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RED FLAG 🚨KetoKittenAround/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:41 AM
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What a curious response on a topic about men’s ability to pleasure women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/22 09:52 PM
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Tell a person “no” and then step back as they tell on themselves….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 06:11 AM
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This Made me laugh!!! Like he’s hoping she doesn’t get stolen out of the work refrigerator!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 01:57 AM
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If a woman does this it might be because she knows what’s up and is actually blocking him. Or she doesn’t and just want to be important…i dunno the words. . Men are abundant, if she can get the one you like let it go. He will be even more unsafe in a relationship, as relationships bring these types out the woodwork. We also deal with this!!!! But we keep loyal and strong. Expect HIM to do so. If he doesn’t or gives you any pause or worry…. Cut bait. Edit to say in my passion I did not comprehend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 01:50 AM
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It’s insane! They call you selfish and mean because you expect something they desperately crave… they become disrupted when you nix a man because he didn’t meet expectations… —————————————————- Here is how I think of it: “Well why did you dump him?!?” Your good friend asks…Remembering that you at least got flowers for Valentine’s Day.. she didn’t even after 8 years and 3 children later. Of course, she knew in her heart that ring was coming! “Because I’m better than that and I deserve a good life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 01:26 AM
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Wait… so you’re telling me that you didn’t walk up hill both ways in the snow while breastfeeding to purchase flowers for your man to give his other girl? Wut?!? You’re not in an open relationship?!? Aren’t you progressive? I bet you complain when he decides to babysit…his own children…. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 12:56 AM
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Be afraid. It’s a real threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 12:52 AM
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Also remember this: Once you center yourself and accept your own value, there will be all sorts of people coming at you to knock you down. They will guilt. They will cajole. These people in their own messed up ways will basically tell you to your face that you are not good enough to be first. You are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 12:51 AM
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Happy cake day sis!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 12:46 AM
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Me too! She is hilarious! I also live for her laugh! It get my sides to jiggling! Though in one video she claims to have invented “uggo” to refer to an ugly person (2021-11-19 video), but people have been saying that since before AOL stopped sending trial discs out in the mail. Seriously. Other than that she has me rolling! She isn’t afraid to get those short and/or balding men out on the racks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 12:32 AM
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It’s so damn sad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 11:45 PM
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It really is!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:24 PM
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Exactly! Also it doesn’t make any sense. If they don’t talk about the cheating openly then how would she know if he is “safe?” Also the bare minimum is treated like it’s this OMG AMAZING relationship. If they have children and are married it is not remarkable that he comes home every night. He should be expected to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:23 PM
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He is getting the rewards of a ring without actually giving her a ring. He is an abusive scrote. Also he ought to know men don’t care!!! We can have love sonnets to some other dude all over our bodies and they will still try it on with us. Men also don’t give a crap about a ring and most won’t even look!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 03:46 AM
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It’s totally a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 03:39 AM
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Exactly!!! Also it is a very weird dynamic to be given everything but a husband still has to give her money when he leaves. Any woman would expect that. She is after all the mother of his children. Also, she says the sex is great. But no woman who didn’t have an outright understanding would find sexy great with a man she knew was off with other women. Great sex is about intimacy and trust…(plus he needs to be able to bring it). Without that it’s just banging and banging is great sex for LV trash…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:37 AM
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LOL!!!! ….And just like that I have been messaged by a mad scrote…. Why don’t these scrotes understand that nobody cares what a LV man has to say? They aren’t shit. They are nothing. Just giant wastes who stay up at night worrying about gold diggers when they haven’t any gold at all! Sorry I’m going off but these men go out of their way to tell on themselves for being LV trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:07 AM
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Right?!? It was as if the male writing it wanted to be both the man in this, but also deeply wanted to be the woman. The one kept and pampered… When in reality the poor, and the male style of thinking jump from the page. Guy actually sees women as one dimensional characters. Hair! Nails! I hope this wasn’t used to coerce some poor pick me into feeling like this type of crap was the norm. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:00 AM
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Right? It is something even a middle class person would not find remarkable or worthy of mention. Pure fantasy written by a man who couldn’t afford to date any of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:50 PM
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Good points but I’m not getting that here because she goes on about all the stuff he gets her and this and that… She is so happy with the money part that she is willing to turn a blind eye to her husbands cheating… The money thing is most def poor people lingo as it is only something a poorer type would find reason to remark upon it. I am surprised the dude writing it didn’t mention how he gives her “gas money.” Lol To me it makes sense that a less wealthy man wrote this and in his fictional wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:47 PM
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I bet it was written by a man. Dude got really into it though. Lol My favorite part? It’s written like they are not wealthy at all. Nobody affluent would ever mention or need “extra money” before their husband leaves on a trip…. That’s poor people talk. (I should know I grew up mega poor) The “he will get me whatever I want” doesn’t jive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:50 PM
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Wow the guy who wrote this was really feeling his LARP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:47 PM
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Damn!!!!! Thank God!!!!!! That guy is a freaking train wreck. My God! I cannot believe how LV he is!!!! I know you’ll be sad or whatever but this guy could have ruined your life. He is crazy low value and I struggle to think of anything he could have high value wise to even try to even it out!!! Like whoa…. Cut him off completely. He is a waste of time and energy. He would have totally kept you around just to have you placehold for someone he thinks is better. He is also the type that would brin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:44 PM
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Oh my! Look ladies!!! This wild man!!! This living embodiment of adventure! Yet too much of a coward to live his life authentically. Too much of a coward to do what he wants done. This rebel! So cowardly he will keep up wasting and using a woman’s time, finances , and body…. Also he can blame HER for his limp dick scrote fantasies that he NEVER fulfill single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:53 AM
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Do you feel like his genuine interest in you is special? if you feel it common that’s something…. if you feel it’s special that’s something we can talk about. Because if it’s special you’ll understand logically that most men actually could give a flying fuck. Of course they enjoy some wit as long as you’re amusing but the moment you’re not fitting into his mold you become boring. You have no idea who your boyfriend is BTW. You aren’t smarter or better than anyone here. do you realize how many of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:46 AM
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That’s a big no from me. There is a divergence and at that time the fetus in question also did not diverge into female growth. Males don’t start with female gonads that then move into male. Ridiculous. The divergence is where the actual sex organs take place. Just because a male hasn’t formed a penis yet doesn’t make him a female. Edit to say absolutely wrong. Females have there own divergence that allows them to develop their own sex organs. Just boggles my mind that people don’t understand tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 05:57 AM
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You are correct. My frozen embryos were hardly a few cells deep and they knew which were female and which were male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:01 PM
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That is incorrect. We all aren’t female first. Fertilized eggs each have a sex already. Even before implantation. I had my eggs frozen and embryos frozen. They can tell right away if it is female or male. This is only from a relatively few number of cells and definitely before and formation of tissue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:00 PM
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Right?!? AND it’s a meal! A meal!!!! Like what do they want from us? Do they want us to look up with tears In our eyes and blubber thank you’s until we pass out? A Meal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 08:15 PM
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I have had the opposite experience with all the lawyers I’ve dated being very generous and gentlemen…. but I don’t doubt your reality! It really is crapshoot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 08:13 PM
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Thanks for sharing that skit I got a chuckle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 07:48 PM
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Yes to this 1000 times! It is ALL men. Every one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 07:41 PM
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A typo! I meant Some sites will only allow the person in question to request that their info be taken off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 07:38 PM
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Great share!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:22 AM
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Triangulation….. The cue for you to do the pick me dance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:20 AM
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You shall pass GO!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:17 AM
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Hey sis you didn’t deserve that and I want to thank you for sharing. As someone who has things they regret .. I think it’s helpful to others to share it so they are better informed. But yeah…. Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:17 AM
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Can confirm… most and I mean MOST will never be a real friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:14 AM
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That answer is so shit. I’m glad you are the one that got away from these dusty scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:13 AM
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The ones who give romance and attention… the nice guys… But alas! Mean and stupid women don’t value his efforts (as if he made them lol) enough. They went and got the gumption to tell him to go kick rocks in another quarry. Classic “I’m a simple man” and “I’m a nice guy” bullshit. If any woman calls him on it and he can’t rise to it… he becomes sad. Our tragic sad romantic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:09 AM
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Truth sis… Most will say not all times…. But it’s the majority of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:05 AM
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Commenting on the woman is a crazy bright red flag. It’s a neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:03 AM
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Each site has its own rules but all of them have their own way. There are websites that congregate all the steps. I suggest you search yourself and then get yourself off of the top ones. Some are very invasive… giving up all the details without even having a paywall. At any rate I do searches for me and my closest friends/realizes…. I have some wine and get the taking everyone’s info off of the web. Some sites will only allow them to take their j go off. TLDR: search yourself. On each site they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:58 AM
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Co-signing this. Ladies get ye to the double number! It’s worth the five minutes and literally zero $ to keep yourself safe!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:53 AM
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They never ask for advice. It’s crazy. Very good observation and it hit home for me. I’ve been told by men how I stop them from giving advice… I then point out the zero times they’ve ever sought my advice.. these scrotes. This just shows the entitlement they have. Also it backs up how men rate themselves so much higher in attractiveness than they actually are. I’d pay a pretty penny for a hit of that delusion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:51 AM
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Also imagine how it doesn’t make her more wanted and valued! He just want to lick his small dick energy wounds!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:46 AM
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They like to feel that their greatness is such that a woman would subjugate herself for his benefit and ego. Having to pay for it just shows him what a loser he is. This one finds himself grand and wanted. He is all about him. Bet he is disappointed when she doesn’t fake an orgasm!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:43 AM
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Maybe prudence would I dunno…. Look at his crayon scrawling of prose and pontification? Surely prudence would be interested in propping up his tenuous grasp on reality? Oh wait! You’re right! He full on lives up to his prattle, he keeps thinking he is important because he exists!!! You’re spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:39 AM
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Yea!!!Or a true toy. He is so insignificant to her that she doesn’t even care to shield his fragile ego. He knows he can’t pull the boyfriend card and limit her. Lol I hope this is real!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:35 AM
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He is illogical to the extreme…. If it’s a no strings thing than why is he feverishly stalking her writing all the sudden she gets some recognition? Why would that matter? It is very telling how we are viewed in these arrangements… we are nothing until we savagely dunk on the make ego. This is the soft energy behind the big heavy: Women are afraid of being physically hurt by men. Men are afraid of us laughing at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:32 AM
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So many of us have had to learn the very hard way. But it is amazing how you’re willing to come back to warn others. I hate facing my old days…. But if I can just reach one woman to not have to go through what I did to get the knowledge it is with it! You are very strong in so many ways!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:49 AM
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If he sounds that old now…. Just think what he will sound like at 53 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 07:28 PM
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I heard a rumor that your tits are fantastic! Your confidence is catchy cus I also heard mine were all in order!!! Great comment! I was 26 years old and my husband at the time told me to work on my chest. Wild. Edit to say “are “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:51 AM
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It is not a short supply. It is a short supply of those who can’t dare risk their career and earning power. You need to connect more on a real level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:44 AM
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LOL He talked to his FRIENDS!!! HIS FRIENDS! They SAID!!! THEY SAID!!! As women we need to be stronger in our own personal boundaries. It is worse for us women cuz these pick me’s… As women we are forced to create our own boundaries and standards outside of everything else, because everything else wants you to lower your standards. I swear to god it is better to be alone than to deal with these shitshow parasites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:09 AM
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How does he sound 50+ ? Genuinely trying to learn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:06 AM
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I am so sorry for your sister. I also send good energy (or whatever you accept ) to you because it’s hard to watch that type of crap and not go off. Knowing you can’t go off because unfortunately this scrote has set the bar. After all anyone who even pretended to laugh would feel great shame if you called him out. In that shame they’d turn on you like rabid dogs. You’d be strung up even for the thoughts that crossed their own minds because they were too weak to stand up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:54 AM
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I am commenting to say that I am very sorry this has happened. I don’t have any children, but my heart hurts to know you suffered this injustice and what a thing to have to go through on top of everything else. You never needed to be sew up like that. Next up? Pick men’s getting the husband stitch to get their 5 year long boyfriend to propose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:46 AM
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Great comment. Pain is something that we need to really recognize even when we can “take it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:41 AM
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This is a hold over from an era where women were able to move to cities for jobs that were so low paying that going out with a man for a meal was a way to survive. These women would want to break the chains of their small town life (not the everyone does or should) and get a big drink of that freedom! These women would put up with so much and be paid so little so yes, they might take a man up on his offer to feed her. It is wild these LVM still parrot this BS. They long for us to be so dependent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:34 AM
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You aren’t wrong!! Back in the way back years it was Death by Diners ….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:45 AM
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Ha!!! DoorDash death!!!!!! Simply dead!!! Tell my mother I loved her!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:44 AM
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Exactly you will not shame someone because they eat differently. Most men will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:42 AM
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I’ve said this before but it is worth repeating: On a woman’s forum I read stories from women who have been left for other women after 20-40 years of marriage. They go through what anyone would expect. But in Every. Single. One. They ALWAYS post (after he has got his stuff and is truly finally out of the house) about how they made a dinner for themselves for their own preferences and how happy it made them. One woman said: No more steak and potatoes, I could finally have a wonderful salad for di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:40 AM
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They don’t take your needs seriously. You are not a picky eater at all… Watch a man hate eating vegetables piss and moan about having them in anything and expecting the world to revolve around them… ALSO they will shame you for eating whatever it is they somehow hate out of preference. You have a legit allergy and a high value man will feel it is a privilege to cater to your needs. These men act like full on babies while they expect you to take it to the chin and do what they want. You have an a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:34 AM
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Oh damn!!! I just wrote a reply without reading yours!!! Same thing!!!! The low value man I knew was actually fit seeming but that was some time ago and goodness knows a few years on a man is like a damn brick wall to the face. He was so low value that even when at my most pick me I’d never go for him. He was so low value that I believe I interacted with him just for the entertainment of how low value someone is. Like an cultural anthropologist at the ends of the earth of scrote country. Edit to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:27 AM
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Sis you are not wrong!!!!!! One of the lowest value scrotes ive ever met wouldn’t eat vegetables….. literally no vegetables… I am not using literally in the wrong sense at all. Tomatoes are a fruit and he would have the sauce on things but he was so adverse to vegetables. Like …. Wut?!? He was sooooooooo low value. So so so so low value. I hope he is munching on some dry ass burger and fapping in a dark room to porn. I don’t want him out on our streets!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:24 AM
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Speaking for myself I do it for me. I just feel better with it. Now… do I feel better because of my internalized patriarchy? Gotta dig deep on that. I just have always kept it this way. Always. Well before a man was gonna be seeing lol Still I’d be really pissed if a man said I should HAVE to do this or that. Women are beautiful and attractive no matter their hair down there. These men will try to out their socks into food for goodness sakes! Men will say… “oh not clean” while they look like the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:16 AM
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Good advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 09:33 PM
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You are speaking the truth. Behold how the purse strings open for what he sees is valuable. We need to keep it real. Just because a man like this doesn’t value a certain woman doesn’t mean that woman isn’t valuable. The women that pack up and leave without messing about with this crap are the ones who got away. The other side of the sick coin of these LVMs MOs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:33 AM
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This 1000000% Women need to start being real with themselves even though it hurts. He’s saving his money for his dream woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:29 AM
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He said his friends as well which is a no go for me sis. Close but not enough. Glad to see this hitting close to the HVM mark though with the passion behind it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:27 AM
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No reason to date a man like this. Mean with money? Mean with love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:25 AM
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I’m going to be real. There is a true decline in fertility once you become in swiping distance of your 40s. This is a real thing. I don’t want to sell any women a pipe dream because while it is not out of this world to be pregnant at that age (my own mother has me in her 40s) I can attest to the very real reality of nature. Men decline worse and they are coddled and given hope while women are blamed. I just need to be very real. It is possible but many will find that they passed their window. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:22 AM
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The hell?!? Damn I am sitting here seething. Thank you for the info even if I am mad on the Internet. This is some shit. He is fat. There I said it. If his feelings are hurt I will buy him a Tab. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:13 AM
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I believe a lot of the hatred is because they know they will never experience or be a part of hmm… I dunno how to describe it… female magic bond that we feel deep down. I have lived in other countries, I have served in the peace corps, I have traveled and I am convinced of the innate female bond that is shared every single place I have ever been. I can see why they would envy it. But unlike females they envy and seek to destroy. Being a not the fun type of feminist sucks because of the reality, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:06 AM
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Wait… didn’t you read that his ex had texted him? She texted him!!!! How on earth could he not reply even with the cheating in the last and the wife he knows he bamboozled? He has provided her that “emotional safety after all!” It’s all very logical! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:59 AM
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I am in total agreement. They blame you because you believed their lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:57 AM
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B-but he said he gave her emotional security… ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:53 AM
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Renee is so done with him that she won’t even admit to his existence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:52 AM
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I am glad you shared this so those can learn. I have had some messed up things happen to me that I have been sharing. We are better for it! I cannot even believe this mans audacity. I believe in honor of this I will always refer to this type of bullshit by yelling “Renee!!!!” At the top of my lungs. I hope his last breath has Renee on his lips. These scrotes stand in their own way of progress and happiness. Also sorry this man did that. I am proud of you and how you dealt with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:50 AM
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A hard lesson for him is in store when he realizes nobody is thirsting for him. He is just a bit of fluff. His wife will have far more options and has had more options ever step of the way. Emotionally safety my ass. If that were so they wouldn’t have had a past “incident.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:44 AM
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Dead at life alert!!! His dick has fallen and it can’t get up!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:55 AM
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I think being in the gym industry he has taken many “supplements” and those muscle building drugs make his unit all but ornamental. He probably would cheat as he has this woman doing all that she can to win him. Men at his age can’t do very much. They are useless and they know it. If they are selfish in bed they will be forever total shit to be with. Women need to understand they deserve better than a limp dak who tells you that you’re in worthy. The gall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:53 AM
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I just wrote a reply without reading but we came to the same conclusion!!!! I bet he can’t get it up. I am also somewhat sure he has taken testosterone and wrecked his manhood (the useful part at least)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:49 AM
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Madam, he is knock knocking on heaven’s door for man years, especially in the fitness game where I’m certain he has dabbled in a bit of this and a little of that. My advice would be of course to get rid of him. But as you get your ducks in a row… start telling him that you notice him “slowing down” he doesn’t seem as “vigorous “ as when you met. After all, the other men you know are very enthusiastic with their partners in the bedroom. This man is slowing down. He is about to become all but usel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:47 AM
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It really is something that an article like this can be written, accepted as fact by most of those who read it, and STILL not enrage men enough to call other men out. Men can’t claim they “didn’t know” because they all know what is done to us. They just simply don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 01:02 PM
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I also want to say that you are awesome for coming here to your sisters who will do our very best to help you. I don’t want that to be unnoticed because it can be very difficult. So I am very happy you felt you could real talk here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:30 AM
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It does seem to be in the very line of this. I am hopeful she will be able to fight it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:25 AM
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Unless he courts you he is a no go. You are giving me the “ permission to chase” vibe and I will not do it. Hold your ground solider. Hold it. Don’t give up any ground until you can see the whites of his eyes. The minute you chase or even hint you lose value. Don’t be his plaything he will dump once a HVM comes along. Be that HVW. Don’t play hard to get. BE hard to get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:22 AM
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Sadly… No man lurking here has any motivation other then to bring down women. No man of any worth would ever dream of infringing on a female only space. Personally, this article to me is trite. But even so, its banality is still lost on these men. Sad and awful. Edit to say : keep fighting that good fight! Another edit to say my person take is that their ads are misogynistic. If they are going to actually practice what the preach they need to quit with ads that prey upon women’s insecurities. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:16 AM
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Golly I wonder what us vagina havers should call ourselves……
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:58 AM
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Sir! Dick is abundant! Whatever we want we will get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:57 AM
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Yeah brag how he was talking all sad because he was so hard up he was thinking he would have to go old school depression style and start eating dog food. Poor ole guy. Pity his life choices have led to him taking charity from a young student .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:49 AM
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Dead… you have killed me. Powder!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:48 AM
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Well here is a man having a “senior moment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:47 AM
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Of course! Whatever I can do to keep these vultures away!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 10:08 PM
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Can’t emotionally manipulate a bank!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:36 PM
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I’m not currently on the market but can attest in my own experience that your thoughts are very sound! From the types of volunteering to the actual time of day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:17 PM
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They really are. They always want something. It strikes me that men are far more needy than women. If they aren’t the center of attention they cannot seem to stand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:53 PM
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The thing is a woman’s secret fund (or what have you) when not spent or needed will go back into the joint funds. Women don’t squirrel away money to fetter away on personal hobbies. It is for safety. Men stay skimming and thieving for whatever BS flight of fancy gets their boxers stiff. Whatever benefits just them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 06:15 AM
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Unhinged. I had a man I wasn’t even involved with do crazy sorts of crap like this. Enough for me to relocate and try to get away. ( I did not block or change my number because it has been shown that they will take that as a reply. I just noped out. Even when I was slandered online. Even on Yelp talk 🤣 Just total nope from me. You can keep on knocking but you won’t get in style. Deal with this however is best for you. I’m just one to note with these crazies they take a block as a reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 06:06 AM
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I find it odd that he didn’t trash it. Why keep it? This guy wanting a trophy to relive how he broke her trust???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:54 AM
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If it were me… he’d better sleep with one eye open because I am not only leaving him, I’m going to pay in kind. I hope this woman is as petty as me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:52 AM
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Thank you for seeing the comments are not about your personally. This is how women do. I am so grateful for this space because it just shows how wonderful women are. OP you keep on vetting and my heart swells with your outlook. No matter what, you know at the end of the day…. LVM aren’t shit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:31 AM
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Exactly, it is my hope and dream to make sure these wonderful ladies know… he is not your friend. He is a vulture trying to pick at your remains when you break up with someone. Not always… but like 99.99% of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:25 AM
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If you ever need to talk/write it out I am there for it. I was very much upset through life by a male (straight) friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:23 AM
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You’re so right! She’d be placed as the villain… they’d never even look to her other posts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:20 AM
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Ha! Tyler!!!! Exactly. Tell a male “feminist” that he is excluded from that category and can only be a supportive force. Watch the way they will (these feminists) don’t take kindly to a woman’s opinion .. they will force their point. They seemed so nice and they parroted what was needed. But when push comes to shove.. A facade is a tool to manipulate. With men I hope with all my heart we understand that’s it’s better to not be in their wrath so that we may lay the simple vengeance of equality on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:00 AM
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I too had the pick me mindset well before I realized my own worth, and well before I this sub was even created Quick to say I love you don’t feel that anxiety and that stress. I also love so much you are saying. I am happy with what is going on in your life!! This is where my talons hit the keyboard …. This is not a judgement on your happiness. But let this over 30 cat lady dried up crow with a touch of nutmeg caution others: If pne (likely) has had trash men in the past then a man who is does a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:48 AM
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Imagine that hate and defensiveness outside of the safe confines of school. You’d didn’t deserve any of it. Not one thing. Your weight then and now has no bearing on your worth as a woman. I love that you know that now you are here. But I am a downer and really trying to caution woman from doing this. They won’t have the protection of school. The safety of that judgment should they attack you. Better to just start playing games or be here in Reddit and grunt a few times to make him feel you are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:27 AM
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These “nice guys” do slither in….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:10 AM
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They get violent and angry if you tell them the truth. They are boring and you feel no need to hear them. I would caution anyone bold from telling a man to shut up. You will cut in a way that violence from someone who is seemingly cool is a total possibility. My own take not to be forced on anyone: Grey rock. Also give them the very minimum of listening. Don’t engage. Do what they do if they ask why you aren’t engaged… “I am here listening aren’t I?! You don’t value or realize what’s in front of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:07 AM
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Count on it. Though from my readings … it won’t go well for him if she dives into it. lol Still a solid no… but I can’t help the satisfaction I feel when men realize we are socialized to be nice and it doesn’t mean we want to sleep with them …richer still a woman of any looks, intelligence, and standing will ALWAYS have men knocking at the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:56 AM
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Exactly, I was shocked! These personal finance subs are not going to take feelings over fact. They look at the hard line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:51 AM
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It is a sad situation. However, if you did the deep dive like I did because I’m bored on a Sunday.. the reality is even more grim. In it there is so much. Sooooo much. She has low self worth. This scrote has done a number on her. She would be better off on a deserted island.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:49 AM
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You know the sick and most awful thing about it all? It is what one wouldn’t expect! Nobody on that entire thread said to do it. It is SO BAD nary a person was in favor. More respect for that sub. They are focused on building wealth feelings be damned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:43 AM
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So… curiosity and procrastination led me to deep dive. This poor creature. My heart is heavy. If you look through the timeline she put on (this is an offhand look… feel free to correct me) nearly 100 pounds while with him. Sex was never really on the table. But he baited her with his boys trip and how a petite woman followed him.., he said to this petite woman if she’d like to have sex or not (gah worse language indeed he used and much more coarse) He told all of this to her to make her worry an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:37 AM
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PS to say she can invest in a nice toy (bet she has or would have to anyway) and ditch him. Without even sex he is a landlord whose farts you have to smell. Let alone all the other things she does… no closeness or intimacy… she will feel real freedom getting rid of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:51 PM
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Jeez. I hope she wises up. Why is he all the sudden interested in her existence??? Money!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:49 PM
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Thanks for THIS info. If he isn’t invested in anything now he won’t be later… Maybe she is starting to wise up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:46 PM
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He can continue to pay the bank. This woman would lose the interest in the BEST scenario… and we all know this 8 year boyfriend isn’t going to provide the best case scenario. At the very least he can sell his place and then they can buy together… still stupid. Makes me sick that she’d hand over anything to this man. Only a low value man would even suggest such a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:44 PM
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You’re post made me smile inside my chest!!! Men really are awful with money until it’s time to take yours lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:40 PM
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Exactly! I’ve been hit on through Yelp for goodness sakes!!! These types show that they don’t respect spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:10 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 05:27 PM
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You have the best name. You had me at hello. Love that reply as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 08:33 AM
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This is where we all need to realize that EVEN IF YOU THINK HE WONT HURT YOU WHEN YOU LEAVE IT IS STATISTICALLY HIGH THAT HE WE SURPRISE YOU AND WILL I am not promoting fear. But I have personally seen men that I have broken up with turn into an entirely different person. They have physical power over you and he counted on you being a doormat, HOW DARE YOU, rage follows. How far it will go is up to fate. They are angry. You were their bathroom rug to piss all over. Old faithful. They broke you! …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 03:57 AM
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I do see in other forums where women try to manage down other women’s expectations. They also shame anyone who says my expectations are VERY high. It’s actually so sad. I wish I could send this sun to them. They will wise up because the behaviors of LVM stay very on script. It is wild to me that I once had a back and forth with a woman about having a man buy her a meal. She PAYS her own way because she can. My counter is he doesn’t pay for your dates because he won’t. Beware of everyone in your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 03:47 AM
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They call it thirst traps because a woman posts sexy pics in order to get validation from others (men). It’s a seemingly self owning way to seek attention/validation and by having this normalized it will lessen negative comments. Or other females judgements. Martha Stewart has posted a thirst trap. It was actually kinda a great story because she got catty with Chelsea (sp?) Handler. (I love me some drama between the famous… and ranch dressing… so… yeah) but it was more of a nuance. It is that no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 02:09 AM
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My thoughts you didn’t ask for and can ignore…but….That’s a huge red flag sis. Glad you are on it, but I am on high alert over this guy. I’ve been taken by this tactic before. When I didn’t have the self esteem and thought this low value effort actually meant something. I’d be wary of a man who can text all day. WTF is he getting accomplished for himself? No HVM has that much time to text, and the truth is a HVM wouldn’t even do that during the start. Im ranting and am glad you can identify and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:58 AM
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Thanks for sharing that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:50 AM
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No food is worth putting yourself in danger. Thanks for posting this because I am appalled at the way they scam!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:12 PM
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This woman is coping so hard to be happy with this LV treatment. Now all and sundry know she is willing to accept this behavior. The LVM are going to be coming out of the woodwork!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:59 PM
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She really doesn’t! I cannot believe a woman would post this. I really cannot… this woman is celebrating being demeaned in such a disrespectful fashion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:56 PM
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BIG mad! They make up a lot of lies as well. Why is having a female space so hateful? Why is encouraging each other to have standards so wrong? What is so evil about being encouraged to enforce your boundaries? Why are we called “femcels” for learning about red flags that could very well save our lives? What is so scary about recognizing our value and not being taken advantage of financially? Blows my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:46 PM
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Used to be a joke. Male lesbian hahahahah Now it’s some sort of mass delusion and nobody cares because lesbians serve no purpose to men other than to be fetishized and demeaned. I’d almost feel sorry for men because it must be something to know that there is a female spirit and connection that they will NEVER experience. That they have to be wary of us because of that. They have to work night and day to try to crush that out of us but they can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:41 PM
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How truly dire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:34 PM
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They will make their wives identify as lesbian as well. It’s so disrespectful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:33 PM
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They also have narc traits. So it’s all about them. They benefit highly from their male socialization because they feel entitled to be heard and catered to. And they are. Interesting that less than 1% of the population can get so much power and bandwidth. We have people fighting for these individuals and changing laws to suit them in a way I never dreamed possible. Meanwhile, over half the population lives in a world where they are at HIGHER risk of being murdered while pregnant. Not a peep from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:24 PM
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Indeed. They are targeted as well because they choose to present as masculine and not submit to males standard of beauty. Men don’t like it when we don’t follow the rules of patriarchy and dress for them. They especially take offense when we dare to not even give a shit about it. Chilling really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:44 PM
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PS Most faux women centered subs are ran by um… feminine reaching individuals who cannot stand ANYONE questioning them. The feminism sub is run by someone who is excluded from feminism by virtue of biology. I used to think it was one large conspiracy I now just think a larger amount of men are shit. And men are going to men no matter how many pairs of lacy panties they own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:44 PM
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Some dude got all angry ban hammer on you for being here. I’d just gloat on the inside that they can ban you from their sub but they are forever banned from feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:33 PM
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Women very much need to protect their money. We get called “gold diggers “ but it’s like this mass projection a large number of LVM are doing. They feel entitled to everything we are. Our money, our bodies, our actions. Little wonder they get VERY nervous when women want their own space. They are afraid we will wise up. Edit to also say thank you for your contributions as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:07 PM
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Me too! What’s really sad is that as a pick me I still KNEW deep down somewhere that I should be respected and have dignity. I am sad I had to take so much crap for this feeling to become and action. FDS really is a little oasis in the vast scrote desert!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:04 PM
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Men don’t like to be challenged…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:57 AM
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Any performance to make it end lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:27 AM
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Facts check out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:13 AM
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They did you dirty over there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:45 AM
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I agree with your overall sentiment but… This is up to laws of where you live. In California you have to do the hard time of ten years for pension or retirement and then your claim is only on the ten years. Also once divorced in CA they are not your spouse and hold no claim to shit. IN FACT once a separation or divorce is filed your assists and accruing benefits stop being communal property barring any other agreements. This is not mutual property, it is your wealth after the filing. Benefits an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:40 AM
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Yes I think it would be best to be gentle as well because she already feel beat up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 11:34 PM
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Ohhhhh…. Yeah trust him again… it’s not like he will go raw with a bunch of chicks and lie to you about … oh. Wait. … never mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 11:33 PM
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It’s sad she is prioritizing this lying mans rep and feelings over her own health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:30 PM
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I’ve never knowingly met one. I’ve met a wonderful woman who was I to it, but I did not talk more about it with her cuz I was all sad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:32 AM
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We also have all SEEN our own experiences and truths in what is practiced here. I hope for a world where the logic and truth is accepted without knowledge of personal experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:30 AM
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Men can’t be feminists. Tell a self declared one that and watch the scrote emerge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:28 AM
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It breaks my heart. I don’t want to shame her but I do want to point out that you are right and that I BELIEVE she is worthy and can do better than what she is accepting. I believe it was brave to make the video. I think it’s important to validate the steps we take toward being high value. But also she flew herself out. Bad. He didn’t visit her. Bad. Went no condom .. bad. She might do well to accept the love we give here and read what is on offer. It is all logical and you can take it or leave …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:27 AM
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Men cannot be feminists and can only be allies should really be more widely believed. Tell a man who says he is a feminist the above and watch. Just watch. That scrote will come out full force. Can’t have a woman tell them nuffin’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:49 AM
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Me too. She is much more savvy than he thinks… I smile as I think about it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:38 AM
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Men who don’t put their resources and attention only on you are far more likely to discount your human right (yes a human right!) to be treated with dignity and respect. You’re body is your life’s vessel and these men care not for it. They will disease it. They will defile it. They will berate and belittle it. They will starve it. They will overfeed it. They will take pleasure from it. They will inflict pain on it. Anything BUT respect it. By god, they are HARD PRESSED when it comes to respectin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:36 AM
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I stay out of certain social media for personal reasons but if someone could do it appropriately I’d be all for it. I don’t want to shame her for that choice but it is a very crazy risky one. I have also put trust in those I shouldn’t and am lucky I was unscathed. I have many friends who were not so lucky. I am unfamiliar with her and what she is about, but if it is about women or a platform for empowerment she should definitely go and get that test and also tell her followers to do it. (Her res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:31 AM
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Happy cake day! She really needs to know he could give her something even if he was a “good guy.” I am not going to judge the unprotected side of it because I feel first thing is first. Understand and accept the HUGE amount of risk you are personally taking on. It is HUGE. If you decided to spin that wheel… then also understand that risk needs to be addressed and you need to be responsible for yourself and any future partners. Men will go raw with anyone. They will go raw with someone they just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:25 AM
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“I almost want an STD test” No. You NEED that test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:18 AM
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Later in my trip I met up with the girlfriend just us because I didn’t want to spend any time with him. She told me that he keeps bringing up threesomes …. Of course. Men can be such trash. Oh and yes I directed her to here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:27 AM
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You made me laugh so damn hard!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:36 AM
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You have written the truth. I have been through the same things in my past. Just ridiculous!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:40 AM
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They can’t even stand us on here expressing our own ideas. I get messages from men trying to tell me how to think and how to feel. Shaming me for having my own opinion. The moment a man feels like he isn’t being centered in a positive way, is the moment they lose it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:34 AM
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Then they are cheap when they get there. I saw a man use his Thai girlfriends country travel scheme discounts meant to promote travel for Thais… he wouldn’t take her to nice restaurants or hotels. ONLY the ones that took the vouchers. This same man made a comment that I was “bragging” because I told them about the activity I was excited about doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:25 AM
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They act like actually saying it is the same as actually being it! “I SAID I WAS (insert here whatever… kind, simple, sorry)” Like saying it means anything at all. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:22 AM
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Thank you for your comment. It just struck me that the WORST men have always said this. Even so called guy friends who I now see are trash as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:34 AM
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You’re welcome and thank you right back. Even if I have found a HVM (he has to prove it every single day) I am still coming to terms with the mistreatment I have suffered at the hands of men and how society co-signed on all of it. I want women to not have to actually suffer the confusion and feel powerful enough to never be mistreated. It’s so wild, even posting this I had messages from men lecturing me about misandry (no such thing, it is not a real thing to me) and not fully understanding that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:59 PM
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Exactly! Right away we know! It’s ridiculously manipulative and it’s so common!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:43 PM
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The ick is hard to take. Makes every “romantic”anything a torturous experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:29 PM
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Yes! 100%!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:28 PM
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I met a simple man who was Italian in Thailand on my last trip. It was not a romantic situation but he turned kinda weird so I ghosted. He got mad and called me something because I flew business class 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:24 PM
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They are usually simply selfish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:20 PM
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I have had similar experiences when seeking anything of value from a LVM!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:17 PM
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It’s insane how it is so insidious… Someone who says they aren’t about drama will call everything drama that does not fall into their viewpoint After abusive relationships it might feel safe to know someone is simple and they won’t abuse you or yell… They will do it big time and worse. Simply terrible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:58 AM
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YES!!!!! Any sort of complication is on the woman. Never his own place to step up. I am lobbying for this red flag. It is common and it is seemingly OK. It isn’t. Huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:48 AM
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Thank you for showing this “simple woman” what is up!!! Lol!!! You have it upfront and thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:43 AM
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Hit home. Am I the only only one to make sounds so it would be done faster? Never again. But I did it. They’d feel so good about themselves…. Never knowing I had better and options at the ready. My sounds would soon be real from a HVM. I am ashamed of how I would build these egos of nobody men… men who would be talked about behind their backs from many women. It’s sad they have a no idea what jokes they are. Oh well. I laugh at my own folly, as I laugh at their terrible sex. Little wonder even t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:26 AM
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Yes!!!! Exactly!!!!!! Low effort fucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:15 AM
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Like “Me need sex and no talk back” kinda cavemen BS It’s always SOooooooo simple for them when it comes to what they want but OMG get the damn Calculator out whenever it’s your emotions or anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:13 AM
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Right?!? They state they are simple and we will take that as if their demands are simple. They are not. It’s been a common thread in my pick me life and weighs on me. The simple statement should be a deal breaker red flag. I might be out of the pick me life. But I want to level up and up. I just have always seen this in these seemingly good men. Edits for spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:42 AM
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I didn’t have the words but it is a way to manage down your expectations while also demeaning your complexities. It is my hope that this will be included as a red flag. I’m all messy about it but it has been a stunning realization as I explore and confront my ridiculous pick me past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:27 AM
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It’s a way to enable them to lower your bar of expectations and also shame you for your complex needs. I just wish I had a better way to explain it . It is without a doubt a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:10 AM
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I snorted! Lol!!! You got my full piggy mode!!! I just seem to feel creeps and such STAY using this type of thing. It needs to even called out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:08 AM
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It’s the same thing!!!!! Thank you so much for your reply. I’ve been trying to help here as I am going through my own horrible pick me past. And this “simple guy” and “meat and potatoes” sort have come to mind so much. These types were always the worst. Just dismissive of any other emotions that weren’t their own because suddenly it was “too complicated.” I just haven’t seen this listed and it’s a HUGE red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:57 AM
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Not a straight man. I always hold out hope but they always do some weird shit. So many stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:55 AM
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Gold diggers would be OUT the moment they realized there was nothing to get. Lol It’s like those guys who demand that you pay them back for dates or whatever when you won’t have sex with them. It speaks volumes about how they view things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:43 AM
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Lol it’s always the poor guys who clack on and in about gold diggers when they are just out to get a free bangmaid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:56 PM
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These Russian men are so manly cuz they are so crazy unaware of themselves. It’s like the only common language men have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:47 AM
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Depends on how long you have been dating and how serious you are. I’ll say this as someone who truly knows, grieving doesn’t give you a pass to treat anyone like shit. It is not a free pass to abuse. If it’s new I’d stay in my own lane and like a nature watcher. We will ALL experience GREAT loss of we live long enough. All of us. Id keep a healthy distance if not already in a relationship. Just how I’d expect in return if it were me in that same situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:34 AM
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Many of these types are so unaware they take the politeness as a validation that they belong when in truth they are scary as hell and we just don’t wanna deal with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:19 AM
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Agree and we upvote each other. It’s just so nice and as real as Reddit gets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:07 AM
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Wasn’t going to be his body LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:55 PM
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Agree! It has been to me as well. Not a one has ever passed this test. They always revert right into scrote territory. It’s like when a woman says feminism is supposed to be about everyone and I reply that it simply isn’t and that words have meanings. They always show how ridiculous they are because everything MUST include men. It’s laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:31 PM
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It’s just another sneaky way for men to slither into our spaces whilst getting head pats along the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:55 PM
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I don’t believe men can be feminists. They can be allies but feminism is for women/girls and should be female focused and ran. They can prove themselves as allies and decent humans. Just my own view.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:25 PM
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Don’t let them shame you for what is you. The shame takes away our power to discuss and have confidence about our bodies. It’s so sad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:54 PM
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It’s always so bitter when these women accept their crumb. We are meant to cheer them and try to smooth over what we all know what happened. The most elaborate of Pre wedding crap is a symptom of it. Because we all know the man finally “settled down” but we all know how much this beautiful woman gave up for her reluctant mate. She could have found someone crazy about her. Now she has to ride this terrible ride that is more than likely going to end with her being saddled with this mama children a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:54 AM
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I would go further to say that if a man feels threatened that women have their own standards then they need to go touch cow dung. Men are not obligated to believe what we believe. They aren’t obligated to feel how we feel. It is totally fine if we find them incompatible. They can have their own standards. But how dare anyone tell us we can’t have our own? Especially when we preach not trying to change a man to fit our standards. Let him go. Freely into the world. He is free. So are we.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:41 AM
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The mods are … well… not what the sub would suggest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:37 AM
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If you tell a man the truth and that he cannot be a feminist but he can be one of the allies… watch for his reaction… it will tell you everything. How DARE A WOMAN tell HIM what he is!!! Except we can. There are no make feminists, only allies. If they cannot accept this then they are showing their true selves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:42 AM
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It’s tough. We because we just want to make sense of it. Like why is it? When there is never ever going be a good enough reason or a why that will excuse how fucked up we are treated. There just isn’t. I just wanna say I can totally get wanting to make sense of the garbage because you are coming from a good place and mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:23 AM
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My own option below. I am not coming at you. We have our own thought process: I choose not to spend too much effort or give too much headspace about the why’s and wherefores of our reality. It is reality. I just accept the reality and deal it. I had to do it on my own but I found this space and will tell my most horrible and embarrassing things to hopefully help another woman learn from my own mistakes. I had to do it in my own at first but had to be bold about how it’s unfair to be treated like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:26 AM
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Also you if someone is going to fuck you over they will. You just gotta continue to realize your own value, and use whatever you have to keep yourself the safest. Just because these safeguards won’t stop a LVM 100% of the time doesn’t mean it isn’t useful. Plus let’s be honest, these fast hook ups are shit in bed. No matter how you sell it. A connection and a mutual respect are ridiculously better physical connections than whatever any of these LVM have on offer. HVM have big dicks and are good …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:12 AM
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I’m shocked with you!!!! Like if he was so hungry why did he not eat beforehand? A snack even? I mean really. A damn energy bar. The manners as well. Can you imagine being in His bed at night? Just the gross of all that. He doesn’t have any shame or self awareness. Can you imagine having him round to your friends for a dinner party or even a damn BBQ? “Girl should we throw more slop to your date?!? He is digging up the garden for food!” Most men lack a shocking high amount of self awareness. It’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:25 AM
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Honestly it’s just like sifting something. Most of the crap will be sifted, sometimes you gotta also pick through by hand. You still sift because it’s easier to get rid of most of the crap. Just don’t forget your work is still not done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:11 AM
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Girl he was definitely an invading Alien doggie who you would have got on well with if he was just a regular pup. Damn he asked for your food? CLASSIC ALIEN DOG! Maybe he needed deworming pills or something… Seriously, that’s actually chilling to imagine. This man eating so grossly … gorging really… you there in disbelief with your plate hardly touched… his eyes roving hungrily not to your beautiful curves but to your plate of food. Manners have been thrown out of the window at that point. He do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:07 AM
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It’s funny that they think it’s so hard to plan and pay for a date. They need to spend less time downvote button pushing and focus on their career. Also they need to learn to Google? Planning dates aren’t hard. They resent the cost of their effort. Our cost of effort is of course ignored. They can fight over the pick me’s who they will devalue and mistreat. Why worry about what the minority of women do here? Upvote from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:58 AM
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Happens with in person people as well. As a pick me I can’t remember how many times this happened with men I met organically… I’d explain it away in my own mind but now I know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:54 AM
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You are totally allowed your own standards I am not saying anything bad about it thought I do have a warning that if you want to read will be below of not…all good. Especially if you don’t smoke then read if you want. A lot of these medical marijuana guys are seriously not using that designation properly. Many of them are not getting help for very deeply rooted psychological reasons. Medical MJ rules are lax many places (even outside of the USA and not assuming your an American) Just, I can’t he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:51 AM
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Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:43 AM
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I’ve been into this just made up conspiracy for YEARS… follow the dog treats and you get the to the truth. He’s enjoying being able to eat all the people food AT the table like a GOOD BOY! A lovely lady isn’t smacking his snout because he has managed to get into the people food! He is so happy to have had his meal he wants to slobber you with doggie kisses…. Follow the dog treats…. 🤣 Edit to ask: did he get super excited when you said the “W” word… Did he try to press you for “walkies?” (That’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:38 AM
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It is the same argument both ways… you did it? You can do it again! You haven’t? Then you don’t know! Stay strong (good to not tell them) because as someone who is definitely not a virgin and has a higher “body count” than usual (pick me days ugh) I can promise you that I have ALWAYS regretting trying something I knew I wouldn’t like and have NEVER regretted standing up for my boundaries and true wants. Most of these men can’t even get the foundation right. They wanna skip grades when they are f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:31 AM
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Loving this energy and the stories. I have more stories of dates I should have walked out on. I once almost walked out of a date because the guy was making these odd jokes but the food was really good and I wanted to eat it. OH I also have stories of stuff I’d do to annoy a date to end it. (Now I’d just walk out but I was a pick me and not feeling my own power back then) Like the time I went out with a guy and he made some weird comment when I ordered onion rings at this local college spot. He s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:23 AM
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I had goats and one goat did that… I’ve never told a soul … this guy is like keeping that in first date convo rotation lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:13 AM
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Little did you know it was a beta test for a human suit alien dogs are working on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:11 AM
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That makes sense. That is about your comfort and what you feel keeps you safe. So no shade your way at all! I’m just not personally the type to enjoy that type of interaction with someone for a date. Pandemic made things a bit weird but it also gave men A LOT of good ideas on how to be cheap and LV. Just look at all these walking in the park dates now! Like wait… naw. When I was dating it would take me time to decide who to spend my time on… and by then I’d feel like I wanted to get to know them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:05 AM
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Exactly! Gah I can’t imagine a coffee date. So awkward going up to the line together… just the whole thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:26 AM
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They really don’t get it. Theirs is a numbers game and they are uninterested in actually having a connection. They aren’t after really getting to know someone and showing their best side. That is why it’s so expensive in their minds to take us for a meal. I mean, yeah some aren’t able to afford it, but they ought to get their lives right. Men are so transactional!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:25 AM
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My heart goes out to you there because I couldn’t find a one worth anything there. It’s not just a cultural thing, men in the UK are CRAZY low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 04:03 PM
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Couldn’t agree more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 04:01 PM
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It was a culture shock when I was there but much worse when I saw it in depth! Like wow these men aren’t shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:59 PM
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I am sad for my younger self (I’m a tragic former pick me) but am grateful for my HVW facets (oddly had some) and am glad I have a space to help other women with my mistakes. I feel less dirty every time I can help enforce another’s woman’s value I could be wrangling children for a man while trying to pick me dance for his attention without any savings or power of my own. I have my own wealth, power, and ability forged on my own. I want every woman to feel the same power The begging, uncertainty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:34 AM
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This is a must pushed on us by men and women alike… We are meant to feel bad not only for wanting more, but for not taking less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:25 AM
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I had a cheater ex who starting putting me down for a 10 pound weight gain at 5’10 (went from 130 to 140) to his friends. I found out about him and his friends took me aside about how he complained about how fat I had let myself get. Not that it matters but at my height it doesn’t mean much. I am not as bones looking but fit the exact same size of clothing and actually have more energy lol At any size I was way too big for him. That smol little nobody. Basically he was cheating on me since whate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 06:37 AM
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They already managed down those expectations… might as well throw in that oat milk upgrade lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 06:19 AM
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But she’s picky!!!! A coffee snob!!! He will have to bring her to a coffee shop and not a gas station! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 06:13 AM
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The spelling is also British English and I think these ladies consistently get handed the short end of the stick. These men over there are trash. Go on that forum I will not name, because it’s not for Reddit ballsacks (I won’t name it but you’ll know) These women don’t even think to have men pay. Women straight up paying for their maternity time and this and that. As if it is natural. Makes me feel the men over their are very … weak. I got the big mob on because I said I don’t and won’t ever pay…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 06:12 AM
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Also why is Chris Watts a model on this? ….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:58 AM
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I think the coffee date thing was viewed as an alternative to not going to drink. So safer. Unfortunately, that was soon dashed. We have found that it brings a whole other sort of man who slithers his cheap way into a woman’s time. This is observation. Even in my most pick me days I would not accept a coffee date. To me that was for my friends, not a potential anything else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:57 AM
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Sounds like he got what he paid for in the most the most scrote of terms … In the most real of terms he seems like a failure to charm. He had these dates show up, so upfront he was seemingly a good prospect. Yet upon meeting was then seen for what he was. Whores cost far more more than what he spent. If he is expecting those services he ought to just go into the abuse game. (Sex work is abuse to me) Imagine how he would act if you showed up in your sweatpants and wanted some Taco Bell? He’d be w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:46 AM
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So… will you teach ME about this hobby? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 They act like me asking you here as a woman is any different than them. How weird!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:11 AM
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I’m afraid to write what I think because it’s all pent up inside and I’ll be looking like a crazy woman. Also we have to be careful here. I don’t go to that space. Their feminism doesn’t focus on females. Mine does. I am unapologetic about it and have real beliefs that females deserve to realize their value. My feminism isn’t about “equality for everybody” is is about the focus of equality for females. Men are not a focus at all. Men hate that. No matter how they fashion themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:54 AM
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I’ve been auto banned as well from certain subs that SHOULDN’T care about anything to do here. But looking into the mods of these subs it becomes very clear why my participation here in this space bothers them very much. If they don’t want me in their space then I’ll have to respect it… no matter how sneaky and hidden their agendas are. I believe we deserve our space to not include these types of people. One where females can discuss doing better and living happier lives with those who value us.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:39 AM
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Exactly, bet he will go on and on about being the “giving” type lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:30 AM
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This dude… come on. “Kinda important” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:17 AM
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Nobody likes it who isn’t woke to it. I have a fiancé and let him know because WTF am I doing on a dating sub. No I didn’t give him my screen name details. Otherwise none of his business It’s just important to me to make those pick me days COUNT for some something. I don’t want any other woman to make my mistakes. Also I want to cheer other women on as they make their way! Honestly I find more pushback when I set boundaries and standards with my friends. I am not going to be an accomplice to mis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 01:51 AM
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No kidding. His reality is what many women deal with and aren’t allowed to complain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 05:53 PM
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Harvard Law and business are known but depending on your actual area of study there is no way a simple scrote would know. There is more to consider, what type of law? Is Harvard #1 in patent law? Things like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 02:36 PM
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Thank you it feels nice to give someone a laugh. It’s been a long time lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 04:29 AM
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Ha!!!!!!! So right!!! Like… where did you order your last pizza…. ? Still afraid because little caesars is a probable answer…. Did you at least get that crazy crust!? 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 03:11 AM
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I also went to a top school and was asked where I went. I answered and this man told me not to brag… literally answered where I went 🤣 Also he wouldn’t know the top school for your subject. Ballsack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 03:08 AM
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Owch because how true!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:16 AM
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Guess he stoped before he could get to really know her LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:12 AM
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It’s the hopeful wishful magical thinking without any critical thinking. Critical thinking is the only way out of this mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:09 AM
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You will. Vetting. Most can’t lie and disrespect for long, they won’t even put in the effort to get you into bed if you follow the handbook. Some WILL pass that. But you’ll be in a better place keeping yourself in this community because you’ll always be supported in your HV actions. This was incredibly low effort from these men and she fell for it. My heart goes out to her and it is there evil ways, but life isn’t fair and here there are all the tools to have a fighting chance. I wish you happin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:05 AM
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I feel bad for her. Words are words. Having cheap sex in the back of a car while your subsistence is just words is a poor decision. This man is. A manipulative piece of crap. I am not blaming her. I AM saying you need more than words ladies. (I always state this. I am a former pick me. I say everything deep from my chest having known) Future faking. It’s a thing. Demand more if they say they will do more. Life isn’t fair and it is massively stacked against women struggling to be HV. I hope this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:02 AM
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Bbbbbbbutttttttt what if you could WIN respect?!? Doesn’t that mean moar?!! lol once you truly learn to respect yourself you see what clowns are before you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:53 AM
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Yes Google voice is truly useful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:52 AM
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Women are always “rude” when we have boundaries..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:50 AM
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Never saw a such a pretty woman looks so smug and self satisfied while being so pathetically embarrassing at the same time. THIS is why we tell younger woman not to date older men. You THINK you’ve got it all under control but you very likely won’t. There is a distinct power dynamic and it is not putting anyone down to state that very real truth. This man could have all of the same stuff with women his own age. He wants a younger woman because they are easier to control. The ignorance this beaut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:04 PM
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I am too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:11 PM
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Yeah…. They took away what was a real joy :( I miss them still LOL Keep spreading that truth!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:07 PM
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I’m a vegetarian so not my go to. But I do love me some of those fries. (As my name would suggest I am not going to eat any of those carbs) I’m going to search what you wrote because I straight love to tease my family about it all!!!! (All good fun) It’s kinda like dating. I feel like I am craving a potato. Ah, and sure many potatoes look good… but I want that epic potato! Nothing else will do! Edit to include McDonald’s is not a date. I feel lien we need to really educate women on how our expec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:38 AM
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They really do. Bastards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:46 AM
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Thank you. I had to forgive a lot within my own mind. But trauma bonding and all that is a thing. I wouldn’t take an once of shit from her though. Thanks again, these interactions of intelligent HV conversation mean a lot in a world full of LV BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:40 AM
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Girl wanna know mine…. I go into his place and he had “The Game” on his fucking bookshelf. I didn’t know what it was. I thought it was a business book (oh gawd I sound so dumb but we were younger starting in a high pressure corp setting). I took a quick thumb through it and was like…. Oh it’s a dating book. Something I saw (very deep in the mind, I cant even remember) make the book stick with me and haunt my mind. When I got back home I looked it up and was shocked at what is saw!!!! So, next ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:37 AM
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Lol! Now I’m hungry for fries though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:26 AM
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Delete her forever then. You’ve got love&light in you without all that BS noise. Some unfortunately thrive on the drama. It’s all they know. I was surprised when she called me crying because she had tried to reach out and my first question was are you with him? Yes? Click.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:26 AM
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Mc Pick Me I’m hating’ it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:05 AM
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He certainly would want to do better than her studio. I’m not knocking studios but at his age and with two people….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:02 AM
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Ohhhh they do do that! “My ex was such a user….” Then they proceed to use you LoL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 11:22 PM
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Right?!? Plus this man is 30 years old and doesn’t have anything together. Do you think he actually does the hard cleaning? Doubt it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 11:05 PM
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They don’t care and will somehow always end up getting to do the things they like. Because women will plan and be giving, thinking of his enjoyment. But you know of most women didn’t take over planning their LVM would plan horrible cheap vacations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 11:02 PM
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I hated when I would plan a vacation or whatever and they would act like they were not having a good time. Like go plan something for yourself then! They put zero effort into anything and then get mad when It’s not perfect. That’s why I enjoy traveling solo. Went to Thailand for four weeks recently and did whatever I wanted and it was amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 10:59 PM
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Ohhh that makes me sad because it is a real possibility. Ugh. The bar can be set SO low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:14 PM
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It’s sick! I was a dummy lib fem back then and kept justifying things in my head, but it was one of the many things to come from that relationship that saw me trying to always prove o wasn’t after his $
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:57 PM
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I have no seen that movie but I have read about that scene. I should really watch it! I think women really overrate having a man live with them. Like it’s an achievement when it’s really not. The idea of playing house seems so cute and fun, but the reality of it is soul crushing. Whenever I see a woman all sad about her man leaving her I always post about how she will come to see this as a blessing. Her life was poisoned by him and she doesn’t know it right now. It really is something wonderful …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:48 PM
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I am smiling at your memory!!! They always think they make our lives better when they don’t. I read this one story on another forum where a woman was married for like 30 years and her husband told her that he was leaving her for another woman. She was rightfully devastated, but as she updated (and he FINALLY left the house) you could see the way this man had made her life unbearable without her even really noticing. She made a comment that first night which always stuck with me. She said she mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:38 PM
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Sounds like a wild and horrible ride. How amazing was that first night he wasn’t around anymore and you could just breathe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:24 PM
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And it’s a studio. What sort of housecleaning does a studio really take? As someone who has lived in many a studio they are small and take nothing. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:23 PM
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This is true. When I was like massively cheated on for YEARS I KNEW something was weird but I didn’t have the ability to really believe in myself. So o let it go on. Now if I feel confusion I address it. If I still feel it then I’m out. It’s no way to live
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:01 PM
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Signs are spot on Plus…Fact is you’ll know deep down. Cultivation of your High Value mindset will give you the power to believe what you see before you and trust your own judgement even if the information is painful. If you have “that feeling” that is all you need. He will do everything to silence you from your own inner power. Men think they are so slick but they basically all do the same things. We just lie to ourselves and allow ourselves to be confused. Confusion in itself is enough to throw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:47 PM
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Yes! We will lie to ourselves to try to make sense of the confusion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:43 PM
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You are doing the right thing. I have a best friend who was in a super bad relationship with a NVM. They lived in a different state and I went out to visit her. This man was a nightmare. Got mad at me when I told him me and her were going to go out at night without him because I wanted time with just her. Going so far as to angrily drive us (yeah don’t accept rides from these types) and stomping around the house. I was like no, you just can’t come and it’s weird that I came all the way out here …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:41 PM
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Oh! Also! Of course this hobo only has one piece of furniture!!! He will pay half rent for maybe one month or two. Then the mind games will come. I think her mom might have an undisclosed traumatic head injury because she doesn’t seem to be 100% there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:31 PM
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If he’s not offering rent at the moment he is not going to like paying later. A gentleman would offer unprompted because he would not want a woman to pay his way. He is likely running up her electricity, water, food costs, and more. I remember (damn I was a clown) when I lived with my ex (we did get engaged and married) in graduate school and we would split everything. He lifted weights a lot and ate A LOT. I was on very fixed costs and he was from a family that had $. Yet I was expected to pay …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:29 PM
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You are correct! They could have a gorgeous woman who would do the dance! But they have to degrade those who won’t. I am just so sorry you had to go through it. I am glad you shared it because you shared it to warn others. I feel like I am inspired to share tales of what a pathetic pick me I was. Because of what you have shared. It is HARD to share mistakes but it needs to be done. Just so that a woman might be able to spot the signs and the feelings…. I feel guilt toward my younger self, so I f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:32 AM
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Men like to take strong women and break them down. They just do. It is an actual thing. It validates them on a sick level. You’re a young intelligent woman, men hate that. Your promise, your light, all the good in you. Only a HVM should be around you. Only HVM should be allowed to watch you pursue a dinner menu. One thing you did that was smart was not to tell this LVM about it himself when he didn’t have money to cover the bill. He could have hit you. Sometimes you make a mistake and have to ri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:11 AM
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I fail, but less and less. Your post really moved me. Not in the judging way, but in that I’ve done far worse in my past. The real lesson is that many women are put into the same situation as you. They are so afraid to tell a man no about coming up to their room. But they shouldn’t. You felt such relief in your final decision. Every woman in this situation would ultimately feel that, but it the moment the pressure is real. Your post reminds women how awesome it is to walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:45 AM
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I am so sorry for that experience Please read up on other women’s experiences here with different things so that you can learn from their mistakes. I hope someone learns from mine. I am not sure where you are but it seems you need to be extra careful. I hope you can see that In this land you will be viewed as someone who is an “other” and therefore people will feel less bad and about taking advantage of you (based on the update about the police and such… I’m a world traveler and have lived abroa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:36 AM
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Oh and PS: He found himself a very high level woman and married her quite quickly. I don’t ever look him up (I pride myself on not doing that) but a mutual friend shared when they were getting married. I don’t know if he is happy. All I know is that I’m 100% happy in my life with actual friends and loved ones. He can be as unhappy or happy as more allows. No problem to me. I’m more mad at myself AND the fact that this man felt he could say that to me. As if I wasn’t able to make friends and a li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:59 PM
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Edit: RIGHT!!?!?? Imagine a world where you could literally go online… share that you are a man baby…. AND get good replies plus sympathy!!!! Imagine!!! Sad Sack Saggy Jowls dude over here is in his feelings which should be RESPECTED for whatever reason (women get shamed for their feelings but ok). Because he experienced a loss… except it wasn’t a loss. It was a blow to his ego. We women go online and say anything and we are told to communicate, to try watching pornography, maybe we should be sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:52 PM
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We all make mistakes. A LOT of mistakes were made in this situation but you had some good calls. The best one being you did not let him pressure his way into your room. Honestly even when I was a pick me I would have been so offended over the dinner thing. It’s just rude to invite someone out and then spring a cost on them last minute. The money at the end. I won’t go hard on you but I’m sad that happened. Still, glad you can relax in your tub and not have to put up with him anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:08 PM
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I was cheated on by a man for years and I ignored so many red flags. It was only when I woke up that I saw them. I am shocked and embarrassed by that. Because some were CRAZY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:01 PM
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Sorry this happened to you. What a nightmare man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:11 PM
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Is it just me or am I EXTRA offended at this because he is using communal family money to pay for this crap? She is literally stuck paying HALF of whatever he spends cheating on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:10 PM
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It’s not even like they love or appreciate you for supporting them. They take everything for granted. It’s up to us to bet on ourselves. Plus, these men would grow up a lot faster if they were left with the real consequences of their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:37 PM
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Solid no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:36 PM
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Imagine not being talked down to daily by a man who thinks he knows better LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:35 PM
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Yikes girl!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:58 PM
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Yeah they are very much going to be. Also thanks for the kind words. It sucks because the dude will usually start putting in no effort and managing down your expectations. Even romantic things he could easily do will seem like WAY too much effort for him over time. I really look back and cringe. I would try to think up ways to revive things, but really I was thinking up ways to have him interested in me again. Not to mention being cheated on from day 1, and this was the type of guy who was the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:15 PM
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We met in person and lived in the same country. He was just in SoCal and at the time I was in NorCal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:55 PM
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I too have noticed the weaponized incompetence! I like women to be able to call out that crap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:54 PM
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Thanks for the reply! LOL that is so cringe! The grown woman line is my everything right now!!!!!! Hilarious!!! I am so glad you were able to get away!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:52 PM
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She thought he would be grateful to her and they’d share a moment. But that’s not how it works. PS she was using her friend as a sex toy, but she just found out that’s not how it works
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:03 AM
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Right how weird is that?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:57 AM
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Men do die much earlier without a woman in their life taking care of them. So there is that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:52 AM
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You’re so right! We are not really friends but he came to my home … also we talked over breakfast… Weirdly close. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:49 AM
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Ladies if you find your partner is hiding these types of thing BEST BELIEVE they are fully callable and likely will do the SAME things to you. My ex’s best friend would cheat and my ex would talk down about it all the time. I was of course a pick me and told not to say anything and I didn’t . Well. Karma huh? Guess who also was getting cheated on all over the damn town? Me. I won’t have it. If you cover up for a cheater then you are a cheater to me. Better believe I’ll blow up a cheaters whole l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:48 AM
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Chilling comment because 100% true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:33 AM
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“Laborers explored for 30 years” makes it ok I guess? Yet laborers aren’t begging for their work to be deleted… these women are I wonder why that is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:32 AM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:25 AM
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Once you have real confidence in yourself you won’t be bothered by this question. You will treat them as they treat you. With love and respect. With dignity. You get yourself to where you need to be this will be only a passing thought. Relationships and love isn’t always easy, but it mostly is. You were innately born with the right to be treated with love, dignity, and respect. You just have to within yourself learn to accept that right. You already know how to give it. PS I don’t mean YOU perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:21 AM
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You BOTH got away. Thank god! But the fact that he got dumped by her and is denied ANYTHING even emotional labor from her… will make HER (that one he didn’t even like lol) the “one who got away.” She is now that. Because she had the AUDACITY to dump him You are still taking his calls and are in his mind still under his influence. You obviously aren’t but this is how he is thinking. She wasn’t even liked and she didn’t try to win him over or whatever. Stay friends. Nothing. She decided to move fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:14 AM
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Block this guy. Make him HURT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:04 AM
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If you BELIEVE hard enough….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:01 AM
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I saw this as well. Just hurts to see it in a comment on a post of another terrible situation. There is hope. She has read the other comments and it might wake her up to her own situation… the light is starting to shine just by her posting that alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:01 AM
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I had been drinking unmmmm much wine. I can’t remember fully but I saw a commercial for men to exercise their pelvic muscles with this device that they kind of sit on? I wonder if it was some sort of drunken fever dream ….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:55 AM
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I mean… can he even use it? I’m not sure if you knew this about him but …. He has a flat tire. A Flat Tire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:52 AM
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Oh! Question OP. When you kissed did he try to push it to be more very fast? Like one of those guys you kiss and then literally the next minute they are taking off their pants ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:51 AM
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But… he had fun!!!! HE HAD FUN Certainly that means OP should probably be always available and willing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:49 AM
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Op I get why you shared this. I think I’ll muster up the courage to share times before I was smart to help others. Not going to lie. Likes your replies even if it’s better not to lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:47 AM
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“A woman should be able to kiss a man beautifully and romantically without any desire to be either his wife or his mistress.” Obviously block this stuff ladies but OP you seemed non emotional and in control. Again best to not engage but it was a fun read for me! I love all the manipulative tropes this guy pulls out in just one interaction. FEEL SORRY FOR ME: all the girls do this to meeeeee FEEL GUILTY: You are just like the others poor me, don’t you have a heart? Psych Salad w/o any tasty dress…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:44 AM
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Yup me too. Made a lot of mistakes and hoping ladies here can learn from mine instead of making their own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:26 AM
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PS you know what would have done a better job increasing this woman libido? Sometime actually making reservations and buying some damn flowers LOL I bet he still is crying over his beloved tire and this hasn’t sunk in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:55 AM
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Thanks for the info! Yeah I think the exercises should be a thing! But not sure about bacteria balls. Ick Why would he get this for this woman? Is this a thing people ask for? Literally have no idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:53 AM
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I get your concern but I don’t think it will. Because the “Karen” insult is meant to shut you up and make you less assertive. It is used to uphold misogyny. The “pick me” label is used to point out the fact that a woman is complying with misogyny and shaming her for it. There is no reward to the patriarchy to make this “a thing” because using it only serves to shape behavior that is anti pick me. Ever notice how women are basically the Only ones who use it? Yet men will throw Karen and other nam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:49 AM
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It really is. I’m ashamed of that time of my life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:41 AM
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You know the screenshots and fun that would be for her and her friends…. I’m petty as hell, I’d love that. The jokes!!! The belly laugher!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:34 AM
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He thinks he’s special cuz he was her first and she had feelings once for him. You know what is awesome? He is on Reddit crying over this and she probably hasn’t thought of him in years!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:33 AM
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You’re right about that. Working his way right on through until low and behold this woman who he felt in his heart of hearts would NEVER move on from him! Not him!!! Her FIRST!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:32 AM
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You’re right about that. Working his way right on through until low and behold this woman who he felt in his heart of hearts would NEVER move on from him! Not him!!! Her FIRST!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:32 AM
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Just imagine! The screenshots! The cackling of her friends! The comments! Oh I do hope he texts her some bullshit and that magically I know this woman LOL I want IN on the hilarity!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:31 AM
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When I was dumped but a man I later found out had been cheating and knew I was about to find out he … Wait for it…. Wished me the best of luck and hoped I’d make friends and not be “too lonely” without him. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:29 AM
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Me too! I was like is this like a girl Yoda I don’t know about?!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:21 AM
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When we are done we really are done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:19 AM
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I am proud to have been in a sorority. I was given a scholarship to be in mine cause I was poor at the time. So it isn’t “buying friends” (nobody said it but it comes up) My sorority sisters have made my life amazing and there was so much love and support. 100% believe sororities are amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:16 AM
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Sorry to hear about that. non creepy hug Next one will be better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:11 AM
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Right?!? Dinner and flowers. It’s not even that hard! He has been low effort towards her for months. Why can’t these women understand that this was the time for him to shine and he blew it. Don’t go putting effort into someone who puts no effort into you. These women’s comments blow my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:10 AM
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Thanks for explaining this. What a jerk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:08 AM
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Oh and work! So busy, yet he has the time to pop on Reddit and beg for sympathy LOL Like nobody else is busy at work and had to deal with a flat tire!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:08 AM
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Ohhhhhh I figured it was something like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:07 AM
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So all he had to do was make reservations to a nice place and get her some flowers. Instead he takes her with friends to witness it all on a cheap hike (in a car without a fixed flat tire no less) …. A thrown together meal plan after said hike when people will be hungry (LOVE how he brings up the hasty takeout they got was expensive…) and… a movie at his place. Cheap bastard. Here is the REAL DEAL: He KNEW he was being cheap because he had the unforeseen cost of the car tire replacement. He knew…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:05 AM
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So… should I Google this or is it better I don’t know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:53 AM
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Yes!!!! Closure comes from within and these sacks are gonna hear what they wanna hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:28 AM
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Thank you! I just posted a long rant about this. Day or night. This man had ZERO business at her doorstep. Of course abusive men are going to be all depressed when they FINALLY get faced with a HVW. It is confusing for them… makes them VERY angry… “How DARE she?” All those types of thoughts. These men will take your life, they will hurt you. A wild animal won’t hurt you until it does. These men should be treated like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:28 AM
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Ladies. Please. Do NOT open your door to such men. I don’t care how sad or pathetic they seem. I don’t care how calm. I don’t care how guilty or bad you feel. DO NOT OPEN YOUR DOOR. Literally begging you. They will come out of nowhere and hurt you. You don’t owe ANYONE an explanation of why a breakup happened. This is why there is no such thing as closure. OP did what was right for her. But I caution ALL women from this. It’s crazy as hell. No. It is a complete sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:24 AM
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If he wanted to do better he would. Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:19 AM
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The best dates I’ve been on were when the men were trash but the date itself was such a positive memorable experience (the activity, like VIP at the zoo… blah blah) that I didn’t feel like I wasted my time. Like how good was that date where you won’t ever take his calls again but you’re still happy you went?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:15 AM
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You got it right! I should have also put I’ve tried a couple times like a big dummy. Man. I am ashamed of how when they pulled the pull away how I’d try to “be creative” and “communicate.” It’s just so much easier to prolong the honeymoon phase in an LDR and also easy to overlook the insidious evil of being played. Then that pick me switch gets flipped. It’s a trap. Again not all. But it is a huge trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:08 AM
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I feel like it’s bad to say. But … I mean… golly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:28 AM
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It’s rare like winning the lotto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:49 AM
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You wrote this perfectly and so chillingly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:48 AM
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Dr Dre and Eminem are no better. Catty comment 50 cent looked … well nourished
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:28 AM
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Cheater in the making if not already. Thank god for this place because it will at least wake up women like her to the fact that they need to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:27 AM
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All performative Gentlemen was coined to mean rich and of society. They often were not in fact gentlemen but practiced in social graces. Fancier brutes who had money and polish. You should be more focused on the push for women to be “ladies” even without the wrath a privilege the name would suggest. Ladies have to do A LOT more than gentlemen don’t they? These were all farces of “society” … none of these gentlemen went to help plow for their families. Maybe when the gentleman cheated he did so w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:00 AM
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I bet this man will be as hollow and disappointing as the majority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:45 AM
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16 …. Yeah you have your own phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:44 AM
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Dated for 9 months? I mean come on. I don’t believe it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:41 AM
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Dated for 9 months She calls me “mom” Nope. Seems very fake. If real, they all have extreme issues. She should not be talking about her dating life with this young woman (I feel it’s fake) 16 year olds have their own phones. No reason to lend a phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:39 AM
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It’s have to be a most glorious cheat day! One is dress up for lol! I’d want to use the xxtra hot Cheetos lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:22 AM
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I’m glad for women finding this earlier. I wish I had. By the time I had, I’d already been put through the ringer and was already putting many of these practices to work in my life. But that was because of hard experience. The bad kind. You can learn from your own mistakes but it is something truly remarkable if you can learn from other mistakes. That’s why I am here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:20 AM
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You are correct in this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:16 AM
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Well you obviously never read the very pivotal and much lauded works of Kitty McKittakins! If you had seen your way to read her -99% of the population has no clue, she is only known by me-groundbreaking works you’d know by heart that : “Meow meow meeeeow licks paw furiously purrrrrr”….. hope that gives you comfort. if a man were a woman talking down to a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:15 AM
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OK. Good! You definitely haven’t given him any ideas HOWEVER it is still early yet and these men can play the long game. I wish you a wonderful future!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:14 AM
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What I don’t like is if a guy makes a meal you’re supposed to be over the top about it. “WOW!!!!! MUCH ROMANCE!” I can’t ever do it. I can’t fake it. They end up disappointed… like me when I was stuck eating their pasta.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 12:06 AM
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I too am intrigued… lol Can’t cuz keto right now but it sounds like the best damn cheat meal ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 12:04 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 This was a good laugh LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:48 PM
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You can get a Google number. Very easy to control, also allows you to have your pick of area codes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:48 PM
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This is what they do. Like the guy who calls you fat when you turn him down. It’s just like a kid throwing a tantrum. Lol Men literally try to have sex with food items, they aren’t really worried about weight. They are VERY worried about rejection… it makes them all sorts of mad LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:42 PM
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This! Own your own things ladies and don’t let it go! It is REAL freedom to never have to worry about where you will go if he decides to be a jerk. Plus once they get you where they want you is when you start to see how they REALLY are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:39 PM
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You have a good head on your shoulder OP. Just don’t be blinded by these types of men. You never ever know what will come out once you dig into actual finances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:37 PM
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Get a house you can afford that is only yours. I don’t think the age gap would be that bad if you were in the same place in life. If you owned your own properties and such. My own fiancé is around 9 years older but when we met I owned my own properties and fully had my finances together. I had a portfolio and a solid understanding of building my own wealth/worth. More than that? I would laugh if I were expedited to go 50/50. Like why is he even around if he can’t care for me and treat me right? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:36 PM
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It his hilarious when broke men worry about gold diggers. Like dude nobody wants fools gold !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:15 PM
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To those commenting on other passengers: If she was in business class it would be very possible the other passengers didn’t hear. It depends on the airline but you are spaced out and some are enclosed suites. It is loud on planes and often in business you have lay flat beds and you can just pass out after eating and drinking. Also those cabins are often not full. I have recently flown in business class/1st from Japan to usa and back and from Japan to Thailand. My usa to Japan flights where VERY …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:12 PM
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He’s a scrote that cheated on his pregnant wife who was (before getting married) his affair partner in his first marriage. Yes. He is a super scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:03 PM
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Me Smart. Me Man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:00 PM
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It’s just this wearing down of intelligence… ground down by the work of taking care of this child and alllll the other things. One would wonder what she’d say if her daughter had been interested in these things? The acceptance that men are trash is even literally a part of the culture. Like ok my son is trash but how do I help him be less so? 16 is so old for self exploration for men. She doesn’t seem too quick on the draw. Yes I said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:22 AM
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Yeah your son has been “exploring “ for so long he has not seen to even covering his own tracks. 16 and sloppy is old for these things. The exploring stage happened much earlier. But just like any scrote they get sloppy. I wonder if she will woman up or not. Little baby boy can go online to exploit women. He needs to do his own laundry and be a big man now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:15 AM
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I’m too damn angry right now to think straight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:09 AM
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If a white man keep bringing up your difference it’s a problem. If they do so in a truly intelligent manner it is fine. If it’s … “ohhhh nooo what if so and so or what and what saw us together!! What with our races and such!!” That’s an issue If they ever tell you they only watch POC or your races porn. That’s some shit. If they ever try to put you into a stereotype “Oh you’re this race, no wonder you do this and such…. I love it” If they comment on you body using any regressive stereotypes. A B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:02 AM
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I’m in the camp that it’s possible but only when rock bottom has been achieved. That means the wife left, no supply, no anything they are after. Also if they are not sociopaths. But still ridiculously rare. They also wouldn’t be on YouTube lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:16 AM
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5’9 and 120 pounds is a tall order LOL I’m 5’10 and got down to that weight because of a health thing. Drs were all over me. I went to planned parenthood for birth control and they had the nerve to put that I had anorexia. I did not. Anyways, gained enough weight back and feeling better. But it’s forever on my chart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 11:58 PM
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Eewwwwwwwwwwww Breaks my heart that some women might have to stoop to this. The nightmare fuel of even thinking about being stuck in this situation makes me physically sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:28 PM
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Some people get BIG MAD at that answer LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:02 PM
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“Yes I am a feminist. I believe women should not be subjected due to their biology.” Usually shuts people up quite quickly. They don’t know what to do with that hard truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:01 PM
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I am glad and I am proud of you! I spent too long as a pickme and it is such a different feeling to be on the other side. The power of walking away when things are not right feels so much better than staying around to try to “win” someone’s good behavior back. Ladies it feels amazing to stick to your boundaries and not attempt mental gymnastics trying to make things good with someone who isn’t worth it. It’s scary the first few times but it feels amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:09 PM
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Honestly there are a lot of misconceptions about ADHD. Most of these people self diagnose and use ADHD to explain away abuse. ADHD does not make you abusive. It does not make you push and pull in manipulative way. What it can do is make you a very annoying partner. One who with symptoms unchecked will feel like another child. Many partners feel they have to organize and remind their partners who forget things, and misplace things. I am not getting on you but ADHD has been brought up a lot recent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:01 PM
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I once stopped communicating with a guy after a one date. The date wasn’t good and I felt something not altogether right. Also he really wanted to walk around my neighborhood which is a place with lots of restaurants and bars, which was fine but then he wanted to park in my parking complex. I was like no…. So he goes to park at a paid lot and then looked at me to pay! I said no and ended up just walking to my home right then because the sheer audacity. Anyway. I text him it just wasn’t a good ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:47 AM
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Don’t spoil her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:22 AM
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Let me take her to Target and really blow her mind….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:17 AM
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Now that you bring that up.. he seems to be ahem busy with prior engagements
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:05 AM
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Maybe she should make some chalk drawings on the sidewalk? To be more on his level?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:04 AM
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If she decided on him! Yes!!! You know it!!! I keep telling my friends you are single until you aren’t. Keep meeting and dating (obviously not already proven LVM) because your time is valuable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:03 AM
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They don’t even value what they get despite not being worthy of it in the first place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:24 PM
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I also think they don’t understand it. They don’t get all the time, attention, and care required to responsibly own a horse. It’s massive. I think you’re right as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:09 PM
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Also any woman I know who has a horse has a very close relationship with the animal. The time and the bond and all of that is like having someone else in their lives because it’s not like you can watch tv with a horse on your lap lol I think men are threatened by that bond as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:56 PM
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This is why women should date other men if they are not in a committed relationship. This guy would be forgotten!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:48 PM
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Pay attention to the small things as well. One thing I’ve noticed with the truly crazy guys is I will wake up to either a lot of texts or really weird texts. They will try to say their friends did it or they were drunk. I dunno what it is. Those late night “mistake” texts have never been wrong. Another is to watch how they react to disappointment. Really once you even FEEL something is off BELIEVE it. Have you ever been wrong? I doubt you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:44 PM
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I read one that I got and the dude was sooooooooo angry that I stated women deserve better than abuse. It was wild! You could see how angry he was!!!! Made my day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:38 PM
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I guess my real point is that there is no reading list to become a “Real Woman” The idea is laughable and belittling All the books can be amazing (I’ve read many of this list and can argue naw) but women get told all the time what will make them a woman. Just to be alive as an adult female is to be woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:57 AM
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If you want to be real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:53 AM
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Also Elon Musk and like maybe move languages cuz womens have feels?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:52 AM
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Bbbbbbbbbbbbbbuttttttt don’t you wannaaaaaa be REAL?!!?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:52 AM
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You’re good people. This is what this place is all about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:50 AM
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Make your bed Learn love languages Quiet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:50 AM
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It’s just so belittling to us. Real woman indeed! What did these wannabe unreal women ever do before … Elon Musk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:48 AM
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The only thing that helps with my deep shame is to realize and understand it. To truly face it. And to come here and places like here and share my very real story. I just want the best for women. I want to be the last to feel the shame that I feel. Oh! Also I’m not going to be like that any more. I know for a fact it feels so much better to be loving your life healthy without anyone toxic. But I can’t ever claim I haven’t hit rock bottom pick me. I’ll never lie or turn away from that hard truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:47 AM
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B-but…. Elon musk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:44 AM
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I am going to bet money you are an amazing friend! I would straight up make fun of coffee dates. I had no idea that it was this thing with men. I just naturally looked down upon it. No way I’m giving any of my weekend time or evening for some coffee… I swear I still get into heated arguments on forums such as M’net where I state that I have requirements. I am a recovering pick me. I was THE WORST. No lies. Still never thought a coffee date was something I’d ever do. That’s for friends. That’s wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:41 AM
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It’s just so lame and really grasping at this point. I am hoping most women wake up and find that a real woman is one who is just a woman in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:36 AM
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It is … something to behold lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:35 AM
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I can’t speak to upbringing but my very good friend was like that However when it got down it … she was was all about the boring lifestyle She’d say she missed the ups and downs in rare wistful moments…. But she is so grateful to have a more stable relationship now. Your friend will end up either a used husk or wise…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 04:08 AM
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I snorted lol!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:55 AM
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PS yes I believe it’s men. Any handmaiden needs to be dragged HARD for this BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:55 AM
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The creators are in the pic. The headway app. I have felt so alone in the fact that this is wrong. Real woman challenge is ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:54 AM
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That is your full choice But…. Can I offer you a collection of books that will prove my point, even if you’re just trying to Do what you want? No? What if I were to say you weren’t a REAL anything unless you complied? Still no? Ok. I am glad. If you’re up for it we can do wine and apps should you feel you want to be social Otherwise you’re still real and nobody can challenge that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:52 AM
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The likes are what kill me. I’m am so sad that there are no critical thinking skills… it is why most of us feel awakened as of from a dream when we are able To recognize this bullshit. Critical thinking. It’s a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:47 AM
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I mean… how were women even gifted a vagina if they hadn’t learned of Elon and the Musk?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:45 AM
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Most? What numbers are we talking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:25 AM
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Nobody has mentioned this mans pathological need to breed even though he cannot be there for his offspring. He has a mental illness that is overlooked by society. This is not a birth control issue it is a serious mental health issue. Edit to say he has impregnated women with access and education to use birth control (side effects we can debate vs birthing and raising a child alone) yet by whatever means still sees fit to continue to create children he has no intention on raising Lots of misinfor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:21 AM
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Move in! Witness my ED!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:12 AM
69

Looking eye to eye with me but claiming 6FT!!! 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:11 AM
15

Convenient and he was able to triangulate that mistress… I am so sorry for this in your life. I am just livid and mad on the Internet all Incel style except it is over the injustice of you growing up with this knowledge… not cuz a woman wasn’t into me… I’m glad you are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:07 AM
12

You went through it. So much trash out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:03 AM
51

Even before I found this Reddit and was starting to date with OLD I would have never ever accepted a coffee date! I’d go hard on my friends who accepted it. It’s trash. I have never in my life met up with someone who had a romantic interest over something I would say is friendly like coffee. I have had all sorts of word throw at me because I literally wouldn’t dream of a coffee meetup. Believe it. Coffee is for friends and chatting. Romance is for romantic situations. Every single time my friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:01 AM
14

Nay. They say these things for themselves. It has nothing to do with your pleasure and connection. I am personally not into it. My boundaries and what I’m into have been tested. They have been trampled. I am able to say no now. Also hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:43 AM
38

Free…… But totally not free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:40 AM
63

They are cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:52 PM
95

This guy really has to deeply hurt his wife over wishing some sad dream of getting his lost love back. I bet this man doesn’t even wear clean socks unless his wife sets them out for him, but he is really going to act like he has some sort of romance of the century he missed out on? She will never forget this. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:51 PM
39

Yes this as well!!! Oh poor them!!! All these crazy women the world is filled with. Lol Just wild to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:47 PM
172

Plus women have to to be the ones to file as most of the time the men will simply not do it. Like everything the burden falls on the woman. People bring up these “stats” but they literally mean nothing. Many women have wanted to make their marriages work or whatever but we’re forced to file as their husbands didn’t but also wouldn’t pay for the costs of the household. Depending on what state you live in once you file or file separation the asserts after that earned are now yours. (This is withou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:46 PM
2

Breaks before holidays or such also show he wants to cheat. I knew this one guy who is now married to his gf, and he would dump her before big friends trips or certain social holidays because he wanted to still look like a “good guy” while playing the field. Same with guys who were “going to get” you a gift. They are liars. Anyway, I ended up getting dumped by someone in that group… right before a holiday… and knew what was up. It is planned and rarely a mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 12:31 AM
12

I won’t even get into the many layers of discussion this brings about... I’m here to tell you ladies to stay out of the sun. I thought I was different when I was young! Surely not me! Alas, sun damage has hit hard and I’ve had to take some more drastic measures. Don’t be me!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:33 AM
6

This is the real!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:30 AM
2

Lovely and congratulations!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:28 AM
13

They do! Today there was a post on the same sub about this guy doing baby talk when his partner asks him not to. It’s obvious (if real) that it’s a fetish type thing. Sooo many comments about his mental health and even... wait for it... clutch those pearls ladies.... tighter.... white knuckle those strands....... if he might have a brain tumor! They would rather believe a brain tumor then the simple fact that men get weird “kinks” and see zero problem involving unwilling participants into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:27 AM
12

I’m going to agree. Though I would say to any young lady getting married to secure finances to have just in case they need it. Anthropologically speaking a ring is frivolous in nature and as such reflects the value the giver estimates of the recipient. That’s why jewelry has always been a thing for us women. It is the worth that we can obtain from these frivolous gifts should things go bad. Jewelry and furs (back in the day) were a bit of a way for women to secure their feeling of independence. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:18 AM
5

Last comment had me nodding my head. These pick me’s get crazier by the day trying to rationalize their own destruction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:11 AM
11

Replying without reading your whole post because the answer is always the same. You cannot get them to see the light until they are ready to open their blinds. Those in the thick of it will be quick to lump you in as some hater. You gotta lead by example and living your best life. If they come asking after your success then it’s the time. Otherwise they usually won’t listen. Hell as a former pick me I didn’t even listen to myself. That deep voice of reason that hung inside of me. No friend could…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:07 AM
23

Someone got big mad... The only big they have laid claim to ever. Congratulations to them. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:01 AM
31

My brag? Realizing what a pick me I once was, dealing with it, and humbling myself here to do my best to make sure other women don’t make the same mistakes. My aspirational brag is to actually know my very shameful and embarrassing pick me knowledge helped someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:56 AM
2

I’m sad reading this ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:54 AM
4

I feel the same way. Being real and honest with myself made me feel stronger. I know others have different needs, and I am going to cheer them on. However, I feel the same energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:23 AM
6

You are ridiculously amazing. You are an amazing mom. You can’t trust these men round young daughters. I am so sorry you have to go through this, but I’m glad that you can be alone on your own. So much better than being alone when with someone (I was married for abouts the same amount of time, no children, but the loneliness is real)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:21 AM
6

**cannot stress enough that this is my personal take and not at all disparaging OP (you’re message is positive OP) just my feels ladies!* Personally, I feel like bold ass raw honesty was the best way to pull me up from the Pick Me’s. Maybe I was more far gone than most, but I don’t think any sort of coddling or positivity would have helped me personally. (Queens have different needs in their kingdoms) Nobody asked ... but my problem was admitting that I had made a full on mistakes... first to my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:13 AM
2

I get you! No matter what LVM gotta go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:42 AM
2

Is it any different than when you were younger though? I also did not feel all the men were great back then, and I still don’t. Nothing has changed. Just having an abundant mindset is important because women fear that there is a scarcity of these men, and there simply is not. Women needn’t fear letting go of these LVM. Happy you’re happy btw! That’s all that matters in the end and we both know a LVM will keep a woman unhappy every single time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:07 AM
4

Just goes to show you how widespread this crap is... the norm that is pushed on us is to not want any better. No wonder so many men have their feathers ruffled at the very idea of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:41 PM
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You’re so right!!! It’s like a cult. Their cult is devaluing themselves... I hope any woman who finds her way here understands that this cult is as crazy as joining one to follow the Flying Spaghetti Monster. I will full out say I spent many a moon being a Pick me to epic levels. I hope someone at least learns from these obvious mistakes !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:50 AM
8

You made me feel a bit better. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:33 AM
2

I feel sick at this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:32 AM
1

I feel you. I am greatly embarrassed of my past drama over a nobody never was man... I only share it so that just maybe another woman won’t mane the same mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:30 AM
3

Pasta and linkin park... how in the world are we not all trying to hit him up?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:28 AM
2

Ugh.... so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:15 AM
1

She’s just lulling him into a false comfort... ukdailynews will soon have another story on their hands!!! Seriously though, when a woman is silent a man better worry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:12 AM
2

This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:59 AM
16

Give us a highlight?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:52 AM
17

Same. Divorced and in my 30s.. Men are abundant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:51 AM
19

Listen, I mean truly listen to me. You needn’t panic about your age. Please enjoy your 20s! Bask in your youth and the experiences you can have at this time. You get to feel old later.. 27 ain’t it Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:50 AM
25

You went right for the heart... I like you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:43 AM
22

Ding! Ding! Ding!!!! We have ourselves a winner!!!! This type of thing just tries to legitimize Pornhub to women ... but they are men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:42 AM
9

“Women” 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:40 AM
10

A well thought out and executed romantic picnic will cost far more than a fancy date. However, it is still intimate. This type of romance is earned over several dates. He earns the right to plan a thoughtful and worthy event that sets him above alllllllllllllll the others who you could be with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:34 AM
151

Cool. They can take these LVM out of the dating pool and waste their good years trying to win these losers over...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:31 AM
149

I get your point, women always neglect themselves, they need to do whatever makes them feel good about themselves. I get you want women to stop putting themselves on the back burner. However on the flip side this can read like: HEY married women! Did you know that if you get even a tad run down or allow yourself to age (gasp!) you’re low value man will split! Be afraid!!! Best to be a pick me!!! Worry about how men can up and leave at any time!!! It’s YOUR fault!!! Fear is the worst of motivator…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:29 AM
30

Exactly, we have men who are just... not very attractive judging women. Health will breed confidence. Mental and physical. Whatever that truly looks like for you is what you need to keep up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:15 AM
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Cockroaches often do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:23 AM
14

I felt it was funny... he had his big boy clothing on and pretended he was the one she would want to marry... like ... come on.. stop huffing that cheap body spray!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:22 AM
7

I mean I cringe as well and at my first wedding (lawd!) I didn’t do the bouquet throw because even at that tender age it was lame to me. Still, it could be a big thing in more traditional families. The audacity of that little man all dressed up in his big boy clothing ... as if HE was the one implicated in this young ladies future... has my sides sent into orbit!!! I will have a damn six pack next spring from the full on chuckles these LVM give us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:21 AM
7

That wasn’t her boyfriend, that was a damn leprechaun!!! He doesn’t want any of us to get at his lucky charms!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:17 AM
3

Going to agree with that Queen, Sis. You are on the path to a better way of being... You follow that above path and accept your worth!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:14 AM
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They have the most brutal stories!!! Even as a pick me, I still would never ever put a man through school... the stories are endless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:02 AM
13

It’s so typical!!! He doesn’t even pretend to be a good guy!!! Next he is going to tell a woman about her period and why some tampons are called “sport” Mind you, he didn’t even know until he was educated which must mean those pea brained females will naturally need to be educated!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:00 AM
9

Interesting... like how psychopaths learn to be better manipulators when they get therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:54 AM
11

They used to walk us home from school. If a grade schooler does it then it’s not a date. Doesn’t even carry your books!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:45 AM
2

Should delete now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:25 AM
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Waaaaahhh!!!!! Big snot pulling intake of air Did you know that there are women who dare to set their own standards on how they should be treated?!? sniff! Uses sleeve to wipe away tears They just don’t get that women should to know their place and do what men say!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:21 AM
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Weird that a man who self admittedly had to learn something, needs to authoritatively “teach” a woman who... actually knows... Weird. That.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:14 AM
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They always come back. One way or another they will each out again. She needs to block him as well and not reply. Stay strong, and don’t get pulled into LV drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:11 AM
9

I don’t think it’s hard. My Queen you need to focus on YOU right now. You shouldn’t be dating. You’re self esteem needs to grow to your appropriate level which is sky high. If you don’t get yourself right and accept your value, no one else will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:09 AM
5

It’s the same with any predatory man. If you make a bit of a fuss, they will usually (not all the time) look for a weaker (nicer and more compliant) victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:07 AM
2

Ya know ... you’re right! The fact that he sent me a pic of a little note I wrote him in high school... is to make that business connection! I don’t have any other social media except LinkedIn so that HAS to be it!!! Thank you for pointing out this hot crush that I have had for years, that was so hot I didn’t even know i had it!!! 🤣🤣🤣 seriously though... I hate the way these men use anything and everything to try to get their beak wet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:03 AM
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You are an amazing Queen!!! Also ... totally get the not wanting to go to couples therapy. He’s an ass for even suggesting it. This will never ever happen to you again!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:59 AM
7

Even super pick me’s would feel ashamed of this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:43 AM
5

Notice how your thoughts and feelings aren’t even considered until he false apologizes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:31 AM
3

He’s trying to get at your sympathy... what a turd. He thinks you’ll be sooooo sad for his lonely selfish existence...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:30 AM
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💀!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:26 AM
36

Or they don’t please us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:26 AM
3

Whoa... truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:25 AM
20

I look my damn age.. in my 30s but dudes when they start around that age get mad desperate and also really mad they can’t get that younger lady!!! Get to 30 and have them come at you... reject them... watch how angry they get!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:25 AM
4

On LinkedIn I had some dude I dated when the Matrix was out contact me. Like ... wut?!? We were children!!!! It was just this little movie date!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:23 AM
7

Ok.. as I’m reading I’m going to comment right now at how “Santa looking individual” killed me!!!🤣🤣🤣 Edit: Ok read... yes I find that I have to be blunt most times when I mean what I say and it isn’t what a man wants to hear. Because if you aren’t they don’t take it serious. I have also learned that being “nice” is a fools game. “Nice” women don’t end up in good situations...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:20 AM
75

My mom and all my aunts are nurses... I grew up with sorry upon story of women getting shafted with this. Seriously, it is age old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:18 AM
35

Damn. Give us some details if you feel comfortable. This is a teaching moment!!! As an aside, I want to wish you all the strength to get through this. You are ridiculously strong to be able to do what you have done!!!!! LTR’s are tough and you’re a Queen to move on!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:16 AM
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Wishing you strength to get through things as quickly as possible so that you’re ready for better things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:11 AM
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God bless the woman who realizes her own value and power. Who refuses to take the crumbs LVM provide despite the pressure to be a pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:36 AM
8

Men always focus on themselves. I am confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:43 AM
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You can tell by his arms that he was actually trying to pose. I’m saddened Edit to add... 30 years young... I am now sadness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:32 AM
8

So... I didn’t see that.... your comment made me look... agreed weird blemishes are the business!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:30 AM
5

Right?!? 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:30 AM
28

It’s weird right?!? Shows what they think is sexy. Ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:29 AM
2

My heart hurts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:08 PM
32

Yeah... but no. I see no Queen shit here. I see no baddie. I feel “not like the other girls” type of vibe. Dunno FDS come at me, but this ain’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:00 AM
10

I have ADHD as well. High Value is a lifestyle it is a total way of thinking. It’s a viewpoint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:52 AM
5

Because the sleeves would get wet if he were doing it right. Damn. If his woman posted this she is a horrible pick me. Poison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:31 AM
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Listen... I didn’t even read all of that wall of text but can see you really need to humble yourself and read the handbook. You are talking about scraps of kindness as if it were a thing. It all looks messy as hell. Accept he got what he wanted and now you get something even better. You get the chance to level up and never go through this shit again. I’m not even judging sis. I was dumb and dumb can be and kept going in for more. Don’t be old me. I can promise you it’s a waste of time Edit to sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:28 AM
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Accept the truth. Accept that reality is you were not exclusive. That your feelings were not truly reciprocated. The jealousy is there. I REALLY get it. But you have to not give this guy anymore of yourself. Block and delete. Learn. Fact is men say a lot of things and you were taken for a fool as most of us have been. Read that handbook, you will realize that you are feeling jealous of women who are scooping up a turd from the sidewalk. You are better than all of that. You are too good for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:24 AM
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It’s such a trap. It’s such a huge trap! I found this sub after I had already figured things out the hard way. I stay here to share and cheer Queens to accept their value. But it is SO HARD as a woman to do so! Do you think these men ever stay up at night and wonder if they weren’t good enough ? Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:18 AM
22

Ha!!! Yes!!! Or, he just doesn’t know how to express himself. Poor men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:15 AM
10

Yeah I’m wondering what a perfect older woman looks like to her...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:12 AM
11

Do tell... How do you think a perfect older woman should act? Anxiously awaiting your response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:10 AM
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Exactly, we fool ourselves to such a large extent it is unreal. Just unreal!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:08 AM
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You probably wouldn’t have listened. Had many friends not appreciate my honesty. They always call when things go south. I will also always cut them out, for their own good. In reality my Queen, we wish (yes me as well) that we were honest with ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:07 AM
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You have to do it. I did that to my best friend and she said that she couldn’t be friends if i didn’t accept her realllllllly LVM. I said fine, throw away our friendship for this piece of crap, I am not going to stand by while you waste your life. I just won’t. Being a friend sometimes means walking away. Guess who learned her lesson? Yes, I was there for her when she learned it. I did not rub it in her face. Sometimes people have to learn things the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:03 AM
5

I’ve never in my life (dated a lot and I’ll be real LVM were the majority) been around anyone who didn’t have proper bedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:00 AM
6

Lawd! I cannot even with these type of men. I don’t even know you, but I will bet cash leafy green spending money that he misses all the things you did for him. He’s all alone with himself... can you imagine? Can you imagine not even liking yourself enough to be comfortable to be alone? Sure, it’s scary. But we all find out that it’s actually not bad at all. Certainly better than entertaining these scrotes. Can I ask... what time of day or night did he send this? Edit to say it’s our job to spre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:46 AM
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A job is like a relationship. In fact, most things are. Take your high value Queen self and find another job. Do you have a competitor? Also document and lodge a complaint with HR. But remember HR are not your friends. They work for the company. Anyways, document it all. I only say to jump ship, because in sales it’s easier to find a job when you are already employed and then you also have a way to negotiate even more pay. Edit to add that they can’t retaliate against you in CA for lodging a com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:28 AM
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Nope, only because I always know that women have the best intuition, point blank. We are just taught to ignore it. Women see more and sense more. Now that’s life. However, a HVM might be more intuitive about a certain subject or area. Last but not least... HVM don’t “appear” to be anything. They are high value and real. Why do you ask this, if you care to share?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:23 AM
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I just snorted again. Twice today!!! Ha!!!!!! So... is he the type to feel young and hip? Like he still says “blah blah blah ... NOT!” ? I’m getting that vibe! Jesus, in his 50s and sending this BS out. He is so emotionally arrested! Edit to say: Not that people at any age can’t be hip or whatever but you know what I mean.. men try so damn hard 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:18 AM
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OMG NO WAY!!!! Are you dating teens?!! (Kidding) This dude is immature as hell!!!!!!!! 🤣 Thank you for telling Ken to go kick rocks! 🤣 I mean... come on Ken!!!! Sheesh! Edit to say can you believe that he thinks him blessing you with the most high compliment of being missed will have you come a’running! If you are comfortable give us the deets Queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:11 AM
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Hell for LVM having an woman who has opinions educated or not is a problem for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:08 AM
35

I keep rising from the dead only to be slayed again with giggles!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:06 AM
55

I hate the stupid “no need to reply” BS. Lord only knows how many of those have been sent my way. (I’m in my 30s, so buckle up buttercup you won’t see the last of these!) He wrote that to save his own ego. What a scrote! He misses what you gave him. He doesn’t miss you because he never saw you. He never truly saw your value and who you were. The audacity!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:05 AM
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It’s so unreal!!! I can’t believe I used to think like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:53 PM
9

Lib Fems are so stupid. If they would stop trying to get male approval ,and stop smoking pole for just a moment and THINK they would get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:44 PM
11

We can’t discuss our issues. We can’t discuss our bodies. Half the population... Blows my damn mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:41 PM
16

I snorted out loud when I saw this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:46 PM
28

He will have zero problem hurting her job. She needs to move out and let his ass sit around in his fold out chairs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:45 PM
31

Ha!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:41 PM
9

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:39 PM
29

Nothing these men hate more than not have feminism centered around men. Hurts their fee fee’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:39 PM
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It’s run by men and ascribes to lib fem bullshit. The types who say “feminism is for everyone” The hell it is!!! Feminism is about women point blank. God I hate lib fem bullshit so very very much. Set us back in untold ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:37 PM
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Yet another example of a LVM getting mad and grumpy because a woman spends her own money how she sees fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:34 PM
11

As if his friends were people we’d care to impress. What a chode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:31 PM
7

Ha!!! Lol 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:27 PM
4

That’s right. If he wanted to, he would. It’s a hard pill for us to swallow at any age. But to fully accept that one hard truth will save you a world of hurt. You cannot make anyone see your value. They either see it or not. All that really matters is that you know your value is there. It is real, even if he is too dumb to appreciate it. Don’t let him weasel his way back. He will take that as acceptance of alllllllllllll the shitty stuff he did. You are stronger than you realize. You are showing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:26 PM
2

Lol! That’ll learn him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:57 PM
3

Me too sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:56 PM
3

Also you are not a toy. You are not to be picked up and put down whenever he feels like it. Be the one to teach him that lesson. Don’t be a dusty ass toy on a shelf that he can play with whenever and then ignore you. Please. Don’t be like old me. You have a chance now to get out with you head held high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:53 PM
5

Just so you are aware, a “break” is a breakup. Cut him out of your life and let him get mad and big sad when he finds out you’re dating another guy. Classic example of him wanting what he can’t have and not appreciating what he does. This is how he will always think and be. You can’t waste anymore time on him. Every minute you do is an actual waste. Please don’t wait around for him and be “supportive.” That is pick me behavior and will only prove to him that you are low value. Be Hugh value and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:50 PM
5

Yup. There is no dilemma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:44 PM
4

Yeah I had to deal with an ex for work trips. I just ignored him and he would keep trying to talk to me or get me alone. Don’t let him get you to “talk” and never ever be alone with him. Always have people around. Not just because of physical pain or emotional pain it will cause but also because he is the type to make up shit about you. If you are never alone with him then you are almost Teflon against that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:36 PM
10

Yeah an ex came over to “talk” and tried to make me have sex with him. This is pretty common huh? Never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:32 PM
14

Ewwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:27 PM
17

He is a damn liar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:19 PM
21

💀 You have killed me this fine morning!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:18 PM
30

LOL if these LVM were animals they’d have the same life they have now. All the better specimens of that animal would get to breed and they would get nothing. Just like they do now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:13 PM
2

Thank you! You are also 100% correct. Pick Me’s set themselves up for a dreadful life. A life where even the smallest of scraps from their LVM are a blessing. Ick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:10 PM
7

Good. You deserve nothing less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:08 PM
22

Yeah me either! I have had two rando’s message me. 2 more than ever in reddit before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:06 PM
30

LOL this mythical George Glass in Canada! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:03 PM
5

Yeah she is left behind and all salty because she did everything “right” in the pick me handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:02 PM
9

These LVM just take and stupid pick me’s think if they just give enough that he will then give. It doesn’t work that way. Takers always take. So glad to have broken free of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:00 PM
21

They get catered to and there are enough pick me’s for them to run through. So they never have to think about anything but their own wants and needs. Also they are idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:54 PM
11

He also “haven’t” got two brain cells to run together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:53 PM
19

She’s not intelligent enough to grasp that her version of “having it all” isn’t even near enough for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:51 PM
35

He didn’t leave piss all over the seat!!!! Hurry Queens make ready for the most high value of alllll HVM might walk our way... in a huge ass jacket...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:46 PM
15

LOL I didn’t think about that but you’re right !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:45 PM
22

Men say a lot of things ladies. Always look at actions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:44 PM
6

Me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:41 PM
46

You will be thanking yourself in the future for letting him go. He did not see your true value and the saddest thing in the world is now he gets to live a life without the benefit of you and all you bring. This painful part is reallllllly hard. But you will get through it. I swear with even a week or so of time you will feel far better than you feel now. It WILL get easier. And between us girls if you are sad about not being with your first... future you will be on cloud 9 when you find your bes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:37 PM
2

Of course he did LOL!!!! What are you going to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:23 PM
5

We really do! It’s like we are so conditioned to put others above ourselves. It’s sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:20 AM
3

Me too Queen. Among others who treated me like total and abject shit. Not anymore though. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:19 AM
3

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:31 AM
1

I’m 5’10. Love your height! If men are intimidated then it just means you have less LVM to sort through Let the trash take itself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:30 AM
2

Great! Now his shoes are clean for his next date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:04 AM
9

Who wants to “cuddle” with a stranger?!? How do men think that’s even a good line?!??? Ick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:00 AM
5

Feel like 50 year old dudes are just the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:53 AM
14

Me too! So ashamed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:46 AM
45

Yeah he looks like he could birth alllllllll my kids lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:40 AM
87

I’m sorry you had to hear that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:38 AM
6

No from me sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:36 AM
3

It’s because they see us as lesser. So how DARE we laugh at them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:39 PM
10

Yes. Be unapologetically ruthless. You only have so much time on this earth and I don’t want any women here spending even a minute crying over some LVM’s antics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:38 PM
9

So glad he is not the only guy! Keep that rotation Queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:37 PM
1

Thank you!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:35 PM
3

You are the best thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:35 PM
157

It’s actually not hard being a female. It is hard to put up with patriarchy. Like, I wake up every single day with a vagina and feel totally great. Until the rest of the day reminds me that I have to either comply or fight to be seen as a human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:58 AM
13

I mean...... 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:55 AM
6

Having sex for woman is work that seldom rewarded. Unless, you get with that handbook ladies. Not even going to get Into gender vs biological sex. Except to say that it is not interchangeable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:43 AM
9

You have a very salient point. These hardcore PUA men can’t banter at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:39 AM
14

Yup. It’s like you didn’t clock the actual neg but you get that vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:36 AM
13

Please considering blinding yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:33 AM
89

Muh muuuuhhhb penis!!!!!!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:29 AM
149

Be honest. Did you tell him about you being a HVW? I think you did. I’d bet on it. A HVM never has to be told about your value. Queen, you’re high value is a fact. The sky is blue, it gets hot in the summer, and you are a high value woman. It is most evident. The second you have to remind anyone that you’re of value (unless you’re dumping their sorry ass) is the second they see a weakness. “B-bu-but I have value tooooooo!!!!! Not all men!!!!!!” Nope. Edit to say never coach a man. The second you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:28 AM
2

It does and it doesn’t. You get that first sting, because you just wanted so badly for it to work. You think of good times. All the things. You now can’t reach out to someone you cared about and once wanted in your life. But getting mentally ready for it makes it easier after the first bad slump. Because you will remember the bad times, and the reasons WHY this scrote is low value. Let the emotions flow however you want. But don’t waste the precious time we all have on someone who doesn’t treasu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:23 AM
5

I can’t give much detail. You’ll have to take this on a strangers internet word. I have worked in mental health and the relationship therapists and the line all knew it was worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:16 AM
3

I want to say I am so sorry you had to go through that. I really am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:14 AM
6

Yes! Never! You can feel like you can trust them but they WILL pass it on. I promise. Once they need that ego boost they will send that shit out for the bump. Please. They can say whatever. There are men who have been married 20 years, had kids, are seemingly family men. Yet they still try or do step out. No way in hell these women think that would ever happen. How the hell do you trust some guy with your nudes??!!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:12 AM
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A lot of these privileged sex workers also are victims of sexual abuse. All of it is sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:06 AM
2

To the point! Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:01 AM
5

No. Don’t go. You know it in your heart. Your brain, ego, whatever, wants to save your feelings. It longs to believe. Try not to reach out to a man for a date or meet up. It’s hard, you’re learning. Full disclosure, I have done tremendously worse. Tremendously. Don’t be past me. Edit to say no coffee... come on now. I’m a stranger and will PM you a Starbucks gift card... I’ve done so much worse pick me shit but never would do a coffee date. Ever. You know you’re better than that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:00 AM
7

So FDS Ladies, Free this weekend? Want to make some amazing food together and watch whatever we feel like? No-Scrotes perhaps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:52 AM
5

Keep strong. I have been in the exact same position. And when you get that half ass reply... well... be the judge. You deserve the best and someone who sees your true value. Edit to say that the half ass reply is because you aren’t running after them. They like the attention so much because they never get it. To us this attention is a given. Cheering for you Queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:46 AM
7

This keeps getting posted and I’m glad. Women are conditioned to chase marriage to the extent that it is a detriment... If you are leveling up. Your man can get you a ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:41 AM
14

Explain nest... out of the loop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:33 AM
91

On a serious note... I would caution any woman not to laugh at a man in person. You will be shocked and surprised by their reaction. I am being very serious. The phrase women fear men and men fear women laughing at them is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:30 AM
73

He thought you were fun.. strangely, you never really thought of him at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:23 AM
10

I am having the best laugh at myself!!! No scrote to try to please so that he can just take it for granted. I am so so so so happy I didn’t tie that rock around my neck. What a damn life that would be! He’d be cheating (he was astoundingly good at that) and come home expecting me to build up his sorry ego. Naw... nawwwwwwwww Nope! Instead when we broke up I moved to a new fantastic area. I got a nice place, and a gorgeous cat, awesome job, and date only HVM. But I don’t need a single one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:21 PM
5

Agree! Said basically the same thing! She owes this man nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:55 PM
7

You can even ghost him at this point. It’s a bit of a “cowards” way out, but you don’t owe this guy anything. Just stop communicating with him. It’s not your fault he is so lame that you have to cut bait, it’s on him. Ghost him if you are THAT afraid. Lock down all your social media and stuff. And block him. I don’t usually advocate for ghosting but you could write a “dear John” email and then block his ass after you send it. In it you will ask him to never contact you again. Done and done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:53 PM
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He isn’t a man, he is a turd dressed shoddily in people clothes. Run!!!! The most valuable thing we have is time. It will be your fault if you waste it on a loser. Just be free!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:49 PM
41

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:49 PM
39

Feeling your energy!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:49 PM
7

I would have taken the free food to be honest!!! Sometimes at Taco Bell the lady gives me free cinnamon bons or whatever they are called... but that’s because it is the slowest Taco Bell in the universe! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:41 PM
5

I have an old scrote who keeps checking my profile. Like a few months will go by and he checks it. A few weeks. No pattern but I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:24 PM
8

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:13 PM
5

Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:09 PM
30

Yikes. Once I was with my sister at a Taco Bell drive thru. The guy took a liking to her and tried to give her extra food for free. She was like “I don’t want any of that!!!!” And tossed it back into the window. It was pretty hilarious. Might be a have to be there situation...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:05 PM
7

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:56 PM
6

No it’s not. Prostitution is “quite literally” men paying for an act or service of a degrading and dangerous nature to fulfill their own desires. They are just mad because they can’t be sure they are going to get sex... they don’t see the date the way a HVM would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:13 PM
6

The pic made me laugh thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:04 PM
5

I might need to take a look... or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:03 PM
18

I feel the same. Then they will poison their own oasis...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:02 PM
12

It is. But this person is actually showing the world what low life’s they are. I bet they don’t floss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:13 PM
37

Of course that moment of her getting raped was about HIS fee fee’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:10 PM
51

LIVE on the scene... Low value trash person, is so busy slummin’ in the deep end of the shit pool they call life that they feel the need to not only MAKE this “observation” but to actually POST it. Too bad HV people are too busy building people up, they have no time to tear them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:08 PM
3

Also... I hope a LVM Will NEVER see you naked!!! Only a LVM needs to tear down a woman to feel small so that he may feel big. Please understand the difference. Commit it to your mind. LVM are trash people who desire only to get you as dirty and smelly and worthless as they are. They NEED you to feel small, ugly, unwanted, because that is the only way they can keep you from realizing what TRASH they are. You’ll be too busy trying to make sense of the pain they are causing to notice what literal p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:02 PM
3

Why of course Queen! May you always be blessed, and may only hot HVM cross your path!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:41 PM
7

Don’t give him that much power. Fuck what he thinks, it only matters what YOU think. Don’t let that loser ruin something that is healthy for you. HE is the unhealthy one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:48 PM
14

May you have only hot HV men cross your path!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:17 PM
9

🤣🤣🤣 I laugh snorted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:15 PM
34

Yup you got the big time ick. Lol at this scrote, he has no idea what he has done. He will think because HE is done talking about it, that she will be done. Because that’s how these men are. But he is totally in for it! It’ll color her actions toward him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:14 PM
6

I love reading this!!! You are a Queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:03 PM
5

The only one failing miserably is Mikeyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:38 PM
22

Ahh wants that boyfriend access. Good thing he showed his true deep nature. You wouldn’t want to give that man ANY access!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:37 PM
11

🤣!!!! When asked she could gaze into nothing and just thoughtfully smile. The smile of a woman vividly recalling how an ex was better than him in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:34 PM
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Looks like her husband gave her “the ick.” Can’t really get back from that. It’ll cross her mind when they have sex or when he tries anything on her. She now sees him for the pig he is, and with her eyes open she find more and more evidence of his LV nature. In one scrote swoop he turned a wife that was capable of being “jealous” over him, to now being absolutely disguised by him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:31 PM
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May you have only hot HVM cross your path!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:25 PM
23

That’s THE thing! It’s like “surely lowering my standards should prove to make me happier!” But it never does! LVM come on all shapes and sizes... sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:24 PM
42

Scrotes stay scrotin’ no matter how ugly they are. You deserve a HVM that is hot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:22 PM
38

Yeah one of my worst ex’s was not up to my look scale but he “was funny and had a great personality.” This is the same ex who cheated on me God knows how many times (i found out AFTER we broke up 😒) I was funnier than him anyway...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:21 PM
18

Do Women Feel the Cold?!? The Answer May Shock You!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:18 PM
18

Well just boobin’ great, your comment boob my boobs clean off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:17 PM
2

I’m a happy divorcée and loving life!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:03 PM
2

If they are kept well, they should last longer. Around 33 should be good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:06 PM
4

No problem!!! You don’t want to sign up for any more of that BS. Can you imagine a life of that?!! Ugh. He can go be terrible in someone else’s bed, you’re too good for that mess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:14 PM
0

Yeah and the procedure wasn’t bad at all. I was afraid but it honestly was easy. After was a little hard because I was crazy bloated lol Looked like I was already preggo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:12 PM
2

It’s annoying. At one point you have to go in and get your blood drawn everyday for a couple weeks (all depends on your body)... also at one one point you have to give yourself a lot of injections but they honestly don’t hurt... it’s scary, but it really doesn’t hurt at all. I would recommend getting your eggs frozen sooner rather than later. You will have more eggs to work with and they will be of a better quality. Edit to say I love your name!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:11 PM
15

Agree sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:57 AM
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“To be honest... I just want a woman totally and completely out of my league... now make no mistake, this includes every single woman on this blue marble we call earth.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:53 AM
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Enjoyed this thanks !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:50 AM
9

To sum up what this Queen has said... don’t be me. Yes a past me, but just don’t. Promise it doesn’t end well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:44 AM
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BREAKING NEWS Woman spends her own money as she sees fit, LVM has an opinion.... More at 11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:41 AM
39

Laughing at a man will have dire consequences... it really will. To openly laugh at them is the flip of the crazy switch for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:38 AM
8

Men use the depressed thing ALL the time to cover for so many things. He may very well have depression, I also have it. It can be treated, and I’m telling you... even as someone who has depression, I am wary of a man who pulls it out of their bag as an excuse. Because it doesn’t ma ideas itself in this way. It really doesn’t work that way. Also he broke up with you so move on. You are not his therapist, you are not his wife. Let him do whatever he needs to do, and you my Queen should do whatever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:34 AM
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Sis, we both know he wasn’t that good in bed. I’m talking build up to foreplay, then of course foreplay... he was after his own needs so it couldn’t have been so amazing right? You dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:17 AM
7

Don’t trip. It’s because you don’t have history on reddit. You found us here. You’ll be tagged with something else soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:13 AM
12

At one point you’ll take birth control pills First it’s stuff you rub into your skin Then ... an unholy amount of self injections (and for a few weeks you will go in to get a blood test every day and often a they have to have a looksie in your uterus) The self injections don’t hurt very much at all. It’s intimidating, but really it isn’t bad. Your actual egg area will become larger than your uterus. But as we all know the uterus can stretch, whilst other areas cannot to that degree. I could go o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:10 AM
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I did, when I had eggs frozen. I can’t really give you anything of value because when you freeze your eggs you are pumped with all sorts of hormones. I am back on birth control and in my 30s. I’ve been on it since I was 17. I have and do, enjoy the benefits it affords me. I’m not sure if I’m helpful, but I support you on doing what you think is best for your body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:54 AM
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You are most wise! Being ethereal... as I am now, because you done killed me with that astute Bobby Hill reference... I’d be a total jerk of a spirit to not defer to your wishes... for I also agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:44 AM
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I am a ghost... for I have died with laughter at him actually looking like Bobby Hill. May I impose on you a request? Please tell my family to include on my gravestone that women should never settle for LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:36 AM
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I... I...... I just can’t. And I won’t. This has to be a fake profile because if it isn’t my jiggly sides will giggle to the moon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:21 AM
1

👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:30 PM
7

You know he is cheating. Ghost him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:26 PM
1

Where did I say anything about mods? You are taking my comment too literally. I personally said these scrotes were men. I didn’t say that anyone else said that. It was a generalization joke. It’s cool you didn’t get it, I am not comedian. I will keep trying ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:20 PM
3

I bet his ex wife already found a new man. He will be alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:15 PM
7

Everyone might be feeling that you wasted your words but I got a pretty big laugh! Talk about a NVM!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:12 PM
1

Sounds hot! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:00 PM
1

That’s what I said. If you read the comments you notice the LVM crying about how if it were reversed we’d all be thinking differently... maybe I wasn’t clear with my joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:58 PM
2

It’s like he is obsessed lol
/r/askFDS29/08/20 06:40 AM
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I’m not here to debate you either. You obviously have some issues. You came here seeking advice and feel you have to argue at every turn. You couldn’t even humble yourself enough to appreciate the guidance given. Since you know best, keep being lonely. Keep listening to those other failed men who lie on the internet for validation as they bring out their old trusty comfort sock every night. You are FAR from HV... FAR AWAY! My god, you are looking to other men as a conformation of being HV!!!! It…
/r/askFDS29/08/20 06:37 AM
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I mean it’s weird he keeps bringing up gay guys as if they have the same concerns as women... says a lot
/r/askFDS29/08/20 06:25 AM
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I won’t argue perfection .., I will argue that your boundaries and expectations are non negotiable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:58 AM
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You are starting to get that Queen energy. If he hasn’t shown real interest then it’s just not there. Block and delete. If he wanted to do something he would. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:08 AM
10

He can want whatever. It isn’t our job to give. She has her foot out the door... why does she trouble herself with his petty concerns?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:06 AM
4

Every joke has truth to it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:02 AM
3

I am hoping young women will truly heed are warnings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:01 AM
13

Much CEO, many monies! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:58 AM
7

Yup girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:57 AM
16

Because the machine sets them up for delusions. I wish I could find out how his take will end. He will forever be sad he didn’t get a model...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:57 AM
10

I said the same thing!!! Adidas hoodie and all!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:56 AM
27

First and foremost to those young ladies who don’t mix with older men yet, he is 100% lying. He is mid 50s or above. I would bet he still has Affliction T-shirts tucked away in his closet. CEOs at his age who make any money are usually married. They need the wife and kids cover in a big way. Image is everything. They would t be on a dating site usually unless they are Anthony Weiner tier dumb. Usually they prey upon their subordinates. Just look at that piece of shit room with all that booze... …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:54 AM
3

You got it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:48 AM
29

He’s lying. I’m in my 30s around those in their 40s and above and he is nearly 60 or mid 50s ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:47 AM
27

100% lying. The funny thing about the oppressive machine is that its byproduct is our lies to protect make feelings. Those lies give men that false sense of self and attractiveness. He is deluded from the very mechanics that are meant to keep his feelings protected.... Like the emperor with no clothing... we women can see with our very eyes the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:46 AM
2

Literally snorted at “murder kit” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:41 AM
6

His smile looks like he is mad trying to hold in a dookie. Heartwarming indeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:39 AM
18

💀 we lived laughed and loved a good life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:38 AM
16

And the time and effort his crazy ass put into his little limp project! If she ignores this will not be the last she hears from him sadly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:37 AM
3

He was hurt so you should allow him to hurt you... big nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:35 AM
15

Ohhhh I want to know!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:34 AM
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I should dig it up and post. But a guy who hurt me in college years later sent me this blah blah omg alcohol blah blah “apology”... at the end he said I needn’t reply. I never did. These messages are like journal entries that they should never send. The ridiculous audacity of men means they will actually press send.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:34 AM
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I am 💀!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:30 AM
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LOL!!!!! Hope she still doesn’t reply. It’ll kill him!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:28 AM
4

Lulz that old soul BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:15 AM
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She’s already had a child by a man who was in his 60’s when she was 19/20 (abouts) ... she obviously has some deep rooted issues because ... ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:13 AM
4

His delusion!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:01 AM
3

Are you me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:53 AM
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If this is real he wants to break up. He is just too weak to do it properly so he is goi g to set it up like she was trying to get at his meager funds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:51 AM
3

Queen you did him a favor, while doing one for yourself. This is his wake up call, and this is your actual “fresh start” to have a life that is wonderful. I know it hurts. I am so sorry you feel this pain. However, once this raw pain passes and you settle into a life without this weight around your neck, you will feel so much happier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:39 AM
2

I wonder how many likes it would take him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:31 AM
3

I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:21 AM
2

I love how sub had to state that people (men) need to stop posting “waahhhhh what of it were reversed... you’d all be different then!!!” I think this post is fake. It defies logic. If it is I deed real then I think a split is needed no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:16 AM
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Gah!!!!! Horrible!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:32 AM
1

And then everybody clapped!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:32 PM
3

I am so glad you did not let that scrote ruin your night and even touch the slip of your self confidence. You are goals! 💐🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:46 PM
2

Sorry for the late reply! Solo I have gone to: China Honduras Costa Rica Barbados Thailand Laos Cambodia Ukraine Turkey England France The Netherlands Hmmmm not sure if I’m forgetting anywhere ... The Ukraine is awesome!!!! Cannot recommend it enough! It’s like all the stuff you want in a trip to Europe but cheaper! I love SE Asia the most. It feels safer there. Men don’t hassle you. Europe and the rest I felt men were a little scary at times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:39 PM
2

Ha!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:05 PM
4

Ha! I had an ex from high school that got into a serious motorcycle accident. I hadn’t talked to him in years and I get this call from his sister who I have never really spoken to. She wanted me to go to the hospital to visit him. I was like “uh no.” Anyways he didn’t die or anything. Just jacked up his leg. Shouldn’t have been playing “big man” and mess about in his dumb motorcycle. Still the audacity of him trying to get me to visit him after years of not talking. Putting me in that position w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:04 PM
3

You are not wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:54 PM
1

This right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:50 PM
9

True! I’ve had men tell me how they liked how strong and independent I was... guess what they berated me for? Being strong and independent. Weak ass men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:49 PM
3

So true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:31 PM
8

Stopped reading at “I don’t feel comfortable investing in him emotionally.” Trust your instincts. They will not fail you when it comes to men. I cannot say this enough. A woman’s instincts are 99.99999999% correct. You know he is bad news. You KNOW it deep down. Don’t ignore that voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:19 PM
2

Just commenting to say I am so glad you found this place as well!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:05 PM
2

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:02 PM
18

Rather die alone then show half my ass in an attempt to shame women lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:30 PM
10

Kinda like... other size... they will never let it go lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:28 PM
36

Sigh, you’re right. Guess I’ll go for that short alcoholic who will ghost me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:27 PM
27

I was seriously messed over by a short dude. This woman is obviously feeling like she has to prop up her mans fee fee’s...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:26 PM
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She big mad cuz her man is mad small! She should be bragging that she can hide the good snacks on the top shelf and he won’t be able to find them! (For the record, I personally don’t care about men’s height that much... she is just over the top)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:23 PM
2

Ewwwww ... and other male fur stuck to the shower curtain!!!! Ewwwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:21 PM
2

Savage! I like it! “Well pick me, you are surrounded with the consequences of your low standards. It’s too bad your husband doesn’t care much about you. Hate to be the one to tell you this.... but you should check his credit card statement... I bet he bought his younger sexy coworker a latte or three”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:19 PM
1

Thanks! 🥂💐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:14 PM
3

The dragon reference is a drug one that is popular among regular pop culture. “Chasing the dragon” ... means chasing the first high. (Like when people 1st try heroin ) So when people try to get high again and again they are just trying to catch the tail of the dragon or their best high. Like, he will forever be chasing your attention and affection I apologize as I’m from the SF Bay Area and this is a term known to us. I could say chasing the dragon to my mom and she would know. Sorry for the loc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:48 AM
2

True!!!!!! I think it’s also a good vetting process to see if he will be interested enough to have a decent meal with you. Like... come on... coffee?!? Does he go out for coffee with his buddies?!! I bet it’s only reserved to cheap dates lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:34 AM
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Thank you Queen!!! Might as well have a hot dog at a bus station.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:33 AM
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So... on a coffee date are women suppose to get excited if they pay for that extra espresso shot?!?🤣 If I am in line and see a coffee date I will buy that woman’s drink. Screw that guy!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:32 AM
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Ok ... warning feeling very Emo: Yes you gotta get back to the basics. And don’t take the downvoting hard. You obviously are self aware enough to get that there is a problem. Read the handbook again and again. Imagine what you’d tell a friend in your situation. Realize that dick is mega abundant!!!! There is never a drought of thirsty men. Reflect that you are a prize. You are wonderful and you are worthy of respect and care. You shouldn’t have to win anything. They can earn your regard and favo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:25 AM
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Queen, let me say this... so many HVM will want to make damn sure you’re taken care of. Believe it! If I can sense your amazing energy through the Reddit then you better believe it! Lol at the Beej’s ... they act like that is their right. I honestly think you ruined him because he will be chasing that giving dragon forever!!! Once I got right, it was before I discovered FDS but when I found this site I was like “finally a place where I can tell my most horrible of secrets, my lowest of lows, bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:07 AM
3

Yeah a lot off assholes try to play off like they have it but I’ve never met a one who could prove it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:26 PM
3

Take it back. Say it had a defect if you must. Return that shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:25 PM
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Yeah I don’t agree with you being downvoted. Have you read the handbook? It’s a bit of a rule here to read it. If you haven’t please do. It might help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:24 PM
2

Happened to me too sis. Ex got a very cute fancy dog and used it to meet women. Once during the end he let it slip that he didn’t understand why the dog liked me the “best..:.” And he didn’t mean between us...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:23 PM
2

Bet that’s what he texts about ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:22 PM
3

You stated it perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:21 PM
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Ha! Would not trust them around my cat! I have cameras up and watch even the people o pay to make sure she is well taken care of lol Guys wouldn’t clean the litter properly I just know it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:19 PM
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Nope. You need to use this to learn to protect the things that keep you alive. Your wonderful nature. It is up to you to protect it from the dusty grubby crap men who would love to destroy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:16 PM
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Yeah a lot more came to light once I read the comments... did not expect all that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:15 PM
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He is a LOSER a NVM!!!! Did you not read the handbook?! You are very sweet and giving but that WiLL be exploited if you don’t learn how to protect the beautiful things that matter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:15 PM
8

Oh dang!!!! Nooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:11 PM
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Didn’t even think about the dog thing, must have totally skimmed over that. Sheesh man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:11 PM
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You’re too attached. I totally get it. But you are far too attached. You gotta get back to the fundamentals. You have to be strong. If you’re feeling this way reach out to us. Or your friends. Don’t let him see you sweat at this stage. He needs to wonder what YOU are up too. Get away from your phone. Go do something, anything. Don’t be around for his texts a little and please don’t text him first. I’m worried about your use of “gave” you a candlelit dinner. He BETTER do that stuff because you WI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:10 PM
2

What a weirdo. No way you should ever be given sex.. you should be offered allllllll the time. Ugh, nothing makes me more mad than a porn sicko
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:04 PM
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I just can imagine waiting for the coffee to cool... sitting there. Making forced conversation ... just... not for me. As I said above even in my pick me days I’d never ever accept a coffee date. The timing isn’t right either. It’s way too say time for me. I do stuff during the day lol no time for coffee with some cheapo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:02 PM
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Thank you! It’s like dinner there are things to talk about. There is more of a reason for dressing nice. You don’t have the weird stand in line thing (reservations better be made lol) Even in pick me says when I was on OLD I wouldn’t ever accept a coffee date. I’d say.. nope coffee is for friends... boring friends who don’t drink wine lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:00 PM
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As if a guy who won’t put in effort will be impressed with you because you’ll accept the lack of effort. Sigh... was me in the past. So dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:58 PM
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That’s not really the case I am sure of it. Right now you’re not seeing yourself through the best lenses. The acne thing will get fixed. You WILL get a handle on it. It’s tough right now for you to see the world of possibilities in front of you. Depression and the like can make it seem like there is no hope. There are so many great experiences and love ahead of you in life. You just got to get yourself the help you need to be able to see them. You’re young. I am telling you. The best way to leve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:59 PM
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Am I the only one who feels like a coffee date would be more awkward than a dinner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:55 PM
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These types are always envious of the women who won’t have low standards. You know when they are sipping their Circle K coffee from a paper cup and they see their friend being escorted into a fancy restaurant they won’t think “wow I’m sooooo lucky! Coffee!!!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:53 PM
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No she is hungry and we are not! Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:51 PM
2

Yeah and at 21 how much make up is really needed!!? Ahhhhh to be 21 again!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:49 PM
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Check out the handbook. Just to start to get a feel for level up mentality. While I do think the outside is important to take care of, and a healthy weight is good for your health... I do want you to understand that the biggest shift you will have with this is in your mind. You will see with reading and learning here, that you should accept your worthiness and be treated with respect and dignity. To do that you also have to treat yourself with respect and dignity. You don’t need to date right no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:48 PM
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I am sad you had to go through that!!! He sounds like a throwback for sure! He will try to weasel his way back. I am so glad you are here and know that you deserve so much more than a man who can’t see you’re value. Mark my words though, he will try to talk with you again. Types like him are all the same... Glad you didn’t waste your time on a Hawaii trip or even birthday anything with him. Just imagine the disappointing sex, and the anger you would feel. Slow resentment build up is something th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:39 PM
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Whelp. Guess I know what my next nightmare is going to be. Bet there are errant hairs left around as well by this type of guy. I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:42 PM
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Yes! And set the expectation that it isn’t even really something you view as a gift for yourself. I’ll be dammed if someone gets me that type of stuff for a holiday or whatever and act like it’s for me. I WILL ask where my gift is lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:39 PM
2

You’re well on your way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:37 PM
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Birthday rolls around and they are gone or tell you some lame excuse. Then you’re made to feel bad for calling out a promise that they made... like it is your fault that they are liars. That’s what these future fakers do! They want all the praise and affection that a well thought out actually romantic gift would get, without getting the actual gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:36 PM
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You’re so freaking right. I too, had a long and storied career as a pick me. I also have trouble even owning up to the things I’ve put up with and have done. All out of not realizing my own value. I can only really tell my stories here. One of these days I might actually post a few of the worst ones as cautionary tales to those who it might help. I am so glad that you won’t have to be dehumanized ever again!!! 💐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:17 PM
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Can you even imagine the BS a dating mentor would spew?!? She will be messed up for sure thinking it’s just natural for men to treat us like crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:11 PM
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Emm hmm... “Hey Wolves!!!” Yelled the tender lamb, “I would love to learn the best way to find a wolf den to climb into, can any of you help me?!?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:10 PM
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Read the handbook. Don’t spill your emotional purse super early. Men can and will use your desires, hopes, dreams, and anything else in the world to try to manipulate you into sex. They WILL future fake. (“Lets have three kids! Let’s have a wedding in Hawaii! “ Alllllllll without putting a ring on your finger) Also men will use your emotional vulnerability to love bomb you. You should IN A RELATIONSHIP always be able to voice your standards and expectations as well as feelings, and if you can’t?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:07 PM
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🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:55 PM
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I dunno ladies... that dog has a grin that tells me he sleeps at the foot of a lot of beds.... Kidding... doggie every single time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:36 PM
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Oh my
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:26 AM
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Phew! I thought he said “nalgene” ... I haven’t seen one of those bottles in awhile!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:16 AM
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Me too!!! I could ugly laugh freely and with glee!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:15 AM
3

Clit crumble?!!! I am 💀 you have killed me!!!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:11 AM
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Guy is crazy. Ignore him and block. Never waver. He is showing signs of deep deep crazy and you need to not get mixed up with him. Read the handbook and don’t reply to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:46 AM
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I feel like she doesn’t shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:35 AM
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Sex shouldn’t be something you have to endure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:33 AM
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Put that man in some heels!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 do t we deserve to see a beautiful calf?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:28 AM
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You know they will want a chick to do even more work after while they lay there like a bloated walrus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:27 AM
3

Happy cake day!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:24 AM
3

Bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:19 AM
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We said the same thing!!!!!!!🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:50 AM
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Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:49 AM
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Looks like an awesome spread!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:41 PM
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I buy it primarily for myself, and I never keep gifts of that nature once the relationship is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:56 PM
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Yes. He likely makes her do a lot of worse stuff off camera. Poor thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:35 AM
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He mistakes her surprise as admiration... This is the time he blesses her with his small member and subpar pleasing skills! He knows deep down she will praise him even when she has to slip her hand into the drawer of her nightstand to “take care of some things.” As he drifts off into a self satisfied sleep he thinks to himself, “I do believe she earned herself some Cheerios tomorrow.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:46 AM
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As long as you ignore him he will keep trying to poke at you. I feel like you won’t ever be rid of him. You’ll be at your grandchildren’s bday and you’ll get a space message from him like “heyyyyy what’s up?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:01 AM
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I dunno. Cutting him off cold will mess him up big time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:42 AM
2

Block and delete. You are not here to win his fair maiden hand! Please for yourself or if you can’t get right enough in the head pass my message on to your friend. It is fucking demeaning as hell to play bachelor and bevy of beauties vying for a mans attention. I can already tell you he isn’t all that. Yes, he is not all that. He is sloppy as hell. You are signing up for the lowest of the low of pick me’s. You don’t even have a chance at a show after all of this debasement and honestly, you’d do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:39 AM
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He’s not your friend. You know that deep down. He is not your friend. He has never been your friend. He will never be your friend. Stop wasting time on these strangers. Please! For you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:31 AM
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I probably misinterpreted! Apologies! You date whoever you feel is up to your standards!!!! I haven’t dabbled with shorter men in a spell. I should post about THAT dumpster fire of a man lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:28 AM
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Seriously!!! Gotta earn that!!!! The winky face also got under my skin. Betting he has a punchable face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:27 AM
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My heart goes out to you. You deserve better and I’m glad you know it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:24 AM
2

Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:22 AM
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Like if she were to go kill an animal and present him with a carcass he would clean and cook the beast in her honor? The only way I can imagine proper date to get to know someone as “earned.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:53 AM
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Yes next to get him Into bed she will have to write sonnets! This shaking quivering slip of a wee man has me in stitches!!! Ohhhhh maybe on the walk she will glimpse a bit of his bare ankle!!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:51 AM
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Love that! I don’t even get these men coming at someone with a “walk” .... that’s just ... no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:49 AM
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Shut up!!!! This is real?!? My goodness!!! Also a “walk around”?!? Ha!!!! You know what? You ALREADY earned your dinner! But he hasn’t earned his right to watch you enjoy it. This guy... Then they try to play it on you like “well then You’re a gold digger” But really we aren’t even convinced they can even provide a moderate meal for two! Ha! Well, my Queen, if I may be so bold... HE hasn’t earned the right to watch you sip any roasted bean juice, nor has he even earned the right to be seen about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:48 AM
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Yup because people will keep taking advantage of you don’t remember
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:41 AM
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I tend to forgive quickly as well. The problem is only if you forgive people who you KNOW you shouldn’t or haven’t shown true remorse. You can forgive allllllllll you want. Just don’t belly up to their table of pain and eat from that buffet. Forgiving is for you and not for them. That is the honest truth. Also, don’t kid yourself that you forgive. Be honest with yourself. Don’t keep scooping up that “hurt me” ice cream and dressing it up like it’s a dessert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:40 AM
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Like calm down Plant! At least take care of some inconvenient men, then will get you the bodies you need... sheesh. -Seymour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:35 AM
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And it’s often hurtful to understand and acknowledge the truth. But it’s so important. I think that is one of the reasons why FDS is so important. If you accept your own value then you will have less hard of a time accepting unpleasant truths
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:32 AM
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Very vulnerable if someone has enough info. I hate your ex so very much. So very very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:30 AM
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You will be hurt for a long time, but that hurt will turn to anger, and that anger will help you get to where that will never happen again. I know the feelings in a way. You feel disappointed in him, worse you feel disappointed in yourself. It’s gut wrenching! Get tested blah blah (seriously do though) you know the drill. But, try to remember that he was the disappointment, not you. He sucks in bed, and worse isn’t even man enough to take pride in doing a job well done WITH instruction. You will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:24 AM
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Wouldn’t recommend a Dr. Trust me! But you’re right, like literally any man who has a good occupation and is of HV. Imagine how scrunched this guys face was when he started telling her about how disappointed he was?!? Ha! Yet nobody cares when we get straight up lied to and voice our disappointment...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:17 AM
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Or messing with her about not deploying! He doesn’t seem very smart. He obviously has no self control. He just had to spout off all sorts of lame crap. Couldn’t even get his story believable... these are LVM and they won’t EVER rise very high in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:13 AM
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I wouldn’t date them either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:11 AM
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I mean, I wouldn’t accept a break either. How long in between his “I understand” to “psyc! I am not going!!!” This “I just found out” BS reminds me of a last ditch effort to try to get the upper hand . Dude is lame. Edit: I mean only TWO HOURS LATER he pops off about not going after all... obviously he was either lying from the get, or stewing and his pea brain cobbled together that big old lie. ALL to just hurt your feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:08 AM
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I’m 5’10 and have dated 7 ft down to 5’7. Stop worrying about what men think. Srop worrying about how they feel about your body. I’ve never had problems attracting men, and yes I have received mean comments about my height as well. Especially because I’ll wear what shoes I want and the like. Don’t worry about these men because right now you need to worry about your self image, and your self love. I love petite women! I also love that I am tall, it’s like my super power (madam at the grocery stor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:00 AM
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Ohhhhhhhhh that’s......... that’s...... disappointing! I think guys think that they are special because they like doing it, when I haven’t come across a man who hasn’t LVM and HVM alike. I truly never in my life been with a guy who wasn’t all about it and even in my pick me days if I had, I would have told them to hit the curb. However I have had some really subpar efforts. The jaw thing sounds so... painful and unnecessary. I mean... it couldn’t have felt great for him? One guy was bragging up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:10 PM
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Lol Men want a lot of things 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:01 PM
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Omg I am so sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:46 PM
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This is true! They are the ones that don’t listen and woe is you if you give any direction...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:44 PM
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Second this. Be cagey about what you want in detail. LVM with a couple brain cells will use that to their advantage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:34 PM
2

Yup. Unless he was born blind and it was a technicality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:31 PM
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Ha! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:25 PM
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Exactly... this is the fast track to see what he’s about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:33 AM
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Hush now... no worries, just a tune up is all! How did he act toward you after this? Does he expect you to reach for your purse? You did a small favoring which we don’t recommend so early. Now you can see how he is. If he glances on the next date for your to reach for anything then that’s your answer. Maybe it was a mistake or maybe it wasn’t. Just remember that your actions are your own and you should not be punished for being caring and considerate. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:26 AM
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You are very sweet and kind. I started to read after so now have... but when I get the passion to reply ... no stopping me! ❤️ Dude was all about you. But you probably displayed unwillingness to go back to his place or something like that. These losers can kick rocks in someone else’s yard. Some people feel I’m pretty, some think I’m ugly. I think I am awesome because I know what I’ve dealt with and I have achieved what I have achieved. My point is, their viewpoint isn’t even your problem. Someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:41 AM
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So to be fair it was a big wall of text without paragraph breaks so I skimmed. This is not on you but it’s on me. He was attracted to you. Point blank. He wouldn’t have gone out on a date and then waited until the end to start giving you the small dick energy insults. You have fully come to accept you are HV and that energy doesn’t cross LVM In the best ways. They get ugly really quick. Thank god you don’t have a baby at your breast, and then have to come to terms with the truth. That’s why FDS …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:34 AM
11

Ha! I’m 5’10 and yeah... no one is picking me up like a child...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:30 PM
3

I took MANY L’s in my lifetime. You WILL feel better. I am sad for the old person I was, but happy that most of my experiences while sad, were also super hilarious and so, sharing them here will hopefully help a woman or at least entertain them. You are not that same woman anymore. You are leveling up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:59 PM
3

Yes. That is too much to ask for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:46 PM
13

You are totally ignoring that women also have to do most of the labor of child rearing and domestic work. We are also the main providers of emotional labor. So yeah, we actually don’t make as much. I am a “millennial” and can promise you women really don’t. Why wouldn’t a HVW seek to have the best mate? Be treated with respect? I’m not talking about hook ups because hook ups aren’t what FDS is about. You’ll need to take that somewhere else as I mainly focused on relationships. Hookups tend to lo…
/r/askFDS24/08/20 02:26 PM
1

Ha!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You’re the best!!! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:43 AM
2

Ha!!!!! Love your comment!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:41 AM
5

Being truthful and tough... I wouldn’t replace anything I said. You have zero idea. Men control society and the ones who have control seek to keep it. Women’s league structures would look very different, of that I am sure. Men are the ones. They don’t want all men joining their ranks. They set the parameters, not women. Wake up! You are talking about gay men and blah blah blah. I am NOT talking about hookups! I’m talking about actual relationships. Straight up exactly are you looking for here re…
/r/askFDS24/08/20 03:36 AM
2

It was a mess of gross. I was so sad but I shall rise with some other gross concoction... it passes the time lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:14 PM
6

Society makes leagues. Like a Dr vs a janitor. A good looking person vs someone who isn’t (by the standards of society). Having high value can be a part of your league but it is more action driven in terms of how you personally are a good person who thinks of others and doesn’t put others down. So to up your league look as good as you can, be educated, make money. Rise in the eyes of society. To be high value think of your woman as an actual person, take joy from bringing her joy, be honest, be …
/r/askFDS23/08/20 06:13 PM
2

The worst thus far was adding limes with cucumber... the result was an abomination
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:14 PM
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You’re good. Though both types can be narcissistic there are types of narcissism. The insecure types can very well still be narcissistic... often they are covert narcissists ... they are kinda the worst because they are harder to spot and they work on you in different ways. The two buckets are a surface level gaze while these insidious behaviors go much much deeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:34 AM
3

You have things to work on if you can’t be happy alone. You cannot find peace in other people if you cannot find peace within yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:27 AM
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Beware of all men. Every single one. The good ones will not be offended by this, the bad ones will become angry. I can go on and on. But beware all of them. Make them prove they are worthy of you. LVM always try to have you proving your worth to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:24 AM
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It’s so much more sad than this. Pick mes motto is: If I give this trash my everything, maybe I’ll be good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:21 AM
11

When I can I will check this out. Thanks!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:19 AM
5

Don’t visit. He’s trash. Don’t hand deliver him your body when he won’t even know what to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:17 AM
7

Hits home.. drive of shame... a 3 hour one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:16 AM
6

Ghost 200%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:15 AM
3

And I you!! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:10 AM
3

He is much heavier than in that horrible photo. Don’t go on the date but if you did I am certain we’d have a great betting pool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:07 AM
5

League is perceived value
/r/askFDS23/08/20 02:58 AM
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There are sooooooo many things you can do and recipes. I don’t do the full on canning blah blah. I do the refrigerator pickles where you can make them and put them in the refrigerator to get yummy. If you like spicy or other flavors you can buy the spices pre made and even just add it you your pickles spears. I’m lazy and I started with that. I had the same pickles as you and added a few spoons of Mrs Wage’s spicy pickle mix to the great value pickles and waited a couple days (shook it now and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:56 AM
3

Fire is the only solution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:48 AM
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Only because you know it’s true... Like a woman who doesn’t know that when a man tells her she so “hot” is telling that to everyone else. It’s... sad. Sad gal blubbering her misinformation to impress a dude we wouldn’t even give the time of day!!! I want to say to her “You win blubbering pick me!!! I give up!!! You have won all the sad crusty throwaways that we don’t find worthy. They are all yours dummy!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:46 AM
5

I am so thankful for your comment or j wouldn’t have scrolled in... he is an ... exceptional individual... 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:43 AM
3

Pickles for the win! I just got into making my own pickles!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:41 AM
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Also “her brain cells departed?!?” Madam you do compliment yourself. Cells she says! Mayhaps your one lonely brain cell (yes one cell) has departed but don’t blame FDS... you could have hit a speed bump too hard dear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:38 AM
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Naw, she just is trying to get that LVM attention. Poor poor little alley cat. She doesn’t have the analytical skills necessary to even add up the numbers and know the score.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:36 AM
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She’s unfortunate... poor dear. Walks in the park and promise rings for her ... maybe ... if she does what she is told.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:35 AM
60

Whatever, let this pick me slobber for those LVM’s D. The same D they will give freely to any woman who will allow it. The fact that she has to beg, preen, and try for it is... unfortunate. This woman is unfortunate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:34 AM
7

I vote ghost... let him wonder lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:30 AM
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It’s tough but these ladies are correct. You will save yourself so much pain if you accept that he must be deleted from your life. It isn’t a reflection on you, and when you read the handbook you’ll understand the reasons not to have sex too early. Also most of us here were where you are in some form or another. I’m sorry you are feeling this way. I swear to you. I swear this. Just cutting him off is the best way. You’ll feel so ashamed later if you beg or try to win him over. It’ll end the same…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:28 AM
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Been there as well... you said it beautifully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:22 AM
2

You are a Queen !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:18 AM
3

I bet he’s even fatter now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:18 AM
7

I just kinda hate how the media and society doesn’t actually tell the truth about their performance in bed. Like do you really want to start dating a guy who needs pills to make it happen?!? Sure if you’re in a loving relationship... but that isn’t attractive to me from the get go. And YES most of them have to get a little help. They love to talk about how we dry up and what not... but they really are.. disappointing Oh you’ll get “they take their time” they “do this or that.” If you can’t find …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:11 AM
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Me too... except now I’m wise and have been wise for awhile. That’s why they tend not to try it on with a woman out of her 20s... we know they won’t even give what a dummy guy in his 20s would. Plus... they suck in so many ways and none of them are the good ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:04 AM
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Underrated comment no matter how many upvotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:02 AM
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I am so sorry. I went through something not exactly like this but in the same vein in my early to mid 20s. It haunts me but not in the same way. It haunts me now because I MUST warn other women. You just felt heartbroken and joined in to ease the pain of being cheated on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:27 AM
18

The Hugo Boss did it for me. My sides jiggled into orbit laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:22 AM
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Cringe at my past... cringe and cringe and cringe ... will share and share and share here. Let no one else ever fall so low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:20 AM
14

Poor poor Adam... Being beta is so hard!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:20 AM
3

Simple? More like simpleton...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:17 AM
12

Yes!!!! Just replied something like this!!! I actually love traveling solo. Can not recommend it enough. You get so real with yourself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:07 AM
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Absolutely you should have this. I would say to those starting their journey to travel solo or with friends beforehand. Get some worldly experience, because then it’s much harder to impress you and pull the wool over your eyes. Don’t wait for a man to take you anywhere. If you travel yourself you will be more interesting and gain more confidence. But yeah, better take me nice places... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:05 AM
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This doesn’t look real to me but OK. Don’t put your efforts toward someone who doesn’t put their efforts toward you. PS: if you’re having sex with a man and dating you’re probably a woman. You’re not anyone’s girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:02 AM
16

Yeah I agree. When I was 22 I though 27 year olds were kinda old lol Two different stages of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:02 AM
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Great example! Once you have your resolve it is actually a simple thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:58 PM
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Just think about all the dates you wished you had walked out on. Maybe it was the guy who insisted upon driving even though the restaurant was within walking distance from your home and then he turned to you to pay for the parking... Maybe it was that time he SAID you were going somewhere nice but then you ended up somewhere crap. Perhaps that one time he made a comment on your eating habits or volume of food? How about when you had to smile vacantly at a man who talked forever about himself. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:55 PM
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Sad to say I am not shocked at all by people attitudes toward this sub. Especially women who can’t stop to think just a wee bit deeper on the subject, not even for a moment, because they are so busy being pick me’s. Because once you do, you will get mad. You will see LVM bullshit everywhere! EVERYWHERE! When my mom told me to walk from parties with lots of my friends she didn’t say that because she thought a woman was going to attack and rape me. We ALL know that. There are so many issues we can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:33 PM
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So true! These men ALWAYS turn. ALWAYS. It is engrained in them. They don’t love any woman, they only love themselves and what they can get from a woman. If he treated you that way he will turn. I’d feel sorry for these next victims... they might never crawl out of the LVM hell cycle. You are, though. All of us! We won’t ever have to suffer that crap again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:23 PM
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Just great... my cat caught me reading this post and now she is sulking. This might cost me an entire seafood dinner to get back into her good graces... thanks a lot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:09 PM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:05 PM
28

When hitting rock bottom isn’t enough, some women will break out the shovels and dig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:02 PM
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Yup! The most gross of any hook up. I feel like I need a shower to clean the look of disgust off my face for these types!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:54 PM
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Like he can just pop into the woman store “Hey all I see in your inventory are non whites... when do your whites come in?” “Sorry sir, my white woman shipment has been delayed. Can I interest you in a Mexican?” “FINE! Sigh, bag her up” These men are audacious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:51 PM
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Nope. I earned as much or more during our marriage and he used fancy rich people ways to secure his bag. (Glad I learned them as well, too bad it was the hard way) That’s why I’ll never be the type to pay half of anything ever. Mindset is: If you want to marry me then you need to have that provider mindset. I need someone to bring value to me that I don’t already have! Edit to add no kids and if I hadn’t had made so much during our marriage I would have been getting a lot more. Thank god I did n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:46 PM
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No girl. I earned as much or more during the marriage. Only got like 60k and my half of the condo. Bastard lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:44 PM
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You didn’t come off that way. It is the foundation of actual thought here. Young or old. This is a place of truth and as nice as those who want to soften things are, the truth is what sets you free. They can get told what they want to hear by society and pick me friends. You know what you’re in for if you post here. Because it’s going to be a loving but upfront conversation. This dude is trash. He got all the sexy and then moved on, God has nothing to do with it. I’d bet my life on it. He found …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 03:01 AM
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Wahhhhh !!!! sniffle Na-na-ladies gulp won’t suck muh-muhhhhh-blows nose dick!!! Wahhhhhhh! We like what we like, good for us. Better for us is we won’t settle for some horrible life with a less than.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:55 AM
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I agree with you sis. We need to be tough and help others. Not a one of us here hasn’t been through something horrible. We are trying to help. But if we find a woman who doesn’t then we are real. He got what he wanted and it’s a learning moment that most of us have learned the hard way, sometimes more than once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:48 AM
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The handbook is required and we all know what the deal is here. I would love to protect feelings but this is the TIME to wise up. Save herself from all the bullshit and hassle that will come if she doesn’t learn. It is not a reflection on her. It is a time to help someone wise the fuck up. Because nobody here hasn’t been taken for a fool. We humble ourselves to give that straight up real knowledge. It hurts most of us to give it, but it’s from a good place. It is constructive to be straight up a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:47 AM
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Don’t read further unless you can handle some tough age old advice. There is someone else. Men love the sex. He has found someone else. Also he would not want to be just a “friend” with you if he was looking to get right with god. He pushed you back. He is all lies. Mark my words and I’m petty enough to say I told you so. Please end all communication with this guy. Block and delete. Unfortunately we all get used but don’t let this fake take anymore of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:42 AM
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Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:55 AM
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They think of their investments as something to be untouched. Happened to me. I am ashamed but this info needs to be more known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:53 AM
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My ex husband was wealthy and did not disclose it. I worked two jobs through grad school and let my sister give us a bit of her paycheck while we were in the Peace Corps... it was only when we got back I saw allllllll his funds. We took this cheap ass honeymoon bullshit... we let my poor ass family help us... I am so ashamed. I am only able to even show it here because I want women to know!!! He was sweet blah blah But he took my hard work and didn’t even think to reach in his wallet while I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:50 AM
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Saw this!!! Even read the first post! Dude was likely saying all sorts of other hurtful things but it came to a head when he challenged her snack!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:44 AM
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Agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:42 AM
1

Handbook read it....and they pretty much work the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:39 AM
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It doesn’t matter what any man thinks of you. We have to break free of that. Don’t be grateful for the good treatment due to you, but do recognize it. Men are abundant, dicks fall from trees... they need to be respectful, to part our knees! Seriously men for the most part aren’t shit and the ones who are amazing recognize this fact as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:37 AM
2

I did Hankido. I learned fun stuff but more useful basic moves to get someone down using their own energy and gravity. But I have been in fights and I know my big shnozz doesn’t like the hits lol It’s the confidence and control and also the way to go work things out in the gym that are awesome. Men tend to be like animals and they will pick on whoever they feel is weakest. You’re an awesome mother!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:41 AM
3

Damn ... you went full 🔥🔥🔥🔥 I am your fan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:34 AM
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I think you got a business opportunity here! DM me if looking for investors!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:29 AM
11

Ahhh I’ve fallen myself for such lameness in my youth. I can only hope we can help women here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:28 AM
3

Thank you for your story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:27 AM
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So right! If you have to ask then you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:11 AM
8

It’s not gender violence it’s biological sex based violence. This man hates females
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:09 AM
2

He thinks he is slick!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:06 AM
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Yes... it’s like all the features are together in perfect harmony
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:03 AM
2

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:56 PM
3

Also having confidence! Men like to pick out the weakest in the heard. Many times just being more trouble than the next one is enough to save you from trouble. Sucks for the next one but that’s why we have to keep at this! Also super cool. I’m convinced if I tried MMA I’d just cry every day lol!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:48 PM
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Yeah I am not trying to triangulate you. I do apologize for being harsh. I posted my hot take of the situation as I saw it. I also have seen many women patting themselves on the back thinking their back and forth is witty or badass when it’s not, so I’m pulling from more than what I saw in your post. May this LVM or any other darken you’re doorstep ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:47 PM
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Yeah it’s definitely a larger issue. I just am not comfortable praising one action that should be a minimum thing as HV. But I get that these actions need to be pointed out. Just like LV action. I wasn’t thinking bigger and I’m glad you replied!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:44 PM
2

Oh my! That’s... unfortunate. Usually I see them taking that word to earn money but... wow. Sad. Thanks for the clarification!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:42 PM
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Omg shallots dude is next level cringe. Bet he picked up all the snacks he likes though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:41 PM
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Talk to your Dr and such but from my name you can tell that I’m a believer in the keto diet. I have never seen such total and complete changes in myself. I actually did the diet to prove it was bullshit because my friend wouldn’t shut up about it. So i was like fine I’ll do it .... I followed it all and I swear I had great results and I didn’t need anything magic or expensive. Lately log what you actually eat and be brutally honest about it. It helps open your eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:29 AM
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F
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:15 AM
10

Well he can do whatever makes him happy. I’m just sad that women are supposed to pretend that everything is OMG SO GREAT!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:14 AM
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Wut? How is this even a question here? Read what is written as if it was your best friend or sister.... come on now! These men seem so sweet when they want something from you. They will take and take. Be better than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:53 AM
3

Now you won’t have to worry about this mans fee fee’s. He is not your problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:50 AM
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He needs to pay. You paid all that money to look nice and up to these men’s wishes. You needn’t ever even glance at your purse when the bill comes. Expect him to pay but be ready when he doesn’t. You can’t be afraid to offend, or seen this way or not. Read the handbook closely and you’ll understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:47 AM
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Plus ... we all know it’s still a BS reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:45 AM
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That’s super powerful. We accept the love we think we deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:44 AM
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You’re just reminding us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:43 AM
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I also feel warm and comforted from your replies.. It is a tough and lonely road sometimes to see yourself and accept your value. Many of my friends are Pick Me’s and it’s though to get through bro then because it takes that humbling moment to actually GET IT. I think there really is a difference like you said. We try to be better and to improve. They seek revenge. It’s beta male BS. I sometimes struggle to forgive myself but I must. I am in awe of the total shit I was put tough, but amazed at h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:33 AM
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Ah this as well!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:25 AM
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If someone thinks it’s “just a piece of paper” that is all you need to know about their viewpoint. Dump and delete. Read the handbook again. It doesn’t matter what they think. If you want something and they are not going to give it to you then you need to move along. Anything else is lowering your boundaries and giving them the headspace to turn you into a pick me. If it’s just a piece of paper they are just a piece of dick. You want the whole deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:24 AM
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Exactly. I did a hot take reply but am glad you see it as well. They like to have the back and forth and it steals a woman’s energy, time, and focus. Women need to stop replying thinking they are witty or whatever and realize that not replying will get the best outcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:21 AM
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He messages you cuz you reply. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:19 AM
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I mean ... a HVM man could and will do these things but LVM can’t lol Oh and alllllll the women can do these things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:17 AM
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You’re heart is so open and caring. You are so much better than that and I’m so glad you know it now. It’s the trauma of giving that leads us to crazy things. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I was used by a LVM and it just... stinks. I did weird stuff as well like cry and beg. What a mess I was. I’m so glad you’re here! This really is an amazing place where we can be real and get better. And I think you are epic by realizing your value. It sadly took me a long time time to even grab the tail of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:07 AM
5

I bet he’d be total crap at it. He’d start ordering himself to make a sandwich... wouldn’t end well at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:00 AM
5

Like a goddamn old man pawing his way through hemorrhoid medication.... saving with one post at a time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:58 AM
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Be very vigilant. But don’t let the fear rule your life. I’d say get a google voice number and connect that to your online dating or if you’re just meeting someone and “talking.” Don’t connect this google voice number with anything else. Harder to trace you without your number. I’d also recommend with online things to not use the same picture on something personal. They can reverse search it to find info on you. Don’t click on these men’s links or whatever they send you. Use incognito if you mus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:52 AM
29

He did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:47 AM
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Give us some background girl and please stay strong and don’t respond. See how the mighty fall lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:44 AM
3

You are a Queen! Thank you for your efforts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:40 AM
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I really think it’s worthy. I was on the Anthony bus but missed the shallots train... can you catch me up or point me in the right direction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:39 AM
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Can you imagine what I’d come up with if I was a LVM?!? Genius !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:33 AM
12

So true As a girl Elise loved Disney’s Dumbo, much to her surprise a man appeared with all the physical qualities of her beloved hero. It became darker when her personal Dumbo started to use her to make himself “feel like a man.” For she, always wanted her elephant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:20 AM
3

His ears have me thinking he’d be ok with a long distance relationship... Edit to say Dumbo joke...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:18 AM
7

Dammit I said the same thing! You know this is likely the case!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:17 AM
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Wow. So, you’re telling me you don’t send flowers to these men with poetry and worn panties?!! How will we ever get you wifed up?!? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:16 AM
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Elise probably doesn’t know she’s about to be gaslit into a threesome... this dude just needs to get a bite before he starts in on poor Elise. Also, one would think a willing woman would be able to find a game partner much more easily than this clumsy dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:15 AM
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Best would be to let him hang with no response. Watch how suddenly you become his whole world 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:10 AM
8

Fuck what this “man” thinks lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:09 AM
6

Agree with you. Freedom from needing anything other than living to our potential and not debasing ourselves is the goal. Women should center themselves for once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:08 AM
9

I couldn’t stomach it either. I just know the word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:04 AM
13

M*dget is the word. It’s offensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:58 AM
5

M*dget
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:58 AM
14

Midget. That is the M word Edit to say this is an offensive word. I only say it so others know what the M Word means. It really sucks but these individuals have to take a lot of BS to make a living. Also I was not going to click on a video watching a woman have to go through that upon knowing. I just can’t with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:57 AM
32

Heard through the grapevine the same damn thing sis!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:56 AM
15

Yay!!!!!! This is making my freaking night!!!! This dude is so entitled and feels himself way too hard like an old man over working the dough of his own ego. (Please excuse me but it’s the most hilariously stupid line I’ve seen in like a long ass time!!) He thinks cuz he left you high and dry you couldn’t get back on your feet. You have flipped that on him. I’m loving the clean cut off. This guy is a big ole sad sack of narcissistic grandiosity and delusional thinking. You not answering him eats…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:48 AM
24

LOL girl I HIGHLY DOUBT you ever been “cold and dead inside.” This is a treasure of a post. This scrote is so absurd!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:43 AM
53

Thank you!!! Please try to never reply. It will hurt him the most... like an old man beating his meat yet unable to make an edible meat pie...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:41 AM
89

I’m ashamed of him. It’s like he couldn’t even grab anything else in his pea brain to sound “deep.” It’s really embarrassing... I’d have errrrrryone knowing that line so he’d be forever haunted by it. And no it’s not mean cuz karma and stuff and he’s already a dough ball.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:38 AM
19

I’m truly laughing at this scrotes pathetic attempt to be deep. It is... exquisite in its total banality. Good show my man! Good show! 🤣 PS wahhhhh like you give a crap. He must think your world was allllll about him (maybe you found this somewhere ... so the person who had this sent to them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:35 AM
20

You’re comment made me ugly laugh. Thanks Queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:29 AM
6

If he wants to take you out he will ask. Men are simple creatures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:22 PM
15

“Little” sausage is pretty correct 🤣 This is hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:17 PM
13

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:11 PM
2

What the hell did I just read?!! Sigh... time for a drink lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:09 PM
68

Nothing rights your head about this stuff more than being already divorced lol can relate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:06 PM
119

I am going to be tough. You have only been together 6 months. You have no real idea if he is truly HVM or not at this point. If his love language is quality time then let him make the sacrifices needed to speak his own love language to you. Let him show how much he cares and values you. You should not be worrying about this mans finances or how to make it easy to love you. Because that’s what I’m reading here. I’m reading a post from a woman who wants to accommodate a man to make it easier for h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:06 PM
15

Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:56 PM
3

The bar is soooooo low. It is shocking really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:56 PM
11

Yeah I agree... I’m not feeling this as a HVM. Friends and even just nice people do this. What I really dislike is that many men in my past have done the same thing but it was more for them and less for me. This type of stuff is just the minimum to even be considered to try out for HVM status. Just my opinion...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:47 PM
1

Lucky with your good genes... my family kinda ages fast I think ... sadly..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:34 PM
9

Get. The. Cameras. Just do it. He is a beta male mad at women. He is such a puss puss that he couldn’t even take his male rage out and go for a run. No, he’s the type to show a woman a thing or two... As tempting as it might be. I wouldn’t escalate this further without cameras and then you can document everything and press charges on him. Do you have any men you can use to sort this out a bit? Like a big burly brother or something? It sucks to have to depend on a man but if they are good for any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:29 PM
10

These men... women don’t talk like this AT ALL... maybe we should 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:22 PM
3

I want to go to Poland!!!! Now with COVID I spend all my time planning epic vacations that i can’t go on... one day I will! Also I’m a vegetarian so it is cool to know that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:21 PM
3

I believe this to be true as well. In fact I’m in my 30s and tempted LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:17 PM
30

Yup. They TRY. ESPECIALLY if you ever took any of their shit which from the description above that’s a major yes. Absolutely they will try. Also they will need to help their fragile ego and of course try to pull you back in. Stay strong because they only pop back into your life because of what they want and it’s nothing to do with you. Fuck these abusive dudes... they can’t do anything worthy of you. They are just a weight on your giving heart and a roadblock on your path to greater things...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:22 AM
42

Wouldn’t even say it’s one generation... it’s all of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:07 AM
63

So ladies ... this reminds me of like this one time i was sexting this guy who was nice he even complimented me on my gorgeous and beefy labia (as he should), now ladies I’m not here to brag but my labia is average to.. well below average so now I need to neg this dude because my own ego falls terribly short ... like my labia ... Anyways dude had these nipples that are pretty much saucer nipples. Mind you, he has survived a bought of cancer and gives allllllll his time to do good for society... …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:03 AM
36

They really do return. It makes all their BS so less serious and your own needs paramount
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:55 AM
12

You can still make it happen! I am almost 40 and I’m out seeing the world. Went to the Ukraine and Turkey last October solo and it was awesome and surprisingly cheap... went to Chernobyl and everything but didn’t spend much. Just hoping if you get the time to not wait. :) Edit to say I read the rest of what you wrote and you’re alllll good!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:51 AM
27

I want that for you too girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:48 AM
21

Kinda me now... need more money though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:47 AM
11

“Saved” Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:46 AM
17

THANK YOU! I think because he is actually smarter thanks the characters he plays. And seems to be thoughtful. But I would bet sooooo much that he has had actual surgery. I bet at the very least a bleph surgery and some lifts. You can see it. Men get away with less drastic action. Also I do think he’s attractive but ... I mean ... I haven’t even seen him walk and old lady across the road.... and no his almost decade younger “gf” (you’ll find they aren’t together exactly) doesn’t count cuz grey ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:42 AM
24

Girl he has full on surgery!!! If you have had Botox (I have and maybe you have who knows?) it does not change you as much as the media likes to say. In fact I think they blow up Botox as a way to hide their actual surgery. K has been a full on ladies man or whatever in LA for like forever. If you believe the gossip he is straightforward about how he is. I almost believe it is clout chasing for Mr K at this point despite his tragedies, of which he has many. He has had fillers, Botox, and honest …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:35 AM
9

True Queen... but you will also likely agree that when you show your boundaries and your power many men turn tail and run lol But yes. Everyone has a right to not be interested. Just... OLD is kinda the incel playground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:27 AM
6

You’re like the only one who admits it with me!!! It’s totally unfair! Girl Scouts are a damn money making scheme. Get to the highest of Boy Scouts and trust me your going to have doors opened for you... To this day I’m a sucker for Girl Scouts and their cookies. I often buy in excess and just bring them to gatherings or whatever. I just want to make sure they get what they need so maybe... just maybe... they will get to camp and see nature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:25 AM
10

It’s kinda shitty we have to call upon people to get treated right... but so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:22 AM
1

You are an American Hero!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:19 AM
9

It’s passive aggressive but we have to be as such. Can’t be uppity and “ask for it,” when a man gets mad that we don’t agree. Tell me though, how many men take your dripping sarcasm and actually think you mean it? Just curious, because I’d bet many do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:53 PM
4

So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:50 PM
106

Yeah... if anyone here thinks he had zero help on the aging dept then they need to wise up. Men’s “work” tend to look better when they aren’t trying to be in their 20’s anymore. Women are forced to try to go for that. I love me some K but ... it is foolish to believe he hasn’t had any work done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:47 PM
11

Just... not very fun right?!? One of best friend’s was a Boy Scout and then Eagle Scout and his dad included me in their troop. We went camping, and did so much fun stuff. I feel very lucky for the experience. I was not put down (at least to my face), and no one ever was weird or disrespectful toward me. I was always included. Even at veterans events where we would fold the flag. So public event’s, it was no secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:30 PM
26

I personally was in scout meetings (not a Mormon)! My problem with the Girl Scouts and why I left was that it mostly centered around selling cookies. I mean, it was SUCH a huge part of it. I felt bored. (Could have been just the troop I was in)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:21 PM
34

You are giving him too much power. You are letting them inside your head and handing over the power to “ruin” something important to you. They are porn sick and awful, but it’s up to you with how much you let them bother you. They can’t steal your soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:19 PM
19

I agree with reading the handbook. Most LVM will show themselves the door early when they realize you won’t be a pick me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:39 PM
77

Stay safe but remember that these LVM are not your friends and their hurt feelings or estimation of you are worthless. Edit to add (after some thought) that they are also very petty. If you have anyone in your neighborhood you trust let them know about the situation and get them to back you if need be. He has no problem infringing on your space because you are a woman (best believe if he thought he’d be dealing with a man he’d show up with some beers and ask for the permission). But keep to your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:34 PM
64

You’ll never be in an actual romantic relationship if you have to pay some sort of service to “earn” it. So no. By default, if you are doing something you don’t want to do you won’t be in a romantic relationship either. The guy isn’t for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:32 PM
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It’s so easy to covet and worry about a guy finding something “better.” You are a legit Queen and you need to know these men don’t change. They don’t change because they don’t have to do it! There are plenty of pick me’s and a whole culture pushing an agenda that is anti female. I had a few horrible ex’s land really wonderful women who were very accomplished. I would feel bad (this is before I just said don’t contact me and you are dead to me) because he leveled up. But really this crusty scrote…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:02 AM
15

“Girl” traders... incel in a nutshell...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:54 AM
11

Can second. Also keep the box bag and ribbon for “sentimental” reasons ... you’ll get even more $ with that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:51 AM
1

You definitely should not feel dumb! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:38 AM
2

Yes Queen!!! They act so special but... we both know 6 figs ain’t what it used to be and you cannot count of your paycheck and be proud. Gotta build that wealth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:54 AM
2

Does he know one for getting a shirt that fits?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:59 AM
23

I have grown less and less into “sharing.” it always means I’m left out in the cold!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:57 AM
2

You are not a hypocrite if you are just wanting to help someone. Especially if you acknowledge your own shortcomings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:52 AM
4

Plus you likely get better vacation and healthcare
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:38 AM
6

Ha!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:34 AM
9

The handbook. Read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:33 AM
6

You are being obtuse. You are acting like you can count on him for things totally and completely outside of his obligations. He is no longer obligated to you. He is not obligated to the cats. But he is obligated to pay his share. Wake up. And yes this is a bit of a sassy comment but you are not thinking straight at all. It’s sad you argue that you’d still consider him apart of your team. Sad as hell. Because he isn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:21 AM
5

Gonna second this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:20 AM
26

The numbers show lies. It is classic when they use 3. It’s a lie as 3 in at least America is indoctrinated into many of us. I could go in and on but 3 means lies. Edit to add the 4’s are to own you the others lies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:18 AM
3

It’s a long running joke (there is no Z spot...) ... but cosmo has had many articles in the past (like when print magazines were a thing) that would talk about all these different spots like the G spot but would give it different letters. It was... something to behold. Bottom line, you aren’t out of the loop or missing anything :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:05 AM
4

If you ask then you can’t afford it.... Kidding it’s... I guess one of the many things cosmo likes to yap about when they are not giving us other ways to “please your man”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:06 PM
5

Cut them off. Full stop. The minute they started to try to make ME feel guilty and judge my behavior was the moment I knew they didn’t care about my safety and well-being. They belittled my own legitimate fears, and worse they wanted to take away my power... all for a mutual “friend” who was simpering to them about “mean Ole ketokitten.” I was not going to have to justify my actions to any real friend. It was actually a great way to weed out the pick me’s I had been hanging with. Edit to say thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:04 PM
21

Upvote from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:58 AM
57

It’s tough but she has all the signs of getting to the right place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:57 AM
1

Now she deleted this... troll or not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:59 AM
1

Thanks!!!! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:58 AM
1

And so the delete! Chick who posted was talking yet again about some roses message. She posted something. I her social media and stalked her ex’s (who is with someone else) and found he had wrote something about roses as well. Never thinking that they both might be mundane as all get out. Yes I went there . NEVER bother with an ex’s anything and NEVER lower yourself to the extend to almost put on a tinfoil hate and let aliens somehow send secret messages through social media from your ex. If he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:56 AM
2

So fixed it I think but high value man as opposed to low value man. Of you haven’t you have to read the handbook :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:51 AM
2

God I misspelled some stuff I’ll edit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:50 AM
2

That did come to mine Queen, that did come to mine. So tempting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:49 AM
1

Just to make sure you get this STOP. You’re ex doesn’t want you. If he wanted to contact you or get with you, he simply would. Please read up and stop looking for signs where there are NONE. Hard truth sis, but you shouldn’t post another thing about this man who is taken (you gonna be the other woman GTFO) and doesn’t care to contact you. Accept your worth or move on. Stop trying to get the answer you want to hear. HE DOESN’T WANT YOU!!!! READ THE HANDBOOK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:49 AM
1

Thank you!!! I feel like I remember it because the roses thing is just... cliche as all get out. It makes me cringe. Like come on... that is lame. It’s sad as hell. But I cannot with someone who won’t humble themselves to learn the truth. If real, this person is content to waste our time and emotional resources because I actually do have emotions and care for women here. This pick me wants to be picked. .... uhhhhhh like a rose? Thorns and such? And like maybe blossoms? Or a perfume? Perhaps bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:44 AM
2

That’s not a HVM. You need to look for the signs of a HVM and be damned with the rest. That is not HVM behavior. They are happy when you are happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:40 AM
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Read the handbook. BLOCK and move on. Doesn’t matter why he does what he does. He did you dirty and is with someone else. You know better than to troll his social media. PS I feel like you have posted something about roses before... maybe in another forum or another name... you already know the answer. God help me if I dig that up because then you’re either not easy to realize your worth or you’re a troll. In fact I am MOST certain that this has come up before. Another edit to note that you post…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:32 AM
9

You will know I’m his dealings with you very soon. Insecurity is a horrible beast and while it preys upon men, it is not our job to pull them out. For example, an insecure man will act weird when you want to hang with friends, have a sexual past, have a great job, have something great happen to you. At the very start they will neg you for little things. Anything that brings you joy but they don’t feel a part of. They will test you with little fit throws. They will try to emotionally manipulate y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:20 AM
7

I’d say to anyone reading it is not your job to suss out an insecure man. You will end up possibly feeling sorry for him or trying to save him. We need to worry about ourselves because even an insecure man is secure in knowing he can shit on us. He can lean on us and demand things from us. Believe it. Don’t even mess with all that. It’s not our job to make a man feel secure. We have a tough time bringing our own selves up. I’m so damn serious right now. Don’t waste any time on a dudes insecurity…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:09 AM
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It was JUST a joke... about something I knew would hurt you... likely in public... these dudes are easy to see once you get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:04 AM
23

Even if you want to never say “do it” or anything like that. Might land you in court. But let him do what he needs to. No mans life is worth a woman’s dignity. Not. A. One.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:02 AM
39

Yawn... he’s the type to cheat with full on prostitutes, but not feel bad cuz they aren’t actual humans to him. Classic Madonna whore complex. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:57 AM
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