My former best friend is getting married. I remember when she started dating "mark" I was secretly disappointed for her continuing pattern. This was before fds, but even back then it was exhausting being the supportive friend to her over and over again as she would sob daily and blow up my phone about how her boyfriends treated her so awfully. Cheering her up got harder as time went on, despite me really trying to be a good friend to her. Of course I started telling her she deserved better and would make appalled faces when she would tell me some of the awful stuff these guys would do and say to her regularly.

She wouldn't listen and she then started giving guys she met my number - without asking me or having my permission. I talked to her about it and later on she pressured me into coming to an event with her. A lot of people were bringing dates but it wasn't required. I wasn't interested in going. She went behind my back and gave out my social media and phone number to a man I didn't know and I quickly found out he was having a situationship with another woman (and the woman was one of my classmates!). I was livid and called out my friend for going behind my back as well as saying this man has something already going on! She didn't see anything wrong with me being "the other woman" and encouraged me saying I was a much better catch and he'd be mesmerized by me and end up committing to me after we went out together for the event. I was horrified and she couldn't get it.

From that point on I completely distanced myself from her. We stayed friends on social media and I ended up seeing that she had gotten engaged to the scrote that made her sob daily and called her a starfish yet she was so happy to finally have gotten that diamond. I was struggling with dating and family issues at the time and remembered feeling really down and even feeling jealous she got picked and guys wouldn't even text me back. On social media her life looked so happy but she started messaging me again bragging about the engagement. I got the vibe she wanted to ask me to be a bridesmaid. I was hoping Mark (her fiancee) changed and that things got better for her.

But she ended up telling me that wasn't the case. He was still a scrote and she was more miserable (and stressed and financially drained) then ever... and now on top of it all she had to plan a whole wedding. The more we talked the more I realized she had gotten worse and still was being obnoxious and sneaky about setting me up with scrotes and she wouldn't take no for an answer. I got distant again, this time for good, and changed my number.

I found fds and in the process of leveling up I started dramatically limiting social media. When I did check it recently, I saw she is nearing the date of her wedding and had recently attended the wedding of that guy who she tried to set me up with in the past. I laughed so hard because he ended up circling back to my classmate from his situationship all those years ago! I clicked on his page and saw he had tried out other women in the meantime and still seemed to keep seeing the situationship woman on the side. I laughed harder. I dodged a huge bullet. This should also ring as a reminder not to trust men that are too chummy and hang out one on one with their "female friends". He circled back to the situationship because no one else would put up with him. The dude is like a 4/10 with a huge beer gut and receding hairline and he just turned 30 as well 🤮

As for my friend, her own wedding is coming up. Part of me feels a little bit bad because I know she can't comprehend what she did wrong fully, and I know she kept reaching out because she really wanted me at her wedding. Her life dream was to get a ring and wear that white dress. I haven't spoken to her and kept ignoring her attempts, Christmas cards, and save the date.

Since being in fds and seeing that she is a pickme, I am seeing she was super dangerous for me to be around. She didn't respect my boundaries even when I talked with her or gave her extra chances. The lesson here is that pickme friends are extremely dangerous and lv ... their mindset alone is toxic and the more you hangout with them and talk with them the higher chance you have of getting sucked into their same pick me mindset. They also want to drag you to their level by setting you up with men that are similar to their lvm scrotes they will push you and even try to be sneaky while doing it. One day you'll be meeting your friend for lunch and a scrote will just happen to have showed up magically and he's trying to hit if off with you and she's helping him! Misery loves company and you don't want her to start convincing you never orgasming is normal, and its your j0b to make a man lunch and cleanup after him, and his sexist jokes are NorMaL and so FuNnY...with engaged/married pickmes the lvm becomes their whole world and its the only thing they know how to talk about.

I had to cut her off completely. It was the only way. It hurts me a little because I really miss the person she was when she was herself, and not in rose colored glasses and constantly having drama over scrotes. I do genuinely hope she does find happiness and her marriage gets a miracle and ends up being wonderful but I am a realist too. If she's ready to see the truth and respect my boundaries one day, I am here. But for now, I had to think about my own well being. You need to dump your pickme friends too, you need to be worried for your mental health and overall well being because they threaten it. If you work with them and have to be chummy at work, try to change the subject or be reasonably distant.

Thanks for reading this and let this be a sign to you that you need to cutoff your pickme friends and dump that scrote that is too chummy and hangs out suspiciously often with his "female friend".