There's a flood of lvm that will be super responsive and make a lot of effort when talking to you at first and then often drop that effort, often times before you even go on a 1st or 2nd date.

For me, I always respond back to my close friends and family within 24 hours of their message or phone call. If I am genuinely really busy or sick I'll still make sure to send them a quick text letting them know whats up. If im traveling I make sure to also let them know ahead of time. For me, there are very rare reasons that ever let 48 hours go past with no response. These are my standards. You should evaluate how you treat your close friends and family and whatever that is should guide your expectations of men that are dating options.

I had to block 3 just this week because of this. Over 48 hours had passed and I never heard a response from them. There is no excuse. I am not saying blow up each others phones, but a potential date should be making an effort to get to know you and plan a date with you.

If he is calling you or gets chatty over text, pay attention to if he is just using you as entertainment because he is bored. Maybe he's at work and its slow. Maybe he's waiting to pickup his mom. Maybe he's waiting in doctors office and is just really bored. Is he only talking to you out of boredom because he has nothing better to do?

Also pay attention to if he is actively planning a date. You should chat enough to be able to do basic vetting and then a predate. If you can't even get enough time in to talk to him enough to get that info, next him. If he is talking with you, but too much time is passing and he hasn't made any effort to plan a date with you, next him. In my pickme days one guy talked with me for over a month and still wasn't making any effort to take me on a first date. Get enough info for vetting, do a predate, and if he doesn't start making plans, stop wasting your own time. Men try to keep you in the "friend zone" of talking or being a pen pal really because they are keeping you as a back burner option. You deserve to be a priority not a last pick.

Ideally, find a man that understands balance. Texting you or calling you within reason. Guys that talk and call for hours are LVM that are unemployed /under employed. guys that let days pass before talking to you or sending you one word /good morning /how r u texts and breadcrumbs are also disinterested LVM keeping you as backup options in their harem.

Lastly, he is NEVER too busy to send a quick text. There is no excuse.

Halloween is coming up... has he made plans with you? If you've been talking to him and he still hasn't planned a date especially with all the Halloween activities.... stop wasting your own time.