I decided to give OLD a shot since all of my in-person groups and activities are dominated by women. I solely use Hinge (loving it so far) and Bumble, which is where I met 36-year-old Joe. (A pseudonym, of course.)

Joe seemed like a sweetheart, and he was just my type: a chubby, blue collar worker with a kind smile. While we were talking, he kept pointing out how he was a "sad romantic" who loved "feminine women" and liked to give women flowers on their dates. Well, I'm pretty feminine and I love flowers, so although it seemed a little put-on, I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt since I had no evidence of wrongdoing.

Eventually he asks me if I'd like to text. I say sure and ask for his phone number. I then run it into a people search site to make sure he is who he says he is. I verified his identity and made sure he wasn't married. Everything seemed great!

Then I looked him up on Facebook and saw he had posted a ton of pornographic memes. Just a lot of reaction images from porn actresses. It felt so icky, and I thought, "You portray yourself as someone who respects women, yet you watch porn and make tacky memes of the actresses. For all you know, this woman could have been trafficked or coerced into being in these videos."

Even worse, I noticed that within the first hour he and I had started texting, he had written a post about meeting a young woman and how much he looked forward to making her squeal.

I was DISGUSTED. I told him I was going to unmatch him for that and blocked as soon as I saw him typing back. It felt pretty rewarding to know I didn't waste my time talking on the phone with a disgusting pervert. My old pickme self would have given him the chance to explain himself. I wanted him to know I saw right through his "Aw shucks" facade to see the creep within.

TL;DR - People search sites are your friend. Use a guy's number to get his full name and more contact information and see how he behaves on social media. You might get a nasty surprise that rips his "nice guy" mask off.