't understand why she ghosted me i thought everything was swell, or even beg you not to ghost them are showing you a red flag. Other women ghosted them because something was seriously alarming. If you have a gut feeling or see a red flag, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:40 PM |
| 13 | I am dating again and I want to share my feelings with you allI am very happy for you. This is what a happy, wholesome relationship looks like with all these green flags and I love how thoughtful she is to you. You can really see she is making the effort and cares. You deserve this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:32 PM |
| 52 | Currently multi-dating and reached 2 months with one guy, he dropped off some flowers as a present:-)Cute and a nice gesture but at 2 months in he should be learning your particular tastes and catering to them to make gifts more custom and less generic. He also should be aiming for a committed relationship. Enjoy the flowers but don't let a $15 generic gift blind you or give you rose colored glasses. He should be making effort and taking you on thoughtful dates that reflect your particular tastes and interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:26 PM |
| 31 | Never forget this ladies! Your worth is not based on male validation. You are strong, smart and beautiful! Do not ever let any man tell you otherwise.Such a mood. I am so happy because lately guys have stopped approaching me in public. They stare and some practically break their necks to see me, but the thing is I just act like they don't exist. I avoid eye contact and try to stay away from the area that they are in and I just focus on what I am there for: picking up groceries or mailing stuff, etc. Some younger guys were obnoxious and kept talking about me and encouraged the one dude to "go approach her and ask for her number" and they chick… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:23 PM |
| 115 | Use actual conditioner, groom, shower, wear nice clothes, and utilize the treatments for baldness. Us women take care of ourselves you need to as well.Op here let me add for the fellas: SHAVE and wash your private parts! If you have facial hair - keep it groomed and neat! Find a deodorant that works for you! Clinical strength is awesome for me and you can even have your dr write a prescription for stronger deodorant. Shower every day and anytime you get all sweaty! Hang up your clothes on a hanger so they don't wrinkle or get dirty. Pluck that unibrow! If you have dry skin use a lotion and a body Scrub. They make unscented ones. Dove has a men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:59 AM |
| 36 | We can’t even go to the doctor in peace. There are lvms everywhere, OP did the right thing.Wow!! This is very scary and unprofessional of him, in the USA it is a huge violation of the HIPPA laws as well as just downright creepy! Never be afraid to speak up if something happens and make sure to collect evidence /take screenshots if possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:50 AM |
| 64 | Guess I'm Strange AF ThenBig yikes!! I was guessing it was a butthurt dude who got rejected, but wow supreme pickmes never cease to disgust me. That author might as well wear a clown outfit... if she wants broke, mentally ill, pornsick men to have one night stands then let her have at it. We are here if she's ready to ever respect herself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:37 AM |
| 109 | Guess I'm Strange AF ThenSome butthurt man wrote that article. Yeah it's so WILD we don't want to date broke or mentally ill dudes... I can't even read that article seriously. Who would want to date someone broke or mentally ill? Therapy / professional help is a must before dating and broke dusty should be at work not dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:28 AM |
| 35 | Don’t provide him with the blueprint of your “dream man.” You’re giving someone the roadmap to hurt you or another unsuspecting woman. Notice how he instantly backpedaled trying to shape his answer to mirror what I might be looking for? Nope. Not telling you lol. Blocked.Translation of him " Please try out muh penis! I'm desperate!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 11:15 PM |
| 10 | This 43 year old bald disgusting man cornered my gorgeous 25 year old girl friend at church while she was volunteering and demanded her phone number.Juliana, despite being significantly younger, is extremely mature and was respectful about the volunteering encounter. Also, good for her for rejecting coffee. Im disgusted this old bald scrote cornered her at a church volunteering environment and the best he could do was offer cheap coffee🤡🤡🤡 Of course he had to clap back and try making her feel bad. Scrotes can't handle rejection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 11:09 PM |
| 5 | Guy begs and pleads with me to keep him entertained during his flight 🤣The way he texts especially with that annoying emoji is how middle schoolers text. He's stunted emotionally and wants you to entertain him? He needs to go back to his mommas house, she's not done raising him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 11:06 PM |
| 6 | Instead of marriage, and romance. I kind of just want a sisterhood for life.Golden Girls but make it FDS... this is what I also have been dreaming of | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:18 PM |
| 4 | I know we don’t waste time writing paragraphs to NVM - especially ones who send d*ck pics - but this is hilarious! Make them squirm!Hahaha omg thank you for the laugh. I normally don't endorse sending responses but you made him mad and made him sweat! Well done 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:11 AM |
| 2 | What is the opposite of the Cool Girl?Opposite of cool girl is what men refer to as the "high maintenence bitch" Basically any woman that has bare minimum standards or higher, is self confident, and independent. She is a whole person, has her own like minded circle of friends/family, and is motivated. She doesn't need or even want a man, and if a man comes along hes just like sprinkles on ice cream - a bonus but really not necessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:08 AM |
| 6 | These days it’s only walks and MEETINGS on OLD, no actual dates 🙄Telling on himself. Ladies see guys know its a date when they take you to dinner AND pay for you. Anything that isn't a dinner or paid for is just what he said a "meeting". More proof fds is right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:02 AM |
| 3 | Leave him Rachel!I can HEAR this drawing in my head - I literally can imagine some scrote scoffing with that disgusted pretentious tone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 06:56 AM |
| 3 | LmaoHe needs to be in therapy and work on himself not dating. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 06:54 AM |
| 7 | NVM afraid to be judged like he judges single moms, cry me a river. The *last* interaction I will ever have OLD, 7 months clean and a much, much happier life without it!Please don't even entertain him /respond further when they show their true colors do NOT respond and just block them /unmatch them. They keep arguing and try to get a rouse out of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 06:52 AM |
| 25 | Tries to make me make plans, then says it’s too dangerous to do indoor dining because Covid, but hey he can come to my house!!!Covid is not an excuse for low value "dates". Lvms are trying to use it to pass off walks and Netflix and chill or cheap drink scenarios. Block and delete. A HVM would plan out a dinner OR send you an egiftcard or ubereats to get a meal and you could do a phone call/video chat then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 06:49 AM |
| 42 | Another truth bomb from this guy!Its refreshing to actually see something wholesome on tiktok from a man, I really hope people especially guys see this and it clicks. Lvs that see it maybe then can finally realize they're the problem and just stick to their video games rather than bothering women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:27 AM |
| 42 | Another truth bomb from this guy!Learn to not be attracted AT ALL to lvm. I can't get wet for a man that still acts like a child. Ladies, we are here to date men that are high value, responsible adults. If you want to take care of someone or be around kids at least get paid for it- work at a daycare or preschool! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:24 AM |
| 7 | He was not amused and blocked meclassic scrote tactic: he threw something sexual out there to test the waters ("joking" she was kissing the screen) and when he gets called in his bullshit notice how instead of owning up to it or apologizing to her or just saying something like "I don't think we are gonna work out, best of luck" he spins it around back on her trying to make her seem like a crazy "man hater" and he uses the word feminist like its a bad thing. watch out for men like this that try to spin it back on you and make y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:30 PM |
| 4 | Don't waste a single second of your precious time on someone who doesn't respect your boundaries. Dump him. You can do a lot better.Good for you for seeing through the BS and dodging this bullet. Notice he used typical scote tactics of: not apologizing and not taking accountability for what he did, instead they always try to shift the blame on YOU and you can see thats exactly what he did here. Cue the gaslighting when he insinuated you were crazy/ unreasonable and then tried to pass it off as "just jOkInG" A hvm wouldn't be pressuring you into anything sexual let alone keep pushing it after clearly hearing you aren't intere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:10 AM |
| 11 | A woman posted this on Twitter. These men reach new lows every single day! Imagine begging for $35. 😭Sounds like he took her to half price apps and $2 beer specials at a local applebees.... never send a man money for dates and if he asks you ignore it and block him. If hes that cheap he shouldn't be dating, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:00 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inwithin the past week: I quit my job after things started getting worse and I wouldn't work for free over my lunch breaks - I tried putting my foot down but then they gave me extra work out of spite - so I left if you remember I also had some concerns about my apartment and the neighborhood getting bad - one of the knocks on my door was a guy dressed as a cop and I found out from the actual police department they never sent a cop to my address here... since then I stopped answering the door and g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:37 AM |
| 5 | Sex questions, gaslighting, and more. Welcome to online dating.Hugs, sis. He was a complete scrote. Treat yourself to some sephora shopping in the future, I also love sephora! You deserve better and im sorry he Essentially led you on /faked being decent for a week before his true self came out. If something like this happens again - delete and block at the FIRST red flag and girl i mean ghost him. The first time he mentioned getting "sexual" i would have ghosted and blocked him. Men put a little sex into the convo and from there they want to have a full blo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 07:07 AM |
| 6 | This is a REAL MGTOW scrote video giving advice on how to verbally abuse and manipulate women!! So many trash males out there. Ladies, watch out for this scum!🤮Hur dur listen up bros imma teach you how to NEG your woman so she feels so lousy she will tolerate any disrespect and low effort. And he will then teach his bros to shame and make fun of any man doing nice things for a woman "simp!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:59 AM |
| 7 | I just get more and more flabbergasted with what women put themselves through to be in a relationship. I just think it's just so sad they don't have self-respect enough to drop a guy like this.When he needs like 10 root canals, he's gonna ask her for money and to be driving him to the appointments. Hes not a toddler or small child that needs to be reminded to brush their teeth daily. Come on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:55 AM |
| 6 | Key difference between LVM & HVMThis is so important and true, LVM are NEVER accountable and rarely(if ever) give a genuine apology. lvm will always be turning the table so its back on you, making excuses for their behavior, or changing the subject. In the past, I made the mistake of living with an lv-ex while I started working and only took one or two college classes at a time. Anyways, he had used the bathroom and later on when I went into use it there was a large poop smear all over the toliet bowl. GROSS. I called him in a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:28 AM |
| 4 | What the Pickme Fuck? Admin of Supposedly All Female Breastfeeding Group Allowing Men to Pay to Join and Harass Women. Group Had 22.5K MembersThat's a sin. She's knowingly allowing men to creep/prey and harass women, so she can get her money. I'm honestly appalled. Bet you most of those guys are jacking off to that page too, if you know other women on there tell them watch what they post- men are sick and the pornsick ones know no boundaries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:14 AM |
| 3 | Your misery ain't funnyI agree. I am tired of seeing them make it into memes and those text quotes they share around Facebook and Instagram "Hide the packages from my husband he will yell at me if I shop!" "Marriage is the only war you sleep with your enemy" pic of him half asking something hur dur me soooo funny "When my wife is mad at me i tighten all the jar lids so she has to talk to me" Jokes about men being incompetent or slobs Sex jokes about how she's never in the mood/dead bedroom these are all toxic and I re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 05:44 AM |
| 65 | Never build a man upHahha yes. This is funny but also shes a good sister because she is also planting the right message! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 05:35 AM |
| 5 | Since following FDS I have low/no libido! I rarely find a man attractive these days. Anyone else turned off from most guys?thank you, honestly that is a good idea. I would love to meet female friends and even try to find a roommate or two, and I'd be honest and say thats what I am looking for so not to lead anyone on or waste other's time. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 02:10 AM |
| 5 | Since following FDS I have low/no libido! I rarely find a man attractive these days. Anyone else turned off from most guys?if I could make myself sexually attracted to women, I would. I was gonna ask to have my one female friend become roomies with me, she was a lot like me very mature, handled money well, and didn't take advantage of others - but of course she always has to have a NVM boyfriend. he has a child with someone else my friend is now parenting for free and the guy does drugs and tends to couch surf - so I have never bothered talking to her about it, I'm not about to tolerate the NVM or his kid in my home… | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 01:03 AM |
| 11 | Since following FDS I have low/no libido! I rarely find a man attractive these days. Anyone else turned off from most guys?what you said is top notch advice - meeting men/vetting potential dates by observing them in their daily lives is one of the best ways to be vetting and learning his true character. I encourage women to get out there and join social circles, religious circles, workout classes, craft classes or whatever - obviously we cant do these meetups now with covid, but I am really looking forward to getting back out there when its safe to try to make like minded friends. if a male comes along at this point… | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 12:58 AM |
| 32 | My current (HVM) partner bought me a tapestry for my office that represents our first date (going out and photographing the NEOWISE comet together) for Vday. My last partner gave me an unsigned valentine clipped out of a newspaperThat is absolutely beautiful, it is also super thoughtful and cute! You can see he put effort into this gift, its something unique to the relationship (customized it to commemorate the particular comet) and romantic since it symbolizes the first date. also have to say I love the design. Thank you for sharing because this is the type of man and effort we all need! You deserve this OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 12:46 AM |
| 8 | Society needs to stop perpetuating the myth that women should settle for unattractive men because they'll be "nicer". Women should be allowed to date whoever they want whether men like it or not.Big Ed from 90 day fiance is the perfect example of this. More fugly = More audacity, more gaslighting, more neggjng | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:36 AM |
| 28 | What happened to first dates?I've had a few take me to a decent first date: they got a little dressed up, planned a dinner, and then paid for the meal. They seemed decent enough for a 2nd date. Then they switch up when they ask me for the second date, they'll invite you to Netflix and chill/ go for a walk, or even try inviting you to their house🚩🚩🚩 The pattern for me is they expect sex on the second date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:32 AM |
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