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| 94 | If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right.And most of the time, these men who claim to be ‘intimidated’, confuse it with just being resentful because they know they have zero chance. Even the most shy men from my friend group are willing to take a leap when they really like a woman. It’s a cope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 12:46 PM |
| 521 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.They also forget that most women are open to different kind of dates like a trip to the museum, a workshop, (classical) concert, sports event (if he knows you’re into it) or other thoughtful and appropriate events. This isn’t about food or money, but genuine interest in the women you’re dating and making an effort. They know it, but they rather distract us from their low effort bumbling by making it about golddigging instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 01:32 PM |
| 41 | Instagram influencers/coaches?Baggage Reclaim (Natalie Lue). I follow her for 12 years now and I even joined one of her programs a few years back. She is also good when it comes to boundaries & family. Absolutely allergic to Matthew Hussey, Evan Marc Katz and other ‘dating coaches’ who tell women to change themselves (lower their standards) and cater to LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 06:29 PM |
| 40 | Love everything about this, people are finally waking up to itThis is 100% true. HVM will keep their house tidy and clean, no matter what. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 02:17 PM |
| 305 | Love everything about this, people are finally waking up to itThis is so true. HVM who are able to afford these things won’t let their women be a free maid. My boyfriend always had a housekeeper (a man and a woman, they’re a couple and clean together) and when we were discussing marriage and living together in the future he told me ‘nothing is going to change about that, because I’m his girlfriend/wife, not his maid’. They want you to be comfortable too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 08:10 AM |
| 13 | The Struggle Is Real...That’s weird because 4 of my LTR’s have been with men exactly like this (only taller, like, all of them were around 6’6). I’m from Europe though, but there have to be some tall men in the States right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 11:00 PM |
| 602 | If you can't see any good reason not to date a man with a female best friend, LET THIS BE IT! Selfish pickmeisha got stood up, so she ruined another womans valentines day. To add insult to injury, she & this mans girlfriend are related 🤢What a dumpsterfire. I hope the gf dumps him asap. Also, super inappropriate to take any other woman than your SO to Victoria’s Secret. No matter the occasion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 10:43 AM |
| 44 | New to me LVM tacticThis is 100% true. I know a dusty multi millionaire. He dates a lot of women simultaneously, takes them out and on vacation but is always dusty in a way (brings his own wine to the hotelroom and other weird stuff like that). Apparently he also lets some of the women pay for dates. If they’re entertaining 10-15 women at the same time, it’s going to be costly even for the more successful men. If a man is dusty, it’s a sign he has wrong priorities and/or is still building his life (and shouldn’t be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 06:59 PM |
| 153 | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itMy ex raped me when I was asleep, and when I called him out on it he strangled me and raped me mid living room. They’re rapists and they know it, it doesn’t ‘not count’ because the other party doesn’t notice. If they genuinely believed it was harmless they wouldn’t mind waking us up. Another ex always kept forcibly moving my hand on/around his dick over and over again till I gave up and just gave head/a handjob. He did this with his eyes closed and a very aggressive demeanour. He did it every ni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:48 PM |
| 56 | The first step in dating is realizing what you want, even if it differs from the masses.This is 100% true. I want someone to grow old with and share special moments with, but not in the traditional way. I want to get married after 2-3 years, but I don't want kids and I def don't want to raise his kids. I want a life that's shared but also separate. Like: our own and shared friends. Vacations together but also additional separate ones. Quality time together and quality time alone to recharge. I want a very extraverted man with a shitton of hobbies and an successful company, so that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:51 PM |
| 2 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:The guy is just sour because women these days wised up and leave his ass when he drops the mask and the lovebombing stops. So instead of being 'HV' only 3 months and reaping the fruits of it for years to come, he now has to do 3-6 months of lovebombing (and probably courting and paying) multiple times a year for different women before they leave his ass. Might as well level up and look for a real relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 01:23 PM |
| 29 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with themThey know what they did, we don’t have to explain. Even if they get in the car right away, apologise and take you out to dinner or buy you things, it doesn’t mean it’s okay. When it’s truly a red flag, just end it. If you consider staying, only accept an apology that comes with changed behaviour. Edit: for example, I’m dating this guy now. He was seemingly HV, attentive to my needs, successful, generous, etc. No inappropriate things, great communicator (text and calls) and gave me a general safe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 12:24 PM |
| 206 | Men are willing to tell on themselves. Just ask.This is true. Most men are so self absorbed that they spill the beans before they even think about asking for your stance on a subject 🤣 When they’re a bit too invested in getting to know you, it’s most of the time a narc looking for ammunition. When you’re finally aware of these 2 things and know how to strategically navigate these type of situations, vetting gets a whole lot easier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 12:20 PM |
| 6 | One thing I learnt from my Narcissist ExI was raised by narc parents and only chose narc SO's for a really long time. Even the old, aging and pornsicklimpdicked men feel like we should court them and thank God on our bare knees that they fancy us with their presence. When they went for the 'then LEAVE', I was always like 'ok' though and did. They never saw it coming :') My nature is actually HSP, but living my life around mainly narc people opened my eyes to boundaries and succes. The main difference is that we can implement these thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:20 AM |
| 14 | Men: you’re going to end up over 40, single, and childless. Also men: *dumps us in our mid 30s after wasting years of our lives*. Lol okay bye Felicia. Thanks for helping me realize having children woThis happened to me. From a young age I knew I wanted to be childfree and carefree. My LV ex convinced me it would be a good thing to have a baby together, because we would be a team and I - as a mother - would naturally be happy with the decision afterwards (it's a trap, don't fall for it). Because I have the rule 'no creating offspring out of wedlock', we were going to get married (he already bought the ring) and we were looking for our ideal 'family home'. Turned out he was cheating on me wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 10:39 AM |
| 89 | Instead of looking for a partner, look for the father of your childrenContrary to popular male belief, most men aren’t that funny. Their jokes are either passive aggressive or deadass truths dressed up ‘nicely’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Multiple kids without marriage- thoughts?I was always very clear that I was only willing to have children under very specific circumstances, the most important one was being married. My ex knew I wanted marriage more than children, so he secretly asked my BFF what to pick and got me the engagement ring that I wanted even though he was in the ‘rings are a waste of money camp’. If they know you’re serious about it, they’ll buy that ring and marry you. Men will always try to get away with things if they can, even the Medium Value Men. But… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 06:01 AM |
| 28 | Watch this scrote get roasted for his views. Hands up if you’ve encountered an angry short guy with a complex like this 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️I can’t with these ‘alpha guys’. The only thing they’re good at is publicly embarrassing themselves 🤣 The moment they’re proclaiming themselves a leader or alpha or king, everyone immediately knows what’s up and that the guy is a tool. Also, no true leader ever has to tell you he’s a leader. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 04:55 AM |
| 1 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.Inner Circle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:41 AM |
| 1 | 4 really fun dates, BUT he never initiated physical part. Organizing dates was alway “whenever/whatever/wherever works for you”. Basically, I was doing all the planning. I did like him though. We are both 34, my #1 dealbreaker is wanting kids. Was I too rigid?Nope, dealbreaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:58 PM |
| 2 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.You’re welcome!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 06:08 PM |
| 123 | Here’s how our ‘critics’ analyse dating and offer advice to fellow blind mice lmao. Low value men who have ZERO stake in the dating field and resort to sterile mathematical calculations as to work out why their last 27 dates didn’t call back....oh I’m sorry- I mean ‘used them for a meal’ ofc 🙄This dude probably should redirect his energy into a working bedframe and a hobby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:09 AM |
| 122 | How to tell if a guy watches porn?Most men won’t hesitate to tell you, when you give them the impression you don’t mind (or tell them you used to watch it in the past). Most men will feel safe and tell honestly. My HV exes told me they watched occasionally (like a handful times a year), but never during a relationship. They didn’t really like it and rather have real intimacy. A group of MVM/HVM guys I know even made fun of the porn addict in their group, like they felt it was kinda sad. But that was like 10 years ago and I feel … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:03 AM |
| 28 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.After two years of celibacy I started dating recently. All men picked up the tab, one even asked if I would ‘do him the favour’. The guy I’m dating now is 8 figures, so picking up the tab isn’t a big deal for him. He tries to show his effort in other ways too like finding me diet appropriate restaurants (even visiting beforehand to check out the vibe and the menu) and going out of his comfort zone on dates to make me enjoy it more. Learning me stuff like how to sail his boats, etc. Going to my f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:27 AM |
| 43 | This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man.This happened to someone I know too. It happens way more often than we think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 08:01 PM |
| 12 | Don't take it personally if you get banned from FDS. We ban a lot of people, it's actually very common.I got autobanned once, because I reacted on a sub that had screenshots of my FDS posts. Messaged the mods, ban got lifted within a couple of hours. No biggie. If you follow the rules, use FDS in good faith and actually read the handbook before you comment you’re all good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 05:59 AM |
| 45 | If men have anything, it's the audacity. Nope, I'm noping the heck outReally dumb they mean | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:21 PM |
| 2 | How can I figure out what I'm truly physically attracted to, since we've all been coerced into having no standards?I’m a heavy romance reader (historical, contemporary, fantasy, sweet omegaverse, reverse harems, etc) but all of these books have one thing in common: All the heroes are tall, muscular and fit, handsome and hung. There’s literally no smutty scene that said ‘she trembled when she looked at his luscious dad bod. He leaned over her, and out of passion, she grabbed her hands in his thinning hair. He opened his pants and showed her his half flaccid 5 inch penis, asking her for a bj so he could get ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:13 PM |
| 15 | People 👏🏻 don’t 👏🏻 want 👏🏻 women 👏🏻 to 👏🏻 enjoy 👏🏻 PERIODTThis is true, and I must say that I even had some of these tendencies (unconsciously) when I was in my late teens and twenties and they made me very unhappy. Even when I was considered the feminist, ‘too educated’, uncontrollable and ‘selfish’ woman of the family I would still give the best plate of food to my SO for example. I was ashamed of being so selfish (aka having the bare minimum wants and needs) and sometimes got angry when I saw women ‘breaking the rules’ and even went above bare minim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:49 PM |
| 45 | Why I only accept dinner dates when vetting a man.Also, if they’re spinning plates and thus not really interested for the long run, they opt for as cheap and easy as possible. Number 2 is true as well, I was the ‘cool girl’ who was okay with any date, still most men took me to high end restaurants and ordered bottles of champagne. If they’re into you, they not only want to impress you, but they’ll want to show you off to the public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:35 PM |
| 75 | Internalized misogyny starts early in a girl's life and trains her to value the opinions of others always over her own. It takes time and unlearning to overcome this - be patient with yourself!I love dresses, heels and pink glittery nail polish. You won’t believe how many people commentated negatively on that. Even when I was in my university council as a chosen representative, someone had the nerve to comment it was ‘unprofessional’ while I was the one person who wrote the most and the best policy documents. We can never do it good according to the masses, one way or another. Just stick to what feels good to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Alex Landi - a Korean heartthrob in Hollywood!Oh hello 😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 04:45 AM |
| 85 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesTo be fair, the probably never leave their moms basement so the chance they’ve never been outdoors isn’t too off lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:49 PM |
| 35 | Men who get salty when you're transparent about not pursuing things further and why you should GHOST!Gemini 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:39 PM |
| 137 | Men who get salty when you're transparent about not pursuing things further and why you should GHOST!Men will blame anything and everything as the reason we aren’t interested. Except themselves. I even had a guy blame my zodiac sign 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:38 PM |
| 79 | I’m so disgusted and sad for his wifeI still have a whiplash from that sudden and totally irrelevant side track in his story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 09:12 PM |
| 21 | Nobody in the comments section pointed out the obvious, which is that he wants to f*ck this woman if he hasn't alreadyThe disrespect is unreal in this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 05:09 AM |
| 8 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?Same. In my pickme days I never even asked for dinner dates. I live in a drink-date and 50/50 country, but I still got 80% dinner dates. 10% drink dates and 10% activities (like going to the zoo or a museum). All the men chose very nice and upscale establishments for 100% of the dates. A lot of them weren’t cheap about it. Even the N/LVM. If they see in your profile you’re the kind of girl who gives a lot to herself (or is used to a certain kind of treatment from her loved ones), they won’t even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:51 PM |
| 10 | Mother’s Day PSAI don’t get these N/LVM without presents on special occasions. I know a lot of LVM who are still decent enough to buy normal or even nice gifts when it’s expected of them. Its the bare minimum that that most people do for even work colleagues. Its like they’re trying to find the bare minimum bar and be like, ‘nah, too high. That down there looks like a nice spot’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 07:22 AM |
| 53 | The Obsession with Tight VaginasTDM (tiny dicked men) and DDM (deathgripped dicked men) also don’t like it when you’re wet. They’d rather have you unpleasured and in pain than to reflect on their own shortcomings 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 07:17 AM |
| 67 | This is ‘modern masculinity’ in a nutshell lmaooo declining birth rates tell us you aren’t in demand ‘bro’I think that nowadays the only women who will have 3-5 children in good conscience (and because it’s 100% their choice) are extremely privileged. When you think of money, childcare, extra chores alone, it’s massive. On top of that you have to be very healthy to go through that multiple times. Also, most women I know actually do give a crap about things such as climate change, the changing political climate and uncertain future and take this into consideration as well before they mindlessly plop … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 07:10 AM |
| 56 | This 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 why 👏🏻 I 👏🏻 have 👏🏻 trust issues!! Take them to the barbers on the first date. 💈 🪒This is how I feel about headwear too. “A hat, however ostentatious, can only disguise the deficiencies of its perch so long.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:10 AM |
| 337 | They don’t trust each other eitherIts even worse. The men in my family don’t want me to have a man from a non-western culture. They’re themselves from a non-western culture. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:03 AM |
| 41 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦Poor girl. When I see comments like this I’m starting to doubt if the ignorant are truly blessed. Can you imagine your boyfriend convincing you that holding hands and taking a stroll is an actual activity, not to mention somehow cute?! Girl, holding hands in public is the fucking bare minimum. Pickmeishas are really confused about what real dates are. Eating fastfood in cars, taking a stroll without an eventful destination, hanging out at someone’s home without a plan. That’s the kind of things … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)Great minds think alike 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:43 AM |
| 177 | Dear Scrotes: HVM does not mean a rich chad.I even dumped HVM after a couple of years because we had different core values or life goals. News flash for the lurkers: no women owes anyone a relationship, no matter how awesome you are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:35 AM |
| 102 | Dear Scrotes: HVM does not mean a rich chad.The guy is so unbelievably ugly I just cannot. I saw him in a movie the other day and I had to switch channels. And they paired him with Jennifer Aniston I believe, can you imagine?! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:33 AM |
| 29 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)It’s gaslighting on a societal level. They try the same with normalising porn, kinks and having female best friends they hooked up with once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:43 PM |
| 6 | To counteract liberal feminists and beta males trying to manipulate us into thinking "dad bod" is the hottest male form, we will be instituting one day a week to post photos of actual hotties! Let us know what we should call it!I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 21 | To counteract liberal feminists and beta males trying to manipulate us into thinking "dad bod" is the hottest male form, we will be instituting one day a week to post photos of actual hotties! Let us know what we should call it!Steamy Sunday? A good conclusion of the week 😈 Thirsty Thursday? Almost weekend 🎈 Freakishly hot Friday Flirty Friday? Frisky Friday! Tantalising Thursday Sunday fun day Please make me stop 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:23 PM |
| 52 | Be very aware of how far men go to try to control women to compensate for their low valueEven the scientists confirm that the scrotes are delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:15 PM |
| 29 | Notice how when a female celebrity cheat on her partner, all hell breaks loose, but if a male celebrity cheats, no one bats an EYE! It’s so normalized that you hardly hear about it..These men show their true nature so easily. Taylor Swift is unapologetically herself, doesn’t keep quiet about LVM’s behaviour and isn’t for the male gaze. And she made lots and lots of money despite all these things instead of being punished for it. They hate it. You should see the same guys lose their minds over Lizzo. That my friends, is some true entertainment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:53 PM |
| 28 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEI grew up in very unsafe environment and was later in highschool bullied too, so I’m the Queen of hidden emotions. I guess it saves me sometimes, but it really annoys me that I normalised some behaviour because I wasn’t really connected to my emotions though. But you’re right, my body always knows. There are some micro aggressions that trigger me right away and I do recognise it, other times it’s only my body warning me. I get either anxious or when it’s really bad I get nauseous. The last time … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:12 AM |
| 16 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKE100% And you can feel their buried hatred at the surface, it’s really scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:02 AM |
| 19 | 3 minutes and 30 seconds of women lying about penis size not mattering.🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:54 AM |
| 14 | Can anyone else also not partake in romance movies/books anymore?I’m really into romance novels and period dramas. I hate-read them now (and occasionally still swoon). If it gets too LV though, I quit the book (can’t stand it) so I try to keep it light. It seems like all romance books have at least a few red flags, but there are a lot of them where the hero is very in love and protective and not the broody toxic type. I’m mostly into historical romance, but I’m sure there is a threat in the romancebook Reddit about healthy relationships if I remember correctl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:53 AM |
| 59 | 3 minutes and 30 seconds of women lying about penis size not mattering.Well, I think it’s probably a combination of virtue signalling and being used to crappy sex when younger. When I was young I thought that having sex was all about pleasing the man and always went along with what he wanted and just faked at the end. If that’s the sex you’re having, the size doesn’t matter indeed 🤣 Now I get annoyed if my partner doesn’t make me properly come, and size matters a lot to me. I hope these women see the light. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:45 AM |
| 11 | New term, as a verb: “Scrote yapping” Definition: circular talking of making excuses and/or trying to exhaust you with word saladBecause when we ‘yap’ we usually have something logical to say. I can ‘out-yap’ any scrote with actual sentences, no word salad needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 10:13 PM |
| 294 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEHe hates her and looks down on her big time. I looked it up on TikTok and I saw a lot of stitches and people talking about how it was triggering them. It got me really doubting myself though, because I have been in this position or witnessed such a thing numerous times and I didn’t feel a thing at all, besides being very intrigued for unknown reasons and watching it over and over again. Then it hit me, I’m so used to abnormal shit that this kinda behaviour doesn’t even phase me anymore. And even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 09:37 PM |
| 31 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKESame. Its like all NVM read the same handbook. Their behaviour is so eerily similar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 09:15 PM |
| 79 | When I found out how many women I knew had been abused... TW abuseAll the women in my family, including myself, have been in physically abusive relationships. Some of my friends have been too. After I moved out at 17 and went to uni, I began to move in different social circles and ended up with a lot of HV friends. For the HV friends from happy and loving families with healthy boundaries and a natural vetting instinct, getting into toxic and abusive situations is rare and something they almost can’t comprehend. Especially the women. They made me aware that som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:07 AM |
| 11 | My boyfriend is contributing nothing but wants all the say in our new house. How do I nicely ask him to be reasonable?Only legit advice: toss the whole boyfriend away. I can’t believe women typing all this out without experiencing a lightbulb moment afterwards 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 09:27 PM |
| 11 | Words men use to insult us that are actually compliments? Let's get a list going!Direct, haughty, man-eater, nuanced and ‘hard to control’ are the ones that stuck with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:26 PM |
| 72 | This went VIRAL on FB and everyone was calling it cute and praising him. She deserves better.When I plan a picknick, I’m busy for two days. Selecting recipes, doing groceries, timing the cooking and baking. Who wants to bet that this guy didn’t even pick up the food himself but had it doordashed or even made her get it (his ‘reward’ for ‘getting out of his comfortzone’) I hate this nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:21 PM |
| 98 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 9 - We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to LieDon’t forget girthy 🍆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:06 AM |
| 126 | FACTS 💯Snip snip ✂️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 10 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.I always tell the women that I know who have terrible N/LVM about HV behaviour from the men in my life. I’m also not afraid to speak up and take action if I feel like I’m treated in a way that’s less than I’m worth or disrespected. My dad called me a ‘bad example for my mom’, but I’d rather see it as a good example for other women who’re not seeing their worth yet. I have a colleague at work with a terrible NVM. When I broke up with my ex she told me ‘I wish I could walk away like that, I’m terr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:16 PM |
| 8 | Pretend you don't know any betterI actually have been treated very well by my HV exes and even by some N/LV ones right up till they turned out to be LV. I’m talking about surprise weekends to Paris for my birthday, getting ‘abducted’ on a flight to see one of my favourite paintings in Poland just because I had never seen it in real life (this happend with another boyfriend as well but to Belgium by car), weekly flowers, always getting head, anniversary dinner in London with champagne (I live in Amsterdam), a weekend in a chatea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:18 PM |
| 2 | I got called “high maintenance” at work 😁Lol 🐭💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:09 PM |
| 6 | I got called “high maintenance” at work 😁“And we all know, no such thing as thin ice for under qualified men in the corporate word”. Ain’t that the truth. I’m sick of all the men who try to dodge their work and responsibilities on a daily basis, but are working on ‘visibility’ instead. And when I alert the board about upcoming and very costly problems if these midlifecrisis managers continue the way they do, I’m deadass told I should ‘motivate them with some female charm’ since I’m apparently very ‘driven and direct’ which may cause fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:01 PM |
| 34 | Men in womens health subredditsIt’s the same in the skincare subs. It really annoys me a lot, they don’t even read the rules but post a picture of their acne and be like ‘make me a routine’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:44 PM |
| 91 | Men on unemployment think that this applies to them - at least it was an unemployed man who posted this. It doesn't matter how many hours some scrote works, a strong woman will NOT settle for this!!I dated a surgeon who was on call a lot of the time. I’ve also dated a guy who worked for Google internationally and was often abroad. Dated a finance partner at Deloitte. All of them had plenty of time to do fun things. They were the ones that had tons of hobbies (like gardening, I shit you not) and friends and wanted to stay at the party when I was ready to go home. No drugs involved. It’s always the men with lots of baggage and (kinda) low paying jobs that have been the laziest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:59 PM |
| 81 | We appeared in public again today. Mods did their job, thank you <3“He who shall not be named” 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Don't let self deprecating humour become pick me behaviour.I have very sarcastic humor, but I target them instead. Never in a malicious way, but I don’t mince words and am witty. Never thought about it though but I feel like it’s a good vetting tool because the abusive ones couldn’t take it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:04 PM |
| 15 | LVM: asks her to marry him then dreads his own wedding 🤡 if you're fiancee isn't actually excited to marry you then drop him before you tie the knot (and spend so much $ + time on a divorce and lawyer)First thing I thought when I read that. And they flaunt it all over the internet. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:59 PM |
| 4 | What exactly do MRAs think would happen if men started getting custody all the time?A friend of mine is doing this right now. She left him the house and 3 kids under ten. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:52 PM |
| 27 | A great way to vet for LV behavior is loudly and enthusiastically complimenting another woman. Then just watch how everyone reacts.I always do this too, it’s interesting to watch the man’s reaction. Something that particularly stood out to me is that most N/LV men just cannot contain themselves if you compliment women they despise like Greta Thunberg, Lizzo or Kamala Harris. They will show ugly, even if it’s only a little bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:29 PM |
| 43 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.I am high risk and not vaccinated yet. I’m quarantined in my house and I’ve only seen my mom, brother and sister the last 14 months. No one is here, yet I’m wearing a beautiful dress and oiled my hair. I grew out my nails and take good care of it. I dropped some make up and stopped shaving some areas though, which made me more aware about the things that I do for myself because I like it and the things I did because I thought that I had to. There are also a lot of women who make art with their m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:21 PM |
| 74 | How porn-brain destroys relationships in one stupid breath.Hahaha I see we met a couple of hours ago. The gaslighting in the comments had me reeling. Edit: I loved how a lot of guys actually came to your defence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 11:25 PM |
| 47 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.Haha same. I’m totally sarcastic and hit them with burn after burn (‘just kidding right’) one time and all of a sudden taking ages to reply the other time. And you know what, they’re still scrambling for attention. Before I went to therapy I had a very avoidant attachment style and would cut men off if I didn’t feel it or if I dated someone more interesting for like weeks (sometimes years). If I’d hit them up again (might be as easy as a like on Instagram to get them going again) they would stil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 10:18 PM |
| 3 | What are your dealbreakers in terms of looks?Hahaha I would date John Oliver too probably. Would never date Henry Cavill tho, he gives me bad vibes. Ohhhh! I almost forgot about Keanu Reeves 😍, lucky girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:34 PM |
| 46 | To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣Haha I have several too! Makes me glad that they have a little less time to annoy other women and spout delusional shit onto the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:31 PM |
| 14 | What are your dealbreakers in terms of looks?Yeah, I always dated slender tall white men. But I think we just have a lot of them here and since I’m a tall woman myself I’m not really approached by shorties (and I’m very fine with that). When I look at celebs that I like, it’s not really a ‘type’ too. Jason Momoa gets me seriously flustered, but I think that Kai from EXO in ‘Love Shot’ is extremely sexy too. They’re like opposite body types. I also have a secret crush on Stephen Colbert (from the Late Show), but wouldn’t say no to the Bridg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:45 PM |
| 27 | What are your dealbreakers in terms of looks?Ooh, I love thick muscular thighs on a man 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:40 PM |
| 25 | What are your dealbreakers in terms of looks?I actually meet people and they become more beautiful of ugly the better I get to know them. This means that I have been in relationships with people I didn’t think were attractive at all in the beginning but became ‘handsome’ to me, but also that I rejected people who I thought were ‘the hottest person ever’ the first time I met them. I have always been told I ‘date down’. That said, absolute dealbreakers are: morbidly obese, bad teeth, bad hygiene, very small or thin dicks/ED. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:35 PM |
| 95 | To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣IKR? We could unblock a random dude and getting head tonight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:27 PM |
| 158 | To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣🙌🏼 I’m one of the lucky women who actually comes from PIV sex and had overall very good vanilla lovers. Still decided to stop dating beginning of February 2020 when I yeeted my (incredibly fit and muscular, but LV) PT back to the streets. Haven’t missed it since. Get a good toy girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:25 PM |
| 16 | Men Don’t Think Women Have a Right to Dignity/ Respect/ EgoThank you! This is what I meant! We say ‘we suffer a fallen face’! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 21 | Men Don’t Think Women Have a Right to Dignity/ Respect/ EgoYeah, I get what you’re saying and I do think that women overall are more empathic, kind and caring. That’s why almost all violent crime is done by men. We can be all those things and loud, proud and feisty at the same time though. I don’t think we should be ashamed of these things because men ‘claimed’ them. Let’s reclaim these characteristics and make them mean something better. When I say proud, I mean that I think too high of myself than to stay with a man who cheated on me. I especially am … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Men Don’t Think Women Have a Right to Dignity/ Respect/ EgoThey’re so fragile 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:27 PM |
| 42 | Men Don’t Think Women Have a Right to Dignity/ Respect/ EgoAlso, most women - even the proud ones like me - can actually recognise real disrespect, degradation and unfairness and won’t blow up over nothing. Men can’t even make the distinction between a sarcastic joke and real disrespect and will feel slighted 100 times faster than us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:24 PM |
| 31 | Men Don’t Think Women Have a Right to Dignity/ Respect/ EgoIKR? They also expect us to keep quiet about cheating and abusive behaviour because they know that in this patriarchy most people blame and shame the women in a way. Picked the wrong one with me though, they were going down. I will answer people honestly if they ask me what happened. Two actually went to a licensed therapist after that in the hopes of getting back together (didn’t work) and polishing up their public image 🤣 Try to vet vet vet to save yourself from these scrotes and keep your pea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 157 | Men Don’t Think Women Have a Right to Dignity/ Respect/ EgoThis is 100% true. It’s actually even worse. They don’t expect us to have self respect, pride or an ego. I am a very proud woman and disrespect and a ‘fallen face’ (is that also a saying in English?) is even as bad to me as the act itself. I’ve never been able to forgive men who treated me in a disrespectful manner, but I have always walked away immediately if the disrespect had been public or semi-public (other people know). Cue the shocked Pickachu faces. All of my NV exes literally told me ‘I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:00 PM |
| 46 | What did he expect when he told her he wanted to sleep with another woman ?Yeah, the comments were something else. There were a few women defending her with quite some upvotes. The amount of gaslighting scrotes in the replies telling them that ‘’iT wAs jUsT a FaNtAsY’ like OP didn’t just admit he would totally fuck a stranger if she was down was unreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 02:22 PM |
| 2 | So you don’t want to date women who strip or do porn? That’s fair. We don’t want to date men who go to strip clubs or who watch porn.The Netherlands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:12 AM |
| 43 | PSA: as soon as man says that, run the opposite direction sis 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ This is RED FLAG. Manipulation.My (very extroverted) ex was king of the silent treatment and stonewalling. I used it as my much needed reading time (fantasy nerd). He was not amused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:39 PM |
| 89 | I’m just so tickled seeing this. Yes Queens, yes.This actually makes it even more sad. The bar is so low any man who would put in a tiny bit of effort would already rise above and succeed with eager pickmeisha’s. There’s something really sus with this guy, 100% guaranteed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:15 PM |
| 76 | I’m just so tickled seeing this. Yes Queens, yes.This is 100% true. I’d rather stay at home than having dinner with someone who annoys or repulses me. Because when men accuse us of being ‘dinner diggers’ they’re implying that we don’t like these men at all and use/con them to get a free meal before ghosting them. You know, act the way men often do with their sex-digging. I do love going out to dinner though. So I have a monthly ‘dinner budget’ and take my mom out. Or go 50/50 with a friend. Sometimes my brother takes me out for dinner. He’s a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:04 PM |
| 22 | New report on violence and sexual violence against women, using better methodologies, show that 51% of women have been raped, 99.7% have been abused.I know, that’s how I feel as well. And it’s the same with domestic violence. All the women in my family have experienced DV by either family members and/or SO’s. In some cases the police and social workers did regular ‘house visits’ like social calls, just to check if everyone was all right. Never has there been a charge. Especially when you’re used to hardcore legit sick violence, ‘normal’ domestic violence seems acceptable. At that point most women don’t even think of mental and emotional abus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:14 PM |
| 21 | Famous romanian singer Dani Mocanu sentenced to 6 months in prison for inciting hate against women.Good. Can we talk about his eyebrows tho?! 😱 WTH happened there? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 03:49 PM |
| 144 | New report on violence and sexual violence against women, using better methodologies, show that 51% of women have been raped, 99.7% have been abused.Dr. Jessica Taylor is amazing. I already dread it when I think of all the scrotes and pickmeisha's reactions. They'll be saying shit like 'describing cat calls like sexual violence is dramatization' and be like, 'the percentage is only this high because they also count innocent cat calls or some groping in a bar as 'sexual violence''. Or they will say it only happens to 'uneducated' people (aka people they look down upon from different social classes, sex workers or minorities). Even if you're t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 03:10 PM |
| 14 | imagine having a 34 y.o childThis man is total and utter scum. He already cheated like 10 times - that we know of - and has no respect for his family whatsoever. The 'you do things to spite me' thing is total projection. He looks down on her, resents her and probably actively tries to punish her and make her suffer. It's only logical that he expects the same treatment in return or is at least scared for it to happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:04 PM |
| 47 | “Does my emotional support woman have to just put up with my shit or INSPIRE me to wipe my own ass? WheRe IS ThE LiNE?!” - The ruminations of an uninspired scrote:These men deadass want us to lift them up, while they only drain us in return. We ain't got no time to inspire a man into better behaviour. I'm busy inspiring myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 01:35 PM |
| 25 | BS Communication Ploy- Delaying Your Address of Disrespect Hoping the Timeframe ExpiresOf course, the best thing to do is walk away at the first sign of these behaviours. Not everyone is that levelled up yet or that aware of red flags in a relationship. I know I wasn't in some of my previous LTR's. At one point, I started a feelings diary to track emotions and the accompanying factual event that instigated these emotions. It not only helps you cope, but it also helps you to believe in yourself and not forget the behaviour (and maybe discover a pattern). This diary is for yourself … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 01:30 PM |
| 358 | Women aren't funnyI frequent women’s only spaces a lot, on and offline. Women are hilarious. Even on Reddit, I’m hollering at FDS or other women only spaces (subreddits where no men willingly go because they don’t see the benefit for them like knitting or romance novels). I think they’re insecure because they’re jealous. Most of their jokes are only funny to the oppressors and not really jokes but insults. It’s way harder to make an honest and emotionally healthy joke or pun than a sexual, racist or misogynistic … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 12:38 PM |
| 80 | So you don’t want to date women who strip or do porn? That’s fair. We don’t want to date men who go to strip clubs or who watch porn.I’m very sad to inform you that we have legalised prostitution though. I think it’s mostly consumed by tourists and foreigners. I think patriarchy is everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 10:48 PM |
| 247 | So you don’t want to date women who strip or do porn? That’s fair. We don’t want to date men who go to strip clubs or who watch porn.I feel like this is a very logical and normal point of view in the country where I live. Not radical at all. We don’t even have a lot of stripclubs over here and only ‘loser’ men go, so it’s a thing to be ashamed of. There are some men who do these things when they’re ‘with the guys’, but it’s mostly frowned upon and seen as for the uneducated. I’m very glad, because I could never be with someone who paid for sex or goes to stripclubs. Still vet thoroughly though, I know a lot of men who go to T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:57 PM |
| 13 | There’s a New Dating Website for Christian Men Who Hate Feminists and Soy BoysMy man is deadass holding a sword 🗡 DKM 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:41 PM |
| 220 | Tell me about your HV first date with someone who did, in fact, turn out to be HVMy first HV boyfriend was very young (I just turned 18 and he was almost 20). We dated for 5 years. We both went to the same uni and mixed frat/sorority so it wasn’t a dating culture at all (more of a hooking up culture). I don’t really remember the first date, but what I do remember was that there always was this willingness to please me and healthy communication. He did big things like promise rings. He frequently took me out to dinner. He surprised me with weekend get always to Paris or a cas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:28 PM |
| 106 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outI love the disclaimer. Don’t they all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:38 PM |
| 5 | Omg this scrote.Dr Grande is terrible. Unrelated, but I was cold approached by a PUA this week who looked a lot like him. I was sitting on a bench in the sun listening to an audiobook - no make up, terrible outfit, glasses and avoiding eye contact like my life depended on it - and this guy has the audacity to circle the bench 5 fcking times in the span of 15 minutes till he cornered me. It was like the most cringe thing ever. Left as soon as I could but that spot is ruined now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 10:25 AM |
| 9 | NVM is 43 but *willing* to date 30-45 year oldsSo, he starts off with telling us absolutely nothing about himself except the fact that he has terrible humor, proceeds with a delusional wishlist for his future bangmommy and tops it of with some pictures of his receding hairline and deciduous teeth? Okay so why did he think that he needed a whole ass website for this? Men are nothing if not delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 10:18 AM |
| 12 | He never wanted me to pay the rent.This is so good to hear! And something we should emphasise on FDS. Healthy relationship do exist. HVM won’t have any toxic traits. There are heaps of people living in a very loving family. We should want better for ourselves than someone who doesn’t respect us in whatever way. Love is respect. I scored 62 for the relationship that I thought was very good with only a few bumps. Only the relationship with my HV exes were 0 (he was truly HV) or under 5 (we were young). Having had these relationship… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:54 AM |
| 13 | He never wanted me to pay the rent.https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/ This one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:13 AM |
| 450 | Mainstream "women's empowerment" is a lie.Showing your breasts to random men that you don’t know will never be empowering. I never got it, it always seemed like a very vulnerable position to be in as a women. Especially when the men are fully dressed. It’s a weird power dynamic. Not only in a stripclub, but also on the street. They sexualise our breasts. But if a mom is feeding her child in a restaurant they all scream like a banshee that it’s improper and that it’s disgusting while they’re trying to eat. No sir, this is the actual use … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:08 AM |
| 159 | We need to draw a line between oppression that is based on the extraction of cheap labor vs. other types of "oppression"🙌🏼 this is the content I’m here for!!! Thank you, it’s spot on! Edit: especially the part about social justice groups that are easily accepted. It’s really sus. It always benefits men or patriarchy in some way while it actually simultaneously oppresses and/or hurts women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:54 AM |
| 12 | Seeing former friends/lvexes Get Married is a bag of mixed emotions but mostly a big Relief.Never be jealous if you see a N/LVM ‘succeeding’ at life. Moving on quickly, marrying, having children and so on. I can assure you that if he was N/LV with you, he didn’t change. Once LV, always LV is the general rule. He might be able to hide it better for now. Or he’s only putting on a front for SM, you never know that happens behind closed doors. Three of my LV exes (one is my ex fiancé) all moved on rather quickly, seemingly very successful and with gorgeous women who were like the extreme o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:41 AM |
| 47 | He never wanted me to pay the rent.Another really good eye opener for me was the Quiz at loveisrespect.org The fact that people who scored 0 or under the double digits apparently exist was a rude wake up call. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:27 AM |
| 128 | He never wanted me to pay the rent.Spot on. The most abusive men were the most eager to move me in ASAP. Also, it’s very normal OP, to not recognise toxic behaviour straight away. Most of us have grown up in households with unhealthy relationship examples and it’s really hard to recognise red flags if you’re used to treading water all your life. I’m glad you eventually found the books. Couples therapy with an abusive SO (and with abusive I also mean mentally and emotionally, it’s not always physical) is the worst idea ever. Most … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:22 AM |
| 15 | The real reason you shouldn’t date “frugal” (cheap) menA guy I dated actually forgot his wallet. He immediately cash-apped me the whole bill though. It’s not even a good excuse to make the woman pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 04:28 PM |
| 24 | The real reason you shouldn’t date “frugal” (cheap) menThis is what being frugal means. And most frugal women I know use it to save for a rainy day and spend on their loved ones. My frugal ex (who earned six figures) didn’t even buy Christmas presents for his own kids and tried to cheap out in every way possible with me even when on vacation. He did buy himself a 10k audio installation and went on multiple vacations each year with friends. Men confuse frugal with selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 04:20 PM |
| 88 | Has anyone else gotten these? I am disgusted that they want to groom women to think their husband being on a porn site is okay. He said in the ad "it has tons of non-adukt content" NO ONE CARES. IT IS A PORN SITE. EFF OFF!! No husband should be on this site!It's an excuse as old as time, only in a different package. It's like men who bought the Playboy 'for the stories' in the 90's 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Would this be considered a pick me mindset? I used to think this way when I was a pick me. When I stopped caring about or catering to the male gaze, I stopped wanting male attention all together. Especially while minding my business.This is the only way. Do what feels good to you and fck the 'male gaze'. I sometimes have these moments as well in the car, but I realized it had nothing to do with the male gaze and everything with how confident and hot I felt about myself that day. When I'm happy, confident and feeling awesome I ride in my car with the FDS playlist on and feel like a goddess. It's these moments when I'm like 'I wonder if other people see how hot I am today, lol'. The reason I know that it has nothing to do wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:48 PM |
| 8 | “YoU dOnT LiStEn!1!”Spot on! Men use this as a way to oppress you, it's literally only used in situations where they want to control you. I'm a textbook Gemini, I can't shut-up about myself and my interests/hobbies and have to really make an effort to listen and hear the other person. I know this about myself and try to do my best with friends, family and colleagues. If a guy started to show me some pink flags LV behaviour though, I stopped listening. Sometimes even when they were okay, but just really boring or an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:00 PM |
| 116 | What we do to remain “proper, considerate and polite” keeps us meek.I only eat at 5 star restaurants or I'd rather stay in and cook for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 11:51 AM |
| 8 | Strategies for responding to stupid rude “joking” demeaning comments from menI always reply with the 'I don't think you can afford my hourly (contractors) tariff'. In a 'joke right back at you, lol, wink' manner. Putting value on my time and work while simultaneously giving a subtle dig implying they're a dusty. And since we were all 'joking' (he started it right), there's really nothing they can do about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 09:38 AM |
| 117 | TIL Judith Love Cohen, who helped create the Abort-Guidance System which rescued the Apollo 13 astronauts, went to work on the day she was in labor. She took a printout of a problem she was working on to the hospital. She called her boss and said she finished the problem and gave birth to Jack BlackI love it. I also read that when she divorced her 2nd husband (Jack Black dad) he went to life with him. Idk why they chose this, but most of the time women get a lot of shit for decisions like these and are labelled ‘bad mothers’. Especially in the 80’s. Jack Black talks fond of both of his parents and his stepfather though (she remarried for a 3rd time), so I guess it was just a practical decision (perhaps because of her career). I love women who dgaf about convention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:24 AM |
| 198 | Just another Saturday morning on reddit. Yet more evidence that men are everything-diggers.Men are and have always been the real golddiggers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:29 PM |
| 14 | Men are most attractive in their 20sThis is true. I dated a guy 8 years younger for a while, met him in the gym. He knew my age and we didn’t really discuss his. I thought he was around my age, maybe a bit younger. He pursued me and was super serieus about it. After a few dates I learned about our age gap and I was shook. When men date younger women, there’s always intend. They are meaning to date younger women, they’re looking for a specific power dynamic. Most of the time a fair bit of grooming and/or lying about their age is in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:03 PM |
| 49 | Men are most attractive in their 20sI’m a 33 yo woman and I’m still fangirling over Kai from EXO. Sure, I like ‘older’ guys too, but the most physically attractive men are 25-35 IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:55 PM |
| 11 | Ladies, can I please hear your success stories on divorcing abusive partners?These are all very good tips. I moved out when he was sailing with friends in Greece. It’s better to move out if he’s not near. Or have someone with you. I had my brother with me with another ex. Even though he was very aggressive, he didn’t dare anything because he was very afraid of the men in my family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:52 PM |
| 47 | 5 bucks says he’s never made a woman orgasm🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:08 AM |
| 22 | The RaTiOnaL Sex“We don’t fully understand it,” Dr. Simon said. “One of our messaging strategies will be that the vaccine is not only important for you but, in addition, is a means of protecting others in your family.” This sweet summer child. He truly believes that protecting their loved ones might motivate men to get the vaccine. Scrotes DGAF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 10:33 AM |
| 17 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsI never cared if I ‘looked jealous and crazy’, and I especially didn’t gaf when the situation was fcked up and boundaries were crossed. I always said, if you don’t like how I react to disrespect, what’s keeping you from walking away? Seriously. I know better now. I save my energy and walk away myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:42 PM |
| 4 | Guys who have a problem with sex during your period are LVMThis is the content I’m here for 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:20 PM |
| 8 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.She will need it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:16 PM |
| 73 | Bright minds of scrotes.Or we could, I dunno, just remove porn? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:42 PM |
| 19 | Period 👏🏻This is so true. I always multiple date and men just know it. If anything, they want to make it official sooner rather than later if they like you. If for some reason a guy isn’t able to date you properly, he will explain (for example: if he has to go out of the country for a couple of weeks for work, he will explain and set up a date for when he comes back before he leaves). He will also tell you that he’s seriously interested before he leaves. He will behave consistently from day 1 and never l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:16 PM |
| 27 | This image circulating Reddit made me peak and go full FDS.It’s also his first bookmark, the one that he probably uses the most! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 06:12 AM |
| 124 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡I had the same compliment. That it looked ‘textbook’ neat and that I was tight even though I was very wet. I was very proud of that, but let’s be real. Any healthy man who has the hots for you should be able to come from even a bit of rubbing over his pants. The guys who say these kind of things are the porn sick limp dick iron deathgrip types. I also heard this neg/compliment a lot: you have small boobs, but I don’t mind because they’re very round and the nipples are cute. Like, sir please stop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:35 PM |
| 6 | The “ideal” women are those that are easy to manipulate. Studies show human frontal lobe matures at 30 YEARS OF AGE (the number used to be 25 though). Is it a pure coincidence that its the same with the mythical “wall” for women???🙄That last sentence 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:29 AM |
| 41 | BARE MINIMUM MALE HYGIENEAnd belly buttons! I think I see some sort of pattern here, lol. They seem to be doing a terrible job when it comes to cleaning their holes, whether it’s ears, mouths, belly buttons or their assholes 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:23 AM |
| 121 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceI can imagine. I said it before and I will always say it again. Men who get turned on by our pain, are not loving partners. Women who have poor boundaries in the bedroom (including BDSM, poly, not being able to say no, etc) have most of the time unresolved trauma and need to work on themselves to get to an emotionally better place. Never let some N/LV scrote cosplay their porn fantasies with your body. These kinks are not a standard part of intimacy and are always a huge red flag. Kinks like pol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:16 AM |
| 34 | What podcasts do you ladies recommend besides the FDS podcast?The Baggage Reclaim Podcast by Natalie Lue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:07 AM |
| 215 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceSeriously, if you see a comment on FDS that says hair pulling or choking is vanilla, report that shit immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:03 AM |
| 1 | N/LVM rarely change. They don’t have good intentions when they try to worm their way back into your life. Don’t be fooled by them or let them trick you into talking. The ONLY way to go is an IMMEDIATE block and delete.Ik krijg hier nu pas een notificatie van! 🤔 Dankjewel, jij ook! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 08:21 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).I’m so glad that you listened to your gut. I know that feeling, and it’s almost never wrong. Always listen to what your body is trying to tell you, most of the times it screams at us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 08:02 AM |
| 43 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)I’ve never felt more lonely than when I was in LTR. Some of them weren’t even N/LVM but mediocre or semi HV. I’ve been very sick, have lost family members including my father, had to juggle 60 hrs work weeks while studying and have been no contact with family for a while. Not once did I feel any real support or understanding from my SO’s. If anything, they made my life more difficult. Its a terribly lonely feeling when you go through hardship alone, but it’s even worse when you’re technically no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:10 PM |
| 26 | Romantic NecrophiliaOMG, I’m horrified! Can you imagine that you’re in a life or death situation and he thinks you’re already dead or not salvageable anymore so instead of calling 911 and saving your life he does this. These men are dangerous in so many different ways, it boggles my mind. I can’t even remember most of the stupid shit men told me when they thought they were romantic, I’m a terrible listener when I suspect they’re only spewing bs and mentally check out. Should’ve walked away instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 09:01 AM |
| 179 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)I’m 33 now and after 15+ years of a couple of LTR I decided I don’t need to be married and live together. Sure, I might be tempted if I accidentally ran into a very HVM with the same values and life goals, but otherwise I’m good on my own. I might date with men who can show me an exceptional good time, take me out to dinner, museums or the opera. Go on vacations together. But I will always keep my own awesome home that is my sacred place for at least 4-5 nights a week. This way, you can actually… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:53 AM |
| 20 | Don't let the past disappointment and bad memories make you lose your faith in yourselfNever lose faith in yourself. If anything, lose faith in the mediocre men out there. At least that way, you’re realistic and protecting yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:45 AM |
| 22 | Girl talk isn't a bad thingSame! Unrelated, but I just love her eyebrows 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:43 AM |
| 7 | LVM thrive in stagnation. Save your tears.If a rich man isn’t spending any on you, he might as well be a dusty 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:52 AM |
| 43 | Ladies, don't suppress your anger!They also weaponise that mortification against us. My ex used to tell me he was ‘afraid of me’. I was never ever physically violent, never screamed and never used swear words or name calling. I did call out his emotional cheating and wouldn’t let him get away with bs excuses. He couldn’t ‘win’ the arguments. This was a 6’4 captain in the airforce and he was afraid of me?! Because I looked him in the eye and asked him how he would feel if his dad treated his mom the same way he was treating me? M… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:15 AM |
| 16 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).Yes to all of this! It’s just sour grapes, don’t let them have it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InStill surprisingly easy, especially if you have your own company or are on another national registry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:54 PM |
| 136 | Can we talk about entitlement in dating for a sec?Male entitlement in action. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:46 PM |
| 75 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).The boyfriend after him actually topped him in ridiculousness. He started to wonder during sex what the use of art history was. ‘He couldn’t figure it out.’ I am an art historian and worked in a museum at that point in time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:33 PM |
| 55 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women.Another insecure pickmeisha trying to break down another woman’s healthy boundaries. She even sounds annoying and unhappy. Misery really does like company. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:37 PM |
| 25 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).I'm happy that I could help <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:17 PM |
| 40 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).Thank you! Even when you have a good sense of your boundaries and some confidence, it's really hard to navigate the dating world when you've been treading water surrounded by unhealthy relationships all your life. I hope my experiences can help girls and women to avoid making the same mistakes I made during my twenties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:15 PM |
| 51 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).Thank you! And IKR? They only feel like we're better than them, because the know very well they're inadequate. Or they're very insecure. Either way, no excuse to rain on our parades. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:12 PM |
| 28 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).Thank you! I wish I did, but I was totally in error mode after that. He's def blocked and almost forgotten though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:11 PM |
| 394 | Murder vs. menstruationDo you remember when Rupi Kaur had some fake menstruation blood on her trousers on Instagram. It got reported and banned. Men and pickme's from all over the world fell over themselves to tell everyone how disgusted they were by seeing a fully clothed woman going through something very natural. I tried to get 'girlsgettinghurtt' banned the other day and they told me that it 'isn't going against our community guidelines'. Sometimes I wonder why I even bother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:43 PM |
| 80 | From the interview “Prostitution is rape, and men know it” with Rachel Moran.I know! Some of my colleagues even tried to justify the show because ‘it showed both sides of the story’ since they also interviewed a trafficked woman. It’s disgusting how they glorified sex work in that programme. I hate watched 10 minutes before I switched it off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:35 PM |
| 198 | From the interview “Prostitution is rape, and men know it” with Rachel Moran."I understood by feeling my body used as a masturbatory object by thousands of men who, of course, know that the sex they buy is unwanted. Otherwise they wouldn't pay for it. (...) Sex in prostitution is not only abusive, but it is abuse that has to be ignored, by contract. Money has a symbolic role, but also the function of reducing it to silence." I always struggled to eloquently describe how I felt about sex work, even when it's done by the more privileged sugar babies or escorts. This hits t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 06:04 PM |
| 20 | Rescue mission required! I really hope this is fake. Pickme has ended up as main carer for her ex’s kids (who he had with the woman he left her for, whilst she was pregnant)I read her comments on the original post. This woman doesn't want to get saved. It's a beautiful thing that at least someone cares for the kids, but does it have to be her? The woman he cheated on when he made these kids? Like, where are the grandparents? Uncles and aunts? A babysitter? They're his children, he needs to step tf up. Yeah he's grieving, but -hear me out - so are his kids?! He needs to put his big boy pants on and be there for his children in their grief and share memories together… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 12:30 PM |
| 11 | Found this on Facebook...Is she trying to normalise men who fail at life?! And actively trying to pressure women into taking all their shit (possibly quite literally, considering all the scrotes with unwashed ass)? I’m sorry to inform you miss, but you can’t elevate something else by putting yourself down. Canonballs are not meant to fly. I’m starting to wonder where all the crazy pills are. Oh I know, JENEVE HERE FCKING ATE THEM ALL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 22 | LVM Doctors create years of agony for “testy” womanThere’s a paywall :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 07:38 AM |
| 207 | Dr. Anthony Youn, High Value King 🙌Idk if he’s high value, but his choice of SO surprised me. I know a couple of plastic surgeons, dated one too. Most of them are very material and focussed on perfection. I rather like it that he seems to have a girl next door wife instead. I’m hopeful that it’s because he looks for HV traits inside and out. I also love his TikToks where he drags the scrotes who ask for the ‘extra stitch’ or a larger cup size for their wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 07:35 AM |
| 19 | He cheated on her and she's still with him. She now finds out he spends money on porn.IKR? I don’t give a shit about what anyone says on or off the internet. Even if it’s the queen herself who disapproves. He’s in a relationship with me, not them, so he should be worried about what I think or walk away. They only use this shit to derail us and make us forget about what we found on their phone in the first place. Or they use it as a scare tactic, make it seem like we did something wrong and they may walk away. Call their bluff, you’d probably be better off anyway. Edit: I also wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 05:47 PM |
| 21 | Time to focus on me after breakupIt’s the stupidest thing I’ve heard today, and I’ve been browsing the Leopards Ate My Face sub. I know tons of men who want to marry. My best friend didn’t really care to, but her husband proposed and they had a wonderful wedding. Also rings and a honeymoon (that he arranged, it was a surprise). All the men I dated wanted marriage and children. I literally know more men who want to marry than men who don’t like it and I live in North Europe where elopement is more of a thing. But most want the w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:06 PM |
| 29 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InAll the time. Because I’m really relaxed, laid back and flexible, most of these men mistake me for the ‘cool girl’. I just know when to pick my battles and most of the time they don’t even know what hit them 🤣 It’s because a lot of men have narcissistic tendencies, the audacity and a patriarchal society that excuses them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 01:58 PM |
| 26 | How long did you wait before being proposed to?I dumped him after I found out he was LV, but he proposed around 14 months. Now, most people around my age (late 20’s, early 30’s) don’t take longer than 2 years. When we were still in uni, it was different because we all wanted to finish our masters first and save a little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 06:53 AM |
| 100 | He cheated on her and she's still with him. She now finds out he spends money on porn.If I go through a phone and I find shit, it’s confirmation that he doesn’t deserve privacy. Miss me with that bullshit, I don’t even want to hear it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 06:37 AM |
| 114 | "dating for a free meal"The women who are busy golddigging actually do get taken out to very fancy restaurants for a free meal. And they wouldn’t even look twice at these coffee date or ‘appetiser only’ dusties. So I really don’t know what they’re keep going on about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 11:01 PM |
| 73 | I should really stop lurking around. From a post about age gap relashionships and how they aren't weird. Yes they are.They delude themselves with the ‘experience’ card. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:55 PM |
| 50 | I should really stop lurking around. From a post about age gap relashionships and how they aren't weird. Yes they are.I’ve seen with my parents that a huge age difference leads to an irreconcilable power balance. Especially when one of the partners was very young (before 25-30). My mom and dad were forced to marry each other at 19 and 39. It was more a parent child relationship with a lot of codependency going on. Even when both parties mean well, this is not something that works out in a healthy way 99.9% of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:51 PM |
| 192 | Dating Subs on Reddit are Social Engineering Hubs to Normalize Sexual Violence and Disrespectful Behavior toward WomenConsidering the men who are active on Reddit, it’s the least likely online place to find a HVM. I think it’s even worse than Tinder, because rejecting a fuckboi is less dangerous than an incel basement troll or a poly bdsm kinkster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Spin off: how to tell if a man has a small dickMy exes were all average to very large. I had a crush for the longest time on a guy, who was rumoured to have a very small peen. That and the fact that he was a womaniser kept me from hooking up with him. After being friends for like 2 years I was really in love with him and I caved, thinking I could overcome the small penis. Turned out he had a perfectly normal dick. And very eager to give head. His ex FWB who told our group of friends, just made it up (causing our whole sorority to avoid him, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:32 PM |
| 3 | How you like them apples? 🍎🍏I’m def going to try Envy now. Another awesome one is the Pink Lady Apple 🍎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Men are cry babiesI don’t know what you said, but who cares about their feefees, you were probably right and they hate it. It never happened if the dick wasn’t snapping 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Scrotox!If only they could do this with their personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:04 PM |
| 11 | Secret Service daughter goes viral on TikTok by sharing tips her father gives her to protect herselfI was still partying a lot and naive when I was in NYC 10 years ago so I never really felt unsafe except for one moment when I accidentally got out of the tube in a very dodgy area in Brooklyn round midnight. A tiny South American lady took one look at me and my pink-bowed attire and grabbed me by the hand immediately. She waited for me to get on the next one and got on with me till we reached my real metrostop. She really watched out for me, even though she was very short and we were surrounded… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 08:56 PM |
| 2 | FDS users taking it in turns to roast Scrotes in the comments like:OMG, I looked up your guinea pigs and they’re adorable! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 5 | Don't threaten me with a good timeI love your husband for this 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 08:05 PM |
| 73 | Best post in the history of reddit. Not for the audacity of this POS, but the backlash he got from the replies. He really thought he could use this baby to control her and it backfired HORRIBLY. Love to men getting a taste of their own medicine. I hope this woman is great and doing well 🎉🙏🏼They rather sabotage their own lives, careers and quality of living to spite us than to level up and be proud providers for their ‘legacy’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 06:59 PM |
| 31 | Best post in the history of reddit. Not for the audacity of this POS, but the backlash he got from the replies. He really thought he could use this baby to control her and it backfired HORRIBLY. Love to men getting a taste of their own medicine. I hope this woman is great and doing well 🎉🙏🏼I know a guy too. He made around 150K before, but made an arrangement with his boss that his salary would go down to a third of it, but also got super nice cars that were the company’s on paper. When the children got older (and easier) his salary went up and he took her to court for 50/50 custody. Did a shit job raising them when they were at his house too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 22 | Have any of yall experienced that “look” on dates?I always dated men who were better at hiding LV behaviour, so I never experienced it on a date. I experienced it last week though, by my mothers LV (and recently divorced and already newly hitched up) neighbour. I was alone on the patio, but when he saw me he tried to interact while he’s the one person in the street who always ignores everyone. Instead of enjoying the sun, I had to move inside with the dog. When I had a cup of tea on the patio later with my mom, he came outside again 🙄 He’s more… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 06:50 PM |
| 110 | Do. Not. Care.This is so true. I used to think my value was based on my servitude to men and my looks. Now I only dress and doll myself up for me. I found out that I feel very sexy, classy and put together when I dress for myself. I also tend to pick out different things, the female gaze is vastly different than the male gaze, I found. More sophisticated and mature. I sometimes also don’t give a fuck, and it’s wonderfully liberating. I’m still laughing at the look on the face of my neighbour when he borrowed … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 06:41 PM |
| 71 | Science finally admits that it's a myth that we fall off a fertility cliff at 35Glad that science finally catches up. Both my grandmas could’ve told you that long ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 06:31 PM |
| 90 | Just left what I thought was HVMI had the ring already. Still caught me totally off guard and cheated on me. We vacationed in Mexico 2 weeks earlier before it started. It also seemed so out of character for him, I was totally blindsided. To the most ballsy N/LVM even a ring means nothing I guess. (Still, good advice, filters most of them out probably). Also, don’t take him back. Men who can play the long con and act very HV during a long term relationship will want to make you believe it was a ‘mistake’, a ‘fit of insanity’, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:57 PM |
| 39 | Finally this depraved bullshit is facing some backlash in young malesI’m glad people are waking up to this. Let’s hope they’re of the same opinion when it comes to popular culture of sexualising and grooming underage girls. Which has, quite frankly, been going on for way longer. I wait for the day that the mainstream opinion is vocal about that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:33 PM |
| 6 | Power in celibacy.I’m 15 months in and I’m loving it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 11:57 AM |
| 7 | jfc, even the comments are a goldmine, so it’s wrong to have standards???‘That everyone else got to experience’. The most privileged and entitled always feel like they’re the ones getting the shorter end of the stick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 11:27 AM |
| 65 | I ditched my fuckbuddy when she caught feelings because she's "drama", now I'm too sick to fuck other women. She's got a bf now, I want her back. Help, please :(This was the first thing that came to mind when I read his description of her. He had a HVW and he knew he couldn’t play the long con. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 10:49 AM |
| 22 | It do be that waySoon to be ex husband? (One can hope). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:30 PM |
| 6 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateI don’t even think it’s the ‘top 10 percent’. I think that probably 10% of the total men have a bio that isn’t filled with one or numerous red flags. The guys are probably pretty average. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 07:56 AM |
| 18 | Matthew Hussey: Credit Card Scammer Accused of Skimming Thousands from Clients and Cheater who got his start in Redpill Adjacent ContentAlso: no chin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:30 AM |
| 7 | How to navigate social situations/dates when I abstain from alcohol consumption?I think every bar will have sparkling or still water with a slice of lemon. | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 03:59 AM |
| 21 | How to navigate social situations/dates when I abstain from alcohol consumption?Just order something else. If he presses you, he’s N/LV anyway. HVM respect your choice, and will at most ask a polite question out of interest. N/LVM want to get their prey drunk and easy. It’s a great vetting tool. | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 03:55 AM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InYes and no. I want to marry Stephen Colbert and Obama. But also Jason Momoa for example. I think he’s incredibly sexy. I think all three of them are awesome and sexy in their own way. And I feel like all of them are HVM too. Otherwise I wouldn’t be attracted to them. So for me, they’re my sexual and emotional type. I am attracted to them, because of their (seemingly) HV character. If he’s very hot and muscular it’s an added bonus. Men who seem LV to me, don’t attract me. Whether they’re ‘hot’ or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 12:29 AM |
| 12 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateAnd then they’re totally angry because ‘women never react on OLD’. If men would swipe right on their actual looks match and not on a bunch of insta model catfishes, they would have a lot more conversations on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 12:06 AM |
| 107 | What a disgusting way to think! 😣 (Opinion on women cutting their hair short)Men complain about this a lot, lol 😂 It really bothers them when we don’t cater to them anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:59 PM |
| 4 | Asian Men and their hypocrisyYou’re so right on target with the ‘wife machine’. My first (Dutch) boyfriend was flabbergasted when I tried to iron his shirt before we went out. He wasn’t bothered with it being a bit crinckly (is this a word?). He couldn’t understand why it would be embarrassing for me and my pride if he wore an untidy shirt. Or that I hated it if his house was a mess when we got visitors. He was also perfectly fine with ironing it himself. I was 18, just moved out to attend university and felt like I was on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:50 PM |
| 7 | Share your Red Flags on men who view women as disposable objectsMaybe not as a disposable object, but still very dangerous and more insidious: when he doesn’t see you as an autonomous human being with own wants or needs, but as a prop. There’s no easier way to make a man fall in love with you than by just shutting up the first couple of dates. A N/LVM will only talk about himself, he won’t ask any questions and he will love it. Their overinflated egos will be so content with themselves that they even convince you that you’re the perfect woman for them, it’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:16 PM |
| 3 | Asian Men and their hypocrisyMy moms family is from a former colony and they migrated to my country in the sixties. They still feel very connected to their home country and are proud of their culture. Still, my grandma and my uncles all told me to only have white, educated and North European boyfriends, because ‘we don’t want to see you with men like us or worse’. So they even teach their daughters, nieces and sisters this. So men shouldn’t be surprised when other women are raised like this as well. Edit: also, we can never… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:46 PM |
| 7 | Struggling to see value in myself because although I'm fairly attractive (or so I'm told) literally every guy I come across just wants to sleep with me and it's emotionally exhausting.Ah, so maybe a more rigoureus approach might be even better. I only interact with my brothers and men I work with and can’t really avoid professionally. But I keep my distance with the latter. I don’t meet or interact with men in other areas. Because I quit dating, this helped me a lot. But of course there are other areas as well. I hope you have that possibility, not everyone has the chance, especially if your work environment won’t permit it. I stopped dating, removed OLD and never react on so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 09:46 PM |
| 5 | My best friend is a HVMI love this so much! I’m glad that I’ve had HVM in my life. They keep me hopeful. These stories sure help too! 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 05:43 PM |
| 31 | Struggling to see value in myself because although I'm fairly attractive (or so I'm told) literally every guy I come across just wants to sleep with me and it's emotionally exhausting.Take a break from dating and start having healthy boundaries with family and friends. I haven’t been dating in almost 18 months now, and the way I valued myself changed a lot. Even though I thought I already grew in this area before. I have more room for hobbies, family and friends and I see my inherent value instead of ‘being someone’s girlfriend/fiancée’. It feels good, peaceful and less lonely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 05:35 PM |
| 24 | YT rELaTioNshiP gURu Derrick Jaxn has a mental breakdown and reacts to his confession video in the third person 👁👄👁This is the first time I’ve ever seen the baby seat in the back. I wanna bet he did that on purpose to look the part of the godfearing father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 05:07 AM |
| 21 | Yet another man not wanting to level up and blaming women for men wanting to end theirselves.I'm working parttime and earn around 60k a year. On top of that I have benefits like 30 days paid leave a year, my bonus and my free lease car (plus insurance and unlimited gas). On top of that I live in a country that has universal healthcare, which means that my medical costs (chronic illness) are only 200 euros a month instead of thousands. This includes my medical insurance. I also made the conscious decision to move to a slightly lower COL area because I was living in the (very expensive) c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:23 PM |
| 250 | I’ve had to use this so many times, sadly it doesn’t always work..It’s also because they respect ‘other men’s property’ more than our boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:27 PM |
| 8 | OLD Cautionary Tales: I rejected men that seemed good on paper.I love the list of fake names. When I got to Tony I got a Lil’Kim deja vu to ‘How many licks’ lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 06:53 PM |
| 11 | Who are your HVW role models?Amal Alamuddin. She’s goals when it comes to career (I mean, a human rights lawyer, come on) and fashion wise. I also love the fact that she waited before she got married and had kids and had a life first (edit: and still does). I’m not sure about George Clooney, I don’t know if he’s HV or not, but I think he’s a fortunate man. Edit: and how could I forget Eartha Kitt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 05:40 PM |
| 32 | Well this is a new one. Even if he's actually disabled, why would it matter what the woman looks like if it's not for anything except for "therapeutic and health reasons!"Another dusty scrote lying to get some pictures for his collection. He even tries to sext/e-mail for free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 20 | People were so mean to Stephanie Buttermore for the crime of gaining weight while female. Her boyfriend, Jeff Nippard, is a good example of what it means to be a high value partner.I dated my personal trainer for a while as a rebound after I left my cheating fiance. You could literally get them in a panic when you asked the 'Did you lose weight?' or 'Did you gain fat?' question. Frantic. Did you know that they don't eat at all before shoots and drink wodka to make their veins stand out more? It's disgusting. These guys are not healthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:34 PM |
| 17 | Your life does not end at 18 nor your worth as a womanWe found a LARPer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:25 PM |
| 42 | 👏🏽more repercussions for creeps👏🏽"I'm sorry you did that to them too". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:23 PM |
| 6 | Reproductive StrategyWhen I met him, I was a fence sitter. Deep down I knew I wanted to be childfree but I was raised very old fashioned with the idea that being a wife and mother should be my life goal and is my primary value as a woman. I told him that I was leaning to childfree, but he convinced me otherwise. People always tell you that everything changes when it’s your own kid and that you fall in love with the baby the moment they’re born. Mother instinct that kicks in, etc. He really sold the ‘were going to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:04 PM |
| 98 | Always be extremely mindful about any comments, remarks, opinions, judgements or criticism from a man about how YOU spend YOUR money!An ex asked me who gave me my diamond earrings. He got really jealous when I wore them and wouldn’t believe I bought them myself?! Should have seen it as a red flag immediately. He was really rich but turned out to be stingy with me. Tried to use money to control me, and was really bummed out when it didn’t work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 11:33 PM |
| 19 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingYeah, I see it now. But it was really subtle at the time. He only stated in the beginning that he thought cheating was morally wrong and was vehemently against it. I never really thought about it because I was busy with being ashamed of my past self (they like to trigger that, so that you won’t take too close a look at them). After this, he was ‘normal’ about it. I’m a bit of a loner and a lot of my hobbies include museums, going to the opera and ballet, yoga, reading and cozying up at home. All… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 10:14 PM |
| 36 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingThis got me confused though. Because my ex told me he never cheated on anyone and would never do it. He thought it was morally wrong and so on and he really had doubts about me in the beginning, because I cheated on my boyfriend when I was 18 and in an abusive relationship. I tried to break up with the guy but he wouldn’t let me. I felt that cheating was my only way out at that point in time. Afterwards, I grew a lot as a person. Worked through trauma and mentally and emotionally levelled up big… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 09:53 PM |
| 4 | The 6/6/6 rule is just asking for a normal guy.Hello fellow Dutchie! It isn’t too much to ask at all. And even the N/LVM I encountered all at least lived up to the 6/6/6 rule. Only men who already gave up on life (and wiping their asses, lol) all go full sour grapes on this. Unfortunately, a lot of them tend to frequent Reddit. Edit: also, I never dated a guy below 6 feet. Short guys are really hard to find over here. I don’t even know a lot of men that are shorter. Most of them were actually quite a bit taller. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 150 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingHe is the guy that led me to FDS in 2019. I’m so disappointed in him because he knows how to be a HVM and apparently just doesn’t give a fuck. I feel like even seemingly HVM can turn NV any minute. I had the same experience with my ex fiancé. I feel like if I’d date again I will be always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’m not sure if it’s worth my peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 07:09 PM |
| 15 | Reminder: FDS is about a specific way to date. It's not for everybody. Totally cool if this is not your cup of tea, just move on. We are not going to change our beliefs to accommodate misogyny.Hear hear 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 06:54 PM |
| 22 | Reproductive StrategyI ‘threatened’ the same thing to my seemingly HV (but undercover NV) ex fiancé. It scared the crap out of him. When my dad was terminally ill, I went to see him every weekend and wasn’t home as much as he would like. He was a very needy guy emotionally and also liked to be taken care of, so of course he tried to get attention somewhere else. When I caught him cheating he even tried to work the ‘I was afraid that I would have a future where I would have to do everything alone’ angle because of me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:04 PM |
| 6 | Reproductive StrategyIn Europe you can get it at any drugstore for around 10-15 euros without a prescription. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inBojack is terrible. It’s so hard to unsee LV behaviour on tv. I’m literally screaming ‘Low Value Man’ to my tv at least once a week. Even series like CSI - that are really shallow and focus more on the murder case than interpersonal relationships - manage to glorify LVM like Danny Messer. Every Sunday I watch interior design and house building programmes though and it restores my faith in men a little bit. It’s wholesome to see HVM who want to build extraordinary homes for their families. My fav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inAll of them. I always majorly dated down. I never really noticed until my brother told me that he and his friends never got what I saw in my ex fiancé. He literally asked me ‘did you see his face?!’. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI had to do assessments for my last 3 jobs and practising really helped. I had only 36 hours for one test, they didn’t inform me before that they required assessments and IQ tests, but I noticed that my scores went up within a couple of hours of practicing. Especially when it comes to math or number sequences, it helps to be in the ‘flow’. There are special websites that offer packages or subscriptions for either a day, week, month, etc. I don’t know what country you’re in, but in my language th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:05 PM |
| 269 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.They keep saying that they don’t know ‘what our endgame is’. Like dude, literally a scrote free life, preferably with a HVM but it’s not a must. This is no fcking secret to anyone who lurks here, but I guess Reddit has some dense mf’ers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 06:40 PM |
| 96 | Scientific proof how to recognise a LVM ;)This doesn’t surprise me at all. You never see a HVM complain about successful women. Or a rich man about a golddigger. The only thing that surprises me here is the fact that they actually do know how LV they are and what the picking order is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:53 AM |
| 244 | 💯% true for me.Yes! I was assaulted by a gay friend who turned out to be actually more bi. I know another gay man who told me he slept with girls when he was really drunk and horny and loved the fact that women don’t mind changing clothes in his presence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 10:40 PM |
| 7 | In the UK, carrying Pepper spray has a max 10 year prison sentence. So if you get caught using it on an attacker, you lose 10 years of your life as opposed to all of them.For women in the Netherlands, there are legal alternatives: https://legalepepperspray.nl/ https://www.prepper-webshop.nl/tiw-defence-spray?gclid=Cj0KCQjwi7yCBhDJARIsAMWFScN8G1iV6B5ffhHKqgxFAuCnc24OAWPtkcRRmzVV4RJCSlngDOG4n40aAsv1EALw_wcB https://www.shogun.nl/verdedigingsspray-stank-en-dna-sinist-protect.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:27 AM |
| 47 | If I could do so with no health issues, I'd stay morbidly obese foreverKeanu Reeves, a true HVM in my opinion, has a grey haired girlfriend. I loved it when all the scrotes found out and lost it. They feel that this 56 year old man should have an 18 year old virgin or something. She’s kinda age appropriate (9 years younger?) and you can see he truly values her as a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:48 PM |
| 30 | Just saw this on Tiktok and SO MANY GIRLS IN THE COMMENTS ARE AGREEING IM SO HAPPY!! The message is finally spreading. 🥳🥳🥳Haha, seriously though, these are mine too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:32 PM |
| 8 | Tips for safety in a mixed gender student housing?I had one of these: https://www.grandado.com/products/voordeur-veiligheid-veiligheidsslot-thuis-hasp-klink-kettingslot-guard-vangst-sluiting-sloten-voor-home-security-deur-gereedschap-mayitr?variant=6355391840288¤cy=EUR&gclid=CjwKCAiAhbeCBhBcEiwAkv2cY4pnFukdTjTCop3TGTOHIXPDpeKMlihs2GJ9lbrqYyHgFbbbEZ6FRxoCLCcQAvD_BwE And one of the ‘hotel door-chains’ as an extra security measure above my lock. I also slept with a wine bottle near my bed. I could smash it on a perpetrators head and use it a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:26 PM |
| 16 | Sex posi women are not our friends. You cannot change my mindThey are all traumatised in a way and coping in very unhealthy ways. Still have time to vanilla-shame us while they’re at it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:36 PM |
| 8 | Imagine being ashamed of absolutely killing it in your career because of one man 💀I always dated very ambitious men who easily out-earned me, till last year. He was a hobosexual and lazy. He was only working 20 hours a week in a gym. He quit full time because he wanted to dedicate the rest of his time to his start up. Instead of doing that, he insidiously moved into my apartment when I was mourning and not really paying attention. Instead of working he was watching Netflix and YouTube the whole day, eating my groceries. He frequently asked me to help him after my workday and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 178 | He just ended things because I was making him wait for sexWhen I was in university, we had mixed housing with shared living rooms (frat and sorority). A couple of the cool guys were talking in one of them when I was cooking so I couldn’t really help eavesdropping. It was about one of their mates who asked the girl he was dating to be his girlfriend and she said yes. It came up that she made him wait more than 10 dates before they had sex. Most in our frat and sorority were either in very LTR’s or promiscuous. Most LTR came from FWB situations that upgr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:03 PM |
| 51 | Happy wife, happy lifeMy first HVM boyfriend came from a family like that, and he really set the standard. I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:36 PM |
| 93 | Another round of free publicity for the sub. Stories about FDS men come up with amuse me every time. Really? I think you attribute "threatening someone with violence when they reject you" to the wrong sех.IKR? And it's really weird because most of them get the abbreviations wrong (FSD instead of FDS or LVF instead of LVW and stuff like that) and the post are really weird, tone-deaf and violent. You kinda just know it isn't a women who's posting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 12:36 PM |
| 76 | Another round of free publicity for the sub. Stories about FDS men come up with amuse me every time. Really? I think you attribute "threatening someone with violence when they reject you" to the wrong sех.Lol, and most of the times they can’t even get the abbreviations right 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:45 AM |
| 245 | Another round of free publicity for the sub. Stories about FDS men come up with amuse me every time. Really? I think you attribute "threatening someone with violence when they reject you" to the wrong sех.Didn’t a lot of these MRA’s brigade us a while back and wrote really shitty and violent posts while masquerading as FDS’ers in an attempt to get us banned? All posts were locked by our mods for a while and individually reviewed before made public to remedy it. I bet he was the one that made that post himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:20 AM |
| 2 | If this has been posted before please remove it. But sisters, this is where 50-50 will get you. It's their kid, but her bills.There was an update and this exact scenario happened, thank God! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:00 PM |
| 7 | Don’t provide him with the blueprint of your “dream man.” You’re giving someone the roadmap to hurt you or another unsuspecting woman. Notice how he instantly backpedaled trying to shape his answer to mirror what I might be looking for? Nope. Not telling you lol. Blocked.From this kind of comment alone, you can spot if a man is intrinsically selfish and NV. You would expect that a “normal LVM” (still a boundary buster) who tries to win you over after rejection, has lot of arguments about why he’d be a benefit to you. Promotes himself a bit and tries to change your mind by saying that he’s rich, good in bed or of good character or whatever. This guy can’t even do that. What you want isn’t relevant to him. His sole argument is “But you would benefit me”. Also, a t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:16 PM |
| 28 | Realizing you hurt everyone around you only when you receive severe consequences, typical 🙄I bet he only found her because he was looking for a clean shirt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 08:25 AM |
| 27 | Saw this on instagram. This notion seems to be everywhere, even if the people don't blantantly say it. What a time to be alive. 🙃My first thought when I read the post 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 08:06 AM |
| 24 | Rape is effectively legal in most countriesIts the same in the Netherlands, and to top it off, it’s only considered rape if it’s violent in nature so non-consensual doesn’t count. Also, a teenager who killed her attacker with her stiletto in France was jailed a couple of years back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 08:05 AM |
| 4 | Twirling for the patriarchy. More in commentsSo she gets treated like this and thinks we want to know how to endure this for 30 years?! Yeah, miss me with that shit. I’m only interested in tips that tell me how to gtfo such a terrible marriage asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 10:59 PM |
| 3 | I came across an interesting troll today who said that all of our lesbian and bisexual members are fake accounts. Said they are all new accounts and implied all are created by the FDS mods. So please ladies make your presents known in this poll.Unfortunately, I’m straight. But I’d rather be alone than with a N/LVM ever again, so I choose not to date and be celibate atm. Edit: I actually did go on dates with a girl when I went on exchange and we kissed a few of those dates. I kissed my BFF a few times too and I really liked it. We used to joke that if we never got married we would get a house together and a dog. She married a very rare HVM though. Even though I think of myself as 100% straight, because I get sexually turned on by some m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:50 PM |
| 61 | MeN aRe ViSuAl CrEaTuReS is a lieEven if it’s the truth that they don’t really know how, they can try and put in effort. For example, my little brother can be a bit forgetful and has ADD so he’s chaotic as well. When I was sick with the flu once, I asked him to fetch me bananas and veg soup. He didn’t really know which one I liked so he got me mini bananas, normal ones, bouillon, a can of soup and fresh soup from the deli. When I turned vegan, he was really lost. He accompanied me to the hospital for a day visit and I couldn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:05 PM |
| 50 | What kind of fxcked up country allows this to happen to women? Oh...I feel you. I went to EMDR and it helped me heaps, but there is a legit threat still because it can absolutely happen again It isn’t some imaginary thing we’re facing. It is only smart to have a backup plan for when things go wrong, it’s the smart thing to do when you see all the statistics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 04:58 PM |
| 174 | What kind of fxcked up country allows this to happen to women? Oh...I’ve been there and it’s terrifying. I’m absolutely 100% vanilla and my ex did it out of spite after an argument. I found out he raped me in my sleep and he told me it was because he was sleepwalking. Found out it conveniently only happened when he was angry with me and when he rejected me during the day to hurt me and make me insecure (my love language is touch and gifts, he also stopped the flowers). When he refused to make an appointment at the sleeping center for help, we had an argument and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Male pickmes & "not all men" addressed clearly and succinctly.I love the post, but I dm’ed you about something important! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 12:57 PM |
| 24 | I begged my N-ex to make me a love note (as I would do it often for him) .. I made him a personalized comic book of our life and this is what I got in return. LMAO.Definitely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 12:44 PM |
| 42 | I begged my N-ex to make me a love note (as I would do it often for him) .. I made him a personalized comic book of our life and this is what I got in return. LMAO.Thank you 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 06:55 AM |
| 163 | I begged my N-ex to make me a love note (as I would do it often for him) .. I made him a personalized comic book of our life and this is what I got in return. LMAO.When I was in Disneyland I rode the ‘its a small world’ attraction. I asked my boyfriend to film me with the puppets in the background, because my very sick father loved that ride (it was his favourite) and although he would never ride it again it would bring him joy to see me in it. I got 3 minutes of the ceiling, with me in the background trying to guide him and him purposely and (now I see very obviously) doing the very opposite. They absolutely fuck this shit up on purpose to hurt us. Especi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 06:46 AM |
| 2 | FDS smashing through LVM and patriarchal bullshit like SauronMy favourite part!!! Watched it again for the umpteenth time 2 weeks ago and when she did that I was still cheering her on like I did the first time💪🏼 Stays awesome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 11:08 PM |
| 33 | As usual men doing the bare minimum in relationships.When I was sixteen, I had a LDR with my boyfriend. Every weekend, my boyfriend and dad did an exchange in the middle 90 minute drive for both of them (both ways). They did this every Friday and Sunday. I never paid gas money to anyone. They did this for 2 years. Also, when I went to university, I visited my parents every other weekend. My boyfriend wanted to see me during the weekend too and often (90% of the time) accompanied me. My parents aren’t the easiest bunch. This never counted as ‘a gif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:40 PM |
| 39 | I'll never understand women who excuse absolutely every shitty thing their LVM does just because he isn't doing those shitty things to her.Yup. When she has more on her mind than pleasing him 24/7, he will turn on her so fast. Can’t even imagine what happens if she gets sick, loses a family member, loses her job, gets pregnant and/or has a cry baby and postpartum body. Edit: scratch that, he will probably turn on her when she commits the terrible crime against his peepee of aging. Sooner rather than later, seeing his interest in underage girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:32 PM |
| 68 | One for the ages (2 parts).My former BFF had a dad with a secret ‘second wife’. They even had the same dogs as he had with his ‘original’ family. My ex fiancé and the boyfriend before him both had best mates who grew up in the ‘secret family’. The first dad was some sort of social worker who told his wife that this women and her children needed ‘extra care’. They even had vacations together, but he and his sister could never tell nobody that he was their father and they didn’t share a last name. It all came out at the fun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:26 PM |
| 126 | NVM afraid to be judged like he judges single moms, cry me a river. The *last* interaction I will ever have OLD, 7 months clean and a much, much happier life without it!Why do men think that we want to play babysitter for their children when they resume their videogames? Or want to put up with their nasty teenagers? If I feel inclined to be a parent, I’d adopt. But I’d rather have a dog in a couple of years when my situation permits it. I will never ever go for a man with children under 21 again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:09 PM |
| 8 | Why are strip clubs normalized? Its cheating imo, and you should NEVER go with a partnerDitch the pickmeisha if she continues to disrespect your boundaries. Who needs enemies with friends like that. You explained really good already: you went once, you felt pressured and don’t plan on ever going again. From experience you know it’s something that’s not for you and a hard boundary in any relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 03:13 PM |
| 73 | Why are strip clubs normalized? Its cheating imo, and you should NEVER go with a partnerI feel it’s cheating and a huge act of disrespect. It’s even worse when men pay money to get turned on by other women, idc if it’s stripclubs or only fans. My ex fiancé knew that I would leave him at the altar if he would have a stripper at his bachelor’s party, even if it was not ‘his fault’. I don’t care if other people think it’s normal. If my so values what other people think, he should marry them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:05 AM |
| 20 | Hey ladies 👋, I wanted to try something. List all the hobbies that women can't have as they are feminine or hobbies they can have and will be respected forI love reading, yoga & pilates, knitting (beginner), flower arranging (workshops), dog sitting and socialising my moms rehomed dog, visiting museums, galleries, the opera, concerts and ballet. I also love going to different cities and trying out food. All of it apparently ‘doesn’t count’ and I’ve been ridiculed for the knitting and flower arrangement workshops by men. Apparently it kinda makes me a ‘granny’. I used to drive go karts as a hobby too. The fast ones that have tournaments. I owned a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI compare him to my HV ex in an innocent but ego crashing way. I’m petty and ‘a taste of your own medicine that you didn’t see coming while I’m unfazed by your manipulation’ is my specialty. It’s a sign you should dump tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 07:29 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI was bullied and beat up a lot when I was younger and it didn’t keep me from helping two service workers who were being harassed by an anti masker in a shop today. It was just me and the 2 teenage girls, but we got him outside eventually. They were so glad that I helped them. We should always have each other’s backs if it’s safe. Especially physically stronger, taller and more listened to men should use this privilege. With their 50/50 mentality, they don’t want to provide anymore. Seems like t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI feel you both. My mom is Asian/North African and we (my family) have these same toxic expectations when it comes to family. They always try to gaslight you into believing that you’re a ‘bad daughter’ and a very selfish person that allows ‘other people to rot away’ if you don’t tend to all their unreasonable whims - sometimes batcrazy shit - right away and without questions. It’s very important to break free from this dynamic and learn to be your own person. I had to unlearn a lot of ‘false tru… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI think I have a ‘classical’ style and wear a mix of casual clothes (think jeans or leather pants with a marinière and ballerinas) and corporate clothes (think leather pencil skirt with a silk blouse and pumps) and still attract LVM. When I’m on my way to the gym, no make up, hair up, in my yoga pants and with Nike Air Max, the dusties attack. It’s true that it’s higher educated and richer LVM that are attracted to a certain style, but they still suck most of the time. I think you should wear th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:23 PM |
| 10 | If a man abuses you like this it will escalate to physical violence. Leave and don’t let him know your location.And it’s all intentional and manipulative. Notice how he switched from frantic to ‘somewhat’ calm at the end in a heartbeat? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:56 PM |
| 3 | MENTAL CLARITY ACHIEVED. THE BIG FOG HAS BEEN LIFTED! Also I have an idea for you to try — If you haven’t already!I only talk to my brothers, which is nice because they care for me and I for them. And I am forced to talk to my coworkers, which isn’t that nice. Since I found FDS it’s equally unpleasant for them as me though, because I don’t people please or take their BS anymore. Yeeted my man back to the streets when he started to act up around Valentine’s 2020 and removed all OLD since. Blocked my exes and male friends that tried to get back in touch. 10/10 would recommend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:52 PM |
| 29 | Saw this on Facebook earlier. These replies, omfg.I had exes buy me flowers and making donations to the WWFN in my name for Valentine after I dumped their LV ass. I cannot comprehend these men who are waited on hand and foot by their wife or forever gf for years and they won’t even buy her something for Valentine’s. They must be really confident she isn’t going somewhere if he’s that complacent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:25 PM |
| 44 | Ex LVM downgraded to ZVMI’m so sorry you’re going through this. Is there anywhere else you can go that is safe? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:22 AM |
| 5 | From The "Book Of Negs" (Negging). This Is What Seduction/Red Pill/Pick-Up Artists Have Been Teaching Males To Do To UsSame. I always have recent pictures that show me as I am, but asking ‘are you real?’ or ‘no catfishing right?’ is the fastest way to get ghosted by me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:18 AM |
| 6 | From The "Book Of Negs" (Negging). This Is What Seduction/Red Pill/Pick-Up Artists Have Been Teaching Males To Do To UsI do, and I’m 5’10”. If a short guy is annoying me in the club, I just look over him and pretend I don’t hear anything 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:13 AM |
| 9 | What's the status of your love life as of NOW?I’m single by choice at the moment. I have been in committed relationships for 15+ years and I really want to focus on myself in my thirties. I even rejected a high earning HVM because he got a position as a surgeon in a hospital 2,5 hours away and I don’t want to change my life anymore to accommodate men. I did that for 32 years already. I’m childfree, so not in a hurry at all. And I also like the single life a lot, never expected that, but the peace is priceless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 08:56 AM |
| 79 | Drowning in red flagsYup. And 2 of his 4 ‘best attributes’ are negative ones at that. Any man who describes himself as ‘honest’ and ‘spontaneous’ outs himself as rude and low effort. Scratch that, 3 out of 4, he probably isn’t as funny as he thinks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 06:28 PM |
| 22 | Never take a man at face valueI just googled him an he has the ‘serial killer eyes’ and a deadass DV vibe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 05:37 AM |
| 10 | Single dad “can’t make you the center of his world” yet.... can’t leave women alone. Four kids and two baby mamas, this guy is a catch! Leave women alone and raise your kids!These scenarios are so true. I dated a man 18 years my senior when I was in my mid 20’s. He was charming and successful (financial executive at one of the big 4) but also a diagnosed narc. Not necessarily malignant, but manipulative and exhausting sometimes. I was still a pick me and narc tendencies were really my comfort zone at the time because both my parents had plenty of those. His 15 year old son was wonderful, but neglected by both parents while his sister got a far better treatment. For … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 06:57 AM |
| 6 | Single dad “can’t make you the center of his world” yet.... can’t leave women alone. Four kids and two baby mamas, this guy is a catch! Leave women alone and raise your kids!Yeah. But I want to bet that he refuses to date a single mom who would be a better fit because her family is her priority too. But no, he wonders why the hot 24 year olds have better things to do than to deal with his bs. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 06:30 AM |
| 2 | RED FLAGS DONT LIE. Also: Research your suitors!They would say ‘the suspect, Johnny L.’ And they would blur his face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 06:30 PM |
| 16 | Men don’t have what it takes to be a womanI live in the Netherlands and I can confirm. It’s just a thing LV men try to use. But the men who wanted to date me and were serious about it all paid no questions asked. Hell, they even throw in champagne if they feel like it. I feel bad for my friend who go on walk dates and think that ‘it’s just our culture’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 07:53 AM |
| 6 | I'd rather be a cat lady than to have a miserable life with a LVMI finally saw the light last year at 32 and live happily ever since in my beautiful apartment. The most peace I’ve ever had and I have been in LTR from my 16th to 32nd. In relationships that were mostly 2-5 years. When I save enough in a couple of years I want to work less, probably 32 to 28 hours a week to make room for a dog in my life ❤️ I always want to have a dog but right now that feels selfish because I work 36 hrs and have to travel a lot. I thought that I would start dating again after … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 07:44 AM |
| 6 | Ladies, don’t forget to get yourself and your BFF/mother/sisters some flowers for Valentine 🌸 ❤️Yes! That would be so sweet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, don’t forget to get yourself and your BFF/mother/sisters some flowers for Valentine 🌸 ❤️Thank you! I wanted to go for red roses, but when I saw these I was sold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 05:16 PM |
| 32 | Ladies, don’t forget to get yourself and your BFF/mother/sisters some flowers for Valentine 🌸 ❤️I used to buy myself flowers every other week, even when I was in a relationship. During COVID, I somehow stopped buying them for myself. Valentines reminded me to start doing something that makes me immensely happy for myself again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 04:16 PM |
| 90 | A cautionary tale.My dad never did this kind of shit, if anything he was the person who kept our household rolling, but me and my siblings tried sometimes when we didn’t feel like doing something. My mom is the kind of person who has OCD and doesn’t get the fact that you maybe did it on purpose. She was forced to marry at 18 and doesn’t really have life experience when it comes to social relationships. And she’s really strict. If we fcked something up she would stand next to us and let us repeat things time after… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 09:16 AM |
| 56 | Tennessee Bill Would Allow Men the Right to 'Veto' Abortions...I think this is total BS and they won’t get away with it. Hypothetically though, let’s say they would. It should be also in the bill that the man can only veto if he’s willing to go for sole custody and the child should be raised in his home (no grandmas, aunties, etc). Sure fire way to let them drop their veto real fast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 09:04 AM |
| 34 | This is horrible. If dating is hard in my mid-20s what is it going to be like when I’m 30?Same with me. And they were so surprised when their mindfuckery got used against them. Sir, I’m young, not stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 07:26 AM |
| 60 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?I do prefer a bigger dick. I try to feel them up a bit while making out with clothes on. If I’m expecting a disappointment I won’t take it to the next level. I only made two exceptions, once with my ex that I was really in love with and the other one with a HVM I dated and didn’t expect it from. I told the last one I didn’t want to take it all the way when we were already naked, so he settled for just eating me out. Was really dedicated and into it so went for it the whole night. He didn’t expec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:31 PM |
| 120 | Why is it “gross” for women to have body hair despite the fact that every adult woman's body naturally grows hair, but when a guy has hair on his body and armpits it's okay?I have very light, small and soft hair on my legs, they’re only darker around my ankles so I don’t mind it at all. I will shave like twice a year if I’m feeling bored or if it’s a special occasion and no ex boyfriend ever complained or even noticed. I never shaved the part above the knee, it’s legit tiny golden hairs (my moms Asian heritage I guess) so I feel I’m probably making it worse if I would. I was on a date with this guy and I kid you not, he asked me why I didn’t ‘properly shave my legs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:16 PM |
| 122 | Why is it “gross” for women to have body hair despite the fact that every adult woman's body naturally grows hair, but when a guy has hair on his body and armpits it's okay?🤣🤣🤣 this is so true. And it’s natural. You can still be well-groomed and have body hair. I want to bet that these ‘hairy’ women are very clean and smell better than the average man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:07 PM |
| 40 | You know fds is working when other platforms are noticing (and hating ofc) us.I still think we're "extreme", but not extremist. We're not extreme. We expect normal behaviour. It's only seen as extreme because we are women. Men expect nothing less on a daily basis. I still have to find the first man who doesn't shut down disrespect, inequality or threats to his bodily autonomy at the first sign of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:08 PM |
| 386 | ReminderI just got banned from another sub because I told them there isn't something like 'both sides'. It is not 'both sides' when one of the sides gets murdered and the other at worst a slap on the wrists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:49 PM |
| 34 | There is no such thing as ‘female privilege’. Permanently banned for stating FACTS.He argued that there is privilege on 'both sides' and used the examples of women getting more custody and are arrested less. This answer got me banned: Women have way less arrests than men. This is because of the majority of criminals are men. If a woman actually commits a crime, she is held up to a higher moral standard than men are and is likely to be punished harder. Women in jail receive also harsher punishment for the same offenses than men. There's a lot of talk about sentencing disparit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:46 PM |
| 8 | Scrotes mad! How dare we value our time and peace. Have you been blocking and deleting people more since you've learned about FDS?🤣 DKM, you’re so on point with the chitchat. Men get so angry when we deprive them of attention. These LVM are boring AF and they use us as entertainment. Like, who has time for a texting marathon? People with nothing going on for them, that’s who. They don’t see us as a person with her own life. The moment they decide that they want us, they feel like they own us and our time. Having something more important to do feels like a direct attack on something they’re entitled to. I cut them off as we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 06:49 AM |
| 96 | This is the kind of prompt answers I’m trying to see! Too bad they are few and far between.It’s so sad that we get really exited when we come across a profile like this. A normal, nice picture of a normal looking man and a prompt about your interests. How is this not the norm? When men say we have it so easy on OLD, they don’t realise that these are the only profiles that get swiped on, all the other unkempt, overly sexual, misogynistic or racist tools might as well not be on there. They’re disqualifying themselves before they even started. And even if a profile is decent, they’re few… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 06:37 AM |
| 13 | I’m sick of being “trapped” into conversations with menI have the same neighbour problem and I always wait till he goes to the office before I take out the trash or do anything in the garden 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 06:08 AM |
| 44 | He better be getting you presents for Valentine's Day - FDS isn't just about dinnersYeah. Especially when they can buy nice things for themselves, LVM always know how to treat themselves even when our ass is struggling. On top of that, guys who cheat will buy dinner, weekend getaways, shoes, lingerie, bags, flowers, jewellery and sometimes even whole ass cars or rent for their affair partner. Whatever their tax bracket, you can be sure they’re spoiling the other woman more than their own. No exceptions. But if a (forever)girlfriend or wife expects it she’s a shallow golddigger?… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:53 AM |
| 20 | Self proclaimed homeless and hungry man begging on tinder (translation in comments)My FIRST thought! And the way he’s writing even oozes victim mentality. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:43 AM |
| 49 | Anyone Else Not Interested in Dating At All After Reading FDS?🙋🏻♀️ And about your last line: you don’t need a man around for anything. Seriously, invest in (legal) pepperspray, a personal alarm and a self defence class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:41 AM |
| 126 | Time to dump him! All these red 🚩🚩Why would she want a guy that’s ‘not sure’ about her? When my ex uttered those words I started packing his shit and he was back in his moms basement by evening. He really didn’t see that coming and thought he could ‘figure it out’ while still living together and eating my food. They always want to ‘figure things out’ on our time and costs. Not gonna be me. Boy bye 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:36 AM |
| 56 | Scrote stalker didn't see that coming!I love it. Moms, aunts, sisters and friends are so fierce. We’re the real providers and protectors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:28 AM |
| 98 | Guy a cheap date?I dated a guy who had almost no bills because he owned a house and he made more than six figures. He still was like this, but never with things for himself. I feel it’s more a financial control kind of thing than being really stingy because they always splurge on sound systems, ski trips and winters in Thailand but when I’m hungry we have to share a sandwich to go? He’s either obsessively stingy and should get therapy or he’s prepping you for financial abuse and testing the waters. Either way, r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:22 AM |
| 69 | I always faked my orgasmsI felt this in my soul. I regret having sex so early, it only got really good in my late 20’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:18 AM |
| 11 | Anyone else planning IVF or AI?These are exactly the things that made sure I remain childfree. I don’t really want a child because my ‘biological clock’ seems to be non existent, but these legit concerns are so big that I don’t think I will ever change my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:07 PM |
| 88 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.🙌🏼 I love it. I’m exactly 10 years older than you but had the same ride. Better late than never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:59 PM |
| 34 | Red Flags ExplainedAh, I see you’ve met my ex 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:51 PM |
| 89 | Scrotes mad! How dare we value our time and peace. Have you been blocking and deleting people more since you've learned about FDS?I love how block and delete is going mainstream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:50 PM |
| 33 | RED FLAGS DONT LIE. Also: Research your suitors!Actually, Britain is one of the only countries that has a sex offender registry. I live in the Netherlands and we are really soft on crime. A lot of things that are considered crimes in other counties aren’t even crimes here like rape without violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:42 PM |
| 325 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsIt is assumed wifey will do the heavy lifting and they can do the fun parts. This is it. And they have this mentality with everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:46 PM |
| 70 | RED FLAGS DONT LIE. Also: Research your suitors!The Ministry of Justice is afraid that it will 'isolate' the offenders from the community and therefore make them more likely to re-offend. SMH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:24 PM |
| 30 | Man sleeps with over 400 women and it broke his sexuality. I think it’s not just porn that’s the problem...Yeah, but the house isn't going to clean itself. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:21 PM |
| 623 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsMost men don't even want to be fathers. They say they want to have children, but they don't want to be fathers. I noticed this when I was in relationships or dating. I am childfree and 100% of the men I met tried to push children on me. I told them that I'm not interested in having children, but if I change my mind I don't want any child out of wedlock and I want it written in the prenup that the husband will take sole custody if a divorce occurs and I only want weekends. Men aren't interested i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:15 PM |
| 121 | RED FLAGS DONT LIE. Also: Research your suitors!I wish we could vet like this in Europe. We have extreme privacy laws. Public records, registries or even a non-blurred picture and last name in the news is a no no here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Men give women so much shit for getting any kind of plastic surgery or improving their appearance while they're out here getting entire jawlines lol.My uncle did this too. Also, don’t forget that a lot of guys in the gym are on steroids. That does not only fck up your body, but your personality as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 07:51 PM |
| 59 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂Denying men free access to our bodies and choosing to make ourselves happy is apparently mean and oppressive to men. I was talking to a guy I know about my dating hiatus and told him I'm not in a hurry because I'm childfree anyway. He was in disbelief. He legit told me that it would be 'a waste of good genes' and that I would be such a good mom. They hate women that they don't consider 'good enough' for their bangmaid mommy standards, but they hate the ones that do live up to it as well. Just in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 08:50 AM |
| 67 | ...or will he?IKR?! Mr. Pumpkin head deadass jokes about murdering us in his bio and will be whining about ‘not getting any matches from these shallow bitches’ when he probably only swiped right on the ‘hot ones’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:09 AM |
| 79 | Chanced upon this tweet this morning. There is no such thing as 50/50 in a relationship. Working women are still expected to care for the children and the house while working full-time.She doesn’t want to be saved. We’ll see her on breaking mom in a few years. She would’ve been better off single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:06 AM |
| 16 | The letter my assaulter slipped under my apartment door. THE AUDACITY!I live in a very progressive country and people don’t have qualms talking about their sex life, but I know literally no one who is okay with slapping or choking. Me and my sorority sisters openly talked about a lot and some don’t even like to give head. A few tried anal but it wasn’t for them. I was by far the most adventurous. I also have other girlfriends that I talk to more privately who are way more adventurous than me and they tried threesomes with two men and they don’t want anything to do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 11:00 PM |
| 305 | It's not kink shaming; it's refusing to buy into the bullshit. It's calling out depravity that serves men while destroying the lives of women. It's rising up against a system of oppression every woman on earth is laboring under, due to no fault of our own.Preach 🙌🏼 I shall, and will always kink-shame men who use it as an excuse for depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 09:59 PM |
| 45 | And there it is100% this. I have significantly less housework now that I’m single. I now live in a larger house and we didn’t even have kids yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 07:44 PM |
| 90 | The letter my assaulter slipped under my apartment door. THE AUDACITY!What stuck out to me is that he mentions your previous bad experiences with other men. So he knew this about you and still did these abusive things without your consent? Any man who has at least 1 functional braincel knows that women who don’t have ‘kinks’ - and this is still the majority of women - would see these things as abuse. He still went and did these things even after you apparently expressed that you didn’t like it. The fact that he knew about your previous trauma and now reiterated th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:31 PM |
| 97 | Always be asking how something benefits youI started to do this 18 months ago and I found that 95% of the time, I did things for other people or because I thought that I should do it. I hated most of my activities. When I look around me, I see my female colleagues, family members, and some friends doing the same. I switched up my life drastically after this and I now only do things because I want to. This doesn’t mean that I don’t do selfless things anymore but I don’t do it when it cost me too much of my well-being. I made changes in fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:22 PM |
| 643 | Being single is not an insultYep. It’s not a quantity, but a quality problem. Men know this and rather than level themselves up they’re here in our dm’s talking about how they will make us submissive when they overthrow the government and all that crap. Sir, wash your ass, clean up your room hold your job and get a hobby outside of your basement. It’s a lot easier than being a revolutionary and as an extra bonus you just improved your life significantly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 02:05 PM |
| 8 | mUh SpErM qUaLiTy‘Women in this city don’t want to procreate with me, so they must not want to procreate at all. They’re unnatural’. Has nothing to do with gramps being a mamas boy, ugly af and looking for an aryan 20year old who could do 100 times better. 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 11:24 AM |
| 53 | I was lurking on a subreddit and found this "HVM" lmaoYeah, and they’re playing themselves because this narrative isn’t true most of the times. I dated a tech nerd from my 18th to my 23st and always dated down looks wise. Only recently (early 30’s) I started to date hotter, more sexually satisfying men. Most young women are raised to ‘be picked’ and willing to date down, haven’t discovered their boundaries yet and are very selfless in relationships. If geeky men missed out on that it’s 100% a very shitty or extremely awkward personality. Edit: most… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 11:11 AM |
| 314 | And there it isThis is me right now. I am very content with my life right now, but open to a relationship. I’m not actively dating though and I’m not in a hurry. I only want a relationship if it adds positively to my life, or rather stay single. I don’t need one at all. People are so surprised (and sometimes even butthurt) that I’m not dating and am living my best life without a partner and kids. They are fine with it at first, but when men hear that it’s my choice I get a lot of resistance. They don’t get it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 10:50 AM |
| 26 | If Love is A Battlefield.....I love the way you think. And this is exactly the reason why they hate us so much. They’re afraid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 22 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.This post is GOLD. It made me laugh out loud multiple times. My mom is Asian/Egyptian and I recognize a lot of things in this post. Both my parents had narc tendencies, but they were really codependent, so they wouldn't even think of leaving each other. But the way these women behave when they're mad is spot on. Edit: number 3 is important even if you're in the relationship. Not only if you're thinking about leaving. My ex who wanted me to quit my job was a narc too. They want to control you wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 08:04 AM |
| 21 | This guys twitter account is the worst Ive ever seenI googled and they exist 🤣 It’s Matthew 5:28-29 btw (or 27-28 depending on the edition I guess) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 08:58 PM |
| 17 | Remember to subtract 5 inches from a man’s height 😂My father was Dutch too, but he wasn't that tall. I am way taller than both my parents at 5'9 and a half. This has never been a problem for me because I'm considered quite average here. Most men are tall here too, the average man is around 6 feet so it's not even considered 'tall'. I never really met a guy who lied about it. We all know it when you're short, so there's no hiding it :') I can't believe the BS you ladies have to put up with with these Napoleons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 11:01 AM |
| 17 | Always RememberI never swear, I never scream and I'm never physically of verbally violent. I just don't take shit and will tell you so without hesitation. My ex who is a Captain in the airforce and who was deployed multiple times legit tried to pull the 'You scare me sometimes' off with me when asked why he lied about being an emotionally unfaithful douchebag. Dude, if you're that easily scared you probably shouldn't have this job. When he realized himself how ridiculous it sounded, he then tried to proceed wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:56 PM |
| 127 | The number of comments saying that the man acted this way “because he really likes her”. 🙄 this is not about affection - what you’re seeing here is the very early stages of controlling and abusive behaviour.This is exactly what happens and this is the first time that I read the comparison if you swapped roles and it just clicked. Even seemingly HVM who make these kind of jokes are LV, it's their truth. Saved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:47 PM |
| 108 | The number of comments saying that the man acted this way “because he really likes her”. 🙄 this is not about affection - what you’re seeing here is the very early stages of controlling and abusive behaviour.This was me with 90% of my matches. Found out that dating and texting wasn't really my priority, especially not during work or other appointments. I was openminded about it though and willing to try. Most men can't handle being ignored for longer than 30 minutes, let alone a workday, so I quit the whole thing all together. I also hated the text marathons in the evenings, like, don't they have a life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:45 PM |
| 26 | Nothing but factsI got downvoted yesterday for pointing this out in a different sub. Guess they don’t want to know the truth, but it’s so obvious it hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 11:20 PM |
| 73 | Be awareThe only women that exist in their minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:41 PM |
| 21 | Be awareIKR? Especially the cum stained towel in the background. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:25 PM |
| 7 | How many of you have found a HVM husband that really doesnt watch porn?Yes, but at a healthy distance 😊 Thank you 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:11 AM |
| 38 | .Getting into uni was only viewed as a way to find a husband with better education. This was the same for me too. Although I was the very first person from both families who went to university, so my parents were very proud, especially my dad. But they didn't see it as the start of a career path. After my LTR, my dad was very worried because I became 'his responsibility' again. My parents mean well, but it bothered me a lot that me having multiple degrees, a good job, a home and a car somehow don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 01:35 PM |
| 63 | How many of you have found a HVM husband that really doesnt watch porn?My HV ex boyfriend was uncomfortable with porn. He didn’t watch it. I was a pickmeisha back then and totally fine with it. He also wanted to make love and was against degrading sex. I didn’t like it at first. It was out of my comfort zone. He was from a better background, he was highly intelligent, and a good person and he acted like I was very special and equal to him. He respected me. I didn’t know what to do but I stayed because he felt safe and I was really in love. The next 5 years were rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:47 PM |
| 75 | Basic shit that I cannot believe I used to think I was not worthYay! I’m so happy for you! This is real queen energy! Don’t worry, the imposter syndrome will wear off. I had the same when I started my new job almost 2 years ago. My masters is in a different field and I only had 6 months experience. After the assessments and a lot of interviews, I started a senior level job in a very big company that is owned by an investment firm and I had a tummy ache the first week (and found out my fiancé cheated on me in the second). We started with 5 (me and 4 very expe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Speaking from personal and observational experience, why do you think most men have trouble getting dates ?My brothers are huge Chads who still do all this. My older brother is married to his awesome wife and my younger brother is dating. He doesn’t see it as ‘labour’ and even budgets it into his monthly costs. He just really enjoys dating and it isn’t about sex. If a guy isn’t even willing to pay for the first date I think of him and how I deserve at least a guy like my late dad or brothers when it comes to enthusiasm and effort. I’m already dating down when it comes to looks most of the times. Edit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/21 02:00 PM |
| 2 | LVM wanting other men to participate in their LVM behavior. Disgusting.🙄 Miller isn’t even straight, so he isn’t even an imaginary threat. These guys are probably super insecure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 12:56 PM |
| 27 | If a man says he can't think of you sexually because he respects you too much, RUN!🚩🚩🚩🚩This was the comment I was looking for. And on top of that, they unconsciously let us know that they associate sex with porn and not with lovemaking. With detachment and not attachment. With lust and not emotions. And that they cannot find a healthy balance in the last one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 06:10 AM |
| 84 | China faces a looming population crisis as women stick by their standardsThat's awesome. Women have power and can actually help with the demise of a whole system. Yet, guys in our dm's keep talking about this imaginary 'authoritarian revolution' where they will enslave us, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:55 PM |
| 54 | SeX PoSiTiVe writers in mainstream media are honestly the WORST and LEAST qualified people to be giving sex advice most of the time.I just saw Sophia Benoit liking tweets from O.J. Simpson. I think they're not only LV, but also not very good people to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:47 PM |
| 6 | If you can’t afford the lifestyle that I’m providing for myself, then you can’t have me!Most women on this sub only want to find a normal man that matches their success and energy. When I'm looking for a man that will wait on me hand and foot and cater to my every needs, that's the moment they can call me high maintenance. Truth is, men are the actual high maintenance ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 08:06 AM |
| 62 | LVM wanting other men to participate in their LVM behavior. Disgusting.My ex was so annoyed that I fancy Jason Momoa. Wasn’t even fangirling. He just couldn’t cope with knowing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 09:30 PM |
| 92 | 1 wife + 2 Fiancé’s + 17 Girlfriends= 100 reasons why men ain’t shitWow, I just went down the rabbit hole. What surprised me is that this awkward fat dude with a serial killer vibe got any women at all. How did he get so many?! Isn’t dating supposed to be hard for men 🤣 His ‘excuse video’ was the cringiest thing I’ve seen in a while. What bothers me most are the people out there ‘worrying about his mental health’. He sure didn’t think of the mental health of these women and multiple children when he got his dick wet. Edit: guys who keep repeating that they can’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:40 PM |
| 3 | The housework user typeAmen 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:13 AM |
| 17 | The housework user typeThe Netherlands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:02 PM |
| 37 | mAyBe hE's dEpReSsEd, yOu sHouLd bE HeLpiNg HiMDKM :') Support in a relationship is proof reading each others CV for little spelling mistakes or accompanying your SO to a funeral. It's definitely not teaching him the absolute basics of hygienics and how not to smear skid marks all over your 200 dollar satin bedding. Men who cannot see this difference should not be in a relationship. Edit: I would go as far as calling the man unsupportive because his actions counteract my goal of a clean and tidy home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:20 PM |
| 7 | The wordiness of this sweatshirt makes me just *feel* the mental and emotional stress of being in denial about an abusive relationshipAbusive wordsalad alert 🚨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:09 PM |
| 22 | Valentines Day is an Excellent Vetting Opportunity....don't let it go to waste!Exactly! And they don't even smell good most of the time, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:06 PM |
| 91 | Valentines Day is an Excellent Vetting Opportunity....don't let it go to waste!I love it! A lot of green flags. Vetting is for life though. We even need to have our own backs when we're 9 months pregnant or already did a downpayment for the wedding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:47 PM |
| 66 | Valentines Day is an Excellent Vetting Opportunity....don't let it go to waste!Glad you got rid of him. He said flowers were stupid and they die anyway. Like, wtf? I think he was confusing flowers with himself. At least flowers bring a lot of joy. Can't say the same for this LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 63 | The housework user typeYes! I read about this too! Especially the 'talk too much' got me. I can be dominant when I'm at work and I actually do talk a lot, and especially the higher up narcs do not like me :') Most of the other - very hardworking and way better at their job than most of the men - women are systematically undervalued or rejected during meetings. There's this one lady who knits during meetings, I saw her post on Tumblr or something. She tried a little experiment based on this research where she would use… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:30 PM |
| 370 | If you can’t afford the lifestyle that I’m providing for myself, then you can’t have me!It's only 'High Maintenance' if you're Low Value, otherwise it's 'Average Maintenance'. If a guy says that I'm high maintenance I honestly feel like that says more about him than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:17 PM |
| 168 | The housework user typeThis is an excellent post and it happens with almost all progressive and feminist men. I live in the North of Europe where men tend to be more progressive and we have the social security system to match it (paid paternity leave, etc). But research found out (and all us ladies already knew this from living it, lol) that there still is a gap when it comes to the physical housework (chores), mental load and emotional load between men and women in our country. This is why a lot of women still only w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:03 PM |
| 172 | His GF refused to bow to him, so he tired to kill her.I hope this weak chinned mf rots in jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:43 PM |
| 64 | Lord deliver us.They do. My dad would dare people to punch him in the gut because it was ‘all muscles’. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:58 AM |
| 28 | Vegan FDS ladies, what do we think of vegan men?I’m vegan and I never dated a vegan man. I never really met one so there’s that 🤣 The important thing for me is that they have respect for it and don’t see it as an inconvenience but something that belongs to me. The same respect that I request and give in return when it comes to religion, politics or other subjects I’m passionate about. LVM can’t do this in any shape or form so they filter themselves out (eventually). Edit: HVM in my experience will also educate themselves about it, are okay wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:32 AM |
| 4 | Birds are more interesting.The only magazine(s, they also have history and travel, really nice!) I ever had a subscription to. 10/10 would recommend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:48 AM |
| 21 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.I don’t even get how he cleans for hours and it’s still that bad. You can deep clean a medium house in four to five hours probably. I have an apartment and I’m really lazy. Before COVID I had a maid for deepcleaning. Now I do it myself. It takes literally 2 hours tops every other Saturday morning and after that I can enjoy my weekend in a clean house. I do laundry every week and that’s not too much work either and change my bed linens. So it’s 2 hours biweekly deepcleaning + one hour (added up) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:38 AM |
| 92 | Lord deliver us.My ex once bought a skinny jeans similar to the style his very fit best friend wore. He is really tall (almost 2 meters) and thin except for his belly. It looked so ridiculous and I tried to gently tell him this type of jeans was ‘not for him’. He was sooo butthurt and ignored me for a good couple of hours afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:18 AM |
| 45 | A male once told me 'If his apartment is too well done/tidy, there's an 85% chance another woman is in the picture' and shit has added up sinceI’d tell them I’d love too, and of course they get the friend discount, but not too much tho because I have to make rent 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:14 AM |
| 22 | Armie Hammer’s (34) ex girlfriend (22) reveals his canibalistic BDSM fantasiesI just read the article and I saw he was walking his dog.. he has an Airedale too and my heart stopped a moment because I can’t imagine my precious baby in the hands of such a sociopath. These women could leave him, but I feel he should never be left alone with any child or animal ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:48 PM |
| 9 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.Ikr? I only read one of them and when I wanted to go to the others he already deleted it. The first one was savage and I guess from his actions that the other two were pretty awesome too 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:43 PM |
| 26 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.After 3 negative comments he deleted the whole story 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 05:43 PM |
| 18 | YAS, Queens!I almost never drink, but after she was inaugurated I popped open a bottle of champagne. I also LOVED Michelle Obama’s outfit. I need that coat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 16 | !!Same 🍸 I always felt like a granny when I ordered those at 19 (legal drinking age was 16), but now idgaf and really go for it when I want to. I love margaritas ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 11:06 PM |
| 22 | Tik Tok & Other Video Platforms As A Weapon Against Abusive MenI know which video you mean. She deleted it after it went viral and people tried to contact her family to ask if she was okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseShe is 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:41 PM |
| 8 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseDated this Iraqi guy and he straight up asked my n-count. I was so flabbergasted that I told him (it was like 5 or 6 at the time, way too much for him even though I was 26). He thought probably because my mom is Asian/North African and I was raised very trad, that I would be different. He felt I was too ‘westernised’ and we called it quits fairly soon after because I’m a stubborn mf that he couldn’t control in other areas either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 06:59 PM |
| 70 | How many career women gone wrong stories do you personally know?None. The career women that I know actually do really well for themselves. My CFO just had a baby (early 40’s) with an equally successful man. I know another CEO who had a baby with her wife in her mid 40’s too. My sorority sisters either are single/dating (1 dating but not engaged yet, 1 trying to date and I myself am on a hiatus) travelling the world and buying their own houses or recently married and pregnant (the rest of them since 2020) buying houses and travelling the world with their HVM.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:43 PM |
| 98 | Beware of Loser Gold-Digging MenI hope this woman finds his Reddit account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:37 PM |
| 12 | Kevin Samuels - “A woman who has had a baby has no right to make a “HVM” man wait for sex if she had the child with a “LVM” in the past”. My heart is breaking at this😭"I see women with children without any value from a relationship standpoint" This is because N/LVM only see women as 'something to use' be it financially, emotionally, physically or mentally. Women with children will use some of that energy for their children and most of them will put their children #1. That's conflicting with their plan of using her as a subservient bangmaid that has no needs and desires of her own and 100% caters to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:32 PM |
| 40 | Matthew Hussey, the ultimate pick-me coach: he advises women to go up to men and tell them how much they like himMatthew Hussey is the ultimate single LVM and gives advice to women how to approach 'confused' men like himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:22 PM |
| 11 | Legal advice OP says she was convinced against her will to have a blowjob, some scrote tries to gaslight a sensible comment. The audacity.Sad but true. A (platonic) friend of mine in uni tried to rape me, but was fought of me by his guy friend. They were fraternity brothers and he thought that the other guy would be up for it too. Thank my lucky stars that the other guy was disgusted with him and fought him of me. My ex bf raped me when I was asleep and when I confronted him, he legit raped me out of anger and tried to strangle me. In both cases I didn't even go to the police, because I knew nothing would come out of it. You have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:14 PM |
| 21 | Posted in /relationships 6 days ago. Husband paid for Tinder and saved the number of a prostitute. Redditor says she wants to save the marriage😢Her husband wouldn't accept this excuse if it were the other way around. My LV ex (who was almost 18 years older than me), told me that 'kissing while clubbing isn't cheating if you didn't have the intention for it to happen, but it happened organically'. Grinding on the dancefloor was also ok in his opinion. There was no changing his mind on these 'relationship boundaries' and I was already contemplating leaving the relationship so I was like, whatever fine. He was absolutely gutted when I kiss… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:02 PM |
| 62 | The undue confidence of men is breathtakingI gave a guy a whole weekend and less than a handful of other dates because he has wasn’t a total asshole and because feeling touched is a luxury these days. Sis, you need to read the handbook asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:26 AM |
| 13 | Ex bf's brother told me to date tall guys lolI was really playing myself with napoleons for no good reason lmao DKM :') | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:08 AM |
| 6 | How the Hot Girl with boundaries suddenly becomes invisible ✌️ You become unattractive as soon as they realize they can’t control you with their cheap ‘validation’ and no longer have a reason to lead you on. You are more than enough on your own.Wow, something like that happened with me too after my dad died. They like to strike when we’re most down, especially the guys who know they ‘normally’ wouldn’t stand a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:06 AM |
| 5 | Yup🙌🏼 Not risking a roommates boyfriend suddenly crowding my space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:17 PM |
| 4 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?I always thought I wanted some procedures done, but never got to it. Now I’m 100% happy with most of the things that I wanted to change. The only thing that I might want to do regarding plastic surgery is also health related and more for my own confidence. But I don’t feel the need yet and might never do it. I’m saving up to travel now. I want to take Spanish lessons in the Dominican Republic and really want to visit Japan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 07:49 PM |
| 30 | Don't be afraid to be alone!I love how she rips him a new one like he isn’t even there and he just stands there like ‘Tbf, can’t argue with that’ 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 07:40 PM |
| 7 | “Tell me the moment you realized you were gonna get a divorce...”She smudged him with a bite so he rammed the whole cake against her head? So hard that she literally bounced from it? And he isn’t even afraid to abuse her in front of all of their loved ones. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:42 PM |
| 11 | [TW: Emotional Abuse] Armie Hammer’s ex Courtney Vucekovich Describes Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Sexual CoercionIs that a receding hairline I see in the article? The guy is my age and already looks 10+ years older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 09:47 PM |
| 42 | Woman writes to advice columnist about her husband’s inability to parent and gets told that she is the problem.Nah, the wife gets shamed for not correcting it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:49 PM |
| 18 | "Don't kink shame, don't you know there are women who ENJOY having their ribs broken? Lolol" 🤢🤮🤮Literally, all the women I know (including myself) lost the interest in 'rougher' sex after therapy and/or EMDR. I wasn't even into hardcore BDSM, but was more into 'fcking' doggystyle instead of 'making love' and looking each other in the eyes. I am absolutely vanilla now and this only occurred after I resolved my sex related trauma and had EMDR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:14 PM |
| 291 | Woman writes to advice columnist about her husband’s inability to parent and gets told that she is the problem.She complains that her man is bumbling - probably on purpose - and gets hit with the 'you're a killjoy and a bad mom if you don't accept your husband feeding your children buckets of fastfood on the ground'. Yeah. No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:05 PM |
| 45 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.I feel like, even if they know, it's so normalized now that they don't even give a shit. It's bad to kInK sHaMe and every other sub shames women when they admit they have a problem with their SO's inappropriate social media behavior. These women are labeled as insecure, prudish, are accused of kinkshaming and so on. Even get accused of snooping when they find out from the explore page and are told it's healthy, normal and none of their business. I feel that more and more women and girls are havi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:56 PM |
| 24 | nOt AlL mEnNot all men, but enough of them that it's all women who had negative experiences with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:50 PM |
| 46 | This almost makes me want to redownload dating apps to do the same!Literally the only valid reason to be on OLD in this pandemic. Edit: who am I kidding. Ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:47 PM |
| 177 | Here’s The FactsMen don't accept any LV behavior from other men or women. They just expect us to put up with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:33 PM |
| 119 | Pornhub is trying to position itself to be a resource on Sex Ed. Of course they’re still glorifying misogynyAnyone who thinks you can 'learn' something from porn is delusional. Edit: thank you for the gold!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:27 PM |
| 1 | She needs FDS (also her friends are rubbish)Well, how I see it, it's even harder to walk away if you're not married yet. I put all my money in this relationship and his house. I was not on the deed. I had nowhere to go and besides from my 3 friends no support. 2 of them only became really good friends around that time because my 'normal support system' wasn't there for me. I chose to seek out people who would support me instead of let me be brainwashed by people who advised couples counseling as he wished. I was about to start this life, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:20 PM |
| 18 | What was the last straw?Realizing that I didn't have any time or energy for LV behavior and abuse anymore. Whether it's from a cheater, a controlling and abusive narc or a hobosexual. I literally had 10 long term boyfriends and only two of them were HVM and both wanted kids (I'm childfree). I'm living happily in my beautiful apartment and am planning to live my best life. If a HVM lands in my lap, fine. But I'd probably prefer a 'living apart together' situation. For now I'm perfectly content with being single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:01 PM |
| 8 | She needs FDS (also her friends are rubbish)I think that most of us had a long term partner cheat on us. We do know how it feels. I cannot fathom staying with someone after such a betrayal though. And ever trusting friends like that after such terrible advice. I found out I was betrayed in the most horrible way, when he already bought the ring, we were in the process of buying a house, starting with IVF and I just left my permanent employment contract for a new job. This was in a time that I just got very sad news about my own health and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:47 PM |
| 2 | She needs FDS (also her friends are rubbish)Yeah. She's stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:38 PM |
| 5 | Correlation between PickeMeism and childhood narcissistic abuseI dunno I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else with PickMe pasts have had to do a lot of work undoing narc abuse from childhood!!! Ongoing project :') | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:23 PM |
| 12 | Poor ring is so teeny tiny, it’s almost invisible. But I guess she has to love it or be rendered a scheming gold-digger, amirite?!?! 🤪💍No, we dated for 5 years but it turned out we had different life goals (emigration, children, etc). He was really HV though and it's the only ex boyfriend that I have a good relationship with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:31 PM |
| 23 | Poor ring is so teeny tiny, it’s almost invisible. But I guess she has to love it or be rendered a scheming gold-digger, amirite?!?! 🤪💍When I was 18, my boyfriend did a more decent job with my promise ring. It had an equally tiny stone, but it was a real (good quality) diamond and a large thick white gold band around it that 'hold' the stone. Looked really cool, especially with our names engraved and our anniversary date. That was my promise ring bought by a 19 year old poor student. He told me he wanted to signal to the world that we belonged to each other and shared our lives (he chose a ring too). And that the two circles st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:40 PM |
| 14 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.I did this in 2020. Started on Valentine’s Day 2020 when I broke up with my rebound and went on a citytrip on my own instead of a romantic weekend. I thought I needed about 6 months, but I’m now going strong at almost a year and I love it. I’m not going to date in 2021 either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:19 AM |
| 93 | NSFW TRIGGER WARNING: Belle Delphine posts pics of herself being kidnapped and raped in a babydoll dress and Lolita shoes and continues to pretend she doesn’t see the connection to pedophilia.No f-ing way that she fantasises about being abducted and raped. And shame on her for normalising this behaviour and encouraging it in her - already troubled - follower base. Way to go to make creepy predators even more depraved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:56 AM |
| 1 | N/LVM rarely change. They don’t have good intentions when they try to worm their way back into your life. Don’t be fooled by them or let them trick you into talking. The ONLY way to go is an IMMEDIATE block and delete.This made me go down the rabbit hole, I had no idea who he was!!! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 06:24 AM |
| 1 | N/LVM rarely change. They don’t have good intentions when they try to worm their way back into your life. Don’t be fooled by them or let them trick you into talking. The ONLY way to go is an IMMEDIATE block and delete.The Netherlands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 06:16 AM |
| 53 | Beware and be safe. This guy is a mid forties something incel who posts on YouTube. His name is Dave. I think men Ike this are time bombs and needs to be put away from society or at the least on a watch list. The language is rough and offensive.He left his contact info. This is his idea of a dating ad. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 03:20 PM |
| 5 | N/LVM rarely change. They don’t have good intentions when they try to worm their way back into your life. Don’t be fooled by them or let them trick you into talking. The ONLY way to go is an IMMEDIATE block and delete.This doesn't surprise me at all. It was a running gag in our relationship that it was good we met in person, because I would totally next him online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:33 PM |
| 20 | N/LVM rarely change. They don’t have good intentions when they try to worm their way back into your life. Don’t be fooled by them or let them trick you into talking. The ONLY way to go is an IMMEDIATE block and delete.This is true. It's a 50/50 pickme wet dream for LVM. I do feel that most Dutch men are less depraved when it comes to chores, gaming and personal hygiene though. Most men lived on their own and know how to take care of themselves. No weird 24/7 gaming and unwashed asscheeks. Their misogyny is more hidden and covered by 'equality' and not by what is fair (equity) and some are stingy AF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:32 PM |
| 2 | What is an early sign of LVM behavior that makes you drop someone REAL quick?And then they start with the '???' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 11:06 AM |
| 1 | What is an early sign of LVM behavior that makes you drop someone REAL quick?Same. A couple of guys I dated didn't make it to the 3rd date because of this clinginess. I also turned my read receipts and 'last seen on' notifications off because of them. We're both grown adults with fulltime jobs and a life. I don't get where the find the time to be on their phones 24/7. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 11:06 AM |
| 40 | N/LVM rarely change. They don’t have good intentions when they try to worm their way back into your life. Don’t be fooled by them or let them trick you into talking. The ONLY way to go is an IMMEDIATE block and delete.I think it's more of a 'men' thing and less of a Dutch thing. I know a lot of people from different cultures and the common denominator is always that the majority of the men (of every culture) is just LV. My only two HVM experiences were with very Dutch (blonde, blue eyed, tall) men. I dated one for 5 years and one for 2 years and these were really good experiences that set the bar quite high for other guys. My worst experience with an abusive NVM was with the exact same 'type'. I think everyth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 10:52 AM |
| 84 | N/LVM rarely change. They don’t have good intentions when they try to worm their way back into your life. Don’t be fooled by them or let them trick you into talking. The ONLY way to go is an IMMEDIATE block and delete.Soooo, I woke up to a following request and a message in my dm's on Instagram from my ex. The one that flew to Milan to cheat on me with his ex girlfriend when I was in the hospital with my terminally ill dad. I have told this man that his behavior is inexcusable and unforgivable to me. I moved out. We broke up. I told him that he couldn't turn me on sexually anymore because what he did repulsed me. He was really upset when I started to date another man, even when he admitted that he was already… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 09:57 AM |
| 51 | We don't care because we know you'll still degrade us no matter who or how we are! Kindly stfu.Any man who utters those words is LV by definition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:17 PM |
| 12 | Oh hellllllllllllllll no.Couldn’t be me 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:16 PM |
| 119 | Is honesty and respect really that much more difficult than manipulation and lying? SMHShe dated my ex fiancé 🙄 These men do you wrong, have a meltdown about it and ask to be comforted like they are the victim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:39 AM |
| 5 | The question we should all be asking ourselves about “woke” or “feminist” menIKR?! 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:27 PM |
| 140 | Ignored and blocked, my dating life is starting to look like a sitcom lolThe only emoji that was worth it was yours OP, lol. Glad you blocked and deleted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:53 PM |
| 137 | Her boyfriend complained that she’s only spending $200 for his birthday after she already spent $300 on him for Christmas.Why is she even spending these amounts on a boyfriend? And why are they even talking about it? If my boyfriends had a birthday, I would decorate the house, bake a cake and their favorite dinner and if they were lucky I also had some gifts. The gifts were always something I picked out for them myself and they meant something. Never more than 100 euros. He never knew what was coming and he'd better be grateful for it. Who are these entitled boys who see birthdays and holidays as occasions to goldd… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:15 PM |
| 37 | LMAOOO 😂😂😂 from r/wheresmyWAIFUImmediately. Even years later he told my friends he was so bummed he 'lost me'. Broke my heart but it was good riddance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:08 PM |
| 48 | LMAOOO 😂😂😂 from r/wheresmyWAIFUYeah, they’re probably sick enough to not believe girls who are a virgin if the labia ‘doesn’t look right’. The first guy I was with didn’t believe it because I was wet and ‘enjoyed it too much’ 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:54 AM |
| 53 | LMAOOO 😂😂😂 from r/wheresmyWAIFUThis is funny to me, because I have had 16 years of relationships where I had sex at least 3 times a week. So that's roughly about 2500 times. My labia are very small and covered by my also modest outer labia. Probably 'how they should look like' according to these incels. Boy, are they up for a surprise. Edit: also, this post is hilarious. I love it when they get a taste of their own medicine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:13 AM |
| 50 | The question we should all be asking ourselves about “woke” or “feminist” menIt's the latter. Men who 'don't believe in gender roles' absolutely believe in gender roles. They claim to go 50/50, but it's only on the finances and they have a lot more disposable income. They never go 50/50 on chores or emotional and mental labour. I love being feminine, a clean and tidy house and cooking. I do all that for myself. BUT, I'm one of the very few woman that can actually go on strike without being to bothered by it. I can step over all of his shit, not do laundry for two weeks (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 10:50 AM |
| 78 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.Men hate it when you don't react to neglect or abuse. My ex fiance was like, the founder of the silent treatment. He could not handle the fact that I used his 'episodes' as me time. We are both Gemini's but he took it to the next level and I'm more of the introverted type. He was exhausting and needed me as an audience 24/7. His silent treatment on the phone and his silent sulking in the house was godsent sometimes. Should've run at the first sign of it though, but his confusion that it didn't w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 09:51 AM |
| 37 | Pick Meisha mad that a man who wasn’t even willing to commit “cheated” on her after she bought him Husband level Christmas gifts. Thoughts?I'm confused too. Talking for me is the literal talking stage. Where you text, call. No intimacy. This last 4 weeks TOPS under very special circumstances. I normally check out round week 2 if we didn't progress it to the dating stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:50 AM |
| 42 | What's up with guys bragging they can go for multiple rounds? And wanting women to moan?All my boyfriends could go for multiple rounds. None of them ever said anything about it or boasted about it. I feel like the Venn diagram of men who are shit in bed and the men who boast about their sex skills is a circle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:21 AM |
| 151 | Another person said it. Never allow porn in a relationship if you want a healthy relationship.Did you see how he did the disclaimer ‘I don’t think it’s morally wrong?’. The guys he’s trying to reach will probably only listen if it is about ‘mUh PeNiS’, so he’s going for that narrative. But it is morally wrong. The industry just is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:38 PM |
| 61 | I bought myself some new bling for the new year. I was shocked at how transgressive it felt to wear a ring like this as a single person. Almost as if I am not allowed. That societal messaging runs deep.He knows he has to step up with the engagement ring. A Pandora ring isn’t going to fly if you’re already buying precious stones for yourself ‘just because’ and they know it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:25 PM |
| 43 | I bought myself some new bling for the new year. I was shocked at how transgressive it felt to wear a ring like this as a single person. Almost as if I am not allowed. That societal messaging runs deep.My HV boyfriend of 5 years in uni wore a ring as well. We bought a set of wedding rings as promise rings (very young at 18 en 19) and we had each other’s names engraved with the anniversary date. It was his idea and he wanted one too. He told me ‘I’m very proud that you’re my girlfriend and I want to signal to the world that I belong to you as well’. He also payed for them and we picked them together at a real jeweller. I got my very first (tiny) diamond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:22 PM |
| 7 | What is it with men who turn every platform or situation into something sexual/romantic?I was working at an Art Fair and when I got home I got a text from one of the gallery owners, that I HAD NOT EVEN MET there. He was like 'This might be weird, but I saw you there and wanted to say you're very beautiful, you look like a Disney Princess'. I was like, WTF. Apparently he asked around for my name, googled me and found out my phone number by searching the national private contractor registry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:39 AM |
| 9 | [Rant] Men are far more 'high maintenance' than any 'high maintenance' woman I've ever metI'm not above throwing darts in dive bars and having a good time of it and doing it often but, if I'm also treating MYSELF to the symphony and 5 star restaurant meals, you should also be into that and capable of that or it won't work between us. I'm not going to stifle myself, skimp on enjoyment and lower myself down to a level that I don't have to be at because I've EARNED a higher level and I deserve my happiness. This is it. I don't mind going to McDonalds once in a while and watch Netflix af… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:20 AM |
| 50 | That’s what I thoughtThis is what all the (LV) men in my family do. They want a submissive and traditional wife, but it means that they’re holding down either a very good paying job or two jobs. Still not something I would want for myself, but at least they hold up their end of the bargain. Men don’t even have to be HV to do this. Even LVM want to have a purpose in life and contribute to their families. Men who don’t want to do this are bottom of the barrel NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:00 PM |
| 11 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?This happened to my sister, but it wasn’t scoliosis, the guy only had one leg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:52 PM |
| 51 | Why is this so accurate? Have men always been like this?Don’t even ask. He’s showing you. Run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Don’t be Weak PreySomething is very wrong with a lot of men that we have to interact with in our day to day lives. And even the strongest women get caught up sometimes. Preach! I was caught up with reacting to a troll today. SMH. When I realized I blocked and deleted. There is something very wrong with a lot of men that we have to interact with in our day to day life. Avoid when possible and save that precious energy <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:21 PM |
| 51 | HVM suddenly displaying traits of LVMGirl, I read your post history and he pushes for an open relationship like a year ago? This is not a ‘HVM displaying some LV traits’ this is a whole ass NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:30 AM |
| 31 | If you have to ask; it’s a NoFirst date. Vetting trough text and video calls is fine, but it ultimately means nothing. I do it 2 weeks tops. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:52 PM |
| 5 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?OMG! Yes! I hate it even more when they’re like ‘This has only a little fish sauce so you can eat it’. No Kyle. What do you think FISH sauce is made of? Broccoli? And then they keep pressing because it ‘doesn’t count’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:40 PM |
| 7 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?Don’t talk to men like that. Just ignore when possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:37 PM |
| 16 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?Don’t you hate it when they try to downplay it?! ‘Seems useless’, pfff. I have a bachelors degree with two majors and a masters degree, that I don’t talk about whatsoever, but my ex alway brought up ‘putting more value on entrepreneurship and real world skills, that have the ability to earn real money’. Well, when I kicked him out he had to move back into his mommy’s attic and write all the stuff for his start up himself. Entrepreneurship my ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:31 PM |
| 77 | If you have to ask; it’s a NoThis is so true. Most guys ask around the 1-2 month from the first date. There was only 1 guy that took 3 months. It really irritated me and I asked wtf he was doing and he told me to be patient. He was the picture perfect/materialistic guy and he wanted to ask in the gardens of a castle with a handwritten love letter on a specific day. Most of them were still LV though, so it doesn’t always mean something. But it absolutely means something if they don’t ask. Edit: I recommend a longer vetting a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:40 PM |
| 4 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?I am hired in my company for strategy and advice in my field of expertise. It’s a holding with a lot of different daughter companies so a lot of CEO’s, CFO’s and managers. Because of the politics, I can give unprompted advice and they can ask for advice but I can’t enforce. Some of the men never listen and always have a totally ungrounded reason for it. We lost a lot of money because of it. The head CFO had to meddle and they take me a tad more serious now. It’s exhausting. Edit: I work with ano… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:00 PM |
| 24 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?I recently did a variation. I listened very carefully and when they ended talking I acted like they asked a question and was like ‘Okay, so I can delve into why XYZ is done this way, it’s always good to know the reason behind’. When they tried to explain they understood and didn’t have a question I acted like I didn’t notice and steamrolled over them with my very lengthy and in depth explanation. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:49 PM |
| 6 | What are your FDS-approved erotica novel recommendations?I really love the fantasy/history genre, so if that’s not your cup of tea, don’t read any further 🤣 I feel like the Sarah J. Maas novels are nice. There is some LV behaviour in it, but it mostly focusses on very strong female leads who end up taking reign of their own lives. They eventually end up with HV partners who support them, satisfy them and are their side kick in every way while the women conquer the world. She also parallels a HV relationship next to an abusive one and only after a whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:38 PM |
| 54 | What's the most misleading thing a man has said to you before he told you he wasn't interested?I was even reconsidering being childfree, because he was so set on being a father. Lesson learned. Don’t reconsider your life goals and boundaries for anyone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:42 PM |
| 38 | What's the most misleading thing a man has said to you before he told you he wasn't interested?Thanks, it was a blessing in disguise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:42 PM |
| 9 | Level up 2021 and secure the bag!Mood 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:30 PM |
| 109 | What's the most misleading thing a man has said to you before he told you he wasn't interested?He orchestrated to be in a commercial for an energy company about love and warmth and surprised me in the woods with hundreds of lights and candles around me. A month later he bought a ring. Two months later he flew to Milan to fuck his ex gf while I was in the hospital with my terminally ill dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:29 PM |
| 7 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)Thank you! I’m so glad to. And it surprised me a lot, but I’m not lonely at all. I expected to be lonely after almost 17 years of a couple of LTR’s, but I feel less lonely. I also have more quality time with friends. I don’t feel safe sharing the playlist since it has my first and family name, but most of it is also available in the FDS official playlist on Spotify! That one is awesome too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:17 PM |
| 30 | “for no apparent reason” yeah sure’For no reason’ ‘Should I fuck the girl I told her not to worry about’ The denial is real with this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:18 PM |
| 153 | No thanksThey meant the supermarket wine that comes in a box. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:42 PM |
| 163 | No thanksIf they’re still fertile at 50 🤣🤣🤣 For some weird reason, I always have the opposite. Last time I dated was in my late 20’s. I dated men from 33-37 and they all wanted children. I’m childfree 🤦🏻♀️ I even rejected a (seemingly, I know him for a couple of years and he has all the hallmarks) HVM because of it. Even though he was understanding, most of the other guys always think I’ll ‘change my mind’. I think most N/LVM will change their tune to whatever they think works to keep you with them. Wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:40 PM |
| 49 | Predatory LVM 🤮 feels like he missed out on "naive and innocent" girls by not dating as a teenagerWhen this guy was in his teens, girls looked vastly different from what some of them look nowadays. He watches too much barely legal porn and SM influencers and has the illusion that if he were 20 right now 14 year old girls would fight to get on his dick. He didn't 'get chicks' that he wanted then and he isn't able to get them now. It's not about his age, he just needs to level up instead of bad mouthing the women he sleeps with and apparently looks so down upon. Even if he was skyrocketed into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 10 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)Thank you! I wished I learned this before I was 32, but I'm still grateful that I do now. And they do, don't they?! I have 500 euros extra every month now. It's insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:25 PM |
| 35 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)Apart from all the obvious reasons the other FDS'ers already mentioned below (clean and tidy house, more time for hobbies, family and friends, more money to save, the biggest plus for me is being free and authentically myself. I know this is also possible in a HV relationship, but you always have to adapt/adjust and compromise even when you're with an amazing person. I guess a lot has to do with boundaries as well. I was raised very conservatively regarding gender roles and even when I had some … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:18 PM |
| 158 | At this point they could rename themselves as r/ThoughtPolice and I will see no differenceYeah, they're literal crybabies at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:11 PM |
| 41 | Hot Tip: If you have to consult Google to see if his behavior is okay, it's time to dump him, sis.Same! I love how both complement each other! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:09 PM |
| 207 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)This is me. I’m 33 and living my life this way right now. I always had a man till February 2020. I’m living like you are describing above since that time and I love it. It’s so much better compared to living with a man. I feel so happy and at peace and free. I’m never going back. Edit: and it is true, it costs way more money. When I was with a man, even if they paid for dates, money was always tight for me. Even if they have more money and pay for the bills, they demand a certain lifestyle and e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:47 AM |
| 206 | NYT Journalist Nicholas Kristof, whose article exposed Pornhub and instigated the unverified video Purge, has set his sights on Reddit. Reddit ALSO hosts underage rape videos, involuntary porn, pedophilic content, and extreme sexualized violence with zero verification.This HVM is using his privilege for good. I’m always glad to see such examples and wait for the day that this becomes the norm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 10:17 AM |
| 3 | A rant about "equality" and pregnanciesYes! Daycare is very expensive so that is a big bonus. I can also imagine that you’d want to spend as much time with your newborn as a parent. I know multiple men who did the paternity leave when their wife returned to work and it made them really appreciate the work that goes into it and the bond. Some of them now work from home some days of the week so they don’t need daycare or make 4 ten hour days at the office so they have 1 day off to be at home with the children. The women do the same so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 09:24 PM |
| 10 | A rant about "equality" and pregnanciesThat is weird! In my country it’s also a long paternity leave, but they can take it within the first year I guess. It’s purpose is to bond with the child, so while I get some overlap, it sounds stupid to do it simultaneously as you want as much one on one time with the baby. Edit: this also forces the men to actually care for the child and not see it as some vacation. Edit2: it also forces LVM to show their ass, when they opt for not using their paternity leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 09:14 PM |
| 58 | A rant about "equality" and pregnanciesI’m childfree so I probably will never have this problem, but for me the only acceptable scenario is: I take 3 months maternity leave right around and after birth. Directly after the birth there will be extra hired help in the house for the amount of time it takes for me to recover (in addition to the housekeeper we already have permanently) to ease the transition. When I’m happy and healthy again, I can do the childcare during the day while husband works and after work we split it equally. Afte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 09:07 PM |
| 36 | Men always say "we are abused too" bullshit, they are never as abused as much as women are.I am the first woman in my family (both sides) who went to university and live by my own rules. The only one who could afford to walk away from an abusive boyfriend and cheating fiancé, because I had the funds, means and friends who supported me. My mother, grandmother and great grandmother all had to stay and both of the latter died earlier because if it. My aunt from my fathers side and grandmother also had to stay and were deeply unhappy. These were all age gap and culture gap relationships w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:56 PM |
| 23 | Her gut is telling her the right answer, but the comments give the worst advice.I feel love should be conditional when it comes to the behaviour of your SO, but not from external factors like a pandemic, bereavement or illness or whatever. A HV person will be HV in all situations, hardship included. Life won’t be always pretty but you should have each other’s back. This does not include struggle that you create yourself like cheating, unwillingness to level up or refusing to take care of yourself and your (mental) health. This is what LVM don’t get and why they hate FDS. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:41 PM |
| 42 | This is why I purposely request female masseuses, trainers, spray tanners, gynecologists, etc. Be safe, request women in environments where you are vulnerable.A couple of years ago I got a massage from a male massage therapist in my yoga school. When he massaged me he also massaged my buttocks and I was like ?!?! I had some problems with my leg, foot and buttocks, but I only told him about my leg and foot. Because he was a professional and because it was a really good yoga school I questioned myself, especially since I indeed had some craps in my buttocks sometimes, so I felt like he maybe knew more about all the muscles than me and since that area is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:24 PM |
| 95 | This is why you never move on with a boyfriend!!Tf did I just see. This is some next level dustiness. Why is he so proud of that?! 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 4 | Those gifts tho....I hope so. But I know a guy who eats roadkill because ‘otherwise it’s such a waste’, so my faith in humanity isn’t that big. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 03:46 PM |
| 88 | George Clooney was asked if he cooks and in reply he talked about how amazing his wife is.He actually cooks, his wife doesn’t. She’s a human rights lawyer and he emphasised with his answer that putting her down for not cooking is ridiculous and not going to happen on his watch. Idk much about George Clooney so I don’t know if he’s a HVM or not, but I like this answer. Amal is goals tho. Intelligent and awesome style 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 07:04 PM |
| 67 | Those gifts tho....So he Marie Kondo-ed his house and he gave everything that didn’t spark joy to her as a birthday present. That’s literally what happened here. I can’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:55 PM |
| 15 | Think long and hard before dating a gamer😂😂Make it two. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 12:15 PM |
| 40 | Some 2021 energy from a 94 year old.I know this grandma from other clip! She’s a whole damn mood 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 12:10 PM |
| 106 | The comments were full of women claiming they were such kind.And men would hate them for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:58 AM |
| 31 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈Seriously. If they can't do it themselves, no judgment (jk). But they should at least stfu and go back to their 9-5's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:30 AM |
| 75 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈Some of the things he taught her were things you'd have to take a course to learn.She got the information for free, just by letting him monologue at her. I just LOL'ed a this. I feel like this is a thing. When I see a man with a successful woman, he drains her. Financially, emotionally, physically and mentally. A lot don't give back and they don't bother to learn from her and use it to their advantage to level up. This (the leveling up part) happens only if she does the bulk of the labour. Good … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:12 AM |
| 7 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?I think it’s problematic if a man wants any kind of trophy wife. Be it Kim Kardashian or Amal Clooney. It’s most of the time for the wrong reasons. If they admire her as a person, I’m 100% up for it. But most of the time they see a woman as a status symbol. I was made fun of sometimes because I ‘was bordering professional soccer wife territory, style-wise’ according to my colleagues. When they think of a trophy wife they think more along the lines of Kate Middleton. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:42 AM |
| 10 | As captioned on Twitter: what it’s like having sex with menNo, def not. I’m big mad when I don’t get to come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:29 AM |
| 19 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?Yes, but for museums. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:19 AM |
| 27 | As captioned on Twitter: what it’s like having sex with menI mean, not coming during sex. Some people think sex without coming is okay for women. I feel like it’s not, it’s frustrating and unfulfilling. Especially if I have been close. Edit for clarification: so what I mean with ‘it’s equally frustrating...’ is that I feel that it should be normalised that woman and men both get to come during sex. No man will accept it if he doesn’t, why would a woman? It’s equally frustrating for us. (English is not my native language so even when it sounds logical in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:18 AM |
| 66 | LVM really do b this worthless, jealous, and dangerous.What’s up with these mentally deranged guys and the repeated use of ‘right now’? Made me think about the ‘sex right now’ guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 12:01 AM |
| 74 | As captioned on Twitter: what it’s like having sex with menSize always matters, it’s a lot easier to come from PIV when he’s thick and above average. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:58 PM |
| 78 | "ONCE YOU HIT THE WALL, YOULL BE ALONE FOREVER! TEeHeeHeHeE" 🙄When guys ask what I will ‘do with my life’ I’m always so taken aback. Like, more of what I did the last 33 years probably? 🤦🏻♀️ And if I’m lucky adopt some pets in the process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 84 | As captioned on Twitter: what it’s like having sex with menYeah no. I can come easily from PIV sex and when this happens it’s 100% intentional and his fault and makes me legit angry. Most exes were very exited that they were able to make me come so easily and would be very enthusiastic and tried for multiple times. Only the NVM would not bother. It’s as frustrating for us as it is for them and I will call the guy out hard. Only had to happen with 2 exes and one did it on purpose because he got off on the power trip (narc) and the other one was lazy and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:43 PM |
| 33 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?They were! Dodged some bullets 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:22 PM |
| 46 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?I’m glad that you got rid of that NVM. He complained about that?! He shouldn’t be uttering those words in the first place! A partner should be there for you in trying times! You deserve so much better! I’m happy that you’re doing better now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:19 PM |
| 67 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?My high brow cultural job attracted a very specific type of man who looks for a trophy wife (but not the Kim Kardashian kind). Which is problematic in and of itself of course. A lot of surgeons, lawyers but also finance guys. They see it as a classy and intellectual career, but not threatening and ‘unimportant’ enough to quit to be a SAH mommybangmaid. I feel that the overall quality of men was okay though, almost no dusties and enjoyable dates, no weird conversations or inappropriateness. Never… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:16 PM |
| 84 | Men : "wat do u bring to the table" Also, men :And he’s probably salty if - for whatever strange reason - someone actually matched with him, but brought a non alcoholic drink because he wants his prey to tranquillise itself 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 12:15 PM |
| 9 | An open letter to the women of FDS from a fellow female 🤪You’re right! Too bad I’m childfree 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 10:42 AM |
| 30 | Why are all the NVMs on OLD obsessed with fast food? +bonusA guy who looks legit female in KFC loungewear, a dude with no refined taste, a dusty and a murderer. What a shit show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 08:46 AM |
| 30 | An open letter to the women of FDS from a fellow female 🤪I’ve been called man eater because I’m not afraid to walk away when I get LV behaviour and next them before they even know it. If they mean having respect for yourself and not tolerating LV behaviour and replacing them with a better guy means that I’ll be called maneater I’m totally fine with that. I’m now single for over a year because I wanted to work on my emotional health and really want the time to be healthy an happy before I’m going to date and apply FDS, so I rejected some (seemingly HV … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:41 AM |
| 5 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️I used that one as well! It will shut them up, because they know they’re wrong but they don’t feel it. It is 100% emotional abuse and the only thing we can do is walk away. There is no empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:17 AM |
| 7 | Being angry at men is not "counterproductive." It is an essential component of your level-up journey. Properly recognizing abuse and having an appropriate emotional reaction to abuse is essential to the healing process.It really helped me. I did EMDR, CBT (for years) and ACT therapy, so I don’t really know how powerful it was because it was a combination, but I feel it worked TONNES! It’s absolutely worth it. I also had a life coach who was certified in hypnotherapy and ‘the blast’ and generational trauma and that helped me a lot as well. I didn’t do it all at the same time off course, it costs a lot of energy. I think EMDR and/or hypnotherapy are a good starting point to first address the absolute worst and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:14 AM |
| 14 | What in Fresh PickMe Hell is This?I’m glad I could help! Silent inner monologues have been an excellent way of coping for me and absolutely kept me sane and out of prison sometimes 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:02 PM |
| 9 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️IKR? I literally work parttime and make only $60 000 and even I had a maid before COVID. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:55 PM |
| 43 | When dating, ask yourselvesIf life gets hard, will he stay? Will we grow old together? If I lose my hair/get burnmarks/get wheelchair bound/get terrible acne will he stay or is he out the door faster than I can imagine? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:31 PM |
| 2 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...I’m glad you dodged that bullet. I don’t get how they are so delusional and dense when it comes to protection. Even intelligent guys I know aren’t smart about it. The only good thing about it is that it’s an easy vetting method so we can yeet them back to the streets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...To be fair, his dick probably was dirty 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:11 PM |
| 9 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...Is grossed out by women's body hair. One guy I spoke to actually ranked women from clean to dirty based on how they dealt with their pubic hair, with waxed being the 'cleanest'. This boggles my mind. I change my style 'down there' a lot, but I had a very long period of time were I used to shave everything every day. Not because of a boyfriend or something, but because I'm a lazy MF and my Brazilian stripe would be lop-sided and all over the place. I heard that getting a wax was 'so easy' and onl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 30 | If the first thing your boyfriend does when you show up to a hotel room is call someone else to give them a tour. That man isn't really your boyfriend.Men absolutely hated it if I had male friends, but they always had a female BFF themselves. And I always found out later in the relationship that they lied about their history. He either already hooked up with this girl or he want to, but it's 100% sus. Edit: had to make always bold, because it was ever.single.time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:40 PM |
| 88 | “porn is healthy”Exactly! It entices you to use your imagination, the exact opposite of frying your brain. There's also no kink or abuse or other toxic shit 99% of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:34 PM |
| 42 | She was at least 11 so he shouldn't face consequences for sexting her! If anything, she should be registered as a sex offenderYeah, no chance that it happens to OP too. It’s fairly easy to dodge that when you’re not a predator. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:21 PM |
| 61 | Being angry at men is not "counterproductive." It is an essential component of your level-up journey. Properly recognizing abuse and having an appropriate emotional reaction to abuse is essential to the healing process.‘I worked hard for this anger’. That resonates so much with me ❤️ I was never angry, or sad for that matter. It’s only somewhat recently since I had a real big breakthrough with EMDR, that I all of a sudden experience all these feelings. It’s so healthy and freeing to be able to be angry at things that are not okay, instead of bottling things up and feeling legit physically sick. It’s such an important part of healing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:08 PM |
| 144 | “porn is healthy”Yes. And even the erotic novels are exactly like that! I read erotic novels and it’s always about an age appropriate and attractive guy who’s very masculine. He provides and protects while simultaneously giving good head. Against all odds they marry each other and live happily ever after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:03 PM |
| 54 | What in Fresh PickMe Hell is This?I think so too. My exes who (emotionally or physically) cheated were so flabbergasted that I immediately left. Both of them told me they never thought I’d do that. Well, surprise motherfcker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 44 | What in Fresh PickMe Hell is This?Seems like a solid plan to me 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:47 PM |
| 29 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...When I was the cool girl I watched porn like weekly or biweekly. I didn’t mind if my boyfriends watched it, was very open minded and sometimes even encouraged it 🤡 They were very uncomfortable with this. They told me they didn’t really needed it, they were in a relationship right? They told me they’d sometimes watch it if we were apart for a long time and if they did they looked at vanilla sex with girls who resembled me. Even when they were single they apparently didn’t watch it often at all. M… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:44 PM |
| 58 | When ugly old men remove themselves from the dating pool >>>The mental gymnastics these guys make to scare women from ‘being a feminist’ are astounding. I’m a very nurturing, gentle, laid back, feminine and dolled up woman. I’m also a very passionate person who is into topics like feminism and climate change and I will eat you raw if I feel like it. Unsurprisingly, my feminine side comes out way more often around HVM because they have morals, respect, the same worldview and treat me as a person. It’s not mutually exclusive. The only reason he’s not datin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:34 PM |
| 19 | “My boyfriend thought we’d been engaged for two months. I had no idea.”DKM 🤣🤣🤣 I’m still laughing. Edit: a lot of LVM would be married right now and not having forever girlfriends if this is how it worked. No more future faking for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:02 PM |
| 26 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️I remember that one. He lied a lot in that post, changed the huge age gap, didn’t tell all the money used for the wedding was hers, was an alcoholic who harassed her and her family when he didn’t get his way, but failed to change her name in the post for privacy. Such a winner. /s Heard he’s now active in MGTOW 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:59 PM |
| 61 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️This is so true. I love going to museums, galleries, ballet, opera, classical music concerts and so on. All of the guys with really good jobs were up for it. Most of these guys either genuinely liked it because of a posh background or because they wanted to cultivate it. Guys with okay/good jobs thought I was boring. Edit: my HVM ex actually took me on a last minute trip to see a painting in Ghent and my (cheating LV) ex fiancé took me to Gdańsk to see my favourite early Netherlandish painting I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:48 PM |
| 18 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️This is a common LVM tactic. I used to say ‘I don’t give a crap how the Queen herself feels about this subject, I’m telling you how I feel about it and asking you for a solution, not to do a market research survey’. This worked rather well, but if he’s trying this at all you know you should walk anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:40 PM |
| 44 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️It also highlights how he sees her money as ‘his money’ that she cannot control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:36 PM |
| 341 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️I can’t with these men. The worst thing: he will 100% go for alimony if she dumps him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:28 PM |
| 185 | Friends with benefits for what?There are no benefits, only risks. And most of these men don’t even fulfil the ‘friend’ part either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 01:41 PM |
| 32 | I literally don’t even have wordsThey do! I once even proposed to record our arguments, because this ‘facts and logic’ ex insisted I was emotional and yelling. Told him it would also be convenient for all the shit he ‘forgot’ he said. Edit: he didn’t want me to 🤣 surprise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 01:27 PM |
| 4 | Open Relationship?This made my day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 01:22 PM |
| 117 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.I’m Alpha 🤣 Also ‘I’m a great teacher’ (mansplaining even the stupidest things), I’m very sensitive (maybe, but only when it came to his fee-fee’s), I’m always right (almost never). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 01:02 PM |
| 11 | How has your cultural background shaped your view towards men, women, and your journey to FDS?I was brought up in a household that was very old fashion and expects the women to be submissive and the men to protect and provide. I don't know where I went wrong, but I kept the nurturing/submissive part and let most of the 'protect and provide' thing go. I thought that how I was raised was old fashioned and not western (due to my mom), so I tried to adapt to the Dutch dating culture and got the worst of both worlds. Guys with a 50/50 mentality who weren't used to have a bangmaid but sure up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 12:24 PM |
| 4 | Please no more pampering menI'm a size two and your tits are bigger than mine. I know I'm beautiful. I'm the only beautiful one here. I hope you told him this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 12:05 PM |
| 13 | Please no more pampering menI love how one of the comments says: 'This just shows that women don’t pay attention to us. If your in a relationship you should know your partners interests'. The delusion, LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 12:04 PM |
| 11 | Please no more pampering menI always bought lingerie as a gift for them. My reasoning was that he actually got to enjoy it and I couldn't care less (not true, but for arguments sake), so it's an appropriate gift and I have new underwear. When I typed this out I was checking myself like, am I a bad person??? But they 100% do worse getting their wives cleaning appliances and videogames they themselves play and their wives don't even like, so I guess I'm good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:57 AM |
| 5 | Please no more pampering menThe only man I pampered was the most recent one and 8 years younger than me and I felt sorry for him because I didn't know his situation (way better than he let me believe). He turned out to be a lazy LVM hobosexual and the moment I found out I broke up with him. My other ex's somehow always got me something, even if it was only a bouquet and dinner in a restaurant. Even the NVM. Although one NVM was shamed into it. We were working for the same company and when it was my 30th birthday people ask… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:38 AM |
| 25 | Whew! Even sex dolls can't handle the scrotacity!She probably went on instagram against his wishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:47 AM |
| 23 | WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THEM.. And the husband. Thoughts? 'In-Laws Call Woman 'Selfish' For Saving Herself Over Baby'Someone commented that their mother died giving birth and the dad tried to leave the kid in the hospital. His grandmother raised him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:43 AM |
| -16 | What a shocker 🙄 love how dad isn't mentioned at all because why would he be?It was my dad too in his own, dominant way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:23 AM |
| 3 | FDS ladies are not dumb AND didn’t text their exes Merry Christmas ✨Blocked all my ex’s numbers, Facebook, Insta and shadow/second accounts, so I wouldn’t even know if they texted. They sure tried before tho. New phone, who dis? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:12 AM |
| 5 | FDS ladies are not dumb AND didn’t text their exes Merry Christmas ✨We have that same saying in Dutch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:06 AM |
| 77 | I literally don’t even have wordsI get she was strategic about being safe and collecting evidence, but this was straight up scary. He was pulling a legit mantrum with whiny voice, and lowering to (and almost throwing himself on) the ground. I 100% believe this guy has raped before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:57 AM |
| 20 | What are some new years dating resolutions you have, and how do you plan on meeting them?2021 will be successful for me if I avoided to date at all! I’m going to invest in me. treatyourself2021 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 10:24 PM |
| 4 | Why are women the ones always trying?And when you dial down your effort for whatever reason (illness, bereavement, pregnancy) they will drop you like a hot potato or cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 10:20 PM |
| 31 | Really helpful to realize!This especially boggles my mind since men seem to be more and more into kink and requesting all sorts of depraved shit in the bedroom. There’s always double standards when it’s sex related with these scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 10:12 PM |
| 12 | Men are the most sensitive individuals on the planetI stopped 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 10:05 PM |
| 21 | Men are the most sensitive individuals on the planetNo, my mom is Indonesian/Arab and she always made my dads plate and I made my brothers plate. My grandma made my grandpas plate. I think it’s a thing in more cultures? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:49 PM |
| 81 | Same, Queen. No more walking on eggshells or living in fear always anxiously anticipating the next outburst.Also watch out for men with silent rage who can explode (melt down) but also be eerily silent and cunning. There’s no in between. These are the guys I’m most afraid of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:44 PM |
| 4 | Why do I need gifts from a LVM when I can buy my own?This makes me so sad for her. It made me remember an old post about a wife who married a guy that used her for a green card and told his homeboys that you have to ‘break’ your so and rub in how less she’s worth to you to keep her subservient. Giving a can of Febreeze and telling her that she’s ungrateful and immature seems like intentionally starting this process. I read she just had a baby, isn’t that one of the points in a relationship the abuse starts? Moving in, marriage and pregnancy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 06:23 PM |
| 118 | “I’m just missing my dead grandma”‘There’s a darkness inside of me, nobody understands’. Run girl. The two men that I dated who said that turned out to be extremely dangerous NVM and I gtfo within the first 6 months. It won’t surprise me if they end up in the news killing their families after 10 years of marriage or something. They’re telling you who they are, believe them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 07:28 AM |
| 13 | Why do I need gifts from a LVM when I can buy my own?Please tell me this isn’t true. At least these scrotes are self aware, they know their unwashed ass stinks and she’s in need of that Febreeze 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 07:01 AM |
| 35 | Anyone grew up with families whose parents treated their male siblings better?My little brother is male (obviously) and the youngest and they’re spoilt rotten in my moms culture. My Dad was western but was really old fashioned and favoured him as well. He was catered to, didn’t have to do chores and got a lot of (financial) things I did not. Because it was a cultural thing they did have the expectation for him to protect and provide more. He had to drive me everywhere in the evening to be safe, always carried my heavy bags and pays for me most of the time. Because the way… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 06:10 AM |
| 18 | Boy...I was literally thinking the same before I opened the comments. 🤣🤣🤣 I’m always so surprised by the fact that these LVM think we need these videos in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:28 PM |
| 20 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationI’m so happy for you! I can imagine that you are! It’s good to know there are still fit HVM out there! I’m in my 30’s and this is very hopeful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 67 | His comment may be satirical but it doesn’t sit down well at all!That girl looks beautiful to me. He’s just salty because she won’t give him the time of day and another guy is putting effort in for her. LVM hate to see HV behaviour, they need the bar low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:50 PM |
| 57 | A bad case of pickmeisha disease!If you have 500 to spend, it’s a good time to start saving, investing and spoiling yourself a bit. I don’t get why she even thinks this is a good idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:36 PM |
| 66 | No woman should ever have to go through this.At this point, what is his use at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:24 AM |
| 49 | Andrew Schulz’ incel fans taunt his ex-gf relentlessly over his “success” with a new Netflix show, trying to make her feel bad and ungrateful for leaving him. She reveals she left because of his insane abuse.I hope this makes her gtfo as soon as she can. Maybe it will trigger his mask drop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:25 AM |
| 17 | Fucking men, these women deserve so much betterBagpuss sounds like a sweetheart ❤️ I’m glad he had you and your mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 12:08 AM |
| 4 | #KickHimOut2020 happens in 2.5 hours.That’s what we’re for! I wish you all the best 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 11:01 PM |
| 226 | Andrew Schulz’ incel fans taunt his ex-gf relentlessly over his “success” with a new Netflix show, trying to make her feel bad and ungrateful for leaving him. She reveals she left because of his insane abuse.These men are disgusting and have no empathy. Some might even like her pain and this is a motivation to keep sending these messages to her. I think it’s good she opened up about him. He deserves all the shame (if he’s even capabel of feeling it) or at least the truth out there so it gets harder for him to get to his next victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 10:07 PM |
| 26 | mAyBe hE’s JUsT tOo dEpReSsEd tO wIpEI cannot believe these posts sometimes. I don’t know if it’s a European thing, but when I’m in a relationship I (French) kiss often. No f-ing way I’m going anywhere near a man that doesn’t at least brush twice a day. I just don’t get it, how does this work? And aren’t they brushing together before bed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:35 PM |
| 81 | Fucking men, these women deserve so much betterI even know dads who are jealous of pets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:30 PM |
| 43 | Family is playing a game called "Weird Things Humans Search For" and these are the top searches for "Why are men so..."Google knows what’s up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:27 PM |
| 42 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationIt sounds like you found yourself a HVM in all areas!!! Goals 😍 Also, I never heard about that position, but it sounds awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:26 PM |
| 18 | Ladies, when he watches porn sex with you is "too much effort." From the mouths of scrotes.It boggles my mind that they see something so special (and that they should be grateful for) as ‘effort’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.You don’t know nothing about my mother. But I worked through my own trauma and reconnected, forgave and helped her. Don’t derail. FDS is for female benefit. Your attitude does not benefit you. Edit: indeed we are not the same. I’ve been dealt a very bad hand in many way that I don’t even spoke about in my message, but I worked hard to get where I am and am happy and not envious of women who are more lucky or privileged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 08:57 PM |
| 23 | Does anyone hate dating single dads?He was a narc. His 13 year old daughter knew how to ‘play worship’ him and get her every way. His 15 year old son was very authentic and wanted a real relationship, but called him out on bs, so not the favourite child as you can imagine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.I think a lot of people here come from less than ideal backgrounds and have a lot of empathy. FDS is about celebrating woman’s succes and not shitting on it because of envy. I think that’s what the downvotes are about. And yes, it is hard and working harder is not always the answer. But focussing on your own situation and recognising what you can do better (even if it’s babysteps) every day can make a huge difference in the long run. Comparing and being envious won’t contribute anything to your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 11:17 AM |
| 52 | Does anyone hate dating single dads?I think single moms are fine most of the time. They actually do all the child care and child raising. I can understand why childfree men wouldn’t want to date them, but it’s 1000% less problematic than a single dad. Single dads are most of the time deadbeat dads or ‘fun biweekly weekend dads’. If they have 50/50 custody, most of them did it for the money and they try to offload the actual caretaking to their new gf (been there). I fell out of love with one of my ex bf’s when I saw how he treated… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:37 AM |
| 16 | I broke up with him! Please laugh at his clownery with me.This did it for me too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:58 AM |
| 10 | I broke up with him! Please laugh at his clownery with me.Omg this was an entertaining read. But I’m so sorry you had to put up with that, this is one mentally unstable man. The older special needs dog is goals!!! I’m thinking about doing that in 2021. Love that you gave him a special last couple of months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:55 AM |
| 30 | Guy has countless nudes and inappropriate photos of a friend saved to his phone, girlfriend becomes manipulated, gaslighted, and depressed to the point of suicide. Guy continues to save nudes to his phone regardless. Just things scrotes do.There’s no trusting a man that’s untrustworthy. He’s a sadist getting off on the power trip by making her so miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:48 AM |
| 17 | No thank you🙂I know a lot of men who used tricks like this. Taste of their own medicine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:41 AM |
| 33 | Another Gem From My 86 Year Old MotherYour mom knows what’s up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:31 PM |
| 86 | "I'm going nowhere in life and am broke and younger women don't think long term"‘Currently looking at 21-24 yo’. Like he’s choosing furniture from a catalogue. And not even 25 year olds? You know it is bad when he had to cut it off at 24 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:28 PM |
| 21 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.Some actually don’t give a shit or think we’re dense and pull the ‘something casual’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:24 PM |
| 82 | He was a translator on a trip. I met him only once for a few hours and we spoke on the phone once. This is the 4th man I have met while travelling that has professed “feelings” in hopes of financial gain. It’s getting predictable and disgusting to see that men try to use women/me this way.I never believe a guy when he confesses feelings. Only consistency, time and behaviour will tell. Guys like this from non western countries are always very obvious and pushy in their approach. It’s almost insulting that they believe we will fall for this bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:20 PM |
| 37 | He was a translator on a trip. I met him only once for a few hours and we spoke on the phone once. This is the 4th man I have met while travelling that has professed “feelings” in hopes of financial gain. It’s getting predictable and disgusting to see that men try to use women/me this way.They want to be the import groom. Or kept long distance boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:17 PM |
| 34 | What do you ladies think? The examples he linked are hentai/cartoon pornHe’s actively contributing to depravity. 👨->🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:14 PM |
| 22 | "I get to dictate how my wife lives her life because her looking after our child is a turn off and I don't respect mothers"IKR? I reconsider my entree choice in a restaurant sometimes. Like, not if I actually like the guy I just married 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:12 PM |
| 44 | #KickHimOut2020 happens in 2.5 hours.You got this and you’ll thank yourself later. I ‘forgave’ once, only to find out 2 years later it never stopped. It will always happen again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:10 PM |
| 100 | "I get to dictate how my wife lives her life because her looking after our child is a turn off and I don't respect mothers"Also, what’s up with the ‘should I reconsider this relationship?’. Tf dude, you just actively and intentionally started a pregnancy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:08 PM |
| 47 | Just an LVM doing LVM thingsPlease tell me you found this on r/ teenagers or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 07:05 PM |
| 50 | No thank you🙂Pickmeisha better not have put him on the deed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 07:02 PM |
| 6 | No thank you🙂🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:57 PM |
| 108 | No thank you🙂Seriously, where is his pride? Reddit screams bloody murder when a woman tries to get child support, you know, money for an actual child you created and should AT MINIMUM contribute to financially, but here are some grown-ass men actually trying to get alimony (and failing the army, lol). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:55 PM |
| 19 | Saw this in one of my local groups. Most of the comments were telling her to get a divorce lawyer for Christmas.Who hates toiletries?? Guys who don't wash themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:45 PM |
| 35 | FACT: Women dont want sex with incompetent manchildren. Which is why a womans sexual interest in her male partner drops off the fucking cliff!This is right on target. Nothing dries me up faster than a bumbling or mean LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:41 PM |
| 15 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.She already published a novel and is contracted for three more. That is her actual job. She tells in the comments that it takes 8-10 hours of writing and editing every day. I think it's awesome that she made her passion in an profitable job. Being a landlord of her properties gives her passive income, but still takes a lot of work (maintenance, getting good people to rent and actually pay and whatnot). There are a lot of people who inherit property and just sell it because they want the cash and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:26 PM |
| 217 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.He isn’t even happy that his life will drastically improve, he needs her to be miserable. Edit: it also shows how important it is to have a fulfilling life and the bag. She never hesitated and tossed him right out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:50 PM |
| 173 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationI’m a very tall woman, but I love it if a guy is legit masculine when having sex. I’m not talking about these fake masculine pornsick ‘dominant’ guys, but actually benefitting women kind of masculine. I dated a (very tall and muscular) rugby player who could lift me up high from the floor and take me standing. Kamasutra style. No wall needed and he lasted a long time. Also great at giving head. I have no time for unfit one minute men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:13 PM |
| 82 | Is this a joke??? 1,500+ likes (and counting!) on this comment that’s only a few hours hold. Every. Single. Comment. is praising her 😭‘They don’t make them like this no more’ Sir, they never did. As if every woman in history would have been over the moon with a ring pop proposal. Or asking a man herself 🤦🏻♀️ This is a new thing, enabled by (libfem) pickmeishas. A man had to ask a woman’s dad for her hand. He had to come correct and with his bank statements before he was even considered. Not saying it was better in the old days, but they’re cherrypicking again with the ‘I want the 1950 bangmaid’ but propose with a ring pop and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:15 PM |
| 109 | Oh dear 😂I think a lot of girls are raised with the notion that we should put more emphasis on a man’s other qualities and not so much his looks, because, you know, we aren’t sexual or visual. /s But it has brought us nothing. It’s a bs narrative. But fact is, that plenty of unattractive LVM actually do get a chance. And these same LVM wouldn’t even consider dating a ‘fat chick’ or a single mom. They try to change the narrative but they aren’t the victim here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:49 PM |
| 200 | Oh dear 😂Most women do actually give less attractive guys a chance. Even the lazy, introverted gamers have wives and girlfriends (just take a look on relationship advice or breaking mom). It’s only the extremely socially awkward and misogynistic guys that are left out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:33 PM |
| 10 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?DKM 🤣🤣🤣 They (and their unwashed hair) wish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:39 PM |
| 3 | The forever-GFs are excited about getting ring pops now, fuck me sideways...Please tell me they're 15. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:32 PM |
| 33 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?I did this too! But I never buy tickets beforehand. It's a good way of giving a 'big' gift but only to the deserving guy who's still there :') | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:30 PM |
| 38 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?his old musty hoodies and (I kid you not) "a piece of [his] hair. TF did I just read? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:14 PM |
| 142 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?A week in Barcelona in a very fancy hotel and a week in Valencia. Like, 10 days in total. He only bought his own planeticket I paid everything else (>2K). The hotels, all the restaurant bills, tickets to a Camp Nou tour (football stadium), the Sagrada Familia, cocktails at the W Hotel sky lounge, entrance tickets and beds at the Beach Club and a souvenir for his mom. I wish I was on my mobile phone because a clown emoji is well deserved. Edit: also paid for my own plane tickets. Edit2: now I see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:06 PM |
| 22 | Hot take: men with terrible handwriting are always shitWell, not all of the HVM I know are from my own generation. One is my parents neighbour for example, another one is my best friends father. She also married a HVM. My ex of 5 years and his father alike were very HV. Come to think of it, most of my best gf's have HV dads and they tend to date guys like that too. Of course you can't be 100% sure. But these are men who protected and provided. Shared the load and stayed with their wives when they got very (sometimes terminally) ill. They added to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 02:59 PM |
| 100 | Hot take: men with terrible handwriting are always shitI know a couple of dyslectic HVM with terrible handwriting. They had to work 2x as hard but are still ambitious and successful. It’s all about the attitude and motivation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 01:24 PM |
| 104 | Thankfully all the comments said he was in fact the a**holeIKR? He just wants a trophy wife and is ashamed of their selfies. Not something you’d expect from your ‘loving’ SO if you’re thinking about getting married and having children. I love how confident she is and that she told him this is her natural beauty.He tried to spin the narrative, but she’s not falling for his BS. I hope she leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:29 PM |
| 42 | A good response to splitting the checkAnd all the men know this. I've had men fight me on the bill, they were really pushy and/or devastated if I wanted to pay for myself. They know it means that we think they're an okay guy, but not for us. HVM will pay no questions asked and I'd let them. If it's a ridiculous N/LVM and I had to cringe through the whole date, I let him pay anyway. Asshole tax. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:30 AM |
| 26 | He bought himself a gift and pretended it was also for her and she still described him as a great guy and she felt bad about having to call him out on it.She should break up with him. But because I'm petty I would buy the La Perla set I really wanted as a present 'for him' just before. And he isn't allowed to touch it or take it home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:27 AM |
| 12 | I bet it smells fantastic🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 07:04 AM |
| 14 | 😂😂You know it was really bad when some of them outright told him they weren't handing out free sex. They can't stop telling on themselves. I love how FDS women smell BS from miles away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 12:45 PM |
| 6 | Help! I Wrecked My House... And My Finances, And My Mental HealthWe have this tv show in the Netherlands that’s called ‘Help/SOS, my husband is a handyman’ and it’s exactly about cases like this. Most of the time the wife is pregnant or with a baby and living in some sort of construction site. It’s presented by a guy that a lot of Dutch women like (and men hate, because they see him as a ‘traitor’) and that guy comes to the rescue with a team of actual handymen. The presenter rips the husband a good one and the wife says something along the line of ‘what do I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 12:19 PM |
| 14 | God, why can't women stop reading and cook and sex their men more? Thats all men want! They are waiting....Haha! Wasn’t even thinking about Jamie, but yes, he does too ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:09 AM |
| 46 | God, why can't women stop reading and cook and sex their men more? Thats all men want! They are waiting....And they always give head. Even the medieval Scottish clansmen 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:33 AM |
| 5 | Oh please do!Why do guys do this? All my cheating exes are in this picture, had to block them all. Do they all have the same manual or something? On how to be a terrible human being? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:18 AM |
| 57 | She stayed with him for 3 years after he had an affair and she isn't over it and wants to know how to get over it. I felt mind f*cked reading this post. The manipulation is strong with this guy. This woman needs a rescue mission4 years in and he still didn’t propose to her. His cheating and leaving her in the dark made her cry alone in the dark for three and a half years. And it’s still going on. She must be very afraid to be single if being a miserable forever girlfriend seems like the better option. I felt very sorry for her up until the last sentence. This is a woman that doesn’t want to be helped. She knows what’s up and wants to stay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:14 AM |
| 14 | 2021 - is my year of celibacyI did this in 2020, but only gave myself 6 months. It turned out that it were the best and hardest 6 months of my life. A lot of soul searching, coaching, therapy and figuring out what I actually want in life and what makes me happy. It's been 10 months now and I'm still going strong. I love your list and want to wish you good luck! Focussing in your physical and mental health is hard, but really important. I wish I did it 10 years ago. I always thought I was an incredibly though person, which I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:40 PM |
| 160 | Being bad at giving thoughtful gifts is a red flag. Stay away from any man like this. The comments are full of women buying their own presents because their partner doesn’t get them anything at all or gets them something they don’t want. 💀Oke, let me see. A speaker, a gadget and a watch that will make his wife more fit. Those aren't gifts for her. Those are gifts for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 01:59 PM |
| 32 | The Modern Man's Hatred of WomenThis was an excellent read. Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 12:49 PM |
| 2 | So glad he is her exMe too. Love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 10:59 AM |
| 18 | So glad he is her exHe did it on purpose. No doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 10:56 AM |
| 41 | Tag yourself, I'm Satan's Girl (as an aside though this could also read as an old-school criticism of libfems now that I think about it)Its also very sad that women on birth control (even for health reasons) are still seen as ‘penis loving’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Can we rant about how toxic this show is? (Women bonding over being treated badly by men and peak white supremacy?)I always prided myself for being ‘Charlotte’ but I’m so happy I got out. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Why do guys demand you tell them why you rejected them?One guy got really angry that I stuck with the generic ‘not feeling a click’ and started to give me reasons himself. It was apparently because my sign is Gemini, who are inconsistent, don’t know what they want and are easily bored. According to him. Not because he was a super clingy soft boi who sent me audio clips of his acoustic guitar practice (beginner, very bad) all day long. This was after 3 dates and we’re talking about a grown ass man here. He was an architect and it really put me off ‘c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:13 PM |
| 6 | Men who can satisfy in bed > flowersMood | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:55 PM |
| 8 | I haven't had sex in over half a year and thinking about it, I feel great.10 months for me now. Even though I really enjoy sex and most of my partners weren’t selfish, it isn’t worth the drama and the risk of COVID. Bought some awesome toys instead 🎈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:54 PM |
| 17 | 'Us men, we are hunters. The harder the challenge, the grater the reward'. 'Thats why we see her as a prize'. Someone really stamped on this scrotes 👌tiny peepee by simply being desirable and sought after🤣This happened to me and it was a guy who refused to be exclusive so I dumped him and started to date another guy. Then he became like this, showing up at my doorstep and be surprised pickachu when my new (very hot professional rugby player) man is in there with me and be all ‘traumatised’ by the sounds. They always paint themselves as the victim, but 10/10 there’s more to it and they majorly fcked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:47 PM |
| 50 | "johns" = Lowest life form100%. A male friend who bragged about getting a happy ending at a massage salon, didn’t get why I got angry and put him in the -never getting out of the friend zone- category. It’s not even about the sex (even though that’s gross). It’s mostly about the unequal power dynamic, objectification, dehumanisation and in a weird way lack of pride (of the guy) that make it very wrong in my opinion. And the fact that they want all that. I just can’t comprehend. Edit: well, I can obviously, but I don’t wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:47 PM |
| 27 | I ... 🤢☠️I’m really thinking about making a will of some sorts that says that I don’t and never will consent to violent acts or things that can hurt or endanger me with of without sex. I will specifically mention choking so they can’t get away with it if something happens to me. If some NVM hurts me or takes it too far, I want some justice. I have no idea if this is something that is possible, but I think it’s worth to look up. Even when we vet really good, you never know for sure if a guy is HV and safe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:42 PM |
| 57 | He needs to subvocalize. All this hollering will come to naught.This. Tf did he think writing all that under this post? Like, it’s not even relevant to the subject. It’s just sour grapes. And he damn well knows that most of ‘these women’ who can have all that, don’t even want no man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:31 PM |
| 58 | "johns" = Lowest life formSame. And men who get angry when you tell them this 100% hide something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:27 PM |
| 18 | I am disgusted.Never did that and dumped immediately. No regrets whatsoever. 10/10 would recommend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:24 PM |
| 46 | I thought this was perfect for us 😉He did. He also was my ski instructor so I (mistakenly) thought he was very cool. Blackmailed me into going to uni in his city (other side of the country) and move in with him, but when he started to forbid me things (clubbing, committees, sports clubs, sorority) because ‘he already did all that and wanted to settle down with me’ I dumped him and did it anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:21 PM |
| 34 | I thought this was perfect for us 😉I didn’t know this was a thing 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:17 PM |
| 101 | I thought this was perfect for us 😉My very first (LV) boyfriend of 2 years was ugly, balding and overweight at 20. He still stood in front of the mirror, doing the Tarzan chest beating and calling himself ‘hot stuff’ or ‘looking good’ or whatever. I was a 16-17 year old, literally catalogue modelling and he had the audacity to call me a ‘cow’ when I gained a bit of weight (because, you know, women gain weight when they turn into actual adults). The delusion is real. I was very lucky to date a very HVM after that for the next 5 ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:15 PM |
| 142 | Why do men expect conventionally unattractive women to be less confident?Can you please tell me the title of the movie, I need to watch it with the next guy I’m dating 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:33 PM |
| 6 | Sisters, reminder to be extremely careful about whomever you're exposing your vulnerabilities to. This leaves me speechless.Ok, that's it. I'm logging out for the day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:52 PM |
| 64 | You're not my type so delete your pics beautiful lady that I have no chance with.She might not be his type, but she's beautiful and he could only dream of getting with her. He on the other hand is nobody's type. He had to wear the tie to at least make the profile pic look anywhere near decent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:41 PM |
| 9 | Why do men keep insisting that they’re visual and that women don’t care about looks?Because I put a lot of value in a very HV personality and a good career, I have given some of the guys I dated some slack in the looks department. If I could choose though, I'd have the perfect combination of a HV personality in the body of a Jason Momoa lookalike. These 'non Chad guys' weren't very handsome, but I was still attracted to them. I need to find them cute in their own way. If there's no attraction at all, it's a no go for me. Interesting to note is that the more HV a guy was, the mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Can't confirm if this is true but if you can think it some pickme has done itThis needs a trigger warning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 11:41 AM |
| 29 | Just sitting here lol'ingAll the guys comment there that they had playlists and favourite lists that consisted of 50-100 videos. Can you imagine the amount of time and effort they spent on frying their brain and wacking off? I don’t even have YouTube lists of my hobbies that have that many videos and those are not even affecting my health negatively. And none of them cares about the reasons. Just exchanging new websites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:19 AM |
| 15 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.My ex did this to me, but only when I took sleeping pills (convenient, right?). When I suspected it, I faked taking them and acted like I was sleeping. It was 100% obvious it was not sleepwalking at all. When I confronted him he raped me and tried to choke me. These sociopaths use it as an excuse. Also, walking, getting a towel and saying something coherent? Definitely bullshit. He’s conning her into rape. Edit: he also just remembers to tell her this after he slept with her? It’s almost like he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 05:23 PM |
| 35 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄This is the tea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 04:51 PM |
| 91 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄These are the comments that make me love this sub even more than I do 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 04:50 PM |
| 10 | I'm getting flashbacks to every first date monologue a LVM put me through - Never again!My ex bf/rebound really thought he was my mentor or something and could 'teach' me a lot of stuff. Mind you, he only had a Vocational School degree (to become a personal trainer in the gym), but was really into coaching and self improvement. He would go on and on about very basic shit that anyone with a tiny bit of EQ would understand, but I let him believe he could 'mentor' me in that area (idk why since I am a perfectly capable women who went to university, still a pick me I guess). Meanwhile,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:25 AM |
| 40 | "Don't worry, I love men with a little meat on their bones", "Real men have abs", "I think we all know how he got that promotion", "Shh, sweetie, the women are talking.""You're so cute when you're mad" (I'm legit scared to say this to a man, knowing fully well that they are NOT cute when they're mad) I did this (well meaningly) with my ex fiance. In hindsight he was a passive aggressive narcissist, but I mistook him for 'passionate'. One of the first times he blew up, he hit a wall. I made it clear there and then that I have had enough DV in my life and would walk right away if it ever happened again. This made him afraid to lose me and it stopped. He did give … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:40 AM |
| 49 | Saw this going viral on FB. Pick me’s are in the replies saying “hE jUsT wAnTs tO sEe tHe ReAL yOu!”You're not putting down yourself, you're not putting down other women, you're not wasting energy trying to convince a guy that doesn't care. Preach!!! I hate it when they put down other women for wearing too much make-up or any other reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:29 AM |
| 15 | Saw this going viral on FB. Pick me’s are in the replies saying “hE jUsT wAnTs tO sEe tHe ReAL yOu!”It's like.. So weird. 99% of women who wear make-up look the same to me without any. Anyone with a brain, besides LVM apparently, can imagine someone without the golden eyelids and red lipstick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:26 AM |
| 47 | Saw this going viral on FB. Pick me’s are in the replies saying “hE jUsT wAnTs tO sEe tHe ReAL yOu!”And please bring us the receipts of your bankaccounts, sir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:23 AM |
| 6 | Help finding article on mens domestic violence orgs thinking not having dinner cooked is domestic violenceIf someone finds it, I'm interested too. | /r/askFDS | 14/12/20 09:44 AM |
| 3 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:09 PM |
| 111 | How To Establish The Emotional Labour Split EarlyThis is really good advice. The only thing you should be doing beforehand is checking out the venue and parking lot (google street view) for safety precautions for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 08:40 PM |
| 6 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.I don’t think she should communicate, I think she should run. I do hope she will see the light though. She’s very young, but she has noticed his abusive behaviour and deep down she realises it isn’t her fault, but something intrinsically wrong with him, hence the title. A lot of women on those subreddits wouldn’t even come to that conclusion. She still has the idea she can ‘change him’ though, I hope she realises very soon she can’t and gets tfo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 08:33 PM |
| 9 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.TBF, I think all kinks should be shamed. They’re either born from trauma or depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 08:21 PM |
| 78 | 63 y.o. married to 22 y.o. writes "Pretty Woman" fairytale version of age-gap relationship.I didn’t even bother to read the whole thing, but scrolled through it. He lists all his own red flags: stayed in a marriage he was unhappy about; was looking for a woman to nurture him; is crazy controlling (about being tidy and the unhappiness with previous ‘unorderly’ relationships). Besides the 40 year age gap, off course. And I read only 5% of the article, I can’t even imagine what a shitshow of excuses the rest of it is. Like, dude you’re proudly telling all this to the public? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 04:22 PM |
| 17 | Looking at the rest of Reddit from FDS likeDKM 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 04:12 PM |
| 8 | Women being told that they're "just traumatized" and "suspicious" and, when they get over it, they should go back to allowing themselves to be vulnerable to male abuse. Because it's NiCe or something.Yes! It’s painful and I wish things were different in life, but I now 100% know I have my own back and can always trust on myself. They tried to break us, but made us stronger. I hope you can continue to heal and wish you all the best ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:27 PM |
| 23 | Unexpected situation after 2nd dateI love that you have a fish mallet in your car 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:58 PM |
| 62 | Women being told that they're "just traumatized" and "suspicious" and, when they get over it, they should go back to allowing themselves to be vulnerable to male abuse. Because it's NiCe or something.We’re suspicious because it’s necessary. I hate it when people try to downplay women’s concerns for their physical and emotional safety. I hate it even more when people, and especially men, try to weaponise our trauma against us. My ex who was caught talking to other women multiple times in the beginning of our relationship, told me I was suspicious and paranoid because of my anxiety and mental health. He wanted me to talk about it with my psychiatrist because he wanted me off his back. The only… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:50 PM |
| 38 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.The only thing that isn’t a total dumpsterfire in this post is the title. She at least realised that the problem isn’t her, but the guy not understanding consent. She’s very young and I hope she gets out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 12:44 PM |
| 35 | Unexpected situation after 2nd dateCouldnt he just take a breath test and be done with it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 11:58 AM |
| 6 | Then they say they're the logical sex, oofYou’re welcome ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 08:06 AM |
| 12 | I'm not even slightly gay, but I can't imagine hanging around grown men after seeing stuff like this.I don’t even get what he’s saying, I love Canadian. Made myself poutine yesterday ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:55 AM |
| 16 | What a prize! Am I too late to scoop him up? /s 🤣🤣I would never make fun of peoples appearances under normal circumstances, but these guys make it really, really hard for me after reading their bio’s. The delusion is real. And here we are, asking ourselves sometimes if our standards are too high or waiting with entering the dating pool because we want to lose our ‘corona kilos’. This is a whole other level of audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:46 AM |
| 6 | Ladies, what are your thoughts on marriage in 2020? Will it ever be equal/worth it?Dated a couple. They all want kids though eventually 😭. I only want to be a dog mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:42 PM |
| 103 | The invisible labour of women and why you should pay attention to how he livesIn my experience, even when they do care a lot, they still expect us to do the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:36 PM |
| 100 | Why do these questions rub me the wrong way?Are there actually guys out there that ask if you wear make-up? 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:32 PM |
| 21 | Then they say they're the logical sex, oofYeah. I tend to unintentionally do that more often than I think. My (mentally abusive, I now realize) ex fiance cheated on me when my bangmaid services were temporarily lower because of my terminally ill dad. I now realized that he tried to use the cheating at some point to knock me down a notch (like, 'it would be really hard to have sex again after this' kinda statements), but in that moment I didn't see it. I told him he was right. That it was a massive breach of trust, but also sexually very… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:06 PM |
| 38 | Men of reddit live in a fantasy where truth and lies are reversed. 90% of people who suffer from anorexia are women but I guess society is kinder to overweight women.We all know this is BS, but hear me out for a moment. Even if this were the truth, why aren't they doing shit about it instead of complaining? Buy a treadmill, Jake. Level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 09:56 PM |
| 28 | fALsE aCcUsATioNsI myself have been raped by my ex boyfriend in my sleep multiple times and later when I found out/had evidence confronted him, which let him to violently rape me again during that fight. I broke up with him and moved literally 2 hours away and put many locks on my door, but I never reported. I didn't know that it 'counts' as rape if it is within a relationship and I never told anyone. I think there are many more women like me, probably hundreds of thousands each year, who don't report at all. An… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 09:53 PM |
| 15 | More women are choosing solitude and peace over bad company!Exactly. This sounds like a 'them' problem. Also, she captured my 2020 MOOD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 09:46 PM |
| 31 | Then they say they're the logical sex, oofThey hate it when the tables are turned. They just cannot cope. I accidentally dated a RP guy as a rebound after I broke up with my ex fiance. This was pre FDS and I never heard of TRP or PUA in my life. He was my personal trainer and not the sharpest tool in the shed, but he was big on self improvement and I applauded that. At one point he told me about 'masculine' and 'feminine' energy and me being the sweet summer child that I was at that moment, was very enthusiastic because I thought I foun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 09:34 PM |
| 95 | Scrote doesn't want women lifting and being physically (or mentally) strong, would rather have us do our nails while listening some soft musicYeah. I was wondering why the ‘selfishly on their own’ was bothering me so much. But it’s because he feels men are entitled to women’s bodies and all their labour. Being on our own and minding our own business is seen as depriving him of what is rightfully his. It’s literal incel lingo. Also, all the things he deems ‘masculine’ like the gym either make woman better/grow and therefore probably more in demand by other men. Having a career and being assertive is bad for him because he’s probably no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:59 PM |
| 24 | Scrote doesn't want women lifting and being physically (or mentally) strong, would rather have us do our nails while listening some soft musicI’m a yoga and manicure kind of girl and I rather be ‘selfishly on my own’ than with you, Randy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 21 | This is why we shouldn’t meet a LVM who puts less effort than how much this guy does to his real doll.I don’t get how they’re not even ashamed. They’re parading these dolls around like they got themselves a HVW. It might not be a kink per se, but it’s def something that imo should be frowned upon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:47 PM |
| 38 | Turn your sound up! 😂Also, being outdoorsy has nothing to do with taking a walk in the city like most guys try when the hear that word. Besides the fact that it’s an absolute low effort date, it’s almost funny how they can’t even do that right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 12 | How to ignore the feeling of having to keep up/be sexually ‘freaky’?I’m not a virgin by a long shot and vanilla. Never did I get complains and I always have had a very satisfying sex life. I had to block two of my exes (with live in girlfriends) because they wanted to ‘reconnect’ during corona. Never let anyone tell you that vanilla is boring. HVM will be perfectly okay with that and even most LVM are down. The only guys who aren’t are negative value men who are mentally fcked up. Let it be a red flag instead of an insecurity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 06:54 PM |
| 9 | This article made me mad and is fuelling pick me culture ‘Why the pandemic will make women more promiscuous’Worst thing about the whole article is that it’s written by women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 06:48 PM |
| 17 | Any tall girls/not stereotypically feminine girls here? Do you think it’s harder to date if you’re one/both of these things?The Netherlands 🇳🇱 Edit: guys who are 6’0 are not considered tall here. We start to call people tall when they’re like 6’4-6’6 and it’s still fairly common (like almost all my boyfriends were this height). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 06:28 PM |
| 15 | NO is a whole sentence and boundaries are not negotiable.I’m the kind of woman who flat out asks ‘Are you seriously mansplaining to me why I should go against my own interest, wants and needs just so you get your way?’ and deadass look them in the eye. Not surprised that some of my relationships didn’t survive very long 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:58 PM |
| 9 | Any tall girls/not stereotypically feminine girls here? Do you think it’s harder to date if you’re one/both of these things?I love how you point out that they hate us taking up space. I feel like that’s the reason most guys have anorexic trophy wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:54 PM |
| 17 | Any tall girls/not stereotypically feminine girls here? Do you think it’s harder to date if you’re one/both of these things?I’m 5’9+ and I only had this problem when I studied in North America. Especially because I always wear heals while clubbing. I don’t even remember what they said, but I knew their vibe was off and rude. Almost like me being there offended them. I’m very feminine and proud of my height so I didn’t give a shit. Where I live, I’m average. We’re a very tall country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:50 PM |
| 65 | Don't worry, they'll try to screw you over when they're older and *seem* stable and like HVM, too.Came here to say this. Second date and you’re already talking for hours and disclosing feelings?! And he tried to justify a lie? It’s not even a red flag, it’s a parade 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:45 PM |
| 17 | Men are already putting pressure on credit card companies.This really boggles my mind. And it isn’t even like all the porn from the web is closed of to them now. There are still plenty of websites online and free. What is so special about pornhub premium that they make all this commotion? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:38 PM |
| 22 | Women lose by having one night stands.I can actually come fairly easily from PIV sex, but a one night stand is still not worth it. The last time I had sex was in the beginning of this year and I only realised this lately. Fixed it this morning with buying an awesome toy. No ONS is worth the risk of Covid, std’s or scrote behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Men, passive aggressive personality and the myth of buffooneryI almost got bingo except for the open/poly relationship and the hiding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:31 PM |
| 8 | I got you, babe.I love it 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:22 PM |
| 7 | Woman has tattoo and kids so why would she expect decency?????I love blue 💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:45 PM |
| 16 | Another example of sunk cost fallacy... 'but its been two years!'True, but they cannot contain themselves. They always tell on themselves. This specific topic is bizarre and weird, but they will do it with smaller things just the same. ‘Did I say I would totally go for a threesome when offered yesterday? Must’ve been the wine, lol. I off course meant if I were single honey, lighten up, don’t be so sensitive’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:44 PM |
| 39 | Another example of sunk cost fallacy... 'but its been two years!'Did you notice how he casually threw the cannibalism into the convo and when she asked further the depravity came out? He conveniently told her over drinks so he can blame it on ‘weird drunk conversations, don’t be so serious’. They will always tell on themselves and he’s telling her to run. Edit: also, stay vigilant and ask (further) questions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:32 PM |
| 18 | Another one from Facebook....yet if a woman cheated on him he’d be singing a different tune!People (most of them are surprisingly male) who tell me that I’m selfish for being childfree, get a whole ass lecture about climate change and overpopulation. Also like to ask them what their motives are and why they didn’t opt for adoption. They never see it coming and it’s glorious. Mind your own damn business, Jan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 23 | I've most definitely learned this the hard way. Lowering your standards will cause you to lose respect for yourself in the long run, and it will never be enough for LVM. What is one dating standard you won't compromise on?No abuse whatsoever, personal hygiene, a positive and thankful outlook on life and he has to be generous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:58 AM |
| 83 | Ladies, what are your thoughts on marriage in 2020? Will it ever be equal/worth it?Marrying a HVM or not at all. Rather put my energy in my friends and family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:54 AM |
| 143 | LVM play devil's advocate like this and really think they did something. Anyways...They think that decent men can’t be sexy or masculine. These twisted nice guys and fuckbois have become so delusional, that they think that being mean, abusive and disrespectful is synonymous to being masculine and attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:53 AM |
| 10 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresMy dad had high blood pressure and after he had a stroke and became disabled, my mom would cook everything salt less and from scratch. Really took the time and used a lot of herbs to make it tasty. We would all eat that shit to be supportive. Turned out that he was secretly adding salt in the kitchen and ordered his driver to deliver him fast food when my mom wasn’t around. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:48 AM |
| 355 | I got you, babe.I don’t do drugs and drink rarely (and if I do only 1 or 2 glasses), so I can keep an eye out for my girls in clubs or on festivals. This is when I found out that guys call the sober girl in the group the ‘watch dragon’. They don’t mean it in a nice way, but I sure life up to the name. The audacity they have when they think we’re all under the influence is astounding and they’re really surprised when I have them by their wrist mid ass- or boobgrab. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:34 AM |
| 9 | In his term, fwb was a relationshipMy FWB hated the fact that I didn’t have feelings for him. He kept bugging me with questions about my feelings. At one point I told him, ‘Lust is a feeling too, but it can change real quick in an irritated feeling because you’re tiring me with this BS’. They want the FWB without (emotional) commitment, but want to trick us with the promise of a relationship in the future. They hate it if we don’t fall for it, but they hate it even worse when we don’t give a shit and give them a taste of their ow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 11:14 PM |
| 3 | In a study definitely not conducted by incels...This was what I was thinking. I would say I have a bit of a dark triad personality in me (I only use it on the deserving), but I can’t imagine doing this. The (mental) energy, gas money and time that I need to invest for a date seems a bit much for a free meal with an unattractive scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 11:03 PM |
| 25 | Men feel entitled to your helpI hope she told him ‘I don’t know you and this is weird as hell’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:49 PM |
| 4 | Ending my relationship over a chair.Love the username ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:45 PM |
| 5 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresIt's kinda normal in my country as well. There's no school lunch and most adults bring their own lunch to work too. It's usually sandwiches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:38 PM |
| 17 | Men who are “jealous” of abusers give me the creepsIt’s because this statement dehumanises the woman in the scenario. She’s only seen as a goal, a thing to be used. ‘How is it that an abuser is able to get the toy and I am not? He gets the bangmaid treatment even though he breaks ‘it’ once in a while. It’s not fair to me’. See how they think an abuser having a girlfriend is not fair to them instead of focussing on this poor woman? They don’t care about actually liking a woman, falling in love with someone, having a healthy and equal and happy re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:51 AM |
| 24 | Too loud?I’ve been told I am too loud and too opinionated. I know some people (men only surprise surprise) don’t like me or think I’m annoying. It secretly makes me want to be a tiny bit louder or opinionated every time. Men in my work environment put up with it because I’m actually right and good at my job. Men in my personal life are either HV or their opinions don’t impact me. Also, in a classroom don’t be afraid to act like a guy. Ask 1000 questions. Be the one who gives the answer to teachers or joi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:24 AM |
| 41 | A small one, but a red flag nonethelessA guy told me once that ‘he was not jealous’. This was after I told him I had a boyfriend (and actually meant ‘leave me to alone’) 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:07 PM |
| 10 | I don’t understand men who hide important stuffs on their OLD profile(divorced, kids, height etc) and claim that they aren’t insecure about itSame. I’m 1.76m (5’9+) and most of my heels are 10 cm high. I guess I’m lucky that most guys over here are at least taller than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:48 PM |
| 4 | "My bf is perfect! Except for his violence, abuse and starving me."Latest bf did this too, but mostly because he was a dusty 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:35 PM |
| 8 | "My bf is perfect! Except for his violence, abuse and starving me."I experienced this as well, twice. We weren’t living together so they could only control what I ate at their places. They hated that I didn’t care about their opinions though and when they pulled that shit in restaurants or the supermarket I got my own cash out and bought what I wanted myself. One of them even wanted me to quit my job because he wanted to isolate me, but probably also because I payed for myself every time he said no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:34 PM |
| 5 | Insightful Commentary on Social Dysfunction and Sexual Violence (screenshots from 2015)Thanks!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:08 PM |
| 12 | She did the right thing and she's doubting herselfThis is more effort than most men show on a first date. And men on Reddit are vehemently against treating women ‘that way’. Funny how they think this is totally appropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:28 PM |
| 9 | Insightful Commentary on Social Dysfunction and Sexual Violence (screenshots from 2015)I also love her screen name! She is a wise teacher indeed 💗 Edit: thought she referenced to Goody Alsop from A Discovery of Witches. I learned now that Goody is an English name 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:15 PM |
| 50 | STupiD whAmEn wAnT chADs 🤡This is so on point it’s not even funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:10 PM |
| 9 | Because a Dr. Pickme thinks this is “science” (notice 0 discussion of socialization or how from a “scientific perspective” women should also desire younger men)I’m for age appropriate dating. It’s always the best bet for a healthy relationship dynamic. That said, there are some older men I’m attracted to. There’s a huge ‘but’ though. The only older men I’m attracted to are (seemingly) HVM like Obama or Stephen Colbert. It has nothing to do with their looks and everything with their vibe. The same reason why I’m not attracted to a (seemingly) LVM like Dominic Sherwood who I think is objectively hot, but gives off an extreme fuckboi vibe. I might be wron… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:04 PM |
| 7 | 🙄 How to be a ‘cool girl’. As dictated by men.I have all 5 of these, but I seriously doubt we would like each other 🤣 He probably means something totally different with ‘good music and memes’ and admitting when you’re wrong is something every normal grownup does. I have the feeling he actually means ‘will accept my gaslighting’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:21 AM |
| 25 | If your man’s place looks like this - run. Don’t walk. That apartment is a reflection of his inner state.I never witnessed something like this either. Idk, maybe it’s only gamers? Or something specific for north American guys? The only time I saw a cluttery room was with my little brother who has ADD, and he got better with age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:07 AM |
| 20 | Why you should listen to your body always!I had horrible allergies, eczema and candida when I was with my N/LVM exes. Not a problem when I’m single or the 5 years I was with my HV ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:45 PM |
| 15 | Men Who Hate WomenIt’s called ‘Mannen die vrouwen haten’ (Men who hate women) in Dutch. I loved it when I was a teenager. I read them again a couple of weeks ago and only then I recognised that the author clearly has some LVM traits despite his good intentions. Doesn’t deter me from liking the books overall though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:43 PM |
| 201 | The idea that someone is ever "asking for it" is disgusting. R*pe is about sick people, not their victims.It even happens to people in comas, elderly in care homes with dementia, little children, women in burqas. It has nothing to do with the victim and everything with male depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:13 PM |
| 14 | As If We Would Settle for Such Poor Quality MaterialLove the title 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:11 PM |
| 57 | FDS Isn't a Hate Sub, We're An Angry SubPreach 🙌🏼 It’s only the hateful who don’t understand the difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:09 PM |
| 33 | Pick me, pick me! 🤦🏻♀️She works in Geriatrics and is still dating? She and the dusty deserve each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 04:01 PM |
| 86 | This video 'Talent Belongs to the Beautiful - How Media Manipulates your Tastes' is very interesting and demonstrates how we judge good looking people differently.I liked this, but I think he’s not emphasising enough that women are even harsher judged by looks than men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 05:16 PM |
| 46 | Looking for a partner but no prudes!I have the same feeling right now. Not something I wanted to see first thing in the morning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 06:59 AM |
| 16 | Please stop dating in reverse.Yeah, it was all pre FDS and he came from far away so we made it into a day long date. Wouldn’t recommend it because I think a 2-3 hour date is the best and healthiest for a first date, but thankfully this date was really nice. My friend dated a guy that always came up with nice activities too. Edit: come to think of it, multiple guys. I think that guys who are actually interested in us as a person and listen to our convos (that are legit about getting to know each other and not about sex), have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 06:37 AM |
| 4 | “Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll spend the rest of your life with”I love taking myself out to dinner. I even did solo weekend getaways and vacations. Best for me is going to the opera, ballet and some exhibitions though. No one I know really likes it and I was always buying two tickets so people could accompany me but I felt they rather not. Now I use the same amount of money on a better seat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 06:12 AM |
| 27 | Please stop dating in reverse.Multiple. The first date with one of my exes was a museum, eating ice cream, the city zoo, dinner and drinks. He pre-ordered all the tickets. I have been on a couple of ‘normal’ dinner dates but also some really nice high end ones in restaurants that really suited my taste decoratively wise and also had a vegan friendly menu, so they really put some thought in it. I love it when they order the ober to start with a glass of champagne. Another nice first date was with my NVM abusive ex, so don’t b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:48 AM |
| 37 | Nothing but truth in this.I saved this, it’s a really powerful reminder to myself for when I get some bs again for being childfree and refusing to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:26 AM |
| 3 | "Relationships require work, its a give and take"They don’t like it when it’s them who need to do the work though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:41 PM |
| 31 | What the heckity heck? Found on Instagram. What is the society making girls think we need to do this for a man?Women are out there doing all this and these LVM still have the audacity to complain when these pickme’s don’t want to go 50/50 on a first date?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:38 PM |
| 192 | Always trust your gut instinct. It's not snooping, it's basically confirming your suspicions. Once again proved men ain't shit. A HVM will give you no reason to snoop. You'll always feel safe and secure.‘7 years’ and ‘fiancé’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:27 PM |
| 139 | Love when men stalk your reddit profile just to comment abusive stuff on all your posts because you post here. It only further proves our point!Can you imagine how LV you have to be to do this? He literally has nothing better to do with his time. Even when I'm on Reddit I feel like I'm doing something with my time, being in a community that builds each other up (FDS), getting advice or ideas for my house and plants or getting to know great vegan recipe's. This guy chose to do this, LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:26 AM |
| 27 | What is the funniest thing a LVM has said to you?PhD Guys are the worst. My ex blamed research difficulties on me too. Also forbade me to use certain words because they were ‘unladylike’. What’s their problem with other people’s speech?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:47 AM |
| 7 | What is the funniest thing a LVM has said to you?He was a manager at a national bus company 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:39 AM |
| 32 | Ladies y’all need to be grateful to go to the SOUP KITCHEN! 🥴😩TF did I just read. Please tell me it never worked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:57 PM |
| 20 | A tale from the vault: The one time my narc ex ate poisonous berries right after I told him they were poisonous and he blamed me when he got raging diarrhea 🤦♀️Best goodnight tale of the year ✌️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:44 PM |
| 21 | How to address sexismYes. They have nothing left but ad hominem attacks and they know it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:59 PM |
| 213 | Ladies y’all need to be grateful to go to the SOUP KITCHEN! 🥴😩This rubs me the wrong way on so many levels. Even if I were a Pickmeisha and had a 50/50 mentality I still would be mad. Why is this guy going to a soup kitchen at all? He's robbing people who really need it of their place at a table. Edit: Also, 'miss a chance with him?'. Great. Miss me with that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:56 PM |
| 69 | What is the funniest thing a LVM has said to you?When I told him I didn't really feel a connection after a third date (I wanted to let him down gently because we had a mutual friend who was also my colleague): "Ok, fine. I think you probably make a big mistake, but it might be for the best. I don't know why a promising and upcoming public transport professional like me was dating you anyway.' I had to keep a straight face and keep myself from laughing, but me and my girls were hysterical because of this later. Also, I have a Bachelor and Maste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:40 PM |
| 1 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...OMG, that sounds amazing! I'm so happy for you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Made me roll my eyes, more like 🙄🙄🙄Even worse 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:31 PM |
| 6 | On wgtow, we are considered a cult. New mods coming down hard on what can be talked about, discussions on male violence & depravity not allowed? Accuse our mods of brigading and trolling. I love FDS, it helped me immensely. This bs post had me leave wgtow.FDS is horribly, horribly misunderstood and misinterpreted. I think people don't want to understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 9 | On wgtow, we are considered a cult. New mods coming down hard on what can be talked about, discussions on male violence & depravity not allowed? Accuse our mods of brigading and trolling. I love FDS, it helped me immensely. This bs post had me leave wgtow.I feel like them being openly hostile towards FDS is not really the way to go. Nope. I'm a 'woman going my own way' and still love FDS. I read a recommended read from another FDS post today (I think it was about Male Chauvinism, but not sure) that actually really described how I see FDS. In an intrinsic patriarchal society, we only really have each other to turn to. I'm paraphrasing here but it came down to 'being in a nurturing community with other women where you can understand each others exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:54 PM |
| 9 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...If you took a dump, they’d comment on your performance! “I don’t think you put enough push into it, lacks force” Thank you for making my day :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:35 PM |
| 7 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...I now love them even more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:32 PM |
| 21 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Thank you! And IKR? Only one guy ever made a comment (not his smartest move). If you like shaving your legs, good for you if it’s something that makes you feel better. I do my armpits because of that. But it’s such a relief and freedom to not ‘have’ to do any of it. I’m also growing my brows and haven’t threaded them for over a year (light plucking) and they’re awesome. Only taking care of myself in the ways that benefit me and make me feel better really feels like celebrating myself and my body… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:30 PM |
| 11 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Wow, I didn’t know that! Thank you 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:24 PM |
| 2 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Thank you! I’m really happy 🎈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:23 PM |
| 6 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...You’ll get there!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:22 PM |
| 31 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...You're totally right to not tell people you live alone, it's safer this way. But neighbors will find out so I can imagine you had to tell him. He's just jealous. Does he have a gf or wife? Because if that's the case he also probably thinks you will be a 'bad influence' on his wife because you're too awesome. Only thing I noticed is that male neighbors feel like they can dictate me how to do stuff or what I can or can't do. Not sure if they wouldn't do it if I were in a relationship though. I jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:21 PM |
| 11 | Does he do any of these things? Throw him out!Yes! This isn't bingo ladies!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:23 PM |
| 9 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...EVEN if married/ looking to get married priorities your bag AND your femininity as well as your peace, womanhood and spirituality. Preach!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:13 PM |
| 155 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...It's exactly this. They're projecting. N/LVM know that single women nowadays have their ducks in a row and they hate it. Last month I moved to my new apartment. It's in a renovated mansion that is made into a apartment complex and looks legit like a hotel with the ensuite bathroom, wooden floor, black and green kitchen and marble going on. All the people who visited it (handy man, internet guy) were in awe and complimented me with my awesome new home. Also its nicer, tidier and cozier than ever … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:04 PM |
| 121 | Made me roll my eyes, more like 🙄🙄🙄Another man hijacking our experiences. Women demand to be 'treated special', because we are already bending over backwards for these guys without getting anything in return. This post is about making an relationship situation that is unequal to begin with equal. They're so fast to assume that they're the ones left behind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:24 PM |
| 4 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manI 100% approve this message. There will be no love if you can't be a team and there's no trust in these things. Yes, you have to feel love for the other person, but love is never enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:19 PM |
| 13 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. PandemicHe’s salty that he paid the first two, but when she offers to pay the third he’s all offended she wants to friendzone him? I think he was offended that she offered 50/50. He wanted her to pay the whole bill. Instead of communicating this, so they both knew they weren't a match, he passive aggressively asked her if they were on a date. Because she probably concluded from this comment that he thinks a guy should pick up the tab on a date, she didn't offer on the fourth date. Maybe it's the men who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 11:27 AM |
| 19 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manI'm not romanticizing the 'good old day's', but I'm pointing out that for some reason having requirements for a partner when it comes to providing and protecting your family changed from something logical (and bare minimum) to something we get shamed about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:54 AM |
| 10 | Vegan vs. Non-vegan menI have had the exact same experience. I've been vegetarian for 5,5 years now and am mostly vegan but sometimes eat cheese or mayonaise (guilty pleasures I'm still working on). All of the guys I dated were perfectly happy to cook and/or eat vegetarian or vegan when they were in a relationship with me. It wasn't an issue and they kinda wanted to proof themselves by trying to go mostly vegan as well. Guys who try to pressure you or make fun of you are 100% scrotes and never make it to a date or are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:43 AM |
| 4 | "Scraps are for Pigeons"OMG, thank you for this! I looked her profile up and I feel she's like my long lost sister. Same hair color and eyes, same love for Bollywood and all her TikToks are hilarious. I want to know her <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:29 AM |
| 21 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotI love how FDS makes us see these translations. Before I would be in performance mode and be like 'That's me! We have a match!' Now I'm 100% put off by any list whatsoever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:19 AM |
| 26 | I wish I had been taught to be unconcerned instead of nice. And isn’t this proof?I'm a very nice person, but very direct. When needed I can be a sarcastic and ruthless little asshole, especially on OLD. You know what surprised me? Men love it. I'm very wary of it though, it attracts the wrong men because most of them only love the challenge. They don't like it when you're like that in the relationship. So I think the best strategy is to be yourself, pleasant but boundaried. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:15 AM |
| 6 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manI caught myself screaming 'LVM' to books or tv shows lately, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:10 AM |
| 35 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manThis is so true! I love Pride and Prejudice. I didn't even think about costume drama's when I saw this post, but you're actually really correct. Even though I want to smack Mr. Darcy in the head sometimes (especially in the beginning), his actions show that he has her and her families back even when she doesn't want anything to do with him. I guess it also has something to do with the time these books were written in? It was only sensible to get a provider and protector husband at these times, m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:09 AM |
| 11 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manI always hated to watch romantic moves and only liked some romcoms (the Proposal, Miss Congeniality and the Holiday), but this actually explains a lot. Most guys in those movies are at least partially HV. It's funny because I'm really into action movies and Marvel (especially Jessica Jones) and almost all of my ex boyfriends kinda had a problem with that. A few weeks ago I saw the Heat for the first time. I loved it. I know it's an older movie already, but it shows you can make a funny comedy, c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:01 AM |
| 16 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manDKM 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:53 AM |
| 42 | I hope her divorce lawyer has a wonderful time with the public photographic evidence of his cheating.Please tell me he the comments tell him he’s TA. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:29 PM |
| 64 | Best thing I’ve seen all weekI did this once at a festival and all his pickmeisha friends tried to defend the guy. They didn’t see it coming because I went to a good university, am a sorority member and am the ‘going to the opera’ kinda girl. My mom comes from a legit scary and hardcore background so I was raised to take no shit. They didn’t know this though. Never let a men touch you against your will and if you’re in a safe enough setting, defend yourself. And never let people who turn a blind eye to sexual harassment tel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:06 PM |
| 15 | "My bf doesn't do foreplay so I cOmmUnicated, countless times, but he won't change... why?!"He actually likes it, because with each conversation he will know more about what pleases her. He doesn’t want her to have a good time at all, he uses the information to do the opposite. Every time she sits him down, she tells him exactly what not to do and I wouldn’t be surprised if sex actually became worse for her. I bet it bugs him that she’s able to come from PIV anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:49 PM |
| 5 | Do not date a man who refuses to eat food from your cultureI would even take it one step further and would be really annoyed if a guy wouldn’t be extremely excited and grateful if I spend a whole day in the kitchen. Like, if he doesn’t like it, fine more for me. But no chance in hell I would ever try to make something for him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:41 PM |
| 76 | You don't even have to try to weed them out on OLD, you just breathe at them and they melt into incels mid-conversationHahaha exactly this! It came out of nowhere 🤣 You need to at least built some credits before you start the shit tests sir. Glad he saved you the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 10:38 AM |
| 53 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.Found the guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:19 AM |
| 27 | Their financial contribution isn’t needed, it’s deserved for what we can provide, how can they still not comprehend that?Guess you found the dusties 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:41 PM |
| 213 | For any women out there that has been disrespected by their partner in a heartless way. Leave. Even if it’s the first time.No one here is going to disagree with truths like that. Leave them at the first sign of disrespect. Saves you a lot of time, energy and heartbreak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:38 PM |
| 69 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalitySome tests make me an INTP and some ENTP and you’re absolutely right. It can be a ruthless personality type, but it’s 1000% worse with men. It’s because we are raised with empathy, compassion and a conscience. Literally most guys are lacking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:16 PM |
| 15 | I'll just be single then lolBetween the age of 15 and 32 I have been in multiple LTR. Never have I approached the guy. Since the beginning of this year, when I broke up with my rebound, I consciously took a break from dating. I’m not on dating apps and not up for meeting men. I still have to reject guys who ask me out. I actually don’t approach guys and want to stay single, but for some reasons they won’t let me and I have to enforce boundaries all the time. This guy is delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:35 AM |
| 6 | It’s not a “joke”, it’s disrespect 💯The interesting thing is that most of the men who make these ‘jokes’, will go beserk if another dude treats them the same way. All of a sudden it’s ‘disrespect’ and they’re ready to fight. They know exactly what they’re doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:55 PM |
| 41 | My male family doctor turned out to be a sex abuserSeriously, try to get a female family doctor and let it be one who takes other women very seriously. My female family doctor saved my life when other male specialists thought I needed a psychiatrist instead of a neurosurgeon and a nephrologist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:14 PM |
| 2 | What... the FuCK? 🤡😳I think you misunderstood. What I meant is that a HVM will always think think that your pleasure is important. Even when they’re not in the mood sometimes. And they won’t see it as a tid for tad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:08 PM |
| 7 | What... the FuCK? 🤡😳You know what, a friend of mine does this when her husband isn't in the mood and she is. He eats her out then they go to sleep afterwards. I also dated a guy who had no problem with only eating me out when we weren't ready for the actual sex (sex before bj's for me). But this is in the context of a healthy and overall reciprocal sex life, neither can be applied to this situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:06 PM |
| 16 | Thoughts on this?? I feel like he could’ve easily went to a bathroom at a restaurant, store, or gas station? People in the replies say she should give him a chance.100% this. Due to my illness I drink more than 2 gallons a day and have to pee like every 40 minutes. Never have I not made it to the bathroom. There is a restroom in -every- gas station. If you ask nicely or are willing to pay, all the restaurants and shops won't hesitate to help you. This guy is just lazy, weird and dirty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:45 PM |
| 9 | Thoughts on this?? I feel like he could’ve easily went to a bathroom at a restaurant, store, or gas station? People in the replies say she should give him a chance.Someone who shits in alleyways doesn’t strike me as the type of person to keep extra napkins in the glovebox... DKM!!! I was thinking the same! If she wasn't there he wouldn't have wiped, trust me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:42 PM |
| 9 | NVM destroyed meYou might want to check out Doctor Ramani and Surviving Narcissim on YouTube. These helped me a lot, especially the last one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:13 PM |
| 22 | How was your experience dating/marrying Engineers?I dated an Industrial Engineer for 5 years and he was very HV. I guess he was really nerdy, but not the 'typical' engineer. He was active in politics, committees, played a teamsport and studied philosophy at uni as a hobby. He was also very social. Spoiled me rotten emotionally, physically, financially and mentally. Have dated guys from the medical and financial field after and they can't compare. Edit: he was very high EQ, but also the absent-minded professor type. Needed a flow-chart + reminde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡I’m taking a break from dating atm, but I think it’s very important to vet ruthlessly when you’re dating online no matter what app you’re using. I did get the most decent dates out of the inner circle though. Even if it wasn’t a match, it was always dinner and the guy paid (except for one time when I it was a first cocktail date in a high end place). Edit: and thank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:12 PM |
| 9 | “I don’t have to put with this.”This post is literally me in 2020. It was really hard and I lost some people because of it. But some actually came back. I thought I lost contact with my mom forever, but it’s better than it’s ever been before. The thing that really surprised me is the lengths people will go to to adapt. It showed me how much room I really gave them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:02 AM |
| 17 | They want us to find them dates now, but they give us $10.00 per-date we find them (how thoughtful). Y'all ready to put in the work /s.I think it says a lot about the male population of Reddit, because literally all the men I know closely don’t have trouble getting a date. Even a very fat, bald, ugly colleague who’s my age but looks 50 is happily married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:55 AM |
| 11 | I just got diagnosed with Crohn's Disease. How do you continue to level up and find a HVM when you have a chronic illness?I got diagnosed with a progressive kidney disease 5 years ago and it made my standards only higher. If I’m going to date or marry, I want a HVM who’s there for me and comes with me to the hospital when needed. Who can handle it at home when I am sick sometimes. Before I knew I was sick, I always said that I wanted a guy ‘to grow old with, who would push my wheelchair if necessary and I would do the same for him’. A lot can happen if you share a life together. You will lose loved ones and especia… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:43 AM |
| 6 | Men who dismiss what you said and counter with their own opinionI love this 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:22 AM |
| 30 | Men who dismiss what you said and counter with their own opinionI really hate it when men do this too. I’m single and not dating at the moment and it gets the guys I know really weird. They know better than to really push me, but they keep trying to bring up the subject in a nonchalant way. They always have a really nice friend ‘who’s different’ or something. I don’t need different, I just don’t want to date right now. Same with being childfree. They always tell me I will change my mind after my thirties. Then they find out I’m 33 and tell me I will change m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:20 AM |
| 3 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡The Inner Circle (dating app) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 05:57 AM |
| 29 | Plus plants are pretty and enhance your environment 😃Nurturing my props and plants last year has been 100% more satisfying than caring for an ungrateful boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:26 PM |
| 6 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡Yeah, just wanted to let you know there’s still hope ;) If you have high standards and apply FDS, it won’t matter what their profession is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 09:10 PM |
| 13 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡I dated two really nice surgeons, but maybe I got lucky. Didn’t work out tho, but only because I’m childfree. They always took me on really nice dates, paid for the Uber and one even bought 3 different kind of champagnes one occasion because he ‘didn’t know what my brand was’. I think it’s not always career related. There are cheap N/LVM in every tax bracket. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 08:26 PM |
| 13 | I have a feeling it wasn’t her idea...You just made my day. This comment made me Google him and you’re absolutely right. He’s like a hairy Gru from Despicable Me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 07:51 PM |
| 26 | He has no job, doesn't help with the house, nor parents... Why bother???Being single is 100% better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 07:36 PM |
| 1 | When he makes your house a LITERAL barnyard 😬Yes!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 11:08 AM |
| 5 | And they wonder why we call them incels...You just know he came over here and read that threat about dick preferences before he wrote that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 11:11 PM |
| 28 | When he makes your house a LITERAL barnyard 😬How did you find the original? I can't find it anywhere and now I'm curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 10:48 PM |
| 50 | This isn't "being the asshole," it's a power move!One of my friends actually lived this situation for ten years and she broke. She was admitted to the hospital because she was dangerously depressed and when she came out recently she chose to move into a rental and leave her husband the house and the kids because it’s too much to cope for her. This could be where this marriage is heading, so not a smart move on his part at all. All my other friends have fulltime jobs and a housekeeper plus husbands who actually share the load. Their marriages an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Raise your hand if you've gone out with this guyNever, thank god. I don’t have the patience for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:56 AM |
| 6 | Elisabetta Sirani, a true Queen.That’s why I love the Guerilla Girls ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:54 AM |
| 12 | Facebook friend posted this. 🤮🤮🤮They’re afraid that they will have to step up their game if they expose their girlfriends to you guys 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:04 PM |
| 21 | Facebook friend posted this. 🤮🤮🤮Seriously? What’s wrong with these men? I know a lot of men who do like you and your boyfriend. Had relationships like this as well. Do you live in a very machismo country? Edit: my dad was very old fashioned and had some toxic masculinity going on, but he still was the one who cooked and cleaned when we had guests over. He was really good at making a ‘rice table’ and stood in the kitchen for hours sometimes. Also did the big bulk of groceries for the weekend. Bought my mom flowers while he was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:31 PM |
| 2 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!Nice! Learned something new today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:51 PM |
| 30 | Tired of being called "selfish" for caring about myself.What is it with these guys that they can’t even fight their own battles? I hear it a lot ‘after we broke up his friends told me...’ They literally can’t do anything themselves 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:49 PM |
| 45 | Tired of being called "selfish" for caring about myself.The ‘OMG, we’re such a good match, you can cook for me since I’m terrible in the kitchen’ works wonders as well. I’m actually a really good cook, but this is extremely effective for vetting the cherry-picking old fashioned guys who want bangmaid-but50/50 combination. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:36 PM |
| 30 | Tired of being called "selfish" for caring about myself.Totally with you on this one. My ex didn’t want to get a maid, but hated it if he had to do chores or cleaning. If I’m working and commuting 50 hours a week (more than he did), guess who’s going to do some housework as well? He didn’t like that one bit. They want their cake and eat it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:32 PM |
| 3 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!I didn’t know that you also had the saint nicholas festivities! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 3 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!Fellow Dutchie? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:20 PM |
| 7 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!I’m not even buying this kind of jewellery for myself. I wouldn’t want to wear something fake like that. I seriously think a gift from my SO should be something better than metal and glass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:17 PM |
| 95 | Why women must leave their LVM piece of shit at the FIRST red flag they get. You will NEVER know if he can do this to you!It’s official, I quit men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:55 PM |
| 26 | Male doctors and making small talk about your truamaBecause bleeding during intercourse isn’t a red flag at all according to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 01:48 PM |
| 38 | Male doctors and making small talk about your truamaI once had a screaming match with my family doctor because he didn't want me to have a PAP smear and also didn't want to refer me to a gynaecologist. I insisted and he made a referral that (very childishly) said that this referral was written against his explicit wishes. Guess who was treated by a very good and empathetic gynaecologist for the next two years because something, in fact, was up. Find yourself a really good female GP that you trust and that very obviously takes you seriously. I fou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 09:32 AM |
| 5 | Anyone else feel weird about guy's paranoia towards women that want kids?This exactly! It's wishful thinking on their part I guess lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 10:44 PM |
| 51 | Anyone else feel weird about guy's paranoia towards women that want kids?This is because they can’t dangle the ‘marriage’ or ‘babies’ carrot in front of us when they display LV behaviour and the relationship is less than satisfactory. When women enter a relationship without marriage or a family on their mind, they do it for a good time and companionship. Slim chance of getting a bangmaid out of it who is willing to sacrifice her well-being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 08:44 PM |
| 13 | Man thinks because you matched with him on tinder, you should have sex with him 😒 gets pissed when a girl doesn’tI want to watch it but it doesn’t work, what is her handle? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 08:01 PM |
| 49 | I’m so over OLD. Yes, please scold me for not messaging you first. Fastest way to my heart (translation in comments)So he’s waiting a week on purpose to see which women don’t initiate, so he can... scold them?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 07:47 PM |
| 65 | Anyone else feel weird about guy's paranoia towards women that want kids?They are equally obsessed with women who don’t want children. I’m childfree and haven’t met a man yet who approves or doesn’t want to change my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 07:44 PM |
| 11 | Me @ my ex who always needed homework helpI wrote the cv, application letter and all the things he should say in the job interview for my ex fiancé (he got the job). My rebound wanted me to write everything for his start-up. I did the whole website, but when I found out that 90% of the work was done by me, I didn’t feel like it anymore. He only worked 20 hours a week, so he could ‘focus on his company’, but I ended up writing his shit in the car to my dads funeral? No f-ing way dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:59 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I think most of the time it’s not even about the sex. It’s about power and using a woman as a commodity/object. It creeps me tf out when a guy can do that and doesn’t think anything is wrong with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Try covert narc, they’re even more insidious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:48 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I’d rather date a guy with a somewhat higher bodycount, than a guy who paid for even onlyfans, let alone a sexworker IRL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:40 PM |
| 39 | The only instance which I would change a manI was talking about shitting their pants 💩 🤣 So we’re both right. Someone learn these men how to swipe, please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 12:44 PM |
| 21 | The only instance which I would change a manSome of them actually do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:49 AM |
| 4 | 🙌🙌🙌Block and delete. If you feel like you need closure after that, write an unsent letter. Seriously, this worked wonders for me. You don’t need the other party’s presence to get closure. With NVM or LVM, this is only a risk. I also sometimes do hypnotherapy and I had one session where I properly said goodbye to my father who passed away last year. I really needed to know if he was okay and there were still things I wanted to tell him. Even though I don’t know if he will hear it, and it was primari… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:39 AM |
| 18 | THEY JUST BANNED ABORTION IN POLAND 😳This kind of strike helped the women in Iceland before. I hope it will help the women in Poland as well. We are so, so powerful and we do so much of the labour. We just have to realise this ourselves sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:15 PM |
| 47 | Just like nature intendedBoyfriends actually did this to me, made me really appreciative of other guys attention. Broke up with them to be with those guys. Not a waterproof tactic if you ask me 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:11 PM |
| 86 | Just like nature intendedI always multiple date. In hindsight, the guys who suspected it (because I was unavailable in the weekend for example) and the guy who knew because we started as friends all love bombed the living hell out of me. They wanted to put a label on it so fast. The only guy who knew for a fact that I dated other people really put up a fight when I chose ‘the other guy’ and made me change my mind. I chose him in the end (big mistake, cheating fiancé). It made me choose differently than if I had taken mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:06 PM |
| 22 | Girl slides in dm and drives hours to go meet a guy she saw on tik tok . I hate how women “shooting their shot” is becoming popular & normalized on social media. Ladies lesson to be learned is to never chase a man! We unfortunately know how this will end😶🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:40 PM |
| 20 | Imagine being told to hush while in labour. I’m actually speechless!I was thinking more in the 6-8 hours category 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:02 PM |
| 1 | At what age did you stop dressing up as Ninja Turtles and Batman and start wanting to be ‘pretty’ for Halloween?Same for me too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:00 AM |
| 452 | Don't make the mistake of believing that men only use women for sex.Men exploit women for their time, energy, resource, money and attention. This is exactly why the guys in dead bedrooms stay in the relationship. They deem their SO's too fat/old/ugly/annoying to make it better or put any effort in, but don't want to give up the split bills, emotional labour, ego boost or other resources she's providing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:54 AM |
| 6 | Why are women considered controlling for having boundaries?I'm 100% with you, but apparently that's too much to expect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:46 AM |
| 142 | Imagine being told to hush while in labour. I’m actually speechless!The only way I’m ever going to give birth is when my husband experiences it with a simulator before the pregnancy. He also better be real respectful and of service the next 9 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:02 AM |
| 95 | Broke up with BF bcs of OnlyFansIt’s still cheating. Could’ve used that money on a good date with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:37 PM |
| 50 | Broke up with BF bcs of OnlyFansMine flew to Italy 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:21 PM |
| 2 | Did this the other day to a boy I was ‘friends’ with after he crossed my boundaries, and then tried to act as if nothing happened and I was being over dramatic. Before FDS I would have written an essay and spent hours cOmMuNiCaTiNg with himI said you never mentioned you have a kid? He said you never asked. Oh, so now it's our responsibility to ask questions that rule out obvious deal-breakers? What's next, it's on us if we didn't ask them if they're an axe murderer, committed a felony or are married either? I can't with these men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:30 PM |
| 32 | Why are women considered controlling for having boundaries?It also reminds me of this twitter thread, where a guy swaps email boxes with his female colleague and is way less productive because of all the mansplaining and other crap that's thrown her way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:53 PM |
| 3 | The man 🔥🔥🔥It's good to know he changed, i'm glad! And you're welcome. I think we have to be very careful about what kind of content we consume and always be critical. It's easy to recognize harmful things when they're blatant, but the more insidious stuff is way more dangerous imo. Maybe he also found FDS, who knows haha :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:49 PM |
| 47 | Proof that money doesn’t make someone high valueA lot of men whine that they're too short/broke/ugly, but this is proof that character is always the dealbreaker for (most) women. He's a very handsome guy imo, tall and rich, yet his character is shit and violent. Unfortunately, this truth is lost on all the red pilled guys, PUA and Incels who feel sorry for themselves because they're 5'9 or whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:45 PM |
| 10 | I'm CryinWhere's the lie though? This is a good fit for the kind of guy who asks us this question at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:39 PM |
| 74 | Why are women considered controlling for having boundaries?A lot of men haven't experienced boundaries by women. When it happens, it feels like an attack or an insult to them. This happens to me at work all the time. I work with a lot of male managers/CEO's/CFO's and all the other women on my level are extreme people pleasers. My manager is one too. Every time one of these guys is in their feelings because I set a boundary, she want's me to make peace because 'working together is the ultimate goal and more important than 'differences''. I hear that this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:35 PM |
| 6 | The man 🔥🔥🔥'Just know that, percentage-wise, the number of men who are cute, smart, kind, tall, funny, generous, ambitious, successful, and family-oriented is miniscule. Now you want to add in “inspirational?” You know how many men are left? That’s okay. Neither do I. The message of this blog post isn’t about settling. It’s not about being with a man you can barely tolerate. It’s about the expectation of what a man is capable of delivering.' If this is not settling, I don't know what is. I'm all the things… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:22 PM |
| 9 | The man 🔥🔥🔥I guess he got a bit milder. But it's still not really my cup of tea. I looked in my inbox, but I deleted everything of him. I could only find this for example: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/chemistry/why-eat-pray-love-can-be-harmful-to-your-emotional-health/comment-page-2 Not one of his worst blogs by a long shot, but still not great. I'd rather be single than with this 'Bill'. Edit: also very weird to compare 'Eat, pray, love' with 'Drink, play, f*ck'. I don't need these LV mental gymnasti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:13 PM |
| 10 | The man 🔥🔥🔥If that's the case, he changed for the better. I was subscribed to him in my pick me days, when I was in my early twenties. He especially targeted successful 'older' (30+) women at that time. Each and every post, video and newsletter, he emphasized how his audience was too high maintenance, too picky, too successful. That it's impossible to find a successful, good-looking guy who also has great character, so somethings gotta give. Successful 'older' woman can't expect in return what they have to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:01 PM |
| 24 | The man 🔥🔥🔥Please please please, don’t listen to Evan Marc Katz. He literally tells women to settle for less in all the ways possible. Even talks about his wife like he settled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:49 PM |
| 882 | Broke up with BF bcs of OnlyFansI hate it when guys cheat, but I especially hate it when they pay money to cheat. It feels like disrespect with extra steps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Unattractive man catfishes women because he feels entitled to have a more attractive woman.I think it’s very HV to adopt like that. You probably didn’t read it right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Netflix & Chill (Solo - The FDS Way) - Movie SuggestionI looked up the trailer and I'm obsessed! I can't find it on Netflix though (The Netherlands). Did you watch it on another streaming service? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 11:57 AM |
| 4 | Netflix & Chill (Solo - The FDS Way) - Movie SuggestionI watched it this week and loved it too. It's a shame that they didn't show the difficulties for a woman in such an environment in that era though. But they made it more feel-good than I anticipated, and that was just what I needed this week. Would def reccomend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 11:56 AM |
| 7 | .. old sm “friend” I never really knew, and now deleted.. grossAnd this is exactly why he felt the need to make a 'PSA' :') | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 11:11 AM |
| 20 | He is showing you who he is - believe him.I am actually really bad at texting and I don’t really mind it if I don’t text on a very frequent basis when we’re just in the early dating phase, and I can tell you that no man ever liked this about me. I got some serious complaints. And that’s just for waiting a couple of hours with replying. Can you imagine days? Don’t be fooled. Men know how interested communication looks like and they all demand to be treated like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:30 PM |
| 22 | Men do not and will not care about your feelings.I love Lizzo and her songs. I’m glad she got famous and got the bag, she don’t need no man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:24 PM |
| 95 | We need to stop with the myth that dating is sooo hard for all men and that men will treasure you because your attention is rare. 🗣 THEY’RE PLAYING ALL OF US AND THIS IS HOW!We have a winner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 07:19 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone else constantly feel like men are liable to snap and kill them at any moment?I have anxiety too, and most of the time the roots are in a very unsafe environment when you were very young. It’s would be no surprise to me if your environment at this moment might not be 100% safe and (emotionally) healthy. Not saying that people would hurt you, but (small) triggers might be present. It’s like that for me at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 07:08 PM |
| 14 | Does anyone else constantly feel like men are liable to snap and kill them at any moment?I felt like this when I was a teenager. We had weapons in the house that only the ‘men’ aka my dad with brain damage from a stroke and my teenage brother (not very stable at that time in his life) knew the location of. I was always afraid that my brother would play with it when he was drunk or something (drinking age was 16). Even when they might mean well, most men have proven to be irresponsible and unsafe. Just look up the statistics on car accidents, accidents with weapons and so on. That’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Level up tiktokers?Came here to say this. She’s hilarious and gets men all kind of mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 09:17 PM |
| 4 | “Womanly” activities are cooking, cleaning, caretaking & appearances 🤢When I wrote the comment in the post I was like ‘Guess I’m not a women eh’, but I would actually love doing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:21 AM |
| 33 | Damn straight.I love his music and his role in the Hunger Games, but he was a very LVM. Hopefully his ex wife leaving him for being cheated on once too many was a good wake up call, idk. She ended up with Jason Momoa, so good call on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:14 AM |
| 20 | Ladies, look out for each other! We are all queens, and we need to support each other as suchI noticed this too. I have a severe chronic illness and it either attracts guys who want to act like it doesn’t exist or guys who really want to ‘be there for me’. The last type only wants to accompany you to the hospital once in a while, but doesn’t like it if it’s present in normal day-to-day life btw. I decided I love being single so much, that it takes a very HVM who I trust when I’m at my worst to win me over. I know these men do exist, some women I know of various ages are very ill and hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:05 AM |
| 9 | For those not actively dating for a HVM, this is basically it. Once you love yourself, other people are just an option, not a necessity. And this is the best feeling of all.Good call! I wish you all the best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 05:48 AM |
| 36 | For those not actively dating for a HVM, this is basically it. Once you love yourself, other people are just an option, not a necessity. And this is the best feeling of all.Don’t date before you heal. I made this mistake and ended up dating N/LVM because it’s harder to recognise different forms of abuse or control if you’re used to extremes. My mom is from an extremely violent background and I tried to make this analogy for her, so she might get it: When you’re used to a daily atomic bomb, a tiny handgun seems great. But guns are still violent and not healthy for your wellbeing. Remember that there are also people out there who don’t own weapons at all, but will gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 05:43 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020He sounds like a future faker and a love bomber. He's probably going to pump and dump. Thats way more rude than protecting your boundaries. Tell him you changed your mind, block & delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:29 PM |
| 10 | Same 😞I do blanket ford dates with myself and have done them with LTR's. It's awesome! But it's something for a relationship and not in the dating phase. I do have the feeling that the girl in the picture is already dating for a longer time though, not 100% sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:11 PM |
| 31 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.I thought they liked it when we smiled. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:57 PM |
| 59 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.since the men kept the office ridiculously cold Is this a universal thing?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:55 PM |
| 6 | Reminder: And it's usually a man you already know.Thank you. It saddens me to think that a lot, if not most, of the women have endured the same things or worse. One thing that in hindsight really shocked me, was the fact that I was so desensitized to it. My body reacted (I was very nauseous and throwing up and needed to self soothe) at these times, but my mind didn't even really 'get' that I was violated in such a horrible way. I buried it deep and just kept going. I also did this with non sex related trauma. But even when you bury it, it's sti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:51 AM |
| 90 | And who’s gon check me?All though I 100% endorse this message, I do really watch out what kind of content I post on social media. I don't want to invite the dusties, thirsty guys and N/LVM by presenting myself as easy prey and I don't need the validation either. I found out that the pictures of myself that I found the most beautiful, have nothing to do with sexual positions or nudity. I'm at a point that idgaf about the male gaze and my social media is a place for me. That said, yeah, if a guy wants to control me in a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:15 AM |
| 3 | I used to go to Starbucks often & the cute barista would always write my name with a heart on it. I asked once about a little treat that comes w/ coffee and he always remembered it & gave me more than he was allowed. Every. Time. If a random guy can do this ur bf can remember the things you likeI'm going to save this comment, hahaha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:07 AM |
| 130 | I used to go to Starbucks often & the cute barista would always write my name with a heart on it. I asked once about a little treat that comes w/ coffee and he always remembered it & gave me more than he was allowed. Every. Time. If a random guy can do this ur bf can remember the things you likeYou know what, he didn't even 'go out of his way'. He does nice things for a women he doesn't really know and it costs him literally 5 seconds of his day. He's recognized it's very easy to consistently show appreciation in a nice way and actually did it. Even though I really like this post and agree that it's cute, we should also recognize that a lot of men get praised for doing things that are cute but cost them nothing. He gives her an extra treat (doesn't pay for it, but his boss does) and dr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:04 AM |
| 21 | Reminder: And it's usually a man you already know.The party thing happened to me too. He pinned me to the bed while I was struggling. One of his best friends walked into the room and he was very cheerful and like ‘come join us’ and I was terrified. But the other guy actually fought him off me and I fled the party immediately and went to my boyfriend. I was 18 at the time and didn’t go to the police (I had a traumatic childhood and didn’t really get the significance of what happened) even though my bf urged me, but refused to be in the same room… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:18 AM |
| 8 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatHaha I totally can imagine the BFF of Isabella writing that. I would too if some scrote left my fabulous friend that way. I’m unforgiving and petty like that when you hurt my friends 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:23 AM |
| 25 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatShe’s also almost a decade younger than him, so when they broke up she was like 24? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:15 AM |
| 30 | Ran into a guy I’ve been seeing while he was on a date with another girlI love the Heat. I saw it recently for the first time and I was laughing my ass off. When the tall and handsome partner came to her work in the beginning, I thought he would be her love interest, boy was I wrong. It was very refreshing that there wasn’t any romance or whatever in the movie. Some jokes here and there, but the main focus was the friendship of the women and their succes. I loved it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:01 AM |
| 16 | So... This got me thinking lolYes, but I think most women are raised with the believe that they ‘need a man to be complete’ and have lot to unlearn. Most of them aren’t aware of this in their early twenties. And this is also the time that you’re studying, having a starter job, etc. I think women in their late twenties and thirties begin to know their worth, unlearn a lot of unhelpful behaviour and are simultaneously more successful in their careers. This is a great motivator and actually makes it possible for them to leave u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 03:46 PM |
| 5 | Kill the patriarchyI live in a country where the mask still isn’t a given, but I wear one anyway. Yesterday 2 guys in a car had the audacity to make a u-turn and pull up next to me asking me if I was ‘Playing hide and seek’ and that it’s a shame to hide my pretty face. They even want us to jeopardise our health for their entertainment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 03:34 PM |
| 40 | toxic men are so petty!I’m not a millionaire by a long shot, but I try to avoid it either way 😂 I don’t get why it gets men so upset when they find out that me and all my female friends have housekeepers. Like, ‘Ok Scott, if it’s so important to you, you do it’. Edit: I actually like cooking and baking a lot, but only on my terms and not as a chore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 03:27 PM |
| 6 | Maturely handling accusations of "not being able to find a man."Most of the time I just don’t react, but once in a while I feel like being a rebel and be like ‘I’m glad that you asked Harvey’ and go on a rant about how 30 something single women without kids are the happiest demographic. How unmarried women live longer and how I have really high standards because I want it to add and not subtract from my life. I can guarantee you that the whole lunch table (most of them in very unhappy marriages with LVM or LVM themselves who know this is true) will be very a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:42 AM |
| 8 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.Most people don’t have bondage in mind even when they do answer sex related questions. I live in a very progressive country and my close friend group is very open about sex and personal things and I can tell you not one of them has kinks. I don’t think that men who are really emotionally healthy, have these preferences at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:29 AM |
| 35 | I love this woman. Her Twitter is usually about having standards and HVM, and people are usually big mad.I don’t even do this with friends. I do this when I’m on the road alone and don’t have time to really sit down somewhere. It has 0 ambiance and always feels really cheap and sad in a way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:11 AM |
| 4 | How do you feel about this? as a 21 year old I am so grateful for finding this sub!This is me since February. Not going to change anytime soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:46 PM |
| 17 | How do you feel about this? as a 21 year old I am so grateful for finding this sub!This is me since February. Not going to change anytime soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:46 PM |
| 17 | How do you feel about this? as a 21 year old I am so grateful for finding this sub!This is me since February. Not going to change anytime soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:46 PM |
| 9 | John Cena was with his ex-girlfriend, Nikki Bella, for over six years and didn’t want to marry her. John has now married his next girlfriend after dating for two years. Ladies, if a man doesn’t want to get married HE’S NOT THAT INTO YOU.Same for me! All of my friends thought he was just my type, because I love Jason Momoa so much. But I think Jason might be a HVM ánd he’s incredibly sexy. I also have a crush on Stephen Colbert, Obama and Keanu Reeves. It’s something about the way they carry themselves. Very manly and confident and a tiny bit geeky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, if you need some pointers on how to spot red flags: DING DING DING WE HAVE A WINNER🚩🚩🚩When I was around 20 I was bored one day and went to the hairdresser. I had waist length very thick hair, but came out with a very short bobline. The one that’s longer in the front but shaven in the back. In hindsight I think I gave my very HVM boyfriend the scare of his life, but at the moment he was very gracious about it and it didn’t make any negative comments and didn’t treat me any different for the next couple of years. A relationship that has any real substance will survive a freakin’ ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:08 PM |
| 9 | Ladies, if you need some pointers on how to spot red flags: DING DING DING WE HAVE A WINNER🚩🚩🚩It’s not about the style, but about the fact that you didn’t do what he’d asked you to. I’m fully bald myself because I’m lazy 🤣 My exes all wanted the Brazilian style. Too much work and coordination for me in the early morning. They sulked about that the same way. You can’t win. I’m now single and being extra extra lazy. I’m bringing back the bush and love my little cute curls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 06:31 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeThe fact that you're already thinking about this and reflecting on it says that you're not intrinsically toxic and can unlearn the things you picked up in that relationship. You're also working on yourself and seeking out help. EMDR helped wonders for me, it even gave my self worth an enormous boost. CBT might be something for you too! In addition to CBT, it's also important to note that people who are traumatized often attract abusive people. So don't rationalize everything away either. If you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 12:06 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeI’m not the forgiving type. I’m the type that takes action, removes the one who did me wrong from my life and at a certain point feel indifferent about it. Only in special cases, most of the time it’s family, I can forgive if I see they’re making an effort to be better about it. We don’t owe anyone our forgiveness. And not forgiving doesn’t mean that you cannot work on yourself or resolve any trauma. They’re mutually exclusive, even though people like to think that they’re not. It’s the same thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 06:16 AM |
| 5 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeI’m happy you got out. And I know it’s not safe, but I’m petty like this too. I was really satisfied about the computer when I read it. Glad you don’t have to deal with this toxic bs anymore, I found that I lost 100% of my toxic personality traits when I became single, most of them were just a defensive mechanism to abuse. Don’t be too hard on yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 06:03 AM |
| 30 | When you dress up for a nice night out, but he takes you to a shitty barIs that absinthe?!?! On a date??? Even in the 19th century the scrotacity was real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 05:00 AM |
| 42 | A (male) professor admitted he never had any intention of learning his wife's first tongueIf they can get away with something, LVM will exploit it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:28 PM |
| 137 | How dare women enjoy thingsYou know they’re fragile babies when they are threatened by a drink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:43 AM |
| 31 | When You're Happy Being SingleHe should do some interior decorating single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:05 PM |
| 38 | I just-This seems a lot like bumbling. Pretending to not know how to do something, so they don’t get asked for it in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:38 AM |
| 28 | Men insist they're not sexist for hating this upcoming movie that they haven't actually seen. In reality, if this were a similar trailer with a white male cast, they would keep their comments to themselves instead of spewing about it *pandering to diversity*.OMG, I f-ing love this. I’m not very big on romantic comedies or reality tv, but I love action and sf. It is so amazing to see the kind of movie that you love, and it actually has multiple women in there that have a function beside being the lust object or ‘girlfriend’ for a change. Also, these men should stop whining. Movies like Triple Frontier have a cast that literally consists of white middle aged men. Nobody complained about that. Edit: all the men I know seem to love Shawshank Redemption … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:22 AM |
| 37 | I just-I remember talking to my brother on the phone his first year in college and we both were cooking. I asked him what he was making and he was stir-frying cauliflower and some other stuff. At one point he was like, ‘Man this takes long. Is that normal?’ Turned out that he bought a pre cut packaged cauliflower and just dropped it in to the wok without blanching it. I was laughing so hard it hurt. I give him a break in times like these though, because we grew up in a very conservative and authoritari… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:10 AM |
| 9 | I HAVE NO WORDS.Can you imagine the smell? Poor colleagues 😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 04:53 AM |
| 7 | I HAVE NO WORDS.I think some very clever scrote came up with the concept of kinkshaming. They just know it’s depraved behaviour and they should be ashamed of themselves, so they needed the preemptive strike. I’ve never in my life heard about a wholesome kink. No guy ever is like ‘My kink is, that after sex, I just need to give my SO a neck massage’ or ‘I like to recite love poems during sex’. It’s always harmful to women/children/animals or very unhygienic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 04:50 AM |
| 8 | Grateful for my dad ❤I’m so happy you found us! I remember reading your comment about calling your dad. I was fiercely hoping he was a HVM. I’m so glad you have someone who’s there for you in this difficult time. Wish you all the best ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 08:38 PM |
| 43 | I HAVE NO WORDS.I’m starting to realise more and more that the word ‘kink’ is just a fancy substitute for depraved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 08:35 PM |
| 7 | When the cost of repairing your car window > The life of your child. THIS IS WHY YOU NEED TO RUTHLESSLY VET THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILD. Trigger warning because this might ruin your dayIt did indeed, ruin my day. Everyday I come closer to the decision to never date again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 09:54 AM |
| 79 | I don't know why our culture lets this soft pedo shit fly like it's not problematic AF. Why do so many of LibFem sexual fantasies center around abuse of power? They'll juxtapose bullshit like this next to a 10,000 word essay wondering why rape culture continues to exist.They'll juxtapose bullshit like this next to a 10,000 word essay wondering why rape culture continues to exist. The cognitive dissonance is real. I love how the FDS account calls it out immediately. We need to question unhealthy behavior that is normalized in our culture and make people actually think about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:49 AM |
| 127 | Men want casual sex/relationships, till the woman wants that too. Then suddenly they aren’t so cool with it.Men hate it when we want to date casually. They hate it even more if we date multiple people, even when they do too and even told us so. What's good for the goose is, apparently, not an option for the gander. Men who see that their normal 'tactics' won't work with a woman who's vetting and dating around, will try to press her into a relationship. Beware of this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:00 PM |
| 78 | More than that for most of us, but still rings true!That's just my rent. Not even my bills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:30 PM |
| 18 | It just dawned on me that nearly every man who has gone down on me were just giving it "the ol' husband try" meaning, they were purposefully bad at it to make me give up on asking them to do it.I dated a guy like that too. The first couple of times we slept together it was just him eating me out, no bj's, no sex. He was a nice and sweet HVM, really good at giving massages and a surgeon to top it off. Most of my boyfriends really enjoyed eating me out too. Really took their time and wanted to learn. These LVM have no excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 11:30 AM |
| 126 | Mariah Carey on being called high maintenanceI love this. Apparently she also didn't have sex with her ex billionaire fiance. If she can get a ring without sex in a 2 year relationship, I can survive the vetting period without it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 11:19 AM |
| 92 | And this, my wonderful Queens, is why we don’t do house dates.Housedates feel so weird and extremely low effort to me. Even with my FWB, we used to meet in a nice restaurant or winebar before the hooking-up part. I was watching Legally Blonde yesterday and there was this scene where Elle teaches the 'bend and snap' move to the lovely lady who does her nails. She said something along the lines of how its a 98% success with capturing the guys attention and it has a 89% success rate for getting a dinner date. I noticed it because it was a reminder that this w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 10:44 AM |
| 142 | I’ve often wondered why our detractors care about what we think so much, but this tweet sums it up nicely.We can never win with these men. When we have high standards, they will get very mad, calling us gold-diggers or stuck up. When the exact same women changes nothing, but lowers her standards and actually dates these LVM, they will find something wrong with her anyway. It's no use lowering your standards. There might not be a lot of HVM to date, but when we date it's respectful, nice and drama-free (block instead of engage). Keep those standards right where they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 10:34 AM |
| 29 | Booked an appointment to take my IUD out. However,the only gynecologist available for this month is a man. I plan to wait longer for a woman because I'm not comfortable with the idea of man removing it. Am I the only one that questions why a man would want to be a gynecologist in the 1st place?I prefer female doctors overall, because they’re more knowledgeable about the female body and how certain conditions have different symptoms for women. They also take other women more serious than (older) male doctors. The latter seem to put the ‘psychosomatic’ label on a lot of things. My female GP was the only one who believed me when I said there’s was something seriously wrong and helped me when it was really needed. That said, I’ve had amazing male gynaecologists who really took the time wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:55 PM |
| 214 | It just dawned on me that nearly every man who has gone down on me were just giving it "the ol' husband try" meaning, they were purposefully bad at it to make me give up on asking them to do it.This is an excellent post. I think most men pull this kind of behaviour. I would even go further and say that some of them don’t even want us to come or enjoy ourselves. I can come very easily from PIV sex, and my abusive ex NVM made a sport of coming as fast as he could without foreplay so he knew I wouldn’t climax. A lot of men see sex as a power play that only they ought to enjoy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:02 PM |
| 8 | This is so gross!! How is bad hygiene not a dealbreaker? All this shows me is a man who can’t take of himself 🤮🤮Ah I didn’t know what it was. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:42 PM |
| 35 | This is so gross!! How is bad hygiene not a dealbreaker? All this shows me is a man who can’t take of himself 🤮🤮This is just sad. I'm so curious though, what is the Folgers can? With the red sticker on top? I don't get that one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:18 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020Some people, especially the ones who grew up in a family of cluster b personality types, consider emotionally healthy people as boring. Maybe she's recognizing this and it's one of the first signs of being aware of this and doing the work? I might be wrong about it, but she sounds like me 10 years ago :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:08 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020You don't know if he's a HVM. If he was truly a HVM, he wouldn't 'eye roll', that's disrespecting something you enjoy. You just told him how you enjoy reading it and he does this? It's similar to a neg. People don't have to have the same interests or hobbies, but they can at least be respectful about them or even interested. Sounds to me like he uses this information to come closer to you. Treat it at least as a yellow flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:03 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020I try to focus on my health. What is best for me and my physical and mental health. Be honest with yourself. Is it really good for your mental health to focus on a number on the scale? Or focussing excessively in creating a Kardashian booty? Are you pushing your perfectionism/OCD if you have to run 5k every single day? There's a fine line between healthy dedication and unhealthy behavior. Also, it has to feel good for you. Who cares about being thin, or thick, or whatever. You should be satisfie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:59 PM |
| 21 | I've spent a solid 2 weeks reading the posts here and every book about FDS I can get my hands on. It's all hitting me like a ton of bricks.I'm happy that you found us <3 Leveling up in this area might not be easy, but it's 100% worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 03:01 PM |
| 9 | When men mean when they “tease” you about being “boring” and not “adventurous” enough: car sexOr he means prostitutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:49 PM |
| 42 | When men mean when they “tease” you about being “boring” and not “adventurous” enough: car sexIKR? I was like, there is a lot to unpack here, but the fact that he's already eating and not planning for her to get any food especially rubbed me the wrong way. He wants quick and cheap sexual assault, no dinner please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:48 PM |
| 24 | TW: incest/child abuse FaNtAsY. Pedos are everywhere. I’ve only been on reddit for like 5 minutes this morning and this is already the third thing I’ve seen about a pedo being open about their depravity. I’m sick of it. Can I just have off this planet already, please?Can we just throw half of reddit males in the pokey, just to be sure. Like thanos, but jail instead of nonexistence. This just made my day. I'd even go as far as nonexistence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:41 PM |
| 347 | A whole wordThis one is for the men in my life who told me 'I didn't tell you, because I didn't want to hurt your feelings' when they did me wrong. They're 100% selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:34 PM |
| 79 | This LVM is ruining her life without her consent. HOW IS THIS OK??Can't he go to jail for that? I sure hope so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:30 PM |
| 92 | "Going with the flow" is bsOnly dead fish go with the flow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:24 PM |
| 2 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"You're welcome! I hope they help you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:22 PM |
| 39 | How many men have actually given you orgasms?I slept with 15 people in 17 years. Around 9 of them made me orgasm (frequently). It's funny because the ones who made me orgasm were all long term (1 to 5 year) boyfriends or my rebound fwb who've I known for a long time. The 4 hook-ups I had were so not worth it. The older I get, the better my sex life is. I expect an orgasm and am assertive in bed. Younger people-pleaser-me wouldn't do that, but I know better now. I actually get really grumpy at the guy if he messes it up, especially because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:05 PM |
| 92 | 🙄These are the men who don't want us to have any kind of education. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:58 PM |
| 4 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"Yes! The blog that made me realize I had a lot of toxic people in my life (boyfriends, friends and family) was thebaggagereclaim.co.uk by Nat Lue. She has some amazing blogposts and podcasts about relationships, family, boundaries, people pleasing, etc. On YouTube I use the channels 'Surviving Narcissism' and 'Doctor Ramani'. Dr. Les Carter who runs the 'Surviving Narcissism' channel also wrote the book 'When pleasing you is killing me'. A book that really gave me insight in my family was 'Adult… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:55 PM |
| 18 | I don’t think Taylor really cares what you think, Stefan.IKR?! I don’t know who came up with the ‘women hit the wall at 25 or 30’ thing, because that man clearly pulled it out of his ass. I suspect my grandparents used some sort of contraceptive in their late 40’s, because there was some talk about an intervention after my grandma was done with it. It’s only some hushed comments here and there, so I’m not sure but wouldn’t blame her at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 10:31 PM |
| 51 | I don’t think Taylor really cares what you think, Stefan.My grandma had her first child at 17 and her last (11th) at 46. I don’t know what these men are talking about. Shows you can be fertile at any age. I think she was relieved when her eggs were finally gone. I’m childfree myself. It’s only the men who worry about these things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 09:53 PM |
| 7 | 5 years?! Wholesome my @$$... Way to make her think she's wasting her time. She needs FDS.I’m out at 2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:27 PM |
| 29 | Several magazines have actually hired this person to write articles about sex.People like her are the reason that I only read the National Geographic Magazine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 11:46 AM |
| 8 | Do you ever think back on a past relationship in disbelief at the things you went through?If you ever have the misfortune of meeting him online or in person, he will swear he did literally everything in the house and he’s actually a clean freak. Meanwhile there’s dust bunnies the size of an actual rabbit underneath his game system. This seems to be a theme with LVM. My ex fiance was the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 11:09 AM |
| 76 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"Both of my parents are narcissists, and they raised me to basically have zero boundaries. I feel this one in my core. I actually had the same experience you had and after a lot of work, therapy and trauma treatment I actually felt content with myself for the very first time in my life. I was willing to lose everyone and anyone, because I knew I had my own back. This made my life 100% easier. I unfortunately had to cut loose some people (including they guy I was dating), but others were willing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 09:20 AM |
| 31 | Why you should never date gamersI came here to say this. It triggered me so bad to read that. It’s one thing that he doesn’t take care of himself. Or even the girlfriend who can walk away from that situation. But the pets that are completely dependent on him?! Breaks my heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 02:54 PM |
| 14 | Hookup is not worth it ! How many times do we have to tell the truth ?This is correct. Why would they care about your health if they are willing to risk their own? Also, I love your username. I’m a ENTP and a Gemini too ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 02:46 PM |
| 191 | Just... WHY IS THIS PIC ON YOUR TINDER PROFILE?!?!To warn us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:13 AM |
| 73 | 50/50 is a financial plan, not a relationship!Only male advice I listen to is Derrick. But the girl was right, if I’m paying 50% I’m a roommate. Tried it twice before and nothing good came out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:42 PM |
| 59 | Poor girl. This is disgusting.I hope he’s very afraid. I also hope she dumps him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:40 PM |
| 20 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.DKM 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:34 PM |
| 19 | Married scrote with kids commenting on OnlyFans model, and pickme model defending it....constantly seeing this on social media🤢It’s a public sign of disrespect. Even when I was a cool girl I knew I deserved better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Is having a Snapchat a red flag?🚩I only have snapchat to see what my younger brother and the children of my (way older) sister are up to. They sometimes send me stories (I feel like it’s comparable to my mom being on Instagram 😂) I find it a red flag when a guy I’m dating (30-40) has it and is actively using it. They’re really alarmed when they see the app on my phone so that should tell us something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:35 PM |
| 12 | Based on a Facebook post of the paying half debate...I gave up a very cheap and awesome apartment in the city centre of my capital to move in with my ex. Had to get rid of most of my furniture and clothes because he didn’t like it and/or there was no room. My living expenses doubled and I was struggling, he had a lot more money he spent on himself and when he cheated on me I had nowhere to go for a month. Paid toward his mortgage and all the bills. Never saw any of the home equity (it doubled within a year). Let’s say it was a very, very expensive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:29 PM |
| 5 | Another day, another LVM crying and some BS excusesBeen there, done that, got the t-shirt. They 100% do it again in the future. yesallmenwhopullthisshitinthefirstplace | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:21 PM |
| 86 | Random dating advice on the Prepping sub? They know what's up and majority of comments tell the girl to dump her boyfriend!I was also pleasantly surprised by two guys today in relationship advice. A girl who found out that her boyfriend was still actively using Tinder wanted to know how to ‘communicate’ without being the ‘crazy jealous girlfriend’. These guys were like ‘a crazy girlfriend would ignore that shit or let it slide, a normal girlfriend would be like ‘see you later alligator’ and gtfo’. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:18 PM |
| 204 | I wish all of you ladies that feeling. 💪😎Made me think of a quote I love about not caring so damn much about things that don’t deserve my energy. ’Indifference is the strongest force in the universe. It makes everything it touches meaningless. Love and hate don’t stand a chance against it’. This. And also the song ‘I forgot that you existed’. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:10 PM |
| 2 | I saw this today and wanted to share. It’s NEVER too late to level up ❤️She knows I’m on here! I will ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:03 PM |
| 2 | I saw this today and wanted to share. It’s NEVER too late to level up ❤️I will! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:03 PM |
| 19 | “I just don’t like texting” 🙄Flush 🧍♂️➡️🚽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 10:57 AM |
| 6 | Lady posts HER side of the story, reveals that BF made a reddit post where he lied about her cheating, leaving out the parts where HE cheated first... She reveals what we already know: Women who cheat on their S/O typically do so because the S/O cheated first. Why be faithful to a cheater?Yes! Gotye is the posterboy for a softboi in that music video. His feelings all hurt by the consequences of his own actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:42 AM |
| 3 | Seems like the type of guy that thinks he can come home from the gym, sit on the couch and inhale an extra large pizza, 2L of coke and a sharing bag of Doritos, and its fine cos "he worked out" todayDidn’t even notice it before! My eyes 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:31 AM |
| 32 | I saw this today and wanted to share. It’s NEVER too late to level up ❤️My mom was widowed last year at 52. She had not finished high school (A levels) and she had to marry at 18. She got me at 19 and became a SAHM. After my father died, my mom had to find a job. She had no degree at all, but did a lot of work in my dads company, especially after he got sick. She also learned a lot of things regarding nursing, because my dad refused a care facility and my mom also wanted to keep him at home till the end. This got her into a job in a nursing home as an assistant, wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:50 AM |
| 38 | “I just don’t like texting” 🙄You know what? I’m a bad texter too, and I’d rather call or see someone in person. The bare minimum tho is a good morning, good night and a how’s your day with maybe a follow up text convo that lasts a couple of minutes. He could do that last one when he’s taking a shit on the toilet. Like, the only guys who don’t at least do this are not interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:28 AM |
| 26 | Anyone else completely okay with being single forever?Yes. I’ve been in long term relationships or in the process of getting into a relationship for 17 years (collectively). I was never really single for longer than 3 months since I was 15. I had standards, but not really about emotional maturity. Only one relationship (that lasted 5 years) was with a truly HVM who was a match with me. I’ve been single now since February, not even on OLD or dating in real life and it feels amazing. This freedom, autonomy and amount of free time is really new to me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:17 AM |
| 18 | So this is where all the FDS super fans have gone... (community created by an angry anti-FDS smoothbrain)Don’t forget how they lost their cookies when they saw Keanu Reeves’s (9 years younger but gray) new girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:09 PM |
| 6 | The biggest danger to a woman's life is a manHe totally sounds like a guy who would mess up in that scenario too 😂 Glad you got out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Not even forever gf but forever tenant 10 years and she gets this, can someone explain to her she needs to leave ?!Let’s say it was a very expensive lesson. But I’ll be able to start saving again end of this year. I now rent my own very cute appartement, have my own car and a new job ❤️ Also, never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Not even forever gf but forever tenant 10 years and she gets this, can someone explain to her she needs to leave ?!I did this instead of saving for myself. Gave up a very cheap and awesome apartment downtown to move in with him and doubled my cost of living. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:05 PM |
| 307 | If he still uses Tinder, YOU AREN'T EXCLUSIVE NOR OFFICIALNo need to worry about looking like a ‘crazy girlfriend’ hon, you’re not his girlfriend at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:52 PM |
| 68 | Older women sending these messages are a big reason why girls grow up with such poor boundaries and become PickmeishasThe mother of one of my friends in uni gave us really bad advice once. I was so flabbergasted I remember it to this day. She deadass said: 'It's better to be the mistress than to be the main wifey, because you will get all the fun times, money and better gifts'. Can you imagine telling that to young women? This was after her daughter found out that the boyfriend had a whole ass wife and two kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:34 PM |
| 13 | I reviewed my dating history and I tend to go for men who are very charming, and end up somehow abusive? Why?It's both. Better not attract any N/LVM and vet the ones that see our high standards as a challenge. And if your HVM does a 180, don't be afraid to kick him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:29 PM |
| 10 | Shady cucarachas out there ladies.I love these old art memes <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:24 PM |
| 15 | The biggest danger to a woman's life is a manOMG, I'm glad you got out of that safe. Most men with guns are very irresponsible with their weapons. Also a red flag that he didn't had the decency to even tell you it was in the house. Not everyone is a fan. Even though I live in a country where gun ownership is very restricted, I grew up in a family that owned a lot of weapons and guns. It always made me feel very unsafe and I would not date a man who would own something like that. The least they can do is tell you you'll sleep in a bed with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 51 | Seems like the type of guy that thinks he can come home from the gym, sit on the couch and inhale an extra large pizza, 2L of coke and a sharing bag of Doritos, and its fine cos "he worked out" todayI didn't even read the bio, a glance at his 'name' was enough. Also, can we talk about the abomination that's supposed to pass as a moustache? That is the real mystery to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:05 PM |
| 41 | My ex posted this on Reddit. I blocked him here as well now.In that case, I'm glad you found us. He's very, very far away from being the love of anyones life. Leveling up mentally, spiritually and emotionally should be your priority now. Don't fix something that's irreparable, fix yourself! You deserve so much more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:59 PM |
| 125 | Men are Only "Not Perceptive" When You are Invisible to ThemI think they fake it when they're 'not perceptive'. They're always very perceptive if we gain a few pounds, wear things they don't like or message a guy friend they feel threatened by. They're only 'not perceptive' when it suits them or when they want to use it as a punishment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:56 PM |
| 29 | My ex posted this on Reddit. I blocked him here as well now.OMG. I don't even know what to say. I'm glad you got rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:52 PM |
| 72 | I reviewed my dating history and I tend to go for men who are very charming, and end up somehow abusive? Why?Being charming isn't a personality trait, but a behaviour. Most charming people 'act' charming, but aren't intrinsically good people. It's the mask most narcissists wear when they lovebomb someone or when they are around other people they know (and want to get something out of now or in the future). Sure, good people can be charming too sometimes. But it will only be a part of you, and not define you as a person. Beware of very charming people, they use it as a way to get close to you and get to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:49 PM |
| 107 | My ex posted this on Reddit. I blocked him here as well now.Kissing is way too physical for me. Also the contact is emotionally cheating. There are already 2 dealbreakers right there. Edit: glad you blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Things LVM do =/IKR? Also with meet ups straight out of work. There's a big fat chance that your meeting or appointment is running late. What's wrong with factoring that in and having a nice drink at the bar while he waits in case they're off earlier than they expected. Men with good jobs are normally good with time management when it matters to them, I expect them to think of these things during their time off too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:34 PM |
| 210 | My ex posted this on Reddit. I blocked him here as well now.Why do cheaters always do this?! Are they all emotionally stunted raging narcissists with no sense of accountability? Sometimes it almost seems like they believe it themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:29 PM |
| 2 | LVM encouraging LVMA lot of men who don't take care of their nails.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:23 PM |
| 6 | I was feeling lonely... So I got out and got me some flowers.I'm glad that you treated yourself with these beautiful flowers. They always make me happy. I had some flowers and a tiny happy garland delivered to my mom's yesterday. She's newly widowed and had to change a lot in her life the past 11 months. They made her happy too. It's the small things that sometimes can bring a lot of joy to our lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:19 PM |
| 3 | This has to be a joke, can’t believe this is real 😂😂😂Hahahaha. So true. When I read 'Gamer Boyfriend' I was expecting the worst. Sad to say that my suspicion was 100% confirmed. This man very obviously doesn't take care of himself. If you can't do basic stuff like that, you can't be a good partner either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:15 PM |
| 8 | Good morning FDSMake it 2 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:10 PM |
| 29 | Scrotes be like: Don’t come back when you hit the wall 😏🤪 Asian Grannies: bitch where is the wall?They're amazing, I love the energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:08 PM |
| 28 | we literally can’t even sleep in peace...All these rapey men need to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:07 PM |
| 31 | Lady posts HER side of the story, reveals that BF made a reddit post where he lied about her cheating, leaving out the parts where HE cheated first... She reveals what we already know: Women who cheat on their S/O typically do so because the S/O cheated first. Why be faithful to a cheater?You're right. I read a lot of the stories on Relationship Advice, and when I see these men who victimize themselves I always, 100% call bullshit. But not everyone would look at it that way and I tend to forget sometimes. My (now ex) fiance cheated on me with his ex, during a very hard time in my life with on top of that a bereavement. I dumped him and had a rebound 3 months later and he was very dramatic, acting like a wronged man. He especially dragged out the fact that it was my very fit 8 yea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:59 PM |
| 118 | Lady posts HER side of the story, reveals that BF made a reddit post where he lied about her cheating, leaving out the parts where HE cheated first... She reveals what we already know: Women who cheat on their S/O typically do so because the S/O cheated first. Why be faithful to a cheater?She needs to walk away from that dumpster fire ASAP instead of being on Reddit trying to convince strangers of her part of the story. I never cared about ‘my side of the story’ especially not with strangers. I cared about getting the fck out of there and she should too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Things LVM do =/I’m glad you didn’t! 30 minutes is outrageous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Things LVM do =/I was indeed thinking of traffic or public transport when I said indirectly. I’m always on time. When I relied on public transport I always took one train or bus earlier. I’d rather wait 30 minutes before an appointment or event than being 5 minutes late. Now I have a car and also add 30 minutes (or more at rush hour) to my ETA. It’s not hard. Most LVM who are late with family, friends and their SO’s are always on time when it comes to a sports event or online gaming rally or whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:40 PM |
| 11 | Quick reminder that N/LVM are always targeting women with unresolved trauma or insecurities. Don’t give them any ammunition or reason to prey upon you.Yes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:37 PM |
| 33 | Quick reminder that N/LVM are always targeting women with unresolved trauma or insecurities. Don’t give them any ammunition or reason to prey upon you.I think she has her real age in her bio (27), but it's still pervy AF that tons of 50-70 year olds try to date her. Edit: Also, it shows ho LV these men all are. Did you see the post where she asked all the dads she matched with the question 'If you have to choose, would you rather spend a day with me or with your daughter?'. They ALL chose here. I was so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:36 PM |
| 28 | I literally got downvoted and told not to kinkshame because i said i never had rape fantasies. (:(:It was the same for me, but I experienced it when I was younger and was again assaulted when I was in my early twenties. When I grew older, my preferences in bed changed and I got more 'selfish' aka wanted to have a good time too. Last year, after a lot of work, EMDR and CBT all of my 'kink's magically disappeared like snow in the sun. I heard it from more women and it's really telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:33 PM |
| 170 | Guy treats his GF like shit because he thought she’d never leave. She leaves him and is gone for good. THIS IS A DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN!'I kEpT uSiNg LoGiC' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:22 PM |
| 59 | Quick reminder that N/LVM are always targeting women with unresolved trauma or insecurities. Don’t give them any ammunition or reason to prey upon you.We can read it everywhere on Reddit: guys dumping their girlfriends, fiancees and wives because they think differently about her after learning her n-count, or worse, after learning that she has been sexually abused in her past. Yes, in a perfect world we should be able to share our insecurities, trauma or n-count with our SO. We unfortunately do not live in such a world and should always be very careful and selective with the information we share. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:18 AM |
| 129 | Cooking for a game addict hubby and a child 24/7 and never get to have a meal together...what a poor pickme! Nobody can save herI can’t wrap my head around it. Why would you want to do that? And flaunt his disrespect online to top it off. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:53 AM |
| 225 | I literally got downvoted and told not to kinkshame because i said i never had rape fantasies. (:(:62% of women who participated in that survey have unresolved trauma. There, fixed it for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:08 AM |
| 58 | Women Are Being Trained by Porn to Like Degrading, Violent, Male-centered SexHave you had enough water today?!?!" TF did I just read? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:01 AM |
| 149 | HVM Noam Chomsky 👌🏻This is very well put. I saved immediately. He rightfully called it out for what it is: a problem. Instead of defending the degradation of women, they should seek help if this is the only way for them to get off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:48 AM |
| 9 | Things LVM do =/Don't wait for a man. Only if he notified me beforehand and it's 100% not his fault I'll stay maybe 15 minutes but if it's longer than that he'd better reschedule. If it is somehow his fault, even indirectly, he isn't for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:18 AM |
| 25 | Excuses so common we’ve all heard them.Uberman 40 project I'm dying. Is he even aware of the very unfortunate choice of words? Whats up with all the 30+ guys wanting to be a DJ all of a sudden? It's kind of pathetic. Also, block him. He shouldn't be talking to you about anything. You don't need that negative energy in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:15 AM |
| 58 | Learned This the Hard Way!A HVM won't 'act right'. He will be right. And it won't be something that he 'needs to start doing', but it will be an intrinsic part of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:07 AM |
| 50 | If you have to fake orgasms for the guy your with he’s not the one! Don’t clown yourself.Even if you're faking an orgasm once, you're doing a huge disservice to yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:03 AM |
| 115 | HVM love FDSYeah, seriously even a lot of LVM I know still agree with 90% of the handbook. Most of my FDS mindset before I found Reddit actually came from HVM in my life, not necessarily women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:01 AM |
| 18 | Dear FDS please stop using the phrase: "Going Dutch".I'm from the Netherlands too. It's a universal turn of phrase and has nothing to do with racism. Don't take it too seriously. And to be fair, the Dutch are famous for being stingy and splitting the bill. Even with family members sometimes! We hebben zelfs apps zoals Tikkie. Dit zou in veel andere landen ondenkbaar zijn. Edit: Also, yes a lot of guys paid for me on the first couple of dates. But it is really normal in our culture that a girl chips in with drinks or a movie ticket and it's 50/50 a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:45 AM |
| 6 | Has anyone else ever tried to warn their ex’s new partner?I didn't warn the new girlfriend, because I don't think most women will believe you. I know it works best if you figure it out on your own. My ex fiance always told me his ex was a stuck up lunatic with a big ego (she is an international model). When we saw an interview with her on the national tv I told him that she actually seemed like a normal person and even kind of nice. He was really dismissive of that and called her names and I totally missed that red flag. He ended up cheating on me with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:33 AM |
| 34 | Indian scrote asks advice to stalk and harrasss an accomplished surgeon, for a 'coffee date'. Doesn't believe in rejection or consent.Men like this should be required to take a state mandated course on consent and dating. He calls her a 'girl' to make himself feel good. She's a surgeon and probably way out of his league. He's so, so delusional. Can we also talk about how he mentions a coffee date?! Like, he's literally pulling creepy serial killer stalker moves and puts a lot of energy in meeting this 'girl' and then he only wants to take her on a coffee date?! I can't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:58 AM |
| 86 | Don’t Let Men Dictate Your Life DecisionsIt's exactly the same for me. I can't believe the amount of men who try to 'change my mind' tho. It's gotten to the point that I don't talk with anyone about the subject. Had to cut off a HVM because he wanted children, a shame but I feel this is a legitimate dealbreaker. Too many women who (secretly) want to be childfree give in to their so's wishes. It's not worth it. And you're right about them being able to change their tune overnight. Not going to be me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:47 AM |
| 19 | This is just so gross! But what's worse is the number of women in the comment section saying they will do this!And it’s like, on a random ugly street too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:56 PM |
| 19 | When the trash takes itself outOh, it does occur to them. But it's not even about the money or the activity. She told him she's used to proper dates, so he knows she's too 'high maintenance' for him. Even if he would take her on a free gallery hopping date with a cheap lunch after, that he probably could afford, there would be nothing in it for him. They are looking for a free shag. And if the woman is actually accepting his N/LVM behaviour he might stick around longer to see if she wants to be his bangmaid forever girlfriend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:34 PM |
| 32 | NVM begging for nudes even though we lived 15 minutes away from each other 🤡I dated HVM, MVM and N/LVM and I can tell you that not a single HVM or even Medium Value Man asked for nudes. I think it takes a special breed of N/LVM to have this kind of audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:39 PM |
| 11 | Spread the word lurkers. We know what's upThis is so true. Your boyfriend could stand right next to you and they will still hit on you. I was eating an ice cream on the patio of a restaurant with my (then) boyfriend a couple of years ago. A guy seriously came up to me and asked my number. My boyfriend asked him who he thought he was and the guy was like 'Idk, her brother?'. Also declined a different guy on vacation when my boyfriend wasn't present. Told him I was taken and the guy deadass replied with an 'I'm not jealous'. These guys ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:26 PM |
| 17 | “Omg it wasn’t even me!” No surprises here but thought it might entertain you all.Next time just block. This is a waste of your precious energy. But seriously, did you notice the total change in the tone of voice after he found out that she wasn't having any of it? He started out like an idiot with very short sentences, 'lol' and x's after every message. Like there's something seriously wrong with him, what adult man writes like that?! When he discovered he wouldn't get any from her, he suddenly could type a very long aggressive message in which he tried to dodge the blame en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:20 PM |
| 72 | Men who don't pay on dates are insecure, not just cheapThis topic came up with my little brother a few weeks back. We were talking about finances and how our parents were really bad with them and how we never saved and now want to start doing that. He's working full time in a starter job and doing his bachelors in the evening hours which he pays for himself so he doesn't have a lot of money. One of his bigger expenses was his friend with benefits. I found out that my little brother not only pays for the first couple of dates, but also every date the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:55 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on dating younger men? Current thoughts: they always want someone younger and it puts you at risk of waiting for him to grow up/supporting him/always unsure if he is secretly pining for a younger woman...Change my mind.I had a 25 year old rebound. He was my personal trainer and really chased me. He seemed very mature for his age and he kinda was in some ways. He wanted something serious and he wasn't the partying type. He could be insecure at times and he was still building, only recently started his career and working parttime so I felt like the man in the 'relationship'. To be fair, nowadays, a lot of men my age (33) are probably the same so I don't know if it's an age thing or just a L/MVM thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:34 PM |
| 86 | This tweet sums up nicely why bending over backwards to please men, exhibiting PickMe behaviour and tolerating LV behaviour never pays off.This is such a good quote. And not only useful for relationships but also applicable to friendships and family members. Also, even if they do 'appreciate it'. Do they really? Do they value you and are they thankful for having such an amazing person in their life? Or do they think that you ought to love them this way. Is the bending over backwards expected? And do they criticize you when you're not doing it well enough? There's a difference between expecting something and being appreciative. Some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:26 PM |
| 5 | Chadwick Boseman took a pay cut for 21 Bridges so Sienna Miller could be paid fairly. How a man treats people, especially women, who do nothing for him says a lot about his character.That was my first thought too. I guess it's an European + 80/90's kids thing? I watched Black Panther and I loved it. It was the first time I heard about him though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:20 PM |
| 24 | Instant swipe-left triggers for OLDAny bio where a guy doesn’t tell something about himself, but uses the bio to tell us about his requirements for a woman 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:38 AM |
| 41 | A year after the breakupIt’s so, so hard in the beginning. And extremely sad. And that’s okay. It shows that you took the time to process your emotions and grieved. But you did all the right things and the work of mentally and emotionally levelling up. Being single now is the best feeling isn’t it? Never let any N/LVM take this away from you. Only HVM allowed who will add to our happiness! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:30 AM |
| 71 | Cardi B Says She Left Offset Because She Didn't Want to “Wait Until He Cheated on Me Again”I’m glad she left him. She needs FDS in her life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:26 PM |
| 38 | Ladies, if you use OLD please have a second, fake profile in addition to your real one.This is really clever. I actually did the opposite on OLD. I made myself seem more boring, high maintenance and prudish than I actually am and weeded all the hookup guy out because they just knew from my profile they wouldn’t get any on the first (couple of) dates. But with this you actually even filter out the men who go for a HV women for a relationship, but have no problem with a nasty hookup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 06:35 AM |
| 21 | Aussie scrote loses his job after sending vile & abusive messages to Tinder matchesQuick question: why do they use parentheses for ‘creep’ and ‘vile’? Is this the news or what? 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:50 AM |
| 43 | More “helpful” sex advice from mainstream media. Someone needs to explain to me why we bother with men then.I can get myself off when I want to, but it’s different than having sex/making love. I do have the same rule for sex with a guy as I have for relationships: if it’s not a group effort there’s no use for it at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:35 PM |
| 7 | "Let them slide once, and they'll start figure skating"You’re no extremist at all. This is advice that we all should follow. And I’m glad that so many ladies here already do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:28 PM |
| 18 | This is just sad. He clearly doesn’t respect her at all.She’s gaslighting herself with that. Or heard it somewhere. But I can’t imagine how looking at a phone if you suspect something should be haram. What he’s looking at on TikTok on the other hand... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:24 PM |
| 19 | I’m dying....Dude really thinks a lesbian wants to have a threesome with him, lesbian tricks him into just letting her bang the girlfriend insteadI know a few men who had a threesome when they were in a relationship. They all confessed that they knew by that time that they weren’t going to grow old together. One even said, ‘I knew it was almost coming to an end, so I risked proposing it. Better to go out with a bang’. Men who love their girlfriends and want to grow old with them for better or worse don’t want or need a threesome of any kind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:12 PM |
| 1 | BIRTHDAY MEGATHREAD! HAPPY 100K BIRTHDAY FDS!🎂 IN CELEBRATION PLEASE POST ONE WAY THAT FDS CHANGED YOU AND YOUR LIFE. KEEP LEVELLING UP QUEENS🥂🥂🥂🥂🍾🍾🍾🍾FDS was a reminder of what my real needs and priorities are. After 17 years of LTR’s, I’m finally able to admit that I don’t want to have kids and only want a relationship with a HVM or I’d rather be single. At 33, I love being single and childfree and don’t feel the guilt or shame anymore. I even rejected a (very rich) HVM that I know for years and really like, but he wants kids. Without FDS, I would convince myself that I would be stupid to reject him. He’s amazing and can provide a really goo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 07:40 AM |
| 14 | Confession from a self described "Daddy Dom" when I criticized his kinkSo basically he’s a predator who’s looking for young women with unresolved trauma. Glad we cleared that up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 07:24 AM |
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