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18

I’m single and almost ready to mingle. If I was approached now, hell yeah I’m down. But I’m not on OLD at the moment or actively attending any kind of meet ups or events. It’s still winter and I’m a hibernating creature as are activities I like I’m still doing some more healing and properly closing the paperwork of a previous relationship I’m excited, I plan to be good at dating this time around. I’ve applied FDS to the other areas of my life with moderate to great success over the last couple y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 01:00 PM
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Yep yep. Except the meth part lol. It doesn’t mean meth where I live. Coke, MDMA. I don’t know people who casually party on meth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:42 PM
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It can be code for drugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:25 PM
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Yes it’s common for the school friends to stay friends. I moved across the country after school so I could work. Didnt have anybody to keep in touch with anyways lol. I attend networking in my new industry (it’s a WIP) but I’m a decade+ younger than the cliquey old people attending and I’m in my 30s lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 08:25 PM
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Unfortunately one way is remembering that those good times I can recall with people (family, ex partners) were significantly outweighed by the bad times. I have to remember that I miss an idealized version of reality, not the past. I’d rather be alone than take the suffering that went with that version of happiness. Seeing as these are common feelings, I think we need to find more ways to connect with other people IRL so that we can build the positive connections we want with other women. Where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 08:13 PM
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Thanks this is the words I should have used. The default is female is what I meant. It was early and I make bad choices at 6am lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:21 PM
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Ugh thank you. This is what I was talking about but I didn’t google at 6am (I should have known better).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:19 PM
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I don’t think that’s making the first move, or approaching anyone. You hit the point exactly though, she has to invite the attention from him in the first place if she wants it. I guess I assumed making yourself approachable was a given and she was either already doing it or would if she decided she wanted a work relationship. Your idea is better, laying it out as a separate behaviour. It’s something we should remain mindful of and it’s a very deliberate way to act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:17 PM
15

I wouldn’t risk it within the same company/building. But if he was interested in you, wouldn’t he approach?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:37 PM
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Can someone smarter than me explain why I’m wrong: If we are all female first during conception, why would the male orgasm exist before the female orgasm? Maybe it’s a chicken or the egg question…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:36 PM
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I’m not victim blaming, she was fucking assaulted, but this is why FDS preaches against: 🚩 coffee date 🚩 alone with a strange man 🚩 getting in his car This poor girl, she kind of sounds like she feels at fault for saying no to his advances ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 11:13 PM
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She needs to know what she’s specifically, legally allowed to do in her situation and area. Or know well enough to be willing to take the risk. Lawyers cost money. She needs to separate and evict though. Like isolate herself in the household. Lock up her personal purchases or remove them from the property before she tells him. Hide the expensive kitchen appliances she paid for and the electronics she bought from him. Remove the opportunity for him to take things she bought and she owns. Because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:12 PM
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If he’s into you, isn’t that the perfect opportunity for him to insert himself in your life? He can instantly plan a date or a future date. So he’s either not into you, or stupid. Stupid because of the missed opportunity to improve your relationship in a most positive way - activity together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:05 PM
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Have you searched your own real number? Just out of curiosity. I hope I leave no trail…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 12:55 PM
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You had a man in your house and were taking about your sexual preferences on the third date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:01 PM
19

I’ve said this “you’re a saint” What I mean is you’re a doormat 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 11:33 PM
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He’s bad at texting you. He paragraphs his buddies all the time but more than 6 words strung together by you is too many to handle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:24 PM
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I stopped during the whole who will he pick thing. It was annoying to hear them argue about how the couple shouldn’t stay together or whatever. I suppose anybody who goes on reality TV with an ultimatum about marriage is bound to be a disaster though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 12:21 AM
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I half watched a couple episodes, it seemed pretty bad. I couldn’t get over the one guy going on about how he could convince the childfree woman I have his babies. Then she agreed with him!! I turned it off and read a book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:12 PM
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“Fuck you, my tits are fantastic” is my attitude now. You’re absolutely right, take away their power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 11:33 PM
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Remember that people are stupid too. Soooo many people don’t understand the difference between personal devices and business devices. Watching porn at work. The IT team laughs about how nasty some men are and how stupid on monitored devices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 12:58 PM
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I hope it works out, if he does something inexcusable and blatant in writing it will be easier. It’s tough when the old boy’s club is in the mix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 12:48 PM
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How long have you been at your job? Would he be protected? Maybe he’s confident because he knows the company will support him, or get rid of you if you complain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 12:44 PM
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People can have whatever food hang ups they want. I have a bunch of issues with food. The difference is I’m a grown ass woman and I take responsibility for myself. I pick out the topping I don’t like myself. I cook and prep food for myself. Ya’ll are talking about treating your man like a child. I don’t care if he eats the peas in his fried rice, but I’m sure AF not picking them out for him, or telling the waiter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 07:29 PM
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One big difference is superhero culture is made by men for men. Women’s cultural influences are also made by men for men. It’s not really the same thing, if men didn’t want to consume that media then they shouldn’t create it. I guess my point is that I don’t consider men victims in this situation. They have all the control, it’s men hurting other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 07:20 PM
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In a different lifetime, I would have been a wonderful mother. I can’t get over what is expected of us now. Manage the whole household, do everything for kids/pets/family on both sides. Do everything for your husband. Work full time, pay half the bills, plus all the groceries and everything else that makes life comfortable. Also stay fit, slim, pretty and high maintenance. All without time to shower alone or take a shit in peace. A modern relationship is hell without destroying my health with ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 01:07 PM
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This is incredibly subtle but also really damaging. You’ll stop finding joy in all kinds of things. Food, decor, hobbies. Even if somebody tells me something stupid they’re happy about, my external response is somehow positive because I’m not an asshole. If I can stay positive when a coworker seeks praise for the equivalency of putting their pants on right the first time, a man can stay positive when you’re sharing a genuine accomplishment 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:15 PM
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I think it’s shitty that they had to validate the accuracy of your advance with a man 🙄 why should you help draft those emails? They must have equally qualified husbands if they need to check that your advice is good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:03 AM
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I don’t think it’s funny, from any perspective. Didn’t sound like the audience thought it was that funny either. If this is the content he saves as a favourite item, that’s a reflection of him. This is what’s worthy of hanging on too. Unfunny comments about how ugly the women he’s surrounded by are, and how a man will leave his wife as soon as he’s rich. That’s what your boyfriend values as shareable or something that brought him enough joy to watch again and again. Or I’m reading too much into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:23 PM
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I think a PR rep had him post this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:14 AM
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Is she even saying anything other than disagreeing with the statement? I couldn’t hear any substance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 09:58 PM
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Oh look, slavery is making a comeback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:40 PM
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Hah. Attention and respect are two different things. She’s getting attention, that’s it. Do you know what they’re saying about her when women aren’t around? I’d rather be the frigid bitch of the office. You’re new, but everyone else has been told she’s fucking this guy or that guy. And no woman will defend her either because she’s such a massive bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:36 PM
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Bimbo and bimboificaton (the process of turning someone into a bimbo) is a fetish. Ya’ll just got tricked into feeding their gross, controlling fetish. You’re making fap material, not empowering women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:27 PM
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Try looking at dating to married ratio. Dated for 6 years, married for 1 year, divorced…wtf happened? Dates for 2 years, married for 5 years, divorced…maybe they just grew up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:20 PM
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“Fuck you and your one vasectomy.” Said by me, to a man who was whining about how horrible his little vasectomy was. And how other men bragged about going back to work after and made him feel bad that he took a few days off. But not from sex, just work. I hate this article ”Men are less willing to take a birth control pill that has significant side effects” it makes me ridiculously angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:47 PM
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People forget how digital media works…it’s not controllable. That’s how pirating is an unstoppable beast. The DCMA process can’t actually work, it’s impossible. You have infinite copies and complete anonymity. At best you play whack a mole forever…once it’s on the internet, it’s out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:43 PM
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Hell yeah. That’s a delicious meal. Packing a bowl is 30 seconds or less of effort. It’s like saying “I hung up my coat!” Emptying the dishwasher would be a more welcome gesture lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:30 AM
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I thought his comment was nice to see as well. I love it when men call out other men on their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:03 AM
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She was elaborately set up… He planted the ties ahead of time, he wanted to get caught by Mark and trick the GF. He probably roofied her too, and hasn’t admitted to it yet. She was 23! So young…who ever expects either their boyfriend or best friend to plan an elaborate rape scene! It was traumatizing when it was a crime of opportunity, it’s double traumatizing when the truth comes out. She’s being too hard on herself, how horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:54 PM
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I saw days ago that somebody posted how their toddler ruined their pallet and then a few days after they posted again to show off the gift box sent by the brand with a replacement pallet and freebies etc. The OOP could be fake for that reason 🤷‍♀️ trying to get free stuff from the makeup brands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:43 AM
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Couple things: Stop putting the new woman on a pedestal. Men like that don’t change…ok so he used you for your 18-23yo body. He’s using Ms. 30-35 year old for her money, her womb, her career and connections, how she looks to his work, her house, something. She’s still another tool for him to use in some way. Misogynists don’t suddenly evolve respect for women when they hit 30, they just have different uses for us. Get angry. Get mad. Let that fuel you and motivate you, instead of sad. What exact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:30 AM
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I recently ended a relationship with a greater than 10 year age gap. We were together over 5 years, I’m the younger partner and now about your age. I would not recommend it. Everything you want to do, he’s already done it. He’s got a dozen years more baggage, but everything is your fault because you’re immature. He likes that you’re younger than him, but doesn’t like anything else about you being younger. Your taste in anything is inferior, because 80s was peak culture and the last 20 years don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 07:06 PM
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“18 year old woman” per the news. Assailants were 16 and 17
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:53 PM
18

Your work schedule like likely damaging your social life a lot :( Is that a forever plan or temporary?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 07:49 PM
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I have a super good idea of why his wife sounds depressed just from his own post. And thats only what he admitted too, poor lady :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 12:37 PM
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It sounds like you have to work with him consistently like a team mate. Especially if he’s constantly in situations where he has the opportunity to report on you or damage your work or something. Sabotage you. Can you talk to your manager about finding a way to create distance between you and this guy? Move to a different team or dock or something? Could you take on training a new person or somehow use an excuse for a transfer or shuffling of assignments? You can’t quit, you need to keep your ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:56 PM
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Half the shit isn’t even “wrong”. There’s more than one way to cut a pepper properly. There’s more than one correct dishwasher configuration. It’s exhausting. And then you’re blamed for when he deviates from his own crazy plans! It’s torture. Some of it literal torture like sleep deprivation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:15 PM
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Cops aren’t as bad in my country. Still ACAB. If you aren’t safe from the police smashing down your door, who are you safe from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:03 PM
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There’s so much about this case that doesn’t make any sense, and unfortunately we will probably never understand. How does she get shot 6 times and the man who fired on police doesn’t get hit once out of 32 shots? Why do the police have such bad aim? I hit my target a lot more often than them and I don’t own a gun. All the “draft” legal attempts at retroactively making an excuse to gun her down?? It’s only a draft because they’re seeing what they can make stick. I’m glad I’m not American 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:37 PM
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This is bad advice. Don’t get me wrong, I used to think it was perfect!! And then you meet a man who wants you to be depraved like that with him. Trust me, this can backfire with the wrong man. It’s better to just set firm boundaries, don’t play games. Unless you want to fist a man, cause there are guys who would love you to make that offer to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 06:21 PM
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Get out of my head please You know exactly what’s up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:59 PM
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Get out of my head please You know exactly what’s up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:59 PM
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How tragic. Constant criticism wears at your soul, I recommend a zero tolerance policy. It’s the kind of constant stress that leads to health problems, like this lady is having. Anxiety, messing with your heart and blood pressure, sick to your stomach, lose your hair, not sleeping or eating healthy. It will kill you slowly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:13 PM
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Just set a safe word that your “sub” can’t remember entirely or pronounce properly. Then when they say it, he can laugh and tell them “that’s not your safe word 😌” and keep doing what he’s doing. Go ahead, ask me how I know. “You should have used your safe word” Fuck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:08 PM
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All I know is I wasted the last decade of my life on men with “potential”. If you aren’t happy now, why would you be a year from now? He won’t change nobody ever really does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 09:30 PM
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I stoped reading, wasn’t worth my time. And it’s certainly not worth yours. Best case scenario is what, you bully him into actually finding a job in Germany? He magically manages to get through the VISA process on his own and moves to Germany and gets an apartment. 3 years from now you could move in together, he could yell at you while he goes clubbing with his friends. You can arrange his whole life because I’m sure he hasn’t learned enough German to manage the red tape of adulthood by this poi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 08:43 PM
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I’ll excuse my self by saying I was suggesting search terms a man might use if pornography was about healthy sexual interest. As long as we have been scratching in the dirt we’ve probably been making pornography in some fashion. The different between that and modern times is art doesn’t require harm and consent is all from the creator. If pornography was about intimacy and healthy sex, the issues we have with it might not exist. We can’t have an honest conversation with people who are against po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 07:23 PM
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Thanks for the concrete examples and details, much appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 04:53 PM
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If pornography was about sex, healthy sex, wouldn’t the top search items be things like: “big boobs” or “doggy style”, “shower time”… Instead top search terms are things like “Ukrainian girl”, incest, BDSM….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 01:42 PM
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There are some subs that ban openly based on your participation in unrelated subs. There is no free speech here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:15 PM
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Fictional: Dr. Julia Ogden of Murdoch Mysteries This is a Canadian show 🇨🇦 based in Toronto through the turn of the century, 1900s. Dr. Ogden starts as a bad ass medical coronor and her character pretty much just improves from there lol. I don’t want to spoil anything but some hints: suffragettes, womens medical college, womens asylums, “sequential killers”, her first protégé is a woman, and her second is a black woman. The show is a little silly and everything has a wholesome veneer to it. They…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:23 PM
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I’m having trouble connecting your first post with this one. You don’t mention any of the positive things you discussed first in this one, and if anything contradict your first post frequently?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:15 PM
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Then why do you keep bringing it up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:26 AM
13

So a 2” dick can stimulate the g-spot vaginally but he can’t without going in via your anus?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:14 AM
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🤢 anal is smelly for the fucker. There will be poop and poop mucus at some point. It’s so gross. And I’m sure your sentiment is correct. Or he will get mad at a woman for not flushing out her insides first. Or go straight A to V to punish her (with an infection). Period blood is….way, way, way better. And cleaner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:16 AM
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I don’t understand the physical appeal of anal sex to straight men. Gross warning: >! The sphincter is like a vicious death grip leading to a squishy void. What feels good about that? How is it superior to the feel of a vagina? Strangling 1/2” of death grip vs a full penis size hug. !< I don’t judge people for trying things, unfortunately anal sex has become a huge part of our current culture and I understand the desire to see what all the fuss is about. I’ll never date anyone who likes it thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:46 AM
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If they wanted to, they would. If they wanted women dying in wars, we would be called up with the men. But that’s bad for future wars. Fuck. Stop letting people blame women for men’s decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:18 AM
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Men were the ones who decided “women and children first” Men wrote the draft, where only men are called up Men wrote the laws that prevent women from joining militaries Men assault/rape/murder the women they do allow into the army (LaVena Johnson is a heartbreaking example) Sorry, what were we talking about again? How women ruin men’s lives by checks notes protecting the children and staying alive to rebuild your fighting force and population? ✌️ without women to birth more cannon fodder, the ru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:23 AM
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Politics is such a challenging subject. I have radical political views, when do I express them? I usually don’t at all, I hide them. I worry if I share my views, he will just parrot them back to me. If I don’t share my views, how do I figure out if his politics are acceptable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:59 PM
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You can’t be a feminist and expect to be treated as a woman at the same time. Feminism to him must be a libfem definition, 50/50, cool girlfriend, pickme energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:28 PM
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Honestly, actually pegging a guy isn’t fun either. It’s a novelty, but it’s so much fucking work 🙄 if you fuck them like men fuck you, they’ll cry. Seriously. If you treat a man sexually like men treat women sexually, they don’t like it. Plus it’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:22 PM
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Men will fuck anything. Animals, inanimate objects, socks. Anything. You really think the width of your nose is what’s stopping them? You have to change your way of thinking, there’s no proof it’s a deficiency in you that’s the problem. Maybe you’re not pretty enough. Or maybe you’re not submissive enough, or he doesn’t think you’re easy enough in bed. Maybe you’re too classy or too prim. Men cheat on and abuse women like Beyoncé and Rihanna. I’m not that rich, that famous, that talented, or tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:55 PM
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I didn’t used to be, it was either get stronger or be dead. He was viciously abusive emotionally to where I got to my breaking point. When I survived that and started to get healthier mentally while with him, he started really going after me physically instead. I left before he was able to break any of my bones. I decided I’d rather try living some more than being dead, so I had to be stronger. I’ll never be a victim again, I am ruthless and I will hoard my joy. That’s my mantra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:45 PM
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It’s tough. I have no family ties, few friends (zero long term), and just escaped an abusive (and isolating) relationship that took the second half of my 20s+. I feel you. I’m not dating yet, but feel just about ready. I figure my only shot involves extending my social network and making connections with people. I’m good people, if I hang out with good people I’ll meet others and perhaps find a romantic partner within these spheres. It sounds stupid, but I’m reading lots of self help books and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:32 PM
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I think it may have been replying to a comment that spoke against 3rd wave and against women in the workplace. But I’m guessing, he’s a poor communicator either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:11 PM
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The only rights women have were given to them by the male government. Women have no power because we have no inherent value or power, only what is provided to us by men. If they took away our rights (to work, vote, be treated as humans) we would have nothing. So spread your legs woman, you’re good for nothing else. There, translated his misogyny for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:56 PM
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Hahaha one of my least graceful moments involved a pimple/ingrown hair on my ass I couldn’t see or reach lmao and a boyfriend who had to help me. Thank god he was a clean man 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:47 PM
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Pre-25, sure. We all made mistakes. Does he feel remorse? Does he repeat this mistakes? Were those his glory days or a topic he avoids out of embarrassment? I don’t know if you can ever fix misogyny, but there’s lots of behaviours that can be left behind as you mature. I like to switch it around “if I did that, would I deserve forgiveness? Would I be trustworthy now?” My own actions are a higher bar than most men so it works ok as a starting point lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:56 PM
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Always. Same thing with male PMS, they always co-opt our very personal experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:43 PM
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🤷‍♀️ dunno I leave people behind in life pretty easily. I’ve been stalked by an ex, and men certainly come crying around for a second chance but I don’t allow prolonged contact, block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:42 PM
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Yep. Been through some interesting times. Dealt with racist parents, mamas boys, MIL accusing me of cheating and making up stories about where she had seen me. Mothers don’t like me usually lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:41 PM
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I talk about the thing I want to talk about without mentioning the ex. “I spent some time there a few years ago” doesn’t matter it was on vacation with an ex. “Last concert I went to was X” with an ex lol. Just be vague and mysterious lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 07:38 AM
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I’ve dated lots of men who listened to their families above their own judgement. 0/10 would not recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 07:35 AM
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I like men, I enjoy male company, I like being friends with men. Most struggle with it though, unfortunately. I do have one new male friend, if I had expressed interest in him sexually he would have approached me that way I am positive of it. I won’t take offence, I’m awesome. However it was clearly established as a friendship and it has been nice and entirely platonic since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 07:32 AM
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This sounds like a sloppy, unprofessional workplace overall. They need a culture change, which won’t happen. Just keep looking for another job. In the mean time, report anything worth risking your job over I suppose. Find something you can sue them for and get a severance to finance your job hunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 06:31 AM
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I think this is true, probably. Reflecting back the physical attraction did always die first and being affectionate becomes a “chore”. I suppose it makes sense if you consider the inverse true as well. That loving someone makes them more attractive to you. I know I find people less physically attractive once I know they have unpleasant personalities. And kind people become more attractive over time despite. I believe it works both ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 06:24 AM
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This is an excellent example of why language is so important. You are 💯 entirely correctly. And I appreciate you bringing this to our attention. I will be correcting people about this from now on. I’ve been a heavily depressed person, and I’ve gone through the hormonal swings of a miscarriage. They are not the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 06:17 AM
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My OBGYN doctor has posters up for breastfeeding support groups and it says explicitly on there several times it’s for mothers, babies and female support persons only. Sad that it has to be stated so dramatically that random men can’t show up to watch women feed their babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:20 PM
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You’re 54, is it their causal way of digging into your finances and seeing if you’re wealthy/retired?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:06 PM
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“If he can’t handle me at my worst, he doesn’t deserve me at my best” I know people hate that quote, but I still apply it to the vagina lol. If you can’t handle her worst (ie buying tampons or pads, talking about bodily functions, taking care of me during PMS) you don’t deserve her at her best (sex, obviously lol). I guarantee you I’m going to have to clean up your bodily fluids at some point in our relationship, you can damn well handle mine with grace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:02 PM
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She’s funny and I love her bursts of laughter. If men treated me the way I treat them, I wouldn’t need to be here lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:38 PM
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It took me til slide 5 to realize it was all the exact same dude in the pictures lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:26 PM
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Not paying rent is how she lives like that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:28 PM
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I’ve been laughing all afternoon when I read everyone’s comments here. That wasn’t there earlier, but I reported the message as spam and blocked the user earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:57 AM
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I like #3 where he says he can’t even speak when attractive women are in his space lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:56 AM
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I legit laughed out loud. So I guess I can thank him for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:55 AM
9

😮‍💨 oh good you scared me there lol. Glad you got away safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:50 AM
9

I’m not letting men control me or who I speak to. That’s what block functions are for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:41 PM
14

I’ve reported some of those 😵‍💫 stupid. This one was too good not to share though lol. Like WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:04 PM
73

“Hi, we decided that you’re not old enough to drink alcohol or rent a car, but you are old enough for us to fuck your now”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:55 PM
33

I laughed out loud when I found his post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:04 PM
40

Speaking up isn’t popular, and hasn’t been. Context is everything too though, there’s a time and place to assert yourself. I remember the very first incident of cyber bullying in my school (it was via email it was so long ago!). Social media is a plague on society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:27 PM
81

🙌 love the energy This is just funny/sad though. This man would shit his pants before he got up the nerve to speak to a woman like me (or you!) in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:08 PM
152

😭 how will I ever recover??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:57 PM
42

There’s some kind of missing man-love projection going on too in my opinion. Sad ☹️ maybe he’s jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:52 PM
117

FDS has done so much good for my bonds with women. I’m grateful to be a part of such a strong group of ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:50 PM
194

😩 I don’t even have to be funny!! Am I being trolled?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:34 PM
203

I’d love to hear this to my face, except he’d freeze up and shut up if I was in the room 🙄 I’m so scared. This is why you can’t take men seriously, you can’t take their comments to heart. Look at the kind of person who is telling me I will never be loved by a man. It’s a fucking joke. Take all commentary from men as seriously as you take this 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:33 PM
161

I was never allowed to get angry as a girl, about anything and it seriously fucked me up long term. Be angry, we have a lot to be angry about. Don’t let it consume you but you have to accept and embrace the emotion. I’m starting to get past a lot of the anger now, but only because I have allowed myself to feel true rage. Stop letting all the little stuff slide, it’s not little. It’s misogyny. Those little things you feel mad about are bubbles rising to the top, evidence of real problems undernea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:41 PM
87

This isn’t fair at all and only supports the modern beauty industry. I’m not less of a woman because of how I dress or how much makeup I wear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:33 PM
32

Did you hand someone your phone so they could set up apps for you? That is a big safety no-no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:27 PM
13

Bad things happen to anybody. So many good people got unexpectedly laid off in the last few years (me included!) I would offer the same thing I expected. 1 day of comfort, and then I hit the pavement looking for a new job. I’ve been through this on both sides and it was like night and day. Anybody would deserve a bit of sad time to digest the bad information and process some grief. But there’s a big difference between taking a break and wallowing in self pity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:24 PM
5

Hahaha I know right? “Ooo a crystal egg? That could be pretty…” Eww lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:28 PM
41

He’s an asshole, and TikTok girl is an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:27 PM
46

This is a gender issue, not a race issue. I know white guys who hid their kids for years from their social circles, until they were banging baby mama again and suddenly they have children over 5. Like magic. The kids are only a factor in his life of he can leverage bedroom time with their mother. This might be more common in certain cultures, but any man is capable of this. Thank you for bringing light to this OP, it’s something we need to talk about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:52 PM
56

What’s up with him banging the threesome friend like an animal, and it sounds like OP is use to getting some unenthusiastic missionary? I’m inclined to agree with your assessment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:42 PM
7

She probably would have liked that better than the chocolates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:33 PM
5

He says in there that the gift was bought after Valentine’s Day. He didn’t get her a sex egg as a valentine gift, he got it as an apology gift. “Sorry I didn’t plan anything like I said I would, here’s an egg to tighten up your vagina for me. I’m sorry.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:25 PM
60

Think Twice Before Putting a Yoni Egg in Your Vagina - Cleveland Clinic Medical article to back up the PSA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:14 AM
13

Thanks 💜 it’s hard to read a big wall of text but I like to include everything I can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:46 AM
9

I left the top comment for that bit of info
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:43 AM
392

😱 that ending… Talk about being set up for success, he knew exactly what she wanted and literally made it worse than low effort. I particularly like the strong finish: a single flower in a (presumably) cheap and ugly heart shaped vase, and a sex toy. Oh, and she’s a brat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:40 AM
19

I won’t tell on a cheater I work with either to be honest, their drama isn’t worth my career. It’s not my problem, and I’m not going to risk my job for essential strangers. So I can’t blame this guy for not risking his future either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:06 AM
70

My coworkers don’t drop my by house lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:05 AM
36

I looked through the OP’s history and honestly don’t see anything to support the suggestion it’s fake. It appears to be a TA, she also posted on legal advice. Comes across to me as a genuine naive/sheltered 20 year old. 🤷‍♀️ I don’t think it is fake. Half of her stuff is not understanding that jail/holding doesn’t care about your innocence or guilt, they check everybody for drugs/weapons/etc. That’s not fake just lack of knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:09 PM
65

Apparently it was all in the phone call anyways, no text messages. Poor girl :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:03 PM
139

That only helps if the cops are willing to look at your text convo 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:34 PM
64

He doesn’t need you to find peace, that’s a personal problem. She was trying to be nice to him in the beginning and look what happened…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:40 PM
2

Oops, got caught up in the films lol. I still think your boyfriend is misogynistic 🙄 I won’t watch any of those movies again but none of them are worthy of ranting or whining years after release lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:38 PM
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I’ve seen everything but the last two on your list. Sorry, but they weren’t very good. There are other movies with female leads in recent years that were far superior. There’s nothing on there worth passionately complaining about, they’re just poorly written. Star Wars female lead is flat doesn’t go anywhere. But maybe she was supposed to be that blank female lead like Twilight, so the viewer can better imagine their self in her place. Lady ghostbusters was just stupid, but I don’t care for thos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:36 PM
433

This was horrifying!! To highlight, the revenge appears to be playing out months after the breakup. He trapped her, tricked her, and she was arrested for it. Protect yourself ladies, clearly going back to his house to pick up your belongings is not safe. I’m grateful to learn of this kind of hateful behaviour before it happened to me or a loved one. This never would have occurred to me as a risk even!! This is how men think. He set her up, he planned this out. His ex girlfriend breaking into his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:23 PM
4

Yes and your cake looks gorgeous. I will plan ahead and do something like that next year 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:34 AM
11

I gave my coworkers silly kids valentine cards with some candy 🥰 It made me very happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:08 AM
167

“Not aware” isn’t the same as men choosing to be ignorant, or pretending. It’s no secret how expensive/time consuming/physically damaging having children is. When there’s a woman to carry the burden it doesn’t matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:16 PM
86

I always figured whatever fuels racism fuels sexism. Hating people for their differences is kinda humanity’s thing 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:10 PM
53

Trust your gut. If you want to continue, move there on your own and live separate. I won’t live with someone I’m not engaged too again. I’ve done it a handful of times through my 20s and it’s done nothing but hurt me (especially financially).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:32 AM
94

I learned this lesson once. It was a few years before I saw him without a beard. He looked like his mother. I never recovered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:57 AM
13

That’s awful, I hope you are safe now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:01 AM
776

I love how he downplays it as “doesn’t like me staying up late” When really it’s that he employs sleep deprivation torture. Is loud, won’t let her sleep in another room, has company over, lights on, waking her up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:48 PM
216

This is accurate, some men love to start a fight and keep it going at night when you have work in the AM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:47 PM
2

The dad is the real villain here. The daughter needs help. She is only 16, and has clearly been conditioned to act this way. But it sounds like it’s been going on for many girlfriends worth of time, and nobody has stepped in. That’s very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:39 PM
22

You can find affection outside of men. That’s what you need to do. Learn to love yourself, treat yourself as good as or better than you treat your friends and partners. Build female bonds, easier said than done. But far more satisfying and genuine. Your family only needs to be what you want it to be. You are allowed to go no contact. You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:23 PM
2

It’s frustrating, sad, terrifying. It sounds like this is a repeated pattern in their lives and others (as a mutual friend is the one who spilled the beans about all the ex girlfriends they did this too) are aware of it. There must have been so many points over years where everyone surrounding the dad and daughter should have stepped in. We are only getting a snippet of a story from the victims perspective, and frankly reading it for entertainment value. The daughter very much needs help, she’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:18 PM
4

That’s the issue, it’s ridiculous and insane. I was unwell and sickly and all men care about is their dicks. You can’t take any of this shit to heart because it has nothing to do with you. You’ll never be good enough if you’re not the problem in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:09 PM
5

It’s not, that’s what’s so fucking ridiculous. I was sick at the time, I weighed so little because I couldn’t keep food down. I’m way hotter 50lbs heavier, but that’s not the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:08 PM
34

It wasn’t affection, it was a transaction. Input hugs and cuddles, output pussy. He used you, got you hooked, and now you’re paying for it. There’s fuckboy recovery resources in the handbook, maybe they would help?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:05 PM
4

The dad is a monster and he’s creating another monster to boot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:03 PM
1

The whole thing is a dumpster fire, follow up edits reveal tracking software, psycho behaviour from daughter and dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:02 PM
14

Affection in exchange for what, sex? Was it genuine or he just wanted into your pants?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:44 PM
220

Clearly Billie Eilish was supposed to let that fan die in the audience to save male egos…because that was really a factor in the decision /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:53 PM
13

I think this is just all around bad energy, don’t take it too seriously or try to find meaning in nonsense. It’s just supposed to give you vague feelings of guilt and inadequacy. I read it more as shaming working mothers to be honest 🤷‍♀️ but think it’s garbage either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:29 PM
36

Harden your heart, he’s got power over you. Get angry. You need to get frosty and ice him out until you don’t have to interact for school anymore. Dig deep, why are you pining for this man? Why is he on a pedestal for you? Cut it off at the source.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:27 PM
252

I don’t follow this stuff, but Kanye has a pattern at this point? Hasn’t he called out Taylor Swift and Beyoncé or something too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:24 PM
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I think you’re very close based on the edits, but haha! A twist! My summary of Edit 3: OP finds out there’s parental tracking software installed on her personal devices Edit 4: I told Emma's dad about the app and he laughed in my face, turns out he knew about the app and told her to install it back when we first started dating so they could see if I was cheating on him. Apparently he didn't install it on his phone because he knew I might check his phone at some point so he told her to i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:11 PM
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4 more lol Edit 3: a couple people on here suggested that she might have installed an app on my phone to see what I was doing and to my horror after looking through my phone I found an app called "MMGuardian Parental Control" and this app lets you read text messages I'm honestly in complete shock and don't know what to do. I was just weirded out by her behaviour at first but now I'm actually scared, for all I know she watched me type all of this. I'm looking into getting a new phone now however …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:26 PM
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I believed it when I posted it. Like I don’t think I was reposting a troll, but further edits make me skeptical. They were tracking her and all this crazy stuff. Even if this is a troll, we can still learn some lessons from it (ie bad fathers make bad partners)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 12:05 PM
12

It got even crazier and outlandish with more edits too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 11:55 AM
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Turns out there were more edits and they had full tracking software installed on her phone, spying on her. The daughter had a google drive folder of OP’s nudes as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:29 AM
184

Hahaha what a great way of putting it!!! Look at the havok caused in her life by continuing ties with a scrote. Maybe he should have stepped up as a father a few ex girlfriends ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:01 PM
250

Vaahla’s verdict: Guilty of naivety 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 10:45 PM
109

I got told I was fat at 5’7” and 110lbs so it’s all relative and it’s all bullshit 🙄 That said, the location you asked that question…what response were you expecting? You posted with generic information looking for validation from strangers (men) on the internet. 🤨 if you go dumpster diving, expect to find trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 10:32 PM
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Accept your body and your style. I love pretty things but I won’t wear anything uncomfortable or itchy. I dress for the location/occasion, not the man. Separate sexual attractiveness from the male gaze. Dress to be attractive to yourself. And the kind of people you want to spend time with will find you attractive too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:12 PM
82

“Changing your bedsheets is a social construct” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:41 PM
21

I hope all ladies get to that point. I’ve been silent my whole life out of fear, but it’s never really stopped anything. Kicking up a fuss at the start probably would have prevented a lot of bad situations though 🙄 I’m like you now, I’ll scream. You’re never getting me to a second location, shoot me in the street first. And I have zero chance of overpowering even the most average of males so I’m fighting dirty first. I’m showing men the same amount of mercy their gender has shown me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:40 PM
34

No, but I haven’t looked yet whatsoever. However, I have improved every other part of my life thanks to the advice here and the skills I’ve learned here. Highlights: A raise pre-Covid, choice of new jobs, I’m negotiating an excellent promotion already. I love my body now as I’m only getting older, no matter what I weigh or how I dress or anything. I can see the same flaws but I accept them/shrug/don’t give a fuck. escaped an abusive relationship I wouldn’t have survived. 🎉 FDS literally saved my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 02:47 AM
27

What kind of date can you have in a parking lot? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:15 PM
117

He’s already clearly stated he’d rather her and the baby be dead. Always prioritize safety over snappy comebacks. She really, really shouldn’t have gone through with the pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:11 PM
121

You can’t fix this. Just get away with as much intact as you can and let him fail. How do you communicate your way out of this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 05:18 PM
130

Because he spent all the other money she subsidized on PlayStation and porn and that’s her fault. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 05:17 PM
18

You ever have pizza puffs out of an air fryer? I’m a lazy creature, modern appliances only improve my laziness lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:14 PM
189

I think people underestimate how much co-parenting dictates your lives, even when it is “peaceful” you can’t move career restricted you have to plan around custody time when you do make special plans, there is a decent chance they will be ruined or interrupted can’t do date night on custody time or you’re abandoning the kid (even with grandma) can’t vacation freely every holiday is either weird or a battle everything is a competition, but you aren’t even participating and you already lost if you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:58 PM
50

I’m not talking about some foodie fancy stuff lol. 🤨 are 1980s microwaves safe? Idk I wasn’t born then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:46 PM
2

That was the consensus of the comments thankfully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 04:56 PM
60

Exactly. They just move the goal posts, it’s not a game you can win so don’t play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:34 PM
77

If a man will cheat on a beautiful rich supermodel famous wife, he will certainly cheat on a regular person like me. Clearly we women are not the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:34 PM
171

Their OP is hilarious, no wonder scrotes are mad about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:03 PM
323

Men idolize whatever you are not, and even if you are “it” it still won’t be good enough. You have to separate yourself from their expectations. I’ve got classic Eurocentric features. I somehow look too X-white-ethnicity and too Y-white-ethnicity despite my ancestors being from neither place. I have quite the list of surgical procedures I require on my features before I’ll reach an acceptable standard of beauty you know. 🤮 You’ll never be enough for somebody who’s empty on the inside ladies. Sto…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:28 PM
3

It was pretty unanimous outrage, I don’t think I saw a single judgement against her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:10 AM
104

And he says the horses are the stinky ones 💩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:39 PM
9

🙌 preach lol Why is it the least qualified men trying to instruct us on how to go about our careers? 🤨 you have to be impressed by their unjustified ego really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:36 PM
43

There’s often a class element involved with “horse girls” as well. It’s an expensive hobby for most people and not something just anybody can afford to do, even lessons let alone owning a horse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:24 PM
30

At the risk of being harsh, you lack empathy and clearly don’t have enough education or experience around abuse. Read some of the recommended books. It’s a common theme for strong, independent women to be destroyed in a short time by bad men. We should have empathy, and understanding for our sisters who are still under the brainwashing spell. This woman hasn’t done anything malicious here, she’s not a masochist asking to be abused. She’s obviously hurting and crying out for help. Save your scorn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:20 PM
435

And once she gains 10 lbs from her unhappy and less active lifestyle, he’ll complain about that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:28 PM
46

No, the comment section was pretty unanimous in their opinions (throw out the man, love the horsey) and already locked by the time I got there. She received the advice she needed, although I hope she finds her own way here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:27 PM
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I didn’t see a single one supporting the boyfriend (I got tired of scrolling after a while) Mostly it was like “have you considered putting down the relationship instead?” “Send your boyfriend to market” “yeet him into the sun” One guy bought his wife a horse of her own cause she loved them so much 🐴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:55 PM
100

Dependents before men. Children you’re responsible for, pets, some elderly and infirm people, and yourself. Then men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:35 PM
80

I know right? This isn’t even like “my boyfriend asked me not to replace my horse when she passes away” He wants her to get rid of her beloved animal of 12 years ownership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:34 PM
166

The thread was locked already, but OP commented just a few times. No updates, just explaining why she took 3-4 hours (that included travel time, chores, cuddles and attention for the horse, some riding, and social time with her friends). So he’s trying to isolate her from her social circle too. And he took a job in her town all on his own, now he uses that to manipulate her “look what I did for you (that you didn’t ask for) now put down your horse for me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:33 PM
73

I figure it’s the same as asking somebody to stop walking their dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:29 PM
165

I’d rather be single than playing house with a man who talks about other woman that he wants to “cum in” that’s disgustingly disrespectful. I feel like this really crosses the line of “expected” bro talk. Like if he said “she’s hot” when Buddy sends him a snap of some chick’s tinder profile, that’s “normal” bro talk. They’re saying racist sexual stuff. This goes beyond that. They are looking for women to sexually interact with (only fans) paying for access to womens bodies (only fans). This is r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:49 PM
50

🤢 it’s too early to read this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:02 PM
25

I notice he doesn’t say how old his kids are either. You ever get hot sauce or pepper juice on your hands then touch your face? It sucks, I don’t know how he can be so careless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:59 PM
68

A man’s enthusiasm for going down on women is a huge turn on. The more turned on he gets by that act alone the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:43 PM
42

Respect for your experience is critical. I think it’s important especially when considering your age difference with a man. The years that separate you are working years, and some men will lord that over you like you’re an idiot well past your 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:40 PM
84

…✋ -- "Oh, I bet the students all just loved you!" This emphasizes I was nothing more than a glorified babysitter (puke), and students' feelings mattered more than what they accomplished, and/or my leadership. Is saying this to a teacher taken negatively in general, or only in a specific context with men? I’ve probably said it before, but wouldn’t have meant it remotely like it could be taken above. It’s a way of saying you give the impression of a good teacher that students would enjoy learning…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:35 PM
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Isn’t this literally a crime (in some places at least)? She’s on television shows (and social media I assume) wearing illegal goods, the brands are not going to like that. But in general I think wearing fake brands is as stupid as wearing real brands. Why are you paying a premium for the privilege of being a walking billboard? 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:10 PM
27

Write his name on an ugly plate and smash it with a hammer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:29 PM
20

😱 I’m fucking speechless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:10 AM
50

You’re defining dirty talk very specifically as negative and derogatory. I like nice dirty talk! Go ahead, tell me how pretty I am and how good that thing I just did is. What man doesn’t like to hear “oh yes, just like that!”? That’s dirty talk. We can allow that without allowing gross, nasty words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:06 AM
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I have to agree. I think hearing that would be a literal heart break moment and love would die right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:54 PM
37

I was torn between “Male Depravity” and “Lies Men Tell” for flairs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:52 PM
726

I don’t think I could stop hearing those words if I stayed married. They’d haunt me forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:33 PM
308

Does the ex-gf even think of him? Has he occupied more than a casual memory for this woman in the last decade? Has he just spent the last 13 years conning a woman who gave him everything (three children!!) and pinning for someone who has forgotten about him? I hope so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:14 PM
99

Lol how often were our instincts “corrected” as children? How many bad situations could have been avoided if you trusted your gut? My lizard brain has been more trustworthy than any adult in my life ever has been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:51 PM
8

There is a part at the beginning of Men Who Hate Women by Dr. Susan Forward about masochism and abused women. The abused woman is not a masochist because “She did not get any hidden sexual or emotional pleasure from her partner’s abusive treatment of her.” Your friend doesn’t sound like she takes pleasure in the distress men cause her, so why is she seeking out relationships that cause her pain? Maybe see if she will read that book and see if it resonates with her? Breaking free of one’s conditi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:35 PM
163

“Reddit users are all 14 year olds, only children leave at the first sign of trouble.” So says the people who benefit from women accepting their behaviour. Always look at who would benefit most from the advice given. Look out for yourself, because nobody else is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:22 PM
14

Example 1: she is systematically destroying you, and she’s doing it on purpose. Really? She doesn’t have enough of her own job to do so she’s doing everything for yours too? For what, shits and giggles? No. She wants you gone and if this is already happening it may be too late. You cannot let things like this continue past 2-3 incidents (just to prove it’s not a one off) and you need to bring it up after incident 1. The damage might already be done. Embody this thought in every workplace interac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:03 PM
21

We aren’t born victims lol, we are born to become them because most people suck. The world is a shitty place that isn’t improving :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:11 PM
32

It’s really more guaranteed at this point. Can a single one of us step forward and honestly say we haven’t been harmed by the patriarchy? Let alone directly harmed by specific men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:59 PM
18

Facts. I’m sure work success escalated the DV situation I was in previously. Sure is suspicious how nasty things got immediately following my promotion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:12 PM
9

I had this problem at one point. Thankfully we happened to have our first meeting in a public place (mall lol) so I parked and walked to the feature we met at. He was just…creepy. You know. Anyways I was young, even texted women friends like “can I just leave? It’s been 5 minutes…” I made excuses, took off and hid in a department store for half an hour before heading to my car. So, so grateful that he didn’t know what I drove. He easily could have found where I lived with a simple drive around t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:13 PM
38

I would like to introduce you to the Catholic Church…among other male dominated institutions throughout history. They don’t give a fuck about boys either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:37 PM
103

I’d feel like I was just creating a victim if I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:33 PM
69

It’s not the start, but he thought he had her locked in tight with a baby so he said his quiet part out loud. It could be the first overt sign, but I’m sure he’s always been horrible in subtle ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 07:23 PM
75

Of all the things to give the woman in his life a trophy for, it’s her ability to sexually service him that’s most important. Not to mention now she has to show this off to all her friends, family, and coworkers or she’s ungrateful 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 07:19 PM
36

I don’t understand the appeal of war movies at all really. What’s so desirable and glamorous about dying as cannon fodder for someone else’s pocketbook? I really struggle with enjoying a lot of media these days as well. I find myself sticking more and more to the written word (penned by women mostly) for entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:37 PM
42

You’re the auntie all little girls need 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:29 PM
61

Pfft what you think the man just walks around with a calendar and personal assistant in his pocket?? Oh wait…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:11 PM
50

I don’t even remember the first time my abuser put hands on me, but I know he brushed it off as a joke. It’s not a joke, it’s testing the waters. Don’t allow it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:55 AM
20

At this point all media is propaganda. News, reality TV, sitcoms, “social media”, influencers, politics, movies, TV shows, blogs, literally everything. Half of Reddit. Pornography is also propaganda so more than half. There are isolated pockets of unpopular opinions, and we are one of them. A rare oasis of honest opinions that a group of women work incredibly hard to protect from cyberterrorism. Don’t take anything at face value and always ask who benefits from your outrage. Don’t compare yourse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:04 PM
162

The deeper he think he has you trapped, the more he thinks he can get away with. This Queen left exactly when she should have. Shoving her into the cake was violent, and then the manipulation aspect is also terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 09:50 PM
60

The advice response in the SS is weak, but OP makes excellent points. I can’t believe she even addressed it beforehand so he planned ahead to smash her into the cake. How awful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 08:53 PM
48

I can’t even remember how to kiss properly it’s been so long; and I can guarantee you the man I spent the last many years with did not respect me or women in general. I think this is a fair statement, there is something wrong with the absence of intimate kissing in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:50 PM
5

😈 you’ll never know, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:43 PM
11

He’s new and trying to quiz the manager on policies in a meeting? 😳 how embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:42 PM
10

Why is he still working there if he talks to the boss like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:12 PM
118

You don’t give anybody your Reddit name lol. That’s weird. I have friends I know IRL who use it just as much as I do but we’d never dare suggest trading users 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:12 PM
1

Just a reminder, not even once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:43 AM
4

It took me years to realize that my “bad habit” of not being ready to get out of the car immediately once parked is because I’m used to having my door opened for me every time. I don’t have to fuck with my purse when you’re driving, because a gentleman waits. Just like I’m waiting for him. 😡 I’m staying angry Queens. These small acts of disrespect compile. Don’t overlook the small stuff, even if you like opening your own car doors watch how he waits for you, does he rush you, does he leave you b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:46 AM
3

They don’t change. Maybe get smarter, maybe hide it better. Are you really a different person? Probably not. Why would he be? Of course this is all easy to say, hard to live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:32 AM
6

Some of it is a matter of opinion really. And motivation. Any kind of body modification is a form of self expression. Even the lack of body modification is a form of self expression! Your hair cut says something about you. Never cutting your hair says something about you. Doesn’t necessarily mean you do your hair to attract a mate. Now apply that to anything 🤷‍♀️ what’s the difference between hair dye and fake nails, really? How about eyebrow grooming? Are people who get their eyebrows tattooed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:54 PM
50

That’s an excellent example of the kind of behaviour we dismiss as positive. “Oh he just wants to spend more time with me” Thank you for sharing, and awesome recognition of what was going on in the moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:21 PM
40

Don’t forget how things can continue to deteriorate to the point of violence. Casual disrespect of women in general isn’t to be taken lightly. Maybe he’s just a dick, maybe it’s something way worse. Zero tolerance ladies. It’s the only way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 08:00 PM
35

Can you share any of the notes? Or a variation for privacy. Trying to imagine what this list would look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:58 PM
40

What, your parents never pulled the ‘uphill both ways to school in the snow, with holes in my shoes…’ thing? Life is suffering, but only some people seek it out and are proud of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:18 PM
105

Oh no…mutual orgasms and intimacy… too vanilla 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 02:24 PM
2

I would, but I’d also change my name randomly if I had a good idea. I dislike my last name, it’s annoying, hard to spell, and ties me to a bunch of alcoholics I haven’t seen or spoken to in like a decade+.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:57 PM
8

What’s with men specifically acting weird about women’s bladder needs? Why is it such a thing to deny women access to the bathroom? Like, I even remember my dad always trying to avoid rest stops on road trip. “Can’t you hold it?” Most men do it, or at least get an attitude about it regularly. I’ve never even had children and any decent amount of walking or physical activity usually makes me have to pee! Is it just a control thing? Anyways I saw the OP too and it pissed me off. She’s so brainwash…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:13 PM
31

How do you sustain yourself if you don’t “cook” or at least make food. I don’t understand how people function in daily life while also being unable to follow the most basic recipe or instructions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:57 PM
121

This is insane. First our leg hair, now our tear ducts. They just can’t wait for immaculate sex robots can they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:32 PM
43

Don’t forget using 2FA (two factor authentication) wherever possible and lock your phone down at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:42 AM
15

I only remember one instance where my dad became involved in my life, it was against a male administrator causing problems in high school (non-sexual but not nice). He solved whatever that guys problem was in a shut office 🤷‍♀️ I wish my dad stood up for me, mostly against my mom. He avoided spending any time with me at all in all my memories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:49 PM
8

Damn, he could have just never said anything at all. He made an effort to ask to see a picture so he could shit-talk his deceased ‘competition’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 07:22 PM
79

I’ll answer from another perspective for you as well. I swallow. I actually like giving head when I’m in the mood for it. I’m incredibly selective on who I perform the act on now and only do it when I want to. If things are going well, you can just swallow fast and don’t even taste it. Spitting always seems like you’d taste it more, gross. The smell/when it’s cold is way worse than immediately during the act. Anything he eats, drinks or smokes will impact the situation. Nicotine smokers are a ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:33 AM
162

Save your snappy replies for the ladies here who will appreciate your intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:44 AM
37

This is another reason not to call them anything but permanent birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 01:31 AM
23

Then you must not be denied medical care regularly due to your gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:27 AM
40

I take it as a compliment. One should feel a little intimidated by people they admire/look up to. You want to impress them, you want them to like you, you want them to notice you and your contributions. I like being intimidating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:06 AM
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No. The very idea that permanent birth control methods should be used temporarily is harmful. Vasectomies are for people who do not want to have children. Period. Don’t spread misinformation and bad advice. It hurts women, childfree persons, children, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 11:48 PM
94

I think my manicures cost more than that ring lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:49 PM
3

I couldn’t finish reading this article, it’s just too upsetting tonight. That’s enough internet for today 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:54 AM
9

I’d seriously cry if someone I love wrote that about me, it’s so mean!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:28 AM
2

Ugh nicotine smokers too 🤮 dick is nasty, that shit is all over your insides people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 11:39 PM
5

It’s so important that you’re able to recognize that. For me it was always more about trying to fit in, I always want to be included. I hope you are also learning what you love and learning to love yourself 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 11:18 PM
9

Yeah I’m sure wearing scrubs makes it difficult. Makeup can be literally transformative, do you feel like you need to wear it? Do you wear it at work? Do you get any professional grooming done? I’m lazy, I work blue collar office jobs, I prioritize sleep over makeup any day lol. It’s about finding what works for you and the persona you want to project. Full face makeup isn’t a requirement. Heat styling your hair isn’t a requirement. Figuring out the bare minimum before you’re feeling good about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:41 PM
69

You know what the last decade of dating older men has taught me? Their dicks don’t work and their baggage from before you were born is somehow your fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:02 AM
142

I’d dress normal for you when you want to make a good impression. On anybody, friends, coworkers, grandma. Like don’t dress to explicitly to impress a man, but just how you would normally dress for the social situation. I think it’s important to develop a sense of your own style independent of the male gaze. That can be whatever the hell you want it to be! When you do that, questions like this won’t even occur to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:51 AM
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Never 👏 again 👏 Your labour has value ladies, and he should pay overtime rates. Reflect back at all the labour you have performed for men under the mantle of “helping”. Does he love you, or the labour you perform for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:49 PM
27

It’s because you’re bad, so no matter what you do you’ll get a response meant to keep you off balance. Wait to talk about a problem? “Why didn’t you tell me this before” or “why are you always bringing up the past?” Don’t wait? “I need time to process” “you’re too emotional right now” You’re thinking there’s a right answer to men (people) like this, but there isn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 12:55 PM
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You’re not? You are responding, that’s the whole point. All he has done is provide an opportunity for you to respond to his interest if you wish, and giving you his number is safest for you. To each their own though, good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 03:35 PM
2

I don’t like him going through a friend to ask for your number. It’s juvenile. If he was feeling shy, or just didn’t recognize you guys vibing until after the fact, why couldn’t he ask his friend to give you his number?? “Hey, Buddy at the party really liked you and wanted me to ask for your number.” And “Hey, Buddy at the party really liked you and asked me to pass his number along to you, just in case you were interested ###…” Feel pretty different. One expects something from you (trust), the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 03:04 PM
31

I think the boyfriend intentionally trying to isolate her from her friends (OP) is the most likely scenario, unfortunately. But being an abused woman is a complex psychological position. It’s never as easy as “just leave”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:30 PM
206

When you become invisible to a group of men together speaking freely, you hear some shit. Most men is accurate. Women don’t sit around reliving their glory days of the times they made men cry, or sexually harassed men serving them in businesses, or the degrading things they convinced men to do for their entertainment. It’s most men, the entire system is proof it’s most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:48 PM
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Have you physically touched her boyfriend in any way? Like what is Alexa believing happened right now? It sounds like she went on the attack towards you, so is this from her own insecurity or is her boyfriend trying to isolate her? I mean…if it’s her boyfriend lying then you should have a private conversation with her and be super blunt. If she’s not ready to be helped there’s nothing you can do though. She has to wake up and see the truth herself. Whatever happens, protect yourself. You can no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:40 PM
3

What you need is sexual experience with yourself. You need to learn your own body, what you like, how to gauge your readiness for further sexual activity. The vagina built to fit a whole ass baby, his little peen is nothing compared to what your body is capable of. What that means is that if sex hurts, something is wrong. Sometimes you need a doctor, sometimes you just need better partners. But learning alone what makes you wet and relaxed, the state your vagina should be in before attempting pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:05 PM
5

Girl, you need to start holding yourself to the same standard men hold themselves. He sure as hell isn’t beating himself up over it, so why are you, as the victim, being so hard on yourself!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 08:42 PM
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I meant he startle-hits anything except his dog, like he will hit his girlfriend. The dog is allowed to startle him, for some reason he doesn’t get a fist swinging at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:48 PM
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Super important 💯 You do not want a guy that reflexively hits anything that startles him (except his dog). You will get punched at some point, whether that’s intentionally or in his sleep. I repeat, do not date men that react to the jump scare with violence it’s a thing. Even if you don’t like haunted houses this is one hell of a vetting test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:53 PM
114

I fucking hate “don’t bring up the past” it was five fucking minutes ago, this is still an ongoing event. “Why don’t you ever bring things up in the moment when I do them?” Is an equally hatable follow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:10 AM
3

Even if he doesn’t have a nasty problem I’m still not going to date a virgin. I’m fucking over ‘teaching’ men how to be decent lovers. Fucking figure it out, literally. I’m all for giving directions to the finish line but it’s not my responsibility to teach him how to be sexually affectionate with a woman. My expectations are pretty damn low at this point, I like kissing and touching, don’t treat me like an object, don’t hurt me intentionally, and we’ll figure the rest out together. It’s not roc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:24 PM
66

Single women are also happier and live longer. Wonder why??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 05:48 PM
119

I think we need to force periods into the exact same box as all other bodily fluid/hygiene care. If I can buy toilet paper and toothpaste for a man, he can buy tampons for me 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:57 PM
5

Then rely on that support to leave as soon as you can. Use friends for emotional support not him. Focus on keeping the peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:07 AM
5

Do you have a support system to stand around you both emotionally and physically when you leave him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:02 AM
15

It’s fucking hard to keep the mask up, I’ll tell you that. Plan your escape for as soon as possible, and just disappear while he’s out. You do not owe him an explanation. You cannot fix him. This is not a problem that you can solve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:50 AM
5

I don’t understand this, I’m happiest when nobody needs me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:20 AM
33

I’m devoutly anti-religion, not quite the same thing but my convictions are pretty strong at this point. Formalized religions exist as a method of control, primarily over women. Modern religion isn’t much better, but I respect people who follow it even less I guess. Ignorance used to be an excuse, I don’t think it is anymore. Religion is proven false. There’s plenty of physical evidence that humanity and culture existed before the bible. We didn’t come into existence via Adam and Eve. The bible …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:04 PM
5

Perform for me, woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:55 AM
15

On the other hand, female oral is absolutely an expectation 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:55 PM
120

Giving a blow job puts you in a very vulnerable position, so it should be reserved for trusted partners. You’re usually kneeling or in an otherwise trapped physically. I really enjoy it, but only if I’m in the mood and I’m in control. I’m pretty good at it too, but only when I want to do it. I do not consider it equivalent to female oral, and I certainly don’t trade it at 1:1. Here’s my terms: - clean/recently showered - nobody pornsick - no hair grabbing - no head shoving - no derogatory commen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:12 PM
35

I’ve had men happily tell me they target insecure women (and girls) because they’ll agree to anything. Once again we circle back to they know. They know what they are doing and it is deliberate. Treat others how you want to be treated, right? Don’t accept less than you treat others anymore either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 11:40 PM
8

Thank you mods for coming back, and bringing back FDS. Your vegan comparison is on point. Except FDS empowers women for themselves instead of the benefit of men, and therefore it is evil. Can’t have you arming women with education and positive vibes. And thank you for sticking to your guns, it doesn’t matter if you actually want to date. Looking at all your relationships through an FDS lens is essential, and the intimacy of a romantic relationship is a critical vehicle for learning about yoursel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 12:22 PM
49

Hotter? More likely he means younger and skinnier. I’m way hotter now than I was a decade ago at my “peak”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:52 AM
80

No kidding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:37 PM
337

Over the child he raised from age FOUR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:25 PM
120

Oof, my instincts are way smarter than the rest of me. Probably why people tell us to ignore them our whole lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:31 PM
7

It’s kind of sickening when he honestly thinks his one semester is equivalent to fully practicing female psychologists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:52 AM
12

In my experience it’s absolutely narc traits. Seen both in family members and romantic partners. When you’re in a relationship where you genuinely feel “never fought like this before” the instinct is to get the fuck out, not dig in and insist on staying together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:24 PM
11

I enjoy paranormal movies too. And this is more about the slasher side of the genre. But how many movies have the entire premise being to punish women for ‘sinning’? There’s an entire genre based around the slutty chick deserves to die first. The black guy never survives. If a woman showers (ie gets naked) she’s absolutely about to be murdered, tits and blood go hand in hand. Some horror genres exist only to glorify violence towards women (and POC too, seeing as their only place in those movies …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:24 PM
38

The game isn’t optional, so may as well play to win. I dress up too, but I do it because I want to now. If I wear something sexual or revealing, I do it because I want the power it gives me over men, not because I need their approval. I don’t wear makeup to look prettier, I wear it to feel better about myself. I enhance my features to improve communication, not because a man tells me too. If I don’t feel like wearing any, I just don’t. Just do it for yourself ladies, that’s all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:43 AM
53

Sounds like you consume the genre as an intellectual exercise. Do not assume men watch it for the same reasons. True Crime, serial killers, horror movies (classic/stereotype especially) it’s pornography for them. They aren’t exercising their minds. They’re exercising their beat up boners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 01:01 AM
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It’s a lot of unlearning. Men have always expected and demanded we look or dress a certain way. And I would comply but it was never good enough. I was never good enough. Then as I matured I realized that it didn’t matter, because I’m not the problem. Men and their desires are the problem. Look at the women’s bodies of ancient statues and art, even if you consider that as peak beauty they are soft and feminine and mature. Look at what our current society’s peak beauty standard is: juvenile or por…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:44 AM
355

Grooming and dressing. I no longer dress for the male gaze. I don’t wear makeup for the male gaze. I don’t care about offending anyone with how I dress. I wear whatever I want, groom however I want, flaunt whatever I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:56 PM
103

That one could have been cute if she really liked Taco Bell hot sauce. Like opening a big present and it’s full of marry me Taco Bell sauce packets with a ring box in the middle. Lazy scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:15 AM
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Imagine marrying someone who uses their toast to you, at your engagement party no less, to talk shit about another (dead!!) woman. Not to mention mother of your child. This is why how he speaks about other women is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:40 PM
8

Giving someone a decent gift isn’t even hard!! If you listen to someone like 50% of the time they are talking to you, I swear you could pick out something they wouldn’t hate at a minimum. That’s ignoring every fucking time they tell you something explicitly (like going gift shopping with a man, staring him in the face and pointing at an obvious thing and saying “I wish someone would give me one of these as a gift.”). And ignoring some basic universal truths (boy I wish this sweater was scratchie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:14 PM
16

A poncho. Lol. So he noticed a real problem, you get cold sometimes. Great. “I’m cold, I wish I had a poncho to wear to your mother’s house.” Said no woman ever. 1 lush bath bomb says you wouldn’t have been nearly as upset if he bought you something like a warm sweater, silky pashmina, soft cardigan in a colour you like. You know, something anybody would have suggested over a poncho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:20 PM
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I just want to poop in private 😫 I’m not a dog, I don’t need him to watch for predators while I do my business. Especially when he’s the only poop predator around 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:04 PM
20

You need to stop giving a fuck, immediately. His friends contact you? Block them! Why should you give a shit? At best, they’re brainwashed. At worst, they are knowingly helping an abuser. Your only priority is yourself, and any dependents such as children you gave birth to/legally adopted ((ie not his kids, no matter what!! If it’s that bad you call CPS for them once you are safe.)), pets and certain elderly. You are in an emergency situation sweetheart, I hope, hope, hope I am wrong. I really r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:30 PM
8

It’s strangely liberating cutting ties to family. It’s been a few years for me, and the only regrets I have involve an imaginary family that doesn’t even exist. I feel anxiety, guilt, harassment, but no regret. Why are you good enough to be her companion but not good enough for anything else? When you look back, they are full of contradictions. You’re a badass no matter what, you raised yourself, you are brave, you put yourself through school, you are dedicated enough for Ivy League research!! Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:37 PM
7

If you’ve come independently wealthy from zero and living in a car 4 years ago, you should bottle it and sell it. Or maybe you profited off the rest of us who got royally fucked over the last few years. Good luck, “let them eat cake”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:32 PM
16

Every person who is fed up working themselves to the bone for poverty wages? Places of employment aren’t having issues because people don’t want to go back to work, they are having problems because they refuse to pay people what their time is worth. Money didn’t vanish in the pandemic, every penny that didn’t come into our pockets over the last two years (and all time frankly) didn’t go poof and vanish. It went to someone who’s already rich. The rich just get richer at the expense of everyone el…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:15 PM
8

So it’s cool to fuck over all the people that do have to work for a living?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:54 PM
13

So? Why?? That permissive behaviour is the same kind of thing we do not tolerate in other relationships. It sets the standard for what is acceptable and how you value yourself. Who profits from him doing unpaid labour??? Some rich person. He’s not salary, there is no give and take for him. It’s all take, take, take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:13 PM
15

That’s a good point, our equivalent is far more invasive and we are excited for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:10 PM
34

I stopped reading when you started talking about how your boyfriend husband (sorry!) works for free for a company he’s apparently just an employee at?? Wtf you mean he works hours unpaid?? Not clocked in every single day?? Of course he’s invaluable to him, they don’t have to fucking pay him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:51 PM
36

What are your thoughts on men who express fear about getting a vasectomy? It’s a common reaction I have encountered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:48 PM
29

I don’t understand how the whole work wife/husband thing is positive in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:42 AM
38

I feel like when your energy is 🙂✌️ it’s almost better? Than high energy excitement. Maybe it’s the feeling of contentment that comes with it like 😊 yes, you made a good decision. May you be blessed with an admirable woman boss in your next position 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 11:30 PM
12

Leaving an abusive partner who has the ups as well as the downs is psychologically very difficult. The focus gets put on the good things and the bad things get rug swept. Do you have any concerns about him being directly abusive (in any fashion) or controlling? Does your sister have the resources and realistic ability to leave with all her belongings?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 01:08 PM
17

If you can’t handle the kitty at her worst, you don’t deserve her at her best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:36 PM
9

I’ll never put up with nicknames I don’t like again, especially demeaning ones. It’s really about getting back what I give, and I wouldn’t call someone anything that bothered them. As for the punching, there’s a 50:50 chance I’d puke from the pain of being punched in the upper arm…so good luck with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:54 AM
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Look into IPL vs laser, sometimes the two terms are used interchangeably but IPL is a different machine. It has the capacity to do much a wider range of contrast than laser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:39 PM
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I find it incredibly itchy and annoying when mine grows out longer, does anyone else have that happen? I mean once it’s long it’s very irritable not from the growing hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:31 PM
5

Oh we are not at rock bottom yet. It will get worse before we see real change. The louder we are, the harder they must beat us down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:05 PM
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Well…at least I have the words to express sexual criteria. I’m not interested in any act that would be classified as a war crime 🙄 What’s the world coming to? This post is more accurate than I’m comfortable with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:47 PM
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Oooo backfire. Nice try buddy. Good job recognizing this in the moment and acting on it. Well done 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:28 PM
1

Hi, I’d like to apply for a flair if possible Thank you 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:37 PM
7

How does he act when he is sick or injured? Can he take care of himself? Is he grateful? Does he lash out? Will he do anything to make himself feel better besides whine and complain?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 10:04 PM
37

That would explain a lot about the men in Alberta.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:28 PM
14

Is angry puking a thing? “But she’s used to it!” Fuck I hate hearing that. Being used to something doesn’t mean you deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:27 PM
22

Don’t trust men zooming in on you when vulnerable. Although it might seem wholesome when you’re down & in need of company- in 98% of cases their intentions are not & will be revealed later. She’s still in Unicorn mode. I guarantee she’s going to spill all this trauma to a new guy and nose dive into another long messy relationship. You have to remember that you are not a man and you do not think like a man. If you are in pain and I approach you, arms wide open; it is my intention to embrace you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 12:45 PM
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There’s no winning. If you don’t, you’re a dried up prude. If you do, you’re a skanky dirty hoe. Someone please provide me the cheat sheet with the correct answer because I can’t figure it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:29 PM
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You can only do so much for someone who hasn’t woke up yet. You have to want help to accept it. You guys sound like you’ve tried to open her eyes, sorry it has t worked ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:48 PM
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It’s frustrating how much we have to recalibrate our expectations. If my friend overstayed, I’d either drive them home too or tuck them into the guest bed to drop them in the AM. You probably would too right? Or order them an Uber something like that. It’s such a normal thing to do, make sure your friend is safe and/or home. But we’ve turned into this miraculous thing when a guy doesn’t abandon us to the night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:36 PM
38

Mental Load Explained If you haven’t seen the above comic, I highly recommend. It applies with or without children honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:05 PM
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I had to take a taxi home in the middle of the night recently (from a medical clinic). As I’m leaving the taxi to waddle up to my front door, the driver says ‘I will wait and make sure you get inside’ and he did. I waved once I got the door unlocked/open and off he went. So…don’t let your partner show you less kindness than someone shows a stranger. And to be clear, whenever I have driven someone anywhere whether home or to their vehicle, I always wait to make sure they get into their house/thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:38 PM
3

Wait that’s a thing!!!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:42 PM
19

Absolutely, it’s not ok for either gender but men still have it easier to find a surgeon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 12:04 AM
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“It’s ok, I’m not looking for a sugarbaby” So he sees you as a commodity but not one worth paying for, GTFO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:01 PM
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If it changes your manhood what level of my birth control changes my womanhood? Boohoo indeed lol I’m childfree myself and zero tolerance anymore. Woman’s health stuff is all a shitty experience and a serious surgery, go get snipped it’s the least a man can do at this point 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:11 PM
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Give me one good reason a man who does not want kids cannot get a vasectomy. I cannot think of one, and the ones I’ve heard are all bullshit compared to what women have to do just to maintain their equipment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 04:48 PM
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In my early 20s I paid a matchmaking service. I couldn’t meet any quality men on dating sites, I was lonely and feeling a significant amount of pressure from family to stop being single. On paper everything for me was fantastic. Young, pretty, amazing early career with good job, nice car, nice condo I owned etc. They still matched me with trash men every fucking time. I didn’t have a lot of hard lines, but one was no smokers at all, and no religious guys. The first date was a chain smoking pract…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 04:31 PM
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I think it adds a layer of complexity to poor self image/self esteem and development of self. When someone is calling you and your interests immature all the time, lording their extra life experience over you, belittling your accomplishments because they did them a decade ago…it erodes your self esteem and causes you to doubt yourself and your judgement overall. You don’t get to develop as an individual because your partner has already done X, Y, Z so you miss out. It also makes you less worthy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:40 PM
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