arnezuara Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2337	In sickness and health.	GREEN FLAG 🟢	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 07:32 PM
1550	They condition you young.	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/12/21 02:33 AM
1547	Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/03/22 09:52 PM
1320	If he doesn’t lovingly and passionately kiss you during sex, he does NOT love you.	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/01/22 12:52 PM
1138	Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 01:46 PM
1086	Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.	PORN SICK, LIMP DICK	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/21 01:50 AM
1019	Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health.	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 05:24 PM
993	I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 03:52 AM
987	No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!	NAH, SIS	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/11/21 03:08 PM
974	We deserved to be protected. We deserved to be stood up for. We deserved to be treated with respect and kindness.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/10/21 07:44 AM
741	Be careful around your friends’ boyfriends/husbands. Vet them & NEVER get too comfortable, no matter what.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/07/21 11:32 AM
730	Being “understanding” will get you NOWHERE with men. They will lie, use, cheat, and abuse you. Save your empathy ONLY for your close family, children, & trusted friends.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/09/21 08:12 PM
727	MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.		arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/21 06:30 PM
716	Most men are NOT capable of genuine love. In order to love a woman, they have to see her as human. That’s why most of them would rather keep the privilege of seeing you as an object — to feel less bad about the mistreatment they put you through.	STAY WOKE	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/09/21 05:57 PM
691	Learn to be Selfish	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/02/22 01:37 AM
618	A woman’s worth is non-negotiable — your actions need to reflect that.	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/10/21 05:11 PM
610	We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.	NAH, SIS	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/10/21 10:11 PM
592	Where there is smoke, there is fire.	LEVEL UP	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 09:26 PM
582	If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/09/21 02:46 AM
564	Stop giving the benefit of the doubt to rotten-minded men. They will never change their default worldview.	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/10/21 06:47 PM
537	STOP investing in men too early on. You never truly know him until at least a YEAR of ruthless vetting.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/12/21 01:34 PM
518	ENTHUSIASM matters. If he does not show authentic excitement to court you, DROP him.	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/11/21 10:33 PM
511	Your commitment/attention should be hard-earned by men who want to court you.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/21 01:14 AM
492	Do not refrain from running a background check, snooping his phone, or showing up uninvited — trust but verify. Which tactics have you used to check his credibility?	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/11/21 04:39 AM
491	The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/10/21 04:00 AM
484	Withholding as a Form of Abuse	RED FLAG 🚨	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/08/21 11:59 AM
469	Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”	NAH, SIS	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/07/21 08:08 PM
463	What’s your best FDS quote?	QUEEN SH*T	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/21 02:00 AM
454	Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!	PICKME CULTURE	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/21 04:31 AM
441	LIMERENCE: How to Stay Unattached	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/09/21 12:44 AM
437	I made the move: broke up with him first.	#HeAin'tTheOne2021	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/06/21 07:39 AM
424	Let them get a taste of their own poison and see how they react.	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/07/21 02:50 PM
421	Homicide is a top cause of maternal death in the United States: Black women have up to nearly three-fold higher risk of dying by homicide than those who are not pregnant. This is why you have to stay EXTREMELY vigilant when vetting men!	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/21 04:34 AM
412	Emotional terrorists will put your life, health, AND beauty on the line.	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/12/21 03:52 PM
408	STRATEGY: How to Emotionally Detach	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/01/22 03:50 AM
404	A friendship CAN RUIN you. So read this before you decide it’s not so unnecessary to ruthlessly vet your friends.	Story time ☕	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/06/21 09:26 AM
399	I finally did it, again.	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/07/21 07:25 AM
386	Markers of Abuse	RED FLAG 🚨	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/08/21 11:45 AM
377	Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.	LESSON LEARNED	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/08/21 11:05 PM
375	A man you date can only be two things: a dating potential or a husband. In your mind, he should NEVER be considered your family.	PICKME CULTURE	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 07:44 PM
365	Your feelings (intuition) are your very best guide.	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 11:27 AM
362	Listen, then Leave	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/09/21 09:25 PM
331	TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.	#JustLVMThings	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/09/21 01:38 AM
319	List of Boundaries	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/07/21 03:05 PM
315	Share your badass breakup stories!	Story time ☕	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/08/21 05:09 PM
310	IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD: Or, even if he wanted to, he never had the ability to do it in the first place.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/09/21 12:30 AM
300	They always want you back, all while they did not want the whole you in the first place.	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/06/21 06:32 PM
293	The visuals or thoughts that are helping me move on. Add yours to the list!	#JustLVMThings	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/09/21 03:17 PM
292	What are some tell-tale/subtle signs of a LV/NV man “warming” you up to physical abuse?	TRIGGER WARNING	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/07/21 04:12 PM
275	Him meeting your (FDS-approved bare minimum + your own) high standards is NOT enough. If he’s not doing more than that, it’s time to move on.	MINDSET SHIFT	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/21 03:52 AM
274	How to Prepare to Leave	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/21 09:13 PM
273	Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/22 07:30 PM
263	Boundaries & Experience of Abuse	RED FLAG 🚨	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/07/21 11:46 AM
260	NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.	PICKME CULTURE	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/11/21 06:53 PM
255	Your Health Comes First	LESSON LEARNED	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 07:02 AM
241	“‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 06:57 PM
233	My Level Up Journey: You have to make space for blessings.	Story time ☕	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/11/21 05:36 PM
232	How can I ever forgive myself?	RANT	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/06/21 09:25 AM
219	Anger Addiction in Men	RED FLAG 🚨	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/08/21 07:41 PM
213	GASLIGHTING: Which tips/tricks did you teach yourself to combat (self-)gaslighting?	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 05:51 PM
188	Accountability & How It Gets Weaponized Against You.	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/07/21 10:22 PM
187	How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/09/21 01:13 AM
176	SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/09/21 04:11 AM
171	NVM/LVM & Social Functions	LVM LOGIC	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/08/21 06:19 PM
157	GUIDE: Boundaries & clearing up space for growth	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/09/21 04:12 PM
144	Do NOT ever commit to a man whom you are unsure of. He has to be 100% into YOU. Even though this may be a rumor for the sake of publicity, I feel sorry for Kourtney — she deserves much better than this.	PICKME CULTURE	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/22 10:07 PM
142	How to eliminate the trauma bond(s)?	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/21 03:36 PM
131	NEVER reveal your belief system/values/morals to a man in the early stages of courtship.	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/11/21 06:33 PM
127	He’s just not that good for you.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 10:38 AM
122	Questions on Social Media & Cyber Stalking	MALE DEPRAVITY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/08/21 11:47 PM
122	I am going through a traumatic event. Need support.	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/21 06:06 AM
117	I feel like I’m breaking and will not be able to crawl out. Please share any valuable resources that you may have	TRIGGER WARNING	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/06/21 11:22 AM
117	As a HVW, how do you combat feelings of hopelessness in today’s harsh dating climate? How do you stay positive, yet realistic?	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/06/21 01:07 PM
104	What coping mechanisms did you not know you had (or developed) after post-breakup reflection?		arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/10/21 01:29 PM
102	Need support. Going through a breakup and having a hard time taking care of myself.	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/06/21 08:01 PM
90	Struggling to Heal		arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/10/21 03:54 PM
73	How did you forgive yourself for staying after he hit you?		arnezuara	/r/askFDS	10/08/21 01:59 PM
69	Keep Your Silence	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/09/21 07:28 PM
63	Once comfortable with a vetted HVM, would you share some of your personal problems, traumas/health-related issues with him?	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/07/21 12:27 PM
60	Never subsidize a man’s lifestyle. Block and delete any man who’s unwilling to make significant financial, lifestyle, and legal advances to benefit YOU, first and foremost.	NAH, SIS	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/03/22 03:45 PM
50	How to let go of the guilt for being “too much”?		arnezuara	/r/askFDS	17/07/21 01:40 PM
48	NEED HELP: I’m going through a traumatic event. I need some support.		arnezuara	/r/askFDS	28/09/21 04:03 AM
45	Need help dealing with anger.		arnezuara	/r/askFDS	04/08/21 11:33 AM
44	Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His Friends		arnezuara	/r/askFDS	23/08/21 01:09 PM
26	You CANNOT afford to be soft-hearted with men. Treat EVERY man as if he is DANGEROUS. Until he consistently PROVES to be safe, invested, and HV, this man is a STRANGER to you. So treat him like one. Do NOT let terms of endearment or affiliation cloud your judgement.	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/09/21 04:27 AM
23	I am scared that things will turn to worse. How can I keep strong?		arnezuara	/r/askFDS	26/08/21 12:17 AM
19	Authenticity is the absence of having to make someone fit your narrative. If you’re forcing your “goodness” onto someone, YOU are the cause of your own misery.	REMINDER 👑	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/07/21 10:13 AM
11	Got ridiculed by a group of female friends (except one) for sharing a book. I bet they did not take the time to read the annotation in the first place. Although I do not regret it, I’m still disappointed.	NAH, SIS	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/05/21 05:07 PM
9	I no longer want to be partnered.	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 11:09 PM
6	HVM in TV Shows	FDS MOVIES & TV	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/08/21 12:09 AM
5	APPROVED COMMENTER		arnezuara	/r/askFDS	14/07/21 01:51 PM
2	Set the rule: If he’s still on dating apps after your [X amount] of initial dates, it’s time to ditch him.	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/03/22 11:27 PM
1	Best friend’s (HVW) boyfriend (LVM) got overly touchy with me on our SECOND time meeting. Not sure how to proceed.	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 06:26 AM
1	They would never want someone like them	MINDSET SHIFT	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/06/21 12:21 PM
1	They DO NOT want to be with someone like themselves	MINDSET SHIFT	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/06/21 11:53 AM
1	They would never accept someone like them	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 05:49 PM
1	Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.	PORN SICK, LIMP DICK	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/21 01:49 AM
1	Never be too quick to label any of his actions a “green” flag.	STRATEGY	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/11/21 02:58 PM
0	Was going through old conversations (most of them deleted) I had with my ex. I’m not heartbroken over losing him. I’m grieving the love I gave away for nothing. Trust your intuition & NEVER settle for this:	LESSON LEARNED	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/06/21 09:50 PM
0	They would never accept someone like them	NICE FOR WHAT?	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/06/21 11:29 AM
0	What are some tell-tale, early signs that a man has an avoidant (or, in general, an insecure) attachment style or an avoidant personality disorder?	DISCUSSION	arnezuara	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/06/21 05:10 PM