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| 37 | Bf looked up his ex on insta? Should I be worried?First, re-read the Handbook or visit our website for articles that refer to this issue. Second, leave him for good. To him, you’re just a temporary placeholder before he gets his ex back. Whether or not the latter will happen, you need to get yourself out: before he pump and dumps you or, worse, gives you an STD. This man is an insecure, immature cheat who uses women, including his ex, for ego boost and validation. Do not entertain him any longer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 08:56 PM |
| 62 | "If He Wanted to, He Would"He made a sexual, unflattering joke/insinuation when he was asked about Sofia’s auditioning process for a movie he directed (minute 2:23-25). He’s a LVM who happened to get lucky with her, simply because he has the looks, money, and works in the same industry. At best, he’s immature. At worst, he sees her as a prize to show off, nothing more. Albeit your relationship timeline matters, so does the person’s character. Them saying that you may be their “the one” holds no value if their intentions a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 08:36 PM |
| 240 | I didn’t listen to FDS, I got hurt.The hardest lessons should be the ones learned best. We’ve all been in similar circumstances to yours: isolated, starved for love, affection, connection. Only to be manipulated by abusive men. Predatory men take advantage of women who are vulnerable, just as you were. Now, when at your lowest, ensure to surround yourself with (preferably good women relatives and friends) people you trust. Stay away from men, at all costs, as I hope you do now. With time, you will recover and grow stronger. Be ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:16 PM |
| 47 | This level of betrayal from the person supposed to love, cherish and hold you sacred.In that case, I’d call it a balance 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 02:35 AM |
| 116 | Half the comments have sense, the other half are… highkey horrifyingThis infuriates me so much. It seems like OP is slowly waking up to the truth, good for her — hopefully, the situation escalates to her filing a divorce. A man being intentionally rough whilst “playing around” with you should be enough reason for you to leave right away. I’ve witnessed men “playfully” punching the air next to their girlfriends — it was frightening. It was intentional. If he ever does anything that will so much as inconvenience you or alarm your intuition, he deserves to be dumpe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 12:36 PM |
| 1 | getting closer to true 50/50 so he can also take a pill, men wanted 50/50 soOh, okay, I see what you mean now. Also, fecal matter? 🥴 Outrageous but I’m not surprised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 02:24 AM |
| 1 | getting closer to true 50/50 so he can also take a pill, men wanted 50/50 soMay I DM you to ask what else? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 01:19 PM |
| 69 | Ughhhh this excuse making ridiculousness. Sometimes it *is* that simple.“If he wanted to, he would” can be a dangerous narrative. A LVM can want to do something and actually do it. But, even if he does it consistently, he’s still inherently LV. Bad men rarely, rarely change, if ever. You can be the woman of his dreams and he can believe this wholeheartedly — still, he would have to uproot, as well as challenge, his core beliefs and values to be better. Women should not be so hopeful a man will change for the “right” woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Can Anyone Help Explain This to Me?This comment, 100%. OP, just because someone does something good for you, does not mean that they have no vested interest in mind. She ‘helped’ you for the ego boost, she’s now trying to tear you down for the same reason. It’s best to cut her off, or to at least start grey rocking her. She will only hold you back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 02:25 AM |
| 61 | 39 Domestic Violence Lethality IndicatorsA HVM will be very careful and very gentle with you, at all times — consistently. Any other man, who acts differently, is a hazard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:51 PM |
| 83 | 39 Domestic Violence Lethality IndicatorsThey’re testing your boundaries. Even if they mean no harm, I’d cut them off right after. I don’t want to risk finding out if they’re violent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:41 PM |
| 229 | 39 Domestic Violence Lethality IndicatorsIf your boyfriend “playfully” (at first) pinches, shoves, grabs, or physically makes you uncomfortable — he’s slowly warming you up to escalation of physical violence. Run. If he so much as asks to choke you during sex, run. Never let these men stay in your life. Be judgemental. Your safety and well-being comes first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 12:24 PM |
| 29 | Like…I know it’s bad, but I didn’t know it was THIS bad.Men spit this nonsense because they can’t cheat, but want to. No woman wants to fuck them, so they’re angry. If you hear a man try get praise for doing the bare minimum, well… block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 07:30 PM |
| 379 | Why I DON’T EXPLAIN. On boundaries, disappointment, and self-shielding: You don’t have to explain to an emotionally abusive man why he isn’t allowed to hurt you anymore.A good man who values you would do right by you. He would try his absolute best to ensure that you feel loved, cherished, and safe. All else is smoke and mirrors. Great post, OP. This needed to be said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 03:00 AM |
| 11 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?I apologize for coming off too strong. Extrapolating your words was not my intention. I just wanted to defend my original comment — assuming that men have bad intentions should not be seen as negative, imo. FDS is a place to learn and grow, so I hope you’ll forgive my tone. Have a wonderful day ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 12:22 AM |
| 32 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?I stand by everything that I said. She doesn’t know him well enough to be so careless, college or not. Men are unhinged. You can never be too careful around them — especially because some of them are smart enough to hide their depravity well. “He didn’t even try to have sex with her” and? He deserves a medal now? Or just because he didn’t try to fuck OP, it’s now a green flag? You know nothing about his sexual discipline. LVM who have “game” have no need to get sex from you right away — they hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 06:55 PM |
| 102 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?Either way, don’t let this guy take up too much of your mental space. It’s been only two in-person dates. He’s still a stranger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 03:10 PM |
| 67 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?I think it’s his job to get in contact with you to check if you moved — you already have him your timeline, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 03:10 PM |
| 99 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?Exactly this. He has to walk the talk long enough for you to recognize a pattern — one that shows he’s committed to his values, that he has good character, compatibility with you, etc. You know nothing about his lifestyle until you spend enough time with him. You can’t get that long-distance, which gives him enough room to lie to and play you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 02:50 PM |
| 135 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?In all honesty, he sounds suspicious. Him pushing familiarity on you (meeting your roommates, asking if your mom knows about him, helping you clean, etc) should’ve alerted you. You revealed your address to him as early as two dates in. This is dangerous, you do not know this man very well. Remember: it’s easy for men to fake good manners. It’s easy for them to “spend a lot of money” on you if they have the means to or simply have a budget. It’s easy for them to watch you (on social media, ask mu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 02:41 PM |
| 30 | “If Kim Kardashian cannot escape this, then what chance do normal women have?” - Trevor Noah Breaks Down The Uneasiness Surrounding Kanye West's BehaviorHis whole career feeds off of drama and “dating” successful women. He’s just willing to do it for the sake of publicity, that is all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 06:59 PM |
| 38 | “If Kim Kardashian cannot escape this, then what chance do normal women have?” - Trevor Noah Breaks Down The Uneasiness Surrounding Kanye West's BehaviorTrevor also made certain comments regarding marriage, settling down, and the living arrangements. "I'm a big advocate for not living together ever, even if you're married," he revealed. "I think one of the biggest reasons people get divorced and relationships break up is because of this cohabiting bulls--t that we've come to believe is the way relationships are supposed to be." Coming from a man, this sounds suspicious. Such statements have a premise of cheating, “polyamory”, and so on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 06:57 PM |
| 32 | I sincerely hope the first TikTok here is not a real story. Had to attach some radfem clips at the end to cleanse my soul. When I was 14, I thought the way she did too. But I won’t let any libfem propaganda gaslight me any more about how the cycles of sexual re-traumatization are somehow feminist. 🥴These white, privileged women ferociously try to collect libfem brownie points for supporting the very industry that fucks over marginalized, poor women. Anti-sex work is not anti-women. It’s PRO-women. We need systems that help vulnerable women stand on their own without selling themselves to get abused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 08:49 PM |
| 91 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯These men marry women who would be of servitude to them. Of course, this doesn’t stop them from cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:59 PM |
| 295 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯These shallow idiots are the sole cause of their own suffering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:57 PM |
| 8 | how men really feel about women centering themSounds a lot like the group of vultures my ex brought me in. Everybody fucked everybody, figuratively and literally. Knowing they’re still at each others’ throats keeps me sleeping peacefully at night. It’s a bliss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 08:38 PM |
| 138 | how men really feel about women centering themNot to mention that their friendships are surface-level, void of loyalty, love, affection. They take glee in their dog-eats-dog mentality to fancy themselves tough. In reality, they’re hollow, having nothing but a fragile ego to feed at someone’s expense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 09:07 PM |
| 130 | FDS works: Why men refuse to pay for datesHe swiped on you because he swipes on everyone. More than enough reasons to leave the online dating spaces. Most men are unhinged, predatory, desperate. Yeah, I’d rather spend my time reading a good book or working out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 08:23 PM |
| 417 | FDS works: Why men refuse to pay for datesMen don’t care to vet women for basic compatibility before asking them on dates. They proceed to waste women’s time instead, insisting that she pays for herself. You know a guy is a low-effort scrote if he’s not investing his time to get to know the basics about you (hobbies, interests, etc.). Be careful, however, not to share any personal, identifiable information. Your privacy always comes first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 04:08 PM |
| 56 | From the tinder subreddit. I have no words.He’s trying so hard to shame her into letting him degrade her, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:26 PM |
| 404 | Fears confirmed. a 49 year old man in Poland has been arrested for the rape of a 19 year old Ukrainian refugee he promised to helpPredators flock to vulnerable women like vultures to blood. It should be common practice to keep men away from women in crisis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:24 PM |
| 44 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?As one of the commenters previously said, having Asperger’s does not excuse bad behavior. You have to be passionate about your happiness. Rude men won’t bring you any. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 07:01 PM |
| 176 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?It’s their responsibility to learn how to manage their symptoms, especially if they are dating (neurotypical or not) women. If they behave in a way that you find unappealing, quit breaking your head over whether or not they have Asperger’s. Besides, dating apps attract cheap men with no incentive to improve their social skills, albeit to some it may be a greater challenge — it’s a waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 05:13 PM |
| 5 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.Record and document his every try to compromise your employment. Ideally, this should be addressed through HR/manager once you have evidence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:52 PM |
| 85 | If men are the “gatekeepers” of marriage, then all the divorces and marriage breakdowns we see today, is their fault.These men marry to be serviced, that is all. They know they can always eat the cake, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 01:05 PM |
| 30 | In real life, he would have dumped her after 1m of a relationship, because a man would never truly appreciate and respect a relationship where there was no dating phase. It's too much of an easy win.These movies are trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 11:30 PM |
| 28 | FwB is worse than being fuckzoned. It's being fuckzoned plus friendzoned.They chase that ego boost, hence they love to fuck around with women who want more. Sadists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:54 PM |
| 141 | FwB is worse than being fuckzoned. It's being fuckzoned plus friendzoned.Men are fucked in their heads from all the porn they consume. They fantasize about raping, degrading, hurting women. Are you sure he won’t take the chance to hurt you? An fwb is a risky, risky deal. Block and delete them out of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 01:32 AM |
| 237 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.Vet hard, but stay detached. Safeguarding your time, effort, and physical (even non-sexual) affection is the key to the game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 10:58 PM |
| 32 | Finding out one of my “good” male friend is a scroteThe sooner you recognize that male “friends” can be a very real threat, the better. This is not to say you shouldn’t watch out for the women, either. Your guy (hopefully now former) friend is a rape apologist. He’d rape you if the opportunity presented itself. When men say shit like that, you don’t react. You walk away. You don’t risk retaliation on his part. You should not feel obligated to tell them what they already know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 02:05 PM |
| 40 | Finding out one of my “good” male friend is a scroteNot sure why this comment is downvoted. Before you argue your points to shitty men and clown yourself, they already know. They know they are bad, shitty people. Block and delete them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 02:01 PM |
| 36 | Scrote “jokes” about beating his gf upMost often than not, they beat women deliberately. They don’t ‘lose control’. So if he ever as much as raises his hand at you, shoves, pinches, or grabs you, leave. I overheard grown men brag about how they’d slap a woman ‘back’ gladly. Just admit that you enjoy beating women, period. Disgusting, fragile vultures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 07:06 PM |
| 102 | A 52 year old man I know admitted to me that he wants to go for 20-29 year olds 🤢🤮Change your password to a strong one, add an alternate email account to your profile, and install and MFA on it. Better safe than sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 04:27 AM |
| 1374 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a child“Spiritually married” lmao I hope she leaves this leech. Suddenly, her independence and agency do not sound so good to him, I wonder why. He expected her to foot all of the child-related expenses. And subsidize his lifestyle. Add status to his image. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 03:13 PM |
| 21 | Ia Zelensky a HVM?Exactly. Also, one has to be aware of the fact that they use his image to win the informational war against Russian leaders, government officials, and all of whom benefit from the regime (oligarchs, bureaucrats, etc). They do this to gain the necessary resources to advance their political agenda (one that the West also has), albeit part of it is to benefit the people who are suffering through the atrocities of war. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 05:44 PM |
| 53 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveGetting preyed on and sexually abused is not a measure of one’s intelligence. She has been groomed for at least a year. She internalized the abuse. Whilst it’s important for the victim to analyze and learn from such horrific experiences, the responsibility lies solely on the abuser, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:34 PM |
| 21 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveMen pray on vulnerable women. Women who grieve. Women who are depressed. Women who do not have their lives figured out and are struggling. That is why, when we are at our most vulnerable, we do not let any men or toxic women around us, romantically or not. Even when you feel like you’re happier but your boundaries are still shaky, do not give into the temptation to “try”. You have to date and deal with men at a comfortable arm’s distance. Never let any of them too close until they have a consist… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:21 PM |
| 5 | Never subsidize a man’s lifestyle. Block and delete any man who’s unwilling to make significant financial, lifestyle, and legal advances to benefit YOU, first and foremost.He’s stupid enough to tell on himself — it’s her cue to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:26 PM |
| 0 | Never subsidize a man’s lifestyle. Block and delete any man who’s unwilling to make significant financial, lifestyle, and legal advances to benefit YOU, first and foremost.Unless he proposes and she says yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:25 PM |
| 8 | Never subsidize a man’s lifestyle. Block and delete any man who’s unwilling to make significant financial, lifestyle, and legal advances to benefit YOU, first and foremost.Men like him always look for the next best thing to leech off of. She sure needs to adapt a ruthless FDS mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:25 PM |
| 57 | Never subsidize a man’s lifestyle. Block and delete any man who’s unwilling to make significant financial, lifestyle, and legal advances to benefit YOU, first and foremost.This woman is putting herself at a significant financial and legal disadvantage by letting this parasite feed off of her hard labour. You should not bend over backwards just to be picked by some loser who would happily fuck you over — or leave you at your most vulnerable. Always put yourself first. The right man will never hold your ‘selfishness’ against you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Learn to be SelfishYou’re welcome! 💗 I’m happy that you found it helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:47 AM |
| 74 | Learn to be SelfishExactly this, thank you! Having faith in your ability to stay true to your standards and self-respect will have any woman stay grounded, in almost any circumstance. It’s more than self-preservation. It’s your overall health. The most trouble comes when men try to rush us or pressure us into making decisions that do not benefit us fully. So it’s always safe to choose yourself first, before anything or anyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:47 AM |
| 5 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?No, you’re making a great point. Looking at someone’s past behavior can be indicative of how they will treat you in the present or future. So it’s always best to take it at face value and leave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:26 PM |
| 5 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Asshole. Yet, he told on himself, if anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?That’s a great way to put it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:21 PM |
| 6 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Yes, this comment exactly. At the end of the day, they can be very sleek with cheating. Especially if they’re tech-savvy, so you have to solely rely on your intuition. Learning to trust yourself above anyone else is a great mentality/ability to have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:21 PM |
| 22 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Usually if they passionately swear up and down that they did not something you accuse them off — they DID it. Stupid, stupid men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:15 AM |
| 19 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?These are all good ones. At the end of the day, they can never be too careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:14 AM |
| 35 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Women know, they feel it. But they often gaslight themselves about it (whilst also being gaslight and punished by him to ensure she stays compliant). That’s the hard part: getting yourself out of that haze. Out of that gut of feeling like something is going on, you don’t like it, but you can’t put a finger on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:13 AM |
| 28 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Yes, that’s correct. They’re addicted to the ego boost it gives them, among other things. At the end of the day, they’re insecure and extremely shallow people. However, not all men are careless about how they present themselves in the beginning. Most often than not, they’ll claim to be the opposite of cheaters, pretending they despise the mere idea of it. That, certainly, is the first red flag — a sign to get away from him as far as possible. Loyal people don’t have to brag about their ability t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:08 AM |
| 31 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?This! 💯 Takes time and practice to get to that point mentally, however. It’s hard to get the social and cultural conditioning out of our system — your anger has to be productive, your moves calculated and strategic, just as FDS teaches. However, more often than not, women feel like they need hard proof on them to leave. I really wish I’d seen a similar post last year, when I had a hard time picking up on my ex’s “odd” behaviors. I regret thinking well of him, to the point where certain (although… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 11:39 PM |
| 50 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Easier said than done, however. All of what you have listed is no doubt necessary to have in your arsenal as a woman. Nonetheless, you develop these skills over time. You have to also teach yourself how to swiftly recognize red flags and leave before things escalate, which is why I made this post. A lot of smart women can still get blindsided. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 08:02 PM |
| 57 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Don’t get caught up trying to figure out why he’s so shitty or what his game ‘really’ is. Just cut the cord right off. However this, too, takes practice. The more you do it, the easier it gets! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:59 PM |
| 183 | This girl's boyfriend objectifies and body-shames her vagina and redditors tell her he's just a pussy guy and it's a compliment. This is why you never ask relationship subs for advice; they are teeming with disgusting LVM/NVMI screamed at the “macaron” part 🤣 Nonetheless, he’s pornsick and depraved as hell. I hope she boots him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Heartbreaking. Wife wants to spend time with lv hubby v-day weekend, gets ignored. He admits he’s trash but doesn’t want her with another man“Went to his mom’s house for food… He was gone for a few hours… He came back home but said he ate too much and went to sleep…” He IS cheating. If a man wants to cheat, he will cheat. No location tracking would help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:31 PM |
| 25 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthWhen you start watching the media through FDS lenses, you realize that there are very few “gems” that promote our values. Everything else, however, is pure romanticized bare-minimum-abusive-manipulative bullshit that is constantly pushed to be normalized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:24 AM |
| 22 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayNaïve me thought that women could do me no bad. At best, they’d be passive, right? Wrong. A HVW would not blame you for having standards, boundaries, for being cautious. A NVW/LVW, on the other hand? She would want you bent on pleasing her. Women like that will gladly pimp you out and sabotage you — they take glee in knowing you’ll be used and abused, just like them (except, her abuse is different because she’s different — it’s more like ‘power’, you see). Some of them would love to see you hurt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:08 PM |
| 150 | He showed up at my door last nightThis is stalking behavior and is extremely dangerous. I would keep your interactions (if there will be any) recorded or documented. This post is why you should never let a guy you’ve been dating for three, six, or even twelve months know your address. Keep yourselves sane and safe. OP, stay vigilant and careful. If you feel like he could harm you, do unblock him but do not respond to the texts — if he threatens, take the proof to the police. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 09:22 PM |
| 152 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthThese men are all raised on porn, where you predominantly see women with Eurocentric features get degraded. They want to taste that piece of the pie, too. It’s disgusting. How they compare, triangulate, and abuse their own women only to go onto abusing a white one that they happened to get with, if that possibility ever arises. White women who think they’ll be treated above and beyond are naïve, oftentimes racist or colorist themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 04:57 PM |
| 146 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayHe cheats. He gets away with it thanks to your friend’s naivety and inexperience. He continuously exploits his gaslighting and intimidation techniques on her to keep her in line. Do not for one second assume that he will not be able to ‘go through with it’. He will and he does. There are plenty of pickmes, much like scrotes, out there still, fucking what they can get. Many of them love having sex with ‘taken’ men — it’s an ego boost. Tell your friend she needs to get the fuck out of that relatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:05 PM |
| 347 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayIf he’s not posting you, leave him. If he doesn’t like your content or does not interact with you on social media (so as to not leave any traces), leave him. In some cultures, you can’t post or make the relationship ’official’, unless the two of you are engaged, or even married. In this case, if he’s not genuinely enthusiastic about introducing you to his parents after an appropriate period of you vetting each other, leave. Always look out for the red flags. Always vet for his enthusiasm, integr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:05 PM |
| 42 | Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OKPregnancy and childbirth are very naturally risky. As you have stated — traumatizing, too. You can literally get PTSD from a very complicated, near-death childbirth. But these men live their lives, thinking that, since their mothers gave birth and are “fine”, so will their spouse/partner be “fine”. They refuse to admit that women do not live their lives on an “easy mode”. Meanwhile, older women don’t talk about how births and childcare has affected them physically. They don’t share that with men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 01:58 PM |
| 11 | al i can say is… jfcThank you for letting me know, I corrected it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 01:39 PM |
| 171 | Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OKExactly. They rape their wives on hospital beds. ANY man who dismisses or devalues a woman’s pain will eventually rape, batter, or kill you. Especially if he talks about women being “naturally” made to give birth — run for the fucking hills. That’s your FIRST clue, if nothing else has came up. I remember my ex saying that I am “bitching” about pre-/post-natal health complications that women go through (sometimes, for years, if not for the rest of their lives). He made a weak argument of saying h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:10 AM |
| 52 | Signs that your female "friend" might intend to traffic youMods, this article needs to be pinned — very important! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:00 AM |
| 11 | Don’t buy into indulgent couples content - especially around Valentine’s DayThe amount of men using their girlfriends to cheat is immaculate 🤡 They will use and abuse anyone, just to get more pussy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:38 PM |
| 132 | al i can say is… jfc“I still hookup with other girls, but not in front of her” — YEA, right. I smell bullshit. No one wants this entitled scrote. I hope his FWB ditches him for a better option. The latter at least would be pleasant to look at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:27 PM |
| 35 | What we can learn from Tinder Swindler & a field report on current dating appsI can only imagine how many men, having watched the movie, salivate over scamming women the same. Granted, most of them do not look the part — this guy was well-groomed, clearly put effort into his fake persona. Your regular stinky scrote thinks he’s entitled to a woman’s body, money, and labor — so what if he has a disgusting ‘dad’ bod, bald spots, no personality, lack of career, and immense debt? Of course, they flock to dating apps, hoping to find some desperate woman with little experience a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:24 PM |
| 2 | Back into dating after healingTHIS, OP! Setting boundaries is leaving at the first red flag. Not telling them what they need to do for you so you can tolerate them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 01:32 PM |
| 57 | Comments tell her to "commUNIcate", OF is Not BAdThe longer you tolerate the abuse, the more susceptible you will be to gaslighting yourself about “relationship issues”. It takes time to come to this point. I’m sure she’s used to people leeching off of her, and I see that she desperately needs FDS. She needs to leave this guy before he puts her into more debt and escalates the abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:53 PM |
| 37 | Trafficking disguised as dating or job offersGreat, great post! Thank you, OP. Some of this information was new to me, so I’m very glad I read all of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:44 AM |
| 13 | The Phantom Ex - when avoidant men pine for a past loveIt’s a manipulation tactic and they KNOW it! They use this “alone” time to cheat on you with their side chicks. They use it to do drugs, buy porn, or fuck their life away doing whichever ‘hobbies’ they claim to have. These men should be avoided at all costs. They’re not harmless, by ANY means. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:29 AM |
| 13 | Men say they don’t want whores for wives but in the same breath will say they expect sex in return for a $35 meal on the first date. I mean why else would she be going to this strange man’s house?Now, more women are leaving these spaces. From all the harassment and abuse that we have to deal with on the app, to the online dating industry’s shady use of your personal information/photos — women are getting FED UP. It’s not worth it anymore because of all the junk that’s on these apps. Seriously. You just can’t get enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:26 AM |
| 14 | PSA: Tinder will stop showing your account to people nearby if you're inactive for several days, so don't fall for "I deleted this app ages ago but didn't know I need to deactivate my profile separately!"Exactly why I stay off OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:08 PM |
| 167 | PSA: Tinder will stop showing your account to people nearby if you're inactive for several days, so don't fall for "I deleted this app ages ago but didn't know I need to deactivate my profile separately!"You snooping on him vs him snooping on you are two different things. For us women, it’s about self-preservation. For men, it’s about control and terrorizing us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:08 PM |
| 129 | Men say they don’t want whores for wives but in the same breath will say they expect sex in return for a $35 meal on the first date. I mean why else would she be going to this strange man’s house?These idiots think they’re putting women in “their place”. Just wait until most women wise up and refuse to give men any attention, let alone go on dates with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:04 PM |
| 118 | The Phantom Ex - when avoidant men pine for a past loveMost avoidant men are not just that — ‘avoidant’. They come in a package with assaultive personality. Most of them are well-capable of emotionally, mentally AND physically battering the women that they’re with. Whether by verbal abuse, cheating, or physical assault — all of it is a form of battering, only in different forms. RUN. RUN. RUN. Block and delete all of them! AVOIDANT MEN ARE ABUSIVE MEN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 02:18 PM |
| 56 | The Phantom Ex - when avoidant men pine for a past loveThat is WHY — if you ever sense even a whiff of such delusion — you have to run. Let these idiots figure it out on their own, with no one to fuck, use, and abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 02:15 PM |
| 430 | I don’t know what to say other than ewwwww!Misogyny is one big cult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:47 AM |
| 258 | Spotted this ad under "housing" on craigslist 😬He’s looking for someone to use, abuse, and rape. This should be crime enough — taking advantage of young women in vulnerable circumstances. I hope this creep gets reported. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:28 PM |
| 54 | TW: public harrasment of a young woman. Rejection is so hurtful to men that they seek revenge from women. And assisting them is not just men but whole families, pickmeishas, who raise these men and blame women.She’s still a child herself. She did NOTHING to deserve any of this. May she have a steady, peaceful recovery. I hope they all leave her alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 09:26 PM |
| 21 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.Oh, ofc. All of these fuckers are abusive and selfish themselves. That’s why it serves to block and delete all of them, at once. That is what I did when my NVX and I broke up. It was easy because I wasn’t too close to them anyhow. You never truly get attached to these lifeless soulless people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:25 PM |
| 80 | Almost every comment is telling her its none of her business, don't get involved. Not only would I tell her immediately, I would convince her to dump him 💅The thing is, her friend’s man knows that his girlfriend is unhappy — that’s why he’s proposing. To lock her down before she leaves him for good. OP needs to tell her friend that it would be a mistake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 01:39 PM |
| 246 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.The reason as to why I did not pick up on all the clues that were in front of me (about my ex’s NV character) was because I was preoccupied with how to solve “our” problems. I was too concerned, ruminating over certain things he said, trying to make sense of them. I should’ve just left. Women should start getting comfortable with quitting. With cutting people off. You’re not a bad person for leaving a bad person. That is called self-preservation. Whether or not someone else will think it was fai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 01:31 PM |
| 193 | Love it when a friend reminds me how much OLD sucks. I appreciate that he showed himself so quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 02:29 AM |
| 199 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄They took the first sentence in the title of one of my posts and removed the rest of it. Lol. The fact that they’re even making a video bashing the sub speaks how astronomically delusional they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 02:26 AM |
| 8 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I am so sorry to hear you’ve been grieving — losing another woman to something so horrific breaks all of our hearts. I wish things were different for her. God bless her soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 03:37 PM |
| 84 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I was literally watching her TikToks the other day. She received a law degree and was so incredibly smart, successful, and pretty. I am so incredibly sad. May she rest in eternal peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:03 PM |
| 58 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?It’s a control tactic. They’re testing you to see if they’ll catch you cheating or doing something that they can later use against you. Run from these men. The moment he shows up unannounced is the moment you should know: he’s dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:27 PM |
| 620 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?There is a reason as to why we say that all men have is the audacity. Most of them — especially losers — attempt to go for any woman. They’re desperate, lonely, and know they’re unfuckable. Even the handsome ones — they might get fucked once or twice, but once a woman takes a look at how ugly their attitude/personality is, she won’t stick around. Needless to say, the men who attempt to pursue you are not a reflection of your beauty or worth, imo. Keep doing what you’re doing: rejecting leeches. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:03 PM |
| 39 | Dating someone I like a lot but starting to feel insecureIt could be your intuition telling you to get the hell out. Maybe he’s making indirect comments about your weight/looks. He’s likely begging you. Ditch him and keep yourself safe until you feel confident in your standards, boundaries, and self-worth. Low-self esteem is a recipe to get screwed over by scrotes. They will use and abuse you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:12 AM |
| 105 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationEw. Hope men like him die alone, in their dirtiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:48 PM |
| 198 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationShe feels like she has no choice but to justify his existence in her life. It’s sad but I hope she ditches him soon. Guys like him are lazy, abusive, negligent scrotes who know what they’re doing. They are the types to never watch their kids or do anything around the house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:46 PM |
| 9 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.Men always contact any woman who gave them the slightest bit of attention. They hope that you’d be desperate enough to fuck them or reciprocate some attention. It’s very funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:53 AM |
| 6 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.Oh, yes, especially the last couple of paragraphs! Honestly, I wish someone could just crush each one of these abusive, impulsive, assaultive, awful people — serve them a good deal of justice. Repeatedly. To keep them away from normal, secure people. Exile them. Unfortunately, society does not have a fix for that. Yet. The problem is also, you can’t injure them (even if it’s minor) without them making a huge deal out of it and going on a rampage (smear campaign, etc). Yes, they preach to the cho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 10:57 PM |
| 8 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.You’re welcome! 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:21 PM |
| 40 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.Cheaters and narcs (often are both) are so pathetic. They’re so scared their partner will do them dirty and shatter their fragile ego. That is why they’re incapable of truly loving someone — it takes a certain level of selflessness, to care for someone other than yourself, which they cannot do. They still get attached, though, and they resent you for it. For making them dependent on you. They try to mask it first, then start degrading/devaluing you, either up front or behind your back. They star… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:37 PM |
| 123 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.This man did not level up — he stayed a piece of shit that he’s always been. The only reason he is (for now) treating his new wife/family better is because he’s invested in his illusion of having an “ideal” (second) wife/family. He’s doing this to spite his ex, maybe even his kids. He enjoys it. The moment his second family does something that he doesn’t like, he will be quick to degrade, devalue, and DITCH them just like he did with the first. A true level up is when you recognize your mistake … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:09 PM |
| 180 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.Exactly. With men who are seriously lacking in empathy, integrity, and generosity, so much resentment builds up. Always leave them the moment they don’t serve your best interest and don’t treat you as a priority. Let them perish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:04 PM |
| 43 | I walked away when my needs weren't metHe meant to say: vulnerable situations, not awkward. This guy is a predator. I’m sure there were subtle red flags before this, that the OP could’ve missed. Next time, do not ask men about “where this is going” (the smart ones will lie) — if they do not bring up the exclusivity (serious, monogamous relationship) talk by an X month mark, block and delete. If you feel like he’s dragging his feet with you, he IS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:00 PM |
| 106 | No second date, so he wants moneyThese idiots ask any woman (that they can get) out and then complain about their “wasted” money and gold-diggers. Make it make sense. They don’t want to spend their time vetting you (like you vet them) for compatibility, they’re simply trying to have a cheap, quick fuck. These clowns should just start dating each other instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:35 PM |
| 171 | No second date, so he wants moneyIt seems like there’s been a wave of those recently — I’m sure RP advises men to request their money back if you don’t put out. You can charge him $60+ for your time, makeup, and effort getting wasted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:30 PM |
| 6 | A forever girlfriend I metTHIS 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 04:37 PM |
| 63 | Taking “breaks” before holidays.Also: Even him starting an argument seemingly out of nowhere, then “taking [his] time to cool down”, is done to conveniently cheat on you. Block and delete any man who tries to pull this on you. They’re trying to plate multiple women, & each one of you is just collateral damage to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:44 PM |
| 230 | Why I’m against strip clubsDitch any man who claims he’s been to strip clubs with his buddies. He raped these women for money & he loved it. You’d be surprised how many men are stupid enough to give out this information to a woman — especially if she sounds like she’s simply curious to know. Playing the dumb fox. These idiots are so used to libfems, they let their guard down so easily. Rip them in pieces, block them, shame them. They’re so disgusting. So insidious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:38 PM |
| 105 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Western, European or not, men will be shitty and abusive across all cultures. However, in cultures where patriarchy is still quite (overtly) rampant to advance men at the expense of women, so is misogyny. A lot of western women who were raised outside of these cultures, fall prey to these men, who take advantage of their naïvety and lack of knowledge/experience in general, but especially with men who come from his background. Dating an “atheist” or non-practicing Muslim man, for instance, will g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 01:51 PM |
| 20 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 01:39 PM |
| 29 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?Boys who choose to sympathize with their abusive fathers, growing up in violent households, end up to become abusers themselves. Him healing his childhood traumas will not solve his abusiveness. His violence and terror against women is the problem of his values. Many of assaultive men never change. So, always, always leave at the first sign of disrespect/inconsistency/other red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 12:31 PM |
| 16 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?Donald Dutton, “The Batterer” — a must-read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 12:03 PM |
| 61 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?My ex would throw punches at me (in the air), randomly, like when we were waiting for the elevator, both just standing next to each other. I would repeatedly ask him not to do this, but he did anyways. Also, no one mentioned here the other type of anger — quiet one. Where you can literally feel his tension in your body. He’s silent, and his face is very serious. It’s all very scary. Always leave at the first red flag, no matter how small. Always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 12:01 PM |
| 139 | A quality 1ct diamond can be over 10k, BUT Reddit society agrees that $7500 on an engagement ring is INSANEThese wannabe abusers cannot wait for a chance to use something against you, to degrade and devalue your worth as a woman. It’s so pathetic. Women need to wise up and ditch these idiots for good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 02:32 AM |
| 36 | 🤮🤮🤮🤮don’t do this!!! Have some self respect. No thank you.Them enjoying all the pain and distress they willingly bring upon you screams sociopathy to me. These emotional/physical terrorists should be rightfully jailed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.Even though LinkedIn is a public platform, it is not Reddit. Stay safe and stay careful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 01:06 AM |
| 155 | A quality 1ct diamond can be over 10k, BUT Reddit society agrees that $7500 on an engagement ring is INSANEI pray she leaves his ass. She’s better off dating someone else who’s more generous, financially savvy, and makes more than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 12:58 AM |
| 157 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.Next time, make sure to hide her/kids’ faces and names. A lot of incels browse this sub, you wouldn’t want this woman getting stalked or worse, be bullied on the Internet. As for her commentary on managing work/childcare, it saddens me to see so many women gotten played. Having children with a man sounds less appealing as days go by. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:07 PM |
| 28 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsWomen should care about both, tbh. If he’s not physically strong and healthy, we don’t want him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:20 PM |
| 15 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphs👏🏻 This, precisely. I do not want to put my photos and other personal information on public display, especially on dating apps. It’s extremely intrusive, which I, being extremely private, do not enjoy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:18 PM |
| 42 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!Exactly that. They are yet another pathetic bully, who will pimp you out at any moment for a whiff of some male’s validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:00 AM |
| 43 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!Glad you got yourself out of this mess early. Men can’t be trusted, especially when you’re very vulnerable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:58 AM |
| 27 | Major cognitive dissonance - what is the mechanism behind LVM mistreating women “out of their league?”To put it simply, they do it because they can and want to. Why cherish that woman, when you can break her self-worth down? Why strive to be better and “measure up” to her, when you’re the man and “women need to be put in their place”? Don’t waste your time with insecure jerks. Don’t try to understand them. Whether you do or not, it does not matter: he will mistreat you — and any woman after you — regardless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:56 AM |
| 125 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!It makes it worse. They push these young, naive, and often drunk college-aged women into the hands of violent rapists. How will this make her feel any better? Her boyfriend was a piece of shit who couldn’t make her cum, but now you’re exposing her to STDs, rape, battery, and everything else that comes with “casual” sex. Make it make sense. Some women should keep their mouths shut and mind their own business. But “proud” pickmes are often the loudest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:14 AM |
| 175 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!Pickmes want you to be used/abused. In their eyes, no woman should escape such fate. If they can’t be better than you, they will try to bring you down with them — that’s their mentality. So, cut these women off if they’re too far gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:13 AM |
| 299 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!The saddest part is that so many women have been brainwashed to perpetuate this mentality. One good example of this would be a group of girlfriends encouraging their newly-single friend to fuck other men. They do not understand that a woman is at her most vulnerable after a breakup; she needs to be kept away from men (and toxic women), not be made a lamb for the slaughter. Hopefully, more of us will continue to wise up and choose peace over men’s willful negligence/abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:06 AM |
| 9 | Today I watched a scrote make a pickme pay for all the groceries and then load them into the car herselfI pray these men end up and stay single forever. If you’re a disrespectful piece of shit, you should be kicked out of the dating pool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 03:59 PM |
| 4 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsA year is long enough to gauge his character. Just because he does the bare minimum, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t do some shady shit behind your back — he will soon start treating you the same (if not worse) his scrote-friend treats his girlfriend, to your face. If I were you, I would leave him and start anew. He’s likely not worth the trouble/time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:22 AM |
| 74 | Today I watched a scrote make a pickme pay for all the groceries and then load them into the car herselfI get disrespecting, vile men checking me out while they’re with their girlfriends. I pray to god that these women see the light and level up/leave their useless, soft-dicked boyfriends. Women need to collectively wise up to men’s mistreatment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:17 AM |
| 49 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsYour intuition is right. You wrote this post for a reason — like attracts the like. His friends are as shitty as he is. Most men prove that to be true, after you spend enough time around his circle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:05 AM |
| 2 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceIn fact, our bodies and minds reject most of these men so often, we end up thinking that having zero attraction and chemistry with a man is within normal. We’re constantly bullied out of having high standards. Out of looking out for our own best interest. Nah, let women desire men who are generous, attractive, and courteous. Men who have integrity. I can now be sure that if a man, no matter how appealing his persona/attributes/courting are, shows a wiff of a red flag — I’m instantly out. My heal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 02:25 AM |
| 79 | The average LVM posing as HVSince when being loyal is a personality trait? It’s the bare minimum. These imbeciles should get over themselves. “Don’t cheat” = tries to, but no one’s willing to fuck him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:00 PM |
| 3 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceThis is a great breakdown of what can happen if a beautiful, graceful, and intelligent woman gives some abusive bum a chance — he will put you through hell, continuously traumatize and degrade you. It’s not worth the trouble. Easier to just let the pickmes have him. It’s hilarious, though, when these men notice you reject others & decide that if he plays hard to get with you, you will get hooked on him, lmao. Some men are aggressive, others are simply pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:16 PM |
| 7 | If He Wanted To, He Would 💍So, if a man dated/pursued other women (therefore, did not prioritize dating/courting you), it meant that you would block/delete them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:23 PM |
| 6 | If He Wanted To, He Would 💍Could you please send it to me as well? I’m curious! The ring looks absolutely gorgeous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:12 PM |
| 2 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneBest of luck to you ♥️ I hope you find someone who’s consistently HV and dedicated to making you happy. Be mindful of the men you let into your life — most of them are not worth risking your health, both emotional and physical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 05:42 AM |
| 7 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneMen know how to pretend. They do it for years. Don’t be so quick to assume he’s not manipulative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:28 PM |
| 12 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneYou came here to learn or be defensive about some old guy who’s likely trying to play you? He paid for your dates, spoke well of himself, said he wants kids, and he’s “not like [your] ex” — that’s all it took for you to label him a HVM? It’s not enough. Talking to him since October doesn’t mean sh*t, if he’s a walking red flag. Multiple people on this sub will tell you that he’s not a good option for your own sake. Do listen to them, or you will end up a single mother (or worse, a wife) forever … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:24 PM |
| 12 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneI stand by what I said. He’s not to be trusted, given: the age gap, potential future-faking (seeing you every day, dance lessons), and his location (traveling/not residing where you are). This man has all the cards to play and cheat you. Instead of dating at the moment (after your breakup), take the time to study FDS more before you jump back into talking to/dating other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:18 PM |
| 19 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneIf he doesn’t live in this country, why is he dating there? Some men date women in multiple cities/countries for the sake of their own convenience/free sex. Plus, he’s a decade older than you. FDS is largely against age-gap relationships, as older men tend to be manipulative and predatory if they seek women much younger than them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:02 PM |
| 13 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneYou’re talking since October, but your post states that you broke up with a LVM a month ago. Your post literally says: “And now he wants to see me every day.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:00 PM |
| 34 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneSounds like he’s love-bombing (please read posts/guides on this matter) you. A normal man wouldn’t be jumping to talk to you about kids/marriage so early on. Furthermore, he will not be spamming you to see if he can meet you every day. You’ve only been on one date with this man, so don’t get ahead of yourself — he’s a stranger to you, ensure you treat him like one. Don’t be so quick to label someone HV, you literally do not know them that well. Calling someone HV is only possible after thorough,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 06:44 PM |
| 18 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceCan agree to everything mentioned in this comment. Simply by showing up somewhere with a man, you will get other women’s (and men’s) attention on him — pickmes will try to fuck him behind your back (whether or not you advertise/share details of your relationship), simply for the ego boost. They love to play side pieces because they enjoy the act of bullying you, his primary partner. They revel in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:40 PM |
| 159 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceHonestly, every time I see her posing for the photos with him, she looks tired and sad. He’s a NVM. Just by looking at a woman’s expression and overall state, you can tell whether or not she’s happy with her partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 02:45 PM |
| 27 | Need some advice regarding this guy I'm talking toDrop him and move on. He’s a lost case. Continue building your rotation of men to vet and never pick favorites. | /r/askFDS | 10/01/22 11:40 PM |
| 44 | You can be happier and more successful as a single mother! My second chance story:I am so happy to see that you’ve managed to, through hard work and dedication, make a better life for yourself and your children. It’s worthy of endless admiration. Unfortunately, too many women fall prey to men like your ex husband. I hope they, too, find their way out ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 08:23 PM |
| 129 | The lack of self-awareness is astounding 🥴A pervert looking for validation from other perverts. Nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 12:04 AM |
| 30 | Red Flag: Men with feminine voices.Same with big dicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 08:25 PM |
| 173 | Never accommodating disrespect in 2022 💕It’s self-preservation. A lot of women do not view boundaries and standards as an absolute must in their safety arsenals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:25 PM |
| 116 | How to vet for emotional availability using 'bids'Bare in mind, any man who can be classified as having an Dismissive Avoidant attachment style should be avoided at all costs. I would even go as far as say that a large portion of them tends to be abusive, prone to cheating, battering, etc. — their behavior will later escalate to more mistreatment. Most men lack the necessary introspective skills to address such relational shortcomings within themselves. Your secure attachment will not cure, cushion, or re-direct his incompetence, negligence, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:21 PM |
| 90 | A mother is concerned when her daughter comes home from her boyfriend's house with clear slap marks on her cheek. Pornsick Redditors tell her its sexually empowering, and she agrees. This is the state of women in 2022.My god, this is insanity. I hope her boyfriend gets shit slapped out of him, too — for putting hands on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 09:16 PM |
| 75 | Husband cares so little about pregnant wife who has an immune disorder & lies about wearing a mask & social distancing, forcing her to leave the home because he can’t be responsible. Poor woman.This poor woman. So many like her are conditioned, abused, and gaslight into thinking that NORMAL, COMMON SENSE anger towards their idiot husbands is ‘wrong’. I hope she leaves him for good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:02 PM |
| 84 | Do NOT ever commit to a man whom you are unsure of. He has to be 100% into YOU. Even though this may be a rumor for the sake of publicity, I feel sorry for Kourtney — she deserves much better than this.So many men date, then get spit back out into the dating scene. That is why OLD is such bullshit — a bunch of cheaters and liars are on it. It helps to keep in mind, that these men are also all around you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 10:34 PM |
| 50 | I keep blaming myself.I am sorry that you are going through this — it’s not easy to heal and move on from an abusive relationship that lasted years. Many of us on this forum have had similar experiences. Healing is not linear, but the more work we put in, the easier it gets with time (like handling drawbacks). Your ex’s girlfriend is dealing with the same bs that you were. Men like him do not change, ever. Give yourself permission to move on with grace. You were not the problem. He was manipulative and abusive. He wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:06 PM |
| 22 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?I might know of one, but not sure if what he tells is truthful. He’s surely better than most men, but is quite far from HV in my eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:23 PM |
| 51 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?This comment. No woman will ever make them act right. These men are fucked up beyond repair. It does not matter how good or beautiful of a woman you are — they will still put you through an abusive cycle of devaluation. That’s their default. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:37 PM |
| 8 | What are your standards when dating?He has to worship me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 04:50 AM |
| 399 | Would you date someone who doesn’t understand misogyny?No. If they refuse to understand it, then I want nothing to do with them. Why would I want to date someone who’s willfully ignorant and clueless? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:33 AM |
| 28 | Is the bar actually this low? That we are just so happy to find a guy who isn’t r*pey that we think they’re the one? 😐“I will cheat on you with multiple women in my head or irl or both lol” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 09:57 PM |
| 50 | LVM traits and pick-me behavior in popular romance books. Spoilers.This culture is grooming us to accept/fuck/date men who outwardly hate us. It’s disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 01:57 PM |
| 27 | No matter what anyone says, sex work has nothing to do with respectWow. That’s disgusting. Does this mean that anyone who’s been on OLD has their photos floating around still? I deleted my Facebook. Removed all the photos on my Instagram. I no longer share my life with people by posting my photos, afraid that someone would find a way to make use of them. It’s scary out there. I wonder how many scrotes took screenshots of my photos that they have archived to this day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 07:23 PM |
| 289 | My response when LVM try to triangulate with other women:This is something that women should take more seriously. Triangulation is not a harmless, insecure boy mind game, but a tolerance test. If he attempts to triangulate you, he’s a cheater. If he’s a cheater, he’s a batterer. Run. Don’t stay long enough to find out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:36 AM |
| 23 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?Your cat is so cute! 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 09:40 PM |
| 5 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?True, my ex sure was one. I hope they all perish or die alone, with no one to feed off of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 09:38 PM |
| 6 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?Same, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 09:37 PM |
| 67 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?Another sign I would like to add: he purposefully starts fights where he makes you the one at fault. Then, he “rightfully” takes time to “process” things (could be hours or days). During the time you think he’s upset with you, he cheats. So convenient! He conditions you to keep quiet. But also gets to have some time “off” during your relationship to freely fuck around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:39 PM |
| 14 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?My ex once called it as having an “emotional cushion” to fall back on in case things don’t work out with the primary woman. Weak cowards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:24 PM |
| 262 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?• He has a roaster of exes and former hookups (even old Tinder matches) on his social media. • You notice that he craves validation. Talks down on women who seem to be playing other men. • Does not post you on social media (even if he does, see if he has most, if not all, of his followers hidden from the stories). • Uses Snapchat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:43 AM |
| 16 | NEVER EVER assume that you’re the exception to the rule.They’re so manipulative. There is no sense of honor in them, only cowardice. So pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 07:03 PM |
| 19 | 'Tis the Season for Max Scrotatiousness... Ho Ho Ho!He did it on purpose, again, sabotaging her health and looks. He’s insecure about the fact that she’s trying to lose weight again. In his mind, less weight = increased confidence = she might wise up & leave. She should divorce this scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:08 PM |
| 15 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileCame here to say this, as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 06:43 PM |
| 167 | Compared to what women bring to the table, sadly money is really one of the very few things men have to offer 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️Honestly, even the money is not worth it at this point. Work hard to make your own bank, queens! But, of course, always demand that he invests in you financially, among other things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 02:35 PM |
| 148 | TW: sexual assault - So basically if they were the last two people on Earth, he's gonna assault her to reproduce. Most of the comments are just supporting his "point," and some are shaming the woman for not wanting to have sex with him.I could see the fear on her face. He escalated things so quickly, to intimidate her. He basically assaulted her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 02:27 AM |
| 12 | Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!Yes, this. I went into “discussing” my concerns with men on presumption that they will be understanding, empathic, and willing to compromise if need be. Never again will I negotiate my worth the same. If he does not understand, he’s helpless. Why do I need to stay in a relationship with someone who’s this way? It’s a waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 08:29 PM |
| 61 | Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!Honestly, if I ever find myself trying to explain something to a man, who refuses to understand, I’ll just leave. It does not matter how long have we been dating, I am out. Not being heard builds up so much resentment in you. I cannot afford it. My health cannot afford it. If he does not care to see my perspective, let alone prioritize my needs and wishes, what do I need this man for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 01:33 PM |
| 30 | Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!Yes, that is correct. However, I refuse the notion that men are ‘just stupid and don’t understand’. They do. They are well capable of understanding one’s perspective — they use it, when deemed needed, in a professional setting, with their bosses. If need be, they are charming and ‘understanding’ to advance their own best interest. Men do not see having a woman as a privilege, but something they’re entitled to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 01:25 PM |
| 31 | Emotional terrorists will put your life, health, AND beauty on the line.Love-bombing might look like someone constantly complimenting you or wanting to be around you, dramatic professions of love and devotion, or bombarding you with grand gestures or expensive gifts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 03:30 AM |
| 10 | Emotional terrorists will put your life, health, AND beauty on the line.You’re very welcome! I believe trauma does disregulate our system, on a cellular level. That is why they say that it gets stored in our body, as it has a memory of its own. Such “abnormalities” are not so easy to catch, as you mentioned, since they need thorough investigation by professionals with adequate/applicable expertise. As for the book, I believe I have purchased it. It is a good read! I wish I knew more books that could help point us in the right direction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 03:29 AM |
| 41 | Watch him say he isn’t interested in a relationshipIt is not a reflection on her. However, it is a reflection of her potential inexperience, naivety, and low standards. I believe a lot of women (late bloomers or not) go through this in their lives. What matters is whether or not they learn on their mistakes. Whether or not they try to do better and be more discerning, as hard as it may be in our oppressive, exploitative system that works to benefit men. You can still be smart and do your best at avoiding the losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:27 AM |
| 111 | If his friends are LV, then he’s a LVMYes, yes, a thousand times yes. He is no better, or may be even worse — you do not wish to stay around long enough to find out. A HVM would quickly remove himself from anyone who lacks good moral values, integrity, compassion, and respect for others. If you sense that a man’s friends are inadequate, immature, emotionally unavailable, and/or cunning people, it’s time to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:20 AM |
| 67 | Watch him say he isn’t interested in a relationshipI bet the sex sucks hard. Lazy LV/NV losers who use women as placeholder girlfriends suck at sex. They suck overall, but especially sex. They are desperate to lock down any decent woman, who would provide them with consistent sex/validation/status points, while they try to plate other women. Pathetic. More women need to wake up to this rampant abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:17 AM |
| 36 | Emotional terrorists will put your life, health, AND beauty on the line.Proper nutrition, healing your body, prioritizing your peace of mind will help you recover. Our bodies and minds are moldable, adaptable, and overall very impressive. Be patient and take your time to heal. Next any man or woman who makes you unhappy. The key to happiness! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:13 AM |
| 17 | Emotional terrorists will put your life, health, AND beauty on the line.I agree with the previous comment. If you are able to, proceed to get some blood work done, or see a dermatologist for further assistance. Drinking a lot of water (as well as avoiding alcohol), and slugging (skincare method) has helped me a lot. Best of luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:11 AM |
| 20 | Emotional terrorists will put your life, health, AND beauty on the line.As far as resources go, I wish I knew of them. Unfortunately, each of us would have to do the research, as this may vary from one person to another. However, I believe that doing the following would help start the recovery process: • necessary bloodwork, addressing any vitamin/mineral/antioxidant deficiencies; • making adequate, informed choices that eliminate the amount of (unnecessary) stress in your life; • learning new skills in trauma-informed therapy, improving stress-management techniques… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:08 AM |
| 214 | Emotional terrorists will put your life, health, AND beauty on the line.I would absolutely block and delete a man who attempts to bread crumb, triangulate, or low-effort game me. He does not schedule a second date on the first? Block. He does not reach out to me for longer than one day? Block. He does not seem enthusiastic about getting to know me (do not confuse with trauma fishing)? Block. He makes an off-putting comment or what could be a back-handed compliment? Block. He still follows his ex on Instagram? Block. He has a complicated relationship with his mother?… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:07 PM |
| 9 | The Adorned Woman is AdoredTruth hurts after all 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 03:52 AM |
| 37 | The Adorned Woman is AdoredHe was one of those crypto pseudo-broker bros 🤡 The level of clownery, honestly. It’s one thing when you pinch and save money, but when you gamble it away on pump & dump schemes? It’s catastrophically stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:19 PM |
| 110 | The Adorned Woman is AdoredI had an ex try to shame me for accepting my father’s allowance money and be let to buy gifts for myself, etc. He tried to triangulate me with other women, whom he knew were more “selfless” with their finances. I would buy myself nice clothes and jewelry since, at the time, I could not afford them on my own — my parents understood that it was important for me to dress and look good, so this was never an issue. I was never excessive with my purchases, either. Women on my mother’s side have always… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:05 PM |
| 18 | Bread Crumbing: We Have Too Much Food On Our Own To Put Up With It (FDS Art by Me)I’m loving this so much! You’re so talented 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 03:40 AM |
| 48 | 🎄👻It’s that time of year for the annual Holiday Hoover from your scrote ex, again! Beware! Don’t get sucked in by their sentimental bullshit!👻🎄Keep them blocked, sisters. Everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 09:35 PM |
| 115 | STOP investing in men too early on. You never truly know him until at least a YEAR of ruthless vetting.To clarify: you never truly know his intentions until at least a year into his courtship. The mask will start slipping, eventually. Make sure you see it the first time. Never stop vetting him, be it five or ten years after you become exclusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 05:29 PM |
| 36 | I'm going to sound ridiculous...Came here to say this, as well. Three dates is too early on to consider someone for your roaster, let alone a potential boyfriend. He’s a stranger. He’s only nice because he wants you to fuck him. Women who are knew to the dating do not fully understand the dangers of thinking that someone could be “the one” so early on — he’s very likely not. So you should not let him touch you, or even pick you up for a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 01:24 PM |
| 11 | A man you date can only be two things: a dating potential or a husband. In your mind, he should NEVER be considered your family.Exactly this. Women, who have no relation to them by blood, are collateral damage to them. Why should we not think the same? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:42 AM |
| 40 | This Christmas don’t be like me - Watch out for holiday lovebombingLife is too short to spend your money on a man who might be with you one day and gone the next. The severity of their mistreatment follows you for months, years, and even decades. It completely destabilizes your health, career, and academic opportunities. Being with a man is so risky, I literally believe they should kiss the ground I walk on simply for allowing them to be around, to court me. A man reaps the benefits of being with an intelligent, well-educated, well-dressed woman. I am that woma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:55 PM |
| 50 | A man you date can only be two things: a dating potential or a husband. In your mind, he should NEVER be considered your family.Exactly. Love this comment! Men do not deserve the benefit of the doubt. He has to work hard to keep the woman around or he will be left single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:37 PM |
| 29 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?They “don’t see” that it’s rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:36 PM |
| 39 | Reminder that 99% of the time, men who are part of all-male organizations are trash. Especially fraternities.They watch their backs, convinced that the whole world is out to get and crush them. Meanwhile, their brotherhood holds up that very system in place. They think it’s women who reap the benefits off of their ‘hard-working’ backs, when it’s the patriarchy. It’s other men. Fools. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:35 PM |
| 228 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..They want both the whore and the Madonna. Too bad, women are so complex — it’s hard to fit them in a single box once they start expressing their opinions, aspirations, judgements, and concerns. That is why, when in a relationship with a LV/NV man, you see how you slowly but surely start to lose value in his eyes: once he’s been around you long enough, you become more than a mere idea in his head. A human with free will. In their mind, they start sensing that you have the potential to hold power … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:30 PM |
| 124 | Reminder that 99% of the time, men who are part of all-male organizations are trash. Especially fraternities.I was at the bar recently and witnessed how one group of men acted around each other. It was absolutely animalistic, rough, and purposefully intimidating. They were trying to dominate each other in their homoerotic fantasy. That is what their idea of ‘brotherhood’ is all about. Men will watch their male friends batter, abuse, and rape you with their own eyes, but will not dare stand up to the mistreatment. Your boyfriends and husbands might one day let their ‘brothers’ degrade you — when (or if)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 07:16 PM |
| 990 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..Sure, she needs to be out, clubbing, every night because her ultimate goals is having a man, right? /s. Men are clearly uncomfortable with the fact that so many women see their uselessness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:26 PM |
| 203 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?Women get raped* by their husbands on hospital beds, hours or days after giving birth. They get pressured and coerced into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 04:01 PM |
| 391 | This Christmas don’t be like me - Watch out for holiday lovebombingEvery time you think of giving a man a present, buy something for yourself. Your presence and attention should be presents enough for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:56 PM |
| 604 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?It is so infuriating to see them ‘struggle’ to get their ‘needs’ met, whilst their wives, exhausted and depressed, are in charge of managing work, kids, household, education, etc. I became painfully aware of this dynamic when I got into my first (and only) relationship — I dreaded creating a family with him, knowing that, no matter how good a man seems to be, it’s always a gamble. All of that labour, that these men could take up, falls on the backs of their wives. I have seen this happen, time a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:05 PM |
| 134 | "Let's see where things go..."I knew a man who thought himself different for being upfront about not wanting to be serious 🤡 I was not going to waste my time on men who have nothing to bring to the table, so I blocked him. As a woman, you’re better off investing your time elsewhere. Plain dick is never worth the trouble, as well as all the risks, inconvenience, and much more that come with that tiny thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:21 PM |
| 2 | My Level Up Journey: You have to make space for blessings.Thank you so much! 💛 I would not be where I am now, if not for my family and many wonderful women on FDS who took their time to chat with, advise, and comfort me. Things just started getting better, so I am hopeful than ever. As for removing people, I am glad that you did what was best for you. People will talk one way or another - it becomes an unnecessary noise in your life. Anything that does not serve or benefit you deserves to be dropped! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:12 PM |
| 21 | This is too funny 🙄He was likely pulling a shit-test on you. Good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:58 AM |
| 167 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.Also, be weary of men who ask you not to get them anything for their birthdays, holidays, and the like. Some of them do not wish to feel indebted or “guilty” for your generosity and thoughtfulness. They want a justified reason not to reciprocate. They know they do not deserve even a fraction of what you give because they will be cheating on you during the whole relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:56 AM |
| 49 | I like the idea of dating but I don’t want to have sex. I feel uncomfortable talking about way.My god, I am so sorry you went through something so traumatizing. If you are not sure of the new guy, I suggest you block and delete. Block and delete your ex everywhere and anywhere you may think of, as well. The new guy might have done something for you to doubt him — your body and subconscious are telling you that he’s not right for you. Remember, you can take as much time to get intimate with a partner as you need, be it one year or the whole duration of the relationship itself. As bad as th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:15 PM |
| 210 | This is too funny 🙄If these men truly have so little free time, they should not be dating, period. As a woman, you’re better off single and focused on your career, financial security, and support network than with a man. It’s not selfish to put yourself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:20 PM |
| 4 | My Level Up Journey: You have to make space for blessings.Thank you! This was your body’s way of telling you: he is not healthy for you. I experienced the same during my former relationship. I started to rapidly lose weight after an instance where he got physically intimidating towards me: he grabbed my hand hard to “get my attention” during an argument. Then, I was home with my family, where I was witnessing a similar dynamic between my parents. All of that, along with my breakup later on, really damaged my health. Never again. Now I understand why it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:06 PM |
| 19 | FDS Fan Art! (by me)So pretty! I love it 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:00 AM |
| 108 | Avoidantly attached men like to pretend securely or anxiously attached women are “needy” when avoidants are actually very, VERY needy.Came here to say this, as well. Generally, people with avoidant attachment styles are extremely unhealthy for others, more so than those who lean towards anxious/secure. Men with DA (dismissive avoidant) attachment style are much, much likely to be abusive/assaultive than women. We already know that, in heterosexual relationships, with the male partner being the abusive one, women are at risk of losing their lives due to severe mental, emotional, and physical battering. Attachment styles are yet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:24 AM |
| 6 | My Level Up Journey: You have to make space for blessings.Thank you! I am sorry to hear that you’ve been going through a similar hardship. Early in the fall, I managed to get an appointment with a doctor, who prescribed me antidepressants (lowest dose) specifically for their side effects, one of which is increased appetite. I believe that was what helped me get back on my feet again. I weighted less than 80 pounds. Now, I am more than 90 (still a long way to go). I also figured out how to trick my mind into not feeling overwhelmed (followed by nausea) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:11 AM |
| 17 | My Level Up Journey: You have to make space for blessings.Thank you. All of what you have said may be hard to get into at first, if you are not used to it or do not have the budget for. However, once you commit to making reasonable, healthy choices that serve your best interest, your lifestyle will improve. Having a small social circle or being left with none can be challenging, but it will create space for new people — ones that will match your values and growth. Same goes for work, academics, and other aspects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 07:16 PM |
| 29 | Woman posts about her LVM in 2015 . . . and then updates SIX years later about leveled up lifeLove these stories 💛 So inspiring! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:49 PM |
| 338 | Young woman lives in a frat house with 6 young men and cleans up after themThe free labour that she performs for these filthy men could be put towards making more money. That money will give her an opportunity to get a certification, better wardrobe, skincare, or finance other bills. Your time should be spent benefiting you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:41 AM |
| 51 | Look whose reaction he wantsIf I could have another set of eyes on the back of my head, I would. So I can watch my suitor’s behavior when I am not looking directly at him or am not around. Men will look at other women, glare at them in hopes they get some attention, so desperate for an ego boost. It’s absolutely horrific. I would hate to be with someone that chose me for status ans pretty looks — all to rub it in his side piece’s faces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 03:30 PM |
| 19 | Him meeting your (FDS-approved bare minimum + your own) high standards is NOT enough. If he’s not doing more than that, it’s time to move on.Exactly, I am glad you added these comments to the post — they help give shape to what I was trying to convey. It’s worth noting that, even assaultive men, hate to be alone. Every heterosexual man seems to crave having a woman around. But most of them do not know (do not wish to learn) what to do with with that woman. They just go through the motions of general “maintenance” (being a “good boyfriend”) or abuse you, so as to keep you in line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 72 | Him meeting your (FDS-approved bare minimum + your own) high standards is NOT enough. If he’s not doing more than that, it’s time to move on.Yup! As mentioned in my previous posts, a man of integrity and good character (HV) should be: 1) authentically excited to get to know you; 2) direct and clear with his intentions towards you; 3) strongly committed to put your comfort, safety, and well-being above his own; One day, you will make his spouse/the mother of his children. Nothing else or nothing less would make sense to a good, HV man. You are his partner and his dear friend — you deserve to be cherished and made feel special in every… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:05 AM |
| 94 | Help me out of this spiralThat is a big no, please re-read the FDS Handbook. We do not go back in contact with abusive, manipulative, and assaultive men — god knows what trouble it may bring upon the woman if she decides to respond. In their mind, any response = reciprocation = action. It’s dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:43 AM |
| 680 | Help me out of this spiralFirst and foremost, you need to help yourself calm down. If you have some chamomile tea, brew and drink it. Get some warm blankets. Put something as a background noise — the sound of rain, for example. Then, once you feel ready, take the letter and, for each ‘good’ memory he mentioned, write a bad one above. He was abusive, manipulative, and downright awful to you — no ‘good’ memory can heal the damage he consciously chose to inflict on you. Make sure you take the envelope with the sender’s addr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:40 AM |
| 142 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?This, exactly. It is very unlikely for a man’s character to suddenly undergo a significant change. If he has bad habits, is emotionally unavailable and immature, his behavior will only get worse with time. Boot any man who mentions his ex or speaks badly of them. Most men are not emotionally or even logically capable of proper retrospection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?I get that a lot. Pickmes turn hostile (especially with men around), assuming that they now have to compete against me. I used to get upset because of it, but now it’s just mildly annoying, — I give them an icy glare and no pay no attention if I sense that they do not like me for bo apparent reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:31 AM |
| 22 | IMO, there's no fixed way to determine whether a man you're dating is actually good.This | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 03:35 PM |
| 157 | Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!“My boyfriend breathes. I’m so lucky!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 03:54 PM |
| 5 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMYup! Someone doesn’t have to be smart to be abusive. But, at the end of the day, he should be labeled just that: an abuser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:14 AM |
| 20 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMI understand what you are talking about. Some men are more cowards than others. Nonetheless, calling them simply dumb (unintentionally aware or not) uplifts the blame and responsibility that should be fairly placed on assaultive individuals (anyone who manipulates/coerces/controls). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:03 AM |
| 38 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMHe’s not dumb. He’s just more skilled at using covert tactics to manipulate and tear down the OP. His behavior is a big, glaring red flag. She needs to break things off with him ASAP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:38 PM |
| 38 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThe first point you made should have been enough for you to leave him (lesson learned). It will not get better. If his friends are shit, so is he. Trust me. He’s already cheating on you. Complimenting other women in front of you was him testing your tolerance levels. Now that he knows you passed his shit test, it will only get worse. Leave him for good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:34 PM |
| 150 | Which one of you is this aboutLmao. This queen 💅🏻 But, really, two orgasms? What a shame, why would he lie like that? Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:06 PM |
| 56 | Successful novelist wife writes a book on her lunch hour. Husband is mad.He’s not only jealous of his wife’s success, he’s trying to abuse her financially. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:28 AM |
| 88 | Why do guys tell you they don’t want a relationship with you but get mad if you date someone else? (long read and rant)They are misogynistic narcs who want to have their piece of the pie and eat it, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 06:31 PM |
| 144 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesIt’s almost as if they deliberately choose pornography with “performers” in it that have nothing in common with you looks-wise (or worse, you are nothing but a sexual fetish to them). Helps them stay detached. Helps them feel entitled to mistreat you (in and outside of bed). Helps them justify the abuse they inflict on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 10:27 PM |
| 61 | Is This A Case of Too Good to Be True?OP, you have to get comfortable with the fact that your observations are correct. They are valid. Do not downplay your decisiveness, intuition, and ability to spot red flags. It is okay to label men predators, abusive, etc — if you clearly see that it is reflected in their behavior. You’re not bad for not giving someone the benefit of the doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:33 PM |
| 246 | Is This A Case of Too Good to Be True?Run. There is a good reason as to why FDS tells women to leave at the first red flag. Any sign of disrespect, inconsistency, narcissism, or entitlement is indicative of emotional and physical abuse down the road. It never gets better. Block and delete him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:16 PM |
| 173 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.Block and delete. He does not have your address (to pickup for the date) or any other identifying information, correct? Next time, be sure to give guys your Google number and never share your address in the early stages of dating a man. Either way, he has clearly made you uncomfortable. He displayed a glaring red flag. You have to cut him off. Good for you for having a FaceTime first, he clearly told on himself, so you can ditch him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:10 PM |
| 5 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.Disgusting creatures. I will forever stay away from men like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:50 PM |
| 11 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.Yes, all of the above is simply the bare minimum. Any man who cannot meet these basic standards does not deserve another opportunity to meet you. Continue to vet ruthlessly & always leave at the first red flag/inconsistency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:49 PM |
| 3 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.Thank you 💛 It’s awful, but I am happy that all of them are blocked now. They are not good people I would want to keep around, let alone be friends with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:47 PM |
| 21 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.Delusional. Being toxic with men, if you are a woman, will only put you through more trauma, abuse, and manipulation. Some of these women think they can play a man’s silly games and “win”. HVW know that, no matter how smart you play, you will lose. You have to refuse to play along, block and delete — it’s that simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:10 AM |
| 164 | I’ve reached a point in my life where I advise my child free friends not to procreate with men. Exhibit a:Having kids in this economy and heterosexual dating culture sounds like an unnecessary chore. Women will soon start to collectively reject relationships with men and motherhood. Both only deprive us of our health, youth, and happiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 11:17 PM |
| 187 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.If a man is really into you, he will do his best to make the right impression: • he will plan dates according to your tastes and interests; • he will pay for everything; • if need be, he will travel far and long to see you; • he will stay consistent, respectful, and courteous; • he will be thoughtful and attentive to ensure that you feel comfortable and safe; A HVM will do all of the above simply because that is his default. He will understand that he will get as much enjoyment out of courtship … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 08:57 PM |
| 282 | Shawn Mendes dumped Camilla Cabello and called the relationship “stale and complacent”… this happened conveniently after she gained weight and publicly spoke about her cellulite, fat and stretch marks. Coincidence?She has been rejecting him for years. He was not taking “no” for an answer, only to dump her later. He is a narcissistic NVM. Good for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 08:29 PM |
| 52 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.It’s not even that — he generated increased “desirability” or “competition” between women to feel like he’s worth something. I was too naive and inexperienced to see it (to participate in it, to my ex’s disappointment). Pickme women do the same: they keep a string of exes, old tinder matches, guy “friends”, and other orbiters to convince themselves that they are whole. That it’s not them who have issues, it’s others! These men and women whore themselves out, unbothered by the consequences. They … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 08:17 PM |
| 63 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. The two of them deserve one another. I am sure both him and her are in an unhappy, toxic relationship. LV people who lack retrospection, empathy, and integrity never learn or grow to do better. It’s their personal tragedy. I was in the same position as you were — most of my own girlfriends (I do not have many) were very busy. I wanted to connect with other women, make friends. That set me up for disappointment — he was more careful than some men, keeping me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:34 PM |
| 62 | No. FDS is not about clapping back at men who neg youMy question was intended to be more of rhetorical, one, sorry! I do agree that these scrotes will do anything to boost their fragile self-confidence. Good thing that they show themselves so easily and publicly, though — the more they do this, the more women will reject them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 27 | NEVER reveal your belief system/values/morals to a man in the early stages of courtship.If he asks you such questions or attempts to subtly bring those topics up by telling a story, for instance, you know that he is gauging for your reaction (may be done in a variety of ways; such as checking the waitress out or liking a hot woman’s Instagram post in front of you). Your best bet is to play the dumb fox. Pretend you didn’t get it! Then, after the date, block and delete, or proceed with caution — he will soon show a glaring red flag. • “I don’t think I would like that.” • “That’s a g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:07 PM |
| 175 | Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the BurdenThey expect women to love them unconditionally — something their own mothers could not do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:39 PM |
| 133 | No. FDS is not about clapping back at men who neg youI ignore them, then block and delete later on. Why waste your energy on scrotes who attempt to bring you down? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:35 PM |
| 25 | Posted in reddit 'Made me smile'. The bar is in hell.I do not deny this, by any means. However, it’s important to remember that scrotes can recruit women (that they cheat with, ironically) to be your friend, keep quiet, help you, etc. — especially when you share a community/social circle. Never underestimate men, as well as women — some of them can be hardcore pickmes, who would love to throw you under the bus at any opportunity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 47 | Posted in reddit 'Made me smile'. The bar is in hell.Came here to comment this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:41 AM |
| 92 | If he wanted to, he would... another postThey will keep her around for social status, attention, validation, and other services. This will, of course, will not stop them from trying to cheat, to catch the next best thing. They’re so predictable. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:45 PM |
| 14 | This is the kind of stuff that really scares me😞I feel like in the end you never truly get to know the other person. Tw: s3xual abuse/text postNot everyone can be alone. She will learn this lesson the hard way, hopefully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:44 PM |
| 374 | Never beg a man to marry youNever make the first move on a man. Most of them are not fussy — they will say yes to any woman, if she’s somewhat decent (i.e., fuckable). Make sure that your communication (verbal + body language) is clear and direct: you are the one who has to be courted. If he does not make the first move and work hard for your attention? Too bad, next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:42 PM |
| 201 | If he wanted to, he would... another postTheir wet dream is a hot woman with low self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:58 PM |
| 167 | Do not date men who are “separated”.These men are broke cheaters. Or immature mommy’s boys who need a ‘nurse and a purse’. They need their emotional cushions to service them on demand. They need to get what they deserve: no entertainment from women. Let these men perish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:56 PM |
| 95 | Men will scream misandry when you warn women to weary of all men until proven otherwise. Then, proceed to say the exact same thing the moment their daughters or sisters start dating/working/entering high school! So GTFO!Not to mention that some fathers do the opposite. Mine, for instance, always preached that ‘money is not important’ — supposedly, I should only access a man’s character. It’s both. I am not risking my life birthing kids for a man who cannot support them. I am selfish, I want to have enough money to buy myself nice things, not only my children. Why should I expose myself to deteriorating health and career if I cannot enjoy motherhood? Why risk my well-being and settle for a mediocre man, simply b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:35 PM |
| 25 | This is the kind of stuff that really scares me😞I feel like in the end you never truly get to know the other person. Tw: s3xual abuse/text postMen and their attempts to condition you. So subtle yet so obvious. I hope your friend dumps his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 04:47 PM |
| 34 | Your commitment/attention should be hard-earned by men who want to court you.That, especially! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:49 AM |
| 239 | This is the kind of stuff that really scares me😞I feel like in the end you never truly get to know the other person. Tw: s3xual abuse/text postThis is why vetting never stops. God knows, there are a lot of sick men out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:01 AM |
| 50 | Your kinks aren’t quirky, this is abuse!She’s re-enacting trauma. The “dad” is a predator that needs to be jailed. Disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 01:07 AM |
| 722 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.The “spark” was not there in first place, he simply used her to get off, and now he’s bragging about it on Reddit. This is why a man should earn the opportunity to hold your hand, let alone have sex with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 09:45 PM |
| 28 | What do you think about a man opening up and telling you he goes to therapy on the second date?A lot of newbies still operate in terms of ✨fairness✨, forgetting that men are playing by their own, man-made rules. The dating playground you’re on is infested with entitled predators, who could care less about self-awareness or treating you like a human being. What applies to you, will not apply to them, and they will sure act like it. The OP clearly sensed that something was wrong with her date — she rightfully took it to FDS to see the validity of her intuition, only to have newcomers say th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:13 PM |
| 28 | What do you think about a man opening up and telling you he goes to therapy on the second date?Exactly. He is carefully testing her tolerance levels. It is but a facade, which he uses to lure good-hearted, empathetic women with. Being in therapy is a private matter, as is any medical condition you may be treating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 06:40 PM |
| 343 | Pick mes like this are the reason bisexual women have to hide our sexuality.Exactly this. We cannot help sometimes, but be in awe of someone else’s beauty — especially that of a woman. However, staring at her inappropriately makes a stark difference between the two. If you notice a man staring at other women in front of you, leave him right then and there. He is not only a creep, but a disrespectful, manipulative NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:47 PM |
| 38 | Let’s count the red flags together!He needed to choose a place that takes reservations and has enough parking spaces nearby 🤷🏻♀️ Honestly, I’m sensing that he could be lying about her being terribly late, all to get him some pity and justify his scrotacity. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorI have been thinking of getting myself involved in this line of work, or volunteering. However, I might not have the necessary expertise to get into it. What would you recommend I do, to be able to commit to it, besides all the readings? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorThank you for all the recommendations & making the necessary distinctions. I will make sure to read the suggested material — I am very, very impressed by your expertise, so I will look forward to see more of your comments. Once again, thank you for taking the time to explain it — it helps me navigate my healing journey, and which research is necessary. When I was reading more about trauma bonding, I was very surprised to see that it had relation to sex addiction. Now that you’ve described it, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 02:51 AM |
| 112 | "If He Wanted to He Would": Redditor builds door between rooms to give coffee to his wife while she's on work callsMost men can’t fathom treating any woman with gentleness and respect because, to do so, would be to recognize her humanity. If you see her as human, you will have a harder time justifying/not feeling guilty about the abuse and manipulation you will inflict on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:34 PM |
| 482 | Why do they keep normalizing this gross behaviour????It has always been “normalized”, though. Anything to ponder to men’s wants and needs. Women get actively recruited into accepting this vile mentality. It’s very unfortunate to see, how many of them have their youth wasted because of greedy, predatory men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:16 PM |
| 5 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorWhy do they need a “needless, protective mommy figure”, though? Do they always choose caring, empathetic women for it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 02:39 PM |
| 13 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorI downloaded “The Batterer” by Dutton, thank you! Read some of it yesterday, it’s very insightful. My ex was slowly escalating the abuse from emotional to physical — he breached a physical boundary of mine not long before things ended. Even though the incident did not leave me physically injured or in much pain, I still work through what happened in therapy. I confused empathy for love. I thought I loved him. He never held himself accountable for any of it. If he did, his ideal persona would cru… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 02:37 PM |
| 300 | Scrote says he’s not into casual sex while his OK Cupid answers communicate otherwise, he says “I made the profile a long time ago when my father was sick and didn’t have time for a relationship” and proceeds to show his clown nose.Block and delete next time, sis. Stop teaching men to manipulate the next woman. No need to flex your ability to read into his mind games — he knows what he is doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 12:39 AM |
| 21 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorCould you also recommend some literature that I can look into? The book called “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans has opened my eyes to what I endured. I have yet to find similar works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 09:29 PM |
| 28 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorI love your comments, thank you for taking the time to write them — they are incredibly insightful. One of them helped understand the dynamics of the covert-turned-overt escalation of abuse in my former relationship. The trauma-bonding that came with it is very real. It’s important to recognize their manipulative tactics for what they are: testing the waters for eventual battering of the woman they are with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 09:27 PM |
| 4 | becoming an older woman is the best in most waysI stopped going out earlier this fall after the spike incidents, but also after a “friend” of mine started encouraging me to “drink more” — even when tipsy, I look too serious and unapproachable to men at the bars, no matter the pretty face and a young age. I now realize that I was being groomed, encouraged to appear quite intoxicated. It would make your mediocre, average-looking predators and rapists more comfortable to approach. That is what my “friend” was suggesting: make yourself an easy pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:04 PM |
| 91 | Western males are growing less useful for society, so they are lashing out in odd ways. Thoughts?Came here to say this. It’s unreasonable to compare heavily patriarchal, archaic countries to the west. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:45 PM |
| 62 | Another stage of the vetting process- are they there for you in times of grief?They are not only empty, but powerless, so they try to take out their anger, their sense of inadequacy on others — especially their wives/girlfriends. They do so in private, for no one to see, unless their enablers are around, of course. Men like the one in the post deserve to die alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 03:17 PM |
| 143 | Homicide is a top cause of maternal death in the United States: Black women have up to nearly three-fold higher risk of dying by homicide than those who are not pregnant. This is why you have to stay EXTREMELY vigilant when vetting men!The article states: ”Pregnant women in the United States die by homicide more often than they die of pregnancy-related causes — and they're frequently killed by a partner”. I do not understand why this has not been brought to the public’s attention before — the connection between pregnancy and homicide has long been recognized by FDS. For POC women, the risks of dying by homicide are much, much higher, even if we take pregnancy out of the equation — that is why FDS tells women to be extremely ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 04:40 AM |
| 210 | "Being economically dependent on a man leaves you in a vulnerable position." - This is what the handbook looks like IRL. being tossed out like a rotten piece of meat while he goes out to groom someone your daughter's age.Men will deprive you of everything: money, career, academic opportunities. One of my relatives is quite successful. However, she would’ve made more money had she not let her relationship dictate her academic/employment opportunities. It’s extremely important you stay flexible and chose what is best for you only. A man who loves you and wants to be with you will follow. If not? His loss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 01:57 AM |
| 48 | ENTHUSIASM matters. If he does not show authentic excitement to court you, DROP him.Block and delete him if he so much as attempts to make a sexual “joke”/innuendo or touch you inappropriately. Some guys cautiously try to stay in the “gray” area, giving themselves the wiggle room to gaslight the women if she protests/calls them out. ”What it’s just a joke! I did not mean to make you uncomfortable.” - first date, block. ”I am sorry for asking to put my arm on your thigh. You’re just so beautiful.” - second date, block. ”Would it be okay if I kissed you?” - third date, block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 01:52 AM |
| 90 | ENTHUSIASM matters. If he does not show authentic excitement to court you, DROP him.Absolutely. A HVM would be enthusiastic about posting you, showing you to the world, as well as his friends. His social media use should be healthy, intended only for a vetted circle of family/friends to see. Even if he is not active on his social media, I would absolutely expect my suitor to post me on his accounts with my permission (once our relationship is official and I feel comfortable). Other women should do the same, in my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 11:13 PM |
| 40 | Really struggling today…(I’m proof that NVM/LVM will ruin your mental health)*trigger warning*I was in that same place as you are, quite recently. To be honest, I am still going through healing all the trauma and pain that men have repeatedly put me through, as they did with so many of us. It gets better, though. Once you start to ruthlessly, selfishly prioritize yourself, your happiness, your health. You go to therapy, exercise, invest, and organize your life to ensure that you have everything you need: stability, a better sense of safety, a strong support network. You can do this, sis!… | /r/askFDS | 13/11/21 10:53 PM |
| 118 | Anyone had a scrote try this on them?Abused and vulnerable women are the ones they intend to seek out — they are easier to use, abuse, and manipulate. If men know you have been abused, they get bold and treat you the same, if not worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:46 PM |
| 143 | ✨Truth✨Using a clit-stimulating toy and having a dick inside was a very pleasurable sensation for me. It is extremely sad that I missed out on all the orgasms because my ex was inadequate/insecure about it. He wanted his dick to take all the credit for making me cum 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 07:46 PM |
| 154 | Came up on my FB feed. Because there's nothing funnier than hitting women, right?Our pain and suffering entertains them. Most men just hate women with their whole, dusty, crusty, stern hearts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 07:40 PM |
| 17 | Does anyone have a pickme family member that is always in a dilemma with men? How do you handle them?Trauma bonding, low sense of self-worth, grooming/conditioning to accept less. It is evident she went through abuse in her relationship. Try to let her know that she deserves to strive for more than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 06:37 PM |
| 7 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.That is most men, unfortunately. Our society breeds narcissistic and psychopathic men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:33 PM |
| 38 | I experienced a switcheroo by a soft boy who ended up extorting my emotional investmentOkay, glad you clarified that you were careful. You can never be too cautious with men. To answer your question, just because he did not ‘seem’ like it, does not mean that his intentions were the same. Do not trust what he tries to show you in the first couple of months. Watch his actions, watch how he speaks, watch how he acts when he thinks you may not be looking. If he is inconsistent or you suspect something, recognize that your intuition picked something up, and vet even more ruthlessly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:50 PM |
| 48 | This is terrifying. Scrote at a thrift store tries to lure a 17 year old at to his farm talking about getting injured and needing help.I learned that most men will not care about whether or not you’re another man’s property, either. Never let your guard down. They don’t care, so long as you have a p*ssy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:29 PM |
| 214 | I experienced a switcheroo by a soft boy who ended up extorting my emotional investmentThank you for sharing your story. I would like to add the following. There should be no such thing as taking him seriously at a one-month mark. Of course, you should have this expectation for every suitor. However, if he becomes more stringent with his time, you simply walk away — he is either no longer interested, stringing you along, or manipulating you by shit-testing your standards/boundaries. Furthermore, there should be NO overnight trips either! Ladies, you have to follow basic safety rul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:20 PM |
| 18 | Dr Ramani has our back on setting boundaries and dodging scrotes. She calls it what it is, people enabling others by insisting on giving the 'benefit of the doubt'. Keep on raising your standards!!!Their entitlement and tribalism blinds them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:54 AM |
| 16 | Dr Ramani has our back on setting boundaries and dodging scrotes. She calls it what it is, people enabling others by insisting on giving the 'benefit of the doubt'. Keep on raising your standards!!!If I am so depraved, so is anyone, so are you — that is their logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:53 AM |
| 78 | Husband suggests she stop buying formula rather than get a job and cancel his $80+ a month subscriptions.Abusers are irrational. However, even in their irrationality, they have the ability to calculate the precision of abuse and pain they inflict on you — all to beat you down, make you feel powerless. That is why you should have zero tolerance for boundary violation, unwillingness to justify their depraved behavior, and no empathy for ‘broken’ men who ‘do not know any better’. Men pray on your vulnerabilities, on your compassion for them. Never underestimate their depravity. Be careful not get too … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:50 AM |
| 13 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!Even then, do not trust his reaction. It has to be proved consistent! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:42 AM |
| 17 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!This, thank you! Always be on guard. Be confident in your ability to get the fuck out once the mask slips. NEVER underestimate the effects of trauma-bonding. Abusive men are weak, spineless leeches. However, they are manipulative and predatory — they have had years to practice. Ensure that you make it hard for them to pray on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:40 AM |
| 43 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!I am ALL for women posting here to get their reality checks. My post does not intend to shame any woman away from learning to recognize men for who they are: abusive and opportunistic predators. However, they underestimate just how crucial thorough vetting is. How a man’s depravity can change the trajectory of your health, career, and overall well-being. Women who are still in relationships, unaware of how depraved their partners are or unable to leave, have been conditioned to comply; they are,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:36 AM |
| 179 | Men and their innate habit of dating youngI once heard this woman’s (she has her own podcast) husband proclaim that a man, “no matter the age”, will “always be attracted to 21-year-old women”. I saw the look on her face — she kept her composure, yet you could tell that she considered him fucked up, making such a statement. Men not love the looks only, but the naïvety that comes with it. They want to see this young, inexperienced woman mirror their (mediocre) “greatness”. They want her to chase. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:27 AM |
| 140 | Husband suggests she stop buying formula rather than get a job and cancel his $80+ a month subscriptions.I doubt he’s subscribed to any of the streaming services she mentioned in the most. He’s likely wasting her money on OnlyFans and Tinder premium. He is clearly financially and emotionally abusing her, throwing “fits” (controlled rage) and shit. He is intimidating her into compliance. I am fearful for this woman and her child’s safety, as well as well-being. It will only get worse. She needs to throw his unemployed, leeching ass out of her life, as hard as it may be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:23 AM |
| 5 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!Of course, it is necessary to be cautious and vigilant! You have to vet very throughly to ensure that no one blindsides you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 10:19 PM |
| 39 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!Unless children are involved, you always have to put yourself and your best interest first. Women understand that most men will not make the cut, so the bar continues to go lower — I do not solely blame women, as it’s the patriarchal, archaic system we are standing against. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 10:16 PM |
| 28 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!That is why you should do thorough background checks on men in your top 1% roster. You have to ensure that they are not hiding anything from you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 07:46 PM |
| 81 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!Men pretend, manipulate, and habitually lie to get what they want. Never trust any of them, including pickmes. Date, accept the perks he gives you, then get the fuck out once shit hits the fan. You can be loyal, but should never be a fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:41 PM |
| 33 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!Call or label him satisfactory. That’s it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:39 PM |
| 112 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!That is why you never trust any man to have your back, in sickness or in health. Build up your own wealth, watch your health, and be ready to detach & leave at ANY moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:38 PM |
| 5 | Guy seemed like a HVM, wanted to pursue me, but then goes on vacation and returns more distant. How should we handle these situations?Block and delete, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 03:00 PM |
| 151 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.I figured he was cheating before the update. Unfortunately, I had a similar experience with my NVX. He does not love her, he does not give a fuck about anyone, except himself. These pathetic excuses of people will twist and turn things around to manipulate, abuse, and keep you in line. Just where you conveniently need to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 02:24 PM |
| 336 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.I hope she divorces this asshole soon, leaving him penniless. He is a narcissistic, pathetic piece of garbage that deserves to be taken out. To my lurking ladies: If he gets irrationally upset with you over something small, be suspicious and question his reaction (to yourself, not him, as he will gaslight you). You should not date if you are prone to self-doubt. Always prioritize and validate your perception — YOU come first, always. Does not matter if it would be “selfish” or “biased” to do. If… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 02:21 PM |
| 19 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseCame here to say this. Exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 02:09 PM |
| 124 | Saw my best friends married and currently going through IVF, uncle on tinder.Cheaterbuster.net — you have to pay up to $7.99 - $9.99 to receive information. I have used it before when I suspected that my ex could be using the apps. You need to put his name, location, and age. I believe it can be accurate. I wonder if other FDS women have used it before, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 10:26 PM |
| 214 | Saw my best friends married and currently going through IVF, uncle on tinder.This is why I encourage my girlfriends to check (through certain websites) if their long-term boyfriends/husbands are on the dating apps, cheating. You may not suspect or have enough knowledge/experience to notice the signs of cheating, so running a check every now and then should save you time. Ideally, we should trust our intuition and leave. However, that does not always happen — we often get blindsided, as we are busy with our work, hobbies, family, and else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 09:54 PM |
| 112 | The GermansUnfortunately, we do not live in a world where a woman’s health and well-being is prioritized. In fact, most of us are battered and killed by men. If you are a woman, you have to be as ruthless and cold-hearted as you can be. If he is not at your feet, he is useless (at best) or abusive (at worst). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Frmr tradcon. Rised, rebelled, now what?You are most welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 08:02 PM |
| 7 | Frmr tradcon. Rised, rebelled, now what?Read the Handbook, this forum. I really liked the book called “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans. It opened my eyes to the abuse I endured at the hands of my ex. I will never trust another man again, HV or not. It’s just not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:50 PM |
| 45 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.This, exactly. Some people show red flags right away, but not all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:48 PM |
| 78 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Sociopathic moron. Good god. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:40 PM |
| 111 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Do not ever be swayed by his “good” behavior in the first 5-6 months of dating. Keep a roaster of other suitors in the meantime. You have to be acting in your own best interest, no matter how much of a “double standard” it may look. Be selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:39 PM |
| 13 | Frmr tradcon. Rised, rebelled, now what?Never trust any man, whether or not they seem HV — for most, it is a front to attract women like yourself: vulnerable and in need, so to say. You risk endangering yourself and your children even more. It will be a mess if you happen to live with a man who turns out to be abusive/LV. Except he will treat your children worse, and could sexually abuse/exploit them. There are a lot of them, much like your husband. (If any of them find out how shitty your husband is, they will soon feel comfortable t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 04:17 PM |
| 35 | Frmr tradcon. Rised, rebelled, now what?You have come a long way. None of it sounds easy and I am so proud of you for fighting (for yourself and your children) to live a better, more peaceful life. You should not consider dating. Due to your circumstances, you could easily make a tasty treat to predators. Work towards gaining more independence. Once you are moved out and can stand securely on your feet, you can entertain an idea of dating other men. That is what I am doing at the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:26 AM |
| 13 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?How dare a woman not have daddy issues. She needs to be all vulnerable, even eager, to get used and abused. I hope all of these abusive, vile men die alone, with no one to leech off of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:41 AM |
| 36 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?Exactly. They treated you like garbage because it fed their fragility. Most men can be such vile, jealous pieces of scum. Even “good” ones are capable of downgrading to that level. They justify their abuse by convincing themselves that you deserve it. Some of them acknowledge their depravity. They are comfortable in it — they believe it’s means to power and control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:39 AM |
| 20 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?I will even go as far as saying that it’s emotional (and later, physical as well) battering of a woman. They literally sauté you for further escalation of the abuse. Any man who attempts to withhold, trivialize, or dismiss you, covertly or overtly, needs to be dropped, fast. I wish I knew this before my former relationship traumatized me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:35 AM |
| 24 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?It is their default functioning when pursuing/maintaining a relationship with any woman, no matter how “perfect” she is. Eventually, he will degrade and devalue you. It feeds his fragile ego that needs constant, endless nourishment. Men like him are of weak, pitiful character — except no one should pity them, either, as some tend to weaponize it. They have no honor to their name. This is why you should always leave at the first red/orange flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:31 AM |
| 79 | Just recently found out that rock n’ roll LEGEND Tina Turner was cheated on and abused multiple times by her LV husband Ike. Can’t believe guys actually pull shit like this and then swear up and down they don’t abuse women 😑😡These abusive scumbags are so invested in the ideal image of themselves, they do not dare look in the mirrors, metaphorically speaking. Anything that shows or reflects the truth of who they really are deserves to be, in their minds, destroyed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:15 AM |
| 128 | Is it a red flag if he kisses you on the first date without asking first?Yes. I have had guys attempt to kiss me on first dates — I barely knew them. Even if they asked beforehand, it did not make it justified. Looking back, they did this to for two reasons: • Shit-test my boundaries — they assumed they were weak because I came off as naive or shy. • See how “high maintenance”/“hard to get” I am. • Attempt to accelerate coercion of sexual nature. Block and delete any guy who attempts to touch you inappropriately/intimately. He is likely a predator. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:07 AM |
| 107 | I really hope this guy did not actually sleep in a nest in his home and what he said is all satire 🤢🤢🤢Women should stop with all this negative self-talk. Do not ever show that you could potentially have low-self esteem. Predators love that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:55 AM |
| 20 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?He projected on you. Someone with anger issues and drug addictions will eventually not only abuse you verbally, but also physically | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:05 PM |
| 7 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?“The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans — my former relationship had a lot of criteria described in the book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:03 PM |
| 75 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...Jails are already full of men like him, they simply do not have enough space. I am so disgusted that these pathetic, aggressive, and dangerous shitbags get to harass women with little to no consequence. Women who end up homeless get picked up and sold for prostitution, whilst these men get to walk around, drugged up and free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:12 AM |
| 144 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...Hope it taught this piece of shit a lesson. Most of these homeless men, mental issues or not, rely on the excuse. They have nothing to lose, either. They take out their pent up rage, fragility, hate, and powerlessness onto women — it’s too risky to mess with another man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:07 AM |
| 125 | Men who fall off the face of the earth once you get into a relationship.I am no longer making friends with men. Men (whom I would not consider) that like me will be kept at a distance — meaning, they will have a status of an acquaintances if I have to interact with them via professional/social occasions. As for others — no other form of contact should be necessary. I would hate to have orbiters, entertain occasional small talk with them when they initiate. My time can be spent more productively. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:28 AM |
| 11 | OLD: Who needs personality when you’ve been on a boat, caught a fish that one time or go to the gym?Women should just abandon OLD altogether. It’s time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:30 AM |
| 56 | John Mulaney’s ex, Anna Marie Tendler, leveling up!!I love that the article talks about her success, it’s clear that she is talented and very hardworking. I hope that she continues to succeed, and will eventually heal from the trauma. I am sure he hates to see her do well, though. Abusive, narcissistic men are possessive — they only want you to be successful (no more than they are, though) when you are their partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 09:43 PM |
| 24 | JFC. Men: she cares more about material things more than me. Also men: I had to buy a bed frame to get laid.These idiots and their fragility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 09:34 PM |
| 176 | Scrotes will be scrotes. NEVER move in with a boyfriend.How was she not afraid of taking such a huge risk? I have a feeling he threatened her with a breakup to ensure that she complies. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 03:35 PM |
| 113 | Do not refrain from running a background check, snooping his phone, or showing up uninvited — trust but verify. Which tactics have you used to check his credibility?27 comments whilst only 11 are showing, lol. Some scrotes are mad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 01:58 PM |
| 83 | Do not refrain from running a background check, snooping his phone, or showing up uninvited — trust but verify. Which tactics have you used to check his credibility?Love this, thank you! Your comment is very elaborative. A friend of mine once asked her boyfriend to share locations — she was worried that a college classmate was stalking her. Her boyfriend refused under the guise of “privacy”, attempted to gaslight her 🤡 She left him shortly after! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:25 AM |
| 48 | Needle spiking - happened to my best friend last weekend in Denmark be carefulThis mentality goes for any form of men’s violence against women. It’s terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 04:43 AM |
| 50 | Needle spiking - happened to my best friend last weekend in Denmark be carefulWomen should boycott all the bars — until they thoroughly search every male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 04:41 AM |
| 51 | Vetting/strategizing is not the same as “playing games”, “shit testing” or manipulation.They think women have it easy because we get free drinks at the bars sometimes 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:39 PM |
| 108 | Waiting tables tonightI once got berated (much later after the dates) for not “fighting hard enough” over the bill. I was absolutely shocked 🤡 He never had trouble paying it and would always offer. Miss me with that bullshit, if a man hesitates to pay for our dates, I am out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 01:38 PM |
| 37 | Vetting/strategizing is not the same as “playing games”, “shit testing” or manipulation.Yes 💅🏻 I want a partner who thinks of my comfort before his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 01:33 PM |
| 221 | Remember to give low-income males a chance, ladies! Don't be classist! /sLo and behold, he finds out that no one else wants him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:33 AM |
| 275 | Remember to give low-income males a chance, ladies! Don't be classist! /sWant to date your “type”? Stay single then. Of course, he will not. He needs to leech off of a woman. She will subsidize his lifestyle, build him up, and service him. But wait, it’s her who should not be entitled to a “forever”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:33 AM |
| 58 | Excessive video game usage might be a red flag for a bizarre porn addictionThey have to outsource their depravity somewhere. Most of them are fucked up in real life, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:29 AM |
| 130 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?How committed they are to getting to know you before a date (asking about your interests, tastes, etc). No sexual innuendos, of course. The conversation should be light, but pleasant, carried by him. If he sends simple, low-effort messages, just drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:23 AM |
| 65 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?I understand the excitement. However, I hope that you’re keeping a roaster of suitors. Three months, in my personal opinion, is too soon to tell whether or not he’s a good male; hell, it’s too soon for him to develop feelings/attachment for you. I would say, you may give it another chance — if he underperforms again, drop him. Vet harder next time. To answer your question: A high quality, healthy sex life is a must for a woman. He needs to be great at sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:18 AM |
| 3 | My last creative project was in elementary school, and it stays this way.It has worked for them once or twice with some vulnerable, naive women, so they assume it’s an “effective” strategy. I can’t wait until more women wake up to their bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 10 | are guys allowed to roster date?Not HV at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 03:05 PM |
| 24 | Do not project your moral compass and attitudes onto men - you will lose every time.HVM or not, do not trust anyone. Do not project your goodness onto women you do not know well, either. It will not end well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 02:16 AM |
| 84 | are guys allowed to roster date?He might be triangulating you or dipping his toes to test how much disrespect you will accept. A HVM man who is into you will not say anything to scare you off. Proceed very cautiously with this guy, pull away. Keep dating other men. Also: “so I can find the right woman” pretty much translates to you “you’re not the right woman”. Be careful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 01:51 AM |
| 212 | are guys allowed to roster date?I second this! A man who is really into you will not do or say anything that will make you doubt his serious intentions — especially not tell you that you “should see other men”, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 01:45 AM |
| 113 | Do not project your moral compass and attitudes onto men - you will lose every time.This, thank you! I projected my moral framework onto my NVX, who was beyond depraved, as he tried to convince me that we were both so “alike”. At the end of the day, he knew just how unworthy he was of my presence in his life. A man’s actions need to show you that his beliefs, morals, standards, and goals stand in-line with yours. A HV man, whom you do not know well, is aware of that. He will not waste his time constantly (verbally) convincing you that he wants/respects you. A HVM will clearly c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 06:00 PM |
| 411 | Part 2 of the sh*t scrotes say about women vs. how THEY look, inspired by a previous postThe photo of kitties at the end 😭 Lol @ the second guy with a very FaceTuned face 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 05:54 PM |
| 70 | Its movies like this one where women is made out to be bad person even thought she is 100 percent correct is why men have the entitled view that they do.My NVX tried to undermine my therapist’s competency when he realized I told her about a certain incident that happened between him and I. His reaction facilitated an environment of isolation and silence in my life. I should have left him, but was too naive to see just how depraved he really was. I understand that not all intimate moments should be brought outside of a relationship. However, a healthy, HVM will not consider your friend group, therapist or even family a threat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 04:37 PM |
| 53 | Dont mention your standardsShow, don’t tell. If you talk about your standards, they will mirror them to convince you that they are worth the try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:16 PM |
| 18 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionHe’s a fragile misogynist. I am almost 100% sure that he ensured his current wife is too preoccupied with children and “helping him grow” at the sake of her own career. He’s waiting until she ages out in the industry; then, he will find a new, young cool girl who will put up with his escalating abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:14 PM |
| 9 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionJoke after joke, he keeps trying whilst miserably failing. Poor thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionExactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:10 PM |
| 73 | My last creative project was in elementary school, and it stays this way.A reasonable individual will not date if they feel like they are not at their healthiest yet. They understand that they will likely be operating from a place of unresolved trauma and hurt, which will compromise their ability to advocate for themselves (boundaries, standards, needs, etc.) LVM & NVM expect women to tolerate their bullshit or even “help” them “get better”. These men are outsourcing the consequences of their depravity to someone who is not well-equipped to handle them (like a licens… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:07 PM |
| 29 | The man I had a crush on for two years finally slid into my DMs…He knew. He slid into your DMs, hopeful you still like him (and are desperate for some cheap sex). Block and delete, don’t entertain that guy simply by keeping him your follower. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 02:31 AM |
| 85 | Why Being Called "Wife Material" or "Girlfriend Material" Isn't Always a Compliment, Especially If It's Said To You By An LVM - A lot of the times, they are projecting qualities like unwarranted excessive deference, humility, obedience, bangmaid duties onto their "ideal" wife or girlfriendMen can be very, very vile and jealous creatures. Most of the time, they do not have the will or capacity to measure up — it’s easier for them to use you than be your equal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 09:44 PM |
| 112 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionA lot of LVM see themselves in him. He’s not goofy, he just loves to veil his need to feel “better” and “bigger” than his wife with cheap humor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:47 PM |
| 225 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionGood god. Him and Ryan Reynolds are the epitome of LVM who think they’re funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:28 PM |
| 2 | I wish this was a troll account but sadly it's notTaking the initiative? Since when? Her advice will get other women serving leeches, not men. It should be hard for men to get with you — otherwise, you will end up with an abusive NVM. Men can complain all they want about you being “too much” or “high maintenance”. They hate it because they know they won’t be able to use and abuse you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:34 PM |
| 105 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.The amount of mental gymnastics they are willing to put themselves through astonishes me to this very day 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Dating When You’re Young/Not Intending to Marry YET?You’re very welcome! Best of luck ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:37 PM |
| 10 | Dating When You’re Young/Not Intending to Marry YET?Dating men is a hazard, as it has the potential to change the trajectory of your life, but especially so, your career — even if that man is (consistently) HV. Once you are settled with a well-paying job, steady career plan, investments, and a living space, do put yourself out there, but only if you are sure of yourself. Having a lot to lose, so to say, adds perspective and motivates you to stay true to your high standards, as well as firm boundaries. • Will you leave at the first sign of consist… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 02:41 AM |
| 52 | Dating When You’re Young/Not Intending to Marry YET?I would advise not to, from personal experience. Focus on finishing your studies and saving money once you start working. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 04:41 PM |
| 106 | No one inherently HV or LV. We are what we repeatedly do.A LVM’s choices are the reflection of his own character, belief system, and moral compass. At the end of the day, what he chose to do has nothing to do with you — it was his decision. I have done a lot of work and thorough reflection to make sure I do not take my NVX’s choices to heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 04:39 PM |
| 76 | We deserved to be protected. We deserved to be stood up for. We deserved to be treated with respect and kindness.I am so sorry this was done to you. You did not deserve to be treated so cruelly, consent or not. Again, I feel your pain, as I — and many other women on this sub — understand. We know. Stand in your truth. Learn to trust yourself. No one should ever come between you and your intuition, or your healing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 08:21 AM |
| 85 | Could you imagine the outrage if women routinely turned down sex with their partners to watch porn and masturbate? How did that become something we have to accept from men?He needs to be pleasuring you left and right, not only physically. You have to see it, in both his actions and words. If he does not do so? Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 08:12 AM |
| 252 | We deserved to be protected. We deserved to be stood up for. We deserved to be treated with respect and kindness.We are in this together. No matter what, you are welcome in this community to verify and validate your emotions, your suspicions. You are not alone. When you feel like you stand on your own, remember: there are countless women standing beside you. We have been through this pain. We will stand beside you and guide you to a better, brighter future. Do not be afraid to ask questions or reach out. You are not alone. You will never be alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 08:06 AM |
| 60 | This is how a HVM should reactI experienced this with my ex. He would rather take someone else’s side than mine — looking back, they take advantage of these situations to bring you down some more, as they need to ensure that your self-esteem stays low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:20 PM |
| 24 | Taking your time from day 1.Some LVM know how (or even prefer) to play the long game (they have enough of “supply”, i.e. other women, to feed their need for validation). Personally, I would prefer a man talk to me directly and courtly ask to exchange contact information. It should be on him to pursue you, not do it through mutual friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:15 PM |
| 17 | A woman’s worth is non-negotiable — your actions need to reflect that.Love this quote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:10 PM |
| 44 | this is (yes really) a marketing strategy for a dating app.Never flaunt your personal life publicly or on social media. This will only attract abusive, manipulative, and predatory men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 06:23 PM |
| 117 | Taking your time from day 1.Do what you want to do. Meaning, take as long as you need to decide whether or not he deserves to have your number. Do not be afraid about doing anything that would turn him off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 06:21 PM |
| 104 | “Under the patriarchal rules they ascribe to, providing financial support should come with the promise of control.”Exactly this. So many men abandon their parental responsibilities without leaving their families, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 06:17 PM |
| 300 | This is how a HVM should reactNarcissistic parents and their golden child. It’s incredibly sad to see children be brought up in such toxic home environments, especially girls — it sets them up for more abuse/exploitation later in life. Nonetheless, the OP did what every supportive, good partner (bare minimum) should do: prioritize his fiancée’s happiness and well-being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 06:13 PM |
| 19 | I knew I wasn't crazy to think that BDSM/rough sex is wildly incompatible with respecting someoneThis comment right here. So true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:15 PM |
| 53 | Help! My climbing partner accused me of “inappropriately touching her boyfriend” and I’m worried she is not a pick-me, but a victim of emotional abuse. What do I do?I can tell that he’s trying to isolate her by turning her against you. Listen to other commenters, keep your distance, but still have her know that you’ll be there to validate her reality — she likely suspects that there is something wrong with her boyfriend, but cannot put a finger on what exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 04:39 PM |
| 80 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)The audacity. “You dodged a bullet.” Sure, like you had a chance with her in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 02:47 AM |
| 66 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.I am sure they know just how ugly and undesirable they are. Yet, your average small-dicked Joe feels entitled to using, abusing, and mistreating his girlfriend because he could be the next Jeff Bezos. They buy into this scheme, only to end up single, miserable, and diseased by the time they are of age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 02:41 AM |
| 22 | "Pumping the brakes" - social strategies for slowing the pace down in the dating stageUnfortunately, these idiots had it good for quite awhile. Now that women are waking up to all the covert and overt abuse tactics, things may change. I sleep peacefully knowing that my ex will never have my children or use me for labour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 02:09 AM |
| 27 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.I’d appreciate the link, if the d is actually good quality 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 02:06 AM |
| 44 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:05 PM |
| 270 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.As the mod said, invest in good sex toys. Take yourself out on dates. Make salt baths with bubbles, candles. Drink your fruity, sweet wine. The time spent with yourself should be extremely enjoyable. Also, get off of OLD. It’s the hookup apps that are infested with LV/NV men. They will degrade and devalue you simply because you swiped right on them. You’re giving these men validation that they did nothing to deserve. Edit: spelling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:38 PM |
| 347 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.It’s disgusting to see how these desperate losers talk so low of themselves, then slut-shame women in the same breath. This thread shows why women should vet ruthlessly to ensure that the men they date are excited, enthusiastic, and attracted to them — not only for looks, but for her character (be wary of narcissistic idealization). Vet, vet, vet. Do not give these losers any attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:36 PM |
| 65 | "Pumping the brakes" - social strategies for slowing the pace down in the dating stageThese are all good strategies to use on men when they make you uncomfortable and, as the OP mentioned, attempt to “accelerate” the talking stage. It is not always safe to be confrontational. However. Assume that all men are potential LV/NV in the beginning stages of dating, even if they display “HV” qualities. You have to vet extremely ruthlessly, as your life and well-being depend on it. If a man makes sexual innuendos very early on (before 3-6 months of dating), it’s best to slow fade him, the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:15 PM |
| 18 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…To add to my comment: He is not only physically abusive, but emotionally/mentally. Men who are LV/NV by nature tend to mistreat, use, and harm women in ways that are extremely traumatic. If Zayn laid his hands on Yolanda, there is a good chance he did the same (if not worse) with Gigi. If you want to learn more about the abuse, I recommend you read the following: • “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. • “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans. • “Gaslighting” by Stephanie Sark… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:47 PM |
| 69 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankSometimes, therapists gaslight you into “staying”. It’s incredible, given that they should have the right expertise to asses potential threats, including LV and NV men. Nonetheless, good riddance. I’m sure this man was dangerous and would’ve caused more trauma as time went on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:10 PM |
| 18 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…I am glad that he was rightfully dumped. However, to all the women reading this: ask the police to stay with you when the man is moving out of your place. Or you out of his. It’s good to ensure that, in case he decides to get violent, you will be protected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:53 PM |
| 59 | Take your SO to a haunted house and see what happens.This is a wonderful story. However, I would like to point out the following: a HVM who cares about you, will treat you with respect and kindness. A LVM who wants you will only do so much for long enough to get you. No matter how much a LVM “cares”, he does not have the intrinsic values to treat his woman right. He is very likely (and almost always) a lost cause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:31 PM |
| 21 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…That is disgusting. I hope this family boots him. He is a serious threat to the women’s well-being, including his daughter’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:18 PM |
| 19 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Allegedly, he laid hands on Yolanda, maybe even Gigi. He is a NVM who thought that he could get away with abusing (not only physically) these women in privacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:03 PM |
| 29 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…I do not understand the downvotes for asking to clarify. This is a learning space for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:53 PM |
| 40 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…I can attest to that. Getting into a relationship with a man who turned out abusive has significantly deteriorated my health. My body lost so much weight after he first laid his hand on me (whilst all the mental trauma came to the surface only months later). Thankfully, he left the state shortly afterwards and we broke up. If not for the privilege of having a degree and temporary financial support of my parents, who knows where I would be now. Thanks my parents, relatives, and friends, I will no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Ending an emotionally abusive relationshipYou’re very welcome! I’m happy you took to FDS for support ♥️ Feel free to reach out when you need someone to talk to and validate you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:52 AM |
| 16 | Ending an emotionally abusive relationshipLet his voice in your head perish! He is wrong. He only says that because he knows that his life will forever be miserable. Yours, however? No. You have all the power and tools to make a good life for yourself, and now you’re doing exactly that: leaving his flawed ass in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 08:39 PM |
| 33 | Ending an emotionally abusive relationshipYou’re not failing. You’re winning. One’s absence is not always a loss, but a blessing. If he was emotionally abusing you (recommendation: “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans), it would have escalated to physical violence eventually, as well. You gathered enough courage to leave a man who has been abusing you — that is no easy task, especially when you share pets and a living space. I am incredibly proud of you and am so, so excited for you: now, you will have the space and tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 08:36 PM |
| 40 | Never let a man use you as a placeholder. Don’t “build” a man up. Keep your standards high.Love her content! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 05:29 PM |
| 9 | When you can’t handle rejection. Wait until the endThis is terrifying. I am so sorry you went through something so horrible. Glad you are safe now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 05:25 PM |
| 12 | How often is he responding to you? Does he only talk to you when bored? If he isn't actively planning a date with you drop him. You aren't a back burner option.I heard of and saw some of my former mutuals (met through my ex, of course) perform monkey branching on their girlfriends. It’s absolutely disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 05:22 PM |
| 123 | How often is he responding to you? Does he only talk to you when bored? If he isn't actively planning a date with you drop him. You aren't a back burner option.Also: he might not only be bored, but taken. A lot of men go behind their girlfriends backs to cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:57 AM |
| 257 | When you can’t handle rejection. Wait until the endSomeone once said: “When men break and slam things, they want you to hear how hard they’d hit you”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 08:43 PM |
| 42 | When negging is made mainstream!These clowns 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:51 AM |
| 66 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?Oh, how they love their little harems. For a LV male, you will never be good enough to give them up. His favorite porn actresses, OnlyFans girls, Hollywood stars — in his mind, he already f—ked these women before he came over to f—k you. In his mind, they don’t see just how faulty and depraved he truly is. LVM know all their relationships are doomed because they’re shit. You will leave eventually or he will get tired of you — however, his supply of pickme female friends will likely stay there. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:46 AM |
| 63 | Women: Don't accept a single neg. Check out the dating advice men give each other.They will all die alone, it’s actually sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:50 AM |
| 154 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?I wouldn’t trust men, period. Each man has to go above and beyond to prove that he is to be (somewhat) trusted with exclusivity on my behalf: I would not give up my suitors until I am confident that he is consistent, reliable, and honest. However, for men who have any number of female friends, vet. It’s likely that he keeps these women around for validation or other forms of emotional, physical, and sexual use. Never let your guard down and always listen to what your intuition tells you. Regardl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:46 AM |
| 37 | Welcome to the troll revolution! 🌺I love this too much 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Things you can say to piss off men (he has an entire series).Thank you! ♥️ Love this content | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:37 AM |
| 140 | Spotted in another sub. Subtle red flag that I (as a short-legged woman) have experienced too!In fact, he ignored your requests on purpose. That is how they slowly warm you up to more disrespect in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:14 PM |
| 11 | Things you can say to piss off men (he has an entire series).I really need the link now lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 07:38 PM |
| 102 | Crushes are like drug addictionsNever understood the appeal of having a crush on a man who did nothing to deserve that, especially if it’s some average guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:32 PM |
| 75 | Thanks to r/FDS I was able to walk away from a BDSM obsessed man! Thank you so much!I am so glad that he showed his true self to you so early on. I wish we could report men like him and have them sent to jail. This is crime enough. Next time, however, be sure not to explain why you no longer want to talk to him — block and delete. Now that you added to his experience, he will be less upfront with other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:47 PM |
| 9 | Stop giving the benefit of the doubt to rotten-minded men. They will never change their default worldview.A guy asked me once: “What should I do to have you?” Um, bro 🐍 blocks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:41 PM |
| 7 | Stop giving the benefit of the doubt to rotten-minded men. They will never change their default worldview.The first guy 🤣 the OG in the game of manipulating women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 03:24 PM |
| 91 | Stop giving the benefit of the doubt to rotten-minded men. They will never change their default worldview.Men who have this depraved worldview will f—k you over — they will try to beat anyone to it, even their fellow men. That is why it’s so important to play dumb and talk as little about yourself as possible. Those who sniff out that you have strong boundaries and unyielding standards will prey elsewhere; as for others, however, you have to be extra careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 08:49 PM |
| 52 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?Your best strategy in vetting out these losers is to stay silent and play dumb. Do not make any mentions of your cautious nature or anything else for that matter. If they know you’re smart, they’ll be extra careful with hiding their true selves. | /r/askFDS | 25/10/21 08:46 PM |
| 58 | Stop giving the benefit of the doubt to rotten-minded men. They will never change their default worldview.Just stay vigilant and skeptical of anything that comes out of their dirty, lying mouths. Strictly vet their actions, phone use, investments, other choices, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 08:43 PM |
| 40 | I got sick of seeing him try to match with me after blocking him so many times, so I finally tried to get down to the bottom of what was going on.. 🤦🏼♀️🤢You’re neither his therapist, nor his mother. The burden of responsibility to give him sensible life advice should be on someone else, not you. Even though I understand the intentions behind your post, I believe it serves as bad example to newcomers. Do not give chance to losers like him to manipulate, gaslight, or simply waste your time — no “getting down to the bottom of what was going on”, period. Keep him blocked. FDS guides women towards spending time on self-improvement, as well as career … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 08:40 PM |
| 75 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?Additionally, re-visit the Handbook. You should never tell men about your past experiences or traumas, as those will be used against you. | /r/askFDS | 25/10/21 07:35 PM |
| 95 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?You have to internalize that this issue has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Men who are “still in love with” or “not over” their exes are emotionally weak, dirty, and unintelligent people. They do not know how to handle themselves with dignity and grace: a man of integrity and value will understand that he should not date unless he is ready to. Most LVM do not have what it takes to reflect on their past and take adequate action to ensure they will be emotionally available … | /r/askFDS | 25/10/21 07:32 PM |
| 2 | "The talk" about pornIdeally, OP should leave the relationship, I agree. However, she might stay in hopes that the guy would actually turn out fine. Given what she’s written in her post, the latter is more likely, so I tailored my advice to her circumstances. She still needs to know that she can take these steps to verify his integrity and protect herself. Men lie. They pretend. They manipulate. They do a lot of awful things to advance their lives. Some women, like myself and many others on this subreddit, learn thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 04:39 PM |
| 56 | "The talk" about pornAdditionally, understand that allowing porn use within a romantic relationship is dangerous to your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. At this time, most men who watch porn likely have “fetishes” that may impose serious harm to a woman’s health. You are putting yourself in danger simply by skipping the most important step: cutting him off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:18 AM |
| 102 | "The talk" about pornTrust but verify: browse his devices to see if he is now hiding his porn use from you. Ensure to do so periodically: vet his integrity, habits, and other signs of PA/porn use. Some men are smart — they tread carefully, knowing that you’re against something they do not intend to (or cannot) give up. You could have saved yourself the time and energy that you now might waste on him, had you vetted his porn use according to the FDS guidelines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:41 PM |
| 170 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeUnfortunately, polyamory or not, he will still cheat on you if he wishes to do so. Women have to take collective action to stay celibate outside of committed relationships/marriage and maintain high standards throughout. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 11:01 PM |
| 116 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?My ex once said: “I can say whatever I want” during our argument. I remember the impact his words had on me: I suddenly saw just how weak and entitled he was, how ridiculously immature. He had a nice bouquet of red flags. Getting married to and starting a family with him would’ve eventually k—lled me, literally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 10:05 PM |
| 149 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?I second this. Usually, even the most skilled abusers slip up: be it inconsistencies in their words/actions, or a sudden change of character that is hard (yet possible) to catch. In this case, I am sure the husband was subjecting her to covert emotional/verbal abuse over the years. Some women are innocent and unaware, as they have little to no knowledge of which signs of abuse to look out for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 09:30 PM |
| 257 | What do you think of MGK & Megan Fox? Apparently MGK cheated on Sommer Ray to be with her, then tried to make himself look like the victim when he was already dating Megan.He is an obvious LVM. Men like him have fragile egos and a weak character — they feed off of validation, from women and men alike | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 07:34 PM |
| 12 | My little garden - some musingsThis perfectly describes what The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans states. Thanks to this book, I was able to put a finger down on what exactly was wrong with my ex: he operated from a depraved, disordered perspective of exerting power over me via cheating, inconsistency, emotional unavailability, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:58 PM |
| 26 | Watched a man be who he was when he thought no one was watching IRL. There are far more tricks to hide activity than I ever knew.My mother used to consistently violate my and my sibling’s privacy by accessing our social media accounts. Having that done to me has set me up for absolutely hating the idea of breaching someone’s privacy in a similar manner. Now that I look back at my former relationship, I realize that “playing dirty” (i.e. snooping his phone to verify information) is a must for every woman. I was too trusting and did not know the signs of cheating to look out for — it put me in a vulnerable state, compromise… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Was reading a vent that got deleted bc OP said FDS and incels are not in anyway comparable and got hella attacked, but the worst part is the women who coddle men 🤦🏽♀️ truly our weakest linksLet these women learn. Eventually, they will make their way to FDS, where we can support their healing, level up journeys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 08:27 PM |
| 45 | I’ve been celibate 4 yearsCelibacy is a blessing, especially now that women can freely choose to practice it: we no longer have to conform to the “norm” of getting married young, unwillingly committed to serve men and their families. Being celibate will keep you (mostly) safe from abusive men that want to use you. It will keep you away from wannabe fuckboys with STD-ridden dicks. Just keep to yourself until you are ready to date and only give your body to the man that consistently proves himself worthy of being your part… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:49 PM |
| 92 | Men who are virgins late in life are red flags.That’s disgusting. Relatively young, yet with all these issues. I hope that he is now blocked and deleted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 04:26 AM |
| 18 | If he can’t pick up a box of tampons for you, he aint it!I would get bad period pain — bad enough that I could hardly walk. Whenever I told my ex about it, he had very little to say, as if there was nothing he could do to help. As we moved further into our relationship, he started to slowly reveal that he had little regard for women’s pain, especially in childbirth. Pro-tip: Watch a man’s language when he talks about any form of physical pain and/or discomfort. If a man ever refers to himself, saying he does not want to “whine” or “complain” about it,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 04:06 AM |
| 183 | quick and easy ways to vet: how to tell there is a mask in the first placeIf you sense something shady that you cannot put your finger on (yet). Trust your intuition over what anyone else says, unless that person (a trusted friend, for instance) has consistently shown to have your best interest at heart. Once I started listening to my inner voice more, I became much better at picking up lies and inconsistencies in people. It gives me the ability to freely choose where my energy needs to be poured into. Good intuition is god’s gift to women, so may as well listen to it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 03:25 AM |
| 225 | Rewatching Friends and realizing sweet, funny Joey is actually T.E.R.R.I.B.L.E.I only saw glimpses of this show when my friend was watching it. I never understood the appeal, especially now. Ross’ relationship with Rachel is a complete mess, yet the show somehow attempts to romanticize their dysfunctional, toxic dynamic. Given how many TV series work hard to normalize this stupidity, I am not surprised to see just how f—ked up the daring culture in the US is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 03:14 AM |
| 8 | If he has to verbally ask for exclusivity, it's a TRAP. If was his job to make himself a space in your life, not yours.Just because he talks the talk (asks for exclusivity), does not mean he will walk the walk (be exclusive with you only). Be smart, never put all of your eggs in one basket, even when married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:58 PM |
| 282 | Men use going to the strip club as an excuse to openly cheat without actually labeling it as cheating. You are gaslit by society and men to accept this particular scenario of cheatingThey can f—k strippers, not only touch them or receive lap dances. I have heard it from other men, who consider it a normal outing for the “boys”. It’s prostitution. It’s disgusting. That is why women should sit and listen to the shit men talk about — let them tell on themselves, then leave. Men have no morality, and they will gladly brag about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Just checked into the Relationship-Advice live chat with a so-called modern sex addiction and relationship "therapist."A healthy individual will not get the “urge” to cheat on their partner. They will simply leave the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 05:00 AM |
| 108 | Buzzfeed pushing dangerous LV shitThis woman needs professional help. She continuously puts herself in danger of getting raped, or forced to perform degrading “sex” acts in the name of being “kinky”. You never know which one of your one-night-stands will f—k you roughly, leaving you bruised and beaten. Some men just want to beat women. Now they can use BDSM as an excuse to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:16 AM |
| 103 | Men's complaints about womenLet these men wither and perish. No man is ever worth your investment; LVM will complain about it, whilst HVM will understand and help contribute to your quality of life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:22 AM |
| 11 | Degrees don’t always equate to success. Be on the look-out for Dr. Hobo.They put their money where their mouth is: scheming and fucking around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:17 AM |
| 55 | Efficient!This is probably what 90% of the dating pool for women looks like. It’s so shitty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 11:31 PM |
| 49 | Degrees don’t always equate to success. Be on the look-out for Dr. Hobo.I had my ex complaining I wouldn’t go 50/50 with him on dates. He had no trouble eating my groceries, though. That was the man who gambled money on crypto. I thank god every single day for ridding me of him — it’s a blessing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 04:52 PM |
| 159 | Strangulation BIGGEST indicator of risk of DV murder. ...(but if he has an erection while doing it we can't talk about it because that would be kInK ShAmiNgThis is so important. If a man ever goes for your throat, neck/back of the neck, run. Eventually, he will attempt to k—ll you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 04:35 AM |
| 28 | "Horsegirl" is a feminist issue - why girls benefit from handling horsesI remember being taken to a farm, where my friends and I got a chance to ride horses. This was my first time ever getting on a horse (even though I grew up in the countryside and have some experience of handling them). I asked to be put on this beautiful, huge Friesian mare — he was young but well-trained. I remember having to be firm with him to ensure he stayed calm during our ride. It was a beautiful experience, which also happened during the time I was in a relationship with a narcissistic m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:49 AM |
| 298 | I witnessed a man publicly threatening a woman today.The fact that other men did not get involved says everything about how society views women: disposable objects to use and abuse. This reason is why I am so careful around men. You never know: some of them are desperate to lay their hands on people, including other men, elderly, and children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:38 AM |
| 26 | Aww, the famous emotional support. No looks, no wealth, basically 0 requirements.Men do not (want to) meet most of these basic requirements with their partners. They have no trouble using EQ in the workplace, however, or with their male friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 09:36 PM |
| 58 | Bachelor Party And Strip ClubsAs others have stated, it’s best that you end the engagement. Your fiancé getting angry with you for “judging” his friend is a serious red flag. He, much like his friend, feels entitled to doing whatever the f—k he wants. He will cheat on you, if not already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 09:30 PM |
| 14 | Grown man with a family asks “what am I left with?” if he can’t move across the country for a jobExactly this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 12:19 AM |
| 54 | This is why you don’t tell men you enjoy cooking 🤦♀️Sounds like a good way to weed out users and abusers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 12:12 AM |
| 62 | We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.It’s a bunch of bs that encourages women to take on more submissive/gentle, i.e. “feminine”, roles in heterosexual relationships. Women set themselves up for abuse by buying into this narrative. Most men are shit — you have to vet ruthlessly, not act like you’d make a good, submissive woman by using these tactics to mold LVM (who will likely never change) into HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 12:07 AM |
| 104 | We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.This “tactic” only magnetizes men who will f—k your life up. They will feed off of your pain to stroke their own egos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 10:19 PM |
| 175 | We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.This mentality is outright dangerous, given how many young women are getting exposed to it. The dating pool is infested with PUA/RP wannabe-abusers. Vulnerable women of any background — especially WOC — pay for this with their livelihoods, with their lives. I am tired of seeing different platforms groom women into making themselves vulnerable to men. We need to be doing the opposite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 10:16 PM |
| 51 | How to vet if a man is pornsickIt wasn’t until my ex couldn’t stay hard while drunk that I realized: he can only (easily) stay aroused during violent, aggressive sex. He repeatedly cheated with (outsourced his depravity to) other women since, at the time, he did not feel comfortable enough to force me into rough “sex”. He was hiding his addictions to anger, porn, sex, drugs, and alcohol — a whole package. One usually comes with the other. If you discover that a man watches porn or has “kinks”, be sure: that’s only the tip of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 01:22 PM |
| 131 | My ex posted all about our breakup on redditI suggest you also block his reddit account, unless you would like to monitor it for some time — in case he proceeds to post something that could threaten your safety, identity, or else. Keep him blocked everywhere else, and continue to move on with your life. His suffering is his own problem, although I am sure he enjoys his “victimhood”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 12:44 PM |
| 12 | Women who pretend to be friendly with a man - and come back to "report" on behaviour - are pickmes. STOP and cut all unnecessary ties.Finally someone said it. Some of these “field report” posts are immature and toxic. They reek of low value to me — especially when these newbies start using degrading language towards other women for the fun of it — they do not critically access their behavior and draw beneficial conclusions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:54 PM |
| 49 | According to one study, 43% of women who are murdered by their intimate partners had been strangled by them in the past year. Once a woman has been strangled by her partner, the likelihood that he will strangle her again rises tenfold. The likelihood that he will murder her rises nearly eightfold.I’m not surprised, although it breaks my heart. When I was dating my ex, he would gently kiss the back of my neck in moments of intimacy; it was so special and sweet. Until he angrily grabbed it hard to intimidate/scare me. This is the reality of dating an average man. Most, of not all, of them are opportunistic and/or predatory. They will deliberately damage you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:43 PM |
| 5 | What are your best tips for letting go of the IDEA you have a person?Could you recommend some reading material on stoicism please? It’s very interesting and I’d love to look into it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:20 PM |
| 37 | First OLD DateIt’s also his way of finding out the easiest way to manipulate you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:12 AM |
| 3 | What coping mechanisms did you not know you had (or developed) after post-breakup reflection?This 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 07:17 PM |
| 25 | Should I go out with this guy?Casual? No apparent, genuine interest in you? That’s a no, girl. Do not get yourself played. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:05 PM |
| 128 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandDisgusting. That’s why there is no point in sending them paragraphs. An “okay”, then block and delete will do. Let them perish on their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:04 PM |
| 25 | What coping mechanisms did you not know you had (or developed) after post-breakup reflection?Oh, yes, hopefulness. Manipulative people know how to yield it. Great point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:45 PM |
| 11 | Stronger boundaries for every girl and womanThank you ♥️ It’s very disturbing. The amount of trauma and pain that relationship brought me is overwhelming. However, many women here had it much, much worse. They were battered and abused into compliance, for years. Many of them had children, too. It breaks my heart. This relationship was my first experience. First and last. I will never again let a person stay in my life if they attempt to erode my boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 20 | "WIFE 💍"Among other reasons, they are also marking their territory. Many of these women know, subconsciously or else, that their husbands may be cheating or will cheat, given the opportunity. Unfortunately, LVM and LVW do not care whether or not one of them is married. They’ll do what they need to do to scratch the itch. These women get their identities and personal lives bullied out of them to ensure they stay in line, caretaking for the husband and kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 53 | Stronger boundaries for every girl and womanUpon reaching a half-year mark in my former relationship, I would feel anxious to bring up concerns to my ex. I now realize that he actively bullied me out of maintaining my own boundaries, any boundaries. Throughout the relationship, I was covertly devalued and groomed to be of use to him only. My story and the stories of many women on this sub are a good example of why boundaries are so important: they will protect you against abusive, manipulative men (and women). The best boundary you may ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:06 PM |
| 136 | This post will probably be removed.I believe that, given FDS’ plans to expand, the good-quality content, i.e. strategy posts, is expected to be taken down (eventually) in order to get monetized. Additionally, it’s hard to moderate most of the content that gets posted here. The LVM depravity posts are “juicy” so they get much more engagement: upvotes, comments. However, yes, I do agree with you: we need to shift back to sharing strategies, level up ideas, and more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:59 PM |
| 149 | Found one in the wild!The mental health one I- 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:19 AM |
| 14 | Incredible Story. Friend’s Relationship Not What It SeemsThe fact that she attempted to feel better at your expense says it all honestly. I would avoid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:04 AM |
| 5 | Struggling to HealThank you for your comment. It’s so helpful to hear that someone is out there, as well, doing their best to heal. I am sad, though, that so many women have to. Too many of us. Luckily, I haven’t been around him much. We were together for almost a year, half of which was long-distance. He wanted to live together by the time he’s back and, fortunately, he stayed home. I can’t imagine the trauma he would’ve put me through, if things were to “work out”. This was truly a blessing. It was my first “se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:51 PM |
| 11 | Struggling to HealThank you! He hates himself and now I know why. Living with himself for the rest of his miserable life — I wouldn’t wish that upon my worst enemy. No wonder he abuses drugs, alcohol, and women into making himself feel better. He would have to lay on his deathbed, agony and all, knowing he never got anything good, that is of value — because he doesn’t know how to keep it. I used to feel so much compassion for someone who couldn’t care less. He deserved none of it. I am glad he’s out of my life. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:44 PM |
| 6 | Struggling to HealGetting it now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:31 PM |
| 6 | Struggling to HealI love that. I am sure it was extremely hard for you to leave, then remain no-contact. What he said was absolutely terrible. It’s so hard, because I don’t hear his voice, I just see images of his actions in my head. It seems like everything loving (very little still, looking back) that he has done to had some hidden motive to it. Mainly it had to do with other women. He enjoyed using me and playing with my innocence. I hate him for that. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:31 PM |
| 8 | Struggling to HealI don’t regret losing him. I don’t miss him, nor do I love him anymore. But the pain of the mistreatment and all the cheating under my nose — it’s painful. I hate it. He’s long gone and yet he still affects me mentally and emotionally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:26 PM |
| 6 | Struggling to HealI love all of this, thank you! You’re right. There is nothing a person can do to “prevent” the disrespect. Especially not by being “worthy”. Walking away is what prevents that from happening. I’ve had some inflammatory memories pop up. I unwillingly connected the dots about how my ex and my girlfriend would try to make each other jealous. He would purposefully be affectionate with me in front of her. He used me to make the other woman (her) jealous. He likely had sex with her in the past (maybe … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:25 PM |
| 18 | Struggling to HealI’ll definitely do that more! It sounds like a very soothing activity to do. Thank you for this recommendation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:18 PM |
| 17 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneI am astounded at how unprofessional he was 💀 I know shit like that should not surprise me, but oh well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 03:44 PM |
| 13 | New reddit challenge: try to find a thread on dick size where women with a preference for larger dicks aren't downvoted/ignored and women with a specific preference for smaller penises aren't upvoted. And they think we're the ones coping......Not saying people can't prefer smaller but hmm....Someone on here once said that men get upset that their dicks are not “big enough” to hurt you during sex. Men and porn made this a new norm. Disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:02 PM |
| 60 | New reddit challenge: try to find a thread on dick size where women with a preference for larger dicks aren't downvoted/ignored and women with a specific preference for smaller penises aren't upvoted. And they think we're the ones coping......Not saying people can't prefer smaller but hmm....He hits your cervix because he doesn’t give a f—k about your pleasure (let alone the fact that he inflicts pain on you), not because his dick is “too big”. Unless your cervical position is naturally low, this should not be a big problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:31 AM |
| 12 | So I tried "hooking up" ...Girl, he’s a sociopath. Chocking and covering your mouth? He is a dangerous predator, who gets off to rape and battery of women. Block and delete him immediately. He could’ve hurt you more than you can imagine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:14 PM |
| 26 | My ex accused me of stalking & harassmentAdditionally, if you are able to or have time for a visit at your doctor’s, ask for medication (herbal or else) that could help with the withdrawal symptoms: anxiety, panic attacks, sleep deprivation, etc. Side note: Valerian Root supplements help reduce anxiety and aid sleep. You need to help your nervous system calm down in order to continue functioning. You need to keep your head cool, as hard as it may be. Keep eating. Order green/fruit smoothies if you can’t stomach hard food at the moment.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:45 PM |
| 66 | My ex accused me of stalking & harassmentYou did nothing wrong. You’ve been manipulated, abused, and gaslighted by a man who knows what he’s doing: he likely had years to practice. Keep your ground. Do not drop any of the charges. Do not let him pressure you into seizing your line of defense. If need be, only contact him through your lawyer. Document everything. If you have family or friends who could stay with you at this time, reach out to them. Do not be afraid to ask for help/support irl. Your ex is a miserable narcissistic piece o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:38 PM |
| 265 | A form of negging new to meI’ve had men pull this on me, as well. It’s quite pathetic, honestly: it does anything, but make them attractive or more desirable. There’s nothing more unattractive than a man trying to “keep his cool” by attempting to talk down to a woman. Idiots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:32 PM |
| 55 | A very subtle sign of a manipulative, gaslighting LVBF.What a rapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:21 PM |
| 152 | You are not an equal opportunity employer. Your intimate relationships are not centers of civil rights. Your body and mind are not subject to anti-discrimination standards.Dating a shitty man is dangerous. His shitty treatment of you always escalates to more abuse. Having high standards is simply protective. I will never commit to one man unless I am sure that he is safe (given consistent proof). Most importantly, I need to be sure that I will walk away at any given moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:14 PM |
| 144 | If he wants an*l sex from you, chances are that he has the potential to be, or is, abusiveThat was my ex’s reasoning. He wanted to be my “first” in that sense. The idea of me “trusting” him with doing anal brought him excitement. He once had me get more drunk (after we got back from our friends’) to later fuck me, then slip the finger in as I said “no”. As our relationship progressed, he later put his hand on me and held me down to “intimidate” (his words) me, in front of his friends, although they were not looking. It’s been so hard to heal from his abuse. I grieve all of it every d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 04:04 AM |
| 136 | What are your thoughts?He’s trying to get some brownie points for... being a good partner? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:51 AM |
| 91 | FDS Works. It's best just to ghost men with no explanation when they do something shitty particularly in the early stages of dating. See link for why.I once (pre-FDS) just blocked one of the guys that I used to talk to (him and I had a casual past). There was no doubt that he could care less about me. However, when I recently ran into him at the bar my friends and I went to, I kid you not, he’s asked me at least three times about why I blocked him. At the time that I blocked him, he was just an orbiter that I had no interactions with. He still cared, lol. I did the same with my ex and his friends, blocked all of them for the sake of privacy a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:46 AM |
| 99 | [Update] Good news about the post with the fiance telling his fiancee he wasn't attracted to her for two years. She left him.Somehow, their depravity is always justified. They never really reap the consequences, too — these scrotes go from one woman to another, using her in any way possible. Disgusting creatures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:28 AM |
| 80 | [Update] Good news about the post with the fiance telling his fiancee he wasn't attracted to her for two years. She left him.I’m sure he loved how she served, loved, fucked, dined-and-wined him for six years while he was getting his shit together. He’ll do this to the next woman until his miserable days are over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:26 AM |
| 24 | She asked her partner of 6 years out on their first date. He confessed to her that he was unattracted to her for 2 yearsMen take what they can, and when they can. They are deeply insecure and have voids no woman would ever be able to fill. I am glad that he is an ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 05:53 PM |
| 1 | This is what happens when sex workers demand respect. It’s almost like selling your body teaches men you are an object to be used! Who woulda thought!?Straight from the horse’s mouth. SWs convinced themselves that they can kill two birds with one bullet: profit off of horny scrotes & be respected at the same time. They don’t respect women, period. All sex work will do for you is fuck up your mental health and future job prospects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 05:41 PM |
| 32 | After all these years he realizes at 57. So all those men realize this when they get old snd deserves appreciation for it? Instead they should have realized at their youth and keep his partner comfortable and loved?! Such a wasteMay god bless your sweet mother. Reading this was so heartbreaking. I can definitely relate to how fearful I was for my mother as a child. I am sure many children did, since, as you mentioned, most men do not want to care for anyone but themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 05:13 PM |
| 9 | After all these years he realizes at 57. So all those men realize this when they get old snd deserves appreciation for it? Instead they should have realized at their youth and keep his partner comfortable and loved?! Such a wasteThis LVM is contributing (only god knows how much) to his wife’s recovery because he knows that, given his old age, he will eventually need a caretaker. She needs to be up on her feet again soon to do all the usual caretaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 05:07 PM |
| 300 | If someone tells you that men are picky show them this!All of them are trash, especially those that are married/partnered. I hope their pps fall off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 05:27 AM |
| 340 | She asked her partner of 6 years out on their first date. He confessed to her that he was unattracted to her for 2 yearsThis thread should make us vet even harder. I don’t want him to “pop the question” just because I’m a safe option. Or just the only option he has. No, I’d rather stay single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 03:18 AM |
| 111 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:He’s talking like men have any value nowadays. Most of them will walk all over you — and they DO. So, why should we try to “find and keep” them? Off to the trash, honey 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 03:00 AM |
| 117 | The best thing you can do is fight misogynistic culture by spreading awareness that it will no longer be tolerated - that misogynistic men will no longer be dated.We’re slowly moving towards giving up on men entirely. Until they get themselves and one another in-check, no woman should contribute to their livelihood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 02:57 AM |
| 140 | The number one danger in women’s lives is men they knowMen (as a whole) are not to be trusted. Unfortunately so, they have proven, time and time again, that they are dangerous to the well-being of women. Yet they still screech at how unfair life is to them: it’s just too hard to climb the man-made hierarchy of power; it’s getting harder to abuse/manipulate women into compliance and free labor. Yet, we see that their blame always finds a woman — they expect us to carry the weight of their misfortunes, addictions, and depravities on our backs. They ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 01:10 AM |
| 749 | I can't believe this is the kind of advice that's out there 🙄He’s been gaslighting her for 20 years. Her reaction may also be part of coping with betrayal trauma. Still, this woman is seeking outside guidance to validate her suspicions. Only to be gaslight again. I hope she gets out. Her husband is a sociopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:13 PM |
| 21 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???That is correct. He would tell me about his family’s houses, property, or finances. Then, inquire about mine. Keep in mind, he likely lied, but sprinkled the truth here and there — like, saying his mother’s addiction to shopping, for instance — in case I ever make a complaint in the future (the ”You knew it was like this. I told you, remember?”). My ex was careful with questions. This included timing, tone, and other implications. He knew that I trusted him (🚩), me mirrored my values, integrity,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:38 PM |
| 41 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???I remember my ex asking how many properties my parents own in my country of residence. He was remotely curious about the real estate prices in my home city, too. If my parents were to sell one of them, my family could buy a good property/house overseas (in my name). He thought that my family is rich. Looking back, I understand that part of the reason he had been considering marriage with me was my parent’s money. That idiot hoped he could make a good life for himself. Never tell a man about how … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:29 PM |
| 114 | The straw that broke the camels back for me, and what has turned me angry and bitter against men is not only the abuse they've subjected me to, but the fact that I'm 28 years old and no man has never even gifted me a bouquet.Men have been working hard (gaslighting, teaching each other manipulation and abuse, violently mate-guarding, etc) to make the bar as low as it is now. They’ve paved the way for one another. They created the patriarchy and have been committed to upkeep it. If they could do worse and get away with as much as possible, trust me: they would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:24 AM |
| 18 | How to Get Over a Breakup. Are You Loving Yourself the Way You Loved Your Ex?I’m learning to treat myself like I am the most precious person in my life (along with my family). I learn to hold myself accountable in a compassionate, productive way. The more I do that, the less I tolerate. The less I entertain the thought of accepting attention from men who are below what I want and need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:51 AM |
| 61 | How to Get Over a Breakup. Are You Loving Yourself the Way You Loved Your Ex?Absolutely love this strategy! ♥️ I think a greater part of healing is self-compassion. I remember feel so much of it, naturally, towards my ex. Then, I falsely believed that the empathy I had for him was it: love. That, I would have to deeply reflect on. Thank you for your post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:40 AM |
| 23 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.You’re here, you’re growing and learning. That’s amazing. Keep vetting, and pour everything (that is good/healthy) you can into yourself. A good man will not consider you selfish for this — he will be proud to be with a woman who loves herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:33 AM |
| 29 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.This. Your time is tangible. It’s the most valuable resource we have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 02:32 AM |
| 17 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.I believe her parents were against her going out with him. Still, she would sneak out to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 02:29 AM |
| 68 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.Side note: do not ever pathologize or label yourself as “unreasonable” in front of any man, as they might start using it against you. Your most beloved boyfriend, your male best friend, your seemingly HV father or brother — none of them should ever hear this. Call yourself responsible, accountable. Always speak positively about yourself. You’re not making mistakes, you’re growing. Women should get out of the habit of negative self-talk. It’s not vain. It’s not unfair. It’s protective. If a man s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:55 AM |
| 149 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.Men like him do not change. In general, most men’s upbringing and socialization actively instill this mentality. That’s why they are so pissed at FDS: it teaches, what they perceive, as female entitlement (whilst we simply call it bare minimum). Take it or leave it, they say. You knew I was this way, they say. And continue to abuse, use, and walk all over women; often, their own children, too. These men do not deserve women to “pass down” their shitty genes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:47 AM |
| 200 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.He knew that she’d take him, fame or not, as he was then: sick, abusive, and overall fucked up. As for other women? They were smart enough to know they’ll be able to bag other, likely less problematic options with money. Hailey seems well-raised, sincere, and intelligent. However, it’s women like her, with poor boundaries and breaches in self-esteem, are likely to find themselves with NV/LV men. Live and learn. Some lessons are taught to us the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:41 AM |
| 75 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.The biggest lie women were fed is that, if a man marries you, that means he loves you. No, they don’t. Most men would rather use women for their benefit while they look for the non-existent “dream girl” on the side. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 09:27 PM |
| 69 | Lmfao I died at this. Do any Eastern European women agree?🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 08:37 PM |
| 198 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.He’s much like most men who hate women. They only want us for what we may give them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 07:47 PM |
| 208 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.It’s absolutely scary. The videos/lives that they did together made me feel very uneasy. She tries her best to read him, pick up on little cues to see how she should respond. She tip toes around his explosive anger. I hope her family helps her leave him soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 07:47 PM |
| 143 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.Notice his body language, though. He does not lover her, nor care for her enough to make the marriage come easy. I’m sure she’s the one trying her best to make it work, whilst he puts minimal, if any, effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 07:04 PM |
| 28 | Pickmeisha myths bustedLOVE THIS! Thank you ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 06:35 PM |
| 466 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.Initially, Hailey admitted that she did not want to be seen with Justin publicly. This was also her intuition screaming to her that he is not the person for her. She keeps gaslighting herself by feeding us — and many young girls — the idea of “struggle love”. She continues to support the misogynistic myth that marriage/relationships will “always be hard”. Their relationship is absolutely abusive, toxic, and will ruin Hailey’s mental, emotional, and physical health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 06:34 PM |
| 1 | I'm sppeechlessGod really said “enough” 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:30 AM |
| 506 | And y’all are still using OLD?Because most women don’t see this side of them often enough to know: one man’s behavior is not an isolated incident, it’s how most of them, if not all, operate. Women would be disgusted to touch any man, let alone be with one, if not for the social conditioning, patriarchy, and all the sugar-coated lies they feed us. All the gaslighting. All the abuse to keep us in line. Even when our fathers warn us of how dangerous other men can be, they never get into the details of why and how. They understa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 01:00 AM |
| 2 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?Thank you so much ❤️ I am watching myself carefully and, so far, all has been well. Paying attention to myself has been very rewarding! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:52 PM |
| 2 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?So far, I have not done anything that does not reflect FDS mindset! I’ve been very good with no contact, blocking, and — in general — filtering people in my life. I’ll go to the pet store to hopefully cuddle some cute cats, if allowed. I wish I could get a pet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:50 PM |
| 4 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?I am sorry you had to go through this. It’s great to see that, down the line, you continued to grow and succeed in life. Miserable people like our exes stay miserable. It’s sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:49 PM |
| 5 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?Yes, I know that any memory of him will soon fade away. Likely in the next year or less. It’s only been 4 months since the breakup, so I’m trying to give myself some time. I shouldn’t try to rush the healing. I’ve tried my best to keep him blocked, deleted, and out of my life, including his friends. I try my best to speak vaguely about the relationship, if asked. I do not show, nor tell of the effect it has had on me to people that are not close to me. So far, he has never heard back from me sin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:47 PM |
| 9 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?Love this comment! It’s very profound, I loved reading about the coven of badass women you’ve described — sounds much like FDS, I would love to have more women like them in my life! Unfortunately, my ex is in another country, so there’s not much I can do. However, I will definitely read the articles and see if there’s something creative I could do to release this pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:37 PM |
| 13 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?Nurturing myself more with good food, exercise, learning, and spending quality time with the people I love has been very rewarding. I made a lot of progress and feel much better now, trying my best to heal. It’s true that, once you start treating yourself like you’re the most valuable person in your life, like your best friend — any man who has meek, bare minimum, or even HV interest in you, becomes worth your time if you don’t feel like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:17 AM |
| 27 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?❤️ I am so sorry, love. We deserved better. Just like many other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:10 AM |
| 42 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?It’s so hard, isn’t it? It’s hard to accept the real him that you did not know. It’s hard to realize that he’s never been capable of loving you the way you deserve. It’s scary to know that he, just like most of them, was a sociopath. That he held back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:09 AM |
| 59 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?This is such a profound comment. Thank you! I completely agree with you. I’ve been trying to focus on other things in my life. However, sometimes I get these bursts of anger. I know they will eventually disappear. I am sure that I will not care about his treatment of me in the future. It’s still hard, sitting with these emotions. I’ve noticed that self-care has been helping me a lot. I need to try to focus on paying more attention to my emotions more, though. I’m trying to figure out a way to pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:05 AM |
| 40 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?Fuck yes. Omg, this comment is so on-point. My ex hated himself and claimed to be suicidal. Yet, it didn’t stop him from cheating on me multiple times and sniffing coke. Lol. He hid it from me because he knew I wouldn’t love him anymore. It’s pathetic. He hated me because he had to pretend to be better than he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 05:53 AM |
| 56 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?The only thought that makes me feel better is knowing that I wouldn’t have chosen him if I knew how he truly is, obviously. He was manipulative and deceptive. And I feel so ashamed for being prideful, and in a way letting him shut me down for asking questions/being curious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:25 AM |
| 131 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?Yes, that’s correct. I do not think otherwise, but for some reason it’s been hard to get over my ex. Knowing how shitty he was makes me uncomfortable and hurts my ego still. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:14 AM |
| 6 | I'm sppeechlessIdk men will always be questionable to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:02 AM |
| 7 | I'm sppeechlessEw. I hope he gets sued soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:02 AM |
| 8 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.Hold up, hold up. My post says that he is likely to try to cheat. A man having insecurity of any kind should be an orange flag to watch out for. How he handles it might turn this flag red, however. If I were you, I would continue to vet and watch out for his behavior: consistency, treatment, friend group. Vet everything, but stay silent, and make note of any signs. Do not stress out about it. You got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:44 PM |
| 7 | If he wanted to he wouldI’ve been thinking of buying a ring or two, but I’m scared I won’t get my right size. But earrings are so beautiful! I always wear them & have a couple of pieces that go with pretty much any outfit. It’s addicting 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:35 PM |
| 289 | I'm sppeechlessI am sure he has been gaslighting, breaking her self-esteem down, and eroding her boundaries for as long as they are together. Her reaction is NOT healthy, and he played part in ensuring so. Abusive fucked up men like him work tirelessly to milk what they can out of their “girlfriends” (likely just side pieces). They first plow the ground, then reap what they saw from it — that is, endless benefits. She needs to tell someone ASAP, so they can get her out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:24 PM |
| 111 | I'm sppeechlessAlso: never have sex at a boyfriend’s place, even if the two of you are exclusive and he’s proven to be HV (so far). He might have hidden cameras at his place to record the two of you having sex. Never trust a man. Watch him silently, be very vague about your life, and leave if he does something you don’t like (never react to or say anything about it). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:21 PM |
| 22 | If he wanted to he wouldI’m so happy for you! ♥️ Which pieces do you buy the most? I have a lot of earrings! My dad bought me jewelry since I was a young teenager — I still keep the pieces he gifted. They’re all very meaningful to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:35 PM |
| 5 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.Isn’t that the truth 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:02 PM |
| 2 | I am going through a traumatic event. Need support.She’s been in and out of shelters/hotels it seems like. I’ll reach out to her once again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:30 AM |
| 46 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.This is such an important observation. Once, a guys I was talking to, said that his condoms “break” because he just can’t help, but hammer the woman he’s having sex with. To them, the more rough or loud the sex is, the bigger their dick. They love the short-term validation they get from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:29 AM |
| 22 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.Male insecurity is dangerous. How the handle their insecurities is a question of values and inherent beliefs, not only coping mechanisms. Therefore, women should avoid men who exhibit insecurity in ways that may indicate cheating, violence, and other forms of abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:26 AM |
| 104 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.Insecure men are trouble. They would wreck havoc in their own lives, and will mess up yours along the line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:21 AM |
| 156 | The most requested item at the Afghan refugee camps are condoms! As an Afghan American this disgusts me. So these men that already have 4+ kids while their wives are probably exhausted with no real home of their own and he’s just thinking about his penis. Not surprised.This is disgusting. And, let’s be real, they’re coercing and raping their wives in spite of all the circumstances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 02:56 AM |
| 44 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.This exactly. It’s not only porn-induced, they dick-shame each other, too lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 02:48 AM |
| 76 | If ever in doubt, ladies, read this.This comment exactly 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:34 PM |
| 104 | Why you should NEVER pay or split the bill on your first dateWhat a sore loser. I bet he was upset that she didn’t get his dick wet, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:30 PM |
| 68 | AnnaLynne McCord says BDSM with Dominic Purcell ‘changed everything’They should teach about trauma and abuse in schools. Especially girls. Women need to know more to keep themselves safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.Just did it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:49 PM |
| 20 | Difference between men who watch porn and don't watch porn and how they center discussions is amazingExactly 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:48 PM |
| 48 | This was on the official Muzmatch tiktok page before they deleted it. The app is a major scam and encourages pickmes 😡Look at him trying so hard to rationalize why he should “live separate” from his “halal girlfriend”. Just say that you want to fuck around, whilst using another woman as a backup in case you don’t get your dick wet as much and as often as you wanted to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:39 PM |
| 22 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the RingSunk cost fallacy. Women should wake up to have depraved men are, as hard as it may be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:35 PM |
| 153 | Don't ever get trappedProtect your mind, womb, and finances at all costs. Men should never be trusted fully, as sad as it is. If you decide to date a man, treat the relationship/marriage like it might end any day. Stay silent, sweet, and watch him closely. Know that he can always fuck things up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:21 PM |
| 108 | Difference between men who watch porn and don't watch porn and how they center discussions is amazingMy ex probably watched porn, given how fucked up he was. I was lucky to have never been handled roughly by him during sex, he was always gentle — because he outsourced his depravity to other women. Keep vetting your partner, OP. Green flags or not, most men are not to be trusted. Stay silent and look for any sign of depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:16 PM |
| 99 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?Men take what they can, when they can, if they can. That is why FDS advises against long-distance relationships: it makes it harder for you to catch him cheating/acting shady. Why bother at all? The status of a girlfriend does not give you a stress-free life and a ring on the finger. Date multiple men until one of them proves himself worthy of you in every aspect. Then, accept him for a husband (for as long as it lasts) if you feel like you can afford it emotionally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:06 AM |
| 13 | J. Peterson speaking against polyamory, dating, hookup cultureDating websites/apps (or Internet) allowed men to cast a wide net in the dating pool, increasing the probability of getting some form of attention/gratification from women. Society then continued to bully women (more “liberated”) out of creating and maintaining high standards for themselves. They figured out a way to keep us a commodity to fuck, use, and abuse under the guise of slut-shaming, patriarchy, empowerment, etc. JP is a POS. I listened to some of his commentary in the video, but could … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:01 AM |
| 366 | Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.Exactly this. The article tip-toes around liberal sex-induced empowerment bullshit they feed these same girls. Men and boys cheer on — why not, if they will never be held accountable for it? This should be making headlines and national news. It’s an epidemic. Women are suffering no less than they did before. You’re not safe if you’re married. You’re not safe if you’re partnered. You’re not safe if you’re single. You’re not fucking safe, period. Women need to unite, save each other, save ourselve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:47 AM |
| 273 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?He does not love her, nor care for her. Unfortunately, most of us learn the hard way. Then again, most of us never knew what a man’s healthy, true love looks like via his actions, words. If he is not excited and happy at the thought of seeing you = he literally does not give a fuck about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:39 AM |
| 427 | Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.I hate that the article tries to pivote away from “kink-shaming”. Call it what it is: a gang-rape that left the girl traumatized, possibly for the rest of her life. Honestly, it makes me sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:28 AM |
| 62 | this girl planned a party for her boyfriend, when it was actually her secret proposal party, and a South Asian dating site wants us to believe it’s romantic. thankfully girls are catching on to this low effort bsI bet she also financed him buying her a $200 etsy engagement ring (with discounted shipping) by subsidizing his food, rent, and time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:04 AM |
| 22 | Why is men cheating so socially accepted among most people?This is so truthful. Also, I joined your sub! 💞 Love to see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:59 AM |
| 476 | Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.• Link: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6595871/Online-porn-horror-Girl-16-forced-colostomy-bag-attempting-group-anal-sex.html «A 16-year-old girl will need to use a colostomy bag for the rest of her life after suffering severe injuries while attempting group anal sex. Teen boys and men are developing dangerous attitudes towards sex as a result of their compulsive consumption of hardcore and violent online pornography, experts have warned. ”Cyber safety expert Susan McLean said many hig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:54 AM |
| 13 | "Not all men" love how he openly admits men can't actually love it's just about sex and how good you look.The nit pick at us no matter what because they need some justification do hoe around, looking for the next best thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 08:35 PM |
| 16 | "Not all men" love how he openly admits men can't actually love it's just about sex and how good you look.Correction: they don not want us to acknowledge how much they hate us, since that will significantly diminish their chances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 08:34 PM |
| 59 | 🙄🙄🙄 I just want to say I never like this excuse for a manI was looking for someone to comment this. There was also a post on stoicism some time ago here, on FDS. Love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:37 AM |
| 122 | I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.They just stand by and watch. They know and stay quiet. It’s all men who, directly or indirectly, take part in abuse that women endure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:16 AM |
| 15 | Red Flag: He’s Constantly Asking if You’re HappyLove this post, it’s very informative! I’m sure a lot of women can relate and will benefit from the information you provided. Some red flags can be hard to spot, especially if you have little experience. Any man who could not adequately and timely resolve an issue (that you brought up) has failed the test — you have to next him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:00 AM |
| 17 | 🙄🙄🙄 I just want to say I never like this excuse for a manI love this. So spot on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:39 AM |
| 43 | Need advice: how to have more grace for myself?First of all, I would like to congratulate you on going no contact with your ex for so long — you’re incredibly resilient, intelligent, and courageous. I hope you will continue to choose what’s best for yourself as the time goes on. The feeling of anger is the hardest to handle. Now that you are more informed about the abusive and manipulations your ex has put you through, it’s natural to feel this way: it means you want to take action. Protect yourself, defend yourself to make up for the times … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 09:00 PM |
| 13 | I forget my audienceDo as you wish lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 08:43 PM |
| 29 | I forget my audienceNo one is trying to silence you. You’re getting warned not to use FDS terminology in public, out of caution. Men hate women in this community. Threatening you is the least they will do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 08:33 PM |
| 110 | I forget my audienceBe CAREFUL with this, even around other women. If some scrote Redditor overhears you use FDS language, you’ll make yourself a target. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 04:26 PM |
| 304 | I set the boundary…Keep vetting. He might be just smart enough to go along with your boundary, not protest against it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 04:24 PM |
| 12 | What Strides and Discoveries Have You Made About Being in a RelationshipLove this comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 04:20 AM |
| 359 | The sign reads “Convince my boyfriend to propose to me.” Harry: How long have you guys been together? Her: 7 Years. Harry: I can’t help you.Embarrassing. Forever girlfriend or not, I don’t understand why some women flaunt their LV man’s inability to propose to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:52 PM |
| 7 | Three children and still a forever girlfriend. I love Lily Rabe, she deserves so much better.It’s best to make legal contracts, one way or another. It’s there to protect them, their assets, kids, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 09:12 PM |
| 28 | Three children and still a forever girlfriend. I love Lily Rabe, she deserves so much better.This, exactly. Marriage is, at best, of neutral importance to women who are in established, high-income careers. However, when children are involved, leaving their biological parent, your partner, will likely need legal involvement anyways; having a marriage contract (pre-nup/post-nup) in place might make the separation less messy. So, one way or another, marriage can benefit you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 107 | LVM Threatening to Divorce Partner Over COVID VaccinationWomen like her, bullied into believing that they will not be able to “find better”, unfortunately end up in marriages with men like this scrote. It costs them their health. Their finances. Their professional/academic opportunities. Their lives. I hope she wakes up and leaves this piece of shit. That’s the only thing she can do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 08:48 PM |
| 86 | Pervert pretends to film wife at the beach but is actually recording woman in bikini behind her. Trash. Things like this are why I thank my lucky stars everyday that I never married or reproduced with a scroteDisgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 08:17 PM |
| 12 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?You don’t have to be “fair” and accept a guy’s contact w his ex just because that’s your situation. The context for him might be entirely different from yours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:29 PM |
| 12 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?Often, men don’t stay in contact with their exes for the same reason you do. That is why it’s important that you drop any guy who does — in my opinion, it’s a huge red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:28 PM |
| 12 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?So, if you learn that they have a pattern of dating women short-term, run for the hills. These men do not know how to cope with life in general. They have some fucked up avoidance issues; hence, they are no husband material, let alone a boyfriend one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:23 PM |
| 22 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?Live and learn. My ex had a trail of short-term relationships, and so did the other guy I dated briefly before my ex. The two of them were: • rather quick to jump into a serious (in my opinion) relationship with me, without taking the time to properly vet for compatibility (whilst committing their time, effort, and money to get to know me better – as FDS advises). • exhibited “dismissive avoidant” patterns in and outside of our relationship; they could not (and even refused to) process their emo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:23 PM |
| 8 | Being “understanding” will get you NOWHERE with men. They will lie, use, cheat, and abuse you. Save your empathy ONLY for your close family, children, & trusted friends.They should start holding each other accountable instead of gaslighting other women. Maybe then things will change for the better. But women are now waking up to all the covert/overt abuse they’ve been put through. We’re tired. Dating has never been safe for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 4 | Being “understanding” will get you NOWHERE with men. They will lie, use, cheat, and abuse you. Save your empathy ONLY for your close family, children, & trusted friends.This is a very important reminder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 06:00 PM |
| 16 | Being “understanding” will get you NOWHERE with men. They will lie, use, cheat, and abuse you. Save your empathy ONLY for your close family, children, & trusted friends.Be suspicious of every man who has a history of being brought up in a bad/unhealthy household. Or neighborhood. Not all of them end up going to therapy or do the inner work independently to heal and challenge their belief system. They end up growing up angry at the world, and try to take it out on everyone, especially women and children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 98 | The 'Harmless' man I dated and the mutual guy friend that advocated on his behalf. Why men close to us can be dangerous tooI hope you blocked them both. A child molester and a pedo/rapist apologist, they deserve each other. Stay as far away from them as you possibly can. I am glad that you are recognize them for who they truly are: negative value, dangerous men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 06:34 AM |
| 11 | My bf saw his ex when we were out and he boltedI regret not leaving my ex over this, later in our relationship. I deserved much better and so do you, even if this guy is caring and nice (remember, it’s the bare minimum). What you saw is just the beginning of your agony. Your intuition will continue to scream at you to get out. If you don’t do this now, you will come out of this relationship with more damage to heal. My suggestion is to break up. | /r/askFDS | 24/09/21 09:49 PM |
| 12 | My bf saw his ex when we were out and he boltedThis would warrant a breakup for me. Whether or not he still cares or has feelings for his ex, you do not want to risk staying with him any longer. He will waste your time. Take some time away from him to process this, then send a breakup text, block and delete. | /r/askFDS | 24/09/21 09:46 PM |
| 257 | If this is what marriage is then I don't want itDisgusting. She gave him three children, and he needs to be rewarded for... being a mediocre parent? This man deserves a divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 08:33 PM |
| 43 | "The fact real women have their own motivations IS A REAL TURNOFF"👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 08:20 PM |
| 92 | "The fact real women have their own motivations IS A REAL TURNOFF"This comment is so spot on! They are just as fragile as their egos 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 08:19 PM |
| 59 | Pickme Logic: I know he's a player and I'm already sleeping with him but will ignoring his texts get him interested in more?I sent her a link to one of the posts. Hopefully she gets herself out of that fwb shit show before he gives her an STD/STI. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 08:15 PM |
| 31 | Two things are going on here. 1. He can’t grow up 2. He probably has, or will at some point, have an affair with someone from back home. Making this a normal routine sets up a guaranteed 3 days a week that he can do whatever while not being checked in on. C’mon sis!He feels guilty because he’s cheating on her every weekend. She will learn this the hard way unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 08:05 PM |
| 43 | Scrote defends abuse scrote who physically assaulted his bride with a 5+ layer wedding cake, claims "it wouldn't be traumatic"Exactly. Intentions ≠ actions. What the guy did was blatantly fucked up. He knew what he was doing and he intended to hurt her for hurting his fragile ego in front of others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:57 PM |
| 191 | Pickme Logic: I know he's a player and I'm already sleeping with him but will ignoring his texts get him interested in more?This, exactly. Lundy Bancroft actually talked about this: if a man fucks around too much, his view of women is skewed: he does not respect, nor care for women. I also messaged her and kindly suggested she reads some posts here, on FDS. I hope she takes the advice to save herself the trouble of dealing w this POS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:59 PM |
| 208 | Pickme Logic: I know he's a player and I'm already sleeping with him but will ignoring his texts get him interested in more?He’s not playing hard to get, he’s just emotionally stunted + a community dick. I hope she finds FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:50 PM |
| 116 | Cringeworthy :/These poor women think it will get them picked or earn them the Cool Girl points. It will not. They are setting themselves up for abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:32 PM |
| 13 | 1 DAY OF NO CONTACT!We’re so proud of you! Please post more if you need any more help or guidance. Remember that you are very, very strong for doing something so hard — sending you hugs! 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:29 PM |
| 51 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.His brother did what most men should do: treat their woman with respect and kindness. This includes paying for her, surprise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:27 PM |
| 6 | Most men are NOT capable of genuine love. In order to love a woman, they have to see her as human. That’s why most of them would rather keep the privilege of seeing you as an object — to feel less bad about the mistreatment they put you through.They are socialized to behave this way, to one degree or another. Some are more bold than others: if they sense that you do not have the necessary experience and/or knowledge, they will use and abuse you. Others, will love a woman for being the prettiest they could get or because she “understands”/“accepts” them. Men are capable of sympathy, love, and respect. Towards other men, mostly. Once a man gets played by a woman — you bet he’ll abuse/use the rest. FDS women do not like most men for a rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:16 PM |
| 14 | Most men are NOT capable of genuine love. In order to love a woman, they have to see her as human. That’s why most of them would rather keep the privilege of seeing you as an object — to feel less bad about the mistreatment they put you through.Exactly this. All of this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 01:17 AM |
| 41 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herIf you were to see it, you’d know: it’s not the first time they orchestrate this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 08:05 PM |
| 71 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herIt’s the whole dynamic. How they were cheering him on to get laid with me that night. How they tried to get me drunk. How they left right after to give us “space”. I ended up leaving the dude at the bar, and just went home. Fucking rapists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 212 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herMen literally do all of what she has listed, if not more. What’s her point? I’m sure her guy friends treat her the same, except they also want to fuck her. I knew I needed to drop my guy friend when he told me that some dude in his extended friend group proclaimed he’d fuck me, loud and clear, to everyone — my friend did not tell me about it because he knew they’d collectively crucify him for cockblocking. I ended up ditching both of them. When the whole group was going out, my guy friend refuse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 165 | Most men are NOT capable of genuine love. In order to love a woman, they have to see her as human. That’s why most of them would rather keep the privilege of seeing you as an object — to feel less bad about the mistreatment they put you through.And if you, as a woman, threaten or question that — the whole man-tribe will be against you. They will collectively punish and abuse you because the other man did. You must’ve done something to deserve it, they think. They prey on vulnerable women, and see us as collateral damage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:40 PM |
| 155 | Most men are NOT capable of genuine love. In order to love a woman, they have to see her as human. That’s why most of them would rather keep the privilege of seeing you as an object — to feel less bad about the mistreatment they put you through.This. The more I internalize FDS, the less I want to be around men, let alone date or marry one. Edit: I do believe that I can have romantic companionship with a HVM. Before that happens, however, I need to make sure that I am capable of walking away at any given moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:32 PM |
| 104 | Experience of men who mention their ex and a past behavior that their ex called them out on, but claimed their ex was wrong.Drop him now. I assure you that it will get worse, so save yourself the time and energy. Also, never tell men the details of your dating history, vulnerabilities, traumas, etc. They will use them against you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:29 PM |
| 7 | Recent discontent with (potentially LVM) bf - need insightWhen I once came with the help of a toy, my then boyfriend threw a tantrum. He was insecure about his dick (and everything else that came with it). Guys like him are likely to be hypersexual (porn addiction, fucking around if they’re handsome enough and know how to talk — you get the picture). They’re likely to cheat, if not already. Your boyfriend sounds selfish. He lacks confidence. He lacks basic skills. I know you love him, but my piece of advice: leave. I wish I made a post about my ex (als… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:52 PM |
| 43 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.He knows what and why he said it. He doesn’t care | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Words of caution against attachment stylesThis, 100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:07 PM |
| 13 | Words of caution against attachment stylesMy attachment is mostly secure, but I do have some of the anxious one mixed in. Either way, it could be due to the turbulent relationships I’ve experienced in the past. Now? If someone tries to pull that “DA” shit on me, I’m out. Fuck them and fuck that. There is no reasoning with these people, who often feel entitled to others accepting their immaturity, manipulations, and constant gaslighting behaviors. Toxic people can date other toxic people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:55 PM |
| 47 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to dateI was home, watching the relationship dynamic between my parents unfold: mother — exhausted, over-explaining herself, empathetic and giving; father — willfully stubborn and selfish, refused to accept his wife’s needs/wishes; It was much like the dynamic I had with my, at the time, boyfriend. Him and my dad are the same. Except, I doubt my dad is that bad, but still. It’s hard for me to pin or connect those dots down, primarily because my father’s (physical and emotional) absence has resulted in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:45 PM |
| 94 | 911 Call Released - Witness saw Gabby Petito being "hit" and "slapped" by Brian on August 12thI pray that many women who find themselves stuck in abusive relationships like Gaby’s, will be able to safely get out. It’s horrific. Men are the disease. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:27 AM |
| 2 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedThat’s way too true honestly. What resources have you used to address that, if any? If you don’t mind, please share them in my PM. I would greatly appreciate that ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 09:26 AM |
| 4 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedSo important to recognize what triggers the daydreaming — as you have said, it has a lot to do with you being displeased or upset about something that causes you stress, discomfort, or even hurt. Thank you for commenting. I used to daydream a lot during my relationship especially — I would ruminate the good moments or think about how good the future (he promised) would be. It kept me caged in a relationship with a manipulative man, who knew how to lazily feed me these fantasies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 10:16 PM |
| 35 | Just received this message. A request that I not call men scrote 😮💨Yet they call women “bitches” left and right. Maybe he should go police other men instead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 08:23 PM |
| 15 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedThis is very important! I daydream all the time, it’s a coping mechanism I learned as a child. Dreams were much better than reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 08:22 PM |
| 55 | Tell him you don't like to drink (even if you do)Rapists 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:20 PM |
| 6 | If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.This 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:00 PM |
| 4 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedI’ve struggled with this as well. It takes time to unlearn these patterns and to choose better (when you recognize bad). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:58 PM |
| 2 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedYou’re welcome! Stay safe out there ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:57 PM |
| 9 | If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.I am so glad you blocked that piece of crap! Lol. He was only going to waste your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:57 PM |
| 12 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedAbundance mindset and having non-negotiable standards will keep you safe when dating. They’re your best took against predatory, manipulative men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:56 PM |
| 4 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedYou’re very welcome ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:54 PM |
| 4 | If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.We really learned the hard way. Now, I’m not risking my health and happiness for anyone, especially a man. Idc if he’s just inadequate or might get it right the next time — I’ll drop him nonetheless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:54 PM |
| 9 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedLove this comment, thank you so much! I’m sure it will help so many women ❤️ For me, my ex triggered limerence with inconsistency. He would leave whenever I had a concern I needed to talk to him about — he was trying to punish me, but also train me to be compliant in the future. When he realized that I would stubbornly continue to call him out, it was over. Thank god. Now, I know that I’ll leave at the first sign of disrespect or inconsistency — as you said, a healthy partner will not cause this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:52 PM |
| 1 | I feel like I’m breaking and will not be able to crawl out. Please share any valuable resources that you may haveThank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:16 AM |
| 26 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedDon’t be embarrassed — it’s good that you now know. This means that you’ll have the space to make better, safer choices from now on! Best of luck and you are very welcome ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:12 AM |
| 64 | If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.He might be just an insecure piece of shit. Or this may be his way of making you cling to him more. Or maybe he wants to score with another woman in the group whilst keeping you as a backup. Either way, fuck what he’s trying to do. Block and delete that asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:52 AM |
| 39 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedExactly. One does not go without the other. If you notice these symptoms, he must be using some manipulative tactics on you. My ex breached my physical boundaries and pretty much forced physical affection on me. He would pretend to be open, loyal, and invested; that, along with being physically, non-sexually affectionate with me. Had I left at the first sign of manipulation, obsessive thinking of and attachment to him would’ve been avoided. Live and learn, though. Now that I have better boundari… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:36 AM |
| 8 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedI’m very glad, you’re welcome ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:47 AM |
| 18 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedI always remind myself of how important it is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:32 AM |
| 28 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedI’ve recognized that I exhibited some symptoms as well in my last relationship, actually. I think it can be managed, though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:31 AM |
| 9 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedYou’re welcome ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:30 AM |
| 47 | Self-awareness is for YOURSELF: don’t make your weaknesses publicThis is so important. That is why women should watch themselves more, in terms of sharing anything with any man — it will do you more good than harm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 12:53 AM |
| 24 | I did it!Congratulations! 🍾 It’s well deserved, so I hope you will go out somewhere nice to celebrate the breakup. Only good times wait ahead 🌷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 12:50 AM |
| 22 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.Sorry, my comment was more generic, rather than family-related, which is what your post is about. It’s hard to get rid of family members, especially immediate ones. I need to learn more about Gray Rocking, though! As of right now, I mostly block and delete if someone (not family) turns out to be toxic or attempts to mistreat me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:04 PM |
| 125 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.The only acceptable (and healthy, for you) form of reaction should be leaving, followed by a lawsuit if need be. Men do not give a fuck about your feelings, comfort, and — most of all — safety. So, have a plan to exit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 08:30 PM |
| 39 | “A woman’s friends are her most precious pearls” - my momI absolutely adore this post! It’s so important to have good, fulfilling friendships with other women 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 07:43 PM |
| 111 | NEVER admit insecurityMen learned to use anything in their favor. I was not insecure, jealous, or controlling. Guess what my ex called me, to suit his benefit in the relationship? Guess whom he turned out to be? He thought it made him untouchable. Don’t let them believe this, ever. Block and delete. Simply walk away, no explanation needed. He knows what he did/is doing. And even if that piece of shit doesn’t, you deserve much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:42 AM |
| 107 | "Men protecting other men" and why you should keep you standards sky high cause of it.Get your evidence, then a lawyer, and sue the bastard. Be smart, stay safe. Do not tell men about your traumas because they do not have the capacity for empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:03 PM |
| 33 | How to Deal With LVM Brothers?You shame him, ruthlessly and with no hesitation. Do not justify your stance, if he starts to excuse himself. Simply repeat what you have said originally, then ignore him. Bully the fuck out of him, if you will. But you can’t teach him much, now that he’s older. Once life fucks him up, maybe he’ll learn. | /r/askFDS | 16/09/21 04:33 AM |
| 20 | IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD: Or, even if he wanted to, he never had the ability to do it in the first place.They are only being themselves. That’s why we keep our shit to ourselves, stay pleasantly silent on dates, then block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:29 AM |
| 53 | Two shy introverts go on a date…He has to earn that chance, not have you give it to him simply because he’s thoughtful. You have to be ruthless with men you barely know, not soft-hearted. Being thoughtful is bare minimum. Do not text him first. Do not initiate. Do not be too nice. Do not try to fill the silence when he goes quiet. Sit and observe. If he does the bare minimum and you feel as if he is not trying to go above and beyond to impress you, you should drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:22 AM |
| 72 | Two shy introverts go on a date…Extroverted or not, he needs to be the one to take the lead, or make an initiative. Sure, you may work on your social skills, but only so much — never make the first move. Otherwise, you’ll end up getting yourself hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:03 AM |
| 5 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefI was speaking of myself, the daughter, just to clarify! My other siblings have been provided for equally, and our parents never had a “favorite”. However, my mother was more harsh with me, given that she was terrified I would grow weak and, therefore, more vulnerable. Either way, that’s only a snippet of what my family dynamic was/is. I am glad that you’re learning to do better. I cannot imagine how traumatic it must’ve been for you and your siblings to have a narc parent, so my heart goes out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 07:09 PM |
| 12 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefThank you for breaking this down for me! ❤️ I always re-read u/modernmedusaa comments and posts, they have been very helpful! In part, her comments and this community as a whole have been so validating in my healing journey. Looking back, my father has made some extremely sexist/misogynistic comments about women recently. Yet he financed his daughter’s expensive education. Make it make sense. He hates feeling small, and he feels small when someone’s character or intelligence undermines his. This… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:32 PM |
| 6 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.Also, I’ll add: you don’t talk about your expected timeline with a man you barely know. But you can still set other time-related limitations. For instance, let’s say you don’t text with men past 8:00 pm, period. You can set that boundary with him verbally, by saying: “Hey. Just to let you know, I always finish up my text convos by 8. Nice talking to you & good night!” If he attempts to break this pattern the next day, you drop him. Then, you can also set the boundary non-verbally. If he texts pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:17 PM |
| 4 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.I’ve been there, too, and am still learning. I’m very happy that you are as well ❤️ Any technique or strategy can be tailored to your personality, to what you want out of dating, be it marriage to a HVM, a life-long partnership to one, or none of the above. Either way, you’re very welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:06 PM |
| 6 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.It depends. FDS suggests women do not initiate an exclusivity talk, period. You do not need to verbally communicate your time limitations to any man, unless he inquires. If he does ask, you stay vague. It’s important that you weed out LV men early on, as some of them are there for the short-run: amateurs will take themselves out early on, others can play the long game. Nonetheless, you keep silent. If per your standards, a man initiates the exclusivity talk too early/too soon, he should be out. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:54 PM |
| 1 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.You’re welcome! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:52 PM |
| 26 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefI do not know if my own father is a narcissist but he’s emotionally unavailable and is generally very passive with parenting. Just like you, though, I find myself attracted to men who look cold, collected, are serious, and intellectually fluent. They end up being emotionally stunted or unavailable. One of them was possibly a narcissist. I am not sure how to re-wire myself, though. How do I ensure the next men on my roaster are not replicas of my father? Do you have any tips? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:51 PM |
| 7 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄Yes, exactly! Some men are just filled with envy and are greedy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:34 PM |
| 3 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.I love this comment. Such a great quote and it’s so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:58 PM |
| 9 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄He feels like he somehow contributed and is, therefore, entitled to her money by default. That was my logic there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:56 PM |
| 3 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.You’re welcome! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 07:19 AM |
| 10 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.This one is nice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:34 AM |
| 12 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.This exactly. Women from all walks of life can be deceived, coerced, and later abused, or even murdered. Unfortunately, even those of us who have experience and are careful, get manipulated. There was a reason (besides purposeful detachment and control) as to why my ex kept quiet on his insecurities, traumas, vulnerabilities, etc. It’s dangerous out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:27 AM |
| 11 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.Men and pickmes are either predatory, manipulative, or opportunistic. We have to remove ourselves ruthlessly from anyone that endangers our peace. The hard part is learning when, then putting it to practice. It takes time to get into such protective habit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:27 AM |
| 15 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.Create habits that protect your boundaries regardless of your feelings. One of your comments earlier this summer inspired me to research and start working on ways to safeguard my time, energy, and levels of investment in people. It’s very important to know what it was in the past exactly that needed the most protection. In part, I believe my ex “won me over” with non-sexual, sensual touching. Now I know what boundaries to set, how and when to slowly start introducing physical intimacy (sexual/no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:18 AM |
| 23 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.Self-betrayal is also a form sabotage, or can even be a coping mechanism. It’s hard to spot, even harder to treat. Nonetheless, once subscribed to FDS, we have an accountability before ourselves to lead a healthy (=free of NV/LV people) lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:12 AM |
| 20 | Not even 3 weeks post break up, and he's already back on TinderYou won his absence, congratulations. Now you’ll have the space to grow and learn. Use it wisely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:53 AM |
| 31 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄He hates that she “used” him to “subsidize” her lifestyle & used it to her advantage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:46 AM |
| 43 | The novelty variant of the "Blood in the water" test: "Nobody has ever done ... to me"Love this idea. This test is the safe/fake version of telling a man your true vulnerabilities (which you never do). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:44 AM |
| 143 | Why? Just why?I am here to say that you do need to know his sexual history (let him “brag”, then block, like OP did). If he’s a community dick, he’ll cheat; so, it’s best you know early rather than find out later. Some men are not stupid: they know what to and not to talk about. You need to want him (for your own good) to tell on himself as early as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:40 AM |
| 6 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.You’re welcome! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:32 AM |
| 56 | You Don't Always Have to Hold Yourself to the Same Standards as MenLove this post. Liberal feminism is yet another tool to gaslight women into compliance. Any disadvantage or flaw in a woman, oppressed by default, only adds to her struggle. It puts her back in the hands of tyranny she was born into. Our vulnerabilities create windows of opportunity for fucked up men. Our disadvantages advance these men. So, no, it’s never the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:31 AM |
| 13 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.So happy that it’s helpful! I’ve been writing mine down as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:24 AM |
| 40 | Reality vs FantasyLess than the bare minimum will always be negative value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:12 PM |
| 127 | Share your FDS dating success storyMy success story is that I got out of an abusive relationship with a cheat. The road to recovery hasn’t been easy but I’m doing my absolute best. In the past three months, I: • Got a professional mentor, who used to be a director at one of the Fortune 500. She’s very sweet and so, so patient! • Got back into therapy. I am now enhancing my stress-management, improving my eating habits, and processing some of the trauma. • Got a well-paying job in my field. It has great insurance and many benefits… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 04:48 PM |
| 41 | Men and therapyThey hate women, but love to use us. It’s true that their abuse can be intense, or even lethal. The better they are at hiding it, the more it tells you of how long they’re practiced it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 04:38 PM |
| 93 | Men and therapyMost men are abusive, each to a degree. It’s important to remember this when dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 02:53 PM |
| 61 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleTalk is cheap, in cases like these. He has to commit every aspect of his life, his time to you and you only for you to even consider exclusivity with him. Date other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 04:24 PM |
| 105 | College student draws up 17-page CONTRACT with her boyfriendLmao she came prepared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 08:18 PM |
| 8 | Listen, then LeaveWhat a scrote and the audacity lmao. They always tell on themselves! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 32 | Listen, then LeaveMy ex once said, “I would always find their logic flawed” about his exes. Lo and behold, mine turned out to be the same, since... it just had to be, to serve his selfish, narcissistic nature. The rest is history, much like yours. It takes time to learn them, but once you do — you’ll be able to tell, then block and delete, based on the way he simply carries himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:14 AM |
| 37 | Listen, then LeaveYour comment hit home. They leave, but their lies and cheating keep following you back home. It takes awhile to break away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 01:46 AM |
| 15 | What was your moment of clarity?This exactly 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Keep Your SilenceI hope you get the justice you deserve ❤️ I wish you all the best in your journey, stay safe and remember that you will always find help, support, and sound advice here on FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:19 PM |
| 105 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsI am delighted to see a positive example of your husband doing his best to help your family. He recognized that he needed to take charge and adequately assisted your family, — given that he has shown (according to you) a pattern of HV behavior, his act proves that he stays true to his character, as well as spousal responsibilities. Thank you for sharing ❤️ I hope that you’re ruthlessly vetting him still, especially upon discovering FDS — women, from all walks of life and circumstances, need to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:38 PM |
| 189 | Help I’ve Become Absurdly Hot Since I Got Married and Now I Want to Dump The Only Woman Who Ever Wanted to Fuck Me So I Can Become The Porn Star Of My DreamsThe only thing that got “hot” was his audacity. The wife deserves much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:28 PM |
| 4 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.This! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:01 PM |
| 4 | Keep Your SilenceExactly. I turned to FDS for advice on how to handle the news of the infidelity. I assumed that reading women advise against it would make me feel better. Even though it helped, it made little to no difference in how I felt. I had to sit with myself and understand the reasoning behind my intentions to speak up. When I realized that my ego needed to be tended to in a healthy, mature way, I was able to get out of the gut and continue moving in silence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:57 PM |
| 3 | Keep Your SilenceThank you! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:53 PM |
| 9 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.I save all of your comments. Thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:38 PM |
| 292 | Where is the lie, tho?Men who want to fuck a lot of women are STD-ridden, wannabe manipulative rapists with a plethora of insecurities (surprise). Avoid them like fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:03 PM |
| 9 | Keep Your SilenceAdded your quote to the post, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:49 PM |
| 19 | Keep Your SilenceThis must be extremely hard to deal with, I am so sorry to hear that you are now dealing with a smear campaign. Best course of action is to block and delete. Keep your interactions short, almost robotic. Don’t let your ex feed from your hurt, no matter how hard it may be. Sending you some love ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:44 PM |
| 19 | Keep Your SilenceLove these quotes, especially the first one. It’s so important to learn how to leave with no explanations of why and how, and continue to uphold the peace in your life. When your ego is healthy and well-fed, there comes no need to utter a single, unnecessary word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:42 PM |
| 91 | Discussion: How to deal with LVM in friend group?I suggest ignoring him completely. Do not give him the satisfaction of being noticed, let alone praised for some of his curated charm, “wokeness”, or else. You may forewarn the trusted people in the group of his actions, however. The rest will require, as you mentioned, slow-fading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:35 PM |
| 7 | I feel like this needs to be said, but let’s stop praising men for doing the bare minimumThese women learn their lessons. As for those who do not or have yet to, the time will come eventually. Hopefully, not too late. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:24 PM |
| 27 | I feel like this needs to be said, but let’s stop praising men for doing the bare minimumExactly. It’s so easy to compare your mediocre relationship to horrible ones, and assume your partner is a true catch. That’s why it’s crucial to have a healthy relationship with yourself first and foremost. This includes: self-validation, strong intuition, unyielding standards, and a trusted support network of family/friends who share the same values. I struggled with an impaired sense of trust in regards to my intuition. I was also manipulated, misinformed on what covert narcissism is. It got … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:21 PM |
| 64 | I feel like this needs to be said, but let’s stop praising men for doing the bare minimumCorrect. We’ve had a lot of newbies posting recently. Either these women, whilst being with a potential HVM, only wanted to highlight some special moments about their relationship, or they have yet to learn/come to terms with the fact that their partners might be LV/NV. I remember myself clinging to the good, nice moments as a way to cope with my declining, emotionally unfulfilling, and abusive relationship. They, among other things, kept me in for too long (thankfully, most of the relationship … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:58 PM |
| 119 | I feel like this needs to be said, but let’s stop praising men for doing the bare minimumSeeing some wholesome content once in awhile is good. But we have to be careful not to reinforce the “grateful for the bare minimum” mentality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:45 PM |
| 175 | What was your moment of clarity?I love your comment. No matter what their intentions were in the end, even if they meant no harm, leave anyways. Your intuition told you what you need to know, so validate it by removing yourself from the situation, relationship, friendship, etc. I’ve never regretted losing a single person in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:14 PM |
| 164 | What was your moment of clarity?I was in an argument with him, over text. When he said: “I can say whatever I want”, it just showed me how entitled he is. He was pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:09 PM |
| 68 | Men use the evolutionary psychology argument as a tool to prevent societal changeMen have already learned that they can invest the minimal amount to produce high returns. Why give that up, especially if you can manipulate, coerce, and abuse women into compliance? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 09:34 PM |
| 128 | Men use the evolutionary psychology argument as a tool to prevent societal changeMen love the fact that they can have entitlement by default, and they intend to keep it. Now that women are waking up to their bullshit, things should come to a change (not necessarily a good one, at first). Given that there will be less women seeking out casual, committed relationship or marriage, more of us will be at risk of textbook/RP/PUA abuse tactics to keep us “in place”. Historically, men have been driven to secure women as a valuable resource by force. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 09:26 PM |
| 30 | Some men say, men going for much younger women or even teenagers is just "biology". I just realised adult men who try to be with teenagers/much younger women usually end up alone.The cause is their pedophilia and need for control | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 05:31 PM |
| 8 | Four years for choking her during sex. This is not okay.I am sorry to hear that he’s put you through so much trauma. Unfortunately, most of us have had the misfortune of getting into relationships with NV/LV men like your ex. We made out alive, unlike so many of our fellow women (may they Rest In Peace). The best we can do right now is learn, take the time necessary to heal, and leave at the first sign of disrespect, inconsistency, and other red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:41 PM |
| 67 | Four years for choking her during sex. This is not okay.I hope he gets his fair share in jail. Men who enjoy these “kinks” are rapists and murderers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 02:07 AM |
| 6 | Marcus Aurelius' Meditations: FDS in DisguiseThank you for reminding me of this. I might have to re-read this book! They don’t consider what they do as abuse because that would mean having to (emotionally, mentally, legally) own up to it. It means that they would have to face themselves — they know that, when they’ll look in the mirror, the ugliness they’ll see will destroy them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 01:55 AM |
| 7 | Marcus Aurelius' Meditations: FDS in DisguiseThis exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 10:38 PM |
| 15 | Marcus Aurelius' Meditations: FDS in DisguiseI naively assumed my ex was a disciplined, balanced person, who is capable of being gentle and empathetic. Lo and behold, he was a manipulative piece of crap. However, as he once told me: “No one has the right to use or abuse you” (except him, of course). Most men have no morality, honor, or empathy in them. You have to operate on suspicion by default with each one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:41 PM |
| 196 | "73 percent of respondents in their study stated that they had more than one back burner...56 percent of those in committed relationships" Is this what male and female" friendships" are these day?Cowards. Men use other women as emotional cushions to fall back on in case their relationships fail (which they will, eventually). Be suspicious of any man who has a lot of (or some) female friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 03:13 PM |
| 60 | If you have a high value mom, always go to her for adviceYour mom sounds amazing. My mother, too, ended up right about one of my girlfriends (who was a huge pickme) and an ex. I would go to her for advice if I feel like I’m doubting my intuition from now on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 03:07 PM |
| 64 | UPDATE: If he needs space from the relationship, it's a noRead your other post. Good riddance and I love how you handled it! It’s helping me gain strength dealing with the thoughts of infidelity in my past relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 02:39 AM |
| 3 | It’s easy to miss your ex if you only remember the good and not the badI (unconsciously) turn to good memories to help myself cope. It’s easier to think of him well than to experience the heaviness of all the trauma and pain he has put me through. This gives way to rumination, which may get harmful — I would not want to dwell on it too long, so I’ll try to put everything on paper instead. This may help you as well, although I have found myself resisting it. I don’t want to think of the pain again, it feels too heavy. Not overwhelming, just heavy. But I know I have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 10:17 PM |
| 2 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Thank you so much for explaining the “why’s” and the realities of cheating. May I PM you for more advice, please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 01:49 PM |
| 8 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?It’s getting easier but idk if the temptation will come back again. I was very tempted to message him earlier today to say that I know about the cheating. But this will not save my (lack of) dignity in the past, it will only ruin it more now. I’m trying hard to refrain from it. I removed him one month after we broke up, actually. I also removed all of his friends from my social media. I was recently checking my blocked list and saw his icon — he changed it to a picture I took of him on our celeb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:31 AM |
| 3 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?I don’t even know if I am blaming myself. Logically, I know that it is none of my fault. Emotionally? I just feel numb and nauseous. The latter two are probably the signs of betrayal trauma, as one of the commenters suggested. I will speak with my therapist next week about this and see if there are any steps we may take to help me feel better or to, at least, avoid more damage. But your point about wasting time feeling down is very important. I do not want to waste it. I want to be better, to fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:24 AM |
| 3 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Thank you so much for all the support. I know you know this but be very diligent with whom you let into your life. Otherwise, you’ll deal with trauma. Having a peace of mind would be my #1 priority from now on. No one will ever stand above it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:15 AM |
| 5 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:14 AM |
| 4 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Thank you so much. I don’t intend to be burdensome but I admit that I need all the support I can get right now. It’s lonely to go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:13 AM |
| 14 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Hmm. Yoga and releasing the stress physically sound nice, I’ll try them out. I got my STI/STD tests done. Thankfully, nothing. Thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:28 AM |
| 3 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Thank you! I got her book | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:26 AM |
| 40 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Thank you for your comment ❤️ I’ve ruminated over the red flags plenty, trust me. I now know all of them and will avoid said flags like fire. I know the drill: cheating is abuse, it’s not the victim’s fault. But learning the details of his cheating has been traumatic. I just want to forget the relationship ever existed, or pretend that it was just a nightmare. Right now, I’m just trying to figure out how to help ease my mind, since none of the above is working. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:26 AM |
| 20 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Your comment was so helpful, thank you for explaining to me what it is exactly that’s happening to my body and what to expect. I will take a couple of days off to help ease my mind, get some rest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:20 AM |
| 13 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Glad to hear that you’ve found your happiness. Cheating is devastating and no one deserves to experience it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:18 AM |
| 13 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?I cried reading your first paragraph, thank you ❤️ This community has helped me a LOT. I bought the book. I will read it once I feel ready to re-visit thoughts about all the cheating that was going on behind my back. For now, I’m just tired and I feel weak. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope to get where you are one day as well. I know I will, but it seems so far ahead at the moment. I’ll try to make the necessary baby steps to achieve it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:17 AM |
| 15 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Cheating is abuse, that’s correct. Unfortunately, whether or not you have anyone confirm it for you, it’s traumatic. It haunts you. I just hope that I will be able to convince myself to stop letting it do so — haunt me, that is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:12 AM |
| 6 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Thank you ❤️ All of what you have said is so true. I know this but it’s still hard to process. I want to completely forget about the relationship I had with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:10 AM |
| 9 | How did you help yourself to mentally get over your LVX/NVX cheating?Thank you. I logically understand and accept all that you have said. Yet, I can’t help but disassociate: I now wish I never found out because learning this was, to an extent, traumatic. I don’t know how to help myself not be traumatized over this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:09 AM |
| 91 | When men withhold feelings/emotions: do they have them or do they just not care?You shouldn’t care whether or not they do care. You shouldn’t care about the “why”. The very moment a man shows you that he is not capable of (or willing to) emotionally investing in you, he should be dropped instantly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Tell us about what it's like to be a woman in your countryI think your DMs are closed, I can’t see an option of sending you a PM. Would it be okay if you message me first? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 09:46 PM |
| 7 | Tell us about what it's like to be a woman in your countryCan I ask you a couple of questions about your life in France? If PM is okay with you, please let me know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 03:39 PM |
| 27 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.Lmao. You’d think they would learn from this, but no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:23 AM |
| 28 | They aren’t even hiding the fact that they want to be babied into adulthood. 🚩MOMMY ISSUES🚩He knows it’s relatable. Lol. I hope these momma boys fuck off into space and stop bothering women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:35 PM |
| 258 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.Block and delete, as always. Ghost them hard. They know what they’re doing. How fucking disrespectful it is to ask a woman over as a first “date”. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:34 PM |
| 131 | Women who are only your friends when they are in between boyfriends, are pickme and LV.If you’re a single woman, they will see you as a threat. Rightfully so, actually: most of these women know that their LV boyfriends will attempt to pursue or get your attention behind their backs. Of course, this can happen even if you are taken. LVM know no respect or boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 06:28 PM |
| 83 | Women who are only your friends when they are in between boyfriends, are pickme and LV.Vet women as hard as you vet potential dating prospects. Being friends with a pickme will bring you nothing but trouble. Great post, OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 06:24 PM |
| 24 | 40 year-old scrote living with his parents sued them for trashing a porn collection which "included depictions of incestuous sexual relationship, along with depictions of sex with minors and animals, sexual assault and slavery." And he won the lawsuit.Disgusting. Unfortunately prisons don’t have enough space for men like him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 03:52 PM |
| 6 | Another Scrote Sticker Chart🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:43 AM |
| 89 | He actually said she should be happy with a lump of coal in the comments 🤦🏼♀️I hate their entitled “she should be gRaTeFuL for any ring” bullshit mentality. Just admit that the little money you have will only get allocated to buying what you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:38 AM |
| 99 | He actually said she should be happy with a lump of coal in the comments 🤦🏼♀️Lmao, this clown really played himself. If he doesn’t want to buy you a ring of your dreams, get with a man who will. We literally put our lives, careers, finances, and overall well-being on the line when dating men for marriage. They need to compensate. I am still recovering my health from dating a LVM. Next time a man pursues me, he better be financially (and all the rest) ready to make my life a fucking fairytale. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:26 AM |
| 81 | I just…🤦🏻♀️oh my god TW: DVWhat a fucking sociopath. I hope she gets out, she needs to find this sub and start working on her escape plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 11:48 PM |
| 18 | When friends ask you for advise, ask the guy you’re dating what he would do!LVM always tell on themselves. Good riddance honestly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 09:21 PM |
| 293 | That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their wordsI feel sorry for good-hearted, humbled women like her. They always end up getting used by some scrote. I hope she drops that leech to the ground, stomps it some more, and leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:22 PM |
| 9 | 5’2 with an attitude and audacity.Can we stop re-posting this clown? Seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 06:16 PM |
| 55 | I want to burn my eyes 🧍🏽♀️This made me shiver. She must be on another level of pickmeism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:30 PM |
| 49 | Dude makes 6x more and refuses to adjust the 50/50 budgetI remember my ex complaining that, had he offered to pay the rent for me, I would’ve agreed. He then spoke of being upset with me for not insisting on paying for my food/drinks on dates. 🤦🏻♀️ Honey, why are you offering if you’re so broke? Should’ve just told me he can’t afford dating a woman. Thinking back, he was always emasculated by the fact that my father would allow me to buy nice things for myself. I’m glad my ex took himself out, or else this would’ve been my future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:34 PM |
| 11 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?He sounds so sweet! May I ask what your mom is like with him? How does she treat him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 01:37 AM |
| 1 | The Comments Under This Are Pure GoldPosted before | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 11:42 PM |
| 17 | Found this in another sub (figured I can't crosspost it), so here we are.Exactly. That’s why men should stop reproducing. Don’t let another man reap from your possessions, get a vasectomy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:02 PM |
| 27 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?I love this! Sounds like a very healthy, respectful family dynamic. You’re very lucky! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:35 PM |
| 28 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?On the contrary, how does your mom treat your dad? I’m curious how to women tend to be in HV relationship dynamics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:33 PM |
| 139 | This is probably exactly how some scrotes process mundane, everyday transactionsI doubt it tingles anymore, ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:00 AM |
| 140 | How can WHO make things right with WHO??? My heart hurts for her 🙁This has nothing to do with embarrassment and everything to do with abuse. I hope she reaches out to her family (if any) for help. This man does not love, nor care about her. She needs to get out ASAP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 7 | Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow.That’s disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 100 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!I just read her case. It’s so fucked up. Men are animals. If not for laws and other restrictions, more of them would be beating, raping, and assaulting us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 01:11 PM |
| 6 | I found proof of how uncomfortable my stepdad made me and my sister. No one believed that he was being creepy.Second this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:04 AM |
| 506 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!I’m sure a lot of men would cry “not me!”, knowing full well they’d do the same. Most men have no sense of honor or obligation. Those of them who have physical strength only use it for their own selfish benefit, be it female attention, intimidation/control, or both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:01 AM |
| 157 | Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow.He needs to be reported. Why would someone overlook this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 01:52 AM |
| 79 | BruhSounds like he’s trying to compromise her financial situation. What a piece of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsGood riddance! Glad you dumped your ex. Such a piece of trash. These men deserve to get castrated. My ex cried the loudest about how much he despises cheating or “bEtRaYaL” (even though he never got cheated on). He knew how easy it is to cheat and gaslight. So he was terrified it’d happen to him one day. His little ego wouldn’t be able to handle it. He also knew I wouldn’t run around, chasing him at bars (should’ve dumped him instead). Never again will I date a man who’s into bar life. They’re a… | /r/askFDS | 24/08/21 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsThank you! Less than a year. 1/3 was long distance, we are both international students | /r/askFDS | 24/08/21 01:17 PM |
| 252 | He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡All this gaslighting is absolutely disgusting. The girl who found the videos should leave. It’s always the lack of support for women like her who simply do not know any better. I hope she finds FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsThank you so much for your comment ❤️ It’s extremely helpful and very validating. Thankfully, I learned about him cheating now, not earlier — otherwise, it would’ve caused more damage. But now, I’m simply just disgusted. There are no feelings left, only a flicker of anger. He once got called out on it, actually. He said that the women he was all over at bars “don’t need to know” that he has a girlfriend because “that’s none of their business”. The person who called him out was later told to drop… | /r/askFDS | 24/08/21 12:38 PM |
| 3 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsThank you so much for your kind words, I teared up! I’m moving past this, and am now trying to get better. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsThank you for your kind words and advice. I’ll make sure to do just that! | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 09:26 PM |
| 6 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsThank you for the support and all the advice! I’ve calmed down a bit. Sending him anything would be a huge waste of my time and energy; plus, as you’ve said, I do not want to give him the satisfaction of knowing I still think about him — I’ve blocked him everywhere. Now that I know that his friends were covering his cheating, they’ll rightfully go in the trash as well. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 11 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsThis is true, thank you for your response. I feel embarrassed for wanting to stay with him when he decided it’d be best we break up. I naively thought that he loved me. Had I known that he was cheating the whole time, I would’ve left first — he knew that. I will remove his friends soon, so I am sure they will add two plus two. They deserve each other. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 05:47 PM |
| 24 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsYou’re right, thank you. I’ll just block his friend group and move on. I’ll have to put this past me. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 02:33 PM |
| 23 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsThank you! I’ll have a talk about this with my therapist tomorrow. Will probably write an email, too. I just hate that he thinks he got away without getting caught red-handed, although it’s too late to call him out on anything. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 01:48 PM |
| 9 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.I am sorry to hear that you’ve been through the same. Honestly, anything a man does should be considered an orange/red flag until proven otherwise, lol. But then again, it’s exhausting to keep track of their behavior, patterns, words, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:20 PM |
| 18 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.That woman was myself, although I have been with my ex less than a year (thank god). He would get extremely angry when he felt like I was close to figuring out that he’s been cheating. I would get emotionally dismissed and blackmailed, so no wonder it took me awhile to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:04 PM |
| 18 | Dodged a crafty LVMWhat a fucking predator. Good riddance, OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 12:51 PM |
| 221 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.Exactly this. If he’s been promiscuous before “commitment”, he will continue to seek casual sex on the side. Men like this have plethora of issues, addictions, and insecurities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:15 PM |
| 766 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!This poor woman thinks that he is just “teasing” or being sarcastic. In reality, he’s telling her the truth. That is why, the moment he “jokes” or speaks of you in that manner, you have to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 02:16 PM |
| 107 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyThis was quite insightful. I can definitely relate to some of the traits that I see in myself; I also recognized some techniques my ex used on me. I’m definitely saving this post, thank you, OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:46 AM |
| 57 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceExactly this. They just don’t want to work on their insecurities because they’re so far up into self-coddling and depression. It’s easier to just avoid their issues and abuse their partners than get actual help. My ex was handsome but he had some serious self-esteem issues, too. Especially with his dick size, which was just average. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 12:04 AM |
| 154 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceMore importantly: if he is conventionally attractive yet insecure, run for the hills. He will use and abuse you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 10:23 PM |
| 7 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.Thank you for this comment. It’s so spot on. Many women on this forum fall into the trap of blaming themselves for the abuse that they endured. It’s heartbreaking because no one in their right mind would choose to go through relational trauma, abuse, and pain. It took me some time to get where I am now. I am simply exhausted of ruminating over the entire relationship. It was not healthy, as simple as that. Now that I know which red flags to watch out for, I want to finally let it go, otherwise i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 04:43 PM |
| 6 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.Thank you ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 12:36 PM |
| 35 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.Stonewalling, dismissing my concerns, not taking my boundaries taken seriously, entitlement, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 03:05 AM |
| 19 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.Got it now, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:26 PM |
| 40 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.Thank you ♥️ I am tired of beating myself up for not knowing any better, for being soft-hearted with a man who I thought loved me. Live and learn 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:24 PM |
| 28 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.Thank you 💞 I wish I’d taken that step, like I wanted to so many times. As someone once said, “I only trust what I see in the mirror — myself”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:57 PM |
| 75 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.They were all alike, so they will never see fault in each other. Thank you, you do as well! 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:52 PM |
| 15 | Had to share this 😩Poor thing. How dare she has standards? How inconvenient. Why not say no to the date, I wonder? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:32 PM |
| 4 | The meaning of "boundaries"I’m sorry to hear that this has been your experience. No one deserves to be thrown into the world with no boundaries developed, no means of protecting themselves. But now that you’re working on it, it will get better. Stay strong and be gentle with yourself 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:02 PM |
| 601 | What changed when you started giving back the same energy you got?They gauge to see if you’re easy. When they realize they’ll have to make an effort to entertain you, they move on (but still orbit around, poking you every now and then in case you might be vulnerable/desperate). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:53 PM |
| 27 | Man 36m lies about divorce to 29f gf. Input girls?He broke her trust. Good on her for having healthy boundaries. Your friend should not bother her and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:17 PM |
| 25 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...This is horrific. I’d be traumatized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 05:34 PM |
| 35 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyWow, that sounds absolutely horrifying. He is disgusting. I am glad that Kim managed to make it out. I once read an article about her finally breaking free from Kanye’s “influence” on her fashion, branding, etc. It made mention of him being controlling. I’ve heard that Kim is quite business savvy, smart, and overall polite, so good for her, she can now give more focus to her career and kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 05:24 PM |
| 45 | Guy that I went to high school with (I'm 31 now) still trying to sleep with me till this day. He's freshly married with a toddler. Mind you, these "talks" consisted of him saying pervy stuff while I tried to get away.He’s a porn-depraved pervert. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:27 PM |
| 81 | Pickmes will blame other women even when it has nothing to do with them. Classy.It’s not like their husbands don’t already pay her, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 27 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyWait, what about Kanye’s sexual preferences? You mean he’s not into white women? Yeah, I believe she’s always been more career-oriented than anything. She does not seem like the type who would settle down with a man for the sake of creating a family (quite prevalent in her culture, women often get pressured to have kids by 25-30). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:12 PM |
| 30 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyIrina Shayk is stunning. She was pimped out to do this job? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:23 PM |
| 60 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyThe eternal pedophile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:18 PM |
| 111 | The meaning of "boundaries"This is a good reminder. Unfortunately, many women were never taught how to properly exert their boundaries, which are so important, considering how dangerous men can be out there. Good post, OP. Once again: the moment he pushes, ignores, dismisses, or neggs you about a boundary you have set, you LEAVE his ass immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:09 PM |
| 63 | Should you ever pay on a first date?OP, read the Handbook, please. These men are talking shit, trying to use women to subsidize their lifestyle, get “cheap” sex, as well as other benefits of the emotional, physical, and mental labor that women partake in during the talking/dating stages. A man paying for your meal on a date that he asked you out to should be your standard (mind you, no coffee, alcohol, or other “cheap” dates are acceptable either). It is common courtesy that every man should follow, otherwise he shouldn’t date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 3 | What’s your best FDS quote?Because of this quote, I started to re-consider my former relationship. I feel very icky about the “if he wanted to, he could” quote or the “if you do X, he will think Y and respect you” that gets thrown around here on FDS. These quotes are tricky and may be easily misinterpreted. Of course, you should protect yourself and have strong boundaries, standards. However, no matter what you do, a LVM will always find a fault with you to escape accountability. If you are the “faulty” one, then he’s the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 12:10 PM |
| 34 | I just discovered that my boyfriend had been on Tinder for ALL of 2020 and only stopped because he kept getting rejected.Good riddance. Men like him have no dignity, honor, or self-respect. They will never be able to hold anything good for long — or at all — because they do not know how to maintain it. Block and delete, girl, and remember: when there’s smoke, there is fire — so drop them at the first sign of disrespect, always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:25 PM |
| 21 | What’s your best FDS quote?Thank you so much! I’m doing way better than I was a couple of months ago, so it’s great! Baby steps. 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:22 PM |
| 338 | What’s your best FDS quote?”Listen to their words, but also let their actions be your guide.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:23 AM |
| 337 | What’s your best FDS quote?”Men do not change for who they want. They saw someone who they want and are keeping up an act to keep having access to it.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:19 AM |
| 341 | What’s your best FDS quote?“A LVM cannot be gentle because gentleness is a combination of strength, restraint, consideration, and respect.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:18 AM |
| 28 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("This. Start building up your walls, they will be there to protect you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:15 AM |
| 140 | What’s your best FDS quote?I’d get this tattooed on my boobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:13 AM |
| 221 | What’s your best FDS quote?”A bad decision is not yourself in entirety. This is a moment of growth and part of it feels shitty.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:12 AM |
| 288 | What’s your best FDS quote?”If I have to try and maneuver him into pulling his weight, he’s not worth it.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:11 AM |
| 31 | What’s your best FDS quote?I absolutely love those, thank you! I’ll be adding some more as well 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:07 AM |
| 491 | What’s your best FDS quote?Mine is: “Always keep a part of yourself, to yourself and yourself alone” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:04 AM |
| 28 | A therapist and coach shares her dating advice. What do y’all think of this? Screams massive pick me vibes to me.Exactly. You accept him for who he is by leaving him behind. That’s all there should be to any dating advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:01 AM |
| 53 | A therapist and coach shares her dating advice. What do y’all think of this? Screams massive pick me vibes to me.And then we’re surprised why so many women gaslight themselves into relationships with absolute scum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:53 AM |
| 40 | Can I just leave this here? 🤣😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:24 PM |
| 17 | Misogyny unites men from all around the world. They’re all cheering on the Talibans and these are the same men you interact with on a day to day basis.Their willful ignorance, arrogance, stupidity, entitlement will never seize to amuse me. Although, it shouldn’t at this point. I pray for Afghan women. I hope once day they will see peace. But we all know this will not happen until men get booted down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:20 PM |
| 192 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("This is not “creating conflict out of nowhere”, women are just socialized to gaslight and desensitize themselves to abusive, manipulative, insecure shit that men put them through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:16 PM |
| 23 | Misogyny unites men from all around the world. They’re all cheering on the Talibans and these are the same men you interact with on a day to day basis.They just hate women so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:13 PM |
| 61 | Is she high maintenance tho?At this rate, men will go instinct, lol. Men like him should not have girlfriends. In my culture, men are gatekept from the dating scene if they’re broke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:05 PM |
| 8 | Women and social media activismThis exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:32 PM |
| 18 | Women and social media activismAlso the “toxic positivity” bs. All of the things they hate so much are what make up their world. If a guy demeans any of the above, a woman should fucking run. Because it’s the way he sees the world. And he will treat her exactly like he believes he should treat a woman in his world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:31 PM |
| 11 | Vet🙌🏻themThis 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:26 PM |
| 19 | When you’re thirty but there’s no difference between you and a teenage boy who just discovered his penisDisgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:20 PM |
| 457 | Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.Men just love putting us in their little, fucked up boxes. Hypocrites and misogynists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:27 AM |
| 11 | Confused and at loss for wordsThis was my ex in a nutshell. It’s not worth it, OP. Drop your fiancé because he’s trash. He will triangúlate you with this woman throughout your entire marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 12:14 PM |
| 225 | Why do men take SUCH offense to my reserved demeanor?These men gauge for vulnerable, easily-manipulated women. You’re not that, so they hate it. Keep doing what you’re doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 12:05 PM |
| 5 | The first page of this book: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de BeckerIs it not on iBooks? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:53 AM |
| 72 | i must’ve subbed to this ‘dating coach’ back in my pickmeisha days... No, he hasn’t responded yet 😆 *mods pls delete if not allowedIs this Matthew Hussey lmao Edit: Just saw the last screenshot, it is him indeed. This guy is a sociopath | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:16 AM |
| 6 | Reinforcing and maximizing the benefits of no contact through visualizationLmao love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:59 AM |
| 5 | Reinforcing and maximizing the benefits of no contact through visualizationI absolutely love this! I need it to hear this today. I’ll make sure to implement these visualizations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:58 AM |
| 201 | The bar is in hell ladies 🤦🏻♀️I hate the fact that women always have to use “just”, “little”, “mildly”, etc. to avoid potential bullying, insults, racism, and sexism directed at them (by fragile LV men). We always have to make ourselves, our traumas, our lived experiences smaller to coddle the not-all-men crowd. Fuck that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:46 AM |
| 12 | Remember that even when you are in a relationship it's important to keep your financial autonomyThis. So true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:35 AM |
| 48 | Decriminalizing sex work. What are your thoughts?They’re decriminalizing it for the sake of men, not women who work in the industry. We need to safely get women out of prostitution, not make it “legal” (easier) to pimp them into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaThank you ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:06 PM |
| 6 | Your diminished ability to “pair bond” is actually protective.Do you have any resources you could share? It wouldn’t be anything that perpetuates avoidant form of “attachment”, correct? I’m interested in the topic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:58 PM |
| 3 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaMay I PM you to ask more questions, please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaAre there no HV men who practice Islam in good faith? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaCan we buy it and have it shipped to a different state? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:07 PM |
| 3 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVM💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:39 PM |
| 76 | "The Worst Thing About Male Violence is That it Makes Men Look Bad"They have no empathy, no emotional intelligence, they are comfortable in their little privileged world. They’ll bite, bark at, and k*ll anyone who threatens to take their power away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 09:21 AM |
| 46 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMI have never read these books, but I loved the analysis! It’s very spot-on. I hate both of these nice-guy vs bad-guy tropes. The only HVM I will always love would probably be the Disney’s Hercules. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:35 PM |
| 7 | Your Health Comes FirstThank you so much for sharing. I hope that your body will recover soon, with time and gentle care; I’m sure it’s strong. Once I am back, I’ll be taking herbal supplements to help my body strengthen the immune system, then stabilize the hormone levels. We do not talk enough about how detrimental toxic relationships and friends can be on our health. They wear us out, immensely. Especially men. A man may be zero or “medium” value, and still fuck your health up. It’s not worth it, unless he’s extrem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:53 PM |
| 55 | Don't be discouraged that you tolerated a LVMThank you for writing this post 💞 I am happy to see that I am not alone in my pain, as well as desire to grow. It’s been less than three months since my breakup; even though the experience was a rewarding lesson, I still grieve. I want to just cry him out, once and for all, in one sitting. Unfortunately, that’s unrealistic, so I’ll have to be gentle with myself, give myself the time to heal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 90 | Today's 👀 moment (can you spot the 🚩?)“I want a woman to want me” = “I want my living, breathing sex toy to let me degrade her in bed”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 11:40 AM |
| 79 | Pay attention to signs of mother-son enmeshmentThis is not talked about enough. My ex had a very complex relationship with his mother. He both looked up to and resented her at the same time. I believe she had some narcissistic tendencies, her (neglectful, harsh) parenting played part in his toxicity, the rest is history and his own choice. At some point, I realized that he couldn’t “respect” a woman who wasn’t like her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:49 AM |
| 13 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…Your value as a woman is not conditional. A LV/NV man has learned that, no matter the woman, he can get away with doing less, with varying degrees. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:44 PM |
| 16 | Reminder: You Can Do Bad All by YourselfLV will stay LV, even with the woman of his dreams. It’s just that the mask will take longer to slip, that is all. Then, he will find some fault with her to justify his shitty mistreatment or lack thereof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:10 PM |
| 65 | After being told by men more than once that my standards were "too high", last weekend I got given the proposal and ring of my dreams by a man who meets those standards!Congratulations! Your ring looks absolutely beautiful 💞 Love to hear stories like yours on FDS! Enjoy your fiancé and continue to vet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:01 PM |
| 23 | I’m obsessed with the FDS podcast and I love listening to it while at the gym. Are there any other podcasts that are female centric and focus on leveling up personally, economically, socially, etc. ?I’d love to learn some more! I’m currently also listening to “Attached” podcast, as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:34 PM |
| 121 | A Powerful New Deepfake Tool Has Digitally Undressed Thousands Of WomenThat is why I no longer share any full-body photos of myself on social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:33 PM |
| 10 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”Yes, a lot of what we should do is only talked about. Today, women — even as a collective power — can only do so much to dismantle the patriarchal systems of oppression that have been here for thousands of years. Unfortunately, we’re only in the early stages of making changes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:56 PM |
| 99 | Scrote keeps gf as bangmaid, grossed out by her wanting future with him?He knows he’s incompetent to have his shit together, let alone create a family. Men like him will never truly “have it figured out”, even past their 30s. All they have is cowardice, manipulation, and audacity. Pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:50 PM |
| 23 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”Our strategies do not always fit the realities of many women out there, who cannot help but be heavily dependent on their families as a result of familial, religious, and cultural pressure or “traditions”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:35 PM |
| 35 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”They have no solid knowledge of Muslim women’s religion, culture, and communal practices. They do not understand the complexity of their realities. Liberal feminists use the same logic with religion, as they do with sex work — “it’s their choice” — their statements harmfully excuse the institution and help no one. No woman would consciously choose to have her religion used as a tool to manipulate, gaslight, and abuse her rights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:32 PM |
| 18 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”We may not know the motives of her family entirely. Many women (and their families) fall prey to dishonest men, even in Islam. That is why their families, communities, and religious leaders/advisors tend to be involved in the potential’s vetting process. They also make sure to vet thoroughly, rationally, making sure both parties benefit from the marriage. Additionally, they set up conditions of nikkah (Muslim marriage ceremony) to ensure both spouses keep their word. However, no method is full-p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:26 PM |
| 21 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”Any religion that predominantly involves and puts men in power will continue to enable, coddle, and benefit from the abuse of and violence against women. @themaryamamir perfectly articulated the importance of “creating structures of accountability” and adequate protection of women’s mental, physical, emotional, religious and financial well-being in Islam. Many Muslim women love their religion and will stand by it whilst opposing the toxicity that many men (and women, primarily of older generatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:00 PM |
| 48 | PSA: The "system" is and always has been flawed. Ladies, PLEASE protect yourself and heed FDS lessons in this sub because they CAN save your life!So young. Women are not warned enough how dangerous dating/marriage may be. Given everything that I know now, through my own experiences as well as FDS, nothing could ever justify the risks for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:14 PM |
| 67 | PSA: The "system" is and always has been flawed. Ladies, PLEASE protect yourself and heed FDS lessons in this sub because they CAN save your life!“The police later found her slumped on her sofa, not breathing, her distraught baby cradled limply in one arm.” I was crying reading this. So much suffering that women have to put up with. So many children who are motherless, left unprotected and traumatized. It’s heartbreaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:08 PM |
| 83 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”May her sweet soul rest in eternal peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:06 PM |
| 96 | Someone I've known since middle school just got proposed to with a Ring Pop.Conditioning and gaslighting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:04 PM |
| 10 | How did you forgive yourself for staying after he hit you?Thank you so much for the link! I have been reading this and other suggested books. They’ve helped a lot with recognizing all the abuse my ex put me through. Unfortunately, I still struggle with letting of all the pain my flashbacks are causing me. | /r/askFDS | 10/08/21 05:35 PM |
| 10 | How did you forgive yourself for staying after he hit you?Thank you so much for sharing something so personal. I am extremely sorry to hear that you’ve been through something so horrible — none of us deserved any of the abuse we suffered at the hands of men that we chose to protect us. They leave, but the scars and all the pain stays. It’s so overwhelming at times, and I do not deserve to feel any of it. It’s unfair, no less. I really appreciate the offer of help — I will PM you. Thank you so much once again 💞 | /r/askFDS | 10/08/21 05:34 PM |
| 31 | Responses to “what are you looking for in a partner?” (OLD report)This 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:25 PM |
| 40 | Watch his body language: Psychopaths tend to exhibit reduced head movement during forensic interviews. The study provides evidence of a “robust” relationship between the antisocial elements of psychopathy and stationary head positions, such as staring.That would me most men, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 19 | How a scrote just replied to me on a discussion re: sexual harassment & objectificationSounds like my ex’s mentality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 10:44 AM |
| 59 | The Bachelorette Viewership - Internalized MisogynyHe is disgusting and so disrespectful. I hope she ended up giving someone else the rose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 10:41 AM |
| 7 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingI can surely! Someone here suggested I keep my current one as a “honey pot” to attract all the lurking scrotes, use it to block them. I can just create a new one and use it for my family and friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:40 AM |
| 7 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingNo, unless they send you a request and you accept it. Otherwise, they can just look up your username and see that you had them blocked (because your private account showed up). They’ll keep in mind that you’re still “around”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:05 AM |
| 6 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingThey can still look you up through their fake accounts if they care enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:25 AM |
| 10 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingThank you for your informative comment! I am happy to hear that your life has changed for the better, thanks to this change! I am thinking about deleting the rest of my socials, except maybe Instagram and LinkedIn. I do not “keep up” with anyone on there anyways, but I still want to keep some people on there, watching me thrive from time to time — not sure if I should let go of that desire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:17 AM |
| 19 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingI did that, actually. But still, they can stalk my (private) pages through their fake accounts, if any. I’d rather be a ghost than have them know I’m still “around” on social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:13 AM |
| 20 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingI want to keep my Instagram, even though I had a couple of unpleasant experiences with people who used to follow me on it. I still post to my stories and want to share little bits of my life with friends and family. Still, I’m very torn about keeping it. But glad that you have nice friends who check up on you! Social media can be so draining, even if you’re private on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:12 AM |
| 9 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingI’ll definitely consider doing that instead then, in case I ever decide to come back. Thank you for the information, I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:10 AM |
| 54 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingI became extremely private after a guy who was following me sent screenshots of my beach photo (it wasn’t provocative, but had some of my cleavage shown on it) to his friends. This was not the end of it, however. I was extremely appalled. Men are so fucking shady with social media. I do not want to take part in it anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:09 AM |
| 1 | 101 Lies Men Tell by Dory HollanderWill do then, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:57 PM |
| 29 | [deleted by user]She literally looks like a child. Wait, she is a child. And he’s a pedophile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:56 PM |
| 5 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Id love to learn more. I liked your comment, so I’ll encourage you expand on this topic in a post if you’d like! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 05:10 PM |
| 3 | 101 Lies Men Tell by Dory HollanderIs there a way to download it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:47 PM |
| 143 | In shock. A post about a woman finding violent fantasies on her bfs accountsThey gaslight women into staying, but then blame us for staying. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:20 PM |
| 23 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.This is so true. If you have no one to rely on but yourself, you’ll be more likely to feverishly slave yourself away for capitalism. That is why US encourages individualism. Communal relationships are only preserved in areas with strong ethnic/cultural background (which has their own downsides). It’s almost as if you cannot win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:03 PM |
| 3 | Women are viewed as property by even self-proclaimed 'progressive' peopleThis is very toxic. Fortunately, this has never been practiced in my family, but I do see it take huge prevalence in others. Parents abuse their daughters into being doormats, with no voice, opinions, or will. It’s so disgusting, but it’s deeply ingrained in the culture. I am sorry to hear about all the bullying you went through, OP. Continue to stand up for yourself. Your life is yours and yours only. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 10:35 AM |
| 35 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.I remember how surface-level most friendships in the US are. How hard it is to make and maintain genuine connections. As a foreigner, I still have a hard time learning how to “socialize” with others or in groups. It’s almost like they expect me to be dull and act like I don’t give a shit, as if earning the “cool girl” badge is what will get my foot in the door. I click the best with other women who have similar backgrounds, they’re almost always international as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 10:25 AM |
| 77 | PiCk Me. I don’t require any effort or standards.It makes sense why these are on the rise atm (they were before, but especially are now). Women are waking up and demanding more. Men are trying to combat that via meme culture. Fuck that. I’d say a fancy dinner is lazy, we need more than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:51 AM |
| 2 | 101 Lies Men Tell by Dory HollanderI would love that ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 05:50 AM |
| 83 | Make it stop. 💀These kids shouldn’t be dating in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 10:29 PM |
| 7 | 101 Lies Men Tell by Dory HollanderI would love to read this book! Sad that they don’t have it on iBook 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 10:18 PM |
| 4 | Literally what's wrong with Gen-Z women?Someone needs to call child services. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:16 PM |
| 2 | Anger Addiction in MenThis is on another level of psychopathy. I am so sorry he has put you through such abuse, you deserved none of it. I’m so glad he’s out of the picture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:09 PM |
| 35 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.They get so offended when women flip the narrative. Men hate the idea of having to “overcompensate” for what they believe any woman can give them (wrong, unless they abuse her into it). They have been fed the “nice nerdy average guy gets the beautiful/popular girl” or the Main Character™ mentality their whole lives. So, in their minds, it’s women who have to “simp” for them. It’s pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 24 | Criteria for assessing a man's social mediaThat’s what they do. They only recognize loyalty to themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:37 PM |
| 359 | A supportive motherI read this post with a Texan accent for some reason. She’s a mama bear! So happy to see that she kicked that scrote out! Also, she found out she’s bi! Love this story 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:02 PM |
| 15 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.It is. These women become a shell of themselves, abused into deteriorating mental and physical health, then suicide (if not murder). This is yet another indication that the current patriarchal and white supremacist institutions do not serve women — they k*ll us. They coddle men who murder, rape, and k*ll our sisters. We thrive without men. It’s a given. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:58 PM |
| 4 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.You’re welcome ♥️ Thank you for telling me it’ll get better. Luckily, I will not be around any men most of the time, so I’ll get to do some deep healing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:00 PM |
| 127 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.Pretty or not, he’s fucked in the brain if he thinks your value should be defined by looks or what you “bring to the table”. I think it’s time we let the male species (unless proven HV) d** out 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:15 PM |
| 75 | DISRESPECT NEVER GETS BETTERThis will never be said enough. You will save yourself from a lot of pain and, potentially, a lethal outcome. Be careful. Always leave, no matter how small or subtle the disrespect is. Fuck everything and everyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:10 PM |
| 12 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.Thank you! I figured you were speaking generally, but wanted to expand a bit more on my situation. I have seen your comments on this sub and always appreciated the straightforwardness. In fact, one of them opened up my eyes at the fact that my ex was abusive. That enabled me to dig deeper, so thank you 💞 Being harsh is protective, it helps get the anger out. Personally, I also found it exhausting, so my try at therapy was geared towards “finding peace”, lol. Yet, achieving it is unrealistic beca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 10 | Too broke to dateIt was on the phone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:38 PM |
| 23 | Too broke to dateHe told me he lost it before we met. So I just went to get myself some coffee and did homework there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:36 PM |
| 182 | Criteria for assessing a man's social mediaLiked him a lot only after one date? Girl, check yourself quickly or else you’ll put yourself in harm’s way. Good on you for checking his social media so early on, you saved yourself valuable time and energy. Also, never tell them the reason as to why you want to “part ways” — they will play another woman by hiding the red flag that you spotted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:33 PM |
| 7 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.Thank you for your compassion! I am so happy to hear that your therapist is this way. At least, you have the necessary support and validation now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:39 AM |
| 14 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.Exactly this. I hate that abusers get away with it. They always tend to be enabled, coddled to, and taken care of. I hope this changes soon and the society learns to discard them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:38 AM |
| 8 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.I hope the post helps! You have nothing to feel ashamed of, as hard as it may be to accept. You deserve your own love and forgiveness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:37 AM |
| 9 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.I am happy to see that you have a better therapist now! Keep vetting. I hope that she helps you on your healing journey and provides the necessary support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:35 AM |
| 6 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.It is all too common. Unfortunately, we have to learn it the hard way sometimes. Thanks to FDS, navigating life and relationships becomes more safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:34 AM |
| 18 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.This is so scary. You’d think they’re professionally trained to recognize abuse, red flags, and toxic behavior in men. It’s their job to validate your reality and have the common sense to explore your narrative thoroughly. It’s so discouraging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:32 AM |
| 20 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.With mine, this notion was quite subtle. She never attempted to push the narrative on me but used neutral language and refrained from acknowledging that most men are either opportunistic, predatory, or both. We reviewed and processed my trauma as if my abuser was the product of an isolated incident, not part of the problem. I will make sure to refrain from therapists who have such approach to treatment from now on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:29 AM |
| 10 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.I love your comment 💞 Thank you so much for the support, I really needed it! I cannot wait to be finally done with my healing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:21 AM |
| 28 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.Thank you so much for taking the time to write this comment. All of what you said is incredibly accurate. It astonishes me that some therapists are so seemingly unaware of how fucked up men can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:20 AM |
| 10 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.My therapist was female | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:53 AM |
| 48 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.Thank you. I am sorry to hear that you’ve been through the same, much like so many of us here. It’s absolutely astonishing how one sentence can change the entire narrative, right? It is so important. I have been trying to give myself this grace, whilst looking to take accountability for my choices. At the end of the day, we can hope to give ourselves some self-compassion by coming to terms with the fact that, had we known we’d be abused, we would never choose to do it again intentionally. People… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:07 AM |
| 77 | Too broke to dateProbably with another woman’s money, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:20 PM |
| 35 | Anger Addiction in MenDisgusting. They are so disgusting. Then they get out there and prey on vulnerable women. I hate that they get away with how rotten they are inside. To them, they are never the problem. My ex looked down on me for having poor boundaries but expected I have none with him. He hated rejection and, in his mind, asserting your personal boundaries = rejecting/manipulating him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:17 PM |
| 39 | Anger Addiction in MenThank you for your informative comment. It’s incredibly vile, what you have been through, and I am glad that he is now an ex. Honestly, I will never get with a man who touches a drink or has any form of addiction — with men, it’s almost always an indication of intrinsic abusive tendencies. My ex knew he would feel more comfortable and justified to hurt me if he was intoxicated, — not out of care or love for me, of course, but because he knew I’d reject him. Shortly after he shared with me that h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:13 PM |
| 222 | I did it, thanks to FDSI am so proud of you! I hope that you continue to heal, rest, and recover from all the abuse this horrible man had put you through. I am so excited fo you or finally be free of him and live a better, peaceful life 💞 Stories like yours are the ones I love to see on FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:53 PM |
| 103 | Too broke to dateI still think of him sometimes, wondering if he’d ever found his wallet 😳 God bless him, that gullible little thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:05 PM |
| 354 | Too broke to dateThis guy is a clown 🤡 No self-respect, just entitlement and audacity. I remember (pre-FDS) a guy once asked me on a coffee date, then claimed he lost his wallet 10-15 minutes before we were supposed to meet. Funny how he kept mentioning he lost it over and over, hopeful I’ll give in and offer to pay myself. I played dumb, expressing just how concerned I was for him, since this was an emergency! Poor thing! He was so romantic, since he tried to meet me when he should’ve been looking for his lost … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 08:53 PM |
| 156 | tHe MeN YOU ChOoSe ArE tRaShIt’s another form of blame-shifting. Some women do not know any better. My father never warned me about how vile men can be and why. No one has taught us how to protect ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:31 PM |
| 89 | Ladies and gentle..ladies, welcome to Tinder! There is literally one line in my profile text. Solely stating where I’m from.It can also be intentional. They do this on purpose to test how much of a pickme you are, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:29 PM |
| 15 | Quarantine and chill?Get well soon and be careful with the spices, or else you might risk damaging your stomach! Other than that, your story is very sweet! Great to see that you got one of the good ones 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:51 PM |
| 40 | Why can’t they stop invading our spaces? This guy thinks he can waltz into a sub dedicated to women decorating their homes for advice. Mod thinks it’s fine despite complaints. He’s entitled to a “woman’s touch” I guess.He sounds like a predator lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:27 PM |
| 129 | “Oh the breadcrumbs Look Gretel, there are a lot of sweets down this path but it will end in a fiery oven for you or you have to shove his ass in to save yourself.” 😭She’s helping him play her again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 45 | "Normal marital woes"It’s their projection lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:17 AM |
| 148 | 🤡🤡🤡Pickmes think their men are the prize 🤡 So they hold onto them for their dear lives. Besides, he doesn’t have to be hot to use OnlyFans or pay webcam girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:21 PM |
| 422 | 🤡🤡🤡She’s glad he’s not out there, cheating lol. Plot twist: he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:29 PM |
| 10 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayLast as in, if she wouldn’t have left. But I’m so proud that she did! That’s how it’s done. She was smart and quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 351 | Daily dose of scrotityImagine breathing in the same proximity to men like this 🤡 What an embarrassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 04:34 PM |
| 13 | Red flag I recently picked up and wanted to shareThey now shame women for avoiding them and not wanting marriage/commitment 😂 Oh, how the tables have turned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:58 PM |
| 136 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayYou should run over one shouting, though. If a man raises his voice at you ever, you leave his ass. It’s a huge red flag, indicative of him trying to intimidate you (intimidation is a form of abuse). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Thank you for posting that video by Lundy BancroftI know that this is an old comment, but I was wondering if it’d be possible to chat with you about this? I am having a hard time forgiving myself for not leaving when my ex aggressively breached one of my physical boundaries. I wanted to chat about coming to terms with the fact that you’ve been abused. Please let me know & thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:17 AM |
| 393 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayI bet this was not the first, nor last, time he spoke to her this way. Glad that she left, good riddance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 10:26 AM |
| 147 | Fighting Your Own Biology; The Neuroscience Behind Falling in Love and How it Works Against UsWonderful post, OP! So true. That’s why multi-dating helps women stay objective. However, let’s be careful not to confuse the notion that women’s behavior primarily dictates men’s respect/love/care/reciprocity for them (i.e., “you’ll get a text X instead of a text B if you do Y”). Oftentimes, it’s not conditional upon how much of an X a woman is, or how she does Y instead of Z to generate the “desired” outcome. The *one and only thing such outcome depends on is a man’s core values system. Our jo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:09 AM |
| 29 | Understanding Blame-Shifting as a Form of Verbal AbuseIt’s always a problem of values. When I realized that my ex and I lived in different realities, his treatment, although unjustified, made sense: what he did or would do to me, he believed I was capable of doing to him. Everything he did had to do with maintaining power over me and control over his “independence”. There are so many people out there scapegoating women. Before I got “socialized” and convinced (through therapy) that most men are dateable, my mentality aligned with FDS. I knew men we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:54 AM |
| 35 | Understanding Blame-Shifting as a Form of Verbal AbuseThis was my relationship. I’ve never dealt with covert verbal abuse before, so it was hard to put my finger on what was wrong exactly. They’ll do anything to escape responsibility, it’s in abuser’s nature. You’ll never win, no matter how smart or good you are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:13 AM |
| 122 | Red flag I recently picked up and wanted to shareIt’s their way of escaping accountability. For anything. They will go to great lengths to dismiss, gaslight, and manipulate you into compliance because they’d hate to have to be nice to a woman. Hold on to your expectations for dear life. They will save you from dealing with a fucked up, lazy, entitled man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:23 AM |
| 8 | Always Google Your DatesThank you so much ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:27 PM |
| 31 | Always Google Your DatesHow do you google and search them up if you only know their name, though? I’m curious to know all the tech tactics you girls take to see if a man is even worth your time. If anyone can, pls PM me. I don’t want the male lurkers to know your secrets ladies! Thank you 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:14 PM |
| 12 | Nothin but facts 🗣Love this queen 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:49 AM |
| 9 | LOL. This one clearly has never been with an actual woman, to the point that he's convinced himself he needs to "pick out the red flags" to spot FDS members. What besides "trying to manipulate women into sex" would he be avoiding, with these "red flags"?I just had a good laugh, thank you 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:48 AM |
| 53 | Regretting meeting and old male "friend"That’s disgusting, he’s a rapist. Next time, block them right away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:26 AM |
| 2 | "dO yOu eXpEcT A mAn tO pAy FoR EvErYtHinG fOrEvEr": How Women Talk Themselves Out of Following FDS Standards By Creating Imaginary Problems.This 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:46 AM |
| 10 | He doesn’t treat me the way I deserve but I still can’t let goI remember once I got a sting of jealousy, over my ex’s ex. Because she managed through their breakup. Because she was free of him and single. I wished I was her because I knew: I was selling my self so short in that relationship. Then, he finally popped the bubble and shared we won’t make each other happy. I ended up being the one to officially call it quits. I was so hurt, yet glad I was finally free. I still deal with the consequences of that relationship, but I am very excited to be out ther… | /r/askFDS | 04/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Need help dealing with anger.Thank you for the recommendation, I really appreciate it! 💞 | /r/askFDS | 04/08/21 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Need help dealing with anger.This is so true. All I’m trying to do is avoid being angry with myself. I need to re-direct it. Thank you for your advice! | /r/askFDS | 04/08/21 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Share your badass breakup stories!So proud of you! You did what’s right. I am glad that he got dumped, he deserves to be in jail honestly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Need help dealing with anger.Thank you for sharing your journey. I am very proud of you for taking such a hard step towards your healing. Sounds like you’ve done a great job of helping yourself get over an abusive, manipulative relationship — I’m sure it was painful and overwhelming. I’m trying to feel better by reminding myself that I have learned a lot. That I will not make the same mistakes ever again, and will work on improving my life. I know I am stubborn and mentally strong, but I am also hard on myself. I’ll do some… | /r/askFDS | 04/08/21 05:24 PM |
| 24 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsI remember how insecure my ex would get whenever I refused to coddle his fragile ego. Apparently, I was supposed to assure him that he does not need to exercise or watch his health. He put on a confident facade but then had a hard time digesting any constructive comments about his looks, lol. He knew I’d drop him the moment his health started deteriorating due to his negligence and refusal to eat healthy/exercise/quit drinking/smoking, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:00 PM |
| 29 | Alrighty Queens, time to start spreading. These *should* work but let me know if not!Let’s start a revolution 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:50 PM |
| 4 | Need help dealing with anger.That is a very good one! I need to get into exercise as well. But I have to make sure my diet is caloric enough. As for now, I’ve been trying to treat myself well: I bought two pretty tops today and a tinted lipstick (all budgeted for)! Buying myself small gifts has been helpful so far. It makes me feel like I’m investing in myself, not only mentally, but physically. | /r/askFDS | 04/08/21 01:36 PM |
| 16 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegalExactly! They have to step up, it’s long overdue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:33 PM |
| 58 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegalI was once in a group of my girlfriends. We had some guy friends join. The guys talked about dating apps as “hookup apps” and said that they loved Bumble because the women had to make the first move. Although I never used Bumble, I deleted my dating profiles shortly after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:25 PM |
| 4 | NVM/LVM & Social FunctionsMost of them do. Their egos can’t handle it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:36 AM |
| 3 | NVM/LVM & Social FunctionsHe sounds absolutely horrible. Good riddance honestly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:34 AM |
| 65 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegalThey’re trying hard to stay relevant, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:37 AM |
| 26 | Why it's so hard to recover and move forward from abuse.This has been a much needed post. Thank you for writing all of this out. A lot of women, including myself, will find it very useful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:30 PM |
| 131 | He proposed on our 1st anniversary. Success story!The ring looks absolutely stunning! Congratulations 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:15 PM |
| 34 | NVM/LVM & Social FunctionsGood on you for leaving him. I could’ve saved myself the time and pain if I wasn’t so naive, but I know better now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:50 PM |
| 11 | Share your badass breakup stories!He tried to stop her from breaking up with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:20 PM |
| 5 | Public Displays of DisrespectHe’s showing that he could care less. The message is: you’re not here for the long-run, only for the short-run. That is why he’s not ensuring you authentically bond with his friends/family; he does not care if they get to know you. Why would they bother, after all, if you’re just a placeholder? He’s also being an asshole, expecting you to do all the necessary legwork to socialize/bond with his family/friends. If he’s not present when you have him meet your social circle/family either, he’s doing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 68 | Public Displays of DisrespectWhen he almost abandons you at your mutual friend or family functions under the guise of giving you “space” or letting you “socialize”. It’s so disrespectful in my opinion. If you’re a couple, you’re there as a couple. Of course, it’s fine to part ways from time to time, but to completely leave you? That’s just him showing how he truly feels about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 9 | Share your badass breakup stories!💀 what the hell was he even thinking. Good thing he took himself out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 09:11 AM |
| 3 | Withholding as a Form of AbuseThis is also spot on. They usually know that what they’ll tell you will not be accepted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 09:10 AM |
| 53 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationThese families also pimp them out to marry men as soon as possible. Especially in religious/traditional cultures, many women have to fight for their ability to move out and live alone (it’s considered a “sin”, brings the woman bad reputation). Unfortunately, not all of them get out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 09:05 AM |
| 18 | Share your badass breakup stories!He’s a piece of trash. Love that you’re out 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:42 AM |
| 16 | Share your badass breakup stories!He sounds like a classic narcissist tbh. So happy for your aunt! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:41 AM |
| 30 | Share your badass breakup stories!He sure did, otherwise he wouldn’t do what he did 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:32 AM |
| 29 | Share your badass breakup stories!He’s a sociopath. Good riddance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:31 AM |
| 15 | Share your badass breakup stories!Love this 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:30 AM |
| 340 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationYou’re right, it’s not just the high rent prices. It’s also toxic households that young women get abused out of. They have little to no finances, poor boundaries, and unreliable coping mechanisms, so they have no choice but to cohabitate with NV/LV men. We need better support and life education systems for young women in order to help them prevent this. Capitalism and patriarchy want to keep women stuck, producing physical labor to help further k—ll our planet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Markers of AbuseI am so sorry ♥️ FDS is a blessing and has been so, so much needed; society just fails women miserably — all they care about is keeping the birth rates up. I wish I discovered this subreddit earlier, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:27 PM |
| 32 | Share your badass breakup stories!This is breaking my heart now 😭 I hope the kitty is with someone more loving now! LV/NV men don’t deserve loving pets who just have no choice but to be their property. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:32 PM |
| 32 | Share your badass breakup stories!Lmfao, glad to see that trash takes itself out after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:31 PM |
| 61 | “My husband proposed to me with a box of pizza and a 20€ ring. I am marrying him because I love him, not for his money.”I’d prefer not to say for fear someone will be able to identify me. My culture is largely unheard of. It’s very traditional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:30 PM |
| 150 | “My husband proposed to me with a box of pizza and a 20€ ring. I am marrying him because I love him, not for his money.”It’s very unfortunate that so many women are convinced they should settle for much less than the bare minimum. In my culture, the groom’s family covers all the costs for the wedding, including the bride’s clothing and jewelry, including (and especially) the engagement ring 🤷🏻♀️ This is the least they can do for a woman who will take care of his kids, family, and household. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:14 PM |
| 40 | Share your badass breakup stories!It does sound like he was just trying to keep you on his roaster of hookups. Happy to hear you left him swiftly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:56 PM |
| 24 | Share your badass breakup stories!My god, the all are LV/NV men. So glad to hear that you dropped all of them. I am so glad that I dodged so many bullets myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:54 PM |
| 55 | Share your badass breakup stories!You dodged a bullet, good for you! So sad that the cat has to tolerate your ex, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:52 PM |
| 93 | Share your badass breakup stories!He pretended to get on one knee and made it look like he had something in his hand, lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:15 PM |
| 28 | Share your badass breakup stories!Good riddance honestly, he sounds so trashy. I’m happy to know that he showed his true self so early on, it’s honestly always a blessing, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:09 PM |
| 70 | 97% of modern birds do not have penises because of female bird choice!Wow, that’s so fascinating! I love how nature ensures that some species evolve accordingly to accommodate the female’s reproductive freedom (to an extent, of course). I am very sad for the ducks, though. They’re so cute 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 22 | Share your badass breakup stories!Thank you. If unable to empathize, they do realize that they should never cross that line. Yet they still do because it’s all about power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:50 PM |
| 4 | Markers of AbuseYay! I’d even go as far as printing and posting it all across campuses, buildings, etc. Spread awareness so to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:39 PM |
| 34 | Share your badass breakup stories!Yes, I see why he did it, ensuring she isolated, never finds him cheating, and will never be warned who he truly is. So fucked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:38 PM |
| 14 | Markers of AbuseIn monkey branching relationships, one party gives away their phone number and contact information other people (dating/hookup potentials), while actively involved in a present relationship. This is something narcissists do, as well. They recruit the new “supply” (partners), whilst trying to maintain the current and old one (if possible). This is toxic people’s way of cheating/emotionally cushioning themselves in case their current relationship fails. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:37 PM |
| 103 | Share your badass breakup stories!Lmfao, that guy really thought he can pull his shit on you. Glad you had him blocked. I hope he hadn’t got any pussy since 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:33 PM |
| 72 | 97% of modern birds do not have penises because of female bird choice!You’re right. Now, more than ever before, women have freedom. I am very grateful to our ancestors — especially indigenous, black and women of color. They fought for everyone. The pain, grief, and trauma they carry to this day is breaking my heart. Many of our sisters are less free than others, though. That’s why it’s so important to, as you said, organize and demand better for all women, but especially for our less fortunate sisters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 47 | Share your badass breakup stories!Good god. So glad you broke it off, even though it was a hard step for you — definitely something to be proud of, given you were younger, misinformed, and not in a good place mentally. I hope the woman he married eventually got out, too. Narcissists are fucking scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:27 PM |
| 38 | Share your badass breakup stories!I am glad you got out safe and sound before things escalated. I had a similar experience with an ex who breached my physical (non-sexual) boundary once (he was always gentle with me until that very moment). I completely disassociated. I still feel the emotional pain of him breaking that trust with me. I only had three men put their hands on me before, and neither was my partner, so I could’ve never fathomed he’d do this to me (knowing what I’ve been through) 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:24 PM |
| 54 | Share your badass breakup stories!That ego was so fragile. How sad, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:46 PM |
| 75 | Share your badass breakup stories!Shit. That is actually scary, he clearly had an anger addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:44 PM |
| 36 | Share your badass breakup stories!They’re just so immature (at best) 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:42 PM |
| 177 | Share your badass breakup stories!He kept saying it’s a joke and tried to vilify her for leaving his “funny” ass 🤡 She just told him to fuck off and went on about her life. Luckily, she had her own house, but had some of her belongings at his. He actively tried to compromise her leaving, but my relative’s dad put him in his place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:41 PM |
| 70 | Share your badass breakup stories!Love this. Leave them on the spot (if safe to do so) 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 61 | Share your badass breakup stories!Thank you! She sure is an inspiration 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:35 PM |
| 68 | Share your badass breakup stories!Good riddance! Shouldn’t let his family/friends help him lurk on what you’re up to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:33 PM |
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